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What do you tell them
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This one has been a difficult one for me. What do you tell people that you haven't seen in a long time when they ask about your addict. Lots of them have no idea we are facing this rollercoaster in our lives. My first instinct is to tell them the truth but I usually lie and tell them he is d...
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New technique
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I am no longer weaning off my A. Going cold turkey instead. I am so addicted, I am signing contracts with my friends, promising not to contact him at 24 hour intervals. The idea is I respect these people and want them to respect me so I will keep my promise!!
I state I will not contact him…and why. This i...
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Dog
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A going away poem from mac
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One day at dawn
One day at dawn we walked along
My sleepy girl and I,
As the sun rose through the trees,
As the leaves moved in the breeze.
A treasure field gleamed drops of dew,
The yawning sky went baby blue,
A rabbit stayed to see us by
As a dove on a line lay just so high....
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THE BUZZARD, BAT AND BUMBLEBEE
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BUZZARD
If you put a buzzard in a pen that is 6 feet by 8 feet and
is entirely open at the top, the bird, in spite of its
ability to fly, will be an absolute prisoner. The reason is that a buzzard
always begins a flight from the ground with a run of 10 to 12 feet.
Without space to run, as is its habit, it...
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Christy
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ok so you change, he doesnt - do you go back to old ways or go on?
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I dont party nearly as much as my husband. We met during our party days. I stopped partying when we had our son 14 yrs ago. When I do have a few drinks it seems we get along alot better. Do I go back to drinking? or choose to go on w/resentment towards my husband? Sometimes I feel its best to go back to the old day...
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Barbara
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Father's Day
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Since I will be out of town and perhaps out of touch for a week beginning on Father’s day, I wanted to leave a gift about the past year and a half since my father passed on.
At the end of his life here, my father said to me, “You tell that family of mine, it is time to become more serious about G...
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mac57
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Blow up
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I finally blew up at the A last night. I do not do that on a daily basis anymore. I had asked him at least 101 times to get the lawmower from the landlord. He always belittles my needs, my issues, my requests come last. But his requests, oh his requests have to come first.
For a month I have been askin...
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maresie2
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Letting Go
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I love this kitty..........
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Mobirdie
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Feeling out of sorts
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I was doing SOOOO well in my life - then one big argument - one in 6 months - and I go completely out of my mind. Now I have started to wonder whether I made the right decision to leave my A - whether or not I still want him - and WHY???
I havent thought about him, wanted to talk to him, see him, etc since De...
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Cyn
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a first date
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I went on my first date with my husband yesterday. We decided to have a date, we still sleeping in the same bed and everything. However when we went on our date we shook hands as if we never met each other because. We were flirting the whole time saying oh does you wife know you are out and how long have u been m...
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nycbt
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Happy Father's Day
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To all the wonderful MIP Dads out there! If I wasn't taking mine out to brunch and running late I'd say more but gottttta go LOL
Jennifer
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Jennifer
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Alanon Dads
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((((((((((((((((((((((((Alanon Dads))))))))))))))))))))), 
To all of you who are fathers, grandfathers, great grandfathers, people acting as fathers, fathers-in-law, etc,
HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! May it be extra special for you all.
My father...
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Karilynn
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Father's Day
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When I think of all the wonderful daddies I know in this room I am reminded of one of my favorite things… trees. I wrote this poem today for my daddy, wanted to share it with you all on the eve of Father’s Day. From a daddy's girl, I just want to say thank you to all you beautiful father's out there who don't eve...
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sparkette
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healthy dating relationships
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I just bought the book "Struggle for Intimacy." It's a great book for me right now as I am really working on having healthy relationships with guys I date.
I started thinking about all of my relationships in general. I have a fantastic group of girlfriends. Couldn't ask for bett...
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mollyann
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Vacation without my A
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Tomorrow I leave heading back to Florida from OHIO, this has been as much of a rollercoaster and the rollercoasters i have been riding at Cedar Point .. ( that is a amusement park that i have been going to ) .. I did it,... a lot of firsts during the last 9 days .. I drove self and my children from Flor...
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Tammy
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Fathers Day/update
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Lastnight I made a real nice dinner for AH as we are to be away for the BIG Day! I phoned him to let him know i was prepairing something for him... mistake i don't know or care for that matter. Any way of course he did not come home and yes i admit i was angery for the fact that i did make the effort as...
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This is not the life I ordered
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what a wonderful 6 days it had been. I suppose she was sober. she was pleasant & not annoying like she is tonite. I had to work Wed from 8pm to 8am. the man I sit with was up & down almost every hour on the hour. We had to go to town & do some errands. She picked me up a little after 8 am this morning. We...
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hmrnrnmm
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AA meetings
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((((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))))))),
Just wanted to share this with you. Hubby and I have been going AA meetings this week. I can tell you it is one of the most amazing things I have ever experienced. We found some afternoon and night meetings that are not far. N...
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Karilynn
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Powerless
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Feeling very powerless at the moment. This week has been pretty intense....as usual, I am not getting much sleep. I feel like I am being #$@! on right now, that someone somewhere is having a good laugh at my misery and my stress. So much is just going sideways, like nothing is ment to go right this week. I f...
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buzzfree
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Anger Lost! PLease Return
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This is what i find truly very difficult in the Alanon Program and its growth. I have left Alanon on more than one occasion because of this reason. My instinct is to do the same now, run and run fast and far and dont look back. For the first time in my life my anger has been lifted a...
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kerry5
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Reflections
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Worrying is like the motor when the car is standing still:the motor gets hot,the parts wear out,fuel is wasted and you're going nowhere.
Life is hard by the yard;it's a cinch by the inch.
We teach others how to treat us;we teach by permitting.
Forum 1988
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angel123
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children
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i was in my f2f tonight and the topic of rejection was brought up and how alanon helps me cope. i was thinking of what happened yesterday with the lady and the stop sign incident and how ashamed i felt. i felt like the worst person on earth because this woman was yelling at me. her point was correct but it str...
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serendipity
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May I remind you
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What is said it chat room ,who you see it chat room, stays in chat room. This is per our policy and has been discussed at business meetings.
Josey
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jrtjosey
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Two roads to recovery
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Hello Friends,
Well yesterday was 6 months for me attending alanon....and wow my life has sure gone thru some ups and downs in these past 6 months.....I have learned much here...also know there is much to learn.....
Hub is home from rehab....I see he is trying...attending meetings everyda...
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Andrea12
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hate the smell
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Hi Friends
I absolutely HATE the smell of alcohol from his body as he sleeps in bed next to me. There I said it.
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Elizabeth M
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How important is it...
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((((Everyone))))
Last night all h*ll broke loose. We are going to a lake house for the weekend. Since my AW and ASon and his fiance don't work on fridays they decided they wanted to leave yesterday. Well... I have to work today and the fiance got off at 9:00 last night. So th...
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rtexas
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help for an Alanon mom
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I know that I do not have it nearly as bad as most people on this board. I really don't live daily (phyically...that is) with my A son. He is still living with me but is gone most of the time. However, I am still struggling with the obsessive thoughts and worries when I don't hear from him. When I call his cell...
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Gailey
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TYTYTYTYTYTY!!!!
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Just a really quick note to say a huge THANK YOU to all. You have offered support, encouragement, a little nudge, nope not a nudge, a little push, nope not a push.....dang what's the word.....oh yeah, a kick in the tush to steer me along the way.
THANK YOU all for sharing your ESH!!!! If I c...
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lilms
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what a day
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i had to price most of my father's things for a garage sale a friend and i are having. it was hard to go thru his stuff and feel the memories. then i had a friend from the program help me move some things from my old house which i haven't been to in 6 weeks--just avoiding. the place is a wreck and it hurts s...
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serendipity
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ESH?
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What does that mean? I'm new here and I have tried just about every combination of words for those letters and I still haven't figured it out.
Please enlighten me.
TKS
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Mobirdie
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help
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I have been married for 19 years. My husband is a great guy, but an addict. He is trying to get off Vicodin right now but in a month or so it will be something else. He get addicted to something different every 6 months or a year. He is a great guy, good father to our 2 children and we...
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Lizza
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Old Tapes play in my head... ESH please
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OLd tapes play in my head all the time. I used to think that this was normal. That it was certainly reasonable to allow past experience to affect the way I think today, the things that I do today, the way I react today.... then I found Al-Anon. Oh how tricky this makes things... yeah I k...
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confused
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SELF WORTH:Do you treat yourself well physically, mentally, and spirtually?
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Living with active alcoholism , or long after the alcoholic has gone, seriously affects our feeling of self worth. I know for me I blamed myself for years for someone elses drinking, I knew it had to me somehow someway that I had "made" this person drink. When I was a child I thought my dad drank because I d...
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gardengal
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What Addicts Do
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I found this quite some time ago on another forum and it helped me to put things in perspective so much that I keep it in my documents folder so I can read it again when I need to. I hope it helps you all as much as it did me.
My name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do.
Y...
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Mobirdie
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Help me understand
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My father died yesterday and my A escalated in anger about it until he was screaming ** your Dad and ** your Mom and ** your sister. It was awful. He said I shouldn't be manipulated into going to the funeral, that my dad deserted me when I was a kid and he hurt me and I don't know "those peo...
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patience
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looong share on cleaning up old resentments
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I am worth the time and effort of pursuing recovery rather than stewing in mydifficulties. I am going about the process of determining, with as much honesty as possible, justwhat makes me tick.
>>>>>>>>>>>yes, i am WORTH knowing me, the WHY and HOW i got these...
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rosie light shines
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IN LOVING MEMORY OF C.JOHNSON
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Today 6/15 is the anniversary of my a-ex boyfriend Father’s death. My ex once told me he thought that his was father wasn’t proud of him and he felt bad about this after his death.
Now that my ex-is getting sober and going to meetings everyday I hope he feels better. I will...
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angelnomore
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My story
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If I write this out, the whole story it could be a book, so I won't lay out all of the details but those of you that have children that are suffering with an addiction can probably fill in the blanks.
My son is 37, married twice, divorced twice and four children that he isnt supporting. Things had b...
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Mobirdie
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Cuts & Scars
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When I first came to the Program at 17 I had a few pretty neat visual realisations... ahead of my time & unable to fully actualize them ~ this is one:
Being such a sensitive & expressive person, an empath able to pick up other people's feelings, I was very in touch with and expressing tha...
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kitty
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Confused
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Life has been fantastic for the last 6 months - my new relationship has been downright perfect and then it happened - the FIRST FIGHT. It took well 5 1/2 months really for it to happen and now I am the little scared small child waiting for everything to just fall apart. I dont fight well and it...
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Cyn
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FOR ALL NEWCOMERS HERE SOME INFORMATION
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Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand.
World Service Organization Website –
WWW.al-anon.alateen.org
Alanon meetings 1-888-425-2666
Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.h...
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nycbt
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Signs that Sister is calming down!
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Well, the first signs are already there....mom let me know today that she talked to my sister and she has decided to keep the dog since the kids are so crazy about her!!!  Thank you higher power!!! I "Let Go and Let God" and He took care of it.
Mom is now on her "list" becaus...
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tishrijo
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The death of a public forum...
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I want to share something with everyone and I don't really even want any replies. I promise I will not ever provide another post on this board that is not a cry for help or ESH.
I participate in several very high volume boards for one of my hobbies. It was a wonderful place where you&...
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rtexas
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Banned an IP today - focus on recovery
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Hi group - as one of the board moderators, I banned a user's IP this morning, as their posts were becoming aggressive and beligerent, to the point of basically "poking a stick" at the board in general, individuals, and any non-Christians out there.
On behalf of the MIP board, I want to apologize for t...
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canadianguy
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Welcome SLS
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Welcome to MIP!
Guess your HP found something for you to begin posting. HP sure puts it out there for our taking...doesn't he?
Can't wait to hear more from you.
YFIR...Gail
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Gailey
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My life is really unmanageable
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(((Hello Group)))
Its been a heck of morning already and the day has just begun. Last night was a doozy too. My A wanted "Family Time" o.k. I'll take that its not everyday that he says he wants it. So I obliged him. We attempted to take the kids to a new restaraunt, but unfortu...
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chat room
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I am new to this chat room. All the postings are from last year. Is this still active?
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Lizza
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a new poem
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In my imagination, everything exists the way I choose to imagine it The things I imagine are in the wonder of it all: the possiblities that exist and the feelings those possiblities evoke. Imagination has no beginning, no end, no flaws. It's our playground, we create our images and we c...
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mac57
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Al-Anon Cookbook
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Just wondering if anyone has heard how the cookbook entries are progressing. For you new folk, check out the Cookbook posts, and send in a recipe!
Love in Recovery,
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Father's Day, A wish and a reflection
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Just wanted to come in and wish all the dads out there a very Happy Father's Day!! This will be the first year we get to celebrate Father's Day for my eldest son (baby due July 24th). What a pleasure it has been watching him grow and mature. His gf has a 3 year old and he is just so marvelous with him, so patient...
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kismetstrand
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Am I being ERASED??? May I ask why? Ooopps, already know!
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this post was deleted - inappropriate for an Al-Anon forum. -- Edited by canadianguy at 13:16, 2006-06-15
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Help!
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I'm feeling so overwhelmed right now, I think I just really need some caring, and happy thoughts. A lot of things seem to be going wrong all of a sudden, and I'm really scared about the future. I'm starting to question what I'm going to do with my life. A lot of things hit me at once, and I'm tired. I'm so tire...
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Miranda
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ESH on trust please...
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As many of you now, my AH and I have recently reconciled after a 6 month separation. I am having trouble with trust. Trusting myself, trusting others (including my Ah) and trusting my HP. Was looking for any ESH on trust that you all might be willing to share. I do believe that...
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confused
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AH wants me back
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(((((family))))
Hello precious alanoners. I haven't posted for awhile but I've been here.Been going to meetings.I am currently reading 'getting them sober'.It's mostly for people with active A's which I do not have,but still I am learning a lot.
Things have fallen apart between my AH and his o...
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Hello everyone
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I just found you all and am looking forward to getting to know you all. I just celebrated my first anniversary in Alanon and thank my higher power every day for leading me where I needed to be for me.
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Mobirdie
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waiting for the shoe to drop
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My A has a pattern of intense relationships with others. He starts off well with idealizing. They are the greatest, they love him, they are all buddies. There are needless to say not that many boundaries there. It has got better I must say. A few years ago (before I had a program too) he had a friend...
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maresie2
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esh
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i just found out that my ah sold somethings that i was planning on selling. and really it should be about the money considering i am overdrawn, have no income currently and he has given me 60 dollars in the past 3 months as "support" for 3 kids. but it isn't about the money. it is about him not telling me. i am...
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serendipity
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back to recovery!!!!!!!
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well today is a new story compared to yesterday with my a. when he got home from his meeting we went out and got alot accomplished then watched some movies last night. today he got up and went to his meetings and came home with his first chip. and wants to go to the CA convention next weekend. he says i love me...
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notsonew1111
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Stranger calling..
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hey guys
how are ye all doing?
it feels like an eternity since i was here daily..posting my life story.. i miss it and i miss u guys.
im doing really well. im working away... writing a novel (no less), and generally keeping busy, im meeting up with friends more...and doing creative proje...
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Rebecca
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I can't believe this is happening...HELP PLEASE
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Well, here we go again...
Quick backround...I'm 42, mom is an alcoholic. Ex-H is an alcoholic. 22 year old son got his first DUI and possession charge this year. I just joined ACOA two weeks ago and want to learn how to live my life with this and deal with all of the BS that haunts me....
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