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GBwashere · GBwashere

Wow, it feels ridiculously selfish to be saying this. I met my wife 6 years ago and we bonded quickly. We were two women enjoying life. We traveled, went to wineries, and brew pubs, and were making friends. We were having fun. We married on the day it became legal and for the first time in my life I cou...

Bristlecone · Bristlecone

This helps me calm when I feel as though things are spiraling The Peace of Wild Things, by Wendell Berry When despair for the world grows in me and I wake in the night at the least sound in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be, I go and lie down where the wood drake rests in his beauty on the wat...

lookingup · lookingup

The ODAT reading for March 24. Speaks about the irrational fear and dread that we develop as a result of living with the disease of alcoholism. The reading points out that attending meetings and reading Al-Anon literature, such as "Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism" .our courage starts to seep back in. Yet...

gabigail · gabigail

Hey everyone, Its been a while since Ive been on this forum. I have been working with my AS for over year recovering from a liver transplant. Things were going really well after the transplant. She had been sober for a while and because she was so sick I was her caregiver. Perfect arrangement for some...

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

Husband sent me a goodbye letter say he wants to end it all tonight. I call 911. The cops show up and he made contact with one cop. The cop talk with him inside the house and verified that he was alive amd drunk. The cop steps outside and then He wont open the door so they won't break it down. They advised me to...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP....I'm starting with the thought for the day as it's one of my favorites - "The say that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. If I learn to accept that pain is part of life, I will be better able to endure the difficult times and then move on, leaving the pain behind me." The quot...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Since I am going on a trip on Tuesday. Step 4 has been posted to the Step Board earlier than usual.Here is the link htt...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well seems my oldest is starting to take flight and I couldn't be more proud .. I just pray this is not a reprieve until the next go around .. LOL. Pretty much looks like last semester is going to get wiped out based upon a meeting tomorrow with the Dean of Science and my fingers are crossed. I am so staying...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

It's no secret that I'm a member of Alanon and a member of AA. I went to my first Alanon meeting for the wrong reason. I was a sober member of AA who mistakenly thought that Alanon would be a great place to meet a woman who liked to take care of alcoholics. That did not go as well as I would have liked. But, as I sa...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Yup. 1 year ago today, I came back on this site. I could not remember my old screen-name, so I created a new one. I knew what I needed... but I was still driven insane. Insane from his lies, deceptions, gas-lighting. But also insane from my constant state of trying to "fix" him. "Fix" our marriage. Keepin...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I have been trying to do life on my own and definitely found myself back in old uncomfortable places with my ah. I became tired of trying to "control" his drinking and just started focusing on my kids, grandkids, work and my interests. This was going ok for awhile, but then I am seeing that his drinkin...

Mattie · Mattie

I've been under a special amount of stress lately (see other thread!) and I've been reflecting on support systems. There have been a few times in my life when I really, urgently needed a lot of support. Like the time I was taking care of my parents single-handedly when they were terminally ill. I am a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am concerned about my present condition. I feel stress upon stress! When I am having a good day, something trips me up! I really can't type all that I have to say! Just know this I am living minute to minute. I am so confused & feel lost. Prayers needed. I am hanging sometimes by a thread!

Setmyselffree · Setmyselffree

Hello people. 12 years in a relationship with an 8 year marriage, a 7 year old son, a 4 year old daughter. Iâve decided I cannot take anymore. But it never dawned on me my husband has a drinking problem after all these years until NOW. I feel like my whole time with him is a blur. Im not sure how it took 12 years...

Mattie · Mattie

Last spring my A ex-husband had a collapse and a long spell in the hospital. It wasn't clear whether he was going to pull through, but thankfully he did. He stopped drinking, and I wasn't sure if he was going to stay sober, because he has stopped drinking dozens, maybe hundreds of times before. But ap...

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

Vent alert!!! I cannot change who my brother-in-law is. It is very difficult to change how I deal with him as I help to mind his kids since my sister died. This week: - on Sunday we had confusion over pick up arrangements and he tried to put the blame on first, my 16-year-old nephew then, me. - he tried to fur...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about how many of us tend to ignore our own feelings to survive the disease of alcoholism. We often have lost touch with ourselves without really knowing it. As the disease progresses, we often pointed an accusing finger at the A in our lives for deserting us...

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

I am stuggling with "do I tell friends about my husband alcohol problems". My husband does not want me too bit I had to cancel a trip with a friend at last minute becuas

andromeda · andromeda

All things considered, my life looks great and, after a recent health scare, I am grateful to have found out that things are OK. But, I am constantly discontent. I cannot seem to be comfortable with my status quo, with my relationship with my bf, with my job, even with my friends. I constantly want th...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for March 20 speaks about the Al-Anon program being a spiritual idea. It points out that because we are willing to acknowledge that something or someone is "Greater "than we are and are willing to surrender to this power with humility this becomes a Spiritual idea. The reading sug...

Jerry F · Jerry F

It is often that my spouse and I read from our literature at breakfast as we start our day. I recommend the practice often...it sets the tone for this AFG member. The pages of the day in our readers were so comfortably right on that I practice reading s l o w l y and focusing on what the writer is getting a...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading in Courage to Change, a jogger is nearing the end of a run, and is quite tired. The jogger, who loves the beach, must decide to cross the dunes blocking their view of the beach, which would require more effort, or stay on the flat and easy path, but miss the view of the beach. The jogger li...

BeccaW97 · BeccaW97

Hi there, I'm new to Al-Anon. I have a dear friend whose daughter has been struggling with addiction for many years. This daughter is very manipulative and cannot be trusted to tell the truth. She refuses to live with my friend since she has finally set some boundaries for her self and her home so the dau...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I was just looking at the calendar and on Friday, March 23, it will be the 20-year anniversary of the first date I had with my wife. We spent the evening at a meeting and doing step work related stuff. I wrote a story about it for the AA Grapevine in 2010. I think I posted it on this board a few years ago......y...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

LOL .. oh my, my oldest really puts me through the parenting loops and tests me in ways I constantly fail. He pulled something that was completely unfair, as I have been extremely clear about how I feel about the person he's dating. So I have a trans son who is dating a gay boy (that came out after the two...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading addresses two key concepts in AlAnon, Acceptance and Surrender. Far from suggesting weakness, acceptance calls for acknowledgement of the people, places and things we cannot control, and to surrender is to take our God or Higher Power's will over our own.Adopting these two attit...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. Since December 2017 when my word went upside down with the ex abf and legal charges were laid for abuse toward me, I have been working very hard on my recovery, journaling my feelings and frustrations, anger, fears, worries, ect and accessing outside help. I even got use...

Ugh-me · Ugh-me

Hello All, I'm new to this. I'm currently married to a newly recovering alcoholic for about a year now. I finally put my foot down with my wife and stated if she didn't seek treatment we were done. She did seek treatment and has not drank now in about 7 months now. The first few months out of recovery were gr...

notrub1974 · notrub1974

So when we last left off- hubby had just gotten arrested for DUI. That was Tuesday night/Wednesday morning. The sheriff's office told me I had to wait for him to have a bond hearing to see how much bond would be and that would not be until Thursday morning. In the meantime, his boss actually called me look...

momsad · momsad

I know we don't give advice in Al-Anon, but I would deeply appreciate some guidance about my son's recent relapse. My young adult son had 5 months sobriety and recently relapsed. He returned to his sober living home and is continuing on his path of recovery. I have many family and friends who inquir...

Lyne · Lyne

Minding my own business: The writer speaks of her focus on everyone else, neglecting herself. She had many thoughts of, he should or she shouldn't. She realized she isn't in charge of making rules for others, having all the answers, driver courtesy, etc. These issues are better left to HP. She d...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

Tonight I came home from work and knew my husband had been drinking. When he sobered up I asked him what happened today that he was drinking again. He lied and kept telling me he didn't drink and all sorts of stories of asking why I think that. He finally admitted to drinking. I tried to have an open dia...

S_413 · S_413

Hello this is my first time posting on here and I am in desperate need of some help and encouragement. I have been with my a h now for about 4 years. He is in his mid 20's and has had a problem with drinking for awhile now. He got into trouble for drinking and driving and gave up alcohol for a while. Our relation...

Isthisreallife · Isthisreallife

I feel like I'm at the lowest of lows. Things have been bad for over a year. My husband is completely jackel and Hyde. Sober loving husband thinks I'm the moon and stars. Drunk husband spouts off about how I'm the worst mistake of his life and wished we didn't have our children. He s gotten moderately phys...

Overcome · Overcome

March 18, 2018SUNDAY MORNING & EVENING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM & 7 PM EST (7AM & 6PM PACIFIC)TOPICS: SERENITY, ODAAT, and Powerlessness, and how we deal with it in Al-Anon?The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how while we may not be responsible for having been part of an alcoholic environment, we now can be accountable for consequences of our past and choices we have made. The sentence that stuck out to me from this reading is: Many of the amends I need to mak...

Freetime · Freetime

Hi MIP friends. I wanted to share an amusing (in hindsight) thing that happened to me. A while back, I received a catalog in the mail. It was a catalog of cute gift items aimed at women, little things you might buy for a friend -- mugs, t-shirts, hats, costume jewelry, candles, etc. As I paged through th...

lookingup · lookingup

The ODAT reading for 3-17 (Saint Patrick's Day)speaks to the truth that many times the difficult situations that we face often bring out our hidden assets such as our courage,patience, faith and ability to rely on others.The reading suggests that when we share our Losses and triumphs with eac...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

To recap, my AH is in rehab since Nov 4th. He is currently doing so well that they have him in their RA program. My son has seen him several times due to passes from rehab (always with another family member(s) present. I have seen him only once... at our tax appointment last month. He has been served the div...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

So, I live in Nova Scotia, and usually our winters are fairly harsh, lots of snow and all that good stuff. This year has been mild and everyone up this way is happy about that. Last night, we had a noreaster headed our way, there was supposed to be a lot of snow and rain and high wind. Naturally, it was the one...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

While IAH is tending to other matters I'm pinch hitting today's C2C which speaks about forgiveness: it is not ours to withhold or extend from a position of power or judgment. The reading states that since we all fall short, forgiving is an opportunity to be reminded of our equal footing with all of god'...

notrub1974 · notrub1974

Just as I was starting to feel somewhat ok with how I was doing.... I went to a face to face meeting tonight and when I got out, I checked my texts. AH had texted me about 10 min before the end of the meeting that he got fired and his sponsor was trying keep him from killing himself. That was about 2 hours ago and...

serenity47 · serenity47

It has been a trying few months. We have relocated, lost a young nephew and niece the past two months. . My relationship with grown daughter continues to improve and I am grateful, however, she remains in an extremely dysfunctional relationship with someone whom is very unstable. Despite repea...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! I'm traveling this week, so my posting timing is a bit off. The reading in Courage to Change for today is one of my very favorites. One beautiful day, a man sat down under a tree, but did not notice that the tree was full of pigeons. After a while, the pigeons did what pigeons do, and the m...

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

Hi All, I have been on the board a few times. I lost my PW so I had to re-register. I was Ann_M_Y but my new screen name is Ann_Y. I have not been to an in person meeting. I really have no excuse of why I haven't gone to one. My husband was sober for 3 months and he slipped. He drank yesterday and today. He goes fu...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I made mention in passing that my mom had a slight stroke Friday night. My parents are 83 and have had a long and blessed life. However, they are both slipping just a bit mentally and I have used my program to not worry or fret too much. They are definitely on OPT (Old People Time) which means they go to be...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have been trying to focus on something within my job because I have been so utterly frustrated as of late and that is not working for me. First I have lacked motivation and I am frustrated over things I can't change which is other people. That's really been a tough one, so I have chosen to remain aloof h...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a look at the phrase take care of yourself. I will admit that when I was just coming to the program and new to it, when someone told me to care for myself I typically responded with a (visible) eye roll. It seemed trite to me- of course I was taking care of myself bl...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for March 13 speaks about the doubts and fears that we entertain once the alcoholic has achieved sobriety. The reading points out that this must be overcome, because this lack of confidence can do untold damage. It suggests that even if a relapse should happen,the injury is not to us...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Well things are improving slowly but surely. I am grateful that I am starting to sleep a little better. My mind is starting to clear a little after a long couple of weeks struggling w sleep. I feel better but still have to deal w long days. I have been reading more alanon literature. I have even studied...

notrub1974 · notrub1974

I have been with AH for over 20 years (married 19 last Nov) and he has been trying to quit drinking for a little over a year now. I know there are going to be relapses and I am usually not mad about that (disappointed, yes but mad, no because it does no good to be mad). So, at the first part of the year, AH was pres...

MizzB · MizzB

So ABF is AWOL again. Relapsed 3 weeks after dragging his mum back from her holiday abroad to help her detox. Last time he relapsed he was suicidal so being AWOL and alone is obviously worrying for me. But this is about me, not him. I feel like I'm bottled up. I'm a can of fizzy pop being shaken and waiting t...

momsad · momsad

Good morning all. I've been in Al-Anon since December so I'm relatively new. Al-Anon has helped me a great deal both through meetings and the literature. I'm in real need of support today. My 21 year old son had 5 months of sobriety and relapsed a few days ago. At first it seemed like a slip and that h...

Lyne · Lyne

Detaching with love: The writer states that someone else's mood, tone, and/or state of inebriation does not have to effect his course of actions, unless he allows it. Alanon is teaching him that he does not have to react when provoked, nor take harsh words to heart . He can be in charge of his decisio...

Groo · Groo

Two years ago I had no job, was isolated, and was living with a mentally ill delusional alcoholic (AH) who was the main bread winner. Things were horrible so I decided to say yes to a few opportunities. My SIL got me a part time job, my other SIL invited us to join her bike group, and the delusional alcoholi...

Itsjustme1988 · Itsjustme1988

As I sit at the bedside of my alcoholic fiancee as he is sedated because he is going through withdrawals. I'm struggling with how to handle things. I don't know what to do or say. I feel that his life is in jeopardy and I'm very scared. I know he needs to make a decision to get sober on his own. I'm definitel...

Need2believe17 · Need2believe17

I have struggled with drinking for years but have been sober for 3 months. I am married to an alcoholic. I need to learn how to continue my sobriety and hopefully stay married because I love my husband but I dont know how to deal with my sobriety and him continuing to drink. He has had dui's and legal issues...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today clearly states that we come to alanon to receive help from unbearable pain and suffering. Many of us believe this pain is caused by another, however since we are powerless over others, alanon directs us to look inward, to uncover what we are doing that is causing our pain. T...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I had an awful dream this morning. In the dream my ah left me. He said it was because we were arguing too much. Now I am awake & crying. I just want to share w someone out there. Now I have to bed. I haven't been sleeping well. It is 6:30 in the morning. I need to go back to sleep. Thanks for letting me s...

Belle Again · Belle Again

I'm writing as I recognised after a difficult Al-Anon meeting tonight, that one of the reasons I'm angry with my A is because I'm worried that my second marriage will break up and I fear that happening. I fear finding out that the boundaries my anger hides might make the decision for me, that I have to cal...

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	Unhappy (Preview) Wow, it feels ridiculously selfish to be saying this. I met my wife 6 years ago and we bonded quickly. We were two women enjoying life. We traveled, went to wineries, and brew pubs, and were making friends. We were having fun. We married on the day it became legal and for the first time in my life I cou...	GBwashere	8	764	Mar 26, 2018 by Bo
	My thought for today (Preview) This helps me calm when I feel as though things are spiraling The Peace of Wild Things, by Wendell Berry When despair for the world grows in me and I wake in the night at the least sound in fear of what my life and my children's lives may be, I go and lie down where the wood drake rests in his beauty on the wat...	Bristlecone	4	634	Mar 25, 2018 by hotrod
	03/24/18 (Preview) The ODAT reading for March 24. Speaks about the irrational fear and dread that we develop as a result of living with the disease of alcoholism. The reading points out that attending meetings and reading Al-Anon literature, such as "Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism" .our courage starts to seep back in. Yet...	lookingup	5	693	Mar 25, 2018 by Stan1
	Dry drunk syndrome (Preview) Hey everyone, Its been a while since Ive been on this forum. I have been working with my AS for over year recovering from a liver transplant. Things were going really well after the transplant. She had been sober for a while and because she was so sick I was her caregiver. Perfect arrangement for some...	gabigail	3	856	Mar 25, 2018 by Bo
	Husband sent me an email that has me worried (Preview) Husband sent me a goodbye letter say he wants to end it all tonight. I call 911. The cops show up and he made contact with one cop. The cop talk with him inside the house and verified that he was alive amd drunk. The cop steps outside and then He wont open the door so they won't break it down. They advised me to...	Ann_Y	9	773	Mar 24, 2018 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 3/23/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP....I'm starting with the thought for the day as it's one of my favorites - "The say that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. If I learn to accept that pain is part of life, I will be better able to endure the difficult times and then move on, leaving the pain behind me." The quot...	Iamhere	5	691	Mar 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	Step 4 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Since I am going on a trip on Tuesday. Step 4 has been posted to the Step Board earlier than usual.Here is the link htt...	hotrod	0	633	Mar 24, 2018 by hotrod
	Good Stuff (Preview) Well seems my oldest is starting to take flight and I couldn't be more proud .. I just pray this is not a reprieve until the next go around .. LOL. Pretty much looks like last semester is going to get wiped out based upon a meeting tomorrow with the Dean of Science and my fingers are crossed. I am so staying...	SerenityRUS	4	618	Mar 23, 2018 by Jerry F
	Bedtime Story (Preview) It's no secret that I'm a member of Alanon and a member of AA. I went to my first Alanon meeting for the wrong reason. I was a sober member of AA who mistakenly thought that Alanon would be a great place to meet a woman who liked to take care of alcoholics. That did not go as well as I would have liked. But, as I sa...	Wolfie55	5	736	Mar 23, 2018 by Aline
	Today is my 1 year anniversary here! (Preview) Yup. 1 year ago today, I came back on this site. I could not remember my old screen-name, so I created a new one. I knew what I needed... but I was still driven insane. Insane from his lies, deceptions, gas-lighting. But also insane from my constant state of trying to "fix" him. "Fix" our marriage. Keepin...	PosiesandPuppies	15	831	Mar 23, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Been awhile (Preview) I have been trying to do life on my own and definitely found myself back in old uncomfortable places with my ah. I became tired of trying to "control" his drinking and just started focusing on my kids, grandkids, work and my interests. This was going ok for awhile, but then I am seeing that his drinkin...	mamakat71	4	668	Mar 23, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Reflecting on support (Preview) I've been under a special amount of stress lately (see other thread!) and I've been reflecting on support systems. There have been a few times in my life when I really, urgently needed a lot of support. Like the time I was taking care of my parents single-handedly when they were terminally ill. I am a...	Mattie	10	738	Mar 23, 2018 by el-cee
	I hope I can get through this. (Preview) I am concerned about my present condition. I feel stress upon stress! When I am having a good day, something trips me up! I really can't type all that I have to say! Just know this I am living minute to minute. I am so confused & feel lost. Prayers needed. I am hanging sometimes by a thread!	Hoot Nanny	11	686	Mar 22, 2018 by Maresie
	Denial sucks- divorce on the horizon (Preview) Hello people. 12 years in a relationship with an 8 year marriage, a 7 year old son, a 4 year old daughter. Iâve decided I cannot take anymore. But it never dawned on me my husband has a drinking problem after all these years until NOW. I feel like my whole time with him is a blur. Im not sure how it took 12 years...	Setmyselffree	8	814	Mar 22, 2018 by Jen61
	The sad day I hoped I'd never have to face (Preview) Last spring my A ex-husband had a collapse and a long spell in the hospital. It wasn't clear whether he was going to pull through, but thankfully he did. He stopped drinking, and I wasn't sure if he was going to stay sober, because he has stopped drinking dozens, maybe hundreds of times before. But ap...	Mattie	27	974	Mar 22, 2018 by Mattie
	I am fed up dealing with my brother-in-law (Preview) Vent alert!!! I cannot change who my brother-in-law is. It is very difficult to change how I deal with him as I help to mind his kids since my sister died. This week: - on Sunday we had confusion over pick up arrangements and he tried to put the blame on first, my 16-year-old nephew then, me. - he tried to fur...	Faintly Falling	5	834	Mar 22, 2018 by el-cee
	Courage to Change 3/22/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading talks about how many of us tend to ignore our own feelings to survive the disease of alcoholism. We often have lost touch with ourselves without really knowing it. As the disease progresses, we often pointed an accusing finger at the A in our lives for deserting us...	Iamhere	1	794	Mar 22, 2018 by hotrod
	What do you say to friend? (Preview) I am stuggling with "do I tell friends about my husband alcohol problems". My husband does not want me too bit I had to cancel a trip with a friend at last minute becuas	Ann_Y	12	962	Mar 22, 2018 by Ann_Y
	Struggling with discontent (Preview) All things considered, my life looks great and, after a recent health scare, I am grateful to have found out that things are OK. But, I am constantly discontent. I cannot seem to be comfortable with my status quo, with my relationship with my bf, with my job, even with my friends. I constantly want th...	andromeda	14	996	Mar 21, 2018 by andromeda
	ODAT reading 3-20-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for March 20 speaks about the Al-Anon program being a spiritual idea. It points out that because we are willing to acknowledge that something or someone is "Greater "than we are and are willing to surrender to this power with humility this becomes a Spiritual idea. The reading sug...	hotrod	11	762	Mar 21, 2018 by hotrod
	Breakfast readings... (Preview) It is often that my spouse and I read from our literature at breakfast as we start our day. I recommend the practice often...it sets the tone for this AFG member. The pages of the day in our readers were so comfortably right on that I practice reading s l o w l y and focusing on what the writer is getting a...	Jerry F	7	794	Mar 21, 2018 by Jerry F
	Courage to Change March 21 (Preview) In today's reading in Courage to Change, a jogger is nearing the end of a run, and is quite tired. The jogger, who loves the beach, must decide to cross the dunes blocking their view of the beach, which would require more effort, or stay on the flat and easy path, but miss the view of the beach. The jogger li...	Skorpi	3	657	Mar 21, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Is keeping a child from entering the foster system ENABLING? (Preview) Hi there, I'm new to Al-Anon. I have a dear friend whose daughter has been struggling with addiction for many years. This daughter is very manipulative and cannot be trusted to tell the truth. She refuses to live with my friend since she has finally set some boundaries for her self and her home so the dau...	BeccaW97	6	809	Mar 20, 2018 by Jerry F
	Time Flies, don't it? (Preview) I was just looking at the calendar and on Friday, March 23, it will be the 20-year anniversary of the first date I had with my wife. We spent the evening at a meeting and doing step work related stuff. I wrote a story about it for the AA Grapevine in 2010. I think I posted it on this board a few years ago......y...	Wolfie55	5	569	Mar 20, 2018 by Jerry F
	When in doubt don't .. (Preview) LOL .. oh my, my oldest really puts me through the parenting loops and tests me in ways I constantly fail. He pulled something that was completely unfair, as I have been extremely clear about how I feel about the person he's dating. So I have a trans son who is dating a gay boy (that came out after the two...	SerenityRUS	18	974	Mar 20, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	3/16/18 ODAT – Acceptance & Surrender (Preview) Today's reading addresses two key concepts in AlAnon, Acceptance and Surrender. Far from suggesting weakness, acceptance calls for acknowledgement of the people, places and things we cannot control, and to surrender is to take our God or Higher Power's will over our own.Adopting these two attit...	Enigmatic	8	1406	Mar 20, 2018 by Iamhere
	Calming down (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. Since December 2017 when my word went upside down with the ex abf and legal charges were laid for abuse toward me, I have been working very hard on my recovery, journaling my feelings and frustrations, anger, fears, worries, ect and accessing outside help. I even got use...	joker	2	750	Mar 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	Searching for answers (Preview) Hello All, I'm new to this. I'm currently married to a newly recovering alcoholic for about a year now. I finally put my foot down with my wife and stated if she didn't seek treatment we were done. She did seek treatment and has not drank now in about 7 months now. The first few months out of recovery were gr...	Ugh-me	4	682	Mar 19, 2018 by DavidG
	Update on myself and AH (Preview) So when we last left off- hubby had just gotten arrested for DUI. That was Tuesday night/Wednesday morning. The sheriff's office told me I had to wait for him to have a bond hearing to see how much bond would be and that would not be until Thursday morning. In the meantime, his boss actually called me look...	notrub1974	4	710	Mar 19, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	What is anonymity? When does it apply? (Preview) I know we don't give advice in Al-Anon, but I would deeply appreciate some guidance about my son's recent relapse. My young adult son had 5 months sobriety and recently relapsed. He returned to his sober living home and is continuing on his path of recovery. I have many family and friends who inquir...	momsad	12	791	Mar 19, 2018 by Bo
	C2C, 3/19 (Preview) Minding my own business: The writer speaks of her focus on everyone else, neglecting herself. She had many thoughts of, he should or she shouldn't. She realized she isn't in charge of making rules for others, having all the answers, driver courtesy, etc. These issues are better left to HP. She d...	Lyne	2	639	Mar 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	Emotional Agony (Preview) Tonight I came home from work and knew my husband had been drinking. When he sobered up I asked him what happened today that he was drinking again. He lied and kept telling me he didn't drink and all sorts of stories of asking why I think that. He finally admitted to drinking. I tried to have an open dia...	wifeofalcoholic	12	945	Mar 19, 2018 by MeTwo2
	At a loss.. (Preview) Hello this is my first time posting on here and I am in desperate need of some help and encouragement. I have been with my a h now for about 4 years. He is in his mid 20's and has had a problem with drinking for awhile now. He got into trouble for drinking and driving and gave up alcohol for a while. Our relation...	S_413	5	696	Mar 18, 2018 by AnnieFenk321
	So frustrated (Preview) I feel like I'm at the lowest of lows. Things have been bad for over a year. My husband is completely jackel and Hyde. Sober loving husband thinks I'm the moon and stars. Drunk husband spouts off about how I'm the worst mistake of his life and wished we didn't have our children. He s gotten moderately phys...	Isthisreallife	9	748	Mar 18, 2018 by jtpickle
	MORNING MEETING (Preview) March 18, 2018SUNDAY MORNING & EVENING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM & 7 PM EST (7AM & 6PM PACIFIC)TOPICS: SERENITY, ODAAT, and Powerlessness, and how we deal with it in Al-Anon?The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other...	Overcome	0	520	Mar 18, 2018 by Overcome
	Hope for Today Mar 18 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how while we may not be responsible for having been part of an alcoholic environment, we now can be accountable for consequences of our past and choices we have made. The sentence that stuck out to me from this reading is: Many of the amends I need to mak...	yanksfan51	3	517	Mar 18, 2018 by Aline
	I took what I liked and left the rest (Preview) Hi MIP friends. I wanted to share an amusing (in hindsight) thing that happened to me. A while back, I received a catalog in the mail. It was a catalog of cute gift items aimed at women, little things you might buy for a friend -- mugs, t-shirts, hats, costume jewelry, candles, etc. As I paged through th...	Freetime	6	796	Mar 17, 2018 by DavidG
	ODAT 3/17 (Preview) The ODAT reading for 3-17 (Saint Patrick's Day)speaks to the truth that many times the difficult situations that we face often bring out our hidden assets such as our courage,patience, faith and ability to rely on others.The reading suggests that when we share our Losses and triumphs with eac...	lookingup	3	1079	Mar 17, 2018 by Stan1
	Thought, please? (Preview) To recap, my AH is in rehab since Nov 4th. He is currently doing so well that they have him in their RA program. My son has seen him several times due to passes from rehab (always with another family member(s) present. I have seen him only once... at our tax appointment last month. He has been served the div...	PosiesandPuppies	8	860	Mar 16, 2018 by Jerry F
	Hope (Preview) So, I live in Nova Scotia, and usually our winters are fairly harsh, lots of snow and all that good stuff. This year has been mild and everyone up this way is happy about that. Last night, we had a noreaster headed our way, there was supposed to be a lot of snow and rain and high wind. Naturally, it was the one...	Wolfie55	5	938	Mar 15, 2018 by DavidG
	3/15/18 C2C - Forgiveness (Preview) While IAH is tending to other matters I'm pinch hitting today's C2C which speaks about forgiveness: it is not ours to withhold or extend from a position of power or judgment. The reading states that since we all fall short, forgiving is an opportunity to be reminded of our equal footing with all of god'...	Enigmatic	5	736	Mar 15, 2018 by Iamhere
	Feeling in crisis right now (Preview) Just as I was starting to feel somewhat ok with how I was doing.... I went to a face to face meeting tonight and when I got out, I checked my texts. AH had texted me about 10 min before the end of the meeting that he got fired and his sponsor was trying keep him from killing himself. That was about 2 hours ago and...	notrub1974	14	784	Mar 15, 2018 by Doingmybest
	Worry/Detatch (Preview) It has been a trying few months. We have relocated, lost a young nephew and niece the past two months. . My relationship with grown daughter continues to improve and I am grateful, however, she remains in an extremely dysfunctional relationship with someone whom is very unstable. Despite repea...	serenity47	10	927	Mar 14, 2018 by serenity47
	Courage to Change March 14 (Preview) Good morning MIP! I'm traveling this week, so my posting timing is a bit off. The reading in Courage to Change for today is one of my very favorites. One beautiful day, a man sat down under a tree, but did not notice that the tree was full of pigeons. After a while, the pigeons did what pigeons do, and the m...	Skorpi	4	2175	Mar 14, 2018 by Aline
	Was it wrong to call my husband sponsor? (Preview) Hi All, I have been on the board a few times. I lost my PW so I had to re-register. I was Ann_M_Y but my new screen name is Ann_Y. I have not been to an in person meeting. I really have no excuse of why I haven't gone to one. My husband was sober for 3 months and he slipped. He drank yesterday and today. He goes fu...	Ann_Y	8	1068	Mar 14, 2018 by Bo
	Update on Momma ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I made mention in passing that my mom had a slight stroke Friday night. My parents are 83 and have had a long and blessed life. However, they are both slipping just a bit mentally and I have used my program to not worry or fret too much. They are definitely on OPT (Old People Time) which means they go to be...	Iamhere	41	1754	Mar 14, 2018 by Iamhere
	In All My Affairs (Preview) I have been trying to focus on something within my job because I have been so utterly frustrated as of late and that is not working for me. First I have lacked motivation and I am frustrated over things I can't change which is other people. That's really been a tough one, so I have chosen to remain aloof h...	SerenityRUS	12	938	Mar 14, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Mar 11 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a look at the phrase take care of yourself. I will admit that when I was just coming to the program and new to it, when someone told me to care for myself I typically responded with a (visible) eye roll. It seemed trite to me- of course I was taking care of myself bl...	yanksfan51	6	792	Mar 13, 2018 by hotrod
	ODAT Reading 3-13-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for March 13 speaks about the doubts and fears that we entertain once the alcoholic has achieved sobriety. The reading points out that this must be overcome, because this lack of confidence can do untold damage. It suggests that even if a relapse should happen,the injury is not to us...	hotrod	1	786	Mar 13, 2018 by Iamhere
	it is getting better... (Preview) Well things are improving slowly but surely. I am grateful that I am starting to sleep a little better. My mind is starting to clear a little after a long couple of weeks struggling w sleep. I feel better but still have to deal w long days. I have been reading more alanon literature. I have even studied...	Hoot Nanny	2	803	Mar 13, 2018 by Iamhere
	Trying to let go- not get angry (Preview) I have been with AH for over 20 years (married 19 last Nov) and he has been trying to quit drinking for a little over a year now. I know there are going to be relapses and I am usually not mad about that (disappointed, yes but mad, no because it does no good to be mad). So, at the first part of the year, AH was pres...	notrub1974	20	2969	Mar 13, 2018 by Iamhere
	Pressure Valve (Preview) So ABF is AWOL again. Relapsed 3 weeks after dragging his mum back from her holiday abroad to help her detox. Last time he relapsed he was suicidal so being AWOL and alone is obviously worrying for me. But this is about me, not him. I feel like I'm bottled up. I'm a can of fizzy pop being shaken and waiting t...	MizzB	6	880	Mar 13, 2018 by Bo
	In need of support (Preview) Good morning all. I've been in Al-Anon since December so I'm relatively new. Al-Anon has helped me a great deal both through meetings and the literature. I'm in real need of support today. My 21 year old son had 5 months of sobriety and relapsed a few days ago. At first it seemed like a slip and that h...	momsad	9	918	Mar 12, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 3/12 (Preview) Detaching with love: The writer states that someone else's mood, tone, and/or state of inebriation does not have to effect his course of actions, unless he allows it. Alanon is teaching him that he does not have to react when provoked, nor take harsh words to heart . He can be in charge of his decisio...	Lyne	8	761	Mar 12, 2018 by momsad
	Now what? (Preview) Two years ago I had no job, was isolated, and was living with a mentally ill delusional alcoholic (AH) who was the main bread winner. Things were horrible so I decided to say yes to a few opportunities. My SIL got me a part time job, my other SIL invited us to join her bike group, and the delusional alcoholi...	Groo	8	833	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hospital bedside advice (Preview) As I sit at the bedside of my alcoholic fiancee as he is sedated because he is going through withdrawals. I'm struggling with how to handle things. I don't know what to do or say. I feel that his life is in jeopardy and I'm very scared. I know he needs to make a decision to get sober on his own. I'm definitel...	Itsjustme1988	8	932	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	New to Alanon (Preview) I have struggled with drinking for years but have been sober for 3 months. I am married to an alcoholic. I need to learn how to continue my sobriety and hopefully stay married because I love my husband but I dont know how to deal with my sobriety and him continuing to drink. He has had dui's and legal issues...	Need2believe17	7	823	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	ODAT Reading 3-10-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today clearly states that we come to alanon to receive help from unbearable pain and suffering. Many of us believe this pain is caused by another, however since we are powerless over others, alanon directs us to look inward, to uncover what we are doing that is causing our pain. T...	hotrod	3	725	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	awful dream (Preview) I had an awful dream this morning. In the dream my ah left me. He said it was because we were arguing too much. Now I am awake & crying. I just want to share w someone out there. Now I have to bed. I haven't been sleeping well. It is 6:30 in the morning. I need to go back to sleep. Thanks for letting me s...	Hoot Nanny	4	728	Mar 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	Worried about feeling alone-ness (Preview) I'm writing as I recognised after a difficult Al-Anon meeting tonight, that one of the reasons I'm angry with my A is because I'm worried that my second marriage will break up and I fear that happening. I fear finding out that the boundaries my anger hides might make the decision for me, that I have to cal...	Belle Again	12	1037	Mar 11, 2018 by Maresie
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