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Realizationn
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I discovered something this last weekend about myself and my A. I picked him up from work and went to a wedding with him and the kids of an old friend. It was beautiful. Then went home to changed, suggested that we go to the movies as a family, the A decides he can't live without foot spray, and leaves...
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FEELING SAD
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Feeling rather sad and a bit hopeless today. My ex-A's behaviour is more and more irratic. He is not getting on with my eldest daughter and they are just arguing and battling all the time, feel like a referee at the moment. I had hoped of a reconcilation eventually between us, but ca...
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Hanging in here
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Hi Everyone,
I have been reading my book I just got thru the bookstore here, Alanon,"Paths to Recovery", Alanon's Steps, Traditions and Concepts. I can see ways in which I have matured, as far as my thinking goes. Ha! Finally after 20 yrs I can see this difference! ...
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mamasan
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I am a failure
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I know that recovery is a process and no one is perfect, but damn!!! There was an incident at my house this morning where a neighbor threatened to shoot my husband. His mother came over and everything turned out okay. I found out my husband has been more active in his addiction than I...
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Powerless
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feeling helpless and desperate
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New to this forum, I didn't know where else to turn. My husband has been in recovery for about 2 1/2 years, with occasional relapses. The last relapse he'll own up to was almost 2 years ago, but I have suspected many others since then, even though there is always a story (though not always plausible) to ex...
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cinderella
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Step 2
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Anyone have experience with step 2 would you PLEASE share your experince stragth and hope with me PLEASE.........
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Thank you
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Hey guys
I just wanted to say thank you for replying to my post. I really know what to do. You are all very kind and wise. I posted a message to you all on my previous post.
Love,
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Happy Fathers Day
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Jeannie
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Seeing past the crap to HP
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the topics of step 2 and faith connect with me today. I was getting into a " mundane about life" kind of place a couple weeks back and I thought I'd share on what came up for me at an ealrier meeting incase anyone in here identifies, too.
Life seemed very dull and routines felt so meaningless--A...
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Computer problems, relapse, fear
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Hello all,
It's been a long week ... computer problems have kept me from the board and until I receive the new modem in the mail it will be touch an go as to whether I can view the site or not.
Friday was payday ... and after cashing his check and setting aside the money for our bills, he took the res...
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detachment
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I am having some trouble detaching. My A is going out tonight , first time since I had the baby, which is really good for him, but once he starts, it doesn't stop. Anyway, I am ok with PART of it, I am ok with him going to the bar(which is across town, and cops sit everywhere), but at this bar, he knows everyone...
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lilleah
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Looking for Feedback on a Project
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I am working on a project that will allow families and friends of Alcoholics and Substance Abusers to help them through a special program, while protecting them from enabling. I am posting this with the hope that you might visit the website, take a look at the story, learn about the project and give me y...
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FCCaretaker
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Still feeling so sad??
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Hi,
Last week I had a hurtful experience, and I am still feeling sad. I sponsor three people, I do my best to always be there for them because I really care.
The day after my son's court case, I was still feeling nervous, and upset. One of the people who I sponsor called me ea...
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teddybear
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STEP ONE,,,,,,EXCELLENT READING
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STEP ONE: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol----that our lives had become unmanageable.
Each of our lives has been devasted by someone else's drinking. We cannot change that fact. We have been profoundly affected by the disease of alcoholism, Its effects continue to mermeate our lives....
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gardengal
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Please Remember
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hello everyone! I am new to this board so please bear with me. I would like all of your help in remembering our troops that are overseas fighting the war on terror. Please keep them in your prayers. My brother is in the army, He is a Lt Col and has 700 soldier...
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MrBlue42
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Makes no sense
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I have been doing so much thinking and crying and thinking some more. I have been around all of this for so long. I have read everything there is to read. I have reread and said the prayers and slogans to myself so often. I have worked the steps, honestly and to the best of my ability alone and with a sponsor....
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Jeannie
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still gone and no hope in sight
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Any suggestions:
Have been seperated for about 5 months from my qualifier who is my husband.
I have made it clear that in order to get back together he would have to join AA and get a sponsor and be of service for about a year ooooooo yeah keep the same place of employment for over a year. He is living in a...
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joeygirl
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Relapse
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I noticed the post below on Relapse. I have mixed feelings about it. My experience was with my husband's relapse after ten years of sobriety was this. [I felt He could find sobriety again if HE wanted it, but it would require him hitting another bottom. And it did.&nb...
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wallsal55
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Acting as If...and Quote for Today
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I think I have forgotten how to "act as if". We have such glorious June weather here...and I well...have just gotten plain lazy, But enjoying that laziness--is a payoff : ) I feel I deserve the relaxed time after all the stress, but I swing to the extreme...
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wallsal55
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God Said NO
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GOD SAID 'NO' (Think about this) I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary I asked God to grant me patience. God said,...
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sara
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hi sara.......if you click onyour original post, then scroll down, the shares are posted below yours :)
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New here, need some friendly advice....
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Hi everyone,
I really feel fed up today and i shall explain why..........
I have been married for nearly three years, and my husband has always liked a drink.
We have been together for eight years and it he has always been this way.
He can binge drink quite easily, gets very aggressive and argum...
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a little help with a dry drunk please?????
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hi all,
Well, my husband now has about 7 months of sobriety, and he is starting to act out the dry drunk stages. Some more angry then others, and all though i know what to do with myself during these times.....I was wondering what exactly is going on inside him that makes alcoholics act out in dry...
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Surgery
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Hi all - I'm having surgery on my neck on Fri to remove unwanted bone - then to re-hab for therapy on my legs. I welcome your prayers and send you my love and hugs - Dot
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To cloud
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Hi cloud,
Thanks for your responses to my posts, I really appreciate it!! I just wanted to let you know that I am not cathy, I am Linda (teddybear) There are so many people on this message board that it is easy to not identify people with their posting names. I hope that all is going well with you to...
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teddybear
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relapses---do they just get worse?
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My A husband entered a 30 day inpatient facility and did "great" but came out and drank 2 days later. Started a semi program after and didn't drink for 2 weeks but drank one night but got back on board. 2 weeks later another "relapse". Stayed away for 1 week---admits he was drunk most...
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Sara here, how do i read the views made?
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Hi Guys,
Thankyou for replying, but unfortunately i cannot seem to work out how to access the comments made, its driving me insane!!!!!!!
Can someone please email me and let me know j.taylor3@btopenworld.com
Thankyou..................
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Sara
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I am so angry
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I am so angry tonight and don't know why. I posted earlier about expectations. I realize that I cannot impose my will on anyone else, especially an addict. But, I am still angry and wondering how he can be so stupid. How can he not see things as I do? Why doesn't he understand?&...
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I sent the note
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I had posted on here about sending a note to my sister-in-law informing her that I had left her brother.
I read the responses, talked to my therapist and prayed on it.
I wanted to tell his family because I thought they should know.
So I sent my closest sister-in-law a no...
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megan
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Letter to the addict
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I have been feeling so much anger, disappointment and resentment lately. I thought it was important to write this letter to my husband. I thought it may fit your situation as well. It's not well thought out because I was feeling very emotional when I wrote it.
Dear (A...
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Powerless
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Daughter back in AA :)
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Hello friends,
Once again, thanks for the prayers so much! Daughter called today and I twisted her arm to come home to have some of her past due birthday cake and open her cards. She came home since her dad wasn't here. Gosh, I wish my hubby would go to alanon etc. Anyway, we had a nice visit. She ev...
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daughter
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Husband stopped at her apartment. Neighbor has seen her coming and going. Out of our control now. She hasn't called us or her boyfriend. Could use continued prayers. For those of you who do not know. Daughter relapsed. Not sure what is going on. Time to take care of me :) cdb
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THE FOG
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I was cleaning out my computer and came across something that I wrote several yrs ago. Thought I'd share..
The Fog.... The fog has taken you and enveloped the man I used to know. Where are you? How can I reach you? I wonder through the fog with you, never finding you, only remembering the m...
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Amends to kerry5
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Hello kerry5 and all,
I did make amends to you last night in chat and making amends is one great thing about the alanon program. I have been in a crisis with the relapse of my daughter. I should have had a sign on me that said: Look Out, Crazy Woman! LOL I know how hard it must be to be a new OP and...
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cdb
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Expectations
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A light bulb finally weent off in my head. I reealized today just what everyone means when they say expectations. My husband and I took the oldrest son to the movies today and he was so high on pills that he couldn't stay awake. He snored loud enough to turn heads. I sent him to the car t...
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Powerless
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host daze
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Hi to all,
I hope it's great all y'all's ways.
The a.m. chat is becoming a
less and less option for me.
When I wake up - my java into
chat is visually impaired.
It takes about an hour for my
eyes to open. Java does not
support text enlarging. I have
five fields of vision, so its takes
a wh...
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wille
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Going in Circles for too long
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I'm new. So Hello everyone!
I've been with A for 40 years, so I'll give a brief synopsis. 16 years into our marriage, I had had enough. There were no drinkers in my family, so I thought my hubby's problems were deep-seated issues from his own family history and childhood. But, I had simply had enough an...
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Roundups and conventions
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A post in another thread got me thinking about this. Have any of you ever been to a roundup? They are like big meetings, with both AA and Alanon. The ones I have been to have varied from just one day (usually a Saturday) to a whole weekend. In the course of a day there amy be five or six meetings where people ge...
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Hurts so much
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Hi,
Well last night came and went and he did not go into detox. He called them on Monday and said they did not get back to him. He said if the detox wanted him badly enough they would have kept after him. He says they are supposed to reach out to him, so it is their fault and says he will not call them again.
S...
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quotes to remember!!
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In Life
You can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life. hmm:
Sometimes when you're angry, you have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give you the right to be cruel.
This is so true!! You shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your l...
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teddybear
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The Man in the glass
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Here is a poem that my Dad said my Grandfather read to him frequently in his years growing up and my Grandfathers years in AA, fighting for sobriety. He said he has always told me to follow the girl in the mirror, and this is where he learned that from. I just wanted to share it with you all.
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Jeannie
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New here
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My husband hasn't had drink for a month now, he was attending some meetings but hasn't in weeks. I am worried he will resort back to his old behavior and pattern of drinking if he doesn't continue with his meetings or counselling to work on his issues. I want to feel happy about this, but he has gone a month...
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holdingon
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Step One
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I'm on step one..........I am powerlees over alcohol, my live has become unmangeable.
Please tell me about your experience with step one.
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Hi Everyone
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Hi,
I haven't posted lately, and haven't even had time to read.
My daughter had her eigth grade prom this weekend,(she looked like an angel) and both her and my son are getting ready to graduate this weekend. One on Friday night and one on Monday night. I have been running around helping to get them r...
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Jeannie
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abbyal
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abbyal,
Can you e-mail me again about the AA promises? I lost your e-mail jessage.
Thanks,
Nancy
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nmike
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Progress
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Noticing progress in my self is really nice these days!! It is welcoming to actually be able to see the "light" and have humor rather than dispare!! Finding that the tense feeling in my body is flowing away is just great!
This has not come easily but with working my program and be...
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jj
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Trying to use my steps
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I woke up this morning and found $500.00 in my purse that wasn't there when I went to bed. Since then, I found out that the neighbor my husband sold his pick-up truck to last week gave him $1000.00 last night. My husband never mentioned this to me. My first reaction was to call my husba...
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Powerless
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Not sure when enough is enough
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I am disable due to MS and a below right knee amputation which I have had the last fifteen years. I was dignosed with a severe form of MS four years ago. I have been married to the same man for the last 13 years and togather with him for 15 years now. He is really a wonderful person who has a...
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I am finally back up and running!
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Hi all,
Our home computer crashed about 3 weeks ago and except with the occasional peek while at work I haven't been on this site. Nice to be able to type this at home. The other half says I get cranky when I don't have my puter time. (But I functioned okay without it als...
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DanaAngel
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Alternate Chair Monday a.m.'s
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Hi everyone,
I have decided to drop my name from the list as alternate chair for Monday morning meetings. The last few weeks I have been unable to fulfill my capacity as an alternate chair for various reasons. However, if I am in the room attending the meeting on days other...
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shimo
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Thank you
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Thanks to all of you for replying.
I've always been a head-strong person and that is one of my biggest downfalls. It has also always been very hard for me to ask for help on anything. ( My father was the same way.)
During our first years of marriage, I learned how to do everything from plu...
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answering a child's questions...
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My 10 year old knows somethings up. He'll ask me "Why is daddy asleep so early" "Why can't we wake him" "Is it the alcohol he drinks?"
Well, part of me wants to say all the wrong things, which would be wrong. Part of me wants to hide it, which would be wrong too. I f...
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De Anna
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Codependent Caring Running Amok/Characteristics
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www.thisisawar.com/AddictionPartner.htm   Codependence
[The word 'amophous' in this piece means shapeless, unorganized, etc.] -- Edited by wallsal55 at 15:33, 20...
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wallsal55
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FRIENDS
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Friends are something we are all in need of from time to time, but friends here relly make a difference!!!! So many times I have sat and wondered lately what the true meaning of a friend was???? I realize that a friend is someone you can turn to in any situation, with a problem, or a joke you want to share or&...
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Chair Needed for 6/16 pm meeting
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I will be out of town this Thursday (6/16) and unable to chair the Thursday night Step meeting. Step Four is the step we are on for this meeting. Thanking in advance the member who volunteers to step up and chair for me!
Luv, Kis
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kismetstrand
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Need support and encouragement or experience
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Ok I am really trying to get the nerve up part of taking care of me.
I want to start to ask for what I want. I want affection from my husband. Affection he may not want to give, but I believe he is waiting for me to assert myself and ask. He ended a 3 year affair 9 months ago with a woman who w...
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holly123
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made a decision
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Hi,
I posted here once a few weeks ago and have tried to convince myself that things have changed, which...not surprisingly...they have not. This past weekend was an eyeopener for me and I am making a decision. In 24 minutes I am leaving work, heading home..and I am going to lay t...
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sno
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Need to talk to Jo4 :)
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Hello Jo4,
I know someone that needs a temporary sponsor. This person has learning disabilities and is a single parent with older son. This person is eager to learn and needs support. Please answer me in my private email here under cdb if you can help out. Thanks so much. cdb :)
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cdb
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Josh
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Thoughts of healing and Hi to all,
Thanks all for thinking of UK Josh.
He is getting better and better!
Totally off life support now, which
is pretty awesome for a tbi (trauma
brain injury) 10 year old. He can
not remember some words as yet
and thinks his leg is broken, as it
is the part of...
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wille
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When enough is enough
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Hi everyone, I went to my first family class with my A last week. He is required to take intensive outpatient therapy at this couseling center four nights a week two hours a night. One night a week is family night, and I did not go to the first three because he got the couselor at the rehab plac...
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honeybunnydog
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