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AlaMom · AlaMom

I had the the experience this morning of becoming a victim to my own expectations. The past few weeks have been straight out for me. Running the kids here and there, work, a wedding etc. Basic stuff for a mom. I have been doing what I can to take some time for me - easy give...

John · John

If you are using mIRC to enter our Al-Anon chat room for meetings and/or general, supportive chat you need to ADD the following server to your server list in mIRC; irc.chat4all.org We are no longer using StarChat as our server and the room is shut down on it. To ADD irc.chat4all.org t...

lebe27 · lebe27

Tried to get on chat through starchat and I can't get in today. Says by invite only. What the f*** does that mean. Been coming on MIP for two years now and I am not invited.

jacksmom · jacksmom

My A boyfriend (who lives 2,000 miles away) called last night. Good news! His probation meeting went well. He's finished with community service and has a court date for Sept., he finally received his $ from selling his house, and he has a job interview on Monday! He was so ex...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) This is an interesting experience. I am going through my house packing and am doing alright. I am working on areas that were for the most part just my things. I have alot of stuff, I don't think anyone realises over time how much they gather. Picking what is important is harder in...

Miranda · Miranda

Now I can't be sure about this, but last night something hit me. I don't have to care. I don't have to spend my time worrying about what he will or won't do. He's not my responsibility. I don't have to feel bad about what he's doing or saying to me. I have no idea where this came from. I mean two days ago I was rea...

patience · patience

I'm new to this. How do we let go of someone we love even though they are so very different than the person we hold in our hearts? How do we stop thinking of them?

ollie · ollie

Hi to all,this is my first letter. Can anyone tell me how you are supposed to cope with this? we have been married for 36yrs ,he was a great dad to our 2 kids ,and a great husband ,until 3yrs ago he took to the drink,we are not together now ,i feel as i have lost my whole life,trying to keep our house and look a...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Howdy & Happy Father's Day MIP ((((((Dads)))))))!!!!! I hope each of ya have a great day with your kids/families/loved ones. I appreciate all of you mip guys and the esh you offer. It's always good to hear the male side of things. I thank you for what you bring to recovery.&n...

mIRC Users - Please Read · John

If you are using mIRC to enter our Al-Anon chat room for meetings and/or general, supportive chat you need to ADD the following server to your server list in mIRC; irc.chat4all.org We are no longer using StarChat as our server and the room is shut down on it. To ADD irc.chat4all.org t...

cdb · cdb

It didn't get the correct title for the message. cdb

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanon friends, My son in the military (3rd tour of duty in combat) called saying he is coming home on leave. I can't even say "our" son anymore because my AH doesn't live here anymore. Then my son called late at night from Kuwait telling me his travel plans and his plans for his 2 week leave. I have to w...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) I've needed a break from thinking so I have not been here much. Kept busy with my readings and praying, I've had some small eye opening experiences. #1 I still love my husband. #2 I stayed at the house a few nights while he was here, I have seen how fast he has fallen. I've been g...

serendipity · serendipity

so my a and myself and the kids went to the movies today. i was taking the kids anyway and he asked yesterday if he could come along. i said ok. i don't feel comfortable leaving them with him alone so this worked. and i had our tickets ready so if he didn't show we would go anyway. he showed. it was all nice. i me...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...

Christy · Christy

Thanks ((((my wonderful MIP friends)))) Hubby took me to dinner last night and we agreed we weren't going to talk about any "stuff". Even though we know it's there, it was nice to get out and try to leave it all behind for a little bit. I so appreciate all the caring replies and humor. Rofl Gard...

Suzanne · Suzanne

This is my first time here. I’m not really sure what I want to say. There are so many issues; so many feelings; so much bitterness. I guess the overwhelming feeling over the past couple of weeks is the feeling of being trapped. The A in my life is my husband. We have four kids and he is the sole bre...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone just wanted to share with you my rabbit. the picture by my name. meet thumper :)

Andrea12 · Andrea12

My Dear Friends, The past two days have been crazy, some ups and downs, mostly ups....thank the Lord....Took hub to Pittsburgh to get his leg ckecked, that went very well....He finally understands not to even ask to come home until he can prove his actions.....I also think that maybe, just maybe...

Christy · Christy

Hubby's disability was cut off 6 weeks ago because his Dr's office did not get the proper paperwork to the proper people. Out of our control We are doing footwork for appeal, but must wait 45 days for answer. Son's car was stolen and totaled. Out of my control Responsible party is avoiding us af...

Tammy · Tammy

Living with an active alcoholic has forced me to have a plan B .. This week we are planning to go on a family vacation. Knowing the caos that I am living in I have a plan B.. The kids and I drive and go alone. Well, today 2 days before we are suppose to leave all you know what hit the fan and now, we are resulti...

tea2 · tea2

HaPpY BiRThDaY Mac57 :) ((((( mac57/David ))))) Hope you have a wonderful day ~Your new year is filled with lots of peace, joy and serenity PS. Didn't get to see you this morning so a few of us thought we should bring it here, not to name names for...

jesusis_4me · jesusis_4me

Hello to all, I have this really deeply ingrained habit of mothering my husband. To put it bluntly. We do the dance. He acts like a child I treat him like one, I act like a mother he acts like a child. It is totally annoying me. I am getting sick and tired of being sick and tired. It is going to take an enormou...

hersh · hersh

Please help, someone with a little experience maybe in this situation. My husband has been relapsing since January of this year. I moved out for two months because I could not take it anymore. He called one night during the separation, and ju...

tishrijo · tishrijo

Please share your opinions....I am at my wits end... Sister has 3 children by 2 diff men. The 2 babies dad is only off drugs because he lacks the money to buy. He has been around for a total of 7 months of the 3 year olds life....and 5 months of the 10 month olds life. He is very disrespe...

Reetry · Reetry

When I met my husband we were both 29 and he had just lost his dl b/c of 3 DUI's. I met him at a church singles group & he seemed to have turned his life around. I drove on all of our dates and when we married I drove when we left the wedding. He was recovering (or I guess I thought)...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I dont know what to think about the Lord's plan for me today! I got up, very emotional about my A who I have not been with in a month. I sent him a text message (I guess you could say I fell off the detachment wagon) simply saying "Have you forgotten me?" He did not respond. At 9:30 I met with my husba...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I asked my A last night why he was being so cold and distant to me. He says its because I said I was going to get into counseling and start a work out program. He said "I haven't seen you do anything this week, and I'm upset about it". He says don't expect me to stick around for much longer i...

lin0606 · lin0606

Had a great experience chairing my f2f last night. We are a very small town, usually our meeting is four or five people, all long time members. So, I showed up early, got the room set up - by five minutes before meeting time, there were six new people, none of whom I had ever seen before, and me! As new member...

toto12 · toto12

Dear John/Oz, "All is well, that ends well." German saying. "Ende gut, alles gut." Thanks for your work. We are lucky to have you. Oh, and while I'm at it, as one who has profited immensely, thanks also to all ops. DANKE says Toto

Maria123 · Maria123

Have some fun -- with life, with the day. Life is not drudgery; that is an old belief. Let go of it. We are on an adventure, a journey. EVents will come to pass that we cannot now fathom. Replace heaviness and weariness of spirit with Joy. Surround yourself with people and things that bring light...

lilms · lilms

After Awhile After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't pr...

Miranda · Miranda

I've decided to write more letters to my father. I don't know if it's healthy or not, but I've been feeling better after I write them. They may sound really bad, but this is the one I wrote tonight. That song brought up so much for me. Not only do I want you to be there for me, and take care of me, but...

jesusis_4me · jesusis_4me

Hello to all..... I just wanted to post a shout out to say hi. I am looking for more ways to connect to recovery and found this site. I am giving it a try to see how it works for me. My husband is an addict. He had two years under his belt and relapsed about two weeks ago. Actually about 4-6 weeks ago in...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) Its been a bumpy couple of days. We lost our child care funding this week and I've been visiting and calling schools looking for the right daycare. Meanwhile, everyone is sick at my house either with a cold or a stomach bug. My A's been home from work for three da...

suzydawn · suzydawn

Hi again, I know that I have really already asked this in a way . . . but you know how the confusion can be. What does this "family" feel - is it a problem when you keep your drinking and drunkness to the weekend evenings??? When alcohol is soooo prevalent in our society it can be difficult to...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

Tomorrow I go to meet with my husband, remember NOT my A but he is an a'hole, his attny and my attny. TRYING to settle out of court for the divorce. I am not hopefull. He is a stingy bastard and I am sure it will be a BS settlement. I need to take some time to pray on it tonight and am asking that ALL OF YOU pray fo...

QOD · QOD

I was told by one of the members here that I need to come to the board on Good Days as well as the Bad.....but that I only seem to come on when I am having a bad day. Well I have taken the advice.....I have been trying to come every day.....and today I have some good news. My AH called to tell me that he ha...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Well today was a true test....yesterday I called hubs counselor and told hm the truth about everything, I felt for me to move forward in my recovery that hub can not come home after rehab...... Counselor said, he would talk to hub, hubby called this afternoon, very upset and an...

Strengthwithin · Strengthwithin

I am new to this site, I am a loving mother to my 22yr. old son who is a heroin addict. I don't know where else to turn. I am very educated on addiction but it still doesn't help the pain I'm going through. I almost have lost my son 5x of overdose and I'm scared. I feel like I have a 14 yr old son that is in the big wor...

jamiep · jamiep

Hi everyone, My name is Jamie and I'm a grateful Al-Anon member. Am living in Dharam Shala India where I'm a lone Al-Anon member. I'm interested in starting some meetings via skype. For those interested you can add me as a skype contact (my skype name is jamiepratt) or email me at jamie at e-gak...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), I just got back from the hospital. Hubby came out of ICU last night!

He's in a regular room and may be released as early as tomorrow.

He's on solid foods, bland but solid. There was no kidney, nor liver damage (thank HP). :c...

alina · alina

Hello. I was told by my family group therapist to start a consequences contract with my husband if he used drugs or alcohol again. I'm not sure where to start? Any help? I know I need to make the rules reasonable. Thanks

brownie · brownie

Hi Everyone. Lovely day here. Can anyone help with this. My partner has been on detox programme for the last week. Strange things have been happening. Sometimes he can be fine. I have been sat with him and half an hour later he can turn into a mad man. Talking to himself about nothing. Looking at me as...

cabma · cabma

This is a hard post to write and probably will be long, but bear with me, I need advice. My h is a crack addict and I've stayed with him all these years. Mainly because he's the breadwinner and I work part time. He's been telling me to find a full time job for a few years and he resen...

John · John

Our www.mipchat.net page, which provided a entrance into our Al-Anon room, was removed by the group member who had kindly provided it, for what I will call "personal" reasons. MIP still has all admin. rights to the mipchat.net domain, so while it will be down for the next few days...

bobump · bobump

I can't even get in via irc. Bob

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

Well, tomorrow will be 4 weeks since the last time my A and I were together. Have not spoken to him either. I cried my eyes out for hours last night. Praying, crying, releasing...healing.

I decided to give myself a break.

Escape from this small little Ohio town and head...

Gailey · Gailey

If you attend an open AA meeting as opposed to a Alanon meeting...what do you say when ask if there are any newcomers? I just wonder if AA members are ok with Alanon members in their meetings.

peewee · peewee

Can someone please tell me exactly what steps to follow to post photos on our album site. Have been round and round many times, result - total frustration. Oh pleez, can it be this difficult? thx Perfectly confused, MsPeewee

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i have read posts in these past months and i woudl see a poster and instead of saying "i hear ya" or "hey i can relate" or "gee i am sorry for ur pain" i would jump right in and get on their case with "what step r u working on???" or "do u have...

DoN4me · DoN4me

Since I have joined alanon my life has improved drastically. I see things differently now. When I first came to this program. I was confused, and tired, and felt like my whole world was caving in on me. But now I have had alot of time for me. My son went to spend some of the summer with his father for the first...

LISA LOU · LISA LOU

I am new here and I am unsure of how things work. I tried an alanon group in my area a few years ago but the people were so pushy that I didn't feel comfortable. My father is an alcoholoic. My first husband was an alcoholic and my current husband is an alcoholic. Of course his drinking has no effect on me or my d...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, I cannot get into chatroom, says "cannot find server." Does anyone know what that's all about? At first I thought it was my ISP, but I can go everywere elsl online. Please let me know either here or via email. Thank you, Debbie

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((Hi everyone))), Just checking in to say hi. I haven't been able to post lately, but I have read a little. This time of year, I am running with end of the year school trips. Proms, Graduations and Communions. Plus baseball and Tball games. Between work and the kids their is no time to breath, let alon...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

just wanted to pop in and say hi. havent really been posting lately but im doing good. and still keeping the focus on me!!!!!!!! hope everyone else is doing ok. love all of you

Tammy · Tammy

Last night was horrible, my husband and I fought he left then came back and proceeded to drink.. Telling me he was going to get as far as he could away from me, that he is done living like this and blabla bla... I didnt attend that fignt ( thanks to the advise of a friend who said we dont have to attend ever...

tea2 · tea2

(((((all))))) For anyone who knows a bit of what is going on I am very concerned and nervous. I have asked HP for guidance. I have an important doctor’s appointment today to see what is needed next. I know many have it worse then me. I would appreciate any prayers for a solution soon. I do know thi...

lilms · lilms

This is just venting and I will get over it but can't get into chat using any method including google. I so don't care anymore!!!! If she wants to drink herself to death I just wish she'd get it over with. This long slow suicide mission that she is on, as are most drunks I think, is just too mu...

Miranda · Miranda

Ok, so many of you have probably heard the song Butterfly Kisses, right? Well I felt like I needed to cry tonight so I put it on. I don't know where all the hurt came from, but it just like poured out. It was actually kinda scary, I wasn't expecting it at all. While I was crying I had an idea to write down everyt...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Becoming Victims... (Preview) I had the the experience this morning of becoming a victim to my own expectations. The past few weeks have been straight out for me. Running the kids here and there, work, a wedding etc. Basic stuff for a mom. I have been doing what I can to take some time for me - easy give...	AlaMom	5	565	Jun 11, 2006 by maresie2
	New Server For Rooms (Preview) If you are using mIRC to enter our Al-Anon chat room for meetings and/or general, supportive chat you need to ADD the following server to your server list in mIRC; irc.chat4all.org We are no longer using StarChat as our server and the room is shut down on it. To ADD irc.chat4all.org t...	John	0	443	Jun 11, 2006 by John
	new server a real problem (Preview) Tried to get on chat through starchat and I can't get in today. Says by invite only. What the f*** does that mean. Been coming on MIP for two years now and I am not invited.	lebe27	1	427	Jun 11, 2006 by John
	good news...bad news (Preview) My A boyfriend (who lives 2,000 miles away) called last night. Good news! His probation meeting went well. He's finished with community service and has a court date for Sept., he finally received his $ from selling his house, and he has a job interview on Monday! He was so ex...	jacksmom	5	498	Jun 11, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	So far so good (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) This is an interesting experience. I am going through my house packing and am doing alright. I am working on areas that were for the most part just my things. I have alot of stuff, I don't think anyone realises over time how much they gather. Picking what is important is harder in...	Jennifer	0	399	Jun 11, 2006 by Jennifer
	It finally hit me (Preview) Now I can't be sure about this, but last night something hit me. I don't have to care. I don't have to spend my time worrying about what he will or won't do. He's not my responsibility. I don't have to feel bad about what he's doing or saying to me. I have no idea where this came from. I mean two days ago I was rea...	Miranda	3	468	Jun 11, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Letting go (Preview) I'm new to this. How do we let go of someone we love even though they are so very different than the person we hold in our hearts? How do we stop thinking of them?	patience	2	537	Jun 11, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	newcomer (Preview) Hi to all,this is my first letter. Can anyone tell me how you are supposed to cope with this? we have been married for 36yrs ,he was a great dad to our 2 kids ,and a great husband ,until 3yrs ago he took to the drink,we are not together now ,i feel as i have lost my whole life,trying to keep our house and look a...	ollie	14	570	Jun 11, 2006 by Diva
	Happy Father's Day Mip Dads! (Preview) Howdy & Happy Father's Day MIP ((((((Dads)))))))!!!!! I hope each of ya have a great day with your kids/families/loved ones. I appreciate all of you mip guys and the esh you offer. It's always good to hear the male side of things. I thank you for what you bring to recovery.&n...	cedarpines	2	428	Jun 11, 2006 by Barbara
	mIRC Users - Please Read (Preview) If you are using mIRC to enter our Al-Anon chat room for meetings and/or general, supportive chat you need to ADD the following server to your server list in mIRC; irc.chat4all.org We are no longer using StarChat as our server and the room is shut down on it. To ADD irc.chat4all.org t...	John	0	455	Jun 11, 2006 by John
	testing topic below is about daugher's assult :( (Preview) It didn't get the correct title for the message. cdb	cdb	0	415	Jun 11, 2006 by cdb
	Anxiously awaiting..... (Preview) Hi Alanon friends, My son in the military (3rd tour of duty in combat) called saying he is coming home on leave. I can't even say "our" son anymore because my AH doesn't live here anymore. Then my son called late at night from Kuwait telling me his travel plans and his plans for his 2 week leave. I have to w...	nmike	4	524	Jun 11, 2006 by leo
	ESH needed on numerous topics please (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) I've needed a break from thinking so I have not been here much. Kept busy with my readings and praying, I've had some small eye opening experiences. #1 I still love my husband. #2 I stayed at the house a few nights while he was here, I have seen how fast he has fallen. I've been g...	Jennifer	3	447	Jun 11, 2006 by leo
	detatched or just cold? (Preview) so my a and myself and the kids went to the movies today. i was taking the kids anyway and he asked yesterday if he could come along. i said ok. i don't feel comfortable leaving them with him alone so this worked. and i had our tickets ready so if he didn't show we would go anyway. he showed. it was all nice. i me...	serendipity	3	483	Jun 11, 2006 by leo
	MIP MAP MOVED (closed) (Preview) This site is not where you can endulge in outside issues or promote and advertise outside endeavors/causes. While what you are doing may be with good intent and seemingly harmless it is outside the scope of Al-Anon, is not endorsed by Al-Anon WSO, nor this Al-Anon WSO registered group's busin...	jrtjosey	0	386	Jun 10, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Thanks ((MIP angels)) (Preview) Thanks ((((my wonderful MIP friends)))) Hubby took me to dinner last night and we agreed we weren't going to talk about any "stuff". Even though we know it's there, it was nice to get out and try to leave it all behind for a little bit. I so appreciate all the caring replies and humor. Rofl Gard...	Christy	7	581	Jun 10, 2006 by cedarpines
	Trapped, Hotel California style (Preview) This is my first time here. I’m not really sure what I want to say. There are so many issues; so many feelings; so much bitterness. I guess the overwhelming feeling over the past couple of weeks is the feeling of being trapped. The A in my life is my husband. We have four kids and he is the sole bre...	Suzanne	6	712	Jun 10, 2006 by maresie2
	hello (Preview) hi everyone just wanted to share with you my rabbit. the picture by my name. meet thumper :)	notsonew1111	4	415	Jun 10, 2006 by lmt123
	Looking at Life (Preview) My Dear Friends, The past two days have been crazy, some ups and downs, mostly ups....thank the Lord....Took hub to Pittsburgh to get his leg ckecked, that went very well....He finally understands not to even ask to come home until he can prove his actions.....I also think that maybe, just maybe...	Andrea12	1	447	Jun 10, 2006 by Karilynn
	Out of my control/scream!!! (Preview) Hubby's disability was cut off 6 weeks ago because his Dr's office did not get the proper paperwork to the proper people. Out of our control We are doing footwork for appeal, but must wait 45 days for answer. Son's car was stolen and totaled. Out of my control Responsible party is avoiding us af...	Christy	23	784	Jun 10, 2006 by maresie2
	So I go to plan B (Preview) Living with an active alcoholic has forced me to have a plan B .. This week we are planning to go on a family vacation. Knowing the caos that I am living in I have a plan B.. The kids and I drive and go alone. Well, today 2 days before we are suppose to leave all you know what hit the fan and now, we are resulti...	Tammy	6	606	Jun 10, 2006 by maresie2
	Happy Birthday mac57 (Preview) HaPpY BiRThDaY Mac57 :) ((((( mac57/David ))))) Hope you have a wonderful day ~Your new year is filled with lots of peace, joy and serenity PS. Didn't get to see you this morning so a few of us thought we should bring it here, not to name names for...	tea2	18	692	Jun 10, 2006 by dwa1163
	Taking way to much personal!!!!!!! (Preview) Hello to all, I have this really deeply ingrained habit of mothering my husband. To put it bluntly. We do the dance. He acts like a child I treat him like one, I act like a mother he acts like a child. It is totally annoying me. I am getting sick and tired of being sick and tired. It is going to take an enormou...	jesusis_4me	4	465	Jun 10, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	How many Bottoms??? (Preview) Please help, someone with a little experience maybe in this situation. My husband has been relapsing since January of this year. I moved out for two months because I could not take it anymore. He called one night during the separation, and ju...	hersh	7	578	Jun 10, 2006 by northstar
	Accept things I cannot change...or Courage to change what I can? (Preview) Please share your opinions....I am at my wits end... Sister has 3 children by 2 diff men. The 2 babies dad is only off drugs because he lacks the money to buy. He has been around for a total of 7 months of the 3 year olds life....and 5 months of the 10 month olds life. He is very disrespe...	tishrijo	9	581	Jun 10, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Daily rollercoaster (Preview) When I met my husband we were both 29 and he had just lost his dl b/c of 3 DUI's. I met him at a church singles group & he seemed to have turned his life around. I drove on all of our dates and when we married I drove when we left the wedding. He was recovering (or I guess I thought)...	Reetry	4	572	Jun 10, 2006 by Reetry
	NOT divorced/A came back (?) (Preview) I dont know what to think about the Lord's plan for me today! I got up, very emotional about my A who I have not been with in a month. I sent him a text message (I guess you could say I fell off the detachment wagon) simply saying "Have you forgotten me?" He did not respond. At 9:30 I met with my husba...	jennneeefffurrr	7	559	Jun 10, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Facing my own issues... (Preview) I asked my A last night why he was being so cold and distant to me. He says its because I said I was going to get into counseling and start a work out program. He said "I haven't seen you do anything this week, and I'm upset about it". He says don't expect me to stick around for much longer i...	twinmom2	4	608	Jun 10, 2006 by nmike
	Last night's meeting (Preview) Had a great experience chairing my f2f last night. We are a very small town, usually our meeting is four or five people, all long time members. So, I showed up early, got the room set up - by five minutes before meeting time, there were six new people, none of whom I had ever seen before, and me! As new member...	lin0606	2	498	Jun 10, 2006 by nmike
	troubles in chatroom - a message for Oz and Ops (Preview) Dear John/Oz, "All is well, that ends well." German saying. "Ende gut, alles gut." Thanks for your work. We are lucky to have you. Oh, and while I'm at it, as one who has profited immensely, thanks also to all ops. DANKE says Toto	toto12	1	492	Jun 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Fun (Preview) Have some fun -- with life, with the day. Life is not drudgery; that is an old belief. Let go of it. We are on an adventure, a journey. EVents will come to pass that we cannot now fathom. Replace heaviness and weariness of spirit with Joy. Surround yourself with people and things that bring light...	Maria123	6	463	Jun 9, 2006 by tea2
	After Awhile (Preview) After Awhile *After a while you learn the subtle difference between* *holding a hand and chaining a soul,* *And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning and* *company doesn't mean security,* *And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts* *and presents aren't pr...*	lilms	4	435	Jun 9, 2006 by kismetstrand
	More butterfly kisses (Preview) I've decided to write more letters to my father. I don't know if it's healthy or not, but I've been feeling better after I write them. They may sound really bad, but this is the one I wrote tonight. That song brought up so much for me. Not only do I want you to be there for me, and take care of me, but...	Miranda	2	599	Jun 9, 2006 by nmike
	New to online al-anon....hi to all (Preview) Hello to all..... I just wanted to post a shout out to say hi. I am looking for more ways to connect to recovery and found this site. I am giving it a try to see how it works for me. My husband is an addict. He had two years under his belt and relapsed about two weeks ago. Actually about 4-6 weeks ago in...	jesusis_4me	8	590	Jun 9, 2006 by david62
	Still sick but feeling some release and peace (Preview) (((Hello Group))) Its been a bumpy couple of days. We lost our child care funding this week and I've been visiting and calling schools looking for the right daycare. Meanwhile, everyone is sick at my house either with a cold or a stomach bug. My A's been home from work for three da...	twinmom2	4	435	Jun 9, 2006 by nmike
	Hmmm, tell me again (Preview) *Hi again,* I know that I have really already asked this in a way . . . but you know how the confusion can be. What does this "family" feel - is it a problem when you keep your drinking and drunkness to the weekend evenings??? When alcohol is soooo prevalent in our society it can be difficult to...	suzydawn	8	647	Jun 9, 2006 by Karilynn
	DIVORCE tomorrow (Preview) Tomorrow I go to meet with my husband, remember NOT my A but he is an a'hole, his attny and my attny. TRYING to settle out of court for the divorce. I am not hopefull. He is a stingy bastard and I am sure it will be a BS settlement. I need to take some time to pray on it tonight and am asking that ALL OF YOU pray fo...	jennneeefffurrr	7	746	Jun 9, 2006 by Karilynn
	Finally Some Good News From Me! (Preview) I was told by one of the members here that I need to come to the board on Good Days as well as the Bad.....but that I only seem to come on when I am having a bad day. Well I have taken the advice.....I have been trying to come every day.....and today I have some good news. My AH called to tell me that he ha...	QOD	8	527	Jun 9, 2006 by Karilynn
	Not coming home after Rehab (Preview) Hello Friends, Well today was a true test....yesterday I called hubs counselor and told hm the truth about everything, I felt for me to move forward in my recovery that hub can not come home after rehab...... Counselor said, he would talk to hub, hubby called this afternoon, very upset and an...	Andrea12	7	523	Jun 9, 2006 by mel123
	I need tough love with my son (Preview) I am new to this site, I am a loving mother to my 22yr. old son who is a heroin addict. I don't know where else to turn. I am very educated on addiction but it still doesn't help the pain I'm going through. I almost have lost my son 5x of overdose and I'm scared. I feel like I have a 14 yr old son that is in the big wor...	Strengthwithin	12	631	Jun 9, 2006 by mel123
	skype al-anon meeting anyone? (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is Jamie and I'm a grateful Al-Anon member. Am living in Dharam Shala India where I'm a lone Al-Anon member. I'm interested in starting some meetings via skype. For those interested you can add me as a skype contact (my skype name is jamiepratt) or email me at jamie at e-gak...	jamiep	2	5176	Jun 9, 2006 by jamiep
	Hubby Update (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), I just got back from the hospital. Hubby came out of ICU last night! He's in a regular room and may be released as early as tomorrow. He's on solid foods, bland but solid. There was no kidney, nor liver damage (thank HP). :c...	Karilynn	14	551	Jun 8, 2006 by leo
	HOW TO WRITE FAMILY CONTRACT (Preview) Hello. I was told by my family group therapist to start a consequences contract with my husband if he used drugs or alcohol again. I'm not sure where to start? Any help? I know I need to make the rules reasonable. Thanks	alina	6	2157	Jun 8, 2006 by debilyn
	Withdrawal Symptoms (Preview) Hi Everyone. Lovely day here. Can anyone help with this. My partner has been on detox programme for the last week. Strange things have been happening. Sometimes he can be fine. I have been sat with him and half an hour later he can turn into a mad man. Talking to himself about nothing. Looking at me as...	brownie	4	439	Jun 8, 2006 by hightide
	divorce is on again and it's my fault (Preview) This is a hard post to write and probably will be long, but bear with me, I need advice. My h is a crack addict and I've stayed with him all these years. Mainly because he's the breadwinner and I work part time. He's been telling me to find a full time job for a few years and he resen...	cabma	9	580	Jun 8, 2006 by hightide
	Chatroom Entrance(s) (Please Read) (Preview) Our www.mipchat.net page, which provided a entrance into our Al-Anon room, was removed by the group member who had kindly provided it, for what I will call "personal" reasons. MIP still has all admin. rights to the mipchat.net domain, so while it will be down for the next few days...	John	2	556	Jun 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	chat down? (Preview) I can't even get in via irc. Bob	bobump	3	482	Jun 8, 2006 by peewee
	a MONTH and NO A/Well deserved vacation!/Pen Pal Club INFO! (Preview) Well, tomorrow will be 4 weeks since the last time my A and I were together. Have not spoken to him either. I cried my eyes out for hours last night. Praying, crying, releasing...healing. I decided to give myself a break. Escape from this small little Ohio town and head...	jennneeefffurrr	6	486	Jun 8, 2006 by rosie light shines
	open AA meetings (Preview) If you attend an open AA meeting as opposed to a Alanon meeting...what do you say when ask if there are any newcomers? I just wonder if AA members are ok with Alanon members in their meetings.	Gailey	6	480	Jun 8, 2006 by bobump
	photo posting whew! (Preview) Can someone please tell me exactly what steps to follow to post photos on our album site. Have been round and round many times, result - total frustration. Oh pleez, can it be this difficult? thx Perfectly confused, MsPeewee	peewee	6	521	Jun 8, 2006 by shadow1
	sorry if i seemed judgemental or insensitive (Preview) i have read posts in these past months and i woudl see a poster and instead of saying "i hear ya" or "hey i can relate" or "gee i am sorry for ur pain" i would jump right in and get on their case with "what step r u working on???" or "do u have...	rosie light shines	2	563	Jun 8, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Update - and Thankfulness (Preview) Since I have joined alanon my life has improved drastically. I see things differently now. When I first came to this program. I was confused, and tired, and felt like my whole world was caving in on me. But now I have had alot of time for me. My son went to spend some of the summer with his father for the first...	DoN4me	2	451	Jun 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Sometimes I feel lost (Preview) I am new here and I am unsure of how things work. I tried an alanon group in my area a few years ago but the people were so pushy that I didn't feel comfortable. My father is an alcoholoic. My first husband was an alcoholic and my current husband is an alcoholic. Of course his drinking has no effect on me or my d...	LISA LOU	8	569	Jun 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Trouble getting in chatroom (Preview) Hi, I cannot get into chatroom, says "cannot find server." Does anyone know what that's all about? At first I thought it was my ISP, but I can go everywere elsl online. Please let me know either here or via email. Thank you, Debbie	horselover58	2	434	Jun 8, 2006 by Lexie
	Hi (Preview) (((Hi everyone))), Just checking in to say hi. I haven't been able to post lately, but I have read a little. This time of year, I am running with end of the year school trips. Proms, Graduations and Communions. Plus baseball and Tball games. Between work and the kids their is no time to breath, let alon...	Jeannie	3	384	Jun 8, 2006 by tea2
	hello (Preview) just wanted to pop in and say hi. havent really been posting lately but im doing good. and still keeping the focus on me!!!!!!!! hope everyone else is doing ok. love all of you	notsonew1111	4	468	Jun 8, 2006 by nmike
	Why does the plan B have to hurt so much ?? (Preview) Last night was horrible, my husband and I fought he left then came back and proceeded to drink.. Telling me he was going to get as far as he could away from me, that he is done living like this and blabla bla... I didnt attend that fignt ( thanks to the advise of a friend who said we dont have to attend ever...	Tammy	7	562	Jun 8, 2006 by nmike
	a request (Preview) (((((all))))) For anyone who knows a bit of what is going on I am very concerned and nervous. I have asked HP for guidance. I have an important doctor’s appointment today to see what is needed next. I know many have it worse then me. I would appreciate any prayers for a solution soon. I do know thi...	tea2	17	604	Jun 8, 2006 by sandie123
	I so DONT care anymore (Preview) This is just venting and I will get over it but can't get into chat using any method including google. I so don't care anymore!!!! If she wants to drink herself to death I just wish she'd get it over with. This long slow suicide mission that she is on, as are most drunks I think, is just too mu...	lilms	3	498	Jun 8, 2006 by tea2
	Butterfly Kisses (Preview) Ok, so many of you have probably heard the song Butterfly Kisses, right? Well I felt like I needed to cry tonight so I put it on. I don't know where all the hurt came from, but it just like poured out. It was actually kinda scary, I wasn't expecting it at all. While I was crying I had an idea to write down everyt...	Miranda	3	435	Jun 8, 2006 by sandie123
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