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kerry5 · kerry5

This is what i find truly very difficult in the Alanon Program and its growth. I have left Alanon on more than one occasion because of this reason. My instinct is to do the same now, run and run fast and far and dont look back. For the first time in my life my anger has been lifted a...

angel123 · angel123

Worrying is like the motor when the car is standing still:the motor gets hot,the parts wear out,fuel is wasted and you're going nowhere. Life is hard by the yard;it's a cinch by the inch. We teach others how to treat us;we teach by permitting. Forum 1988

serendipity · serendipity

i was in my f2f tonight and the topic of rejection was brought up and how alanon helps me cope. i was thinking of what happened yesterday with the lady and the stop sign incident and how ashamed i felt. i felt like the worst person on earth because this woman was yelling at me. her point was correct but it str...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

What is said it chat room ,who you see it chat room, stays in chat room. This is per our policy and has been discussed at business meetings. Josey

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Well yesterday was 6 months for me attending alanon....and wow my life has sure gone thru some ups and downs in these past 6 months.....I have learned much here...also know there is much to learn..... Hub is home from rehab....I see he is trying...attending meetings everyda...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Hi Friends I absolutely HATE the smell of alcohol from his body as he sleeps in bed next to me. There I said it.

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Last night all h*ll broke loose. We are going to a lake house for the weekend. Since my AW and ASon and his fiance don't work on fridays they decided they wanted to leave yesterday. Well... I have to work today and the fiance got off at 9:00 last night. So th...

Gailey · Gailey

I know that I do not have it nearly as bad as most people on this board. I really don't live daily (phyically...that is) with my A son. He is still living with me but is gone most of the time. However, I am still struggling with the obsessive thoughts and worries when I don't hear from him. When I call his cell...

lilms · lilms

Just a really quick note to say a huge THANK YOU to all. You have offered support, encouragement, a little nudge, nope not a nudge, a little push, nope not a push.....dang what's the word.....oh yeah, a kick in the tush to steer me along the way. THANK YOU all for sharing your ESH!!!! If I c...

serendipity · serendipity

i had to price most of my father's things for a garage sale a friend and i are having. it was hard to go thru his stuff and feel the memories. then i had a friend from the program help me move some things from my old house which i haven't been to in 6 weeks--just avoiding. the place is a wreck and it hurts s...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

What does that mean? I'm new here and I have tried just about every combination of words for those letters and I still haven't figured it out. Please enlighten me. TKS

Lizza · Lizza

I have been married for 19 years. My husband is a great guy, but an addict. He is trying to get off Vicodin right now but in a month or so it will be something else. He get addicted to something different every 6 months or a year. He is a great guy, good father to our 2 children and we...

confused · confused

OLd tapes play in my head all the time. I used to think that this was normal. That it was certainly reasonable to allow past experience to affect the way I think today, the things that I do today, the way I react today.... then I found Al-Anon. Oh how tricky this makes things... yeah I k...

gardengal · gardengal

Living with active alcoholism , or long after the alcoholic has gone, seriously affects our feeling of self worth. I know for me I blamed myself for years for someone elses drinking, I knew it had to me somehow someway that I had "made" this person drink. When I was a child I thought my dad drank because I d...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I found this quite some time ago on another forum and it helped me to put things in perspective so much that I keep it in my documents folder so I can read it again when I need to. I hope it helps you all as much as it did me. My name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do. Y...

patience · patience

My father died yesterday and my A escalated in anger about it until he was screaming ** your Dad and ** your Mom and ** your sister. It was awful. He said I shouldn't be manipulated into going to the funeral, that my dad deserted me when I was a kid and he hurt me and I don't know "those peo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

I am worth the time and effort of pursuing recovery rather than stewing in mydifficulties. I am going about the process of determining, with as much honesty as possible, justwhat makes me tick. >>>>>>>>>>>yes, i am WORTH knowing me, the WHY and HOW i got these...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Today 6/15 is the anniversary of my a-ex boyfriend Father’s death. My ex once told me he thought that his was father wasn’t proud of him and he felt bad about this after his death. Now that my ex-is getting sober and going to meetings everyday I hope he feels better. I will...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

If I write this out, the whole story it could be a book, so I won't lay out all of the details but those of you that have children that are suffering with an addiction can probably fill in the blanks. My son is 37, married twice, divorced twice and four children that he isnt supporting. Things had b...

kitty · kitty

When I first came to the Program at 17 I had a few pretty neat visual realisations... ahead of my time & unable to fully actualize them ~ this is one: Being such a sensitive & expressive person, an empath able to pick up other people's feelings, I was very in touch with and expressing tha...

Cyn · Cyn

Life has been fantastic for the last 6 months - my new relationship has been downright perfect and then it happened - the FIRST FIGHT. It took well 5 1/2 months really for it to happen and now I am the little scared small child waiting for everything to just fall apart. I dont fight well and it...

nycbt · nycbt

Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand. World Service Organization Website – WWW.al-anon.alateen.org Alanon meetings 1-888-425-2666 Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.h...

tishrijo · tishrijo

Well, the first signs are already there....mom let me know today that she talked to my sister and she has decided to keep the dog since the kids are so crazy about her!!!

Thank you higher power!!! I "Let Go and Let God" and He took care of it. Mom is now on her "list" becaus...

rtexas · rtexas

I want to share something with everyone and I don't really even want any replies. I promise I will not ever provide another post on this board that is not a cry for help or ESH. I participate in several very high volume boards for one of my hobbies. It was a wonderful place where you&...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi group - as one of the board moderators, I banned a user's IP this morning, as their posts were becoming aggressive and beligerent, to the point of basically "poking a stick" at the board in general, individuals, and any non-Christians out there. On behalf of the MIP board, I want to apologize for t...

Gailey · Gailey

Welcome to MIP! Guess your HP found something for you to begin posting. HP sure puts it out there for our taking...doesn't he? Can't wait to hear more from you. YFIR...Gail

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) Its been a heck of morning already and the day has just begun. Last night was a doozy too. My A wanted "Family Time" o.k. I'll take that its not everyday that he says he wants it. So I obliged him. We attempted to take the kids to a new restaraunt, but unfortu...

Lizza · Lizza

I am new to this chat room. All the postings are from last year. Is this still active?

mac57 · mac57

In my imagination, everything exists the way I choose to imagine it

The things I imagine are in the wonder of it all: the possiblities that exist and the feelings those possiblities evoke. Imagination has no beginning, no end, no flaws. It's our playground, we create our images and we c...

Becky1 · Becky1

Just wondering if anyone has heard how the cookbook entries are progressing. For you new folk, check out the Cookbook posts, and send in a recipe! Love in Recovery, Becky1

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Just wanted to come in and wish all the dads out there a very Happy Father's Day!! This will be the first year we get to celebrate Father's Day for my eldest son (baby due July 24th). What a pleasure it has been watching him grow and mature. His gf has a 3 year old and he is just so marvelous with him, so patient...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

this post was deleted - inappropriate for an Al-Anon forum. -- Edited by canadianguy at 13:16, 2006-06-15

Miranda · Miranda

I'm feeling so overwhelmed right now, I think I just really need some caring, and happy thoughts. A lot of things seem to be going wrong all of a sudden, and I'm really scared about the future. I'm starting to question what I'm going to do with my life. A lot of things hit me at once, and I'm tired. I'm so tire...

confused · confused

As many of you now, my AH and I have recently reconciled after a 6 month separation. I am having trouble with trust. Trusting myself, trusting others (including my Ah) and trusting my HP. Was looking for any ESH on trust that you all might be willing to share. I do believe that...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((family)))) Hello precious alanoners. I haven't posted for awhile but I've been here.Been going to meetings.I am currently reading 'getting them sober'.It's mostly for people with active A's which I do not have,but still I am learning a lot. Things have fallen apart between my AH and his o...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I just found you all and am looking forward to getting to know you all. I just celebrated my first anniversary in Alanon and thank my higher power every day for leading me where I needed to be for me.

maresie2 · maresie2

My A has a pattern of intense relationships with others. He starts off well with idealizing. They are the greatest, they love him, they are all buddies. There are needless to say not that many boundaries there. It has got better I must say. A few years ago (before I had a program too) he had a friend...

serendipity · serendipity

i just found out that my ah sold somethings that i was planning on selling. and really it should be about the money considering i am overdrawn, have no income currently and he has given me 60 dollars in the past 3 months as "support" for 3 kids. but it isn't about the money. it is about him not telling me. i am...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well today is a new story compared to yesterday with my a. when he got home from his meeting we went out and got alot accomplished then watched some movies last night. today he got up and went to his meetings and came home with his first chip. and wants to go to the CA convention next weekend. he says i love me...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey guys how are ye all doing? it feels like an eternity since i was here daily..posting my life story.. i miss it and i miss u guys. im doing really well. im working away... writing a novel (no less), and generally keeping busy, im meeting up with friends more...and doing creative proje...

Little Lisa · Little Lisa

Well, here we go again... Quick backround...I'm 42, mom is an alcoholic. Ex-H is an alcoholic. 22 year old son got his first DUI and possession charge this year. I just joined ACOA two weeks ago and want to learn how to live my life with this and deal with all of the BS that haunts me....

peewee · peewee

Now that tropical storm Alberto has passed florida, I can share some lighter more fun names a buddy and I concocted for this season's hurricanes. Hurricane Alfonzo Hurricane Big Bird Hurricane Chickie Hurricane Done Hurricane Elmo Hurricane Fluffy More to come later......

sparkette · sparkette

I do so much reflection in my undergraduate work. Somehow I hadn't transfered that to this board. I was talking to a friend yesterday about the board and how I haven't read back over the many posts I have written. Funny that I only got to late January before I found something that almost broke my own heart...

Vega · Vega

Well last friday was my A's first day allowed out of the halfway house alone after being there for 2 weeks and spending 3 weeks in rehab. He had some sort of meeting to attend and took a bus a few towns away. On saturday he came back to my area to visit me and attend a small birthday get together with friends. W...

Diva · Diva

Let me know if and when you're going to be over San Antonio way. I'll take ya to lunch at some high class joint. Diva

John · John

Our secondary entrance into the room at http://www.mipchat.net is now functional and available for entrance into the Al-Anon room. If for some reason you can not access the chat room from the 12stepforums.net site, you might want to try mipchat.net. If you still have problems gettin...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((John))))))))))))), Great webmaster of the universe,

what's going on with the chat room? Now I know this is me, the computer illiterate of the bunch, but what's going on when I enter it through the link up above?

Please get me back to the land...

Lindy · Lindy

I'm still trying to get over the last two weeks with my AH home from work, lying to me, and being drunk when I get home. Over the weekend I was surrounded by alcoholics and their problems. My AH was with us and that guy can drink! I thought my AH could. Anyway, we were camping at a biker rally (I'm not into moto...

lilms · lilms

I went, it was good. They held a newcomer's meeting because I was there. I knew one person

but I managed.

I am going back, had a good connection with 2 of the womyn there, similar stuff. I think I will grow

Thanks for all your encouragement fol...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) For the last few days I have really struggled with my AW mental frame of mind. It just crushes me to the core to see her so distraught. She says "I" am making her physically ill and she just can't take it anymore. She wants to seperate. Now with the help of...

elikapika · elikapika

Hello, I don't know why I have waited so long to talk to anyone about this, my husband has been sober for 3 years now. But I still can't get passed the pain of the past. And I still don't trust him. We have 2 beautiful daughters 3 and 9 months old. I love my husband but I still hate him at the same time. He sti...

QOD · QOD

Ok so my realtor is coming tomorrow to take pics of the house for listing. We have known about this for a week. My AH won't get off his butt to do anything to prepare. Yesterday he DID work on the air handler but got so frustrated b/c he couldn't figure it out, he just gave up. And g...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), Hubby is home!

We got home yesterday afternoon. It was slow going, and slightly scary when he started to drive. But we went nice and slow and trusted HP to look after us. When he got out of the car and made it to t...

hersh · hersh

Hi Everyone.... I just had to share how this program really has helped me. This year began as a total roller coaster. I am sober 2 years now. My husband of 17 years was sober for one year (last year) without any program, and on January 1 of this year (his one year anniversary)...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone, i just wanted to share whats going on with me and what im doing about it with what im learning in this program. well my a had a relapse with crack a week ago, sunk lower then low and started back with cocaine's anonymous meetings. he has been going everyday but thats about it. said he is going to...

lebe27 · lebe27

Doctor faxed lab results to me from A's Friday visit to the Doctor. Hadn't been to see doctor since last fall. With drinking more and sober less these past number of months expected bloodwork to look worse but actually looks pretty much the same. Believe it or not actually somewha...

Lani · Lani

Hi Friends, Today I pulled out an old book and in it was something I received at an AL-Anon meeting last year. It is very thought provoking and wanted to share it. The author is unknown to me. You may want to copy and paste it. Here it goes: "We seem to use the word "love" to...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Thank you all for the support over the weekend it was nice to get that out and begin thinking about what I want and what I know I deserve. I deserve the best. I deserve to be with a person who really is committed and loves me as much as I love him. My A is unhealthy. He...

lilms · lilms

It is 8:16 am and I am off to my first f2f this morning. I am extremely nervous which is very odd for me. Hoping I run into no one I know, which is next to impossible

If there are people I know there I will have to stay very quiet until I see if anonymity is actually practised. I do...

Anita · Anita

Hi all, My name is Anita. My husband is an alcoholic and I am losing patience rapidly. I am hoping to find some wisdom from others in this forum. How do all of you deal with your alcoholic? Thanks

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Anger Lost! PLease Return (Preview) This is what i find truly very difficult in the Alanon Program and its growth. I have left Alanon on more than one occasion because of this reason. My instinct is to do the same now, run and run fast and far and dont look back. For the first time in my life my anger has been lifted a...	kerry5	7	473	Jun 17, 2006 by lilms
	Reflections (Preview) Worrying is like the motor when the car is standing still:the motor gets hot,the parts wear out,fuel is wasted and you're going nowhere. Life is hard by the yard;it's a cinch by the inch. We teach others how to treat us;we teach by permitting. Forum 1988	angel123	4	352	Jun 17, 2006 by Karilynn
	children (Preview) i was in my f2f tonight and the topic of rejection was brought up and how alanon helps me cope. i was thinking of what happened yesterday with the lady and the stop sign incident and how ashamed i felt. i felt like the worst person on earth because this woman was yelling at me. her point was correct but it str...	serendipity	1	380	Jun 17, 2006 by Maria123
	May I remind you (Preview) What is said it chat room ,who you see it chat room, stays in chat room. This is per our policy and has been discussed at business meetings. Josey	jrtjosey	6	498	Jun 17, 2006 by Karilynn
	Two roads to recovery (Preview) Hello Friends, Well yesterday was 6 months for me attending alanon....and wow my life has sure gone thru some ups and downs in these past 6 months.....I have learned much here...also know there is much to learn..... Hub is home from rehab....I see he is trying...attending meetings everyda...	Andrea12	6	484	Jun 17, 2006 by Tammy
	hate the smell (Preview) Hi Friends I absolutely HATE the smell of alcohol from his body as he sleeps in bed next to me. There I said it.	Elizabeth M	8	479	Jun 17, 2006 by Barbara
	How important is it... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Last night all h*ll broke loose. We are going to a lake house for the weekend. Since my AW and ASon and his fiance don't work on fridays they decided they wanted to leave yesterday. Well... I have to work today and the fiance got off at 9:00 last night. So th...	rtexas	7	493	Jun 16, 2006 by Dolphin123
	help for an Alanon mom (Preview) I know that I do not have it nearly as bad as most people on this board. I really don't live daily (phyically...that is) with my A son. He is still living with me but is gone most of the time. However, I am still struggling with the obsessive thoughts and worries when I don't hear from him. When I call his cell...	Gailey	5	377	Jun 16, 2006 by Dolphin123
	TYTYTYTYTYTY!!!! (Preview) Just a really quick note to say a huge THANK YOU to all. You have offered support, encouragement, a little nudge, nope not a nudge, a little push, nope not a push.....dang what's the word.....oh yeah, a kick in the tush to steer me along the way. THANK YOU all for sharing your ESH!!!! If I c...	lilms	3	481	Jun 16, 2006 by Karilynn
	what a day (Preview) i had to price most of my father's things for a garage sale a friend and i are having. it was hard to go thru his stuff and feel the memories. then i had a friend from the program help me move some things from my old house which i haven't been to in 6 weeks--just avoiding. the place is a wreck and it hurts s...	serendipity	4	476	Jun 16, 2006 by Dolphin123
	ESH? (Preview) What does that mean? I'm new here and I have tried just about every combination of words for those letters and I still haven't figured it out. Please enlighten me. TKS	Mobirdie	3	440	Jun 16, 2006 by mac57
	help (Preview) I have been married for 19 years. My husband is a great guy, but an addict. He is trying to get off Vicodin right now but in a month or so it will be something else. He get addicted to something different every 6 months or a year. He is a great guy, good father to our 2 children and we...	Lizza	10	451	Jun 16, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Old Tapes play in my head... ESH please (Preview) OLd tapes play in my head all the time. I used to think that this was normal. That it was certainly reasonable to allow past experience to affect the way I think today, the things that I do today, the way I react today.... then I found Al-Anon. Oh how tricky this makes things... yeah I k...	confused	6	1417	Jun 16, 2006 by kitty
	SELF WORTH:Do you treat yourself well physically, mentally, and spirtually? (Preview) Living with active alcoholism , or long after the alcoholic has gone, seriously affects our feeling of self worth. I know for me I blamed myself for years for someone elses drinking, I knew it had to me somehow someway that I had "made" this person drink. When I was a child I thought my dad drank because I d...	gardengal	2	470	Jun 16, 2006 by diamond
	What Addicts Do (Preview) I found this quite some time ago on another forum and it helped me to put things in perspective so much that I keep it in my documents folder so I can read it again when I need to. I hope it helps you all as much as it did me. My name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do. Y...	Mobirdie	4	702	Jun 16, 2006 by diamond
	Help me understand (Preview) My father died yesterday and my A escalated in anger about it until he was screaming your Dad and your Mom and ** your sister. It was awful. He said I shouldn't be manipulated into going to the funeral, that my dad deserted me when I was a kid and he hurt me and I don't know "those peo...	patience	7	585	Jun 16, 2006 by patience
	looong share on cleaning up old resentments (Preview) I am worth the time and effort of pursuing recovery rather than stewing in mydifficulties. I am going about the process of determining, with as much honesty as possible, justwhat makes me tick. >>>>>>>>>>>yes, i am WORTH knowing me, the WHY and HOW i got these...	rosie light shines	1	364	Jun 16, 2006 by Christy
	IN LOVING MEMORY OF C.JOHNSON (Preview) Today 6/15 is the anniversary of my a-ex boyfriend Father’s death. My ex once told me he thought that his was father wasn’t proud of him and he felt bad about this after his death. Now that my ex-is getting sober and going to meetings everyday I hope he feels better. I will...	angelnomore	2	482	Jun 16, 2006 by aunitedway
	My story (Preview) If I write this out, the whole story it could be a book, so I won't lay out all of the details but those of you that have children that are suffering with an addiction can probably fill in the blanks. My son is 37, married twice, divorced twice and four children that he isnt supporting. Things had b...	Mobirdie	9	446	Jun 16, 2006 by mel123
	Cuts & Scars (Preview) When I first came to the Program at 17 I had a few pretty neat visual realisations... ahead of my time & unable to fully actualize them ~ this is one: Being such a sensitive & expressive person, an empath able to pick up other people's feelings, I was very in touch with and expressing tha...	kitty	4	821	Jun 16, 2006 by marchgrl
	Confused (Preview) Life has been fantastic for the last 6 months - my new relationship has been downright perfect and then it happened - the FIRST FIGHT. It took well 5 1/2 months really for it to happen and now I am the little scared small child waiting for everything to just fall apart. I dont fight well and it...	Cyn	5	415	Jun 16, 2006 by Dolphin123
	FOR ALL NEWCOMERS HERE SOME INFORMATION (Preview) Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand. World Service Organization Website – WWW.al-anon.alateen.org Alanon meetings 1-888-425-2666 Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.h...	nycbt	0	393	Jun 16, 2006 by nycbt
	Signs that Sister is calming down! (Preview) Well, the first signs are already there....mom let me know today that she talked to my sister and she has decided to keep the dog since the kids are so crazy about her!!! Thank you higher power!!! I "Let Go and Let God" and He took care of it. Mom is now on her "list" becaus...	tishrijo	1	365	Jun 16, 2006 by just me
	The death of a public forum... (Preview) I want to share something with everyone and I don't really even want any replies. I promise I will not ever provide another post on this board that is not a cry for help or ESH. I participate in several very high volume boards for one of my hobbies. It was a wonderful place where you&...	rtexas	7	668	Jun 16, 2006 by Jennifer
	Banned an IP today - focus on recovery (Preview) Hi group - as one of the board moderators, I banned a user's IP this morning, as their posts were becoming aggressive and beligerent, to the point of basically "poking a stick" at the board in general, individuals, and any non-Christians out there. On behalf of the MIP board, I want to apologize for t...	canadianguy	4	550	Jun 16, 2006 by peewee
	Welcome SLS (Preview) Welcome to MIP! Guess your HP found something for you to begin posting. HP sure puts it out there for our taking...doesn't he? Can't wait to hear more from you. YFIR...Gail	Gailey	4	426	Jun 15, 2006 by SLS
	My life is really unmanageable (Preview) (((Hello Group))) Its been a heck of morning already and the day has just begun. Last night was a doozy too. My A wanted "Family Time" o.k. I'll take that its not everyday that he says he wants it. So I obliged him. We attempted to take the kids to a new restaraunt, but unfortu...	twinmom2	4	491	Jun 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	chat room (Preview) I am new to this chat room. All the postings are from last year. Is this still active?	Lizza	1	374	Jun 15, 2006 by abbyal
	a new poem (Preview) In my imagination, everything exists the way I choose to imagine it The things I imagine are in the wonder of it all: the possiblities that exist and the feelings those possiblities evoke. Imagination has no beginning, no end, no flaws. It's our playground, we create our images and we c...	mac57	10	451	Jun 15, 2006 by aunitedway
	Al-Anon Cookbook (Preview) Just wondering if anyone has heard how the cookbook entries are progressing. For you new folk, check out the Cookbook posts, and send in a recipe! Love in Recovery, Becky1	Becky1	0	317	Jun 15, 2006 by Becky1
	Father's Day, A wish and a reflection (Preview) Just wanted to come in and wish all the dads out there a very Happy Father's Day!! This will be the first year we get to celebrate Father's Day for my eldest son (baby due July 24th). What a pleasure it has been watching him grow and mature. His gf has a 3 year old and he is just so marvelous with him, so patient...	kismetstrand	3	371	Jun 15, 2006 by sparkette
	Am I being ERASED??? May I ask why? Ooopps, already know! (Preview) this post was deleted - inappropriate for an Al-Anon forum. -- Edited by canadianguy at 13:16, 2006-06-15	jennneeefffurrr	13	772	Jun 15, 2006 by John
	Help! (Preview) I'm feeling so overwhelmed right now, I think I just really need some caring, and happy thoughts. A lot of things seem to be going wrong all of a sudden, and I'm really scared about the future. I'm starting to question what I'm going to do with my life. A lot of things hit me at once, and I'm tired. I'm so tire...	Miranda	6	398	Jun 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	ESH on trust please... (Preview) As many of you now, my AH and I have recently reconciled after a 6 month separation. I am having trouble with trust. Trusting myself, trusting others (including my Ah) and trusting my HP. Was looking for any ESH on trust that you all might be willing to share. I do believe that...	confused	5	482	Jun 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	AH wants me back (Preview) (((((family)))) Hello precious alanoners. I haven't posted for awhile but I've been here.Been going to meetings.I am currently reading 'getting them sober'.It's mostly for people with active A's which I do not have,but still I am learning a lot. Things have fallen apart between my AH and his o...	drucilla06	3	499	Jun 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Hello everyone (Preview) I just found you all and am looking forward to getting to know you all. I just celebrated my first anniversary in Alanon and thank my higher power every day for leading me where I needed to be for me.	Mobirdie	5	391	Jun 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	waiting for the shoe to drop (Preview) My A has a pattern of intense relationships with others. He starts off well with idealizing. They are the greatest, they love him, they are all buddies. There are needless to say not that many boundaries there. It has got better I must say. A few years ago (before I had a program too) he had a friend...	maresie2	3	611	Jun 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	esh (Preview) i just found out that my ah sold somethings that i was planning on selling. and really it should be about the money considering i am overdrawn, have no income currently and he has given me 60 dollars in the past 3 months as "support" for 3 kids. but it isn't about the money. it is about him not telling me. i am...	serendipity	5	362	Jun 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	back to recovery!!!!!!! (Preview) well today is a new story compared to yesterday with my a. when he got home from his meeting we went out and got alot accomplished then watched some movies last night. today he got up and went to his meetings and came home with his first chip. and wants to go to the CA convention next weekend. he says i love me...	notsonew1111	3	370	Jun 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Stranger calling.. (Preview) hey guys how are ye all doing? it feels like an eternity since i was here daily..posting my life story.. i miss it and i miss u guys. im doing really well. im working away... writing a novel (no less), and generally keeping busy, im meeting up with friends more...and doing creative proje...	Rebecca	4	358	Jun 15, 2006 by Cyn
	I can't believe this is happening...HELP PLEASE (Preview) Well, here we go again... Quick backround...I'm 42, mom is an alcoholic. Ex-H is an alcoholic. 22 year old son got his first DUI and possession charge this year. I just joined ACOA two weeks ago and want to learn how to live my life with this and deal with all of the BS that haunts me....	Little Lisa	12	592	Jun 15, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Laughs re Hurricanes (Preview) Now that tropical storm Alberto has passed florida, I can share some lighter more fun names a buddy and I concocted for this season's hurricanes. Hurricane Alfonzo Hurricane Big Bird Hurricane Chickie Hurricane Done Hurricane Elmo Hurricane Fluffy More to come later......	peewee	2	387	Jun 15, 2006 by jrtjosey
	reflecting on an old post (Preview) I do so much reflection in my undergraduate work. Somehow I hadn't transfered that to this board. I was talking to a friend yesterday about the board and how I haven't read back over the many posts I have written. Funny that I only got to late January before I found something that almost broke my own heart...	sparkette	3	368	Jun 15, 2006 by sparkette
	relapses and snooping mothers (Preview) Well last friday was my A's first day allowed out of the halfway house alone after being there for 2 weeks and spending 3 weeks in rehab. He had some sort of meeting to attend and took a bus a few towns away. On saturday he came back to my area to visit me and attend a small birthday get together with friends. W...	Vega	8	383	Jun 15, 2006 by nycbt
	David62 (Preview) Let me know if and when you're going to be over San Antonio way. I'll take ya to lunch at some high class joint. Diva	Diva	1	405	Jun 15, 2006 by david62
	www.mipchat.net is functional (Preview) Our secondary entrance into the room at http://www.mipchat.net is now functional and available for entrance into the Al-Anon room. If for some reason you can not access the chat room from the 12stepforums.net site, you might want to try mipchat.net. If you still have problems gettin...	John	0	863	Jun 14, 2006 by John
	Chat room troubles (Preview) ((((((((((((((((John))))))))))))), Great webmaster of the universe, what's going on with the chat room? Now I know this is me, the computer illiterate of the bunch, but what's going on when I enter it through the link up above? Please get me back to the land...	Karilynn	1	426	Jun 14, 2006 by John
	Someone died of alcohol poisoning this weekend (Preview) I'm still trying to get over the last two weeks with my AH home from work, lying to me, and being drunk when I get home. Over the weekend I was surrounded by alcoholics and their problems. My AH was with us and that guy can drink! I thought my AH could. Anyway, we were camping at a biker rally (I'm not into moto...	Lindy	6	405	Jun 14, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	First Face 2 Face (Preview) I went, it was good. They held a newcomer's meeting because I was there. I knew one person but I managed. I am going back, had a good connection with 2 of the womyn there, similar stuff. I think I will grow Thanks for all your encouragement fol...	lilms	7	483	Jun 14, 2006 by serenity62
	Big decission... ESH please (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) For the last few days I have really struggled with my AW mental frame of mind. It just crushes me to the core to see her so distraught. She says "I" am making her physically ill and she just can't take it anymore. She wants to seperate. Now with the help of...	rtexas	9	447	Jun 14, 2006 by bobump
	New here, and still can't get passed this.. (Preview) Hello, I don't know why I have waited so long to talk to anyone about this, my husband has been sober for 3 years now. But I still can't get passed the pain of the past. And I still don't trust him. We have 2 beautiful daughters 3 and 9 months old. I love my husband but I still hate him at the same time. He sti...	elikapika	8	553	Jun 14, 2006 by Diva
	Realtor is coming & AH won't get off his butt!! (Preview) Ok so my realtor is coming tomorrow to take pics of the house for listing. We have known about this for a week. My AH won't get off his butt to do anything to prepare. Yesterday he DID work on the air handler but got so frustrated b/c he couldn't figure it out, he just gave up. And g...	QOD	2	419	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	Hubby is home! (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), Hubby is home! We got home yesterday afternoon. It was slow going, and slightly scary when he started to drive. But we went nice and slow and trusted HP to look after us. When he got out of the car and made it to t...	Karilynn	12	467	Jun 14, 2006 by chris52
	New Start for Me!!! THANKS!!! (Preview) Hi Everyone.... I just had to share how this program really has helped me. This year began as a total roller coaster. I am sober 2 years now. My husband of 17 years was sober for one year (last year) without any program, and on January 1 of this year (his one year anniversary)...	hersh	2	382	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	the rollercoaster begins!!!!!! (Preview) hi everyone, i just wanted to share whats going on with me and what im doing about it with what im learning in this program. well my a had a relapse with crack a week ago, sunk lower then low and started back with cocaine's anonymous meetings. he has been going everyday but thats about it. said he is going to...	notsonew1111	7	558	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	A's Bloodwork (Preview) Doctor faxed lab results to me from A's Friday visit to the Doctor. Hadn't been to see doctor since last fall. With drinking more and sober less these past number of months expected bloodwork to look worse but actually looks pretty much the same. Believe it or not actually somewha...	lebe27	3	358	Jun 14, 2006 by babysteps
	WHAT IS LOVE? (Preview) Hi Friends, Today I pulled out an old book and in it was something I received at an AL-Anon meeting last year. It is very thought provoking and wanted to share it. The author is unknown to me. You may want to copy and paste it. Here it goes: "We seem to use the word "love" to...	Lani	5	646	Jun 14, 2006 by Lani
	Giving me/A a time limit... (Preview) Hello Group, Thank you all for the support over the weekend it was nice to get that out and begin thinking about what I want and what I know I deserve. I deserve the best. I deserve to be with a person who really is committed and loves me as much as I love him. My A is unhealthy. He...	twinmom2	6	458	Jun 14, 2006 by maresie2
	Scared Spitless (Preview) It is 8:16 am and I am off to my first f2f this morning. I am extremely nervous which is very odd for me. Hoping I run into no one I know, which is next to impossible If there are people I know there I will have to stay very quiet until I see if anonymity is actually practised. I do...	lilms	6	442	Jun 14, 2006 by abbyal
	Newbie here... (Preview) Hi all, My name is Anita. My husband is an alcoholic and I am losing patience rapidly. I am hoping to find some wisdom from others in this forum. How do all of you deal with your alcoholic? Thanks	Anita	4	585	Jun 14, 2006 by abbyal
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