Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

dori · dori

Hi all, I called my face to face sponsor and talked along time and the great thing about this program it has taught me that I have choices .I can change my mind I am not going to leave thanks for the kind words it wasnt really I wanted everyone to agree with me well maybe I am that sick maybe a little ha...

marmare · marmare

So I was looking forward to Saturday and Sunday as relaxing days since my A is going fishing with his buddy. Now the phone call comes wanting to know if I have plans....not really but why does he want to know. He has decided to take our new SUV on his trip. Of course this is just not acc...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, One of my very best friends just found out she is getting a day job she bid on. Her and I both work third shift. We've worked together on the same machine for almost 4 years. At our company, day jobs are quite rare. Third shif...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

" I take the quite time I need each day to nourish my intuition and my desire for a peaceful mind." ......... "A quiet hour is worth more to you than anything you can do in it." This can be a hard lesson for many of us to learn. We may have used keeping overly busy as a way to avoid o...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

Anyone, I can't get in the chat room. I am on a laptop and I guess the java isn't running anyone know what to do? Please Help!I am using Internet Explorer.

I got in the room I don't know what i did but the java error message came up and I fixed it.

-- Edited by ItsmeTC at 12:22, 2005-...

laura · laura

I just don't know how to feel. With the passing of my A mother i am sad and mad. I don't know if I belong here because after going through her house i am led to believe she may have had a mental illness. Do i know if the mental illness caused the alcoholism or the alcohol caused the severe d...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Sitting here in IL heat, thinking about the campout and how many wlll make it. Hope someone comes back and lets us know. Maybe a group pic ? Wish I could be there............but.........quite a trek for me.and now planning a wedding for 2006 for daughter.

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Well....I said it! I was in group, and an older gent....thought....we'd make a great couple, since he was down and out........really down and out......thought poorly of his wife because she denies that the problem of alcoholism existed in their son. Things were...

cdb · cdb

Hello Dana, Thanks so much for your reply below and the nice welcome back :) My dad also has parkinsons. I am sorry your father-in-law was diagnosed with it too. It actually is a hard disease to diagnose but it does fit into the category of movement disorders. If a person gets it older in age it do...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Ok...I'm here, in this relationship. Same as many of you. I choose, for now, to stay. I'm tired of whining about how rotten my life is, and do something about it. Here's the question...HOW DO YOU OPEN YOUR HEART? I have this feeling that the bitterness I feel right now will...

debilyn · debilyn

Been wondering how you and the kids are??? Please check in hon! love,debilyn

melanieL · melanieL

So much for yesterdays posting, feeling really anxious today. Trying very hard to not let resentments build, but still feeling tearful and pathetic. Just cannt believe I still feel like this. When will it ever end? I know they are only just feelings and I have to work through them...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Just had to write. First time out in a long long long time. I got dressed put on heels and makeup. the best part He is sober.. I don't know when the last time this happened is. Wish me luck. nikkilou

debilyn · debilyn

nope sorry,no sex or violence... I don't mention that everytime I hear a love song, when I am driving to town, my A husband is in my heart. Or that I sometimes have to still let it out and cry about the loss. I don't mention I am so concerned about him, so little, so sick, so miserable. I wonder ...

marmare · marmare

Last night was another hurtful experience, for someone not living this life, they would just say "whatever" My A always has time for everyone, mostly his friends and of course his drinking. We have stuff that needs to be done at our house, but it is always on hold. I know that I will end up ge...

debilyn · debilyn

Dori I know, for me, sometimes I did not know how I really felt, until I came and vented right here. We are not robots who can control everything that comes out of us. I have written posts and emails that did not come out right at all. I see it as a positive when i see someone goof or say something...

toto12 · toto12

Hi all, s.o. gave me this idea. Instead of spending hrs. on the pity pot, which I do too often, I say my graditude alphabet. Goes like this: a for alanon, b for book (managed against all odds and with the help of good friend to get book off to publisher on time), c for church (be...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

cbd, I have been checking the chat room and message board and haven't seen you in awhile. I heard you were taking care of your mother. Hope that is going well. I just wanted to say Hi and that I miss you if you get a chance reply or send me private message, let me know how you are doing. I pray for you and your d...

kimmie · kimmie

About a month ago, my A stopped drinking for about 4 days (which isnt unusual after a binge). I realized how much happier in life I was when he wasnt drinking. I talked to him about it and how it wasnt only taking over his life but mine and our son's as well. Oh, and we have another baby on the way...

Belongtome · Belongtome

I've worked hard this past year, trying to build my own business (separate from my A). He's decided now he's not happy with his current job, and wants me to go back into business with him (we worked together for 15 years) and it was not a 50/50 relationship. I felt like his slave. We ma...

harleygirl555 · harleygirl555

I wrote a post about my fiance telling me about his apartment and today I found out that he has had it for a couple of weeks and has slowly been putting stuff into. He says he stopped out of guilt towards me but his sponser told him to wait until I go to work then move his stuff out. And here...

dori · dori

Hi all Thank you so much for your kindness and your acceptance.I was amazed again how this disease sneeks up on you and you are on the floor before you know what hits you.I have made choices in my life after growing up in achcholism and drug addiction and abuse being taken away from parents at the...

mo_a · mo_a

Boy am I glad I have a place to go today. Thanks to anyone out there, everyone. I hope your day is going well. I've been in a new relationship, for 3 months. It has been going mostly well, although a little fast. I'm 44 years old and have had my problems. Yesterday was a total meltdown for me in regards to fe...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Today, I will do three nice things for myself." WOW! I ran across this in one of my readings and this was the closing sentence. Wish I could remember which book. But think about it, after living w/alcoholism, raising families, being spouses---do we really do THREE nice...

melanieL · melanieL

Today is the first day of the rest of my life. My ex-a (husband of 12 years who i divorced 3 years ago after he left for another women) , who I have been having an on off relationship with for past 7 months and supporting him in his sobriety, told me last night that whilst he was at the AA conventi...

truenames · truenames

Hi everone, I'm new to alanon and am looking for a online sponser. I understand that some may feel that a face to face sponser is better, but I'm not able to do that. So if anyone is interested, or has any advice, I'd reallyreally appreciate the help. Thanks so much.

Briarpatch · Briarpatch

I've been married for 20 yrs. to a man who secretly drinks. I first noticed this about 15 yrs. ago when I'd find an occasional beer bottle some place strange. Now it's those little vodka bottles. Just found 2 more this morning. What I don't understand is: how can it be that I've never seen him drunk? His fa...

nmartin · nmartin

Today it was again. About 2 years ago my husband began drinking too much. Had always drank socially, but not to the extent of now. When it began it was "because his back hurt so much". He did break his back about 15 years ago. Then I was just trying to be understanding.&n...

debilyn · debilyn

I was thinking the other day, I wonder if there are A's out there that are good people even if they use? I would think we all come here becuz we love an A who's disease is driving us crazy. Guess in a way it is no surprise. It is like doing certain drugs make you act a certain way. Alcohol makes t...

nmartin · nmartin

I only found this site a few days ago, but have been going to it at least twice daily since. The information I've gotten from reading all the postings has been really helpful - sometime almost a lifesaver. You feel like you are all alone in the fight and it helps to know that somebody else has...

dori · dori

Hey, It is amazing how our God works at times.I just wrote my post of goodby and I still mean it for now.I Read one most post and it was your reponse to someone who is seperating from her a in her life. I read your things you need and my heart began to soften and began to cry than sob,The ex a i left 3 years ago...

melanieL · melanieL

Thank you.......your post to "dating a recoverying alcoholic" brightened my day today, came on feel fed up and down and you made me really laugh. By the way totally agree with you. Mel

Rocky38 · Rocky38

My A husband just entered in-patient rehab and we're hoping he can get the help he needs to begin to achieve sobriety. But I'm also now realizing how much in denial I was about enabling his addiction. He had complete control of finances and they're in a mess! He made some really poor decisions that I igno...

dori · dori

Hey, She asked what to do with just started dateing a a and I said i would tell any one run and not get involved .I know that is my opion but she didnt say she was in love with him or married to him she said she just started seeing for about a week so that was just my opion of it cause as you know it is alot of...

bob6502 · bob6502

Hi Friends, Someone in the chat room mentioned page 305 from the Courage to Change book. It's a good reading about fear and how our reactions to it can sometimes hurt us more than help. I encourage everyone to read it. One of my favorite slogans is "don't just do something, stan...

Becka · Becka

My husband with whom I am separated from (almost 4 weeks now) is calling and telling me all the things he is doing since he has cut back from the drinking, partying, etc. (he is in counseling and I believe went to an AA meeting). I try to encourage him but I do not want him to think he can just pop back in, all fi...

dori · dori

Hey guys I didnt want you all to think I fell off the planet but right now with the ways things are in my lfie faceing some strong truths and moveing on.I am seting boundaries that I am not use to seting and one is not hanging where I fill misunderstood and attacked . For now it is not...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I got home from doc and the best MRI scanner in the area showed no new strokes and that my arteries in my neck and brain are ok. My headaches are undercontrol and it is time to get on with my life! Thanks for all your support these last two frustratating and scarey weeks, you all showed true fri...

sanddie · sanddie

My daughter is currently in an extensive rehabilitation program and as you I always believed that alcoholism was a choice and all it took was will-power and a firm desire to stop. Along with the addict recognizing the first step and sincerely believing it with all their heart, mind, and soul.&...

kcovell1 · kcovell1

My husband was clean for 6 years and the last 2 years he has been drinking again. I have never been to an al-anon meeting before. While he was clean he kept telling me I should go and I denied that I needed it and now with everything going on I want to know more. We have two children ages 4 a...

CKH46 · CKH46

I am new to this.........If I were to start writing how I feel there would be no end. Ihave been married 30 years and my husband is an addict/alcoholic. This past week he was on vacation and it has been pure hell. Tried to run out in front of a car but he got me. I guess I am just looking for others who are g...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Dear All, Yesterday my father-in-law went to doctor and found out something I think most of us have suspected for a while to be honest- he has Parkinson's disease. Tomorrow is his 81st birthday. He has had shaky hands for a couple of years now. This is kind blowing my mind r...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Today I release old idealized versions of the past in exchange for a sturdy stance on firm ground. One way I survived my childhood was to create an idealized version of it. ..... Long out of my family home I may still recreate versions of this idealized famil...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, Just trying to get an idea of who is coming to the campout this coming weekend. I am so looking forward to it. I have heard that many are interested in coming which is a real positive. It would be so nice to try and make this something we can put together in all areas of t...

megan · megan

After work I went to the store to get my prescription filled for an ear infection. On my way to the store I realized I was going to the wrong store and went on the highway. There, walking on the side of the road with a backpack and a hat and drenched in sweat (it was 94) was my alcoholic husband who I left 9 w...

serenity71 · serenity71

hello all, i am new to this board and i just wanted to say hi!! ive been a member of alanon for about 5 or so years..... its a great program!!!!! i have to admit i havent been to a meeting in a long while but what i have learned has stuck with me !!! and i use it on a daily basis!!! i hope to be chatting with you s...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everyone hope you are all well I was reading a reply that lildee did to a previous post. She mentioned that you could get an online sponsor and work the steps that way. If so, does anyone have suggestions on how to go about it? Also, thanks for the link to Hazeldon. An...

kountrygal1996 · kountrygal1996

I am new to this. My partner of 9 years has checked himself into alcohol rehab. He we in recovery when we first met. Then about 2 years ago he started drinking again. The past 6 months were really bad. I went to family group at the place he is at. The counselor there told me about al anon....

marmare · marmare

Good Morning, I have to say knowing that you are here helps me in an odd way. Things have settled down, but I know that this is just the controled drinking state that my A is in. There is hardly any talking of the subject anymore, I did share with my mother in-law who seems to think that if I divorc...

shimo · shimo

shimo · shimo

I regret that I am unable to chair the meeting for Tuesday morning due to circumstances beyond my control. Hoping once again that someone will step up and I thank you in advance. Shimo (Jeri)

Powerless · Powerless

Today my husband has obviously taken pills, but instead of arguing with him about it...I told him to go to bed and sleep it off. Meanwhile, I am up and angry that he cannot leave the drugs alone. I am angry that I have to take care of everything while he sleeps. He does not even care that...

melanieL · melanieL

Well my ex-A got back from Canada and the AA world convention on Friday and I have not had any peace since. He was absolutely full of it. But still made me feel bad. He came over on the Friday to see the kids, but spent the whole time talking to me about how wonderful it was , and how there w...

harleygirl555 · harleygirl555

Can someone please help me to understand!!! My fiance told me today that his sponser thinks it is best if he moves out and leaves his family-and he already has an apartment next to his sponsers house. My A tells me that he loves me but has no room in his life for us anymore. I am so confus...

SexySadie · SexySadie

I am so glad that I found this place. I've been to several meetings and really enjoy the support and friendship. SO and I have been together for 5yrs. He is an alcoholic and I am the enabler. I think I probably could have written the book on enabling. Two weeks ago, something in me just snapped. He'd be...

debilyn · debilyn

Was just thinking about you and wondering how you are?? Last I remember you had shown some good progress. I miss seeing you on here!! love,debilyn

Becka · Becka

Hi, I am brand new at this; I will try not to drag on. I told my husband of only 2 ½ years to leave 3 weeks ago. I guess I basically threw him out. The staying out all night partying with his so called friends, the drinking and drug use (which I found out quite accidentally and then kept finding late...

pepodwyer · pepodwyer

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harleygirl555 · harleygirl555

My fiance has finally been sober for 5 months and I am so glad yet at the same time I have feelings of loneliness and fear. He is sober yet he still lies about supid things. I do my best to support him and his meetings because I know if he doesn't go he will relapse and lately he has been blowing th...

jamesthomas · jamesthomas

I am not sure what the topic of this post is. I am in a difficult situation right now. I am in Ahmenabad, India, teaching for 45 days. There are no meetings here - not even open AA, which always does in a pinch. Most of the time I am fine, but lately I have been ill (its India, imagine). My thoughts and feelin...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	starting over (Preview) Hi all, I called my face to face sponsor and talked along time and the great thing about this program it has taught me that I have choices .I can change my mind I am not going to leave thanks for the kind words it wasnt really I wanted everyone to agree with me well maybe I am that sick maybe a little ha...	dori	6	764	Jul 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	ARRRRGGGHHH (Preview) So I was looking forward to Saturday and Sunday as relaxing days since my A is going fishing with his buddy. Now the phone call comes wanting to know if I have plans....not really but why does he want to know. He has decided to take our new SUV on his trip. Of course this is just not acc...	marmare	5	774	Jul 16, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Losing Best Friend at Workand Feeling Stuck (Preview) Hello, One of my very best friends just found out she is getting a day job she bid on. Her and I both work third shift. We've worked together on the same machine for almost 4 years. At our company, day jobs are quite rare. Third shif...	Idealsummerluv	3	698	Jul 16, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Solitude (Preview) " I take the quite time I need each day to nourish my intuition and my desire for a peaceful mind." ......... "A quiet hour is worth more to you than anything you can do in it." This can be a hard lesson for many of us to learn. We may have used keeping overly busy as a way to avoid o...	wallsal55	0	418	Jul 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Help can't get in room (Preview) Anyone, I can't get in the chat room. I am on a laptop and I guess the java isn't running anyone know what to do? Please Help!I am using Internet Explorer. I got in the room I don't know what i did but the java error message came up and I fixed it. -- Edited by ItsmeTC at 12:22, 2005-...	ItsmeTC	1	691	Jul 16, 2005 by cdb
	conflicting feelings (Preview) I just don't know how to feel. With the passing of my A mother i am sad and mad. I don't know if I belong here because after going through her house i am led to believe she may have had a mental illness. Do i know if the mental illness caused the alcoholism or the alcohol caused the severe d...	laura	5	549	Jul 15, 2005 by TLC2
	Group Campout/ Let us KNOW (Preview) Sitting here in IL heat, thinking about the campout and how many wlll make it. Hope someone comes back and lets us know. Maybe a group pic ? Wish I could be there............but.........quite a trek for me.and now planning a wedding for 2006 for daughter.	wallsal55	1	503	Jul 15, 2005 by megan
	13th Stepping in alanon (Preview) Well....I said it! I was in group, and an older gent....thought....we'd make a great couple, since he was down and out........really down and out......thought poorly of his wife because she denies that the problem of alcoholism existed in their son. Things were...	wallsal55	0	681	Jul 15, 2005 by wallsal55
	DanaAngel/Parkinsons (Preview) Hello Dana, Thanks so much for your reply below and the nice welcome back :) My dad also has parkinsons. I am sorry your father-in-law was diagnosed with it too. It actually is a hard disease to diagnose but it does fit into the category of movement disorders. If a person gets it older in age it do...	cdb	0	474	Jul 15, 2005 by cdb
	open your heart (Preview) Ok...I'm here, in this relationship. Same as many of you. I choose, for now, to stay. I'm tired of whining about how rotten my life is, and do something about it. Here's the question...HOW DO YOU OPEN YOUR HEART? I have this feeling that the bitterness I feel right now will...	Belongtome	5	916	Jul 15, 2005 by Belongtome
	Jeannnnnie vere r uuuuuu???? (Preview) Been wondering how you and the kids are??? Please check in hon! love,debilyn	debilyn	3	550	Jul 15, 2005 by Diva
	WOE IS ME!!! (Preview) So much for yesterdays posting, feeling really anxious today. Trying very hard to not let resentments build, but still feeling tearful and pathetic. Just cannt believe I still feel like this. When will it ever end? I know they are only just feelings and I have to work through them...	melanieL	4	517	Jul 15, 2005 by melanieL
	Going out tonight (Preview) Just had to write. First time out in a long long long time. I got dressed put on heels and makeup. the best part He is sober.. I don't know when the last time this happened is. Wish me luck. nikkilou	nikkilou	3	576	Jul 15, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	admitting some inside stuff (Preview) nope sorry,no sex or violence... I don't mention that everytime I hear a love song, when I am driving to town, my A husband is in my heart. Or that I sometimes have to still let it out and cry about the loss. I don't mention I am so concerned about him, so little, so sick, so miserable. I wonder ...	debilyn	8	538	Jul 15, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	To admit (Preview) Last night was another hurtful experience, for someone not living this life, they would just say "whatever" My A always has time for everyone, mostly his friends and of course his drinking. We have stuff that needs to be done at our house, but it is always on hold. I know that I will end up ge...	marmare	5	826	Jul 15, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	HI dori (Preview) Dori I know, for me, sometimes I did not know how I really felt, until I came and vented right here. We are not robots who can control everything that comes out of us. I have written posts and emails that did not come out right at all. I see it as a positive when i see someone goof or say something...	debilyn	6	513	Jul 15, 2005 by isabela40
	the graditude alphabet (Preview) Hi all, s.o. gave me this idea. Instead of spending hrs. on the pity pot, which I do too often, I say my graditude alphabet. Goes like this: a for alanon, b for book (managed against all odds and with the help of good friend to get book off to publisher on time), c for church (be...	toto12	2	743	Jul 14, 2005 by DanaAngel
	cbd where are you? (Preview) cbd, I have been checking the chat room and message board and haven't seen you in awhile. I heard you were taking care of your mother. Hope that is going well. I just wanted to say Hi and that I miss you if you get a chance reply or send me private message, let me know how you are doing. I pray for you and your d...	ItsmeTC	2	641	Jul 14, 2005 by DanaAngel
	A light at the end of the tunnel... (Preview) About a month ago, my A stopped drinking for about 4 days (which isnt unusual after a binge). I realized how much happier in life I was when he wasnt drinking. I talked to him about it and how it wasnt only taking over his life but mine and our son's as well. Oh, and we have another baby on the way...	kimmie	9	1011	Jul 14, 2005 by kimmie
	Giving in??? (Preview) I've worked hard this past year, trying to build my own business (separate from my A). He's decided now he's not happy with his current job, and wants me to go back into business with him (we worked together for 15 years) and it was not a 50/50 relationship. I felt like his slave. We ma...	Belongtome	8	678	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	How stupid can i get (Preview) I wrote a post about my fiance telling me about his apartment and today I found out that he has had it for a couple of weeks and has slowly been putting stuff into. He says he stopped out of guilt towards me but his sponser told him to wait until I go to work then move his stuff out. And here...	harleygirl555	5	852	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	tears (Preview) Hi all Thank you so much for your kindness and your acceptance.I was amazed again how this disease sneeks up on you and you are on the floor before you know what hits you.I have made choices in my life after growing up in achcholism and drug addiction and abuse being taken away from parents at the...	dori	5	775	Jul 14, 2005 by nikkilou
	Abandonment issues (Preview) Boy am I glad I have a place to go today. Thanks to anyone out there, everyone. I hope your day is going well. I've been in a new relationship, for 3 months. It has been going mostly well, although a little fast. I'm 44 years old and have had my problems. Yesterday was a total meltdown for me in regards to fe...	mo_a	6	658	Jul 14, 2005 by lin0606
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Today, I will do three nice things for myself." WOW! I ran across this in one of my readings and this was the closing sentence. Wish I could remember which book. But think about it, after living w/alcoholism, raising families, being spouses---do we really do THREE nice...	wallsal55	3	471	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	ENOUGH IS ENOUGH (Preview) Today is the first day of the rest of my life. My ex-a (husband of 12 years who i divorced 3 years ago after he left for another women) , who I have been having an on off relationship with for past 7 months and supporting him in his sobriety, told me last night that whilst he was at the AA conventi...	melanieL	8	573	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	Looking for an online sponser (Preview) Hi everone, I'm new to alanon and am looking for a online sponser. I understand that some may feel that a face to face sponser is better, but I'm not able to do that. So if anyone is interested, or has any advice, I'd reallyreally appreciate the help. Thanks so much.	truenames	2	688	Jul 14, 2005 by kathy570
	I'm new here...and have a question... (Preview) I've been married for 20 yrs. to a man who secretly drinks. I first noticed this about 15 yrs. ago when I'd find an occasional beer bottle some place strange. Now it's those little vodka bottles. Just found 2 more this morning. What I don't understand is: how can it be that I've never seen him drunk? His fa...	Briarpatch	2	624	Jul 14, 2005 by iona54
	I need advice (Preview) Today it was again. About 2 years ago my husband began drinking too much. Had always drank socially, but not to the extent of now. When it began it was "because his back hurt so much". He did break his back about 15 years ago. Then I was just trying to be understanding.&n...	nmartin	8	556	Jul 14, 2005 by iona54
	thinking outloud (Preview) I was thinking the other day, I wonder if there are A's out there that are good people even if they use? I would think we all come here becuz we love an A who's disease is driving us crazy. Guess in a way it is no surprise. It is like doing certain drugs make you act a certain way. Alcohol makes t...	debilyn	4	751	Jul 14, 2005 by iona54
	Thank You (Preview) I only found this site a few days ago, but have been going to it at least twice daily since. The information I've gotten from reading all the postings has been really helpful - sometime almost a lifesaver. You feel like you are all alone in the fight and it helps to know that somebody else has...	nmartin	3	642	Jul 14, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	megan- grief (Preview) Hey, It is amazing how our God works at times.I just wrote my post of goodby and I still mean it for now.I Read one most post and it was your reponse to someone who is seperating from her a in her life. I read your things you need and my heart began to soften and began to cry than sob,The ex a i left 3 years ago...	dori	2	644	Jul 14, 2005 by isabela40
	TO DORI (Preview) Thank you.......your post to "dating a recoverying alcoholic" brightened my day today, came on feel fed up and down and you made me really laugh. By the way totally agree with you. Mel	melanieL	6	625	Jul 13, 2005 by Jill
	Enabling: Paying for booze/consequences (Preview) My A husband just entered in-patient rehab and we're hoping he can get the help he needs to begin to achieve sobriety. But I'm also now realizing how much in denial I was about enabling his addiction. He had complete control of finances and they're in a mess! He made some really poor decisions that I igno...	Rocky38	2	510	Jul 13, 2005 by Powerless
	jo and who ever else good bye (Preview) Hey, She asked what to do with just started dateing a a and I said i would tell any one run and not get involved .I know that is my opion but she didnt say she was in love with him or married to him she said she just started seeing for about a week so that was just my opion of it cause as you know it is alot of...	dori	2	738	Jul 13, 2005 by dori
	Fear (Preview) Hi Friends, Someone in the chat room mentioned page 305 from the Courage to Change book. It's a good reading about fear and how our reactions to it can sometimes hurt us more than help. I encourage everyone to read it. One of my favorite slogans is "don't just do something, stan...	bob6502	4	690	Jul 13, 2005 by debilyn
	why am I feeling like the bad guy? (Preview) My husband with whom I am separated from (almost 4 weeks now) is calling and telling me all the things he is doing since he has cut back from the drinking, partying, etc. (he is in counseling and I believe went to an AA meeting). I try to encourage him but I do not want him to think he can just pop back in, all fi...	Becka	6	669	Jul 13, 2005 by Belongtome
	goodbye (Preview) Hey guys I didnt want you all to think I fell off the planet but right now with the ways things are in my lfie faceing some strong truths and moveing on.I am seting boundaries that I am not use to seting and one is not hanging where I fill misunderstood and attacked . For now it is not...	dori	1	688	Jul 13, 2005 by kerry5
	health/brain update (Preview) I got home from doc and the best MRI scanner in the area showed no new strokes and that my arteries in my neck and brain are ok. My headaches are undercontrol and it is time to get on with my life! Thanks for all your support these last two frustratating and scarey weeks, you all showed true fri...	jrtjosey	9	520	Jul 13, 2005 by megan
	In Response to No Sympathy for A's... (Preview) My daughter is currently in an extensive rehabilitation program and as you I always believed that alcoholism was a choice and all it took was will-power and a firm desire to stop. Along with the addict recognizing the first step and sincerely believing it with all their heart, mind, and soul.&...	sanddie	1	609	Jul 13, 2005 by isabela40
	New to Al-anon (Preview) My husband was clean for 6 years and the last 2 years he has been drinking again. I have never been to an al-anon meeting before. While he was clean he kept telling me I should go and I denied that I needed it and now with everything going on I want to know more. We have two children ages 4 a...	kcovell1	4	489	Jul 13, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	New to this (Preview) I am new to this.........If I were to start writing how I feel there would be no end. Ihave been married 30 years and my husband is an addict/alcoholic. This past week he was on vacation and it has been pure hell. Tried to run out in front of a car but he got me. I guess I am just looking for others who are g...	CKH46	4	517	Jul 13, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Just found out father-in-law has Parkinson's (Preview) Dear All, Yesterday my father-in-law went to doctor and found out something I think most of us have suspected for a while to be honest- he has Parkinson's disease. Tomorrow is his 81st birthday. He has had shaky hands for a couple of years now. This is kind blowing my mind r...	DanaAngel	4	458	Jul 13, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Reality (Preview) Today I release old idealized versions of the past in exchange for a sturdy stance on firm ground. One way I survived my childhood was to create an idealized version of it. ..... Long out of my family home I may still recreate versions of this idealized famil...	wallsal55	0	413	Jul 12, 2005 by wallsal55
	Group Campout Head Count (Preview) Hiya everyone, Just trying to get an idea of who is coming to the campout this coming weekend. I am so looking forward to it. I have heard that many are interested in coming which is a real positive. It would be so nice to try and make this something we can put together in all areas of t...	AlaMom	1	432	Jul 12, 2005 by megan
	walking on the highway (Preview) After work I went to the store to get my prescription filled for an ear infection. On my way to the store I realized I was going to the wrong store and went on the highway. There, walking on the side of the road with a backpack and a hat and drenched in sweat (it was 94) was my alcoholic husband who I left 9 w...	megan	7	666	Jul 12, 2005 by megan
	i am new to the boards !!! (Preview) hello all, i am new to this board and i just wanted to say hi!! ive been a member of alanon for about 5 or so years..... its a great program!!!!! i have to admit i havent been to a meeting in a long while but what i have learned has stuck with me !!! and i use it on a daily basis!!! i hope to be chatting with you s...	serenity71	2	415	Jul 12, 2005 by kimmie
	For Lildee or anybody who knows (Preview) Hello everyone hope you are all well I was reading a reply that lildee did to a previous post. She mentioned that you could get an online sponsor and work the steps that way. If so, does anyone have suggestions on how to go about it? Also, thanks for the link to Hazeldon. An...	browneyes	2	468	Jul 12, 2005 by lildee
	new (Preview) I am new to this. My partner of 9 years has checked himself into alcohol rehab. He we in recovery when we first met. Then about 2 years ago he started drinking again. The past 6 months were really bad. I went to family group at the place he is at. The counselor there told me about al anon....	kountrygal1996	3	485	Jul 11, 2005 by kountrygal1996
	Monday the 11th (Preview) Good Morning, I have to say knowing that you are here helps me in an odd way. Things have settled down, but I know that this is just the controled drinking state that my A is in. There is hardly any talking of the subject anymore, I did share with my mother in-law who seems to think that if I divorc...	marmare	2	577	Jul 11, 2005 by Maria123
	BUS MTG AGENDA - JULY 13, 2005 (Preview)	shimo	0	422	Jul 11, 2005 by shimo
	NEED CHAIR - TUES A.M. MEETING (Preview) I regret that I am unable to chair the meeting for Tuesday morning due to circumstances beyond my control. Hoping once again that someone will step up and I thank you in advance. Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	0	450	Jul 11, 2005 by shimo
	Can't let go of the anger and resentment (Preview) Today my husband has obviously taken pills, but instead of arguing with him about it...I told him to go to bed and sleep it off. Meanwhile, I am up and angry that he cannot leave the drugs alone. I am angry that I have to take care of everything while he sleeps. He does not even care that...	Powerless	4	810	Jul 11, 2005 by marmare
	FEELING REALLY DOWN AGAIN (Preview) Well my ex-A got back from Canada and the AA world convention on Friday and I have not had any peace since. He was absolutely full of it. But still made me feel bad. He came over on the Friday to see the kids, but spent the whole time talking to me about how wonderful it was , and how there w...	melanieL	2	596	Jul 11, 2005 by kismetstrand
	I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND (Preview) Can someone please help me to understand!!! My fiance told me today that his sponser thinks it is best if he moves out and leaves his family-and he already has an apartment next to his sponsers house. My A tells me that he loves me but has no room in his life for us anymore. I am so confus...	harleygirl555	3	683	Jul 11, 2005 by nmike
	My first time here... (Preview) I am so glad that I found this place. I've been to several meetings and really enjoy the support and friendship. SO and I have been together for 5yrs. He is an alcoholic and I am the enabler. I think I probably could have written the book on enabling. Two weeks ago, something in me just snapped. He'd be...	SexySadie	3	661	Jul 11, 2005 by debilyn
	Holly are you around?? (Preview) Was just thinking about you and wondering how you are?? Last I remember you had shown some good progress. I miss seeing you on here!! love,debilyn	debilyn	0	399	Jul 11, 2005 by debilyn
	feeling hurt and confused (Preview) Hi, I am brand new at this; I will try not to drag on. I told my husband of only 2 ½ years to leave 3 weeks ago. I guess I basically threw him out. The staying out all night partying with his so called friends, the drinking and drug use (which I found out quite accidentally and then kept finding late...	Becka	8	741	Jul 10, 2005 by Jill
	Alcoholic Brother coming to visit (Preview)  Hi,	pepodwyer	4	609	Jul 9, 2005 by pepodwyer
	NEW AND NEED HELP (Preview) My fiance has finally been sober for 5 months and I am so glad yet at the same time I have feelings of loneliness and fear. He is sober yet he still lies about supid things. I do my best to support him and his meetings because I know if he doesn't go he will relapse and lately he has been blowing th...	harleygirl555	6	692	Jul 9, 2005 by Maria123
	help! (Preview) I am not sure what the topic of this post is. I am in a difficult situation right now. I am in Ahmenabad, India, teaching for 45 days. There are no meetings here - not even open AA, which always does in a pinch. Most of the time I am fine, but lately I have been ill (its India, imagine). My thoughts and feelin...	jamesthomas	11	741	Jul 9, 2005 by jamesthomas
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