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Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Today I took the new job! Yikes!! It will be a big change for me. I did a pros and cons list of both jobs, and this one is looking better than my current job. The commute and parking issues will be a lot better. But, I am now feeling anxious because I prefer to stay with the familiar things in life. That isn't re...

hotrod · hotrod

As promised for the next three months we will be discussing the 12 Traditions of Al-Anon on the Step Work Board . Every other week will discuss a tradition and I will post the questions on the board as wellTradition one has been posted and here is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t595...

Rumblefish · Rumblefish

And, I'm sitting in my car in a vacant parking lot near our house. AW has been drinking again. And, I've risen like a rat to her bait. The worse times for me are weeknights when I've been asleep and I wake up at 1am or whatever and AW is drinking or just returning from gas station after purchasing a fifth of vo...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Why do we stay? A newcomer might ask. Even when soberiey is in are lives we still need Al anon. Even when I change for the worse occasionally & slip even more so do I need to attend meetings. Even though I have been around many years I could go back to square one & forget why am here. So I keep going to...

glad · glad

ok, I'm pretty sure some action needs to be taken Higher Power needs to show me what. My 2 year bf non alcoholic boyfriend who is older than me, who is generally very kind and much like me in behavior (he's probably an alanon just not so much. He was married to an A but the minute she threw things at his head he...

Venice0828 · Venice0828

My husband and I have been best friends for 9 years, married for 3, and he is an alcoholic. I cannot imagine my life without him or a better dad for my daughter (except of course, if he could stop drinking). The problem is that he can't stop drinking and I don't know what to do. I'm laying here in my daughter'...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Focusing on Myself; Living in the Present, Gratitude The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.ch...

mjferg · mjferg

As some of you know I have been complaining about my landlady,who refuses to address a mold problem.My daughter was back at the doctor yesterday,another course of antibiotics,this is week 3 of severe allergy related symptoms.I have moved her away from the mold,her bed is now in my living room.Well I...

andromeda · andromeda

So, I spoke with my realtor yesterday. She had met with my AH and shown him a house. She believes that the only asset I have claim to is this house. I have no control over AH's 401K, pension, or his inheritance. The house is the only thing that has my name on it. She said that AH was excited about the house...

MooseWork · MooseWork

Dear All, Thank you very much for all of the help that you provide through this board. It means a lot to me. I have a question and I would like to get your input. Do you think relationship issues with an alcoholic can be looked at independent of the disease? Can an alcoholic legitimately claim that thei...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I read a reply to someone else'e thread yesterday that hit me in the gut, HARD. But now I can't find it. I wanted to ask this question of that poster personally, but since I can't find it, I will ask it here. It may have been PP, but I am not sure. I can't even remember the topic, but the response included the t...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hey MIP mates You all know i am 1/2 native American on mother's side and mostly french on the monster's side..... so HOW did I get a nickname like Neshema which is Hebrew??? I had a sponsee who was a teacher at Perdue University...A real sharp gal who was born in Israel, but moved to USA as a child with her p...

missmeliss · missmeliss

My bond assistance (a loan for the security deposit) claim form was not processed or submitted, over a week ago. I had a bad feeling when I took the form in to the housing office (its a government department and the girl in the office was of an obvious ethnic/religious pursuasion and extremely hostile t...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Just arrived home, it's night time, my daughter's birthday today, we get to the front door and middle brother greets daughter at the front door with "get that %^$& dog away from the house, he's not EVER allowed in this house" (we were going to walk him through to the the back yard like we h...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Lately I have been on my mobile phone checking in a lot. I am now at the library where I can really get into it. I am doing much better w/ AH. He is getting less & less angry & not so grouchy. I am taking it as it comes & defending myself when necessary. He thinks we are arguing when I disagree. Mind...

pinkchip · pinkchip

This is someone that read at my wedding. A close friend. I knew he had 10 years sober. I also knew he hadn't been to a meeting in a very long time. He kept talking about going with me. One time he even came out to the center and couldn't find the room where the meeting was that I was attending and he was try...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Doing things like not doing the dishes is a big deal in my marriage. I even find myself not doing them even today. It is a huge problem for me. We can make big deals out of small stuff.I didn't interpreate as a sign a disrespect but a sign of neglect. It does no good to try to fix the problem in one day! Don't mak...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am having so much since I basically surrendered I am enjoying starting a scrapbook. I have been finding old photos of friends & family & sorting them out. I found cards & other keepsakes from a long time ago. Then I found my scrapbook from HS. Another fun idea I had was to have a all-girl...

glad · glad

One of my least favorite things about any AA and alanon combined meetings I have attended is when the alcoholics stand up and say "we don't do this to hurt you" and it seems to me like that is supposed to be getting them off the hook FOR hurting all those they know and love.. Well maybe they didn'...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about using the tools of the program to help ourselves in recovery and help ourselves stay in the present, not be mired in our past. There is specific mention for ACOA--of whom I am one as well. I have considered how growing up in alcoholism and all it brings has con...

To all our members on the East Coast · grateful2be

Many prayers for all of you and for your families and neighbors, too! As the blizzard makes itself known, I hope you all stay warm and safe, have plenty of food and can stay connected to us, too. -- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 26th of January 2015 05:04:25 PM

Screaming Barbie · Screaming Barbie

I understand about boundaries in general, but in some situation, I don't get how that general principle is applied. If someone was breaking into a neighbor's house, and loading all their stuff into their van, I would call the cops. I would not say "None of my business - no one is being abused.&q...

NobleStone · NobleStone

I'm sure you must get a few of these every day...... here's mine. I've been with my wife/partner for 10 years. I came to the relationship 'innocent' of the dangers of Alchohol, in the early days we'd meet, we'd both drink, pretty much like everyone else. Alarm bells started ringing about a year in when a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is my first summary for the ODAT. Since I have been attending meetings for over 29 years I thought I might try tbis. It says that family members sometimes come to Al anon out of desperation. They think they are going to get the alcoholic sober. In reality the purpose of coming is to gain serenity &am...

AWSmith · AWSmith

So... here in the nice city of Huntsville, wife came home TRASHED. A nasty fight broke out. She attacked me. Cops were called... twice in one night. 5 kids. Was pregnant with twins but cancer recently took them from her. Huge alcoholic wife. 2 dui's. Whatever. Cops didn't believe anything about...

neshema2 · neshema2

daughter #2 is bleeding b/c she has been working too much..... I called her yesterday to just get udated on family news and she was delighted to hear from me..."mommie, I love and miss you" I told her that i missed her too, but was gonna protect me from her behaviours, but not ever stop loving...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Whew. You might remember my house-mate lady person that I stayed with for 9 weeks was having a pretty up and down time with her son etc and unfortunately a lot of her unhappiness ended up being directed towards myself and my daughter. In the end it became quite nasty and, knowing that I had kept my side of t...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MIP FamilyI have been posting a summary of the daily reading to the Board for the past few days . I believe it is helpful to start he day with an alanon thought. If anyone else is up early and would like to post the summary please do so. Please note , we are unable to post or copy the entire page fr...

Rumblefish · Rumblefish

Hi all. Another newbie. In this case, an AW. This is a day, I just want to holler. That's all I have for now. Maybe more later.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am changing but my Ah is not. I really believe this today. He is stuck in a rut. I am enjoying my friends & he thinks that they won't be there if I really need them. He has no clue about real friendships. Even his dad said to him that you only have one true friend & the rest are acquaintances.

onestein · onestein

I have 4 friends who are drunk and stoned; I have been sober 31 years and 25 years in Alanon; they don't want help or want to stop; It looks like I have to drop these friendships because I just can't tolerate drunk people any more.

Bostonpugwoman · Bostonpugwoman

I have not spoken to the guy I was dating since he sent me a long apology over a week ago. (By the way, the apology was REALLY good although as I've stated before, he is really good at apologizing.) I told him I felt better that he had apologized and agreed with him that now is not the time for us to build a r...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

Todays Courage to Change reading is about the 12th step, especially the phrase that says Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps. As I read this page, I thought thats a fine kettle of fish! Ive volunteered to do this reading, and I havent yet done the 12th step! Then I realized that...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Just want to say good morning to all hope you stay safe keep warm and get everything you Need I'm so grateful to be alive today and happy and life is what you make of it .if you don't like it change it you have that option to do so just drop it off give it to god . Live for yourself today because you count

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Just checking in to say hello . Still looking for work still keeping my spirits up . Glad today is a new day I'm grateful for what God has given me , I did makes some minor changes, I did get rid of ppl who were not good for me to.be around there true color final peeked threw and my head is clear now , I able to see t...

mlang · mlang

This is my first post. I've been trying to figure out why I am struggling with removing myself from the situations my husband's drinking creates. Why I feel the need to constantly text or call to make sure he's okay and beg him not to drive. Or why I beg him constantly to stop or point out how this is hu...

oceanpine · oceanpine

My AH is obsessed with the fact we haven't been intimate for a long time. This week, he has started saying "it's been 100 days" and he is saying it over and over... linking it to other things... like maybe he would do more errands if he had sex more often. Or whatever. About 100 days ago, he cros...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have my advanced skills final tomorrow morning and wanted to practice at the college lab today, but woke up nauseous and very dizzy along with light headed. I went to the urgent care and the Dr. thinks I have an inner ear infection, so he put me on an antibiotic and something for the dizzy spells. I reall...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

The best part of waking up is soldiers in your cup! That is the punch line. Can't remember the rest of the joke.

gillygilly · gillygilly

Hello - I'm new to this group and not even sure this is where I'm meant to be. My partner doesn't drink. He hasn't drunk for 2 years. He stopped himself because he knew he couldn't handle it and hasn't attended more than a couple of AA meetings. He says he doesn't need them. However, he has pretty severe...

mjferg · mjferg

I try to be a good person and I want to be treated with respect.I have been having some problems with my landlord, she doesn't want to fix things.I had a leak in my hot water tank which resulted in a bad mold problem in and around a cabinet,it could also be behind the cabinet or under the floor,she told me t...

glad · glad

As posted today... I have a right to want what I want and feel the way I feel. I do not have to act on those feelings but I do not have to hide them from myself as they are part of me. I'm feeling a good bit "slippery" lately - meaning I'm feeling self pity, it maybe my biggest flaw-or rather greates...

sadsister1979 · sadsister1979

I'm struggling with whether to commit my brother. He is 51 and has been in residential treatment twice over the past 5 years. He lives alone, is unemployed, his house is out of control and is declining steadily. He falls a a lot and is bruised all over his body. He also has a history of seizures relate...

hotrod · hotrod

Thought provoking readings today in both the C2C and ODAT Courage to Change speaks about keeping the focus on others and not paying attention to our own needs and wants. It points out that we neglected ourselves because we did not think we were worthy and did want others to see us as we were. I can id...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This morning I am feeling lonely. No one is up. Slept bad because my thoughts were racing. Now I have to face another day. I think I am going to try to organize some stuff & declutter my mind. Good day is yet to come if I let it.

andromeda · andromeda

Without going into a long story, I just want to vent over the fact that now my AH claims he wants to buy a house. 3 days ago he wanted to stay here and buy me out. I found a rental, they are willing to work with my unemployed self, and I was ready to sign the lease today and now AH throws out the, "I've foun...

Helpangel · Helpangel

I need some advice on how to break away from a dry drunk does it have to be really bad or can I gradually stop it.

mjferg · mjferg

I received a text from my daughter-in-law last night,my son left her and is asking for a divorce.They have 2 kids.She is hurting so bad,I really feel for her.I love them both and I told her I will be here for both of them.There aren't any bad feelings between us and I know I will be able to see my grandchil...

neshema2 · neshema2

on December 8th when I drug myself to the clinic hardly able to walk...needed help in the clinic to get around and to get up on the table, etc., for my exam, and finally got that shot in the muscle to put me out of my pain, the doctor while examining me said that that was one of the worst lower back muscle seizu...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C January 24 is a powerful page that reflects on the topic of Feelings. It stresses the importance of really feeling our feelings and not pretending. It suggests that we learn how to be honest with ourselves and stop trying to fit into someone else mold. It asos points out that Al-Anon doe...

Helpangel · Helpangel

hi all! I need some advice on how to detach from my ah who is 50 days sober but is hard to deal with. He works where I work yet goes in late all time complaining he can't sleep and then whines a lot about how he hates going to meetings all the time. If I don't say anything he gets mad if I do he gets mad. This recover...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

A posting from Andromeda reminded me of something. I played bass in a band until a couple of years ago where our keyboard player wrote a lot of originals. One of my favorites was a song called "My Reality is Skewed", it is about how our realities are skewed because we are spiritual beings in a...

glad · glad

I remember being all obsessed with the alcoholic and going on and on about how he was doing and someone saying to me, ok but how are YOU doing? ...That really sat be back a bit.. like a "cow looking at a new gate" is what we might say here in Texas. What did that mean "How was I doing" I'...

neshema2 · neshema2

Grateful challenge for Saturday.....I am grateful for the following: The lessons I learned about perseverance and keeping up the work and giving outcome over to HP That I came clean with my High School classmates about my being bullied and shamed b/c I had a terrible family and now they are reaching o...

flagbabe83 · flagbabe83

So as you may know, my AH (who is partial denial) stopped drinking for 30 days on his own to prove to me that he "doesn't have a problem." You and I know that this won't work. What I find is that even though he is currently sober and a dry drunk, I keep treating him like he is still drinking. I feel li...

John · John

This time of year is when everything comes due on the web sites annual expenses, so if you have the ability please consider making a 5-10 dollar donation to help offset the cost of this site. It is important that the site remains self supporting through its member contributions, and the burden of expe...

serenity47 · serenity47

It has been a very trying week. As I expected daughter lost job ( the 3rd ) in two months for I guess not showing up the next day I don't really know. I have been nutso worrying about her. Trying very hard to read my books and messages here and praying furiously to my hp to help me and her and attend online me...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is bad enough that I am bone tired.I am still rechecking my every move. I think I ccan handle this one day at a time. It has been years since he left me on a total episode. For those who don't knowh has bp gambling addict & alcoholic. He has been sober years away from gambling & drinking & quit...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I already know what I'm going to do .. lol .. I guess I just need to read it and think for a min about it. My children are on her insurance now, I don't care I'm just glad they finally have insurance. Honestly it costs her nothing more so it's all good. XAH has insurance however not under her policy. So he h...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am concerned because we have to get an alternator for our car & we have to spend more time together. I won't project but I hope we get along after having all these episodes. I will call a friend in the program if I need to & pray. I am just grateful for yesterday because we didn't argue & have a s...

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	Need ESH regarding decision making issues and taking risks (Preview) Today I took the new job! Yikes!! It will be a big change for me. I did a pros and cons list of both jobs, and this one is looking better than my current job. The commute and parking issues will be a lot better. But, I am now feeling anxious because I prefer to stay with the familiar things in life. That isn't re...	Newlife girl	16	541	Jan 28, 2015 by neshema2
	Tradition 1 has been posted to the Step Board (Preview) As promised for the next three months we will be discussing the 12 Traditions of Al-Anon on the Step Work Board . Every other week will discuss a tradition and I will post the questions on the board as wellTradition one has been posted and here is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t595...	hotrod	2	352	Jan 28, 2015 by hotrod
	it's 3 a.m. (Preview) And, I'm sitting in my car in a vacant parking lot near our house. AW has been drinking again. And, I've risen like a rat to her bait. The worse times for me are weeknights when I've been asleep and I wake up at 1am or whatever and AW is drinking or just returning from gas station after purchasing a fifth of vo...	Rumblefish	15	772	Jan 28, 2015 by Mattie
	C2C January 28 (Preview) Why do we stay? A newcomer might ask. Even when soberiey is in are lives we still need Al anon. Even when I change for the worse occasionally & slip even more so do I need to attend meetings. Even though I have been around many years I could go back to square one & forget why am here. So I keep going to...	Hoot Nanny	8	388	Jan 28, 2015 by Debb
	financial disinsintive to like me! (Preview) ok, I'm pretty sure some action needs to be taken Higher Power needs to show me what. My 2 year bf non alcoholic boyfriend who is older than me, who is generally very kind and much like me in behavior (he's probably an alanon just not so much. He was married to an A but the minute she threw things at his head he...	glad	11	614	Jan 28, 2015 by glad
	Please help- how much is enough from your soulmate? (Preview) My husband and I have been best friends for 9 years, married for 3, and he is an alcoholic. I cannot imagine my life without him or a better dad for my daughter (except of course, if he could stop drinking). The problem is that he can't stop drinking and I don't know what to do. I'm laying here in my daughter'...	Venice0828	9	536	Jan 28, 2015 by neshema2
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Focusing on Myself; Living in the Present, Gratitude The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.ch...	shimo	0	178	Jan 28, 2015 by shimo
	what is the best solution (Preview) As some of you know I have been complaining about my landlady,who refuses to address a mold problem.My daughter was back at the doctor yesterday,another course of antibiotics,this is week 3 of severe allergy related symptoms.I have moved her away from the mold,her bed is now in my living room.Well I...	mjferg	6	680	Jan 27, 2015 by mjferg
	Continuation of my weekend saga, LOL (Preview) So, I spoke with my realtor yesterday. She had met with my AH and shown him a house. She believes that the only asset I have claim to is this house. I have no control over AH's 401K, pension, or his inheritance. The house is the only thing that has my name on it. She said that AH was excited about the house...	andromeda	35	900	Jan 27, 2015 by Mattie
	Relationship Issues and Alcohol (Preview) Dear All, Thank you very much for all of the help that you provide through this board. It means a lot to me. I have a question and I would like to get your input. Do you think relationship issues with an alcoholic can be looked at independent of the disease? Can an alcoholic legitimately claim that thei...	MooseWork	9	585	Jan 27, 2015 by Rumblefish
	Wishing you had loved them more - how? (Preview) I read a reply to someone else'e thread yesterday that hit me in the gut, HARD. But now I can't find it. I wanted to ask this question of that poster personally, but since I can't find it, I will ask it here. It may have been PP, but I am not sure. I can't even remember the topic, but the response included the t...	oceanpine	9	712	Jan 27, 2015 by Breakingfree
	A neat story how Neshema came to be!!!! (Preview) Hey MIP mates You all know i am 1/2 native American on mother's side and mostly french on the monster's side..... so HOW did I get a nickname like Neshema which is Hebrew??? I had a sponsee who was a teacher at Perdue University...A real sharp gal who was born in Israel, but moved to USA as a child with her p...	neshema2	15	2149	Jan 27, 2015 by grateful2be
	Couldn't move into my house today because of racism? wow. (Preview) My bond assistance (a loan for the security deposit) claim form was not processed or submitted, over a week ago. I had a bad feeling when I took the form in to the housing office (its a government department and the girl in the office was of an obvious ethnic/religious pursuasion and extremely hostile t...	missmeliss	8	601	Jan 27, 2015 by hotrod
	1-2-3 breathe.... (Preview) Just arrived home, it's night time, my daughter's birthday today, we get to the front door and middle brother greets daughter at the front door with "get that %^$& dog away from the house, he's not EVER allowed in this house" (we were going to walk him through to the the back yard like we h...	missmeliss	12	563	Jan 27, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Hope I am not overdoing it(so much to say) (Preview) Lately I have been on my mobile phone checking in a lot. I am now at the library where I can really get into it. I am doing much better w/ AH. He is getting less & less angry & not so grouchy. I am taking it as it comes & defending myself when necessary. He thinks we are arguing when I disagree. Mind...	Hoot Nanny	2	506	Jan 27, 2015 by PP
	One of my friends started drinking again (Preview) This is someone that read at my wedding. A close friend. I knew he had 10 years sober. I also knew he hadn't been to a meeting in a very long time. He kept talking about going with me. One time he even came out to the center and couldn't find the room where the meeting was that I was attending and he was try...	pinkchip	14	640	Jan 27, 2015 by Debb
	C2C January 27 (Preview) Doing things like not doing the dishes is a big deal in my marriage. I even find myself not doing them even today. It is a huge problem for me. We can make big deals out of small stuff.I didn't interpreate as a sign a disrespect but a sign of neglect. It does no good to try to fix the problem in one day! Don't mak...	Hoot Nanny	3	431	Jan 27, 2015 by PP
	having fun! (Preview) I am having so much since I basically surrendered I am enjoying starting a scrapbook. I have been finding old photos of friends & family & sorting them out. I found cards & other keepsakes from a long time ago. Then I found my scrapbook from HS. Another fun idea I had was to have a all-girl...	Hoot Nanny	2	268	Jan 27, 2015 by hotrod
	One of my least favorite things! (Preview) One of my least favorite things about any AA and alanon combined meetings I have attended is when the alcoholics stand up and say "we don't do this to hurt you" and it seems to me like that is supposed to be getting them off the hook FOR hurting all those they know and love.. Well maybe they didn'...	glad	12	545	Jan 27, 2015 by hotrod
	Hope For Today Jan 27 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about using the tools of the program to help ourselves in recovery and help ourselves stay in the present, not be mired in our past. There is specific mention for ACOA--of whom I am one as well. I have considered how growing up in alcoholism and all it brings has con...	yanksfan51	4	476	Jan 27, 2015 by karma13
	To all our members on the East Coast (Preview) Many prayers for all of you and for your families and neighbors, too! As the blizzard makes itself known, I hope you all stay warm and safe, have plenty of food and can stay connected to us, too. -- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 26th of January 2015 05:04:25 PM	grateful2be	30	531	Jan 27, 2015 by grateful2be
	One thing I don't understand about boundaries. (Preview) I understand about boundaries in general, but in some situation, I don't get how that general principle is applied. If someone was breaking into a neighbor's house, and loading all their stuff into their van, I would call the cops. I would not say "None of my business - no one is being abused.&q...	Screaming Barbie	18	853	Jan 26, 2015 by grateful2be
	My Story - First Post (Preview) I'm sure you must get a few of these every day...... here's mine. I've been with my wife/partner for 10 years. I came to the relationship 'innocent' of the dangers of Alchohol, in the early days we'd meet, we'd both drink, pretty much like everyone else. Alarm bells started ringing about a year in when a...	NobleStone	15	808	Jan 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	first ODAT summary for Jan 26 (Preview) This is my first summary for the ODAT. Since I have been attending meetings for over 29 years I thought I might try tbis. It says that family members sometimes come to Al anon out of desperation. They think they are going to get the alcoholic sober. In reality the purpose of coming is to gain serenity &am...	Hoot Nanny	8	570	Jan 26, 2015 by aquamom23
	Huntsville's Finest (Preview) So... here in the nice city of Huntsville, wife came home TRASHED. A nasty fight broke out. She attacked me. Cops were called... twice in one night. 5 kids. Was pregnant with twins but cancer recently took them from her. Huge alcoholic wife. 2 dui's. Whatever. Cops didn't believe anything about...	AWSmith	21	704	Jan 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	A spiritual awakening re: my relationship w/my daughter (Preview) daughter #2 is bleeding b/c she has been working too much..... I called her yesterday to just get udated on family news and she was delighted to hear from me..."mommie, I love and miss you" I told her that i missed her too, but was gonna protect me from her behaviours, but not ever stop loving...	neshema2	20	964	Jan 26, 2015 by PP
	Oooh, more chances to practice not reacting...goody!!! (Preview) Whew. You might remember my house-mate lady person that I stayed with for 9 weeks was having a pretty up and down time with her son etc and unfortunately a lot of her unhappiness ended up being directed towards myself and my daughter. In the end it became quite nasty and, knowing that I had kept my side of t...	missmeliss	11	544	Jan 26, 2015 by neshema2
	Daily reading (Preview) Hi MIP FamilyI have been posting a summary of the daily reading to the Board for the past few days . I believe it is helpful to start he day with an alanon thought. If anyone else is up early and would like to post the summary please do so. Please note , we are unable to post or copy the entire page fr...	hotrod	10	802	Jan 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Newbie (Preview) Hi all. Another newbie. In this case, an AW. This is a day, I just want to holler. That's all I have for now. Maybe more later.	Rumblefish	10	490	Jan 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	if nothing changes nothing changes (Preview) I am changing but my Ah is not. I really believe this today. He is stuck in a rut. I am enjoying my friends & he thinks that they won't be there if I really need them. He has no clue about real friendships. Even his dad said to him that you only have one true friend & the rest are acquaintances.	Hoot Nanny	3	525	Jan 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Friends who use drugs and alcohol; to say something or not? (Preview) I have 4 friends who are drunk and stoned; I have been sober 31 years and 25 years in Alanon; they don't want help or want to stop; It looks like I have to drop these friendships because I just can't tolerate drunk people any more.	onestein	2	432	Jan 26, 2015 by neshema2
	To say hello or not to say hello (Preview) I have not spoken to the guy I was dating since he sent me a long apology over a week ago. (By the way, the apology was REALLY good although as I've stated before, he is really good at apologizing.) I told him I felt better that he had apologized and agreed with him that now is not the time for us to build a r...	Bostonpugwoman	10	2460	Jan 26, 2015 by neshema2
	Today's C2C - 1-26 - Spiritual Awakening (Preview) Todays Courage to Change reading is about the 12th step, especially the phrase that says Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps. As I read this page, I thought thats a fine kettle of fish! Ive volunteered to do this reading, and I havent yet done the 12th step! Then I realized that...	KennyFenderjazz	4	514	Jan 26, 2015 by karma13
	Good morning (Preview) Just want to say good morning to all hope you stay safe keep warm and get everything you Need I'm so grateful to be alive today and happy and life is what you make of it .if you don't like it change it you have that option to do so just drop it off give it to god . Live for yourself today because you count	Wisdom67	4	271	Jan 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Good Sunday morning (Preview) Just checking in to say hello . Still looking for work still keeping my spirits up . Glad today is a new day I'm grateful for what God has given me , I did makes some minor changes, I did get rid of ppl who were not good for me to.be around there true color final peeked threw and my head is clear now , I able to see t...	Wisdom67	5	268	Jan 26, 2015 by el-cee
	Do you worry that you'll stop caring? (Preview) This is my first post. I've been trying to figure out why I am struggling with removing myself from the situations my husband's drinking creates. Why I feel the need to constantly text or call to make sure he's okay and beg him not to drive. Or why I beg him constantly to stop or point out how this is hu...	mlang	13	805	Jan 26, 2015 by Jerry F
	Responses to this complaint? (Preview) My AH is obsessed with the fact we haven't been intimate for a long time. This week, he has started saying "it's been 100 days" and he is saying it over and over... linking it to other things... like maybe he would do more errands if he had sex more often. Or whatever. About 100 days ago, he cros...	oceanpine	18	793	Jan 25, 2015 by maryjane
	I don't have time for this.... (Preview) I have my advanced skills final tomorrow morning and wanted to practice at the college lab today, but woke up nauseous and very dizzy along with light headed. I went to the urgent care and the Dr. thinks I have an inner ear infection, so he put me on an antibiotic and something for the dizzy spells. I reall...	Breakingfree	21	890	Jan 25, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	a part of a joke (Preview) The best part of waking up is soldiers in your cup! That is the punch line. Can't remember the rest of the joke.	Hoot Nanny	5	259	Jan 25, 2015 by grateful2be
	Not even drinking (Preview) Hello - I'm new to this group and not even sure this is where I'm meant to be. My partner doesn't drink. He hasn't drunk for 2 years. He stopped himself because he knew he couldn't handle it and hasn't attended more than a couple of AA meetings. He says he doesn't need them. However, he has pretty severe...	gillygilly	9	558	Jan 25, 2015 by Jerry F
	I am so done with crap!!!! (Preview) I try to be a good person and I want to be treated with respect.I have been having some problems with my landlord, she doesn't want to fix things.I had a leak in my hot water tank which resulted in a bad mold problem in and around a cabinet,it could also be behind the cabinet or under the floor,she told me t...	mjferg	15	1051	Jan 25, 2015 by grateful2be
	Off "center" ! (Preview) As posted today... I have a right to want what I want and feel the way I feel. I do not have to act on those feelings but I do not have to hide them from myself as they are part of me. I'm feeling a good bit "slippery" lately - meaning I'm feeling self pity, it maybe my biggest flaw-or rather greates...	glad	4	481	Jan 25, 2015 by milkwood
	involuntary committal of a sibling (Preview) I'm struggling with whether to commit my brother. He is 51 and has been in residential treatment twice over the past 5 years. He lives alone, is unemployed, his house is out of control and is declining steadily. He falls a a lot and is bruised all over his body. He also has a history of seizures relate...	sadsister1979	4	480	Jan 25, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C ODAT thoughts for 1-25 (Preview) Thought provoking readings today in both the C2C and ODAT Courage to Change speaks about keeping the focus on others and not paying attention to our own needs and wants. It points out that we neglected ourselves because we did not think we were worthy and did want others to see us as we were. I can id...	hotrod	6	372	Jan 25, 2015 by Jerry F
	I am feeling lonely (Preview) This morning I am feeling lonely. No one is up. Slept bad because my thoughts were racing. Now I have to face another day. I think I am going to try to organize some stuff & declutter my mind. Good day is yet to come if I let it.	Hoot Nanny	7	480	Jan 25, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	UGH! More frustration (Preview) Without going into a long story, I just want to vent over the fact that now my AH claims he wants to buy a house. 3 days ago he wanted to stay here and buy me out. I found a rental, they are willing to work with my unemployed self, and I was ready to sign the lease today and now AH throws out the, "I've foun...	andromeda	28	700	Jan 25, 2015 by grateful2be
	How do you get out of a relationship with a dry drunk (Preview) I need some advice on how to break away from a dry drunk does it have to be really bad or can I gradually stop it.	Helpangel	8	523	Jan 25, 2015 by neshema2
	feeling some anxiety (Preview) I received a text from my daughter-in-law last night,my son left her and is asking for a divorce.They have 2 kids.She is hurting so bad,I really feel for her.I love them both and I told her I will be here for both of them.There aren't any bad feelings between us and I know I will be able to see my grandchil...	mjferg	3	287	Jan 25, 2015 by likemyheart
	From immoble to banana splits (Preview) on December 8th when I drug myself to the clinic hardly able to walk...needed help in the clinic to get around and to get up on the table, etc., for my exam, and finally got that shot in the muscle to put me out of my pain, the doctor while examining me said that that was one of the worst lower back muscle seizu...	neshema2	9	602	Jan 25, 2015 by el-cee
	Overview of C2C and ODAT Reading 1-24 (Preview) C2C January 24 is a powerful page that reflects on the topic of Feelings. It stresses the importance of really feeling our feelings and not pretending. It suggests that we learn how to be honest with ourselves and stop trying to fit into someone else mold. It asos points out that Al-Anon doe...	hotrod	6	607	Jan 25, 2015 by hotrod
	AH sober 50 days but sleep all the time and then complains the rest (Preview) hi all! I need some advice on how to detach from my ah who is 50 days sober but is hard to deal with. He works where I work yet goes in late all time complaining he can't sleep and then whines a lot about how he hates going to meetings all the time. If I don't say anything he gets mad if I do he gets mad. This recover...	Helpangel	17	1065	Jan 24, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	My Reality is Skewed (Preview) A posting from Andromeda reminded me of something. I played bass in a band until a couple of years ago where our keyboard player wrote a lot of originals. One of my favorites was a song called "My Reality is Skewed", it is about how our realities are skewed because we are spiritual beings in a...	KennyFenderjazz	5	684	Jan 24, 2015 by neshema2
	Walking in the truth takes a while to learn but so worth it! (Preview) I remember being all obsessed with the alcoholic and going on and on about how he was doing and someone saying to me, ok but how are YOU doing? ...That really sat be back a bit.. like a "cow looking at a new gate" is what we might say here in Texas. What did that mean "How was I doing" I'...	glad	8	598	Jan 24, 2015 by tiredtonite
	What am I grateful for TODAY???? (Preview) Grateful challenge for Saturday.....I am grateful for the following: The lessons I learned about perseverance and keeping up the work and giving outcome over to HP That I came clean with my High School classmates about my being bullied and shamed b/c I had a terrible family and now they are reaching o...	neshema2	12	696	Jan 24, 2015 by neshema2
	Feeling Frustrated and Being Negative ALL OF THE TIME! (Preview) So as you may know, my AH (who is partial denial) stopped drinking for 30 days on his own to prove to me that he "doesn't have a problem." You and I know that this won't work. What I find is that even though he is currently sober and a dry drunk, I keep treating him like he is still drinking. I feel li...	flagbabe83	7	591	Jan 24, 2015 by Jaclyn
	Donations for site funding and Board Moderator Request (Preview) This time of year is when everything comes due on the web sites annual expenses, so if you have the ability please consider making a 5-10 dollar donation to help offset the cost of this site. It is important that the site remains self supporting through its member contributions, and the burden of expe...	John	14	750	Jan 24, 2015 by Luiza
	Here we go again, just trying to hang on to my sanity (Preview) It has been a very trying week. As I expected daughter lost job ( the 3rd ) in two months for I guess not showing up the next day I don't really know. I have been nutso worrying about her. Trying very hard to read my books and messages here and praying furiously to my hp to help me and her and attend online me...	serenity47	9	411	Jan 24, 2015 by el-cee
	a work in progess (Preview) It is bad enough that I am bone tired.I am still rechecking my every move. I think I ccan handle this one day at a time. It has been years since he left me on a total episode. For those who don't knowh has bp gambling addict & alcoholic. He has been sober years away from gambling & drinking & quit...	Hoot Nanny	0	193	Jan 24, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	New Wife - Boundaries (Preview) I already know what I'm going to do .. lol .. I guess I just need to read it and think for a min about it. My children are on her insurance now, I don't care I'm just glad they finally have insurance. Honestly it costs her nothing more so it's all good. XAH has insurance however not under her policy. So he h...	SerenityRUS	4	452	Jan 24, 2015 by grateful2be
	stranded but not really: staying home (Preview) I am concerned because we have to get an alternator for our car & we have to spend more time together. I won't project but I hope we get along after having all these episodes. I will call a friend in the program if I need to & pray. I am just grateful for yesterday because we didn't argue & have a s...	Hoot Nanny	2	343	Jan 24, 2015 by grateful2be
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