Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I hope everyone has a safe and somewhat calm 4th weekend. Just chiming in to say that it has been for me one of the toughest holidays in the past to get through. Without this board, I've had a couple of 4th of July's--well I made it ! Alive and well. I know one...

kerry5 · kerry5

It is really hard to be an op. But it is very well worth it to give service to the group. I remember the days deblyin were talking about with lulu and mell1000 and bd. I miss those days very much. I do find the room has changed and its hard to take because of my expectations. and what it once was. I am not saying t...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, i have court scheduled for child support issues on friday 7/1...... although it promises to be a action packed fun filled morning, i will have to ask someone to fill in for me chairing cause it will prevent me from being here. thank you in advance you wonderful person that steps up!!!!!...

tullemars · tullemars

I wish I had more time to heal. Alot of emotions right now. 30 days is not enough. I wish I could be positive about this. Let the shit hit the fan. I have to move on. Taking one minute at a time.

david62 · david62

Hello (((((((Recovery Buddies)))))))) I heard a story this morning that I liked and thought I would share it with yall. Some of you may have heard it, but it was a new one to me. There was this ant, a very hardworking, loyal member of the colony. He was always there toiling away carryin...

debilyn · debilyn

Everything is normal here. Slept with 3 Bassets last night. Rufus just climbed > on Lusterpig, who sleeps next to my bed on a pile of blankets, and got on my > bed. > > Of course my huge Winnie cat was up there too. She kept me quiet. Everytime I > would say,"geez, YOU GUYS MOVE OVER!!" She would jump up,... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

loulou · loulou

Hi I am new to al anon having attended my first meeting last week. I am in need of some support and guidance if possible. I live in Utah and the meetings here are very small. I have been reading the book how al anon works and am enjoying it, but am not sure how to put the steps in motion or into my life. Can anyone...

Stephanie · Stephanie

Okay, now that I have introduced myself...this is my primary parenting problem. We are a blended home. Because my partner (I notice you call them your "A" here, so...) my A drinks only in the evening, during the day and early evening she is a great co-parent. She loves the ki...

Stephanie · Stephanie

I just wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of two, a girl 14 and a boy 12. My partner of 2 and 1/2 years is a "functional" alcoholic. She is a professional woman and maintains her work but drinks each night. I look forward to having somewhere to ask questions particularly ab...

browneyes · browneyes

hey guys well it is late and i just had a talk with my kids. they are 8 and almost 5. we were going to bed and my daughter (8) just bursts out with "i wanna move away from dad, i hate him, and i don't care if i have to switch schools again and i don't care if you have to work and i have to go to daycare&...

kerry5 · kerry5

i will not be able to chair tommorow morning as i am visiting a friend thanks ill replace someone this week later in the week kerry

Someone who cares · Someone who cares

Hi All, I'm new to the board and I'm hoping you all can guide me in the right direction. I'm far from new to Alcholism, my Mom is recovering, sober for over 9 years (Thank God). My newest problem is with my Sister-in-Law (my husbands sister). I love her dearly, she's like the sister I nev...

TLC2 · TLC2

Hi gang, I noticed we hadn't heard from jj for awhile, so I emailed her to see if she was ok. It was so unlike her not to be here cheering us all on, compforting anyone who needed it. She is living with her parents right now, so doesn't have access to a computor. I know a lot of us tend to isolate when we're goi...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

Hi cbd, You said you were leaving again. When are you going and when will you be back? I really miss you when you are gone you have been so much help to me. If you can while your gone you could email me at ItsmeTC88@aol.com. It would be very helpfu...

hopeful · hopeful

I am a very grateful member of this programme and i have had great experiences ever since joining al fews years ago. However i have my driving test comimg up next week and this will be my fourth attempt i have prayed about it and i thought i had completely handed over this situation to...

Belongtome · Belongtome

This morning I was reading, and a little quote caught my eye. I'd like to share with you. "If you get this upset when you burn the toast, how will you feel when the house burns down?" It just got me thinking of how I react somedays when a little something goes wrong. Maybe next time I'll sa...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Frog In The Water A few years back, there was a story going around the 12-step rooms about a frog in the water. It goes like this: If you put a frog into a pan of boiling water, it will jump out faster than the eye can see. But if you put the frog into a pan of water that is the frog's body temperature and then sl...

Angel · Angel

Hello, I am new to this group. My husband is an A. I love him so dearly. He is a great man. Even when drinking he would never hurt me or our children. He just gets quiet for the most part and acts like a clammed shell fish. He will forget things I tell him, or say that I never told him. But aside from all that I can d... >

elizabeth · elizabeth

So often we get on automatic pilot in our lives where we don't really challenge the things we say to ourselves. When you look at the world and you talk to yourself about what's going on, you trust yourself. You just assume that you would tell yourself the truth. But, you need to stop and ask, are you givi...

laughmybutt25 · laughmybutt25

This is the first time I've ever done anything like this.. and it feels a little awkward. My father is an alcoholic. He always has been but in the last two years things have gotten out of control. We were on the verge of losing everything and moved to GA to get a fresh start. Well, things aren't working ou...

holly123 · holly123

Hi all, This week has definetly tested my will. I spent alot of it angry and frustrated, then on Thursday night I go bowling, for me, my night out. My a came home in an ugly mood, I started a conversation with him about something that happened at work, that set h...

jj · jj

Hey All!! TLC you are so sweet!!!! Thank you all for your loving support and prayers. My health is still on the better side of what it was but yes some symptoms have come back which I was well aware was a possibility but hoped that it would not. :( I did finally here back from my Doctor...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am under the understanding that we are not to discuss religion or politics in the chat room. I am not sure how to handle this when several people decide to get into a discussion. I did try to say we don't discuss religion or politics here but was taken as being pushy by myself and another...

suzee · suzee

I would like some advice about my A drinking at home. He goes down in the basement every night - usually after 11 PM. and gets drunk. I hate it. Of course my nagging about it hasn't helped. He says at least he's not at the bar. In some ways I agree. I used to stay up all night wonderi...

megan · megan

I signed the lease today and will move my clothes and bike into the apartment tomorrow. I will buy an aero bed - inflatable bed to sleep on until my furniture gets delivered. I let myself cry as I left my new place Just for a few moments 14 years is a long time. Thanks to all who held my hand...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, just reminding you that if your thinking about coming to the Yosemite Conference with us, or if you just want more info on it, you should email Jim at ysc@sti.net . Next week my home group and the AA group will be stuffing flyers and sending them out to those on the list!!!!!!!!!&nbs...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting for tomorrow morning as I need to pick my sister up at the airport. Hoping someone will step up and chair for me and I thank you in advance. Shimo (Jeri)

maka · maka

My A is in recovery, or so he says, I am having trouble believing him. He finished a 30 day rehab and is home now. He has had 2 relapses and the contract was that he will have to find another place to live if it happens again. He was open about the relapses he had, but now I think he will hid a...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I will be leaving to be with my mom on Wednesday. My dad is traveling to Arizona with my uncle to get my parent's belongings. My parents recently moved from Arizona to North Dakota to be closer to me because of their failing health. My mom has alzheimers so I will be w...

david62 · david62

Hi (((everyone))), I was listening to a person speak yesterday on the radio and this person said something that was like finally putting that light fixture in that dark closet that I've been dealing with and thinking about for so long.

I know in my own case, when I first sta...

whitie · whitie

I have never caught my A husband lying to me before. He has always been truthful in the past. I know that that sounds niave but I know when he's been drinking just by looking at him. He never denied it before, until last night. He asked me why I thought that he had been drinking. I told him I could smell it. He l...

nmike · nmike

My wonderful recovering A of a husband moved out June 1. I cried and then painted the inside of the house. I have every instruction book out trying to figure out how the computer, television, chainsaw, etc. works. My husband would never show me or the boys how to be self sufficient. Not a problem, I calle...

kerry5 · kerry5

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. >When you > > know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. > > > > &nb...

browneyes · browneyes

hey guys i am so grateful for all of you. reading all of your posts gave me lots of ideas and reminded me to go back to my program. After i posted, i decided to walk on my treadmill and take a shower and i felt better. i prayed and thought of all of the things i was grateful for and it helpe...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...

kerry5 · kerry5

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real! When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one, which has been opened for us. Don't go for looks; they c...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

Hi all, I've posted before about the trials and tribulations of my binge drinking hubby who went to rehab and now has relapsed in a way that is unimaginable. I think he drank for nearly a week straight (his own words) and he cried on the phone to me that he never did anything like that before and he...

browneyes · browneyes

Wow!! You brought up some very relavent points in a clear well-thought -out way and I thank you. You are right about me taking care of me and I am scared that he will turn on me if he finds out. Thanks for understanding that point. But I also have no where to go and no money. My fa...

gardengal · gardengal

Few of us intentionally refused to see the reality of our lives or the circumstances in which we find ourselves.But the truth is that most of us have indeed done so. In alanon we eventually come to see the many ways we had unknowingly blocked out a whole segments of our past and present. We recognize situ...

ItsmeTC · ItsmeTC

Made a desicion to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understand Him. I am going on my third step and I wonder how as a parent I will turn my will and live over to God. What as a parent is my will? I have to make desicions and take action or he will walk all over me(my son). How do I tell the differ...

NightWatcher · NightWatcher

I need to appologize in advance... I have had some personal issues come up and will not be able to chair the meeting tonight... I hope that someone else can step forward and take the chair.... Again Sorry for the short notice.... Bob

debilyn · debilyn

How are you doing sweetheart? I have been thinking and praying for you and yours. Wish I could throw you a rope and pull you out, but then that would not be good either huh? I know we have to do things ourselves, but I want you to know, if I were there, I would do whatever I could. But here I am in Oreg...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi all, Well here I sit, or am squashed by two Basset hounds, an English Bulldog and a huge orange cat. Trying to type with marshmallow all over my fingers... I was looking around my living room, and feeling the wonderful calm atmosphere. Does not mean the world is not putting obstacles in fron...

debilyn · debilyn

HI dear, just wanted to thank you for asking for prayers. You are very thoughtful, and cute too!! (c: I can't seem to connect real well right now. Limbo is hard. My son and daughter have been great. Mac, my son, is moving back down here. He already has a good job here. The old boss up in Wa. told...

odaat · odaat

I am sitting here feeling totally lost in this crazy life style. I am debating whether to just end our marriage. Seems like the drinking is getting worse and my A refuses to admit to the problem and truly believes our marriage is great. I know I owe it to our daughter to give her the upb...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey, I just need to get some of this pain out. i feel so all alone and pitifuland like I'm just sick and tired and sick and tired of it. Where do i find the motivation to do all this all the time It's like I can't get out of the funk to do it anymore. i don't do it right. and i'm drowni...

dori · dori

Hey, Have you ever felt like a piece of furntire.I am working through some tuff stuff and I am single mom receltly lost my job and people in my lfie igonre me they say it is cause they dont know what to say. I post on alanon they say I got alot og anger and bitterness I try to tone that d...

fiona123 · fiona123

HI you guys I am here to please ask for prayers for a family and dear friend who are deeply grieving the sudden loss of a beautiful , loving , blythe spirit ....a 36 yr old mother of 2, daughter, sister, co worker , friend and beloved one. A lady named mistee was called home to God last Saturday in...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This is just a tip I thought I would share that helps me. When I am feeling a particular emotion with my spouse (anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment, etc.), I let myself feel that feeling, acknowledge that feeling, that that emotion is real. : ( ...

holly123 · holly123

I don't know what is going on with me right now. I am getting that I'm too busy for Al-anon attitude. I think it is because there is nicer weather and I want to just enjoy it but then again I sit around a lot doing nothing. I am very frustrated with myself. I find myself finding some rea...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am working on being a more humble person. I need feedback on how you think a person can be more humble. I did look up the definition in the dictionary and am going with the one on not being arrogant etc. This is related to step 7 too. I know of some humble people but some of them are humble&n...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Debilyn posted below. She is having a biopsy soon to see if she has breast cancer. I myself have had my own situation with breast cancer. I am asking for major continuous prayers for her. I believe in the power of prayer. Please read her post if you haven't yet and let's start a prayer cha...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, These alcoholics sure struggle :( I have so much compassion for my daughter. She has been so quiet. Last night she asked if she could take my car for a drive later in the evening. I said yes but how long will you be gone? She said about a half an hour. Well, I had been a little co...

sanddie · sanddie

This is a reply to another post on this borad and I thought I'd share it with everyone because this is something I've often thought about.... After all, who are we to say what is right or wrong for another person? Just because one hits bottom doesn't mean that it is not what God intends to hap...

gardengal · gardengal

The Alanon family groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience , strength and hope, in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoolism is a family illness and that chaged attitudes can aid recovery. Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomi...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Good morning everyone...My A is away on a business trip for 3 days, so I'm trying to do some special ME time for a couple of days...but life keeps getting in the way. By the way, at 2:30 am yesterday, my newest grandson was born, weighing over 9 pounds! What a gift and a blessing for his health. I...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, I have a couple of situations that are getting to me. I took off last night from work because I am getting so sick of the bs. I am fortunate to have a good paying job w/benefits but it is 3rd shift and I have to work weekends. Day jobs are scarce. I bid...

sanddie · sanddie

I found out this week that my childrens father, whom I have now been divorced from for 9 years almost, in which the time we had been married was so emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive has been a cocaine dealer for many years, even when we were together.... What most upsets me abo...

dori · dori

Hey, Some said they read my post to browneyes and said they couldnt bleive all the hate and bitterness in me.I felt bad I thought oh my what did I say I went back to the post .I read it and I stand on it.But I also know their is some truth in what she said to me.I did ask my God my father to help me deal with...

dori · dori

Kis, I am not sure of your whole name thanks for the reponse to my last post.I read all the posts and they were helpful.But i personally want to thank you for yours I read it and I cried and i cired you got it , you understood you heard me thank you. I am going to do that and write down all the things&n...

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	Chime in for the 4th Wkend. (Preview) I hope everyone has a safe and somewhat calm 4th weekend. Just chiming in to say that it has been for me one of the toughest holidays in the past to get through. Without this board, I've had a couple of 4th of July's--well I made it ! Alive and well. I know one...	wallsal55	2	625	Jul 1, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Bein an Op (Preview) It is really hard to be an op. But it is very well worth it to give service to the group. I remember the days deblyin were talking about with lulu and mell1000 and bd. I miss those days very much. I do find the room has changed and its hard to take because of my expectations. and what it once was. I am not saying t...	kerry5	4	682	Jun 30, 2005 by kerry5
	help on friday please? (Preview) hi all, i have court scheduled for child support issues on friday 7/1...... although it promises to be a action packed fun filled morning, i will have to ask someone to fill in for me chairing cause it will prevent me from being here. thank you in advance you wonderful person that steps up!!!!!...	mastiff	3	694	Jun 30, 2005 by shimo
	My A comes back Friday (Preview) I wish I had more time to heal. Alot of emotions right now. 30 days is not enough. I wish I could be positive about this. Let the shit hit the fan. I have to move on. Taking one minute at a time.	tullemars	2	638	Jun 30, 2005 by jessi
	The Ant (Preview) Hello (((((((Recovery Buddies)))))))) I heard a story this morning that I liked and thought I would share it with yall. Some of you may have heard it, but it was a new one to me. There was this ant, a very hardworking, loyal member of the colony. He was always there toiling away carryin...	david62	6	800	Jun 30, 2005 by bob6502
	Jest fer Eden Lovers!! (Preview) Everything is normal here. Slept with 3 Bassets last night. Rufus just climbed > on Lusterpig, who sleeps next to my bed on a pile of blankets, and got on my > bed. > > Of course my huge Winnie cat was up there too. She kept me quiet. Everytime I > would say,"geez, YOU GUYS MOVE OVER!!" She would jump up,... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>	debilyn	6	837	Jun 30, 2005 by ArwynEvenstar
	New to al anon (Preview) Hi I am new to al anon having attended my first meeting last week. I am in need of some support and guidance if possible. I live in Utah and the meetings here are very small. I have been reading the book how al anon works and am enjoying it, but am not sure how to put the steps in motion or into my life. Can anyone...	loulou	5	701	Jun 29, 2005 by jessi
	kids, respect and ADD (Preview) Okay, now that I have introduced myself...this is my primary parenting problem. We are a blended home. Because my partner (I notice you call them your "A" here, so...) my A drinks only in the evening, during the day and early evening she is a great co-parent. She loves the ki...	Stephanie	2	649	Jun 29, 2005 by wallsal55
	Introduction (Preview) I just wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of two, a girl 14 and a boy 12. My partner of 2 and 1/2 years is a "functional" alcoholic. She is a professional woman and maintains her work but drinks each night. I look forward to having somewhere to ask questions particularly ab...	Stephanie	4	695	Jun 29, 2005 by Belongtome
	Feeling the guilt (Preview) hey guys well it is late and i just had a talk with my kids. they are 8 and almost 5. we were going to bed and my daughter (8) just bursts out with "i wanna move away from dad, i hate him, and i don't care if i have to switch schools again and i don't care if you have to work and i have to go to daycare&...	browneyes	5	696	Jun 29, 2005 by Belongtome
	Wednesday A.m Meeting June 29th (Preview) i will not be able to chair tommorow morning as i am visiting a friend thanks ill replace someone this week later in the week kerry	kerry5	1	604	Jun 29, 2005 by mastiff
	Need help! (Preview) Hi All, I'm new to the board and I'm hoping you all can guide me in the right direction. I'm far from new to Alcholism, my Mom is recovering, sober for over 9 years (Thank God). My newest problem is with my Sister-in-Law (my husbands sister). I love her dearly, she's like the sister I nev...	Someone who cares	5	683	Jun 29, 2005 by jj
	prayers please (Preview) Hi gang, I noticed we hadn't heard from jj for awhile, so I emailed her to see if she was ok. It was so unlike her not to be here cheering us all on, compforting anyone who needed it. She is living with her parents right now, so doesn't have access to a computor. I know a lot of us tend to isolate when we're goi...	TLC2	8	683	Jun 28, 2005 by Maria123
	cbd (Preview) Hi cbd, You said you were leaving again. When are you going and when will you be back? I really miss you when you are gone you have been so much help to me. If you can while your gone you could email me at ItsmeTC88@aol.com. It would be very helpfu...	ItsmeTC	2	693	Jun 28, 2005 by ItsmeTC
	how do i hand over completely (Preview) I am a very grateful member of this programme and i have had great experiences ever since joining al fews years ago. However i have my driving test comimg up next week and this will be my fourth attempt i have prayed about it and i thought i had completely handed over this situation to...	hopeful	5	791	Jun 28, 2005 by hopeful
	how important is it? message (Preview) This morning I was reading, and a little quote caught my eye. I'd like to share with you. "If you get this upset when you burn the toast, how will you feel when the house burns down?" It just got me thinking of how I react somedays when a little something goes wrong. Maybe next time I'll sa...	Belongtome	4	700	Jun 28, 2005 by afglin
	frog in the water (Preview) Frog In The Water A few years back, there was a story going around the 12-step rooms about a frog in the water. It goes like this: If you put a frog into a pan of boiling water, it will jump out faster than the eye can see. But if you put the frog into a pan of water that is the frog's body temperature and then *sl...*	elizabeth	1	856	Jun 28, 2005 by afglin
	Suppport as needed (Preview) Hello, I am new to this group. My husband is an A. I love him so dearly. He is a great man. Even when drinking he would never hurt me or our children. He just gets quiet for the most part and acts like a clammed shell fish. He will forget things I tell him, or say that I never told him. But aside from all that I can d... >	Angel	4	754	Jun 28, 2005 by Angel
	Are you telling yourself the truth? (Preview) So often we get on automatic pilot in our lives where we don't really challenge the things we say to ourselves. When you look at the world and you talk to yourself about what's going on, you trust yourself. You just assume that you would tell yourself the truth. But, you need to stop and ask, are you givi...	elizabeth	1	737	Jun 28, 2005 by nmike
	Advice Needed (Preview) This is the first time I've ever done anything like this.. and it feels a little awkward. My father is an alcoholic. He always has been but in the last two years things have gotten out of control. We were on the verge of losing everything and moved to GA to get a fresh start. Well, things aren't working ou...	laughmybutt25	4	762	Jun 28, 2005 by holly123
	Muddling Through (Preview) Hi all, This week has definetly tested my will. I spent alot of it angry and frustrated, then on Thursday night I go bowling, for me, my night out. My a came home in an ugly mood, I started a conversation with him about something that happened at work, that set h...	holly123	3	940	Jun 28, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Back home (Preview) Hey All!! TLC you are so sweet!!!! Thank you all for your loving support and prayers. My health is still on the better side of what it was but yes some symptoms have come back which I was well aware was a possibility but hoped that it would not. :( I did finally here back from my Doctor...	jj	3	698	Jun 28, 2005 by Christy
	What to do when religion topic comes up? (Preview) Hello friends, I am under the understanding that we are not to discuss religion or politics in the chat room. I am not sure how to handle this when several people decide to get into a discussion. I did try to say we don't discuss religion or politics here but was taken as being pushy by myself and another...	cdb	6	791	Jun 28, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Drinking at home (Preview) I would like some advice about my A drinking at home. He goes down in the basement every night - usually after 11 PM. and gets drunk. I hate it. Of course my nagging about it hasn't helped. He says at least he's not at the bar. In some ways I agree. I used to stay up all night wonderi...	suzee	5	916	Jun 28, 2005 by isabela40
	moving day (Preview) I signed the lease today and will move my clothes and bike into the apartment tomorrow. I will buy an aero bed - inflatable bed to sleep on until my furniture gets delivered. I let myself cry as I left my new place Just for a few moments 14 years is a long time. Thanks to all who held my hand...	megan	6	1104	Jun 27, 2005 by megan
	Yosemite Summit Conference....getting closer (Preview) Hi all, just reminding you that if your thinking about coming to the Yosemite Conference with us, or if you just want more info on it, you should email Jim at ysc@sti.net . Next week my home group and the AA group will be stuffing flyers and sending them out to those on the list!!!!!!!!!&nbs...	mastiff	4	793	Jun 27, 2005 by kismetstrand
	TUESDAY A.M. MEETING (Preview) I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting for tomorrow morning as I need to pick my sister up at the airport. Hoping someone will step up and chair for me and I thank you in advance. Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	2	754	Jun 27, 2005 by shimo
	when to ask questions (Preview) My A is in recovery, or so he says, I am having trouble believing him. He finished a 30 day rehab and is home now. He has had 2 relapses and the contract was that he will have to find another place to live if it happens again. He was open about the relapses he had, but now I think he will hid a...	maka	2	674	Jun 27, 2005 by mom to 2
	Leaving again on Wednesday (Preview) Hello friends, I will be leaving to be with my mom on Wednesday. My dad is traveling to Arizona with my uncle to get my parent's belongings. My parents recently moved from Arizona to North Dakota to be closer to me because of their failing health. My mom has alzheimers so I will be w...	cdb	2	690	Jun 27, 2005 by jj
	Be a sign (Preview) Hi (((everyone))), I was listening to a person speak yesterday on the radio and this person said something that was like finally putting that light fixture in that dark closet that I've been dealing with and thinking about for so long. I know in my own case, when I first sta...	david62	5	758	Jun 27, 2005 by mastiff
	he's lying (Preview) I have never caught my A husband lying to me before. He has always been truthful in the past. I know that that sounds niave but I know when he's been drinking just by looking at him. He never denied it before, until last night. He asked me why I thought that he had been drinking. I told him I could smell it. He l...	whitie	5	786	Jun 27, 2005 by Belongtome
	What did he really say? (Preview) My wonderful recovering A of a husband moved out June 1. I cried and then painted the inside of the house. I have every instruction book out trying to figure out how the computer, television, chainsaw, etc. works. My husband would never show me or the boys how to be self sufficient. Not a problem, I calle...	nmike	3	690	Jun 27, 2005 by lin0606
	Reason Season Or a Lifetime (Preview) People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. >When you > > know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. > > > > &nb...	kerry5	2	759	Jun 27, 2005 by cdb
	I'm so grateful (Preview) hey guys i am so grateful for all of you. reading all of your posts gave me lots of ideas and reminded me to go back to my program. After i posted, i decided to walk on my treadmill and take a shower and i felt better. i prayed and thought of all of the things i was grateful for and it helpe...	browneyes	3	719	Jun 27, 2005 by cdb
	Thoughts to live by.... (Preview) Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...	elizabeth	1	998	Jun 27, 2005 by cdb
	Moments in Life (Preview) There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real! When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one, which has been opened for us. Don't go for looks; they c...	kerry5	0	632	Jun 26, 2005 by kerry5
	it's been so hard (Preview) Hi all, I've posted before about the trials and tribulations of my binge drinking hubby who went to rehab and now has relapsed in a way that is unimaginable. I think he drank for nearly a week straight (his own words) and he cried on the phone to me that he never did anything like that before and he...	mom to 2	7	945	Jun 26, 2005 by mom to 2
	Thanks to Isabela (Preview) Wow!! You brought up some very relavent points in a clear well-thought -out way and I thank you. You are right about me taking care of me and I am scared that he will turn on me if he finds out. Thanks for understanding that point. But I also have no where to go and no money. My fa...	browneyes	1	881	Jun 26, 2005 by isabela40
	STRUGGLING WITH REALITY (Preview) Few of us intentionally refused to see the reality of our lives or the circumstances in which we find ourselves.But the truth is that most of us have indeed done so. In alanon we eventually come to see the many ways we had unknowingly blocked out a whole segments of our past and present. We recognize situ...	gardengal	2	770	Jun 25, 2005 by cdb
	Step Three (Preview) Made a desicion to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understand Him. I am going on my third step and I wonder how as a parent I will turn my will and live over to God. What as a parent is my will? I have to make desicions and take action or he will walk all over me(my son). How do I tell the differ...	ItsmeTC	1	948	Jun 25, 2005 by cdb
	Sat 6/25/05 Evening Meeting (Preview) I need to appologize in advance... I have had some personal issues come up and will not be able to chair the meeting tonight... I hope that someone else can step forward and take the chair.... Again Sorry for the short notice.... Bob	NightWatcher	1	654	Jun 25, 2005 by cdb
	Dori (Preview) How are you doing sweetheart? I have been thinking and praying for you and yours. Wish I could throw you a rope and pull you out, but then that would not be good either huh? I know we have to do things ourselves, but I want you to know, if I were there, I would do whatever I could. But here I am in Oreg...	debilyn	1	812	Jun 25, 2005 by dori
	Serenity Growing and Growing (Preview) Hi all, Well here I sit, or am squashed by two Basset hounds, an English Bulldog and a huge orange cat. Trying to type with marshmallow all over my fingers... I was looking around my living room, and feeling the wonderful calm atmosphere. Does not mean the world is not putting obstacles in fron...	debilyn	8	1084	Jun 25, 2005 by debilyn
	cdb (Preview) HI dear, just wanted to thank you for asking for prayers. You are very thoughtful, and cute too!! (c: I can't seem to connect real well right now. Limbo is hard. My son and daughter have been great. Mac, my son, is moving back down here. He already has a good job here. The old boss up in Wa. told...	debilyn	1	716	Jun 25, 2005 by cdb
	Lost..... (Preview) I am sitting here feeling totally lost in this crazy life style. I am debating whether to just end our marriage. Seems like the drinking is getting worse and my A refuses to admit to the problem and truly believes our marriage is great. I know I owe it to our daughter to give her the upb...	odaat	3	990	Jun 25, 2005 by debilyn
	I feel like c!#p (Preview) Hey, I just need to get some of this pain out. i feel so all alone and pitifuland like I'm just sick and tired and sick and tired of it. Where do i find the motivation to do all this all the time It's like I can't get out of the funk to do it anymore. i don't do it right. and i'm drowni...	browneyes	10	1122	Jun 25, 2005 by whitie
	something is terribly wrong with me (Preview) Hey, Have you ever felt like a piece of furntire.I am working through some tuff stuff and I am single mom receltly lost my job and people in my lfie igonre me they say it is cause they dont know what to say. I post on alanon they say I got alot og anger and bitterness I try to tone that d...	dori	12	1505	Jun 24, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Prayers , please, grieving family (Preview) HI you guys I am here to please ask for prayers for a family and dear friend who are deeply grieving the sudden loss of a beautiful , loving , blythe spirit ....a 36 yr old mother of 2, daughter, sister, co worker , friend and beloved one. A lady named mistee was called home to God last Saturday in...	fiona123	7	765	Jun 24, 2005 by WStar
	Feeling anger, etc. at your A? (Preview) This is just a tip I thought I would share that helps me. When I am feeling a particular emotion with my spouse (anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment, etc.), I let myself feel that feeling, acknowledge that feeling, that that emotion is real. : ( ...	wallsal55	1	785	Jun 24, 2005 by buzzfree
	slipping (Preview) I don't know what is going on with me right now. I am getting that I'm too busy for Al-anon attitude. I think it is because there is nicer weather and I want to just enjoy it but then again I sit around a lot doing nothing. I am very frustrated with myself. I find myself finding some rea...	holly123	8	935	Jun 24, 2005 by buzzfree
	Learning to be a humble person (Preview) Hello friends, I am working on being a more humble person. I need feedback on how you think a person can be more humble. I did look up the definition in the dictionary and am going with the one on not being arrogant etc. This is related to step 7 too. I know of some humble people but some of them are humble&n...	cdb	4	1293	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Prayers for Debilyn please (Preview) Hello friends, Debilyn posted below. She is having a biopsy soon to see if she has breast cancer. I myself have had my own situation with breast cancer. I am asking for major continuous prayers for her. I believe in the power of prayer. Please read her post if you haven't yet and let's start a prayer cha...	cdb	7	787	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Beer, Daughter, Cabin :( (Preview) Hello friends, These alcoholics sure struggle :( I have so much compassion for my daughter. She has been so quiet. Last night she asked if she could take my car for a drive later in the evening. I said yes but how long will you be gone? She said about a half an hour. Well, I had been a little co...	cdb	2	1217	Jun 24, 2005 by jj
	Who's right really? The alcoholic or the non-alcoholic... (Preview) This is a reply to another post on this borad and I thought I'd share it with everyone because this is something I've often thought about.... After all, who are we to say what is right or wrong for another person? Just because one hits bottom doesn't mean that it is not what God intends to hap...	sanddie	8	1415	Jun 24, 2005 by lin0606
	Alanon has but one purpose>>> (Preview) The Alanon family groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience , strength and hope, in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoolism is a family illness and that chaged attitudes can aid recovery. Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomi...	gardengal	4	984	Jun 24, 2005 by Diva
	Starting over (Preview) Good morning everyone...My A is away on a business trip for 3 days, so I'm trying to do some special ME time for a couple of days...but life keeps getting in the way. By the way, at 2:30 am yesterday, my newest grandson was born, weighing over 9 pounds! What a gift and a blessing for his health. I...	Belongtome	8	1229	Jun 24, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Sitting with "bad" feelings (Preview) Hello, I have a couple of situations that are getting to me. I took off last night from work because I am getting so sick of the bs. I am fortunate to have a good paying job w/benefits but it is 3rd shift and I have to work weekends. Day jobs are scarce. I bid...	Idealsummerluv	4	1438	Jun 24, 2005 by Idealsummerluv
	Family Deception (Preview) I found out this week that my childrens father, whom I have now been divorced from for 9 years almost, in which the time we had been married was so emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive has been a cocaine dealer for many years, even when we were together.... What most upsets me abo...	sanddie	4	1021	Jun 23, 2005 by sanddie
	bitterness my AMENDS (Preview) Hey, Some said they read my post to browneyes and said they couldnt bleive all the hate and bitterness in me.I felt bad I thought oh my what did I say I went back to the post .I read it and I stand on it.But I also know their is some truth in what she said to me.I did ask my God my father to help me deal with...	dori	4	1289	Jun 23, 2005 by Diva
	kis (Preview) Kis, I am not sure of your whole name thanks for the reponse to my last post.I read all the posts and they were helpful.But i personally want to thank you for yours I read it and I cried and i cired you got it , you understood you heard me thank you. I am going to do that and write down all the things&n...	dori	2	688	Jun 23, 2005 by kismetstrand
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