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nycbt · nycbt

He drove for the first in his old car. New to him. He took his son it was the first time he really left me home by myself. I cried I was so upset. Then I realize I am not alone. I had been talking to my sponsor earlier on in the day and she told me that my homework was to not follow him around or call him. Well i said to...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone, i have still been trying to catch up on the posts. im on page four right now. ive been busy trying to fend for myself. my a and i have been separated for a bit now. the other day we decided he should come home and he did all the right things and said all the right stuff. and of course i believed him. t...

MFran · MFran

My daughter A has been out of a 26 day rehab for 13 days and today she relapsed. She said she was depressed. Depression will probably be something she has to deal with the rest of her life. It saddens me to know that every time she feels depressed she could potentially dr...

Powerless · Powerless

My thoughts may be scattered so please bare with me. I have been doing so much thinking. First of all, my husband went one whole day clean yesterday and I was very proud of him. It's the first day he's gone completely clean, without marijuana or the other drugs in five years. I...

nycbt · nycbt

We got are oil changes and i got the car washed as well. Then he wanted to go to his friends house that he seems to want to go to alot. Well he didn't want to take his car so I rode with him because I still don't want him take off with my car. Well I got home and he went to the store and I didn't relize that is he wanted...

Iko · Iko

I went to a f2f meeting last night. I had called and asked what time an 'al anon' meeting was, they told me and I showed up, however it was a meeting for Adult children (which STILL includes me), but I was looking for, you know, a meeting in regards to me and my husband. It was a little harder for me to relate to...

gardengal · gardengal

-- Edited by jrtjosey at 12:56, 2006-03-17

kitty · kitty

It is ironic & I can see humor in HP ~ showing me to "lighten up". Nothing about my personality is light, I'm introspective, philospohical, literal & analytical... those facets of how my mind work never go away. But I love to laugh, do so often esp at myself & find off color &am...

txmom · txmom

It was mentioned in the chat room the other day that there are those in our group that are suffering unmentionable trying times right now. I have some lyrics that we all mean for you. We call this place our "home" and it is. Remember we love you and we're here for you whatever we can do t...

Barbara · Barbara

Its from Brothers name with his new address to mothers last name (same as brothers and mine). Well this way he let her know where he is but cant say the mail was sent to her! Of course my mother had to check out the address and did see his car. Its smart thinking on my brothers side. We know where he is and that h...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I received this in an email today from a very good friend. It is not Alanon literature, but it is a really nice story and the message is very true. LET IT REALLY SINK IN - THEN CHOOSE. John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something posit...

Powerless · Powerless

Today I am very nervous and when I sat down to read some of my literature, I realized why. I have expectations about his treatment assessment today and his court hearing. I have told myself not to, but I have been getting my hopes up that he is going to see this program through and get well.&n...

Sweetserenity · Sweetserenity

I have met so many great people on this board. Thank You for all your thoughts and prayers. I am struggling and not for the reasons you would think. For the first time in a long time I feel a sense of purpose. I wake up each day with the thought that I will be the beacon for others to see the light and help them wi...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

In the last six weeks I have realized how toxic my behavior and controlling has been on my life. After being verbally and emotionally abused by my father all my childhood when I became an adult I took on this "bulldog" mentality. I wanted to prove to him and myself that I wasn't a loser.&nbs...

kitty · kitty

I am reading a book & found some eloquent quotations... I am of the nature to grow old. I cannot escape old age. I am of the nature to have ill-health. I cannot escape ill-health. I am of the nature to die. I cannot escape dying. All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the natur...

aimer77 · aimer77

I am new to this, and any message board. I have attended Al-Anon meetings in the past, and wish I could go now, but I unfortunately am not free at the time there are any meetings in my area. I have decided to try something new. I am a Adult Child of an Alcoholic who is now in recovery. I did not find Al-Anon unti...

angel123 · angel123

Click the attachment,listen and learn,One of our slogans love angel

nanasgirl · nanasgirl

Hello all I have tried to get into the chat a few times but it is so busy and hard to get to talk--not complaining, I have learned a lot just from reading. My husband was arrested for a dui on the day before Christmas. He has always been a drinker but swore he would never be like his father. I...

debilyn · debilyn

Eden in March brrrrrrrrr chills. It tis cold here. Well I, lets see, all so exciting.filled the birdfeeders, had to put hamster food in some, ran out of bird seed. I am sure I shook enough out of my sweat shirt to feed twenty chickens too. Came into the house and h...

kitty · kitty

My mother used to tell me things, she would say, "I am saving you grief, learn from my words." It would drive me in a fury! I read somewhere recently about the papryus struggling to get out of the cocoon... if it doesn't have it's struggles, it would not gain strength, the strength to wrig...

lilleah · lilleah

I wanted to thank all of you for your responses to my post(bruised). It really helped me.I am going to the women's center on Friday morning. I have also begun looking in the paper for some apartments, and I found one I am going to call. the thing about my A/abuser, is that he doesn't really do the who...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

You know we aren't suppose to focus on the alcoholic but I have to wonder. I have posted about my husband always threatening divorce. We are currently seperated but we were seeing quite a bit of each other until a little over a week ago. We got into an argument and he told me that he wan...

Robinks · Robinks

Hello everyone - I wanted to let you know what happened to me today. I know God is always with me and this is why. Today, I decided to walk to take my movies back to blockbuster. It was one by the school where I teach. I usually ride my bike and it takes me 15-20 minutes to get there. Today, I decided to walk. A...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

So glad she got here about .5hr ago. Was washed up and ready to take over kids. Not sure how to apply boundaries when neighbor brings kids and am trapped . I will be telling her no more A in my apt period beings she won't put a limit on it. I did not want to and feared doing something othe...

Barbara · Barbara

how do you do the steps online? what about crisis? Do you "need" to get together f2f? I find it easier to put together an email - it feels like I can get more of my train of thought on paper, think more thoroughly about topics, etc.

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My "a" called yesterday evening and let me know that he ended the relationship with the girl at work. I asked all my questions the night before and he also shared more in the counselors office. I asked how she took it, he said it was not pretty. She was confused and felt he wanted the sa...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

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Diva · Diva

The serenity prayer teaches us to, "accept the things I cannot change." This is the same as saying, "accept unacceptable behavior because you can't change it." If a person believes this to be true, he/she sooner or later must collapse under the weight of it all. We are told that we cannot change th...

kitty · kitty

So this has been a weird year for me, many changes in my mother's beahviour since I "learned" to work on loving myself. March 1 ~ we heard no exuberant "it's birthday month baby!" & today she barked over the phone. "your cake is ready & I froze it." (why?)

&nb...

kspear · kspear

Hello, My name is Karen and I am not just new to this group, but new to Alanon completely. I've been to I think one face to face meeting back when I lived in Rochester, but that's almost a year ago now. I do have some program under my belt, however, as I am also a recovering alcoholic, but I'm r...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Can someone get David's door for me tonight? With all going on around here I cannot committ to being there. Josey

kitty · kitty

Well since the car wreck, I have been sleeping a lot, not really sure why it took so much out of me but it has/did.m Sleeping plum through the am mgs, naps during the days & no more vampire hours! Also, having to deal with the insurance & hearing my car was 'not worth fixing' ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

haven't been on the boards as much as my back is out AGAIN, and i am wondering how long i can go b4 i am disabled....i will do all i can to take care of me, but not expect too much...day to day, just trying to work on the soft tissue "knots" i find in there, and doing my cleansi...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Well it is interesting around here after telling my husband I wanted a seperation. HIs first reaction was no, all it is going to do his cost money, we'll get the same lawyer and get it over. Yesterday at lunch he comes home asking why I don't think this will work. Spewed a bunch of cr...

Jeannie · Jeannie

There have been a few discussions on here, and they make a lot of sense. When detaching and letting someone suffer natural consequenses, how do we as Wives, husbands, parents, know who's consequenses they are. How after so many years of doing the wrong things, do I pull the plug? When we get marr...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Questioning thoughts

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Jeannie · Jeannie

I was talking with my Mom today and she was angry at my husband. She asked how everyone was feeling and I told her better. Then she asked if as%h*le (her name for my husband) had been any help. I told her that he was at his Mom's. I said no, he is drinking and the kids and I didn't want him around.She asked if h...

Christy · Christy

Hi (((friends)))) A has ben home 4 days now, it seems longer..lol I guess we're attempting to settle in to some sort of routine, although a difficult one. I'd hoped to see my A's mentality getting better day by day, but he's about the same. He tends to say wrong words but sometimes it's pretty...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

I am so frustrated today. My best friend of 20 years is driving me nuts about my "a". It was her idea for me to go to alanon, so for that I am thankful, but she can't f-ing let it go! Every time she talks to me, she asks me if my a is drinking, what I am saying to him/doing about it, etc. ...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

My friends, I haven't been on much lately, my "A" went to jail, and I let myself slip into total "Mommy-Mode" which isn't a bad thing, but when you don't take care of yourslef, it all goes to hell no matter how hard you are trying. Well my "A" spent 25 days in the jail, and was released last Monday. Long e...

Powerless · Powerless

The good mood is continuing. Today my husband didn't have to work because of the rain. I let him sleep in, normally I would be resentful that he was sleeping like a baby and I was up with the baby and doing chores. Today I went about my chores and told myself that I would do them alone if h...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband got the bill of sale. I am suffering from both a cold and now emotional/mentally. I cut my arm over this car issue. it is like scartchs marks with a knife. alot of people have been helping me. it is hard to change my thinking. once u cut u feel the pain at that moment leave. but then m...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

So much has happened between my "a" and myself over the weekend. I cannot share this with anyone other than my fellow Alanoner's because my family is going to go through the roof over this one. My "a" cancelled his visit with the kids on Sunday because he was busy moving into a bigger place,...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Hi there. I'm Stacy and I need some ESH. My A (boyfriend) is working the program in AA and has had some success, though when he slips it seems to get worse. Anyway, he also has had an addiction to Adderal in the past. He is STILL taking it, insisting that he needs it for his ADD, but las...

marmare · marmare

I am taking 1/2 the day off, (scary with a new job) mom has an appointment with the oncolgist this afternoon. They will tell us what the PET and CAT scan's said. They have found a hole in her hip bone. My son and his girlfriend are to be at the hospital this morning also, the doc is pret...

bobump · bobump

Hi all ! No time for an update, just checking in. Just wanted to let ya'll know I'm doing well considering all that is going on. I'd only be doing 1/2 as well w/o the program and all of ya! Bob

debilyn · debilyn

thank you leo and tlc. I spent Jan. and Feb. with my gma. She died march first, national pig day. She wanted to go. Would have been 106 April 11, 06. Was a very wonderful/horrible experience. I have been here reading. So much has taken about all I got. Couldn't even talk or listen anymore&...

rtexas · rtexas

(...in my best souther dialect...) LORD… grant me a serene fishing hole and a dock that won’t let me down… allow me the clarity of mind to understand this is fishin’ and not catchin’… Grant us your guidance that we don’t kill each other in the go-cart this year. Help me to accept that lose...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Original talk with my husband went fairly well, telling him I wanted to seperate. He said no get a divorce and we will sit down and get this over. All was calm, so I left to get a perm and he did talk to boys about still being around for them. He then retreated to garage. Called me a couple...

Barbara · Barbara

My mother just called me (again). Said she called the social worker at court who told her to call my brothers probation officer. I called my mother Fri, told her I had received daily emails (20pgs worth) from my brother. They are all anger, anger, anger. I thought the court should know as he's putting...

bob6502 · bob6502

Hiya friends, We have a few more weeks left to conduct our Group Inventory. I encourage everyone to participate because this is part of making sure we have a healthy group. The website for the group inventory is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Much love in r...

kitty · kitty

JUST ANOTHER EXISTENTIAL CRISIS Who am I to think what I have to say matters... Who am I to think I could help anyone? Why is it that God made me so sensitive I wanted to jump our of my skin most of my life? Why is that I can touch someone & know what is wrong & my hands burn like fir...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

  MARCH 14 One beautiful day, a man sat down under a tree, not noticing it was full of pigeons. Shortly, the pigeons did what pigeons do best. The man shout&sh...

Iko · Iko

Hi there. I just went to my first Al-Anon meeting on Saturday. Even just BEING there seemed to allow me to let out a big sigh and relax for a few minutes. My dh is an active alcoholic. He's the kind that justifies his drinking because he only drinks on weekends and then it's because h...

lilleah · lilleah

Well my A came home the other night, and I had fallen asleep from the wine I drank. He was infuriated that I had drank a bottle of wine. I believe, that he saw that I had been on this web page, and saw my post(why am I so angry)b/c I had the screen up, and forgot to close it out before I fell asleep. He left,...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - March 14 At one of my Al-Anon meetings, I heard an interesting way to categorize the Twelve Steps into four groups -- giving up, owning up, making up, and keeping up. Steps One through Three are about giving up. I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic,...

Barbara · Barbara

Please God get him help! Im starting to wonder if the court system actually helps people or if its just there to enforce the law. Its going to be a long day for our family.

nycbt · nycbt

I have been with my husband since aug 99. In that whole time he didn't have a licnese or a car. Well within the yr he has gotten his license that he is paying off. He has credit cards now. He is now in the process of getting a car. I am scared to death about him getting a car. I have had a past of cutting and the thou...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((((Tea 2))))))))))))))))))))))))))), I know how hard this week is on you, but may I be the first of many to wish you:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET TEA!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!

I am a firm...

kitty · kitty

I suppose wtvr I was doing before, wasn't the "right" thing... I mean if I were really in a state of grace, I wouldn't be complaining or upset about anything. >sigh<

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	he drove (Preview) He drove for the first in his old car. New to him. He took his son it was the first time he really left me home by myself. I cried I was so upset. Then I realize I am not alone. I had been talking to my sponsor earlier on in the day and she told me that my homework was to not follow him around or call him. Well i said to...	nycbt	11	417	Mar 17, 2006 by maresie
	no bottom in sight (Preview) hi everyone, i have still been trying to catch up on the posts. im on page four right now. ive been busy trying to fend for myself. my a and i have been separated for a bit now. the other day we decided he should come home and he did all the right things and said all the right stuff. and of course i believed him. t...	notsonew1111	7	445	Mar 17, 2006 by Becky1
	I am very sad tonight (Preview) My daughter A has been out of a 26 day rehab for 13 days and today she relapsed. She said she was depressed. Depression will probably be something she has to deal with the rest of her life. It saddens me to know that every time she feels depressed she could potentially dr...	MFran	6	487	Mar 17, 2006 by Maria123
	Marriage and Recovery (Preview) My thoughts may be scattered so please bare with me. I have been doing so much thinking. First of all, my husband went one whole day clean yesterday and I was very proud of him. It's the first day he's gone completely clean, without marijuana or the other drugs in five years. I...	Powerless	3	451	Mar 17, 2006 by hudsond
	yesterday (Preview) We got are oil changes and i got the car washed as well. Then he wanted to go to his friends house that he seems to want to go to alot. Well he didn't want to take his car so I rode with him because I still don't want him take off with my car. Well I got home and he went to the store and I didn't relize that is he wanted...	nycbt	3	313	Mar 17, 2006 by Iko
	A couple of things (Preview) I went to a f2f meeting last night. I had called and asked what time an 'al anon' meeting was, they told me and I showed up, however it was a meeting for Adult children (which STILL includes me), but I was looking for, you know, a meeting in regards to me and my husband. It was a little harder for me to relate to...	Iko	3	327	Mar 17, 2006 by mebjk
	How we say , what we say..... (Preview) -- Edited by jrtjosey at 12:56, 2006-03-17	gardengal	1	318	Mar 17, 2006 by jrtjosey
	my car looks fine! aaarrgghh, poor pretty thing (Preview) It is ironic & I can see humor in HP ~ showing me to "lighten up". Nothing about my personality is light, I'm introspective, philospohical, literal & analytical... those facets of how my mind work never go away. But I love to laugh, do so often esp at myself & find off color &am...	kitty	4	361	Mar 17, 2006 by bobump
	To Bump, Cjo, Dana and others (Preview) It was mentioned in the chat room the other day that there are those in our group that are suffering unmentionable trying times right now. I have some lyrics that we all mean for you. We call this place our "home" and it is. Remember we love you and we're here for you whatever we can do t...	txmom	6	549	Mar 17, 2006 by bobump
	hmmm so an empty envelope is delivered to my mothers today (Preview) Its from Brothers name with his new address to mothers last name (same as brothers and mine). Well this way he let her know where he is but cant say the mail was sent to her! Of course my mother had to check out the address and did see his car. Its smart thinking on my brothers side. We know where he is and that h...	Barbara	2	359	Mar 17, 2006 by Barbara
	Not Alanon approved; but very true (Preview) *I received this in an email today from a very good friend. It is not Alanon literature, but it is a really nice story and the message is very true.* *LET IT REALLY SINK IN - THEN CHOOSE. John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something posit...*	Jeannie	7	320	Mar 17, 2006 by cdb
	Anxiety and expectations (Preview) Today I am very nervous and when I sat down to read some of my literature, I realized why. I have expectations about his treatment assessment today and his court hearing. I have told myself not to, but I have been getting my hopes up that he is going to see this program through and get well.&n...	Powerless	5	437	Mar 17, 2006 by cdb
	I am so Grateful and Blessed (Preview) I have met so many great people on this board. Thank You for all your thoughts and prayers. I am struggling and not for the reasons you would think. For the first time in a long time I feel a sense of purpose. I wake up each day with the thought that I will be the beacon for others to see the light and help them wi...	Sweetserenity	2	399	Mar 17, 2006 by kitty
	Letting Go of the Control (Preview) In the last six weeks I have realized how toxic my behavior and controlling has been on my life. After being verbally and emotionally abused by my father all my childhood when I became an adult I took on this "bulldog" mentality. I wanted to prove to him and myself that I wasn't a loser.&nbs...	twinmom2	1	643	Mar 16, 2006 by mebjk
	My Consequences are my OWN ~ Freedom & Liberation! (Preview) I am reading a book & found some eloquent quotations... I am of the nature to grow old. I cannot escape old age. I am of the nature to have ill-health. I cannot escape ill-health. I am of the nature to die. I cannot escape dying. All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the natur...	kitty	3	529	Mar 16, 2006 by marypat
	New. looking for experience, strength, and hope. (Preview) I am new to this, and any message board. I have attended Al-Anon meetings in the past, and wish I could go now, but I unfortunately am not free at the time there are any meetings in my area. I have decided to try something new. I am a Adult Child of an Alcoholic who is now in recovery. I did not find Al-Anon unti...	aimer77	5	380	Mar 16, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Listen and Learn (Preview) Click the attachment,listen and learn,One of our slogans love angel	angel123	0	488	Mar 16, 2006 by angel123
	Need some advice....is this normal (Preview) Hello all I have tried to get into the chat a few times but it is so busy and hard to get to talk--not complaining, I have learned a lot just from reading. My husband was arrested for a dui on the day before Christmas. He has always been a drinker but swore he would never be like his father. I...	nanasgirl	6	393	Mar 16, 2006 by nycbt
	Eden in March (Preview) Eden in March brrrrrrrrr chills. It tis cold here. Well I, lets see, all so exciting.filled the birdfeeders, had to put hamster food in some, ran out of bird seed. I am sure I shook enough out of my sweat shirt to feed twenty chickens too. Came into the house and h...	debilyn	9	328	Mar 16, 2006 by TLC2
	Cocoon (Preview) My mother used to tell me things, she would say, "I am saving you grief, learn from my words." It would drive me in a fury! I read somewhere recently about the papryus struggling to get out of the cocoon... if it doesn't have it's struggles, it would not gain strength, the strength to wrig...	kitty	3	353	Mar 16, 2006 by TLC2
	thank you and update (Preview) I wanted to thank all of you for your responses to my post(bruised). It really helped me.I am going to the women's center on Friday morning. I have also begun looking in the paper for some apartments, and I found one I am going to call. the thing about my A/abuser, is that he doesn't really do the who...	lilleah	8	350	Mar 16, 2006 by quest
	Manipulation or Meaness (Preview) You know we aren't suppose to focus on the alcoholic but I have to wonder. I have posted about my husband always threatening divorce. We are currently seperated but we were seeing quite a bit of each other until a little over a week ago. We got into an argument and he told me that he wan...	JulieLynn	6	412	Mar 16, 2006 by sweetums
	Bizarre thing happened to me today (Preview) Hello everyone - I wanted to let you know what happened to me today. I know God is always with me and this is why. Today, I decided to walk to take my movies back to blockbuster. It was one by the school where I teach. I usually ride my bike and it takes me 15-20 minutes to get there. Today, I decided to walk. A...	Robinks	9	383	Mar 16, 2006 by Robinks
	Update--A-dau home (Preview) So glad she got here about .5hr ago. Was washed up and ready to take over kids. Not sure how to apply boundaries when neighbor brings kids and am trapped . I will be telling her no more A in my apt period beings she won't put a limit on it. I did not want to and feared doing something othe...	d53sjurne	2	399	Mar 16, 2006 by Ria
	who has an online sponsor and how do you work it? (Preview) how do you do the steps online? what about crisis? Do you "need" to get together f2f? I find it easier to put together an email - it feels like I can get more of my train of thought on paper, think more thoroughly about topics, etc.	Barbara	1	311	Mar 16, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Quick update from yesterday (Preview) My "a" called yesterday evening and let me know that he ended the relationship with the girl at work. I asked all my questions the night before and he also shared more in the counselors office. I asked how she took it, he said it was not pretty. She was confused and felt he wanted the sa...	twinmom2	3	272	Mar 15, 2006 by Lunamoth
	fear of revenge ? what to do (Preview) hsing.   Went	d53sjurne	5	371	Mar 15, 2006 by lin0606
	How does one, "Accept the things I cannot change?" (Preview) The serenity prayer teaches us to, "accept the things I cannot change." This is the same as saying, "accept unacceptable behavior because you can't change it." If a person believes this to be true, he/she sooner or later must collapse under the weight of it all. We are told that we cannot change th...	Diva	16	1262	Mar 15, 2006 by ditto
	Beware the Ides of March ~ Another Special Sentiment gone (Preview) So this has been a weird year for me, many changes in my mother's beahviour since I "learned" to work on loving myself. March 1 ~ we heard no exuberant "it's birthday month baby!" & today she barked over the phone. "your cake is ready & I froze it." (why?) &nb...	kitty	2	596	Mar 15, 2006 by just me
	Very. very. very new. (Preview) Hello, My name is Karen and I am not just new to this group, but new to Alanon completely. I've been to I think one face to face meeting back when I lived in Rochester, but that's almost a year ago now. I do have some program under my belt, however, as I am also a recovering alcoholic, but I'm r...	kspear	6	374	Mar 15, 2006 by peewee
	Elvis needs a door man (Preview) Can someone get David's door for me tonight? With all going on around here I cannot committ to being there. Josey	jrtjosey	1	336	Mar 15, 2006 by Christy
	Kitty Update (Preview) Well since the car wreck, I have been sleeping a lot, not really sure why it took so much out of me but it has/did.m Sleeping plum through the am mgs, naps during the days & no more vampire hours! Also, having to deal with the insurance & hearing my car was 'not worth fixing' ...	kitty	8	436	Mar 15, 2006 by peewee
	sometimes life can be too much (Preview) haven't been on the boards as much as my back is out AGAIN, and i am wondering how long i can go b4 i am disabled....i will do all i can to take care of me, but not expect too much...day to day, just trying to work on the soft tissue "knots" i find in there, and doing my cleansi...	rosie light shines	6	458	Mar 15, 2006 by kitty
	That darn cat! (Preview) Well it is interesting around here after telling my husband I wanted a seperation. HIs first reaction was no, all it is going to do his cost money, we'll get the same lawyer and get it over. Yesterday at lunch he comes home asking why I don't think this will work. Spewed a bunch of cr...	jrtjosey	5	413	Mar 15, 2006 by maresie
	How do we decide who's consequenses they are? (Preview) There have been a few discussions on here, and they make a lot of sense. When detaching and letting someone suffer natural consequenses, how do we as Wives, husbands, parents, know who's consequenses they are. How after so many years of doing the wrong things, do I pull the plug? When we get marr...	Jeannie	7	451	Mar 15, 2006 by maresie
	Is it the hole in the soul ? (Preview)     Questioning thoughts ...	d53sjurne	6	503	Mar 15, 2006 by toto12
	Isn't it enabling? (Preview) I was talking with my Mom today and she was angry at my husband. She asked how everyone was feeling and I told her better. Then she asked if as%h*le (her name for my husband) had been any help. I told her that he was at his Mom's. I said no, he is drinking and the kids and I didn't want him around.She asked if h...	Jeannie	10	479	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	Accepting the things I cannot change (Preview) Hi (((friends)))) A has ben home 4 days now, it seems longer..lol I guess we're attempting to settle in to some sort of routine, although a difficult one. I'd hoped to see my A's mentality getting better day by day, but he's about the same. He tends to say wrong words but sometimes it's pretty...	Christy	8	423	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	frustrated (Preview) I am so frustrated today. My best friend of 20 years is driving me nuts about my "a". It was her idea for me to go to alanon, so for that I am thankful, but she can't f-ing let it go! Every time she talks to me, she asks me if my a is drinking, what I am saying to him/doing about it, etc. ...	paintthinnr	5	323	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	To Leave or Not to Leave, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm (Preview) My friends, I haven't been on much lately, my "A" went to jail, and I let myself slip into total "Mommy-Mode" which isn't a bad thing, but when you don't take care of yourslef, it all goes to hell no matter how hard you are trying. Well my "A" spent 25 days in the jail, and was released last Monday. Long e...	Dolphin123	7	378	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	Working my Program (Preview) The good mood is continuing. Today my husband didn't have to work because of the rain. I let him sleep in, normally I would be resentful that he was sleeping like a baby and I was up with the baby and doing chores. Today I went about my chores and told myself that I would do them alone if h...	Powerless	5	333	Mar 15, 2006 by jrtjosey
	he got it (Preview) Yesterday my husband got the bill of sale. I am suffering from both a cold and now emotional/mentally. I cut my arm over this car issue. it is like scartchs marks with a knife. alot of people have been helping me. it is hard to change my thinking. once u cut u feel the pain at that moment leave. but then m...	nycbt	9	416	Mar 15, 2006 by maresie
	We're back on today (Preview) So much has happened between my "a" and myself over the weekend. I cannot share this with anyone other than my fellow Alanoner's because my family is going to go through the roof over this one. My "a" cancelled his visit with the kids on Sunday because he was busy moving into a bigger place,...	twinmom2	5	449	Mar 15, 2006 by mebjk
	Need ESH (Preview) Hi there. I'm Stacy and I need some ESH. My A (boyfriend) is working the program in AA and has had some success, though when he slips it seems to get worse. Anyway, he also has had an addiction to Adderal in the past. He is STILL taking it, insisting that he needs it for his ADD, but las...	SerenityGirl	3	372	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
	Yet another update (Preview) I am taking 1/2 the day off, (scary with a new job) mom has an appointment with the oncolgist this afternoon. They will tell us what the PET and CAT scan's said. They have found a hole in her hip bone. My son and his girlfriend are to be at the hospital this morning also, the doc is pret...	marmare	3	294	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
	no time for update just checking in (Preview) Hi all ! No time for an update, just checking in. Just wanted to let ya'll know I'm doing well considering all that is going on. I'd only be doing 1/2 as well w/o the program and all of ya! Bob	bobump	11	498	Mar 14, 2006 by RamzDear
	hanging on (Preview) thank you leo and tlc. I spent Jan. and Feb. with my gma. She died march first, national pig day. She wanted to go. Would have been 106 April 11, 06. Was a very wonderful/horrible experience. I have been here reading. So much has taken about all I got. Couldn't even talk or listen anymore&...	debilyn	8	428	Mar 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Vacation Prayer... (Preview) (...in my best souther dialect...) LORD… grant me a serene fishing hole and a dock that won’t let me down… allow me the clarity of mind to understand this is fishin’ and not catchin’… Grant us your guidance that we don’t kill each other in the go-cart this year. Help me to accept that lose...	rtexas	1	281	Mar 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Cat Is Out (Preview) Original talk with my husband went fairly well, telling him I wanted to seperate. He said no get a divorce and we will sit down and get this over. All was calm, so I left to get a perm and he did talk to boys about still being around for them. He then retreated to garage. Called me a couple...	jrtjosey	6	442	Mar 14, 2006 by tiredtonite
	court is now twisting my words - restraining order (Preview) My mother just called me (again). Said she called the social worker at court who told her to call my brothers probation officer. I called my mother Fri, told her I had received daily emails (20pgs worth) from my brother. They are all anger, anger, anger. I thought the court should know as he's putting...	Barbara	1	353	Mar 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Group Inventory (Preview) Hiya friends, We have a few more weeks left to conduct our Group Inventory. I encourage everyone to participate because this is part of making sure we have a healthy group. The website for the group inventory is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Much love in r...	bob6502	1	331	Mar 14, 2006 by Maria123
	A Poem - Who Am I? (Preview) JUST ANOTHER EXISTENTIAL CRISIS Who am I to think what I have to say matters... Who am I to think I could help anyone? Why is it that God made me so sensitive I wanted to jump our of my skin most of my life? Why is that I can touch someone & know what is wrong & my hands burn like fir...	kitty	4	439	Mar 14, 2006 by bobump
	March 14th Courage To Change (Preview)   MARCH 14 One beautiful day, a man sat down under a tree, not noticing it was full of pigeons. Shortly, the pigeons did what pigeons do best. The man shout&sh...	Debbie Lee	4	3687	Mar 14, 2006 by kismetstrand
	New here. (Preview) Hi there. I just went to my first Al-Anon meeting on Saturday. Even just BEING there seemed to allow me to let out a big sigh and relax for a few minutes. My dh is an active alcoholic. He's the kind that justifies his drinking because he only drinks on weekends and then it's because h...	Iko	8	336	Mar 14, 2006 by nycbt
	bruised (Preview) Well my A came home the other night, and I had fallen asleep from the wine I drank. He was infuriated that I had drank a bottle of wine. I believe, that he saw that I had been on this web page, and saw my post(why am I so angry)b/c I had the screen up, and forgot to close it out before I fell asleep. He left,...	lilleah	8	408	Mar 14, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	for barbara (Preview) Hope for Today - March 14 At one of my Al-Anon meetings, I heard an interesting way to categorize the Twelve Steps into four groups -- giving up, owning up, making up, and keeping up. Steps One through Three are about giving up. I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic,...	rosie light shines	1	281	Mar 14, 2006 by Barbara
	my brother returns to court today for his pretrial (Preview) Please God get him help! Im starting to wonder if the court system actually helps people or if its just there to enforce the law. Its going to be a long day for our family.	Barbara	4	301	Mar 14, 2006 by maresie
	my husband getting a car (Preview) I have been with my husband since aug 99. In that whole time he didn't have a licnese or a car. Well within the yr he has gotten his license that he is paying off. He has credit cards now. He is now in the process of getting a car. I am scared to death about him getting a car. I have had a past of cutting and the thou...	nycbt	4	420	Mar 14, 2006 by maresie
	Happy Birthday Tea2 (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((Tea 2))))))))))))))))))))))))))), I know how hard this week is on you, but may I be the first of many to wish you: HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET TEA! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I am a firm...	Karilynn	11	388	Mar 14, 2006 by tea2
	state of grace (Preview) I suppose wtvr I was doing before, wasn't the "right" thing... I mean if I were really in a state of grace, I wouldn't be complaining or upset about anything. >sigh<	kitty	5	336	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
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