Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Barbara · Barbara

so you can live a happier life? In 2002 less than 22hrs before we were to leave for a cruise it was cancelled due to Norwalk. It took me a long long time to "get over it". (We did get onboard the ship a year later). Ive been living the life of a martyr ever since - just changed my cause thats all. How do I get ove...

Barbara · Barbara

She said the restraining order against Douglas has been lifted! Actually when I was speaking to her he showed up at her condo so we ended the conversation. He spent last Wed-Mon in jail (again). His bail was $2400 which my mother happened to take to court with her Mon morn. Tomorrow he goes to di...

nicolefrancis · nicolefrancis

This is my first post on here, and im not exactly sure how to do it, so here it goes... I have been with my A for 3 and 1/2 years. It seems like we have been through everything. On our one year anniversary he was court ordered to treatment so i've been with him for about 1 1/2 years in his sobriety. I recentl...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I dont know what to do or how to react. I have not seen my A in 2 days, he has been out of state for work, he got back in town late last night. He called me just a little bit ago, I told him I got off work in 2 1/2 hours, thought he would be excited, instead he told me he needs to get out of his apartment for a while, sa...

sas · sas

Hi All, Question.......How do you all handle being the subject of conversation when you are never part of the conversation??? This just sounds childish, but I am soooo triggered by my father-in-law (who lives with us, but only for the next month). I could easily give you his invent...

maresie · maresie

And right now some of my critical plans include what to do for Christmas because Christmas is incredibly hard for me. I will not be spending Christmas 2006 with the A. I am through being abandoned. Maresie.

Barbara · Barbara

his answer "Why would I?" why do I go looking to get hurt?

Janoah · Janoah

I’m grateful that Al-Anon is a gentle program and that it provides suggestions rather than demands. Most of us have been way to hard on ourselves already. I ran across the following information in an Al-Anon conference approved literature and thought I would share it with you all. Take what you like a...

brakkenk · brakkenk

Hello all! I believe my last post was in October. I had just about given up on a lot of things. I decided instead of talking I would just read, read, read the posts and the conversations at the meetings. Well somehow, someway, something made me sit down and ask the question "is...

rtexas · rtexas

Have a great day! The One You Feed

bluestorm · bluestorm

hi. i appreciate anyone taking the time to read this. i need some help with how to respond to my BF. we've been together almost a year, and when we started dating he told me he was a recovered heroin addict. at the time he was about 9 mo. sober from heroin but drinking a lot and smoking a lot of pot. a l...

rtexas · rtexas

(((Everyone))) Had a session with a family therapist today. I don't know what happened, it was like I was possessed. As she asked me questions I rationalized everything. I made excusses for everyone that ever did anything or said anything sideways to me. By near the end she l...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

WOW, been a long time since I have felt that kind of kindness. I really was blown away. First thing that I have to do is get the right books. Thought I had the right ones but just found out I didn't. I got the "Newcomer Packet" so have to read threw it later. Found out about sponcership. Going to have to go a l...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi to all, I feel a little strange asking for prayers but i could really use some. My husband had a stroke seven years ago. He became disable and that lead to a drinking problem. Six years of hell for me. He is sober now and things are going better. We set up an appt with a...

debilyn · debilyn

My daughter and I had a wonderful time together. We took the baby on a supervised visit with her A ex. The baby is so cool. He will get redder and redder and let out a scream then calm calm and is ok again. I love how he will get a big smile then all of a sudden he looks so sad. God I love them both so much. I am so pr...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

Tomorrow I am attending my 2nd face to face Al Anon meeting. I have read several posts here, and I am wondering am I supposed to ask for a support person there, like someone to call if I need help? This was not offered in the first meeting I went to, there were only 5 other people there for starters, and t...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

Looking for your thoughts.... on why some find apologizing a reflection of weakness on their parts? Do we not all have weak moments? Are we a lesser human being in admitting maybe we have weaknesses as well as strengthes. I've yet to meet a perfect person, only my HP can claim perfection, we are human...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

I found this poem on a website thought it was uplifting. It's Up to You One song can spark a moment One flower can wake the dream. ...

cdb · cdb

I am not sure what happened to my A daughter after her miscarriage but she changed. It doesn't appear to be for the best either. She has been taking high risks again and avoiding important bank and other responsibilities. She was going to be living in a camper for the summer while her felon boyfriend wor...

Barbara · Barbara

can anyone identify? are you starting to realize your hard core is changing to a hard shell with a soft mushy core?

Barbara · Barbara

Just got the written results from my bloodwork a few weeks ago. My cholesterol has never been this good! woohoo April 06 - total 159, HDL 51 - I must be doing something right! June 05 - total 180, HDL 54, Sept 03 - total 166, HDL 44, May 03 - total 191, HDL 42 My brother had a heart attack results in bypas...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I woke up this morning with the word "Harmony" on my mind. It applies to so much of what we all are trying to accomplish in Al-Anon. Harmony in marriage, friendship, family, groups. So I pulled out my trusty "Pathways to Recovery" to Tradition One (Our Common welfare should come first,...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

My post earlier,

I was frustrated with the myself. Frustrated because I know what I need to do. Harder to do it. Somedays are better then others. I have learned something about myself since that post. I can't let things get to me like that it is a trigger for me. I was being unfair to myself...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Family)))) I read this and was drawn to it. I like the greatest enemy part... Thought you might enjoy it if you've never seen it. Take care of you! Great Spirit Prayer "Oh, Great Spirit, whose voice I hear in the wind, Whose breath gives life to all the world. ...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I love you guys! Here are some of my thoughts to some of the recent posts. It may be a little brutal, it may be too soft. This is just how I see it. Not trying to raise any controversy at all. My sponsor is out of town often. He travels to all the bike rallys through the US.&...

Barbara · Barbara

Im hearing that a big part of step 8 is to make amends with yourself. How do YOU do this?

cabma · cabma

My a had informed me about a month ago that he was moving out (see my old posts). He told me that I was the reason he was using and had to get away from me. I didn't believe that for a minute, I know better. But he pointed out some things I do that make him mad. I sat down and took a look a...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

I have learned something in my daily readings and thought I would share it. I tend to over analize every situation. I will think about something all the time until I have basically picked it to pieces. I need to learn to accept things are just as they are and not be so critical on every subject.&nbs...

Gailey · Gailey

As I was posting a private message today I realized something that was happening in my life. My a son and I are so alike. He is addicted to alcohol and I am addicted to food. I have not found serenity with his drinking and I have not found serenity around my bingeing. I think the only difference between him a...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) When am I ever gonna learn to trust my gut? Last week I posted on how I felt I was bringing bad into life by not focusing on the good. And I did learn from my thoughts and everyone's replies, I will do my best to live in the moment and enjoy without doomsdaying myself. Now I...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hi i am rosie and this topic "why suicide" is a real "walk down memory road" for me...... this is MY esh and MY take only , i think for me it was the hoplessness of my life...i had horrific injuries, and even tho i was MILES away from recovery, i kn...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Most of us come here as a supplement to our local home group, the main intentention for online support. It was not intended to be the soul source of Alanon. It is important to get to local meetings for the human contact. To limit ourselves is doing ourselves a diservice. Many who c...

QOD · QOD

I am at a desparate point now. Things are starting to get hostile at home w/my AH. He started his new job last Mon. Wed & Thurs he didn't come home. He showed Fri around 4pm smelling like rotten butt & mud (he had mud on his pants & boots - I think he must have gone to work - job...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

"You can't win a war you don't believe in fighting" I spent a lot of time working and researching my posts yesterday to have them become a souce of controversary. They were meant to encourage and share my feelings. Thanks to all of you that recognized that took the time to&...

angel123 · angel123

`Pen in Hand Writing is a tool in alanon too me as well as slogans,concepts,steps,traditions. Pen in Hand has always bin my interset. When I worked my steps with my sponcer she suggested to write things and I was please for the suggestion, for it was something I had liked to do. I joural often...

mck · mck

im new to this,so bear with me.ive been married to my a for 20 yrs.he got help and has been sober for 60 days.he is doing great ,im doing awful.ihave so much resentment! my friends are gone,my family is all screwed up,i feel mentally impaired,&my A is great! how do i get past this? am i the onl...

lebe27 · lebe27

Just read a death certificate for a client here at work. Died from cancer as a consequence of cirrhosis as a consequence of alcohol abuse and it has put me into a state of depression. My A is 42 and already has cirrhosis. Since diagnosed two years ago when he almost died from bleeding...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i wanted to update everyone on how im doing. i havnt been on here much as i have been really spending time enjoying each day, getting out there with loved ones, enjoying my job and everything. i wanted to share to everyone the progress i've made and how this program has helped me. my situati...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am not real good at being heard in chat rooms so I thought I would post instead. Early Thursday we had appts, our truck sounded like crap. It is a 1979 C-10 pickup. We bought wires & spark plugs thinking that was the problem. I was dropped of at work. I had a horrible day at work...

hudsond · hudsond

My AH took me out Friday night because I had a pretty crummy couple of days and he was feeling sorry for me. So it started out by going to view the body of an acquaintance of his--drinking buddy--drank and took pills and that pretty much did him in. Anyway, so we go out to eat, he complains abou...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, This weekend was a good weekend with some eye opening experiences. My A was his usual grumpy self during the day and happy go lucky in the evening. I realized in talking with him that I am still reacting to him, mostly his communication with me and the children. He and...

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, I just needed to share this experience. As sad as it is, I believe that my HP wanted me to learn from it. I went jogging yesterday (long run on Sunday). My dogs and the neighbor dog always go. They have such a great time exploring and chasing rabbits. There is a small part that is pretty close t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Was watching a morning program interviewing author "Laura Day'" book entitled "Welcome to Your Crisis". www.welcometoyourcrisis.com The word crisis comes from a word that means: to decide. (interesting!) ...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Lots of times when I reread things I have journaled or put in my God Box...well, pretty heavy stuff. But recently, I picked up a piece of paper where I jotted down six ideas, tips on "How I would regain some self-discipline again in my life." well....ROFL....at the ve...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Monday Greetings Al Anon family! I was realizing as I was reading some of the posts that some members are under two mistaken impressions: 1) they will gain recovery by mooching off those with recovery; 2) they can gain recovery by sitting around these rooms of Al Anon.

Take action! M...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey guys the last time i posted here..my ex boyf. "A" was on the run after leaving the country... when he was gone 3 days i had gotten sooo many voicemails telling me he was alone and had lost the guy he was travelling with, he said he had no money, no food, sleeping on the streets, he had been in hospital an...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Did somestudying this afternoon on our survey. One thingI think that will solve a lot of problems is living by the Golden Rule. Twelve-Step programs are a microcosm of the larger society around us. Addiction doesn't discriminate; it cuts across socio-economic lines and racial and gender...

rtexas · rtexas

((((my special family)))) This was an insightful weekend for me. I posted a couple of topics on compassion and ended up learning quite a bit about that and boundries. Thank you very much for that. I guess HP was asking me to study for my test this weekend when I felt compelled to...

kspear · kspear

Hello all. I just got back from an AA/Alanon convention. It was wonderful! I've been to this convention every year since I've been sober, but this was my first time as a member of Alanon. So I got to take in a little of both. I also got to pick up some good literature while I was...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

Ok here it is. My Mom had a seizure in Jan. was hospitalized for the same.While in the horpital kept expressing concern about an unpaid bill. I told her I would bring her checkbook/purse she could make out the bill I would mail it to stop her from stressing/ rummanating about it. I brought h...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi(((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))) I just wanted to ask for prayers for my hubby in the morning he has a interview! HE has been laid off for 4 months and this is a great job its what he would really like to do plus it is only 1mile from the house so good for gas since gas has been going up!!!! A...

Jesie · Jesie

I am not really sure if this is where I should start or post so please forgive me I just really need some answers and support right now. I want to also say that by some grace of God have never had to deal with addictions with myself or my family members until now. I am seeking to understand and gain clarity. ...

Juster · Juster

As I read all of the posts it seems that there is one common thread for a lot of us. Somewhere along the line there was alcoholism involved before we met our AW, AH, ABF,AGF, etc. It took me a long time to realize it, but looking back I see that my mother was a very functional alcoholic, just lik...

hudsond · hudsond

It all started yesterday really. I have tried really hard this week to stay busy and not wonder what my a is up to. Things have been going relatively well. He has actually been in pretty good spirits and not overly gouchy for the few days. Of course I notice the fish disappearing from...

bob6502 · bob6502

General Business Group Conscience Meeting May 3, 2006 Chair: SenoraBob Agenda Items General Opening of Metting followed by: OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes - April 5, 2006 2. Meeting Schedule & Request for Volunteers -SenoraBob 3. Financial Repor...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! Have any of you been diagnosed with PTSD, and if so, have you done anything specifically about this disorder in your recovery, or just used the Al-Anon program for a generalised, across the board recovery? I was diagnosed with this several years ago, and even though things are m...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Friends, I have been on an emotional roller coaster for years. Although it is not as fast right now I am doing better. Starting over for me is also a bit emotional. However, not as crazy as living with an active A. I have been to see an attorney, know where I stand. Trying to move forward, this is al...

bob6502 · bob6502

Sorry it took me so long folks. Here are the results of the group inventory. There were 54 people that responded. Thank you to those that participated. The purpose of a group inventory is to determine if the group is healthy, and if there are things we need to improve on or suggestions for topics for meet...

regrets · regrets

I went. But the place it was listed is no more. So.....any advice to get me throguh the day? Have heard from him yet. We're suppose to talk this week about what to do next with this marriage. I'm anxious and nervous about talking to him since he's been so mean and controlling. If I don't do what he wants then...

Barbara · Barbara

do you feel like a nag? Ive only called a few times. We usually talk (and have coffee) for an hour before our weekly f2f meeting. She was stressing yesterday that yes its good to read/journal but its important to reach out and make those phonecalls. Ive only called her a few times in the past mont...

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	how do you let go of the self-pity? (Preview) so you can live a happier life? In 2002 less than 22hrs before we were to leave for a cruise it was cancelled due to Norwalk. It took me a long long time to "get over it". (We did get onboard the ship a year later). Ive been living the life of a martyr ever since - just changed my cause thats all. How do I get ove...	Barbara	7	923	May 4, 2006 by roygbiv
	just spoke with my mother (Preview) She said the restraining order against Douglas has been lifted! Actually when I was speaking to her he showed up at her condo so we ended the conversation. He spent last Wed-Mon in jail (again). His bail was $2400 which my mother happened to take to court with her Mon morn. Tomorrow he goes to di...	Barbara	3	490	May 4, 2006 by roygbiv
	confused, overwhelmed (Preview) This is my first post on here, and im not exactly sure how to do it, so here it goes... I have been with my A for 3 and 1/2 years. It seems like we have been through everything. On our one year anniversary he was court ordered to treatment so i've been with him for about 1 1/2 years in his sobriety. I recentl...	nicolefrancis	4	616	May 4, 2006 by Jerry F
	Need HELP & ADVICE NOW!!! (Preview) I dont know what to do or how to react. I have not seen my A in 2 days, he has been out of state for work, he got back in town late last night. He called me just a little bit ago, I told him I got off work in 2 1/2 hours, thought he would be excited, instead he told me he needs to get out of his apartment for a while, sa...	jennneeefffurrr	10	1062	May 4, 2006 by roygbiv
	dealing with father-in-law (Preview) Hi All, Question.......How do you all handle being the subject of conversation when you are never part of the conversation??? This just sounds childish, but I am soooo triggered by my father-in-law (who lives with us, but only for the next month). I could easily give you his invent...	sas	5	660	May 4, 2006 by abbyal
	my birthday (Preview) And right now some of my critical plans include what to do for Christmas because Christmas is incredibly hard for me. I will not be spending Christmas 2006 with the A. I am through being abandoned. Maresie.	maresie	3	603	May 3, 2006 by jrtjosey
	so i come home from work and ask A husband "Did you miss me?" (Preview) his answer "Why would I?" why do I go looking to get hurt?	Barbara	9	829	May 3, 2006 by jrtjosey
	the gentle program (Preview) I’m grateful that Al-Anon is a gentle program and that it provides suggestions rather than demands. Most of us have been way to hard on ourselves already. I ran across the following information in an Al-Anon conference approved literature and thought I would share it with you all. Take what you like a...	Janoah	3	764	May 3, 2006 by tea2
	Miraculous changes (Preview) Hello all! I believe my last post was in October. I had just about given up on a lot of things. I decided instead of talking I would just read, read, read the posts and the conversations at the meetings. Well somehow, someway, something made me sit down and ask the question "is...	brakkenk	4	609	May 3, 2006 by Diva
	Oldie but a goodie... (Preview) Have a great day! The One You Feed	rtexas	5	510	May 3, 2006 by Diva
	New here- need relationship advice Please. (Preview) hi. i appreciate anyone taking the time to read this. i need some help with how to respond to my BF. we've been together almost a year, and when we started dating he told me he was a recovered heroin addict. at the time he was about 9 mo. sober from heroin but drinking a lot and smoking a lot of pot. a l...	bluestorm	4	576	May 3, 2006 by bluestorm
	...my problems pale in comparison ... (Preview) (((Everyone))) Had a session with a family therapist today. I don't know what happened, it was like I was possessed. As she asked me questions I rationalized everything. I made excusses for everyone that ever did anything or said anything sideways to me. By near the end she l...	rtexas	10	748	May 3, 2006 by Ria
	first f2f (Preview) WOW, been a long time since I have felt that kind of kindness. I really was blown away. First thing that I have to do is get the right books. Thought I had the right ones but just found out I didn't. I got the "Newcomer Packet" so have to read threw it later. Found out about sponcership. Going to have to go a l...	angeleyes8462	3	502	May 3, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	prayers (Preview) Hi to all, I feel a little strange asking for prayers but i could really use some. My husband had a stroke seven years ago. He became disable and that lead to a drinking problem. Six years of hell for me. He is sober now and things are going better. We set up an appt with a...	nikkilou	4	538	May 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Update and would appreciate thoughts (Preview) My daughter and I had a wonderful time together. We took the baby on a supervised visit with her A ex. The baby is so cool. He will get redder and redder and let out a scream then calm calm and is ok again. I love how he will get a big smile then all of a sudden he looks so sad. God I love them both so much. I am so pr...	debilyn	18	648	May 3, 2006 by TLC2
	2nd AlAnon meeting tomorrow for me (Preview) Tomorrow I am attending my 2nd face to face Al Anon meeting. I have read several posts here, and I am wondering am I supposed to ask for a support person there, like someone to call if I need help? This was not offered in the first meeting I went to, there were only 5 other people there for starters, and t...	jennneeefffurrr	7	665	May 3, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Apologies (Preview) Looking for your thoughts.... on why some find apologizing a reflection of weakness on their parts? Do we not all have weak moments? Are we a lesser human being in admitting maybe we have weaknesses as well as strengthes. I've yet to meet a perfect person, only my HP can claim perfection, we are human...	Hopefloats	7	691	May 3, 2006 by Hopefloats
	Found this thought I would share (Preview) I found this poem on a website thought it was uplifting. *It's Up to You* *One song can spark a moment One flower can wake the dream. ...*	angeleyes8462	3	550	May 3, 2006 by Ria
	daughter struggling, parents not well :( (Preview) I am not sure what happened to my A daughter after her miscarriage but she changed. It doesn't appear to be for the best either. She has been taking high risks again and avoiding important bank and other responsibilities. She was going to be living in a camper for the summer while her felon boyfriend wor...	cdb	14	962	May 2, 2006 by cdb
	Hard core changing to hard shell/soft core ? (Preview) can anyone identify? are you starting to realize your hard core is changing to a hard shell with a soft mushy core?	Barbara	3	546	May 2, 2006 by abbyal
	taking care of myself physically (Preview) Just got the written results from my bloodwork a few weeks ago. My cholesterol has never been this good! woohoo April 06 - total 159, HDL 51 - I must be doing something right! June 05 - total 180, HDL 54, Sept 03 - total 166, HDL 44, May 03 - total 191, HDL 42 My brother had a heart attack results in bypas...	Barbara	2	481	May 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Harmony (Preview) I woke up this morning with the word "Harmony" on my mind. It applies to so much of what we all are trying to accomplish in Al-Anon. Harmony in marriage, friendship, family, groups. So I pulled out my trusty "Pathways to Recovery" to Tradition One (Our Common welfare should come first,...	jrtjosey	4	645	May 2, 2006 by mebjk
	Appology to myself for letting me get in the way (Preview) My post earlier, I was frustrated with the myself. Frustrated because I know what I need to do. Harder to do it. Somedays are better then others. I have learned something about myself since that post. I can't let things get to me like that it is a trigger for me. I was being unfair to myself...	angeleyes8462	1	523	May 2, 2006 by Barbara
	Great Spirit (Preview) ((((Family)))) I read this and was drawn to it. I like the greatest enemy part... Thought you might enjoy it if you've never seen it. Take care of you! Great Spirit Prayer "Oh, Great Spirit, whose voice I hear in the wind, Whose breath gives life to all the world. ...	rtexas	4	495	May 2, 2006 by drucilla06
	Supplement? How about recovery? (Preview) I love you guys! Here are some of my thoughts to some of the recent posts. It may be a little brutal, it may be too soft. This is just how I see it. Not trying to raise any controversy at all. My sponsor is out of town often. He travels to all the bike rallys through the US.&...	ZiggyDoodles	6	706	May 2, 2006 by david62
	how do you make amends with yourself? (Preview) Im hearing that a big part of step 8 is to make amends with yourself. How do YOU do this?	Barbara	5	4490	May 2, 2006 by Tiger2006
	letting god... (Preview) My a had informed me about a month ago that he was moving out (see my old posts). He told me that I was the reason he was using and had to get away from me. I didn't believe that for a minute, I know better. But he pointed out some things I do that make him mad. I sat down and took a look a...	cabma	5	637	May 2, 2006 by hudsond
	In my readings found something about my self (Preview) I have learned something in my daily readings and thought I would share it. I tend to over analize every situation. I will think about something all the time until I have basically picked it to pieces. I need to learn to accept things are just as they are and not be so critical on every subject.&nbs...	angeleyes8462	4	513	May 2, 2006 by Ria
	I can relate to my A (Preview) As I was posting a private message today I realized something that was happening in my life. My a son and I are so alike. He is addicted to alcohol and I am addicted to food. I have not found serenity with his drinking and I have not found serenity around my bingeing. I think the only difference between him a...	Gailey	3	610	May 2, 2006 by QOD
	It's gonna be a long day and I am gonna smile anyway (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) When am I ever gonna learn to trust my gut? Last week I posted on how I felt I was bringing bad into life by not focusing on the good. And I did learn from my thoughts and everyone's replies, I will do my best to live in the moment and enjoy without doomsdaying myself. Now I...	Jennifer	3	731	May 2, 2006 by jrtjosey
	LONG---someone asked me "why suicide"?? (Preview) hi i am rosie and this topic "why suicide" is a real "walk down memory road" for me...... this is MY esh and MY take only , i think for me it was the hoplessness of my life...i had horrific injuries, and even tho i was MILES away from recovery, i kn...	rosie light shines	3	3684	May 2, 2006 by kitty
	why r u here? (Preview) Most of us come here as a supplement to our local home group, the main intentention for online support. It was not intended to be the soul source of Alanon. It is important to get to local meetings for the human contact. To limit ourselves is doing ourselves a diservice. Many who c...	jrtjosey	15	907	May 2, 2006 by gardengal
	How do I get the ball rolling to leave? (Preview) I am at a desparate point now. Things are starting to get hostile at home w/my AH. He started his new job last Mon. Wed & Thurs he didn't come home. He showed Fri around 4pm smelling like rotten butt & mud (he had mud on his pants & boots - I think he must have gone to work - job...	QOD	6	715	May 2, 2006 by QOD
	posts taken out of context (Preview) "You can't win a war you don't believe in fighting" I spent a lot of time working and researching my posts yesterday to have them become a souce of controversary. They were meant to encourage and share my feelings. Thanks to all of you that recognized that took the time to&...	jrtjosey	5	607	May 2, 2006 by Diva
	Pen in Hand (Preview) `Pen in Hand Writing is a tool in alanon too me as well as slogans,concepts,steps,traditions. Pen in Hand has always bin my interset. When I worked my steps with my sponcer she suggested to write things and I was please for the suggestion, for it was something I had liked to do. I joural often...	angel123	3	690	May 2, 2006 by angel123
	lost (Preview) im new to this,so bear with me.ive been married to my a for 20 yrs.he got help and has been sober for 60 days.he is doing great ,im doing awful.ihave so much resentment! my friends are gone,my family is all screwed up,i feel mentally impaired,&my A is great! how do i get past this? am i the onl...	mck	9	563	May 2, 2006 by Jennifer
	Depressed (Preview) Just read a death certificate for a client here at work. Died from cancer as a consequence of cirrhosis as a consequence of alcohol abuse and it has put me into a state of depression. My A is 42 and already has cirrhosis. Since diagnosed two years ago when he almost died from bleeding...	lebe27	7	700	May 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	a change in me....... (Preview) i wanted to update everyone on how im doing. i havnt been on here much as i have been really spending time enjoying each day, getting out there with loved ones, enjoying my job and everything. i wanted to share to everyone the progress i've made and how this program has helped me. my situati...	notsonew1111	7	538	May 2, 2006 by nmike
	hoping this change is for real (Preview) I am not real good at being heard in chat rooms so I thought I would post instead. Early Thursday we had appts, our truck sounded like crap. It is a 1979 C-10 pickup. We bought wires & spark plugs thinking that was the problem. I was dropped of at work. I had a horrible day at work...	hmrnrnmm	0	436	May 1, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Weekend-long again (Preview) My AH took me out Friday night because I had a pretty crummy couple of days and he was feeling sorry for me. So it started out by going to view the body of an acquaintance of his--drinking buddy--drank and took pills and that pretty much did him in. Anyway, so we go out to eat, he complains abou...	hudsond	2	498	May 1, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Still chipping away at my boundaries (Preview) Hello group, This weekend was a good weekend with some eye opening experiences. My A was his usual grumpy self during the day and happy go lucky in the evening. I realized in talking with him that I am still reacting to him, mostly his communication with me and the children. He and...	twinmom2	4	530	May 1, 2006 by emma
	a defining moment (Preview) Hi friends, I just needed to share this experience. As sad as it is, I believe that my HP wanted me to learn from it. I went jogging yesterday (long run on Sunday). My dogs and the neighbor dog always go. They have such a great time exploring and chasing rabbits. There is a small part that is pretty close t...	nmike	2	577	May 1, 2006 by hudsond
	The word "Crisis" (Preview) Was watching a morning program interviewing author "Laura Day'" book entitled "Welcome to Your Crisis". www.welcometoyourcrisis.com The word crisis comes from a word that means: to decide. (interesting!) ...	wallsal55	1	785	May 1, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Humor in Journaling.... (Preview) Lots of times when I reread things I have journaled or put in my God Box...well, pretty heavy stuff. But recently, I picked up a piece of paper where I jotted down six ideas, tips on "How I would regain some self-discipline again in my life." well....ROFL....at the ve...	wallsal55	1	509	May 1, 2006 by Barbara
	Monday Greetings! (Preview) Monday Greetings Al Anon family! I was realizing as I was reading some of the posts that some members are under two mistaken impressions: 1) they will gain recovery by mooching off those with recovery; 2) they can gain recovery by sitting around these rooms of Al Anon. Take action! M...	Tiger2006	2	520	May 1, 2006 by buzzfree
	Update on my situation...... (Preview) hey guys the last time i posted here..my ex boyf. "A" was on the run after leaving the country... when he was gone 3 days i had gotten sooo many voicemails telling me he was alone and had lost the guy he was travelling with, he said he had no money, no food, sleeping on the streets, he had been in hospital an...	Rebecca	4	659	May 1, 2006 by Faith73
	Principals Before Personalities (Preview) Did somestudying this afternoon on our survey. One thingI think that will solve a lot of problems is living by the Golden Rule. Twelve-Step programs are a microcosm of the larger society around us. Addiction doesn't discriminate; it cuts across socio-economic lines and racial and gender...	jrtjosey	4	885	May 1, 2006 by toto12
	The disease... supporting evidence (Preview) ((((my special family)))) This was an insightful weekend for me. I posted a couple of topics on compassion and ended up learning quite a bit about that and boundries. Thank you very much for that. I guess HP was asking me to study for my test this weekend when I felt compelled to...	rtexas	2	505	May 1, 2006 by twinmom2
	A lot of stuff, I guess (Preview) Hello all. I just got back from an AA/Alanon convention. It was wonderful! I've been to this convention every year since I've been sober, but this was my first time as a member of Alanon. So I got to take in a little of both. I also got to pick up some good literature while I was...	kspear	0	524	May 1, 2006 by kspear
	Help I think I'm going crazy (Preview) Ok here it is. My Mom had a seizure in Jan. was hospitalized for the same.While in the horpital kept expressing concern about an unpaid bill. I told her I would bring her checkbook/purse she could make out the bill I would mail it to stop her from stressing/ rummanating about it. I brought h...	Hopefloats	4	704	May 1, 2006 by marmare
	Prayers appreciated... (Preview) Hi(((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))) I just wanted to ask for prayers for my hubby in the morning he has a interview! HE has been laid off for 4 months and this is a great job its what he would really like to do plus it is only 1mile from the house so good for gas since gas has been going up!!!! A...	bubbles1990	4	522	May 1, 2006 by tiredtonite
	New to this need some advice. (Preview) I am not really sure if this is where I should start or post so please forgive me I just really need some answers and support right now. I want to also say that by some grace of God have never had to deal with addictions with myself or my family members until now. I am seeking to understand and gain clarity. ...	Jesie	7	602	May 1, 2006 by Jesie
	Why Are We Drawn To Them? (Preview) As I read all of the posts it seems that there is one common thread for a lot of us. Somewhere along the line there was alcoholism involved before we met our AW, AH, ABF,AGF, etc. It took me a long time to realize it, but looking back I see that my mother was a very functional alcoholic, just lik...	Juster	5	635	May 1, 2006 by Juster
	Not good today--long! (Preview) It all started yesterday really. I have tried really hard this week to stay busy and not wonder what my a is up to. Things have been going relatively well. He has actually been in pretty good spirits and not overly gouchy for the few days. Of course I notice the fish disappearing from...	hudsond	5	550	May 1, 2006 by hudsond
	Group Conscience Meeting May 3 (Preview) General Business Group Conscience Meeting May 3, 2006 Chair: SenoraBob Agenda Items General Opening of Metting followed by: OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes - April 5, 2006 2. Meeting Schedule & Request for Volunteers -SenoraBob 3. Financial Repor...	bob6502	3	497	Apr 30, 2006 by david62
	Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (Preview) Hi Everyone! Have any of you been diagnosed with PTSD, and if so, have you done anything specifically about this disorder in your recovery, or just used the Al-Anon program for a generalised, across the board recovery? I was diagnosed with this several years ago, and even though things are m...	seachange	8	1056	Apr 30, 2006 by nmike
	Moving Forward (Preview) Friends, I have been on an emotional roller coaster for years. Although it is not as fast right now I am doing better. Starting over for me is also a bit emotional. However, not as crazy as living with an active A. I have been to see an attorney, know where I stand. Trying to move forward, this is al...	Andrea12	2	508	Apr 30, 2006 by mel123
	Group Inventory Results (Preview) Sorry it took me so long folks. Here are the results of the group inventory. There were 54 people that responded. Thank you to those that participated. The purpose of a group inventory is to determine if the group is healthy, and if there are things we need to improve on or suggestions for topics for meet...	bob6502	8	817	Apr 30, 2006 by Diva
	attempted my ist f2f mtg (Preview) I went. But the place it was listed is no more. So.....any advice to get me throguh the day? Have heard from him yet. We're suppose to talk this week about what to do next with this marriage. I'm anxious and nervous about talking to him since he's been so mean and controlling. If I don't do what he wants then...	regrets	7	520	Apr 30, 2006 by regrets
	how often do you phonecall your sponsor? (Preview) do you feel like a nag? Ive only called a few times. We usually talk (and have coffee) for an hour before our weekly f2f meeting. She was stressing yesterday that yes its good to read/journal but its important to reach out and make those phonecalls. Ive only called her a few times in the past mont...	Barbara	1	535	Apr 30, 2006 by abbyal
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