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SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I did a search here and read old posts about QTIP.Instead of bumping one of them up and digging up old "dirt" from years ago,I decided to start a new thread. Last night,someone blamed me for something that I didn't do,something that had absolutely nothing to do with me at all.Actually,it was such a pet...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

How do I know which slogans are considered approved by Al-Anon? I want to use the topic of Al-Anon slogans and how we apply them to our lives when I lead our meeting next week, but don't want to share slogans which aren't CAL approved. Your input would be greatly appreciated, as I don't want to ruffle any f...

Tude · Tude

Hi all, I'm rambling here. I've been dealing with some health issues in my broken thinking............I keep thinking they are just simply going to go away if I eat right and keep on putting one foot in front of the other. I guess that fits in with "denial" and fear. I looked at the calendar and it's been o...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Which let's be clear I get into trouble every damn time .. ugh. I had a comedy of errors go on over this weekend. First was I had the nerve to go out with a girlfriend I hadn't seen in 6 months and my youngest had a dance. My poor boyfriend missed the whole parenting part of his kids because he played a very s...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi all, sorry for the long post. I'm really stewing over this one! I had a conversation with my AW last night at dinner that just isn't sitting well with me. I'm stewing over it, and I think I've put my finger on why it isn't feeling right, but I hope some of you can give me some ESH so I can think more clearly ab...

Elabella · Elabella

Hello all, It's been a long while since I posted last. I've been working hard at making my marriage work and trying to be strong. Yesterday we crossed the bridge I knew was inevitably in our path with my AH heavy daily drinking. His health is now affected. He got scared when he discovered blood inhis sto...

Twinkies · Twinkies

After AHâs relapse 2 weeks ago, I was concerned he wouldnât be willing to keep working on his issues. Iâve been pleasantly surprised though. No more episodes since then and our relationship is continuing to improve. A lot of the little things that mean so much and have been missing for a long time have s...

Lyne · Lyne

Detachment: The writer comments that detachment is easy with casual friends, but not with loved ones. He says that with family, he is likely to take on their negative frame of mind. He says he needs to pay attention to his own mood, so he does not take on the mood of someone else. Today's Reminder: If...

andromeda · andromeda

SO, this is totally off topic from program. I'm sure many of you can relate, though. I took a job at a company where I worked over 20 years ago and I worked there for 4 years in various roles/departments. One of the things I loved(and still do) about it is that it is so diverse culturally and, to some degre...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the unique relationship we develop with our sponsors. The writer describes how difficult it was in the beginning, to trust that her sponsor would not run away after hearing all of the terrible facts about her, and how there were times she would actually...

jtpickle · jtpickle

Hi Everyone - I could really use some ESH.....here's what is happening that I've alluded to but haven't posted on yet. My AH is on day 11 of using naltrexone to not drink but that's it; he's not in any program and has underlying anxiety (and most likely depression??) which has probably contributed to...

lookingup · lookingup

my last post here I shared my great news about daughter and family coming back to live in the states from Japan, waiting on news of where they will living at here in states finally came,,,they'll be living in Las Vegas , more great news.i know how much of a relief that must be, now it's the transition part,...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about "keep it simple", so I will try to do just that. The reading discusses how non-simple life was before recovery - stressful job, limited/no time, obsessive focus on the A and denial about all of the above! Al-Anon, when we practice it, brings about awareness and a breakage of t...

lookingup · lookingup

C2C reading for sat 2-10 speaks of how we do not appreciate our talents and creative gifts after living with the disese of alcoholism. It suggests that we take the time, to look within and discover the creative energy that dwells within. Once we see this energy we can develop this energy by tak...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have been so upset but have a lot of support from sisters. My mom is down south again indefinitely. Hopeful that I might see her again after talking to my sis. She said I don't have to feel like I will never see mom again. She said wait till the dust clears & maybe we can all make a trip--very comforting...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It's really been a week and I am ready for Friday! I am finally getting some sleep I'm not sure if it's exhaustion or if I am finally able to sleep time will tell. I had to laugh because my oldest finally got everything dealt with at this point I'm waiting for the next fire because there will be another fire...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just need to remind myself today to not get too hungry angry lonely or tired. I am definitively halting. Help!

Im · Im

Hello, I am very new here I have been with my ABF (who's been in recovery for 15 years) for 2 1/2 years. We live an hour and 15 minutes apart from each other, I am divorced with three teenage children. He has been single for 20 years, and very much stuck in his daily routine. On the surface the relationship...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Today is the 7th of Feb which makes tomorrow the 8th and an anniversary ...again. Thank you the entire family of Al-Anon and AA the 39 previous years have been much much easier and willful to do because of you all. Not so bad for a member who didn't like or appreciate any of you or your ESH when he first a...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I really like the quote of the day, so am starting there - "To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." from Oscar Wilde Today's reading discusses how many of us worked really hard to be liked by 'all' before recovery. We had great intentions and tried to encourage friendships with some w...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's Reading in Courage to Change is about the daily decision we have to make a positive contribution to our own sense of well-being. The author shares that, instead of focusing on what they cannot have or cannot do, they decide to take some action that will result in positive change. Th...

Amy13 · Amy13

Hello everyone. Well it is hard for me to write this, but I am feeling lost. I am a mother to 2 beautiful boys, and expecting another little boy in May. I, and they are over the moon with our new addition arriving soon. I am currently working, but have had to cut down a lot on my hours due to unforseen issues a...

Aline · Aline

Evening (or whatever time of the day you happen to be in!), MIP. A recent post by another member opened up memories Id forgotten, but that now seem very important to look at, so heres my thoughts. This is an long post.In the first several years of my and my ex-abfs relationship (especially then, but also...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, Thanksgiving is big in the USA and Canada. Today is Waitangi Day, here in AoNZ, our national day. What mention will be made, of Alanon, or the 12 step movement? Nothing- really. But right here and now there is a connection, with this share. ... Living in the present was always hard for m...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for February 6 speaks about the day when sobriety has entered the home. It suggests that life will not be perfect as we will have difficulties that arise . The reading suggests we must accept the usual upsets realizing that they come into shape now that they we are no longer focused on t...

Lyne · Lyne

Readiness for Alanon: The reading starts out with a Zen Buddhist saying: When the student is ready, the teacher appears . Anotherwords, we all get to Alanon at the right time. The writer says she heard about program as a teen, but didn't show up for 20 years. No nagging could have gotten her there a...

lookingup · lookingup

As many of you remember back ,going back yrs ,my daughter an hubby was transferred to Japan ,they have 3 teen sons well mannered ,very respectful boys. im now happy to say their coming back to the states after being living over seas for over 10 yrs,this will be a very exciting event ,though I know I'm into...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

So went to meeting today--but need more. Today I know is hard for many of us. It is so sad to think that a playoff game can be such a trigger for so many. Unfortunately trigger to me as I can just feel myself getting anxious waiting for game to start. So we are supposed to do what we want regardless of the a...

ling · ling

Hi there I wonder if all you wonderful people can help me. My husbands sick with alcoholism at the moment and is slowly trying to sort himself out visiting people, phonecalls etc. Some time ago he befriended a female alcoholic during his long recovery period. My AH is very kind and generous and she took...

Reba2411 · Reba2411

My husband and I have been married for 2 months. He is an alcoholic. I was aware of his disease and was willing to support him during this battle. Due to a recent DUI he has begun rehab which he states he is ready to end his drinking. During his drinking binges he would leave for a few days, not answer h...

Twinkies · Twinkies

AH had his first relapse Monday night. I expected it was coming for a variety of reasons - number one being that the abrupt change in him was just too easy. I had hope of course that he would be one of those who just put it down one day and never looked back, but my optimism was very cautious, and moreso the lon...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board Please post your thoughts-- here is the link http://stepwork.activeb...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am not a victim of my past. I will not be fearful of my future. I will live in the moment. I will love the unloved. I will cheer on those who need support. I will focus on others not forgetting who made me who I am. Today I am a winner no matter what anyone says. My mother will not be a source of my unhappiness!...

Smp · Smp

Thank you for response and advice from my first post. I've found a meeting to go to tomorrow. Two other things I'm struggling with that I am sure don't help are: 1. I am able to have 2 to 3 beers when watching a game or while at band practice and stop, but should I be abstaining even when I am not around her? I d...

Holly73 · Holly73

Hello and thank you to all of you for all your wonderful posts. Iâve been lurking here for the past few months and all of your wisdom has been a life line for me. I started with AlAnon about 6 months by attending meetings, reading various literature and listening to podcasts. But this morning, after I s...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the different options we have to seek out serenity. Like the writer, I choose to get up earlier than my kids so that I have some quiet house time before the day gets started. I tend to embrace quiet like a few of the scenarios mentioned on this page (a quiet...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hi MIP family! I have been kind of quiet on here, but reading everyday. The reason is pretty much I have been NC with my STBX. He had stopped calling from rehab after my letter was sent. Until tonight. Firstly, I was kind of pissed that he called after 10:00 pm. I was actually just settling into sleep for th...

Smp · Smp

I am new here, and I havent even gone to a live meeting yet, so please bear with me. My AW is current,y going to meetings, but this tends to last between 1 to 2 weeks before she slides into a binge. I dont know how to handle these constant back and forths. As of now I know I enable her because I dont try and stop he...

chimchimaree · chimchimaree

Hi. I'm new here. I couldn't find a local meeting, so I hope I can share here. I'm married to an alcoholic. What brings me here now is that over the holidays I experienced a level of hurt that I can't seem to resolve. My inlaws moved 500 miles away before we got married. My father in law died five years ago and...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

Hi, Where I am now - I have a lot more access to meetings. The problem is, I have a lot less babysitting help with my husband in rehab and don't have money to pay for a babysitter. My parents can help out with babysitting, but not at these times! Is it appropriate to take a two year old to a meeting and put on a i...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a reminder about the sole purpose of Alanon-to help friends and families of alcoholics. Just as the focus for Alanon is to help those affected by alcoholism, we are called to remember that our own focus is about our personal recovery first. There are severa...

Twinkies · Twinkies

This is going to be long. As much as I value your ESH, I will understand if you donât get through this whole thing. I just really need a place to put this out there, in black and white, with all of itâs complications and messiness, and this feels like the best place for that. So...AH is considering a job chan...

lookingup · lookingup

The ODAT reading for Sat 2-3 talks about trusting HP and when we do we cannot sit back and expect HP to do all the work we must trust that Hp will provide the wisdom and strength to accomplish our tasksLove the quote: " I pray for the wisdom to understand my difficulties , clearly and honestly and fo...

Ohana · Ohana

I have been married 18 years to the most beautiful, genuine, compassionate girl I have ever met. She is my best friend, my true soul mate. I was convinced the loss of my father was in order to bring her and I together. Together we have three beautiful kids who are all going to go on to do great things in their...

PeacefulLove · PeacefulLove

Good Morning! I was reading the C2C post for today (Feb. 2) and had the wake up call of one of the many things I do in my relationships with the As in my family. In my efforts to always have a cheery, comforting, welcoming home, and to make everybody happy all the time, no matter the cost to myself, Im ALWAYS...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about the equality that exists in Al-Anon recovery. Many of us come to the program with a perception of being greater than some and less than others. The writer gives the analogy of being on a ladder rung - middle +/- with some below and some above and God at the very top - way, way u...

Wifeandmom · Wifeandmom

Trying to figure this out

Fooled · Fooled

Hello Everyone! Today is my 2nd year anniversary in recovery and I thought I would stop by and celebrate with you, where it all started, and express my sincere gratitude for all of you who stuck by me and encouraged me when I was a crazy person. I am so blessed to be a part of this fellowship and thank my...

Engaged2Drugs · Engaged2Drugs

Hi all, I have been doing yoga on/off for a few years now. It greatly helps center my mind, body and soul. I've taken classes and am now doing it at home whenever I can get a chance. Yoga with Adriene has free classes on YouTube, and is a great friend I look forward to seeing on the mat. Just thought I would sh...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy February! Today's reading discusses how change in Al-Anon doesn't always affect others around us. We learn as we practice this program how powerless we really are. The writer discusses thinking 'if only' I stop enabling, my A will get better. That was not what happene...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Although it is slow, my mom is recovering after being in jail & now is hospitalized. She is slow & scattered & will never be the mom I held so dearly. I am grateful though that she is in a safe place. I finally talked to her after a month. I couldn't bring myself to talk to her because the pain is s...

Mattie · Mattie

This is the ongoing saga of my ex-AH. He is in the hospital with multiple problems. It looks as if he has advanced cirrhosis, plus bad injuries from when he fell. He had a procedure to drain his stomach of fluid. A mutual friend was there when he had the news from the doctor. The doctor said, "Do you dr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi there, it's WendyP, asking for some sharings on the 12th Step. What I am planning on doing is introducing The Alanon Programme in more depth to My Grandson's ex Partner. They have just recently split up again for the some many times. I have shared with both of them before, about AA and Alanon after a ve...

ling · ling

I feel Im the reason my AH started drinking after so long. It's to do with communion in the Catholic Church. I was heart broken to be told I couldn't take communion as he's a divorced man. The annulment inquisition for my husband was dreadful. His doctor said it pushed him over the edge. It is annulled now...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I goofed. I am sorry..

Gardening · Gardening

I'm trying to stay focused on myself and my improvement, but it has been hard recently. Right before Christmas I had decided to leave my AH. He was very actively drinking and I did not want to be around it any longer. We were taking care of his mother's horse. I called her to let her know that I was leaving AH...

PeacefulLove · PeacefulLove

Hello all! I went to my second F2F Al Anon meeting this week. Since I live in a very remote area of the country, and Al Anon is not very active within a 200 mile radius of where I live, meeting attendance here is very weak. This week, it was me and 1 other newbie couple (husband and wife) in attendance. A ch...

ling · ling

Hi do they work? My AH ha been classed as a very severe cases but has been told it will be weeks. Can anyone recommend anywhere near guildford? He cannot cut down thank you

KT2015 · KT2015

I've found myself getting into arguments with my AH the last few days. They are relatively minor but I find myself getting very emotionally drawn in and upset. I won't go into the minutia of the argument but the theme is my AH will do something that is obviously rude or obnoxious. I will say "Hey What t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about steps 6 and 7. The author shares that, despite their zealous work on the 12 steps for over a year, they still experienced lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic's inability to give them the emotional support they wanted. One...

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	QTIP (Preview) I did a search here and read old posts about QTIP.Instead of bumping one of them up and digging up old "dirt" from years ago,I decided to start a new thread. Last night,someone blamed me for something that I didn't do,something that had absolutely nothing to do with me at all.Actually,it was such a pet...	SoggySlippers	6	631	Feb 13, 2018 by Jerry F
	Slogans as Meeting Topic Slogans (Preview) How do I know which slogans are considered approved by Al-Anon? I want to use the topic of Al-Anon slogans and how we apply them to our lives when I lead our meeting next week, but don't want to share slogans which aren't CAL approved. Your input would be greatly appreciated, as I don't want to ruffle any f...	Green Eyes	11	5024	Feb 13, 2018 by Tude
	Fear, but took action (Preview) Hi all, I'm rambling here. I've been dealing with some health issues in my broken thinking............I keep thinking they are just simply going to go away if I eat right and keep on putting one foot in front of the other. I guess that fits in with "denial" and fear. I looked at the calendar and it's been o...	Tude	5	683	Feb 13, 2018 by Tude
	Me thinking .. (Preview) Which let's be clear I get into trouble every damn time .. ugh. I had a comedy of errors go on over this weekend. First was I had the nerve to go out with a girlfriend I hadn't seen in 6 months and my youngest had a dance. My poor boyfriend missed the whole parenting part of his kids because he played a very s...	SerenityRUS	2	462	Feb 12, 2018 by Tude
	Control Issues (Preview) Hi all, sorry for the long post. I'm really stewing over this one! I had a conversation with my AW last night at dinner that just isn't sitting well with me. I'm stewing over it, and I think I've put my finger on why it isn't feeling right, but I hope some of you can give me some ESH so I can think more clearly ab...	Skorpi	13	1157	Feb 12, 2018 by The1975jen
	ESH please- feeling scared, angry, unsure (Preview) Hello all, It's been a long while since I posted last. I've been working hard at making my marriage work and trying to be strong. Yesterday we crossed the bridge I knew was inevitably in our path with my AH heavy daily drinking. His health is now affected. He got scared when he discovered blood inhis sto...	Elabella	13	753	Feb 12, 2018 by Bo
	Quick update (Preview) After AHâs relapse 2 weeks ago, I was concerned he wouldnât be willing to keep working on his issues. Iâve been pleasantly surprised though. No more episodes since then and our relationship is continuing to improve. A lot of the little things that mean so much and have been missing for a long time have s...	Twinkies	4	554	Feb 12, 2018 by The1975jen
	C2C, 2/12 (Preview) Detachment: The writer comments that detachment is easy with casual friends, but not with loved ones. He says that with family, he is likely to take on their negative frame of mind. He says he needs to pay attention to his own mood, so he does not take on the mood of someone else. Today's Reminder: If...	Lyne	5	505	Feb 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	Observations/perspectives/aging (Preview) SO, this is totally off topic from program. I'm sure many of you can relate, though. I took a job at a company where I worked over 20 years ago and I worked there for 4 years in various roles/departments. One of the things I loved(and still do) about it is that it is so diverse culturally and, to some degre...	andromeda	6	610	Feb 12, 2018 by Tude
	Hope for Today Feb 11 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the unique relationship we develop with our sponsors. The writer describes how difficult it was in the beginning, to trust that her sponsor would not run away after hearing all of the terrible facts about her, and how there were times she would actually...	yanksfan51	5	492	Feb 11, 2018 by Aline
	ESH needed for No Drinking but No Program (Preview) Hi Everyone - I could really use some ESH.....here's what is happening that I've alluded to but haven't posted on yet. My AH is on day 11 of using naltrexone to not drink but that's it; he's not in any program and has underlying anxiety (and most likely depression??) which has probably contributed to...	jtpickle	6	687	Feb 11, 2018 by AnnieFenk321
	Great news (Preview) my last post here I shared my great news about daughter and family coming back to live in the states from Japan, waiting on news of where they will living at here in states finally came,,,they'll be living in Las Vegas , more great news.i know how much of a relief that must be, now it's the transition part,...	lookingup	6	557	Feb 10, 2018 by lookingup
	Courage to Change 2/9/18 (Preview) Today's reading is about "keep it simple", so I will try to do just that. The reading discusses how non-simple life was before recovery - stressful job, limited/no time, obsessive focus on the A and denial about all of the above! Al-Anon, when we practice it, brings about awareness and a breakage of t...	Iamhere	6	676	Feb 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	CTC. 2-10 (Preview) C2C reading for sat 2-10 speaks of how we do not appreciate our talents and creative gifts after living with the disese of alcoholism. It suggests that we take the time, to look within and discover the creative energy that dwells within. Once we see this energy we can develop this energy by tak...	lookingup	7	573	Feb 10, 2018 by lookingup
	headache been crying (Preview) I have been so upset but have a lot of support from sisters. My mom is down south again indefinitely. Hopeful that I might see her again after talking to my sis. She said I don't have to feel like I will never see mom again. She said wait till the dust clears & maybe we can all make a trip--very comforting...	Hoot Nanny	6	470	Feb 10, 2018 by Tude
	Friday yet? (Preview) It's really been a week and I am ready for Friday! I am finally getting some sleep I'm not sure if it's exhaustion or if I am finally able to sleep time will tell. I had to laugh because my oldest finally got everything dealt with at this point I'm waiting for the next fire because there will be another fire...	SerenityRUS	9	547	Feb 10, 2018 by Tude
	HALT! (Preview) I just need to remind myself today to not get too hungry angry lonely or tired. I am definitively halting. Help!	Hoot Nanny	5	492	Feb 10, 2018 by Tude
	ABF, his rigidity = relationship struggles. Help! (Preview) Hello, I am very new here I have been with my ABF (who's been in recovery for 15 years) for 2 1/2 years. We live an hour and 15 minutes apart from each other, I am divorced with three teenage children. He has been single for 20 years, and very much stuck in his daily routine. On the surface the relationship...	Im	31	796	Feb 8, 2018 by Im
	Sane and Sober and coming back again (Preview) Today is the 7th of Feb which makes tomorrow the 8th and an anniversary ...again. Thank you the entire family of Al-Anon and AA the 39 previous years have been much much easier and willful to do because of you all. Not so bad for a member who didn't like or appreciate any of you or your ESH when he first a...	Jerry F	11	522	Feb 8, 2018 by bud
	Courage to Change 2/8/18 (Preview) I really like the quote of the day, so am starting there - "To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." from Oscar Wilde Today's reading discusses how many of us worked really hard to be liked by 'all' before recovery. We had great intentions and tried to encourage friendships with some w...	Iamhere	8	590	Feb 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change February 7 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's Reading in Courage to Change is about the daily decision we have to make a positive contribution to our own sense of well-being. The author shares that, instead of focusing on what they cannot have or cannot do, they decide to take some action that will result in positive change. Th...	Skorpi	11	498	Feb 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	Resentment.. (Preview) Hello everyone. Well it is hard for me to write this, but I am feeling lost. I am a mother to 2 beautiful boys, and expecting another little boy in May. I, and they are over the moon with our new addition arriving soon. I am currently working, but have had to cut down a lot on my hours due to unforseen issues a...	Amy13	9	515	Feb 7, 2018 by Amy13
	Self-hate self-hate (Preview) Evening (or whatever time of the day you happen to be in!), MIP. A recent post by another member opened up memories Id forgotten, but that now seem very important to look at, so heres my thoughts. This is an long post.In the first several years of my and my ex-abfs relationship (especially then, but also...	Aline	10	544	Feb 7, 2018 by Aline
	Just a general share... (Preview) Hi y'all, Thanksgiving is big in the USA and Canada. Today is Waitangi Day, here in AoNZ, our national day. What mention will be made, of Alanon, or the 12 step movement? Nothing- really. But right here and now there is a connection, with this share. ... Living in the present was always hard for m...	DavidG	10	547	Feb 6, 2018 by Jerry F
	ODAT Reading 2-6-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for February 6 speaks about the day when sobriety has entered the home. It suggests that life will not be perfect as we will have difficulties that arise . The reading suggests we must accept the usual upsets realizing that they come into shape now that they we are no longer focused on t...	hotrod	4	449	Feb 6, 2018 by Lyne
	C2C, 2/5 (Preview) Readiness for Alanon: The reading starts out with a Zen Buddhist saying: When the student is ready, the teacher appears . Anotherwords, we all get to Alanon at the right time. The writer says she heard about program as a teen, but didn't show up for 20 years. No nagging could have gotten her there a...	Lyne	9	455	Feb 5, 2018 by bud
	Daughter and family will be coming home soon (Preview) As many of you remember back ,going back yrs ,my daughter an hubby was transferred to Japan ,they have 3 teen sons well mannered ,very respectful boys. im now happy to say their coming back to the states after being living over seas for over 10 yrs,this will be a very exciting event ,though I know I'm into...	lookingup	8	455	Feb 5, 2018 by DavidG
	Need to share, vent, release anxieties. (Preview) So went to meeting today--but need more. Today I know is hard for many of us. It is so sad to think that a playoff game can be such a trigger for so many. Unfortunately trigger to me as I can just feel myself getting anxious waiting for game to start. So we are supposed to do what we want regardless of the a...	Dancer66	7	521	Feb 5, 2018 by DavidG
	need to make phonecall (Preview) Hi there I wonder if all you wonderful people can help me. My husbands sick with alcoholism at the moment and is slowly trying to sort himself out visiting people, phonecalls etc. Some time ago he befriended a female alcoholic during his long recovery period. My AH is very kind and generous and she took...	ling	4	687	Feb 5, 2018 by Tude
	How to trust...are my reactions normal? (Preview) My husband and I have been married for 2 months. He is an alcoholic. I was aware of his disease and was willing to support him during this battle. Due to a recent DUI he has begun rehab which he states he is ready to end his drinking. During his drinking binges he would leave for a few days, not answer h...	Reba2411	9	559	Feb 5, 2018 by Jerry F
	It came as expected (Preview) AH had his first relapse Monday night. I expected it was coming for a variety of reasons - number one being that the abrupt change in him was just too easy. I had hope of course that he would be one of those who just put it down one day and never looked back, but my optimism was very cautious, and moreso the lon...	Twinkies	12	657	Feb 5, 2018 by The1975jen
	Alanon Step 2 posted (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 2 has been posted to the Step Work Board Please post your thoughts-- here is the link http://stepwork.activeb...	hotrod	3	451	Feb 5, 2018 by Tude
	let it begin w me (Preview) I am not a victim of my past. I will not be fearful of my future. I will live in the moment. I will love the unloved. I will cheer on those who need support. I will focus on others not forgetting who made me who I am. Today I am a winner no matter what anyone says. My mother will not be a source of my unhappiness!...	Hoot Nanny	4	446	Feb 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	Trying to figure out boundaries.... (Preview) Thank you for response and advice from my first post. I've found a meeting to go to tomorrow. Two other things I'm struggling with that I am sure don't help are: 1. I am able to have 2 to 3 beers when watching a game or while at band practice and stop, but should I be abstaining even when I am not around her? I d...	Smp	5	509	Feb 4, 2018 by serenity47
	New and trying to work Step 1 (Preview) Hello and thank you to all of you for all your wonderful posts. Iâve been lurking here for the past few months and all of your wisdom has been a life line for me. I started with AlAnon about 6 months by attending meetings, reading various literature and listening to podcasts. But this morning, after I s...	Holly73	8	531	Feb 4, 2018 by Holly73
	Hope for Today Feb 4 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the different options we have to seek out serenity. Like the writer, I choose to get up earlier than my kids so that I have some quiet house time before the day gets started. I tend to embrace quiet like a few of the scenarios mentioned on this page (a quiet...	yanksfan51	4	395	Feb 4, 2018 by Tude
	Got a call from STBXAH and would like some ESH (Preview) Hi MIP family! I have been kind of quiet on here, but reading everyday. The reason is pretty much I have been NC with my STBX. He had stopped calling from rehab after my letter was sent. Until tonight. Firstly, I was kind of pissed that he called after 10:00 pm. I was actually just settling into sleep for th...	PosiesandPuppies	15	663	Feb 4, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Middle ground between enabling and giving an ultimatum (Preview) I am new here, and I havent even gone to a live meeting yet, so please bear with me. My AW is current,y going to meetings, but this tends to last between 1 to 2 weeks before she slides into a binge. I dont know how to handle these constant back and forths. As of now I know I enable her because I dont try and stop he...	Smp	7	582	Feb 4, 2018 by bud
	Introduction (Preview) Hi. I'm new here. I couldn't find a local meeting, so I hope I can share here. I'm married to an alcoholic. What brings me here now is that over the holidays I experienced a level of hurt that I can't seem to resolve. My inlaws moved 500 miles away before we got married. My father in law died five years ago and...	chimchimaree	7	611	Feb 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	Bringing kids to meetings? (Preview) Hi, Where I am now - I have a lot more access to meetings. The problem is, I have a lot less babysitting help with my husband in rehab and don't have money to pay for a babysitter. My parents can help out with babysitting, but not at these times! Is it appropriate to take a two year old to a meeting and put on a i...	AnnieFenk321	4	471	Feb 3, 2018 by Jill
	Hope for Today Jan 28 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a reminder about the sole purpose of Alanon-to help friends and families of alcoholics. Just as the focus for Alanon is to help those affected by alcoholism, we are called to remember that our own focus is about our personal recovery first. There are severa...	yanksfan51	11	586	Feb 3, 2018 by DavidG
	Feels like the weight of the world is on my shoulders (Preview) This is going to be long. As much as I value your ESH, I will understand if you donât get through this whole thing. I just really need a place to put this out there, in black and white, with all of itâs complications and messiness, and this feels like the best place for that. So...AH is considering a job chan...	Twinkies	12	624	Feb 3, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Odat 2/3/18 (Preview) The ODAT reading for Sat 2-3 talks about trusting HP and when we do we cannot sit back and expect HP to do all the work we must trust that Hp will provide the wisdom and strength to accomplish our tasksLove the quote: " I pray for the wisdom to understand my difficulties , clearly and honestly and fo...	lookingup	4	356	Feb 3, 2018 by Iamhere
	Blindsided, Heartbroken and Confused (Preview) I have been married 18 years to the most beautiful, genuine, compassionate girl I have ever met. She is my best friend, my true soul mate. I was convinced the loss of my father was in order to bring her and I together. Together we have three beautiful kids who are all going to go on to do great things in their...	Ohana	5	610	Feb 2, 2018 by bud
	Just had an A-HA Moment! (Preview) Good Morning! I was reading the C2C post for today (Feb. 2) and had the wake up call of one of the many things I do in my relationships with the As in my family. In my efforts to always have a cheery, comforting, welcoming home, and to make everybody happy all the time, no matter the cost to myself, Im ALWAYS...	PeacefulLove	6	545	Feb 2, 2018 by bud
	Courage to Change 2/2/18 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the equality that exists in Al-Anon recovery. Many of us come to the program with a perception of being greater than some and less than others. The writer gives the analogy of being on a ladder rung - middle +/- with some below and some above and God at the very top - way, way u...	Iamhere	7	555	Feb 2, 2018 by Iamhere
	New (Preview) Trying to figure this out	Wifeandmom	5	482	Feb 2, 2018 by hotrod
	Happy Anniversary to me (Preview) Hello Everyone! Today is my 2nd year anniversary in recovery and I thought I would stop by and celebrate with you, where it all started, and express my sincere gratitude for all of you who stuck by me and encouraged me when I was a crazy person. I am so blessed to be a part of this fellowship and thank my...	Fooled	11	560	Feb 2, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Yoga (Preview) Hi all, I have been doing yoga on/off for a few years now. It greatly helps center my mind, body and soul. I've taken classes and am now doing it at home whenever I can get a chance. Yoga with Adriene has free classes on YouTube, and is a great friend I look forward to seeing on the mat. Just thought I would sh...	Engaged2Drugs	6	418	Feb 1, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change - 2-1-18 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy February! Today's reading discusses how change in Al-Anon doesn't always affect others around us. We learn as we practice this program how powerless we really are. The writer discusses thinking 'if only' I stop enabling, my A will get better. That was not what happene...	Iamhere	3	405	Feb 1, 2018 by Tude
	mom's recovery (Preview) Although it is slow, my mom is recovering after being in jail & now is hospitalized. She is slow & scattered & will never be the mom I held so dearly. I am grateful though that she is in a safe place. I finally talked to her after a month. I couldn't bring myself to talk to her because the pain is s...	Hoot Nanny	5	398	Feb 1, 2018 by Tude
	12th-stepping (Preview) This is the ongoing saga of my ex-AH. He is in the hospital with multiple problems. It looks as if he has advanced cirrhosis, plus bad injuries from when he fell. He had a procedure to drain his stomach of fluid. A mutual friend was there when he had the news from the doctor. The doctor said, "Do you dr...	Mattie	15	1238	Jan 31, 2018 by WendyP
	The 12th Step. (Preview) Hi there, it's WendyP, asking for some sharings on the 12th Step. What I am planning on doing is introducing The Alanon Programme in more depth to My Grandson's ex Partner. They have just recently split up again for the some many times. I have shared with both of them before, about AA and Alanon after a ve...	WendyP	4	513	Jan 31, 2018 by WendyP
	sober for 12 years (Preview) I feel Im the reason my AH started drinking after so long. It's to do with communion in the Catholic Church. I was heart broken to be told I couldn't take communion as he's a divorced man. The annulment inquisition for my husband was dreadful. His doctor said it pushed him over the edge. It is annulled now...	ling	2	445	Jan 31, 2018 by hotrod
	sorry I repeated the same post. (Preview) I goofed. I am sorry..	Hoot Nanny	1	319	Jan 31, 2018 by hotrod
	Trying to stay focused (Preview) I'm trying to stay focused on myself and my improvement, but it has been hard recently. Right before Christmas I had decided to leave my AH. He was very actively drinking and I did not want to be around it any longer. We were taking care of his mother's horse. I called her to let her know that I was leaving AH...	Gardening	13	574	Jan 31, 2018 by KT2015
	Sponsorship question (Preview) Hello all! I went to my second F2F Al Anon meeting this week. Since I live in a very remote area of the country, and Al Anon is not very active within a 200 mile radius of where I live, meeting attendance here is very weak. This week, it was me and 1 other newbie couple (husband and wife) in attendance. A ch...	PeacefulLove	5	896	Jan 31, 2018 by PeacefulLove
	private hospitals (Preview) Hi do they work? My AH ha been classed as a very severe cases but has been told it will be weeks. Can anyone recommend anywhere near guildford? He cannot cut down thank you	ling	25	620	Jan 31, 2018 by ling
	Keep the focus on myself (Preview) I've found myself getting into arguments with my AH the last few days. They are relatively minor but I find myself getting very emotionally drawn in and upset. I won't go into the minutia of the argument but the theme is my AH will do something that is obviously rude or obnoxious. I will say "Hey What t...	KT2015	9	614	Jan 31, 2018 by KT2015
	Courage to Change January 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about steps 6 and 7. The author shares that, despite their zealous work on the 12 steps for over a year, they still experienced lapses into self-pity and resentment over the alcoholic's inability to give them the emotional support they wanted. One...	Skorpi	2	387	Jan 31, 2018 by hotrod
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