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My son in the military (3rd tour of duty in combat) called saying he is coming home on leave. I can't even say "our" son anymore because my AH doesn't live here anymore. Then my son called late at night from Kuwait telling me his travel plans and his plans for his 2 week leave. I have to work at not being resentful at my AH for not being here to share the calls and listen to my concerns. I tried to call my AH the next morn to inform him of my son's travel plans but he turns his phone off (I don't want to be bothered). Well, I am so excited to see my son. I can't imagine what he is going through on a daily basis. He said don't do anything big for me and put me on a pedestal. I just want to see my cousins.
Well, I yelled at my co-worker yesterday and he yelled at me. I thought about the things that he does and decided that in good conscience that I had to speak up. I knew what his reaction would be. I told him that I didn't appreciate how he spoke to me. My boundaries are alot better because I didn't take everything he said to heart.
I am learning that one thing in my life impacts another. If I am anxious about my son then I probably take that to work. If I am disappointed about my life with my AH it will probably come out somewhere else. I am learning moderation with the help from Alanon. I will be busy this next 2 weeks travelling to pick up my son and see family. I hope to keep my Alanon tool box close at hand.
How wonderful for you to have you son come home.....This is truely a wonderful thing...Enjoy every minute.
I understand your feeling about his dad, my hub has not been there for my son in a long time.....this is something that is out of our control...we can only do the best we can for our kids.
Keep that tool box hand, enjoy your son's home coming.......and just enjoy your time together.
I find I keep my Alanon toolbox with me, especially at work. The only problem is I forget to pull out my tools when I need them the most! I have to be more vigilant about that.
Enjoy the time with your son. Thank him from the bottom of my heart for me, for his service to his country. What a remarkable man you have raised. May he come home safely for good, very soon.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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That is so exciting for you Nancy. Just think of the special times you and your son can have together without the tension of the alcoholic in your home. I bet he can't wait to have a home cooked meal from his Mum. Luv Leo xxx
I have to be more vigilant about that.