Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Well, you all know my birdie had been taken to the doc for a hernia.It busted thru today and she was bleeding alot.I put some stuff called "quikstop" on the two places it was bleeding from.There was blood all over the bottom of her cage.I have no idea if she will make it thru the night or how muc...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...for, I have been thinking, ...alcoholism has brought a bus load of other complications with it. I witness amazing strength and courage in you all as shown in your sharings; some of which I have been reading. What an intricate and wonderful tapestry you all weave. No plain sailing and silver sp...

beaulahg · beaulahg

i went to the city yesterday. i was almost in a serious accident, when someone in front of me stopped suddenly because someone in front of her stopped suddenly, the situation caused me to ponder. what am i doing here? i live in a small town in northern alberta canada, i learned how to drive on a little is...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Everyone,, Thank you for all the responses to my boo hoo posted titled, "what have I done?" Yes, I do take too much on. It frustrates me how talking to him puts me into an entirely different mindframe, and his aism and addiction becomes minimal. I do have a lot of guilt and it drives me crazy...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have been trying to lift myself out of what can be simple panic, overwhelm and being fed up as well as loneliness. I'm recognizing that the A makes choices. Right now he has chosen to contnue on with his crazy behavior. He has spent thousands and thousands of dollars destroying cars in the last few ye...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Got an email from the A when I got home today, I had sent him one saying that he needed to have a home, job, be clean and sober and have a way to get to and from a place to meet to see the kids. He comes back two days later with "well I guess it will be a really long time until I see my babys since you know I can't...

TrazeyB · TrazeyB

Moving Forward.... How ironic that 5 years ago my A reached rock bottom and sought help. I thank my HP Everyday bc he is still sober today and we are happy. Something I never thought would happen..but it did! Well I resigned from my job this week after making the realization that my boss is either a dry dru...

babysteps · babysteps

I am starting a new thread after reading CarolinaGirl's response to Loupiness. My daughter is 7 years old, last night I heard her express concrete evidence that she is affected by her Dad. She and I were getting ready to play with our dog in the backyard when AH started mumbling cr*p under his breath in t...

kissers · kissers

I went to a meeting last night and the speaker talked about pain. She kept talking about all the pain she had deep down inside. Before the meeting, I was full of anger. As she kept discussing the deep pain, I totally lost it. I was sobbing uncontrollably. Her talk about pain flipped a switch. I never knew t...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Didn't sleep all night. My life, but more importantly, the life of my kids is to change forever. I see us teetering on the edge of a cliff, and I just put us there beyond the safety bar with my impatient controlling behavior. My ah put himself in the diversion program to "prove" he is clean. Oka...

danz123 · danz123

MIP Business MeetingOctober 7, 2007 The chair opened the meeting with the serenity prayer, posted the OP schedule and OP duties.The minutes from the September 8, business meeting were approved as written.No treasurers report. Old Business Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) The questions have be...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

Hello all: Well today the bubble burst. I was dreading it before I started coming here but I really am OK with it. The A proceded to drink himself into oblivion as usual but I could feel myself at peace. I usually would stress out trying to "make it all better" as if I had something to do with hi...

CJ098 · CJ098

If you blow a .233 on an alcohol test, how bad is that? Does anyone know? My AH went to work last night(works night shift, me days) I kissed him goodbye and I could smell the alcohol immediatly. Before I would have begged him not to go in like that and manipulate him into staying for fear he would get fir...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Where r u girl?

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

Just got back from the hospital and there is nothing more they can do. No more steroids, which is bad news as well as a blessing. 95% total paralysis if surgery is attempted. (Those stakes are a tad too high when you live alone.) STUNNED. So, I suppose this is another area of my life that would benefit f...

curious · curious

Isabella I have been gone for a while but think of you often. Are you still here? Talk to me. Has anyone talked to Isabella lately?

maresie2 · maresie2

Last night I managed to get angry that I have to live as I do. I am so sick of living around people who are thoughless and disrespectful. I am grateful to have a roof over me and the pets heads but I live around some people who are totally self absorbed (needless to say they are addicts of some sort). I got an...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello family, well, I have been doing all right. Haven't really been "calling" my A on the phone much lately. Found out that they (he and his new PREGNANT w/ twins) got a kitten, and I knew darn well that the motel would not let them keep it. Got a call the other day, pity call, asking and almost c...

debilyn · debilyn

Hello, changed my animal sanctuary to, "Eden's Heart" for obvious reasons. Will not have that name a whole lot longer. Have to have it a year and 4 months two weeks and 17 days or so more to draw on his social security... Anyway as you know he boinked someone else so I am free to remarry. so I am go...

Allie · Allie

My brother is an Heroin addict. He has been to rehab and Iam still finding my self feeling unsure. Any help. -- Edited by Allie at 18:15, 2007-10-15

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi(((((((((((everyone)))))))))) Tomorrow is my BIG DAY and I must admit I am scared!!! I am really having to turn this over to my higher power and it ain't easy!!! I know that I will feel better when I have the surgery and as I was told today tons of ladies go through and have hysterectomys and come out j...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Family)))))))))), For my MIP men, please indulge me for just a moment (although this can apply to you too!). I do this for the love of my family here. Just a gentle reminder that October is National Breat Cancer Awareness Month. Please dear ladies don't forget to get one done if you are...

maresie2 · maresie2

I've stood on my head for 7 years with the A worrying, obsessing, trying to work out what he is doing. I saw him recently to get my bike (I"m glad I got it even though it needs some work on it). As usual it was the same intrigue number. He has some of his stuff somewhere that is obvious. I don't know where t...

Inspiredbyhope · Inspiredbyhope

I have been struggling with getting myself out of the isolation rutt. I would rather put myself under locked doors and windows and don't have much interests in getting out at all. I am stuck in such a rutt with this one. I don't really care much if I even try to make an effort of waking up each morning with a n...

maresie2 · maresie2

After a 7 year relationship which I invested my all into I'm left with some garden furniture that was left to me some clothes, two dogs, two cats and pretty much nothing else. The A had to have everything else. All the furniture went to his storage which I paid on for months. All the cars(there were two of t...

babysteps · babysteps

My AH said to me kindly, rubbing my shoulders, "I am tired of this no sex thing..." I didn't even let him finish. I held both of his hands and said as kindly as I could, "I am too, what I need from you is to get sober and shower every day." I could tell that he was crushed. His idea was to pl...

ddub · ddub

I have done a lot of good things as a mom but being human I have been a poor role model of things I am weak about myself. I haven't really shared all that I have learned through al anon but I want to try now. I have taken pieces from several types of new understanding I have learned. It may not fit or be corre...

ddub · ddub

oh oh, not more thinking..... (David, I missed this weeks meeting of thinkers anonymous-oops) Enjoyed your post a lot on that too!! similar routine or cycle every few weeks for me but this time I got to the point where I have chosen depression or anger in the past and I was aware of my unconscious aut...

Chetch · Chetch

My husband called me at work today and asked me to take him and check him into rehab. This is the first positive sign I've seen from him, but I don't want to get my hopes up too much. Thanks for the wonderful support from all you wonderful people.

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I must admit that I was a bit worried when the A got out of jail, all those feelings of impending doom, him lurking around the corner, at my doorstep (even though I've moved), calling on the phone, etc. The Friday before I left on vacation I was working late and walking down a hallway and I swear I saw him th...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...that is what I have been telling myself. It has taken me all of three hours to find my way back here after two days of emotional to-ing and fro-ing. Panic sticken, I thought I had lost the life-line that you all threw out to me last week. Coupled with that, I am gutted that, having accepted the step one -...

trace06 · trace06

I have never posted before and am brand new - please be patient :) My AH and I have been married for 1yr & 5 mos. He has not held any job during this time. I have been the sole provider for our family and I do not make very much money. We barely get by month to month. I am completely stressed out, angry, res...

Chetch · Chetch

Dear All, I haven't been on much lately, but things have really come to a head. My AH has been drinking non stop for 2 weeks, not working - he's an attorney and has tremendous earning capacity- but is too busy drinking to work. When we had to pay bills in the 15th he told me he didn't have $750 for his share...

inspired2 · inspired2

Not only me, but my house, my kids, my life, it seems. I keep handing things over to HP then taking them back BIG TIME I want to be with my mil on the other side of country, still no place to live it has been a week since we were supposed to go. i cannot keep my life here on hold... it feels wrong and scattered and c...

david62 · david62

Howdy (((((Family))))) Something happened to me this morning that I have to share with you all. I went out this morning to help my Dad build some fence. He recently retired and is getting his homestead together. He has some goats (one just had triplets!) and anyhow, he is putting up a new fence on on...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

My AH has been sober since Tues. He is retired now so has nothing but time to drink all day while I work. My daughter is really becoming disgusted with the home front and has said she wants to move out. She is a Junior in college and I want her to continue to do well in school. I worry that this will be harder if s...

david62 · david62

Hi Family, Someone asked a question about sponsorship. A program friend gave these to me a couple of years ago and I have posted this before but thought I would again! I hope they are useful.---------David SPONSORSHIP -What It Is and What It Isn't Four major points in sponsorship that most Twelve Step...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello my family of choice, Not to long ago I burnt my hand, could have been worse, but was by far the worse burn I have ever had. I was boiled some water in the microwave at work. I was pouring the water into my container and the container tipped, I reached for it, caught it, but poured boiling water over my ha...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

We made it home alive! Just came in from Orlando today and of course I'm sick... My middle child was sick about the 2nd day and passed the joy along to me! I have a cold/cough thing that is horrible. Luckily I have tomorrow off work so I'm hoping I'll be fully recovered by Tuesday when it's time to go bac...

serendipity · serendipity

I have heard that alcohol withdrawl is the only withdrawl that can kill a person. I believe I heard this from an A. It might have even been in conversation about a heroine addict withdrawl and how they can't die from withdrawl from herione or any substance other than alcohol. Anybody know if this is true...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am working overtime not to know where the A is or get involved in any of his stuff. His court stuff has been continued. I have really worked hard not to know what is going on. He is out of where he is living. I have really worked hard not to know where he is. I believe he may be living in the car he acquired. I do n...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Hello everyone. I feel like I am a poser or a wannabe aloner because I guess I stopped trying. I mean, I found alanon almost a year ago and took some itty bitty baby steps into it, but I felt like I hit a wall and alot of it was just me but basically I am still right where I left off, standing at the base of a wall. A...

Red1017 · Red1017

i haven't been here since july of 2003, i think. i had to go back to work and was unable to get to the online meetings that meant so much to my sanity. after only being back to work for 3 months, i started having major health problems and with the advice of my dr. i resigned and filed for social security disa...

maresie2 · maresie2

It is now like 4/5 days since I had contact with the A. I have no idea where he is or what he is doing. I do know he has money and transportation (which is more than I have). I have moments when I worry about hiim and the state of his mental health. There are other days when I feel really free of him for the first ti...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A is now less than 23hours away from his court date. I cam certain he is going to get jail time. I am at peace with that. On the weekend he showed up to claim his tools. I said nothing, no remonstration about what he eneded to do, where he was, what he was doing. If he wants his tools he can have them. He has...

florrie · florrie

i just wanted to share to help me with my boundaries. my neighbours are suffering the effects of addiction. there is serious violence and chaos in their home..... it reminds me how lucky i am to have found this program. i have spoken to the mom about the program, but she is not open to it at the moment. for...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

I am desparately looking for the way forward, knowing that my heart is broken again, and I feel that I am losing myself. I was married to a voilent alcoholic for twenty years. I thought that I had recovered after being afiliated to an alanon support group when we lost our home due to alcoholism. But a r...

Jen · Jen

I was catching up on the forum posts and ran across Karilyn's funny stories. The other day my AH was lamenting about his habit of having to know everybody's business. His saying lately is "stick my nose back on my face". So he catches himself at it again and says something about it "jus...

Jen · Jen

Sorry it took me a bit to respond to my post from yesterday. I wanted to be sure you all know how much I appreciate your input. Christy- Your positive attitude is infectious. I am feeling very numb for the moment when it comes to intimacy of any kind. My A is really starting to open up wonderfully, and I can...

david62 · david62

My CONFESSION It started out innocently enough. I began to think at parties now and then -- just to loosen up. Inevitably, though, one thought led to another, and soon I was more than just a social thinker. I began to think alone -- "to relax," I told myself -- but I knew it wasn't true. Thinkin...

que sara · que sara

my AH just went awol. i definitely don't have these alanon principles down. i'm totally worried, i can't stand feeling out of control like this. i'm waiting by the phone and jumping every time i hear someone in the apartment hallway. i should be used to this by now but i am not. he vacillates between deni...

Jen · Jen

I don't really know what I want to say. I've been feeling kind of weird lately. Like I'm living on auto pilot. Not long ago I was feeling really scared at the idea of living by myself. Winters here are not easy. I had no firewood and a dangerously deteriorated woodstove. I had not nearly enough hay in for th...

Kim65 · Kim65

I have been in north Idaho long enough for this little slogan to not make me want to throw up anymore :D. When I lived in San Diego, it would have been the Nike slogan: Just Do It! It's been four months yesterday since my exA has been off the farm and out of my immediate life. The first month was just blessed...

LisaF · LisaF

Hi, I came in here a little bit a few months ago, and go to chat on occasion.... but haven't posted much or kept up with things on the message board... Well, I don't really know if this goes with Alanon.... or if it's an Alkie thing.... or something else... but I need to hear some ES&H... I have th...

Maria123 · Maria123

Dear Lord, I pray for Wisdom to understand my man; Love to forgive him; and Patience for his moods. Because, Lord, if I pray for Strength, I'll beat him to death. AMEN

rtexas · rtexas

Everything ok over there? Just letting you know we are thinking about you.... Take care of you!

getoverit · getoverit

Hi hi all, Dream / Prayer request - anon style. Say it like that: someone has heart problems and in hsp now. Not sure of what - irr heartbeat - appx 60 something. Family has asked me to put the individual on our prayer list, so that's about all I can say about that re our anon scripts that get run in our chat r...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Just wanted to tell y'all that I canceled the family session. After talking about it with my therapist, she emphasized--girl scout salute and everything--that we could do it at a later time. She was concerned that my parents would use the opportunity to launch into a "You won't believe how men...

inspired2 · inspired2

Hi everyone.. I am grateful to find a place to put down my words about my situation, knowing it will be treated with respect and perhaps some recognition of the emotions I am going through!! A couple of years ago, my kids and I moved across the country to the west coast of Canada. We left all our family behi...

CJC · CJC

For the first time in quit some time I actually proud of myself, I have set a few boundaries which have made me feel much better about myself. Last night AH came home, proceeded to attempt the nightly fight, and instead of allowing him to cuss me out and call me names I looked at him and said "when you c...

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	Prayers requested for my Birdie Angel (Preview) Well, you all know my birdie had been taken to the doc for a hernia.It busted thru today and she was bleeding alot.I put some stuff called "quikstop" on the two places it was bleeding from.There was blood all over the bottom of her cage.I have no idea if she will make it thru the night or how muc...	hippietrippiechick	4	562	Oct 20, 2007 by Heartbroken
	What an amazing family you all are... (Preview) ...for, I have been thinking, ...alcoholism has brought a bus load of other complications with it. I witness amazing strength and courage in you all as shown in your sharings; some of which I have been reading. What an intricate and wonderful tapestry you all weave. No plain sailing and silver sp...	Heartbroken	2	712	Oct 20, 2007 by Heartbroken
	pray for the wisdom (Preview) i went to the city yesterday. i was almost in a serious accident, when someone in front of me stopped suddenly because someone in front of her stopped suddenly, the situation caused me to ponder. what am i doing here? i live in a small town in northern alberta canada, i learned how to drive on a little is...	beaulahg	4	524	Oct 19, 2007 by beaulahg
	re: what have I done? (Preview) Hi Everyone,, Thank you for all the responses to my boo hoo posted titled, "what have I done?" Yes, I do take too much on. It frustrates me how talking to him puts me into an entirely different mindframe, and his aism and addiction becomes minimal. I do have a lot of guilt and it drives me crazy...	Loupiness	7	1237	Oct 19, 2007 by serendipity
	Choices (Preview) I have been trying to lift myself out of what can be simple panic, overwhelm and being fed up as well as loneliness. I'm recognizing that the A makes choices. Right now he has chosen to contnue on with his crazy behavior. He has spent thousands and thousands of dollars destroying cars in the last few ye...	maresie2	4	554	Oct 19, 2007 by maresie2
	I have no more sympathy for the A (Preview) Got an email from the A when I got home today, I had sent him one saying that he needed to have a home, job, be clean and sober and have a way to get to and from a place to meet to see the kids. He comes back two days later with "well I guess it will be a really long time until I see my babys since you know I can't...	carolinagirl	8	716	Oct 19, 2007 by maresie2
	Walking one step at a time (Preview) Moving Forward.... How ironic that 5 years ago my A reached rock bottom and sought help. I thank my HP Everyday bc he is still sober today and we are happy. Something I never thought would happen..but it did! Well I resigned from my job this week after making the realization that my boss is either a dry dru...	TrazeyB	4	540	Oct 19, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Talking to our children (Preview) I am starting a new thread after reading CarolinaGirl's response to Loupiness. My daughter is 7 years old, last night I heard her express concrete evidence that she is affected by her Dad. She and I were getting ready to play with our dog in the backyard when AH started mumbling cr*p under his breath in t...	babysteps	7	697	Oct 19, 2007 by Loupiness
	Pain (Preview) I went to a meeting last night and the speaker talked about pain. She kept talking about all the pain she had deep down inside. Before the meeting, I was full of anger. As she kept discussing the deep pain, I totally lost it. I was sobbing uncontrollably. Her talk about pain flipped a switch. I never knew t...	kissers	4	364	Oct 19, 2007 by Kim65
	What have I done?? (Preview) Didn't sleep all night. My life, but more importantly, the life of my kids is to change forever. I see us teetering on the edge of a cliff, and I just put us there beyond the safety bar with my impatient controlling behavior. My ah put himself in the diversion program to "prove" he is clean. Oka...	Loupiness	10	751	Oct 19, 2007 by Karilynn
	October Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) MIP Business MeetingOctober 7, 2007 The chair opened the meeting with the serenity prayer, posted the OP schedule and OP duties.The minutes from the September 8, business meeting were approved as written.No treasurers report. Old Business Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) The questions have be...	danz123	3	626	Oct 18, 2007 by Maria123
	WELL ITS BACK TO THE OLD GRIND (Preview) Hello all: Well today the bubble burst. I was dreading it before I started coming here but I really am OK with it. The A proceded to drink himself into oblivion as usual but I could feel myself at peace. I usually would stress out trying to "make it all better" as if I had something to do with hi...	cookie1971	4	639	Oct 18, 2007 by cookie1971
	MY AH May be fired.... (Preview) If you blow a .233 on an alcohol test, how bad is that? Does anyone know? My AH went to work last night(works night shift, me days) I kissed him goodbye and I could smell the alcohol immediatly. Before I would have begged him not to go in like that and manipulate him into staying for fear he would get fir...	CJ098	8	737	Oct 18, 2007 by jkiss03
	QOD? (Preview) Where r u girl?	carolinagirl	2	498	Oct 18, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Just back from the hospital... (Preview) Just got back from the hospital and there is nothing more they can do. No more steroids, which is bad news as well as a blessing. 95% total paralysis if surgery is attempted. (Those stakes are a tad too high when you live alone.) STUNNED. So, I suppose this is another area of my life that would benefit f...	Heartbroken	6	513	Oct 18, 2007 by wp
	Isabella are you still here? (Preview) Isabella I have been gone for a while but think of you often. Are you still here? Talk to me. Has anyone talked to Isabella lately?	curious	3	528	Oct 18, 2007 by wp
	when I get angry I feel better (Preview) Last night I managed to get angry that I have to live as I do. I am so sick of living around people who are thoughless and disrespectful. I am grateful to have a roof over me and the pets heads but I live around some people who are totally self absorbed (needless to say they are addicts of some sort). I got an...	maresie2	8	832	Oct 18, 2007 by maresie2
	Had to say NO! What part of NO do the A's not understand? (Preview) Hello family, well, I have been doing all right. Haven't really been "calling" my A on the phone much lately. Found out that they (he and his new PREGNANT w/ twins) got a kitten, and I knew darn well that the motel would not let them keep it. Got a call the other day, pity call, asking and almost c...	hippietrippiechick	9	586	Oct 18, 2007 by curious
	Trying to get real (Preview) Hello, changed my animal sanctuary to, "Eden's Heart" for obvious reasons. Will not have that name a whole lot longer. Have to have it a year and 4 months two weeks and 17 days or so more to draw on his social security... Anyway as you know he boinked someone else so I am free to remarry. so I am go...	debilyn	4	612	Oct 18, 2007 by Friendofyours
	sad life (Preview) My brother is an Heroin addict. He has been to rehab and Iam still finding my self feeling unsure. Any help. -- Edited by Allie at 18:15, 2007-10-15	Allie	4	547	Oct 18, 2007 by Andrea12
	I must admit...... (Preview) Hi(((((((((((everyone)))))))))) Tomorrow is my BIG DAY and I must admit I am scared!!! I am really having to turn this over to my higher power and it ain't easy!!! I know that I will feel better when I have the surgery and as I was told today tons of ladies go through and have hysterectomys and come out j...	bubbles1990	9	610	Oct 17, 2007 by cookie1971
	Get those mamograms! (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))), For my MIP men, please indulge me for just a moment (although this can apply to you too!). I do this for the love of my family here. Just a gentle reminder that October is National Breat Cancer Awareness Month. Please dear ladies don't forget to get one done if you are...	Karilynn	8	500	Oct 17, 2007 by tea2
	not wanting to stand on my head anymore (Preview) I've stood on my head for 7 years with the A worrying, obsessing, trying to work out what he is doing. I saw him recently to get my bike (I"m glad I got it even though it needs some work on it). As usual it was the same intrigue number. He has some of his stuff somewhere that is obvious. I don't know where t...	maresie2	7	556	Oct 17, 2007 by maresie2
	How to stop the isolation process? (Preview) I have been struggling with getting myself out of the isolation rutt. I would rather put myself under locked doors and windows and don't have much interests in getting out at all. I am stuck in such a rutt with this one. I don't really care much if I even try to make an effort of waking up each morning with a n...	Inspiredbyhope	5	698	Oct 17, 2007 by getoverit
	starting over (Preview) After a 7 year relationship which I invested my all into I'm left with some garden furniture that was left to me some clothes, two dogs, two cats and pretty much nothing else. The A had to have everything else. All the furniture went to his storage which I paid on for months. All the cars(there were two of t...	maresie2	3	569	Oct 17, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Conversations about sex (Preview) My AH said to me kindly, rubbing my shoulders, "I am tired of this no sex thing..." I didn't even let him finish. I held both of his hands and said as kindly as I could, "I am too, what I need from you is to get sober and shower every day." I could tell that he was crushed. His idea was to pl...	babysteps	6	610	Oct 17, 2007 by getoverit
	a letter to my struggling young adult child (Preview) I have done a lot of good things as a mom but being human I have been a poor role model of things I am weak about myself. I haven't really shared all that I have learned through al anon but I want to try now. I have taken pieces from several types of new understanding I have learned. It may not fit or be corre...	ddub	4	560	Oct 17, 2007 by ddub
	been thinking again........ (Preview) oh oh, not more thinking..... (David, I missed this weeks meeting of thinkers anonymous-oops) Enjoyed your post a lot on that too!! similar routine or cycle every few weeks for me but this time I got to the point where I have chosen depression or anger in the past and I was aware of my unconscious aut...	ddub	4	608	Oct 17, 2007 by ddub
	My husband is in rehab! (Preview) My husband called me at work today and asked me to take him and check him into rehab. This is the first positive sign I've seen from him, but I don't want to get my hopes up too much. Thanks for the wonderful support from all you wonderful people.	Chetch	8	661	Oct 17, 2007 by SLS
	I feel strong! (Preview) I must admit that I was a bit worried when the A got out of jail, all those feelings of impending doom, him lurking around the corner, at my doorstep (even though I've moved), calling on the phone, etc. The Friday before I left on vacation I was working late and walking down a hallway and I swear I saw him th...	carolinagirl	4	523	Oct 16, 2007 by ddub
	Just remember to breathe... (Preview) ...that is what I have been telling myself. It has taken me all of three hours to find my way back here after two days of emotional to-ing and fro-ing. Panic sticken, I thought I had lost the life-line that you all threw out to me last week. Coupled with that, I am gutted that, having accepted the step one -...	Heartbroken	7	673	Oct 16, 2007 by getoverit
	am I a horrible person (Preview) I have never posted before and am brand new - please be patient :) My AH and I have been married for 1yr & 5 mos. He has not held any job during this time. I have been the sole provider for our family and I do not make very much money. We barely get by month to month. I am completely stressed out, angry, res...	trace06	13	806	Oct 16, 2007 by artygirl
	Filing for Divorce (Preview) Dear All, I haven't been on much lately, but things have really come to a head. My AH has been drinking non stop for 2 weeks, not working - he's an attorney and has tremendous earning capacity- but is too busy drinking to work. When we had to pay bills in the 15th he told me he didn't have $750 for his share...	Chetch	5	575	Oct 16, 2007 by carolinagirl
	I am a mess (Preview) Not only me, but my house, my kids, my life, it seems. I keep handing things over to HP then taking them back BIG TIME I want to be with my mil on the other side of country, still no place to live it has been a week since we were supposed to go. i cannot keep my life here on hold... it feels wrong and scattered and c...	inspired2	8	596	Oct 16, 2007 by inspired2
	Building Fence (Preview) Howdy (((((Family))))) Something happened to me this morning that I have to share with you all. I went out this morning to help my Dad build some fence. He recently retired and is getting his homestead together. He has some goats (one just had triplets!) and anyhow, he is putting up a new fence on on...	david62	11	554	Oct 15, 2007 by Andrea12
	Im walking on eggshells (Preview) My AH has been sober since Tues. He is retired now so has nothing but time to drink all day while I work. My daughter is really becoming disgusted with the home front and has said she wants to move out. She is a Junior in college and I want her to continue to do well in school. I worry that this will be harder if s...	cookie1971	8	816	Oct 15, 2007 by cookie1971
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi Family, Someone asked a question about sponsorship. A program friend gave these to me a couple of years ago and I have posted this before but thought I would again! I hope they are useful.---------David SPONSORSHIP -What It Is and What It Isn't Four major points in sponsorship that most Twelve Step...	david62	0	423	Oct 15, 2007 by david62
	Learning to let go, the hard way (Preview) Hello my family of choice, Not to long ago I burnt my hand, could have been worse, but was by far the worse burn I have ever had. I was boiled some water in the microwave at work. I was pouring the water into my container and the container tipped, I reached for it, caught it, but poured boiling water over my ha...	Mandy123	10	732	Oct 15, 2007 by maresie2
	home sweet home (Preview) We made it home alive! Just came in from Orlando today and of course I'm sick... My middle child was sick about the 2nd day and passed the joy along to me! I have a cold/cough thing that is horrible. Luckily I have tomorrow off work so I'm hoping I'll be fully recovered by Tuesday when it's time to go bac...	carolinagirl	5	527	Oct 15, 2007 by Kim65
	Is this true? (Preview) I have heard that alcohol withdrawl is the only withdrawl that can kill a person. I believe I heard this from an A. It might have even been in conversation about a heroine addict withdrawl and how they can't die from withdrawl from herione or any substance other than alcohol. Anybody know if this is true...	serendipity	5	724	Oct 15, 2007 by maresie2
	acceptance (Preview) I am working overtime not to know where the A is or get involved in any of his stuff. His court stuff has been continued. I have really worked hard not to know what is going on. He is out of where he is living. I have really worked hard not to know where he is. I believe he may be living in the car he acquired. I do n...	maresie2	1	354	Oct 15, 2007 by Kim65
	I am still here (Preview) Hello everyone. I feel like I am a poser or a wannabe aloner because I guess I stopped trying. I mean, I found alanon almost a year ago and took some itty bitty baby steps into it, but I felt like I hit a wall and alot of it was just me but basically I am still right where I left off, standing at the base of a wall. A...	RainyJamie	5	520	Oct 15, 2007 by marmare
	coming home (Preview) i haven't been here since july of 2003, i think. i had to go back to work and was unable to get to the online meetings that meant so much to my sanity. after only being back to work for 3 months, i started having major health problems and with the advice of my dr. i resigned and filed for social security disa...	Red1017	4	524	Oct 14, 2007 by nmike
	Bein gin no contact with the A (Preview) It is now like 4/5 days since I had contact with the A. I have no idea where he is or what he is doing. I do know he has money and transportation (which is more than I have). I have moments when I worry about hiim and the state of his mental health. There are other days when I feel really free of him for the first ti...	maresie2	2	524	Oct 14, 2007 by carolinagirl
	letting go (Preview) The A is now less than 23hours away from his court date. I cam certain he is going to get jail time. I am at peace with that. On the weekend he showed up to claim his tools. I said nothing, no remonstration about what he eneded to do, where he was, what he was doing. If he wants his tools he can have them. He has...	maresie2	2	458	Oct 14, 2007 by Heartbroken
	sad about neighbours (Preview) i just wanted to share to help me with my boundaries. my neighbours are suffering the effects of addiction. there is serious violence and chaos in their home..... it reminds me how lucky i am to have found this program. i have spoken to the mom about the program, but she is not open to it at the moment. for...	florrie	5	490	Oct 14, 2007 by florrie
	Despair (Preview) I am desparately looking for the way forward, knowing that my heart is broken again, and I feel that I am losing myself. I was married to a voilent alcoholic for twenty years. I thought that I had recovered after being afiliated to an alanon support group when we lost our home due to alcoholism. But a r...	Heartbroken	15	894	Oct 14, 2007 by beaulahg
	Funny stories (Preview) I was catching up on the forum posts and ran across Karilyn's funny stories. The other day my AH was lamenting about his habit of having to know everybody's business. His saying lately is "stick my nose back on my face". So he catches himself at it again and says something about it "jus...	Jen	2	549	Oct 14, 2007 by Jen
	RE: Waiting for the other shoe. (Preview) Sorry it took me a bit to respond to my post from yesterday. I wanted to be sure you all know how much I appreciate your input. Christy- Your positive attitude is infectious. I am feeling very numb for the moment when it comes to intimacy of any kind. My A is really starting to open up wonderfully, and I can...	Jen	2	446	Oct 14, 2007 by Jen
	My Confession (Preview) My CONFESSION It started out innocently enough. I began to think at parties now and then -- just to loosen up. Inevitably, though, one thought led to another, and soon I was more than just a social thinker. I began to think alone -- "to relax," I told myself -- but I knew it wasn't true. Thinkin...	david62	6	799	Oct 14, 2007 by rtexas
	so lost (Preview) my AH just went awol. i definitely don't have these alanon principles down. i'm totally worried, i can't stand feeling out of control like this. i'm waiting by the phone and jumping every time i hear someone in the apartment hallway. i should be used to this by now but i am not. he vacillates between deni...	que sara	9	455	Oct 13, 2007 by Jill
	Waiting for the other shoe. (Preview) I don't really know what I want to say. I've been feeling kind of weird lately. Like I'm living on auto pilot. Not long ago I was feeling really scared at the idea of living by myself. Winters here are not easy. I had no firewood and a dangerously deteriorated woodstove. I had not nearly enough hay in for th...	Jen	4	592	Oct 12, 2007 by serendipity
	Time to git'r done (Preview) I have been in north Idaho long enough for this little slogan to not make me want to throw up anymore :D. When I lived in San Diego, it would have been the Nike slogan: Just Do It! It's been four months yesterday since my exA has been off the farm and out of my immediate life. The first month was just blessed...	Kim65	8	671	Oct 12, 2007 by Kim65
	relationships... (Preview) Hi, I came in here a little bit a few months ago, and go to chat on occasion.... but haven't posted much or kept up with things on the message board... Well, I don't really know if this goes with Alanon.... or if it's an Alkie thing.... or something else... but I need to hear some ES&H... I have th...	LisaF	3	529	Oct 12, 2007 by maresie2
	hope you appreciate my humor (Preview) Dear Lord, I pray for Wisdom to understand my man; Love to forgive him; and Patience for his moods. Because, Lord, if I pray for Strength, I'll beat him to death. AMEN	Maria123	14	721	Oct 12, 2007 by Andrea12
	(((((((Luna)))))))) (Preview) Everything ok over there? Just letting you know we are thinking about you.... Take care of you!	rtexas	3	461	Oct 12, 2007 by Lunamoth
	dream / prayer request (Preview) Hi hi all, Dream / Prayer request - anon style. Say it like that: someone has heart problems and in hsp now. Not sure of what - irr heartbeat - appx 60 something. Family has asked me to put the individual on our prayer list, so that's about all I can say about that re our anon scripts that get run in our chat r...	getoverit	3	280	Oct 12, 2007 by marmare
	Canceled the family session (Preview) Just wanted to tell y'all that I canceled the family session. After talking about it with my therapist, she emphasized--girl scout salute and everything--that we could do it at a later time. She was concerned that my parents would use the opportunity to launch into a "You won't believe how men...	Tiger2006	6	549	Oct 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	Confused about how to help... need esh (Preview) Hi everyone.. I am grateful to find a place to put down my words about my situation, knowing it will be treated with respect and perhaps some recognition of the emotions I am going through!! A couple of years ago, my kids and I moved across the country to the west coast of Canada. We left all our family behi...	inspired2	4	607	Oct 12, 2007 by inspired2
	Being Proud of myself (Preview) For the first time in quit some time I actually proud of myself, I have set a few boundaries which have made me feel much better about myself. Last night AH came home, proceeded to attempt the nightly fight, and instead of allowing him to cuss me out and call me names I looked at him and said "when you c...	CJC	5	719	Oct 12, 2007 by inspired2
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