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Since I started with Alanon my marriage to an a has gotten alot better. He bought me a flag ring no special reason. When I start we were having yelling matchs, i was staying at my parents house when he started to act up. I was taught how to put myself forward i am not perfect and i had a disagree yesterday however i was able to calm myself donw instead of making a scene like i would of down.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
I, too, have noticed that I don't react as quickly to stupid stuff, since I have started the al-anon program. I now at least pause to take a few breaths, and find myself not getting sucked into all the pointless yelling and arguing.
I, too, have learned alot with the 12 step programs. Now that I have been back around the Amom and Adau since Hurricane Katrina, I have used it plenty. Of course I have slipped plenty too. I rely on 'Progress not Perfect' alot to help avoid beating myself up. After being away from their drama for 12 yrs, sometimes it difficult, like I've gotten nowhere. Then I have to look at that as Hey, I got used to some Serenity and my feelings are more vulnerable from learning to be myself those yrs and not dealing with their constant drama. So now I kinda see it as being able to see my progress and practice what I've learned again with them. And I get to see some things I haven't addressed with them. So there is some advances and I'm ok with that for the most part.At least when I am focused. Beings I have PTSD and OCD sometimes I get stuck in it and can't detach, so I have to walk or run away to avoid it, as sometimes I can't stop repeating myself.
So glad you shared this. Thanks and Keep on Keepin' on
BLESSINGSCourageRecovery
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I tell myself when times are rough, "this to shall pass!!!" Ask HP for guidance, if the door is open, and I know how to look, I will become aware! I also visit http://www.inspiringthots.net/ . Blessings , Your sister in Recovery
Alanon has definitely been better for all of my relationships. It has taught me how to react to all sorts of situations. I don't know where I would be today if I didn't find this program.
Hubby is now 30+ sober () and of course that helps. I have found that going to some, not all of his AA meetings has taught me more about this disease. That helps me to react to certain things. This time around I can honestly say that it's getting better, and I'm getting better at reacting or not reacting to certain things.
It's really true what they say: It works if you work, so work it, because you are so worth it!
Live strong,
Karilynn
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