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Posting to ask you all to say a prayer for my grandmother her name is Ruth and she turmed 89 on JUne 20th She had a ubstucted bowel back in March of 98 which caused her to have a stroke and almost death they did an operation and took 80 % of her sm. intestine. I got a call today at work from my daughter Kelsey very upset, My to older kids Nick 16 and Kelsey 15 are the only two great grandchildren who really knew my grandmother as the spirited women she was the rest were to little or not born till after her stroke and nursing home care. Since she has gone into care my dad's eldest brother sold all her life her house her things I was a aide for many years and I wanted to takecare of her but because my husband is an A my uncle would not permit it and put her in an elderly home. When Kelsey called I learned my grandmother has phenmonia and heart faliure alot of fluid around the heart, and she would not take her med or any oxygen her levels were very low, but they gave her a shot to calm her almost sedate her and got it on IDK if this is her calling but I hurt so bad this women was more of a mother to me than my belittling mother who never saw the heart I really do have, just the bad side of all I have ever done. when my grandfather past in 92 I was there at their home it was his birthday and gram was at a church meeting and he said he did not want to die infront of her so he died before she got home, and I did postmortem care on him so she could say good bye in private after 56 yrs of marriage. I wish I could give her the same respect, maybe she will pull thru but her quality of life is not as I know her, I don't like to go see her much how selfish of me but hard to talk to her now she does not have normal vocab from the stroke a pencil to her may be called a cup even though she thinks she is saying pencil. Please pray for her and me My Nick is in Maine and I just can't call him and upset him on his vacation since court from his car accident has him down as it is, she asked to go home to her mother and I can except it but I want her to go in peace not pain she is one of the most important people in my life and has made me who I am alot, so I hope this lets up for her or goes quick thanks all I love you cloud
I am so sorry to hear this ...my grandmother was a 2nd mother to me too ...of course I am praying for you all
it was an incredible loving genrous thing you did for your grandparents ... your love for them and your mention of thier 56 yr marriage really touched my heart
sorry to hear the news about your grandmother. she will be in my prayers along with you and your family. Hope things can turn around and she can find peace and you can accept whatever may come. I know how tough it is to deal with things like this. Remember you have lots of friends here to help you.
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((roomies))))))))))))))))))))))))) I ask myself how could anyone not love you all I know I do very much and my gram would say what great ppl u all r taking care of me god bless love cloud
Prayers for you and gram from me too cloud. This post really hit home with me too since my dad is close to catching pneumonia and my parents have been married 53 years,,They are younger though,,74 and 76. She is so lucky she has you cloud! And then your kids can remember her and pass on their memories of her to the generations to come. Take care and I will look for an update on how she is doing. cdb ,,,praying now
Know that I/we love you very much and will be here for you whenever/wherever/however you need me. I will keep "Grammy" and you and Nick and Kelsey and Briana in my prayers.
You know where I am lady, if you need me.
love Maria
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