Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bugs39 · bugs39

i just found this site....I really don't know much about Al-Anon but from what I understand this it the place I need to be. Where do I start....I have been married for 13 years with two children (3.5 and 7) and i have a husband that has a drinking problem....He doesn't get drunk every day but at leas...

CoffeeBean3 · CoffeeBean3

I feel the need to vent a little bit; I hope nobody minds. I have been thinking today (brain cells are on major overload) about how alcoholism has always been a part of my life. My biological father was an alcoholic. My step-father was/is an alcoholic. My uncle was an alcohol...

slkcma · slkcma

I had posted my first post like a week ago with my story. All I know about Alanon at this point is what I've been reading here for a few weeks and I read most of an Alanon book on marriage. The little I've learned has been really eye opening though. The hub is going out of town tomorrow and I'm going to take adva...

LALA1 · LALA1

I confronted my A today when I found a text message on his phone from her again. He said he had just been talking to her as if that was ok.........I just don't understand. I am really trying to work on myself and get me together again and this is all making me crazy. When I approached him...

kerry5 · kerry5

Deatchment in the alanon program doesnt mean to cut off all ties and to not care for the person. As a new person in alanon is very hard to understand what exactly it means. It is the hardest thing for someone in the program to do in my opinion and i still cant although i can from certain things now and i am glad...

TLC2 · TLC2

Happy Birthday! (in a slap-in-the-face-kinda-way). Hubby woke me up this morning with a sweet birthday card. ( I wish he had just stopped there). He then proceeded to tell me that he would take me with him to get that flag pole/clothesline I had wanted for so many years. That, translated means I can p...

abbyal · abbyal

Hi = I posted something about detachment last week and someone emailed and asked me to send it to them . WEll I deleted your email trying to do just that. so if u see this please send me another one . and Iwill send it to you right away . Lousie

twopoodles · twopoodles

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=7580010&sub...

debilyn · debilyn

Went and visited my A husband. He has gained so much weight and looks very good and healthy. I sat still and payed attention, assessed accessed dang, him like i would have doing an observation of a student. It was very interesting. He was very jazzed that I was willing to get him to his 90 in 90. I know&nb...

chris52 · chris52

Hello ((((((((((((((((((family))))))))))))))))))))))) Well my bags are packed and I am ready to catch my flight in the wee small hours of sunday back to the UK. My new Grandbaby(my first) is due to arrive around 15th July,and I can hardly wait. A new little life.......Thank you God for bringing thi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Have a question for all of you with recovering As. Hubby is now sober almost 60 days!

I am so proud of him as he continues to work his program and gets better every day. Lately I have been having these horrendous nightmares th...

lmt123 · lmt123

Debilyn, I loved your post...reminds me of when my A husband was in jail. I'd go to see him every week, except when I got mad at him about some lies he was telling me again, LOL.

It was hard for me and humbling for him for me to see him in his orange "outfit", lol (orange scrub...

shadow1 · shadow1

I’m in need of some ES&H badly on this topic. I’m an appt. manager. I had a tenant hang himself in his appt yesterday. I was the last person that he spoke to. He wrote me a letter but the police have it. He even cleaned his appt before he killed himself so I wouldn’t have to. He was a very...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Yep still here and doing OK, well OK for the most part. After having not seen my A drink in 10 or so years, this every day wake up with the shakes thing is quite painful to watch to say the least, not to mention the comments, and manipulation that i can see for what they are now. more co...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, How to detatch with love, this was a real struggle for me. The love bit was fine....but detatching....that was difficult. I wonder can anyone else identify with me here. I know I must detatch with love in order to protect my sanity. That's what I need, what I want doesn't even come...

allison · allison

God...I`m so mad at myself.My A husband who has been gone for 7 months finally started going to AA and changing.I let him come home only to be let down again..I knew better dammit!! We spent 2 GREAT days together...made me love him all over again.I had to go to my Moms today...she lives an hour away.I was o...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Good Morning, I'm Stacy. I am just frustrated right now. My A boyfriend FINALLY has gotten a job that he is good at, that he likes, and that he can do. I'm so excited FOR him and for us as I have set a boundary that he can only continue living with me if he is bringing money in. I us...

LALA1 · LALA1

My A and I are still trying to work through all this and it is hard on me. I am always wondering if he is still talking to her or seeing her at any time. I know I am just driving myself insane and I guess I asked for this by trying to work through this but I know I am not strong enough yet to walk away.&...

Trace123 · Trace123

Hello all. I am new here and wanted to share something I journaled today. So glad and grateful to have found you while surfing the other day -- hope we can help each other through the daily struggles of living with our beloved alcoholics! How I Found Inner Peace I am an adult child of an a...

RichardA · RichardA

-- Edited by RichardA at 01:02, 2006-07-08

RamzDear · RamzDear

Yeh...so I didn't turn on MY phone all day. For the first time I've done this. I was giving suggestions to another as to keep her phone off the hook..and something in my head said "Hey lady, why don't YOU try this for yourself??." Reading various posts on how they(our A-s) can be instrumental in...

horselover58 · horselover58

I have witnessed this over & over in my husband & his drinking cronies. Sunday evening he asked me if I wanted to eat some clams, I do love seafood! The neighbor cooks them up for the holiday weekend. I went over with him. It's been a long, long time since I've been there. My husband is over a lot! ...

Maria123 · Maria123

I've noticed that some of "my friends" that use to come here, I don't see very much anymore. I miss them. I wonder where they are. I hope they are alright. I miss Friday Nite Fish Night with them. Last weekend when I was cleaning my desk (UGH), I came across an old OP list a...

twopoodles · twopoodles

Hi Guys! I haven't been on in a while. I just wanted to update, and also get some opinions. I had my baby girl almost three weeks ago. She was a preemie but is doing fine. The father (A to Narcotics) and I hadn't been in much contact. He was arrested in May for a parole violation (he had been giving his PO MY a...

patience · patience

I started going to a psychiatrist last week. I saw him again Thursday, and I'll see him once a week for a few more weeks, then once a month. In just two meetings, he has helped me understand that (1) I should not feel guilty for my A's addictions (2) I must set boundaries and learn how to keep them (3) I...

hersh · hersh

Hi guys: Amazing what a day can do. Yesterday I was feeling great, taking care of myself, not worried about what could happen, feeling free and happy. My AH came home from a family reunion for the 4th, we had a really nice night his first night back on Wednesday night. Lastnight...

mastiff · mastiff

HI all, just wanted to let you know that we are getting ready to stuff the flyers and mail out some info for our serenity in yosemite conference. It's a great conference smack dab in the most beautiful place on earth (IMHO heehee) anyway, if you want info for yourself or for your f2f homegroup, let...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Earlier today I posted about fighting the urge to call my husband of which I am seperated from. Well the good thing is I didnt call him. But in hindsight I should have never answered the phone when he called me. It was a horrible afternoon. I allowed him to push my buttons getting me...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I talked w/ my husband last night. Rather I should say lectured my husband last night yet again regarding some financial issues. I am in the process of seperating out joint account. I have told him this. I left enough monies in the joint acct. to cover what was out there.&nbs...

MsSteph · MsSteph

Just joined the board today. Glad to be here. I have been spending a lot of time posting on another board for different reasons but found that I always ended up talking about the same thing which is my alcoholic husband and all the issues around that. So "dumm...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i just wanted to ask how some of you deal with things without over reacting or stopping yourself from overreacting. how do you get out of the moment to stop and think before you do something too rash. this is something i'd like to fix about myself. i have a problem with forcing my a out of the hou...

lilms · lilms

Will apologize first off for cursing but don't have any milder words. The first thoughts were much worse believe me. I am confused and befuddled

Have been attending f2f meetings, went to my 3rd one yesterday and I enjoy them and am learning lots. This is where the con...

omajoy · omajoy

My son called on his way home from work today in a lather over actions from his ex. He was so angry. And that is how he often is. He is sober during the week, saving his drinking for Saturdays and Sundays. He is enrolled in a continuing ed class and started to gripe about that. When he is drinking we just don't...

Mia2 · Mia2

Newbie here. I'm very confused where to go... "A" myself and started in that program 7 years ago with many relapses. Found face to face Al-anon meetings two years ago...as I curb my own addictions by monitoring drinking habits and forcing recovery upon loved ones. First siblings, then...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I don't know what is going on with him.It's been a very ugly week.He came home tonight and he looked...(sigh)..so bad. I've been getting through with words of encouragemment.I've been getting through with reading.I've been getting through tonight with immersing myself in video games (I'm...

maire rua · maire rua

Hi, am new at this but very much need support. Am surrounded by alcoholic family, grew up in an alcoholic home and feel isolated and alone at present. Have just broken up with alcholic boyfriend whom I was in complete denial about on most occasions where alcohol use was concerned. This morning I passed...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am really being tested. I am not understanding what the lesson is. I go the spare tire , mounted, & balanced this afternoon with the help of a dear freind/ neighbor giving me a ride. Then struggling about half and hour just to get the lugs off. I thought the tire looked low on air but it was too close to...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Well I knew I was getting close to the 1000 posts mark. So I went back and re-read my posts throughout my time here at MIP, well all the ones I started anyway. I was able to reflect on where I was when I first started posting here. I was able to see the growth, and to see the areas in which...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

((((Roomies)))), Tonight I browsing and reading through a Dating-How-To book I recently picked up at the library. The book made suggestions on questions to ask onself (Who am I looking for, what is important to me in a partner?) and questions to ask about one's partner (How well do they get along wi...

shamama · shamama

he had been doing so well. consistant in his visitation - 9 hours a week that we mutually agreed on. (he was only abstaining, not working towards sobriety, not interested in recovery . . . i knew it's be a matter of time before he was binging again.) he's finally stopped drinking today after 5 days of bi...

John · John

http://www.mipchat.net also takes you directly into our Al-Anon Chat/Meeting Room. Please let any one having a hard time entering the room know of this method of entering it as it may resolve their problem. Thanks, John

hersh · hersh

    Hi everyone: This verse really spoke to me today. Love is the most important thing in our lives to pass on, but if we do not love ourselves, how can we giv...

hersh · hersh

From MIP Founder, John F. (aka OP_Present) As soon as you clicked the submit button on this message board post, you violated the publisher of The Language of Letting Go copyright, which you also posted at the bottom of this post. When we place something on this message board, or...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was reflecting on my past lately. I felt like my past relationships, jobs & marriage that ended in divorce was just a series of failures & mistakes I have made. But with the knowledge I have now & my HP. I am thinking different. Was my past really mistakes & fail...

talbotts · talbotts

My name is Nancy and I have been an al-anoner for about 3 years, since my sister came home from rehab. She is still sober, thanks to my and her HP. I was in an on-line group and have been looking for a message board b/c I need help! I am having issues with a new boss, BIG issues and being treated unfa...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-6-06 Sigh. It’s the A.M. I prayed before I read my readers. Sometimes I get the entire entry—and it becomes revelation—and other times I feel like saying “who cares.” I’m still gonna do my best here. Daily Affirmations: Balance and discipline. Ok, ok, ok—discipline? Got...

marmare · marmare

I don't have access to a computer, so here I am thinking of you all and wishing I could post every day. First let me tell you my A is being an angel, he is taking care of home and kids as for me I left my job June 9th and am staying at my mom's to care for her. She is upbeat and doing well with pai...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Well yesterday I had one of those old fashioned "Poor me" parties. Hubby was driving me crazy (or was that my reaction to him?), work was same old same old,

.... On and on it went. I was in a foul mood, and although I wasn't arguing with...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

I just couldn't sleep. Every little noise made me jump....thinking of my lost cat who playing with his up in heaven (altho, I don't know why? They never played together when they both were alive...lol, but at least, they are together again, soulmates, I guess). My A gave me the guilt tr...

sunnymom · sunnymom

I have been reading your posts for a while now. I have an alcoholic 23 year old son. He has been to rehab twice-once at at a state facility and most recently through the Army's ASAP program. He joined the Army in May of 2005 after we had kicked him out of the house for the second time in tw...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I'm just plain old stubborn sometimes. Number one-I started hounding my A as to when he was going to call around for treatment centers after I collected many references. Every hour I saw him get more drunk I would ask when,when,when he would call. It's a neccessary step in him keeping his stat...

RamzDear · RamzDear

Man, I decided to break part of a sticky little pattern of checking up on him. It's gonna sound silly but I've gotten in the habit of checking on whether his light is on early in the morning under his door. The earlier he gets up (let's say..5:30) the worse he is and though he drinks every day....

ollie · ollie

Hi to all my new loving friends, Just needed to say how much your replys lifted me up so much,i get through my day much better now,knowing when i come home and join you i dont feel alone,it keeps me focused on what i need to do,if there are any more newbies out there,just keep coming here for support,and t...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. after some deep talks ive had on here ive figured so much out and really feel good. thank you. i had a one and one talk with my friend, then my a, then my mom. i let it all out how what i choose is my choice and for them to let go of me and allow me to do what i want without trying to influence me. i told my...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was feeling like a idiot a little tonite. Monday on my way home from town. I noticed the truck was bouncing really bad. I had to keep slowing down & finally put on my flashers and continued home. I was thinking it must be the front end, we have known the steering box is shot just recently but it ,...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

I did it!! Last night I went to my first f2f meeting. It was great and felt good about myself after the meeting. It felt good to share abit aout myself and hear other people stories. The group I went to, deals with one step each week and last night was step 2. I am not famliar with how other groups work but...

ollie · ollie

i have been apart from my a/c for 3 months,this seemed to me the only way i could survive,as i am very new to this program,i have read the book courage to change ,which i find so helpful,the words are very incouraging.i think im doing well,until i meet up with certain members of my family,who i think have t...

david62 · david62

Hello everyone! I just bought a new car! Woohoo! Well, I bought it last Friday. A Sunburst Orange, Dodge Caliber. I feel so releived, to finally have the deed done. I have been looking at the kind of car I wanted for the last month...and yep....pretty much obsessing over it. Trying to get the model,...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, I was sharing with a new comer on Monday night about how I see my "A"as two different people, and how this helps me to let go of resentments and how I am able to love him. Well my "A" called me early Tuesday morning, really early. We talked for 10 minutes, calling cards are expensive and d...

shadow1 · shadow1

How is HP working in your life? I used to think that HP was just a figment of people’s imagination. I recently had a light bulb moment!!! I had a friend that lives on the other side of the country. We would chat on line and a few times we would call on the phone. It was limited because of the cost. I kep...

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	Where do I start (Preview) i just found this site....I really don't know much about Al-Anon but from what I understand this it the place I need to be. Where do I start....I have been married for 13 years with two children (3.5 and 7) and i have a husband that has a drinking problem....He doesn't get drunk every day but at leas...	bugs39	7	581	Jul 10, 2006 by nycbt
	I Was Thinking Today.... (Preview) I feel the need to vent a little bit; I hope nobody minds. I have been thinking today (brain cells are on major overload) about how alcoholism has always been a part of my life. My biological father was an alcoholic. My step-father was/is an alcoholic. My uncle was an alcohol...	CoffeeBean3	11	447	Jul 10, 2006 by nycbt
	Time to do some serious work (Preview) I had posted my first post like a week ago with my story. All I know about Alanon at this point is what I've been reading here for a few weeks and I read most of an Alanon book on marriage. The little I've learned has been really eye opening though. The hub is going out of town tomorrow and I'm going to take adva...	slkcma	6	440	Jul 10, 2006 by nycbt
	Feeling awful (Preview) I confronted my A today when I found a text message on his phone from her again. He said he had just been talking to her as if that was ok.........I just don't understand. I am really trying to work on myself and get me together again and this is all making me crazy. When I approached him...	LALA1	7	456	Jul 10, 2006 by nycbt
	Detachment (Preview) Deatchment in the alanon program doesnt mean to cut off all ties and to not care for the person. As a new person in alanon is very hard to understand what exactly it means. It is the hardest thing for someone in the program to do in my opinion and i still cant although i can from certain things now and i am glad...	kerry5	3	399	Jul 10, 2006 by annmarie
	Vent (Preview) Happy Birthday! (in a slap-in-the-face-kinda-way). Hubby woke me up this morning with a sweet birthday card. ( I wish he had just stopped there). He then proceeded to tell me that he would take me with him to get that flag pole/clothesline I had wanted for so many years. That, translated means I can p...	TLC2	4	429	Jul 9, 2006 by TLC2
	Sorry I deleted your email by mistake (Preview) Hi = I posted something about detachment last week and someone emailed and asked me to send it to them . WEll I deleted your email trying to do just that. so if u see this please send me another one . and Iwill send it to you right away . Lousie	abbyal	0	364	Jul 9, 2006 by abbyal
	Child Visitation and the A - Help! (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=7580010&sub...	twopoodles	7	517	Jul 9, 2006 by twopoodles
	My handsome jailbird (Preview) Went and visited my A husband. He has gained so much weight and looks very good and healthy. I sat still and payed attention, assessed accessed dang, him like i would have doing an observation of a student. It was very interesting. He was very jazzed that I was willing to get him to his 90 in 90. I know&nb...	debilyn	7	471	Jul 9, 2006 by Tammy
	A brief return to the insanity (Preview) Hello ((((((((((((((((((family))))))))))))))))))))))) Well my bags are packed and I am ready to catch my flight in the wee small hours of sunday back to the UK. My new Grandbaby(my first) is due to arrive around 15th July,and I can hardly wait. A new little life.......Thank you God for bringing thi...	chris52	7	533	Jul 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Nightmares (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Have a question for all of you with recovering As. Hubby is now sober almost 60 days! I am so proud of him as he continues to work his program and gets better every day. Lately I have been having these horrendous nightmares th...	Karilynn	8	570	Jul 9, 2006 by Becky1
	Debilyn... (Preview) Debilyn, I loved your post...reminds me of when my A husband was in jail. I'd go to see him every week, except when I got mad at him about some lies he was telling me again, LOL. It was hard for me and humbling for him for me to see him in his orange "outfit", lol (orange scrub...	lmt123	2	785	Jul 9, 2006 by dori
	how does a person deal with suicide?? (Preview) I’m in need of some ES&H badly on this topic. I’m an appt. manager. I had a tenant hang himself in his appt yesterday. I was the last person that he spoke to. He wrote me a letter but the police have it. He even cleaned his appt before he killed himself so I wouldn’t have to. He was a very...	shadow1	14	556	Jul 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Geez this is hard (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Yep still here and doing OK, well OK for the most part. After having not seen my A drink in 10 or so years, this every day wake up with the shakes thing is quite painful to watch to say the least, not to mention the comments, and manipulation that i can see for what they are now. more co...	Jennifer	5	463	Jul 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	detatch with love (Preview) Hi everyone, How to detatch with love, this was a real struggle for me. The love bit was fine....but detatching....that was difficult. I wonder can anyone else identify with me here. I know I must detatch with love in order to protect my sanity. That's what I need, what I want doesn't even come...	annmarie	2	371	Jul 8, 2006 by nmike
	I knew better!! (Preview) God...I`m so mad at myself.My A husband who has been gone for 7 months finally started going to AA and changing.I let him come home only to be let down again..I knew better dammit!! We spent 2 GREAT days together...made me love him all over again.I had to go to my Moms today...she lives an hour away.I was o...	allison	5	499	Jul 8, 2006 by nmike
	Expectations and Boundaries (Preview) Good Morning, I'm Stacy. I am just frustrated right now. My A boyfriend FINALLY has gotten a job that he is good at, that he likes, and that he can do. I'm so excited FOR him and for us as I have set a boundary that he can only continue living with me if he is bringing money in. I us...	SerenityGirl	2	448	Jul 8, 2006 by Karilynn
	VERY confused (Preview) My A and I are still trying to work through all this and it is hard on me. I am always wondering if he is still talking to her or seeing her at any time. I know I am just driving myself insane and I guess I asked for this by trying to work through this but I know I am not strong enough yet to walk away.&...	LALA1	3	353	Jul 8, 2006 by Maria123
	I am new, wanted to say hi (Preview) Hello all. I am new here and wanted to share something I journaled today. So glad and grateful to have found you while surfing the other day -- hope we can help each other through the daily struggles of living with our beloved alcoholics! How I Found Inner Peace I am an adult child of an a...	Trace123	7	402	Jul 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	WHAT IF ??? (Preview) -- Edited by RichardA at 01:02, 2006-07-08	RichardA	7	546	Jul 8, 2006 by twopoodles
	No phone today (Preview) Yeh...so I didn't turn on MY phone all day. For the first time I've done this. I was giving suggestions to another as to keep her phone off the hook..and something in my head said "Hey lady, why don't YOU try this for yourself??." Reading various posts on how they(our A-s) can be instrumental in...	RamzDear	7	394	Jul 8, 2006 by Ria
	Moral decline in alcoholics (Preview) I have witnessed this over & over in my husband & his drinking cronies. Sunday evening he asked me if I wanted to eat some clams, I do love seafood! The neighbor cooks them up for the holiday weekend. I went over with him. It's been a long, long time since I've been there. My husband is over a lot! ...	horselover58	11	1055	Jul 7, 2006 by horselover58
	I Miss My Friends (Preview) I've noticed that some of "my friends" that use to come here, I don't see very much anymore. I miss them. I wonder where they are. I hope they are alright. I miss Friday Nite Fish Night with them. Last weekend when I was cleaning my desk (UGH), I came across an old OP list a...	Maria123	3	387	Jul 7, 2006 by Lunamoth
	I had my Baby! (Preview) Hi Guys! I haven't been on in a while. I just wanted to update, and also get some opinions. I had my baby girl almost three weeks ago. She was a preemie but is doing fine. The father (A to Narcotics) and I hadn't been in much contact. He was arrested in May for a parole violation (he had been giving his PO MY a...	twopoodles	5	527	Jul 7, 2006 by twopoodles
	Setting boundaries (Preview) I started going to a psychiatrist last week. I saw him again Thursday, and I'll see him once a week for a few more weeks, then once a month. In just two meetings, he has helped me understand that (1) I should not feel guilty for my A's addictions (2) I must set boundaries and learn how to keep them (3) I...	patience	4	419	Jul 7, 2006 by patience
	Out all night, sad and upset (Preview) Hi guys: Amazing what a day can do. Yesterday I was feeling great, taking care of myself, not worried about what could happen, feeling free and happy. My AH came home from a family reunion for the 4th, we had a really nice night his first night back on Wednesday night. Lastnight...	hersh	4	562	Jul 7, 2006 by RamzDear
	serenity in yosemite (Preview) HI all, just wanted to let you know that we are getting ready to stuff the flyers and mail out some info for our serenity in yosemite conference. It's a great conference smack dab in the most beautiful place on earth (IMHO heehee) anyway, if you want info for yourself or for your f2f homegroup, let...	mastiff	1	386	Jul 7, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Be careful what you wish for... (Preview) Earlier today I posted about fighting the urge to call my husband of which I am seperated from. Well the good thing is I didnt call him. But in hindsight I should have never answered the phone when he called me. It was a horrible afternoon. I allowed him to push my buttons getting me...	AlaMom	5	403	Jul 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Fighting the urge to call... (Preview) I talked w/ my husband last night. Rather I should say lectured my husband last night yet again regarding some financial issues. I am in the process of seperating out joint account. I have told him this. I left enough monies in the joint acct. to cover what was out there.&nbs...	AlaMom	7	680	Jul 7, 2006 by MsSteph
	My People! (Preview) Just joined the board today. Glad to be here. I have been spending a lot of time posting on another board for different reasons but found that I always ended up talking about the same thing which is my alcoholic husband and all the issues around that. So "dumm...	MsSteph	4	518	Jul 7, 2006 by MsSteph
	over reactions (Preview) hi everyone i just wanted to ask how some of you deal with things without over reacting or stopping yourself from overreacting. how do you get out of the moment to stop and think before you do something too rash. this is something i'd like to fix about myself. i have a problem with forcing my a out of the hou...	notsonew1111	7	482	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Well Hell (Preview) Will apologize first off for cursing but don't have any milder words. The first thoughts were much worse believe me. I am confused and befuddled Have been attending f2f meetings, went to my 3rd one yesterday and I enjoy them and am learning lots. This is where the con...	lilms	8	841	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	sober rants (Preview) My son called on his way home from work today in a lather over actions from his ex. He was so angry. And that is how he often is. He is sober during the week, saving his drinking for Saturdays and Sundays. He is enrolled in a continuing ed class and started to gripe about that. When he is drinking we just don't...	omajoy	4	576	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Which group do I choose? (Preview) Newbie here. I'm very confused where to go... "A" myself and started in that program 7 years ago with many relapses. Found face to face Al-anon meetings two years ago...as I curb my own addictions by monitoring drinking habits and forcing recovery upon loved ones. First siblings, then...	Mia2	4	729	Jul 7, 2006 by Rita G
	finally found a meeting..and not too soon (Preview) I don't know what is going on with him.It's been a very ugly week.He came home tonight and he looked...(sigh)..so bad. I've been getting through with words of encouragemment.I've been getting through with reading.I've been getting through tonight with immersing myself in video games (I'm...	RamzDear	2	293	Jul 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	embarrassed and ashamed (Preview) Hi, am new at this but very much need support. Am surrounded by alcoholic family, grew up in an alcoholic home and feel isolated and alone at present. Have just broken up with alcholic boyfriend whom I was in complete denial about on most occasions where alcohol use was concerned. This morning I passed...	maire rua	3	456	Jul 7, 2006 by nycbt
	ok this tire problem is getting old/return to tire shop (Preview) I am really being tested. I am not understanding what the lesson is. I go the spare tire , mounted, & balanced this afternoon with the help of a dear freind/ neighbor giving me a ride. Then struggling about half and hour just to get the lugs off. I thought the tire looked low on air but it was too close to...	hmrnrnmm	1	573	Jul 7, 2006 by hersh
	The Big 1000 (Preview) Hi all, Well I knew I was getting close to the 1000 posts mark. So I went back and re-read my posts throughout my time here at MIP, well all the ones I started anyway. I was able to reflect on where I was when I first started posting here. I was able to see the growth, and to see the areas in which...	Dolphin123	7	426	Jul 7, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	What's Love Got To Do, Got To Do With It? (Preview) ((((Roomies)))), Tonight I browsing and reading through a Dating-How-To book I recently picked up at the library. The book made suggestions on questions to ask onself (Who am I looking for, what is important to me in a partner?) and questions to ask about one's partner (How well do they get along wi...	BlueCloud	1	390	Jul 7, 2006 by annmarie
	need advice with kids' visitation and A father (Preview) he had been doing so well. consistant in his visitation - 9 hours a week that we mutually agreed on. (he was only abstaining, not working towards sobriety, not interested in recovery . . . i knew it's be a matter of time before he was binging again.) he's finally stopped drinking today after 5 days of bi...	shamama	6	673	Jul 7, 2006 by isabela40
	http://www.mipchat.net (Preview) http://www.mipchat.net also takes you directly into our Al-Anon Chat/Meeting Room. Please let any one having a hard time entering the room know of this method of entering it as it may resolve their problem. Thanks, John	John	0	673	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	Words of Wisdom about LOVE (Preview)     Hi everyone: This verse really spoke to me today. Love is the most important thing in our lives to pass on, but if we do not love ourselves, how can we giv...	hersh	3	498	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	Don't put your life on hold... (Preview) From MIP Founder, John F. (aka OP_Present) As soon as you clicked the submit button on this message board post, you violated the publisher of The Language of Letting Go copyright, which you also posted at the bottom of this post. When we place something on this message board, or...	hersh	6	829	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	light bulb moment/ a new way to look at life (Preview) I was reflecting on my past lately. I felt like my past relationships, jobs & marriage that ended in divorce was just a series of failures & mistakes I have made. But with the knowledge I have now & my HP. I am thinking different. Was my past really mistakes & fail...	hmrnrnmm	2	741	Jul 6, 2006 by nmike
	Hello (Preview) My name is Nancy and I have been an al-anoner for about 3 years, since my sister came home from rehab. She is still sober, thanks to my and her HP. I was in an on-line group and have been looking for a message board b/c I need help! I am having issues with a new boss, BIG issues and being treated unfa...	talbotts	5	696	Jul 6, 2006 by talbotts
	Balance and Discipline (Preview) 7-6-06 Sigh. It’s the A.M. I prayed before I read my readers. Sometimes I get the entire entry—and it becomes revelation—and other times I feel like saying “who cares.” I’m still gonna do my best here. Daily Affirmations: Balance and discipline. Ok, ok, ok—discipline? Got...	Wizkid	1	540	Jul 6, 2006 by Faith73
	Mom and Me (Preview) I don't have access to a computer, so here I am thinking of you all and wishing I could post every day. First let me tell you my A is being an angel, he is taking care of home and kids as for me I left my job June 9th and am staying at my mom's to care for her. She is upbeat and doing well with pai...	marmare	2	371	Jul 6, 2006 by Maria123
	Payback (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Well yesterday I had one of those old fashioned "Poor me" parties. Hubby was driving me crazy (or was that my reaction to him?), work was same old same old, .... On and on it went. I was in a foul mood, and although I wasn't arguing with...	Karilynn	8	494	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Up All Night... (Preview) I just couldn't sleep. Every little noise made me jump....thinking of my lost cat who playing with his up in heaven (altho, I don't know why? They never played together when they both were alive...lol, but at least, they are together again, soulmates, I guess). My A gave me the guilt tr...	CAM0914	3	339	Jul 6, 2006 by omajoy
	Not sure (Preview) I have been reading your posts for a while now. I have an alcoholic 23 year old son. He has been to rehab twice-once at at a state facility and most recently through the Army's ASAP program. He joined the Army in May of 2005 after we had kicked him out of the house for the second time in tw...	sunnymom	4	567	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	my bull-headed self (Preview) I'm just plain old stubborn sometimes. Number one-I started hounding my A as to when he was going to call around for treatment centers after I collected many references. Every hour I saw him get more drunk I would ask when,when,when he would call. It's a neccessary step in him keeping his stat...	RamzDear	5	589	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Thanks guys (Preview) Man, I decided to break part of a sticky little pattern of checking up on him. It's gonna sound silly but I've gotten in the habit of checking on whether his light is on early in the morning under his door. The earlier he gets up (let's say..5:30) the worse he is and though he drinks every day....	RamzDear	3	539	Jul 6, 2006 by hersh
	big thanks (Preview) Hi to all my new loving friends, Just needed to say how much your replys lifted me up so much,i get through my day much better now,knowing when i come home and join you i dont feel alone,it keeps me focused on what i need to do,if there are any more newbies out there,just keep coming here for support,and t...	ollie	1	329	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	relieving some stresses (Preview) hi everyone. after some deep talks ive had on here ive figured so much out and really feel good. thank you. i had a one and one talk with my friend, then my a, then my mom. i let it all out how what i choose is my choice and for them to let go of me and allow me to do what i want without trying to influence me. i told my...	notsonew1111	2	333	Jul 6, 2006 by aunitedway
	hmm, worse than having a flat tire tonite & solution thursday 7/6 (Preview) I was feeling like a idiot a little tonite. Monday on my way home from town. I noticed the truck was bouncing really bad. I had to keep slowing down & finally put on my flashers and continued home. I was thinking it must be the front end, we have known the steering box is shot just recently but it ,...	hmrnrnmm	2	590	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	my first f2f meeting... (Preview) I did it!! Last night I went to my first f2f meeting. It was great and felt good about myself after the meeting. It felt good to share abit aout myself and hear other people stories. The group I went to, deals with one step each week and last night was step 2. I am not famliar with how other groups work but...	iwishuheaven	5	361	Jul 6, 2006 by beachbaby
	confused (Preview) i have been apart from my a/c for 3 months,this seemed to me the only way i could survive,as i am very new to this program,i have read the book courage to change ,which i find so helpful,the words are very incouraging.i think im doing well,until i meet up with certain members of my family,who i think have t...	ollie	10	1510	Jul 6, 2006 by aunitedway
	MMMMM....That new car smell! (Preview) Hello everyone! I just bought a new car! Woohoo! Well, I bought it last Friday. A Sunburst Orange, Dodge Caliber. I feel so releived, to finally have the deed done. I have been looking at the kind of car I wanted for the last month...and yep....pretty much obsessing over it. Trying to get the model,...	david62	13	850	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Missing the "A" (Preview) Hello Roomies, I was sharing with a new comer on Monday night about how I see my "A"as two different people, and how this helps me to let go of resentments and how I am able to love him. Well my "A" called me early Tuesday morning, really early. We talked for 10 minutes, calling cards are expensive and d...	Dolphin123	7	868	Jul 6, 2006 by tea2
	How is HP working in your life? (Preview) How is HP working in your life? I used to think that HP was just a figment of people’s imagination. I recently had a light bulb moment!!! I had a friend that lives on the other side of the country. We would chat on line and a few times we would call on the phone. It was limited because of the cost. I kep...	shadow1	5	349	Jul 6, 2006 by Rita G
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