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omajoy · omajoy

I have spent way too much time thinking the past several days. Holidays/weekends are always that way. With spouse sick for several weeks and me recuperating from cancer treatment, we just haven't had much quality of life lately. And of course, there is the periodic traumas of the afflicted son and t...

Loupiness · Loupiness

HI All, I went to a face-to-face meeting this morning and realized what a great place it was to spend the last day of the year. I've done a lot of "expressing" here this past week and I so appreciated the forum. That said, it is time for my gratitude: For this moment, I feel content.... My kids...

maresie · maresie

I have probably one more month on my job, two at the most. They do not have someone to replace me lined up so I dont' know they will just let me go at the end of January. In the meantime I've been applying for jobs. I went on one interview this week. I have a shot at it. There is one other person in the works. I...

Becky1 · Becky1

I am trying to take care of myself. Christmas was OK, I was wanting so much for my daughter, her new little girl (5 weeks old) and her family, me and my husband to all be able to be together. But it was not to be....due to the damage from Alcoholism. But hubby and I exchanged gifts, had a good Christmas with...

davehill60 · davehill60

My wife is an A and is cross addicted to ephedrine. She is attending meetings 6 days a week volunteers at the intergroup office 3 hours a week reads all of the serenity books but continues to use ephedrine. She will use before and after meetings but within the group she does not discuss her continued us...

Paws · Paws

As I read this message board you all talk about the program. The way that I am feeling I don't want a program to make me feel better. I just want to be mad and stay mad. I haven't started any program and I don't want to. I read a message board that said, " I can't change him I can only change myself."...

lilms · lilms

Can anyone tell me what role quinine plays in the treatment of alcoholism? My A is taking it and I am not quite sure what it is supposed to do. I have google it and came up with too many hits to even guess which one I should be looking at. Thanks all, lilms

Paws · Paws

I am so tired of pretending! The sex is awful. it has passed it's glory days. I am too full of resentment for it ever to be good again. I lay there with my eyes rolled in the back of my head hoping it will all be over soon. Sometimes I feel I want to throw up from the terrible alcohol breath barreling up my nos...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Tonight I am going to go to an alkathon! I have never been to one before...it begins at 6PM at a local church and lasts until lunch time tomorrow. There is free dinner and food throughout and lots of non-alcoholic beverages. I think I am going to check it out. I will let you know what it was like. Then again,...

wen5454 · wen5454

some of you may remember from my first post here that my bf kicked me and my son out of his home when he was drunk. I've been living on my own now for over a month and I hate it! I thought I would love it, being away from the drama that happens when he drinks. The feeling I used to get when I came home from work an...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

(((((((((Family))))))) A very Happy New Year to all of you!!! And a prosperous 2008!!! Prayers for all of you that this year will be a better year for all of us. Love and Blessings, Claudia

Euoria · Euoria

How I learned to word things differently, especially about myself when the psychiatrist I had the longest decided that from the next visit, I could not use the phrase, "I can't" but had to replace it with "I choose not to," or "I can't decide." Whatever, I learned t...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My family is on their way home from their snow trip. I wanted the kids to have a great time and they did! However... Warning - here is my selfish non-al-anon rant - One of the mean things my ah has said to me is that we never had fun together, including on the few vacations we had. This was the first time the...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))), To my world wide Alanon family, I wish you a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR! May it be filled with LOTS of love, laughter, hugs, kisses, serenity, play time, good health, kindness and most of all peace. I treasure each and everyone of you. There was a wonderful old movie with Igmar Berg...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Roomies, Wow! What does the Good Lord In His infinite Wisdom want us to learn from these trying times???? Today , my brother showed up at the hospital to see my mom. Today, me and my sister went about 1:30pm and she was laying there asleep. She awoke and drank some apple juice and hurt. We got the nurse to gi...

megan · megan

And ladies and gentlemen, make no mistake, alcoholism is a disease, genetic, progressive and fatal.I have not posted here in awhilebeen divorced 1 ½ years from my alcoholic ex-husbandYesterday, in my penthouse with a view of NYC, I was preparing to go to the movies with my fiancée and his 12 year ol...

serendipity · serendipity

Ya know how everyone gets down about Christams? Not me, even when it was the most emotionally sucky Christams ever. I let the spirit and society carry me. Why not? It's once a year, there's the spiritual aspect to it, it's my birthday. I don't know why but Christams, no matter what, I can do with little or...

ddub · ddub

greetings to all, First, thank you so much to all who replied to my last two posts. It was tremendous support and encouragement through this holiday period. Dealing with kids leaving the nest more & more plus teens while working al anon program has me in an emotional ball of energy at times exage...

optimistundone · optimistundone

My AH was a dream husband yesterday - did the laundry, took care of the kids, picked up the house, sent me out for an hour to go write. We even went to Church together. It's all just enough for me to keep hanging on waiting for this man (whom he really wants to be) to take residency. It is all so inconsisten...

babysteps · babysteps

Hi everyone! I haven't been posting much because my AH expressed his dislike of this board (I am being polite) and he has hardly left the house this week due to the holiday and what that does to him, if you know what I mean! Anyway, I am sitting here this morning while the rest of the house sleeps and I starte...

Mariedl05 · Mariedl05

I received the call last night at 12:50 a.m. that my A BF passed away. I was told that he went peacefully and was in no pain and I am very thankful for that. I loved him very, very much and I will miss him very, very much. Through this tragedyI am going to tell my dad that I can not stand to loose another pe...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...running on empty. Not even one tear left inside of me to shed. Had enough of the strife. Cannot get my head around this disease that has caused years of dysfunction [and is still causing dysfunction] for me, my family and so many other people I love. Stop the world I want to jump off.

hudsond · hudsond

Well the new year is fast approaching and with it comes a whole new set of things for my household. After a few chaotic years and lots of up and downs and very strange happenings--I am due any day now!!! The doctor doesn't think I'll make it another week. After saying that I was ready to give birth that n...

Leetle · Leetle

I am asking for prayers for the family of two restaurant employees in my neighborhood that were killed last night. I have family in town who love this restaurant and always request it when they are visiting. As a result, we know the folks that run it, especially the gentleman that always works in t...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I have come to a recent realization that what I have been doing and what I continue to do is to shrink the A's in my life and grow my HP in my life. If my daily life were a pie, I am systematically, day in and day out making the slice for my A's smaller and smaller and the majority of the pie is going to my HP. This pi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))), A very early good morning to you all. I need your assistance please if you can. Back in August hubby lost his very good pyschiatrist for a better job. She spent so much time getting him stable with benzodiapzapines (sp?). She really worked wonders with him. After she left they fo...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

You know I just went through a little bout of thinking that somehow I could make my AH happy!! I seem to recall that there was a time a really long time ago when it seemed that I did. But that was an illusion, albeit a very tantalizing one because it was one hell of a year. He said I made him happy. He said I mad...

spagirl · spagirl

I'm sure compared to many of your past events and horrible occurences, this might not be a big thing, but I need advice. My mother is an alcoholic, she has been my whole life. I am a happily married adult with two beautiful children. Several times, she has destroyed key moments in my life. Today is my...

afglin · afglin

I wish there was a button to push for help. I was in chat twice this morning early. There was a person there who was asking very weird off the wall questions. They were not obscene or anything like that. Just quite confusing. I left once and returned. Three people left suddenly ...they they had been run o...

omajoy · omajoy

Today has been taking it an hour or less at a time. I am leaving Christmas behind. What little decor I did is now gone and stored. The gifts we were to have opened with our grandbaby are hidden in the closet once more...maybe later. Could not get two different doctors to answer their phones today, so no mo...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Looking back over this past year, I can say that I have been humbled. I have stuck my feet in my mouth more times than I can count. I have realized things are not always what they seem, and no amount of wishing can make it so. I have been thinking about how here on this board we all feel so connected. We are a fa...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Many of our friends seem to be missing... Among the frequent posters were Kim65, CarolinaGirl and FriendofYours Helllooooo, are you out there? Lou

debilyn · debilyn

old pig in the house is so much easier than a young one who gets into the dogs food, gets into the bird seed becuz ya left it down, takes off with your sandwich, when you go to get your drink pulls the covers off your bed, stands on your long nightgown when you bend over to pick something up that the cat knocked...

Grace7 · Grace7

The A in my life is my ex, we were married 22 yrs. I just came in from hosp. My sons found him collapsed on garage floor on Christmas Eve. He is in end stage liver disease. I'm also a nurse. I don't think he is going to get out of this one. My sons are hurting so bad, this brings back all sorts of fellings. ...

Codependent · Codependent

A yo e ever staged a i terve tio ? A yo e experie ce success? If you ca u dersta d my message... :)

roxygirl5 · roxygirl5

My son got arrested for being drunk in public and trespassing. He was at a party at a friends house and got so drunk that when he went out in front to smoke a cigarette and took a little walk he got so disoriented that he ended up in the wrong house (a neighbors). It was around 12:30 am, he opened the front doo...

omajoy · omajoy

Well, my resolve to attend f to f Friday fell through. My husband could not handle the grandchild alone as his illness continues to lay him low. I will continue to plan for next week. We kept child TH and FRI while his mother worked (well, I don't think she really worked one of the days, but that's another...

round3 · round3

I don't know what it is. Well I know what it is.......but I thought I was getting a handle on it......yet here I am feeling really weak and lonely. The holidays are done (whew), but I've got this other hurdle that's been in my subconcious for some time now. This New Year's Eve will mark the 30th anniver...

kissers · kissers

My boss told everyone they were to be at work on Saturday. He gave me 3 days notice and it was 2 days before Christmas. I was not able to get a sitter with 3 days notice on the weekend before Christmas. I sent my boss a response telling him I was not able to work on Saturday. I received my paycheck today which wa...

debilyn · debilyn

I just wanted to share this. You guys know where I am. I was leaning over hugging one of my fat hairy cats and it came to me. What I need is to be hugged by someone, and feel for that moment I don't have to do anything. I can cry and relax, and let it out. It being the pain, the memories, the hell of it all. Just be wi...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

the isolation, the aloneness has got to me and I feel drained and empty. It all seems so unnatural to me and I feel that I want to shout at the top of my voice... "HEY YOU LOT ", [meaning those members of my maternal and paternal family and my grown up children], "I am alive and I need you to at...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((Family)))))))), Good morning family. I hope all is well with you and your families, and that you are recouperating from the chaos of the holiday. Christmas for us was quite. AH was sober (yeah) but hadn't been feeling well enough to travel to see the kids and grandkids for Christmas. I...

debilyn · debilyn

ver are u?? Hey that animal sanctuary is desperate for Help!!! It is not hard work. they may even help ya move to get there. I don't have much, true, but you could stop here on your way and rest a night. Please Mary the people are so nice, you would have a home for you and animals to. hugs debilyn

spirit · spirit

Hi, I am trying to stay strong. The relatives the friends, I have to watch how and what I say. My husbands mom had a stroke on Thurs.One relative called tonight, will be over Wed Thurs and dont know how long will stay on Friday. This person is a heavy smoker, drinker. I made the MISTAKE of saying "can...

Paws · Paws

I am new to message boards but if I don't at least type what I am feeling I think I'm going to explode. I have lived with an alcoholic for so long I'm not sure what is normal anymore. I think I will just talk to myself while I talk so I can make sense of what I am feeling. You all can read and listen if you like. I...

round3 · round3

Well I walked into my first al-anon meeting room last night. Actually - I should say it was the first time I have been in an al-anon room in 11 years. Wow. I've been in a lot of those rooms in my lifetime - even used to chair meetings, etc. But it's been 11 years since I've been there last. And there they w...

lmw · lmw

I should be sleeping now instead of writing this, but maybe if I get it down and out of my head Ill be able to go to sleep a lot of it is about my AH, not me, but Im trying to change how I react, so a little background might help. I left my AH last year; still waiting for the divorce to be final. He was thrown out of...

mykidsmom · mykidsmom

Hello, I am brand new here. I am feeling such guilt and grief and had no where else to turn, then I found this site. Just a little background.....my son went off the college 2 years ago and recently moved back home to finish school in our town. I had no idea that he had such a drinking problem until he moved ba...

Grace7 · Grace7

Hello, anyone out there? It has been months I've tried to get in the rooms, since my laptop was infected and my son fixed it. Again, since then, I only get a lined box shape with a very small X in the upper left corner of that "box" which is all blank. I have also tried to go through MIRC, again,...

ddub · ddub

Ok, this is a looonnnnggg holiday with all the kids home from schools & AH on vacation from work. Up and down, dodging balls that I feel are zipping right at me. The sinking feelings that could have made me sad as change happens, expressed in a way of gratitude earlier really helped me to look a...

AlaMom · AlaMom

We often hear in this program that we need to take care of the physical, emotional & spiritual well being to become whole. I started that journey many years ago by walking through the doors of Alanon. It was the start of trusting anyone again. I started from the ground up so to speak because I was...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi all, Last nite in chatroom I told ya'll my sis had my 81 yr old Mom in the ER . Well, it's her gall bladder, it's full of stones. She has COPD and emphasema and can't have surgery, so they're going to try to help her with medicine. I hope they can and it doesn't burst. She wanted to go home my sis said, but she c...

KateAussie · KateAussie

When the alcoholic in my life was drinking openly and frequently it was easy for me to accept that he was an alcoholic and easy for me to come to Alanon and feel like I needed to be here. I felt like I was making progress, accepting things and trying to better myself. Now that I am back with the A in my life and h...

nmike · nmike

Good morn Alanoners and Happy Holidays. Thanks for being there 24/7 with your esh and pm's. Actually it is now minus 10 degrees and a beautiful winter scene out my window. I have to work on seeing things for what they are and accepting what is. When it is degrees or less you can't run and have to accept wha...

serendipity · serendipity

My ex didn't show for his last visitation. It was the day before Christmas eve. We have 3rd part supervised visitation by an agency. The girls, all on their own, had bought a little gift for him and wrapped it. And he didn't show. They were hurt and disappointed. I think my 13 yr old was not that surprised,...

Becky1 · Becky1

https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70133.jpg https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70022-1.jpg Merry Christmas from me and my two precious granddaughters, ages 3 and 1 month! Love in Recovery, Becky1 -- Edited by Becky1 at 08:24, 2007-12...

Codependent · Codependent

The key past the m is messed up so I will have a missig letter i my posts. ha Oe of the other posts metioed usig the term frieds to cotrol. How is that? My A calls me his best fried all the time. Hope you ca uderstad with my missig key.

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I couldn't hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good. --John Wayne Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced w...

ddub · ddub

I feel uncomfortable and I have a choice to feel worse or try to feel better. Maybe this place is rubbing off on me (hooray!! ) but I guess gratitude helps? College kids on break are even more independent and have less time for me so I am thankful they are growing & going plus maybe not so worried about...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) Hope you all had a "quiet" and "happy" Christmas, and are still feeling the "serenity" of the season. I've not been on here for a while, I still keep in touch with the board, and watch whats going on. Today I wanted you...

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	too much time to think (Preview) I have spent way too much time thinking the past several days. Holidays/weekends are always that way. With spouse sick for several weeks and me recuperating from cancer treatment, we just haven't had much quality of life lately. And of course, there is the periodic traumas of the afflicted son and t...	omajoy	3	512	Jan 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	time for some gratitude (Preview) HI All, I went to a face-to-face meeting this morning and realized what a great place it was to spend the last day of the year. I've done a lot of "expressing" here this past week and I so appreciated the forum. That said, it is time for my gratitude: For this moment, I feel content.... My kids...	Loupiness	3	545	Jan 1, 2008 by Maria123
	progress not perfection (Preview) I have probably one more month on my job, two at the most. They do not have someone to replace me lined up so I dont' know they will just let me go at the end of January. In the meantime I've been applying for jobs. I went on one interview this week. I have a shot at it. There is one other person in the works. I...	maresie	3	573	Jan 1, 2008 by glad lee
	The Disease is Taking a Toll (Preview) I am trying to take care of myself. Christmas was OK, I was wanting so much for my daughter, her new little girl (5 weeks old) and her family, me and my husband to all be able to be together. But it was not to be....due to the damage from Alcoholism. But hubby and I exchanged gifts, had a good Christmas with...	Becky1	7	611	Jan 1, 2008 by round3
	Dishonesty within the program (Preview) My wife is an A and is cross addicted to ephedrine. She is attending meetings 6 days a week volunteers at the intergroup office 3 hours a week reads all of the serenity books but continues to use ephedrine. She will use before and after meetings but within the group she does not discuss her continued us...	davehill60	3	666	Jan 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	I don't want any program. (Preview) As I read this message board you all talk about the program. The way that I am feeling I don't want a program to make me feel better. I just want to be mad and stay mad. I haven't started any program and I don't want to. I read a message board that said, " I can't change him I can only change myself."...	Paws	12	876	Jan 1, 2008 by cookie1971
	Quinine? (Preview) Can anyone tell me what role quinine plays in the treatment of alcoholism? My A is taking it and I am not quite sure what it is supposed to do. I have google it and came up with too many hits to even guess which one I should be looking at. Thanks all, lilms	lilms	9	523	Dec 31, 2007 by carolinagirl
	NO MORE DRUNK SEX! (Preview) I am so tired of pretending! The sex is awful. it has passed it's glory days. I am too full of resentment for it ever to be good again. I lay there with my eyes rolled in the back of my head hoping it will all be over soon. Sometimes I feel I want to throw up from the terrible alcohol breath barreling up my nos...	Paws	5	915	Dec 31, 2007 by kissers
	Alkathon (Preview) Tonight I am going to go to an alkathon! I have never been to one before...it begins at 6PM at a local church and lasts until lunch time tomorrow. There is free dinner and food throughout and lots of non-alcoholic beverages. I think I am going to check it out. I will let you know what it was like. Then again,...	Jean4444	4	599	Dec 31, 2007 by Jerry F
	Finally Told Him (Preview) some of you may remember from my first post here that my bf kicked me and my son out of his home when he was drunk. I've been living on my own now for over a month and I hate it! I thought I would love it, being away from the drama that happens when he drinks. The feeling I used to get when I came home from work an...	wen5454	6	609	Dec 31, 2007 by wen5454
	HAPPY NEW YEAR TO MY MIP FAMILY!! (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))) A very Happy New Year to all of you!!! And a prosperous 2008!!! Prayers for all of you that this year will be a better year for all of us. Love and Blessings, Claudia	cookie1971	5	515	Dec 31, 2007 by round3
	Correct Word Choices (Preview) How I learned to word things differently, especially about myself when the psychiatrist I had the longest decided that from the next visit, I could not use the phrase, "I can't" but had to replace it with "I choose not to," or "I can't decide." Whatever, I learned t...	Euoria	5	515	Dec 31, 2007 by round3
	they're almost home (Preview) My family is on their way home from their snow trip. I wanted the kids to have a great time and they did! However... Warning - here is my selfish non-al-anon rant - One of the mean things my ah has said to me is that we never had fun together, including on the few vacations we had. This was the first time the...	Loupiness	3	494	Dec 31, 2007 by Paws
	Happy New Year! (Preview) (((((((Family)))))), To my world wide Alanon family, I wish you a VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR! May it be filled with LOTS of love, laughter, hugs, kisses, serenity, play time, good health, kindness and most of all peace. I treasure each and everyone of you. There was a wonderful old movie with Igmar Berg...	Karilynn	3	308	Dec 31, 2007 by Becky1
	God Bless Us EVERYONE...please (Preview) Roomies, Wow! What does the Good Lord In His infinite Wisdom want us to learn from these trying times???? Today , my brother showed up at the hospital to see my mom. Today, me and my sister went about 1:30pm and she was laying there asleep. She awoke and drank some apple juice and hurt. We got the nurse to gi...	jonibaloni21	9	593	Dec 31, 2007 by itsgot2bgd
	Another life lost…to the disease (Preview) And ladies and gentlemen, make no mistake, alcoholism is a disease, genetic, progressive and fatal.I have not posted here in awhilebeen divorced 1 ½ years from my alcoholic ex-husbandYesterday, in my penthouse with a view of NYC, I was preparing to go to the movies with my fiancée and his 12 year ol...	megan	13	712	Dec 31, 2007 by whitie
	The new year (Preview) Ya know how everyone gets down about Christams? Not me, even when it was the most emotionally sucky Christams ever. I let the spirit and society carry me. Why not? It's once a year, there's the spiritual aspect to it, it's my birthday. I don't know why but Christams, no matter what, I can do with little or...	serendipity	5	529	Dec 30, 2007 by serendipity
	Step two question (Preview) greetings to all, First, thank you so much to all who replied to my last two posts. It was tremendous support and encouragement through this holiday period. Dealing with kids leaving the nest more & more plus teens while working al anon program has me in an emotional ball of energy at times exage...	ddub	6	498	Dec 30, 2007 by ddub
	The inconsistency and consistency of the disease (Preview) My AH was a dream husband yesterday - did the laundry, took care of the kids, picked up the house, sent me out for an hour to go write. We even went to Church together. It's all just enough for me to keep hanging on waiting for this man (whom he really wants to be) to take residency. It is all so inconsisten...	optimistundone	5	502	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	I'm a busybody (Preview) Hi everyone! I haven't been posting much because my AH expressed his dislike of this board (I am being polite) and he has hardly left the house this week due to the holiday and what that does to him, if you know what I mean! Anyway, I am sitting here this morning while the rest of the house sleeps and I starte...	babysteps	7	481	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	No more waiting (Preview) I received the call last night at 12:50 a.m. that my A BF passed away. I was told that he went peacefully and was in no pain and I am very thankful for that. I loved him very, very much and I will miss him very, very much. Through this tragedyI am going to tell my dad that I can not stand to loose another pe...	Mariedl05	9	458	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	Lost all serenity... (Preview) ...running on empty. Not even one tear left inside of me to shed. Had enough of the strife. Cannot get my head around this disease that has caused years of dysfunction [and is still causing dysfunction] for me, my family and so many other people I love. Stop the world I want to jump off.	Heartbroken	7	422	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	New things for the new year (Preview) Well the new year is fast approaching and with it comes a whole new set of things for my household. After a few chaotic years and lots of up and downs and very strange happenings--I am due any day now!!! The doctor doesn't think I'll make it another week. After saying that I was ready to give birth that n...	hudsond	3	442	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	Prayer Request (Preview) I am asking for prayers for the family of two restaurant employees in my neighborhood that were killed last night. I have family in town who love this restaurant and always request it when they are visiting. As a result, we know the folks that run it, especially the gentleman that always works in t...	Leetle	9	449	Dec 30, 2007 by cookie1971
	Shrinking and Growing (Preview) I have come to a recent realization that what I have been doing and what I continue to do is to shrink the A's in my life and grow my HP in my life. If my daily life were a pie, I am systematically, day in and day out making the slice for my A's smaller and smaller and the majority of the pie is going to my HP. This pi...	Jean4444	1	455	Dec 30, 2007 by Maria123
	Help please with a medical issue! (Preview) (((((Family))), A very early good morning to you all. I need your assistance please if you can. Back in August hubby lost his very good pyschiatrist for a better job. She spent so much time getting him stable with benzodiapzapines (sp?). She really worked wonders with him. After she left they fo...	Karilynn	6	658	Dec 30, 2007 by Diva
	Still thinking I can affect this disease... (Preview) You know I just went through a little bout of thinking that somehow I could make my AH happy!! I seem to recall that there was a time a really long time ago when it seemed that I did. But that was an illusion, albeit a very tantalizing one because it was one hell of a year. He said I made him happy. He said I mad...	Jean4444	8	623	Dec 30, 2007 by Jean4444
	I'm new to the board and I need advice, please HELP! (Preview) I'm sure compared to many of your past events and horrible occurences, this might not be a big thing, but I need advice. My mother is an alcoholic, she has been my whole life. I am a happily married adult with two beautiful children. Several times, she has destroyed key moments in my life. Today is my...	spagirl	8	561	Dec 30, 2007 by optimistundone
	I wish tthere was a button to push for help (Preview) I wish there was a button to push for help. I was in chat twice this morning early. There was a person there who was asking very weird off the wall questions. They were not obscene or anything like that. Just quite confusing. I left once and returned. Three people left suddenly ...they they had been run o...	afglin	2	345	Dec 30, 2007 by afglin
	leaving Christmas (Preview) Today has been taking it an hour or less at a time. I am leaving Christmas behind. What little decor I did is now gone and stored. The gifts we were to have opened with our grandbaby are hidden in the closet once more...maybe later. Could not get two different doctors to answer their phones today, so no mo...	omajoy	10	11393	Dec 30, 2007 by Peggy7
	Being humbled (Preview) Looking back over this past year, I can say that I have been humbled. I have stuck my feet in my mouth more times than I can count. I have realized things are not always what they seem, and no amount of wishing can make it so. I have been thinking about how here on this board we all feel so connected. We are a fa...	Loupiness	6	382	Dec 30, 2007 by ddub
	Missing our friends... (Preview) Many of our friends seem to be missing... Among the frequent posters were Kim65, CarolinaGirl and FriendofYours Helllooooo, are you out there? Lou	Loupiness	1	398	Dec 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	I have noticed that at eden..... (Preview) old pig in the house is so much easier than a young one who gets into the dogs food, gets into the bird seed becuz ya left it down, takes off with your sandwich, when you go to get your drink pulls the covers off your bed, stands on your long nightgown when you bend over to pick something up that the cat knocked...	debilyn	7	670	Dec 29, 2007 by Jerry F
	My A is dying-literally (Preview) The A in my life is my ex, we were married 22 yrs. I just came in from hosp. My sons found him collapsed on garage floor on Christmas Eve. He is in end stage liver disease. I'm also a nurse. I don't think he is going to get out of this one. My sons are hurting so bad, this brings back all sorts of fellings. ...	Grace7	7	815	Dec 29, 2007 by Karilynn
	Itervetio- remember I am missig letter after m (Preview) A yo e ever staged a i terve tio ? A yo e experie ce success? If you ca u dersta d my message... :)	Codependent	4	566	Dec 29, 2007 by Codependent
	HE DID IT AGAIN!!! (Preview) My son got arrested for being drunk in public and trespassing. He was at a party at a friends house and got so drunk that when he went out in front to smoke a cigarette and took a little walk he got so disoriented that he ended up in the wrong house (a neighbors). It was around 12:30 am, he opened the front doo...	roxygirl5	5	467	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Can it get worse...probably! (Preview) Well, my resolve to attend f to f Friday fell through. My husband could not handle the grandchild alone as his illness continues to lay him low. I will continue to plan for next week. We kept child TH and FRI while his mother worked (well, I don't think she really worked one of the days, but that's another...	omajoy	2	495	Dec 29, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Feeling weak (Preview) I don't know what it is. Well I know what it is.......but I thought I was getting a handle on it......yet here I am feeling really weak and lonely. The holidays are done (whew), but I've got this other hurdle that's been in my subconcious for some time now. This New Year's Eve will mark the 30th anniver...	round3	7	572	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	I guess I am being paid back...... (Preview) My boss told everyone they were to be at work on Saturday. He gave me 3 days notice and it was 2 days before Christmas. I was not able to get a sitter with 3 days notice on the weekend before Christmas. I sent my boss a response telling him I was not able to work on Saturday. I received my paycheck today which wa...	kissers	8	668	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	With no hugs (Preview) I just wanted to share this. You guys know where I am. I was leaning over hugging one of my fat hairy cats and it came to me. What I need is to be hugged by someone, and feel for that moment I don't have to do anything. I can cry and relax, and let it out. It being the pain, the memories, the hell of it all. Just be wi...	debilyn	12	723	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Suddenly it's all too much... (Preview) the isolation, the aloneness has got to me and I feel drained and empty. It all seems so unnatural to me and I feel that I want to shout at the top of my voice... "HEY YOU LOT ", [meaning those members of my maternal and paternal family and my grown up children], "I am alive and I need you to at...	Heartbroken	7	547	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Hubby on vacation! (Preview) ((((((((((Family)))))))), Good morning family. I hope all is well with you and your families, and that you are recouperating from the chaos of the holiday. Christmas for us was quite. AH was sober (yeah) but hadn't been feeling well enough to travel to see the kids and grandkids for Christmas. I...	Karilynn	5	577	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Marisie (Preview) ver are u?? Hey that animal sanctuary is desperate for Help!!! It is not hard work. they may even help ya move to get there. I don't have much, true, but you could stop here on your way and rest a night. Please Mary the people are so nice, you would have a home for you and animals to. hugs debilyn	debilyn	1	317	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	dislike holidays (Preview) Hi, I am trying to stay strong. The relatives the friends, I have to watch how and what I say. My husbands mom had a stroke on Thurs.One relative called tonight, will be over Wed Thurs and dont know how long will stay on Friday. This person is a heavy smoker, drinker. I made the MISTAKE of saying "can...	spirit	9	420	Dec 29, 2007 by stormie
	New to Talk (Preview) I am new to message boards but if I don't at least type what I am feeling I think I'm going to explode. I have lived with an alcoholic for so long I'm not sure what is normal anymore. I think I will just talk to myself while I talk so I can make sense of what I am feeling. You all can read and listen if you like. I...	Paws	2	385	Dec 29, 2007 by Paws
	Face to face meeting (Preview) Well I walked into my first al-anon meeting room last night. Actually - I should say it was the first time I have been in an al-anon room in 11 years. Wow. I've been in a lot of those rooms in my lifetime - even used to chair meetings, etc. But it's been 11 years since I've been there last. And there they w...	round3	2	413	Dec 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	Relapse is the pits.... (Preview) I should be sleeping now instead of writing this, but maybe if I get it down and out of my head Ill be able to go to sleep a lot of it is about my AH, not me, but Im trying to change how I react, so a little background might help. I left my AH last year; still waiting for the divorce to be final. He was thrown out of...	lmw	3	336	Dec 29, 2007 by lmw
	feel like my son has died (Preview) Hello, I am brand new here. I am feeling such guilt and grief and had no where else to turn, then I found this site. Just a little background.....my son went off the college 2 years ago and recently moved back home to finish school in our town. I had no idea that he had such a drinking problem until he moved ba...	mykidsmom	8	606	Dec 29, 2007 by Baffled
	Need Help Getting in Meeting Room (Preview) Hello, anyone out there? It has been months I've tried to get in the rooms, since my laptop was infected and my son fixed it. Again, since then, I only get a lined box shape with a very small X in the upper left corner of that "box" which is all blank. I have also tried to go through MIRC, again,...	Grace7	2	354	Dec 28, 2007 by nutmegger
	On the roller coaster playing dodge ball (Preview) Ok, this is a looonnnnggg holiday with all the kids home from schools & AH on vacation from work. Up and down, dodging balls that I feel are zipping right at me. The sinking feelings that could have made me sad as change happens, expressed in a way of gratitude earlier really helped me to look a...	ddub	6	407	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	Physical, Emotional & Spiritual (Preview) We often hear in this program that we need to take care of the physical, emotional & spiritual well being to become whole. I started that journey many years ago by walking through the doors of Alanon. It was the start of trusting anyone again. I started from the ground up so to speak because I was...	AlaMom	4	731	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	My Mom (Preview) Hi all, Last nite in chatroom I told ya'll my sis had my 81 yr old Mom in the ER . Well, it's her gall bladder, it's full of stones. She has COPD and emphasema and can't have surgery, so they're going to try to help her with medicine. I hope they can and it doesn't burst. She wanted to go home my sis said, but she c...	jonibaloni21	9	461	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	Major case of denial (Preview) When the alcoholic in my life was drinking openly and frequently it was easy for me to accept that he was an alcoholic and easy for me to come to Alanon and feel like I needed to be here. I felt like I was making progress, accepting things and trying to better myself. Now that I am back with the A in my life and h...	KateAussie	11	624	Dec 28, 2007 by KateAussie
	0 degrees (Preview) Good morn Alanoners and Happy Holidays. Thanks for being there 24/7 with your esh and pm's. Actually it is now minus 10 degrees and a beautiful winter scene out my window. I have to work on seeing things for what they are and accepting what is. When it is degrees or less you can't run and have to accept wha...	nmike	3	566	Dec 28, 2007 by Jerry F
	Just a long vent (Preview) My ex didn't show for his last visitation. It was the day before Christmas eve. We have 3rd part supervised visitation by an agency. The girls, all on their own, had bought a little gift for him and wrapped it. And he didn't show. They were hurt and disappointed. I think my 13 yr old was not that surprised,...	serendipity	5	347	Dec 28, 2007 by Loupiness
	Merry Christmas & Happy New Year from Me & My Girls (Preview) https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70133.jpg https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70022-1.jpg Merry Christmas from me and my two precious granddaughters, ages 3 and 1 month! Love in Recovery, Becky1 -- Edited by Becky1 at 08:24, 2007-12...	Becky1	5	1076	Dec 28, 2007 by Becky1
	Frieds (Preview) The key past the m is messed up so I will have a missig letter i my posts. ha Oe of the other posts metioed usig the term frieds to cotrol. How is that? My A calls me his best fried all the time. Hope you ca uderstad with my missig key.	Codependent	7	519	Dec 28, 2007 by debilyn
	Being honest about feelings (Preview) I couldn't hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good. --John Wayne Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced w...	Tiger2006	4	641	Dec 28, 2007 by debilyn
	gratitude helps? (Preview) I feel uncomfortable and I have a choice to feel worse or try to feel better. Maybe this place is rubbing off on me (hooray!! ) but I guess gratitude helps? College kids on break are even more independent and have less time for me so I am thankful they are growing & going plus maybe not so worried about...	ddub	3	443	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
	CHRISTMAS WISH, COME TRUE :) (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) Hope you all had a "quiet" and "happy" Christmas, and are still feeling the "serenity" of the season. I've not been on here for a while, I still keep in touch with the board, and watch whats going on. Today I wanted you...	ally	2	356	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
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