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Today 6/15 is the anniversary of my a-ex boyfriend Father’s death. My ex once told me he thought that his was father wasn’t proud of him and he felt bad about this after his death.
Now that my ex-is getting sober and going to meetings everyday I hope he feels better. I will not call my ex has I’m trying to heal from this relationship, however I did send him a card in the mail, sort of like an encouragement in it I said I was thinking of him and his family and there loss, and that I continue to pray for them and hope the sorrow become less painful.
As I write this post, pleoase know I’m not going to pretend that I don’t have the urge to call and tell him how much I miss him. I have to remain strong and focus on me, as difficult has this might be for me, I’m trying and with the grace of God I’ll get through this day/time and continue to move forward.
Thanks for reading my post and for being here for me, I know that I always vent here and always feel safe and secure.
Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.
Go face to face meeting & online meeting.
post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.
· Set support system. people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.
Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.
You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
Angelnomore, your in my thoughts today- for strength -- I pray you stay strong and are able to go on with your day, with your head up and your mind clear~ I believe that you have moved on into your day and are able to go ahead and ~ Let Go and Let God. ~ I'm positive that your xA knows that you are a kind and loving heart. I also believe he is thankful for the thought/card. I believe as you are hoping; just enough, perfect. No more need be done. what was said in it let him have some "good" to think about.... just the right touch ( because you did ) for what he needed from someone/anyone as he goes through this. (if it were me receiving the card ...it would of touched me in the way i needed to help me through the grieving... it was something heartfelt.) The card did what you felt/hoped to be...a little something to help keep him strong and looking forward.
I would just go onto pray HP/God keep close eyes on him and his family....and you know that HP will do just that. HP has You in HPS arms to hold too, always!