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If it walks like a duck...
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I posted last week and said I had let go of my own program in some decieved notion that my disease was in remission...NOT
Someone told me that if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then it must be a duck. That there was no need to keep looking for evidence, this disease of addiction always shows it...
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Leaving the City of Regret
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Morning ((((((((Group)))))))
Was sitting down and getting ready to work on putting together a meeting plan for a December 30th meeting that I will be chairing and thought about the topics of guilt and shame... and the tools to help us shed them. I came across this "story" by Larry Harp that I j...
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Merry Christmas
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I have been given a download of Jamie Olivers New cookbook, which I would like to share with everyone. I'm not good with computers however so I hope the download has worked.
Mon -- Edited by mon123 at 17:12, 2005-12-14
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Trying to post this again...
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15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time:
Mission Impossible" theme.
12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels. ALSO _ wear bras as hats!
13 Hide in a clothing...
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EXPECTATIONS & HOLIDAYS
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One obstacle over which many of us stumble as we attempt to battle this disease of attitudes is our "own" expectations, There is no better way to make ourselves feel victimized and helpless than by harbouring unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others, or by confusing expectations wi...
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Why I remain with an active alcoholic/addict
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My dear friends in recovery;
Here are some basic facts about me.
1. I have chosen to remain with the alcoholic because I beleive I have received guidance from my HP. When I do what I truly feel inside is right, things go very well for me. Even tho he is active, and I have done a few th...
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What is he doing???
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Hey guys
Hope everyone is well
Now that my husband got out of jail on Monday, he has been sober(no meth)for over a week I guess. I was happy at first but he is driving me CRAZY!!!!!
It is STILL ALL ABOUT HIM-He paces, he runs his mouth all day long, he wants constant attention, he is SOOO...
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unreasonable-women's issues
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this week the guilt is hitting me. i have been totally unreasonable and difficult to live with due to pms. i just cant hold anything in. im getting angry over the stupidest things and just yell. i feel horrible for my recovering a having to deal with this. he is doing well by just letting it go an...
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got caught
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My husband has been bugging me for a while now to co-sign a loan for a car and I haven't wanted to do it. I had slip an told him in 90 days when going to aa , which he forgot that part, I will co-sign, well yesterday he went out like some of you have read earier post an didn't call him. This morning when I got up he ha...
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Holding myself Back----RAMBLE
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Hi, I have been on a long hiatus (sp.?) from the boards. But have to get into counseling to untangle many threads. Medication changes, too. Seems like I hold myself back, and I do not even know the reasons why. Husband is sober, but I still h...
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STUCK in the middle
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I could use some insight of those who have grown up in alcoholic families or who have been stuck in the middle of parents. People who were stuck in the middle, between the angry mother and father. Those who were constantly put in between the parents … divorced or not.
I have no experience on being in thi...
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The Manipulator
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My a called me on our son's cell phone Sunday because he knows I'll answer if I see it's our son. During our "Chat" I requested that he contribute to our cell phone bill. He refused because I got the phones and he doesn't have\want one. But he was talking on one of them! When I told him to forget it, it isn...
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December Music
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www.alighthouse.com/dec.htm ENJOY! (May have to type in) 
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just in need of a hug
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christmas is just too hard on me this yr..want to move on to Jan, but it wouldn't be fair to the kids..money is not here..struggling, tired of it all, and worn out..just need a hug, that isn't there...happy holidays..well, wouldn't say that, but have a nice one anyway...kat
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interested in my a's sober friend
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The strangest thing has happened. My a and I were away with friends last weekend and my a has one sober friend (more of a friend of a friend). Everyone in the group was totally trashed the entire trip except me and this nice guy. I met him recently at a birthday party, and spent much of the trip talking to him...
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support system
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When I first came to Alanon I only had my mom and my sister for my support system. Then when I came to Alanon on went online who the told me to get into a face to face group. Then I meet two of the most awsome people who are online an have help me alot. One is my best friend and the other is my sponsor. However one of...
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Funny email I got today - hope it makes everyone laugh
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15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time:
Mission Impossible" theme.
12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels. ALSO _ wear bras as hats!
13 Hide in a clothi...
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Forget it...:(
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I tried to post something really funny but only half of it wants to go up even though it all pastes perfectly onto my post
That makes me sad - it really made me laugh :(
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I DID IT
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I have come along way. Yesterday I came home and did my wash that is a great thing in itself. I have problems doing my wash. I have waited months to do it. I have done it every week since I wash my clothes on Friday of Thanksgiving. Then I took a shower which I have had problems doing that as well. So that is two g...
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Ex I think has been calling
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We had our staff meeting at work today - and the front desk person brought it up in the meeting that lately noone has been able to find me in the building. Usually noone is ever looking for me and never needs to know when I am in - but they say I keep getting alot of calls. Funny how the calls reall...
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Chistmas Request
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The Miracles In Progress Recovery House in Wilmington, NC has eight men living in it who are in the early stages of recovery from alcoholism and/or addiction. They do not appear to have family or friends from which to gain healthy holiday wishes. As we all know, the holidays can be a hard t...
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One more time...
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1. Get 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in people's carts when they aren't looking.
Mission Impossible" theme.
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give up...give in...let go...sounds soo easy huh????
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Subject: Step Three
"Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God." Many of us have confused ideas about what it means to surrender to the care of God. Anyone who has battled with control issues may have a hard time giving up, giving in, and lettin...
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question
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can someone tell me what exactly the mip house is?
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Keep plugging through...
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Hello Group
Last night my a and I started working on the book that our therapist suggested. We were only supposed to get together on it for 15-20 minutes, but it dragged on because I wanted to share with him the skills I have been working on for parenting. So, before we even start he smokes...
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Cherish........Quote for Today
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Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate accomplishments.---Napoleon Hill 
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Happy Birthday Lucy
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Hope you have a great day !!!
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Don't know what to do
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Good morning to all. If you can't tell by my username, I am a 28 year old daughter of an alcoholic, actually, of 2, in my opinion. My father is an alcoholic, but I am not considering him a raging alcoholic. My father has been drinking for years on end, having a rum and coke e...
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Surprise Visit
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I got a phone call last night from a friend who popped back into town for the night (he lives in Delaware now) and wanted to know if I wanted to go out. I had SOOOO much work to do for my new business and was totally exhausted so I declined and said I might go out tonight instead. About 10pm I saw a h...
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Christmas Eve is my anniversary....
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Hi Alanon friends,
My recovering A husband and I will be married 32 years on Christmas Eve. We married on that day because of convenience not out of religion, etc. He told me a year ago November that he wanted out of the marriage, he wanted a divorce, and that his quest was for his own happiness. H...
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How am I going to get through this?
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Hi everyone,
I really could use some support.
I've been having a rough time lately. My husband, who was nearly 20 years sober started drinking again last winter. He wouldn't do it often--in the spring it was more often and more serious. The reason he started, was because some...
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A Spiritual Experience
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I really want to share an experience I had Saturday morning. I've been working my NA program very intensely this past week and so many suggestions are the same in Al Anon such as Just for Today and the theme of taking one day at a time. If you're thinking of the past or projecting into t...
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I'm allowing myself to be held hostage
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I’m just trying to get through just one day at a time. I feel like I’m being held hostage by the love and concern for my kids. And fear of letting them out of my life. My ex asked me to stay in the house until after the holidays. Not that we had agreed I would move out, but a few months ago that’s what she wanted...
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update
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Hi guys - thanks for the prayers. Turns out the problem I am having with headaches and numbness has a simple solution. Two vertebrae in my neck are rotated and pinching my nerves, causing the numbness in my hands and arms. So I'm going to have x-rays tomorrow, and then on Thursday am going to have them r...
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John/OP_Present
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Hey, your pm is turned off ... they changed it to /umode -m (note the small m rather than capital M)... I need to speak with you again before the op meeting... am in room now or you can call me. Thanks!
Kis
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A friend from this board reached out to me....
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Well, I've been isolating myself and of course as all relapses occur I just went into a downward spiral. Depression has seemed to have gotten the best of me and as a result I have gone back to behaviors that I shouldn't. Found myself on Saturday in a fetal position on the couch in my pyjamas all day and to to...
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starfish
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I got this e-mail this morning and it was too nice to pass up sharing~
One morning, I went out for my daily sunrise walk on the beach. Off in the distance, I could see someone pick something up off the beach, wade a little ways into the ocean and then toss the object into the water.
Then, the person,...
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Magpie?
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Are you still out there. I had sent you PM and hadn't heard back from you. Just wanted to know if all is okay?
Hugs Mary
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New here and looking for info....
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I am new to this forum and am looking for some help. Does anyone know some good sites that have info on alcoholism and its affects on the person's body and mind? I know I read some stuff before....but it was a long time ago and I need to refresh my memory. My husband is an alcoholic, and until lately I had let h...
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working on step two
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I am working on step two. I am having a hard time doing it. Not knowing what I believe in right now. I am working on the question in the Path to Recovery with my sponsor who is being very patient with me. My past experience being religious is when my father was in the hospital and he was having open heart surge...
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Life feels like it sucks right now
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Well, the infamous captcodee is feeling like crap!
I am tired.
I am mad.
I am playing emotional games with myself that are causing me trouble in all areas of my life. I am upset with myself for getting upset with myself.
I tried to take it easy last night, as I can feel this bubble of irratio...
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Am I getting stronger?
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My husband has been very good. I have been thinking about letting him take the car out and drive it again. Since he is doing so good. Well I talked about it with a couple of people and they have remind me the reason why I took the key in the first place. I have told my self that had a good reason at that time and I n...
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Lyrics
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Everytime I hear the new song by Carrie Underwood, it reminds me to just let go.....here are chorus of the song....
Jesus take the wheel Take it from my hands Cause I can't do this all on my own I'm letting go So give me one more chance To save me from this road I'm on Jesus take the wheel
Hugs Mary
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i want to be like WATER!!!
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Today's thought is:
Sweet Surrender
So we're ready to take on the world, at least to take the next step. That's when it hits. Or rather we hit it. The wall.Suddenly the path that looked so clear, so easy, so laid out in front of us disappears. Just a little glitch, we think. We take another run at it....
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i'm fine :)
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i am sorry i havent posted i have not been on the computer all weekend . some of my wonderful friends here were worried. i am fine just crazied with amanda & christmas & working and being a wife & a mother cooking ,cleaning the usual stuff. when i get home my day starts all over ag...
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Our deepest fear...
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I saw this today while I was out shopping and thought I'd share it with all of you. It really touched something in me..thanks for letting me share :)
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our Light, not our darkness, tha...
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For my Dad
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On Sat morn, I had to call 911 for my dad. He was having chest pains and couldnt breathe. He has been in the hospital since. He has double pneumonia, and is on monitors. I am very worried and scared. He is the only family I have left.
Just asking you all to pray for...
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anxious and nervous
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Hi Roomies
I am anxious and nervous so my best friend suggested that I post.
I filed for divorce in August.
My complaint was ugly and dirty laundry and sadly true.
My husband’s answer to my complaint was due 10/22 and he got a 30 day extension.
I have been nagging my lawyer to...
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Everything I've done has been a reaction ...
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Hi,
I'm very grateful to have found this forum.
I've posted before about my situation.
I've been trying to stay "clear," but as time goes on, it becomes more and more apparent that I have given away my ownership of my emotions and every aspect of my life.
When I was ready to face that my husband ha...
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Intimate Issues ** Adult content
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Hi - I'm new to this site but not to the program. I have 40 months in Al-Anon but don't currently have a home group. A little background: I have been married to my 'A' for 10 years. He has no intention of recovery at this point and I have found what serenity is possible with that, s...
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Don't know what I'm feeling
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I became cranky tonight and wasn't sure why, just sure that everyone noticed. I took a bath and thought about it. My husband came in and asked me what was wrong. I told him that he messed up Friday night in the worst way and he has just continued on like nothing happened. I was de...
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hey yall
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Hey yall seeing alot of good stuff and alot of gut level honesty. Please keep it up. Just wanted to tell yall I'm doing good. The university replaced the computers in the dorm with really nice ones....the only thing is, they don't connect to the internet. And being the good lazy doke I am, until I get a rea...
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This is lovely and appropriate...
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Hi!
I realise this is a little off the board topic but hope it is ok to post. I recieved this poem from a friend and I think it embodies all I have found here.
Hope you enjoy it as I did.
Feather
On Line Friends
I had some free time, so what did I do? I checked the computer to see if I'd h...
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Today is about me - hope it stays that way
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First things first - I have an important job interview today that I am PRAYING I get - would make my life alot more simplified (in the long run) if I did get it. Many of you were not around last night for my share in the meeting - but as of late I am realizing that my HP had a specific plan for me that I am fin...
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Cyn
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New, is this where I belong??
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Hi I am ed,
For about seven years I have been in Overeater anonymous, and i have experienced recovery i have been fre from compulsive eating for almost 4 years. but something is not quite right. I still have no peace. This time of year is tough, 10 years ago (on Dec 1st) my mom died from a combinnation of a...
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Up For Air
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Dec. 11,
I never thought I would be so relieved to see anger. My A appeared at the door with a very angry expression and handed me the cell phone. I have given him the spare phone but l I had to suspend the services. The phone was broken apart in two, no battery, and he had pulled the antena o...
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Jealous of support!!!
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Hi!
I have woken this morning to the realization that I am jealous, just when I thought I had an understanding of my feelings concerning my A (Husband) and the tools to deal to with them healthily. What's worse is the circumstances this jealousy has arisen in.
Three days ago we got the awful news tha...
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speaking of sad songs
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Recently the topic has come up of sad songs and a few here have been posting -which got me thinking this one certainly does it for me. Another one is "Old Man, by Neil Young" Although I am unable to find the lyrics it. In my cd Neil portrays it different then how I interpret it anyway, but to me it's jus...
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HOT lava
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Some days are so hard to get through. I battle just staying afloat.
Yesterday was one of then. I tried so many of the tools I have learned... I read my literature, I called my sponsor, I drew, I made cookies, I decorated the tree, I went to church, I took a bubble bath and the list does go on. As long as my m...
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sandie123
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HP don't let me forget how i USED to be
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Keep It Simple God gave us memory that we might have roses in December.--James M. Barrie. Do you remember what it was like to not have sobriety? Remember the shame? Remember the loneliness? Remember lying and wishing you could stop? Remember the powerlessness? Do you remember, also, how it felt wh...
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