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Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((John))))))))))))), Great webmaster of the universe,

what's going on with the chat room? Now I know this is me, the computer illiterate of the bunch, but what's going on when I enter it through the link up above?

Please get me back to the land...

Lindy · Lindy

I'm still trying to get over the last two weeks with my AH home from work, lying to me, and being drunk when I get home. Over the weekend I was surrounded by alcoholics and their problems. My AH was with us and that guy can drink! I thought my AH could. Anyway, we were camping at a biker rally (I'm not into moto...

lilms · lilms

I went, it was good. They held a newcomer's meeting because I was there. I knew one person

but I managed.

I am going back, had a good connection with 2 of the womyn there, similar stuff. I think I will grow

Thanks for all your encouragement fol...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) For the last few days I have really struggled with my AW mental frame of mind. It just crushes me to the core to see her so distraught. She says "I" am making her physically ill and she just can't take it anymore. She wants to seperate. Now with the help of...

elikapika · elikapika

Hello, I don't know why I have waited so long to talk to anyone about this, my husband has been sober for 3 years now. But I still can't get passed the pain of the past. And I still don't trust him. We have 2 beautiful daughters 3 and 9 months old. I love my husband but I still hate him at the same time. He sti...

QOD · QOD

Ok so my realtor is coming tomorrow to take pics of the house for listing. We have known about this for a week. My AH won't get off his butt to do anything to prepare. Yesterday he DID work on the air handler but got so frustrated b/c he couldn't figure it out, he just gave up. And g...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), Hubby is home!

We got home yesterday afternoon. It was slow going, and slightly scary when he started to drive. But we went nice and slow and trusted HP to look after us. When he got out of the car and made it to t...

hersh · hersh

Hi Everyone.... I just had to share how this program really has helped me. This year began as a total roller coaster. I am sober 2 years now. My husband of 17 years was sober for one year (last year) without any program, and on January 1 of this year (his one year anniversary)...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone, i just wanted to share whats going on with me and what im doing about it with what im learning in this program. well my a had a relapse with crack a week ago, sunk lower then low and started back with cocaine's anonymous meetings. he has been going everyday but thats about it. said he is going to...

lebe27 · lebe27

Doctor faxed lab results to me from A's Friday visit to the Doctor. Hadn't been to see doctor since last fall. With drinking more and sober less these past number of months expected bloodwork to look worse but actually looks pretty much the same. Believe it or not actually somewha...

Lani · Lani

Hi Friends, Today I pulled out an old book and in it was something I received at an AL-Anon meeting last year. It is very thought provoking and wanted to share it. The author is unknown to me. You may want to copy and paste it. Here it goes: "We seem to use the word "love" to...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Thank you all for the support over the weekend it was nice to get that out and begin thinking about what I want and what I know I deserve. I deserve the best. I deserve to be with a person who really is committed and loves me as much as I love him. My A is unhealthy. He...

lilms · lilms

It is 8:16 am and I am off to my first f2f this morning. I am extremely nervous which is very odd for me. Hoping I run into no one I know, which is next to impossible

If there are people I know there I will have to stay very quiet until I see if anonymity is actually practised. I do...

Anita · Anita

Hi all, My name is Anita. My husband is an alcoholic and I am losing patience rapidly. I am hoping to find some wisdom from others in this forum. How do all of you deal with your alcoholic? Thanks

Dog · Dog

I had a date tomorrow night with my “sober” A as of Friday, but got the idea he was drinking, so I asked him. I called him up. “Are you drinking?’ “Yes.” He is honest. He was shocked I asked and sounded ashamed. “Okay, well I need to cancel tomorrow night. I just can’t hang,” I said. He wa...

Lindy · Lindy

My earlier post talked about lies I busted my AH telling me. I mentioned I wanted revenge so badly. I got some really nice responses that made a lot of sense. I know revenge isn't going to make any difference. Things would only get worse, but I can't stop thinking about him lying to me. It's consuming my mi...

Rita G · Rita G

All I can say is Wow & Wow again - She looks great - better than I have seen her look in four years. She was so excited that I came to see her, and very understanding that her dad was unable to take off work on such short notice. Several group meetings, with the people in treatment and thei...

Christy · Christy

Just wanted to post and share in the joy that today is 120 days sober for my A..woot! woot!! I'm sooo, sooo proud of him. There has been so much that has happpened that he could have used as an excuse to drink, but he didn't . I have to admit I held my breath a few times in anticipation. For the most part t...

serenity62 · serenity62

Hi gang, Some of u know my story, married to my A for 22 yrs, 3 kids, 21, 12, 5 1/2(autistic)before he met me , he was wired on heroin for yr, stopped that, went to alcohol, been alcoholic for over 20 yrs, past 3 months he started shooting cocaine grrrr.... almost on daily basis, hes wired just in 3 months, he...

sarahlm · sarahlm

So I have been praying for guidance about AH living with me when he gets out of prison but you all told me to wait and not mention it yet to him, so I didnt...and yesterday, my puppy went bounding into my new neighbors apartment. I ran after her and new neighbor goes "I know you, I used to live over where (...

Little Lisa · Little Lisa

Well, here we go again... Quick backround...I'm 42, mom is an alcoholic. Ex-H is an alcoholic. 22 year old son got his first DUI and possession charge this year. I just joined ACOA two weeks ago and want to learn how to live my life with this and deal with all of the BS that haunts me....

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Haven't posted in a while...after Memorial day weekend with AH, things were going really well.....MIL had back surgery, and i went to the hospital and spent all day there with her Tuesday. I saw my husband leave from there, as he spent Friday through Tuesday at home. Tuesday morning, we...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi Roomies, I felt compelled to write. I hope I don't step on any toes and that I don't offend anyone. But I am very very protective of alanon. Steps and traditons. This program is successful and there are reasons why. And when contreversy hits, I hide, but what good does that do. I don't openly speak...

Barbara · Barbara

Finally hired a painter to paint our main floor - kitchen, dining/living, den, 2 bathrooms and husbands bedroom. We moved into this house in 1993. The walls were primed white but never never painted! Ive finally come to the realization that the only way it will ever happen is for me to pay for it out of my...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

Removed for promoting and advertizing an outside endeavor, not associated with Al-Anon or this Al-Anon WSO registered group. Needs to be approved in group business meeting as a group project. John -- Edited by John at 06:24, 2006-06-14

sparkette · sparkette

I wrote this shortly after my last post. Need to remind myself to do what I write so well. ESH No One can encapsulate, All that We experience. No One provide, All the Love We need. No One can hope, All the Joy that We feel. Express in words, All that you live, All that you endu...

kerry5 · kerry5

To My Child Just for this morning, I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying. Just for this morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say how perfect it is. Just for this morning, I am going to step over the laundry, and pick you up and take y...

tishrijo · tishrijo

I talked to my sister yesterday for quite a while and did inform her that if she wasn't going to protect her children then she leaves me no choice but to protect them. So, today is my sisters 31st birthday and I called Child Protective Services. Hopefully sometime in t...

John · John

A time comes in your life when you finally get…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH!! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, y...

allison · allison

Hi everyone- Some of you might remember me if you don`t here`s a short history.I`ve been married to my A for 18 years,we have 4 children.October of last year my sister told her A husband she was leaving him because of his drinking.He waited for her to fall asleep and then shot her in the back of the head the...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) How hard is it to allow others the ability to do that? Maybe that doesn't make sense, but over our 15 year marriage I have found that my AW talks to me in riddles. I guess that since I am a man and women are legendary for being misterious and hard to understand, that I ass...

sarahlm · sarahlm

My AH is in prison and has no phone for the past few weeks and lo and behold I havent had anything to post about. I havent had any problems and have felt really great but thats presented a new one. I am having the hardest time motivating myself to go to meetings and although I feel good, I dont want to not go. I w...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) I love posting here because its a much healthier way for me to get out my thoughts and feelings without venting to the wrong people. Thank you all for the constant support. After posting yesterday I began feeling some empowerment and knowing in my spirit that I'm on t...

Tammy · Tammy

Well I made it .. I drove from Florida to Ohio by myself ( with my kids ) .. It was a long drive but I did it.. We are having fun but I really miss my husband .. For those of you that dont know he and I fought before we were suppose to leave on our FAMILY vacation and he took the camper and went to the mount...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi Roomies, On the 29th and 30th of May I was out of town at a training. On the 30th during the closing of the training I was given a message to call my work. I called. My daycare had called there to try and track down a number to get ahold of my husband. My son had a really high fever and they needed him to be tak...

cdb · cdb

It is good to be back after my absence. It is something to me how this cunning disease keeps affecting us all in different ways as we continue on our own journeys. I for one know not to rely on one support group for my journey and I am glad I have that knowledge now. I am not going to be hurt again so badly that I a...

debilyn · debilyn

Lately I have been seeing things in a different way. Or maybe it is just stronger and more real. It is always, but.."I love them so much." I decided I want a person that wants me, wants to come to me. I am a nice woman, like to laugh, play, tease and love someone. I see men who long for their wives, do for th...

sunny1 · sunny1

Dear fellow members, It has been 6ms since my last post. During my time away I worked very hard for the first three months working on myself in a different format, with others with different issues, but similar goals on self recovery. It was a wonderful process and while I was working th...

tishrijo · tishrijo

Well, Protective Services has contacted my sister. I knew this was coming...as I have to deal with the consequences of my choices.....It just happens that our dog lives in her yard since we can't have dogs where we moved to 6 months ago. Now she's going to take her to the pound if we don't re...

Tammy · Tammy

Yesterday i posted about my trip to OHIO and today I am really having a bad day !! I cant stop thinking about my husband on his own vacation.. Wondering if he has someone with him .. It is making me CRAZY.. I hoped that today would be better but instead my mind is racing with ideas of him with a...

over it · over it

Yep, I did it. I told my husband that I loved him and always would but that if he did not stop smoking pot and drinking and go back to A.A., I was leaving. We had an agreement to stay sober when we got married. We also had an agreement to not leave each other. He brought that up. "You promised you'd never thre...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Ok went to the concert for most of the day it was fun but VERY CROWDED. I thought long and hard on this one because of my past and my A's past didn't know if this is really what I wanted to do at first. Wasn't sure if him and me going to a concert would be a good idea or not. To be honest there were a few...

Rita G · Rita G

Please keep us in your thoughts & prayers tomorrow (6/13), we just received a call from our daughter's rehab that tomorrow is family day and she has added my ah & I to her family list of people allowed to visit her. This alone is a miracle. As stated in my previous post, we had to stop cont...

lux · lux

I just found this forum... and i'm hoping that writing to all of you is going to help me start calming all the fire and panic and fear inside me. It feels so foolish that I'm this upset, this emotional right now. I just can't settle myself. My story is that almost 2 years ago I g...

Vega · Vega

Hello everyone, My name is Vega. I hope that it is okay that I am making a thread about myself and Why I am here. I am not exactly sure how things work around here but I figured this would be the best way to jump right into it. my boyfriend, of almost 2 years has a drug problem and is now living in a halfway ho...

serenity62 · serenity62

Dog · Dog

“Joined” Al-Anon about ten days ago. My A is making is 7th (or is it 8th) attempt a sobriety in two years time and this round I am almost completely removed, and detached from the process and the outcome. I am not sure the change in my attitude is completely due the Al-Anon principals but they sure have i...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Last night I was supposed to chair the meeting, but I didn't. I went to sign into mIRC, and I couldn't get a conection. Then I tried to log into msn, no connection. Internet Explorer, no connection. I have DSl, so this is supposed to be fast and easy, right. Well not last night. It took m...

sparkette · sparkette

Today is just another day in a long line of new days in our house. I feel nervous about divulging too much info on the message board because I don't feel as safe as I used to. Instead of talking about details, I'll just stick with my feelings :O) Experiencing a variety of feelings still feels so new to me s...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I called A last night. He did not answer. So I left a voice mail. "A" I am sorry I said hatefull things to you last night. ( I DID say some pretty fowl things, that were true, and felt good to release - but - not out of love, just out of desperation and anger ) I said those things out of being hurt, desperate, di...

Lindy · Lindy

Over the last two weeks, I discovered two rather big lies my AH told me. The first one involved when he was working out of town. He told me that he worked long hours (which is true) and that he usually went right to his friend's house, ate supper, watched TV and went to bed after work. I found out that he was me...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Here we go again! Hubby gets out of hospital yesterday and goes home with his roomate. I'm not thrilled about the idea of him being released early, but he said he was feeling fine and the doctors seemed to think that everything was looking good. NOT! ...

kissers · kissers

I was at a meeting and someone said that his wife bought their daughter a sofa and was having it delivered. He was concerned because his wife would be resentful if their daughter did not call and say thank you. I don't know why, but I thought of this.... Did the mother buy it for her daughter to fulfill her o...

Rita G · Rita G

Just as soon as I begin to believe I have a pretty good handle on my recovery, my HP has another layer of emotions to heal. Just when I believe, I am content with all He has blessed me with He blesses me with more. I found out about an hour ago that our oldest daughter is in rehab, and has been for almos...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Yesterday was topsy turvy day to say the least. I am in the middle of the Friday nightmare that my job setting portrays.... Picture this.... my boss comes in and says we need a staffing on one of the Foster Family's that had verified abuse ASAP, so trying desperately to get everyone rallied up for...

AlaMom · AlaMom

a day makes. Yesterday I posted regarding getting caught up in my expectations and the results of those. After spending some time in the room last night, putting it out there on the board, and taking some time for me I am an entirely different person. I took care of a few things aroun...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK....A comes back on Friday after a month on a new Harley he had just bought the night before. I was nauseated by the $16K toy, but overjoyed to see him and ACTUALLY believed that he was missing me and ready for some changes. I called him Sat and left a voice mail telling him I get off work at 3. At 3:20 he ca...

AloneinNH · AloneinNH

I hope it is alright to post here. I don't know where to go and where to start. I have been married to an alcoholic for 27 years. We are now in the process of divorcing. I see how much damage has been done to me emotionally and I need help figuring out who I am now and how to heal all th...

cdb · cdb

testing

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone again! I had a thought ... My AH stopped by to shower before going to a graduation party. The thought that came to mind is he looked like he was ridden hard and put away wet ... for non horse people rough shape. It did not change my frame of mind which for some unexplainable reason except I p...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Chat room troubles (Preview) ((((((((((((((((John))))))))))))), Great webmaster of the universe, what's going on with the chat room? Now I know this is me, the computer illiterate of the bunch, but what's going on when I enter it through the link up above? Please get me back to the land...	Karilynn	1	364	Jun 14, 2006 by John
	Someone died of alcohol poisoning this weekend (Preview) I'm still trying to get over the last two weeks with my AH home from work, lying to me, and being drunk when I get home. Over the weekend I was surrounded by alcoholics and their problems. My AH was with us and that guy can drink! I thought my AH could. Anyway, we were camping at a biker rally (I'm not into moto...	Lindy	6	364	Jun 14, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	First Face 2 Face (Preview) I went, it was good. They held a newcomer's meeting because I was there. I knew one person but I managed. I am going back, had a good connection with 2 of the womyn there, similar stuff. I think I will grow Thanks for all your encouragement fol...	lilms	7	437	Jun 14, 2006 by serenity62
	Big decission... ESH please (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) For the last few days I have really struggled with my AW mental frame of mind. It just crushes me to the core to see her so distraught. She says "I" am making her physically ill and she just can't take it anymore. She wants to seperate. Now with the help of...	rtexas	9	384	Jun 14, 2006 by bobump
	New here, and still can't get passed this.. (Preview) Hello, I don't know why I have waited so long to talk to anyone about this, my husband has been sober for 3 years now. But I still can't get passed the pain of the past. And I still don't trust him. We have 2 beautiful daughters 3 and 9 months old. I love my husband but I still hate him at the same time. He sti...	elikapika	8	465	Jun 14, 2006 by Diva
	Realtor is coming & AH won't get off his butt!! (Preview) Ok so my realtor is coming tomorrow to take pics of the house for listing. We have known about this for a week. My AH won't get off his butt to do anything to prepare. Yesterday he DID work on the air handler but got so frustrated b/c he couldn't figure it out, he just gave up. And g...	QOD	2	358	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	Hubby is home! (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), Hubby is home! We got home yesterday afternoon. It was slow going, and slightly scary when he started to drive. But we went nice and slow and trusted HP to look after us. When he got out of the car and made it to t...	Karilynn	12	417	Jun 14, 2006 by chris52
	New Start for Me!!! THANKS!!! (Preview) Hi Everyone.... I just had to share how this program really has helped me. This year began as a total roller coaster. I am sober 2 years now. My husband of 17 years was sober for one year (last year) without any program, and on January 1 of this year (his one year anniversary)...	hersh	2	329	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	the rollercoaster begins!!!!!! (Preview) hi everyone, i just wanted to share whats going on with me and what im doing about it with what im learning in this program. well my a had a relapse with crack a week ago, sunk lower then low and started back with cocaine's anonymous meetings. he has been going everyday but thats about it. said he is going to...	notsonew1111	7	511	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	A's Bloodwork (Preview) Doctor faxed lab results to me from A's Friday visit to the Doctor. Hadn't been to see doctor since last fall. With drinking more and sober less these past number of months expected bloodwork to look worse but actually looks pretty much the same. Believe it or not actually somewha...	lebe27	3	312	Jun 14, 2006 by babysteps
	WHAT IS LOVE? (Preview) Hi Friends, Today I pulled out an old book and in it was something I received at an AL-Anon meeting last year. It is very thought provoking and wanted to share it. The author is unknown to me. You may want to copy and paste it. Here it goes: "We seem to use the word "love" to...	Lani	5	596	Jun 14, 2006 by Lani
	Giving me/A a time limit... (Preview) Hello Group, Thank you all for the support over the weekend it was nice to get that out and begin thinking about what I want and what I know I deserve. I deserve the best. I deserve to be with a person who really is committed and loves me as much as I love him. My A is unhealthy. He...	twinmom2	6	411	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	Scared Spitless (Preview) It is 8:16 am and I am off to my first f2f this morning. I am extremely nervous which is very odd for me. Hoping I run into no one I know, which is next to impossible If there are people I know there I will have to stay very quiet until I see if anonymity is actually practised. I do...	lilms	6	373	Jun 14, 2006 by abbyal
	Newbie here... (Preview) Hi all, My name is Anita. My husband is an alcoholic and I am losing patience rapidly. I am hoping to find some wisdom from others in this forum. How do all of you deal with your alcoholic? Thanks	Anita	4	509	Jun 14, 2006 by abbyal
	He’s drinking, I feel goooood (Preview) I had a date tomorrow night with my “sober” A as of Friday, but got the idea he was drinking, so I asked him. I called him up. “Are you drinking?’ “Yes.” He is honest. He was shocked I asked and sounded ashamed. “Okay, well I need to cancel tomorrow night. I just can’t hang,” I said. He wa...	Dog	4	313	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	How to get past the obsessing? (Preview) My earlier post talked about lies I busted my AH telling me. I mentioned I wanted revenge so badly. I got some really nice responses that made a lot of sense. I know revenge isn't going to make any difference. Things would only get worse, but I can't stop thinking about him lying to me. It's consuming my mi...	Lindy	8	450	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	Rehab Visit (Preview) All I can say is Wow & Wow again - She looks great - better than I have seen her look in four years. She was so excited that I came to see her, and very understanding that her dad was unable to take off work on such short notice. Several group meetings, with the people in treatment and thei...	Rita G	3	310	Jun 14, 2006 by twinmom2
	120 days!! (Preview) Just wanted to post and share in the joy that today is 120 days sober for my A..woot! woot!! I'm sooo, sooo proud of him. There has been so much that has happpened that he could have used as an excuse to drink, but he didn't . I have to admit I held my breath a few times in anticipation. For the most part t...	Christy	14	461	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	disappointed (Preview) Hi gang, Some of u know my story, married to my A for 22 yrs, 3 kids, 21, 12, 5 1/2(autistic)before he met me , he was wired on heroin for yr, stopped that, went to alcohol, been alcoholic for over 20 yrs, past 3 months he started shooting cocaine grrrr.... almost on daily basis, hes wired just in 3 months, he...	serenity62	3	385	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	I think this might be the coolest "God shot" ever!!!! (Preview) So I have been praying for guidance about AH living with me when he gets out of prison but you all told me to wait and not mention it yet to him, so I didnt...and yesterday, my puppy went bounding into my new neighbors apartment. I ran after her and new neighbor goes "I know you, I used to live over where (...	sarahlm	5	525	Jun 14, 2006 by Reetry
	I can't believe this is happening...HELP PLEASE (Preview) Well, here we go again... Quick backround...I'm 42, mom is an alcoholic. Ex-H is an alcoholic. 22 year old son got his first DUI and possession charge this year. I just joined ACOA two weeks ago and want to learn how to live my life with this and deal with all of the BS that haunts me....	Little Lisa	0	246	Jun 14, 2006 by Little Lisa
	Trouble (Preview) Haven't posted in a while...after Memorial day weekend with AH, things were going really well.....MIL had back surgery, and i went to the hospital and spent all day there with her Tuesday. I saw my husband leave from there, as he spent Friday through Tuesday at home. Tuesday morning, we...	Jennfer32	6	354	Jun 14, 2006 by nmike
	Balance of Beliefs and Alanon Traditions (Preview) Hi Roomies, I felt compelled to write. I hope I don't step on any toes and that I don't offend anyone. But I am very very protective of alanon. Steps and traditons. This program is successful and there are reasons why. And when contreversy hits, I hide, but what good does that do. I don't openly speak...	Dolphin123	4	890	Jun 14, 2006 by rosie light shines
	major painting next week (Preview) Finally hired a painter to paint our main floor - kitchen, dining/living, den, 2 bathrooms and husbands bedroom. We moved into this house in 1993. The walls were primed white but never never painted! Ive finally come to the realization that the only way it will ever happen is for me to pay for it out of my...	Barbara	5	360	Jun 14, 2006 by Gailey
	Pen Pal Clubbers...CHECK YOUR EMAIL (closed) (Preview) Removed for promoting and advertizing an outside endeavor, not associated with Al-Anon or this Al-Anon WSO registered group. Needs to be approved in group business meeting as a group project. John -- Edited by John at 06:24, 2006-06-14	jennneeefffurrr	1	475	Jun 14, 2006 by John
	can you take me twice in one day (Preview) I wrote this shortly after my last post. Need to remind myself to do what I write so well. ESH No One can encapsulate, All that We experience. No One provide, All the Love We need. No One can hope, All the Joy that We feel. Express in words, All that you live, All that you endu...	sparkette	10	433	Jun 14, 2006 by cedarpines
	To My Child (Preview) To My Child Just for this morning, I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying. Just for this morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear, and smile and say how perfect it is. Just for this morning, I am going to step over the laundry, and pick you up and take y...	kerry5	11	555	Jun 13, 2006 by Christy
	Thank you (Preview) I talked to my sister yesterday for quite a while and did inform her that if she wasn't going to protect her children then she leaves me no choice but to protect them. So, today is my sisters 31st birthday and I called Child Protective Services. Hopefully sometime in t...	tishrijo	1	282	Jun 13, 2006 by lilms
	The Awakening (Preview) A time comes in your life when you finally get…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH!! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, y...	John	11	495	Jun 13, 2006 by drucilla06
	guilt trips stink!! (Preview) Hi everyone- Some of you might remember me if you don`t here`s a short history.I`ve been married to my A for 18 years,we have 4 children.October of last year my sister told her A husband she was leaving him because of his drinking.He waited for her to fall asleep and then shot her in the back of the head the...	allison	8	316	Jun 13, 2006 by peewee
	Say what you mean and mean what you say... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) How hard is it to allow others the ability to do that? Maybe that doesn't make sense, but over our 15 year marriage I have found that my AW talks to me in riddles. I guess that since I am a man and women are legendary for being misterious and hard to understand, that I ass...	rtexas	4	427	Jun 13, 2006 by wallsal55
	Any ideas? (Preview) My AH is in prison and has no phone for the past few weeks and lo and behold I havent had anything to post about. I havent had any problems and have felt really great but thats presented a new one. I am having the hardest time motivating myself to go to meetings and although I feel good, I dont want to not go. I w...	sarahlm	4	289	Jun 13, 2006 by sarahlm
	Trying to look through new eyes for me (Preview) (((Hello Group))) I love posting here because its a much healthier way for me to get out my thoughts and feelings without venting to the wrong people. Thank you all for the constant support. After posting yesterday I began feeling some empowerment and knowing in my spirit that I'm on t...	twinmom2	2	264	Jun 13, 2006 by Dolphin123
	My first Vacation without my A (Preview) Well I made it .. I drove from Florida to Ohio by myself ( with my kids ) .. It was a long drive but I did it.. We are having fun but I really miss my husband .. For those of you that dont know he and I fought before we were suppose to leave on our FAMILY vacation and he took the camper and went to the mount...	Tammy	4	289	Jun 13, 2006 by QOD
	Coming to terms with me (Preview) Hi Roomies, On the 29th and 30th of May I was out of town at a training. On the 30th during the closing of the training I was given a message to call my work. I called. My daycare had called there to try and track down a number to get ahold of my husband. My son had a really high fever and they needed him to be tak...	Dolphin123	3	429	Jun 13, 2006 by twinmom2
	Heavy Heartfelt share.... (Preview) It is good to be back after my absence. It is something to me how this cunning disease keeps affecting us all in different ways as we continue on our own journeys. I for one know not to rely on one support group for my journey and I am glad I have that knowledge now. I am not going to be hurt again so badly that I a...	cdb	7	475	Jun 13, 2006 by leo
	What I have been thinking (Preview) Lately I have been seeing things in a different way. Or maybe it is just stronger and more real. It is always, but.."I love them so much." I decided I want a person that wants me, wants to come to me. I am a nice woman, like to laugh, play, tease and love someone. I see men who long for their wives, do for th...	debilyn	7	339	Jun 13, 2006 by leo
	missing your support (Preview) Dear fellow members, It has been 6ms since my last post. During my time away I worked very hard for the first three months working on myself in a different format, with others with different issues, but similar goals on self recovery. It was a wonderful process and while I was working th...	sunny1	6	427	Jun 13, 2006 by tishrijo
	Now for the hard part (Preview) Well, Protective Services has contacted my sister. I knew this was coming...as I have to deal with the consequences of my choices.....It just happens that our dog lives in her yard since we can't have dogs where we moved to 6 months ago. Now she's going to take her to the pound if we don't re...	tishrijo	5	364	Jun 13, 2006 by tishrijo
	A vacation update !! (Preview) Yesterday i posted about my trip to OHIO and today I am really having a bad day !! I cant stop thinking about my husband on his own vacation.. Wondering if he has someone with him .. It is making me CRAZY.. I hoped that today would be better but instead my mind is racing with ideas of him with a...	Tammy	2	257	Jun 13, 2006 by debilyn
	Ultimatum (Preview) Yep, I did it. I told my husband that I loved him and always would but that if he did not stop smoking pot and drinking and go back to A.A., I was leaving. We had an agreement to stay sober when we got married. We also had an agreement to not leave each other. He brought that up. "You promised you'd never thre...	over it	5	342	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Concert (Preview) Ok went to the concert for most of the day it was fun but VERY CROWDED. I thought long and hard on this one because of my past and my A's past didn't know if this is really what I wanted to do at first. Wasn't sure if him and me going to a concert would be a good idea or not. To be honest there were a few...	DoN4me	2	316	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Update on Daughter in Rehab (Preview) Please keep us in your thoughts & prayers tomorrow (6/13), we just received a call from our daughter's rehab that tomorrow is family day and she has added my ah & I to her family list of people allowed to visit her. This alone is a miracle. As stated in my previous post, we had to stop cont...	Rita G	5	297	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Desperado (Preview) I just found this forum... and i'm hoping that writing to all of you is going to help me start calming all the fire and panic and fear inside me. It feels so foolish that I'm this upset, this emotional right now. I just can't settle myself. My story is that almost 2 years ago I g...	lux	3	368	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	hello! (Preview) Hello everyone, My name is Vega. I hope that it is okay that I am making a thread about myself and Why I am here. I am not exactly sure how things work around here but I figured this would be the best way to jump right into it. my boyfriend, of almost 2 years has a drug problem and is now living in a halfway ho...	Vega	2	285	Jun 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	help, can't get in chat (Preview)	serenity62	1	288	Jun 12, 2006 by John
	What a difference ten days makes…and have you seen my spine? ::smiles:: (Preview) “Joined” Al-Anon about ten days ago. My A is making is 7th (or is it 8th) attempt a sobriety in two years time and this round I am almost completely removed, and detached from the process and the outcome. I am not sure the change in my attitude is completely due the Al-Anon principals but they sure have i...	Dog	2	340	Jun 12, 2006 by Dog
	Deepest Apologies About Last Night's Meeting (Preview) Hello Roomies, Last night I was supposed to chair the meeting, but I didn't. I went to sign into mIRC, and I couldn't get a conection. Then I tried to log into msn, no connection. Internet Explorer, no connection. I have DSl, so this is supposed to be fast and easy, right. Well not last night. It took m...	Dolphin123	5	501	Jun 12, 2006 by Barbara
	just me (Preview) Today is just another day in a long line of new days in our house. I feel nervous about divulging too much info on the message board because I don't feel as safe as I used to. Instead of talking about details, I'll just stick with my feelings :O) Experiencing a variety of feelings still feels so new to me s...	sparkette	4	448	Jun 12, 2006 by aunitedway
	Love thy neighbor (Preview) I called A last night. He did not answer. So I left a voice mail. "A" I am sorry I said hatefull things to you last night. ( I DID say some pretty fowl things, that were true, and felt good to release - but - not out of love, just out of desperation and anger ) I said those things out of being hurt, desperate, di...	jennneeefffurrr	3	349	Jun 12, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Discovered more lies... (Preview) Over the last two weeks, I discovered two rather big lies my AH told me. The first one involved when he was working out of town. He told me that he worked long hours (which is true) and that he usually went right to his friend's house, ate supper, watched TV and went to bed after work. I found out that he was me...	Lindy	4	433	Jun 12, 2006 by Rita G
	Hubby back in ICU! (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Here we go again! Hubby gets out of hospital yesterday and goes home with his roomate. I'm not thrilled about the idea of him being released early, but he said he was feeling fine and the doctors seemed to think that everything was looking good. NOT! ...	Karilynn	18	596	Jun 12, 2006 by chris52
	Awareness about needs being fulfilled (Preview) I was at a meeting and someone said that his wife bought their daughter a sofa and was having it delivered. He was concerned because his wife would be resentful if their daughter did not call and say thank you. I don't know why, but I thought of this.... Did the mother buy it for her daughter to fulfill her o...	kissers	3	329	Jun 12, 2006 by kissers
	Daughter in Rehab? (Preview) Just as soon as I begin to believe I have a pretty good handle on my recovery, my HP has another layer of emotions to heal. Just when I believe, I am content with all He has blessed me with He blesses me with more. I found out about an hour ago that our oldest daughter is in rehab, and has been for almos...	Rita G	4	332	Jun 12, 2006 by Rita G
	I see the writing on the wall (Preview) Yesterday was topsy turvy day to say the least. I am in the middle of the Friday nightmare that my job setting portrays.... Picture this.... my boss comes in and says we need a staffing on one of the Foster Family's that had verified abuse ASAP, so trying desperately to get everyone rallied up for...	twinmom2	8	575	Jun 12, 2006 by Barbara
	What a difference... (Preview) a day makes. Yesterday I posted regarding getting caught up in my expectations and the results of those. After spending some time in the room last night, putting it out there on the board, and taking some time for me I am an entirely different person. I took care of a few things aroun...	AlaMom	1	393	Jun 12, 2006 by abbyal
	Re-UNITED and it feels so NEGATIVE (Preview) OK....A comes back on Friday after a month on a new Harley he had just bought the night before. I was nauseated by the $16K toy, but overjoyed to see him and ACTUALLY believed that he was missing me and ready for some changes. I called him Sat and left a voice mail telling him I get off work at 3. At 3:20 he ca...	jennneeefffurrr	5	422	Jun 11, 2006 by Tammy
	New Here (Preview) I hope it is alright to post here. I don't know where to go and where to start. I have been married to an alcoholic for 27 years. We are now in the process of divorcing. I see how much damage has been done to me emotionally and I need help figuring out who I am now and how to heal all th...	AloneinNH	5	333	Jun 11, 2006 by Diva
	testing (Preview) testing	cdb	10	454	Jun 11, 2006 by cdb
	Someting happened to me (Preview) Hello Everyone again! I had a thought ... My AH stopped by to shower before going to a graduation party. The thought that came to mind is he looked like he was ridden hard and put away wet ... for non horse people rough shape. It did not change my frame of mind which for some unexplainable reason except I p...	Jennifer	3	367	Jun 11, 2006 by serendipity
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