Something Alanon has taught me is how to have a life as I really did not.  I was teased at last nights meeting that I hadn't been coming to due to scheduling conflicts that I finally showed up .. lol.  Well, part of the wonderful part of Alanon is learning to live the life I have vs just talking about it. 

My kids suffer a lot in terms of there just aren't enough hours in the day during the week for me to be present.  Then they have schedules as well that make things challenging.  By the time the night comes on I'm just beat and still have many things to do before bedtime comes around.  I realize that I have to ask for help and I'm not good at that.  Part of the last few months has been humbling because I'm having to learn to do that .. there are things I can ask for help on and there are other things I just suck at.  LOL .. so I'm getting a humbling experience to say the least. 

Well, I had to laugh at myself because it was a busy day yesterday my son asked I bring him lunch and I haven't recently and it's something I do like to do.  He's a wonderful kid and obviously so is my daughter.  He doesn't ask for a lot and it's easy to dismiss little things he asks for out of the whole "I'm busy" mantra and that's not ok on my part.  The other thing was we talked about him playing in something called a Magic Gathering Tourney .. it's a card game and I have found a wonderful place that is all young college men (if I were in my 20's it would be a huge blast .. lots of FUN .. lol).  Just so happens a young man I work with attends and I had spoken to him that day and asked if he would mind spending a couple of hours with my son so I could attend my "church function" it happens to be down the road. 

This is such a blessing and I can't stress that enough .. a large amount of young men who are NOT drinking, interacting face to fact and just having a blast doing it.  All of these young men are more than happy to take a new player under their wings and help them.  They were tickled by my boy and he got some licks in as far as winning some games last night.  He's a smart guy.  So they were impressed and the one young man who took him under his wing has offered to help him build a deck.  Plus the guy from work, they are all so funny .. this game is serious .. lol.  They are all just really neat guys.  It soooo good for my son so this is something I want to do for him on a weekly basis.  As he gets to know more of these young men I'm hoping he sees the respect they have for each other and learns some valuable life lessons.  So I got to go to my meeting.  My son got to have a positive experience with about 95% men who took tremendous interest in him as a person.  Now I need to find something for my girl on Friday nights that is also just as positive.  Normally she's at her boyfriends house however last night hung out at home. 

This is what living the life I have is like .. I really like it.  :)