Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

jaja · jaja

I am at this moment ticked off about something and my brain is stuck somewhere. I have told my A (who still "stays" at a motel) that this relationship cannot work unless he first gets support through AA or whatever. Then maybe we can start talking about our marriage stuff. I've been...

tea2 · tea2

“Letting Go” My sponsor informed me I need to focus more on letting go. I recently have been running in circles -where my focus should be. While here I was thinking I had a relapse in my recovery, due to some “stinking thinking” It’s back to the first topic that brought me to al-anon that I need...

Christy · Christy

God's Boxes I have in my hands two boxes, Which God gave me to hold. He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box, And all your joys in the gold." I heeded His words, and in the two boxes, both my joys and sorrows I stored.. But though the gold became heavier each day, The black w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

OK, if i don't get responses on my shorter shares, i totally understand if you don't want to give esh on this one....this is just MY feelings sharing in the hope that "giving this away" helps someone Hope for Today - December 16 I had a job in my alcoholic family,...

Barbara · Barbara

mine are to keep doing what Ive been doing since mid Oct when I realized I needed help: 1) AlAnon meeting on Sat morn (thanks Megan for keeping me at it). They will be starting the steps and I'm planning on doing them w/them. 2) Keep attending weekly Mass 3) Keep doing at least 30mins of physical exe...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Today's thought is: It is impossible to overemphasize the immense need humans have to be really listened to, to be taken seriously, to be understood. --Dr. Paul Tournier, M.D. We need assurance that our presence has value to the lives of those around us at home, work, and play. Our self worth...

cedarpines · cedarpines

HI Group, Serenity's gone - Has anyone seen it? ...so the s*** hit the fan in the new apt. I've been so angry, frustrated, & irritable. This feels nothing like a home. I called & left a message for the apt. manager - who knows if she'll actually get it. Then - to my g...

DaddysLilGirl · DaddysLilGirl

Good afternoon everyone. My first visit here was a couple of days ago and I have been looking forward to returning......and here I am. My father is still in the hospital, but I have spoken with him over the past couple of days and visited him today to drop off some of his personal belongings...

megan · megan

Chair needed for Sunday 7pm meeting I am unable to chair the Sunday 12/18 7pm meeting. My brother and his family are in from the Netherlands and my sister is hosting a family party that evening. I appreciate the person who is able to cover for me Thanks in advance Megan

bobump · bobump

Got this in an email. I liked a few of these.... Holiday Eating Tips 1. Avoid carrot sticks. Anyone who puts celery on a holiday buffet table knows nothing of the Christmas spirit. In fact, if you see celery, leave immediately. Go next door, where they're serving rum balls. If your vega...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Good morning roomies, I often say to the newbies here that you must not loose yourself in your A's disease. I was thinking how much I did that last year before I found this board. Last Holiday season I didn't do the things that were always a tradition for me and my family, or just for me. Last y...

Powerless · Powerless

By now, ya'll know I have not been having such a hot day (literally). We finally got a fire going in the fire place. I haven't tended a fire since I was a girl scout. I actuallu tore up my daughter's dresser for wood. (Promised to buy her a new one before she comes home). I g...

Evilynn · Evilynn

I am a bit overwhelmed. I am to go to Al-anon meetings, therapy and bipolar support groups. I feel like I am doing too much and not sure which part of me and my problems to focus on. Arrrggghhhhh!!! Anybody else going through this?

Lanchas · Lanchas

http://www.hsc.wvu.edu/som/cmed/alcohol/alcoholism/beh-role-ch.htm

Cyn · Cyn

I am glad that I have been able to laugh at it all - cause I really could be bottoming out on my floor right now. I have spent the last two months ignoring my own life and now picking up the pieces and doing something about it. The one thing I was SERIOUSLY STILL neglecting for the last month has b...

Tammy · Tammy

I feel like I am going in circles..Here I am, December 2005 and feeling the same way I did 2 years ago. My life is out of control, I moved out in September then moved back 30 days later to promises of a better tomorrow. Then, well.... You all know what happens after a few short weeks of...

jeannie024 · jeannie024

hi everyone my server is down at the moment using sons comp tonight came on to wish you all a merry christmas hope you have a wonderfull time have a wondefull and happy new year hugs and kisses your friend from scotland take care xxx

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

my a is so selfesh, insensitive and igornoant. the list goes on and on. today one of our gerbils died. i called him at work and told him and he was sad and like what do we do with the body. i have had tons of gerbils before and disposed of them in manners that just made me feel horrible. so today i brought her to a...

angel123 · angel123

1. Hope instead of desperation. 2. Faith instead of despair. 3. Courage instead of fear. 4.Peace Of Mind instead of confusion. 5.self-Respect instead of contempt. 6.Self-confidence instead of helplessness. 7.Respect Others instead of pity and contempt. 8.A Clean Conscience i...

cdb · cdb

This past week a friend of mine passed away from cancer. :( I am having company come tomorrow to stay with us from out of town. I am putting off decorating the house and getting things done for xmas. I decided that if I only have a small amount of decorations out before xmas that is fine. If the house is not as...

megan · megan

Yesterday the answer to my divorce complaint came. My husband denies everyone of my complaints. Even though they are true He has submitted a list of complaints about me. My lawyer enclosed a letter stating that we deny all of my husbands complaints (before I even got a copy of the c...

Jane Avril · Jane Avril

Over the Thanksgiving Holiday my mailbox was broken into and was not fixed until last Wednesday, Dec. 7. Meanwhile, while it was broken my parents sent me my Christmas card with $200 in cash enclosed. I never got the card. It is interesting that the reaction I typically get when I s...

Evilynn · Evilynn

I am trying to concentrate on my Bipolar since I went to my doctor's last week, it's hard to juggle the alcoholic and the bipolar at the same time. He put me on Depakote, but I won't take it because of the weight gain and hair loss. I am staying away from my A since he has been doing nothing but drinking, he eve...

Powerless · Powerless

My HP has a sense of humor. I have to believe that because the only other option is he is out to get me. I thought things couldn't get any worse today. I started the day very down. I tried to read my husband's NA book and then threw the book across the room. I was angry that I r...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I hope everyone is well. My parents are coming to visit this weekend. The kids and I have really been looking forward to it. I have been feeling like I need a dose of Mom and Dad love. Last night I ran into a problem. My Mom called to confirm the trip and she started telling me to make sure my husband wa...

pixel04 · pixel04

My father called me yesterday. He had a question about earthquakes. There have been a lot of those lately, he reminds me. Perhaps I should consider moving out of the earthquake prone zone I live in. Obviously, the earth is in some unstable state, and if it can happen somewhere else, it can happen to me...

marmare · marmare

My day yesterday was so frustrating I was in tears a couple of times, I hate my job and know I don't need this job but I do need a job. Then I tried to tell my self how selfish I was being ......questioning why am I being so ungrateful? Then my 18 yr old son called, he recently has started driving,...

sonya · sonya

I am new to this web site and have already found it very helpful. I have been to a few al-anon meetings and have decided to start working the steps. My husband is an ACoA. His brother is also currently an active addict. The big question is, is he (hubby) an alcoholic? &nb...

bobump · bobump

Yesterday in the parent meeting for my daughters therapist, my wife basically blames me for all our ills. I do my share of blaming too, but I do step up to the plate and take responsibility for at least some of it. The therapist was saying that we basically either have to work it out or get a divorc...

Cyn · Cyn

I am feeling pretty decent lately so I wanted to (while I felt good) appreciate the things I am grateful for: That I grew up with a nice roof over my head, never wanted for much of anything, went to good private schools, have my college education, have parents that will support me (however not in the way...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello Haven't heard from you guys in a while-Just wanted to say "hi" and "how's it going?" And hope all is well. Love Julie D.

lacey007 · lacey007

I am new to this site but I feel that I need some new strategies in my life to keep my sanity and I was wondering if anyone on here had any ideas. I have been in an abusive relationship which has been getting worse for the past couple of years. My husband has just been sentenced to a two month jail...

Powerless · Powerless

I am hurting, angry, resentful and depressed. We still have not bought a single gift for the kids for Christmas. They are not going to get any this year. This is so not fair to them. They are only 2, 8 and 10. My 8 year old isn't home yet, but I still wanted to get her gifts...

missylost · missylost

Hey Everyone, it's missy in Va. I just wanted to take a few minutes and thank you all for the support and help you have been giving me over the last week since I started coming to the online chats. My A is currently gone tho still driving me insane via the telephone til I finally turned it off. I hope...

browneyes · browneyes

I realized today that I really do love my husband but I cut my feelings off so completely when he is using that I don't "know" that I love him. Is that sick? It is so sad for me when he starts using that I just fall apart and then to pick myself up again I "hate" him again. This is very damagi...

confused · confused

I posted last week and said I had let go of my own program in some decieved notion that my disease was in remission...NOT Someone told me that if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then it must be a duck. That there was no need to keep looking for evidence, this disease of addiction always shows it...

Cilla · Cilla

Morning ((((((((Group))))))) Was sitting down and getting ready to work on putting together a meeting plan for a December 30th meeting that I will be chairing and thought about the topics of guilt and shame... and the tools to help us shed them. I came across this "story" by Larry Harp that I j...

mon123 · mon123

I have been given a download of Jamie Olivers New cookbook, which I would like to share with everyone. I'm not good with computers however so I hope the download has worked. Mon -- Edited by mon123 at 17:12, 2005-12-14

Cyn · Cyn

15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time: Mission Impossible" theme. 12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels. ALSO _ wear bras as hats! 13 Hide in a clothing...

gardengal · gardengal

One obstacle over which many of us stumble as we attempt to battle this disease of attitudes is our "own" expectations, There is no better way to make ourselves feel victimized and helpless than by harbouring unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others, or by confusing expectations wi...

captcodee · captcodee

My dear friends in recovery; Here are some basic facts about me. 1. I have chosen to remain with the alcoholic because I beleive I have received guidance from my HP. When I do what I truly feel inside is right, things go very well for me. Even tho he is active, and I have done a few th...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey guys Hope everyone is well Now that my husband got out of jail on Monday, he has been sober(no meth)for over a week I guess. I was happy at first but he is driving me CRAZY!!!!! It is STILL ALL ABOUT HIM-He paces, he runs his mouth all day long, he wants constant attention, he is SOOO...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

this week the guilt is hitting me. i have been totally unreasonable and difficult to live with due to pms. i just cant hold anything in. im getting angry over the stupidest things and just yell. i feel horrible for my recovering a having to deal with this. he is doing well by just letting it go an...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband has been bugging me for a while now to co-sign a loan for a car and I haven't wanted to do it. I had slip an told him in 90 days when going to aa , which he forgot that part, I will co-sign, well yesterday he went out like some of you have read earier post an didn't call him. This morning when I got up he ha...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi, I have been on a long hiatus (sp.?) from the boards. But have to get into counseling to untangle many threads. Medication changes, too. Seems like I hold myself back, and I do not even know the reasons why. Husband is sober, but I still h...

sandie123 · sandie123

I could use some insight of those who have grown up in alcoholic families or who have been stuck in the middle of parents. People who were stuck in the middle, between the angry mother and father. Those who were constantly put in between the parents … divorced or not. I have no experience on being in thi...

whitie · whitie

My a called me on our son's cell phone Sunday because he knows I'll answer if I see it's our son. During our "Chat" I requested that he contribute to our cell phone bill. He refused because I got the phones and he doesn't have\want one. But he was talking on one of them! When I told him to forget it, it isn...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

www.alighthouse.com/dec.htm ENJOY! (May have to type in)

kat4u · kat4u

christmas is just too hard on me this yr..want to move on to Jan, but it wouldn't be fair to the kids..money is not here..struggling, tired of it all, and worn out..just need a hug, that isn't there...happy holidays..well, wouldn't say that, but have a nice one anyway...kat

liliana · liliana

The strangest thing has happened. My a and I were away with friends last weekend and my a has one sober friend (more of a friend of a friend). Everyone in the group was totally trashed the entire trip except me and this nice guy. I met him recently at a birthday party, and spent much of the trip talking to him...

nycbt · nycbt

When I first came to Alanon I only had my mom and my sister for my support system. Then when I came to Alanon on went online who the told me to get into a face to face group. Then I meet two of the most awsome people who are online an have help me alot. One is my best friend and the other is my sponsor. However one of...

Cyn · Cyn

15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time: Mission Impossible" theme. 12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels. ALSO _ wear bras as hats! 13 Hide in a clothi...

Cyn · Cyn

I tried to post something really funny but only half of it wants to go up even though it all pastes perfectly onto my post That makes me sad - it really made me laugh :(

nycbt · nycbt

I have come along way. Yesterday I came home and did my wash that is a great thing in itself. I have problems doing my wash. I have waited months to do it. I have done it every week since I wash my clothes on Friday of Thanksgiving. Then I took a shower which I have had problems doing that as well. So that is two g...

Cyn · Cyn

We had our staff meeting at work today - and the front desk person brought it up in the meeting that lately noone has been able to find me in the building. Usually noone is ever looking for me and never needs to know when I am in - but they say I keep getting alot of calls. Funny how the calls reall...

John · John

The Miracles In Progress Recovery House in Wilmington, NC has eight men living in it who are in the early stages of recovery from alcoholism and/or addiction. They do not appear to have family or friends from which to gain healthy holiday wishes. As we all know, the holidays can be a hard t...

Cyn · Cyn

1. Get 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in people's carts when they aren't looking. Mission Impossible" theme.

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Subject: Step Three "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God." Many of us have confused ideas about what it means to surrender to the care of God. Anyone who has battled with control issues may have a hard time giving up, giving in, and lettin...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

can someone tell me what exactly the mip house is?

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group Last night my a and I started working on the book that our therapist suggested. We were only supposed to get together on it for 15-20 minutes, but it dragged on because I wanted to share with him the skills I have been working on for parenting. So, before we even start he smokes...

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	Are ultimatums(sic?) wrong? (Preview) I am at this moment ticked off about something and my brain is stuck somewhere. I have told my A (who still "stays" at a motel) that this relationship cannot work unless he first gets support through AA or whatever. Then maybe we can start talking about our marriage stuff. I've been...	jaja	9	1101	Dec 16, 2005 by DaddysLilGirl
	Letting Go- Curious (Preview) “Letting Go” My sponsor informed me I need to focus more on letting go. I recently have been running in circles -where my focus should be. While here I was thinking I had a relapse in my recovery, due to some “stinking thinking” It’s back to the first topic that brought me to al-anon that I need...	tea2	10	635	Dec 16, 2005 by Maria123
	God Box (Preview) God's Boxes I have in my hands two boxes, Which God gave me to hold. He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box, And all your joys in the gold." I heeded His words, and in the two boxes, both my joys and sorrows I stored.. But though the gold became heavier each day, The black w...	Christy	6	667	Dec 16, 2005 by jrtjosey
	recovery has been hell but it is worth it (Preview) OK, if i don't get responses on my shorter shares, i totally understand if you don't want to give esh on this one....this is just MY feelings sharing in the hope that "giving this away" helps someone Hope for Today - December 16 I had a job in my alcoholic family,...	rosie light shines	2	608	Dec 16, 2005 by notsonew1111
	New Years Resolutions - whats yours? (Preview) mine are to keep doing what Ive been doing since mid Oct when I realized I needed help: 1) AlAnon meeting on Sat morn (thanks Megan for keeping me at it). They will be starting the steps and I'm planning on doing them w/them. 2) Keep attending weekly Mass 3) Keep doing at least 30mins of physical exe...	Barbara	8	717	Dec 16, 2005 by Flora123
	i need to SLOW down (Preview) Today's thought is: It is impossible to overemphasize the immense need humans have to be really listened to, to be taken seriously, to be understood. --Dr. Paul Tournier, M.D. We need assurance that our presence has value to the lives of those around us at home, work, and play. Our self worth...	rosie light shines	1	616	Dec 16, 2005 by dogscribe
	Anyone Seen My Serenity? (Preview) HI Group, Serenity's gone - Has anyone seen it? ...so the s*** hit the fan in the new apt. I've been so angry, frustrated, & irritable. This feels nothing like a home. I called & left a message for the apt. manager - who knows if she'll actually get it. Then - to my g...	cedarpines	5	599	Dec 16, 2005 by cedarpines
	Already helping (Preview) Good afternoon everyone. My first visit here was a couple of days ago and I have been looking forward to returning......and here I am. My father is still in the hospital, but I have spoken with him over the past couple of days and visited him today to drop off some of his personal belongings...	DaddysLilGirl	1	405	Dec 16, 2005 by Flora123
	Chair needed for Sunday 7pm meeting (Preview) Chair needed for Sunday 7pm meeting I am unable to chair the Sunday 12/18 7pm meeting. My brother and his family are in from the Netherlands and my sister is hosting a family party that evening. I appreciate the person who is able to cover for me Thanks in advance Megan	megan	0	441	Dec 16, 2005 by megan
	Holiday tips (Preview) Got this in an email. I liked a few of these.... Holiday Eating Tips 1. Avoid carrot sticks. Anyone who puts celery on a holiday buffet table knows nothing of the Christmas spirit. In fact, if you see celery, leave immediately. Go next door, where they're serving rum balls. If your vega...	bobump	6	411	Dec 16, 2005 by tea2
	This Year (Preview) Good morning roomies, I often say to the newbies here that you must not loose yourself in your A's disease. I was thinking how much I did that last year before I found this board. Last Holiday season I didn't do the things that were always a tradition for me and my family, or just for me. Last y...	Karilynn	4	416	Dec 16, 2005 by BlueCloud
	You will never believe this!!! (Preview) By now, ya'll know I have not been having such a hot day (literally). We finally got a fire going in the fire place. I haven't tended a fire since I was a girl scout. I actuallu tore up my daughter's dresser for wood. (Promised to buy her a new one before she comes home). I g...	Powerless	6	449	Dec 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	Over-analyzing (Preview) I am a bit overwhelmed. I am to go to Al-anon meetings, therapy and bipolar support groups. I feel like I am doing too much and not sure which part of me and my problems to focus on. Arrrggghhhhh!!! Anybody else going through this?	Evilynn	3	419	Dec 16, 2005 by KathyS
	Sites to check out (Preview) http://www.hsc.wvu.edu/som/cmed/alcohol/alcoholism/beh-role-ch.htm	Lanchas	1	387	Dec 16, 2005 by bobump
	God DOES have a sense of humor (Preview) I am glad that I have been able to laugh at it all - cause I really could be bottoming out on my floor right now. I have spent the last two months ignoring my own life and now picking up the pieces and doing something about it. The one thing I was SERIOUSLY STILL neglecting for the last month has b...	Cyn	4	424	Dec 16, 2005 by lin0606
	How do you know ???? (Preview) I feel like I am going in circles..Here I am, December 2005 and feeling the same way I did 2 years ago. My life is out of control, I moved out in September then moved back 30 days later to promises of a better tomorrow. Then, well.... You all know what happens after a few short weeks of...	Tammy	7	444	Dec 16, 2005 by sandie123
	hi (Preview) hi everyone my server is down at the moment using sons comp tonight came on to wish you all a merry christmas hope you have a wonderfull time have a wondefull and happy new year hugs and kisses your friend from scotland take care xxx	jeannie024	2	382	Dec 16, 2005 by cdb
	he is so ignorant (Preview) my a is so selfesh, insensitive and igornoant. the list goes on and on. today one of our gerbils died. i called him at work and told him and he was sad and like what do we do with the body. i have had tons of gerbils before and disposed of them in manners that just made me feel horrible. so today i brought her to a...	notsonew1111	6	411	Dec 16, 2005 by cdb
	Twelve rewards to the Twelve Steps (Preview) 1. Hope instead of desperation. 2. Faith instead of despair. 3. Courage instead of fear. 4.Peace Of Mind instead of confusion. 5.self-Respect instead of contempt. 6.Self-confidence instead of helplessness. 7.Respect Others instead of pity and contempt. 8.A Clean Conscience i...	angel123	3	503	Dec 16, 2005 by cdb
	For me people make my holidays :) (Preview) This past week a friend of mine passed away from cancer. :( I am having company come tomorrow to stay with us from out of town. I am putting off decorating the house and getting things done for xmas. I decided that if I only have a small amount of decorations out before xmas that is fine. If the house is not as...	cdb	9	567	Dec 16, 2005 by cedarpines
	My part in things (Preview) Yesterday the answer to my divorce complaint came. My husband denies everyone of my complaints. Even though they are true He has submitted a list of complaints about me. My lawyer enclosed a letter stating that we deny all of my husbands complaints (before I even got a copy of the c...	megan	7	418	Dec 15, 2005 by cedarpines
	My BIG Cosmic Reward (Preview) Over the Thanksgiving Holiday my mailbox was broken into and was not fixed until last Wednesday, Dec. 7. Meanwhile, while it was broken my parents sent me my Christmas card with $200 in cash enclosed. I never got the card. It is interesting that the reaction I typically get when I s...	Jane Avril	0	392	Dec 15, 2005 by Jane Avril
	I haven't been keeping up (Preview) I am trying to concentrate on my Bipolar since I went to my doctor's last week, it's hard to juggle the alcoholic and the bipolar at the same time. He put me on Depakote, but I won't take it because of the weight gain and hair loss. I am staying away from my A since he has been doing nothing but drinking, he eve...	Evilynn	5	420	Dec 15, 2005 by membee
	My HP has a sense of humor (Preview) My HP has a sense of humor. I have to believe that because the only other option is he is out to get me. I thought things couldn't get any worse today. I started the day very down. I tried to read my husband's NA book and then threw the book across the room. I was angry that I r...	Powerless	6	405	Dec 15, 2005 by jaja
	A Lazy Drunk? (Preview) Hi, I hope everyone is well. My parents are coming to visit this weekend. The kids and I have really been looking forward to it. I have been feeling like I need a dose of Mom and Dad love. Last night I ran into a problem. My Mom called to confirm the trip and she started telling me to make sure my husband wa...	Jeannie	5	603	Dec 15, 2005 by tea2
	worry by association (Preview) My father called me yesterday. He had a question about earthquakes. There have been a lot of those lately, he reminds me. Perhaps I should consider moving out of the earthquake prone zone I live in. Obviously, the earth is in some unstable state, and if it can happen somewhere else, it can happen to me...	pixel04	3	476	Dec 15, 2005 by Powerless
	hmmmmm? (Preview) My day yesterday was so frustrating I was in tears a couple of times, I hate my job and know I don't need this job but I do need a job. Then I tried to tell my self how selfish I was being ......questioning why am I being so ungrateful? Then my 18 yr old son called, he recently has started driving,...	marmare	3	395	Dec 15, 2005 by leo
	Progressive Disease (Preview) I am new to this web site and have already found it very helpful. I have been to a few al-anon meetings and have decided to start working the steps. My husband is an ACoA. His brother is also currently an active addict. The big question is, is he (hubby) an alcoholic? &nb...	sonya	5	457	Dec 15, 2005 by Powerless
	I'm kind of surprised at how I felt. (Preview) Yesterday in the parent meeting for my daughters therapist, my wife basically blames me for all our ills. I do my share of blaming too, but I do step up to the plate and take responsibility for at least some of it. The therapist was saying that we basically either have to work it out or get a divorc...	bobump	5	451	Dec 15, 2005 by Powerless
	Gratitude List (Preview) I am feeling pretty decent lately so I wanted to (while I felt good) appreciate the things I am grateful for: That I grew up with a nice roof over my head, never wanted for much of anything, went to good private schools, have my college education, have parents that will support me (however not in the way...	Cyn	3	390	Dec 15, 2005 by Powerless
	Dolphin(Mandy), Karilynn, And Kim (Preview) Hello Haven't heard from you guys in a while-Just wanted to say "hi" and "how's it going?" And hope all is well. Love Julie D.	browneyes	1	468	Dec 15, 2005 by Kim
	I feel lost - can anyone help? (Preview) I am new to this site but I feel that I need some new strategies in my life to keep my sanity and I was wondering if anyone on here had any ideas. I have been in an abusive relationship which has been getting worse for the past couple of years. My husband has just been sentenced to a two month jail...	lacey007	5	435	Dec 15, 2005 by lacey007
	I am really hurting today (Preview) I am hurting, angry, resentful and depressed. We still have not bought a single gift for the kids for Christmas. They are not going to get any this year. This is so not fair to them. They are only 2, 8 and 10. My 8 year old isn't home yet, but I still wanted to get her gifts...	Powerless	9	412	Dec 15, 2005 by Cyn
	A NEWBIES THANKS (Preview) Hey Everyone, it's missy in Va. I just wanted to take a few minutes and thank you all for the support and help you have been giving me over the last week since I started coming to the online chats. My A is currently gone tho still driving me insane via the telephone til I finally turned it off. I hope...	missylost	2	417	Dec 15, 2005 by Cyn
	Thinking too much (Preview) I realized today that I really do love my husband but I cut my feelings off so completely when he is using that I don't "know" that I love him. Is that sick? It is so sad for me when he starts using that I just fall apart and then to pick myself up again I "hate" him again. This is very damagi...	browneyes	3	441	Dec 15, 2005 by sonya
	If it walks like a duck... (Preview) I posted last week and said I had let go of my own program in some decieved notion that my disease was in remission...NOT Someone told me that if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then it must be a duck. That there was no need to keep looking for evidence, this disease of addiction always shows it...	confused	7	477	Dec 15, 2005 by jaja
	Leaving the City of Regret (Preview) Morning ((((((((Group))))))) Was sitting down and getting ready to work on putting together a meeting plan for a December 30th meeting that I will be chairing and thought about the topics of guilt and shame... and the tools to help us shed them. I came across this "story" by Larry Harp that I j...	Cilla	3	638	Dec 15, 2005 by Cilla
	Merry Christmas (Preview) I have been given a download of Jamie Olivers New cookbook, which I would like to share with everyone. I'm not good with computers however so I hope the download has worked. Mon -- Edited by mon123 at 17:12, 2005-12-14	mon123	2	411	Dec 15, 2005 by bobump
	Trying to post this again... (Preview) 15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time: Mission Impossible" theme. *12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels.* ALSO _ wear bras as hats! 13 Hide in a clothing...	Cyn	2	389	Dec 15, 2005 by nycbt
	EXPECTATIONS & HOLIDAYS (Preview) One obstacle over which many of us stumble as we attempt to battle this disease of attitudes is our "own" expectations, There is no better way to make ourselves feel victimized and helpless than by harbouring unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others, or by confusing expectations wi...	gardengal	4	572	Dec 15, 2005 by Barbara
	Why I remain with an active alcoholic/addict (Preview) My dear friends in recovery; Here are some basic facts about me. 1. I have chosen to remain with the alcoholic because I beleive I have received guidance from my HP. When I do what I truly feel inside is right, things go very well for me. Even tho he is active, and I have done a few th...	captcodee	4	514	Dec 15, 2005 by Barbara
	What is he doing??? (Preview) Hey guys Hope everyone is well Now that my husband got out of jail on Monday, he has been sober(no meth)for over a week I guess. I was happy at first but he is driving me CRAZY!!!!! It is STILL ALL ABOUT HIM-He paces, he runs his mouth all day long, he wants constant attention, he is SOOO...	browneyes	3	471	Dec 15, 2005 by abbyal
	unreasonable-women's issues (Preview) this week the guilt is hitting me. i have been totally unreasonable and difficult to live with due to pms. i just cant hold anything in. im getting angry over the stupidest things and just yell. i feel horrible for my recovering a having to deal with this. he is doing well by just letting it go an...	notsonew1111	8	523	Dec 15, 2005 by leo
	got caught (Preview) My husband has been bugging me for a while now to co-sign a loan for a car and I haven't wanted to do it. I had slip an told him in 90 days when going to aa , which he forgot that part, I will co-sign, well yesterday he went out like some of you have read earier post an didn't call him. This morning when I got up he ha...	nycbt	9	608	Dec 15, 2005 by leo
	Holding myself Back----RAMBLE (Preview) Hi, I have been on a long hiatus (sp.?) from the boards. But have to get into counseling to untangle many threads. Medication changes, too. Seems like I hold myself back, and I do not even know the reasons why. Husband is sober, but I still h...	wallsal55	3	493	Dec 14, 2005 by nmike
	STUCK in the middle (Preview) I could use some insight of those who have grown up in alcoholic families or who have been stuck in the middle of parents. People who were stuck in the middle, between the angry mother and father. Those who were constantly put in between the parents … divorced or not. I have no experience on being in thi...	sandie123	9	559	Dec 14, 2005 by sandie123
	The Manipulator (Preview) My a called me on our son's cell phone Sunday because he knows I'll answer if I see it's our son. During our "Chat" I requested that he contribute to our cell phone bill. He refused because I got the phones and he doesn't have\want one. But he was talking on one of them! When I told him to forget it, it isn...	whitie	2	472	Dec 14, 2005 by whitie
	December Music (Preview) www.alighthouse.com/dec.htm ENJOY! (May have to type in)	wallsal55	2	375	Dec 14, 2005 by Jeannie
	just in need of a hug (Preview) christmas is just too hard on me this yr..want to move on to Jan, but it wouldn't be fair to the kids..money is not here..struggling, tired of it all, and worn out..just need a hug, that isn't there...happy holidays..well, wouldn't say that, but have a nice one anyway...kat	kat4u	17	449	Dec 14, 2005 by bubbles1990
	interested in my a's sober friend (Preview) The strangest thing has happened. My a and I were away with friends last weekend and my a has one sober friend (more of a friend of a friend). Everyone in the group was totally trashed the entire trip except me and this nice guy. I met him recently at a birthday party, and spent much of the trip talking to him...	liliana	5	443	Dec 14, 2005 by kitty
	support system (Preview) When I first came to Alanon I only had my mom and my sister for my support system. Then when I came to Alanon on went online who the told me to get into a face to face group. Then I meet two of the most awsome people who are online an have help me alot. One is my best friend and the other is my sponsor. However one of...	nycbt	4	429	Dec 14, 2005 by cdb
	Funny email I got today - hope it makes everyone laugh (Preview) 15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time: *Mission* *Impossible" theme.* *12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels.* ALSO _ wear bras as hats! *13 Hide in a clothi...*	Cyn	1	403	Dec 14, 2005 by cdb
	Forget it...:( (Preview) I tried to post something really funny but only half of it wants to go up even though it all pastes perfectly onto my post That makes me sad - it really made me laugh :(	Cyn	1	401	Dec 14, 2005 by cdb
	I DID IT (Preview) I have come along way. Yesterday I came home and did my wash that is a great thing in itself. I have problems doing my wash. I have waited months to do it. I have done it every week since I wash my clothes on Friday of Thanksgiving. Then I took a shower which I have had problems doing that as well. So that is two g...	nycbt	5	475	Dec 14, 2005 by TLC2
	Ex I think has been calling (Preview) We had our staff meeting at work today - and the front desk person brought it up in the meeting that lately noone has been able to find me in the building. Usually noone is ever looking for me and never needs to know when I am in - but they say I keep getting alot of calls. Funny how the calls reall...	Cyn	1	473	Dec 14, 2005 by Rebecca
	Chistmas Request (Preview) The Miracles In Progress Recovery House in Wilmington, NC has eight men living in it who are in the early stages of recovery from alcoholism and/or addiction. They do not appear to have family or friends from which to gain healthy holiday wishes. As we all know, the holidays can be a hard t...	John	9	549	Dec 14, 2005 by Picowitch
	One more time... (Preview) 1. Get 24 boxes of condoms and randomly put them in people's carts when they aren't looking. Mission Impossible" theme.	Cyn	0	373	Dec 14, 2005 by Cyn
	give up...give in...let go...sounds soo easy huh???? (Preview) Subject: Step Three "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God." Many of us have confused ideas about what it means to surrender to the care of God. Anyone who has battled with control issues may have a hard time giving up, giving in, and lettin...	rosie light shines	1	520	Dec 14, 2005 by notsonew1111
	question (Preview) can someone tell me what exactly the mip house is?	notsonew1111	2	422	Dec 14, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Keep plugging through... (Preview) Hello Group Last night my a and I started working on the book that our therapist suggested. We were only supposed to get together on it for 15-20 minutes, but it dragged on because I wanted to share with him the skills I have been working on for parenting. So, before we even start he smokes...	twinmom2	8	502	Dec 14, 2005 by KathyS
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