Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This is just a tip I thought I would share that helps me. When I am feeling a particular emotion with my spouse (anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment, etc.), I let myself feel that feeling, acknowledge that feeling, that that emotion is real. : ( ...

holly123 · holly123

I don't know what is going on with me right now. I am getting that I'm too busy for Al-anon attitude. I think it is because there is nicer weather and I want to just enjoy it but then again I sit around a lot doing nothing. I am very frustrated with myself. I find myself finding some rea...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am working on being a more humble person. I need feedback on how you think a person can be more humble. I did look up the definition in the dictionary and am going with the one on not being arrogant etc. This is related to step 7 too. I know of some humble people but some of them are humble&n...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Debilyn posted below. She is having a biopsy soon to see if she has breast cancer. I myself have had my own situation with breast cancer. I am asking for major continuous prayers for her. I believe in the power of prayer. Please read her post if you haven't yet and let's start a prayer cha...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, These alcoholics sure struggle :( I have so much compassion for my daughter. She has been so quiet. Last night she asked if she could take my car for a drive later in the evening. I said yes but how long will you be gone? She said about a half an hour. Well, I had been a little co...

sanddie · sanddie

This is a reply to another post on this borad and I thought I'd share it with everyone because this is something I've often thought about.... After all, who are we to say what is right or wrong for another person? Just because one hits bottom doesn't mean that it is not what God intends to hap...

gardengal · gardengal

The Alanon family groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience , strength and hope, in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoolism is a family illness and that chaged attitudes can aid recovery. Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomi...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Good morning everyone...My A is away on a business trip for 3 days, so I'm trying to do some special ME time for a couple of days...but life keeps getting in the way. By the way, at 2:30 am yesterday, my newest grandson was born, weighing over 9 pounds! What a gift and a blessing for his health. I...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, I have a couple of situations that are getting to me. I took off last night from work because I am getting so sick of the bs. I am fortunate to have a good paying job w/benefits but it is 3rd shift and I have to work weekends. Day jobs are scarce. I bid...

sanddie · sanddie

I found out this week that my childrens father, whom I have now been divorced from for 9 years almost, in which the time we had been married was so emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive has been a cocaine dealer for many years, even when we were together.... What most upsets me abo...

dori · dori

Hey, Some said they read my post to browneyes and said they couldnt bleive all the hate and bitterness in me.I felt bad I thought oh my what did I say I went back to the post .I read it and I stand on it.But I also know their is some truth in what she said to me.I did ask my God my father to help me deal with...

dori · dori

Kis, I am not sure of your whole name thanks for the reponse to my last post.I read all the posts and they were helpful.But i personally want to thank you for yours I read it and I cried and i cired you got it , you understood you heard me thank you. I am going to do that and write down all the things&n...

lildee · lildee

Thoughts on My Anniversary Just as today is the first day of Summer filled with bright sunshine my heart is filled with a new brightness and joy, that I thought would never exist again. Today is my Al-Anon anniversary. Two years in this Program. All I can say it is truly a magical program. It has changed a...

scorpiosunmoon · scorpiosunmoon

Hello everyone. I'm new here but am old time relapsing co-dependent and should probably do an intro post but I've got a pressing issue I really need some feedback on. On May 1st, I made the HUGE!!! mistake of letting my active A bf come live with me. I thought I was helping him save money so he could do t...

richard · richard

My son is doing okay. He is struggling but okay. He has a court date for shop lifting and is paying off a traffic ticket… 20 mph over the limit… a dollar mile over. Biggest prize… he knows what he owns now. He is working hard. He is catching up on bills, making his car payments to me, moving in with very nice yo...

melanieL · melanieL

IS THERE ANYBODY HERE THAT POSTS FROM THE UK?

kb · kb

I havn't done this one in at least a year. Last night my mind was not off my daughter and her son. I need to hear from some Meth using in recovery. I know it happens, but right now I do not know anything. Does anyone hold any recovery out their, over Meth using? Yes, all ad...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am here in Canada and it is beautiful here! My daughter is still sleeping. Mom is golfing and dad is at the clubhouse. I posted about my trip here so far under Richard's post. I am so happy to be here with my daughter :) She hasn't been here since the year 2000. Before that we use to come her...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi everybody, I need some help. I have been going back in forth in my mind on what to do in my situation for a couple of days now. My husband almost drove me, my two kids, and my mother-in-law into a wall last night because he was falling asleep at the wheel. I begged him to let me drive. ...

sugarbird · sugarbird

Hi: I have been in Alanon for 8.5 years. My husband got his 7 year chip last week from AA. I have a friend who is an alchoholic and addict. He was clean when I met him. Told me he was "hardcore" but of course, I never believed it. He went out after 18 months clean: drinking...

Wishful · Wishful

Augh - I am so confused. My husband drinks. His family members are drinkers. I drink some, but at this point pretty much gave it up as it seems to be the right thing to do. Every get together with his family there is drinking going on.(this is almost weekly at this point) ...

dori · dori

Hello gang, I remember when I got the call from the ex a after he was in recovery on his maneds to me .It went like this Hi this is ,,,,I am sorry for all I did have a good day.At first that made me so angry and people in the program suggested I go to a aa meeting so I went to a couple and it angered me more I h...

honeybunnydog · honeybunnydog

I discovered something this last weekend about myself and my A. I picked him up from work and went to a wedding with him and the kids of an old friend. It was beautiful. Then went home to changed, suggested that we go to the movies as a family, the A decides he can't live without foot spray, and leaves...

melanieL · melanieL

Feeling rather sad and a bit hopeless today. My ex-A's behaviour is more and more irratic. He is not getting on with my eldest daughter and they are just arguing and battling all the time, feel like a referee at the moment. I had hoped of a reconcilation eventually between us, but ca...

mamasan · mamasan

Hi Everyone, I have been reading my book I just got thru the bookstore here, Alanon,"Paths to Recovery", Alanon's Steps, Traditions and Concepts. I can see ways in which I have matured, as far as my thinking goes. Ha! Finally after 20 yrs I can see this difference! ...

Powerless · Powerless

I know that recovery is a process and no one is perfect, but damn!!! There was an incident at my house this morning where a neighbor threatened to shoot my husband. His mother came over and everything turned out okay. I found out my husband has been more active in his addiction than I...

cinderella · cinderella

New to this forum, I didn't know where else to turn. My husband has been in recovery for about 2 1/2 years, with occasional relapses. The last relapse he'll own up to was almost 2 years ago, but I have suspected many others since then, even though there is always a story (though not always plausible) to ex...

mandy_loves_GOD · mandy_loves_GOD

Anyone have experience with step 2 would you PLEASE share your experince stragth and hope with me PLEASE.........

browneyes · browneyes

Hey guys I just wanted to say thank you for replying to my post. I really know what to do. You are all very kind and wise. I posted a message to you all on my previous post. Love, Browneyes

Jeannie · Jeannie

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luv123 · luv123

the topics of step 2 and faith connect with me today. I was getting into a " mundane about life" kind of place a couple weeks back and I thought I'd share on what came up for me at an ealrier meeting incase anyone in here identifies, too. Life seemed very dull and routines felt so meaningless--A...

Jolert · Jolert

Hello all, It's been a long week ... computer problems have kept me from the board and until I receive the new modem in the mail it will be touch an go as to whether I can view the site or not. Friday was payday ... and after cashing his check and setting aside the money for our bills, he took the res...

lilleah · lilleah

I am having some trouble detaching. My A is going out tonight , first time since I had the baby, which is really good for him, but once he starts, it doesn't stop. Anyway, I am ok with PART of it, I am ok with him going to the bar(which is across town, and cops sit everywhere), but at this bar, he knows everyone...

FCCaretaker · FCCaretaker

I am working on a project that will allow families and friends of Alcoholics and Substance Abusers to help them through a special program, while protecting them from enabling. I am posting this with the hope that you might visit the website, take a look at the story, learn about the project and give me y...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi, Last week I had a hurtful experience, and I am still feeling sad. I sponsor three people, I do my best to always be there for them because I really care. The day after my son's court case, I was still feeling nervous, and upset. One of the people who I sponsor called me ea...

gardengal · gardengal

STEP ONE: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol----that our lives had become unmanageable. Each of our lives has been devasted by someone else's drinking. We cannot change that fact. We have been profoundly affected by the disease of alcoholism, Its effects continue to mermeate our lives....

MrBlue42 · MrBlue42

hello everyone! I am new to this board so please bear with me. I would like all of your help in remembering our troops that are overseas fighting the war on terror. Please keep them in your prayers. My brother is in the army, He is a Lt Col and has 700 soldier...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I have been doing so much thinking and crying and thinking some more. I have been around all of this for so long. I have read everything there is to read. I have reread and said the prayers and slogans to myself so often. I have worked the steps, honestly and to the best of my ability alone and with a sponsor....

joeygirl · joeygirl

Any suggestions: Have been seperated for about 5 months from my qualifier who is my husband. I have made it clear that in order to get back together he would have to join AA and get a sponsor and be of service for about a year ooooooo yeah keep the same place of employment for over a year. He is living in a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I noticed the post below on Relapse. I have mixed feelings about it. My experience was with my husband's relapse after ten years of sobriety was this. [I felt He could find sobriety again if HE wanted it, but it would require him hitting another bottom. And it did.&nb...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I think I have forgotten how to "act as if". We have such glorious June weather here...and I well...have just gotten plain lazy, But enjoying that laziness--is a payoff : ) I feel I deserve the relaxed time after all the stress, but I swing to the extreme...

kerry5 · kerry5

GOD SAID 'NO' (Think about this) I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary I asked God to grant me patience. God said,...

jo4 · jo4

hi sara.......if you click onyour original post, then scroll down, the shares are posted below yours :) jo

Sara · Sara

Hi everyone, I really feel fed up today and i shall explain why.......... I have been married for nearly three years, and my husband has always liked a drink. We have been together for eight years and it he has always been this way. He can binge drink quite easily, gets very aggressive and argum...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, Well, my husband now has about 7 months of sobriety, and he is starting to act out the dry drunk stages. Some more angry then others, and all though i know what to do with myself during these times.....I was wondering what exactly is going on inside him that makes alcoholics act out in dry...

dot · dot

Hi all - I'm having surgery on my neck on Fri to remove unwanted bone - then to re-hab for therapy on my legs. I welcome your prayers and send you my love and hugs - Dot

teddybear · teddybear

Hi cloud, Thanks for your responses to my posts, I really appreciate it!! I just wanted to let you know that I am not cathy, I am Linda (teddybear) There are so many people on this message board that it is easy to not identify people with their posting names. I hope that all is going well with you to...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

My A husband entered a 30 day inpatient facility and did "great" but came out and drank 2 days later. Started a semi program after and didn't drink for 2 weeks but drank one night but got back on board. 2 weeks later another "relapse". Stayed away for 1 week---admits he was drunk most...

Sara · Sara

Hi Guys, Thankyou for replying, but unfortunately i cannot seem to work out how to access the comments made, its driving me insane!!!!!!! Can someone please email me and let me know j.taylor3@btopenworld.com Thankyou..................

Powerless · Powerless

I am so angry tonight and don't know why. I posted earlier about expectations. I realize that I cannot impose my will on anyone else, especially an addict. But, I am still angry and wondering how he can be so stupid. How can he not see things as I do? Why doesn't he understand?&...

megan · megan

I had posted on here about sending a note to my sister-in-law informing her that I had left her brother. I read the responses, talked to my therapist and prayed on it. I wanted to tell his family because I thought they should know. So I sent my closest sister-in-law a no...

Powerless · Powerless

I have been feeling so much anger, disappointment and resentment lately. I thought it was important to write this letter to my husband. I thought it may fit your situation as well. It's not well thought out because I was feeling very emotional when I wrote it. Dear (A...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Once again, thanks for the prayers so much! Daughter called today and I twisted her arm to come home to have some of her past due birthday cake and open her cards. She came home since her dad wasn't here. Gosh, I wish my hubby would go to alanon etc. Anyway, we had a nice visit. She ev...

cdb · cdb

Husband stopped at her apartment. Neighbor has seen her coming and going. Out of our control now. She hasn't called us or her boyfriend. Could use continued prayers. For those of you who do not know. Daughter relapsed. Not sure what is going on. Time to take care of me :) cdb

Christy · Christy

I was cleaning out my computer and came across something that I wrote several yrs ago. Thought I'd share.. The Fog.... The fog has taken you and enveloped the man I used to know. Where are you? How can I reach you? I wonder through the fog with you, never finding you, only remembering the m...

cdb · cdb

Hello kerry5 and all, I did make amends to you last night in chat and making amends is one great thing about the alanon program. I have been in a crisis with the relapse of my daughter. I should have had a sign on me that said: Look Out, Crazy Woman! LOL I know how hard it must be to be a new OP and...

Powerless · Powerless

A light bulb finally weent off in my head. I reealized today just what everyone means when they say expectations. My husband and I took the oldrest son to the movies today and he was so high on pills that he couldn't stay awake. He snored loud enough to turn heads. I sent him to the car t...

wille · wille

Hi to all, I hope it's great all y'all's ways. The a.m. chat is becoming a less and less option for me. When I wake up - my java into chat is visually impaired. It takes about an hour for my eyes to open. Java does not support text enlarging. I have five fields of vision, so its takes a wh...

Sandyspen · Sandyspen

I'm new. So Hello everyone! I've been with A for 40 years, so I'll give a brief synopsis. 16 years into our marriage, I had had enough. There were no drinkers in my family, so I thought my hubby's problems were deep-seated issues from his own family history and childhood. But, I had simply had enough an...

lin0606 · lin0606

A post in another thread got me thinking about this. Have any of you ever been to a roundup? They are like big meetings, with both AA and Alanon. The ones I have been to have varied from just one day (usually a Saturday) to a whole weekend. In the course of a day there amy be five or six meetings where people ge...

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	Feeling anger, etc. at your A? (Preview) This is just a tip I thought I would share that helps me. When I am feeling a particular emotion with my spouse (anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment, etc.), I let myself feel that feeling, acknowledge that feeling, that that emotion is real. : ( ...	wallsal55	1	861	Jun 24, 2005 by buzzfree
	slipping (Preview) I don't know what is going on with me right now. I am getting that I'm too busy for Al-anon attitude. I think it is because there is nicer weather and I want to just enjoy it but then again I sit around a lot doing nothing. I am very frustrated with myself. I find myself finding some rea...	holly123	8	1069	Jun 24, 2005 by buzzfree
	Learning to be a humble person (Preview) Hello friends, I am working on being a more humble person. I need feedback on how you think a person can be more humble. I did look up the definition in the dictionary and am going with the one on not being arrogant etc. This is related to step 7 too. I know of some humble people but some of them are humble&n...	cdb	4	1373	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Prayers for Debilyn please (Preview) Hello friends, Debilyn posted below. She is having a biopsy soon to see if she has breast cancer. I myself have had my own situation with breast cancer. I am asking for major continuous prayers for her. I believe in the power of prayer. Please read her post if you haven't yet and let's start a prayer cha...	cdb	7	859	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Beer, Daughter, Cabin :( (Preview) Hello friends, These alcoholics sure struggle :( I have so much compassion for my daughter. She has been so quiet. Last night she asked if she could take my car for a drive later in the evening. I said yes but how long will you be gone? She said about a half an hour. Well, I had been a little co...	cdb	2	1335	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Who's right really? The alcoholic or the non-alcoholic... (Preview) This is a reply to another post on this borad and I thought I'd share it with everyone because this is something I've often thought about.... After all, who are we to say what is right or wrong for another person? Just because one hits bottom doesn't mean that it is not what God intends to hap...	sanddie	8	1537	Jun 24, 2005 by lin0606
	Alanon has but one purpose>>> (Preview) The Alanon family groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience , strength and hope, in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoolism is a family illness and that chaged attitudes can aid recovery. Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomi...	gardengal	4	1098	Jun 24, 2005 by Diva
	Starting over (Preview) Good morning everyone...My A is away on a business trip for 3 days, so I'm trying to do some special ME time for a couple of days...but life keeps getting in the way. By the way, at 2:30 am yesterday, my newest grandson was born, weighing over 9 pounds! What a gift and a blessing for his health. I...	Belongtome	8	1489	Jun 24, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Sitting with "bad" feelings (Preview) Hello, I have a couple of situations that are getting to me. I took off last night from work because I am getting so sick of the bs. I am fortunate to have a good paying job w/benefits but it is 3rd shift and I have to work weekends. Day jobs are scarce. I bid...	Idealsummerluv	4	1563	Jun 24, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Family Deception (Preview) I found out this week that my childrens father, whom I have now been divorced from for 9 years almost, in which the time we had been married was so emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive has been a cocaine dealer for many years, even when we were together.... What most upsets me abo...	sanddie	4	1139	Jun 23, 2005 by sanddie
	bitterness my AMENDS (Preview) Hey, Some said they read my post to browneyes and said they couldnt bleive all the hate and bitterness in me.I felt bad I thought oh my what did I say I went back to the post .I read it and I stand on it.But I also know their is some truth in what she said to me.I did ask my God my father to help me deal with...	dori	4	1399	Jun 23, 2005 by Diva
	kis (Preview) Kis, I am not sure of your whole name thanks for the reponse to my last post.I read all the posts and they were helpful.But i personally want to thank you for yours I read it and I cried and i cired you got it , you understood you heard me thank you. I am going to do that and write down all the things&n...	dori	2	817	Jun 23, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Thoughts on My Anniversary (Preview) Thoughts on My Anniversary Just as today is the first day of Summer filled with bright sunshine my heart is filled with a new brightness and joy, that I thought would never exist again. Today is my Al-Anon anniversary. Two years in this Program. All I can say it is truly a magical program. It has changed a...	lildee	3	1154	Jun 23, 2005 by Belongtome
	Enabling or not? (Preview) Hello everyone. I'm new here but am old time relapsing co-dependent and should probably do an intro post but I've got a pressing issue I really need some feedback on. On May 1st, I made the HUGE!!! mistake of letting my active A bf come live with me. I thought I was helping him save money so he could do t...	scorpiosunmoon	7	1243	Jun 23, 2005 by scorpiosunmoon
	Hi all, long time no here... (Preview) My son is doing okay. He is struggling but okay. He has a court date for shop lifting and is paying off a traffic ticket… 20 mph over the limit… a dollar mile over. Biggest prize… he knows what he owns now. He is working hard. He is catching up on bills, making his car payments to me, moving in with very nice yo...	richard	7	1270	Jun 23, 2005 by Belongtome
	anyone from the uk? (Preview) IS THERE ANYBODY HERE THAT POSTS FROM THE UK?	melanieL	2	729	Jun 23, 2005 by melanieL
	Sleepless in Arizona (Preview) I havn't done this one in at least a year. Last night my mind was not off my daughter and her son. I need to hear from some Meth using in recovery. I know it happens, but right now I do not know anything. Does anyone hold any recovery out their, over Meth using? Yes, all ad...	kb	3	1112	Jun 23, 2005 by skydome
	I made it to my parent's cabin :) (Preview) Hello friends, I am here in Canada and it is beautiful here! My daughter is still sleeping. Mom is golfing and dad is at the clubhouse. I posted about my trip here so far under Richard's post. I am so happy to be here with my daughter :) She hasn't been here since the year 2000. Before that we use to come her...	cdb	10	1515	Jun 23, 2005 by lin0606
	Please help (Preview) Hi everybody, I need some help. I have been going back in forth in my mind on what to do in my situation for a couple of days now. My husband almost drove me, my two kids, and my mother-in-law into a wall last night because he was falling asleep at the wheel. I begged him to let me drive. ...	browneyes	7	1304	Jun 23, 2005 by isabela40
	New to Board: Hurt a friend (Preview) Hi: I have been in Alanon for 8.5 years. My husband got his 7 year chip last week from AA. I have a friend who is an alchoholic and addict. He was clean when I met him. Told me he was "hardcore" but of course, I never believed it. He went out after 18 months clean: drinking...	sugarbird	3	1111	Jun 22, 2005 by scorpiosunmoon
	How do you know it's too much? (Preview) Augh - I am so confused. My husband drinks. His family members are drinkers. I drink some, but at this point pretty much gave it up as it seems to be the right thing to do. Every get together with his family there is drinking going on.(this is almost weekly at this point) ...	Wishful	5	1303	Jun 22, 2005 by sanddie
	amends (Preview) Hello gang, I remember when I got the call from the ex a after he was in recovery on his maneds to me .It went like this Hi this is ,,,,I am sorry for all I did have a good day.At first that made me so angry and people in the program suggested I go to a aa meeting so I went to a couple and it angered me more I h...	dori	10	1710	Jun 22, 2005 by dori
	Realizationn (Preview) I discovered something this last weekend about myself and my A. I picked him up from work and went to a wedding with him and the kids of an old friend. It was beautiful. Then went home to changed, suggested that we go to the movies as a family, the A decides he can't live without foot spray, and leaves...	honeybunnydog	3	1049	Jun 22, 2005 by dori
	FEELING SAD (Preview) Feeling rather sad and a bit hopeless today. My ex-A's behaviour is more and more irratic. He is not getting on with my eldest daughter and they are just arguing and battling all the time, feel like a referee at the moment. I had hoped of a reconcilation eventually between us, but ca...	melanieL	3	1207	Jun 22, 2005 by dori
	Hanging in here (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been reading my book I just got thru the bookstore here, Alanon,"Paths to Recovery", Alanon's Steps, Traditions and Concepts. I can see ways in which I have matured, as far as my thinking goes. Ha! Finally after 20 yrs I can see this difference! ...	mamasan	3	1044	Jun 22, 2005 by mamasan
	I am a failure (Preview) I know that recovery is a process and no one is perfect, but damn!!! There was an incident at my house this morning where a neighbor threatened to shoot my husband. His mother came over and everything turned out okay. I found out my husband has been more active in his addiction than I...	Powerless	5	1097	Jun 21, 2005 by Mara
	feeling helpless and desperate (Preview) New to this forum, I didn't know where else to turn. My husband has been in recovery for about 2 1/2 years, with occasional relapses. The last relapse he'll own up to was almost 2 years ago, but I have suspected many others since then, even though there is always a story (though not always plausible) to ex...	cinderella	5	1166	Jun 21, 2005 by Mara
	Step 2 (Preview) Anyone have experience with step 2 would you PLEASE share your experince stragth and hope with me PLEASE.........	mandy_loves_GOD	2	874	Jun 21, 2005 by lildee
	Thank you (Preview) Hey guys I just wanted to say thank you for replying to my post. I really know what to do. You are all very kind and wise. I posted a message to you all on my previous post. Love, Browneyes	browneyes	0	808	Jun 21, 2005 by browneyes
	Happy Fathers Day (Preview)     ...	Jeannie	3	1007	Jun 21, 2005 by Mark S
	Seeing past the crap to HP (Preview) the topics of step 2 and faith connect with me today. I was getting into a " mundane about life" kind of place a couple weeks back and I thought I'd share on what came up for me at an ealrier meeting incase anyone in here identifies, too. Life seemed very dull and routines felt so meaningless--A...	luv123	1	1082	Jun 21, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Computer problems, relapse, fear (Preview) Hello all, It's been a long week ... computer problems have kept me from the board and until I receive the new modem in the mail it will be touch an go as to whether I can view the site or not. Friday was payday ... and after cashing his check and setting aside the money for our bills, he took the res...	Jolert	1	1124	Jun 21, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	detachment (Preview) I am having some trouble detaching. My A is going out tonight , first time since I had the baby, which is really good for him, but once he starts, it doesn't stop. Anyway, I am ok with PART of it, I am ok with him going to the bar(which is across town, and cops sit everywhere), but at this bar, he knows everyone...	lilleah	2	901	Jun 21, 2005 by scorpiosunmoon
	Looking for Feedback on a Project (Preview) I am working on a project that will allow families and friends of Alcoholics and Substance Abusers to help them through a special program, while protecting them from enabling. I am posting this with the hope that you might visit the website, take a look at the story, learn about the project and give me y...	FCCaretaker	3	1152	Jun 21, 2005 by Jolert
	Still feeling so sad?? (Preview) Hi, Last week I had a hurtful experience, and I am still feeling sad. I sponsor three people, I do my best to always be there for them because I really care. The day after my son's court case, I was still feeling nervous, and upset. One of the people who I sponsor called me ea...	teddybear	4	1150	Jun 21, 2005 by hopeful
	STEP ONE,,,,,,EXCELLENT READING (Preview) STEP ONE: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol----that our lives had become unmanageable. Each of our lives has been devasted by someone else's drinking. We cannot change that fact. We have been profoundly affected by the disease of alcoholism, Its effects continue to mermeate our lives....	gardengal	3	830	Jun 21, 2005 by holly123
	Please Remember (Preview) hello everyone! I am new to this board so please bear with me. I would like all of your help in remembering our troops that are overseas fighting the war on terror. Please keep them in your prayers. My brother is in the army, He is a Lt Col and has 700 soldier...	MrBlue42	8	887	Jun 20, 2005 by MrBlue42
	Makes no sense (Preview) I have been doing so much thinking and crying and thinking some more. I have been around all of this for so long. I have read everything there is to read. I have reread and said the prayers and slogans to myself so often. I have worked the steps, honestly and to the best of my ability alone and with a sponsor....	Jeannie	11	1193	Jun 20, 2005 by lin0606
	still gone and no hope in sight (Preview) Any suggestions: Have been seperated for about 5 months from my qualifier who is my husband. I have made it clear that in order to get back together he would have to join AA and get a sponsor and be of service for about a year ooooooo yeah keep the same place of employment for over a year. He is living in a...	joeygirl	6	1254	Jun 20, 2005 by kb
	Relapse (Preview) I noticed the post below on Relapse. I have mixed feelings about it. My experience was with my husband's relapse after ten years of sobriety was this. [I felt He could find sobriety again if HE wanted it, but it would require him hitting another bottom. And it did.&nb...	wallsal55	5	1210	Jun 20, 2005 by wallsal55
	Acting as If...and Quote for Today (Preview) I think I have forgotten how to "act as if". We have such glorious June weather here...and I well...have just gotten plain lazy, But enjoying that laziness--is a payoff : ) I feel I deserve the relaxed time after all the stress, but I swing to the extreme...	wallsal55	0	836	Jun 20, 2005 by wallsal55
	God Said NO (Preview) GOD SAID 'NO' (Think about this) I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary I asked God to grant me patience. God said,...	kerry5	5	1175	Jun 20, 2005 by Peggy7
	sara (Preview) hi sara.......if you click onyour original post, then scroll down, the shares are posted below yours :) jo	jo4	0	958	Jun 19, 2005 by jo4
	New here, need some friendly advice.... (Preview) Hi everyone, I really feel fed up today and i shall explain why.......... I have been married for nearly three years, and my husband has always liked a drink. We have been together for eight years and it he has always been this way. He can binge drink quite easily, gets very aggressive and argum...	Sara	2	1138	Jun 19, 2005 by lin0606
	a little help with a dry drunk please????? (Preview) hi all, Well, my husband now has about 7 months of sobriety, and he is starting to act out the dry drunk stages. Some more angry then others, and all though i know what to do with myself during these times.....I was wondering what exactly is going on inside him that makes alcoholics act out in dry...	mastiff	13	1439	Jun 19, 2005 by cloud
	Surgery (Preview) Hi all - I'm having surgery on my neck on Fri to remove unwanted bone - then to re-hab for therapy on my legs. I welcome your prayers and send you my love and hugs - Dot	dot	8	1151	Jun 19, 2005 by cloud
	To cloud (Preview) Hi cloud, Thanks for your responses to my posts, I really appreciate it!! I just wanted to let you know that I am not cathy, I am Linda (teddybear) There are so many people on this message board that it is easy to not identify people with their posting names. I hope that all is going well with you to...	teddybear	1	850	Jun 19, 2005 by cloud
	relapses---do they just get worse? (Preview) My A husband entered a 30 day inpatient facility and did "great" but came out and drank 2 days later. Started a semi program after and didn't drink for 2 weeks but drank one night but got back on board. 2 weeks later another "relapse". Stayed away for 1 week---admits he was drunk most...	mom to 2	11	1304	Jun 19, 2005 by tk47834
	Sara here, how do i read the views made? (Preview) Hi Guys, Thankyou for replying, but unfortunately i cannot seem to work out how to access the comments made, its driving me insane!!!!!!! Can someone please email me and let me know j.taylor3@btopenworld.com Thankyou..................	Sara	0	784	Jun 19, 2005 by Sara
	I am so angry (Preview) I am so angry tonight and don't know why. I posted earlier about expectations. I realize that I cannot impose my will on anyone else, especially an addict. But, I am still angry and wondering how he can be so stupid. How can he not see things as I do? Why doesn't he understand?&...	Powerless	4	987	Jun 19, 2005 by whitie
	I sent the note (Preview) I had posted on here about sending a note to my sister-in-law informing her that I had left her brother. I read the responses, talked to my therapist and prayed on it. I wanted to tell his family because I thought they should know. So I sent my closest sister-in-law a no...	megan	3	857	Jun 19, 2005 by megan
	Letter to the addict (Preview) I have been feeling so much anger, disappointment and resentment lately. I thought it was important to write this letter to my husband. I thought it may fit your situation as well. It's not well thought out because I was feeling very emotional when I wrote it. Dear (A...	Powerless	5	1452	Jun 19, 2005 by Powerless
	Daughter back in AA :) (Preview) Hello friends, Once again, thanks for the prayers so much! Daughter called today and I twisted her arm to come home to have some of her past due birthday cake and open her cards. She came home since her dad wasn't here. Gosh, I wish my hubby would go to alanon etc. Anyway, we had a nice visit. She ev...	cdb	3	1054	Jun 18, 2005 by sanddie
	daughter (Preview) Husband stopped at her apartment. Neighbor has seen her coming and going. Out of our control now. She hasn't called us or her boyfriend. Could use continued prayers. For those of you who do not know. Daughter relapsed. Not sure what is going on. Time to take care of me :) cdb	cdb	12	1380	Jun 18, 2005 by cloud
	THE FOG (Preview) I was cleaning out my computer and came across something that I wrote several yrs ago. Thought I'd share.. The Fog.... The fog has taken you and enveloped the man I used to know. Where are you? How can I reach you? I wonder through the fog with you, never finding you, only remembering the m...	Christy	6	1092	Jun 18, 2005 by cloud
	Amends to kerry5 (Preview) Hello kerry5 and all, I did make amends to you last night in chat and making amends is one great thing about the alanon program. I have been in a crisis with the relapse of my daughter. I should have had a sign on me that said: Look Out, Crazy Woman! LOL I know how hard it must be to be a new OP and...	cdb	3	821	Jun 18, 2005 by cloud
	Expectations (Preview) A light bulb finally weent off in my head. I reealized today just what everyone means when they say expectations. My husband and I took the oldrest son to the movies today and he was so high on pills that he couldn't stay awake. He snored loud enough to turn heads. I sent him to the car t...	Powerless	0	930	Jun 18, 2005 by Powerless
	host daze (Preview) Hi to all, I hope it's great all y'all's ways. The a.m. chat is becoming a less and less option for me. When I wake up - my java into chat is visually impaired. It takes about an hour for my eyes to open. Java does not support text enlarging. I have five fields of vision, so its takes a wh...	wille	2	803	Jun 18, 2005 by cdb
	Going in Circles for too long (Preview) I'm new. So Hello everyone! I've been with A for 40 years, so I'll give a brief synopsis. 16 years into our marriage, I had had enough. There were no drinkers in my family, so I thought my hubby's problems were deep-seated issues from his own family history and childhood. But, I had simply had enough an...	Sandyspen	4	1462	Jun 18, 2005 by Sandyspen
	Roundups and conventions (Preview) A post in another thread got me thinking about this. Have any of you ever been to a roundup? They are like big meetings, with both AA and Alanon. The ones I have been to have varied from just one day (usually a Saturday) to a whole weekend. In the course of a day there amy be five or six meetings where people ge...	lin0606	6	1149	Jun 18, 2005 by DanaAngel
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