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help
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I have been married for 19 years. My husband is a great guy, but an addict. He is trying to get off Vicodin right now but in a month or so it will be something else. He get addicted to something different every 6 months or a year. He is a great guy, good father to our 2 children and we...
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Old Tapes play in my head... ESH please
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OLd tapes play in my head all the time. I used to think that this was normal. That it was certainly reasonable to allow past experience to affect the way I think today, the things that I do today, the way I react today.... then I found Al-Anon. Oh how tricky this makes things... yeah I k...
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SELF WORTH:Do you treat yourself well physically, mentally, and spirtually?
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Living with active alcoholism , or long after the alcoholic has gone, seriously affects our feeling of self worth. I know for me I blamed myself for years for someone elses drinking, I knew it had to me somehow someway that I had "made" this person drink. When I was a child I thought my dad drank because I d...
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What Addicts Do
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I found this quite some time ago on another forum and it helped me to put things in perspective so much that I keep it in my documents folder so I can read it again when I need to. I hope it helps you all as much as it did me.
My name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do.
Y...
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Help me understand
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My father died yesterday and my A escalated in anger about it until he was screaming ** your Dad and ** your Mom and ** your sister. It was awful. He said I shouldn't be manipulated into going to the funeral, that my dad deserted me when I was a kid and he hurt me and I don't know "those peo...
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looong share on cleaning up old resentments
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I am worth the time and effort of pursuing recovery rather than stewing in mydifficulties. I am going about the process of determining, with as much honesty as possible, justwhat makes me tick.
>>>>>>>>>>>yes, i am WORTH knowing me, the WHY and HOW i got these...
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF C.JOHNSON
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Today 6/15 is the anniversary of my a-ex boyfriend Father’s death. My ex once told me he thought that his was father wasn’t proud of him and he felt bad about this after his death.
Now that my ex-is getting sober and going to meetings everyday I hope he feels better. I will...
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My story
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If I write this out, the whole story it could be a book, so I won't lay out all of the details but those of you that have children that are suffering with an addiction can probably fill in the blanks.
My son is 37, married twice, divorced twice and four children that he isnt supporting. Things had b...
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Cuts & Scars
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When I first came to the Program at 17 I had a few pretty neat visual realisations... ahead of my time & unable to fully actualize them ~ this is one:
Being such a sensitive & expressive person, an empath able to pick up other people's feelings, I was very in touch with and expressing tha...
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Confused
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Life has been fantastic for the last 6 months - my new relationship has been downright perfect and then it happened - the FIRST FIGHT. It took well 5 1/2 months really for it to happen and now I am the little scared small child waiting for everything to just fall apart. I dont fight well and it...
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FOR ALL NEWCOMERS HERE SOME INFORMATION
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Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand.
World Service Organization Website –
WWW.al-anon.alateen.org
Alanon meetings 1-888-425-2666
Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.h...
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Signs that Sister is calming down!
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Well, the first signs are already there....mom let me know today that she talked to my sister and she has decided to keep the dog since the kids are so crazy about her!!! Thank you higher power!!! I "Let Go and Let God" and He took care of it.
Mom is now on her "list" becaus...
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The death of a public forum...
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I want to share something with everyone and I don't really even want any replies. I promise I will not ever provide another post on this board that is not a cry for help or ESH.
I participate in several very high volume boards for one of my hobbies. It was a wonderful place where you&...
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Banned an IP today - focus on recovery
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Hi group - as one of the board moderators, I banned a user's IP this morning, as their posts were becoming aggressive and beligerent, to the point of basically "poking a stick" at the board in general, individuals, and any non-Christians out there.
On behalf of the MIP board, I want to apologize for t...
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Welcome SLS
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Welcome to MIP!
Guess your HP found something for you to begin posting. HP sure puts it out there for our taking...doesn't he?
Can't wait to hear more from you.
YFIR...Gail
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My life is really unmanageable
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(((Hello Group)))
Its been a heck of morning already and the day has just begun. Last night was a doozy too. My A wanted "Family Time" o.k. I'll take that its not everyday that he says he wants it. So I obliged him. We attempted to take the kids to a new restaraunt, but unfortu...
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chat room
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I am new to this chat room. All the postings are from last year. Is this still active?
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a new poem
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In my imagination, everything exists the way I choose to imagine it The things I imagine are in the wonder of it all: the possiblities that exist and the feelings those possiblities evoke. Imagination has no beginning, no end, no flaws. It's our playground, we create our images and we c...
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Al-Anon Cookbook
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Just wondering if anyone has heard how the cookbook entries are progressing. For you new folk, check out the Cookbook posts, and send in a recipe!
Love in Recovery,
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Father's Day, A wish and a reflection
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Just wanted to come in and wish all the dads out there a very Happy Father's Day!! This will be the first year we get to celebrate Father's Day for my eldest son (baby due July 24th). What a pleasure it has been watching him grow and mature. His gf has a 3 year old and he is just so marvelous with him, so patient...
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Am I being ERASED??? May I ask why? Ooopps, already know!
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this post was deleted - inappropriate for an Al-Anon forum. -- Edited by canadianguy at 13:16, 2006-06-15
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Help!
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I'm feeling so overwhelmed right now, I think I just really need some caring, and happy thoughts. A lot of things seem to be going wrong all of a sudden, and I'm really scared about the future. I'm starting to question what I'm going to do with my life. A lot of things hit me at once, and I'm tired. I'm so tire...
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ESH on trust please...
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As many of you now, my AH and I have recently reconciled after a 6 month separation. I am having trouble with trust. Trusting myself, trusting others (including my Ah) and trusting my HP. Was looking for any ESH on trust that you all might be willing to share. I do believe that...
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AH wants me back
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(((((family))))
Hello precious alanoners. I haven't posted for awhile but I've been here.Been going to meetings.I am currently reading 'getting them sober'.It's mostly for people with active A's which I do not have,but still I am learning a lot.
Things have fallen apart between my AH and his o...
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Hello everyone
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I just found you all and am looking forward to getting to know you all. I just celebrated my first anniversary in Alanon and thank my higher power every day for leading me where I needed to be for me.
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waiting for the shoe to drop
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My A has a pattern of intense relationships with others. He starts off well with idealizing. They are the greatest, they love him, they are all buddies. There are needless to say not that many boundaries there. It has got better I must say. A few years ago (before I had a program too) he had a friend...
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i just found out that my ah sold somethings that i was planning on selling. and really it should be about the money considering i am overdrawn, have no income currently and he has given me 60 dollars in the past 3 months as "support" for 3 kids. but it isn't about the money. it is about him not telling me. i am...
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back to recovery!!!!!!!
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well today is a new story compared to yesterday with my a. when he got home from his meeting we went out and got alot accomplished then watched some movies last night. today he got up and went to his meetings and came home with his first chip. and wants to go to the CA convention next weekend. he says i love me...
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Stranger calling..
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hey guys
how are ye all doing?
it feels like an eternity since i was here daily..posting my life story.. i miss it and i miss u guys.
im doing really well. im working away... writing a novel (no less), and generally keeping busy, im meeting up with friends more...and doing creative proje...
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I can't believe this is happening...HELP PLEASE
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Well, here we go again...
Quick backround...I'm 42, mom is an alcoholic. Ex-H is an alcoholic. 22 year old son got his first DUI and possession charge this year. I just joined ACOA two weeks ago and want to learn how to live my life with this and deal with all of the BS that haunts me....
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Laughs re Hurricanes
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Now that tropical storm Alberto has passed florida, I can share some lighter more fun names a buddy and I concocted for this season's hurricanes.
Hurricane Alfonzo
Hurricane Big Bird
Hurricane Chickie
Hurricane Done
Hurricane Elmo
Hurricane Fluffy
More to come later......
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reflecting on an old post
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I do so much reflection in my undergraduate work. Somehow I hadn't transfered that to this board. I was talking to a friend yesterday about the board and how I haven't read back over the many posts I have written. Funny that I only got to late January before I found something that almost broke my own heart...
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relapses and snooping mothers
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Well last friday was my A's first day allowed out of the halfway house alone after being there for 2 weeks and spending 3 weeks in rehab. He had some sort of meeting to attend and took a bus a few towns away. On saturday he came back to my area to visit me and attend a small birthday get together with friends. W...
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David62
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Let me know if and when you're going to be over San Antonio way. I'll take ya to lunch at some high class joint. Diva
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www.mipchat.net is functional
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Our secondary entrance into the room at http://www.mipchat.net is now functional and available for entrance into the Al-Anon room. If for some reason you can not access the chat room from the 12stepforums.net site, you might want to try mipchat.net. If you still have problems gettin...
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Chat room troubles
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((((((((((((((((John))))))))))))),
Great webmaster of the universe, what's going on with the chat room? Now I know this is me, the computer illiterate of the bunch, but what's going on when I enter it through the link up above? Please get me back to the land...
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Someone died of alcohol poisoning this weekend
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I'm still trying to get over the last two weeks with my AH home from work, lying to me, and being drunk when I get home. Over the weekend I was surrounded by alcoholics and their problems. My AH was with us and that guy can drink! I thought my AH could. Anyway, we were camping at a biker rally (I'm not into moto...
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First Face 2 Face
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I went, it was good. They held a newcomer's meeting because I was there. I knew one person but I managed.
I am going back, had a good connection with 2 of the womyn there, similar stuff. I think I will grow
Thanks for all your encouragement fol...
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Big decission... ESH please
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((((Everyone))))
For the last few days I have really struggled with my AW mental frame of mind. It just crushes me to the core to see her so distraught. She says "I" am making her physically ill and she just can't take it anymore. She wants to seperate.
Now with the help of...
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New here, and still can't get passed this..
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Hello,
I don't know why I have waited so long to talk to anyone about this, my husband has been sober for 3 years now. But I still can't get passed the pain of the past. And I still don't trust him. We have 2 beautiful daughters 3 and 9 months old. I love my husband but I still hate him at the same time. He sti...
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Realtor is coming & AH won't get off his butt!!
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Ok so my realtor is coming tomorrow to take pics of the house for listing. We have known about this for a week. My AH won't get off his butt to do anything to prepare. Yesterday he DID work on the air handler but got so frustrated b/c he couldn't figure it out, he just gave up. And g...
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Hubby is home!
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(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))),
Hubby is home! We got home yesterday afternoon. It was slow going, and slightly scary when he started to drive. But we went nice and slow and trusted HP to look after us. When he got out of the car and made it to t...
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Karilynn
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New Start for Me!!! THANKS!!!
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Hi Everyone....
I just had to share how this program really has helped me. This year began as a total roller coaster. I am sober 2 years now. My husband of 17 years was sober for one year (last year) without any program, and on January 1 of this year (his one year anniversary)...
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the rollercoaster begins!!!!!!
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hi everyone, i just wanted to share whats going on with me and what im doing about it with what im learning in this program. well my a had a relapse with crack a week ago, sunk lower then low and started back with cocaine's anonymous meetings. he has been going everyday but thats about it. said he is going to...
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A's Bloodwork
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Doctor faxed lab results to me from A's Friday visit to the Doctor. Hadn't been to see doctor since last fall. With drinking more and sober less these past number of months expected bloodwork to look worse but actually looks pretty much the same. Believe it or not actually somewha...
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WHAT IS LOVE?
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Hi Friends,
Today I pulled out an old book and in it was something I received at an AL-Anon meeting last year. It is very thought provoking and wanted to share it. The author is unknown to me. You may want to copy and paste it.
Here it goes:
"We seem to use the word "love" to...
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Lani
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Giving me/A a time limit...
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Hello Group,
Thank you all for the support over the weekend it was nice to get that out and begin thinking about what I want and what I know I deserve. I deserve the best. I deserve to be with a person who really is committed and loves me as much as I love him. My A is unhealthy. He...
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Scared Spitless
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It is 8:16 am and I am off to my first f2f this morning. I am extremely nervous which is very odd for me. Hoping I run into no one I know, which is next to impossible
If there are people I know there I will have to stay very quiet until I see if anonymity is actually practised. I do...
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Newbie here...
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Hi all,
My name is Anita. My husband is an alcoholic and I am losing patience rapidly. I am hoping to find some wisdom from others in this forum. How do all of you deal with your alcoholic?
Thanks
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Anita
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He’s drinking, I feel goooood
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I had a date tomorrow night with my “sober” A as of Friday, but got the idea he was drinking, so I asked him. I called him up.
“Are you drinking?’
“Yes.” He is honest. He was shocked I asked and sounded ashamed.
“Okay, well I need to cancel tomorrow night. I just can’t hang,” I said.
He wa...
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Dog
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How to get past the obsessing?
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My earlier post talked about lies I busted my AH telling me. I mentioned I wanted revenge so badly. I got some really nice responses that made a lot of sense. I know revenge isn't going to make any difference. Things would only get worse, but I can't stop thinking about him lying to me. It's consuming my mi...
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Lindy
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Rehab Visit
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All I can say is Wow & Wow again -
She looks great - better than I have seen her look in four years. She was so excited that I came to see her, and very understanding that her dad was unable to take off work on such short notice. Several group meetings, with the people in treatment and thei...
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120 days!!
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Just wanted to post and share in the joy that today is 120 days sober for my A..woot! woot!!
I'm sooo, sooo proud of him. There has been so much that has happpened that he could have used as an excuse to drink, but he didn't .
I have to admit I held my breath a few times in anticipation.
For the most part t...
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disappointed
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Hi gang, Some of u know my story, married to my A for 22 yrs, 3 kids, 21, 12, 5 1/2(autistic)before he met me , he was wired on heroin for yr, stopped that, went to alcohol, been alcoholic for over 20 yrs, past 3 months he started shooting cocaine grrrr.... almost on daily basis, hes wired just in 3 months, he...
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I think this might be the coolest "God shot" ever!!!!
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So I have been praying for guidance about AH living with me when he gets out of prison but you all told me to wait and not mention it yet to him, so I didnt...and yesterday, my puppy went bounding into my new neighbors apartment. I ran after her and new neighbor goes
"I know you, I used to live over where (...
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I can't believe this is happening...HELP PLEASE
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Well, here we go again...
Quick backround...I'm 42, mom is an alcoholic. Ex-H is an alcoholic. 22 year old son got his first DUI and possession charge this year. I just joined ACOA two weeks ago and want to learn how to live my life with this and deal with all of the BS that haunts me....
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Little Lisa
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Trouble
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Haven't posted in a while...after Memorial day weekend with AH, things were going really well.....MIL had back surgery, and i went to the hospital and spent all day there with her Tuesday. I saw my husband leave from there, as he spent Friday through Tuesday at home. Tuesday morning, we...
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Balance of Beliefs and Alanon Traditions
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Hi Roomies,
I felt compelled to write. I hope I don't step on any toes and that I don't offend anyone. But I am very very protective of alanon. Steps and traditons. This program is successful and there are reasons why. And when contreversy hits, I hide, but what good does that do.
I don't openly speak...
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Dolphin123
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major painting next week
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Finally hired a painter to paint our main floor - kitchen, dining/living, den, 2 bathrooms and husbands bedroom. We moved into this house in 1993. The walls were primed white but never never painted! Ive finally come to the realization that the only way it will ever happen is for me to pay for it out of my...
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Barbara
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Pen Pal Clubbers...CHECK YOUR EMAIL
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Removed for promoting and advertizing an outside endeavor, not associated with Al-Anon or this Al-Anon WSO registered group. Needs to be approved in group business meeting as a group project.
John -- Edited by John at 06:24, 2006-06-14
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