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Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) When am I ever gonna learn to trust my gut? Last week I posted on how I felt I was bringing bad into life by not focusing on the good. And I did learn from my thoughts and everyone's replies, I will do my best to live in the moment and enjoy without doomsdaying myself. Now I...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hi i am rosie and this topic "why suicide" is a real "walk down memory road" for me...... this is MY esh and MY take only , i think for me it was the hoplessness of my life...i had horrific injuries, and even tho i was MILES away from recovery, i kn...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Most of us come here as a supplement to our local home group, the main intentention for online support. It was not intended to be the soul source of Alanon. It is important to get to local meetings for the human contact. To limit ourselves is doing ourselves a diservice. Many who c...

QOD · QOD

I am at a desparate point now. Things are starting to get hostile at home w/my AH. He started his new job last Mon. Wed & Thurs he didn't come home. He showed Fri around 4pm smelling like rotten butt & mud (he had mud on his pants & boots - I think he must have gone to work - job...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

"You can't win a war you don't believe in fighting" I spent a lot of time working and researching my posts yesterday to have them become a souce of controversary. They were meant to encourage and share my feelings. Thanks to all of you that recognized that took the time to&...

angel123 · angel123

`Pen in Hand Writing is a tool in alanon too me as well as slogans,concepts,steps,traditions. Pen in Hand has always bin my interset. When I worked my steps with my sponcer she suggested to write things and I was please for the suggestion, for it was something I had liked to do. I joural often...

mck · mck

im new to this,so bear with me.ive been married to my a for 20 yrs.he got help and has been sober for 60 days.he is doing great ,im doing awful.ihave so much resentment! my friends are gone,my family is all screwed up,i feel mentally impaired,&my A is great! how do i get past this? am i the onl...

lebe27 · lebe27

Just read a death certificate for a client here at work. Died from cancer as a consequence of cirrhosis as a consequence of alcohol abuse and it has put me into a state of depression. My A is 42 and already has cirrhosis. Since diagnosed two years ago when he almost died from bleeding...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i wanted to update everyone on how im doing. i havnt been on here much as i have been really spending time enjoying each day, getting out there with loved ones, enjoying my job and everything. i wanted to share to everyone the progress i've made and how this program has helped me. my situati...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am not real good at being heard in chat rooms so I thought I would post instead. Early Thursday we had appts, our truck sounded like crap. It is a 1979 C-10 pickup. We bought wires & spark plugs thinking that was the problem. I was dropped of at work. I had a horrible day at work...

hudsond · hudsond

My AH took me out Friday night because I had a pretty crummy couple of days and he was feeling sorry for me. So it started out by going to view the body of an acquaintance of his--drinking buddy--drank and took pills and that pretty much did him in. Anyway, so we go out to eat, he complains abou...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, This weekend was a good weekend with some eye opening experiences. My A was his usual grumpy self during the day and happy go lucky in the evening. I realized in talking with him that I am still reacting to him, mostly his communication with me and the children. He and...

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, I just needed to share this experience. As sad as it is, I believe that my HP wanted me to learn from it. I went jogging yesterday (long run on Sunday). My dogs and the neighbor dog always go. They have such a great time exploring and chasing rabbits. There is a small part that is pretty close t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Was watching a morning program interviewing author "Laura Day'" book entitled "Welcome to Your Crisis". www.welcometoyourcrisis.com The word crisis comes from a word that means: to decide. (interesting!) ...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Lots of times when I reread things I have journaled or put in my God Box...well, pretty heavy stuff. But recently, I picked up a piece of paper where I jotted down six ideas, tips on "How I would regain some self-discipline again in my life." well....ROFL....at the ve...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Monday Greetings Al Anon family! I was realizing as I was reading some of the posts that some members are under two mistaken impressions: 1) they will gain recovery by mooching off those with recovery; 2) they can gain recovery by sitting around these rooms of Al Anon.

Take action! M...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey guys the last time i posted here..my ex boyf. "A" was on the run after leaving the country... when he was gone 3 days i had gotten sooo many voicemails telling me he was alone and had lost the guy he was travelling with, he said he had no money, no food, sleeping on the streets, he had been in hospital an...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Did somestudying this afternoon on our survey. One thingI think that will solve a lot of problems is living by the Golden Rule. Twelve-Step programs are a microcosm of the larger society around us. Addiction doesn't discriminate; it cuts across socio-economic lines and racial and gender...

rtexas · rtexas

((((my special family)))) This was an insightful weekend for me. I posted a couple of topics on compassion and ended up learning quite a bit about that and boundries. Thank you very much for that. I guess HP was asking me to study for my test this weekend when I felt compelled to...

kspear · kspear

Hello all. I just got back from an AA/Alanon convention. It was wonderful! I've been to this convention every year since I've been sober, but this was my first time as a member of Alanon. So I got to take in a little of both. I also got to pick up some good literature while I was...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

Ok here it is. My Mom had a seizure in Jan. was hospitalized for the same.While in the horpital kept expressing concern about an unpaid bill. I told her I would bring her checkbook/purse she could make out the bill I would mail it to stop her from stressing/ rummanating about it. I brought h...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi(((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))) I just wanted to ask for prayers for my hubby in the morning he has a interview! HE has been laid off for 4 months and this is a great job its what he would really like to do plus it is only 1mile from the house so good for gas since gas has been going up!!!! A...

Jesie · Jesie

I am not really sure if this is where I should start or post so please forgive me I just really need some answers and support right now. I want to also say that by some grace of God have never had to deal with addictions with myself or my family members until now. I am seeking to understand and gain clarity. ...

Juster · Juster

As I read all of the posts it seems that there is one common thread for a lot of us. Somewhere along the line there was alcoholism involved before we met our AW, AH, ABF,AGF, etc. It took me a long time to realize it, but looking back I see that my mother was a very functional alcoholic, just lik...

hudsond · hudsond

It all started yesterday really. I have tried really hard this week to stay busy and not wonder what my a is up to. Things have been going relatively well. He has actually been in pretty good spirits and not overly gouchy for the few days. Of course I notice the fish disappearing from...

bob6502 · bob6502

General Business Group Conscience Meeting May 3, 2006 Chair: SenoraBob Agenda Items General Opening of Metting followed by: OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes - April 5, 2006 2. Meeting Schedule & Request for Volunteers -SenoraBob 3. Financial Repor...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! Have any of you been diagnosed with PTSD, and if so, have you done anything specifically about this disorder in your recovery, or just used the Al-Anon program for a generalised, across the board recovery? I was diagnosed with this several years ago, and even though things are m...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Friends, I have been on an emotional roller coaster for years. Although it is not as fast right now I am doing better. Starting over for me is also a bit emotional. However, not as crazy as living with an active A. I have been to see an attorney, know where I stand. Trying to move forward, this is al...

bob6502 · bob6502

Sorry it took me so long folks. Here are the results of the group inventory. There were 54 people that responded. Thank you to those that participated. The purpose of a group inventory is to determine if the group is healthy, and if there are things we need to improve on or suggestions for topics for meet...

regrets · regrets

I went. But the place it was listed is no more. So.....any advice to get me throguh the day? Have heard from him yet. We're suppose to talk this week about what to do next with this marriage. I'm anxious and nervous about talking to him since he's been so mean and controlling. If I don't do what he wants then...

Barbara · Barbara

do you feel like a nag? Ive only called a few times. We usually talk (and have coffee) for an hour before our weekly f2f meeting. She was stressing yesterday that yes its good to read/journal but its important to reach out and make those phonecalls. Ive only called her a few times in the past mont...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is...

ditto · ditto

I could really use your great good sense right now. My A 14 year old dog, Daisy to the animal shelter today. He is leaving here tomorrow. I begged him not to take Daisy but he said that he can't take her where he is going. He had originally told me that he was going on vacation and c...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am peeved. I had a very difficult time getting online tonite. I had to reboot the computer like 3 or 4 times. The screen kept freezing up. I cleaned the computer in hopes of having it run faster. I finally got into " miracles in progress" about 10 min till it was over. I hung around after the meeti...

ImOkay · ImOkay

Had a good morning today with my a. That hasn’t happened for a while. I think one of the contributing factors was my effort to hold my peace, guard my heart, or protect my serenity. (However you want to say it.) I’m learning about internal boundaries – emotional boundaries. I’m finding that I somet...

JStickels · JStickels

I need some more feed back if I am doing what is right with my son. His dad is the alcoholic and is very manipulative. My son is now 18 and is living with me. His dad has lost his house and is now living down the street temporarily with a friend. My husband and I have told Joey...

horselover58 · horselover58

I am wondering if anyone else feels the same way. I feel like an outsider, like I don't belong. My husband has his drinking buddies close by, one is next door, lucky me. lol. The wife is an A too, we have NOTHING in common. His other buddy has a non-alcoholic wife, we have a lot in common, but she is in denial....

serendipity · serendipity

my ah called on tuesday with the i can't do this without you speech.havent heard from him again till tonight,i'm doing ok, not great, my own feelings and issues.so i tell him about what's going on in my life- dad dying down to a few weeks now. all that goes along with losing a parent. it is the end of my world...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

Tell me about forgiveness? Is it something that can come and go within ones personality? I'd thought of my self as a forgiving person in the past. Yet now going through a divorce... actually feeling emotions that have been stuffed for so long..... I find myself with little tolerance of my&nb...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hey, this really helped me when my husband drank.... I wadded up kleenex (after drying my tears) and threw them at our wedding picture. I never felt so much better afterwards! And I didn't destroy anything or anybody. (Electronic darts helps, too.&n...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Good morning family)))))))))))))))), Before I run off to work this morning, I did my daily readings, which includes the Today's Gift from the hazeldon.org. It is particularly good this morning as it deals with anger, and as we all know we all deal with the anger from our A's, at...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

I lived with a man who was an alcoholic for five years. During that time we had a son together. The "A" hated me for a long time for getting pregnant. He then told me once I had "earned" back his trust he would marry me. I could never earn his trust. I was always making him an...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))), I would like to ask some questions of a recovering alcoholic, who has relapsed, if possible. If there is anyone whom would like to answers a few questions, I'd be greatful for the input. Please PM when you have a moment. All is well here, but I cou...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

We live in the rural country. We have been rescuing animals for the past 12 years. We have 30 dogs & 9 cats, plus 2 ducks & 2 goats. We have 14 dogs & 7 cats for adoption. No one has been adopted since Sept. We are not a business just 2 folks trying to help the overpopulation. So to...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

My BF is an alcoholic. My CSR at work, a recovering alcoholic, lables him a social alcoholic. The booze is first...even though he admits he sees it destroys everything in his life and he calls himself a disgusiting drunk. He screws everything up choosing his friends and booze over me. On Valenti...

flintfeet · flintfeet

there is nothing i can do to make the situation better!! i wish i could just forget the man i call my dad. he is a complete stranger to me. i had a wonderful dad growing up. i had a very happy childhood. for that...i can't complain. what's sad is that i rationalize my A dad by saying well he used to be a good da...

ditto · ditto

His dog is a small terrior mix. She has been with him since she was a very tiny puppy. His former ex-wife found the dog 14 years ago at an animal shelter and brought it home for their children. When she divorced him several months later he took the puppy with him and the two camped out in the woo...

hersh · hersh

Hi All, I am new to the program. My husband was sober for one year last year (without a program) and relapsed horribly on his one year anniversary. I have now moved out because it was a living nightmare at the house, more than I could bear to watch. He didn't lose his job or anything b...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Today is my birthday! Normally I don't get excited over them. After 43 years, why? But this year is different. Last year my hubby was in a serious relapse to the point where he went back to detox the day after my birthday. Now he is a chronic relapser, an...

bobump · bobump

MyA may have child protection services on her side. She told me last night that she has been talking to them and they see no reason why she shouldn't come home. I had a feeling something was up because the caseworker did tell me he spoke to my A and he was kind of quiet the last conversation.&n...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am hopeful today. I think my Active A has finally hit rock bottom. I will belive it when she get beyond one month sober. Thursday was a double whammy day for me. I worked from noon till 6:30pm & the dry drunk I sit with was arrogant, rude, mean & scary all day long. I am suppose to change his c...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, I wonder how many of you feel the same way? I feel less important to my husband then his friends, his beer, then anything. Because of being in a "dysfunctional" marriage, I have no clue what a marriage is supposed to be like. Here's an example. I have a strange schedule, work in a nursing home...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

There is a very helpful chart to educate yourself on alcoholism. It's in the hands of alcoholism centers, counselors. It's what they first handed me when I went to a counseling center, and they said, "you are not going crazy....your husband has a drinking problem"...

Tammy · Tammy

As I read the posts of my friends here on this board I find so many things similar to my situation. Alcoholism is a terrible disease but isnt there more ? I mean, I think that it goes so much deeper, a mental condition maybe ? A few years ago my husband was diagnosed with bipolar and was put on 3 diffe...

flintfeet · flintfeet

ok...i'm mad!! i have not spoken to him since he "fell off the wagon" january 3erd. i pretty much gave up on him. my dad is an A and just isn't listening/hearing us. he just doesn't care. to make a VERY LONG story short, he has been hospitalized 4 times(been brought back to life) because of his dri...

confused · confused

Replacing fear with faith. What a powerful concept. I have never thought myself a fearful person. However, today I realize that fear debilitates me. I suppose I have always thought of fear as physical danger and I am grateful that I am not and have never been in a...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Just walked in from my trip to Missouri to see son graduate from Army Military Police training. He is here at home with us until May 20th when he flies off to his first duty station (Hawaii - the lucky kid!). His brothers and sister are downstairs with him now as he unpacks (his older brother...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((friends))) Last night as I was going to bed I heard my A husband's cell phone ring and it was his online girlfriend.The one he drove 12 hours to meet on Easter Sunday.I closed the door to my bedroom and locked it.I listened for awhile to his conversation.She was having a problem with her comp...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Last night about 2:30 am I awakened with a panic attack. I guess I'm not letting go and letting God enough. I was unable to sleep til 5 am, and today's a 14 hour day's work for me. That hasn't happened since March. I'm just trying so hard to hold it all together, and have enough work fo...

abbyal · abbyal

The sourse of this is unknown: 1--An increased tendency to let things happen , rather than make them happen. 2=Frequent attacks of smiling. 3--Feelings of being connected with others and nature. 4-- Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation. 5--A tendency to th...

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	It's gonna be a long day and I am gonna smile anyway (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) When am I ever gonna learn to trust my gut? Last week I posted on how I felt I was bringing bad into life by not focusing on the good. And I did learn from my thoughts and everyone's replies, I will do my best to live in the moment and enjoy without doomsdaying myself. Now I...	Jennifer	3	604	May 2, 2006 by jrtjosey
	LONG---someone asked me "why suicide"?? (Preview) hi i am rosie and this topic "why suicide" is a real "walk down memory road" for me...... this is MY esh and MY take only , i think for me it was the hoplessness of my life...i had horrific injuries, and even tho i was MILES away from recovery, i kn...	rosie light shines	3	2944	May 2, 2006 by kitty
	why r u here? (Preview) Most of us come here as a supplement to our local home group, the main intentention for online support. It was not intended to be the soul source of Alanon. It is important to get to local meetings for the human contact. To limit ourselves is doing ourselves a diservice. Many who c...	jrtjosey	15	771	May 2, 2006 by gardengal
	How do I get the ball rolling to leave? (Preview) I am at a desparate point now. Things are starting to get hostile at home w/my AH. He started his new job last Mon. Wed & Thurs he didn't come home. He showed Fri around 4pm smelling like rotten butt & mud (he had mud on his pants & boots - I think he must have gone to work - job...	QOD	6	572	May 2, 2006 by QOD
	posts taken out of context (Preview) "You can't win a war you don't believe in fighting" I spent a lot of time working and researching my posts yesterday to have them become a souce of controversary. They were meant to encourage and share my feelings. Thanks to all of you that recognized that took the time to&...	jrtjosey	5	493	May 2, 2006 by Diva
	Pen in Hand (Preview) `Pen in Hand Writing is a tool in alanon too me as well as slogans,concepts,steps,traditions. Pen in Hand has always bin my interset. When I worked my steps with my sponcer she suggested to write things and I was please for the suggestion, for it was something I had liked to do. I joural often...	angel123	3	546	May 2, 2006 by angel123
	lost (Preview) im new to this,so bear with me.ive been married to my a for 20 yrs.he got help and has been sober for 60 days.he is doing great ,im doing awful.ihave so much resentment! my friends are gone,my family is all screwed up,i feel mentally impaired,&my A is great! how do i get past this? am i the onl...	mck	9	408	May 2, 2006 by Jennifer
	Depressed (Preview) Just read a death certificate for a client here at work. Died from cancer as a consequence of cirrhosis as a consequence of alcohol abuse and it has put me into a state of depression. My A is 42 and already has cirrhosis. Since diagnosed two years ago when he almost died from bleeding...	lebe27	7	547	May 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	a change in me....... (Preview) i wanted to update everyone on how im doing. i havnt been on here much as i have been really spending time enjoying each day, getting out there with loved ones, enjoying my job and everything. i wanted to share to everyone the progress i've made and how this program has helped me. my situati...	notsonew1111	7	407	May 2, 2006 by nmike
	hoping this change is for real (Preview) I am not real good at being heard in chat rooms so I thought I would post instead. Early Thursday we had appts, our truck sounded like crap. It is a 1979 C-10 pickup. We bought wires & spark plugs thinking that was the problem. I was dropped of at work. I had a horrible day at work...	hmrnrnmm	0	316	May 1, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Weekend-long again (Preview) My AH took me out Friday night because I had a pretty crummy couple of days and he was feeling sorry for me. So it started out by going to view the body of an acquaintance of his--drinking buddy--drank and took pills and that pretty much did him in. Anyway, so we go out to eat, he complains abou...	hudsond	2	381	May 1, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Still chipping away at my boundaries (Preview) Hello group, This weekend was a good weekend with some eye opening experiences. My A was his usual grumpy self during the day and happy go lucky in the evening. I realized in talking with him that I am still reacting to him, mostly his communication with me and the children. He and...	twinmom2	4	406	May 1, 2006 by emma
	a defining moment (Preview) Hi friends, I just needed to share this experience. As sad as it is, I believe that my HP wanted me to learn from it. I went jogging yesterday (long run on Sunday). My dogs and the neighbor dog always go. They have such a great time exploring and chasing rabbits. There is a small part that is pretty close t...	nmike	2	418	May 1, 2006 by hudsond
	The word "Crisis" (Preview) Was watching a morning program interviewing author "Laura Day'" book entitled "Welcome to Your Crisis". www.welcometoyourcrisis.com The word crisis comes from a word that means: to decide. (interesting!) ...	wallsal55	1	525	May 1, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Humor in Journaling.... (Preview) Lots of times when I reread things I have journaled or put in my God Box...well, pretty heavy stuff. But recently, I picked up a piece of paper where I jotted down six ideas, tips on "How I would regain some self-discipline again in my life." well....ROFL....at the ve...	wallsal55	1	381	May 1, 2006 by Barbara
	Monday Greetings! (Preview) Monday Greetings Al Anon family! I was realizing as I was reading some of the posts that some members are under two mistaken impressions: 1) they will gain recovery by mooching off those with recovery; 2) they can gain recovery by sitting around these rooms of Al Anon. Take action! M...	Tiger2006	2	373	May 1, 2006 by buzzfree
	Update on my situation...... (Preview) hey guys the last time i posted here..my ex boyf. "A" was on the run after leaving the country... when he was gone 3 days i had gotten sooo many voicemails telling me he was alone and had lost the guy he was travelling with, he said he had no money, no food, sleeping on the streets, he had been in hospital an...	Rebecca	4	538	May 1, 2006 by Faith73
	Principals Before Personalities (Preview) Did somestudying this afternoon on our survey. One thingI think that will solve a lot of problems is living by the Golden Rule. Twelve-Step programs are a microcosm of the larger society around us. Addiction doesn't discriminate; it cuts across socio-economic lines and racial and gender...	jrtjosey	4	741	May 1, 2006 by toto12
	The disease... supporting evidence (Preview) ((((my special family)))) This was an insightful weekend for me. I posted a couple of topics on compassion and ended up learning quite a bit about that and boundries. Thank you very much for that. I guess HP was asking me to study for my test this weekend when I felt compelled to...	rtexas	2	380	May 1, 2006 by twinmom2
	A lot of stuff, I guess (Preview) Hello all. I just got back from an AA/Alanon convention. It was wonderful! I've been to this convention every year since I've been sober, but this was my first time as a member of Alanon. So I got to take in a little of both. I also got to pick up some good literature while I was...	kspear	0	401	May 1, 2006 by kspear
	Help I think I'm going crazy (Preview) Ok here it is. My Mom had a seizure in Jan. was hospitalized for the same.While in the horpital kept expressing concern about an unpaid bill. I told her I would bring her checkbook/purse she could make out the bill I would mail it to stop her from stressing/ rummanating about it. I brought h...	Hopefloats	4	568	May 1, 2006 by marmare
	Prayers appreciated... (Preview) Hi(((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))) I just wanted to ask for prayers for my hubby in the morning he has a interview! HE has been laid off for 4 months and this is a great job its what he would really like to do plus it is only 1mile from the house so good for gas since gas has been going up!!!! A...	bubbles1990	4	404	May 1, 2006 by tiredtonite
	New to this need some advice. (Preview) I am not really sure if this is where I should start or post so please forgive me I just really need some answers and support right now. I want to also say that by some grace of God have never had to deal with addictions with myself or my family members until now. I am seeking to understand and gain clarity. ...	Jesie	7	479	May 1, 2006 by Jesie
	Why Are We Drawn To Them? (Preview) As I read all of the posts it seems that there is one common thread for a lot of us. Somewhere along the line there was alcoholism involved before we met our AW, AH, ABF,AGF, etc. It took me a long time to realize it, but looking back I see that my mother was a very functional alcoholic, just lik...	Juster	5	517	May 1, 2006 by Juster
	Not good today--long! (Preview) It all started yesterday really. I have tried really hard this week to stay busy and not wonder what my a is up to. Things have been going relatively well. He has actually been in pretty good spirits and not overly gouchy for the few days. Of course I notice the fish disappearing from...	hudsond	5	417	May 1, 2006 by hudsond
	Group Conscience Meeting May 3 (Preview) General Business Group Conscience Meeting May 3, 2006 Chair: SenoraBob Agenda Items General Opening of Metting followed by: OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes - April 5, 2006 2. Meeting Schedule & Request for Volunteers -SenoraBob 3. Financial Repor...	bob6502	3	388	Apr 30, 2006 by david62
	Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (Preview) Hi Everyone! Have any of you been diagnosed with PTSD, and if so, have you done anything specifically about this disorder in your recovery, or just used the Al-Anon program for a generalised, across the board recovery? I was diagnosed with this several years ago, and even though things are m...	seachange	8	861	Apr 30, 2006 by nmike
	Moving Forward (Preview) Friends, I have been on an emotional roller coaster for years. Although it is not as fast right now I am doing better. Starting over for me is also a bit emotional. However, not as crazy as living with an active A. I have been to see an attorney, know where I stand. Trying to move forward, this is al...	Andrea12	2	379	Apr 30, 2006 by mel123
	Group Inventory Results (Preview) Sorry it took me so long folks. Here are the results of the group inventory. There were 54 people that responded. Thank you to those that participated. The purpose of a group inventory is to determine if the group is healthy, and if there are things we need to improve on or suggestions for topics for meet...	bob6502	8	692	Apr 30, 2006 by Diva
	attempted my ist f2f mtg (Preview) I went. But the place it was listed is no more. So.....any advice to get me throguh the day? Have heard from him yet. We're suppose to talk this week about what to do next with this marriage. I'm anxious and nervous about talking to him since he's been so mean and controlling. If I don't do what he wants then...	regrets	7	370	Apr 30, 2006 by regrets
	how often do you phonecall your sponsor? (Preview) do you feel like a nag? Ive only called a few times. We usually talk (and have coffee) for an hour before our weekly f2f meeting. She was stressing yesterday that yes its good to read/journal but its important to reach out and make those phonecalls. Ive only called her a few times in the past mont...	Barbara	1	400	Apr 30, 2006 by abbyal
	Seeking Serenity (Preview) The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is...	jrtjosey	2	396	Apr 30, 2006 by drucilla06
	Need help fast (Preview) I could really use your great good sense right now. My A 14 year old dog, Daisy to the animal shelter today. He is leaving here tomorrow. I begged him not to take Daisy but he said that he can't take her where he is going. He had originally told me that he was going on vacation and c...	ditto	7	495	Apr 30, 2006 by maresie
	being ignored in a room (Preview) I am peeved. I had a very difficult time getting online tonite. I had to reboot the computer like 3 or 4 times. The screen kept freezing up. I cleaned the computer in hopes of having it run faster. I finally got into " miracles in progress" about 10 min till it was over. I hung around after the meeti...	hmrnrnmm	4	484	Apr 30, 2006 by peewee
	internal/emotional boundaries (Preview) Had a good morning today with my a. That hasn’t happened for a while. I think one of the contributing factors was my effort to hold my peace, guard my heart, or protect my serenity. (However you want to say it.) I’m learning about internal boundaries – emotional boundaries. I’m finding that I somet...	ImOkay	2	442	Apr 30, 2006 by JStickels
	Letting go of son (Preview) I need some more feed back if I am doing what is right with my son. His dad is the alcoholic and is very manipulative. My son is now 18 and is living with me. His dad has lost his house and is now living down the street temporarily with a friend. My husband and I have told Joey...	JStickels	4	479	Apr 30, 2006 by JStickels
	Feel like ousider (Preview) I am wondering if anyone else feels the same way. I feel like an outsider, like I don't belong. My husband has his drinking buddies close by, one is next door, lucky me. lol. The wife is an A too, we have NOTHING in common. His other buddy has a non-alcoholic wife, we have a lot in common, but she is in denial....	horselover58	5	674	Apr 30, 2006 by Becky1
	same game new winner (Preview) my ah called on tuesday with the i can't do this without you speech.havent heard from him again till tonight,i'm doing ok, not great, my own feelings and issues.so i tell him about what's going on in my life- dad dying down to a few weeks now. all that goes along with losing a parent. it is the end of my world...	serendipity	1	540	Apr 30, 2006 by nmike
	forgiveness (Preview) Tell me about forgiveness? Is it something that can come and go within ones personality? I'd thought of my self as a forgiving person in the past. Yet now going through a divorce... actually feeling emotions that have been stuffed for so long..... I find myself with little tolerance of my&nb...	Hopefloats	7	402	Apr 30, 2006 by Hopefloats
	Therapy for Anger at your A (Preview) Hey, this really helped me when my husband drank.... I wadded up kleenex (after drying my tears) and threw them at our wedding picture. I never felt so much better afterwards! And I didn't destroy anything or anybody. (Electronic darts helps, too.&n...	wallsal55	1	392	Apr 30, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Anger (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Good morning family)))))))))))))))), Before I run off to work this morning, I did my daily readings, which includes the Today's Gift from the hazeldon.org. It is particularly good this morning as it deals with anger, and as we all know we all deal with the anger from our A's, at...	Karilynn	0	347	Apr 30, 2006 by Karilynn
	trying to stop being afraid (Preview) I lived with a man who was an alcoholic for five years. During that time we had a son together. The "A" hated me for a long time for getting pregnant. He then told me once I had "earned" back his trust he would marry me. I could never earn his trust. I was always making him an...	katrina2000	5	368	Apr 29, 2006 by aunitedway
	Perspective needed (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))), I would like to ask some questions of a recovering alcoholic, who has relapsed, if possible. If there is anyone whom would like to answers a few questions, I'd be greatful for the input. Please PM when you have a moment. All is well here, but I cou...	Karilynn	0	329	Apr 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	kinda insulted but not upset , I just had to share. (Preview) We live in the rural country. We have been rescuing animals for the past 12 years. We have 30 dogs & 9 cats, plus 2 ducks & 2 goats. We have 14 dogs & 7 cats for adoption. No one has been adopted since Sept. We are not a business just 2 folks trying to help the overpopulation. So to...	hmrnrnmm	0	373	Apr 29, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	first timer...please repond...desperate (Preview) My BF is an alcoholic. My CSR at work, a recovering alcoholic, lables him a social alcoholic. The booze is first...even though he admits he sees it destroys everything in his life and he calls himself a disgusiting drunk. He screws everything up choosing his friends and booze over me. On Valenti...	jennneeefffurrr	13	560	Apr 29, 2006 by Becky1
	IS IT WRONG TO WANT TO FORGET!!! (Preview) there is nothing i can do to make the situation better!! i wish i could just forget the man i call my dad. he is a complete stranger to me. i had a wonderful dad growing up. i had a very happy childhood. for that...i can't complain. what's sad is that i rationalize my A dad by saying well he used to be a good da...	flintfeet	8	499	Apr 29, 2006 by aunitedway
	His Dog (Preview) His dog is a small terrior mix. She has been with him since she was a very tiny puppy. His former ex-wife found the dog 14 years ago at an animal shelter and brought it home for their children. When she divorced him several months later he took the puppy with him and the two camped out in the woo...	ditto	3	360	Apr 29, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Fears and PAIN (Preview) Hi All, I am new to the program. My husband was sober for one year last year (without a program) and relapsed horribly on his one year anniversary. I have now moved out because it was a living nightmare at the house, more than I could bear to watch. He didn't lose his job or anything b...	hersh	5	548	Apr 29, 2006 by maresie
	Birthday gift for me! (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))), Today is my birthday! Normally I don't get excited over them. After 43 years, why? But this year is different. Last year my hubby was in a serious relapse to the point where he went back to detox the day after my birthday. Now he is a chronic relapser, an...	Karilynn	18	531	Apr 29, 2006 by maresie
	it's hard not to take inventory when... (Preview) MyA may have child protection services on her side. She told me last night that she has been talking to them and they see no reason why she shouldn't come home. I had a feeling something was up because the caseworker did tell me he spoke to my A and he was kind of quiet the last conversation.&n...	bobump	9	784	Apr 29, 2006 by maresie
	I am hopeful even though I do not know why I am here. (Preview) I am hopeful today. I think my Active A has finally hit rock bottom. I will belive it when she get beyond one month sober. Thursday was a double whammy day for me. I worked from noon till 6:30pm & the dry drunk I sit with was arrogant, rude, mean & scary all day long. I am suppose to change his c...	hmrnrnmm	2	770	Apr 29, 2006 by maresie
	Can't help the feeling (Preview) Hi, I wonder how many of you feel the same way? I feel less important to my husband then his friends, his beer, then anything. Because of being in a "dysfunctional" marriage, I have no clue what a marriage is supposed to be like. Here's an example. I have a strange schedule, work in a nursing home...	horselover58	10	437	Apr 29, 2006 by maresie
	Alcoholism: The Progressive Disease (Preview) There is a very helpful chart to educate yourself on alcoholism. It's in the hands of alcoholism centers, counselors. It's what they first handed me when I went to a counseling center, and they said, "you are not going crazy....your husband has a drinking problem"...	wallsal55	2	979	Apr 29, 2006 by horselover58
	I think it goes deeper ... ??? (Preview) As I read the posts of my friends here on this board I find so many things similar to my situation. Alcoholism is a terrible disease but isnt there more ? I mean, I think that it goes so much deeper, a mental condition maybe ? A few years ago my husband was diagnosed with bipolar and was put on 3 diffe...	Tammy	6	380	Apr 28, 2006 by aunitedway
	why isn't this the bottom???? (Preview) ok...i'm mad!! i have not spoken to him since he "fell off the wagon" january 3erd. i pretty much gave up on him. my dad is an A and just isn't listening/hearing us. he just doesn't care. to make a VERY LONG story short, he has been hospitalized 4 times(been brought back to life) because of his dri...	flintfeet	10	548	Apr 28, 2006 by Jeannie
	Fear or faith... today I have CHOICES! (Preview) Replacing fear with faith. What a powerful concept. I have never thought myself a fearful person. However, today I realize that fear debilitates me. I suppose I have always thought of fear as physical danger and I am grateful that I am not and have never been in a...	confused	4	387	Apr 28, 2006 by aunitedway
	Off topic... Naw! Total Gratitude!! (Preview) Just walked in from my trip to Missouri to see son graduate from Army Military Police training. He is here at home with us until May 20th when he flies off to his first duty station (Hawaii - the lucky kid!). His brothers and sister are downstairs with him now as he unpacks (his older brother...	kismetstrand	12	564	Apr 28, 2006 by aunitedway
	I don't know how to live like this (Preview) (((friends))) Last night as I was going to bed I heard my A husband's cell phone ring and it was his online girlfriend.The one he drove 12 hours to meet on Easter Sunday.I closed the door to my bedroom and locked it.I listened for awhile to his conversation.She was having a problem with her comp...	drucilla06	8	540	Apr 28, 2006 by aunitedway
	Panic attack (Preview) Last night about 2:30 am I awakened with a panic attack. I guess I'm not letting go and letting God enough. I was unable to sleep til 5 am, and today's a 14 hour day's work for me. That hasn't happened since March. I'm just trying so hard to hold it all together, and have enough work fo...	Belongtome	10	998	Apr 28, 2006 by ginblad
	12 signs of a spiritual awakening (Preview) The sourse of this is unknown: 1--An increased tendency to let things happen , rather than make them happen. 2=Frequent attacks of smiling. 3--Feelings of being connected with others and nature. 4-- Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation. 5--A tendency to th...	abbyal	6	440	Apr 28, 2006 by TLC2
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