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soberbedwetter · soberbedwetter

-- Edited by canadianguy at 10:23, 2005-10-12

gardengal · gardengal

By the time we reach Alanon many of us resent others whose lives appear less

troubled, envying what we think they have.But in time we discover that each of us are special. I have a unique set of skills, interests and opportunities. I'm asured that I have everthing I need to do what I am here to do to...

Tammy · Tammy

I wanted to update everyone I am home now after leaving my husband of 19 years for over 2 weeks. I have been home now for almost 2 weeks and things are really going well. ( taking it day by day ) My husband the A is going to counseling and so am I then this week we started our first JOINT counseling session.... >

Ratchie · Ratchie

Friends, Today was such a crazy day. My A shows up at work & says he is giving me the newer vehicle that he just "magically" bought. That he is selling my daughter's car, it is a piece of sh** and so on. That he doesn't want to see us riding around in these junk vehicles that will be...

chrissy · chrissy

he said to me that he is no good .that he gives up and he can't handle the pressure and he wants me to move on, he doesn't deserve me. i am a good person an deserve to be happy. i just cried my eyes out and he hung up the phone. and he turned his phone off again. i am so worried he will hurt him...

sg · sg

I have truely surrendered in regards to my A's disease and the future of our relationship. I am working my Program, taking care of myself and the kids and trying to enjoy life as much as I can whether the A. wants to be involved or not. I have tried communicating w/him regarding my needs in our marriage and...

VioletScars · VioletScars

Hi everyone, I am new to posting on the board. Just wanted to let everyone know. Al-anon has been helping me greatly.

cdb · cdb

My post actually starts after marmares reply :) The first one is about the awful things bedwetter wrote on the board today but most of the posts have now been deleted. cdb :) I learned this in alanon as I would see my daughter while drunk out of her mind say things and do things that were totally shocking...

Robin · Robin

I am having a hard time accepting the fact that my 25 yr old daughter has a severe alcohol problem. She lost her 2 kids due to her abuse. She checked herself out of a program after 60 days of sobriety. This is the sixth attempt to remain sober for her in a year. She is in California, I am in Wyoming. Right now, I...

nycbt · nycbt

I had a nice weekend, I was off on Monday. On Saturday my husband went out and I handled it very well. I would normal call him all the time to see when he was coming back. I did well I actually called him twice in a couple hour span. I did call someone on my Alanon phone list and talked to her for a while. Then I cal...

nycbt · nycbt

I am so happy I lose 6 POUNDS. I have been doing situps every other day and walking. I feel that it is showing. I am taking care of myself and it is showing. I just wanted to share with you all.

hadit · hadit

Can someone please explain to me why is it that everytime I start to make progress within myself, I slip and fall behind. Just the other day I did a similar thing, gave in but rectified it. Did for me instead of for him. I am trying to set some boundaries for myself towards my a. He and I as you pr...

marmare · marmare

Well, his parents have now laid down the law. He called because his mother told him that was condition to staying there this week. He started by telling me that he hasn't thought about me all week, (I so much wanted to say that is because he was drunk and/or high, but I didn't) I stayed...

captcodee · captcodee

As you can all plainly see, there is a member who is quite upset... well, very very upset. As we process this, lets remember why we are here. Take what you like, and leave the rest. Obviously he is hurting very bad, and when he processes this, we want it to be a place he is still welcome.&nbs...

mollyann · mollyann

Hi Everyone, I found Al Anon two months ago, and started attending meetings and working my program. I was also going to monthly therapy appointments. My dad was an alcoholic and died when I was very young. I started going to Al Anon meetings because my boyfriend of six months was a heavy drinker....

nycbt · nycbt

I have a very hard time making boundaries. My husband and I have been together for 6 yrs and married for 14 months. He was sober for six months and now has gone back to drinking. We only have one car so when he decides to go out drinking I worry that something might happen like a DWI and I don't know if I want to g...

sg · sg

Just curious if anyone else has dealt w/their A becoming obsessive about certain things. For the 7 yrs I have been married to my A. he goes thru periods of obsession with certain things. It use to be HOURS upon HOURS playing computer games. Then it was things like remote control racecars,...

sandy · sandy

Thank you to all who responded to Why do I get so angry. I feel a little better, I suppose I do, I feel more like crying instead of being mad. I have such mixed emotions, like everyone I suppose or we wouldn't be here. I printed the post 10 Guidelines from our HP. I'll have to study them or get them bea...

sandie123 · sandie123

Well I've decided that it is time for a necessary change! I talked to my husband of 20 years yesterday and he told me he has no plans on ever stopping drinking. He told me he knows I cannot handle his drinking. I have decided that if he still cannot see beyond his bottle.. and it does...

kitty · kitty

I have read that a human must hear something seven times before they are willing to even consider the idea. Not only does making lists help me to remember what I love about myself & life, I make up signs & stick them on the wall, to allow my mind to see positive affirmations or reminders over &am...

mastiff · mastiff

Was reading in my husband's big book a while back and wasn't sure if all were framilar with the chapers that are addressed to us, the Alanoners..... There are 2 of them they are labeled "To Wives" and "The Family Afterward." "To Wives" was written when most of the time the alcoholic in the family w...

Powerless · Powerless

I feel like I am deceiving him. He has asked me several times over the past few days if I am planning on leaving him. I told him no because I did not want to create a scene; especially in front of the children. He told me Saturday that his biggest fear is coming home from work one day to find out th...

Ratchie · Ratchie

Hi Friends, Well I've gotten through week one with my husband moved out. I've still seen him almost every day as he is still getting stuff out of the house, but not staying here anymore. One night when he was here moving more stuff I told him he could eat supper with me & the girls.&nbs...

bd · bd

Hi There I can't believe the kindness of this group. All the hands that have been extended in my time of need. I guess my biggest thing was that I needed to ask. To admit I had all these feelings was a hard thing to do. People who know me just tell me to let it go. I don't hav...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 11 My method for dealing with the insanity and chaos while growing up in an alcoholic environment was *not* to deal with it. I escaped into a fantasy world of books and art and remained physically and emotionally removed from what went on around me. My family could ar...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Meditation for the Day "First be reconciled to your brother and then come and offer your gift to God." First I must get right with other people and then I can get right with God. If I hold resentment against someone, which I find it very difficult to overcome, I should try to put something else constr...

ditto · ditto

Does anyone know of a good divorce bulletin board -- something along the lines of this one, but for people going through a divorce?

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

I'm new to Alanon/ACOA and I've heard the phrase in my home meeting, "I've been working the steps," and was curious what this meant. Does it mean different things to different people? What types of things are considered working the steps? When do you know you are REALLY working the steps versus just ki...

hannv · hannv

my husband quit drinkin about 3 weeks ago. he was drinking 6-22 beers a night. i told him if he didn't stop drinking for 2months i was leaving. i know he needs to wuit forever but we will work up to that. he is so moody when will it be out of hes system. thanks

chrissy · chrissy

i called our cell phone company and asked for all the # he called since friday & ordered a statement since april of all incoming & out going calls. this is when all this crap started i found 9 phone #s he called over and over again. the longest is 2 minutes first i called...

ditto · ditto

I went to see an attorney about divorcing my a. She told me we had to go to family counseling first. So, after many arguments, I convinced my a that we needed to get help. He was very resistant and only willing to go if it was to "fix" me. He has no problems, he is perfect, and I need...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi all, Exactly 1 year, my A was near death and my life changed forever. I'd like to share this with although it may be a bit long and rambling. But I'm writing from my heart. My A left his other family behind on 9/28/04. He came home to me. Those 2 weeks were filled with drinking and lots of talking u...

Karilynn · Karilynn

The first line of this poem was something that my Mom use to remind herself when she was stressed at the university or at home. I just came across it in one of her books. If this isn't made for us. I don't know what is. Desiderata by Max Erhmann (1952) Go placidly amid the noise and haste, as r...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 10 Sometimes I need to work Step One backwards.I don't always recognize when I'm powerless, but I certainly notice when my life becomesunmanageable. Then I remember that usually when I'm feeling insane, I'm forgetting my powerlessnessand trying to control outcomes or oth...

Powerless · Powerless

I only have two days to make a major decision of whether or not I am moving into my parents house an hour away. I will have to do it while my husband is at work. Our two year old is at the beach this week with the in-laws so I really need to do it by Thursday if I am going to do it. I called the school up t...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies! I've seen a good deal of posts about crying. My A gave me this box last year when he was in rehab. It has a bunch of his favorite quotes. But this one is particularly good. I showed it to him this weekend as he has been crying a lot lately because now that he's sober, and doing mental health is e...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

Was just listening to the Swamp Ophelia Album by the Indigo Girls and suddenly heard a lot of program in one of my favorite songs of theirs. Just wanted to share it in keeping with the philosophy that the best way out of our problems is to go through them...enjoy! emmie **This is not conference approve...

chrissy · chrissy

I wish I could help him too, unfortunately he is the only person who can help himself. YOU MUST DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO LEGALLY DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM HIM. He is very sick - but even though you are his wife that doesn't mean that you don't love him, or care fo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Payoffs from Destructive Relationships Sometimes it helps to understand that we may be receiving a payoff from relationships that cause us distress.The relationship may be feeding into our helplessness or our martyr role.Maybe the relationships feeds our need to be needed, enhancing our s...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Sometimes it's worse to win a fight than to lose. --Billie Holiday Our struggles with other people always take their toll on us. They often push us to behavior we're not proud of. They may result in irreparable rifts. They frequently trigger an emotional relapse. No battle is worth the damage to t...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

Just received this from a friend and it really helped me remember all the things I forget to do when I am in a crisis...thought it might be helpful to others too. **Please note: this is not Conference Approved.** Ten Guidelines from Your Higher Power Effective immediately, pleas...

kitty · kitty

I first came to the 12 step programs 20 yrs ago, when my childhood, best friend decided to become clean. I supported her & went to AA & NA mtgs with her, sometimes we hit 3 meetings in a day. She substituted the program for the drugs & went after serenity with a vengence... ...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Okay, I have been feeling like a hypocrite. My husband is living with his parents. He has no responsibilities, no obligations. His every need is met. He has plenty of food, a comfortable bed, cable, they maintain his car and give him spending money. He does not work, and has nothing but excuses of why...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Order "We emphasize setting our house in order because it brings us relief."Basic Text p. 93 Focusing on what others are doing can provide momentary relief from having to take a look at ourselves. But one of the secrets of success in Narcotics Anonymous is making sure our own house is i...

sandy · sandy

Hi Everyone, You would think after living with an "A" for 38 years I would have this figured out but I really don't know why. I have always got mad and angry with my husband when he starts drinking and I'm the same way with my daughter. I talked to her yesterday morning she seemed okay, a little d...

Becca · Becca

I had a slip today and expressed terrible rage towards my spouse (the alcoholic) and I need to tell on myself and share. I have been in the program for about 2 1/2 years. I recently moved to a new area and there are not as many meetings near me that I'm used to attending. I have worked the...

mollyann · mollyann

Hi Everyone, I found this bit about resentment on the hazeldon.org site and thought I would share: Resentments are the blocks that hold us back from loving others and ourselves. Resentments do not punish the other person. They punish us. They become barriers to feeling good and enjoying life. Res...

bd · bd

Hi group When do we stop trying to help the A's in our life. Will I ever truly learn to let go? I always feel the need to extend my help and feel I'm turning my back it i don't. I understand the term detachment but can it really be achieved especially when an A is a parent. I keep st...

lilleah · lilleah

Hi all! I know I haven't written in awhile, but my A is pretty much on the computer constantly looking for a job. I hope everyone is doing well. I really need everyone right now. I am having terrible problems at work-which I won't go into, except to say it is harassment, and I am planning on speaking...

Powerless · Powerless

I really need views from my friends here. I spent the weekend at my parents about an hour away. We had a wonderful visit. They have offered to come down one day this week while my husband is at work and pack up the essentials and let me come live with them, rent-free until I can find a job...

Maria123 · Maria123

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kitty · kitty

I have been doing fairly well, the last few days... still trying to rest & not stress out too much, which is extremelely difficult for me, I stress about everything compulsively. I am sensitive & empathetic, I did healing work for over 10 years. The last 2 years, I have t...

marmare · marmare

The day started with a phone call from my girlfriend in FL, just checking up on me, we had a wonderful visit....... I probably am writing this for myself, but finding whatever it takes that makes it work is okay! I will finish my coffee this morning then off to run errands. I need to go to th...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

ive tried to work these steps but need more insight on these 2 im having so many problems with dealing with me ,ppl at my ftf meetings dont want to sponser dunno y but they dont,i guess or i feel like im at yalls mercy at this they seem to shy away from the steps 4 and 5 anyway,i can look at others problem...

hadit · hadit

First of all, thank you all who responded to my post from last night. I felt good when I wrote it and you all made me feel even better. I am going to try and keep up the good work. Now for the delima. My ex the "A" just called me about ten minutes ago. I still had not returned his calls from...

megan · megan

From Isabela: If you get a chance, give our friends at MIP my love and let them know I have not forogtten any of them and they are often in my thoughts and prayers and I am sending many good thoughts their way...for their health, happiness, and recovery. Isabela is working ver...

leo · leo

Hi I am hoping you guys can come up with a bit of advice here. To those of you who don't know I live in a small town and my husband lost his licence. Of course the bush telegraph was quick and everybody knew about it. For those who didn't know I chose to tell only the ones I wanted to a...

Mars · Mars

encouraged me to look for a site i could be a member of . As he was getting so much from the site he used. i was reading the post`s etc and just thinking of posting again . As now i can bore you rather than friends . i do not discuss my partner with my family anymore if i hear one more "end it ","he is n...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

this is the challenge of my life learning how to detach with love everytime

,but ive got to learn it somehow i read alot of alanon lit but not to much on detaching with love it so easy to fall back into those old famieler ways of detaching out of a...

kitty · kitty

Many of you already know my story but I have been under the wheather for a month now & I wasn't on the computer, in fact I was hardly doing anything but praying. I see a lot of new names & I am so happy to know more ppl are finding our safe haven for love, support, encouragement & growth. ...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	suicidal (Preview) -- Edited by canadianguy at 10:23, 2005-10-12	soberbedwetter	2	914	Oct 12, 2005 by gardengal
	ENVY ,SOMETHING WE RARELY TALK ABOUT (Preview) By the time we reach Alanon many of us resent others whose lives appear less troubled, envying what we think they have.But in time we discover that each of us are special. I have a unique set of skills, interests and opportunities. I'm asured that I have everthing I need to do what I am here to do to...	gardengal	4	1455	Oct 12, 2005 by gardengal
	Living DAY to DAY (Preview) I wanted to update everyone I am home now after leaving my husband of 19 years for over 2 weeks. I have been home now for almost 2 weeks and things are really going well. ( taking it day by day ) My husband the A is going to counseling and so am I then this week we started our first JOINT counseling session.... >	Tammy	4	900	Oct 12, 2005 by nikkilou
	Survived Week One (Continued!) (Preview) Friends, Today was such a crazy day. My A shows up at work & says he is giving me the newer vehicle that he just "magically" bought. That he is selling my daughter's car, it is a piece of sh** and so on. That he doesn't want to see us riding around in these junk vehicles that will be...	Ratchie	4	699	Oct 12, 2005 by leo
	he called (Preview) he said to me that he is no good .that he gives up and he can't handle the pressure and he wants me to move on, he doesn't deserve me. i am a good person an deserve to be happy. i just cried my eyes out and he hung up the phone. and he turned his phone off again. i am so worried he will hurt him...	chrissy	5	973	Oct 12, 2005 by leo
	"bad dream" (Preview) I have truely surrendered in regards to my A's disease and the future of our relationship. I am working my Program, taking care of myself and the kids and trying to enjoy life as much as I can whether the A. wants to be involved or not. I have tried communicating w/him regarding my needs in our marriage and...	sg	1	1270	Oct 11, 2005 by canadianguy
	I am new (Preview) Hi everyone, I am new to posting on the board. Just wanted to let everyone know. Al-anon has been helping me greatly.	VioletScars	8	748	Oct 11, 2005 by soberbedwetter
	Focusing on my steps,,,eating disorder and HP (Preview) My post actually starts after marmares reply :) The first one is about the awful things bedwetter wrote on the board today but most of the posts have now been deleted. cdb :) I learned this in alanon as I would see my daughter while drunk out of her mind say things and do things that were totally shocking...	cdb	4	1414	Oct 11, 2005 by canadianguy
	my daughter (Preview) I am having a hard time accepting the fact that my 25 yr old daughter has a severe alcohol problem. She lost her 2 kids due to her abuse. She checked herself out of a program after 60 days of sobriety. This is the sixth attempt to remain sober for her in a year. She is in California, I am in Wyoming. Right now, I...	Robin	3	1011	Oct 11, 2005 by Flora123
	FRIENDS (Preview) I had a nice weekend, I was off on Monday. On Saturday my husband went out and I handled it very well. I would normal call him all the time to see when he was coming back. I did well I actually called him twice in a couple hour span. I did call someone on my Alanon phone list and talked to her for a while. Then I cal...	nycbt	5	654	Oct 11, 2005 by bd
	I lost weight (Preview) I am so happy I lose 6 POUNDS. I have been doing situps every other day and walking. I feel that it is showing. I am taking care of myself and it is showing. I just wanted to share with you all.	nycbt	6	868	Oct 11, 2005 by bd
	Going backwards instead of forward..again (Preview) Can someone please explain to me why is it that everytime I start to make progress within myself, I slip and fall behind. Just the other day I did a similar thing, gave in but rectified it. Did for me instead of for him. I am trying to set some boundaries for myself towards my a. He and I as you pr...	hadit	8	670	Oct 11, 2005 by KathyS
	I talked to him (Preview) Well, his parents have now laid down the law. He called because his mother told him that was condition to staying there this week. He started by telling me that he hasn't thought about me all week, (I so much wanted to say that is because he was drunk and/or high, but I didn't) I stayed...	marmare	7	757	Oct 11, 2005 by hudsond
	LET"S STAY FOCUSED (Preview) As you can all plainly see, there is a member who is quite upset... well, very very upset. As we process this, lets remember why we are here. Take what you like, and leave the rest. Obviously he is hurting very bad, and when he processes this, we want it to be a place he is still welcome.&nbs...	captcodee	2	1090	Oct 11, 2005 by sg
	Antidepressants and Progress with Program (Preview) Hi Everyone, I found Al Anon two months ago, and started attending meetings and working my program. I was also going to monthly therapy appointments. My dad was an alcoholic and died when I was very young. I started going to Al Anon meetings because my boyfriend of six months was a heavy drinker....	mollyann	3	746	Oct 11, 2005 by nycbt
	HARD AT MAKING BOUNDARIES (Preview) I have a very hard time making boundaries. My husband and I have been together for 6 yrs and married for 14 months. He was sober for six months and now has gone back to drinking. We only have one car so when he decides to go out drinking I worry that something might happen like a DWI and I don't know if I want to g...	nycbt	3	646	Oct 11, 2005 by VioletScars
	obsessiveness (Preview) Just curious if anyone else has dealt w/their A becoming obsessive about certain things. For the 7 yrs I have been married to my A. he goes thru periods of obsession with certain things. It use to be HOURS upon HOURS playing computer games. Then it was things like remote control racecars,...	sg	7	1253	Oct 11, 2005 by canadianguy
	I feel a little better, thank you (Preview) Thank you to all who responded to Why do I get so angry. I feel a little better, I suppose I do, I feel more like crying instead of being mad. I have such mixed emotions, like everyone I suppose or we wouldn't be here. I printed the post 10 Guidelines from our HP. I'll have to study them or get them bea...	sandy	3	848	Oct 11, 2005 by nycbt
	Time for a life change (Preview) Well I've decided that it is time for a necessary change! I talked to my husband of 20 years yesterday and he told me he has no plans on ever stopping drinking. He told me he knows I cannot handle his drinking. I have decided that if he still cannot see beyond his bottle.. and it does...	sandie123	6	937	Oct 11, 2005 by nycbt
	7 times (it's short) (Preview) I have read that a human must hear something seven times before they are willing to even consider the idea. Not only does making lists help me to remember what I love about myself & life, I make up signs & stick them on the wall, to allow my mind to see positive affirmations or reminders over &am...	kitty	2	677	Oct 11, 2005 by nycbt
	"To Wives" (and husbands) and "The Family Afterward" (Preview) Was reading in my husband's big book a while back and wasn't sure if all were framilar with the chapers that are addressed to us, the Alanoners..... There are 2 of them they are labeled "To Wives" and "The Family Afterward." "To Wives" was written when most of the time the alcoholic in the family w...	mastiff	8	8697	Oct 11, 2005 by mastiff
	I feel like I am deceiving him (Preview) I feel like I am deceiving him. He has asked me several times over the past few days if I am planning on leaving him. I told him no because I did not want to create a scene; especially in front of the children. He told me Saturday that his biggest fear is coming home from work one day to find out th...	Powerless	8	949	Oct 11, 2005 by captcodee
	Survived Week One (Preview) Hi Friends, Well I've gotten through week one with my husband moved out. I've still seen him almost every day as he is still getting stuff out of the house, but not staying here anymore. One night when he was here moving more stuff I told him he could eat supper with me & the girls.&nbs...	Ratchie	6	1021	Oct 11, 2005 by nmike
	Feeling Better (Preview) Hi There I can't believe the kindness of this group. All the hands that have been extended in my time of need. I guess my biggest thing was that I needed to ask. To admit I had all these feelings was a hard thing to do. People who know me just tell me to let it go. I don't hav...	bd	5	652	Oct 11, 2005 by pixel04
	unique but NEVER alone (Preview) Hope for Today - October 11 My method for dealing with the insanity and chaos while growing up in an alcoholic environment was not to deal with it. I escaped into a fantasy world of books and art and remained physically and emotionally removed from what went on around me. My family could ar...	rosie light shines	0	817	Oct 11, 2005 by rosie light shines
	getting right with thy brother, even if he is a dung heap (Preview) Meditation for the Day "First be reconciled to your brother and then come and offer your gift to God." First I must get right with other people and then I can get right with God. If I hold resentment against someone, which I find it very difficult to overcome, I should try to put something else constr...	rosie light shines	0	755	Oct 11, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Divorce Bulletin Board? (Preview) Does anyone know of a good divorce bulletin board -- something along the lines of this one, but for people going through a divorce?	ditto	1	712	Oct 11, 2005 by KathyS
	What Does It Mean To "Work the Steps"? (Preview) I'm new to Alanon/ACOA and I've heard the phrase in my home meeting, "I've been working the steps," and was curious what this meant. Does it mean different things to different people? What types of things are considered working the steps? When do you know you are REALLY working the steps versus just ki...	BlueCloud	2	5157	Oct 11, 2005 by jj
	husband quit drinking and is moody. when will his end? (Preview) my husband quit drinkin about 3 weeks ago. he was drinking 6-22 beers a night. i told him if he didn't stop drinking for 2months i was leaving. i know he needs to wuit forever but we will work up to that. he is so moody when will it be out of hes system. thanks	hannv	3	3057	Oct 11, 2005 by WakingUp
	ok i did stuff for me today but i also played detective (Preview) i called our cell phone company and asked for all the # he called since friday & ordered a statement since april of all incoming & out going calls. this is when all this crap started i found 9 phone #s he called over and over again. the longest is 2 minutes first i called...	chrissy	4	980	Oct 11, 2005 by nycbt
	Saw the Therapist today (Preview) I went to see an attorney about divorcing my a. She told me we had to go to family counseling first. So, after many arguments, I convinced my a that we needed to get help. He was very resistant and only willing to go if it was to "fix" me. He has no problems, he is perfect, and I need...	ditto	4	885	Oct 11, 2005 by leo
	One year later (Preview) Hi all, Exactly 1 year, my A was near death and my life changed forever. I'd like to share this with although it may be a bit long and rambling. But I'm writing from my heart. My A left his other family behind on 9/28/04. He came home to me. Those 2 weeks were filled with drinking and lots of talking u...	Karilynn	5	862	Oct 10, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Desiderata (Preview) The first line of this poem was something that my Mom use to remind herself when she was stressed at the university or at home. I just came across it in one of her books. If this isn't made for us. I don't know what is. Desiderata by Max Erhmann (1952) Go placidly amid the noise and haste, as r...	Karilynn	2	1097	Oct 10, 2005 by ajt62
	WOW!! big lesson surrender (Preview) Hope for Today - October 10 Sometimes I need to work Step One backwards.I don't always recognize when I'm powerless, but I certainly notice when my life becomesunmanageable. Then I remember that usually when I'm feeling insane, I'm forgetting my powerlessnessand trying to control outcomes or oth...	rosie light shines	1	738	Oct 10, 2005 by Emmie11
	Only have two days to make a major decision (Preview) I only have two days to make a major decision of whether or not I am moving into my parents house an hour away. I will have to do it while my husband is at work. Our two year old is at the beach this week with the in-laws so I really need to do it by Thursday if I am going to do it. I called the school up t...	Powerless	5	891	Oct 10, 2005 by Emmie11
	Crying (Preview) Hi roomies! I've seen a good deal of posts about crying. My A gave me this box last year when he was in rehab. It has a bunch of his favorite quotes. But this one is particularly good. I showed it to him this weekend as he has been crying a lot lately because now that he's sober, and doing mental health is e...	Karilynn	2	977	Oct 10, 2005 by nmike
	Song Lyrics (Preview) Was just listening to the Swamp Ophelia Album by the Indigo Girls and suddenly heard a lot of program in one of my favorite songs of theirs. Just wanted to share it in keeping with the philosophy that the best way out of our problems is to go through them...enjoy! emmie **This is not conference approve...	Emmie11	0	601	Oct 10, 2005 by Emmie11
	this is an email from my deacon (Preview) I wish I could help him too, unfortunately he is the only person who can help himself. YOU MUST DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO LEGALLY DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM HIM. He is very sick - but even though you are his wife that doesn't mean that you don't love him, or care fo...	chrissy	1	793	Oct 10, 2005 by Christy
	payoffs from bad relationships (Preview) Payoffs from Destructive Relationships Sometimes it helps to understand that we may be receiving a payoff from relationships that cause us distress.The relationship may be feeding into our helplessness or our martyr role.Maybe the relationships feeds our need to be needed, enhancing our s...	rosie light shines	0	786	Oct 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	bending with the wind (Preview) *Sometimes it's worse to win a fight than to lose. --Billie Holiday* Our struggles with other people always take their toll on us. They often push us to behavior we're not proud of. They may result in irreparable rifts. They frequently trigger an emotional relapse. No battle is worth the damage to t...	rosie light shines	0	518	Oct 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Ten Guidelines from HP (Preview) Just received this from a friend and it really helped me remember all the things I forget to do when I am in a crisis...thought it might be helpful to others too. Please note: this is not Conference Approved. Ten Guidelines from Your Higher Power Effective immediately, pleas...	Emmie11	4	789	Oct 10, 2005 by notsonew1111
	freeing myself (Preview) I first came to the 12 step programs 20 yrs ago, when my childhood, best friend decided to become clean. I supported her & went to AA & NA mtgs with her, sometimes we hit 3 meetings in a day. She substituted the program for the drugs & went after serenity with a vengence... ...	kitty	4	627	Oct 9, 2005 by kitty
	Who's consequenses? (Preview) Okay, I have been feeling like a hypocrite. My husband is living with his parents. He has no responsibilities, no obligations. His every need is met. He has plenty of food, a comfortable bed, cable, they maintain his car and give him spending money. He does not work, and has nothing but excuses of why...	Jeannie	11	752	Oct 9, 2005 by kitty
	putting my house in order (Preview) Order "We emphasize setting our house in order because it brings us relief."Basic Text p. 93 Focusing on what others are doing can provide momentary relief from having to take a look at ourselves. But one of the secrets of success in Narcotics Anonymous is making sure our own house is i...	rosie light shines	2	845	Oct 9, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Why do I get so angry? (Preview) Hi Everyone, You would think after living with an "A" for 38 years I would have this figured out but I really don't know why. I have always got mad and angry with my husband when he starts drinking and I'm the same way with my daughter. I talked to her yesterday morning she seemed okay, a little d...	sandy	8	845	Oct 9, 2005 by Jeannie
	Raging again. I've slipped! (Preview) I had a slip today and expressed terrible rage towards my spouse (the alcoholic) and I need to tell on myself and share. I have been in the program for about 2 1/2 years. I recently moved to a new area and there are not as many meetings near me that I'm used to attending. I have worked the...	Becca	5	762	Oct 9, 2005 by Karilynn
	Resentments and New Beginnings (Preview) Hi Everyone, I found this bit about resentment on the hazeldon.org site and thought I would share: Resentments are the blocks that hold us back from loving others and ourselves. Resentments do not punish the other person. They punish us. They become barriers to feeling good and enjoying life. Res...	mollyann	6	885	Oct 9, 2005 by serenity
	When do we stop trying? (Preview) Hi group When do we stop trying to help the A's in our life. Will I ever truly learn to let go? I always feel the need to extend my help and feel I'm turning my back it i don't. I understand the term detachment but can it really be achieved especially when an A is a parent. I keep st...	bd	4	642	Oct 9, 2005 by Karilynn
	sad and hopeless (Preview) Hi all! I know I haven't written in awhile, but my A is pretty much on the computer constantly looking for a job. I hope everyone is doing well. I really need everyone right now. I am having terrible problems at work-which I won't go into, except to say it is harassment, and I am planning on speaking...	lilleah	4	662	Oct 9, 2005 by Earthmother
	Need a sounding board (Preview) I really need views from my friends here. I spent the weekend at my parents about an hour away. We had a wonderful visit. They have offered to come down one day this week while my husband is at work and pack up the essentials and let me come live with them, rent-free until I can find a job...	Powerless	2	873	Oct 9, 2005 by Karilynn
	Angels Among Us by Alabama (Preview) ----------------------------------------------------------------------------	Maria123	2	634	Oct 9, 2005 by Faith73
	emotionally some days r tougher than others (Preview) I have been doing fairly well, the last few days... still trying to rest & not stress out too much, which is extremelely difficult for me, I stress about everything compulsively. I am sensitive & empathetic, I did healing work for over 10 years. The last 2 years, I have t...	kitty	0	651	Oct 9, 2005 by kitty
	Big Plans (Preview) The day started with a phone call from my girlfriend in FL, just checking up on me, we had a wonderful visit....... I probably am writing this for myself, but finding whatever it takes that makes it work is okay! I will finish my coffee this morning then off to run errands. I need to go to th...	marmare	9	632	Oct 9, 2005 by kitty
	working the 4 and 5 steps (Preview) ive tried to work these steps but need more insight on these 2 im having so many problems with dealing with me ,ppl at my ftf meetings dont want to sponser dunno y but they dont,i guess or i feel like im at yalls mercy at this they seem to shy away from the steps 4 and 5 anyway,i can look at others problem...	pattyann1963	5	633	Oct 9, 2005 by Flora123
	Now what do I do (Preview) First of all, thank you all who responded to my post from last night. I felt good when I wrote it and you all made me feel even better. I am going to try and keep up the good work. Now for the delima. My ex the "A" just called me about ten minutes ago. I still had not returned his calls from...	hadit	5	743	Oct 9, 2005 by jj
	Update on Isabela (Preview) From Isabela: If you get a chance, give our friends at MIP my love and let them know I have not forogtten any of them and they are often in my thoughts and prayers and I am sending many good thoughts their way...for their health, happiness, and recovery. Isabela is working ver...	megan	2	732	Oct 9, 2005 by Flora123
	suggestions (Preview) Hi I am hoping you guys can come up with a bit of advice here. To those of you who don't know I live in a small town and my husband lost his licence. Of course the bush telegraph was quick and everybody knew about it. For those who didn't know I chose to tell only the ones I wanted to a...	leo	9	883	Oct 9, 2005 by leo
	my A partner (Preview) encouraged me to look for a site i could be a member of . As he was getting so much from the site he used. i was reading the post`s etc and just thinking of posting again . As now i can bore you rather than friends . i do not discuss my partner with my family anymore if i hear one more "end it ","he is n...	Mars	1	693	Oct 9, 2005 by lin0606
	Detachment (Preview) this is the challenge of my life learning how to detach with love everytime,but ive got to learn it somehow i read alot of alanon lit but not to much on detaching with love it so easy to fall back into those old famieler ways of detaching out of a...	pattyann1963	2	732	Oct 9, 2005 by lin0606
	respect & boundaires (Preview) Many of you already know my story but I have been under the wheather for a month now & I wasn't on the computer, in fact I was hardly doing anything but praying. I see a lot of new names & I am so happy to know more ppl are finding our safe haven for love, support, encouragement & growth. ...	kitty	3	800	Oct 9, 2005 by kitty
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