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12 signs of a spiritual awakening
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The sourse of this is unknown:
1--An increased tendency to let things happen , rather than make them happen.
2=Frequent attacks of smiling.
3--Feelings of being connected with others and nature.
4-- Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
5--A tendency to th...
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Why I came to alanon
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When I said I was lead here by my HP, I mean that in more ways then one. Before I came here I was on the verge of a nervous break down. I became paranoid, [thought everyone was out to get me and hurt me], depressed [didn't sleep hardly at all, and smoked more...
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He didn't come home AGAIN
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My AH didn't come home again last night. That is 2 nights in a row now. He just started his new job Mon and didn't come home Wed & Thurs night. So I am figuring he obviously got fired yesterday for being a no show AGAIN. He even called his mom yesterday and told her he would pro...
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Compassion - ESH needed
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((((Everyone))))
Through this whole ordeal, I have come to feel compassion for my AW where I only had anger and dismay before. Almost from the day I read the first piece of Al-Anon literature, the lightbulb went on and I imediately lost my anger for the fact that she won't stop drinking...
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Face to Face meetings...
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There have been a number of "newbies" here who have questioned going to the F2F meetings. You may be wondering, why go there when I have found this wonderful web site...
Well I just got back from mine a little while ago. I don't go very often (1 a week if possible), but they can be...
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Great Read...
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Feel like you are on a roller coaster? In the middle of drama, chaos? www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.html Merry Go Round of Denial
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Faith
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Today I have faith...but in the lonely nights, I cry out to my HP to help me. He has, in so many ways. Right now, I guess I need to allow myself to truly believe I am worthy of HIS love, and the love of others.
I've been, for the past year, letting go, one at a time, of my problems to my HP. A...
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???is creating drama part of the a'ism???
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I spoke this morning to my son. He was in a bar last night where he hangs out alot. There is a girl there that bartends who is the daughter of a woman that his bio father was married to at one time. She told him that his dad and her mother (both dead now) were junkies. She told him that they had a son together and g...
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my battle with the tissue box
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My battle with the tissue box goes WAY back. Today in our f2f we were talking about boundaries and I was identifying with so much that was being said. Here in the safety of my own home in the MIP meetings I have no problem crying if I feel the need too. Today in my f2f I was struggling with that control over cry...
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I need to get off my butt & make a change
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In Nov 05 my husband told me he was using cocaine. (some of you know my story). He already had a problem w/alcohol and has had since I have known him. It seems that since he told me he was using coke, his dirty little secret is out, he doesn't even try to fight the addiction. He used to sta...
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first f2f meeting last night
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I almost talked myself out of going to this meeting. I have been doing good with just reading posts here. For some reason, on my way home from work, I started feeling alot of anxiety over my A. I was getting a headache, had alot of tension in my neck and felt like crying. I don't know what came over me. I start...
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how sad
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I started my day on such a joyous note....then sometimes this afternoon reality hit me....my mom is dying, I am married to an alcoholic, I am unhappy in my daily life and I know I am the only one that can change it.....I will get use to the idea, I will learn to do what I must do to take care of myself. It...
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COOKBOOK RECIPE NOT ACCEPTING *HERE IS A SUGGESTION
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Try (if using the direct link from this website and its not working) to ..
write down the email address which is: recipe@12stepforums.net.
then open your own browser for *outlook express, yahoo, aol , whatever it may be (you...
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The guilt I feel over his conflict...
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Life at home has been emotionally up and down. We start the evening off good, but then it turns sour when the A feels slighted or he is not getting his way. Funny thing is, he asked me to get a life!! He asked me to take care of myself and do the things I like to do. There are things he...
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Cook Book Recipe is ACCEPTED!
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Sent in my recipe and hav'nt gotten a kick back. **Yea** Glad to know all is ok and you can, again, accept Recipes for the Book! Thanks for your Service Work **Rose! ((BiGHuG))) & JOHN!
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Finally a moment of compassion
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Well, A was trying to set up coming up here w/ child protective services but they can't do it. She sounds bummed and defeated.
She was very upset, in general just worring about when she can come back in the house. She asked if she would be back before mothers day. I said I didn't know. I mean I feel the od...
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Consumed...
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For many months I have suspected that my husband had become active again. And for the most part I was doing very well with things. However, in recent weeks he has continued to raise the bar of his actions & behaviors against me. Simply because I wont give him what he wants and tha...
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Bad night so many feelings
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I was up most of the night thinking alot about somethings that were said. Someone got me thinking about one of the old A's in my life. Who recently decided he wanted to date me. For me there would be no going back with him. He has asked for forgiveness for things he has done to me. I have g...
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Here I sit
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Good morning,
It has almost been a year since my sober A moved out. A year and a half since he announced that he was not happy is this marriage and told our sons that he needed a break from your mother. In this year we have done things and said things that we never had in 30 years of marriage. He has gone from e...
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Please help w/this
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I have called my husband a dry drunk. After reading here what "they" are he does not fall into that catagory entirely. He does do a program but he is a hell of alot more dificult to live with than when he was drinking. He is now so controlling, demanding, deceitful, manipulative, lies etc. H...
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given up trying to help but feel guilt ridden... is this normal?
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I found this group by chance months ago , and posted a couple of times whilst at work ... these seemed to be my darkest hours and somehow i coped with the situation i was in .My partner ( the A ) however just seems to be on a rollercoaster of self destruction ... a cycle of drinking when he has money , which isn'...
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Got over it
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I got over the weirdness I had towards my boyfriend not calling me the other night. We talked it over, he approached it, he dealt with it and for ONCE IN MY LIFE - the person I am dating actually cared enough to solve the issue and not just ignore it and think it would go away. In fact he did the op...
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Cyn
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There is just no compromise in me...
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((((Everyone))))
I haven't posted much lately, my AW has been threatening to leave on a daily basis because I just won't stop trying to fix myself. By my count we are talking 50 days in a row where she explanes she just can't live with someone who goes to "those" meetings.
She got really pisse...
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who's in charge?
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This is my first post ... I've been reading, but not posting.....
Fear is my predominant feeling for the past 6 yrs or so ... it really is an emotion that can wear one down. I've worked through many issues, and each year is better than the last these last 6 years, but I still have a ways to go.
I know all th...
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alana
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Now it's up to him
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(((everyone)))
Thanks again to those of you who replied to my (not an ultimatum).My huband stopped by yesterday and brought me over a garden bench. He had picked it up at of someones trash,he put all new screws in it, stripped the wood down, restained it and repainted the metal. it is lovely. I...
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Jeannie
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Horrible Day
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I had one of those week moments last night where I reached out to my A husband in hopes that he would understand how I was feeling about our situation. Instead, he was cold distant and rude. For some reason this wrecked me. I haven't slept or eaten since. I just can't understand the lack of emotions. He is i...
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A little Update and Thank You
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Hello Friends,
Just wanted to say thank you so very much for all the warm thoughts and great advice. Things are tough right now, afterall being on your own with your children after 19 years is an adjustment. However, it is a day by day minute to minute experience right now.
If I am honest the only...
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Andrea12
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He threaten to kill me
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He came by from work this morning at 5:30 AM and I open the door and let him in a BIG Mistake. He had been using crack and was very paroniod. He has been seing things again.
He talked non-sense awhile and then out of the blue he had a small gun. He put it to my head. It could have gone off and I could have b...
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Fear of being well
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Hello Everyone,
This past week has been so nice. Actually even a bit longer than a week. I accepted the good times so well, using them to keep motivated to get all that spring cleaning stuff done, keeping myself too busy to worry. My husband has been a huge help to the projects.
Now this morning and ev...
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Jennifer
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learning to accept me
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i heard this and did my take on it...........not taken from alanon........
it's easier to accept ourselves as sick people than as bad people. And the easier it is to accept ourselves, the easier it becomes to accept responsibility for ourselves.We achieve self-acceptance t...
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rosie light shines
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Codependant No More
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I just stopped by the library yesterday and got the book Codependent No More. I have not started the AlAnon program as am having a hard time finding one close by but after reading half the book boy did I meet most of the criteria and various stages of codendency. But I had plenty of time getti...
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MaNature26
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My failure...my progress
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I've been off and on the message board today, for the first time in months. I posted basically to say hi, and that I'm hanging in there. I've been really anxious that my A would call home and I would have the phone tied up, online...and I've been really concerned that I wouldn't get enough wo...
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Belongtome
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It's a great day....
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Thank you for all the prayers concerning my son being over in the sandbox. His wife has been very ill as well as my mother having terminal cancer. The Air Force did send him home for 2 weeks to spend time with my mom. However his wife's illness is progressive and she has not been well.&...
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marmare
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First Face to Face Mgt
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I went to my first face to face meeting tonight. It was great. I am really suprise at the courage that I am getting from the Alonon family. I am going to be ok, and most of all I am safe. thanks everyone
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tootired
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Memory Gaps
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I've been coming up on gaps in my memory while working on my 4th step. The one I'm dealing with right now has to do with anger -- I don't ever recall anyone expressing anger, or the results of anger, of feeling angry as a kid...I know it was there I just feel like I can't recall it.
I also don't remember the y...
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irena
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don't want to rush into this
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We're supposed to be separating soon, my A is planning on moving out memorial day weekend. I'm very confused and I'm not sure how I'm feeling about this. I knew it was coming and on some levels, I'm relieved, but I'm also scared. That's a whole different post though. What I ne...
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cabma
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a good moment
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Things have been so up and down the past week I just wanted to share a good moment with my family...
I took the advice many of you gave me yesterday and did something good for myself. I went for a run...well it felt so good yesterday that I did it again tonight. I put on my headphones and headed out the door....
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sparkette
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Learning Patience and Strength
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Hi everyone,
As I am new to this I have been struggling the last few days. I have been talking with one of the A's in my life. In the beginning I felt like I was to cut off all contact with him. So that is what I did. But then I started praying and praying and reading the bible, I started getting c...
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angeleyes8462
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Do I belong here?
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I have been attending Al-anon meetings in my hometown for almost a year and a half, and am working the steps and reading literature etc. The effects of alcoholism in my life stem mostly from growing up with an alcoholic mom who was also an adult child, and a dad who, well, haven't figured that out yet. I ju...
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irena
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please explain
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I need a little help understanding the "dry drunk" and the alcoholic behavior that is symptomatic of it. My AH did quit drinking once for 8 months. Now his defense is that I still wasn't happy with him during that time, so why bother quitting again? I think this may be the dry drunk in...
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Atera
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confused & feeling like I don't get it
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I am so confused. I thought I posted a message but I do not see it. I saw it again last nite but now it is no where to be found. Today is Monday, I made it to my 5th f2f meeting today.
I asked her to go get gas in the truck while I fed the dogs. I have me an escape bag packed. In case...
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hmrnrnmm
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mother just admitted brother had her cornered again
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Im starting to think I did the right thing getting him out of there on Sunday. My mother just called. During the conversation she admitted that he had her cornered again.
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Barbara
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A Dad doesnt come on vacation - when is it time to invite sons friend?
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Our son will be 14 next month. Ive been taking him on vacations (week long & long wknds) w/out his Dad (my A husband) since son was 4yrs old. When is it time to step back and let son bring a friend? Im thinking of doing less attractions and letting son hang out w/a friend at the pools instead of always nee...
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Barbara
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Change is hard..on them
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-- Edited by drucilla06 at 19:57, 2006-04-25
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HP working
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on friday i was all upset because my addict husband had moved in with his mother who is the classic enabler. i haven't spoken to them at all for the past 3 years- their decision- my husband chose me and his kids and sobriety over them and all of their insanity. but now he's out there and i'm don...
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serendipity
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Its Monday - Ive already been informed A husbands drinking buddy is spending Fri night at our house!
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Husband will be picking up his drinking buddy on the way home from work Fri afternoon. They're going to a womans house who husband works with to move furniture. And then of course husband is using it as an excuse to not drive his drinking buddy back home! A husband informed me his drinking buddy will be sp...
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Barbara
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Codependents and our Drama...
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I have realized that my Codependent behavior and one of my flaws in character was gravatating towards drama. My A will often say, you thrive on drama and craziness and I can't stand it!! I suppose he is right to some degree. What I have learned by working this program is that when the...
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I feel like the same old crap is starting again
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This weekend was a great weekend despite my "a's" aweful mood. The boys had a great time for their birthday and I ended up having a party even though I said I wasn't going to. We had out of town guests come in with their children. So all together I had 8 kids in my two bedroom condo!!&nbs...
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ya all gotta gotta gotta come now
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Hey all,
last year we had a good group of members from MIP come the "Serenity in Yosemite" conference here in Yosemite California. It is an awesome conference in an awesome place with an awesome group of people!!!!!
I had to write all and say that now ya all just gotta gotta come...
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mastiff
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this weekend--not so much!
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I posted last Monday that last weekend was great--well this weekend not so much! He was pretty irritable and grouchy. I tried to ignore it, but sometimes it's just so depressing! I think I kindof know a little bit of what happened. I went back to band practice on Sat. (I sing w...
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hudsond
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Not an ultimatum
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I know this is probabbly going to sound dumb, but I'm not sure, so I am asking for opinions.
I know that to give anyone an ultimatum is wrong. An ultimatum is saying if you do this, I wil do this or if you do not do this I will do this. It is something with a catch attached to it. An attempt to force someone to do...
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Jeannie
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"Let Go and Let God Get 'Em "
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Just heard this for the first time this past weekend! From a group of recovering A's and Al-Anons at a potluck! Hadn't heard it before--so forgive me if you all know it well! I think it's priceless!
~Shelagh
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This stuff works!
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All,
As a newbie I began with many quesitons. The replys were often, "work the steps, come here often and know how much we love you" I was not sure what that meant until I actually started working step 1. It is starting to sink in. I came to MIP really pissed off and hurt. ...
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Goldie
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good weekend
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just an update on the weekend. My A told me he was planning on going to a party for a friend of his on saturday. (these friends are all a's as well) instead of freaking out and asking him not to go... I just told him he was a grown man and he is able to make his own decisions. it was veryu hard...
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guess what??? better news
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hey u guys, the salesman who handled the job, that i had "screwed up" told me in a very nice email "rosie what U did was fixed--- we were SECOND lowest bid---so if we dont' get the job, its over PRICE, not what U did".....
i was so relieved that i didn'...
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rosie light shines
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new and need help!
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Hi. I am new to the board and would appreciate any advice you can give me. I have been married to my alcoholic husband for 7 years. Finally, I am reaching out to others in my situation because I feel so depressed and alone. I have done everything I know how to do to convince my husband to give up drinking. I ha...
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robinr
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Not sure how I feel...
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I enjoyed the weekend (most of it anyway).
I was scheduled to work this weekend some so we didn't plan on anything big, but I was determined to get some fun out of it. LOL
Friday night, I had mentioned that going to a local park and racing the go-carts would be fun. A said she had plans. Tha...
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rtexas
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i just GOTTA release and live like today is all i got
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oh man have i been "projecting" i mean it hasn't happened yet and iam projecting it.....like a movie, i am writing and reading the END b4 i even read the NOW part......this daily i read today, was meant for me to read...it talked about staying in the present....i sooo need to stay in the NOW.....T...
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rosie light shines
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DRY DRUNK?
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Hi everyone,
Can someone help explain this "dry drunk" that I keep reading about? What does that exactly mean?
My A husband has been threatening separation and we must move in a month because our lease is up. So the pressure is dragging me down in the middle of final exams. His threat couldn't h...
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sunny123
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called cops yesterday because brother was violating restraining order
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and now I feel like crap! geesch you know why cant they just leave me out of it? Im finally ready to disown my family.
I called my mother yesterday morn and my brother was there. He has a court ordered restraining order to not see/talk/communicate with anyone in the family. When I called he answered. I c...
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Barbara
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