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moonstorm · moonstorm

Boyfriend of 6+ years on yet another bender for 10 days now. On the phone this afternoon he told me he can't try to be sober anymore; that he has to drink and will probably die with a beer in his hand. He said that beer makes him happier than I have made him in a long time. Wow. Huge state...

serendipity · serendipity

had a conversation with my ex this morning. he didn't call yesterday so i assumed he was "out there". he was. he was still sounding drunk when i was talking to him. now, i have assumed all this time he's been living with his mother that he's been using. i don't ask it's not my business. he shows up here with a...

FirstTimeAround · FirstTimeAround

Thanks for the advice and pointers everyone. I know that I'm not one who can change his addiction/disease...that is something only he can do for himself. (I have a brother who is a recovering alcoholic/drug addict, so I've somewhat been down this road before.) I do believe that w...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: Does anyone have any experience with getting behind on bills because of As? I'm sure someone does. This is the situation. AH is working part-time, odd jobs (he decided he didn't want to print anymore - his career for 25 years or more - and has taken odd jobs here and...

mimi · mimi

Hi, I am finally beginning to see that my husband is an alcoholic. His problem started very subtly and is still sometimes hard to detect. Without going into ten years of history, I'll try to give you a short run-down. We've been married 22 years; two children - ages 16 and 10....

greta · greta

''A little meditation on the word forgive can throw some rather surprising light on our understanding of the word. We are asked to forgive those who have injured us. Unless we have first judged and condemned them for what they did, there would be no reason for us to forgive them. Rather we would have to f...

memeself · memeself

Hi (((all))), Just wanted to write a quick note of gratitude, for a couple of things. 1) Thank you (((((Dolphin))))) for stepping up and taking over the meeting when I had an emergency and had to RUN out. 2) Thank you to everyone who had given me support, especially today when I was gratefu...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello friends. I had a revelation today about myself.I was having a conversation with my AH.I was talking about how I need to get closer to my HP ( God),and he was talking about his feelings and thoughts in that area as well.At one point he mentioned the online 'friend' and said " she helps me".I felt a k...

debilyn · debilyn

I have done my best to explain how the program works for me. Last night I had a horrible, horrible nightmare about my A husband. Woke up in tears, sore throat, no energy, Just yuck. A friend called me becuz she was taking me to do my errands. I don't feel well enough to drive. Just miserable becuz I do...

tea2 · tea2

Finding I am a bit resentful for *still cleaning up after a functioning A in my life, my child's father who I am divorced from. There was much abuse involved. He uses the child and money as a weapon… Because it is now going on 11 months since he has seen the child he has forfeited his right to the visitatio...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Anyone read the book 'A Million Little Pieces?' I finished reading it recently and the thing with this guy, James Frey, he acts like because he could make it without AA that anyone can. What I think is he isn't truly an addict, with the addict gene. He began drinking and drugging whe...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

...my "non-A" husband of 2 years just made a confession. Last night, he called from work saying that they had a semi roll over on the turnpike whivh is not out of the ordinary... He just came home at 9am which is not out of the ordinary.... He started throwing up which is not out of the ordinary........

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Things are up and down in my life. No surprise there. But what is happening again is I am getting burned out on school--and the last time I got burned out on school, it was the culmination of 6 months of disasters, and I landed in a hospital psych unit. So I've called the school financial ai...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Hi, so my AH who has been really trying the sober route relapsed, but of course, he relapsed 3 times, he couldn't get it together after the first relapse, nor the second, he two chances to stop his cycle, and instead, he had to wait until things go worse, hit a parked car and got a DUI before he could start on...

Theresa · Theresa

I have been in and out of al-anon so many times, it is not funny. Of course I only come around when I have a crisis. I can feel myself definitely going in a different direction than what I am accustomed to regarding my husband and his relapses. I really feel that he doesn't want to get be...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Lifes terms are hitting me pretty brutally right now. All mostly minor BS but a lot of it all at once. One major issue came up concerning my husband. I found out yesterday afternoon quite by accident that he lied about seeing a Dr for what was potentially a major medica...

purpleraven · purpleraven

hi, i've been absent and not able to read and reply like i was hoping to! 2 busy, overwhelming weeks ... i got sole custody of my daughter last Friday! with the ex getting only supervised visitation. that was a huge relief. then, he just got fired from his job, and i just found out 3 days ago that he's gettin...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Had an interesting mini-vacation the last couple of days. Due to schedules we ended up going to a lake house for the last few nights. I didn't anticipate there being any "bonding" with my active AW since she out of the blue earlier in the week asked "... So if I went to re...

Diva · Diva

Anyone have any opinions on this Mel Gibson fiasco? He is coming very close to proving a point I touched on. He said his DWI, "just happened." As if HE had nothing to do with it. It was the alcohol that took him to the bar, (or wherever he was) made him drink, got the keys out of his pocket, started his car, and...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

I just want to thank my HP that I have this board to help keep my stuff down to the right size. I get a real sense of perspective as I read and ponder just what each and every one of you fine men and women are going through, have gone through, and how you use the tools to cope and grow. I do a lot of reading here. I...

sld488 · sld488

I got so excited, I just recieved my copy of Courage to Change. I began reading from the beginning. After I finished the month of January, I thought to myself, I better slow down and take it "one day at a time"

But what a wonderful bo...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone))) Thought we could start a self-care thread. What are your plans for this weekend to take care of you? I am: Cleaning the house tonite and listening to my new cds (Funky Brian Jonestown Massacre, Rolling Stones and Sarah McLachlan); Tomorrow going hiking with my two w...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I think I will adopt this as my new slogan, I actually found a plaque with this on it. "Blessed is ye who expects nothing for ye shall never be disappointed" I went on my vacation. I had expected my niece to have called or stop by like she said she would when and if I came up some 300 to 400 miles. We...

shadow1 · shadow1

Hi (((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))) As most of you had asked me for an update on my surgeries. I’m going to disillusion you about our great Canadian health care system. As far as my back surgery goes, it looks like I have to wait the 6 months to get in to see the surgeon for another consultat...

evey · evey

I've heard this and read it here, but don't really know what it means. Thanks, evey

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

I try so to let my buttons not be pushed by my Mom and older brother. I've tried simply staying away.They put me on a guilt trip and I stupidly allow it to happen. I had to take her to an MD appt. today and she just kept bringing up my brother this and that. I stayed cool as long as I could. My...

debilyn · debilyn

Nope have not heard a word. Got on med that is tearing the H out of my gut.. But today I dragged myself out and dug out the mudhole bigger. Thinking how strange I am. Out there in a gauze dress and leather flipflops slopping out the pigs waller! I did this for me. Funny, doing things for us. How what we mig...

megan · megan

Hello friends old and new I am getting a divorce from my active A. I filed August 2005 and went to court in April. Now we are coming down to the final settlement and my nerves are shot. My lawyer goes to court tomorrow and he tells me this today at 11:15 and that is when he shows me the revised s...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: Just had to get some things out. I am sad. The other day I was angry, now I'm just sad... A and I are not connecting, drifting further and further apart. He is working sometimes, gone "running errands" most nights. He calls me on my cel phone and doesn't leave...

mandalynn38 · mandalynn38

Just an update on what I have decided what is BEST for me. I found this site 6 months ago or so. I have been here off and on for the past few months I have sat in many meetings online and have only went to one f2f meeting. I had an A/BF and his ex wife was there at the meeting. They had been divorced for over 10 yea...

annmarie · annmarie

I've noticed that I can sometimes get quite nasty with my Aboyfriend, and this is really starting to bother me. I am not a nasty person at all, but sometimes he just won't stop bickering and finding fault....and i suppose I just get really irate. Normally, I walk away, tune out etc, but if we're on a c...

pennylove · pennylove

Hi, I have been looking all night for a al-anon meeting to attend in mississippi. I come from a very long history of drug addicts and alcholics and it was not until recently that I have discovered that I have a major problem with enabling the addicts in my life I love them very much but it's th...

John · John

Hello everyone, This is to update you on the progress of the Miracles In Progress Cook Book. It is still be put together. I am getting 365 inspirations and motivational thoughts to put with all the recipes. I am having to be very careful for copywrites. This has become a bi...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I just went into a post that I posted and noticed that I had a typo typed mush instead of much

lol big difference there. I can't edit my post that option is gone, but it was there earlier because earlier today I edited a reply on another post. Does anyone else see this or not see it?:...

Kyann · Kyann

I was looking for dates of meetings and found this Regular Al-Anon Meeting - Regular meeting, not an Alateen, Newcomers, Adult Child Focus, etc. Closed Discussion (CD) - Limited to members and prospective member. These are persons who feel their lives have been or are being deeply affec...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((Hi roomies)))))))))))), Alot of times when we are in meetings we are reminded that certain terms such as ACOA, or taking from a book (such as More on the Language of Letting Go) is not an Alanon term, or is not conference approved liturature. What is "approved lit" or "accepted...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

I received a letter today stating that I am being CONSIDERED for an accelerated nursing program that I applied for... Just one last interview, and home-free

August 19th. I have fought hard as a double-winner to grow in as many ways as I possibly can, and this would be the icing on the cake!!...

lilms · lilms

Do any of the rest of you experience this??? My other half often uses humour as a weapon. I am finding more and more that something not quite inappropriate but not appropriate either will come out of her mouth. If I mention it I hear "you just don't have a sense of humour" It is starting t...

serendipity · serendipity

i had just read and replyed to diva's post last night and thought i'd go read then sleep. but as i was turning off the tv the host and the guest were discussing the mel gibson thing and the disease. so i sat and watched the segment. the host apparently is a recovering(?) alcholic and spoke from that point of...

bluebjade · bluebjade

Hello, everyone. My AH was off work Fri. thru Mon. Of course it was a four day drunk. He spent half a day with me and the rest with his drinking buddy. It may sound weird, but I was kinda glad he was gone, because I haven't been feeling well. Him and his buddy came in about...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

"Often anger is a sign of engagement with life. People who are angered are touched deeply by the events of their lives and feel strongly about them. As an emotion, it has limitations and it certainly has very bad press, but my experience with ill people suggests that there is something healthy about it...

sandie123 · sandie123

It's been a tough week! I've done a whole lot of digging and finding things I haven't liked or enjoyed. There have been a lot of memories resurfacing, a lot of feelings, a lot of pain and a lot of awareness’s. I began my week wanting to remove the entire program from my brain, then wanted to get away from me,...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I haven't been on much since Saturday. We had a packed day at church on Sunday. Monday I was putting the final touches on a going away party that I had planned for my co-worker, who is also my best friend. She and her family are moving to Michigan. I haven't posted about it because I haven't allo...

Diva · Diva

about some tenets of AlAnon. Most pointedly that we need to remember the "alcohol is speaking." Is it really a teaching of Al Anon that we should dismiss any unkind, deceitful, hateful talk the "disease" talks, blaming it on the "disease", and excusing it for that reason? I don't quite get this prem...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, I was scheduled to attend a conference in Las Vegas last week. My burdens were heavy so I figured that I needed to do something different to get different results. The Grand Canyon is close to my home (as opposed to most visitors). I took the long way around and went through the Grand Cany...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Last night was a weird night. I had asked help from a funding source to help pay for part of the car repair, and that came through. They are going to pay some of it.

I also got news that they thought my car was going to be ready yesterday (Tuesday), but when they test drove it, the tranny...

maire rua · maire rua

How can I stop certain people treating me like a door mat and acting with no consideration. Today I dropped my son off at the airport, had informed people I would be late for work,yet the minute I came in the door, they descended on me with last minute requests. It really irritates me that people can const...

sparkette · sparkette

I tried something different today when I came to the board. Instead of posting first and reading your wonderful shares second… I decided to listen to y’all first and then see how that felt. What occurs to me is that I need to remember that multiple perspectives and encouragement are another way of allo...

Becky1 · Becky1

Sunday morning he had to go to work for a couple of hours. He got home, made us breakfast. I was just doing housework, and mentioned to him I'd like to paint the bedroom. He said really snappy "I don't care WHAT color you paint it" and I asked why he was being so mean, he said, well, he was...

debilyn · debilyn

Lets add sick to that. It hit me today, now i know what is making me not bounce back. I am sick. My tooth has hurt for weeks now. Have no dental insurance as medicare is all. So I have a tooth infection, no wonder I keep having nightmares and waking up feeling crummy.duh. Called around, I am on dis...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone! Thought I would let you know about some progress I have been making. Yesterday I was angry, so angry. Angry when I left AH in the morning - the last thing I told him was the smell of alcohol made me sick to my stomach and I was beginning to fall out of love with him because of his dr...

mac57 · mac57

Sweet friend in my soul, my teacher, my liaison to myself, thank you for being in my life. I smile as I ponder this “spiritual urgency” as I am reminded that my spirit is not bound by the confines of time. And yet, I thank you for the help I am about to receive, and for which I eagerly await. I am rem...

sdisnie · sdisnie

So i've been doing what i'm supposed to do, let him figure it out on his own, he ran out of money, had no transportation and nowhere to go during day 5 of the binge, so last resort, ended up at the mom and dad's house (alcoholic activity there) Spoke with him yesterday, said he was trying to detox hims...

Cyn · Cyn

Saw my therapist yesterday and asked for assistance in making sure I was asserting myself properly. She said the timing was wrong - but that I am doing the right thing. I told her I didnt want to treat my boyfriend like a child - because he isnt a child. She said "sometimes they are - an...

Jill · Jill

Where does my anger come from? I don’t have a lot of experience with it until recently. I feel like a marionette, completely not in control. I’m a SHREW! Hating it, too. Any ESH is welcome. Tonight was bad!

jres · jres

to detach and yet still cohabitate with an A spouse? When there are very young children involved, they will no doubt be affected negatively right? To me this just seems like enabling, and I am having a very hard time understanding the concept. How can I love th...

MSKM301 · MSKM301

My husband has been using for at least 6yrs that I know of. He goes on binges lasting 4-18 hrs then a few weeks could go by before it happens again. He has gone months, but then the cycle starts again. He is young, but has major medical issues on top of using. I have been a stay at home mom for 5yrs, but have deci...

sandie123 · sandie123

I was talking to a friends last night. We were talking about fear and this led us into anorexia. It sent me into a panic, so I knew there was more than meets the eye on this topic. To start with I dislike food. It always seems like things revolve around food and this gets me so angry. I would be happy not ea...

hersh · hersh

Why does this feel so bad??? Everything was fine lastnight. I went to a face to face meeting, had a good time. I was calm. Then came home and AH was gone, fine. I figured he was out again, I just wanted to sleep. He comes home, buzzed, not really drunk, wants to...

Mike5056 · Mike5056

In our house my partner has cornered this room as her den. Obstensibly it is somewhere she can go to smoke as she is the only smoker in the family. Effectively however she uses it as her bolt hole where none of the family will bother her until she decides to take part in family life. At that point family life...

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	He chose the beer (Preview) Boyfriend of 6+ years on yet another bender for 10 days now. On the phone this afternoon he told me he can't try to be sober anymore; that he has to drink and will probably die with a beer in his hand. He said that beer makes him happier than I have made him in a long time. Wow. Huge state...	moonstorm	8	576	Aug 6, 2006 by moonstorm
	sad (Preview) had a conversation with my ex this morning. he didn't call yesterday so i assumed he was "out there". he was. he was still sounding drunk when i was talking to him. now, i have assumed all this time he's been living with his mother that he's been using. i don't ask it's not my business. he shows up here with a...	serendipity	2	355	Aug 6, 2006 by nmike
	Thanks.... (Preview) Thanks for the advice and pointers everyone. I know that I'm not one who can change his addiction/disease...that is something only he can do for himself. (I have a brother who is a recovering alcoholic/drug addict, so I've somewhat been down this road before.) I do believe that w...	FirstTimeAround	4	356	Aug 6, 2006 by lin0606
	House payments, etc. (Preview) Hi everyone: Does anyone have any experience with getting behind on bills because of As? I'm sure someone does. This is the situation. AH is working part-time, odd jobs (he decided he didn't want to print anymore - his career for 25 years or more - and has taken odd jobs here and...	hersh	11	597	Aug 6, 2006 by Diva
	Newbie - many questions (Preview) Hi, I am finally beginning to see that my husband is an alcoholic. His problem started very subtly and is still sometimes hard to detect. Without going into ten years of history, I'll try to give you a short run-down. We've been married 22 years; two children - ages 16 and 10....	mimi	15	699	Aug 6, 2006 by Vicky R
	Forgiveness (Preview) ''A little meditation on the word forgive can throw some rather surprising light on our understanding of the word. We are asked to forgive those who have injured us. Unless we have first judged and condemned them for what they did, there would be no reason for us to forgive them. Rather we would have to f...	greta	3	834	Aug 6, 2006 by Christy
	Just a note of gratitude (Preview) Hi (((all))), Just wanted to write a quick note of gratitude, for a couple of things. 1) Thank you (((((Dolphin))))) for stepping up and taking over the meeting when I had an emergency and had to RUN out. 2) Thank you to everyone who had given me support, especially today when I was gratefu...	memeself	3	323	Aug 6, 2006 by memeself
	another layer of the onion falls away (Preview) Hello friends. I had a revelation today about myself.I was having a conversation with my AH.I was talking about how I need to get closer to my HP ( God),and he was talking about his feelings and thoughts in that area as well.At one point he mentioned the online 'friend' and said " she helps me".I felt a k...	drucilla06	3	564	Aug 6, 2006 by lin0606
	Sharing the alanon experience (Preview) I have done my best to explain how the program works for me. Last night I had a horrible, horrible nightmare about my A husband. Woke up in tears, sore throat, no energy, Just yuck. A friend called me becuz she was taking me to do my errands. I don't feel well enough to drive. Just miserable becuz I do...	debilyn	6	596	Aug 6, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	Holding the Alcoholic Parent Accountable (Preview) Finding I am a bit resentful for *still cleaning up after a functioning A in my life, my child's father who I am divorced from. There was much abuse involved. He uses the child and money as a weapon… Because it is now going on 11 months since he has seen the child he has forfeited his right to the visitatio...	tea2	11	1169	Aug 5, 2006 by jrtjosey
	A Million Little Pieces (Preview) Anyone read the book 'A Million Little Pieces?' I finished reading it recently and the thing with this guy, James Frey, he acts like because he could make it without AA that anyone can. What I think is he isn't truly an addict, with the addict gene. He began drinking and drugging whe...	sdisnie	12	687	Aug 5, 2006 by tishrijo
	OH CRAP...what's going ON!!!???? (Preview) ...my "non-A" husband of 2 years just made a confession. Last night, he called from work saying that they had a semi roll over on the turnpike whivh is not out of the ordinary... He just came home at 9am which is not out of the ordinary.... He started throwing up which is not out of the ordinary........	jonibaloni	9	480	Aug 5, 2006 by serendipity
	Sign from God? (Preview) Things are up and down in my life. No surprise there. But what is happening again is I am getting burned out on school--and the last time I got burned out on school, it was the culmination of 6 months of disasters, and I landed in a hospital psych unit. So I've called the school financial ai...	Tiger2006	10	564	Aug 5, 2006 by buzzfree
	Any info on DUI's? (Preview) Hi, so my AH who has been really trying the sober route relapsed, but of course, he relapsed 3 times, he couldn't get it together after the first relapse, nor the second, he two chances to stop his cycle, and instead, he had to wait until things go worse, hit a parked car and got a DUI before he could start on...	sdisnie	8	453	Aug 5, 2006 by shadow1
	Newbie in Crisis (Preview) I have been in and out of al-anon so many times, it is not funny. Of course I only come around when I have a crisis. I can feel myself definitely going in a different direction than what I am accustomed to regarding my husband and his relapses. I really feel that he doesn't want to get be...	Theresa	8	936	Aug 5, 2006 by onehappycamper
	Life on Life's Terms (Preview) Lifes terms are hitting me pretty brutally right now. All mostly minor BS but a lot of it all at once. One major issue came up concerning my husband. I found out yesterday afternoon quite by accident that he lied about seeing a Dr for what was potentially a major medica...	AlaMom	4	387	Aug 5, 2006 by Tiger2006
	checking in; a question (Preview) hi, i've been absent and not able to read and reply like i was hoping to! 2 busy, overwhelming weeks ... i got sole custody of my daughter last Friday! with the ex getting only supervised visitation. that was a huge relief. then, he just got fired from his job, and i just found out 3 days ago that he's gettin...	purpleraven	4	528	Aug 5, 2006 by nmike
	Just an observation... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Had an interesting mini-vacation the last couple of days. Due to schedules we ended up going to a lake house for the last few nights. I didn't anticipate there being any "bonding" with my active AW since she out of the blue earlier in the week asked "... So if I went to re...	rtexas	5	446	Aug 5, 2006 by nmike
	Stepping on dangerous ground... (Preview) Anyone have any opinions on this Mel Gibson fiasco? He is coming very close to proving a point I touched on. He said his DWI, "just happened." As if HE had nothing to do with it. It was the alcohol that took him to the bar, (or wherever he was) made him drink, got the keys out of his pocket, started his car, and...	Diva	14	731	Aug 5, 2006 by athena12
	Me and my GONE WITH THE WIND crap.... (Preview) I just want to thank my HP that I have this board to help keep my stuff down to the right size. I get a real sense of perspective as I read and ponder just what each and every one of you fine men and women are going through, have gone through, and how you use the tools to cope and grow. I do a lot of reading here. I...	jonibaloni	4	484	Aug 5, 2006 by athena12
	Received Book! (Preview) I got so excited, I just recieved my copy of Courage to Change. I began reading from the beginning. After I finished the month of January, I thought to myself, I better slow down and take it "one day at a time" But what a wonderful bo...	sld488	3	352	Aug 5, 2006 by Christy
	What are your plans this weekend? (Preview) (((Hi everyone))) Thought we could start a self-care thread. What are your plans for this weekend to take care of you? I am: Cleaning the house tonite and listening to my new cds (Funky Brian Jonestown Massacre, Rolling Stones and Sarah McLachlan); Tomorrow going hiking with my two w...	hersh	8	455	Aug 4, 2006 by jonibaloni
	"Blessed is ye who expects nothing for ye shall never be disappointed" (Preview) I think I will adopt this as my new slogan, I actually found a plaque with this on it. "Blessed is ye who expects nothing for ye shall never be disappointed" I went on my vacation. I had expected my niece to have called or stop by like she said she would when and if I came up some 300 to 400 miles. We...	hmrnrnmm	0	375	Aug 4, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Update on surgeries (Preview) Hi (((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))) As most of you had asked me for an update on my surgeries. I’m going to disillusion you about our great Canadian health care system. As far as my back surgery goes, it looks like I have to wait the 6 months to get in to see the surgeon for another consultat...	shadow1	4	546	Aug 4, 2006 by shadow1
	can someone explain 13th stepping (Preview) I've heard this and read it here, but don't really know what it means. Thanks, evey	evey	6	522	Aug 4, 2006 by evey
	How to not respond tp button pushers (Preview) I try so to let my buttons not be pushed by my Mom and older brother. I've tried simply staying away.They put me on a guilt trip and I stupidly allow it to happen. I had to take her to an MD appt. today and she just kept bringing up my brother this and that. I stayed cool as long as I could. My...	Hopefloats	7	530	Aug 4, 2006 by Hopefloats
	nothing new update (Preview) Nope have not heard a word. Got on med that is tearing the H out of my gut.. But today I dragged myself out and dug out the mudhole bigger. Thinking how strange I am. Out there in a gauze dress and leather flipflops slopping out the pigs waller! I did this for me. Funny, doing things for us. How what we mig...	debilyn	5	435	Aug 4, 2006 by TLC2
	Divorce ESH anyone (Preview) Hello friends old and new I am getting a divorce from my active A. I filed August 2005 and went to court in April. Now we are coming down to the final settlement and my nerves are shot. My lawyer goes to court tomorrow and he tells me this today at 11:15 and that is when he shows me the revised s...	megan	16	560	Aug 4, 2006 by ET
	Reality is biting.... (Preview) Hi everyone: Just had to get some things out. I am sad. The other day I was angry, now I'm just sad... A and I are not connecting, drifting further and further apart. He is working sometimes, gone "running errands" most nights. He calls me on my cel phone and doesn't leave...	hersh	5	424	Aug 4, 2006 by hersh
	I am off the Crazy Train (Preview) Just an update on what I have decided what is BEST for me. I found this site 6 months ago or so. I have been here off and on for the past few months I have sat in many meetings online and have only went to one f2f meeting. I had an A/BF and his ex wife was there at the meeting. They had been divorced for over 10 yea...	mandalynn38	6	595	Aug 4, 2006 by Jewel
	my patience ran out... (Preview) I've noticed that I can sometimes get quite nasty with my Aboyfriend, and this is really starting to bother me. I am not a nasty person at all, but sometimes he just won't stop bickering and finding fault....and i suppose I just get really irate. Normally, I walk away, tune out etc, but if we're on a c...	annmarie	4	513	Aug 4, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	lost newbe (Preview) Hi, I have been looking all night for a al-anon meeting to attend in mississippi. I come from a very long history of drug addicts and alcholics and it was not until recently that I have discovered that I have a major problem with enabling the addicts in my life I love them very much but it's th...	pennylove	7	420	Aug 3, 2006 by Tammy
	cook book update 7/31/06 (Preview) Hello everyone, This is to update you on the progress of the Miracles In Progress Cook Book. It is still be put together. I am getting 365 inspirations and motivational thoughts to put with all the recipes. I am having to be very careful for copywrites. This has become a bi...	John	2	358	Aug 3, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Is Something Missing? (Preview) Hi all, I just went into a post that I posted and noticed that I had a typo typed mush instead of much lol big difference there. I can't edit my post that option is gone, but it was there earlier because earlier today I edited a reply on another post. Does anyone else see this or not see it?:...	Dolphin123	4	400	Aug 3, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Regular meetings (Preview) I was looking for dates of meetings and found this Regular Al-Anon Meeting - Regular meeting, not an Alateen, Newcomers, Adult Child Focus, etc. Closed Discussion (CD) - Limited to members and prospective member. These are persons who feel their lives have been or are being deeply affec...	Kyann	5	378	Aug 3, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Can someone explain please? (Preview) (((((((((((((Hi roomies)))))))))))), Alot of times when we are in meetings we are reminded that certain terms such as ACOA, or taking from a book (such as More on the Language of Letting Go) is not an Alanon term, or is not conference approved liturature. What is "approved lit" or "accepted...	Karilynn	9	1739	Aug 3, 2006 by Tiger2006
	HUMONGOUS PERSONAL-GOALS BLESSING (Preview) I received a letter today stating that I am being CONSIDERED for an accelerated nursing program that I applied for... Just one last interview, and home-free August 19th. I have fought hard as a double-winner to grow in as many ways as I possibly can, and this would be the icing on the cake!!...	jonibaloni	8	412	Aug 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Humour as a weapon (Preview) Do any of the rest of you experience this??? My other half often uses humour as a weapon. I am finding more and more that something not quite inappropriate but not appropriate either will come out of her mouth. If I mention it I hear "you just don't have a sense of humour" It is starting t...	lilms	3	421	Aug 3, 2006 by tea2
	what i learn staying up late (Preview) i had just read and replyed to diva's post last night and thought i'd go read then sleep. but as i was turning off the tv the host and the guest were discussing the mel gibson thing and the disease. so i sat and watched the segment. the host apparently is a recovering(?) alcholic and spoke from that point of...	serendipity	5	513	Aug 3, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Tired of the vicioius circle (Preview) Hello, everyone. My AH was off work Fri. thru Mon. Of course it was a four day drunk. He spent half a day with me and the rest with his drinking buddy. It may sound weird, but I was kinda glad he was gone, because I haven't been feeling well. Him and his buddy came in about...	bluebjade	9	581	Aug 3, 2006 by bluebjade
	"ANGER", Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D. (Preview) "Often anger is a sign of engagement with life. People who are angered are touched deeply by the events of their lives and feel strongly about them. As an emotion, it has limitations and it certainly has very bad press, but my experience with ill people suggests that there is something healthy about it...	jonibaloni	4	1399	Aug 3, 2006 by annmarie
	Thank You for this program!!! (Preview) It's been a tough week! I've done a whole lot of digging and finding things I haven't liked or enjoyed. There have been a lot of memories resurfacing, a lot of feelings, a lot of pain and a lot of awareness’s. I began my week wanting to remove the entire program from my brain, then wanted to get away from me,...	sandie123	3	433	Aug 3, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Feeling Blue (Preview) Hi all, I haven't been on much since Saturday. We had a packed day at church on Sunday. Monday I was putting the final touches on a going away party that I had planned for my co-worker, who is also my best friend. She and her family are moving to Michigan. I haven't posted about it because I haven't allo...	Dolphin123	9	565	Aug 3, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	It has occurred to me to wonder... (Preview) about some tenets of AlAnon. Most pointedly that we need to remember the "alcohol is speaking." Is it really a teaching of Al Anon that we should dismiss any unkind, deceitful, hateful talk the "disease" talks, blaming it on the "disease", and excusing it for that reason? I don't quite get this prem...	Diva	11	579	Aug 3, 2006 by isabela40
	When in doubt go to the Grand Canyon! (Preview) Hi Alanoners, I was scheduled to attend a conference in Las Vegas last week. My burdens were heavy so I figured that I needed to do something different to get different results. The Grand Canyon is close to my home (as opposed to most visitors). I took the long way around and went through the Grand Cany...	nmike	8	727	Aug 3, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	Emotional Night (Preview) Hi all, Last night was a weird night. I had asked help from a funding source to help pay for part of the car repair, and that came through. They are going to pay some of it. I also got news that they thought my car was going to be ready yesterday (Tuesday), but when they test drove it, the tranny...	Dolphin123	8	457	Aug 3, 2006 by isabela40
	Doormat situation (Preview) How can I stop certain people treating me like a door mat and acting with no consideration. Today I dropped my son off at the airport, had informed people I would be late for work,yet the minute I came in the door, they descended on me with last minute requests. It really irritates me that people can const...	maire rua	6	423	Aug 3, 2006 by maire rua
	Da Board (Preview) I tried something different today when I came to the board. Instead of posting first and reading your wonderful shares second… I decided to listen to y’all first and then see how that felt. What occurs to me is that I need to remember that multiple perspectives and encouragement are another way of allo...	sparkette	4	384	Aug 3, 2006 by abbyal
	I Hate Weekends (Preview) Sunday morning he had to go to work for a couple of hours. He got home, made us breakfast. I was just doing housework, and mentioned to him I'd like to paint the bedroom. He said really snappy "I don't care WHAT color you paint it" and I asked why he was being so mean, he said, well, he was...	Becky1	7	439	Aug 2, 2006 by maresie2
	should be HALTS (Preview) Lets add sick to that. It hit me today, now i know what is making me not bounce back. I am sick. My tooth has hurt for weeks now. Have no dental insurance as medicare is all. So I have a tooth infection, no wonder I keep having nightmares and waking up feeling crummy.duh. Called around, I am on dis...	debilyn	9	441	Aug 2, 2006 by maresie2
	Anger ceasing.... (Preview) Hi everyone! Thought I would let you know about some progress I have been making. Yesterday I was angry, so angry. Angry when I left AH in the morning - the last thing I told him was the smell of alcohol made me sick to my stomach and I was beginning to fall out of love with him because of his dr...	hersh	4	304	Aug 2, 2006 by Tammy
	a few questions for HP (Preview) Sweet friend in my soul, my teacher, my liaison to myself, thank you for being in my life. I smile as I ponder this “spiritual urgency” as I am reminded that my spirit is not bound by the confines of time. And yet, I thank you for the help I am about to receive, and for which I eagerly await. I am rem...	mac57	5	441	Aug 2, 2006 by Andrea12
	When is it Intervening to save a life vs. intervening and enabling (Preview) So i've been doing what i'm supposed to do, let him figure it out on his own, he ran out of money, had no transportation and nowhere to go during day 5 of the binge, so last resort, ended up at the mom and dad's house (alcoholic activity there) Spoke with him yesterday, said he was trying to detox hims...	sdisnie	9	596	Aug 2, 2006 by evey
	Went to my therapist (Preview) Saw my therapist yesterday and asked for assistance in making sure I was asserting myself properly. She said the timing was wrong - but that I am doing the right thing. I told her I didnt want to treat my boyfriend like a child - because he isnt a child. She said "sometimes they are - an...	Cyn	0	397	Aug 2, 2006 by Cyn
	help with anger (Preview) Where does my anger come from? I don’t have a lot of experience with it until recently. I feel like a marionette, completely not in control. I’m a SHREW! Hating it, too. Any ESH is welcome. Tonight was bad!	Jill	4	403	Aug 2, 2006 by hersh
	how is it possible? (Preview) to detach and yet still cohabitate with an A spouse? When there are very young children involved, they will no doubt be affected negatively right? To me this just seems like enabling, and I am having a very hard time understanding the concept. How can I love th...	jres	2	426	Aug 2, 2006 by nmike
	totally disgusted (Preview) My husband has been using for at least 6yrs that I know of. He goes on binges lasting 4-18 hrs then a few weeks could go by before it happens again. He has gone months, but then the cycle starts again. He is young, but has major medical issues on top of using. I have been a stay at home mom for 5yrs, but have deci...	MSKM301	7	391	Aug 2, 2006 by MSKM301
	Anorexia or Eating Disorder? (Preview) I was talking to a friends last night. We were talking about fear and this led us into anorexia. It sent me into a panic, so I knew there was more than meets the eye on this topic. To start with I dislike food. It always seems like things revolve around food and this gets me so angry. I would be happy not ea...	sandie123	7	721	Aug 1, 2006 by mastiff
	Guilt and ups and downs!! (Preview) Why does this feel so bad??? Everything was fine lastnight. I went to a face to face meeting, had a good time. I was calm. Then came home and AH was gone, fine. I figured he was out again, I just wanted to sleep. He comes home, buzzed, not really drunk, wants to...	hersh	3	488	Aug 1, 2006 by hersh
	Avoiding getting dragged into the morass. (Preview) In our house my partner has cornered this room as her den. Obstensibly it is somewhere she can go to smoke as she is the only smoker in the family. Effectively however she uses it as her bolt hole where none of the family will bother her until she decides to take part in family life. At that point family life...	Mike5056	7	596	Aug 1, 2006 by RichardA
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