Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

hersh · hersh

From MIP Founder, John F. (aka OP_Present) As soon as you clicked the submit button on this message board post, you violated the publisher of The Language of Letting Go copyright, which you also posted at the bottom of this post. When we place something on this message board, or...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was reflecting on my past lately. I felt like my past relationships, jobs & marriage that ended in divorce was just a series of failures & mistakes I have made. But with the knowledge I have now & my HP. I am thinking different. Was my past really mistakes & fail...

talbotts · talbotts

My name is Nancy and I have been an al-anoner for about 3 years, since my sister came home from rehab. She is still sober, thanks to my and her HP. I was in an on-line group and have been looking for a message board b/c I need help! I am having issues with a new boss, BIG issues and being treated unfa...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-6-06 Sigh. It’s the A.M. I prayed before I read my readers. Sometimes I get the entire entry—and it becomes revelation—and other times I feel like saying “who cares.” I’m still gonna do my best here. Daily Affirmations: Balance and discipline. Ok, ok, ok—discipline? Got...

marmare · marmare

I don't have access to a computer, so here I am thinking of you all and wishing I could post every day. First let me tell you my A is being an angel, he is taking care of home and kids as for me I left my job June 9th and am staying at my mom's to care for her. She is upbeat and doing well with pai...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Well yesterday I had one of those old fashioned "Poor me" parties. Hubby was driving me crazy (or was that my reaction to him?), work was same old same old,

.... On and on it went. I was in a foul mood, and although I wasn't arguing with...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

I just couldn't sleep. Every little noise made me jump....thinking of my lost cat who playing with his up in heaven (altho, I don't know why? They never played together when they both were alive...lol, but at least, they are together again, soulmates, I guess). My A gave me the guilt tr...

sunnymom · sunnymom

I have been reading your posts for a while now. I have an alcoholic 23 year old son. He has been to rehab twice-once at at a state facility and most recently through the Army's ASAP program. He joined the Army in May of 2005 after we had kicked him out of the house for the second time in tw...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I'm just plain old stubborn sometimes. Number one-I started hounding my A as to when he was going to call around for treatment centers after I collected many references. Every hour I saw him get more drunk I would ask when,when,when he would call. It's a neccessary step in him keeping his stat...

RamzDear · RamzDear

Man, I decided to break part of a sticky little pattern of checking up on him. It's gonna sound silly but I've gotten in the habit of checking on whether his light is on early in the morning under his door. The earlier he gets up (let's say..5:30) the worse he is and though he drinks every day....

ollie · ollie

Hi to all my new loving friends, Just needed to say how much your replys lifted me up so much,i get through my day much better now,knowing when i come home and join you i dont feel alone,it keeps me focused on what i need to do,if there are any more newbies out there,just keep coming here for support,and t...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. after some deep talks ive had on here ive figured so much out and really feel good. thank you. i had a one and one talk with my friend, then my a, then my mom. i let it all out how what i choose is my choice and for them to let go of me and allow me to do what i want without trying to influence me. i told my...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was feeling like a idiot a little tonite. Monday on my way home from town. I noticed the truck was bouncing really bad. I had to keep slowing down & finally put on my flashers and continued home. I was thinking it must be the front end, we have known the steering box is shot just recently but it ,...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

I did it!! Last night I went to my first f2f meeting. It was great and felt good about myself after the meeting. It felt good to share abit aout myself and hear other people stories. The group I went to, deals with one step each week and last night was step 2. I am not famliar with how other groups work but...

ollie · ollie

i have been apart from my a/c for 3 months,this seemed to me the only way i could survive,as i am very new to this program,i have read the book courage to change ,which i find so helpful,the words are very incouraging.i think im doing well,until i meet up with certain members of my family,who i think have t...

david62 · david62

Hello everyone! I just bought a new car! Woohoo! Well, I bought it last Friday. A Sunburst Orange, Dodge Caliber. I feel so releived, to finally have the deed done. I have been looking at the kind of car I wanted for the last month...and yep....pretty much obsessing over it. Trying to get the model,...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, I was sharing with a new comer on Monday night about how I see my "A"as two different people, and how this helps me to let go of resentments and how I am able to love him. Well my "A" called me early Tuesday morning, really early. We talked for 10 minutes, calling cards are expensive and d...

shadow1 · shadow1

How is HP working in your life? I used to think that HP was just a figment of people’s imagination. I recently had a light bulb moment!!! I had a friend that lives on the other side of the country. We would chat on line and a few times we would call on the phone. It was limited because of the cost. I kep...

Powerless · Powerless

Just for today I will focus on "I" instead of "he". Just for today I will take an honest look at my part in things and not just blame the A for everything because it is convenient. Today I will seek knowledge of my hPs Will for me and the power to carry it out. Today I will focus on what I can...

ollie · ollie

Hi to All, As i am a newbie,has anyone got any tips for a good nights sleep,i am reading courage to change in the evening after working a 8 hr day. but still manage to be woken up with nightmares,reliving all the bad things that went on between my hubby and me. We have been apart f...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( Hello Group))) Feels like a Monday to me today. The last couple of days I have maintained a good lighthearted attitude, even when my A gave me an attitude. I guess I'm faking it until I make it. I've been keeping busy with the kids, family, friends, and researching this side bu...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i want to thank all of you for your love filled replies with my situation. you are all so wonderful and i wouldnt be sane without you. my a did eventually turn up thank god. of course was drunk. so i sent him to his mom's. then i went there to get the keys to our apartment which literally turned int...

dori · dori

Andrea and Diva Thanks for your kind words

debora · debora

Hi, I am new here. I have a young adult daughter who is addicted to cocaine. Now, after leaving two rehabs, she has just attained 46 days clean. Last night I got a call from the family she is living with. They said that she did not come home or call and wanted me to help find her. I thought that she was using a...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have noticed lately I have been moody and grumpy. Been taking some time today just read a bunch of post and see if any of them relate to things going on in my life. But didn't see anything that triggered what I am feeling so I decided to post. My A bf came to stay with me and try to make a go of it...

sarahlm · sarahlm

My AH is in prison for multiple DUIs. He has 3 months sober now-obviously doing some soul searching and this poem he sent me yesterday tells me what its like for him being trapped by this disease: Made me cry-its all true, our life through the years of his chronic relapsing. Its our story-perhaps some of...

afglin · afglin

I'm not a "regular" at the meetings here. I go to ACA meetings more often than ALANon. I go to ALAnon when I can. I chat there often early on Sundays, but the meeting times are a bit late for me. I just went to the morning meeting. I missed part of it. I raised my hand to share at the beginning of...

dori · dori

Hi Sara, I tried to respond to your private message privately.Some reason I couldnt or didnt know how.So here is my reponse I am sorry you felt it was a attack on you as I said in my post it wasnt I said it was about my issues not yours I responded.I do not think every alcholic should...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I read a post about how some of you are freeing yourselfs from various things are your journey. When I started my journey I had to face one of my biggest fears my fear was not being loved by anyone. May sound silly to some but to me it was really hard for me to face. My son's father w...

Cilla · Cilla

Life can sometimes be very bittersweet. This evening my eldest daughter and two grandsons will be arriving from Germany to spend about a month with us. What a joy that is going to be! Tomorrow my youngest, a 13 year old son is going to court for a few delinquency issues that he has devel...

manic2 · manic2

Hi all, I am so glad to have found this forum and be able to read your stories because they reassure me that I am not crazy. I often feel out of place and all alone and the only time I don't is when I get to a meeting. I am so grateful to have found another venue for release. Thankyo...

evey · evey

Hello all, Went to see AH in rehab. He looks and sounds much better. He got a pass and we took the kids to lunch. Had a nice couple of hours. We could go visit today again but I said no. My son (9) wants to go, its the first time my AH was "himself" in a long time but I feel my AH thrives on the attention the diseas...

bewildered · bewildered

hello all Its my first post on the boards , but not my first visit to al-anon. i first came to al-non nearly 3 years ago , i was having difficultlies with my sister and my unability to let go of trying to control her and her drinking i became very resentful of her and her behaviours. It wasnt until i sat in...

gracefull · gracefull

Hello - I'm new here and checking things out. I thought I should dive right in and post now or I'll never do it! I've been in Alanon for over 14 years and I'm feeling like a newcomer right now. I'm full of self pity and grief. I'm trying to stay in the moment and not project. I'm very glad I found this web...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone! Hope you all are having a good day. I was just reminded today how important having contact with someone is, and how much better we can feel if we just reach out... I wasn't feeling so great, just kind of blah. I called my friend that I met through Alanon, and we BOTH felt so mu...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Just got this at work and had to share it with ya! Due to a power outage, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very dark so the paramedic asked Kathleen, a 3-yr old girl to hold a flashlight high over her mommy so h...

gardengal · gardengal

Pre - Alanon I would react almost immediately to most situations, without thinking. I would leave myself afterwards literally beating myself up, and rehashing a situation over and over again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, HUH, and alanon has taught me to "think" before I jump into any situation t...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, For the past few days I have been in the meeting and chat room sharing what has been going on in my life and it has been extemely helpful. This past weekend my husband picked up again after 9 mons of being dry. I have posted here over the past few months of my difficulties in...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-5-06 Okay, responses from the daily readers. Daily Affirmations ACoA and Hope for Today: The entries were similar. They were basically about helping, providing services in al-anon. Imposing my beliefs on someone hinders their growth process, so if I really want to h...

ohera101 · ohera101

Hi all! I am fairly new to alanon....have started working the steps.....and have also committed to learning as much about alcoholism as possible so I can be understanding and patient with my AH.....i have two questions for anyone with some insight..... 1- If you feel confident you have accompl...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, Just wanted to wish everyone a great 4th of July! I hope you all get to enjoy a lazy, relaxing day off from your everyday "stuff".

My A (sober over 2 years now) is off today as well. I sometimes feel a bit uneasy with him home, as this "interrupts" my daily routine, L...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, What should I do now? What's for the best? Last week I had a big bust up with my Aboyfriend. I came to realise I deserved better and was not going to settle for bad treatment anymore. He had been in rehab a few months ago but had had two relapses since. He wasn't working any recovery p...

gracefull · gracefull

I'm finally ready to start sharing my story. I've been hanging around the last few days and couldn't get up the courage. So, here goes. I'm in a relationship of 16 years, 12 of which we've been married. I've been in Alanon 14 years and he's sober 14 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter (love her to pieces)....

sandie123 · sandie123

Well, I'm back from vacation and already new feelings are creaping in. Vacation truned out to be good, some relaxation and time for me. Thank you all for your help at getting me through vacation with a more positive focus. Now I am back at reality and my mind is starting to give me trouble again. I tho...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

its now 1:30pm and i still have not heard from my a, nor has anyone else. i called all the hospitals he is not there or has not been there. so i called the police. they came over and i gave them all the phone numbers i could and people i knew that might know anything. his mom was here too and we both told th...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys it has been a long time since i posted and i am so sorry. everything is going good i am overwhelmed with watching not one baby but 3 other children as well no school so its crazy the only cool thing is amanda can bring a friend. chuck had a slip up on our vacation he was hiding that he drank he wanted me to...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

Up until yesterday I thought that my A mother was the only one I had problems with. I guess I always knew it but it was never a problem for me personally. My brother is also an alcoholic. I received a call from his common-law wife yesterday telling me she has kick him out and can't live with his drinking anym...

Rob · Rob

Hi All.. Just thought I'd say hi.. Just joined.. I am an alcoholic (hate saying that). My mum n dad both get drunk every night and it eats me up inside.. I dont drink because of that.. infact i started drinking long before they became alkis. Seeing them get drunk every night ea...

omajoy · omajoy

I am new here, having found this site a few months ago but never joining until tonight...just reading the posts by all of you almost daily, seeking help for my own situation. My son is probably an A....I say probably because he doesn't fit the profile I have always believed about someone who is an alcoho...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I'm just taking a breather in the place that I know I should. Kind of like finding that safe spot in a frenzied game of tag. AH has had the state on his case to get rehabilitation-his state license is in serious jeopardy.This is a topic that he let go by the wayside because they haven't contacted h...

ollie · ollie

Hi everone, I only been with you since the 9th june ,since then i have had big pc problems,i eventually bought a new one. after my first letter ,i recieved a reply from someone who offered me thier e mail address,as i lost all my old e mails ,i would love that person to get in touch again as i would love to...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-04-06 Good morning! I need new glasses. Sigh. Am I already complaining? I have been up since 5 am again. My Sweetie stayed the night – then we got up and went for a bike ride. 10.5 miles. It was awesome! Okay, yesterday I didn’t bike. Instead I went to the gym to swim with the mom. Blah! I have...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi Everyone, Its been a while since I posted. My addict has been sober since entering rehab 3 months ago, we have had no contact with each other. According to a fellow AA member, he is following the advice of his sponsor which is "he and I need very little contact with each ri...

jacksmom · jacksmom

Good morning to all! You may have read an earlier thread of mine about my boyfriend's passing. Well...turns out I went home to visit him at just the right time! I'm pregnant and ecstatic. This is a miracle. Before he passed he had the chance to make me a mother, and his p...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

We are on a fixed income of $734 a month. Some times we have more money , doing sales, recycling aluminum cans or my 2 or 3 days of work. Not alot of money to splurge. Our arguement is we get a monthly credit at a local little country store/ gas station. We are able to fill up the gas tank & fill it the foll...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. its quarter after 9am right now and i havnt heard from my a since 2pm yesterday. im not surprised. he has been struggling with trying to stay sober for a while now. in and out of different programs for the past six months or so. he has been sober around three weeks now (i stopped keeping track)...

dori · dori

Hi, I thought since it the 4th of July that we could all post something we are free of or working on being free of.I am free of starting to learn to be me and who that is .I am free of pain of the loss of my ex a and him moveing on with someone new. I am free of anger towards him and aa .I am free of re...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

Hi. I'm Joni. Hope you don't mind me seeking some advice tonight. I am a recovering alcoholic who is extremely involved in AA. I sponsor women, and I use my own sponsor and Grand-sponsor. I attend 5 meetings a week. My family is part of Akron, Ohio AlAnon Intergroup. We have program principles runn...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

Hi everyone, I'm not new here but it's been a while since I've posted. My "A" lives 5 hours away & we talk on the phone everyday. He's very active with his drinking and is very selfish. I have been sober 111 days now. I got my green chip today! He has had a spot on his lung for...

dori · dori

Deb, When I scanned down and saw your name I smiled so big .You know there is nothing wrong in loveing someone .Now how we manifest that love it can be something else. We know in alanon we cant tell someone to stay or go.For me I went but you know the same courage it took me to go it takes for y...

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	Don't put your life on hold... (Preview) From MIP Founder, John F. (aka OP_Present) As soon as you clicked the submit button on this message board post, you violated the publisher of The Language of Letting Go copyright, which you also posted at the bottom of this post. When we place something on this message board, or...	hersh	6	792	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	light bulb moment/ a new way to look at life (Preview) I was reflecting on my past lately. I felt like my past relationships, jobs & marriage that ended in divorce was just a series of failures & mistakes I have made. But with the knowledge I have now & my HP. I am thinking different. Was my past really mistakes & fail...	hmrnrnmm	2	684	Jul 6, 2006 by nmike
	Hello (Preview) My name is Nancy and I have been an al-anoner for about 3 years, since my sister came home from rehab. She is still sober, thanks to my and her HP. I was in an on-line group and have been looking for a message board b/c I need help! I am having issues with a new boss, BIG issues and being treated unfa...	talbotts	5	669	Jul 6, 2006 by talbotts
	Balance and Discipline (Preview) 7-6-06 Sigh. It’s the A.M. I prayed before I read my readers. Sometimes I get the entire entry—and it becomes revelation—and other times I feel like saying “who cares.” I’m still gonna do my best here. Daily Affirmations: Balance and discipline. Ok, ok, ok—discipline? Got...	Wizkid	1	493	Jul 6, 2006 by Faith73
	Mom and Me (Preview) I don't have access to a computer, so here I am thinking of you all and wishing I could post every day. First let me tell you my A is being an angel, he is taking care of home and kids as for me I left my job June 9th and am staying at my mom's to care for her. She is upbeat and doing well with pai...	marmare	2	344	Jul 6, 2006 by Maria123
	Payback (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Well yesterday I had one of those old fashioned "Poor me" parties. Hubby was driving me crazy (or was that my reaction to him?), work was same old same old, .... On and on it went. I was in a foul mood, and although I wasn't arguing with...	Karilynn	8	451	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Up All Night... (Preview) I just couldn't sleep. Every little noise made me jump....thinking of my lost cat who playing with his up in heaven (altho, I don't know why? They never played together when they both were alive...lol, but at least, they are together again, soulmates, I guess). My A gave me the guilt tr...	CAM0914	3	304	Jul 6, 2006 by omajoy
	Not sure (Preview) I have been reading your posts for a while now. I have an alcoholic 23 year old son. He has been to rehab twice-once at at a state facility and most recently through the Army's ASAP program. He joined the Army in May of 2005 after we had kicked him out of the house for the second time in tw...	sunnymom	4	534	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	my bull-headed self (Preview) I'm just plain old stubborn sometimes. Number one-I started hounding my A as to when he was going to call around for treatment centers after I collected many references. Every hour I saw him get more drunk I would ask when,when,when he would call. It's a neccessary step in him keeping his stat...	RamzDear	5	557	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Thanks guys (Preview) Man, I decided to break part of a sticky little pattern of checking up on him. It's gonna sound silly but I've gotten in the habit of checking on whether his light is on early in the morning under his door. The earlier he gets up (let's say..5:30) the worse he is and though he drinks every day....	RamzDear	3	505	Jul 6, 2006 by hersh
	big thanks (Preview) Hi to all my new loving friends, Just needed to say how much your replys lifted me up so much,i get through my day much better now,knowing when i come home and join you i dont feel alone,it keeps me focused on what i need to do,if there are any more newbies out there,just keep coming here for support,and t...	ollie	1	279	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	relieving some stresses (Preview) hi everyone. after some deep talks ive had on here ive figured so much out and really feel good. thank you. i had a one and one talk with my friend, then my a, then my mom. i let it all out how what i choose is my choice and for them to let go of me and allow me to do what i want without trying to influence me. i told my...	notsonew1111	2	307	Jul 6, 2006 by aunitedway
	hmm, worse than having a flat tire tonite & solution thursday 7/6 (Preview) I was feeling like a idiot a little tonite. Monday on my way home from town. I noticed the truck was bouncing really bad. I had to keep slowing down & finally put on my flashers and continued home. I was thinking it must be the front end, we have known the steering box is shot just recently but it ,...	hmrnrnmm	2	541	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	my first f2f meeting... (Preview) I did it!! Last night I went to my first f2f meeting. It was great and felt good about myself after the meeting. It felt good to share abit aout myself and hear other people stories. The group I went to, deals with one step each week and last night was step 2. I am not famliar with how other groups work but...	iwishuheaven	5	326	Jul 6, 2006 by beachbaby
	confused (Preview) i have been apart from my a/c for 3 months,this seemed to me the only way i could survive,as i am very new to this program,i have read the book courage to change ,which i find so helpful,the words are very incouraging.i think im doing well,until i meet up with certain members of my family,who i think have t...	ollie	10	1476	Jul 6, 2006 by aunitedway
	MMMMM....That new car smell! (Preview) Hello everyone! I just bought a new car! Woohoo! Well, I bought it last Friday. A Sunburst Orange, Dodge Caliber. I feel so releived, to finally have the deed done. I have been looking at the kind of car I wanted for the last month...and yep....pretty much obsessing over it. Trying to get the model,...	david62	13	813	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Missing the "A" (Preview) Hello Roomies, I was sharing with a new comer on Monday night about how I see my "A"as two different people, and how this helps me to let go of resentments and how I am able to love him. Well my "A" called me early Tuesday morning, really early. We talked for 10 minutes, calling cards are expensive and d...	Dolphin123	7	830	Jul 6, 2006 by tea2
	How is HP working in your life? (Preview) How is HP working in your life? I used to think that HP was just a figment of people’s imagination. I recently had a light bulb moment!!! I had a friend that lives on the other side of the country. We would chat on line and a few times we would call on the phone. It was limited because of the cost. I kep...	shadow1	5	322	Jul 6, 2006 by Rita G
	Just For Today (Preview) Just for today I will focus on "I" instead of "he". Just for today I will take an honest look at my part in things and not just blame the A for everything because it is convenient. Today I will seek knowledge of my hPs Will for me and the power to carry it out. Today I will focus on what I can...	Powerless	3	438	Jul 6, 2006 by hersh
	sleep needed (Preview) Hi to All, As i am a newbie,has anyone got any tips for a good nights sleep,i am reading courage to change in the evening after working a 8 hr day. but still manage to be woken up with nightmares,reliving all the bad things that went on between my hubby and me. We have been apart f...	ollie	3	443	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Feel like I'm doing my kids an injustice (Preview) ((( Hello Group))) Feels like a Monday to me today. The last couple of days I have maintained a good lighthearted attitude, even when my A gave me an attitude. I guess I'm faking it until I make it. I've been keeping busy with the kids, family, friends, and researching this side bu...	twinmom2	6	504	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	update (Preview) hi everyone i want to thank all of you for your love filled replies with my situation. you are all so wonderful and i wouldnt be sane without you. my a did eventually turn up thank god. of course was drunk. so i sent him to his mom's. then i went there to get the keys to our apartment which literally turned int...	notsonew1111	6	341	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Andrea and Diva (Preview) Andrea and Diva Thanks for your kind words	dori	0	342	Jul 6, 2006 by dori
	New and fearful (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I have a young adult daughter who is addicted to cocaine. Now, after leaving two rehabs, she has just attained 46 days clean. Last night I got a call from the family she is living with. They said that she did not come home or call and wanted me to help find her. I thought that she was using a...	debora	4	459	Jul 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	Grumpy/Moody (Preview) I have noticed lately I have been moody and grumpy. Been taking some time today just read a bunch of post and see if any of them relate to things going on in my life. But didn't see anything that triggered what I am feeling so I decided to post. My A bf came to stay with me and try to make a go of it...	DoN4me	2	467	Jul 6, 2006 by nmike
	My husband sent me a poem from prison (Preview) My AH is in prison for multiple DUIs. He has 3 months sober now-obviously doing some soul searching and this poem he sent me yesterday tells me what its like for him being trapped by this disease: Made me cry-its all true, our life through the years of his chronic relapsing. Its our story-perhaps some of...	sarahlm	8	655	Jul 6, 2006 by david62
	only regulars in meetings? (Preview) I'm not a "regular" at the meetings here. I go to ACA meetings more often than ALANon. I go to ALAnon when I can. I chat there often early on Sundays, but the meeting times are a bit late for me. I just went to the morning meeting. I missed part of it. I raised my hand to share at the beginning of...	afglin	6	610	Jul 6, 2006 by afglin
	Sara (Preview) Hi Sara, I tried to respond to your private message privately.Some reason I couldnt or didnt know how.So here is my reponse I am sorry you felt it was a attack on you as I said in my post it wasnt I said it was about my issues not yours I responded.I do not think every alcholic should...	dori	0	264	Jul 5, 2006 by dori
	Freeing (Preview) I read a post about how some of you are freeing yourselfs from various things are your journey. When I started my journey I had to face one of my biggest fears my fear was not being loved by anyone. May sound silly to some but to me it was really hard for me to face. My son's father w...	DoN4me	4	400	Jul 5, 2006 by DoN4me
	What Do We Teach Our Children (Preview) Life can sometimes be very bittersweet. This evening my eldest daughter and two grandsons will be arriving from Germany to spend about a month with us. What a joy that is going to be! Tomorrow my youngest, a 13 year old son is going to court for a few delinquency issues that he has devel...	Cilla	3	403	Jul 5, 2006 by lin0606
	New here (Preview) Hi all, I am so glad to have found this forum and be able to read your stories because they reassure me that I am not crazy. I often feel out of place and all alone and the only time I don't is when I get to a meeting. I am so grateful to have found another venue for release. Thankyo...	manic2	5	555	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	visit to rehab (Preview) Hello all, Went to see AH in rehab. He looks and sounds much better. He got a pass and we took the kids to lunch. Had a nice couple of hours. We could go visit today again but I said no. My son (9) wants to go, its the first time my AH was "himself" in a long time but I feel my AH thrives on the attention the diseas...	evey	6	752	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	returning newbie (Preview) hello all Its my first post on the boards , but not my first visit to al-anon. i first came to al-non nearly 3 years ago , i was having difficultlies with my sister and my unability to let go of trying to control her and her drinking i became very resentful of her and her behaviours. It wasnt until i sat in...	bewildered	5	577	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Checking In (Preview) Hello - I'm new here and checking things out. I thought I should dive right in and post now or I'll never do it! I've been in Alanon for over 14 years and I'm feeling like a newcomer right now. I'm full of self pity and grief. I'm trying to stay in the moment and not project. I'm very glad I found this web...	gracefull	3	537	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Importance of reaching out... (Preview) Hi everyone! Hope you all are having a good day. I was just reminded today how important having contact with someone is, and how much better we can feel if we just reach out... I wasn't feeling so great, just kind of blah. I called my friend that I met through Alanon, and we BOTH felt so mu...	hersh	1	235	Jul 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Should Children Witness Childbirth? (Preview) Hello Roomies, Just got this at work and had to share it with ya! Due to a power outage, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very dark so the paramedic asked Kathleen, a 3-yr old girl to hold a flashlight high over her mommy so h...	Dolphin123	1	223	Jul 5, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Do you try to reason things through rather than act on impulse? (Preview) Pre - Alanon I would react almost immediately to most situations, without thinking. I would leave myself afterwards literally beating myself up, and rehashing a situation over and over again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, HUH, and alanon has taught me to "think" before I jump into any situation t...	gardengal	3	289	Jul 5, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Staying Strong... (Preview) Hiya everyone, For the past few days I have been in the meeting and chat room sharing what has been going on in my life and it has been extemely helpful. This past weekend my husband picked up again after 9 mons of being dry. I have posted here over the past few months of my difficulties in...	AlaMom	3	364	Jul 5, 2006 by tea2
	Response to reader, & Q-TIP (Preview) 7-5-06 Okay, responses from the daily readers. Daily Affirmations ACoA and Hope for Today: The entries were similar. They were basically about helping, providing services in al-anon. Imposing my beliefs on someone hinders their growth process, so if I really want to h...	Wizkid	2	887	Jul 5, 2006 by drucilla06
	overcast of alcoholism (Preview) Hi all! I am fairly new to alanon....have started working the steps.....and have also committed to learning as much about alcoholism as possible so I can be understanding and patient with my AH.....i have two questions for anyone with some insight..... 1- If you feel confident you have accompl...	ohera101	3	384	Jul 5, 2006 by twinmom2
	Happy 4th! (Preview) Hi all, Just wanted to wish everyone a great 4th of July! I hope you all get to enjoy a lazy, relaxing day off from your everyday "stuff". My A (sober over 2 years now) is off today as well. I sometimes feel a bit uneasy with him home, as this "interrupts" my daily routine, L...	lmt123	4	317	Jul 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	don't know what to do now.. (Preview) Hi everyone, What should I do now? What's for the best? Last week I had a big bust up with my Aboyfriend. I came to realise I deserved better and was not going to settle for bad treatment anymore. He had been in rehab a few months ago but had had two relapses since. He wasn't working any recovery p...	annmarie	6	524	Jul 5, 2006 by annmarie
	Need ESH, Please! (Preview) I'm finally ready to start sharing my story. I've been hanging around the last few days and couldn't get up the courage. So, here goes. I'm in a relationship of 16 years, 12 of which we've been married. I've been in Alanon 14 years and he's sober 14 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter (love her to pieces)....	gracefull	7	702	Jul 4, 2006 by nmike
	Struggling with Grief...need ESH (Preview) Well, I'm back from vacation and already new feelings are creaping in. Vacation truned out to be good, some relaxation and time for me. Thank you all for your help at getting me through vacation with a more positive focus. Now I am back at reality and my mind is starting to give me trouble again. I tho...	sandie123	5	653	Jul 4, 2006 by angelnomore
	please send all of your prayers!!!! (Preview) its now 1:30pm and i still have not heard from my a, nor has anyone else. i called all the hospitals he is not there or has not been there. so i called the police. they came over and i gave them all the phone numbers i could and people i knew that might know anything. his mom was here too and we both told th...	notsonew1111	11	763	Jul 4, 2006 by peewee
	hi guys update (Preview) hi guys it has been a long time since i posted and i am so sorry. everything is going good i am overwhelmed with watching not one baby but 3 other children as well no school so its crazy the only cool thing is amanda can bring a friend. chuck had a slip up on our vacation he was hiding that he drank he wanted me to...	chrissy	5	532	Jul 4, 2006 by afglin
	What to do... (Preview) Up until yesterday I thought that my A mother was the only one I had problems with. I guess I always knew it but it was never a problem for me personally. My brother is also an alcoholic. I received a call from his common-law wife yesterday telling me she has kick him out and can't live with his drinking anym...	iwishuheaven	5	576	Jul 4, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Newbee to this board...My parents drink but im an alki too.. (Preview) Hi All.. Just thought I'd say hi.. Just joined.. I am an alcoholic (hate saying that). My mum n dad both get drunk every night and it eats me up inside.. I dont drink because of that.. infact i started drinking long before they became alkis. Seeing them get drunk every night ea...	Rob	13	828	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	grieving (Preview) I am new here, having found this site a few months ago but never joining until tonight...just reading the posts by all of you almost daily, seeking help for my own situation. My son is probably an A....I say probably because he doesn't fit the profile I have always believed about someone who is an alcoho...	omajoy	13	789	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	Taking a breather where I should (Preview) I'm just taking a breather in the place that I know I should. Kind of like finding that safe spot in a frenzied game of tag. AH has had the state on his case to get rehabilitation-his state license is in serious jeopardy.This is a topic that he let go by the wayside because they haven't contacted h...	RamzDear	2	501	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	help (Preview) Hi everone, I only been with you since the 9th june ,since then i have had big pc problems,i eventually bought a new one. after my first letter ,i recieved a reply from someone who offered me thier e mail address,as i lost all my old e mails ,i would love that person to get in touch again as i would love to...	ollie	0	342	Jul 4, 2006 by ollie
	Long Entry: maybe it's necessary. (Preview) 7-04-06 Good morning! I need new glasses. Sigh. Am I already complaining? I have been up since 5 am again. My Sweetie stayed the night – then we got up and went for a bike ride. 10.5 miles. It was awesome! Okay, yesterday I didn’t bike. Instead I went to the gym to swim with the mom. Blah! I have...	Wizkid	2	528	Jul 4, 2006 by horselover58
	Confused (Preview) Hi Everyone, Its been a while since I posted. My addict has been sober since entering rehab 3 months ago, we have had no contact with each other. According to a fellow AA member, he is following the advice of his sponsor which is "he and I need very little contact with each ri...	beachbaby	8	672	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	I'm Pregnant! (Preview) Good morning to all! You may have read an earlier thread of mine about my boyfriend's passing. Well...turns out I went home to visit him at just the right time! I'm pregnant and ecstatic. This is a miracle. Before he passed he had the chance to make me a mother, and his p...	jacksmom	7	387	Jul 4, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	stupid disagreement , which is the best way? (Preview) We are on a fixed income of $734 a month. Some times we have more money , doing sales, recycling aluminum cans or my 2 or 3 days of work. Not alot of money to splurge. Our arguement is we get a monthly credit at a local little country store/ gas station. We are able to fill up the gas tank & fill it the foll...	hmrnrnmm	4	549	Jul 4, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	sh*it hit the fan.....again (Preview) hi everyone. its quarter after 9am right now and i havnt heard from my a since 2pm yesterday. im not surprised. he has been struggling with trying to stay sober for a while now. in and out of different programs for the past six months or so. he has been sober around three weeks now (i stopped keeping track)...	notsonew1111	5	725	Jul 4, 2006 by Jerry F
	freedom.-free of (Preview) Hi, I thought since it the 4th of July that we could all post something we are free of or working on being free of.I am free of starting to learn to be me and who that is .I am free of pain of the loss of my ex a and him moveing on with someone new. I am free of anger towards him and aa .I am free of re...	dori	8	454	Jul 3, 2006 by drucilla06
	I'm an AAer who needs help 'letting go' (Preview) Hi. I'm Joni. Hope you don't mind me seeking some advice tonight. I am a recovering alcoholic who is extremely involved in AA. I sponsor women, and I use my own sponsor and Grand-sponsor. I attend 5 meetings a week. My family is part of Akron, Ohio AlAnon Intergroup. We have program principles runn...	jonibaloni	14	921	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Cancer Scare (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm not new here but it's been a while since I've posted. My "A" lives 5 hours away & we talk on the phone everyday. He's very active with his drinking and is very selfish. I have been sober 111 days now. I got my green chip today! He has had a spot on his lung for...	CAM0914	3	552	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	debilyn-hopeful (Preview) Deb, When I scanned down and saw your name I smiled so big .You know there is nothing wrong in loveing someone .Now how we manifest that love it can be something else. We know in alanon we cant tell someone to stay or go.For me I went but you know the same courage it took me to go it takes for y...	dori	1	314	Jul 3, 2006 by RichardA
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