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Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

In HOPE FOR TODAY, the writer of a reading not too far ago discusses how her home life--alcholic and violent--created such fear in her that, any time she was in a position of authority, usually in an employment situation, the consistent pattern that emerged was fear based control; inab...

Freatlast · Freatlast

Today was/is a good day

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, as you know by now, im doing my own thing with my recovery and some of you will not agree with me, but im here becouse i want to share and maybe someone is in same situation as me. I started to look at my relationship with my Abf in different light. I picked some books from my mother. Nothing to do wi...

cher · cher

updata, hubby has done 7 meetings in 7 days with AA. WOW what a change, whole mentality has changed, not stopped drinking yet completly, but they dont encourage that right away. This is all he has been talking about and it has made a huge difference in the way he thinks. and because of this chat line, at le...

artygirl · artygirl

So here's my situation now... I told my A, cocaine-addicted husband that he needed to get help or get out. I've said it many times, but this week I said it again, meant it and plan to follow through with my threat. I'm calling a lawyer first thing Monday and one of us is moving out of our house. He doesn't kno...

debilyn · debilyn

whoa is this what it feels like to be a fool??? To think I spouted my love for him, and shared his fake love in jail to me. TT saw it, said don't get sucked into the drama. abbyal saw it. others saw it. All these years, using me, taking all he could. Never being there. giving me bits of hope since I wa...

gardengal · gardengal

Oh man, am I there yet? For years I have tried and tried to control the alcoholics drinking,,failing miserabley each time. Falling down in dispair, but eventually getting up and trying again and again. I was definately slamming my head against a brick wall! Because I loved my husband of 30 years, I was...

debilyn · debilyn

Well since I am an open book, most of you know, or some of you know, maybe two of you read my stuff and know? haha You know how I said I was letting go again, that it is back to where it was before he went to jail? my A that is? I am ok, and those feelings of omg he is back??? Are gone. Which is good, hp does...

debilyn · debilyn

I need to let things out. Hope it is ok to vent. I know I am tired, it is evening. My son called. I asked he not call A but to go face him. A can act all big and scarey on the phone, but face to face, with my (his bio son) very big powerful son, he is a larvae. Feel sick inside and very sad. Th...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

Here it is Friday afternoon and I am about to cry at the thought of going home in an hour. I can't seem to stay focused on any of the possitive things that will come without my A husband. I go between totally teed off and boohooing like a fool. I wish there was some way we could just talk ab...

artygirl · artygirl

I just spent the evening with my best friend and my husband's former best friend (his best friend from childhood until just recently when he confronted him about his addictions and behavior.) They both made me realize enough is enough. My husband is not only an extremely active alcoholic, but a cocai...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex ah called me last night at 3am. he knows the kids are gone all weekend. i was looking forward to a good night's sleep. but no. he's drunk and has to make sure i am here. the thing is when i was telling my friend this story she assumed he just wanted to get together for a quickie. no, i explained. maybe a reg...

frog58 · frog58

start saving the coins....woudln't it be great to try to meet up........... July 4 - 6, 2008 Al-Anon International Convention with AA Participation Pittsburgh, PA USA Updates will be available on the WSO website beginning in 2007, but individual members planning to attend can start saving no...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Vinny came out of surgery around the time the vets office closed. They told me earlier today that he was at the front of pen when they got to work. So that is a good sign. He did have some stuff wrong on his blood test not sure what yet. Anyway he had 2 hernia repairs & has drain...

sld488 · sld488

My bf called earlier to tell me he would not be home this weekend because of work. This makes me sad. I have come to enjoy the weekends with him here. He also told me he got a better job opportunity but he would be traveling more. Right now he is gone 4-5 days a week but with this new vent...

evey · evey

Well my AH has picked up again, he was sneaking it here and sneaking it there maintaining but "crashed" yesterday. He picked me up at my job half loaded. It was noticable. Today I come home and the bathroom is trashed, towel rack out of the wall, shower curtains pulled down, urine everywhere, a...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, hey if you click under someones name it says,"view profile." If you click on mine you can read about me. But I just went to that place and I don't see anywhere there where you write one?? Where did it go? Is it where we can pick or make an avatar? I will have to go back and look. I love the idea o...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi all, I am diligently trying to Mind my own business at the moment. Found out my ex bf whose been sober for 4mos and who I was to meet for cofffee this week.....went to jail a couple of days ago on a contempt of court charge. I saw him at mtg. on Mon and he asked me to coffee. As I mentioned in some of my earl...

debilyn · debilyn

Well I still have bronchitis but much better each day. Sure zaps my strength. But am getting more done. Anyway I have not heard from A. I was being tortured in my heart, not ready to let go. But hp musta decided I had had enough becuz I am starting to let go again. I don't want to think of him at all. So I d...

omajoy · omajoy

Once more it is Friday and the weekend looms ahead of me and as usual, I dread dread dread it! Last night my son called me on the way home from his class and ended the call with "well, I hope we can have a sane weekend..." His reference to past ones where he and his ex tangle over his visitation with the b...

hersh · hersh

Getting tired of things today. AH quit his job last week. It was only part time anyway, not bringing in much. Now he has an interview today for a printing place (his original career before he relapsed so badly this year). He has a nice shiner from his daughter’s boyfriend.&n...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I was thinking this morning about my work, my program, and balance. You see I work in the social service field (using my codie ways to help the world, lol) and alot of our participants have substance abuse issues or are the loved one of someone with a substance abuse issue. And my strug...

shadow1 · shadow1

Today I had to meet my mom at the house so she could pack clothes. She has decided that this was it. She is not going back. I can’t say I blame her ser safety is in jeopardy. That was very hard for me. It was hard to see mom running around the house I grew up in packing her clothes and gathering up things sh...

maire rua · maire rua

Hello all, work is unstable for me at the best of times, I am a medieval historian. Unfortunately just due to asking when my outline was needed for a course starting this semester september, I was casually informed that this entire course might not be running as they have not got enough applicants, alw...

ragingchild · ragingchild

Well, here lately I've really felt like I've been dealt a really crappy hand in life. I was sexually abused as a child, as a teenager I dealt with an alcoholic mother, and in my adult life I am faced with polycystic ovary syndrome. Am I unlucky or am I magnet for bad things to happen? I a...

jmarie22 · jmarie22

I found this website, and have been reading a lot of the posts. It has been helpful, I feel like someone else might actually "get" what I am going through. My mom is an alcoholic and is so deep in denial. (and so out of control) She stopped drinking a few months ago and I found out she was drinking mouthw...

Jmr · Jmr

I need some advise, I do not know where else to turn. I met a guy about 3 months ago, (I will call him Shane) I fell very hard and very fast for him. He is one of those guys that you pray will come along, the kind that gives you butterflies in your stomach everytime you think about him.&nbs...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((((alanon friends))))) There have been many recent posts about the negative characteristics of alcoholics and I have taken part in them. I would like to look at the other side of the coin.I would like to hear what's good about your A.Come on,it can't be all bad. First I want to say that in a re...

rtexas · rtexas

(((Everyone))) I was in a real funk yesterday. But I feel much better now... Drucilla's post about the other side of the coin stumped me yesterday. I had a long list of things I really love about my wife, and I scratched them off one by one saying at least she used to be that way, but not an...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, This poem was on the AA board. I asked the person who found it online if I could share it all with you and she was delighted. So here ya go! I took Step One, began to moan I can't do this one on my own. I took Step Two, began to pray Restore me God, please now, today. I took Step Three, gave up m...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Hmmm, Well in my real world I have only been able to get to a daytime meeting noon to 1pm on Mondays or Thursday. I tried to make sure I made it to one meeting a week. There are usually 4 people including me. Sometimes there are up to 8 people at times. There have been times that it is only m...

Miranda · Miranda

My mom and I recently had to move into my grandparents house due to problems with our condo rental. My grandfather had a stroke not too long ago, so he has difficulties with moving around, speaking, and communicating efficiently. I have tried to understand that he is having a hard time. But this week he...

nycbt · nycbt

I have had a major slip this pass couple of weeks. I have been very unhappy in my home that I live in. I live with two men one is my husband and the other is his grown 24 yr old son. His son was supposed to stay with us for six months three yrs later he is still here. His son has emontiol problems and has never been t...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Erin sent me a note... Her car got hit, her computer crashed, but sends here well wishes and she misses you all. Josey

daymama · daymama

As I posted a response to Trust, I still sit here thinking that somehow, I need to have control of my life. I guess I am thinking that I am not taking control yet. The alcohal is still controlling my life, the person I think I love is controlling my life and I do not like where it is going. ...

nachoqtpie · nachoqtpie

Well, today, I finally managed to 'let go.' The A has been telling me for a while now that it's over, and I've finally come to terms with that. I realized that by trying to do things so he would see that I'm still the person that he fell in love with was only taking the focus off of my recovery. I realized that i...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( Hello Group))) In today's Courage To Change the topic is learning the slogan "How Important Is It"? In the Today's Reminder it says If I encounter an upsetting situation, I will ask myself How Important Is It? before I respond. I am such a reactionary person. If I felt pa...

Vicky R · Vicky R

hi guys , great to see you here ! and love to read and reply on this board when I can. Anyway going on from what I said last time I started a thread , the guy that I was seeing actually admitted to half-cheating . You'll have to use your imagination about what that means I think. And he also said that he would fin...

Diva · Diva

Attempting to do what we are not trained to do is using bad judgment; we must resist the temptation to assign descriptive words that should only be spoken by a professional who is fully educated in making such pronouncements. (I'm not even too sure about some of them.) A blanket statement, lumping all...

Gemuk91 · Gemuk91

Hello every one I found this site just by looking around. I have been in Al anon for 3 years now safe me from a lot of pain. good to be here. look forward to getting to know you all

marmare · marmare

Just talked to my attorney...LOL (funny 'cause he was my A's friend before my attorney, and last October when I asked A to move out, he went and talked to the attorney about a divorce and attorney told him he couldn't discuss the matter with him because he is MY a...

sandie123 · sandie123

Love ... such a simple word yet a complex term. love n. 1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness....

hersh · hersh

Howdy everyone: Hope everyone is doing well. I am back from Wyoming and it was such a peaceful, wonderful trip I just can't believe it! What a wonderful place. I live in Colorado and have driven through WY once, it was not too exciting. But, this time my Mom and her husband and I d...

moto · moto

Hello my name is Gary and I am looking for a Male sponsor to assist me in working the steps. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend who attends AA. I want to work the program for me. I do attend at least 3 ftf meetings a week and have for a few years. But have never had a sponsor or really worked the step...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

I have been looking for any way to stay home with my A husband and have not been able to find one. I am so darn mad that he has taken my ability to stay home away from me that I could just scream. We live in the house he had before we were married and he is not about to leave so I guess I will. &...

Souljacker · Souljacker

I'm new here & still trying to understand things, that it isn't always my fault. So this is all strange & comforting, if that makes sense. My first post was just a few days ago & is now on page 2. I feel bad that it took awhile for me to thank everyone who had made a response to my thread & this is a thank u to them &...

Freatlast · Freatlast

I keep hearing about the 12 steps. May I ask how to learn more about this part of the program? If anyone can guide me to what literature I should get, that would be appreciated too! I've also heard something about a Daily Blessing book? Thank You!

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

Sometimes I wonder how many times I have to go thru something to finally get it. I have been seperated from my A husband since November. In that time we would have "short lived" periods where we would be talking and trying to work things out. Then there would be other times when I may s...

Souljacker · Souljacker

Don't know where to turn. 1st time here. Read thru some threads & my story seems minimal compared to everyone's heartache here. Not sure where to turn anymore. Met my "A" boyfriend 2 yrs ago. Had our salad days & fell in love quick. Then I noticed the heavy drinkin. Drinking before I met him, during dinne...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

No, I didn't make my meeting because my a/bf called and asked if I could bring his son home, he would tell me why when we got there. Figured he wanted to talk to me so I agreeded. When I got there he told me he had been talking to a friend who had lost his nephew in a drunk driving accident Saturday night. he had b...

nmike · nmike

Well, I posted about not knowing what my HP wanted for me. My HP sure keeps me connected to my AHsober through transmissions on the blink. We drove 6 hours to pick up our car and visit our son in college. So my H drove one car back the same day. He had to finish some work. He avoids deadlines and procras...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

Hi ala-pals, Gosh, I love this program!!! When you show up, and you open up your heart and mind, something comes to you. Tonite in the online meeting, I had an "ah - ha!" as folks were sharing about resentment and getting over it. In the past, I have struggled to work step three b/c I didn't understand...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

That saying or slogan to me has changed meanings in so many ways over the years. First things First was always something that came before me. I gave my attention and time to so many other things and people before I even considered myself. There were pockets of time that I "really too...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

Yes, I found out he cheated on me and I am so crushed and don't know what to do. It is a long story, but I will try to be brief. Found out, conforted him, he denies that he slept with her. Of course. I feel so used and hurt. How could he be with me after he had been with me as if nothing happened? Sometimes...

bluebjade · bluebjade

I just wanted to give an update on the way things are going since I have set the BOUNDRY. Things are going much better in my home. He has come strait home from work everyday, and he did not drink for almost a week. He, of course, made up for lost times this weekend. The diffence...

daisy2 · daisy2

TRUST a big word. I had/have issue with trust. I ask myself, is it only my A that made me feel i cant ever trust anybody, or was the issue deep down in me before i knew him? Anything in childhood, first boyfried, second boyfriend, all the boyfriends? There is a question for all of you, how do you deal w...

TLC2 · TLC2

Well, he walked in here this morning, sober as a judge, took a shower, and went to bed. Guess he's slepping now in my compfy bed, just like nothing happened. Ya know, when this 'other being' invades his body, it always finds ways to hurt me. I know I am having real problems with detatching 'cause it stil...

sarah · sarah

Hi everyone, im new here. I am seeking advice and support as I am a daughter (23) of an alcoholic, she finally admitted to me she still has a problem, she has always said it was in the past. she is currently in hospital undergoing detox (which she has had before) I wondered if anyone can give me adv...

TLC2 · TLC2

Hi again my friends, Well, I did a lot of thinking lately. And ya know, it all came back to one thing. Every time my A has hit the bottle this Summer, was when MY family was here. My kids are well brought up, mannerly, kind and loving.They are not monsters that would 'drive a man to drink'!! Therefore, I...

annmarie · annmarie

I was reading at the weekend. This was the lesson I learned, and thought I'd share it with you.... There are some people who are very critical of others. They spend a lot of time telling us what is wrong with us. These people are not deserving of uor loyalty... Be careful when you hear someone doi...

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	Ambiguity in relationships (Preview) In HOPE FOR TODAY, the writer of a reading not too far ago discusses how her home life--alcholic and violent--created such fear in her that, any time she was in a position of authority, usually in an employment situation, the consistent pattern that emerged was fear based control; inab...	Tiger2006	2	419	Aug 20, 2006 by sld488
	All I have to say is.... (Preview) Today was/is a good day	Freatlast	2	257	Aug 20, 2006 by sld488
	MY RECOVERY (Preview) Hi all, as you know by now, im doing my own thing with my recovery and some of you will not agree with me, but im here becouse i want to share and maybe someone is in same situation as me. I started to look at my relationship with my Abf in different light. I picked some books from my mother. Nothing to do wi...	daisy2	2	329	Aug 20, 2006 by daisy2
	still very very happy Update (Preview) updata, hubby has done 7 meetings in 7 days with AA. WOW what a change, whole mentality has changed, not stopped drinking yet completly, but they dont encourage that right away. This is all he has been talking about and it has made a huge difference in the way he thinks. and because of this chat line, at le...	cher	4	331	Aug 20, 2006 by daisy2
	The next morning... (Preview) So here's my situation now... I told my A, cocaine-addicted husband that he needed to get help or get out. I've said it many times, but this week I said it again, meant it and plan to follow through with my threat. I'm calling a lawyer first thing Monday and one of us is moving out of our house. He doesn't kno...	artygirl	5	433	Aug 19, 2006 by lin0606
	a fool (Preview) whoa is this what it feels like to be a fool??? To think I spouted my love for him, and shared his fake love in jail to me. TT saw it, said don't get sucked into the drama. abbyal saw it. others saw it. All these years, using me, taking all he could. Never being there. giving me bits of hope since I wa...	debilyn	13	585	Aug 19, 2006 by leo
	Can you accept the fact that you cant control the alcoholic nor any other adult person and truly accept that alcoholism is an illness? (Preview) Oh man, am I there yet? For years I have tried and tried to control the alcoholics drinking,,failing miserabley each time. Falling down in dispair, but eventually getting up and trying again and again. I was definately slamming my head against a brick wall! Because I loved my husband of 30 years, I was...	gardengal	10	672	Aug 19, 2006 by maresie2
	Would be so lost w/out ya'll (Preview) Well since I am an open book, most of you know, or some of you know, maybe two of you read my stuff and know? haha You know how I said I was letting go again, that it is back to where it was before he went to jail? my A that is? I am ok, and those feelings of omg he is back??? Are gone. Which is good, hp does...	debilyn	3	314	Aug 19, 2006 by maresie2
	me again, sorry (Preview) I need to let things out. Hope it is ok to vent. I know I am tired, it is evening. My son called. I asked he not call A but to go face him. A can act all big and scarey on the phone, but face to face, with my (his bio son) very big powerful son, he is a larvae. Feel sick inside and very sad. Th...	debilyn	3	360	Aug 19, 2006 by TLC2
	Could we Pleeeeese not have weekends (Preview) Here it is Friday afternoon and I am about to cry at the thought of going home in an hour. I can't seem to stay focused on any of the possitive things that will come without my A husband. I go between totally teed off and boohooing like a fool. I wish there was some way we could just talk ab...	Gramma Pat	4	391	Aug 19, 2006 by Freatlast
	I'm pretty sure my marriage is over. (Preview) I just spent the evening with my best friend and my husband's former best friend (his best friend from childhood until just recently when he confronted him about his addictions and behavior.) They both made me realize enough is enough. My husband is not only an extremely active alcoholic, but a cocai...	artygirl	4	534	Aug 19, 2006 by beachbaby
	new boundry (Preview) my ex ah called me last night at 3am. he knows the kids are gone all weekend. i was looking forward to a good night's sleep. but no. he's drunk and has to make sure i am here. the thing is when i was telling my friend this story she assumed he just wanted to get together for a quickie. no, i explained. maybe a reg...	serendipity	4	370	Aug 19, 2006 by Jerry F
	alanon international convention (Preview) start saving the coins....woudln't it be great to try to meet up........... July 4 - 6, 2008 Al-Anon International Convention with AA Participation Pittsburgh, PA USA Updates will be available on the WSO website beginning in 2007, but individual members planning to attend can start saving no...	frog58	2	541	Aug 19, 2006 by isabela40
	Update on Vinny (Preview) Vinny came out of surgery around the time the vets office closed. They told me earlier today that he was at the front of pen when they got to work. So that is a good sign. He did have some stuff wrong on his blood test not sure what yet. Anyway he had 2 hernia repairs & has drain...	hmrnrnmm	2	307	Aug 18, 2006 by artygirl
	Selfish me. (Preview) My bf called earlier to tell me he would not be home this weekend because of work. This makes me sad. I have come to enjoy the weekends with him here. He also told me he got a better job opportunity but he would be traveling more. Right now he is gone 4-5 days a week but with this new vent...	sld488	3	306	Aug 18, 2006 by doxie
	had it with myself (Preview) Well my AH has picked up again, he was sneaking it here and sneaking it there maintaining but "crashed" yesterday. He picked me up at my job half loaded. It was noticable. Today I come home and the bathroom is trashed, towel rack out of the wall, shower curtains pulled down, urine everywhere, a...	evey	3	399	Aug 18, 2006 by Jill
	Diva ? (Preview) Hi, hey if you click under someones name it says,"view profile." If you click on mine you can read about me. But I just went to that place and I don't see anywhere there where you write one?? Where did it go? Is it where we can pick or make an avatar? I will have to go back and look. I love the idea o...	debilyn	2	304	Aug 18, 2006 by debilyn
	Minding my own business and its hard! (Preview) Hi all, I am diligently trying to Mind my own business at the moment. Found out my ex bf whose been sober for 4mos and who I was to meet for cofffee this week.....went to jail a couple of days ago on a contempt of court charge. I saw him at mtg. on Mon and he asked me to coffee. As I mentioned in some of my earl...	beachbaby	1	316	Aug 18, 2006 by sld488
	hi, just yakking (Preview) Well I still have bronchitis but much better each day. Sure zaps my strength. But am getting more done. Anyway I have not heard from A. I was being tortured in my heart, not ready to let go. But hp musta decided I had had enough becuz I am starting to let go again. I don't want to think of him at all. So I d...	debilyn	2	284	Aug 18, 2006 by maresie2
	Sanity this weekend??? (Preview) Once more it is Friday and the weekend looms ahead of me and as usual, I dread dread dread it! Last night my son called me on the way home from his class and ended the call with "well, I hope we can have a sane weekend..." His reference to past ones where he and his ex tangle over his visitation with the b...	omajoy	3	325	Aug 18, 2006 by omajoy
	All I can do.... (Preview) Getting tired of things today. AH quit his job last week. It was only part time anyway, not bringing in much. Now he has an interview today for a printing place (his original career before he relapsed so badly this year). He has a nice shiner from his daughter’s boyfriend.&n...	hersh	1	283	Aug 18, 2006 by ollie
	Trying to maintain balcance (not really sure if this will make any sense) (Preview) Hi all, I was thinking this morning about my work, my program, and balance. You see I work in the social service field (using my codie ways to help the world, lol) and alot of our participants have substance abuse issues or are the loved one of someone with a substance abuse issue. And my strug...	Dolphin123	6	390	Aug 18, 2006 by DoN4me
	wow what a day (Preview) Today I had to meet my mom at the house so she could pack clothes. She has decided that this was it. She is not going back. I can’t say I blame her ser safety is in jeopardy. That was very hard for me. It was hard to see mom running around the house I grew up in packing her clothes and gathering up things sh...	shadow1	6	279	Aug 18, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Say a Prayer (Preview) Hello all, work is unstable for me at the best of times, I am a medieval historian. Unfortunately just due to asking when my outline was needed for a course starting this semester september, I was casually informed that this entire course might not be running as they have not got enough applicants, alw...	maire rua	2	337	Aug 18, 2006 by hersh
	Frustrations (Preview) Well, here lately I've really felt like I've been dealt a really crappy hand in life. I was sexually abused as a child, as a teenager I dealt with an alcoholic mother, and in my adult life I am faced with polycystic ovary syndrome. Am I unlucky or am I magnet for bad things to happen? I a...	ragingchild	8	411	Aug 18, 2006 by DoN4me
	Hi, I'm new here (Preview) I found this website, and have been reading a lot of the posts. It has been helpful, I feel like someone else might actually "get" what I am going through. My mom is an alcoholic and is so deep in denial. (and so out of control) She stopped drinking a few months ago and I found out she was drinking mouthw...	jmarie22	4	322	Aug 18, 2006 by Diva
	Help (Preview) I need some advise, I do not know where else to turn. I met a guy about 3 months ago, (I will call him Shane) I fell very hard and very fast for him. He is one of those guys that you pray will come along, the kind that gives you butterflies in your stomach everytime you think about him.&nbs...	Jmr	8	345	Aug 18, 2006 by Mike5056
	let's look at the other side of the coin... (Preview) (((((((alanon friends))))) There have been many recent posts about the negative characteristics of alcoholics and I have taken part in them. I would like to look at the other side of the coin.I would like to hear what's good about your A.Come on,it can't be all bad. First I want to say that in a re...	drucilla06	11	718	Aug 17, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	Do I discount the good in my AW (Preview) (((Everyone))) I was in a real funk yesterday. But I feel much better now... Drucilla's post about the other side of the coin stumped me yesterday. I had a long list of things I really love about my wife, and I scratched them off one by one saying at least she used to be that way, but not an...	rtexas	5	463	Aug 17, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	12 Step Poem (Preview) Hi all, This poem was on the AA board. I asked the person who found it online if I could share it all with you and she was delighted. So here ya go! I took Step One, began to moan I can't do this one on my own. I took Step Two, began to pray Restore me God, please now, today. I took Step Three, gave up m...	Dolphin123	1	617	Aug 17, 2006 by Andrea12
	Hanging in there & my life so far............ (Preview) Hmmm, Well in my real world I have only been able to get to a daytime meeting noon to 1pm on Mondays or Thursday. I tried to make sure I made it to one meeting a week. There are usually 4 people including me. Sometimes there are up to 8 people at times. There have been times that it is only m...	hmrnrnmm	3	617	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	Tough Stuff Please Help (Preview) My mom and I recently had to move into my grandparents house due to problems with our condo rental. My grandfather had a stroke not too long ago, so he has difficulties with moving around, speaking, and communicating efficiently. I have tried to understand that he is having a hard time. But this week he...	Miranda	9	546	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	a slip (Preview) I have had a major slip this pass couple of weeks. I have been very unhappy in my home that I live in. I live with two men one is my husband and the other is his grown 24 yr old son. His son was supposed to stay with us for six months three yrs later he is still here. His son has emontiol problems and has never been t...	nycbt	7	361	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	heard from ERbin!!! (Preview) Erin sent me a note... Her car got hit, her computer crashed, but sends here well wishes and she misses you all. Josey	jrtjosey	5	421	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	I have to have control of my life..... (Preview) As I posted a response to Trust, I still sit here thinking that somehow, I need to have control of my life. I guess I am thinking that I am not taking control yet. The alcohal is still controlling my life, the person I think I love is controlling my life and I do not like where it is going. ...	daymama	5	368	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	Time to let go (Preview) Well, today, I finally managed to 'let go.' The A has been telling me for a while now that it's over, and I've finally come to terms with that. I realized that by trying to do things so he would see that I'm still the person that he fell in love with was only taking the focus off of my recovery. I realized that i...	nachoqtpie	4	405	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	How Important Is It? (Preview) ((( Hello Group))) In today's Courage To Change the topic is learning the slogan "How Important Is It"? In the Today's Reminder it says If I encounter an upsetting situation, I will ask myself How Important Is It? before I respond. I am such a reactionary person. If I felt pa...	twinmom2	4	310	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	just an update (Preview) hi guys , great to see you here ! and love to read and reply on this board when I can. Anyway going on from what I said last time I started a thread , the guy that I was seeing actually admitted to half-cheating . You'll have to use your imagination about what that means I think. And he also said that he would fin...	Vicky R	3	317	Aug 17, 2006 by Vicky R
	Let us be careful... (Preview) Attempting to do what we are not trained to do is using bad judgment; we must resist the temptation to assign descriptive words that should only be spoken by a professional who is fully educated in making such pronouncements. (I'm not even too sure about some of them.) A blanket statement, lumping all...	Diva	12	567	Aug 17, 2006 by diamond
	New to the Board (Preview) Hello every one I found this site just by looking around. I have been in Al anon for 3 years now safe me from a lot of pain. good to be here. look forward to getting to know you all	Gemuk91	3	263	Aug 17, 2006 by lmt123
	It was nice to hear (Preview) Just talked to my attorney...LOL (funny 'cause he was my A's friend before my attorney, and last October when I asked A to move out, he went and talked to the attorney about a divorce and attorney told him he couldn't discuss the matter with him because he is MY a...	marmare	2	263	Aug 17, 2006 by Karilynn
	Love... what is it anyway??? (Preview) Love ... such a simple word yet a complex term. love n. 1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness....	sandie123	8	536	Aug 17, 2006 by canadianguy
	Wide Open Spaces... (Preview) Howdy everyone: Hope everyone is doing well. I am back from Wyoming and it was such a peaceful, wonderful trip I just can't believe it! What a wonderful place. I live in Colorado and have driven through WY once, it was not too exciting. But, this time my Mom and her husband and I d...	hersh	2	474	Aug 17, 2006 by Becky1
	Looking for Temp Male Sponsor Online (Preview) Hello my name is Gary and I am looking for a Male sponsor to assist me in working the steps. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend who attends AA. I want to work the program for me. I do attend at least 3 ftf meetings a week and have for a few years. But have never had a sponsor or really worked the step...	moto	1	309	Aug 17, 2006 by Dolphin123
	thinking of leaving (Preview) I have been looking for any way to stay home with my A husband and have not been able to find one. I am so darn mad that he has taken my ability to stay home away from me that I could just scream. We live in the house he had before we were married and he is not about to leave so I guess I will. &...	Gramma Pat	5	492	Aug 17, 2006 by Belongtome
	A Sincere Heatfelt Thank You (Preview) I'm new here & still trying to understand things, that it isn't always my fault. So this is all strange & comforting, if that makes sense. My first post was just a few days ago & is now on page 2. I feel bad that it took awhile for me to thank everyone who had made a response to my thread & this is a thank u to them &...	Souljacker	3	347	Aug 17, 2006 by hersh
	The 12 Steps (Preview) I keep hearing about the 12 steps. May I ask how to learn more about this part of the program? If anyone can guide me to what literature I should get, that would be appreciated too! I've also heard something about a Daily Blessing book? Thank You!	Freatlast	3	334	Aug 17, 2006 by Freatlast
	Feeling Stupid (Preview) Sometimes I wonder how many times I have to go thru something to finally get it. I have been seperated from my A husband since November. In that time we would have "short lived" periods where we would be talking and trying to work things out. Then there would be other times when I may s...	JulieLynn	4	302	Aug 17, 2006 by omajoy
	Right site or should I be in some relationship site? (Preview) Don't know where to turn. 1st time here. Read thru some threads & my story seems minimal compared to everyone's heartache here. Not sure where to turn anymore. Met my "A" boyfriend 2 yrs ago. Had our salad days & fell in love quick. Then I noticed the heavy drinkin. Drinking before I met him, during dinne...	Souljacker	13	386	Aug 17, 2006 by Souljacker
	Didn't make my meeting (Preview) No, I didn't make my meeting because my a/bf called and asked if I could bring his son home, he would tell me why when we got there. Figured he wanted to talk to me so I agreeded. When I got there he told me he had been talking to a friend who had lost his nephew in a drunk driving accident Saturday night. he had b...	sisdragonfly1957	2	392	Aug 17, 2006 by kitty
	Speaking out of the side of his mouth (Preview) Well, I posted about not knowing what my HP wanted for me. My HP sure keeps me connected to my AHsober through transmissions on the blink. We drove 6 hours to pick up our car and visit our son in college. So my H drove one car back the same day. He had to finish some work. He avoids deadlines and procras...	nmike	3	410	Aug 17, 2006 by BlueCloud
	Turning my will over (Preview) Hi ala-pals, Gosh, I love this program!!! When you show up, and you open up your heart and mind, something comes to you. Tonite in the online meeting, I had an "ah - ha!" as folks were sharing about resentment and getting over it. In the past, I have struggled to work step three b/c I didn't understand...	itsgot2bgd	1	293	Aug 16, 2006 by BlueCloud
	First things First (Preview) That saying or slogan to me has changed meanings in so many ways over the years. First things First was always something that came before me. I gave my attention and time to so many other things and people before I even considered myself. There were pockets of time that I "really too...	twinmom2	4	3635	Aug 16, 2006 by BlueCloud
	Just found out he cheated!! (Preview) Yes, I found out he cheated on me and I am so crushed and don't know what to do. It is a long story, but I will try to be brief. Found out, conforted him, he denies that he slept with her. Of course. I feel so used and hurt. How could he be with me after he had been with me as if nothing happened? Sometimes...	sisdragonfly1957	10	654	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	UPDATE (Preview) I just wanted to give an update on the way things are going since I have set the BOUNDRY. Things are going much better in my home. He has come strait home from work everyday, and he did not drink for almost a week. He, of course, made up for lost times this weekend. The diffence...	bluebjade	3	259	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Trust (Preview) TRUST a big word. I had/have issue with trust. I ask myself, is it only my A that made me feel i cant ever trust anybody, or was the issue deep down in me before i knew him? Anything in childhood, first boyfried, second boyfriend, all the boyfriends? There is a question for all of you, how do you deal w...	daisy2	7	435	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Still hurts (Preview) Well, he walked in here this morning, sober as a judge, took a shower, and went to bed. Guess he's slepping now in my compfy bed, just like nothing happened. Ya know, when this 'other being' invades his body, it always finds ways to hurt me. I know I am having real problems with detatching 'cause it stil...	TLC2	5	389	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Help Please (Preview) Hi everyone, im new here. I am seeking advice and support as I am a daughter (23) of an alcoholic, she finally admitted to me she still has a problem, she has always said it was in the past. she is currently in hospital undergoing detox (which she has had before) I wondered if anyone can give me adv...	sarah	8	424	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Reflections and Discovery (Preview) Hi again my friends, Well, I did a lot of thinking lately. And ya know, it all came back to one thing. Every time my A has hit the bottle this Summer, was when MY family was here. My kids are well brought up, mannerly, kind and loving.They are not monsters that would 'drive a man to drink'!! Therefore, I...	TLC2	4	407	Aug 16, 2006 by TLC2
	those who are critical of us (Preview) I was reading at the weekend. This was the lesson I learned, and thought I'd share it with you.... There are some people who are very critical of others. They spend a lot of time telling us what is wrong with us. These people are not deserving of uor loyalty... Be careful when you hear someone doi...	annmarie	9	556	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
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