Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

debilyn · debilyn

Incompetant justice system. A's attorney is a flake as is the courst. A went to court ready to go into jail and get it over with. Looking forward to being in a routine environ and being in AA in there. The stupid attorney and DA were not prepared so they put it off until April 20th. So now A has nowhe...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

First of all I would like to thank everyone that responded to my last two post. If it weren't for this board and my HP somedays I don't know if I could handle everyday life. It has been 2 weeks and 3 days since I heard from my A husband. Like I said before, this is the time that I really need to wo...

kspear · kspear

Hi all, This might sound like a strange question, but how do you know when it's enabling instead of good parenting? I decided not to let my son get a driver's license until he could pay for it himself, including insurance. He is now 18 and still does not have a license, just got his first jo...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

I have the want and desire to be able to talk(and write)in a manner that is held to be an ideal. With

and

in all that I say and express in a nonverbal way. Unfortunately I was raised in a dysf family and stayed and worked in the family busness because I couldn't figure out how to make it out in the...

maresie · maresie

I have been working a lot on my work issues and working on not being overinvolved at work. In doing my family of origin work I can see my family of origin has always been this stew of muddy boundaries, blurred boundaries, second guessing and more. I have transferred that way of relating t...

ditto · ditto

I am thinking of moving to a different state. I would be moving over 1000 miles. I have a house full of furniture that is older and has made several moves with me... 5 in the last 5 years. During each move more and more scratches and dents appear. I don't know that I am particularly attached...

Powerless · Powerless

My day started off badly today with my daughter throwing my puppy and breaking his neck. My sister-in-law, her husband and my son went to my daughter's us stop today as planned. They live about an hour to an hour and a half from me. She appeared excited to see them. My S-I-L ask...

Robinks · Robinks

As an acoa and alanon living and growing up with alcholics, the craziness was always there. The confusion, the lies, the decet, the controlling. Today, I am having a really hard time. Some of you have heard about my issues with my crazy neighbors and civic association. We have built a carport which i...

hudsond · hudsond

Today fear is eating at me. I'm not completely eaten up with it, but I have this constant--"what is going to come?" in my mind. Nothing huge has changed! My a isn't going to meetings, isn't really working his program, I know he is using but he doesn't come home all messed up. We...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Today's thought is: No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. --Eleanor Roosevelt In this moment, we are the best we can be. Today, we can work at loving the best in ourselves and not fearing the worst. We are truly wonderful and growing people with gifts and qualities that make u...

jeeves · jeeves

Hello All, I have been seeing a therapist to help me get through the daily, hourly issues that arise from living with an alcoholic wife. He has had some great advice but added a thought to the end of our session yesterday. He mentioned that anorexia, bolemia is sometimes deadly, and s...

seachange · seachange

Hi All! It's so easy to be there for others, and still hard for me to reach out for help--but here goes! I've been having a terrible time with asthma and allergy problems lately--so much so, that I can't sleep at nights with coughing and shortness of breath. And as a consequence, I'm...

maresie · maresie

As a child I was desperate to be rescued from my family of origin and I have really played that out a lot in my life. There is a theory of relating called the Karpman's triangle and my family of origin pretty much lived that. That meant that everyone was competing to be the victim (my elder sister wou...

kitty · kitty

Thanks (((John))) I think I am feeling a bit happy now to see 'Service Worker' under my name instead of guru. I did like "guru" but maybe there was some pride carrying around with it, like I know/knew more than anyone else. Who am I but a suffering humble servant of God, just a creature that God...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I have been seperated from my A husband since November. We were trying to work things out until a couple of weeks ago when we got into an argument and now he's not talking to me. I have been ask by several people including my therapist if I have talked to a divorce lawyer. Everytime I th...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Just For Today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln s...

sparkette · sparkette

That is how I have felt for sometime now. I know I don't really have to explain it - so many of you can understand. I drug my butt out of bed this morning for the meeting and it did help. I shared and that helped too. I still feel like I have my shoes on the wrong feet but I am taking one step at a time today...

sparkette · sparkette

I have had this poem in my possession for some time, just felt like sharing it today. No ESH just something to think about. Cyndee "The Layers" I have walked through many lives some of them my own and I am not who I was though some principle of being abides from which I struggle ...

rtexas · rtexas

We had planned an event all week, but since we had our nightly fight about my going to that "devil group" aka Al-anon, she was making excusses and not getting ready. I asked her several times if she wanted to go... I knew she did, but she appearantly wanted me to beg... *sigh* She said she wou...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My "a" quit his great new job and took another assignment on a third shift with a friend of his. He got laid off because he was a temp and because his attendance was poor, partly because of everything going on with our family. At first I felt bad, but then my anxiety level went way down when I re...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, was hoping to hear some of your es&h on sponsorship... What kinda relationship do you have with your sponsor/sponsees? Personally for me, these relationships have turned into great friendships. I think because they know me, and i know them on a deeper more intimate relationship...

confused · confused

I was just reaading some posts and the one about gratitude hit home with me. I wanted to take the time to let you all know that I will be forever grateful for all of you and the Al-anon program for giving me back my life and my sanity. Ok, so occasionally I still feel pretty insane, but the preci...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

just wanted to know how your doing hun. hope all is ok. my prayers are with you

Powerless · Powerless

I have been doing a lot of thinking today about the Serenity Prayer and thinking about the three parts of it and how they apply to my life. I cannot change my husband having an addiction or the choices he makes, but I can have the courage to be supportive of him and the courage to love him and detach with co...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im a bit mixed up today. yesterday my a told me he is going to a treatment center and definatly needs help this time. we have the papers and have started filling them out. one problem....... the soonest he can get in is may 1st. so until then........ i dont know. he even said he doesnt know if he can stay sobe...

MochaLette · MochaLette

Can someone please provide the link? I can't get into the chatroom from the main page. Thanks.

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

My mom died of Alcoholic and now my father is dying slowly of the same thing. My sister older then me has 2 tumors that can't be removed at this time because she has been on to many medication for all the other issues related to alcohol. Not sure yet if it is cancers or not.. Then there is my older bro...

allison · allison

Hi everyone...For those of you who dont know,My A husband moved out almost 4 months ago..At my request.We have 4 children that he gives me no money to suport.We have been trying to work things out but he says everything is my fault,He will tell me a lie and then turn around and call me a liar.I was home last...

rtexas · rtexas

I knew this was creeping up. Our 11 yr old is has been having issues sleeping, wanting to stay home from school... My A works at his school, so he is going to her and has a list of ailments... headaches, stomach aches, sore thoat. She was taking him to the doctor this morning after another r...

kitty · kitty

I walked outside & saw some puffy white clovers in a row, it made smile thinking of Spring. Kind of the way you see mushrooms in a ring, like the faeries are out dancing & doing their work... and Angels dance on a pin head & all around us. So many want an easy way out, doing the tr...

kitty · kitty

One of the cd's I am listening to while I sleep, the man's voice is kind of muffled, so it's hard to hear. Like any great movie/book, the more u read it, the more u will see in it. I began to notice the voice saying "patterns" & "integration" over & over. ...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Last night was a fairly good evening. Sunday's are my A's day to visit with the kids here. All was going well. He was kind, made my tea -- which I'm forever running out of lol. He was pleasant. All was good. (waiting for the other shoe to drop???) Well, since he's b...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

What are you grateful for in your life ? I was reading the message board and there seems to be lots of sadness so i thought i would ask for your share on ESH in Graditude in your life!! Here is what I am grateful for: 1.My Hp whom I call GOD with out him I would have nothing.... 2.My Husband of 18 yrs ...

maresie · maresie

I have been trying to work on staying grounded and being less reactive. I can find myself intensely reactive when someone tests my boundaries like the neighbors or issues at work (I will be working full time from next week so I expect it to be an issue). I have been working on my family of origin i...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. well yesterday my a called saying he hit his bottom and is done with that way of life and is going to go to meetings again. so far i hear bs bs bs. i wont believe anything anymore until i see it. im sure this is not the end of it. he may go to a meeting tonight but will he get help? i dont know. im not let...

Christy · Christy

Got the call at 5:30 this morning, my dear mother in law has passed on. I will be taking family to MI. Hubby is doing OK with the news, although very saddened. I'm so happy he was able to tell her he was sober. It makes me wonder, if she let go because she knew it was OK now. She had worried about him so muc...

serendipity · serendipity

My father is dying, my husband is out on a binge and in the past three weeks i have moved myself and my three children into a new house, started the process of selling my old house, and started the divorce. At times I've felt very overwhelmed. We've been going through this binge/sobriety thing for...

search41 · search41

i've been offline for almost 4 months, and when i try to get in the room, i cant get in. has something changed in the last 4 months on getting in? i can get to the message board, but not into the room. can anyone help? search4 lori

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Higher Power "Most of us have no trouble admitting that addiction had become a destructive force in our lives. Our best efforts resulted in ever greater destruction and despair. At some point, we realized that we needed the help of some Power greater than our addiction."Basic Text p. 24Most of u...

Ceridwen · Ceridwen

hi - just wanted to say thankyou to everybody who replied to my thread a couple of days ago (I was called chubyelf, have changed my name) and just wanted to say how much it means that there are people out in the ether who care enough to reply to my ramblings. So just big thanks to everyo...

Powerless · Powerless

Today started out wonderfully. My husband, 2 year old and I rode 4-wheelers through the trails today. We went out to lunch and had a big cook-out for family for dinner. My step-father called me and told me my mom came home from the hospital today. He said he was going to see my d...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. yesterday i wrote about how i didnt have expectations of my a picking me up from work. well, before i even got to work we had a talk. he admitted to me that he was making empty promises again and was just depressed and wanted to be with me. i could tell he just wasnt serious about getting sober. s...

Christy · Christy

It's been a few days since I've posted so I thought I better before I get to too far behind on what's going on. Life has changed for sure, but I'm still able to see light at the end of the tunnel most days. I'm trying to rest when I can because I know stress on top of tired equals more stress. I tend to think tha...

debilyn · debilyn

Sounds so awful doesn't it? I wish it was for longer than two months. My reasoning is, it is the closest thing to locked in rehab. He has worked hard on staying sober, but no program, so of course he uses again. I hope for him, this gets him enough time and AA to get clean enough to think as straight as he can...

John · John

Hope... I read the post on this message board and see so much lost Hope. Hope that is now wrapped tightly in disappointment, anger, fear, saddness, confusion and conflict. Both Internally and externally. I can see it simply because I have been subjected to it als...

lilleah · lilleah

I have started to take some steps to leave my A, who is also abusive. I did call and go look at an apartment last week. I didn't like it much, so I am going to keep looking. but for some reason I was SOOO scared to call and look at it. But I did it. I also went to the women's center, and spoke to them. They have trans...

Christy · Christy

Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your kindness :) The funeral will be Wed. morning and the viewing Tues. evening. This day is just snowballing out of control, it's almost laughable, but I haven't mustered up a laugh yet. We were going to take my Jeep because it's more roomier then A's Cadil...

Barbara · Barbara

complete the sentence - other people's moods (to an extent) weather As drinking

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Good Morning Friends, I find it amazing that once you allow yourself to open up and feel and express those feelings they just come and sometimes overflow. I had a chance to go to a Women's convention and hear Elizabeth George (author) speak and listen to a wonderful performer named Jennie Owe...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

It has been two weeks now since my husband and I argued and I haven't heard a word from him. Manipulation? Anyways, in the first couple of weeks (I've been here several times) I can be strong. It's after the two weeks that I start breaking down. I have found that on the weekends...

bob6502 · bob6502

Hello my friends, In my years in Al-Anon, I have used many slogans, but my most favorite ones are: "How important is it?" and "First things first" "How important is it?" makes me slow down long enough to ask myself if whatever is bothering me worth giving away my serenity?

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Powerless · Powerless

I heard a song on the radio today by Tim McGraw. It's a song I've heard dozens of times...Please don't take the Girl. I was driving down the highway singing with tears in my eyes. My husband asked me what was wrong and I told him that I wondered what it would be like for someone to love me...

gardengal · gardengal

I dont know what has happened but it will not allow me to get into the chat? What can I do? thanks,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((Family)))))))))), From the bottom of my heart, I wanted to thank each and everyone of you, for all your love and suport. I have never in my life been blessed with such a group of people as you. I may not know your faces, but you have shown me your hearts. I have gain...

Powerless · Powerless

I have attended naranon meetings in the past before we moved to this town. Everyone keeps telling me that alanon is just fine if you can't fine naranon. I know the principals are the same and I get a lot out of alanon. But sometimes I just want to be able to share experiences and hear ot...

maresie · maresie

I have been working with my sponsor on many issues regarding my mother. For many reasons I can talk to her about my mother in ways I can talk to no one else. Maybe I'm ready to. Every Easter some relatives of my fathers would come over for a free vacation at our house. My mother was barely fun...

gardengal · gardengal

Deveolping an ability to see things as they really are and to find healthier, more appropriate ways of dealing with people and circumstances we encounter is not always easy or comfortable. Most of us have had good reasons for hiding certain information from ourselves----it hurt! It probabl...

MFran · MFran

Yesterday I was sad because my daughter relapsed after being out of rehab for 13 days. I know I can do nothing. However, she called be a few minutes ago and she drank again today. Again I can do nothing about that. She is depressed and getting more so. Now she is thi...

Barbara · Barbara

just wondering

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i am sick AGAIN with my back spasms....this attack was a big one...so of course i have time to think...to reflect....to "look at me--my thinking--my attitudes"...... as i am sick i am thinking of MY thinking of the program, et al and i came up with the following conclusion i thought that the prog...

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	Gads now what???? (Preview) Incompetant justice system. A's attorney is a flake as is the courst. A went to court ready to go into jail and get it over with. Looking forward to being in a routine environ and being in AA in there. The stupid attorney and DA were not prepared so they put it off until April 20th. So now A has nowhe...	debilyn	10	654	Mar 23, 2006 by Lindy
	Trying to quiet my fears (Preview) First of all I would like to thank everyone that responded to my last two post. If it weren't for this board and my HP somedays I don't know if I could handle everyday life. It has been 2 weeks and 3 days since I heard from my A husband. Like I said before, this is the time that I really need to wo...	JulieLynn	5	363	Mar 23, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Enabling vs. parenting (Preview) Hi all, This might sound like a strange question, but how do you know when it's enabling instead of good parenting? I decided not to let my son get a driver's license until he could pay for it himself, including insurance. He is now 18 and still does not have a license, just got his first jo...	kspear	3	380	Mar 23, 2006 by Jeannie
	Learning to talk all over again (Preview) I have the want and desire to be able to talk(and write)in a manner that is held to be an ideal. With and in all that I say and express in a nonverbal way. Unfortunately I was raised in a dysf family and stayed and worked in the family busness because I couldn't figure out how to make it out in the...	d53sjurne	4	669	Mar 23, 2006 by tiredtonite
	over involved (Preview) I have been working a lot on my work issues and working on not being overinvolved at work. In doing my family of origin work I can see my family of origin has always been this stew of muddy boundaries, blurred boundaries, second guessing and more. I have transferred that way of relating t...	maresie	3	529	Mar 23, 2006 by Jennifer
	Moving (Preview) I am thinking of moving to a different state. I would be moving over 1000 miles. I have a house full of furniture that is older and has made several moves with me... 5 in the last 5 years. During each move more and more scratches and dents appear. I don't know that I am particularly attached...	ditto	8	426	Mar 23, 2006 by sweetums
	All in HIS time (Preview) My day started off badly today with my daughter throwing my puppy and breaking his neck. My sister-in-law, her husband and my son went to my daughter's us stop today as planned. They live about an hour to an hour and a half from me. She appeared excited to see them. My S-I-L ask...	Powerless	8	415	Mar 23, 2006 by bsf
	Need ES&H Help me to detach (Preview) As an acoa and alanon living and growing up with alcholics, the craziness was always there. The confusion, the lies, the decet, the controlling. Today, I am having a really hard time. Some of you have heard about my issues with my crazy neighbors and civic association. We have built a carport which i...	Robinks	4	596	Mar 23, 2006 by nmike
	Fear is eating at me (Preview) Today fear is eating at me. I'm not completely eaten up with it, but I have this constant--"what is going to come?" in my mind. Nothing huge has changed! My a isn't going to meetings, isn't really working his program, I know he is using but he doesn't come home all messed up. We...	hudsond	3	347	Mar 22, 2006 by confused
	sticking with WINNERS (Preview) Today's thought is: *No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. --Eleanor Roosevelt* In this moment, we are the best we can be. Today, we can work at loving the best in ourselves and not fearing the worst. We are truly wonderful and growing people with gifts and qualities that make u...	rosie light shines	1	421	Mar 22, 2006 by just me
	Was it my fault? (Preview) Hello All, I have been seeing a therapist to help me get through the daily, hourly issues that arise from living with an alcoholic wife. He has had some great advice but added a thought to the end of our session yesterday. He mentioned that anorexia, bolemia is sometimes deadly, and s...	jeeves	17	561	Mar 22, 2006 by jeeves
	Struggling with physical problems (Preview) Hi All! It's so easy to be there for others, and still hard for me to reach out for help--but here goes! I've been having a terrible time with asthma and allergy problems lately--so much so, that I can't sleep at nights with coughing and shortness of breath. And as a consequence, I'm...	seachange	13	560	Mar 22, 2006 by seachange
	rescue and being rescued (Preview) As a child I was desperate to be rescued from my family of origin and I have really played that out a lot in my life. There is a theory of relating called the Karpman's triangle and my family of origin pretty much lived that. That meant that everyone was competing to be the victim (my elder sister wou...	maresie	3	501	Mar 22, 2006 by jrtjosey
	service worker (to John) (Preview) Thanks (((John))) I think I am feeling a bit happy now to see 'Service Worker' under my name instead of guru. I did like "guru" but maybe there was some pride carrying around with it, like I know/knew more than anyone else. Who am I but a suffering humble servant of God, just a creature that God...	kitty	1	395	Mar 22, 2006 by lin0606
	Making the decision to divorce (Preview) I have been seperated from my A husband since November. We were trying to work things out until a couple of weeks ago when we got into an argument and now he's not talking to me. I have been ask by several people including my therapist if I have talked to a divorce lawyer. Everytime I th...	JulieLynn	12	872	Mar 22, 2006 by lin0606
	Just For Today (Preview) Just For Today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln s...	wallsal55	1	358	Mar 22, 2006 by aunitedway
	shoes on the wrong feet (Preview) That is how I have felt for sometime now. I know I don't really have to explain it - so many of you can understand. I drug my butt out of bed this morning for the meeting and it did help. I shared and that helped too. I still feel like I have my shoes on the wrong feet but I am taking one step at a time today...	sparkette	5	1122	Mar 22, 2006 by aunitedway
	a short poem (Preview) I have had this poem in my possession for some time, just felt like sharing it today. No ESH just something to think about. Cyndee "The Layers" I have walked through many lives some of them my own and I am not who I was though some principle of being abides from which I struggle ...	sparkette	1	365	Mar 22, 2006 by wallsal55
	Is this detatchment? (Preview) We had planned an event all week, but since we had our nightly fight about my going to that "devil group" aka Al-anon, she was making excusses and not getting ready. I asked her several times if she wanted to go... I knew she did, but she appearantly wanted me to beg... sigh She said she wou...	rtexas	6	524	Mar 22, 2006 by maresie
	Rationalizing and calming my anger (Preview) My "a" quit his great new job and took another assignment on a third shift with a friend of his. He got laid off because he was a temp and because his attendance was poor, partly because of everything going on with our family. At first I felt bad, but then my anxiety level went way down when I re...	twinmom2	2	386	Mar 22, 2006 by maresie
	sponsor / sponsee relationships (Preview) hi all, was hoping to hear some of your es&h on sponsorship... What kinda relationship do you have with your sponsor/sponsees? Personally for me, these relationships have turned into great friendships. I think because they know me, and i know them on a deeper more intimate relationship...	mastiff	3	1283	Mar 22, 2006 by alystylz
	thank you to all of you!!! (Preview) I was just reaading some posts and the one about gratitude hit home with me. I wanted to take the time to let you all know that I will be forever grateful for all of you and the Al-anon program for giving me back my life and my sanity. Ok, so occasionally I still feel pretty insane, but the preci...	confused	6	412	Mar 22, 2006 by leo
	lauren ashley...... (Preview) just wanted to know how your doing hun. hope all is ok. my prayers are with you	notsonew1111	3	397	Mar 22, 2006 by leo
	The Serenity Prayer and my life (Preview) I have been doing a lot of thinking today about the Serenity Prayer and thinking about the three parts of it and how they apply to my life. I cannot change my husband having an addiction or the choices he makes, but I can have the courage to be supportive of him and the courage to love him and detach with co...	Powerless	5	407	Mar 22, 2006 by leo
	difficult situation (Preview) im a bit mixed up today. yesterday my a told me he is going to a treatment center and definatly needs help this time. we have the papers and have started filling them out. one problem....... the soonest he can get in is may 1st. so until then........ i dont know. he even said he doesnt know if he can stay sobe...	notsonew1111	8	482	Mar 22, 2006 by Jennifer
	I can't get into the chatroom (Preview) Can someone please provide the link? I can't get into the chatroom from the main page. Thanks.	MochaLette	1	382	Mar 22, 2006 by John
	Yep any dieases can be devasting.... (Preview) My mom died of Alcoholic and now my father is dying slowly of the same thing. My sister older then me has 2 tumors that can't be removed at this time because she has been on to many medication for all the other issues related to alcohol. Not sure yet if it is cancers or not.. Then there is my older bro...	bubbles1990	4	423	Mar 21, 2006 by mebjk
	feeling a bit crazy.... (Preview) Hi everyone...For those of you who dont know,My A husband moved out almost 4 months ago..At my request.We have 4 children that he gives me no money to suport.We have been trying to work things out but he says everything is my fault,He will tell me a lie and then turn around and call me a liar.I was home last...	allison	6	562	Mar 21, 2006 by allison
	Son is very upset... (Preview) I knew this was creeping up. Our 11 yr old is has been having issues sleeping, wanting to stay home from school... My A works at his school, so he is going to her and has a list of ailments... headaches, stomach aches, sore thoat. She was taking him to the doctor this morning after another r...	rtexas	4	472	Mar 21, 2006 by Jeannie
	Poetic Spring (very short) (Preview) I walked outside & saw some puffy white clovers in a row, it made smile thinking of Spring. Kind of the way you see mushrooms in a ring, like the faeries are out dancing & doing their work... and Angels dance on a pin head & all around us. So many want an easy way out, doing the tr...	kitty	2	323	Mar 21, 2006 by Becky1
	Program Everywhere ~ Angels (Preview) One of the cd's I am listening to while I sleep, the man's voice is kind of muffled, so it's hard to hear. Like any great movie/book, the more u read it, the more u will see in it. I began to notice the voice saying "patterns" & "integration" over & over. ...	kitty	2	425	Mar 21, 2006 by Iko
	Last night (Preview) Last night was a fairly good evening. Sunday's are my A's day to visit with the kids here. All was going well. He was kind, made my tea -- which I'm forever running out of lol. He was pleasant. All was good. (waiting for the other shoe to drop???) Well, since he's b...	Lunamoth	3	379	Mar 21, 2006 by Ria
	what is your Graditude list? (Preview) What are you grateful for in your life ? I was reading the message board and there seems to be lots of sadness so i thought i would ask for your share on ESH in Graditude in your life!! Here is what I am grateful for: 1.My Hp whom I call GOD with out him I would have nothing.... 2.My Husband of 18 yrs ...	bubbles1990	12	565	Mar 21, 2006 by Ria
	reactivity (Preview) I have been trying to work on staying grounded and being less reactive. I can find myself intensely reactive when someone tests my boundaries like the neighbors or issues at work (I will be working full time from next week so I expect it to be an issue). I have been working on my family of origin i...	maresie	5	557	Mar 21, 2006 by Ria
	he's talking...but is he walking? (Preview) hi everyone. well yesterday my a called saying he hit his bottom and is done with that way of life and is going to go to meetings again. so far i hear bs bs bs. i wont believe anything anymore until i see it. im sure this is not the end of it. he may go to a meeting tonight but will he get help? i dont know. im not let...	notsonew1111	6	441	Mar 21, 2006 by aunitedway
	Mother in law has passed (Preview) Got the call at 5:30 this morning, my dear mother in law has passed on. I will be taking family to MI. Hubby is doing OK with the news, although very saddened. I'm so happy he was able to tell her he was sober. It makes me wonder, if she let go because she knew it was OK now. She had worried about him so muc...	Christy	17	777	Mar 21, 2006 by Ria
	why NOT me? (Preview) My father is dying, my husband is out on a binge and in the past three weeks i have moved myself and my three children into a new house, started the process of selling my old house, and started the divorce. At times I've felt very overwhelmed. We've been going through this binge/sobriety thing for...	serendipity	8	651	Mar 21, 2006 by abbyal
	cant get in the room (Preview) i've been offline for almost 4 months, and when i try to get in the room, i cant get in. has something changed in the last 4 months on getting in? i can get to the message board, but not into the room. can anyone help? search4 lori	search41	5	386	Mar 21, 2006 by search41
	trying to make my hp SIMPLE (Preview) Higher Power "Most of us have no trouble admitting that addiction had become a destructive force in our lives. Our best efforts resulted in ever greater destruction and despair. At some point, we realized that we needed the help of some Power greater than our addiction."Basic Text p. 24Most of u...	rosie light shines	4	491	Mar 21, 2006 by nmike
	thanks (Preview) hi - just wanted to say thankyou to everybody who replied to my thread a couple of days ago (I was called chubyelf, have changed my name) and just wanted to say how much it means that there are people out in the ether who care enough to reply to my ramblings. So just big thanks to everyo...	Ceridwen	4	351	Mar 20, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Please pray for me (Preview) Today started out wonderfully. My husband, 2 year old and I rode 4-wheelers through the trails today. We went out to lunch and had a big cook-out for family for dinner. My step-father called me and told me my mom came home from the hospital today. He said he was going to see my d...	Powerless	10	517	Mar 20, 2006 by Becky1
	doing good today (Preview) hi everyone. yesterday i wrote about how i didnt have expectations of my a picking me up from work. well, before i even got to work we had a talk. he admitted to me that he was making empty promises again and was just depressed and wanted to be with me. i could tell he just wasnt serious about getting sober. s...	notsonew1111	5	442	Mar 20, 2006 by RamzDear
	long update (Preview) It's been a few days since I've posted so I thought I better before I get to too far behind on what's going on. Life has changed for sure, but I'm still able to see light at the end of the tunnel most days. I'm trying to rest when I can because I know stress on top of tired equals more stress. I tend to think tha...	Christy	8	485	Mar 20, 2006 by marmare
	Husband going to jail (Preview) Sounds so awful doesn't it? I wish it was for longer than two months. My reasoning is, it is the closest thing to locked in rehab. He has worked hard on staying sober, but no program, so of course he uses again. I hope for him, this gets him enough time and AA to get clean enough to think as straight as he can...	debilyn	11	610	Mar 20, 2006 by TLC2
	Caution... Hope Enclosed (Preview) Hope... I read the post on this message board and see so much lost Hope. Hope that is now wrapped tightly in disappointment, anger, fear, saddness, confusion and conflict. Both Internally and externally. I can see it simply because I have been subjected to it als...	John	17	800	Mar 20, 2006 by kitty
	taking some steps (Preview) I have started to take some steps to leave my A, who is also abusive. I did call and go look at an apartment last week. I didn't like it much, so I am going to keep looking. but for some reason I was SOOO scared to call and look at it. But I did it. I also went to the women's center, and spoke to them. They have trans...	lilleah	5	527	Mar 20, 2006 by aunitedway
	Who said I was a saint?..lol (Preview) Thanks everyone, I really appreciate your kindness :) The funeral will be Wed. morning and the viewing Tues. evening. This day is just snowballing out of control, it's almost laughable, but I haven't mustered up a laugh yet. We were going to take my Jeep because it's more roomier then A's Cadil...	Christy	9	460	Mar 20, 2006 by Karilynn
	I am powerless over --- (Preview) complete the sentence - other people's moods (to an extent) weather As drinking	Barbara	13	1004	Mar 20, 2006 by Jeannie
	My heart is overflowing, finally... (Preview) Good Morning Friends, I find it amazing that once you allow yourself to open up and feel and express those feelings they just come and sometimes overflow. I had a chance to go to a Women's convention and hear Elizabeth George (author) speak and listen to a wonderful performer named Jennie Owe...	twinmom2	3	451	Mar 20, 2006 by aunitedway
	Now is the time for me to really work the program (Preview) It has been two weeks now since my husband and I argued and I haven't heard a word from him. Manipulation? Anyways, in the first couple of weeks (I've been here several times) I can be strong. It's after the two weeks that I start breaking down. I have found that on the weekends...	JulieLynn	5	446	Mar 20, 2006 by aunitedway
	Slogans (Preview) Hello my friends, In my years in Al-Anon, I have used many slogans, but my most favorite ones are: "How important is it?" and "First things first" "How important is it?" makes me slow down long enough to ask myself if whatever is bothering me worth giving away my serenity? ...	bob6502	2	548	Mar 20, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Friendship in a marriage (Preview) I heard a song on the radio today by Tim McGraw. It's a song I've heard dozens of times...Please don't take the Girl. I was driving down the highway singing with tears in my eyes. My husband asked me what was wrong and I told him that I wondered what it would be like for someone to love me...	Powerless	5	603	Mar 20, 2006 by twinmom2
	Cant get into chat? (Preview) I dont know what has happened but it will not allow me to get into the chat? What can I do? thanks,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,	gardengal	3	400	Mar 20, 2006 by gardengal
	Thank you family (Preview) ((((((((((Family)))))))))), From the bottom of my heart, I wanted to thank each and everyone of you, for all your love and suport. I have never in my life been blessed with such a group of people as you. I may not know your faces, but you have shown me your hearts. I have gain...	Karilynn	5	498	Mar 20, 2006 by cdb
	Alanon Vs. Naranon (Preview) I have attended naranon meetings in the past before we moved to this town. Everyone keeps telling me that alanon is just fine if you can't fine naranon. I know the principals are the same and I get a lot out of alanon. But sometimes I just want to be able to share experiences and hear ot...	Powerless	7	3344	Mar 20, 2006 by Ria
	martyrdom (Preview) I have been working with my sponsor on many issues regarding my mother. For many reasons I can talk to her about my mother in ways I can talk to no one else. Maybe I'm ready to. Every Easter some relatives of my fathers would come over for a free vacation at our house. My mother was barely fun...	maresie	3	378	Mar 19, 2006 by cdb
	It hurt seeing more realistically (Preview) Deveolping an ability to see things as they really are and to find healthier, more appropriate ways of dealing with people and circumstances we encounter is not always easy or comfortable. Most of us have had good reasons for hiding certain information from ourselves----it hurt! It probabl...	gardengal	4	437	Mar 19, 2006 by cdb
	Daughter not doing well (Preview) Yesterday I was sad because my daughter relapsed after being out of rehab for 13 days. I know I can do nothing. However, she called be a few minutes ago and she drank again today. Again I can do nothing about that. She is depressed and getting more so. Now she is thi...	MFran	10	581	Mar 19, 2006 by bsf
	your definition of powerless and unmanageable (Preview) just wondering	Barbara	0	440	Mar 19, 2006 by Barbara
	nothing like getting sick to make ya think different (Preview) i am sick AGAIN with my back spasms....this attack was a big one...so of course i have time to think...to reflect....to "look at me--my thinking--my attitudes"...... as i am sick i am thinking of MY thinking of the program, et al and i came up with the following conclusion i thought that the prog...	rosie light shines	6	473	Mar 19, 2006 by rosie light shines
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