Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Hi all, Our home computer crashed about 3 weeks ago and except with the occasional peek while at work I haven't been on this site. Nice to be able to type this at home. The other half says I get cranky when I don't have my puter time. (But I functioned okay without it als...

shimo · shimo

Hi everyone, I have decided to drop my name from the list as alternate chair for Monday morning meetings. The last few weeks I have been unable to fulfill my capacity as an alternate chair for various reasons. However, if I am in the room attending the meeting on days other...

tk47834 · tk47834

Thanks to all of you for replying. I've always been a head-strong person and that is one of my biggest downfalls. It has also always been very hard for me to ask for help on anything. ( My father was the same way.) During our first years of marriage, I learned how to do everything from plu...

De Anna · De Anna

My 10 year old knows somethings up. He'll ask me "Why is daddy asleep so early" "Why can't we wake him" "Is it the alcohol he drinks?" Well, part of me wants to say all the wrong things, which would be wrong. Part of me wants to hide it, which would be wrong too. I f...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

www.thisisawar.com/AddictionPartner.htm ; Codependence [The word 'amophous' in this piece means shapeless, unorganized, etc.] -- Edited by wallsal55 at 15:33, 20...

cloud · cloud

Friends are something we are all in need of from time to time, but friends here relly make a difference!!!! So many times I have sat and wondered lately what the true meaning of a friend was???? I realize that a friend is someone you can turn to in any situation, with a problem, or a joke you want to share or&...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I will be out of town this Thursday (6/16) and unable to chair the Thursday night Step meeting. Step Four is the step we are on for this meeting. Thanking in advance the member who volunteers to step up and chair for me! Luv, Kis

holly123 · holly123

Ok I am really trying to get the nerve up part of taking care of me. I want to start to ask for what I want. I want affection from my husband. Affection he may not want to give, but I believe he is waiting for me to assert myself and ask. He ended a 3 year affair 9 months ago with a woman who w...

sno · sno

Hi, I posted here once a few weeks ago and have tried to convince myself that things have changed, which...not surprisingly...they have not. This past weekend was an eyeopener for me and I am making a decision. In 24 minutes I am leaving work, heading home..and I am going to lay t...

cdb · cdb

Hello Jo4, I know someone that needs a temporary sponsor. This person has learning disabilities and is a single parent with older son. This person is eager to learn and needs support. Please answer me in my private email here under cdb if you can help out. Thanks so much. cdb :)

wille · wille

Thoughts of healing and Hi to all, Thanks all for thinking of UK Josh. He is getting better and better! Totally off life support now, which is pretty awesome for a tbi (trauma brain injury) 10 year old. He can not remember some words as yet and thinks his leg is broken, as it is the part of...

honeybunnydog · honeybunnydog

Hi everyone, I went to my first family class with my A last week. He is required to take intensive outpatient therapy at this couseling center four nights a week two hours a night. One night a week is family night, and I did not go to the first three because he got the couselor at the rehab plac...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

It would be really nice if there was a temporary sponsor list to help new comers. I was told to wait and listen, well I need help right away and so do many others. Knowing you are doing something is the begging of healing.

Powerless · Powerless

He got a job today and starts tomorrow. I am trying not to be negative and wonder how long he will keep the darn thing. At least it will get him out of the house each day and hopefully help us get caught up. Was offered a new position within the company I work for today and am seriously con...

nycbt · nycbt

MY BOYFRIEND TURNED HUSBAND In Aug of 99 I meet, Rick at one of my friends house. I was living alone because the person I moved down had left and I wasn’t dating anyone at the time. Rick had just gotten out of jail and was trying to get his life together. In the begin I really didn’t really notice on h...

megan · megan

i am going to send a note to my husband's sister explaining to her that I have left her brother and the reason why - his active alcoholism. It just came to me yesterday while I was riding my bike. I feel they should know. Since their brother is killing himself and when he is dead they will say...

fiona123 · fiona123

Which ....has been often in the 1st few years back in recovery ...here are some things that have helped me which I would like to share; Fear = F.alse E.vents A.ppearing R.eal Trying to stay in Just Today ... a day ( a minute) at a time The "Just for today " Bookmark REALLY helps me "Just for to...

kerry5 · kerry5

TO REALIZE > > > >To realize > >The value of a sister > >Ask someone > >Who doesn't have one. > > > >To realize > >The value of ten years: > >Ask a newly > >Divorced couple. > > > >To realize > >The value of four years: &g...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, I have not been able to post for a time, because my computer was out of order. My husband had it reformatted, and you can be sure that it was not important for him to keep my Al-Anon site. I was so upset, yet with the help of my HP I found it again. I am so happy about th...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, Allowing yourself to be less than perfect allows you to accomplish great things in small ways. My HP, may I remove all of the pressures I overwhelming place on myself, and do what I can, when I can. Friday evening I was the guest speaker at an Al-Anon meeting, I felt...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This is the chart they handed me at a mental health facility (when I told them I was going crazy. They said "No, you are not, your husband has a drinking problem." Wish they'd given this paper out when I graduated high school ! Go to: www.dog...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

A pamphlet available at alanon meetings, and at www.alanon.org is "Merry Go Round Named Denial." If you are isolated from meetings, etc. it can be found at www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (note spelling) Just type these in your address ba...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I use to be so good at reading posts and replying. Since my situation with my parents' poor health and their moving to ND to be closer to me, I have been a mess with a routine! I haven't forgotten about you. I feel so bad I am not reading or replying. I even have 140 emails I have...

Finishgal · Finishgal

I am new in Alanon. I went to a few meetings and people gave me call lists and a few even gave me their numbers. I don't know what to do or say when I call. The meetings I went to I started to cry. My son just got back from treatment and has slipped a few times. I had a meltdown on Friday...

Powerless · Powerless

okay, here is the deal...there is something my HP must believe I am just not getting. I believe that when your HP is trying to teach one of his/her "gentle lessons" he will keep trying until the realization of the lesson dawns on you. Well, there must be something I am not getting because I f...

Emily · Emily

Hi..my name is Emily and new to the group and to alanon as well. I've tried calling my sponsors and I cant seem to get a hold of any of them. So, i thought I would give this a try. Just when everything seems to be going well problems from my past come back and my fiance always seems to get ve...

tk47834 · tk47834

This is my first time to this message board. My husband has been sober now for a little over 6 years. I'm very proud of him for that, but here lately I have been worried. I lost my job of 24+ years a year ago and we are really starting to feel the pinch. I've been everywhere I...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

I just wanted to let everyone here know. Yes he went to an AA meeting last night. He looked so positive when he came home too. I am trying not to get my hopes up to high right now though. I know that sounds counteractive but I am so tired of being hurt by my own expectations of what I think he should do. We did tal...

Powerless · Powerless

I really could have saved his truck, but in the end I turned the problem over to him. He sold the truck and even got a little used car in the deal. He paid his mom some of the money he owed her and gave me $400 for groceries. He bought each of the kids a pair of shoes and four outfits a piece fo...

kerry5 · kerry5

I always live my life feeling trapped i can remember each and everytime in my life i have, and here it is again. When i was around 12 years old thats when the abuse starting full swing. Because my mother completely believed that me and my sister were raised at 12 and her job was done. She still believed it ti...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, As many of you know things have been very very busy for me. Have been wondering for the last couple of days if things will ever get back to normal. The new house is coming along - although very slowly. Have many boxes still yet unpacked because I need to paint. ...

jj · jj

Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. Shutting don, shutting off, closing ourselves and removing our emotionsl presence from a relationship is a powerful tool. We need to use it carefully and res...

dot · dot

Hi - Step three is posted on the Step board. Please come and share your ES&H. Love in Recovery - Dot

dori · dori

Hey all, It is been a while and I am still worknig my program and worknig my steps with my sponsor.This is my problem though I dont want to go to meetings.There are times I think I do not need them and then there are times I just dont want the hassel of it all.I have been in the program 2 years the a in my life is...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

As long as he will go to the counselor....wow! It took my husband several attempts this time around to make it stick. He had years and years of denial, habits, etc. I believe we are on five months sobriety. One attempt at AA didn't get us here. &nbs...

Jolert · Jolert

Hello everyone, I've been sitting here for an hour repeating the mantra ... oh Lord please help us both to find a way to follow your path ... this morning I decided I can not watch my husband go through the same cycle as every time in the last 12 years. I pulled out the seperation papers I had drawn u...

Powerless · Powerless

I keep trying to remind myself that I hate his addiction and not him. It is his addiction that causes the behavior I am seeing. He tried to draw me into an arguement today, although I responded, I caught myself and let it go. He found someone to buy his pickup truck for $3,000. I...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Below is an email I received from another MIP member who asked me to share with group. HI~How are U? I am letting you know that I will not be in AlAnon for while~I just found out last night that my best friend had been in serious car accident and her daughter was in with her Mom and wa...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, Well we went to the counselor again tonight. My husband was not drinking and was in good spirits. The kids and I told him what was on our minds. We told him how much we love him, miss him and how much we do want him home and well. We all decided that we are going to try. I would say one las...

Aspouse · Aspouse

Thank you, some of you, who i met in the chat room earlier. this is the first time i have attempted to get help. i am the spouse of an alcoholic, who feels i am his biggest trigger right now. i am scared. my husband relapsed after 3 and 1/2 years of sobriety. i may have triggered him....pushed him , becau...

holly123 · holly123

Hi everyone, I am feeling very down today. Yesterday was my 10th Anniversary and it went unnoticed by all. My mother in law did ask what she should get us and my mom the same but as far as my husband went, I had to remind him and then it was dropped. I am real...

jpquack · jpquack

hi - i'm new to wilmington, nc and would like to find meetings of al-anon, or aa if that's all that's here - feel very stressed out and could use some good support !!! - thanks - john

nycbt · nycbt

Recently I have put on some weight that is bothering me to death. Alot of people say I look good with the weight on but I don't like the weight. I ave a low self esteem. I been eatting sugar which I shouldn't be. So today I am keeping the weight thing in mind and I am not eating any snaks at work today. My husband...

nycbt · nycbt

WHEN I WAS A BABY When I was a little baby, my real mother did drugs and drank. She used to leave my brother and me alone while she went out. When she went out and left us alone, I used to feel angry, scared, frighten, about what would happen to me if she doesn’t come back. Because of her being drunk or...

WStar · WStar

Hello all, Today was a crappy day not trying to complain there are bigger things to piss and moan about. It started out my dog got sick took to the vet .Vet called back my dog died.Broken hearted I'm stund. Why in life does it take lossing somebody,something tha...

trishlafish · trishlafish

Hi, I am brand new to the whole Al-anon thing. I am still trying to figure it all out. I attended my first face to face meeting last nite. Does anyone have any suggestions on where to start? i feel so lost and hopeless. I grew up in an alcoholic household. I never realized how it affected me. I have n...

De Anna · De Anna

I started this program in March. I was at my bottom, yet I couldn't see up, isn't that ironic. 3 months into this program & it has given me important guidelines. My hub hasn't changed, & I don't know that he will. I do know I've changed. I used to be angr...

nycbt · nycbt

When I started Alanon, he still was drinking. Our cat died and we were fighting so I left and went to the diner and called him to see how he was doing he started screaming and yelling, so I hung up the phone and ate my diner. He wanted something to eat so I brought something to eat and when I came home he had hate...

Powerless · Powerless

I feel like I am really starting to get steps one and two. My husband has been making a lot of poor choices, but I have not tried to correct him. Even when he asks my opinion I tell him to weight out his options and make his own decisions. his pick up truck is about to be repossessed Friday...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Target. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence. It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We al...

megan · megan

Said to me by my co-worker this morning as we talked. He said that he has alot of emotional scars from growing up with 2 alcoholic parents He got alot of physical and mental pain and is struggling with his emotions over it. I gave him my "Hope for Today" book. Its an okay book but not too...

nycbt · nycbt

The things that are posted in section our my life story which I broke down into section hoping that I could help some of you out there. An it is good to hear feed back. Thanks

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, well I was not sure how to respond when A did call. I saw it was him and took a breath. I said hello, he immediately said how are you? I changed the subject quickly. I told him I will not be telling him anything about me. Neither will my loved ones. That I have learned who really loves me the last fe...

lilleah · lilleah

ok, my A decided NOT to go to the bar, and somehow, I know I will be blamed for this! I will be blamed b/c I didn't tell him which bar to go to! All I said was how I would like it if he stayed close to home, and didn't drive to the bar he used to go to which is across town. We moved, so now he is further away from that bar...

nycbt · nycbt

ALCOHOLIC FATHER My foster father turned adopted father was also an alcoholic. When my adopted father drank, I was upset, angry, and very disappointed in him. I lost trust in any promises he had. I wouldn’t believe anything he said when it came to going anywhere. I would wait outside for him and he wo...

sanddie · sanddie

I am not sure if any of you are familiar with this place. However, thought I'd share it with you, as it is a rehabilitation center for teens with substance abuse. I went there last week to see what they offered for adolescents. I wanted to stay--it was phenomena...

nycbt · nycbt

RICK’S SON MOVED IN In Jan of 2004 Feb. his son moved into a very small apt. He was supposed to be there for a little while. Rick drank so bad when he moved in her would start fighting and naming calling. He would start hanging out with people that were also drinkers. Two of them were drunk all the...

lilleah · lilleah

sorry I haven't posted in awhile, I had my baby 6wks ago and have been very busy. How is everyone? My A was good for awhile, he didn't go out all the time, and we would go together, but now he is blaming me for not going anywhere, and just being generally miserable. He has told me about 3 times recently that he...

nycbt · nycbt

I am proud of the progress that I have made in the last six months. My tempter: I have been getting very good with that. I haven't thrown glass, cut my self, only a couple of times started screaming. I have calm down quicker then I used to. I am trying to work on the things I like to do like reading, sittin...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Just thinking today. I talked to the kids about what they want, and they basically told me it is my decision. They told me they love him and wish he would sober up. They said that they would prefer he wasn't with his parents becasue it is hard to even call him, as they answer the phone, and none of them w...

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	I am finally back up and running! (Preview) Hi all, Our home computer crashed about 3 weeks ago and except with the occasional peek while at work I haven't been on this site. Nice to be able to type this at home. The other half says I get cranky when I don't have my puter time. (But I functioned okay without it als...	DanaAngel	1	706	Jun 16, 2005 by shimo
	Alternate Chair Monday a.m.'s (Preview) Hi everyone, I have decided to drop my name from the list as alternate chair for Monday morning meetings. The last few weeks I have been unable to fulfill my capacity as an alternate chair for various reasons. However, if I am in the room attending the meeting on days other...	shimo	0	497	Jun 16, 2005 by shimo
	Thank you (Preview) Thanks to all of you for replying. I've always been a head-strong person and that is one of my biggest downfalls. It has also always been very hard for me to ask for help on anything. ( My father was the same way.) During our first years of marriage, I learned how to do everything from plu...	tk47834	2	722	Jun 15, 2005 by tk47834
	answering a child's questions... (Preview) My 10 year old knows somethings up. He'll ask me "Why is daddy asleep so early" "Why can't we wake him" "Is it the alcohol he drinks?" Well, part of me wants to say all the wrong things, which would be wrong. Part of me wants to hide it, which would be wrong too. I f...	De Anna	5	990	Jun 15, 2005 by abbyal
	Codependent Caring Running Amok/Characteristics (Preview) www.thisisawar.com/AddictionPartner.htm ; Codependence [The word 'amophous' in this piece means shapeless, unorganized, etc.] -- Edited by wallsal55 at 15:33, 20...	wallsal55	2	567	Jun 15, 2005 by agatha
	FRIENDS (Preview) Friends are something we are all in need of from time to time, but friends here relly make a difference!!!! So many times I have sat and wondered lately what the true meaning of a friend was???? I realize that a friend is someone you can turn to in any situation, with a problem, or a joke you want to share or&...	cloud	2	623	Jun 15, 2005 by cloud
	Chair Needed for 6/16 pm meeting (Preview) I will be out of town this Thursday (6/16) and unable to chair the Thursday night Step meeting. Step Four is the step we are on for this meeting. Thanking in advance the member who volunteers to step up and chair for me! Luv, Kis	kismetstrand	2	651	Jun 15, 2005 by mastiff
	Need support and encouragement or experience (Preview) Ok I am really trying to get the nerve up part of taking care of me. I want to start to ask for what I want. I want affection from my husband. Affection he may not want to give, but I believe he is waiting for me to assert myself and ask. He ended a 3 year affair 9 months ago with a woman who w...	holly123	5	775	Jun 15, 2005 by holly123
	made a decision (Preview) Hi, I posted here once a few weeks ago and have tried to convince myself that things have changed, which...not surprisingly...they have not. This past weekend was an eyeopener for me and I am making a decision. In 24 minutes I am leaving work, heading home..and I am going to lay t...	sno	3	493	Jun 15, 2005 by Powerless
	Need to talk to Jo4 :) (Preview) Hello Jo4, I know someone that needs a temporary sponsor. This person has learning disabilities and is a single parent with older son. This person is eager to learn and needs support. Please answer me in my private email here under cdb if you can help out. Thanks so much. cdb :)	cdb	1	621	Jun 14, 2005 by jo4
	Josh (Preview) Thoughts of healing and Hi to all, Thanks all for thinking of UK Josh. He is getting better and better! Totally off life support now, which is pretty awesome for a tbi (trauma brain injury) 10 year old. He can not remember some words as yet and thinks his leg is broken, as it is the part of...	wille	2	633	Jun 14, 2005 by Jeannie
	When enough is enough (Preview) Hi everyone, I went to my first family class with my A last week. He is required to take intensive outpatient therapy at this couseling center four nights a week two hours a night. One night a week is family night, and I did not go to the first three because he got the couselor at the rehab plac...	honeybunnydog	3	619	Jun 14, 2005 by Jeannie
	Temporary Sponsors (Preview) It would be really nice if there was a temporary sponsor list to help new comers. I was told to wait and listen, well I need help right away and so do many others. Knowing you are doing something is the begging of healing.	ItsmeTC	2	867	Jun 14, 2005 by holly123
	He got a job!!! (Preview) He got a job today and starts tomorrow. I am trying not to be negative and wonder how long he will keep the darn thing. At least it will get him out of the house each day and hopefully help us get caught up. Was offered a new position within the company I work for today and am seriously con...	Powerless	3	644	Jun 14, 2005 by Jeannie
	MY BOYFRIEND TURNED HUSBAND (Preview) MY BOYFRIEND TURNED HUSBAND In Aug of 99 I meet, Rick at one of my friends house. I was living alone because the person I moved down had left and I wasn’t dating anyone at the time. Rick had just gotten out of jail and was trying to get his life together. In the begin I really didn’t really notice on h...	nycbt	2	737	Jun 14, 2005 by nycbt
	Reaching out to his family (Preview) i am going to send a note to my husband's sister explaining to her that I have left her brother and the reason why - his active alcoholism. It just came to me yesterday while I was riding my bike. I feel they should know. Since their brother is killing himself and when he is dead they will say...	megan	3	755	Jun 14, 2005 by megan
	Things that help me when I am AFRAID (Preview) Which ....has been often in the 1st few years back in recovery ...here are some things that have helped me which I would like to share; Fear = F.alse E.vents A.ppearing R.eal Trying to stay in Just Today ... a day ( a minute) at a time The "Just for today " Bookmark REALLY helps me "Just for to...	fiona123	1	477	Jun 13, 2005 by De Anna
	To Realize (Preview) TO REALIZE > > > >To realize > >The value of a sister > >Ask someone > >Who doesn't have one. > > > >To realize > >The value of ten years: > >Ask a newly > >Divorced couple. > > > >To realize > >The value of four years: &g...	kerry5	3	801	Jun 13, 2005 by wille
	So happy to be back (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have not been able to post for a time, because my computer was out of order. My husband had it reformatted, and you can be sure that it was not important for him to keep my Al-Anon site. I was so upset, yet with the help of my HP I found it again. I am so happy about th...	teddybear	1	702	Jun 13, 2005 by cloud
	An Inspiration for today (Preview) Hi Everyone, Allowing yourself to be less than perfect allows you to accomplish great things in small ways. My HP, may I remove all of the pressures I overwhelming place on myself, and do what I can, when I can. Friday evening I was the guest speaker at an Al-Anon meeting, I felt...	teddybear	1	721	Jun 13, 2005 by cloud
	Jellinek Chart/Progression of Disease (Preview) This is the chart they handed me at a mental health facility (when I told them I was going crazy. They said "No, you are not, your husband has a drinking problem." Wish they'd given this paper out when I graduated high school ! Go to: www.dog...	wallsal55	0	6313	Jun 13, 2005 by wallsal55
	Merry Go Round Named Denial (Preview) A pamphlet available at alanon meetings, and at www.alanon.org is "Merry Go Round Named Denial." If you are isolated from meetings, etc. it can be found at www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (note spelling) Just type these in your address ba...	wallsal55	0	831	Jun 13, 2005 by wallsal55
	So Sorry message board friends... (Preview) Hello friends, I use to be so good at reading posts and replying. Since my situation with my parents' poor health and their moving to ND to be closer to me, I have been a mess with a routine! I haven't forgotten about you. I feel so bad I am not reading or replying. I even have 140 emails I have...	cdb	9	1005	Jun 13, 2005 by teddybear
	Asking for help (Preview) I am new in Alanon. I went to a few meetings and people gave me call lists and a few even gave me their numbers. I don't know what to do or say when I call. The meetings I went to I started to cry. My son just got back from treatment and has slipped a few times. I had a meltdown on Friday...	Finishgal	7	925	Jun 12, 2005 by nikkilou
	Life's "gentle" lessons (Preview) okay, here is the deal...there is something my HP must believe I am just not getting. I believe that when your HP is trying to teach one of his/her "gentle lessons" he will keep trying until the realization of the lesson dawns on you. Well, there must be something I am not getting because I f...	Powerless	2	971	Jun 12, 2005 by dot
	constantly questioning fiance (Preview) Hi..my name is Emily and new to the group and to alanon as well. I've tried calling my sponsors and I cant seem to get a hold of any of them. So, i thought I would give this a try. Just when everything seems to be going well problems from my past come back and my fiance always seems to get ve...	Emily	3	684	Jun 12, 2005 by Annie
	First timer (Preview) This is my first time to this message board. My husband has been sober now for a little over 6 years. I'm very proud of him for that, but here lately I have been worried. I lost my job of 24+ years a year ago and we are really starting to feel the pinch. I've been everywhere I...	tk47834	5	749	Jun 12, 2005 by wallsal55
	hubby went to aa (Preview) I just wanted to let everyone here know. Yes he went to an AA meeting last night. He looked so positive when he came home too. I am trying not to get my hopes up to high right now though. I know that sounds counteractive but I am so tired of being hurt by my own expectations of what I think he should do. We did tal...	lil_feathered_one	5	631	Jun 12, 2005 by holdingon
	Having a good weekend (Preview) I really could have saved his truck, but in the end I turned the problem over to him. He sold the truck and even got a little used car in the deal. He paid his mom some of the money he owed her and gave me $400 for groceries. He bought each of the kids a pair of shoes and four outfits a piece fo...	Powerless	2	678	Jun 12, 2005 by tiredtonite
	Feeling Trapped (Preview) I always live my life feeling trapped i can remember each and everytime in my life i have, and here it is again. When i was around 12 years old thats when the abuse starting full swing. Because my mother completely believed that me and my sister were raised at 12 and her job was done. She still believed it ti...	kerry5	6	993	Jun 12, 2005 by fiona123
	Wondering When... (Preview) Hiya everyone, As many of you know things have been very very busy for me. Have been wondering for the last couple of days if things will ever get back to normal. The new house is coming along - although very slowly. Have many boxes still yet unpacked because I need to paint. ...	AlaMom	4	771	Jun 11, 2005 by cloud
	With Holding (Preview) Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. Shutting don, shutting off, closing ourselves and removing our emotionsl presence from a relationship is a powerful tool. We need to use it carefully and res...	jj	3	588	Jun 11, 2005 by jessi
	Step board - Step three (Preview) Hi - Step three is posted on the Step board. Please come and share your ES&H. Love in Recovery - Dot	dot	0	577	Jun 11, 2005 by dot
	another meeting (Preview) Hey all, It is been a while and I am still worknig my program and worknig my steps with my sponsor.This is my problem though I dont want to go to meetings.There are times I think I do not need them and then there are times I just dont want the hassel of it all.I have been in the program 2 years the a in my life is...	dori	4	839	Jun 11, 2005 by jessi
	Jeannie... (Preview) As long as he will go to the counselor....wow! It took my husband several attempts this time around to make it stick. He had years and years of denial, habits, etc. I believe we are on five months sobriety. One attempt at AA didn't get us here. &nbs...	wallsal55	0	448	Jun 11, 2005 by wallsal55
	HP please help us to follow your path (Preview) Hello everyone, I've been sitting here for an hour repeating the mantra ... oh Lord please help us both to find a way to follow your path ... this morning I decided I can not watch my husband go through the same cycle as every time in the last 12 years. I pulled out the seperation papers I had drawn u...	Jolert	3	695	Jun 11, 2005 by Jolert
	Trying to remind myself that I hate his disease and not him (Preview) I keep trying to remind myself that I hate his addiction and not him. It is his addiction that causes the behavior I am seeing. He tried to draw me into an arguement today, although I responded, I caught myself and let it go. He found someone to buy his pickup truck for $3,000. I...	Powerless	3	804	Jun 10, 2005 by Annie
	Prayers Needed (Preview) Below is an email I received from another MIP member who asked me to share with group. HI~How are U? I am letting you know that I will not be in AlAnon for while~I just found out last night that my best friend had been in serious car accident and her daughter was in with her Mom and wa...	kismetstrand	7	734	Jun 10, 2005 by wille
	One more try (Preview) Hi everyone, Well we went to the counselor again tonight. My husband was not drinking and was in good spirits. The kids and I told him what was on our minds. We told him how much we love him, miss him and how much we do want him home and well. We all decided that we are going to try. I would say one las...	Jeannie	11	661	Jun 10, 2005 by Diva
	need help (Preview) Thank you, some of you, who i met in the chat room earlier. this is the first time i have attempted to get help. i am the spouse of an alcoholic, who feels i am his biggest trigger right now. i am scared. my husband relapsed after 3 and 1/2 years of sobriety. i may have triggered him....pushed him , becau...	Aspouse	12	613	Jun 10, 2005 by Diva
	My Anniversary (Preview) Hi everyone, I am feeling very down today. Yesterday was my 10th Anniversary and it went unnoticed by all. My mother in law did ask what she should get us and my mom the same but as far as my husband went, I had to remind him and then it was dropped. I am real...	holly123	3	974	Jun 10, 2005 by nmike
	need help finding meetings - nc (Preview) hi - i'm new to wilmington, nc and would like to find meetings of al-anon, or aa if that's all that's here - feel very stressed out and could use some good support !!! - thanks - john	jpquack	3	2339	Jun 10, 2005 by kerry5
	WEIGHT (Preview) Recently I have put on some weight that is bothering me to death. Alot of people say I look good with the weight on but I don't like the weight. I ave a low self esteem. I been eatting sugar which I shouldn't be. So today I am keeping the weight thing in mind and I am not eating any snaks at work today. My husband...	nycbt	7	646	Jun 9, 2005 by dori
	WHEN I WAS A BABY (Preview) WHEN I WAS A BABY When I was a little baby, my real mother did drugs and drank. She used to leave my brother and me alone while she went out. When she went out and left us alone, I used to feel angry, scared, frighten, about what would happen to me if she doesn’t come back. Because of her being drunk or...	nycbt	1	730	Jun 9, 2005 by KathyS
	Canine vs. Human (Preview) Hello all, Today was a crappy day not trying to complain there are bigger things to piss and moan about. It started out my dog got sick took to the vet .Vet called back my dog died.Broken hearted I'm stund. Why in life does it take lossing somebody,something tha...	WStar	5	794	Jun 9, 2005 by kismetstrand
	i am new (Preview) Hi, I am brand new to the whole Al-anon thing. I am still trying to figure it all out. I attended my first face to face meeting last nite. Does anyone have any suggestions on where to start? i feel so lost and hopeless. I grew up in an alcoholic household. I never realized how it affected me. I have n...	trishlafish	8	903	Jun 9, 2005 by delucagirl
	going on.....alone? (Preview) I started this program in March. I was at my bottom, yet I couldn't see up, isn't that ironic. 3 months into this program & it has given me important guidelines. My hub hasn't changed, & I don't know that he will. I do know I've changed. I used to be angr...	De Anna	6	713	Jun 9, 2005 by sandie123
	STARTED ALANON (Preview) When I started Alanon, he still was drinking. Our cat died and we were fighting so I left and went to the diner and called him to see how he was doing he started screaming and yelling, so I hung up the phone and ate my diner. He wanted something to eat so I brought something to eat and when I came home he had hate...	nycbt	1	471	Jun 9, 2005 by lin0606
	Really getting steps one and two (Preview) I feel like I am really starting to get steps one and two. My husband has been making a lot of poor choices, but I have not tried to correct him. Even when he asks my opinion I tell him to weight out his options and make his own decisions. his pick up truck is about to be repossessed Friday...	Powerless	5	786	Jun 9, 2005 by dot
	Run Through The Rain (Preview) A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Target. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence. It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We al...	kismetstrand	5	865	Jun 9, 2005 by Jolert
	Even a dog can be conditioned to starve (Preview) Said to me by my co-worker this morning as we talked. He said that he has alot of emotional scars from growing up with 2 alcoholic parents He got alot of physical and mental pain and is struggling with his emotions over it. I gave him my "Hope for Today" book. Its an okay book but not too...	megan	1	623	Jun 9, 2005 by Jolert
	my life story (Preview) The things that are posted in section our my life story which I broke down into section hoping that I could help some of you out there. An it is good to hear feed back. Thanks	nycbt	1	582	Jun 9, 2005 by Jolert
	A called/update (Preview) Hi, well I was not sure how to respond when A did call. I saw it was him and took a breath. I said hello, he immediately said how are you? I changed the subject quickly. I told him I will not be telling him anything about me. Neither will my loved ones. That I have learned who really loves me the last fe...	debilyn	5	860	Jun 8, 2005 by Jeannie
	taking the blame again! (Preview) ok, my A decided NOT to go to the bar, and somehow, I know I will be blamed for this! I will be blamed b/c I didn't tell him which bar to go to! All I said was how I would like it if he stayed close to home, and didn't drive to the bar he used to go to which is across town. We moved, so now he is further away from that bar...	lilleah	5	858	Jun 8, 2005 by Jill
	my adopted father (Preview) ALCOHOLIC FATHER My foster father turned adopted father was also an alcoholic. When my adopted father drank, I was upset, angry, and very disappointed in him. I lost trust in any promises he had. I wouldn’t believe anything he said when it came to going anywhere. I would wait outside for him and he wo...	nycbt	2	766	Jun 8, 2005 by nycbt
	Adolescent Treatment Facility...... (Preview) I am not sure if any of you are familiar with this place. However, thought I'd share it with you, as it is a rehabilitation center for teens with substance abuse. I went there last week to see what they offered for adolescents. I wanted to stay--it was phenomena...	sanddie	0	605	Jun 8, 2005 by sanddie
	RICK’S SON MOVED IN (Preview) RICK’S SON MOVED IN In Jan of 2004 Feb. his son moved into a very small apt. He was supposed to be there for a little while. Rick drank so bad when he moved in her would start fighting and naming calling. He would start hanging out with people that were also drinkers. Two of them were drunk all the...	nycbt	0	536	Jun 8, 2005 by nycbt
	hi-sorry I haven't posted in awhile (Preview) sorry I haven't posted in awhile, I had my baby 6wks ago and have been very busy. How is everyone? My A was good for awhile, he didn't go out all the time, and we would go together, but now he is blaming me for not going anywhere, and just being generally miserable. He has told me about 3 times recently that he...	lilleah	2	729	Jun 8, 2005 by jj
	PROUD OF ME (Preview) I am proud of the progress that I have made in the last six months. My tempter: I have been getting very good with that. I haven't thrown glass, cut my self, only a couple of times started screaming. I have calm down quicker then I used to. I am trying to work on the things I like to do like reading, sittin...	nycbt	3	719	Jun 8, 2005 by jj
	Decisions (Preview) Hi, Just thinking today. I talked to the kids about what they want, and they basically told me it is my decision. They told me they love him and wish he would sober up. They said that they would prefer he wasn't with his parents becasue it is hard to even call him, as they answer the phone, and none of them w...	Jeannie	8	798	Jun 7, 2005 by honeybunnydog
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