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What to do??
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I am new here. I want to tell my guy (who is an alcoholic) that I do not love him anymore and want him to move out but I hate being that mean to him; especially this time of year. We have been together for a year and a half. He didn't drink for awhile and when he started he didn't drink much but now it is all the time...
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progress made here
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im very proud of myself. my a tried to manipulate me into staying here for the night. i almost caved in but then stood my ground. also did not get angry. everytime i spoke with him i remained calm. i feel wonderful.
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hey all my loves!!!!!!
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Hey all cloud here hope you are all well that dang santa by damn did not bring me a new pc but I will have it up and running soon my brother is working on it!!! Blue, Bob, Josey, Dave, Kiss, TT, Mastiff, My smore girl LOL U know who u are, Megan, CDB, Goat boy He he and All and my swan Maria I love and miss u so much no... >
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Invitation only to get into chat room???
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This morning a few minutes ago I tried to get into the chat room and the only thing that keeps popping up is "alanon chat: channel by invitation only" or something like that. What's going on with the chat room?
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update for John on chatroom
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Hi John,
Did you do something? Well, chatroom is working now.
Danke Oz, whoever, wherever you are (behind the curtain???)
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server messages again, John help
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Hi John,
Downloaded new java version and restarted but that isn't the problem, evidently.
Lets me in just for meeting (your time morning meeting) Tried later to reenter and got server messages again. same thing yesterday. and now?? help???!
thank you for answering and t...
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Holiday message
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Hi everyone,
I'm not sure if I will have time to post later. So I figured I would do it now.
Have to get ready for the 4pm childrens mass.
I wish all of you who celebrate Christmas, Hanuka, Kwanza or any of the Holidays, wonderful holidays. Enjoy the holidays and the time with your families.
Thois...
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my A has been inside three days
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I didn't think it would happen, I have little faith, but he's still there. The last time he didn't last 24 hours. When he checked in, he saw his chart and the date. It said 8/14. He cried and said it made him realize if he would've stayed he might be home now, for Christmas. However, his option...
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A plea for help!!!
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Ok since coming to Alanon - I've been learning to stand up for myself and not allow people to abuse me and to set boundaries. Well today I snapped. I was at my parents house and I couldnt take it anymore. While I was posting another post before - the sink erupted at my house. My fa...
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question
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can someone tell me what mirc is?
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john?
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Dear John,
is there a prob with mirc and java at the mo for this alanon chat room?
Hugs
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server messages?Oz?John?
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Hi
When i try to go into the chat room, i get nothing, just a screen on which it says "server messages" Where are you? Does this happen on Christmas? Little computer elves?
help again John,
oh great oz
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i need the chatroom
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why isnt the chatroom letting me in? i need it so much right now.
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New to board...my story.
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Hi, I'm Holly. I am experiencing an extremely difficult time in my life right now. I have been married to my husband for one year (on 12/11, to be exact), and it's been an up and down journey for both of us. He has been in outpatient recovery treatment programs twice (pr...
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Happy Holidays to All
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I wanted to just take a moment and wish each and everyone of you a Happy Holiday.
Everyone of you here is important to me, both the new members and the long time ones. You are all a part of my recovery and I thank you for that.
I pray this year ahead brings us all health, happiness and proserity.
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Simple Holidays
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I stayed in town this year. My husband (the Hindu) has no history of celebrating Christmas other than what I have shown him. This year we're doing what I like. The parties were over the past few weeks. Cooking was minimal, but we shopped for almost-prepared food and finished cooking it at home. Great id...
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can somebody please help me?
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im so hurt right now by everything. my a didnt come home yet and its quarter after nine pm. its supposed to be our christmas together. im supposed to go out of town tomarow to see relatives but now i cant face them. i tried to talk about this in chatroom but felt like no one cares. what do i do? i literaally fee...
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hi everyone
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Hi everyone thinking of you all the clock has just struck 12.00am in Australia so Merry Xmas wherever you are. For those of you on your own you are not alone with all your friends here. Best wishes. Luv Leo x
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cooked
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well i got by butt up and made myself some supper. and not something you can just throw in the microwave. i made a pasta dish. its really good. thats one small babystep
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cannot get into chat room
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cannot get into chat room. either by mirc or by website..anyone else having problem? iona54
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Apology or not?
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Good gravy I have run through the whole rollercoaster of emotions this week. Ok here it goes and please give me your honest opinion on this one.
After spending the last couple days alone, thinking, being kind to myself and rereading some literature, I am wondering if&nb...
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question-please help!
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it has been awhile since my last post. I hope everyone is well. I have a question. My A just started Christmas shopping yesterday, Friday. He got every thing for me, and our 2 kids. But he has bought NOTHING for his parents, or his nephew. He did get something for his niece. He told me to wake him up today at 8...
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per request - Dog Biscuit Recipe
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I decided to buy the Cooking the Three Dog Bakery Way (by Mark Beckloff & Dan Dye) for my mom as she has gone down there & spent over $100 on dog cookies. All of the food there, is "clean" so humans can eat it too ~I never tried any of them~ but figured it would be neat to bake dog bo...
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so much
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My daughter (22) is being released from a hospital in Arizona today. She was in an auto accident and suffered two broken ankles, a fractured skull and a small bone in her ear was broke. She found her way there, over three thousand miles away from home over a two week period. She left o...
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christmas am meeting
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hello all and merry christmas!!!! As most of you know i have 3 little ones and will be very busy tomarrow morning with them i'm sure. I know that christmas is a hard time for many, so i dont like not being there for them, but i feel i need to put my kiddo's first and be with them that morning and no...
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Happy Holidays
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((((((Friends)))))
I would like to wish each and every one of you happy, serene holidays. I have been very anxious about tonight's family get together, and it is now upon me. Luckily I was able to make it to a f2f this morning. I left there filled with gratitude.&nb...
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just a poem of my thoughts
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How could you be so stupid
To do this to me again?
How could I be so dumb
To let you hurt me again?
I feel so alone
In a deep dark hole
No one to reach out to
No one to comfort my soul.
The pain is intense
The tears wont stop
There’s no one around
To make this stop.
How could I trust...
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off to a bad start
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well its 10:30am i finally got some sleep at 5am. then guess who shows up here with flowers? like those will make everything better. i told him to leave me alone i am done. then he became ignorant. so he is making it easier for me to see how much of an a$$ he really is. usually he cries and begs for me back. not t...
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Sorry, double post
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Please see other post -- Edited by onlyacousin at 14:00, 2005-12-24
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alone
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im doing what i can to feel sane tonight. dont know what to do. im basically feeling alone and suicidal right now. i feel like no one cares about me or what happens to me. ive called numerous distress lines that have not helped. i took xanex to relax. all of my close friends are out of town and i dont want to bo...
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Letting go of son
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I need to some feed back on how much I should let go of my 17 year old son. His dad and I have been divorced since my son was 2. My xhusband is the alcoholic. Whenever my son and his dad are getting along. My son starts treating me and his step dad badly. My husband and I...
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hes ok
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sorry im posting so much. my a is safe at his moms. so i feel better. but still mad about him relapsing. wont know anything till tomorrow. he said i'll stil go out of town with you. screw that. im not going. im not going anywhere with him.
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Everything Happens for a reason
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On Wednesday I had checked to make sure a bill I paid had cleared. I discovered again that my husband had helped himself to the money and the check had bounced. I called him very angrily and told him that the check had bounced and that he had no right to take the money. He got flustered and said he was going to...
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Happy Holidays to all!
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To my extended family,
I wish each and everyone of you and your families a very blessed, peaceful, and Happy Holiday season.
I thank all of you for your insight, love, support, laughter and strength. May your holidays be safe and hopefully sober.
Merry Christmas!
Happy Hannukah!
Hap...
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more christmas foods.corrected
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sorry to have messed up the directions. hope this answers your ?
"that pumpkin s#$%
this is better than pie.
preheat oven to 350
1 large can pumpkin
1 large evaporated milk
1 cup sugar
3 eggs
¼ tsp cinnamon
these are mixed together with a mixer and dumped in a...
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Pay it Forward
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I finished my baking around 9 tonight....have a wonderful story to tell you....when my 18 yr old's car caught fire, about a week ago nobody stopped on on the road he was on to help, though he was trying to flag someone down....then this lady, like a grandma, who was on her way h...
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merry xmas to all
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Just want to take a minute to wish all whom I might not catch up with on chat a Merry Xmas and hope you have a good time, or an easy time, whichever it is likely to be, preferably both.
Heres to a peaceful Xmas to all, those who are around us, and those who cannot be.
Merry Xmas
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Spiritual Growth
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Roomies,
I wanted to share some recovery that I experienced today.
I've realized recently, that there is a "room" in my mind called "The Relationship," and I go there often to move furniture (lol), fix things, obsess, and generally focus on things outside of my control LOL. I feel like goi...
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can you tell
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can you tell how nuts im going right now? my a just tried to come home but i wouldnt let him in. and now he left. he is obviously on something right now and now im scared he will do something stupid like harm himself. im wondering if i did the right thing in sending him away. i really need to talk but i cant get in...
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cant sleep
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im going nuts. i cant get into chat. i cant sleep. its 3:30am i tried to lie down but couldnt. just kept thinking.and feeling sorry for myself. i hate that. my mind is just racing right now. ahhhhhhhhhhh
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was having an ok day until now.
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I guess I am going to have to start my day over as someone suggested to me in a f to f meeting the other night. I got off of work at 3 usually I work until 9:30. My husband knew all week yet he decided to go to the bar to say Merry Christmas. So I shopped for food alone, brought all the bags (14) up to the second floor...
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A sponcer is spieal
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Sponcers are wonderful people,they are or have bin where we are.I lost my sponcer of cancer,everything she ever said to me is in my heart and I apply them when needed.The best thing I have learned from her was something I now say to others.....Feelings are not right or wrong they just are.Feel,deal,he...
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thank you
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thank you all for your support im just so on my pity pot right now. trying to get off so bear with me. love y'all
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Feeling so alone
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Hi Everyone,
Happy Holidays to each of you..I have not been here for quite some time and I must add I do miss it. The guy I had been seeing still calls me and gives me hope...Just a week ago, he called me and we talked for awhile..I had asked him to come down to visit...but more of the same excuses..h...
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Please say a prayer for my children
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Some of you know I walked off my job in August because my manager couldn't keep his hands to himself. He wound up punching me and I reported him to HR. They told me I would have no choice but to report to him. I refused to go back to work under him. I filed for unemployment and was denied. They said the laws were...
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A Merry Christmas & thank you to all.
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Merry Christmas everyone.
I just like to say thank you to all that have responded to my post when I've been very sad or angry. Your responses have been so, so helpful to me. Sometimes I feel bad because I don't respond to the post but I haven't gotten myself together as of yet so giving words of enc...
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Taking Care of Finances During the Holidays
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This year, for the first time since I can remember, my finances are not in a mess during Christmas. My Christmas present to myself was to pay off my credit card. It put me in a position where I have limited money to spend on presents, and I'm so glad I did it! Now my only two big bills are my mortg...
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annoyed
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my a is making me so mad today. everyday he wants to go over to his moms. all the time. yesterday we went to get christmas stuff and who had to come along? his mom. we rented a bunch of movies to watch together and what did he do? he said we would spend the night watching movies with her because his sister is goi...
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A new day
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Here I am on a new day, grateful to be here. As I was replying to a post here I heard my front door open, and guess who came home thinking I would be gone for the most of the morning and afternoon. He had said he would call before coming by, but it is a small thing so I will let it go. He didn't want to stay because it...
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New & Sad
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Hello Everyone,
My name is Jennifer. I'm here tonight doing my best to take care of myself. I'm sitting here alternately feeling sorry for myself, guilty and just plain sad. This year has been unbelievably painful. I lost a dog, a cat, and my blinders that got me through life. My husband is an alcohol...
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Hard time of year for some
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I know how hard this time of year can be for some of us. I am praying for a peaceful, serene Holiday for everybody, with, without our A's, whatever is best for each and every one of you. For me, that means him staying away from the bottle for the first time since I've known him at Christmas time. (so far, so go...
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Merry Christmas
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to each and everyone in the MIP family. I hope that during this season each of you can find some peace in your lives even if only for one day. Remember during this busy time to take the time to take care of yourselves - for you are the most important thing.
Have a blessed one everyone....
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Happy Holidays All!
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Hello my roomies,
I know I am anxious for the Holidays to be over with, but I still want to wish you all a safe and happy holiday!
Much Love.
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had to happen
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Well I guess just when you think everything starts to fall into place you get hit by a truck and brought back to reality. Today my car has not been working and has a flat battery. My A came home from work with the sarcastic look on the face and wanting to know where the keys were so he coul...
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dealing with denial
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My younger sister has been an alcoholic since she was 16. She is now 49 and that is a lot of years with alcoholic thinking. Nevertheless I constantly personalize her behavior and want to change her and obsess about being triggered by her.
As she lives at some distance our contact is intermit...
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Holiday expectations
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I thought this holiday would be so special. I have bee looking forward to it all month. My company arrives today and I am a mess! My daughter came home this morning from her dad's so I could put different pants on her before she went to preschool. Her dad has no clue how to...
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ok, i was wrong, i am angry
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i have a million things going on in my head and realize that i do not even know where to begin. the anger i thought wasn't there is rearing it's very ugly head. the ups and downs of my emotions are going to drive me insane. i thought i saw a light at the end of the tunnel, at least a glimmer but instead was swallo...
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Is it the 26th yet?
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Hello all,
I am so looking forward to Monday morning. The holiday will be over and the stress can calm down. I know one day at a time.
My "A" just called to tell me that I ruined our camcorder, "So know we have a $700 piece of junk!" in his words. I feel bad, but it was an accident. I was trying to charge it an...
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Honesty
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I've not had the opportunity to post often and have mostly replied to other forums. Today I've been granted some down time and although the holiday stress is there, getting a well needed break from the hustle and bustle of combining my life (ie, family, church, al-anon, work, health issues; yo...
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Holiday Thanks
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About a month ago - I sat in a depressed state for days on end wishing I werent alive so I wouldnt feel the pain of leaving the love of my life. I had no desire, no ability to see past that minute, no desire to eat. I dreaded the thought of Christmas - of Christmas shopping and having to do i...
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