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I’ve been writing / signing contracts with my friends each day this week – 24 hrs no contact with my A. It’s worked!
But he called me mid-week. I maintained decent boundaries but after reflecting on the call, I decided it did me no good at all. Further, I think any contact with me at all – ANY contact, enables him and so this weekend, I am going cold turkey.
Obviously I will continue to override urges to contact him and I have to say that I have the ability to do this at this point is entirely due my “joining” Al-Anon a month ago. A month ago, I’d not thought it possible. But I have to take the next step now, and refuse his calls.
This is uncharted territory for us. My A is arrogant. He’s very cocky. I have been so devoted to him, he really doesn’t think I can leave him / live without him. But he’s very wrong about that as he is about to find out.
PS - is there a way to change my username? It occured to me, my A could be reading. He would recognize my name and my writing... EEK!
I don't know about changing your username. If it was me I would just create a new one and start over! That way no one would be able to tell who you were. Good luck on your cold turkey from your A. Keep coming back!
