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Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

Yesterday I met with an attorney for my disability appeal. I told her I did not want to stay on disability the rest of my life but wanted to get my health problems straightened out as much as possible and complete my education that has been strung out over the years while raising two girls by myself. I just...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I just stopped myself from allowing the A to hurt me. I pretended he was about 3 inches tall and under a small glass dome kind of like a bug specimen. Because he was so small he was actually squeaking instead of making adult sounds. How 'bout that? J.

glad lee · glad lee

Hi Family, I was posting here a year ago, but I became suspicious that my H was somehow reading them. So, I focused on my f2f meetings instead. I am grateful to be back and feeling like I can voice myself a little better now. I feel the need to process tonight.... Last Fall, my AH surprised me by getti...

Tammy2 · Tammy2

Well, It's the 2nd Life that alcohol has claimed in my life in the past 5 weeks. I lost a dear friend on Thanksgiving to an alcohol and prescription drug overdose. Now here it is Jan 1, 2008 and I just got word that my cousin's husband was killed in an alcohol related car accident sometime late last night or...

optimistundone · optimistundone

Here are mine....please post yours as we head into a new year in recovery. 1) I can find my self-esteem again. 2) I can recover from depression. 3) I cannot control the A. 4) I can breathe again regardless of what the A does or does not do. 5) therapy is not so bad. 6) My friends are truly amazing people. 7) I a...

souljoy · souljoy

I have attended Alanon for a few months now and it really has helped me a lot. I see things in a clearer light now. The issues I am having with my AH are scary for me though. You see, I have not had a car in 4 months due to one of the cars breaking down and being unable to get fixed. It would cost too much to fix it and...

debilyn · debilyn

I have been working on figuring out what my loved ones gave me, and how to use it now. They loved me very much, I them too. All have passed now. But they had to have imprinted on me. So I have parts of them with me. I want to move on, not be so miserable because I miss them all so much. Somehow I need to make my life,...

sadako · sadako

i have no experience with suicide, my boyfriend A wants to come home after his suicide attempt, he called this morning and told me he might be out this afternoon. i told him "let's talk and we'll see" and he sounded okay with that. i need to know ... do people who attempt suicide, which i consid...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Really, I mean, one that I could go to Hell for? If I believed in that? Or even if I didn't? He was driving all crazy, drifting this way, that way, closing his eyes at the intersections. I offered to drive, he refused. He started to tell me to SHUT UP!! and I told him to just let me out here, thank you very much,...

Leetle · Leetle

((((((((((((((((((((Maria123)))))))))))))))))))))))))) Wishing you all the best on your birthday!

newbieG · newbieG

Its been going on for over a dozen years, my little sister who was my closest friend growing up, has been addicted to crack cocaine. I have assisted her, gave her money, typical enabling traits - she lost a kid years back to the state due to her addiction. She's put herself through the worst you can imagi...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/04/nyregion/04fall.html?th&emc=th

spirit · spirit

I found this and wanted to share it... It's another of those spiritual laws, that letting go lets God. We can actually inhibit the answer to a prayer by wanting something too much. . When we pray and then watch everything that transpires with a microscope -- waiting and waiting, doubting it will come .....

Paws · Paws

YES! I SAID I DONT WANT A PROGRAM BUT I DID NOT SAY I DIDNT NEED IT. LAST NIGHT A RAGING PYCHO EXPLODED IN MY HEAD AND I ACTUALLY TORE OPEN MY SOUL AND DESTROYED EVERYTHING AROUND ME UNTIL I COULD NO LONGER TELL WHAT ROOM I WAS STANDING IN. LUCKILY IT WAS THE SPARE BEDROOM THAT WE HARDLY USE. I BUSTED M...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

At the encouragement and love I got from my last check in post, here goes another... I was watching Super Nanny last night; usually I don't, but it was a change in pace. the family reminded me of my own family, where the adults feel as if they are so completely independent of the children that the child...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am fairly certain now that my days on this particular job are numbered. I have two months at most here. I had a good interview last week for a job that's much nearer to my home and with better hours. I feel scared to even hope to get it. I have been so devastated by not getting jobs in the past. I know I got t...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Ok, I finally did it. I talked to a lawyer! He said that it would probably cost me around $1500 to do the divorce assuming the A doesn't contest it. That seemed high to me... Then he went on about charging $250 an hr. I proceeded to ask him how about you tell me what to do, I do all the forms and bring them b...

Lost but still trying · Lost but still trying

Through many of the responses to my previous posts, I have been told that a rule of thumb for alanon is to wait 6 months before making a life changing decision. The decision that I am pondering is a divorce. I told my AH about alanon 6 months and he said to f*** it and let's make it 3 months. If things didn...

dgm · dgm

My son's father has finally gone to treatment, not sure if its because the court was going to order it anyway or if he really wanted to go. He wants his mother to bring our child to see him and said that I could come to if I wanted. Also said I was invited to come to the family day (if I want to go). So I guess my...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Opening our Hearts Transforming our Losses is the latest Alanon book and it is listed at $14.00. It's worth 14 million dollars. For those who are grieving (and we all are from being affected by this diseasse) the loss of relationships, please RUN, do not walk and purchase this book. We are not alone...

lebe27 · lebe27

Friends, It has been awhile. Thought I would check in for the new year. Husband has been sober 6 months now - a record for him (his streach of sobriety began right after court problems in Rhode Island were cleared up). Doing totally for himself. No court order or anything. We have also been doing ma...

maresie · maresie

Last summer I was pulled into rescing the A when he ended up homeless, ill and desitute. Admittely there was a huge hook in there for me because he had our pet dogs and he still had the truck I had spent so much money buying (I had literally finished making the payments last January). For me though it was w...

Lost but still trying · Lost but still trying

I went to my first Al-Anon meeting before Thanksgiving and felt pretty good about it. It helped me a lot. I haven't been able to get back because my AH crashed my car and insurance is slow so I haven't been able to get a new car yet. I decided to go to a meeting because for the past three years, whatever I tr...

mlynn · mlynn

So here I am, the newest member to your board. I've been an Al-Anon member for 4 years, and my life has improved in innumerable ways, but it isn't always happy, joyous and free, and tonight's one of those nights. It's 2:30 in the morning, and I'm wide awake, trying to keep the demons at bay. It seems like...

maire rua · maire rua

Today I got some very sad news. A family friend has died suddenly. My ex-A who still stays with me rang me and was quite judgemental about it all as usual. My friend was a heavy smoker. He and his wife were exceptionally good to me when I was expecting my second child. At that time my ex-A went around a small l...

wen5454 · wen5454

Last night was tough. It was the first New Years eve without my bf in 9 years. It was sad but i got through it. I do admit that I did email him, but all I said was Hapy new Year. Ok, its a process I know, I shouldn't have any contact at all but I think I did good. I came on here and read, cried alot and read, list...

maresie · maresie

One of my house mates closely resembles the A in many many ways. He is addicted to playing games on the internet. I'll swear the A spent 4 of the 7 years we were together absolutely glued to the computer. Last January he spent the whole month playing games and didn't work. This housemate also has a real...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Lose 10 pounds a month for the next year by strictly following the Atkins diet. Save at least $200 per month for a family vacation next year Make at least 3 new friends Exercise more... These are my resolutions for 2008. I feel like I have accomplished a lot in 2007 and I can do better this year! I'd love t...

texasproud2005 · texasproud2005

Not with my A, but with my A father. I wrote earlier about how he got drunk on Christmas Eve and missed Christmas morning with the kids. This was something he was looking forward to for a long time. I never said anything to him about it. I knew he regretted it. I've noticed since then he hasn't gotten dr...

albertarose · albertarose

It's been awhile since I posted. I am very active in my home town f2f meetings 3 times a week. One of them being an open AA meeting. Over the past 16 months since being in the program I am closing my mouth and listening and learning. I am reaching out to other members as well as my sponser. I spoke with my spone...

sadako · sadako

my boyfriend really did mean to hang himself last night! he failed. i just got the call from the hospital to bring him some clothing. his neck is injured. no other details than that. why did i ask him to leave, why did i kick him out last night??????????? i have no idea how to deal with this!!! i am alone with...

Chetch · Chetch

Hi All, My AH has been sober for 2 months now, after being in a locked detox facility for a week and getting a DUI. He has until 3/15/08 to complete a 7 week, three time per week intensive out patient alcohol program by order of the Court. He said to me Saturday night that he had thought about having a coupl...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hub came in from work, fed the cat. I was all dressed up, makeup on, etc. He never even looked at me. Drove to my daughter's to watch baby while she went to Walmart. Came home, hubby was across the street with his buddies drinking. He came in, I was on the couch. He took a shower, I thought "maybe&qu...

Maria123 · Maria123

(((((Friends)))))), I got such a kick out of this and hope you do as well. For those of you, like me, who love the computer forum and are grateful to have it to supplement our face to face program, this'll make you laugh. LIVING WILL Last night my daughter and I were sitting in the den and I said to her, &qu...

kissers · kissers

My ex has been calling and e-mailing me. I haven't answered any e-mails or calls. I won't do it anymore. One of his e-mails said he was worried about me. I wanted to believe it, but the reality is it is not true. I keep praying to God that he will seek help. I don't want to see anything bad happen to him. I wish...

kissers · kissers

My ex sent me an email threatening to show up at my house. He thinks no contact from me is me punishing him. I really don't know if I should keep my eye out and wait for him to leave if he is out front of my home before pulling in or go about my business as usual. I don't even know what to say to him if he does show up....

maresie · maresie

I have had a relationship with a friend of mine (he is an ex boyfriend) who has many addiction issues for over 7 years. During that time sometimes he has been there for me. He gave me $500 earlier this year. At other times he has been incredibly controling and dismissive. After letting the A go and havin...

david62 · david62

Happy New Year ((((Family))))) I woke up this morning like I have every morning for the last 45 years. For that, as I am every morning, I am grateful. I slept in late because I had been up late celebrating New Years Eve with a few friends at my house. We played some games, shared fellowship and even danced a...

sadako · sadako

i apologize in advance for this being so long! i posted earlier on this board about what my A was doing/saying, and got some excellent advice (i'm sorry i'm not better about posting thank you's!). a lot of it i had gone through way back with a codependent partner, in counseling, so i just lived my life and...

Lost but still trying · Lost but still trying

After all the support that I have been receiving from you guys (thank you thank you thank you!!!!!), I mustered up enough strength to talk to my AH. I told him that I was using this message board and would be trying very hard to work on understanding his addiction and behaviors and what would be some bett...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

A couple of weeks ago I was faced with the following questions: What can you remember doing wrong because of fear?Did you do anything illegal or immoral because of your timidity and fear?Well, I have been contemplating these two questions and wrote down a number of situations I was in and the reaction...

tenacious · tenacious

Hello everyone. I hope you are having a lovely new years. I am posting as a way of committing myself to getting back to a meeting tomorrow. I have been to three meetings so far, and each time I came away feeling stronger and more relaxed. They are so useful. And yet, each time I have to convince myself to g...

david62 · david62

Hello everyone! This sunday at 9pm est, will be our next monthly business meeting. The meeting will be held in the chat room. All are welcome to attend! As of now there is no new business on the agenda. If anyone has a topic they would possibly like to have placed on the agenda, please send me a private me...

Leetle · Leetle

A-BF got his fifth dui last night. He has been sitting in jail ever since. They are on a skeleton crew and what usually takes 12-24 hours to "cite out" could take double. I am doing as well as I can, although I will admit it is upsetting. I am trying to detach this time and carry on. Had a nic...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))), Good morning and Happy New Year! I got to thinking last night that we all urge each other to do something extra nice for ourselves, take care of ourselves or treat ourselves to something extra special. Well after the holidays that can be an expensive venture or maybe we just do...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi All, We brought my Mom home from the hospital after the doctor used intraveinious antibiotics to calm the inflamation of her gall bladder down. She also has oral antibiotics to take at home. They said that it could never bother her again or it could come back and they would have no choice but to surgic...

bob6502 · bob6502

Happy birthday to our darling Stillkickin!!!! Have fun today kiddo!!! Love, SenoraBob -- Edited by bob6502 at 21:24, 2007-12-28

John · John

Happy New Year to all Miracles In Progress Family Members!

omajoy · omajoy

I have spent way too much time thinking the past several days. Holidays/weekends are always that way. With spouse sick for several weeks and me recuperating from cancer treatment, we just haven't had much quality of life lately. And of course, there is the periodic traumas of the afflicted son and t...

Loupiness · Loupiness

HI All, I went to a face-to-face meeting this morning and realized what a great place it was to spend the last day of the year. I've done a lot of "expressing" here this past week and I so appreciated the forum. That said, it is time for my gratitude: For this moment, I feel content.... My kids...

maresie · maresie

I have probably one more month on my job, two at the most. They do not have someone to replace me lined up so I dont' know they will just let me go at the end of January. In the meantime I've been applying for jobs. I went on one interview this week. I have a shot at it. There is one other person in the works. I...

Becky1 · Becky1

I am trying to take care of myself. Christmas was OK, I was wanting so much for my daughter, her new little girl (5 weeks old) and her family, me and my husband to all be able to be together. But it was not to be....due to the damage from Alcoholism. But hubby and I exchanged gifts, had a good Christmas with...

davehill60 · davehill60

My wife is an A and is cross addicted to ephedrine. She is attending meetings 6 days a week volunteers at the intergroup office 3 hours a week reads all of the serenity books but continues to use ephedrine. She will use before and after meetings but within the group she does not discuss her continued us...

Paws · Paws

As I read this message board you all talk about the program. The way that I am feeling I don't want a program to make me feel better. I just want to be mad and stay mad. I haven't started any program and I don't want to. I read a message board that said, " I can't change him I can only change myself."...

lilms · lilms

Can anyone tell me what role quinine plays in the treatment of alcoholism? My A is taking it and I am not quite sure what it is supposed to do. I have google it and came up with too many hits to even guess which one I should be looking at. Thanks all, lilms

Paws · Paws

I am so tired of pretending! The sex is awful. it has passed it's glory days. I am too full of resentment for it ever to be good again. I lay there with my eyes rolled in the back of my head hoping it will all be over soon. Sometimes I feel I want to throw up from the terrible alcohol breath barreling up my nos...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Tonight I am going to go to an alkathon! I have never been to one before...it begins at 6PM at a local church and lasts until lunch time tomorrow. There is free dinner and food throughout and lots of non-alcoholic beverages. I think I am going to check it out. I will let you know what it was like. Then again,...

wen5454 · wen5454

some of you may remember from my first post here that my bf kicked me and my son out of his home when he was drunk. I've been living on my own now for over a month and I hate it! I thought I would love it, being away from the drama that happens when he drinks. The feeling I used to get when I came home from work an...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

(((((((((Family))))))) A very Happy New Year to all of you!!! And a prosperous 2008!!! Prayers for all of you that this year will be a better year for all of us. Love and Blessings, Claudia

Euoria · Euoria

How I learned to word things differently, especially about myself when the psychiatrist I had the longest decided that from the next visit, I could not use the phrase, "I can't" but had to replace it with "I choose not to," or "I can't decide." Whatever, I learned t...

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	Overcoming the fear (Preview) Yesterday I met with an attorney for my disability appeal. I told her I did not want to stay on disability the rest of my life but wanted to get my health problems straightened out as much as possible and complete my education that has been strung out over the years while raising two girls by myself. I just...	Tenderheartsks	8	610	Jan 5, 2008 by sadako
	It works if you work it... (Preview) I just stopped myself from allowing the A to hurt me. I pretended he was about 3 inches tall and under a small glass dome kind of like a bug specimen. Because he was so small he was actually squeaking instead of making adult sounds. How 'bout that? J.	Jean4444	7	738	Jan 5, 2008 by sadako
	Processing Life w/a Crazymaker (Preview) Hi Family, I was posting here a year ago, but I became suspicious that my H was somehow reading them. So, I focused on my f2f meetings instead. I am grateful to be back and feeling like I can voice myself a little better now. I feel the need to process tonight.... Last Fall, my AH surprised me by getti...	glad lee	5	744	Jan 5, 2008 by carolena
	Alcohol has claimed another life... (Preview) Well, It's the 2nd Life that alcohol has claimed in my life in the past 5 weeks. I lost a dear friend on Thanksgiving to an alcohol and prescription drug overdose. Now here it is Jan 1, 2008 and I just got word that my cousin's husband was killed in an alcohol related car accident sometime late last night or...	Tammy2	12	748	Jan 5, 2008 by sissy
	What did lessons you learn this year? (Preview) Here are mine....please post yours as we head into a new year in recovery. 1) I can find my self-esteem again. 2) I can recover from depression. 3) I cannot control the A. 4) I can breathe again regardless of what the A does or does not do. 5) therapy is not so bad. 6) My friends are truly amazing people. 7) I a...	optimistundone	10	705	Jan 5, 2008 by sissy
	It's not easy (Preview) I have attended Alanon for a few months now and it really has helped me a lot. I see things in a clearer light now. The issues I am having with my AH are scary for me though. You see, I have not had a car in 4 months due to one of the cars breaking down and being unable to get fixed. It would cost too much to fix it and...	souljoy	5	791	Jan 5, 2008 by afglin
	venting (Preview) I have been working on figuring out what my loved ones gave me, and how to use it now. They loved me very much, I them too. All have passed now. But they had to have imprinted on me. So I have parts of them with me. I want to move on, not be so miserable because I miss them all so much. Somehow I need to make my life,...	debilyn	9	568	Jan 5, 2008 by cookie1971
	he wants to come home, what could happen? (Preview) i have no experience with suicide, my boyfriend A wants to come home after his suicide attempt, he called this morning and told me he might be out this afternoon. i told him "let's talk and we'll see" and he sounded okay with that. i need to know ... do people who attempt suicide, which i consid...	sadako	12	728	Jan 5, 2008 by optimistundone
	Is it a sin to wish him dead? (Preview) Really, I mean, one that I could go to Hell for? If I believed in that? Or even if I didn't? He was driving all crazy, drifting this way, that way, closing his eyes at the intersections. I offered to drive, he refused. He started to tell me to SHUT UP!! and I told him to just let me out here, thank you very much,...	RainyJamie	19	5898	Jan 4, 2008 by leo
	hApPy BiRtHdAy WiShEs To............. (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((Maria123)))))))))))))))))))))))))) Wishing you all the best on your birthday!	Leetle	9	774	Jan 4, 2008 by Maria123
	New member, my story and a turning point... (Preview) Its been going on for over a dozen years, my little sister who was my closest friend growing up, has been addicted to crack cocaine. I have assisted her, gave her money, typical enabling traits - she lost a kid years back to the state due to her addiction. She's put herself through the worst you can imagi...	newbieG	6	674	Jan 4, 2008 by serendipity
	Believe in mericles! (Preview) http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/04/nyregion/04fall.html?th&emc=th	Tiger2006	1	622	Jan 4, 2008 by Jerry F
	Let Go and Let God (Preview) I found this and wanted to share it... It's another of those spiritual laws, that letting go lets God. We can actually inhibit the answer to a prayer by wanting something too much. . When we pray and then watch everything that transpires with a microscope -- waiting and waiting, doubting it will come .....	spirit	5	615	Jan 4, 2008 by spirit
	mURDER dEATH kILL! mE OR hIM? (Preview) YES! I SAID I DONT WANT A PROGRAM BUT I DID NOT SAY I DIDNT NEED IT. LAST NIGHT A RAGING PYCHO EXPLODED IN MY HEAD AND I ACTUALLY TORE OPEN MY SOUL AND DESTROYED EVERYTHING AROUND ME UNTIL I COULD NO LONGER TELL WHAT ROOM I WAS STANDING IN. LUCKILY IT WAS THE SPARE BEDROOM THAT WE HARDLY USE. I BUSTED M...	Paws	8	1288	Jan 4, 2008 by Paws
	just in a major transition period..hanging on for serenity (Preview) At the encouragement and love I got from my last check in post, here goes another... I was watching Super Nanny last night; usually I don't, but it was a change in pace. the family reminded me of my own family, where the adults feel as if they are so completely independent of the children that the child...	Tiger2006	3	618	Jan 4, 2008 by Jean4444
	looking for work again (Preview) I am fairly certain now that my days on this particular job are numbered. I have two months at most here. I had a good interview last week for a job that's much nearer to my home and with better hours. I feel scared to even hope to get it. I have been so devastated by not getting jobs in the past. I know I got t...	maresie2	3	536	Jan 4, 2008 by maresie2
	I called a lawyer (Preview) Ok, I finally did it. I talked to a lawyer! He said that it would probably cost me around $1500 to do the divorce assuming the A doesn't contest it. That seemed high to me... Then he went on about charging $250 an hr. I proceeded to ask him how about you tell me what to do, I do all the forms and bring them b...	carolinagirl	8	678	Jan 4, 2008 by Loupiness
	The magical "6 months" (Preview) Through many of the responses to my previous posts, I have been told that a rule of thumb for alanon is to wait 6 months before making a life changing decision. The decision that I am pondering is a divorce. I told my AH about alanon 6 months and he said to f*** it and let's make it 3 months. If things didn...	Lost but still trying	9	1823	Jan 4, 2008 by stormie
	Finally in treatment (Preview) My son's father has finally gone to treatment, not sure if its because the court was going to order it anyway or if he really wanted to go. He wants his mother to bring our child to see him and said that I could come to if I wanted. Also said I was invited to come to the family day (if I want to go). So I guess my...	dgm	4	445	Jan 4, 2008 by lin0606
	Latest Book (Preview) *Opening our Hearts Transforming our Losses* is the latest Alanon book and it is listed at $14.00. It's worth 14 million dollars. For those who are grieving (and we all are from being affected by this diseasse) the loss of relationships, please RUN, do not walk and purchase this book. We are not alone...	NANUKE	4	417	Jan 4, 2008 by debilyn
	Six Months and counting (well not really) (Preview) Friends, It has been awhile. Thought I would check in for the new year. Husband has been sober 6 months now - a record for him (his streach of sobriety began right after court problems in Rhode Island were cleared up). Doing totally for himself. No court order or anything. We have also been doing ma...	lebe27	4	682	Jan 3, 2008 by Christy
	Rescuing (Preview) Last summer I was pulled into rescing the A when he ended up homeless, ill and desitute. Admittely there was a huge hook in there for me because he had our pet dogs and he still had the truck I had spent so much money buying (I had literally finished making the payments last January). For me though it was w...	maresie	5	454	Jan 3, 2008 by maresie2
	I'm new (Preview) I went to my first Al-Anon meeting before Thanksgiving and felt pretty good about it. It helped me a lot. I haven't been able to get back because my AH crashed my car and insurance is slow so I haven't been able to get a new car yet. I decided to go to a meeting because for the past three years, whatever I tr...	Lost but still trying	13	619	Jan 3, 2008 by stormie
	Another sleepless night... (Preview) So here I am, the newest member to your board. I've been an Al-Anon member for 4 years, and my life has improved in innumerable ways, but it isn't always happy, joyous and free, and tonight's one of those nights. It's 2:30 in the morning, and I'm wide awake, trying to keep the demons at bay. It seems like...	mlynn	6	688	Jan 3, 2008 by maresie2
	So Judgemental (Preview) Today I got some very sad news. A family friend has died suddenly. My ex-A who still stays with me rang me and was quite judgemental about it all as usual. My friend was a heavy smoker. He and his wife were exceptionally good to me when I was expecting my second child. At that time my ex-A went around a small l...	maire rua	5	459	Jan 3, 2008 by maresie2
	Manage to get through the Night (Preview) Last night was tough. It was the first New Years eve without my bf in 9 years. It was sad but i got through it. I do admit that I did email him, but all I said was Hapy new Year. Ok, its a process I know, I shouldn't have any contact at all but I think I did good. I came on here and read, cried alot and read, list...	wen5454	6	716	Jan 3, 2008 by Codependent
	drama rama (Preview) One of my house mates closely resembles the A in many many ways. He is addicted to playing games on the internet. I'll swear the A spent 4 of the 7 years we were together absolutely glued to the computer. Last January he spent the whole month playing games and didn't work. This housemate also has a real...	maresie	6	537	Jan 3, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	I resolve to.... (Preview) Lose 10 pounds a month for the next year by strictly following the Atkins diet. Save at least $200 per month for a family vacation next year Make at least 3 new friends Exercise more... These are my resolutions for 2008. I feel like I have accomplished a lot in 2007 and I can do better this year! I'd love t...	carolinagirl	16	664	Jan 3, 2008 by Du_Jour
	Something good is happening (Preview) Not with my A, but with my A father. I wrote earlier about how he got drunk on Christmas Eve and missed Christmas morning with the kids. This was something he was looking forward to for a long time. I never said anything to him about it. I knew he regretted it. I've noticed since then he hasn't gotten dr...	texasproud2005	2	507	Jan 2, 2008 by nmike
	Trying to work my program (Preview) It's been awhile since I posted. I am very active in my home town f2f meetings 3 times a week. One of them being an open AA meeting. Over the past 16 months since being in the program I am closing my mouth and listening and learning. I am reaching out to other members as well as my sponser. I spoke with my spone...	albertarose	3	614	Jan 2, 2008 by Christy
	he DID attempt suicide! (Preview) my boyfriend really did mean to hang himself last night! he failed. i just got the call from the hospital to bring him some clothing. his neck is injured. no other details than that. why did i ask him to leave, why did i kick him out last night??????????? i have no idea how to deal with this!!! i am alone with...	sadako	12	856	Jan 2, 2008 by debilyn
	How do I deal with this?? (Preview) Hi All, My AH has been sober for 2 months now, after being in a locked detox facility for a week and getting a DUI. He has until 3/15/08 to complete a 7 week, three time per week intensive out patient alcohol program by order of the Court. He said to me Saturday night that he had thought about having a coupl...	Chetch	10	674	Jan 2, 2008 by abbyal
	The New Year Started Out Bad (Preview) Hub came in from work, fed the cat. I was all dressed up, makeup on, etc. He never even looked at me. Drove to my daughter's to watch baby while she went to Walmart. Came home, hubby was across the street with his buddies drinking. He came in, I was on the couch. He took a shower, I thought "maybe&qu...	Becky1	8	843	Jan 2, 2008 by Paws
	a little humor to begin the new year (Preview) (((((Friends)))))), I got such a kick out of this and hope you do as well. For those of you, like me, who love the computer forum and are grateful to have it to supplement our face to face program, this'll make you laugh. LIVING WILL Last night my daughter and I were sitting in the den and I said to her, &qu...	Maria123	7	597	Jan 2, 2008 by Mandy123
	New Beginnings (Preview) My ex has been calling and e-mailing me. I haven't answered any e-mails or calls. I won't do it anymore. One of his e-mails said he was worried about me. I wanted to believe it, but the reality is it is not true. I keep praying to God that he will seek help. I don't want to see anything bad happen to him. I wish...	kissers	3	392	Jan 2, 2008 by Paws
	Threatening to show up at my house (Preview) My ex sent me an email threatening to show up at my house. He thinks no contact from me is me punishing him. I really don't know if I should keep my eye out and wait for him to leave if he is out front of my home before pulling in or go about my business as usual. I don't even know what to say to him if he does show up....	kissers	4	718	Jan 2, 2008 by kissers
	controlling behavior (Preview) I have had a relationship with a friend of mine (he is an ex boyfriend) who has many addiction issues for over 7 years. During that time sometimes he has been there for me. He gave me $500 earlier this year. At other times he has been incredibly controling and dismissive. After letting the A go and havin...	maresie	1	1087	Jan 2, 2008 by Lost but still trying
	Gratitude for Each Day (Preview) Happy New Year ((((Family))))) I woke up this morning like I have every morning for the last 45 years. For that, as I am every morning, I am grateful. I slept in late because I had been up late celebrating New Years Eve with a few friends at my house. We played some games, shared fellowship and even danced a...	david62	2	619	Jan 2, 2008 by maire rua
	i asked him to leave, he said "warm the rope up" (Preview) i apologize in advance for this being so long! i posted earlier on this board about what my A was doing/saying, and got some excellent advice (i'm sorry i'm not better about posting thank you's!). a lot of it i had gone through way back with a codependent partner, in counseling, so i just lived my life and...	sadako	3	1819	Jan 2, 2008 by carolinagirl
	The Ultimatum I got and the other swing of the pendulum (Preview) After all the support that I have been receiving from you guys (thank you thank you thank you!!!!!), I mustered up enough strength to talk to my AH. I told him that I was using this message board and would be trying very hard to work on understanding his addiction and behaviors and what would be some bett...	Lost but still trying	3	555	Jan 2, 2008 by carosie
	Disabilitating fear (Preview) A couple of weeks ago I was faced with the following questions: What can you remember doing wrong because of fear?Did you do anything illegal or immoral because of your timidity and fear?Well, I have been contemplating these two questions and wrote down a number of situations I was in and the reaction...	Heartbroken	4	1053	Jan 2, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	I need to go back to a meeting TOMORROW (Preview) Hello everyone. I hope you are having a lovely new years. I am posting as a way of committing myself to getting back to a meeting tomorrow. I have been to three meetings so far, and each time I came away feeling stronger and more relaxed. They are so useful. And yet, each time I have to convince myself to g...	tenacious	5	809	Jan 1, 2008 by tenacious
	Jan. Business meeting (Preview) Hello everyone! This sunday at 9pm est, will be our next monthly business meeting. The meeting will be held in the chat room. All are welcome to attend! As of now there is no new business on the agenda. If anyone has a topic they would possibly like to have placed on the agenda, please send me a private me...	david62	0	374	Jan 1, 2008 by david62
	Fifth DUI (Preview) A-BF got his fifth dui last night. He has been sitting in jail ever since. They are on a skeleton crew and what usually takes 12-24 hours to "cite out" could take double. I am doing as well as I can, although I will admit it is upsetting. I am trying to detach this time and carry on. Had a nic...	Leetle	5	547	Jan 1, 2008 by nmike
	Taking care of me doesn't have to be expensive! (Preview) (((((((Family)))))), Good morning and Happy New Year! I got to thinking last night that we all urge each other to do something extra nice for ourselves, take care of ourselves or treat ourselves to something extra special. Well after the holidays that can be an expensive venture or maybe we just do...	Karilynn	6	723	Jan 1, 2008 by nmike
	Update On My Mom and Wish For You (Preview) Hi All, We brought my Mom home from the hospital after the doctor used intraveinious antibiotics to calm the inflamation of her gall bladder down. She also has oral antibiotics to take at home. They said that it could never bother her again or it could come back and they would have no choice but to surgic...	jonibaloni21	6	670	Jan 1, 2008 by wp
	Another Birthday person!!!!! (Preview) Happy birthday to our darling Stillkickin!!!! Have fun today kiddo!!! Love, SenoraBob -- Edited by bob6502 at 21:24, 2007-12-28	bob6502	13	616	Jan 1, 2008 by Tammy2
	Happ New Year (Preview) Happy New Year to all Miracles In Progress Family Members!	John	6	578	Jan 1, 2008 by Tammy2
	too much time to think (Preview) I have spent way too much time thinking the past several days. Holidays/weekends are always that way. With spouse sick for several weeks and me recuperating from cancer treatment, we just haven't had much quality of life lately. And of course, there is the periodic traumas of the afflicted son and t...	omajoy	3	611	Jan 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	time for some gratitude (Preview) HI All, I went to a face-to-face meeting this morning and realized what a great place it was to spend the last day of the year. I've done a lot of "expressing" here this past week and I so appreciated the forum. That said, it is time for my gratitude: For this moment, I feel content.... My kids...	Loupiness	3	643	Jan 1, 2008 by Maria123
	progress not perfection (Preview) I have probably one more month on my job, two at the most. They do not have someone to replace me lined up so I dont' know they will just let me go at the end of January. In the meantime I've been applying for jobs. I went on one interview this week. I have a shot at it. There is one other person in the works. I...	maresie	3	679	Jan 1, 2008 by glad lee
	The Disease is Taking a Toll (Preview) I am trying to take care of myself. Christmas was OK, I was wanting so much for my daughter, her new little girl (5 weeks old) and her family, me and my husband to all be able to be together. But it was not to be....due to the damage from Alcoholism. But hubby and I exchanged gifts, had a good Christmas with...	Becky1	7	726	Jan 1, 2008 by round3
	Dishonesty within the program (Preview) My wife is an A and is cross addicted to ephedrine. She is attending meetings 6 days a week volunteers at the intergroup office 3 hours a week reads all of the serenity books but continues to use ephedrine. She will use before and after meetings but within the group she does not discuss her continued us...	davehill60	3	762	Jan 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	I don't want any program. (Preview) As I read this message board you all talk about the program. The way that I am feeling I don't want a program to make me feel better. I just want to be mad and stay mad. I haven't started any program and I don't want to. I read a message board that said, " I can't change him I can only change myself."...	Paws	12	992	Jan 1, 2008 by cookie1971
	Quinine? (Preview) Can anyone tell me what role quinine plays in the treatment of alcoholism? My A is taking it and I am not quite sure what it is supposed to do. I have google it and came up with too many hits to even guess which one I should be looking at. Thanks all, lilms	lilms	9	636	Dec 31, 2007 by carolinagirl
	NO MORE DRUNK SEX! (Preview) I am so tired of pretending! The sex is awful. it has passed it's glory days. I am too full of resentment for it ever to be good again. I lay there with my eyes rolled in the back of my head hoping it will all be over soon. Sometimes I feel I want to throw up from the terrible alcohol breath barreling up my nos...	Paws	5	1019	Dec 31, 2007 by kissers
	Alkathon (Preview) Tonight I am going to go to an alkathon! I have never been to one before...it begins at 6PM at a local church and lasts until lunch time tomorrow. There is free dinner and food throughout and lots of non-alcoholic beverages. I think I am going to check it out. I will let you know what it was like. Then again,...	Jean4444	4	704	Dec 31, 2007 by Jerry F
	Finally Told Him (Preview) some of you may remember from my first post here that my bf kicked me and my son out of his home when he was drunk. I've been living on my own now for over a month and I hate it! I thought I would love it, being away from the drama that happens when he drinks. The feeling I used to get when I came home from work an...	wen5454	6	715	Dec 31, 2007 by wen5454
	HAPPY NEW YEAR TO MY MIP FAMILY!! (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))) A very Happy New Year to all of you!!! And a prosperous 2008!!! Prayers for all of you that this year will be a better year for all of us. Love and Blessings, Claudia	cookie1971	5	616	Dec 31, 2007 by round3
	Correct Word Choices (Preview) How I learned to word things differently, especially about myself when the psychiatrist I had the longest decided that from the next visit, I could not use the phrase, "I can't" but had to replace it with "I choose not to," or "I can't decide." Whatever, I learned t...	Euoria	5	624	Dec 31, 2007 by round3
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