Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

chubbyelf · chubbyelf

This is going to be really long, sorry. I’m very confused at the moment – I’ve been going to Face2 face meetings for about 4 weeks(?) now and things have been better at home. He is still drinking everyday, and still drinking throughout the day at weekends and passing out, but we are not at each others thro...

marmare · marmare

Things have been so busy that I forgot to let you all know the outcome of the doctor's appointment for mom. It was not good; they have hooked her up with Hospice. She asked the doctor about time left, he said maybe 6 months. It is sad for me, she is my best friend. I share all with h...

doxie · doxie

As most of you know I started a new f2f meeting in my town as there was not one within 6o miles. Or so I thought, until yesterday...... I got a call from a woman who said she has a group here, but it is inactive. She was so nasty. She proceeded to tell me that since I don't pay rent on the room we are using that we...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

With Just 2weeks to go, people were bailing out on helping me move and I wasn't finding trucks

, so... I made one phone call and I got movers for $75/per hour with that short of notice

, that with my help with smaller items from kids and some others, we should be able to git -r -...

Barbara · Barbara

Started thinking about Step 3. How do you get yourself ready to turn your life over to your Higher Power? You know you should do it to get yourself better but whats the process?

Powerless · Powerless

I am experiencing growing pains. I know that I am growing emotionally and mentally and spiritually right now and it hurts so much. It is so tempting to back to not feeling anything. I don't know how to handle emotions other than pain, anger and resentment. I am having troubl...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Just an update about how things are going since my A daughter lost her baby :( She and her boyfriend are being very supportive of each other. They found a house for the 2 of them to rent together. They currently live with many people with little privacy. They can have the puppy wit...

bcanuck · bcanuck

Once again, youth and alcohol have combined to a terrible tragedy here. 3 young people, two 18 year old boys and a 15 year old girl gone. Five kids piled in a car, beer cans scattered everywhere at the crash site. The 19 year old driver and an 18 year old female passenger are clinging to life. I&nb...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

For Some Time now I have been wondering what in the world is wrong with me? Today in the online Alanon meeting I listened and understood. I need to get on with the 4th step I have been working on and letting the dust collect for 6 months now! This is why I can't be happy with myself because I am hanging on...

kiwi · kiwi

Hi there, I know I should have been going to Al Anon for years now, but two weeks ago my husband began AA. He hit his bottom with a 5 day beer binge. I had a client, whom I knew was in AA, come over and talk to my husband. (after asking if he was ready to go to AA). Since then, he has been at meetin...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello All, What a whirlwind ... I haven't had enough time lately to spend here and my eyes have not allowed me to read as much or as long as I would like to. But I have been keeping you all in my prayers and trying my best to work my program during this time. Update ... Sully my 13 weeks old puppy is great ......

Iko · Iko

My A has a compulsive spending habit. We JUST re-financed our house to pay down some bills, and that included two of his CC. I recently discovered that he has already maxed out one, and started using the other (to buy alcohol). He has also been insisting on me getting at least a part time job, eve...

Barbara · Barbara

He is still not suppose to have contact with any family member until his court date May 5th. He hasnt made friends so is basically out in the world literally on his own. I called the court last Fri asking for help. Only after did I realize the court is only there to enforce the law, protect - not to help anyon...

Powerless · Powerless

I knew that he was in a mood when I woke him up yesterday morning for his appointment at the treatment center. He grumbled about "having to go". We dropped the baby off at his moms and headed to his appointment. (he had asked me to drive him up there.) On the way he becamce very angry and...

nycbt · nycbt

He drove for the first in his old car. New to him. He took his son it was the first time he really left me home by myself. I cried I was so upset. Then I realize I am not alone. I had been talking to my sponsor earlier on in the day and she told me that my homework was to not follow him around or call him. Well i said to...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone, i have still been trying to catch up on the posts. im on page four right now. ive been busy trying to fend for myself. my a and i have been separated for a bit now. the other day we decided he should come home and he did all the right things and said all the right stuff. and of course i believed him. t...

MFran · MFran

My daughter A has been out of a 26 day rehab for 13 days and today she relapsed. She said she was depressed. Depression will probably be something she has to deal with the rest of her life. It saddens me to know that every time she feels depressed she could potentially dr...

Powerless · Powerless

My thoughts may be scattered so please bare with me. I have been doing so much thinking. First of all, my husband went one whole day clean yesterday and I was very proud of him. It's the first day he's gone completely clean, without marijuana or the other drugs in five years. I...

nycbt · nycbt

We got are oil changes and i got the car washed as well. Then he wanted to go to his friends house that he seems to want to go to alot. Well he didn't want to take his car so I rode with him because I still don't want him take off with my car. Well I got home and he went to the store and I didn't relize that is he wanted...

Iko · Iko

I went to a f2f meeting last night. I had called and asked what time an 'al anon' meeting was, they told me and I showed up, however it was a meeting for Adult children (which STILL includes me), but I was looking for, you know, a meeting in regards to me and my husband. It was a little harder for me to relate to...

gardengal · gardengal

-- Edited by jrtjosey at 12:56, 2006-03-17

kitty · kitty

It is ironic & I can see humor in HP ~ showing me to "lighten up". Nothing about my personality is light, I'm introspective, philospohical, literal & analytical... those facets of how my mind work never go away. But I love to laugh, do so often esp at myself & find off color &am...

txmom · txmom

It was mentioned in the chat room the other day that there are those in our group that are suffering unmentionable trying times right now. I have some lyrics that we all mean for you. We call this place our "home" and it is. Remember we love you and we're here for you whatever we can do t...

Barbara · Barbara

Its from Brothers name with his new address to mothers last name (same as brothers and mine). Well this way he let her know where he is but cant say the mail was sent to her! Of course my mother had to check out the address and did see his car. Its smart thinking on my brothers side. We know where he is and that h...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I received this in an email today from a very good friend. It is not Alanon literature, but it is a really nice story and the message is very true. LET IT REALLY SINK IN - THEN CHOOSE. John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something posit...

Powerless · Powerless

Today I am very nervous and when I sat down to read some of my literature, I realized why. I have expectations about his treatment assessment today and his court hearing. I have told myself not to, but I have been getting my hopes up that he is going to see this program through and get well.&n...

Sweetserenity · Sweetserenity

I have met so many great people on this board. Thank You for all your thoughts and prayers. I am struggling and not for the reasons you would think. For the first time in a long time I feel a sense of purpose. I wake up each day with the thought that I will be the beacon for others to see the light and help them wi...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

In the last six weeks I have realized how toxic my behavior and controlling has been on my life. After being verbally and emotionally abused by my father all my childhood when I became an adult I took on this "bulldog" mentality. I wanted to prove to him and myself that I wasn't a loser.&nbs...

kitty · kitty

I am reading a book & found some eloquent quotations... I am of the nature to grow old. I cannot escape old age. I am of the nature to have ill-health. I cannot escape ill-health. I am of the nature to die. I cannot escape dying. All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the natur...

aimer77 · aimer77

I am new to this, and any message board. I have attended Al-Anon meetings in the past, and wish I could go now, but I unfortunately am not free at the time there are any meetings in my area. I have decided to try something new. I am a Adult Child of an Alcoholic who is now in recovery. I did not find Al-Anon unti...

angel123 · angel123

Click the attachment,listen and learn,One of our slogans love angel

nanasgirl · nanasgirl

Hello all I have tried to get into the chat a few times but it is so busy and hard to get to talk--not complaining, I have learned a lot just from reading. My husband was arrested for a dui on the day before Christmas. He has always been a drinker but swore he would never be like his father. I...

debilyn · debilyn

Eden in March brrrrrrrrr chills. It tis cold here. Well I, lets see, all so exciting.filled the birdfeeders, had to put hamster food in some, ran out of bird seed. I am sure I shook enough out of my sweat shirt to feed twenty chickens too. Came into the house and h...

kitty · kitty

My mother used to tell me things, she would say, "I am saving you grief, learn from my words." It would drive me in a fury! I read somewhere recently about the papryus struggling to get out of the cocoon... if it doesn't have it's struggles, it would not gain strength, the strength to wrig...

lilleah · lilleah

I wanted to thank all of you for your responses to my post(bruised). It really helped me.I am going to the women's center on Friday morning. I have also begun looking in the paper for some apartments, and I found one I am going to call. the thing about my A/abuser, is that he doesn't really do the who...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

You know we aren't suppose to focus on the alcoholic but I have to wonder. I have posted about my husband always threatening divorce. We are currently seperated but we were seeing quite a bit of each other until a little over a week ago. We got into an argument and he told me that he wan...

Robinks · Robinks

Hello everyone - I wanted to let you know what happened to me today. I know God is always with me and this is why. Today, I decided to walk to take my movies back to blockbuster. It was one by the school where I teach. I usually ride my bike and it takes me 15-20 minutes to get there. Today, I decided to walk. A...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

So glad she got here about .5hr ago. Was washed up and ready to take over kids. Not sure how to apply boundaries when neighbor brings kids and am trapped . I will be telling her no more A in my apt period beings she won't put a limit on it. I did not want to and feared doing something othe...

Barbara · Barbara

how do you do the steps online? what about crisis? Do you "need" to get together f2f? I find it easier to put together an email - it feels like I can get more of my train of thought on paper, think more thoroughly about topics, etc.

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My "a" called yesterday evening and let me know that he ended the relationship with the girl at work. I asked all my questions the night before and he also shared more in the counselors office. I asked how she took it, he said it was not pretty. She was confused and felt he wanted the sa...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

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Diva · Diva

The serenity prayer teaches us to, "accept the things I cannot change." This is the same as saying, "accept unacceptable behavior because you can't change it." If a person believes this to be true, he/she sooner or later must collapse under the weight of it all. We are told that we cannot change th...

kitty · kitty

So this has been a weird year for me, many changes in my mother's beahviour since I "learned" to work on loving myself. March 1 ~ we heard no exuberant "it's birthday month baby!" & today she barked over the phone. "your cake is ready & I froze it." (why?)

&nb...

kspear · kspear

Hello, My name is Karen and I am not just new to this group, but new to Alanon completely. I've been to I think one face to face meeting back when I lived in Rochester, but that's almost a year ago now. I do have some program under my belt, however, as I am also a recovering alcoholic, but I'm r...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Can someone get David's door for me tonight? With all going on around here I cannot committ to being there. Josey

kitty · kitty

Well since the car wreck, I have been sleeping a lot, not really sure why it took so much out of me but it has/did.m Sleeping plum through the am mgs, naps during the days & no more vampire hours! Also, having to deal with the insurance & hearing my car was 'not worth fixing' ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

haven't been on the boards as much as my back is out AGAIN, and i am wondering how long i can go b4 i am disabled....i will do all i can to take care of me, but not expect too much...day to day, just trying to work on the soft tissue "knots" i find in there, and doing my cleansi...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Well it is interesting around here after telling my husband I wanted a seperation. HIs first reaction was no, all it is going to do his cost money, we'll get the same lawyer and get it over. Yesterday at lunch he comes home asking why I don't think this will work. Spewed a bunch of cr...

Jeannie · Jeannie

There have been a few discussions on here, and they make a lot of sense. When detaching and letting someone suffer natural consequenses, how do we as Wives, husbands, parents, know who's consequenses they are. How after so many years of doing the wrong things, do I pull the plug? When we get marr...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

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Jeannie · Jeannie

I was talking with my Mom today and she was angry at my husband. She asked how everyone was feeling and I told her better. Then she asked if as%h*le (her name for my husband) had been any help. I told her that he was at his Mom's. I said no, he is drinking and the kids and I didn't want him around.She asked if h...

Christy · Christy

Hi (((friends)))) A has ben home 4 days now, it seems longer..lol I guess we're attempting to settle in to some sort of routine, although a difficult one. I'd hoped to see my A's mentality getting better day by day, but he's about the same. He tends to say wrong words but sometimes it's pretty...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

I am so frustrated today. My best friend of 20 years is driving me nuts about my "a". It was her idea for me to go to alanon, so for that I am thankful, but she can't f-ing let it go! Every time she talks to me, she asks me if my a is drinking, what I am saying to him/doing about it, etc. ...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

My friends, I haven't been on much lately, my "A" went to jail, and I let myself slip into total "Mommy-Mode" which isn't a bad thing, but when you don't take care of yourslef, it all goes to hell no matter how hard you are trying. Well my "A" spent 25 days in the jail, and was released last Monday. Long e...

Powerless · Powerless

The good mood is continuing. Today my husband didn't have to work because of the rain. I let him sleep in, normally I would be resentful that he was sleeping like a baby and I was up with the baby and doing chores. Today I went about my chores and told myself that I would do them alone if h...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband got the bill of sale. I am suffering from both a cold and now emotional/mentally. I cut my arm over this car issue. it is like scartchs marks with a knife. alot of people have been helping me. it is hard to change my thinking. once u cut u feel the pain at that moment leave. but then m...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

So much has happened between my "a" and myself over the weekend. I cannot share this with anyone other than my fellow Alanoner's because my family is going to go through the roof over this one. My "a" cancelled his visit with the kids on Sunday because he was busy moving into a bigger place,...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Hi there. I'm Stacy and I need some ESH. My A (boyfriend) is working the program in AA and has had some success, though when he slips it seems to get worse. Anyway, he also has had an addiction to Adderal in the past. He is STILL taking it, insisting that he needs it for his ADD, but las...

marmare · marmare

I am taking 1/2 the day off, (scary with a new job) mom has an appointment with the oncolgist this afternoon. They will tell us what the PET and CAT scan's said. They have found a hole in her hip bone. My son and his girlfriend are to be at the hospital this morning also, the doc is pret...

bobump · bobump

Hi all ! No time for an update, just checking in. Just wanted to let ya'll know I'm doing well considering all that is going on. I'd only be doing 1/2 as well w/o the program and all of ya! Bob

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	warning - long self absorbed venting contained within (Preview) This is going to be really long, sorry. I’m very confused at the moment – I’ve been going to Face2 face meetings for about 4 weeks(?) now and things have been better at home. He is still drinking everyday, and still drinking throughout the day at weekends and passing out, but we are not at each others thro...	chubbyelf	9	655	Mar 18, 2006 by maresie
	Sorry (Preview) Things have been so busy that I forgot to let you all know the outcome of the doctor's appointment for mom. It was not good; they have hooked her up with Hospice. She asked the doctor about time left, he said maybe 6 months. It is sad for me, she is my best friend. I share all with h...	marmare	8	490	Mar 18, 2006 by nmike
	Just wanting to make sure of something...... (Preview) As most of you know I started a new f2f meeting in my town as there was not one within 6o miles. Or so I thought, until yesterday...... I got a call from a woman who said she has a group here, but it is inactive. She was so nasty. She proceeded to tell me that since I don't pay rent on the room we are using that we...	doxie	15	555	Mar 18, 2006 by doxie
	Falling Together (Preview) With Just 2weeks to go, people were bailing out on helping me move and I wasn't finding trucks , so... I made one phone call and I got movers for $75/per hour with that short of notice , that with my help with smaller items from kids and some others, we should be able to git -r -...	jrtjosey	9	436	Mar 18, 2006 by peewee
	Surrendering - how do you get yourself ready to turn over to HP? (Preview) Started thinking about Step 3. How do you get yourself ready to turn your life over to your Higher Power? You know you should do it to get yourself better but whats the process?	Barbara	5	417	Mar 18, 2006 by MFran
	I am experiencing growing pains (Preview) I am experiencing growing pains. I know that I am growing emotionally and mentally and spiritually right now and it hurts so much. It is so tempting to back to not feeling anything. I don't know how to handle emotions other than pain, anger and resentment. I am having troubl...	Powerless	3	556	Mar 18, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Loss, grief, sobriety (Preview) Hello friends, Just an update about how things are going since my A daughter lost her baby :( She and her boyfriend are being very supportive of each other. They found a house for the 2 of them to rent together. They currently live with many people with little privacy. They can have the puppy wit...	cdb	10	686	Mar 18, 2006 by maresie
	A tragic terrible waste (Preview) Once again, youth and alcohol have combined to a terrible tragedy here. 3 young people, two 18 year old boys and a 15 year old girl gone. Five kids piled in a car, beer cans scattered everywhere at the crash site. The 19 year old driver and an 18 year old female passenger are clinging to life. I&nb...	bcanuck	5	602	Mar 18, 2006 by leo
	Looking For and Online Sponsor Please!! 4th Step Help!! (Preview) For Some Time now I have been wondering what in the world is wrong with me? Today in the online Alanon meeting I listened and understood. I need to get on with the 4th step I have been working on and letting the dust collect for 6 months now! This is why I can't be happy with myself because I am hanging on...	Debbie Lee	2	345	Mar 17, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	New, with some questions (Preview) Hi there, I know I should have been going to Al Anon for years now, but two weeks ago my husband began AA. He hit his bottom with a 5 day beer binge. I had a client, whom I knew was in AA, come over and talk to my husband. (after asking if he was ready to go to AA). Since then, he has been at meetin...	kiwi	6	606	Mar 17, 2006 by nycbt
	update vent trust .. a little bit of everything lol (Preview) Hello All, What a whirlwind ... I haven't had enough time lately to spend here and my eyes have not allowed me to read as much or as long as I would like to. But I have been keeping you all in my prayers and trying my best to work my program during this time. Update ... Sully my 13 weeks old puppy is great ......	Jennifer	3	538	Mar 17, 2006 by maresie
	New with a question. (Preview) My A has a compulsive spending habit. We JUST re-financed our house to pay down some bills, and that included two of his CC. I recently discovered that he has already maxed out one, and started using the other (to buy alcohol). He has also been insisting on me getting at least a part time job, eve...	Iko	5	374	Mar 17, 2006 by maresie
	brothers court outcome - tues 2/14 (Preview) He is still not suppose to have contact with any family member until his court date May 5th. He hasnt made friends so is basically out in the world literally on his own. I called the court last Fri asking for help. Only after did I realize the court is only there to enforce the law, protect - not to help anyon...	Barbara	3	399	Mar 17, 2006 by maresie
	Detachment...We went to court (Preview) I knew that he was in a mood when I woke him up yesterday morning for his appointment at the treatment center. He grumbled about "having to go". We dropped the baby off at his moms and headed to his appointment. (he had asked me to drive him up there.) On the way he becamce very angry and...	Powerless	6	469	Mar 17, 2006 by maresie
	he drove (Preview) He drove for the first in his old car. New to him. He took his son it was the first time he really left me home by myself. I cried I was so upset. Then I realize I am not alone. I had been talking to my sponsor earlier on in the day and she told me that my homework was to not follow him around or call him. Well i said to...	nycbt	11	465	Mar 17, 2006 by maresie
	no bottom in sight (Preview) hi everyone, i have still been trying to catch up on the posts. im on page four right now. ive been busy trying to fend for myself. my a and i have been separated for a bit now. the other day we decided he should come home and he did all the right things and said all the right stuff. and of course i believed him. t...	notsonew1111	7	524	Mar 17, 2006 by Becky1
	I am very sad tonight (Preview) My daughter A has been out of a 26 day rehab for 13 days and today she relapsed. She said she was depressed. Depression will probably be something she has to deal with the rest of her life. It saddens me to know that every time she feels depressed she could potentially dr...	MFran	6	535	Mar 17, 2006 by Maria123
	Marriage and Recovery (Preview) My thoughts may be scattered so please bare with me. I have been doing so much thinking. First of all, my husband went one whole day clean yesterday and I was very proud of him. It's the first day he's gone completely clean, without marijuana or the other drugs in five years. I...	Powerless	3	533	Mar 17, 2006 by hudsond
	yesterday (Preview) We got are oil changes and i got the car washed as well. Then he wanted to go to his friends house that he seems to want to go to alot. Well he didn't want to take his car so I rode with him because I still don't want him take off with my car. Well I got home and he went to the store and I didn't relize that is he wanted...	nycbt	3	373	Mar 17, 2006 by Iko
	A couple of things (Preview) I went to a f2f meeting last night. I had called and asked what time an 'al anon' meeting was, they told me and I showed up, however it was a meeting for Adult children (which STILL includes me), but I was looking for, you know, a meeting in regards to me and my husband. It was a little harder for me to relate to...	Iko	3	386	Mar 17, 2006 by mebjk
	How we say , what we say..... (Preview) -- Edited by jrtjosey at 12:56, 2006-03-17	gardengal	1	375	Mar 17, 2006 by jrtjosey
	my car looks fine! aaarrgghh, poor pretty thing (Preview) It is ironic & I can see humor in HP ~ showing me to "lighten up". Nothing about my personality is light, I'm introspective, philospohical, literal & analytical... those facets of how my mind work never go away. But I love to laugh, do so often esp at myself & find off color &am...	kitty	4	406	Mar 17, 2006 by bobump
	To Bump, Cjo, Dana and others (Preview) It was mentioned in the chat room the other day that there are those in our group that are suffering unmentionable trying times right now. I have some lyrics that we all mean for you. We call this place our "home" and it is. Remember we love you and we're here for you whatever we can do t...	txmom	6	660	Mar 17, 2006 by bobump
	hmmm so an empty envelope is delivered to my mothers today (Preview) Its from Brothers name with his new address to mothers last name (same as brothers and mine). Well this way he let her know where he is but cant say the mail was sent to her! Of course my mother had to check out the address and did see his car. Its smart thinking on my brothers side. We know where he is and that h...	Barbara	2	405	Mar 17, 2006 by Barbara
	Not Alanon approved; but very true (Preview) *I received this in an email today from a very good friend. It is not Alanon literature, but it is a really nice story and the message is very true.* *LET IT REALLY SINK IN - THEN CHOOSE. John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something posit...*	Jeannie	7	386	Mar 17, 2006 by cdb
	Anxiety and expectations (Preview) Today I am very nervous and when I sat down to read some of my literature, I realized why. I have expectations about his treatment assessment today and his court hearing. I have told myself not to, but I have been getting my hopes up that he is going to see this program through and get well.&n...	Powerless	5	503	Mar 17, 2006 by cdb
	I am so Grateful and Blessed (Preview) I have met so many great people on this board. Thank You for all your thoughts and prayers. I am struggling and not for the reasons you would think. For the first time in a long time I feel a sense of purpose. I wake up each day with the thought that I will be the beacon for others to see the light and help them wi...	Sweetserenity	2	448	Mar 17, 2006 by kitty
	Letting Go of the Control (Preview) In the last six weeks I have realized how toxic my behavior and controlling has been on my life. After being verbally and emotionally abused by my father all my childhood when I became an adult I took on this "bulldog" mentality. I wanted to prove to him and myself that I wasn't a loser.&nbs...	twinmom2	1	734	Mar 16, 2006 by mebjk
	My Consequences are my OWN ~ Freedom & Liberation! (Preview) I am reading a book & found some eloquent quotations... I am of the nature to grow old. I cannot escape old age. I am of the nature to have ill-health. I cannot escape ill-health. I am of the nature to die. I cannot escape dying. All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the natur...	kitty	3	610	Mar 16, 2006 by marypat
	New. looking for experience, strength, and hope. (Preview) I am new to this, and any message board. I have attended Al-Anon meetings in the past, and wish I could go now, but I unfortunately am not free at the time there are any meetings in my area. I have decided to try something new. I am a Adult Child of an Alcoholic who is now in recovery. I did not find Al-Anon unti...	aimer77	5	440	Mar 16, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Listen and Learn (Preview) Click the attachment,listen and learn,One of our slogans love angel	angel123	0	550	Mar 16, 2006 by angel123
	Need some advice....is this normal (Preview) Hello all I have tried to get into the chat a few times but it is so busy and hard to get to talk--not complaining, I have learned a lot just from reading. My husband was arrested for a dui on the day before Christmas. He has always been a drinker but swore he would never be like his father. I...	nanasgirl	6	451	Mar 16, 2006 by nycbt
	Eden in March (Preview) Eden in March brrrrrrrrr chills. It tis cold here. Well I, lets see, all so exciting.filled the birdfeeders, had to put hamster food in some, ran out of bird seed. I am sure I shook enough out of my sweat shirt to feed twenty chickens too. Came into the house and h...	debilyn	9	372	Mar 16, 2006 by TLC2
	Cocoon (Preview) My mother used to tell me things, she would say, "I am saving you grief, learn from my words." It would drive me in a fury! I read somewhere recently about the papryus struggling to get out of the cocoon... if it doesn't have it's struggles, it would not gain strength, the strength to wrig...	kitty	3	398	Mar 16, 2006 by TLC2
	thank you and update (Preview) I wanted to thank all of you for your responses to my post(bruised). It really helped me.I am going to the women's center on Friday morning. I have also begun looking in the paper for some apartments, and I found one I am going to call. the thing about my A/abuser, is that he doesn't really do the who...	lilleah	8	417	Mar 16, 2006 by quest
	Manipulation or Meaness (Preview) You know we aren't suppose to focus on the alcoholic but I have to wonder. I have posted about my husband always threatening divorce. We are currently seperated but we were seeing quite a bit of each other until a little over a week ago. We got into an argument and he told me that he wan...	JulieLynn	6	475	Mar 16, 2006 by sweetums
	Bizarre thing happened to me today (Preview) Hello everyone - I wanted to let you know what happened to me today. I know God is always with me and this is why. Today, I decided to walk to take my movies back to blockbuster. It was one by the school where I teach. I usually ride my bike and it takes me 15-20 minutes to get there. Today, I decided to walk. A...	Robinks	9	427	Mar 16, 2006 by Robinks
	Update--A-dau home (Preview) So glad she got here about .5hr ago. Was washed up and ready to take over kids. Not sure how to apply boundaries when neighbor brings kids and am trapped . I will be telling her no more A in my apt period beings she won't put a limit on it. I did not want to and feared doing something othe...	d53sjurne	2	454	Mar 16, 2006 by Ria
	who has an online sponsor and how do you work it? (Preview) how do you do the steps online? what about crisis? Do you "need" to get together f2f? I find it easier to put together an email - it feels like I can get more of my train of thought on paper, think more thoroughly about topics, etc.	Barbara	1	371	Mar 16, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Quick update from yesterday (Preview) My "a" called yesterday evening and let me know that he ended the relationship with the girl at work. I asked all my questions the night before and he also shared more in the counselors office. I asked how she took it, he said it was not pretty. She was confused and felt he wanted the sa...	twinmom2	3	325	Mar 15, 2006 by Lunamoth
	fear of revenge ? what to do (Preview) hsing.   Went	d53sjurne	5	436	Mar 15, 2006 by lin0606
	How does one, "Accept the things I cannot change?" (Preview) The serenity prayer teaches us to, "accept the things I cannot change." This is the same as saying, "accept unacceptable behavior because you can't change it." If a person believes this to be true, he/she sooner or later must collapse under the weight of it all. We are told that we cannot change th...	Diva	16	1464	Mar 15, 2006 by ditto
	Beware the Ides of March ~ Another Special Sentiment gone (Preview) So this has been a weird year for me, many changes in my mother's beahviour since I "learned" to work on loving myself. March 1 ~ we heard no exuberant "it's birthday month baby!" & today she barked over the phone. "your cake is ready & I froze it." (why?) &nb...	kitty	2	689	Mar 15, 2006 by just me
	Very. very. very new. (Preview) Hello, My name is Karen and I am not just new to this group, but new to Alanon completely. I've been to I think one face to face meeting back when I lived in Rochester, but that's almost a year ago now. I do have some program under my belt, however, as I am also a recovering alcoholic, but I'm r...	kspear	6	427	Mar 15, 2006 by peewee
	Elvis needs a door man (Preview) Can someone get David's door for me tonight? With all going on around here I cannot committ to being there. Josey	jrtjosey	1	386	Mar 15, 2006 by Christy
	Kitty Update (Preview) Well since the car wreck, I have been sleeping a lot, not really sure why it took so much out of me but it has/did.m Sleeping plum through the am mgs, naps during the days & no more vampire hours! Also, having to deal with the insurance & hearing my car was 'not worth fixing' ...	kitty	8	492	Mar 15, 2006 by peewee
	sometimes life can be too much (Preview) haven't been on the boards as much as my back is out AGAIN, and i am wondering how long i can go b4 i am disabled....i will do all i can to take care of me, but not expect too much...day to day, just trying to work on the soft tissue "knots" i find in there, and doing my cleansi...	rosie light shines	6	523	Mar 15, 2006 by kitty
	That darn cat! (Preview) Well it is interesting around here after telling my husband I wanted a seperation. HIs first reaction was no, all it is going to do his cost money, we'll get the same lawyer and get it over. Yesterday at lunch he comes home asking why I don't think this will work. Spewed a bunch of cr...	jrtjosey	5	468	Mar 15, 2006 by maresie
	How do we decide who's consequenses they are? (Preview) There have been a few discussions on here, and they make a lot of sense. When detaching and letting someone suffer natural consequenses, how do we as Wives, husbands, parents, know who's consequenses they are. How after so many years of doing the wrong things, do I pull the plug? When we get marr...	Jeannie	7	513	Mar 15, 2006 by maresie
	Is it the hole in the soul ? (Preview)     Questioning thoughts ...	d53sjurne	6	571	Mar 15, 2006 by toto12
	Isn't it enabling? (Preview) I was talking with my Mom today and she was angry at my husband. She asked how everyone was feeling and I told her better. Then she asked if as%h*le (her name for my husband) had been any help. I told her that he was at his Mom's. I said no, he is drinking and the kids and I didn't want him around.She asked if h...	Jeannie	10	557	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	Accepting the things I cannot change (Preview) Hi (((friends)))) A has ben home 4 days now, it seems longer..lol I guess we're attempting to settle in to some sort of routine, although a difficult one. I'd hoped to see my A's mentality getting better day by day, but he's about the same. He tends to say wrong words but sometimes it's pretty...	Christy	8	495	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	frustrated (Preview) I am so frustrated today. My best friend of 20 years is driving me nuts about my "a". It was her idea for me to go to alanon, so for that I am thankful, but she can't f-ing let it go! Every time she talks to me, she asks me if my a is drinking, what I am saying to him/doing about it, etc. ...	paintthinnr	5	391	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	To Leave or Not to Leave, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm (Preview) My friends, I haven't been on much lately, my "A" went to jail, and I let myself slip into total "Mommy-Mode" which isn't a bad thing, but when you don't take care of yourslef, it all goes to hell no matter how hard you are trying. Well my "A" spent 25 days in the jail, and was released last Monday. Long e...	Dolphin123	7	431	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	Working my Program (Preview) The good mood is continuing. Today my husband didn't have to work because of the rain. I let him sleep in, normally I would be resentful that he was sleeping like a baby and I was up with the baby and doing chores. Today I went about my chores and told myself that I would do them alone if h...	Powerless	5	391	Mar 15, 2006 by jrtjosey
	he got it (Preview) Yesterday my husband got the bill of sale. I am suffering from both a cold and now emotional/mentally. I cut my arm over this car issue. it is like scartchs marks with a knife. alot of people have been helping me. it is hard to change my thinking. once u cut u feel the pain at that moment leave. but then m...	nycbt	9	470	Mar 15, 2006 by maresie
	We're back on today (Preview) So much has happened between my "a" and myself over the weekend. I cannot share this with anyone other than my fellow Alanoner's because my family is going to go through the roof over this one. My "a" cancelled his visit with the kids on Sunday because he was busy moving into a bigger place,...	twinmom2	5	523	Mar 15, 2006 by mebjk
	Need ESH (Preview) Hi there. I'm Stacy and I need some ESH. My A (boyfriend) is working the program in AA and has had some success, though when he slips it seems to get worse. Anyway, he also has had an addiction to Adderal in the past. He is STILL taking it, insisting that he needs it for his ADD, but las...	SerenityGirl	3	438	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
	Yet another update (Preview) I am taking 1/2 the day off, (scary with a new job) mom has an appointment with the oncolgist this afternoon. They will tell us what the PET and CAT scan's said. They have found a hole in her hip bone. My son and his girlfriend are to be at the hospital this morning also, the doc is pret...	marmare	3	341	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
	no time for update just checking in (Preview) Hi all ! No time for an update, just checking in. Just wanted to let ya'll know I'm doing well considering all that is going on. I'd only be doing 1/2 as well w/o the program and all of ya! Bob	bobump	11	544	Mar 14, 2006 by RamzDear
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