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evey


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Hello out there I'm new here!!


 


I'm Evey and my A is my husband. Without a five page laundry list of crap he's done. Let me start with the last. He drank himself to a drunk of .5 and went into respiritory arrest. He was found along side the road, brought by ambulance to the hospital, and put on a ventilator to save his life. Came home two days ago. Tonight, I dropped our son at a friends and went to the store to buy A a father's day gift.  Guess who's driving on the opposite side of the road? My A. I did a u turn just in time to see him going into the liqueor store. Confronted him, took the liqueor and went home. He came home sober, but mad. We have not spoken. He was told drinking again can kill him. This is not his first medical disaster b/c of alcohol. He is currently on a waiting list for rehab, says he wants sobrioty blah,blah,blah.


Plan B. Always have one. I have rewritten mine many times. Read mine before I got out of the car to confront him.(Did everything but stay calm), I know I should let go and let God, but tonight I couldn't. That's o.k. I can live with that.


Anyway, part of the plan B when/if he drank again was to find out where I stand legally with visitation right concerning my 9 yr old son. I do not leave him in Dad's care at any time in the last 4 months, not for five minutes. If I separate/divorce him will I be forced to give him unsupervised visitation? That is what makes my blood run cold with fear. Any advice /experience/regrets in this area would be appreciated. The other part of plan b would to be stop "spying" here, and drop a line!! 


So hello to you all!!


-evey



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lmt123


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Evey,


Welcome to MIP!  So glad you have found us...you will love it here, I am sure!


I am not sure what to say regarding your post, as I've not been in that particular situation.  You're right about letting go and letting God handle it.  I know that's hard to do, but at least you recognize it. 


Stay strong, and keep coming back!  Be sure to visit us all in the chat room too ~


Kathi



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tishrijo


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I cannot offer experience for your situation as my A's are my brother and a step father that was in my life for 10 years, so I have not been in your shoes....but know that you are not alone....I am sending strength and hope your way  along with a little sunshine and love!!!


Welcome to MIP....and keep coming back.


tishrijo



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Jennifer


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Hello Evey,


Welcome! Glad you are here. I'm not sure about the questions you asked concerning visitation rights. I did have the thought that with documentation like the most recent hospital record you may have a better chance of having your concerns heard, even keeping a written record of your own notes would probably help. Wishing you the best.


Jennifer



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nycbt


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Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand.


 


World Service Organization Website –


WWW.al-anon.alateen.org


Alanon meetings 1-888-425-2666


Al-Anon Family Groups UK & Eire
61 Great Dover Street
London
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Tel: 020 7403 0888


http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/


Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html 


Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.



  • Go face to face meeting & online meeting.
  • post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.

·        In this program u learn that u have choices. In Alanon we don’t give advice but only suggestions.


·        Set support system.  people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.



  • Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.

You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.


 

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