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Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I am having one of those mixed up days today.....So I thought I'd come in and just let it out....Friday I went to see about a job...have to be back Monday morning and talk to the supervisor...I know her personally so it will be fine..just a little concerned about the hours....don't t...

leo · leo

Well to many this may seem a small step but to me it is a big one. Today I was out the back sweeping up the patio having a general clean up and then looking around the backyard for mesh to cover the holes our dogs have dug. Started off enjoying it then looked around me at things that have been negl...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Woooo Hoooo!!! And I'm powerless. For the last 3 week I've been caring for my mom, who has dementia and motor problems, while my dad heals from open heart surgery. I don't think my life has been this unmanagable since my AH was in the house, lol. My dad absolutely refused...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Family))) I've had an Ah-ha realization yesterday. I took off from work because my weekend was stressful. Not because of anything serious that happened, just my attitude and perception of my environment. I really took my stress and irritation out on the kids, just snappy...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys just to update for you... my ex "A" turned up from his travels... and got back on track... he still not working but has decided to go back to college which is good. however he is still in the depths o depression... he goes thru periods of being happy with loadsa energy and looks forward to doing ne...

debilyn · debilyn

The horrible, mean, manipulative, liar, living with another woman, A has hurt me so bad, that I hate my husband who does not have the balls to stand up and choose the light. NO I am not free. He loves that, able to hold onto me. whatever. sexless wonder he is. Don't think I have ever felt like thi...

debilyn · debilyn

(oo) snouters, Your posts made me laugh and cry too. You guys are awful smart. I needed all the words everyone posted. It hurts to go thru these milestones in alanon. But becuz we help each other, it makes it easier. I turned my phones off and I am not emailing right now. I feel I need a break fr...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((alanon family)))) Could someone please explain this to me? I hear it often that I am right where I am supposed to be,and everyone else seems to agree and understand.I guess I must be dense. We all know we can make bad decisions,bad choices.If I had stayed separated from my AH 10 years ag...

whittibo · whittibo

Here's my pickle. My aunt got released from jail on July 5th. She served 8 months for her 3rd or 4th DUI. She was staying with my mom, helping mom after a near death illness and left mom's place suddenly on August 9th and never came back. We found out on the 11t...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

In one of my meditation books there was a line that caught my eye "Beauty and self love is a taught behavior that becomes habit--like self hatred." As I meditated on that today, I paused for a moment and realized I still have reminants of self hatred that we talk about in the 3 C's (I didn't ca...

lin0606 · lin0606

We had our district roundup this weekend - it is an AA/alanon weekend, held at a local campground. It's always quite a lot of fun - pot luck dinner on Saturday night, pancake breakfast on Sunday, lot of open meetings, and speakers. It's never very well organized here - nobody ever knows who's doing...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Morning All, A couple of weeks ago I posted about the proverbial elephant in my living room and my concerns if he would join us on our family vacation. Well I am happy to say that he apparently took a seperate vacation. While not a perfect vacation - it was a good one. I had a couple of...

omajoy · omajoy

I am trying very hard to detach from my son and his problems with alcohol and with his life (related to his problems, of course). This weekend started great with Friday's good activity with him and his ex and their baby going out to eat...a new tradition they are trying. Saturday morning he called to say...

GreenGem · GreenGem

First, I want to say thanks to everyone here, as the meetings and chats are helping me to get by, one day at a time. :) I'm learning more every day. I'm still having a really horrible time, and I feel guilty as I'm reading about so many active A's... my own A is newly in recovery, sober (as far...

Freatlast · Freatlast

I had a hearing for yesterday for the restraining order I pulled on my almost ex, keeping his truck and emergency support. I got 1 out of three. The restraining order is in effect for 1 year. I only got this because he admitted pulling a gun. Lied about only pulling it on himsel...

marmare · marmare

So today I wake with only a small amount of anxiousness...this is good for me. The weekend was exhausting as most of mom's house is packed, sorted, etc. It is a very emotional journey. I have not talked to my A since Friday, as he went fishing for the weekend. I sat last night re...

babz · babz

I began my own recovery journey from alcoholism and drug addiction in 1987. I have also had a lot of therapy - like 17 years - to deal with depression, anxiety and avoidance issues. It's been long hard road, but worth every step. I am well employed and own my own condo now, which is paid for. About...

marmare · marmare

I keep asking myself, that question. Will I ever have had enough? LOL I have to smile at that because every time I have had enough, jumped at the bait, lost myself in my A's problems, he becomes charming, sober, and caring. I have been at my mother's house 2 1/2 months. While sh...

desperate for help · desperate for help

My husband was doing good for several days, just drinking beer and not vodka, not getting drunk every night. Then he told me that I was making his life miserable b.c I was all over him for his drinking. I realized that he was not ready for any kind of help, so I detached my self from the whole th...

John · John

If I want to quote religious scriptures, promote or advertise my religious beliefs, belittle, degrade others beliefs, condemn them with the wrath of God, or threaten them with hell etc.. I could and should join a like minded chat room, or a local ministry.. It doesn't belong in A...

frog58 · frog58

Greetings all, Two weeks ago I started my god box and placed the outcome of my current job in it. For the last two hours the committee in my head (the old thought patterns), is taking it out. I keep telling the committee it's not mine anymore...yet I keep dwelling on it and worry a...

jaja · jaja

Becky1 · Becky1

For some reason, I love this song! I like to turn it up real loud and sing along! I'm going to keep on going, and I'm not gonna slow down or show that I am scared. I'm getting out of my personal hell! One Day at a Time. Thanks to HP and my Al-anon Angel friends. Yee-haw! ...

shamama · shamama

i thank you in advance!

endoftherope · endoftherope

Not because I will miss all of the drama, or even him for that matter at this point because I'm totally fed up with the drinking, the verbal abuse, and the broken promises. I have had it. He ruins almost every social event, weekend, and holiday for everyone. Everytime he gets drunk I get to hear a...

ditto · ditto

Based upon some topics I have begun to wonder the following: Every rule has its exceptions. If this is true and we focus on the exceptions and not the rule, are we taking politcal correctness to absurd lengths? For instance: if alcoholism generally involves denial, but there are some alcoholi...

afmom03 · afmom03

I'm trapped!!! Trapped because my "A" husband still hasn't fixed the brakes on my car, and it's just sitting out in the yard lookin' like a piece of junk crap! The sun is taking the paint off in places...the battery is just a few months new, but already loosing charge because it's&n...

CarrieB · CarrieB

Hello. I've just joined both forums as I don't know which is right for me. I went to an ACoA meeting twice before. I got uncomfortable because no one talked to me nor really explained the format. Everyone gathered around in a circle kind of tranced. Each took a turn talking...

Diva · Diva

I liked Isabela's post so much, I thought it might be fun for those of us who wish to write a short biographical sketch of ourselves. I feel that I know so many of you, and would love to hear what you do, what you enjoy, what your interests are; the usual stuff. Not one word about the A. Anyone interested? I wi...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was at work today. My A, Tina calls around 1pm. She left with me this am to take two of our pets to the vet. The dog ,Bess has a rash on her nose . It is a fungus like ringworm. The cat, Bug has flea dermetitis. He had a shot for his bad allergy. just one flea breaks him out. Tina got home and found severa...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

In HOPE FOR TODAY, the writer of a reading not too far ago discusses how her home life--alcholic and violent--created such fear in her that, any time she was in a position of authority, usually in an employment situation, the consistent pattern that emerged was fear based control; inab...

Freatlast · Freatlast

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daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, as you know by now, im doing my own thing with my recovery and some of you will not agree with me, but im here becouse i want to share and maybe someone is in same situation as me. I started to look at my relationship with my Abf in different light. I picked some books from my mother. Nothing to do wi...

cher · cher

updata, hubby has done 7 meetings in 7 days with AA. WOW what a change, whole mentality has changed, not stopped drinking yet completly, but they dont encourage that right away. This is all he has been talking about and it has made a huge difference in the way he thinks. and because of this chat line, at le...

artygirl · artygirl

So here's my situation now... I told my A, cocaine-addicted husband that he needed to get help or get out. I've said it many times, but this week I said it again, meant it and plan to follow through with my threat. I'm calling a lawyer first thing Monday and one of us is moving out of our house. He doesn't kno...

debilyn · debilyn

whoa is this what it feels like to be a fool??? To think I spouted my love for him, and shared his fake love in jail to me. TT saw it, said don't get sucked into the drama. abbyal saw it. others saw it. All these years, using me, taking all he could. Never being there. giving me bits of hope since I wa...

gardengal · gardengal

Oh man, am I there yet? For years I have tried and tried to control the alcoholics drinking,,failing miserabley each time. Falling down in dispair, but eventually getting up and trying again and again. I was definately slamming my head against a brick wall! Because I loved my husband of 30 years, I was...

debilyn · debilyn

Well since I am an open book, most of you know, or some of you know, maybe two of you read my stuff and know? haha You know how I said I was letting go again, that it is back to where it was before he went to jail? my A that is? I am ok, and those feelings of omg he is back??? Are gone. Which is good, hp does...

debilyn · debilyn

I need to let things out. Hope it is ok to vent. I know I am tired, it is evening. My son called. I asked he not call A but to go face him. A can act all big and scarey on the phone, but face to face, with my (his bio son) very big powerful son, he is a larvae. Feel sick inside and very sad. Th...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

Here it is Friday afternoon and I am about to cry at the thought of going home in an hour. I can't seem to stay focused on any of the possitive things that will come without my A husband. I go between totally teed off and boohooing like a fool. I wish there was some way we could just talk ab...

artygirl · artygirl

I just spent the evening with my best friend and my husband's former best friend (his best friend from childhood until just recently when he confronted him about his addictions and behavior.) They both made me realize enough is enough. My husband is not only an extremely active alcoholic, but a cocai...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex ah called me last night at 3am. he knows the kids are gone all weekend. i was looking forward to a good night's sleep. but no. he's drunk and has to make sure i am here. the thing is when i was telling my friend this story she assumed he just wanted to get together for a quickie. no, i explained. maybe a reg...

frog58 · frog58

start saving the coins....woudln't it be great to try to meet up........... July 4 - 6, 2008 Al-Anon International Convention with AA Participation Pittsburgh, PA USA Updates will be available on the WSO website beginning in 2007, but individual members planning to attend can start saving no...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Vinny came out of surgery around the time the vets office closed. They told me earlier today that he was at the front of pen when they got to work. So that is a good sign. He did have some stuff wrong on his blood test not sure what yet. Anyway he had 2 hernia repairs & has drain...

sld488 · sld488

My bf called earlier to tell me he would not be home this weekend because of work. This makes me sad. I have come to enjoy the weekends with him here. He also told me he got a better job opportunity but he would be traveling more. Right now he is gone 4-5 days a week but with this new vent...

evey · evey

Well my AH has picked up again, he was sneaking it here and sneaking it there maintaining but "crashed" yesterday. He picked me up at my job half loaded. It was noticable. Today I come home and the bathroom is trashed, towel rack out of the wall, shower curtains pulled down, urine everywhere, a...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, hey if you click under someones name it says,"view profile." If you click on mine you can read about me. But I just went to that place and I don't see anywhere there where you write one?? Where did it go? Is it where we can pick or make an avatar? I will have to go back and look. I love the idea o...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi all, I am diligently trying to Mind my own business at the moment. Found out my ex bf whose been sober for 4mos and who I was to meet for cofffee this week.....went to jail a couple of days ago on a contempt of court charge. I saw him at mtg. on Mon and he asked me to coffee. As I mentioned in some of my earl...

debilyn · debilyn

Well I still have bronchitis but much better each day. Sure zaps my strength. But am getting more done. Anyway I have not heard from A. I was being tortured in my heart, not ready to let go. But hp musta decided I had had enough becuz I am starting to let go again. I don't want to think of him at all. So I d...

omajoy · omajoy

Once more it is Friday and the weekend looms ahead of me and as usual, I dread dread dread it! Last night my son called me on the way home from his class and ended the call with "well, I hope we can have a sane weekend..." His reference to past ones where he and his ex tangle over his visitation with the b...

hersh · hersh

Getting tired of things today. AH quit his job last week. It was only part time anyway, not bringing in much. Now he has an interview today for a printing place (his original career before he relapsed so badly this year). He has a nice shiner from his daughter’s boyfriend.&n...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I was thinking this morning about my work, my program, and balance. You see I work in the social service field (using my codie ways to help the world, lol) and alot of our participants have substance abuse issues or are the loved one of someone with a substance abuse issue. And my strug...

shadow1 · shadow1

Today I had to meet my mom at the house so she could pack clothes. She has decided that this was it. She is not going back. I can’t say I blame her ser safety is in jeopardy. That was very hard for me. It was hard to see mom running around the house I grew up in packing her clothes and gathering up things sh...

maire rua · maire rua

Hello all, work is unstable for me at the best of times, I am a medieval historian. Unfortunately just due to asking when my outline was needed for a course starting this semester september, I was casually informed that this entire course might not be running as they have not got enough applicants, alw...

ragingchild · ragingchild

Well, here lately I've really felt like I've been dealt a really crappy hand in life. I was sexually abused as a child, as a teenager I dealt with an alcoholic mother, and in my adult life I am faced with polycystic ovary syndrome. Am I unlucky or am I magnet for bad things to happen? I a...

jmarie22 · jmarie22

I found this website, and have been reading a lot of the posts. It has been helpful, I feel like someone else might actually "get" what I am going through. My mom is an alcoholic and is so deep in denial. (and so out of control) She stopped drinking a few months ago and I found out she was drinking mouthw...

Jmr · Jmr

I need some advise, I do not know where else to turn. I met a guy about 3 months ago, (I will call him Shane) I fell very hard and very fast for him. He is one of those guys that you pray will come along, the kind that gives you butterflies in your stomach everytime you think about him.&nbs...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((((alanon friends))))) There have been many recent posts about the negative characteristics of alcoholics and I have taken part in them. I would like to look at the other side of the coin.I would like to hear what's good about your A.Come on,it can't be all bad. First I want to say that in a re...

rtexas · rtexas

(((Everyone))) I was in a real funk yesterday. But I feel much better now... Drucilla's post about the other side of the coin stumped me yesterday. I had a long list of things I really love about my wife, and I scratched them off one by one saying at least she used to be that way, but not an...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, This poem was on the AA board. I asked the person who found it online if I could share it all with you and she was delighted. So here ya go! I took Step One, began to moan I can't do this one on my own. I took Step Two, began to pray Restore me God, please now, today. I took Step Three, gave up m...

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	One Wonderful Day At A Time (Preview) Hello Friends, I am having one of those mixed up days today.....So I thought I'd come in and just let it out....Friday I went to see about a job...have to be back Monday morning and talk to the supervisor...I know her personally so it will be fine..just a little concerned about the hours....don't t...	Andrea12	4	445	Aug 22, 2006 by Karilynn
	confidence (Preview) Well to many this may seem a small step but to me it is a big one. Today I was out the back sweeping up the patio having a general clean up and then looking around the backyard for mesh to cover the holes our dogs have dug. Started off enjoying it then looked around me at things that have been negl...	leo	4	329	Aug 22, 2006 by Karilynn
	I'm Back ! (Preview) Woooo Hoooo!!! And I'm powerless. For the last 3 week I've been caring for my mom, who has dementia and motor problems, while my dad heals from open heart surgery. I don't think my life has been this unmanagable since my AH was in the house, lol. My dad absolutely refused...	Lunamoth	5	276	Aug 22, 2006 by Karilynn
	Body,Mind,and Spirit have suffered enough (Preview) (((Family))) I've had an Ah-ha realization yesterday. I took off from work because my weekend was stressful. Not because of anything serious that happened, just my attitude and perception of my environment. I really took my stress and irritation out on the kids, just snappy...	twinmom2	3	308	Aug 22, 2006 by AlaMom
	Pondering and wondering.... (Preview) hi guys just to update for you... my ex "A" turned up from his travels... and got back on track... he still not working but has decided to go back to college which is good. however he is still in the depths o depression... he goes thru periods of being happy with loadsa energy and looks forward to doing ne...	Rebecca	2	281	Aug 22, 2006 by annmarie
	for the first time (Preview) The horrible, mean, manipulative, liar, living with another woman, A has hurt me so bad, that I hate my husband who does not have the balls to stand up and choose the light. NO I am not free. He loves that, able to hold onto me. whatever. sexless wonder he is. Don't think I have ever felt like thi...	debilyn	6	447	Aug 21, 2006 by maresie2
	thoink you (Preview) (oo) snouters, Your posts made me laugh and cry too. You guys are awful smart. I needed all the words everyone posted. It hurts to go thru these milestones in alanon. But becuz we help each other, it makes it easier. I turned my phones off and I am not emailing right now. I feel I need a break fr...	debilyn	3	293	Aug 21, 2006 by maresie2
	right where we are supposed to be?? (Preview) (((((alanon family)))) Could someone please explain this to me? I hear it often that I am right where I am supposed to be,and everyone else seems to agree and understand.I guess I must be dense. We all know we can make bad decisions,bad choices.If I had stayed separated from my AH 10 years ag...	drucilla06	6	548	Aug 21, 2006 by kitty
	Anyone know about parole violation? (Preview) Here's my pickle. My aunt got released from jail on July 5th. She served 8 months for her 3rd or 4th DUI. She was staying with my mom, helping mom after a near death illness and left mom's place suddenly on August 9th and never came back. We found out on the 11t...	whittibo	4	318	Aug 21, 2006 by whittibo
	Who would withstand this insanity? (Preview) In one of my meditation books there was a line that caught my eye "Beauty and self love is a taught behavior that becomes habit--like self hatred." As I meditated on that today, I paused for a moment and realized I still have reminants of self hatred that we talk about in the 3 C's (I didn't ca...	Tiger2006	4	346	Aug 21, 2006 by lmt123
	Great meeting (Preview) We had our district roundup this weekend - it is an AA/alanon weekend, held at a local campground. It's always quite a lot of fun - pot luck dinner on Saturday night, pancake breakfast on Sunday, lot of open meetings, and speakers. It's never very well organized here - nobody ever knows who's doing...	lin0606	0	254	Aug 21, 2006 by lin0606
	Update-Elephant in the Living Room (Preview) Morning All, A couple of weeks ago I posted about the proverbial elephant in my living room and my concerns if he would join us on our family vacation. Well I am happy to say that he apparently took a seperate vacation. While not a perfect vacation - it was a good one. I had a couple of...	AlaMom	3	365	Aug 21, 2006 by megan
	detachment or abandonment? (Preview) I am trying very hard to detach from my son and his problems with alcohol and with his life (related to his problems, of course). This weekend started great with Friday's good activity with him and his ex and their baby going out to eat...a new tradition they are trying. Saturday morning he called to say...	omajoy	5	635	Aug 21, 2006 by greta
	Hanging on (Preview) First, I want to say thanks to everyone here, as the meetings and chats are helping me to get by, one day at a time. :) I'm learning more every day. I'm still having a really horrible time, and I feel guilty as I'm reading about so many active A's... my own A is newly in recovery, sober (as far...	GreenGem	4	345	Aug 21, 2006 by Becky1
	I lost in court (Preview) I had a hearing for yesterday for the restraining order I pulled on my almost ex, keeping his truck and emergency support. I got 1 out of three. The restraining order is in effect for 1 year. I only got this because he admitted pulling a gun. Lied about only pulling it on himsel...	Freatlast	17	533	Aug 21, 2006 by peewee
	So Today (Preview) So today I wake with only a small amount of anxiousness...this is good for me. The weekend was exhausting as most of mom's house is packed, sorted, etc. It is a very emotional journey. I have not talked to my A since Friday, as he went fishing for the weekend. I sat last night re...	marmare	1	265	Aug 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Gambling (Preview) I began my own recovery journey from alcoholism and drug addiction in 1987. I have also had a lot of therapy - like 17 years - to deal with depression, anxiety and avoidance issues. It's been long hard road, but worth every step. I am well employed and own my own condo now, which is paid for. About...	babz	5	676	Aug 21, 2006 by babz
	Have I really had enough? (Preview) I keep asking myself, that question. Will I ever have had enough? LOL I have to smile at that because every time I have had enough, jumped at the bait, lost myself in my A's problems, he becomes charming, sober, and caring. I have been at my mother's house 2 1/2 months. While sh...	marmare	4	372	Aug 21, 2006 by hersh
	I know I am not alone... (Preview) My husband was doing good for several days, just drinking beer and not vodka, not getting drunk every night. Then he told me that I was making his life miserable b.c I was all over him for his drinking. I realized that he was not ready for any kind of help, so I detached my self from the whole th...	desperate for help	3	427	Aug 21, 2006 by beachbaby
	Religious Promotion or Endorsement is NOT Allowed Here! (Preview) If I want to quote religious scriptures, promote or advertise my religious beliefs, belittle, degrade others beliefs, condemn them with the wrath of God, or threaten them with hell etc.. I could and should join a like minded chat room, or a local ministry.. It doesn't belong in A...	John	30	6653	Aug 21, 2006 by jaja
	turning it over (Preview) Greetings all, Two weeks ago I started my god box and placed the outcome of my current job in it. For the last two hours the committee in my head (the old thought patterns), is taking it out. I keep telling the committee it's not mine anymore...yet I keep dwelling on it and worry a...	frog58	7	470	Aug 21, 2006 by Freatlast
	puzzled (Preview)	jaja	1	272	Aug 21, 2006 by Lunamoth
	If You're Going Through Hell (Preview) For some reason, I love this song! I like to turn it up real loud and sing along! I'm going to keep on going, and I'm not gonna slow down or show that I am scared. I'm getting out of my personal hell! One Day at a Time. Thanks to HP and my Al-anon Angel friends. Yee-haw! ...	Becky1	4	451	Aug 21, 2006 by Becky1
	can you guide me to a good reading on poor self-esteem and codependance (Preview) i thank you in advance!	shamama	3	356	Aug 21, 2006 by kitty
	My fear of divorce (Preview) Not because I will miss all of the drama, or even him for that matter at this point because I'm totally fed up with the drinking, the verbal abuse, and the broken promises. I have had it. He ruins almost every social event, weekend, and holiday for everyone. Everytime he gets drunk I get to hear a...	endoftherope	4	520	Aug 21, 2006 by isabela40
	Every Rule (Preview) Based upon some topics I have begun to wonder the following: Every rule has its exceptions. If this is true and we focus on the exceptions and not the rule, are we taking politcal correctness to absurd lengths? For instance: if alcoholism generally involves denial, but there are some alcoholi...	ditto	3	337	Aug 20, 2006 by Lunamoth
	I Cant Get Busy/or Better if..... (Preview) I'm trapped!!! Trapped because my "A" husband still hasn't fixed the brakes on my car, and it's just sitting out in the yard lookin' like a piece of junk crap! The sun is taking the paint off in places...the battery is just a few months new, but already loosing charge because it's&n...	afmom03	6	594	Aug 20, 2006 by lin0606
	Al-Anon vs ACoA? (Preview) Hello. I've just joined both forums as I don't know which is right for me. I went to an ACoA meeting twice before. I got uncomfortable because no one talked to me nor really explained the format. Everyone gathered around in a circle kind of tranced. Each took a turn talking...	CarrieB	4	887	Aug 20, 2006 by CarrieB
	Short bios (Preview) I liked Isabela's post so much, I thought it might be fun for those of us who wish to write a short biographical sketch of ourselves. I feel that I know so many of you, and would love to hear what you do, what you enjoy, what your interests are; the usual stuff. Not one word about the A. Anyone interested? I wi...	Diva	11	3604	Aug 20, 2006 by mimi
	Urgent Prayers needed for our dog (Preview) I was at work today. My A, Tina calls around 1pm. She left with me this am to take two of our pets to the vet. The dog ,Bess has a rash on her nose . It is a fungus like ringworm. The cat, Bug has flea dermetitis. He had a shot for his bad allergy. just one flea breaks him out. Tina got home and found severa...	hmrnrnmm	9	1072	Aug 20, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Ambiguity in relationships (Preview) In HOPE FOR TODAY, the writer of a reading not too far ago discusses how her home life--alcholic and violent--created such fear in her that, any time she was in a position of authority, usually in an employment situation, the consistent pattern that emerged was fear based control; inab...	Tiger2006	2	455	Aug 20, 2006 by sld488
	All I have to say is.... (Preview) Today was/is a good day	Freatlast	2	283	Aug 20, 2006 by sld488
	MY RECOVERY (Preview) Hi all, as you know by now, im doing my own thing with my recovery and some of you will not agree with me, but im here becouse i want to share and maybe someone is in same situation as me. I started to look at my relationship with my Abf in different light. I picked some books from my mother. Nothing to do wi...	daisy2	2	359	Aug 20, 2006 by daisy2
	still very very happy Update (Preview) updata, hubby has done 7 meetings in 7 days with AA. WOW what a change, whole mentality has changed, not stopped drinking yet completly, but they dont encourage that right away. This is all he has been talking about and it has made a huge difference in the way he thinks. and because of this chat line, at le...	cher	4	359	Aug 20, 2006 by daisy2
	The next morning... (Preview) So here's my situation now... I told my A, cocaine-addicted husband that he needed to get help or get out. I've said it many times, but this week I said it again, meant it and plan to follow through with my threat. I'm calling a lawyer first thing Monday and one of us is moving out of our house. He doesn't kno...	artygirl	5	461	Aug 19, 2006 by lin0606
	a fool (Preview) whoa is this what it feels like to be a fool??? To think I spouted my love for him, and shared his fake love in jail to me. TT saw it, said don't get sucked into the drama. abbyal saw it. others saw it. All these years, using me, taking all he could. Never being there. giving me bits of hope since I wa...	debilyn	13	617	Aug 19, 2006 by leo
	Can you accept the fact that you cant control the alcoholic nor any other adult person and truly accept that alcoholism is an illness? (Preview) Oh man, am I there yet? For years I have tried and tried to control the alcoholics drinking,,failing miserabley each time. Falling down in dispair, but eventually getting up and trying again and again. I was definately slamming my head against a brick wall! Because I loved my husband of 30 years, I was...	gardengal	10	719	Aug 19, 2006 by maresie2
	Would be so lost w/out ya'll (Preview) Well since I am an open book, most of you know, or some of you know, maybe two of you read my stuff and know? haha You know how I said I was letting go again, that it is back to where it was before he went to jail? my A that is? I am ok, and those feelings of omg he is back??? Are gone. Which is good, hp does...	debilyn	3	342	Aug 19, 2006 by maresie2
	me again, sorry (Preview) I need to let things out. Hope it is ok to vent. I know I am tired, it is evening. My son called. I asked he not call A but to go face him. A can act all big and scarey on the phone, but face to face, with my (his bio son) very big powerful son, he is a larvae. Feel sick inside and very sad. Th...	debilyn	3	382	Aug 19, 2006 by TLC2
	Could we Pleeeeese not have weekends (Preview) Here it is Friday afternoon and I am about to cry at the thought of going home in an hour. I can't seem to stay focused on any of the possitive things that will come without my A husband. I go between totally teed off and boohooing like a fool. I wish there was some way we could just talk ab...	Gramma Pat	4	423	Aug 19, 2006 by Freatlast
	I'm pretty sure my marriage is over. (Preview) I just spent the evening with my best friend and my husband's former best friend (his best friend from childhood until just recently when he confronted him about his addictions and behavior.) They both made me realize enough is enough. My husband is not only an extremely active alcoholic, but a cocai...	artygirl	4	560	Aug 19, 2006 by beachbaby
	new boundry (Preview) my ex ah called me last night at 3am. he knows the kids are gone all weekend. i was looking forward to a good night's sleep. but no. he's drunk and has to make sure i am here. the thing is when i was telling my friend this story she assumed he just wanted to get together for a quickie. no, i explained. maybe a reg...	serendipity	4	395	Aug 19, 2006 by Jerry F
	alanon international convention (Preview) start saving the coins....woudln't it be great to try to meet up........... July 4 - 6, 2008 Al-Anon International Convention with AA Participation Pittsburgh, PA USA Updates will be available on the WSO website beginning in 2007, but individual members planning to attend can start saving no...	frog58	2	565	Aug 19, 2006 by isabela40
	Update on Vinny (Preview) Vinny came out of surgery around the time the vets office closed. They told me earlier today that he was at the front of pen when they got to work. So that is a good sign. He did have some stuff wrong on his blood test not sure what yet. Anyway he had 2 hernia repairs & has drain...	hmrnrnmm	2	345	Aug 18, 2006 by artygirl
	Selfish me. (Preview) My bf called earlier to tell me he would not be home this weekend because of work. This makes me sad. I have come to enjoy the weekends with him here. He also told me he got a better job opportunity but he would be traveling more. Right now he is gone 4-5 days a week but with this new vent...	sld488	3	339	Aug 18, 2006 by doxie
	had it with myself (Preview) Well my AH has picked up again, he was sneaking it here and sneaking it there maintaining but "crashed" yesterday. He picked me up at my job half loaded. It was noticable. Today I come home and the bathroom is trashed, towel rack out of the wall, shower curtains pulled down, urine everywhere, a...	evey	3	423	Aug 18, 2006 by Jill
	Diva ? (Preview) Hi, hey if you click under someones name it says,"view profile." If you click on mine you can read about me. But I just went to that place and I don't see anywhere there where you write one?? Where did it go? Is it where we can pick or make an avatar? I will have to go back and look. I love the idea o...	debilyn	2	332	Aug 18, 2006 by debilyn
	Minding my own business and its hard! (Preview) Hi all, I am diligently trying to Mind my own business at the moment. Found out my ex bf whose been sober for 4mos and who I was to meet for cofffee this week.....went to jail a couple of days ago on a contempt of court charge. I saw him at mtg. on Mon and he asked me to coffee. As I mentioned in some of my earl...	beachbaby	1	360	Aug 18, 2006 by sld488
	hi, just yakking (Preview) Well I still have bronchitis but much better each day. Sure zaps my strength. But am getting more done. Anyway I have not heard from A. I was being tortured in my heart, not ready to let go. But hp musta decided I had had enough becuz I am starting to let go again. I don't want to think of him at all. So I d...	debilyn	2	356	Aug 18, 2006 by maresie2
	Sanity this weekend??? (Preview) Once more it is Friday and the weekend looms ahead of me and as usual, I dread dread dread it! Last night my son called me on the way home from his class and ended the call with "well, I hope we can have a sane weekend..." His reference to past ones where he and his ex tangle over his visitation with the b...	omajoy	3	363	Aug 18, 2006 by omajoy
	All I can do.... (Preview) Getting tired of things today. AH quit his job last week. It was only part time anyway, not bringing in much. Now he has an interview today for a printing place (his original career before he relapsed so badly this year). He has a nice shiner from his daughter’s boyfriend.&n...	hersh	1	305	Aug 18, 2006 by ollie
	Trying to maintain balcance (not really sure if this will make any sense) (Preview) Hi all, I was thinking this morning about my work, my program, and balance. You see I work in the social service field (using my codie ways to help the world, lol) and alot of our participants have substance abuse issues or are the loved one of someone with a substance abuse issue. And my strug...	Dolphin123	6	430	Aug 18, 2006 by DoN4me
	wow what a day (Preview) Today I had to meet my mom at the house so she could pack clothes. She has decided that this was it. She is not going back. I can’t say I blame her ser safety is in jeopardy. That was very hard for me. It was hard to see mom running around the house I grew up in packing her clothes and gathering up things sh...	shadow1	6	317	Aug 18, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Say a Prayer (Preview) Hello all, work is unstable for me at the best of times, I am a medieval historian. Unfortunately just due to asking when my outline was needed for a course starting this semester september, I was casually informed that this entire course might not be running as they have not got enough applicants, alw...	maire rua	2	368	Aug 18, 2006 by hersh
	Frustrations (Preview) Well, here lately I've really felt like I've been dealt a really crappy hand in life. I was sexually abused as a child, as a teenager I dealt with an alcoholic mother, and in my adult life I am faced with polycystic ovary syndrome. Am I unlucky or am I magnet for bad things to happen? I a...	ragingchild	8	434	Aug 18, 2006 by DoN4me
	Hi, I'm new here (Preview) I found this website, and have been reading a lot of the posts. It has been helpful, I feel like someone else might actually "get" what I am going through. My mom is an alcoholic and is so deep in denial. (and so out of control) She stopped drinking a few months ago and I found out she was drinking mouthw...	jmarie22	4	349	Aug 18, 2006 by Diva
	Help (Preview) I need some advise, I do not know where else to turn. I met a guy about 3 months ago, (I will call him Shane) I fell very hard and very fast for him. He is one of those guys that you pray will come along, the kind that gives you butterflies in your stomach everytime you think about him.&nbs...	Jmr	8	376	Aug 18, 2006 by Mike5056
	let's look at the other side of the coin... (Preview) (((((((alanon friends))))) There have been many recent posts about the negative characteristics of alcoholics and I have taken part in them. I would like to look at the other side of the coin.I would like to hear what's good about your A.Come on,it can't be all bad. First I want to say that in a re...	drucilla06	11	741	Aug 17, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	Do I discount the good in my AW (Preview) (((Everyone))) I was in a real funk yesterday. But I feel much better now... Drucilla's post about the other side of the coin stumped me yesterday. I had a long list of things I really love about my wife, and I scratched them off one by one saying at least she used to be that way, but not an...	rtexas	5	497	Aug 17, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	12 Step Poem (Preview) Hi all, This poem was on the AA board. I asked the person who found it online if I could share it all with you and she was delighted. So here ya go! I took Step One, began to moan I can't do this one on my own. I took Step Two, began to pray Restore me God, please now, today. I took Step Three, gave up m...	Dolphin123	1	680	Aug 17, 2006 by Andrea12
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