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Dog · Dog

I have been hanging around this board for about a week and will attend my second f2f tomorrow. It has helped me tremendously to progress and I am incredibly grateful to everyone who has shared their stories because they have had a profoundly sobering effect on me. Consequently my relationship with my...

artemis · artemis

i just found out my son is using narcotics again . He's been in rehab and I thought he was clean for the past two years. He has been using all along. I'm depressed, freaked out and scared for him. It explains why he has been having trouble keeping jobs and basically taking good care of himself. He has an apar...

LALA1 · LALA1

I wanted to know if anyone could help me on the topic of a sponsor. I am still fairly new to alanon and I am really trying to learn as much as I can. I have been reading constantly and I am finally ready to try to change for me and me only, I can say the past few days I have felt more at peace tha...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

sorry i goofed and submitted it twice -- Edited by rosie light shines at 12:15, 2006-06-07

QOD · QOD

I am so stressed, tired, confused. I am working so hard to keep my life from falling completely apart but I feel as if the walls are starting to crumble in around me. My AH still is not working. It has been almost 4 weeks since he has been home from his last week long binge. He hasn't ha...

jacksmom · jacksmom

Can anyone explain this acronym? I am new to this message board and sometimes see things such as F2F that I don't know.

mf310 · mf310

She's sleeping in the guest room now at my request. While I was online, she came upstairs, went right to that room and shut the door. Very out of character for her not to say goodnight. 15 minutes later, I went in and she woke up and looked at me with that stupid "I've been drinking" grin. I men...

brownie · brownie

My partner stopped drinking about 1 month ago. He has been on a home detox programme. I don't know what is happening to him at the moment. It's like living with 2 different people. One minute he's ok the next he's a mad man. Never seen him like this before. It is breaking my heart. He was fine yesterday when...

serendipity · serendipity

i was at my f2f tonight and a friend brought up a topic of powerlessness. her son worrying about his father (her ex). and another friend said how nice that she has raised a son who can care deeply and express his feelings. i just love when people can turn our sorrows into joys. it is all in the perspective. a...

peewee · peewee

Got out 4 books to bring self down from anger level, and here's what showed up: "I don't have to react instantly to provocation, and I am not obligated to justify myself to anyone." "Defending ourselves by engaging in arguments with actively drinking or otherwise irrational people is as fruitle...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 19. I'm still unsure where I feel most comfortable.....on this board or the Alateen board. I also have been thinking of actually going to a f2f Al-Anon meeting but I'm unsure. Anyways.... How old are some of you? Lanchas

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

last night i cried AGAIN!!! i am lying in bed last night, getting ready for sleep, and it hit me!! here i am goin on 60 this month and i **feel** like i MISSED out on life.....the abuse-- the resultant addictions/ codependency disease, u know, the aftershocks of the trauma, and NOW, i get my...

mf310 · mf310

So what if I just want her to go away? And thus begins my rambling for the day. Should I ignore the drinking? Yep. Do I? Nope. Why? Here's the issue I have with letting her "get away" with the drinking. Like many stories I've seen here, she denies drinking eve...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Everyone I haven't posted in a while, I guess I've been withdrawn in my own little world. Basically I've been plodding along from day to day but not really feeling much peace. I threw my back out and its been pretty bad for the last week. Being in pain really drains me and depr...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Well, at least there is a plan to relocate. I thought it might be in a few weeks. I called to get sq.footage of apt and found out only mailing app today and may be 2-3 wks to process and maybe some weeks after to move in. The isolation gets soooo hard to deal with. I used to be able to have a bus just down the stree...

megan · megan

Hi my friends old and new. I am dating. I am on 3 different dating websites and my email box is full. I have even progressed to meeting 2 people in real life. One not suitable and the other makes my heart beat fast and my pulse quicken. The one I like is eerily similar to my husband. Profess...

emma · emma

I have been praying to HP all day ... since yesterday. Let go, let God. Detach. Believe it will be OK, HP, please help me do the next right thing... these are all my mantras today. My most difficult challenge with this program is not just feeling like someone is ...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Hello Everyone)))) Been out of town for our aniversery and it started off miserably. All last week, my AW said she didn't want to go, didn't like the place I picked, wanted me to take the kids and she would stay home.... on and on. The disease at it's best. Well, we settled on the kid...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi, I am 50. My qualifier is my spouse. Welcome any time to this board. My experience with alanon, mixed ages, same feelings even though different situations, environments. One alanon shoe size does not fit all, so that is why you have a choice. ...

brownie · brownie

Hi Everyone. I'm new to this site. Like everyone else I need a little help. My partner of 8 years Paul is an Alcoholic. He has been on a detox programme. He detoxed at home for 2 weeks with the help of tablets and the doctors. The last few days I think he has been having Vodka. He has been acting drunk. Whe...

zoolander101 · zoolander101

I'm new here, please bare with me When my stepson got out of rehab (drugs and alcohol) we were told that we needed to go home and clean out the closets so-to-speak. My husband and I didn't have anything to throw-away as we are not drinkers/druggers so there was no problem there. We did however, lock up S...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i just wanted to thank U guys for taking time to "hug" me in my world of hurt here i am working the steps on having to accept that all i may get out of this program is to love/treat me and others better... there may NOT be any lights at the end of the tunnel...there may NOT be any be...

angel123 · angel123

I never fgure out whether a happy incident is a lovely ending or a beautiful beginning. Feeling are not right or wrong they just are. It's easier to ask "How Important Is it?" than carry resentment. Serenity is choosing to live with things as they happen,not choosing them to happen as you wish...

kitty · kitty

It has been hard to deal with, it comes in waves. Being bombarded lately, even though I have come out of the dumps a bit, it still does such a number in your head, on your self-esteem/psyche... it is SO hard to remember hurt people... hurt people & not to take it personally but I have so mu...

jacksmom · jacksmom

Thanks, everyone, for listening (reading) and responding. I appreciate all comments. I am a fairly new Al-Anon member. I attend meetings locally. This is my first online posting. I am living apart from my A boyfriend. We lived together for several years, b...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Quick question for those that have sponsored. . . My one year anniversary in the program is in November. I have worked the steps, go to 5 meetings a week and currently sponsor 3 newcomers. My sponsor says that I am living and breathing the program, tha...

Rita G · Rita G

My brother in law called asking for help in making a decision - wanted to put the situation out there to see if you think my reasoning is healthy??? Brother in law's daughter from 1st marriage is going on senior trip to cancun, he and his second wife were going as chaperones. His wife had e...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Sheesh, some of you may remember that song from the late 60's. "They are coming to take me away ha ha........." I feel like that lately. I have my HP working overtime restoring me to sanity. My A is driving me nuts. I don't think she has drank in the last few days. But I suppose she thi...

marmare · marmare

How do I know when I have had enough. When will I be full and not take anymore. The cycles make me feel insane. I am tired of the I'm sorrys, I wasn't doing anything wrong and the famous....your the one I want to be with. I'm so tired, with my mom dying I can't deal with the crap that...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I heard something from my home group last week that I thought I should share with those working on recovery. The following statement is so profound, it is: "Pain is the only knife sharp enough to cut through denial" It reminded me of how long I fought and struggled against the d...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just got back from the ICU and seeing hubby. His pancreas has been damaged. The past 2 weeks that he has been staying with his friend from rehab (the one he saved a couple of months ago from a heroine overdose) he hasn't been able to ke...

Christy · Christy

As some of you know.... Last month my son's first car was hit by a truck and totaled (son was fine). He had it 6 weeks. We lost $700.00 on the deal and took it with a grain of salt. Insuranse would only give us X amount. So we found him another car for a good price. A red 1993 Mitsubishi Eclipse. Old, but h...

kitty · kitty

For personal complications I have avoided the site all together for a time... and it didn't take long for my mind to slip completely & fall into the preying brain suck of depression. I need the outlet, support & grounding, for as much as I know, truly each moment I'm a beginner and all o...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

I understand that an A must be allowed to suffer the consequences of his actions if he is ever going to seek help or admit a problem soooo isn't one of these consequences my hurt and anger and the wedge it places in our relationship. If I pretend that everythig is fine and ignore last n...

patience · patience

Somebody please tell me I am not crazy. Giving pills like Vicodine, Valiums, Oxyconton (sp?) to your son, age 25, is just sick. My husband has a back injury and abuses his medication to the point that he's throwing up while driving or sometimes in the middle of a meal and can only make it to the kitchen sin...

dusk2dawn · dusk2dawn

I've just removed my A sister from my life. Can't take being jerked around anymore. Haven't seen who I always knew as my sister for years. She has managed to keep my family in turmoil for so long. It's as if I've buried someone. But then, it's as if she died so long ago.&n...

patrice · patrice

Hello to my brothers and sisters on the path of recovery. I have been with my man for almost two years now. At first I was in some denial about his alcoholism as he is a very functional drunk and I figured hey lot's of ladies stay with alcohoic men and go to alan-on to get relief. Believe it or not, I once actua...

debilyn · debilyn

Well after going clear out to the toolyboons with my Brownijoy , my chocolatelab/rottie pup, to pick up two NIgerian goats.. don't ask, the day was getting fuller. They had too many goats. Were wonderfully taken care of, but the gal did not smile once. Seemed like life was a chore f...

Akasha · Akasha

I've just hung up the phone w/ my A. He is high again. He's used more per diem money to pay for his drugs. This time, there is no paycheck to cover it. He is supposed to have the money tomorrow for the crew going out of town. I told him that when he wanted to get well to let me know.&...

rio · rio

Right now I don't care!!! I had my last drink while out with friends when my husband was in rehab. It'll be three years in November. What did I do as soon as hubby left for the Alano club tonight? I went across the street to the party store and bought myself a pint of watermelon sc...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Dear Friends How is everyone today? I hope well, today is Saturday June 3, 2006 and usually I would be spending the day with my A-boyfriend or a least talking on the phone with him to plan a day adventure with him. But today I won’t be, in fact never. As most of you know he bro...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Going on 10 months

Been here since Hurricanes Katrina and Rita. That was bad enough to loose everything and have to find anew. Being back in touch with A-dau and A-m...

MdmDragonfly · MdmDragonfly

Well, my A has decided to go to rehab on Monday. We went and got everything set up on Friday and they got him a bed asap. He'll be gone for at least 28 days. He has cut off contact with his drinking buddies and is having his dad and another AA friend take him to the rehab. BUT, this weekend has been Hell so far....

dwa1163 · dwa1163

THIS IS MY FIRST POST. I HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO ATTEND MY ONLINE MEETINGS BECAUSE I AM OUT OF TOWN AND BECAUSE OF THIS NIGHTMARE I HAVE BEEN LIVING SINCE APRIL 11. I FINALLY GOT THE COURAGE TO LEAVE MY A OF 27 YEARS. I MET A MAN IN OREGON ABOUT A YEAR AGO. FLEW OUT TO BE WITH HIM MANY TIMES. WE FELL IN LOVE AT FIRST SI...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Family)))))))))), Just thinking out loud here. Ever since I asked hubby to leave, I have been awfully calm about all of this. I'm wondering if I'm almost too calm.

Now granted I don't have the chaos to come home too because he was drinking. I am slowly put...

Barbara · Barbara

Adopted 2 bunnies yesterday Painters coming this morn to give estimate on painting our main floor - dining/living, kitchen, 2 bedrooms & 2 baths. Its me with the $ in savings and its time to start spending it! I dont need A husband's approval to open my savings account! Also have a grassman com...

marmare · marmare

Just a little prayer, that I continue to work my program and have the strength not to talk to the disease. I worked very late last night out observing a job at the job site, I have now been accused of being selfish and cheating on my A. I am asking my HP to guide me with my words and actions. Hugs M...

LittleWing · LittleWing

Before I Turned Into A ButterFly [img]I was released into a world that was unfamilure. Falling from a tree that stood high in the sky. Laying there lifeless and confused I finally had the will to crawl and find my way Where I was going was unknown But, I started out for my journey ...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, This morning a light bulb went off for me.

My A called to say hi and I love you... I expressed to him that I missed him and wanted to see how things were going for him. He said fine. O.K. maybe I should have left it at that, but I needed to say how I have be...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Having a hard time understanding this program....I have to change...I have to become this perfect compasionate calm caring person who sees the glass half full and sees the A as a person who can't help himself(poor him)..Really struggling with how I am suppose to respond(not react) st...

debilyn · debilyn

I decided not to write then changed my mind. A called me collect from jail. Told him what was happening with his family. Then he got on how he did not know what he would do when he got out. I replied, "it is totally up to you." He comes back with, "My options are very limited." I told him we have been togeth...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Just thinking about a couple of "aha" moments in my recovery, kind of 'lines in the sand' that are memories, and perhaps stepping stones for me finally "getting it" and moving towards a healthier life for me.... 1. Blame - I was at a family conference at my ex-wife's treatment center, and was talking...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK I have had several respond interested in the "Pen Pal Club"...could everyone do me a HUGE favor and PLEASE send me an email with your info: real full name "snail mail" address birthday (optional) AlAnon anniversary date (optional) any other info please email THIS info to: &nb...

Little Lisa · Little Lisa

Well, it took me 43 years to get here and honestly I don't quite know where "here" is or if it's where I need to be. There is so much to say...I feel like I am opening a can of worms, but, I don't know that I can continue this balancing act much longer. I have been depressed since high school, on anti...

rio · rio

My husband has been an alcoholic for the entire time that we've been together. He was drunk the night we met and he was drinking on our first date. We were both very young then...he was 22 and I had just turned 19. I chalked it up to the typical young adult craziness that most of u...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

We have 5 people interested in the "PEN PAL CLUB"

If anyone is interested, PM me your address & if you want it shared with others, your B-day and etc info. I will have everything organized to start it up by mid or end of next week. LOVE and BEST WISHES!!! Jen

Dog · Dog

I went to my first f2f meeting last night…people were incredibly warm and welcoming but honestly I was left wondering if I ought to go to an AA. Not instead of Al-Alon, but in addition to. Because although I definitely have al-anon type problems, what is primary for me in the short term…what is acute f...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm a little confused this morning. My AH told his family he filed for divorce. It made me angry that he lied once again and asked why he would do that ... they were bad mouthing me ... saying I had put too much guilt on him over the years, that he deserved to be happy. I l...

Lexie · Lexie

Hello (((((((friends)))))) I am still unable to get into the chat room. I have registered four times with starchat and have never heard back from them. I will continue to try to work this out, so I can join you all again. In the meantime, just know that I am missing you guys and the meeting...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I dont know WHAT the deal was last night, but I all of a sudden went into panic mode about my A, who I have not spoken to in 11 days now.

I am doing so well with my recovery, getting stronger, feeling more confident, calm and accepting.

I have even been talking to God in prayer and instead of be...

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	Thanks and an update (Preview) I have been hanging around this board for about a week and will attend my second f2f tomorrow. It has helped me tremendously to progress and I am incredibly grateful to everyone who has shared their stories because they have had a profoundly sobering effect on me. Consequently my relationship with my...	Dog	3	252	Jun 7, 2006 by Dog
	help and support dealling with 20 year old narcotics addict. (Preview) i just found out my son is using narcotics again . He's been in rehab and I thought he was clean for the past two years. He has been using all along. I'm depressed, freaked out and scared for him. It explains why he has been having trouble keeping jobs and basically taking good care of himself. He has an apar...	artemis	6	411	Jun 7, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Needing some advice (Preview) I wanted to know if anyone could help me on the topic of a sponsor. I am still fairly new to alanon and I am really trying to learn as much as I can. I have been reading constantly and I am finally ready to try to change for me and me only, I can say the past few days I have felt more at peace tha...	LALA1	3	450	Jun 7, 2006 by rosie light shines
	sorry i goofed up, and sent my post 2 x (Preview) sorry i goofed and submitted it twice -- Edited by rosie light shines at 12:15, 2006-06-07	rosie light shines	0	220	Jun 7, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Burning my candle at both ends (Preview) I am so stressed, tired, confused. I am working so hard to keep my life from falling completely apart but I feel as if the walls are starting to crumble in around me. My AH still is not working. It has been almost 4 weeks since he has been home from his last week long binge. He hasn't ha...	QOD	6	362	Jun 7, 2006 by QOD
	What is F2F? (Preview) Can anyone explain this acronym? I am new to this message board and sometimes see things such as F2F that I don't know.	jacksmom	5	330	Jun 7, 2006 by nycbt
	A first step (Preview) She's sleeping in the guest room now at my request. While I was online, she came upstairs, went right to that room and shut the door. Very out of character for her not to say goodnight. 15 minutes later, I went in and she woke up and looked at me with that stupid "I've been drinking" grin. I men...	mf310	2	330	Jun 7, 2006 by nycbt
	Help needed (Preview) My partner stopped drinking about 1 month ago. He has been on a home detox programme. I don't know what is happening to him at the moment. It's like living with 2 different people. One minute he's ok the next he's a mad man. Never seen him like this before. It is breaking my heart. He was fine yesterday when...	brownie	3	253	Jun 7, 2006 by brownie
	perspective (Preview) i was at my f2f tonight and a friend brought up a topic of powerlessness. her son worrying about his father (her ex). and another friend said how nice that she has raised a son who can care deeply and express his feelings. i just love when people can turn our sorrows into joys. it is all in the perspective. a...	serendipity	0	228	Jun 6, 2006 by serendipity
	Lambasted by control freak (Preview) Got out 4 books to bring self down from anger level, and here's what showed up: "I don't have to react instantly to provocation, and I am not obligated to justify myself to anyone." "Defending ourselves by engaging in arguments with actively drinking or otherwise irrational people is as fruitle...	peewee	12	464	Jun 6, 2006 by peewee
	age (Preview) I'm 19. I'm still unsure where I feel most comfortable.....on this board or the Alateen board. I also have been thinking of actually going to a f2f Al-Anon meeting but I'm unsure. Anyways.... How old are some of you? Lanchas	Lanchas	3	293	Jun 6, 2006 by lmt123
	geeeez i feel like doggie doo doo (Preview) last night i cried AGAIN!!! i am lying in bed last night, getting ready for sleep, and it hit me!! here i am goin on 60 this month and i feel like i MISSED out on life.....the abuse-- the resultant addictions/ codependency disease, u know, the aftershocks of the trauma, and NOW, i get my...	rosie light shines	11	409	Jun 6, 2006 by justme
	Please just leave! (Preview) So what if I just want her to go away? And thus begins my rambling for the day. Should I ignore the drinking? Yep. Do I? Nope. Why? Here's the issue I have with letting her "get away" with the drinking. Like many stories I've seen here, she denies drinking eve...	mf310	11	688	Jun 6, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	Cheating Myself (Preview) Hello Everyone I haven't posted in a while, I guess I've been withdrawn in my own little world. Basically I've been plodding along from day to day but not really feeling much peace. I threw my back out and its been pretty bad for the last week. Being in pain really drains me and depr...	twinmom2	4	334	Jun 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Packing, waiting, feel so left out (Preview) Well, at least there is a plan to relocate. I thought it might be in a few weeks. I called to get sq.footage of apt and found out only mailing app today and may be 2-3 wks to process and maybe some weeks after to move in. The isolation gets soooo hard to deal with. I used to be able to have a bus just down the stree...	d53sjurne	6	381	Jun 6, 2006 by nmike
	Dateing in my 40's (Preview) Hi my friends old and new. I am dating. I am on 3 different dating websites and my email box is full. I have even progressed to meeting 2 people in real life. One not suitable and the other makes my heart beat fast and my pulse quicken. The one I like is eerily similar to my husband. Profess...	megan	10	479	Jun 6, 2006 by nmike
	ESH please (Preview) I have been praying to HP all day ... since yesterday. Let go, let God. Detach. Believe it will be OK, HP, please help me do the next right thing... these are all my mantras today. My most difficult challenge with this program is not just feeling like someone is ...	emma	1	246	Jun 6, 2006 by rtexas
	Life is stranger than fiction (Preview) ((((Hello Everyone)))) Been out of town for our aniversery and it started off miserably. All last week, my AW said she didn't want to go, didn't like the place I picked, wanted me to take the kids and she would stay home.... on and on. The disease at it's best. Well, we settled on the kid...	rtexas	6	457	Jun 6, 2006 by QOD
	Age differs, but many feelings the same (Preview) Hi, I am 50. My qualifier is my spouse. Welcome any time to this board. My experience with alanon, mixed ages, same feelings even though different situations, environments. One alanon shoe size does not fit all, so that is why you have a choice. ...	wallsal55	0	256	Jun 6, 2006 by wallsal55
	Alcoholic (Preview) Hi Everyone. I'm new to this site. Like everyone else I need a little help. My partner of 8 years Paul is an Alcoholic. He has been on a detox programme. He detoxed at home for 2 weeks with the help of tablets and the doctors. The last few days I think he has been having Vodka. He has been acting drunk. Whe...	brownie	7	391	Jun 6, 2006 by nycbt
	Leading by example? (Preview) I'm new here, please bare with me When my stepson got out of rehab (drugs and alcohol) we were told that we needed to go home and clean out the closets so-to-speak. My husband and I didn't have anything to throw-away as we are not drinkers/druggers so there was no problem there. We did however, lock up S...	zoolander101	3	298	Jun 6, 2006 by nycbt
	thanks to all the ANGELS who comforted me (Preview) i just wanted to thank U guys for taking time to "hug" me in my world of hurt here i am working the steps on having to accept that all i may get out of this program is to love/treat me and others better... there may NOT be any lights at the end of the tunnel...there may NOT be any be...	rosie light shines	1	265	Jun 6, 2006 by Christy
	Reflections (Preview) I never fgure out whether a happy incident is a lovely ending or a beautiful beginning. Feeling are not right or wrong they just are. It's easier to ask "How Important Is it?" than carry resentment. Serenity is choosing to live with things as they happen,not choosing them to happen as you wish...	angel123	0	202	Jun 6, 2006 by angel123
	verbal & psychological abuse (Preview) It has been hard to deal with, it comes in waves. Being bombarded lately, even though I have come out of the dumps a bit, it still does such a number in your head, on your self-esteem/psyche... it is SO hard to remember hurt people... hurt people & not to take it personally but I have so mu...	kitty	7	511	Jun 6, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Is lying part of the disease? (Preview) Thanks, everyone, for listening (reading) and responding. I appreciate all comments. I am a fairly new Al-Anon member. I attend meetings locally. This is my first online posting. I am living apart from my A boyfriend. We lived together for several years, b...	jacksmom	10	425	Jun 6, 2006 by jacksmom
	sponsorship (Preview) Quick question for those that have sponsored. . . My one year anniversary in the program is in November. I have worked the steps, go to 5 meetings a week and currently sponsor 3 newcomers. My sponsor says that I am living and breathing the program, tha...	tommyecat	3	371	Jun 6, 2006 by Rita G
	What do you think (Preview) My brother in law called asking for help in making a decision - wanted to put the situation out there to see if you think my reasoning is healthy??? Brother in law's daughter from 1st marriage is going on senior trip to cancun, he and his second wife were going as chaperones. His wife had e...	Rita G	4	342	Jun 6, 2006 by Rita G
	They are coming to take me away............ (Preview) Sheesh, some of you may remember that song from the late 60's. "They are coming to take me away ha ha........." I feel like that lately. I have my HP working overtime restoring me to sanity. My A is driving me nuts. I don't think she has drank in the last few days. But I suppose she thi...	hmrnrnmm	1	409	Jun 6, 2006 by isabela40
	Is it time? (Preview) How do I know when I have had enough. When will I be full and not take anymore. The cycles make me feel insane. I am tired of the I'm sorrys, I wasn't doing anything wrong and the famous....your the one I want to be with. I'm so tired, with my mom dying I can't deal with the crap that...	marmare	4	333	Jun 6, 2006 by tea2
	Pain (Preview) I heard something from my home group last week that I thought I should share with those working on recovery. The following statement is so profound, it is: "Pain is the only knife sharp enough to cut through denial" It reminded me of how long I fought and struggled against the d...	tommyecat	1	275	Jun 5, 2006 by doxie
	Prayers please, please, please. (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just got back from the ICU and seeing hubby. His pancreas has been damaged. The past 2 weeks that he has been staying with his friend from rehab (the one he saved a couple of months ago from a heroine overdose) he hasn't been able to ke...	Karilynn	16	555	Jun 5, 2006 by bubbles1990
	A crack in my serenity (Preview) As some of you know.... Last month my son's first car was hit by a truck and totaled (son was fine). He had it 6 weeks. We lost $700.00 on the deal and took it with a grain of salt. Insuranse would only give us X amount. So we found him another car for a good price. A red 1993 Mitsubishi Eclipse. Old, but h...	Christy	10	608	Jun 5, 2006 by tea2
	Missed Everyone while I Slipped (Preview) For personal complications I have avoided the site all together for a time... and it didn't take long for my mind to slip completely & fall into the preying brain suck of depression. I need the outlet, support & grounding, for as much as I know, truly each moment I'm a beginner and all o...	kitty	14	621	Jun 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	consequences (Preview) I understand that an A must be allowed to suffer the consequences of his actions if he is ever going to seek help or admit a problem soooo isn't one of these consequences my hurt and anger and the wedge it places in our relationship. If I pretend that everythig is fine and ignore last n...	Elizabeth M	3	349	Jun 5, 2006 by canadianguy
	Drug Abuser Dad gives pills to son (Preview) Somebody please tell me I am not crazy. Giving pills like Vicodine, Valiums, Oxyconton (sp?) to your son, age 25, is just sick. My husband has a back injury and abuses his medication to the point that he's throwing up while driving or sometimes in the middle of a meal and can only make it to the kitchen sin...	patience	8	399	Jun 5, 2006 by nycbt
	Removing A from my life (Preview) I've just removed my A sister from my life. Can't take being jerked around anymore. Haven't seen who I always knew as my sister for years. She has managed to keep my family in turmoil for so long. It's as if I've buried someone. But then, it's as if she died so long ago.&n...	dusk2dawn	4	357	Jun 5, 2006 by nycbt
	engaged to an active alcoholic- HELP (Preview) Hello to my brothers and sisters on the path of recovery. I have been with my man for almost two years now. At first I was in some denial about his alcoholism as he is a very functional drunk and I figured hey lot's of ladies stay with alcohoic men and go to alan-on to get relief. Believe it or not, I once actua...	patrice	2	332	Jun 5, 2006 by nycbt
	typical day at Eden (Preview) Well after going clear out to the toolyboons with my Brownijoy , my chocolatelab/rottie pup, to pick up two NIgerian goats.. don't ask, the day was getting fuller. They had too many goats. Were wonderfully taken care of, but the gal did not smile once. Seemed like life was a chore f...	debilyn	8	394	Jun 5, 2006 by Barbara
	God give me Strength, Please (Preview) I've just hung up the phone w/ my A. He is high again. He's used more per diem money to pay for his drugs. This time, there is no paycheck to cover it. He is supposed to have the money tomorrow for the crew going out of town. I told him that when he wanted to get well to let me know.&...	Akasha	10	343	Jun 5, 2006 by leo
	Slipping big time and you know what? (Preview) Right now I don't care!!! I had my last drink while out with friends when my husband was in rehab. It'll be three years in November. What did I do as soon as hubby left for the Alano club tonight? I went across the street to the party store and bought myself a pint of watermelon sc...	rio	6	503	Jun 5, 2006 by lin0606
	What goes around comes around (Preview) Dear Friends How is everyone today? I hope well, today is Saturday June 3, 2006 and usually I would be spending the day with my A-boyfriend or a least talking on the phone with him to plan a day adventure with him. But today I won’t be, in fact never. As most of you know he bro...	angelnomore	2	444	Jun 4, 2006 by nmike
	Lost, need ESH and prayers (Preview) Going on 10 months Been here since Hurricanes Katrina and Rita. That was bad enough to loose everything and have to find anew. Being back in touch with A-dau and A-m...	d53sjurne	3	287	Jun 4, 2006 by peewee
	My A is going to rehab on Monday (Preview) Well, my A has decided to go to rehab on Monday. We went and got everything set up on Friday and they got him a bed asap. He'll be gone for at least 28 days. He has cut off contact with his drinking buddies and is having his dad and another AA friend take him to the rehab. BUT, this weekend has been Hell so far....	MdmDragonfly	5	382	Jun 4, 2006 by abbyal
	HE'S GONE AND I AM SO LOST (Preview) THIS IS MY FIRST POST. I HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO ATTEND MY ONLINE MEETINGS BECAUSE I AM OUT OF TOWN AND BECAUSE OF THIS NIGHTMARE I HAVE BEEN LIVING SINCE APRIL 11. I FINALLY GOT THE COURAGE TO LEAVE MY A OF 27 YEARS. I MET A MAN IN OREGON ABOUT A YEAR AGO. FLEW OUT TO BE WITH HIM MANY TIMES. WE FELL IN LOVE AT FIRST SI...	dwa1163	18	486	Jun 4, 2006 by dwa1163
	Hmm...must be doing okay (Preview) (((((((((Family)))))))))), Just thinking out loud here. Ever since I asked hubby to leave, I have been awfully calm about all of this. I'm wondering if I'm almost too calm. Now granted I don't have the chaos to come home too because he was drinking. I am slowly put...	Karilynn	5	452	Jun 4, 2006 by dwa1163
	Decided this week its time to start doing for my son and myself (Preview) Adopted 2 bunnies yesterday Painters coming this morn to give estimate on painting our main floor - dining/living, kitchen, 2 bedrooms & 2 baths. Its me with the $ in savings and its time to start spending it! I dont need A husband's approval to open my savings account! Also have a grassman com...	Barbara	6	371	Jun 4, 2006 by abbyal
	Little Prayer Please (Preview) Just a little prayer, that I continue to work my program and have the strength not to talk to the disease. I worked very late last night out observing a job at the job site, I have now been accused of being selfish and cheating on my A. I am asking my HP to guide me with my words and actions. Hugs M...	marmare	5	294	Jun 4, 2006 by Maria123
	LittleWings Poems From The Heart (Preview) Before I Turned Into A ButterFly [img]I was released into a world that was unfamilure. Falling from a tree that stood high in the sky. Laying there lifeless and confused I finally had the will to crawl and find my way Where I was going was unknown But, I started out for my journey ...	LittleWing	2	752	Jun 4, 2006 by LittleWing
	I'm not going to apologize anymore for my feelings (Preview) Hello Group, This morning a light bulb went off for me. My A called to say hi and I love you... I expressed to him that I missed him and wanted to see how things were going for him. He said fine. O.K. maybe I should have left it at that, but I needed to say how I have be...	twinmom2	5	413	Jun 4, 2006 by maresie2
	because (Preview) Having a hard time understanding this program....I have to change...I have to become this perfect compasionate calm caring person who sees the glass half full and sees the A as a person who can't help himself(poor him)..Really struggling with how I am suppose to respond(not react) st...	Elizabeth M	3	318	Jun 4, 2006 by maresie2
	It is what it is, but what is it? (Preview) I decided not to write then changed my mind. A called me collect from jail. Told him what was happening with his family. Then he got on how he did not know what he would do when he got out. I replied, "it is totally up to you." He comes back with, "My options are very limited." I told him we have been togeth...	debilyn	3	381	Jun 4, 2006 by maresie2
	When did you start "getting it"? (Preview) Just thinking about a couple of "aha" moments in my recovery, kind of 'lines in the sand' that are memories, and perhaps stepping stones for me finally "getting it" and moving towards a healthier life for me.... 1. Blame - I was at a family conference at my ex-wife's treatment center, and was talking...	canadianguy	9	1020	Jun 4, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	PLEASE read IMPORTANT Pen Pal Club People (Preview) OK I have had several respond interested in the "Pen Pal Club"...could everyone do me a HUGE favor and PLEASE send me an email with your info: real full name "snail mail" address birthday (optional) AlAnon anniversary date (optional) any other info please email THIS info to: &nb...	jennneeefffurrr	0	303	Jun 4, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	New and a bit scared (Preview) Well, it took me 43 years to get here and honestly I don't quite know where "here" is or if it's where I need to be. There is so much to say...I feel like I am opening a can of worms, but, I don't know that I can continue this balancing act much longer. I have been depressed since high school, on anti...	Little Lisa	15	432	Jun 4, 2006 by peewee
	Throwing in the towel (Preview) My husband has been an alcoholic for the entire time that we've been together. He was drunk the night we met and he was drinking on our first date. We were both very young then...he was 22 and I had just turned 19. I chalked it up to the typical young adult craziness that most of u...	rio	8	437	Jun 3, 2006 by krise
	PEN PAL CLUB (Preview) We have 5 people interested in the "PEN PAL CLUB" If anyone is interested, PM me your address & if you want it shared with others, your B-day and etc info. I will have everything organized to start it up by mid or end of next week. LOVE and BEST WISHES!!! Jen	jennneeefffurrr	1	362	Jun 3, 2006 by patience
	I am so freakishly confused!! (Preview) I went to my first f2f meeting last night…people were incredibly warm and welcoming but honestly I was left wondering if I ought to go to an AA. Not instead of Al-Alon, but in addition to. Because although I definitely have al-anon type problems, what is primary for me in the short term…what is acute f...	Dog	11	432	Jun 3, 2006 by patience
	not my business yet hurting me (Preview) Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm a little confused this morning. My AH told his family he filed for divorce. It made me angry that he lied once again and asked why he would do that ... they were bad mouthing me ... saying I had put too much guilt on him over the years, that he deserved to be happy. I l...	Jennifer	6	716	Jun 3, 2006 by peewee
	Missing you (Preview) Hello (((((((friends)))))) I am still unable to get into the chat room. I have registered four times with starchat and have never heard back from them. I will continue to try to work this out, so I can join you all again. In the meantime, just know that I am missing you guys and the meeting...	Lexie	7	368	Jun 3, 2006 by Karilynn
	Hard Night dealing with detachment (Preview) I dont know WHAT the deal was last night, but I all of a sudden went into panic mode about my A, who I have not spoken to in 11 days now. I am doing so well with my recovery, getting stronger, feeling more confident, calm and accepting. I have even been talking to God in prayer and instead of be...	jennneeefffurrr	2	400	Jun 3, 2006 by Karilynn
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