Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kellyjelly · kellyjelly

ok people i get it, i'm sick, but what now ??? see i know i'm sick i feel sick to the bottom of my stomach, and it hurts!!! it hurts so bad and i just want it to stop. so how do i do that ??? problem one i dont know whats wrong only that its very wrong and if you dont know what it is how do you fix it ?? problem two th...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) This is the question I asked myself today. I used to do better when my AW was not raging at me. Period. She starts raging and I flip out. Then everything gets me... work, the kids and their little tragedys, the guy driving like an idiot in front of me...&nb...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH says he doesn't need AA and that he "does nothing wrong". I begged and cried for him to change things. I told him he could drink all he wants as long as he's not mean. He says I am the one who is mean. He says all I want to do is change him. I said I don't like to be cut down when he's drunk and I damn sure don't li...

debilyn · debilyn

I loved all your posts to me. Made me feel better. So please now all of you, get your tents and stuff and kids and dogs and whatever and come camp at Eden and have a pignic with me. love,debilyn

debilyn · debilyn

Hello. guess it is my turn to share. It is rough right now. Comes a point that a vacation is not a want but a need. I love it here, I love my life. Just need to have a day or two or three to wake up to go back to sleep again. Not feed someone as soon as my feet hit the floor. Doing my best to get my budget goi...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hi John, I have a question for you as a matter of fact 2 or 3 . Today when I was putting posts on the board, some how my name had a number added to it and couldn't get in. Somehow my password was changed too. Not sure how to get in touch with you. Could you please check into it for me. Also I was in chat...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I noticed something about myself last nite in a meeting with the other caretakers of the elderly man I sit with. I tend to feel like when someone brings up something that is not being done by one of the other caretakers, I immediately think that they are talking about me. It looked like she was look...

Miranda · Miranda

All the stupid cards out there used to drive me absolutely insane. Now that I don't have to get them/ can't get them anymore, I almost miss it. I've done a lot of I dunno what to call it, discovering lately. Everything's been insane, and things have gotten really hard to deal with. Ecspecially being new o...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Dear A- ex I’m sorry I called you, I tried and tried to be strong and my weakness prevailed. I hate myself for calling you, I hate so much now. Why couldn’t I have been stronger and said “you know what AA-X , what make you think I give a Sh*# about you” but no INSTEAD, I helpe...

LALA1 · LALA1

I am still new to al-anon and this time around I am really trying to work on me. I came to a few meetings at the end of last year but I did not stick to it. I think I came more for my A than for me. Now I am really ready to work on myself for me and me only. I am going to f2f meetings but there...

Keoki · Keoki

I made her choose, I did not make her choice! How can she continue to blame me for the terrible choices she made and the impact that they are still having on our entire family? Why can't she see the connection between her drinking and our failing marriage, her blackout...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am getting ready to leave. I have been up since almost 8 am. I have feed all but 8 dogs, we have 29. My A is still in bed. I know she is awake. I still have to unload the truck from our sale saturday. She has not drank since Saturday. I am wondering why we buy groceries at all. My A has told a freind of o...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Yesterday being father's day I conteplated calling my father. I went back and forth with it a few times. Asking myself when I was going to stop chasing the relationship I will never have with him. Does he after all the years of ignoring 2 of his 3 children deserve a phone call w...

marchgrl · marchgrl

Hello To All, I am not a new member. In fact, I used to frequent this message board a few years back and I am so glad I have come back. I forgot what it feels like to read these messages and just keep an awareness of myself through your post's. To help if I can and to laugh is what...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i am not letting ANYONE "time" my recovery it took a LONG time for me to get **this** sick....**this** messed up.....it took a long time and LOTS of trauma and RE-trauma for the *candle of hope* to damned near blow out for me..... so it isn't gonna be overnight that i recover.... i have...

jacksmom · jacksmom

I have not heard from him in over 24 hours. He was supposed to call last night. How do you get through a day without crying and feeling helpless and depressed? For all I know he's dead. When he does call and tells me he's fine, how do I not get mad at him for not calling? I wan...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

ok I get the no gossip , no criticism, no sarcasm but what if everyone you come in contact with doesn't. I can already forcast what they are going to say. I have several in my life who are into gossip, criticism etc. I see this as negative. No I can not just avoid these people. I find myself with less an...

kellyjelly · kellyjelly

hi everyone, firstly thanks for all the replies to my first posting. today has been an interesting day. AH went to his 3rd counselling session and came back reall happy. it seems it went well and he feels its going to do him good. i personally was pleased because although he is doing lots of meetin...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Mary, Just wanted to see how you were doing! Haven't heard from you in a while. Starting to get worried here. Much Love and prayers,

majakaty · majakaty

The link in the announcement box on the alanon family groups page for the new step study board does not seem to work. TY.

-- Edited by majakaty at 23:02, 2006-06-15

Keoki · Keoki

Being new to the concept that there is help available to those who by other than their choice are dealing with an A with substance issues. I now look for help. I've spent the last 18 years of my life loving a beautiful woman whom has given me three beautiful children. Spent the last...

sarahlm · sarahlm

I posted earlier last night. I am still so upset. I wish I felt better. I have to work tonight or I would go to a meeting. I talked to my roommate about the letter and showed it to her. She thinks he may be justified in his response. That makes me feel even crazier. It was just an article!! Am I that scr...

evey · evey

Hello out there I'm new here!! I'm Evey and my A is my husband. Without a five page laundry list of crap he's done. Let me start with the last. He drank himself to a drunk of .5 and went into respiritory arrest. He was found along side the road, brought by ambulance to the hospital, and put on a ven...

Marlene · Marlene

I know that I should not even be posting on this board because I do not want to have a negative effect on anyone. I know alot of people believe their story is hopeless, but mine is REALLY hopeless. Let me explain. I am a senior citizen. I have survived three generations of alcoh...

kellyjelly · kellyjelly

hi my name is kelly, or kellyjelly as you can see. this was chosen by me due to the extra weight i'm currently carrying as a direct result of comfort eating. my husband is nearly eight months in recovery and i am a aa widow. he is doing four meetings a week and has his bloody mobile cemented to his leg in case s...

Vicky R · Vicky R

hi guys , just discovered this part of the board ! been posting elsewhere on MIP . Great to see you all here . I'm a long term Alanon member but consider myself still in the learning process , and don't really have just one A there are several situations that I've been using the programme...

Diva · Diva

I came across this wonderful, anonymous quote, and thought I'd share it. Perhaps you have heard it; I had not. "My friend knows the song in my heart, and sings it to me when my memory fails." Diva

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Thanks to all who wished us Men folks a happy fathers day. I did have a good fathers day. I related the mess that was starting up on thursday night, but friday went better and we all had fun fishing and playing on the owners wave runner. I WANT one of those! That t...

Akasha · Akasha

I have learned not to hold my breath - so that said... I've mentioned that my A 'husband' has attended tons of meetings over the last few days. His job didn't fire him - just mandated that he pass a urine test. He Passed!!!!

He sounds good, sounds excited and keeps mentioning hi...

Lindy · Lindy

It was another rough weekend for me and my seven year old son. Here's what happened: it started on Friday night. While I took my little boy to the carnival that was in town, my AH was out at a campsite visiting his friends. He wasn't back when my son and I got home on Friday. He finally drove his drunk ass home...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

This one has been a difficult one for me. What do you tell people that you haven't seen in a long time when they ask about your addict. Lots of them have no idea we are facing this rollercoaster in our lives. My first instinct is to tell them the truth but I usually lie and tell them he is d...

Dog · Dog

I am no longer weaning off my A. Going cold turkey instead. I am so addicted, I am signing contracts with my friends, promising not to contact him at 24 hour intervals. The idea is I respect these people and want them to respect me so I will keep my promise!! I state I will not contact him…and why. This i...

mac57 · mac57

One day at dawn One day at dawn we walked along My sleepy girl and I, As the sun rose through the trees, As the leaves moved in the breeze. A treasure field gleamed drops of dew, The yawning sky went baby blue, A rabbit stayed to see us by As a dove on a line lay just so high....

Christy · Christy

BUZZARD If you put a buzzard in a pen that is 6 feet by 8 feet and is entirely open at the top, the bird, in spite of its ability to fly, will be an absolute prisoner. The reason is that a buzzard always begins a flight from the ground with a run of 10 to 12 feet. Without space to run, as is its habit, it...

Barbara · Barbara

I dont party nearly as much as my husband. We met during our party days. I stopped partying when we had our son 14 yrs ago. When I do have a few drinks it seems we get along alot better. Do I go back to drinking? or choose to go on w/resentment towards my husband? Sometimes I feel its best to go back to the old day...

mac57 · mac57

Since I will be out of town and perhaps out of touch for a week beginning on Father’s day, I wanted to leave a gift about the past year and a half since my father passed on. At the end of his life here, my father said to me, “You tell that family of mine, it is time to become more serious about G...

maresie2 · maresie2

I finally blew up at the A last night. I do not do that on a daily basis anymore. I had asked him at least 101 times to get the lawmower from the landlord. He always belittles my needs, my issues, my requests come last. But his requests, oh his requests have to come first. For a month I have been askin...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I love this kitty..........

Cyn · Cyn

I was doing SOOOO well in my life - then one big argument - one in 6 months - and I go completely out of my mind. Now I have started to wonder whether I made the right decision to leave my A - whether or not I still want him - and WHY??? I havent thought about him, wanted to talk to him, see him, etc since De...

nycbt · nycbt

I went on my first date with my husband yesterday. We decided to have a date, we still sleeping in the same bed and everything. However when we went on our date we shook hands as if we never met each other because. We were flirting the whole time saying oh does you wife know you are out and how long have u been m...

Jennifer · Jennifer

To all the wonderful MIP Dads out there! If I wasn't taking mine out to brunch and running late I'd say more but gottttta go LOL Jennifer

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((((((((Alanon Dads))))))))))))))))))))),

To all of you who are fathers, grandfathers, great grandfathers, people acting as fathers, fathers-in-law, etc, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! May it be extra special for you all. My father...

sparkette · sparkette

When I think of all the wonderful daddies I know in this room I am reminded of one of my favorite things… trees. I wrote this poem today for my daddy, wanted to share it with you all on the eve of Father’s Day. From a daddy's girl, I just want to say thank you to all you beautiful father's out there who don't eve...

mollyann · mollyann

I just bought the book "Struggle for Intimacy." It's a great book for me right now as I am really working on having healthy relationships with guys I date. I started thinking about all of my relationships in general. I have a fantastic group of girlfriends. Couldn't ask for bett...

Tammy · Tammy

Tomorrow I leave heading back to Florida from OHIO, this has been as much of a rollercoaster and the rollercoasters i have been riding at Cedar Point .. ( that is a amusement park that i have been going to ) .. I did it,... a lot of firsts during the last 9 days .. I drove self and my children from Flor...

jj · jj

Lastnight I made a real nice dinner for AH as we are to be away for the BIG Day! I phoned him to let him know i was prepairing something for him... mistake i don't know or care for that matter. Any way of course he did not come home and yes i admit i was angery for the fact that i did make the effort as...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

what a wonderful 6 days it had been. I suppose she was sober. she was pleasant & not annoying like she is tonite. I had to work Wed from 8pm to 8am. the man I sit with was up & down almost every hour on the hour. We had to go to town & do some errands. She picked me up a little after 8 am this morning. We...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))))))), Just wanted to share this with you. Hubby and I have been going AA meetings this week. I can tell you it is one of the most amazing things I have ever experienced. We found some afternoon and night meetings that are not far. N...

buzzfree · buzzfree

Feeling very powerless at the moment. This week has been pretty intense....as usual, I am not getting much sleep. I feel like I am being #$@! on right now, that someone somewhere is having a good laugh at my misery and my stress. So much is just going sideways, like nothing is ment to go right this week. I f...

kerry5 · kerry5

This is what i find truly very difficult in the Alanon Program and its growth. I have left Alanon on more than one occasion because of this reason. My instinct is to do the same now, run and run fast and far and dont look back. For the first time in my life my anger has been lifted a...

angel123 · angel123

Worrying is like the motor when the car is standing still:the motor gets hot,the parts wear out,fuel is wasted and you're going nowhere. Life is hard by the yard;it's a cinch by the inch. We teach others how to treat us;we teach by permitting. Forum 1988

serendipity · serendipity

i was in my f2f tonight and the topic of rejection was brought up and how alanon helps me cope. i was thinking of what happened yesterday with the lady and the stop sign incident and how ashamed i felt. i felt like the worst person on earth because this woman was yelling at me. her point was correct but it str...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

What is said it chat room ,who you see it chat room, stays in chat room. This is per our policy and has been discussed at business meetings. Josey

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Well yesterday was 6 months for me attending alanon....and wow my life has sure gone thru some ups and downs in these past 6 months.....I have learned much here...also know there is much to learn..... Hub is home from rehab....I see he is trying...attending meetings everyda...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Hi Friends I absolutely HATE the smell of alcohol from his body as he sleeps in bed next to me. There I said it.

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Last night all h*ll broke loose. We are going to a lake house for the weekend. Since my AW and ASon and his fiance don't work on fridays they decided they wanted to leave yesterday. Well... I have to work today and the fiance got off at 9:00 last night. So th...

Gailey · Gailey

I know that I do not have it nearly as bad as most people on this board. I really don't live daily (phyically...that is) with my A son. He is still living with me but is gone most of the time. However, I am still struggling with the obsessive thoughts and worries when I don't hear from him. When I call his cell...

lilms · lilms

Just a really quick note to say a huge THANK YOU to all. You have offered support, encouragement, a little nudge, nope not a nudge, a little push, nope not a push.....dang what's the word.....oh yeah, a kick in the tush to steer me along the way. THANK YOU all for sharing your ESH!!!! If I c...

serendipity · serendipity

i had to price most of my father's things for a garage sale a friend and i are having. it was hard to go thru his stuff and feel the memories. then i had a friend from the program help me move some things from my old house which i haven't been to in 6 weeks--just avoiding. the place is a wreck and it hurts s...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

What does that mean? I'm new here and I have tried just about every combination of words for those letters and I still haven't figured it out. Please enlighten me. TKS

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	ok so i'm sick, now what ????? (Preview) ok people i get it, i'm sick, but what now ??? see i know i'm sick i feel sick to the bottom of my stomach, and it hurts!!! it hurts so bad and i just want it to stop. so how do i do that ??? problem one i dont know whats wrong only that its very wrong and if you dont know what it is how do you fix it ?? problem two th...	kellyjelly	13	876	Jun 21, 2006 by nycbt
	How do you know if you are doing better? (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) This is the question I asked myself today. I used to do better when my AW was not raging at me. Period. She starts raging and I flip out. Then everything gets me... work, the kids and their little tragedys, the guy driving like an idiot in front of me...&nb...	rtexas	5	482	Jun 21, 2006 by Rita G
	AH refuses AA; how do I detach? (Preview) My AH says he doesn't need AA and that he "does nothing wrong". I begged and cried for him to change things. I told him he could drink all he wants as long as he's not mean. He says I am the one who is mean. He says all I want to do is change him. I said I don't like to be cut down when he's drunk and I damn sure don't li...	Lindy	10	561	Jun 21, 2006 by Jeannie
	thoink you and smoinks (Preview) I loved all your posts to me. Made me feel better. So please now all of you, get your tents and stuff and kids and dogs and whatever and come camp at Eden and have a pignic with me. love,debilyn	debilyn	2	386	Jun 21, 2006 by Karilynn
	Still stuff left (Preview) Hello. guess it is my turn to share. It is rough right now. Comes a point that a vacation is not a want but a need. I love it here, I love my life. Just need to have a day or two or three to wake up to go back to sleep again. Not feed someone as soon as my feet hit the floor. Doing my best to get my budget goi...	debilyn	14	711	Jun 21, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	JOHN Please answer questions, thanks (Preview) Hi John, I have a question for you as a matter of fact 2 or 3 . Today when I was putting posts on the board, some how my name had a number added to it and couldn't get in. Somehow my password was changed too. Not sure how to get in touch with you. Could you please check into it for me. Also I was in chat...	d53sjurne	2	584	Jun 20, 2006 by John
	blaming myself & feeling guilty (Preview) I noticed something about myself last nite in a meeting with the other caretakers of the elderly man I sit with. I tend to feel like when someone brings up something that is not being done by one of the other caretakers, I immediately think that they are talking about me. It looked like she was look...	hmrnrnmm	3	619	Jun 20, 2006 by Rita G
	Update/Father's Day (Preview) All the stupid cards out there used to drive me absolutely insane. Now that I don't have to get them/ can't get them anymore, I almost miss it. I've done a lot of I dunno what to call it, discovering lately. Everything's been insane, and things have gotten really hard to deal with. Ecspecially being new o...	Miranda	1	328	Jun 20, 2006 by rtexas
	My weakness prevailed (Preview) Dear A- ex I’m sorry I called you, I tried and tried to be strong and my weakness prevailed. I hate myself for calling you, I hate so much now. Why couldn’t I have been stronger and said “you know what AA-X , what make you think I give a Sh*# about you” but no INSTEAD, I helpe...	angelnomore	4	448	Jun 20, 2006 by canadianguy
	New and confused (Preview) I am still new to al-anon and this time around I am really trying to work on me. I came to a few meetings at the end of last year but I did not stick to it. I think I came more for my A than for me. Now I am really ready to work on myself for me and me only. I am going to f2f meetings but there...	LALA1	4	448	Jun 20, 2006 by dori
	Bad movie, lets change the channel (Preview) I made her choose, I did not make her choice! How can she continue to blame me for the terrible choices she made and the impact that they are still having on our entire family? Why can't she see the connection between her drinking and our failing marriage, her blackout...	Keoki	4	481	Jun 20, 2006 by dori
	feeling resentment (Preview) I am getting ready to leave. I have been up since almost 8 am. I have feed all but 8 dogs, we have 29. My A is still in bed. I know she is awake. I still have to unload the truck from our sale saturday. She has not drank since Saturday. I am wondering why we buy groceries at all. My A has told a freind of o...	hmrnrnmm	4	367	Jun 20, 2006 by dori
	When is it time??? (Preview) Yesterday being father's day I conteplated calling my father. I went back and forth with it a few times. Asking myself when I was going to stop chasing the relationship I will never have with him. Does he after all the years of ignoring 2 of his 3 children deserve a phone call w...	AlaMom	6	512	Jun 20, 2006 by marchgrl
	Hello Again (Preview) Hello To All, I am not a new member. In fact, I used to frequent this message board a few years back and I am so glad I have come back. I forgot what it feels like to read these messages and just keep an awareness of myself through your post's. To help if I can and to laugh is what...	marchgrl	5	353	Jun 20, 2006 by marchgrl
	i am not letting ANYONE "time"my recovery (Preview) i am not letting ANYONE "time" my recovery it took a LONG time for me to get this sick....this messed up.....it took a long time and LOTS of trauma and RE-trauma for the candle of hope to damned near blow out for me..... so it isn't gonna be overnight that i recover.... i have...	rosie light shines	6	672	Jun 20, 2006 by Jennifer
	my A is missing (Preview) I have not heard from him in over 24 hours. He was supposed to call last night. How do you get through a day without crying and feeling helpless and depressed? For all I know he's dead. When he does call and tells me he's fine, how do I not get mad at him for not calling? I wan...	jacksmom	6	493	Jun 20, 2006 by Mimi
	dealing with difficult negative people? (Preview) ok I get the no gossip , no criticism, no sarcasm but what if everyone you come in contact with doesn't. I can already forcast what they are going to say. I have several in my life who are into gossip, criticism etc. I see this as negative. No I can not just avoid these people. I find myself with less an...	hmrnrnmm	5	808	Jun 19, 2006 by mebjk
	hope for the future (Preview) hi everyone, firstly thanks for all the replies to my first posting. today has been an interesting day. AH went to his 3rd counselling session and came back reall happy. it seems it went well and he feels its going to do him good. i personally was pleased because although he is doing lots of meetin...	kellyjelly	2	370	Jun 19, 2006 by Karilynn
	Marmare? (Preview) Mary, Just wanted to see how you were doing! Haven't heard from you in a while. Starting to get worried here. Much Love and prayers,	Dolphin123	0	277	Jun 19, 2006 by Dolphin123
	step study board (Preview) The link in the announcement box on the alanon family groups page for the new step study board does not seem to work. TY. -- Edited by majakaty at 23:02, 2006-06-15	majakaty	2	445	Jun 19, 2006 by nycbt
	Guess tonight just aint happening! (Preview) Being new to the concept that there is help available to those who by other than their choice are dealing with an A with substance issues. I now look for help. I've spent the last 18 years of my life loving a beautiful woman whom has given me three beautiful children. Spent the last...	Keoki	7	392	Jun 19, 2006 by nycbt
	well, he has done it again II-help! Am I crazy? (Preview) I posted earlier last night. I am still so upset. I wish I felt better. I have to work tonight or I would go to a meeting. I talked to my roommate about the letter and showed it to her. She thinks he may be justified in his response. That makes me feel even crazier. It was just an article!! Am I that scr...	sarahlm	4	435	Jun 19, 2006 by nycbt
	hello (Preview) Hello out there I'm new here!! I'm Evey and my A is my husband. Without a five page laundry list of crap he's done. Let me start with the last. He drank himself to a drunk of .5 and went into respiritory arrest. He was found along side the road, brought by ambulance to the hospital, and put on a ven...	evey	4	570	Jun 19, 2006 by nycbt
	TOO FAR GONE (Preview) I know that I should not even be posting on this board because I do not want to have a negative effect on anyone. I know alot of people believe their story is hopeless, but mine is REALLY hopeless. Let me explain. I am a senior citizen. I have survived three generations of alcoh...	Marlene	10	750	Jun 19, 2006 by nycbt
	aa widow needs words of wisdom (Preview) hi my name is kelly, or kellyjelly as you can see. this was chosen by me due to the extra weight i'm currently carrying as a direct result of comfort eating. my husband is nearly eight months in recovery and i am a aa widow. he is doing four meetings a week and has his bloody mobile cemented to his leg in case s...	kellyjelly	8	1179	Jun 19, 2006 by nycbt
	hi guys ! (Preview) hi guys , just discovered this part of the board ! been posting elsewhere on MIP . Great to see you all here . I'm a long term Alanon member but consider myself still in the learning process , and don't really have just one A there are several situations that I've been using the programme...	Vicky R	4	368	Jun 19, 2006 by nycbt
	A friend... (Preview) I came across this wonderful, anonymous quote, and thought I'd share it. Perhaps you have heard it; I had not. "My friend knows the song in my heart, and sings it to me when my memory fails." Diva	Diva	6	550	Jun 19, 2006 by Andrea12
	TY for the Dad's day wishes (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Thanks to all who wished us Men folks a happy fathers day. I did have a good fathers day. I related the mess that was starting up on thursday night, but friday went better and we all had fun fishing and playing on the owners wave runner. I WANT one of those! That t...	rtexas	5	312	Jun 19, 2006 by twinmom2
	Encouraging news for me... (Preview) I have learned not to hold my breath - so that said... I've mentioned that my A 'husband' has attended tons of meetings over the last few days. His job didn't fire him - just mandated that he pass a urine test. He Passed!!!! He sounds good, sounds excited and keeps mentioning hi...	Akasha	3	392	Jun 19, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I can't live like this anymore (Preview) It was another rough weekend for me and my seven year old son. Here's what happened: it started on Friday night. While I took my little boy to the carnival that was in town, my AH was out at a campsite visiting his friends. He wasn't back when my son and I got home on Friday. He finally drove his drunk ass home...	Lindy	7	533	Jun 19, 2006 by d53sjurne
	What do you tell them (Preview) This one has been a difficult one for me. What do you tell people that you haven't seen in a long time when they ask about your addict. Lots of them have no idea we are facing this rollercoaster in our lives. My first instinct is to tell them the truth but I usually lie and tell them he is d...	Mobirdie	6	565	Jun 19, 2006 by Karilynn
	New technique (Preview) I am no longer weaning off my A. Going cold turkey instead. I am so addicted, I am signing contracts with my friends, promising not to contact him at 24 hour intervals. The idea is I respect these people and want them to respect me so I will keep my promise!! I state I will not contact him…and why. This i...	Dog	1	432	Jun 19, 2006 by Vicky R
	A going away poem from mac (Preview) One day at dawn One day at dawn we walked along My sleepy girl and I, As the sun rose through the trees, As the leaves moved in the breeze. A treasure field gleamed drops of dew, The yawning sky went baby blue, A rabbit stayed to see us by As a dove on a line lay just so high....	mac57	13	1385	Jun 19, 2006 by bobump
	THE BUZZARD, BAT AND BUMBLEBEE (Preview) BUZZARD If you put a buzzard in a pen that is 6 feet by 8 feet and is entirely open at the top, the bird, in spite of its ability to fly, will be an absolute prisoner. The reason is that a buzzard always begins a flight from the ground with a run of 10 to 12 feet. Without space to run, as is its habit, it...	Christy	10	535	Jun 19, 2006 by bobump
	ok so you change, he doesnt - do you go back to old ways or go on? (Preview) I dont party nearly as much as my husband. We met during our party days. I stopped partying when we had our son 14 yrs ago. When I do have a few drinks it seems we get along alot better. Do I go back to drinking? or choose to go on w/resentment towards my husband? Sometimes I feel its best to go back to the old day...	Barbara	9	565	Jun 19, 2006 by twinmom2
	Father's Day (Preview) Since I will be out of town and perhaps out of touch for a week beginning on Father’s day, I wanted to leave a gift about the past year and a half since my father passed on. At the end of his life here, my father said to me, “You tell that family of mine, it is time to become more serious about G...	mac57	8	382	Jun 19, 2006 by cedarpines
	Blow up (Preview) I finally blew up at the A last night. I do not do that on a daily basis anymore. I had asked him at least 101 times to get the lawmower from the landlord. He always belittles my needs, my issues, my requests come last. But his requests, oh his requests have to come first. For a month I have been askin...	maresie2	4	457	Jun 18, 2006 by Andrea12
	Letting Go (Preview) I love this kitty..........	Mobirdie	3	410	Jun 18, 2006 by lilms
	Feeling out of sorts (Preview) I was doing SOOOO well in my life - then one big argument - one in 6 months - and I go completely out of my mind. Now I have started to wonder whether I made the right decision to leave my A - whether or not I still want him - and WHY??? I havent thought about him, wanted to talk to him, see him, etc since De...	Cyn	3	446	Jun 18, 2006 by maresie2
	a first date (Preview) I went on my first date with my husband yesterday. We decided to have a date, we still sleeping in the same bed and everything. However when we went on our date we shook hands as if we never met each other because. We were flirting the whole time saying oh does you wife know you are out and how long have u been m...	nycbt	6	344	Jun 18, 2006 by maresie2
	Happy Father's Day (Preview) To all the wonderful MIP Dads out there! If I wasn't taking mine out to brunch and running late I'd say more but gottttta go LOL Jennifer	Jennifer	2	406	Jun 18, 2006 by sparkette
	Alanon Dads (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((Alanon Dads))))))))))))))))))))), To all of you who are fathers, grandfathers, great grandfathers, people acting as fathers, fathers-in-law, etc, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! May it be extra special for you all. My father...	Karilynn	4	404	Jun 18, 2006 by Lexie
	Father's Day (Preview) When I think of all the wonderful daddies I know in this room I am reminded of one of my favorite things… trees. I wrote this poem today for my daddy, wanted to share it with you all on the eve of Father’s Day. From a daddy's girl, I just want to say thank you to all you beautiful father's out there who don't eve...	sparkette	4	452	Jun 18, 2006 by Karilynn
	healthy dating relationships (Preview) I just bought the book "Struggle for Intimacy." It's a great book for me right now as I am really working on having healthy relationships with guys I date. I started thinking about all of my relationships in general. I have a fantastic group of girlfriends. Couldn't ask for bett...	mollyann	2	585	Jun 18, 2006 by heartless39470
	Vacation without my A (Preview) Tomorrow I leave heading back to Florida from OHIO, this has been as much of a rollercoaster and the rollercoasters i have been riding at Cedar Point .. ( that is a amusement park that i have been going to ) .. I did it,... a lot of firsts during the last 9 days .. I drove self and my children from Flor...	Tammy	4	391	Jun 17, 2006 by sandie123
	Fathers Day/update (Preview) Lastnight I made a real nice dinner for AH as we are to be away for the BIG Day! I phoned him to let him know i was prepairing something for him... mistake i don't know or care for that matter. Any way of course he did not come home and yes i admit i was angery for the fact that i did make the effort as...	jj	2	294	Jun 17, 2006 by Jeannie
	This is not the life I ordered (Preview) what a wonderful 6 days it had been. I suppose she was sober. she was pleasant & not annoying like she is tonite. I had to work Wed from 8pm to 8am. the man I sit with was up & down almost every hour on the hour. We had to go to town & do some errands. She picked me up a little after 8 am this morning. We...	hmrnrnmm	10	980	Jun 17, 2006 by hightide
	AA meetings (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Family))))))))))))))))), Just wanted to share this with you. Hubby and I have been going AA meetings this week. I can tell you it is one of the most amazing things I have ever experienced. We found some afternoon and night meetings that are not far. N...	Karilynn	9	465	Jun 17, 2006 by Mobirdie
	Powerless (Preview) Feeling very powerless at the moment. This week has been pretty intense....as usual, I am not getting much sleep. I feel like I am being #$@! on right now, that someone somewhere is having a good laugh at my misery and my stress. So much is just going sideways, like nothing is ment to go right this week. I f...	buzzfree	18	500	Jun 17, 2006 by aunitedway
	Anger Lost! PLease Return (Preview) This is what i find truly very difficult in the Alanon Program and its growth. I have left Alanon on more than one occasion because of this reason. My instinct is to do the same now, run and run fast and far and dont look back. For the first time in my life my anger has been lifted a...	kerry5	7	463	Jun 17, 2006 by lilms
	Reflections (Preview) Worrying is like the motor when the car is standing still:the motor gets hot,the parts wear out,fuel is wasted and you're going nowhere. Life is hard by the yard;it's a cinch by the inch. We teach others how to treat us;we teach by permitting. Forum 1988	angel123	4	343	Jun 17, 2006 by Karilynn
	children (Preview) i was in my f2f tonight and the topic of rejection was brought up and how alanon helps me cope. i was thinking of what happened yesterday with the lady and the stop sign incident and how ashamed i felt. i felt like the worst person on earth because this woman was yelling at me. her point was correct but it str...	serendipity	1	368	Jun 17, 2006 by Maria123
	May I remind you (Preview) What is said it chat room ,who you see it chat room, stays in chat room. This is per our policy and has been discussed at business meetings. Josey	jrtjosey	6	485	Jun 17, 2006 by Karilynn
	Two roads to recovery (Preview) Hello Friends, Well yesterday was 6 months for me attending alanon....and wow my life has sure gone thru some ups and downs in these past 6 months.....I have learned much here...also know there is much to learn..... Hub is home from rehab....I see he is trying...attending meetings everyda...	Andrea12	6	470	Jun 17, 2006 by Tammy
	hate the smell (Preview) Hi Friends I absolutely HATE the smell of alcohol from his body as he sleeps in bed next to me. There I said it.	Elizabeth M	8	471	Jun 17, 2006 by Barbara
	How important is it... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Last night all h*ll broke loose. We are going to a lake house for the weekend. Since my AW and ASon and his fiance don't work on fridays they decided they wanted to leave yesterday. Well... I have to work today and the fiance got off at 9:00 last night. So th...	rtexas	7	483	Jun 16, 2006 by Dolphin123
	help for an Alanon mom (Preview) I know that I do not have it nearly as bad as most people on this board. I really don't live daily (phyically...that is) with my A son. He is still living with me but is gone most of the time. However, I am still struggling with the obsessive thoughts and worries when I don't hear from him. When I call his cell...	Gailey	5	367	Jun 16, 2006 by Dolphin123
	TYTYTYTYTYTY!!!! (Preview) Just a really quick note to say a huge THANK YOU to all. You have offered support, encouragement, a little nudge, nope not a nudge, a little push, nope not a push.....dang what's the word.....oh yeah, a kick in the tush to steer me along the way. THANK YOU all for sharing your ESH!!!! If I c...	lilms	3	471	Jun 16, 2006 by Karilynn
	what a day (Preview) i had to price most of my father's things for a garage sale a friend and i are having. it was hard to go thru his stuff and feel the memories. then i had a friend from the program help me move some things from my old house which i haven't been to in 6 weeks--just avoiding. the place is a wreck and it hurts s...	serendipity	4	464	Jun 16, 2006 by Dolphin123
	ESH? (Preview) What does that mean? I'm new here and I have tried just about every combination of words for those letters and I still haven't figured it out. Please enlighten me. TKS	Mobirdie	3	428	Jun 16, 2006 by mac57
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