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Dog · Dog

I’ve been writing / signing contracts with my friends each day this week – 24 hrs no contact with my A. It’s worked! But he called me mid-week. I maintained decent boundaries but after reflecting on the call, I decided it did me no good at all. Further, I think any contact with me at all – ANY contact...

TLC2 · TLC2

can anyone tell me anything they know about pregnant mom's smoking pot, and how it can or does affect the baby? My son's prego ex-g'friend appears to be smoking all the pot she can get her hands on, and I'm worried how it will affect my grandchild??!! Thanx, TLC

dori · dori

Hi, I cant get into the chat room.I know I havent broken any guidelines so what gives.. dori

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

HI all, Wow! The power of this program is starting to give me a much needed shot in the arm! I came back into the rooms (this board for starters) and got back into my literature this week, after being gone for almost 3 years. I made a huge step in admitting how out of control my life is right...

LALA1 · LALA1

I had posted about me thinking my A (husband) was cheating on me and tonight I found out he realloy was. I am so devastated. It was like when I thought something it wasn't as hard to deal with and now I have to face the reality that he is once again. He says he has talked to his sponsor abou...

sister3 · sister3

Hello, I am new here...actually new to really entertaining the idea of being the sister of an alcoholic, even though it has been evident for years. I am just really struggling with getting him help and trying to be strong and not enable him to get the help that he needs. I went to scho...

Lindy · Lindy

I am on the verge of just taking off to another country and leaving EVERYTHING behind. I'm so tired of everything and everyone around me. I have to deal with my AH and his nasty comments to me. I am having trouble with my seven year old son. He's ADHD and on Ritalin to try to control it. I think we found the rig...

kerry5 · kerry5

This came in my email thought you would like it. Think i posted it a long while back. Here it is Natural Highs Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one... 1. Falling in love. 2. Laughing so hard your face hurts. 3. A hot shower. 4. No lines at the superma...

peaceofmind · peaceofmind

Hi I am an adult child of a alcoholic. I grew up in a alcoholic home for most of life and my dad stopped drinking after coming to AA for the past 10 years. However, as I have grown and progressed in my life, I find my past experiences and background having a profound effect on my behaviour. Anger for eg. H...

dori · dori

Hi, I have been in alanon about 3 years now.I went though a period where I was working on some areas in my life and wasnt going to many meetings . Now I am ready to get back in and have done some meetings on line and have posted here. My dilema is that my ex a and his new gf he met at AA now I hear go...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone... Thanks for this board. I have been saved by Alanon and the wisdom and love of other people in the program. I am fairly new. You know, I have worked the steps through AA, and am really trying to practice them in this program, and read up on codependency and Alanon lite...

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, I notice in reading many of the posts some of you have chosen absolutely no contact with your A's. No phone calls, no face to face visits. Even tho you have made a conscious choice for no contact, you still talk about missing your A's and resisting the temptation to call. Why do you chose no c...

nycbt · nycbt

Me and my friend were talking yesterday and the subject trust came up. We have issue trusting, both of our lives are going great, so why do we have problems trusting. Well my problem trusting my husband is because he is one of the a's in my life. He is going to aa, so he could go back to drinking all the time an...

kerry5 · kerry5

It amazes me lately my triggers. It takes a line in chat and a flood of memory comes without warining. Memories i wouldnt go to if a certain thing wasnt said. IT also amazes me the feelings that come with these memories. Every time this happens i so wish i could get my anger back. There...

Gailey · Gailey

Thank HP...I went to a meeting last night. It was on the 3rd step. There were alot of parents in that meeting and alot of stuff I needed to hear. I am pretty much able to detach this morning. Only by the Grace of HP and the Alanon program. I am kinda looking at it as a chance to let him suffer consequences and ge...

abbyal · abbyal

I am looking for someone with the REAL name of Sandy (not a nick name ) husb named Garry. If you could pm me I will explain why????? Louise

Belongtome · Belongtome

Well...thanks to Gailey, at least I'm working on it. She sent me a "sample" spreadsheet where she lists monthly expense, and the due date, date paid, etc. I just started filling it out, but also including the interest rate, and the balances for each, and the past due amount. I figured I...

Gailey · Gailey

I know that my HP has something better for me. I believe that our HP does have a plan for us. I can relate this to a spouse, bf or gf of an A. My problem comes in when I try to relate it to my child. As a spouse, bf or gf you can one day ,hopefully, have a better life without the A in your life. (I did) Ho...

Jennifer · Jennifer

hello ((Everyone)) When I said in my last post that things were getting ugly around here I grossly UNESTIMATED. Today has really been the topper for me and I need some serious advice and ESH. My AH called me at work and said he wanted to walk home with me. Sounded OK so I said sure. When he got there, he i...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, my AH boyfriend has been not drinking for four of five months now. He was in treatment for a while...went in by his own choice. He did have a lapse for a few days three weeks ago, and he and his drinking pals went out. Then the money ran out. We don't live together, and I detatched as best I coul...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have had some time away from my son as I have posted before. Sometime with my animals and me and work. In that time that I had I got alot of time to reflect on me. Which has been a real eye opening experiance for me. I have worked on all my relationships with my family. I have even been working on my relation...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

Hi all, Boy, I've just read some of the posts here and I have to say, coming to al-anon is like coming home -- to a more functional, loving home... a safe home, a comforting home... like running into your grandma's arms -- where you know it's all gonna be ok. I've been in and out of t...

debilyn · debilyn

Well he sends me a letter saying he does not want a divorce. So I just wrote one back saying well he better work hard on changing my mind. Told him I deserve respect. Plus I am tired of being a fool staying married to someone who makes it very apparent I am the last thing he thinks about. I need it to be over so...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

I haven't posted in a while, have been out of town a few weeks, but this post has been building for some time. I hope you don't mind my rambling share, it helps me to stay in what is real and stop putting things off as no big deal. I met my A at 18, we married at 25. I made the comment to him t...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

>>i thought this was a pretty cool thing on step eleven....i took parts of it, and i gave MY esh in the colored type It took me many years in Al-Anon to get to StepEleven, the "prayer and meditation" step. When Ifinally got there, after wrestling with Steps Fourthrough Ten, Ste...

hudsond · hudsond

Ok. I had a dream last night, that when I was awoken (is that a word) I thought oh my word. Thought I'd share it I was driving in my car after dropping my ah off at the mechanic's to drop off his truck. Then I decided he was probably hungry so I went to pick him up a pizza. Then in my rearview mirror and saw him...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Hello--Lately I've found myself into projection. Anytime my life hits a new growth spurt, I project. I can't do this; I'll be a failure; I'm going to bomb out; things like that. I talked with my sponsor and some program friends earlier today about projection and my stinkin' thinking. So I feel alot b...

lebe27 · lebe27

A started drinking again the day before yesterday. He only made it one week this time. This time excuse was guy he had given his old truck to and paid for his registration too boot didn't show to help him with some things around our house he was suppose to do as payment. The guy keeps ma...

shadow1 · shadow1

I just got a phone call from a friend. Her 14 year old daughter Amanda is undergoing testing for leukemia. Please say a prayer for her and her mother. They could use all the help they can get. Thanks Shadow

slkcma · slkcma

First I'd like to say that I hope you all find the peace you deserve! Peace and contentment is my goal. After all these years, I've finally realized that my surroundings and trying to change others around me isn't going to bring me that. I have alot of work to do within myself. I'll first mention...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have been working for 3 months now and so far the A has not conned me on any level out of money. Tonight I find out he made only a partial payment on the rent (he has done that for months I think) and we got a three day notice. The landlord is fed up with getting only partial payments and a song and dance (which t...

nycbt · nycbt

Since I started with Alanon my marriage to an a has gotten alot better. He bought me a flag ring no special reason. When I start we were having yelling matchs, i was staying at my parents house when he started to act up. I was taught how to put myself forward i am not perfect and i had a disagree yesterday howe...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH has money problems, mostly due to his drinking and gambling. He gets laid off from work and chooses to spend his time (and money) drinking and gambling. Last night he told me is trying to get a home equity type loan thru his union. He said he would use it to pay off his credit cards and remodel the bas...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Well....after getting all bent out of shape yesterday over my A's desire to put our money into his car instead of overdue bills....things just went downhill. The sale of the boat didn't go through, so there isn't enough money to worry about!!!! But, last night I had my weekly golf outing with daug...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there...to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that t...

Dog · Dog

I am new to Alanon... this week will be my f2f meeting, so I've been going about a month. I have a question for the oldtimers. I don't want to talk! It's not that I am shy. I am anything but shy, but so far, I have not had anything "authentic" to say during a meeting. I have chatted before the meetings, and been...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I cannot find a link to the pm box anywhere, maybe I'm just not seeing it. There is a message there that I want to reply to and darned if I can find my way there. TIA

dori · dori

Hi, I just went back and read morbies post on what addicts do and it was another reminder how blessed I am he is not in my life any more.It is so funny how some of us are blessed enough to get out of the relationship and we forget all the sleepless nights the cheating the lieing and the abuse and we tha...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Today is 30 days sober for my A. I can see the challenges he faced this month as well as myself. For me it was my insecurity, my anger, my fear. The behaviors are still there for the A. The anger and rages are not as bad. He has been able to control himself in s...

mandalynn38 · mandalynn38

I am having a hard day today. My A boyfriend went into a rage on Friday with that I have not seen him since Sunday morning. He came to my house on Saturday night late and he spent the night.. I dropped him off back to his house on sunday. I have not seen him or spoke to him since. My choice, because I have t...

Keoki · Keoki

Finally made it to a al-anon mtg. lotsa nice folks with lotsa encouragements! I plan on it being a weekly stop. Found the books that I've been told about too. I've been told that the alateen in my area will be starting up again so that the kids will have the help that they need to...

heartless39470 · heartless39470

I never thought my life would end up like it is. I always dreamed of being happily married with the house white picket fence, & the kids. Needless to say it didn't end up like that. I met my husband in highschool. I loved him unconditionally. As teenagers we did our share of partying. I never thought h...

Belongtome · Belongtome

I'm losing it...and I'd been doing so well. I guess when things are going okay, I think I don't have to work my program...especially the "being good to myself" part, and then it all slides downhill. I looked back over my own posts, and it seems like I have this recording that is broken...isn't t...

angel123 · angel123

Detachment means not worrying,not judging and not rescuing. Hope ever tells us tomarrow will be better. If we share another's burden,both of us will walk straighter. Just for today I will treat myself gently and nuture the child within. Losers say"I can't"winners say,"I'll t...

Lindy · Lindy

Just when I start to kind of pull myself together something my AH does comes back to bring me back down. I was starting to feel a little better today after the bad weekend I had. I checked my checking account on-line just now and found four $29 overdraft charges on my account. My money is separate from my...

Gailey · Gailey

Lately I have been so disorganized. My desk at work seems to always be a mess. I spend too much time on this board and do not seem to get things done the way I used to. I think I am becoming addicted to MIP. At home I do not get things done unless I am "under the gun" so to speak. I am last minute with everything. It...

April306 · April306

I'm sorry to say I rarely post here but do read all of your thoughts and experiences and they help me so much. I do go to alanon meetings every week also and am doing my best to work the program and feel better. However, for the past month or so I have been crying every day, even at work and even in...

serendipity · serendipity

i want to talk to my ah and tell him that insted of doing whatever it is he is doing he should be with his kids. he had a whole day that he didn't work and he never even called to ask if he could be with our 3 year old. i bet it never even occured to him. i know it didn't. or he sees his son from a prevoius marria...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

I am quite new to Al-Alon and never been to a meeting yet. I ahve a few questions about them I am hoping ypou can answer. 1. Are they for anyone who suffers form A in thier family? i.e. ACoA and spouses, etc... 2. Does it matter where you go I noticed that all the one in my area have differnt names, does t...

allison · allison

Hi everyone...more crap for me to vent about.quick history...my active A husband has been gone 7 months.we have 4 children and he gives me no money..infact he has cost me money...credit card bills..income tax debts etc. he has been living with his brother and he finally had enough and left the apt. an...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((((((Lmt))))))))))))))))))))), Where are you sweet friend? I miss seeing you! Love and blessings to you and your family! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Today has been tough. Last nite I did a sleep study test. The paper work trigger the past for me. One question asked to underline words that describe yourself. Lazy, no good, deadbeat, on & on for almost a whole paragraph then the descriptions started getting better and more p...

hudsond · hudsond

Hi there everybody. I haven't been on in a few weeks. I used to get online at school and well it's closed for the summer, and I mistakenly thought I could handle alone for a few weeks. INSANITY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I thought things were going pretty good. I knew not great, but amazing when you aren't...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Thought I'd share our meeting topic last night: Waiting. Waiting can be a good thing in program, making wise choices when we are not angry and/or impulsive. Waiting on the other hand, well, you know, makes us feel like we are just sinking more into the quicksand.&nb...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((((Everyone)))) I haven't talked lately about where I am or what I am doing so here it goes .... I moved back to the house 2 weeks ago, by choice but not for long. I need time to pack and sort, do repairs etc. I found chaos and mayhem. So here I am changing what I can. While I stay here I do...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

Last night I got into an aruement with my wife and it it hasn't ended yet. She went out last night and I was at home with our two kids. They really pushed me to the limits when it came to bed time and it took everything I had to stay cool. About 45 minutes after my eldest (2 1/2 years old) went to bed my youngest (1...

confused · confused

I have been really busy with baaseball, kids, meetings etc and have only had time to get my online fix by reading and occasionally a quick reply. Today was the last day of school for the summer and I am so looking forward to being able to be a better participant here at MIP. I just wanted to say that...

angel123 · angel123

Affirmations: ..I PLEDGE ALLEGIANCE .. To all the things that are good about me.... And I shall from this day forward, No longer try to be everything to everybody. Nor will I be someone I'm not. I shall no longer use all my energies to fulfill the dreams of others while mine go unattended. I shall use my as...

Rita G · Rita G

Today is my youngest granddaughter's first birthday, Caroline Olivia - I haven't seen her in over three months. Her mom, Ashley (our daughter) is the one that I saw last week in rehab. Caroline is staying with her other grandparents(Ashley's Mom & Step-Dad) who do no...

lilms · lilms

Am a little bit, no a big bit confused here. Detachemnt to me means not diving a damn. What does it mean to you all. I can detach, shut down, not care...all of those things. I cannot care and detach at the same time. Any thoughts?????? Ty all lilms

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	The Next Challenge and a question (Preview) I’ve been writing / signing contracts with my friends each day this week – 24 hrs no contact with my A. It’s worked! But he called me mid-week. I maintained decent boundaries but after reflecting on the call, I decided it did me no good at all. Further, I think any contact with me at all – ANY contact...	Dog	1	328	Jun 24, 2006 by just me
	pregnant mom's smoking pot (Preview) can anyone tell me anything they know about pregnant mom's smoking pot, and how it can or does affect the baby? My son's prego ex-g'friend appears to be smoking all the pot she can get her hands on, and I'm worried how it will affect my grandchild??!! Thanx, TLC	TLC2	4	461	Jun 24, 2006 by TLC2
	chat room (Preview) Hi, I cant get into the chat room.I know I havent broken any guidelines so what gives.. dori	dori	2	312	Jun 24, 2006 by Ria
	took a step today (Preview) HI all, Wow! The power of this program is starting to give me a much needed shot in the arm! I came back into the rooms (this board for starters) and got back into my literature this week, after being gone for almost 3 years. I made a huge step in admitting how out of control my life is right...	itsgot2bgd	1	460	Jun 23, 2006 by Ria
	Totally Devastated (Preview) I had posted about me thinking my A (husband) was cheating on me and tonight I found out he realloy was. I am so devastated. It was like when I thought something it wasn't as hard to deal with and now I have to face the reality that he is once again. He says he has talked to his sponsor abou...	LALA1	12	576	Jun 23, 2006 by debilyn
	my brother (Preview) Hello, I am new here...actually new to really entertaining the idea of being the sister of an alcoholic, even though it has been evident for years. I am just really struggling with getting him help and trying to be strong and not enable him to get the help that he needs. I went to scho...	sister3	6	432	Jun 23, 2006 by sister3
	I feel like I'm going crazy (Preview) I am on the verge of just taking off to another country and leaving EVERYTHING behind. I'm so tired of everything and everyone around me. I have to deal with my AH and his nasty comments to me. I am having trouble with my seven year old son. He's ADHD and on Ritalin to try to control it. I think we found the rig...	Lindy	6	530	Jun 23, 2006 by Jill
	Natural Highs (Preview) This came in my email thought you would like it. Think i posted it a long while back. Here it is *Natural Highs* Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one... *1. Falling in love. 2. Laughing so hard your face hurts. 3. A hot shower. 4. No lines at the superma...*	kerry5	3	343	Jun 23, 2006 by kerry5
	New here (Preview) Hi I am an adult child of a alcoholic. I grew up in a alcoholic home for most of life and my dad stopped drinking after coming to AA for the past 10 years. However, as I have grown and progressed in my life, I find my past experiences and background having a profound effect on my behaviour. Anger for eg. H...	peaceofmind	6	375	Jun 23, 2006 by Jennifer
	isolation-any advice (Preview) Hi, I have been in alanon about 3 years now.I went though a period where I was working on some areas in my life and wasnt going to many meetings . Now I am ready to get back in and have done some meetings on line and have posted here. My dilema is that my ex a and his new gf he met at AA now I hear go...	dori	3	547	Jun 23, 2006 by dori
	Confused emotionally! (Preview) Hi everyone... Thanks for this board. I have been saved by Alanon and the wisdom and love of other people in the program. I am fairly new. You know, I have worked the steps through AA, and am really trying to practice them in this program, and read up on codependency and Alanon lite...	hersh	4	327	Jun 23, 2006 by Tammy
	Why no contact??? (Preview) Hi friends, I notice in reading many of the posts some of you have chosen absolutely no contact with your A's. No phone calls, no face to face visits. Even tho you have made a conscious choice for no contact, you still talk about missing your A's and resisting the temptation to call. Why do you chose no c...	nmike	3	890	Jun 23, 2006 by canadianguy
	trust (Preview) Me and my friend were talking yesterday and the subject trust came up. We have issue trusting, both of our lives are going great, so why do we have problems trusting. Well my problem trusting my husband is because he is one of the a's in my life. He is going to aa, so he could go back to drinking all the time an...	nycbt	2	344	Jun 23, 2006 by annah
	Hp tests...lessons??? (Preview) It amazes me lately my triggers. It takes a line in chat and a flood of memory comes without warining. Memories i wouldnt go to if a certain thing wasnt said. IT also amazes me the feelings that come with these memories. Every time this happens i so wish i could get my anger back. There...	kerry5	4	400	Jun 23, 2006 by Rita G
	son got arrested last night (Preview) Thank HP...I went to a meeting last night. It was on the 3rd step. There were alot of parents in that meeting and alot of stuff I needed to hear. I am pretty much able to detach this morning. Only by the Grace of HP and the Alanon program. I am kinda looking at it as a chance to let him suffer consequences and ge...	Gailey	3	397	Jun 23, 2006 by tea2
	loooking for ?????? (Preview) I am looking for someone with the REAL name of Sandy (not a nick name ) husb named Garry. If you could pm me I will explain why????? Louise	abbyal	1	374	Jun 23, 2006 by dori
	I Know What I owe (Preview) Well...thanks to Gailey, at least I'm working on it. She sent me a "sample" spreadsheet where she lists monthly expense, and the due date, date paid, etc. I just started filling it out, but also including the interest rate, and the balances for each, and the past due amount. I figured I...	Belongtome	4	565	Jun 23, 2006 by Belongtome
	I don't understand this concept (Preview) I know that my HP has something better for me. I believe that our HP does have a plan for us. I can relate this to a spouse, bf or gf of an A. My problem comes in when I try to relate it to my child. As a spouse, bf or gf you can one day ,hopefully, have a better life without the A in your life. (I did) Ho...	Gailey	2	411	Jun 23, 2006 by Rita G
	I need some serious ESH (Preview) hello ((Everyone)) When I said in my last post that things were getting ugly around here I grossly UNESTIMATED. Today has really been the topper for me and I need some serious advice and ESH. My AH called me at work and said he wanted to walk home with me. Sounded OK so I said sure. When he got there, he i...	Jennifer	6	368	Jun 23, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	he's not drinking today...why am I so guilty? (Preview) Hi everyone, my AH boyfriend has been not drinking for four of five months now. He was in treatment for a while...went in by his own choice. He did have a lapse for a few days three weeks ago, and he and his drinking pals went out. Then the money ran out. We don't live together, and I detatched as best I coul...	annmarie	5	315	Jun 23, 2006 by annmarie
	Gaining a new perspective (Preview) I have had some time away from my son as I have posted before. Sometime with my animals and me and work. In that time that I had I got alot of time to reflect on me. Which has been a real eye opening experiance for me. I have worked on all my relationships with my family. I have even been working on my relation...	DoN4me	2	299	Jun 23, 2006 by nycbt
	It's like coming home (Preview) Hi all, Boy, I've just read some of the posts here and I have to say, coming to al-anon is like coming home -- to a more functional, loving home... a safe home, a comforting home... like running into your grandma's arms -- where you know it's all gonna be ok. I've been in and out of t...	itsgot2bgd	4	311	Jun 22, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	update on jailbird (Preview) Well he sends me a letter saying he does not want a divorce. So I just wrote one back saying well he better work hard on changing my mind. Told him I deserve respect. Plus I am tired of being a fool staying married to someone who makes it very apparent I am the last thing he thinks about. I need it to be over so...	debilyn	7	377	Jun 22, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Facing my bridge (Preview) I haven't posted in a while, have been out of town a few weeks, but this post has been building for some time. I hope you don't mind my rambling share, it helps me to stay in what is real and stop putting things off as no big deal. I met my A at 18, we married at 25. I made the comment to him t...	Lunamoth	8	499	Jun 22, 2006 by Jennifer
	what do ya'll think about step eleven?? (Preview) >>i thought this was a pretty cool thing on step eleven....i took parts of it, and i gave MY esh in the colored type It took me many years in Al-Anon to get to StepEleven, the "prayer and meditation" step. When Ifinally got there, after wrestling with Steps Fourthrough Ten, Ste...	rosie light shines	2	456	Jun 22, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Dream (Preview) Ok. I had a dream last night, that when I was awoken (is that a word) I thought oh my word. Thought I'd share it I was driving in my car after dropping my ah off at the mechanic's to drop off his truck. Then I decided he was probably hungry so I went to pick him up a pizza. Then in my rearview mirror and saw him...	hudsond	3	366	Jun 22, 2006 by Jennifer
	Projection E/S/H (Preview) Hello--Lately I've found myself into projection. Anytime my life hits a new growth spurt, I project. I can't do this; I'll be a failure; I'm going to bomb out; things like that. I talked with my sponsor and some program friends earlier today about projection and my stinkin' thinking. So I feel alot b...	Tiger2006	6	2074	Jun 22, 2006 by abbyal
	Some Progress (Preview) A started drinking again the day before yesterday. He only made it one week this time. This time excuse was guy he had given his old truck to and paid for his registration too boot didn't show to help him with some things around our house he was suppose to do as payment. The guy keeps ma...	lebe27	6	317	Jun 22, 2006 by dori
	Prayers needed please (Preview) I just got a phone call from a friend. Her 14 year old daughter Amanda is undergoing testing for leukemia. Please say a prayer for her and her mother. They could use all the help they can get. Thanks Shadow	shadow1	7	378	Jun 22, 2006 by aunitedway
	Hi all, I'm new here (Preview) First I'd like to say that I hope you all find the peace you deserve! Peace and contentment is my goal. After all these years, I've finally realized that my surroundings and trying to change others around me isn't going to bring me that. I have alot of work to do within myself. I'll first mention...	slkcma	5	431	Jun 22, 2006 by slkcma
	when everything is a lie (Preview) I have been working for 3 months now and so far the A has not conned me on any level out of money. Tonight I find out he made only a partial payment on the rent (he has done that for months I think) and we got a three day notice. The landlord is fed up with getting only partial payments and a song and dance (which t...	maresie2	2	462	Jun 22, 2006 by dori
	a ring (Preview) Since I started with Alanon my marriage to an a has gotten alot better. He bought me a flag ring no special reason. When I start we were having yelling matchs, i was staying at my parents house when he started to act up. I was taught how to put myself forward i am not perfect and i had a disagree yesterday howe...	nycbt	4	359	Jun 22, 2006 by dori
	Caught AH trying to con me again (Preview) My AH has money problems, mostly due to his drinking and gambling. He gets laid off from work and chooses to spend his time (and money) drinking and gambling. Last night he told me is trying to get a home equity type loan thru his union. He said he would use it to pay off his credit cards and remodel the bas...	Lindy	4	337	Jun 22, 2006 by dori
	Insult to Injury (Preview) Well....after getting all bent out of shape yesterday over my A's desire to put our money into his car instead of overdue bills....things just went downhill. The sale of the boat didn't go through, so there isn't enough money to worry about!!!! But, last night I had my weekly golf outing with daug...	Belongtome	6	390	Jun 22, 2006 by dori
	Things Happen for a Reason (Preview) Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there...to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that t...	Mobirdie	4	516	Jun 22, 2006 by dori
	Newcomers speaking up in meetings (Preview) I am new to Alanon... this week will be my f2f meeting, so I've been going about a month. I have a question for the oldtimers. I don't want to talk! It's not that I am shy. I am anything but shy, but so far, I have not had anything "authentic" to say during a meeting. I have chatted before the meetings, and been...	Dog	12	599	Jun 22, 2006 by Tiger2006
	How do I get to my pm box (Preview) I cannot find a link to the pm box anywhere, maybe I'm just not seeing it. There is a message there that I want to reply to and darned if I can find my way there. TIA	Mobirdie	2	335	Jun 22, 2006 by Mobirdie
	what addicts do (Preview) Hi, I just went back and read morbies post on what addicts do and it was another reminder how blessed I am he is not in my life any more.It is so funny how some of us are blessed enough to get out of the relationship and we forget all the sleepless nights the cheating the lieing and the abuse and we tha...	dori	3	471	Jun 22, 2006 by Mobirdie
	A maybe dry, but behaviors still there (Preview) Hello Group, Today is 30 days sober for my A. I can see the challenges he faced this month as well as myself. For me it was my insecurity, my anger, my fear. The behaviors are still there for the A. The anger and rages are not as bad. He has been able to control himself in s...	twinmom2	6	404	Jun 22, 2006 by annmarie
	Missing the A (Preview) I am having a hard day today. My A boyfriend went into a rage on Friday with that I have not seen him since Sunday morning. He came to my house on Saturday night late and he spent the night.. I dropped him off back to his house on sunday. I have not seen him or spoke to him since. My choice, because I have t...	mandalynn38	6	512	Jun 22, 2006 by nycbt
	first f2f (Preview) Finally made it to a al-anon mtg. lotsa nice folks with lotsa encouragements! I plan on it being a weekly stop. Found the books that I've been told about too. I've been told that the alateen in my area will be starting up again so that the kids will have the help that they need to...	Keoki	3	389	Jun 22, 2006 by nycbt
	My Life (Preview) I never thought my life would end up like it is. I always dreamed of being happily married with the house white picket fence, & the kids. Needless to say it didn't end up like that. I met my husband in highschool. I loved him unconditionally. As teenagers we did our share of partying. I never thought h...	heartless39470	5	385	Jun 22, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Help I'm losing it again (Preview) I'm losing it...and I'd been doing so well. I guess when things are going okay, I think I don't have to work my program...especially the "being good to myself" part, and then it all slides downhill. I looked back over my own posts, and it seems like I have this recording that is broken...isn't t...	Belongtome	10	584	Jun 22, 2006 by Belongtome
	Reflections (Preview) Detachment means not worrying,not judging and not rescuing. Hope ever tells us tomarrow will be better. If we share another's burden,both of us will walk straighter. Just for today I will treat myself gently and nuture the child within. Losers say"I can't"winners say,"I'll t...	angel123	0	250	Jun 22, 2006 by angel123
	AH is dragging me down; nickel and diming me to death (Preview) Just when I start to kind of pull myself together something my AH does comes back to bring me back down. I was starting to feel a little better today after the bad weekend I had. I checked my checking account on-line just now and found four $29 overdraft charges on my account. My money is separate from my...	Lindy	4	1664	Jun 22, 2006 by kitty
	disorganized and unmotivated!!! (Preview) Lately I have been so disorganized. My desk at work seems to always be a mess. I spend too much time on this board and do not seem to get things done the way I used to. I think I am becoming addicted to MIP. At home I do not get things done unless I am "under the gun" so to speak. I am last minute with everything. It...	Gailey	6	516	Jun 22, 2006 by kitty
	Safe in Prison??? (Preview) I'm sorry to say I rarely post here but do read all of your thoughts and experiences and they help me so much. I do go to alanon meetings every week also and am doing my best to work the program and feel better. However, for the past month or so I have been crying every day, even at work and even in...	April306	9	547	Jun 22, 2006 by sarahlm
	my motives (Preview) i want to talk to my ah and tell him that insted of doing whatever it is he is doing he should be with his kids. he had a whole day that he didn't work and he never even called to ask if he could be with our 3 year old. i bet it never even occured to him. i know it didn't. or he sees his son from a prevoius marria...	serendipity	1	422	Jun 21, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Al-Anon meetings? (Preview) I am quite new to Al-Alon and never been to a meeting yet. I ahve a few questions about them I am hoping ypou can answer. 1. Are they for anyone who suffers form A in thier family? i.e. ACoA and spouses, etc... 2. Does it matter where you go I noticed that all the one in my area have differnt names, does t...	iwishuheaven	9	673	Jun 21, 2006 by nycbt
	more mind games (Preview) Hi everyone...more crap for me to vent about.quick history...my active A husband has been gone 7 months.we have 4 children and he gives me no money..infact he has cost me money...credit card bills..income tax debts etc. he has been living with his brother and he finally had enough and left the apt. an...	allison	1	463	Jun 21, 2006 by abbyal
	Lmt, where are you? (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((Lmt))))))))))))))))))))), Where are you sweet friend? I miss seeing you! Love and blessings to you and your family! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	2	380	Jun 21, 2006 by peewee
	being good to myself (Preview) Today has been tough. Last nite I did a sleep study test. The paper work trigger the past for me. One question asked to underline words that describe yourself. Lazy, no good, deadbeat, on & on for almost a whole paragraph then the descriptions started getting better and more p...	hmrnrnmm	0	276	Jun 21, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Leave the pieces when you go--long (Preview) Hi there everybody. I haven't been on in a few weeks. I used to get online at school and well it's closed for the summer, and I mistakenly thought I could handle alone for a few weeks. INSANITY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I thought things were going pretty good. I knew not great, but amazing when you aren't...	hudsond	3	513	Jun 21, 2006 by dori
	Waiting or Holding Ourselves Back? (Preview) Thought I'd share our meeting topic last night: Waiting. Waiting can be a good thing in program, making wise choices when we are not angry and/or impulsive. Waiting on the other hand, well, you know, makes us feel like we are just sinking more into the quicksand.&nb...	wallsal55	2	318	Jun 21, 2006 by dori
	Oh boy it's starting to get ugly around here (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))) I haven't talked lately about where I am or what I am doing so here it goes .... I moved back to the house 2 weeks ago, by choice but not for long. I need time to pack and sort, do repairs etc. I found chaos and mayhem. So here I am changing what I can. While I stay here I do...	Jennifer	6	472	Jun 21, 2006 by hudsond
	last 12 hours have been rough (Preview) Last night I got into an aruement with my wife and it it hasn't ended yet. She went out last night and I was at home with our two kids. They really pushed me to the limits when it came to bed time and it took everything I had to stay cool. About 45 minutes after my eldest (2 1/2 years old) went to bed my youngest (1...	iwishuheaven	13	522	Jun 21, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	have you noticed a positive change around here???? (Preview) I have been really busy with baaseball, kids, meetings etc and have only had time to get my online fix by reading and occasionally a quick reply. Today was the last day of school for the summer and I am so looking forward to being able to be a better participant here at MIP. I just wanted to say that...	confused	4	390	Jun 21, 2006 by abbyal
	Affirmation "I pledge Allegeiance" (Preview) Affirmations: ..I PLEDGE ALLEGIANCE .. To all the things that are good about me.... And I shall from this day forward, No longer try to be everything to everybody. Nor will I be someone I'm not. I shall no longer use all my energies to fulfill the dreams of others while mine go unattended. I shall use my as...	angel123	2	2351	Jun 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Happy Birthday Caroline (Preview) Today is my youngest granddaughter's first birthday, Caroline Olivia - I haven't seen her in over three months. Her mom, Ashley (our daughter) is the one that I saw last week in rehab. Caroline is staying with her other grandparents(Ashley's Mom & Step-Dad) who do no...	Rita G	4	377	Jun 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Detachment - What??? (Preview) Am a little bit, no a big bit confused here. Detachemnt to me means not diving a damn. What does it mean to you all. I can detach, shut down, not care...all of those things. I cannot care and detach at the same time. Any thoughts?????? Ty all lilms	lilms	7	457	Jun 21, 2006 by annmarie
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