The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I'm new to this. How do we let go of someone we love even though they are so very different than the person we hold in our hearts? How do we stop thinking of them?
Hello Patience , to me letting go dosent mean we don't care or love them , we just finally understand that nothing we do is going to change them. Love does not cure this disease - we learn to love them as they are and accept who they are but don't let thier problem run our lives too , we detach with love look after our own needs and allow them the dignity to live the way they choose. Give them to God and see what happens he will take them where they need to go. Louise
I dont think there is an answer. I did not see the A in my life for a DECADE and thought of him EVERY day until we re-united in December of this year....and this has been a nightmare....but you know, we hold on to the 30% good times vs. the 70% bad times like THAT makes it worth it....I am addicted to my A. Obesessed with my A and I am not healthy and the "realtionship" is not healthy.
My Christian faith and total belief that God has a perfect plan for my life and that I can surrender myself to him and accept His will is a great comfort. Pretty difficult to do sometimes, and after all He gave us FREE WILL, which for me means, sending desperate letters, calling him and leaving voice mails, sending text messages and being his own personal doormat.
I dont know sweetie...but keep reading a posting and maybe we will figure it out together.
