Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

Hi All, I have been on the board a few times. I lost my PW so I had to re-register. I was Ann_M_Y but my new screen name is Ann_Y. I have not been to an in person meeting. I really have no excuse of why I haven't gone to one. My husband was sober for 3 months and he slipped. He drank yesterday and today. He goes fu...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I made mention in passing that my mom had a slight stroke Friday night. My parents are 83 and have had a long and blessed life. However, they are both slipping just a bit mentally and I have used my program to not worry or fret too much. They are definitely on OPT (Old People Time) which means they go to be...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have been trying to focus on something within my job because I have been so utterly frustrated as of late and that is not working for me. First I have lacked motivation and I am frustrated over things I can't change which is other people. That's really been a tough one, so I have chosen to remain aloof h...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a look at the phrase take care of yourself. I will admit that when I was just coming to the program and new to it, when someone told me to care for myself I typically responded with a (visible) eye roll. It seemed trite to me- of course I was taking care of myself bl...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for March 13 speaks about the doubts and fears that we entertain once the alcoholic has achieved sobriety. The reading points out that this must be overcome, because this lack of confidence can do untold damage. It suggests that even if a relapse should happen,the injury is not to us...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Well things are improving slowly but surely. I am grateful that I am starting to sleep a little better. My mind is starting to clear a little after a long couple of weeks struggling w sleep. I feel better but still have to deal w long days. I have been reading more alanon literature. I have even studied...

notrub1974 · notrub1974

I have been with AH for over 20 years (married 19 last Nov) and he has been trying to quit drinking for a little over a year now. I know there are going to be relapses and I am usually not mad about that (disappointed, yes but mad, no because it does no good to be mad). So, at the first part of the year, AH was pres...

MizzB · MizzB

So ABF is AWOL again. Relapsed 3 weeks after dragging his mum back from her holiday abroad to help her detox. Last time he relapsed he was suicidal so being AWOL and alone is obviously worrying for me. But this is about me, not him. I feel like I'm bottled up. I'm a can of fizzy pop being shaken and waiting t...

momsad · momsad

Good morning all. I've been in Al-Anon since December so I'm relatively new. Al-Anon has helped me a great deal both through meetings and the literature. I'm in real need of support today. My 21 year old son had 5 months of sobriety and relapsed a few days ago. At first it seemed like a slip and that h...

Lyne · Lyne

Detaching with love: The writer states that someone else's mood, tone, and/or state of inebriation does not have to effect his course of actions, unless he allows it. Alanon is teaching him that he does not have to react when provoked, nor take harsh words to heart . He can be in charge of his decisio...

Groo · Groo

Two years ago I had no job, was isolated, and was living with a mentally ill delusional alcoholic (AH) who was the main bread winner. Things were horrible so I decided to say yes to a few opportunities. My SIL got me a part time job, my other SIL invited us to join her bike group, and the delusional alcoholi...

Itsjustme1988 · Itsjustme1988

As I sit at the bedside of my alcoholic fiancee as he is sedated because he is going through withdrawals. I'm struggling with how to handle things. I don't know what to do or say. I feel that his life is in jeopardy and I'm very scared. I know he needs to make a decision to get sober on his own. I'm definitel...

Need2believe17 · Need2believe17

I have struggled with drinking for years but have been sober for 3 months. I am married to an alcoholic. I need to learn how to continue my sobriety and hopefully stay married because I love my husband but I dont know how to deal with my sobriety and him continuing to drink. He has had dui's and legal issues...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today clearly states that we come to alanon to receive help from unbearable pain and suffering. Many of us believe this pain is caused by another, however since we are powerless over others, alanon directs us to look inward, to uncover what we are doing that is causing our pain. T...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I had an awful dream this morning. In the dream my ah left me. He said it was because we were arguing too much. Now I am awake & crying. I just want to share w someone out there. Now I have to bed. I haven't been sleeping well. It is 6:30 in the morning. I need to go back to sleep. Thanks for letting me s...

Belle Again · Belle Again

I'm writing as I recognised after a difficult Al-Anon meeting tonight, that one of the reasons I'm angry with my A is because I'm worried that my second marriage will break up and I fear that happening. I fear finding out that the boundaries my anger hides might make the decision for me, that I have to cal...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

According to the index in c2c, today's reading falls under the topic "Confusion." The reading focuses on the confusion around what is hp's will for the reader and self will. The reading goes on to tell us that doubt is an unavoidable companion to spiritual seeking and encourages exploration and chal...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading is about anger. The reading says losing our temper can be a disease too. It goes on to tell us that "anger-sickness" is an uncontrollable impuse to judge and condemn someone else. The reading likens it to an emotional explosion that brings temporary relief. It reminds the reader abou...

Elabella · Elabella

Today Iâm feeling defeated. The last week has been completely unbearable dealing with AH outbursts. Last night I lost my cool because he put me on the spot with a friend of his. He is at the point that he canât understand how to do new things. He arbitrarily decided that at THAT precise moment I was going t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My AH is having I think age-related physical issues. It is so easy to think about how long he is going to be on this earth. I have been crying almost nonstop. It might be that I am so tired as well. So anyway easy does it right? & one day at a time. By the way he is 24 years older than I am & I am finally afte...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading is about unacceptable behavior. The writer shares about their experience growing up in an alcoholic home where they experienced unhealthy behaviors particularly criticism from others. They had trouble sorting out acceptable behavior from unacceptable behavior. The reading...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

When I am caught up in the obsession of what my AH is or isn't doing,there's problems between us(of course).My controlling ways cause many huge arguments and make me feel miserable.If I try to talk to him about anything he completely shuts me out and gives me the silent treatment.It's like a punishmen...

pumkin26 · pumkin26

Hi All, just thought I would pop up here today as it marks 1 yr of recovery- for ME. A year ago, crying and broken, mad and hurt- I would've never thought in a year this is where I would be- today I am very thankful for everyone here that helped me in those early days and overall very thankful and grateful to Al...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Does anyone have any ESH on not having kids for one reason or another? Need to let go of the dream at 51?

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey all... I am on mobile and don't see where to send private messages... I usually post a daily each Thu and Fri, and have no literature with me... Can someone please take care of tomorrow? Thanks in advance...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about learning and practicing to do and be different. The writer talks about how attending meetings helps us learn new ways of working our recovery program. She attended one, and the chairperson passed around a basket full of slogan. She asked that each person take one, and try...

Jerry F · Jerry F

It isn't only about not drinking ...is it. I so related to this page and what he was sharing. Seeing the big picture is 20/20 eyesight. Gratitude lists are a must. (((hugs)))

StarryAmmo · StarryAmmo

I have never asked for help or guidance outside of HP. I've been reading posts upon more posts. My AH has progressed to the point of not being able to hold a job. We've been married 27 yrs. Raised 3 children who are all moved out. He progressively got to where we are now. He's always been addicted to one sub...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I have a 37 year old college educated daughter who suffers from what seems to be anxiety/depression/ocd exacerbated by alcoholism/prescription and other drug abuse, and a tragic history of domestic violence and sexual assault. She has seemingly adopted the emotional abuse which was heaped on he...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about the beauty we each hold inside. The author shares that, after living with a disease of attitudes for a lifetime, they did not think that anything good would come out of their efforts, because they didn't have self confidence or self esteem. The author lea...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In my home group, we have been working the steps as a group on Thursday nights. I've found it useful to work through them again. Today, I came home from my Sunday meeting to a cheerful wife. We walked our Chloe, and met the neighbors from across the street for the first time. We stayed and chatted with the...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Well I was in there & didn't know how to respond. Can anyone tell me how? I want to go back in there.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This one has really been on my mind lately especially as I deal with my oldest. What is the difference between the issue of Responsibility vs Expectation for me. In watching my oldest struggle pretty hard this past semester one thing I have really seen is that what are my expectations in terms of beha...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for March 6 things about the importance of anonymity between Al-Anon members and while attending an Al-Anon meetings. The reading points out that what we hear in meetings or what is shared between each member must be held in confidence and kept locked in our minds and hearts, We can al...

CASphilbrook · CASphilbrook

I accidentally posted in the business forum a while ago. I'm new to this. My husband is (was) a recovering alcoholic. When I met him he went to just about every meeting nearby. Work and other responsibilities reduced the times he attended. But if he ever started getting in a "mood", I would very nicely l...

Jennifer617 · Jennifer617

Iâm really struggling with my husband. He is unable to stay sober, Iâm not sure at what point I should leave. Iâm new to all of this. Any advice ?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for March 3 speaks about the fourth step. The reading indicates that if we look inward deeply enough we may find that many of our attitudes, and actions and unrealistic, immature and childlike. It then goes on to explain what mature behavior looks like which includes: " knowing ours...

Elabella · Elabella

So here I am hiding in my bedroom because Iâm avoiding AH who is on a complete rampage on me. He got angry at me when I suggested he should not come to friends of the family tonight. Our daughter is going over to sleepover. He wants to go over to have a talk with our friend. She is dealing with a lot today- havin...

CedarTexas · CedarTexas

So my story, my fiance slipped 4 weeks ago after being sober for 400+ days. We have known each other since we were 11, but had not been in touch for 20 years until we reconnected in 2016. When we first reconnected she told me that she was an alcoholic and was in recovery, at that time only for 6 months, but sh...

Lyne · Lyne

Character defects: The writer discussed her fear of removing her defects. She imagined herself like Swiss cheese, full of holes. But she soon learned that by working the steps, all she lost were the things she didn't need. Then she had room for her strengths, skills, and feelings. Today 's rem...

ginnyc · ginnyc

hello I have been around reading the post, getting a lot of useful information and help but never posted. I am an adult children of an alcoholic. very abusive and dysfunctional. My family finally got out from under the physical abusive stuff when I was 17 when the alcoholic left. Anyway, fast forward,...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about the difficulties we might face when making decisions. The writer notes that in the effort to make the perfect decision, instead he/she can be almost paralyzed considering all the possible effects the decision may have. In order to sort out a directio...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Awareness Acceptance Action right? I picked these out of my box this morning. Since then I have been more aware of what I have to deal w what is in front of me. Acceptance is a real big issue for me. I read in the AA big book that acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. Or issues. Now I am taking act...

Elabella · Elabella

Good Morning all. So this morning while going through my 14 yr olds social media I saw her post videos of her and her friends doing shots! Ugh! She was over at a friends for a sleepover- which was a Godsend because AH was having an episode. Iâm so worried . I donât know how to deal with this. I know as a teenage...

Jennifer617 · Jennifer617

Iâm really struggling with my husband. He is unable to stay sober, Iâm not sure at what point I should leave. Iâm new to all of this. Any advice ?

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I fell a little while ago. I guess winter is still here up here. I & other people in my town were hoping for an early spring & we might just get it but not yet! We still have the blessing of seeing God's handiwork--the snow. I am sitting at the library as I used to do when I didn't have a tablet & a sm...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

So the other night my daughter and i talked about going to a movie .. we decided on the movie we want .. the next night when it was time to go .. she said in the car would you mind if we went to this other movie instead .. I began to really want to see the movie we were originally going to see and i said no .. i Really w...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

My wife Nancy and I have been coming to MIP for about 15 years. We used to use the old IRC channels, but now we just use the web. Anyway, I been in and out of here over the years, I hang around for a while, then I disappear. I just recently returned and this time I set up Nancy's old account. Nancy is an old school...

Elabella · Elabella

Just wanted to leave a positive note for a change. Today I had the pleasure of taking part in a really great online meeting. Iâm thankful for hearing everyoneâs shares. I felt more at ease and happy when it was over. So for today, right now in this moment- Iâm in a happy place and thankful for these boards a...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

My husband asked me to tell him when to call me from rehab. I gave him two times. It is possible the wires got crossed because he doesnât have his own phone and I had to pass on a message. Either way, he missed both times without a word to me. I feel heartbroken. I have been feeling very positively toward...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I know that alcoholism is a disease and even with attempts at sobriety with meetings and counselors, there can be relapses. My AH drinks every few months and this has been the way it has been for years. When that happens, I feel angry. He lies and then confesses. I am tired of it. I share my feelings wh...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So my STBXRAH was finally served with his divorce papers this past weekend! Whew! One more thing off my plate... for now. That whole thing was a lesson in patience, that's for sure! At times it was hard for me to let it go, b/c I had the company that is helping with the divorce prodding me about getting him s...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

I have learned something being with my mum. When something goes wrong, she becomes anxious, swoops in and doesn't let me cope with it and learn myself. My car broke down, we plugged it into the battery charger and then I went for a walk. When she came back it wasn't working and she called an organised a re...

Gemini31 · Gemini31

I'm 42 and in love with a functional alcoholic that I have been living with for 2 years. Since he has made changes to the frequency of the drinking he thinks he is fixed,but he's still hiding, lying, and drinking..I need help with making sure that this don't effect me anymore. I want to stop counting, que...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and happy Friday! Today's reading talks about one of our great tools - CAL or Conference Approved Literature. The writer suggests that the literature taught her to replace a long-established, negative way of thinking with a new, healthier, more positive approach to life and lo...

blueskies18 · blueskies18

I just started attending alanon meetings after a 19 year hiatus from alanon. I go there and act like I'm an oldie. I know the steps, I know the slogans etc, and I have stories about how I overcame stuff thirty years ago. But I'm a newbie. The truth is I'm afraid to be vulnerable. I don't trust. I act li...

Jerry F · Jerry F

A person I have made up my mind to contact and make an amends to for something I selfishly did years ago which might have been very dangerous answered a FB request from me this morning. I had time to think my plan over and was in the process of taking control and at the keyboard of my computer when my wife w...

Elabella · Elabella

Hi everyone, Iâm really struggling right now mentally trying to deal with my AH. His denial runs very, very deep which exhausts me to no end. Now to add to the matter, he is under a ton of stress in regards to life, finances, our marriage, his broken ties with his family. Heâs been snapping out of nowhere...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to be positive today * stay out of self-pity I also want to stay out of my head.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Oh my! My mother is starting something again. Over & over. I am beginning to think that she doesn't live me or is capable of loving me anymore. I have taken so many emotional beatings in the last few years. I know she is sick but do I have to be dragged along w her? Some ESH us needed. I am desperate.

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	Was it wrong to call my husband sponsor? (Preview) Hi All, I have been on the board a few times. I lost my PW so I had to re-register. I was Ann_M_Y but my new screen name is Ann_Y. I have not been to an in person meeting. I really have no excuse of why I haven't gone to one. My husband was sober for 3 months and he slipped. He drank yesterday and today. He goes fu...	Ann_Y	8	878	Mar 14, 2018 by Bo
	Update on Momma ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I made mention in passing that my mom had a slight stroke Friday night. My parents are 83 and have had a long and blessed life. However, they are both slipping just a bit mentally and I have used my program to not worry or fret too much. They are definitely on OPT (Old People Time) which means they go to be...	Iamhere	41	1409	Mar 14, 2018 by Iamhere
	In All My Affairs (Preview) I have been trying to focus on something within my job because I have been so utterly frustrated as of late and that is not working for me. First I have lacked motivation and I am frustrated over things I can't change which is other people. That's really been a tough one, so I have chosen to remain aloof h...	SerenityRUS	12	736	Mar 14, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Mar 11 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a look at the phrase take care of yourself. I will admit that when I was just coming to the program and new to it, when someone told me to care for myself I typically responded with a (visible) eye roll. It seemed trite to me- of course I was taking care of myself bl...	yanksfan51	6	615	Mar 13, 2018 by hotrod
	ODAT Reading 3-13-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for March 13 speaks about the doubts and fears that we entertain once the alcoholic has achieved sobriety. The reading points out that this must be overcome, because this lack of confidence can do untold damage. It suggests that even if a relapse should happen,the injury is not to us...	hotrod	1	627	Mar 13, 2018 by Iamhere
	it is getting better... (Preview) Well things are improving slowly but surely. I am grateful that I am starting to sleep a little better. My mind is starting to clear a little after a long couple of weeks struggling w sleep. I feel better but still have to deal w long days. I have been reading more alanon literature. I have even studied...	Hoot Nanny	2	622	Mar 13, 2018 by Iamhere
	Trying to let go- not get angry (Preview) I have been with AH for over 20 years (married 19 last Nov) and he has been trying to quit drinking for a little over a year now. I know there are going to be relapses and I am usually not mad about that (disappointed, yes but mad, no because it does no good to be mad). So, at the first part of the year, AH was pres...	notrub1974	20	2582	Mar 13, 2018 by Iamhere
	Pressure Valve (Preview) So ABF is AWOL again. Relapsed 3 weeks after dragging his mum back from her holiday abroad to help her detox. Last time he relapsed he was suicidal so being AWOL and alone is obviously worrying for me. But this is about me, not him. I feel like I'm bottled up. I'm a can of fizzy pop being shaken and waiting t...	MizzB	6	656	Mar 13, 2018 by Bo
	In need of support (Preview) Good morning all. I've been in Al-Anon since December so I'm relatively new. Al-Anon has helped me a great deal both through meetings and the literature. I'm in real need of support today. My 21 year old son had 5 months of sobriety and relapsed a few days ago. At first it seemed like a slip and that h...	momsad	9	738	Mar 12, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 3/12 (Preview) Detaching with love: The writer states that someone else's mood, tone, and/or state of inebriation does not have to effect his course of actions, unless he allows it. Alanon is teaching him that he does not have to react when provoked, nor take harsh words to heart . He can be in charge of his decisio...	Lyne	8	567	Mar 12, 2018 by momsad
	Now what? (Preview) Two years ago I had no job, was isolated, and was living with a mentally ill delusional alcoholic (AH) who was the main bread winner. Things were horrible so I decided to say yes to a few opportunities. My SIL got me a part time job, my other SIL invited us to join her bike group, and the delusional alcoholi...	Groo	8	643	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hospital bedside advice (Preview) As I sit at the bedside of my alcoholic fiancee as he is sedated because he is going through withdrawals. I'm struggling with how to handle things. I don't know what to do or say. I feel that his life is in jeopardy and I'm very scared. I know he needs to make a decision to get sober on his own. I'm definitel...	Itsjustme1988	8	731	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	New to Alanon (Preview) I have struggled with drinking for years but have been sober for 3 months. I am married to an alcoholic. I need to learn how to continue my sobriety and hopefully stay married because I love my husband but I dont know how to deal with my sobriety and him continuing to drink. He has had dui's and legal issues...	Need2believe17	7	613	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	ODAT Reading 3-10-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today clearly states that we come to alanon to receive help from unbearable pain and suffering. Many of us believe this pain is caused by another, however since we are powerless over others, alanon directs us to look inward, to uncover what we are doing that is causing our pain. T...	hotrod	3	555	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	awful dream (Preview) I had an awful dream this morning. In the dream my ah left me. He said it was because we were arguing too much. Now I am awake & crying. I just want to share w someone out there. Now I have to bed. I haven't been sleeping well. It is 6:30 in the morning. I need to go back to sleep. Thanks for letting me s...	Hoot Nanny	4	544	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	Worried about feeling alone-ness (Preview) I'm writing as I recognised after a difficult Al-Anon meeting tonight, that one of the reasons I'm angry with my A is because I'm worried that my second marriage will break up and I fear that happening. I fear finding out that the boundaries my anger hides might make the decision for me, that I have to cal...	Belle Again	12	770	Mar 11, 2018 by Maresie
	Courage to Change March 9 (Preview) According to the index in c2c, today's reading falls under the topic "Confusion." The reading focuses on the confusion around what is hp's will for the reader and self will. The reading goes on to tell us that doubt is an unavoidable companion to spiritual seeking and encourages exploration and chal...	tiredtonite	1	580	Mar 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	ODAAT March 9 (Preview) Today's reading is about anger. The reading says losing our temper can be a disease too. It goes on to tell us that "anger-sickness" is an uncontrollable impuse to judge and condemn someone else. The reading likens it to an emotional explosion that brings temporary relief. It reminds the reader abou...	tiredtonite	1	484	Mar 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to change is making life worse.... (Preview) Today Iâm feeling defeated. The last week has been completely unbearable dealing with AH outbursts. Last night I lost my cool because he put me on the spot with a friend of his. He is at the point that he canât understand how to do new things. He arbitrarily decided that at THAT precise moment I was going t...	Elabella	23	852	Mar 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	future tripping (Preview) My AH is having I think age-related physical issues. It is so easy to think about how long he is going to be on this earth. I have been crying almost nonstop. It might be that I am so tired as well. So anyway easy does it right? & one day at a time. By the way he is 24 years older than I am & I am finally afte...	Hoot Nanny	2	579	Mar 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today March 9 (Preview) Today's reading is about unacceptable behavior. The writer shares about their experience growing up in an alcoholic home where they experienced unhealthy behaviors particularly criticism from others. They had trouble sorting out acceptable behavior from unacceptable behavior. The reading...	tiredtonite	12	802	Mar 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	A Vicious Cycle (Preview) When I am caught up in the obsession of what my AH is or isn't doing,there's problems between us(of course).My controlling ways cause many huge arguments and make me feel miserable.If I try to talk to him about anything he completely shuts me out and gives me the silent treatment.It's like a punishmen...	SoggySlippers	14	771	Mar 10, 2018 by pumkin26
	1 Yr, today! (Preview) Hi All, just thought I would pop up here today as it marks 1 yr of recovery- for ME. A year ago, crying and broken, mad and hurt- I would've never thought in a year this is where I would be- today I am very thankful for everyone here that helped me in those early days and overall very thankful and grateful to Al...	pumkin26	8	647	Mar 10, 2018 by pumkin26
	how to deal w not having kids? (Preview) Does anyone have any ESH on not having kids for one reason or another? Need to let go of the dream at 51?	Hoot Nanny	5	511	Mar 10, 2018 by MizzB
	Service Opportunity - Tomorrow (Preview) Hey all... I am on mobile and don't see where to send private messages... I usually post a daily each Thu and Fri, and have no literature with me... Can someone please take care of tomorrow? Thanks in advance...	Iamhere	4	532	Mar 9, 2018 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 3/8/18 (Preview) Today's reading is about learning and practicing to do and be different. The writer talks about how attending meetings helps us learn new ways of working our recovery program. She attended one, and the chairperson passed around a basket full of slogan. She asked that each person take one, and try...	Iamhere	3	547	Mar 8, 2018 by The1975jen
	Hope For Today 3/7/2018 (Preview) It isn't only about not drinking ...is it. I so related to this page and what he was sharing. Seeing the big picture is 20/20 eyesight. Gratitude lists are a must. (((hugs)))	Jerry F	4	547	Mar 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	1st Post Where to Start. Desperate!!! (Preview) I have never asked for help or guidance outside of HP. I've been reading posts upon more posts. My AH has progressed to the point of not being able to hold a job. We've been married 27 yrs. Raised 3 children who are all moved out. He progressively got to where we are now. He's always been addicted to one sub...	StarryAmmo	20	862	Mar 7, 2018 by Maresie
	Boundaries request isn't being respected (very long) (Preview) I have a 37 year old college educated daughter who suffers from what seems to be anxiety/depression/ocd exacerbated by alcoholism/prescription and other drug abuse, and a tragic history of domestic violence and sexual assault. She has seemingly adopted the emotional abuse which was heaped on he...	lgnutah	11	530	Mar 7, 2018 by Maresie
	Courage to Change March 7 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about the beauty we each hold inside. The author shares that, after living with a disease of attitudes for a lifetime, they did not think that anything good would come out of their efforts, because they didn't have self confidence or self esteem. The author lea...	Skorpi	3	797	Mar 7, 2018 by Lyne
	A lesson in powerlessness (Preview) In my home group, we have been working the steps as a group on Thursday nights. I've found it useful to work through them again. Today, I came home from my Sunday meeting to a cheerful wife. We walked our Chloe, and met the neighbors from across the street for the first time. We stayed and chatted with the...	Skorpi	10	727	Mar 7, 2018 by Iamhere
	in the chatroom (Preview) Well I was in there & didn't know how to respond. Can anyone tell me how? I want to go back in there.	Hoot Nanny	10	548	Mar 6, 2018 by Hoot Nanny
	Responsibility Vs. Expectation (Preview) This one has really been on my mind lately especially as I deal with my oldest. What is the difference between the issue of Responsibility vs Expectation for me. In watching my oldest struggle pretty hard this past semester one thing I have really seen is that what are my expectations in terms of beha...	SerenityRUS	7	1236	Mar 6, 2018 by Maresie
	ODAT Reading 3-6-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for March 6 things about the importance of anonymity between Al-Anon members and while attending an Al-Anon meetings. The reading points out that what we hear in meetings or what is shared between each member must be held in confidence and kept locked in our minds and hearts, We can al...	hotrod	3	1700	Mar 6, 2018 by Lyne
	Still getting the hang of this (Preview) I accidentally posted in the business forum a while ago. I'm new to this. My husband is (was) a recovering alcoholic. When I met him he went to just about every meeting nearby. Work and other responsibilities reduced the times he attended. But if he ever started getting in a "mood", I would very nicely l...	CASphilbrook	5	541	Mar 6, 2018 by Iamhere
	When to seek a divorce? (Preview) Iâm really struggling with my husband. He is unable to stay sober, Iâm not sure at what point I should leave. Iâm new to all of this. Any advice ?	Jennifer617	11	1700	Mar 5, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	C2C reading 3-3-2018 (Preview) The C2C reading for March 3 speaks about the fourth step. The reading indicates that if we look inward deeply enough we may find that many of our attitudes, and actions and unrealistic, immature and childlike. It then goes on to explain what mature behavior looks like which includes: " knowing ours...	hotrod	12	2335	Mar 5, 2018 by hotrod
	Desperate for ESH... (Preview) So here I am hiding in my bedroom because Iâm avoiding AH who is on a complete rampage on me. He got angry at me when I suggested he should not come to friends of the family tonight. Our daughter is going over to sleepover. He wants to go over to have a talk with our friend. She is dealing with a lot today- havin...	Elabella	16	655	Mar 5, 2018 by MeTwo2
	Fiancé relapsed 90 days before wedding (Preview) So my story, my fiance slipped 4 weeks ago after being sober for 400+ days. We have known each other since we were 11, but had not been in touch for 20 years until we reconnected in 2016. When we first reconnected she told me that she was an alcoholic and was in recovery, at that time only for 6 months, but sh...	CedarTexas	18	727	Mar 5, 2018 by Iamhere
	C2C, 3/5 (Preview) Character defects: The writer discussed her fear of removing her defects. She imagined herself like Swiss cheese, full of holes. But she soon learned that by working the steps, all she lost were the things she didn't need. Then she had room for her strengths, skills, and feelings. Today 's rem...	Lyne	3	792	Mar 5, 2018 by Skorpi
	finally facing myself (Preview) hello I have been around reading the post, getting a lot of useful information and help but never posted. I am an adult children of an alcoholic. very abusive and dysfunctional. My family finally got out from under the physical abusive stuff when I was 17 when the alcoholic left. Anyway, fast forward,...	ginnyc	6	546	Mar 5, 2018 by MeTwo2
	Hope for Today Mar 4 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about the difficulties we might face when making decisions. The writer notes that in the effort to make the perfect decision, instead he/she can be almost paralyzed considering all the possible effects the decision may have. In order to sort out a directio...	yanksfan51	5	804	Mar 5, 2018 by DavidG
	the 3 A's (Preview) Awareness Acceptance Action right? I picked these out of my box this morning. Since then I have been more aware of what I have to deal w what is in front of me. Acceptance is a real big issue for me. I read in the AA big book that acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. Or issues. Now I am taking act...	Hoot Nanny	4	1780	Mar 4, 2018 by Bo
	New situation.. (Preview) Good Morning all. So this morning while going through my 14 yr olds social media I saw her post videos of her and her friends doing shots! Ugh! She was over at a friends for a sleepover- which was a Godsend because AH was having an episode. Iâm so worried . I donât know how to deal with this. I know as a teenage...	Elabella	8	868	Mar 4, 2018 by Elabella
	When to seek a divorce? (Preview) Iâm really struggling with my husband. He is unable to stay sober, Iâm not sure at what point I should leave. Iâm new to all of this. Any advice ?	Jennifer617	2	506	Mar 4, 2018 by MeTwo2
	I fell oh well... (Preview) I fell a little while ago. I guess winter is still here up here. I & other people in my town were hoping for an early spring & we might just get it but not yet! We still have the blessing of seeing God's handiwork--the snow. I am sitting at the library as I used to do when I didn't have a tablet & a sm...	Hoot Nanny	5	461	Mar 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	Just feelings ? (Preview) So the other night my daughter and i talked about going to a movie .. we decided on the movie we want .. the next night when it was time to go .. she said in the car would you mind if we went to this other movie instead .. I began to really want to see the movie we were originally going to see and i said no .. i Really w...	MeTwo2	9	733	Mar 4, 2018 by MeTwo2
	Who Dat Girl (Preview) My wife Nancy and I have been coming to MIP for about 15 years. We used to use the old IRC channels, but now we just use the web. Anyway, I been in and out of here over the years, I hang around for a while, then I disappear. I just recently returned and this time I set up Nancy's old account. Nancy is an old school...	Wolfie55	5	491	Mar 3, 2018 by DavidG
	Thankful.. (Preview) Just wanted to leave a positive note for a change. Today I had the pleasure of taking part in a really great online meeting. Iâm thankful for hearing everyoneâs shares. I felt more at ease and happy when it was over. So for today, right now in this moment- Iâm in a happy place and thankful for these boards a...	Elabella	6	740	Mar 3, 2018 by Elabella
	Just sad. (Preview) My husband asked me to tell him when to call me from rehab. I gave him two times. It is possible the wires got crossed because he doesnât have his own phone and I had to pass on a message. Either way, he missed both times without a word to me. I feel heartbroken. I have been feeling very positively toward...	AnnieFenk321	8	2822	Mar 3, 2018 by AnnieFenk321
	Detaching with Love (Preview) I know that alcoholism is a disease and even with attempts at sobriety with meetings and counselors, there can be relapses. My AH drinks every few months and this has been the way it has been for years. When that happens, I feel angry. He lies and then confesses. I am tired of it. I share my feelings wh...	wifeofalcoholic	2	490	Mar 2, 2018 by Jerry F
	Finally! (Preview) So my STBXRAH was finally served with his divorce papers this past weekend! Whew! One more thing off my plate... for now. That whole thing was a lesson in patience, that's for sure! At times it was hard for me to let it go, b/c I had the company that is helping with the divorce prodding me about getting him s...	PosiesandPuppies	13	820	Mar 2, 2018 by Maresie
	Character flaws (Preview) I have learned something being with my mum. When something goes wrong, she becomes anxious, swoops in and doesn't let me cope with it and learn myself. My car broke down, we plugged it into the battery charger and then I went for a walk. When she came back it wasn't working and she called an organised a re...	AnnieFenk321	8	557	Mar 2, 2018 by Maresie
	New at this (Preview) I'm 42 and in love with a functional alcoholic that I have been living with for 2 years. Since he has made changes to the frequency of the drinking he thinks he is fixed,but he's still hiding, lying, and drinking..I need help with making sure that this don't effect me anymore. I want to stop counting, que...	Gemini31	15	1507	Mar 2, 2018 by Maresie
	Courage to Change 3/2/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP and happy Friday! Today's reading talks about one of our great tools - CAL or Conference Approved Literature. The writer suggests that the literature taught her to replace a long-established, negative way of thinking with a new, healthier, more positive approach to life and lo...	Iamhere	3	455	Mar 2, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	HALT (Preview) I just started attending alanon meetings after a 19 year hiatus from alanon. I go there and act like I'm an oldie. I know the steps, I know the slogans etc, and I have stories about how I overcame stuff thirty years ago. But I'm a newbie. The truth is I'm afraid to be vulnerable. I don't trust. I act li...	blueskies18	9	1065	Mar 2, 2018 by Tude
	Higher Power at Work.... (Preview) A person I have made up my mind to contact and make an amends to for something I selfishly did years ago which might have been very dangerous answered a FB request from me this morning. I had time to think my plan over and was in the process of taking control and at the keyboard of my computer when my wife w...	Jerry F	6	485	Mar 2, 2018 by Iamhere
	Lost and lonely.. (Preview) Hi everyone, Iâm really struggling right now mentally trying to deal with my AH. His denial runs very, very deep which exhausts me to no end. Now to add to the matter, he is under a ton of stress in regards to life, finances, our marriage, his broken ties with his family. Heâs been snapping out of nowhere...	Elabella	28	709	Mar 1, 2018 by Elabella
	fighting negativity (Preview) I just want to be positive today * stay out of self-pity I also want to stay out of my head.	Hoot Nanny	2	1726	Mar 1, 2018 by Iamhere
	growl (Preview) Oh my! My mother is starting something again. Over & over. I am beginning to think that she doesn't live me or is capable of loving me anymore. I have taken so many emotional beatings in the last few years. I know she is sick but do I have to be dragged along w her? Some ESH us needed. I am desperate.	Hoot Nanny	4	1810	Mar 1, 2018 by _bunny_
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