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18 months has gone by since my last post and
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Unfortunately its worse than ever. Back in the winter of 2016/2017 I lost internet access. I was able to get a new computer a few weeks ago. If anyone remembers, my qualifiers are my identical twins on the spectrum. It has been a hellish ride since my last post culminating with a very scary, unprovoked...
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themoonandthestars
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Courage to Change April 11
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Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about why we continue to attend AlAnon meetings and engage with the program through the years. The author shares that without help, living or having lived with an alcoholic is too much for them. They recognize a need for help in maintaining a ration...
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Skorpi
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New and lost
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My 18yr old son is an addict. He got clean for 8 months and a month ago relapsed. I attended my fist meeting last week and will be going back. I just feel like everything i do is wrong. I have not allowed him to stay at my house while he is using. So hard to do, but im at a loss. I saw him today and he does not even loo...
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Bamagrl
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More information of course ..
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I am letting this go because this is my XAH and this is exactly who he is .. lol .. and I have to take ownership in the fact I have scared him so bad I'm sure whatever cahona's he was growing back left him yet again. I believe that is set 3 that have now been added to the vault. So after the wife texting my kid who...
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SerenityRUS
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swing!
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The weather was favorable so I got on my swing! Yipee! Really Good thing. Serenity & peaceful!
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Hoot Nanny
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Wow, time passes too fast!
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Hi everyone. It's been a long time! I finally made my trip to visit my kids, granddaughter, and mom for a month+! Of course when I got home I am still playing catch up inside and out too now that the weather has a few warm days. I have to get a few acres planted and help finish a fence we are in the process of putt...
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Tude
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Quick question
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Hi, Has anyone tried individual therapy? Is it better to see someone who is experienced in alanon stuff or is a general therapist effective? I've tried therapy before for unrelated things (depression mostly) with mixed results. I'm determined to stay off chemical interventions unless absolute...
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MizzB
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When you're praying ....
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please add my daughter Celeste's name to your list if you care to...after a bout of shortness of breath and then a doctors visit they found a blood clot around her heart and or lungs...she is now in exploratory surgery and I am 7 thousand miles off her bed side. She is worth the prayers so as you care and r...
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Jerry F
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I never had it so good, thanks to recovery
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I am winging it because I don't have my reading glasses. Huge font! I am so grateful. I have been blessed beyond measure. There is something about live one day at a time! I find my wrist bands help. You see I am using the wrist bands to remind me when I start future-tripping, I can look & even snap it a lit...
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Hoot Nanny
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ODAT Reading 4-10-18
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The ODAT reading for April 10 speaks about our attitudes and suggests new tools to help us grow.The reading asks the question, what am I really looking for in life? Is it interesting activities,? to meet my obligations to family or do I want to make myself into the kind of person I will enjoy being wi...
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hotrod
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C2C, 4/9
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Detachment with indifference: The writer says that detachment came easy for him, but not with love, with indifference. In Alanon he learned to feel safe enough to feel his feelings. He also learned that he was more than his feelings, and he could see the alcoholic as more than his or her disease. H...
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Lyne
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Completely lost at this point
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I am a mom of one, and another on the way. My boyfriend and I seem like we have a perfect life from the outside... So perfect that his parents were "unaware" of his drinking problem. We have been in our newly built house for a little over a year, I just began my own small business and he works in construction....
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WorkingMom
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Apr 8 Hope for Today
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Good morning All: Todays reading is about the decision making process and its difficulty for some of us. The writer describes an uncomfortable situation when a group conscience decision is being made, and how decisions in general have been difficult because of the extremes learned as a child (fat...
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yanksfan51
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Being deeply blessed
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It is Merrie Monarch time and that term represents a King (kalakaua) who lived in the past and loved deeply our music and dance...(mele and hula). I love it as deeply as he did and this annual event brings joy and elation to my heart. It is over 55 years and has now captured the participation of other cu...
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Jerry F
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Saying bye to negative thoughts?
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Hi, MIP family.These past days Im trying to redirect my thinking to more pleasant things often. I see how Im so used to negative thinking its like I dont know how to live without it. It seems maybe it doesnt really matter all that much what it is that Im thinking as long as its doom and gloom, and self-criti...
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Aline
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Still on the not-so-merry-go-round
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Hey, So, it's been a while. I've been reading but not in a mental state to talk. Last week was really bad. My work pressure got so much I pulled a sickie. Except I was having panic attacks and shaking. so it wasn't really pulling a sickie, but I did lie about why I wasn't in work. I was supposed to have a meetin...
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MizzB
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Dont want to hold onto guilt
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Seems I'm having a rough couple of days, however I must examine, How Important is It? No one is dying.... I just learned that because of my good intentions to offer dinner to my son, dtr-in-law, and grandchild, I upset "the schedule" for the other grandma, and my 7yr old granddaughter had a melt-down....
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Lyne
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Courage to Change April 4
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Today's reading in Courage to Change is about taking the time to notice and enjoy things we like. The author shares that their favorite time of day was early morning, but after years of living with an active alcoholic, they seemed to be consumed by one crisis or another from the time they woke to the tim...
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Skorpi
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scared
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Today I plan to discuss several issues with my grown son. I actually have anxiety, and I don't want to have it. There is no reason to have it. Nothing bad is going to happen, and I believe this is left over trauma from childhood. With all my tools and progress my rational mind says how ridiculous I am to...
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Lyne
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Not sure ..
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How I feel or what I should feel because I'm pretty blank at the moment. Emotional lights are on however just not feeling it at the moment. I do know I felt a little shock when my kiddo told me. My XAH had back surgery last Nov and proceeded to give me the whole diatribe about how he had to have blood work do...
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SerenityRUS
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4/7 ctc
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this writer talks about speaking at a alanon meeting their fears of everything being perfect ,when arriving at this meeting finding that nothing was perfect ,the secretary was a substitute who had not the right scripts,everything that could go wron g did go wrong, he or she soon felt right at home,hi...
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lookingup
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Off Track and Struggling
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Had a meeting with my boss yesterday. I'm getting the message that my current position is ending. Nothing happening in the next 60 days but it is definitely going away. I've known this would likely happen as it was originally a temporary assignment that continued long past its expiration date. But, I...
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WestMan
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Courage to Change 4/6/18
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Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses how alcoholism is a family disease and like other diseases, there are symptoms. For the alcoholic, mood changes and blackouts are two examples. For friends and family, symptoms similar to the drinkers might include obsession, anxiety, anger, deni...
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Iamhere
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Acceptance
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I'm sure I've posted about this before but I would to hear solid program thoughts on acceptance. I'm struggling big time with it and I now have AA's acceptance prayer programmed into my phone, emailed it to myself, posted on my computer.......you all get the point. I keep wanting things to be somethi...
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andromeda
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First Meeting
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My wife and I went to our first meeting tonight. It was at a local church. We got there on time only to find a sign on the door that the meeting was cancelled. After quickly checking my phone, I found another one 10 city miles away. It took a while, but we got there with 30 minutes left in the meeting. The mee...
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Rough Rider
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my neighbor
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Without breaking anonymity I can say that my neighbor I'd struggling w the disease of alcoholism. She had been to meetings
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About me I saw that t...
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Hoot Nanny
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Changed life
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I'm 6yrs in alanon this month and I wanted to thank the people here for being here and sharing the message. I look back and see how today my life is completely changed. I've changed and continue to want to change and grow. Alanon the people and the program has given me hope, there is help and guidance and th...
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el-cee
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Not Sure Where to Start
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Im not totally clear on how this site work. I have been afraid to go to a local meeting. We live in a small town and I dont know how to respect and protect my spouse while finding a support network for myself. does anyone have advice there? Are there sponsors in Alanon? My spouse is no longer drinking but t...
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Workingmama
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Courage to Change 4/5/18
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Today's reading discusses back to basics. Many of us who have wished, prayed and hoped for sobriety in our loved ones may have new 'life' concerns when/if recovery happens in our A. Many of us are dismayed when sobriety does not bring the happily-ever-after ending we've wanted and waited for. With...
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Iamhere
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Some ESH would be great
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Hi everyone, it's been a while since I've posted. Life with the A has been cyclical. He tries to not drink but eventually he starts (he thinks) "sneaking" bottles or cans when I'm at work, then the effusive personality when he has a plan set to get a 12-pack, the loud and/or angry drunk, then the remorsef...
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Paloma Negra
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Chat room service positions available
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As my schedule changed 3 months ago, the daily meetings in the chat room here do not always have a chair person. Anyone is welcome to step up and hold a morning or night meeting. Usually 6 months of face-to-face meetings are required before chairing online. The meeting scripts are available at http://...
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courage101
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The Elephant in the Room
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DUH! It's her drinking. Causes so many problems. But we can't talk about it? I've been in Al-Anon since Nov. and cannot wrap my head around this. She's been in AA since Nov. Sober for 3 months then thinks she can drink moderatly. Needless to say she's been wasted many times since... even after an AA meeti...
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Donehurting
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Need Insight: AH wants to Vacation without me
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I'm only 3 months into my Al anon journey. My AH has not started his journey toward sobriety. I'm still learning how to handle situations and set Healthy Boundaries. This is what I've set into play so far. 1. I will do what I can to stop the drinking and driving. Every morning before he takes me to work I hav...
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Sun Apr 1
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Hello All- I apologize for not writing in last Sunday. I completely forgot! I woke up in the middle of the night realizing I forgot. I hope everyone enjoyed their day and the week since... I will get back to the daily this coming Sunday! Mary
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yanksfan51
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Meeting makers make it...
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I remember saying to my sponsor, how I was feeling better, really felt a lot of improvement, had a much better perspective and attitude, and so on. As we were talking about it, I said to him, but I am going to a lot of meetings, feeling somewhat that as I was feeling so good, I shouldn't have had to go to so man...
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Bo
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Practicing the Pause
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I have always been one to jump in and try to fix situations and respond in the heat of the moment. I wanted to have everything aired out and tied up all neat and pretty. I would get bent out of shape and ruminate in my head again and again all the possible worst case scenarios that could happen if I didn't mak...
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serenity47
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Gratitude
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I hope everyone enjoyed their easter weekend in whatever way you chose to celebrate it. I worked every day of it. I'm not complaining. I'm grateful to still have a job to go to. I work as a part-time attendant in a transition home for men in recovery from addictions. Whenever one of them completes our pro...
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Wolfie55
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beautiful morning!
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It is another beautiful morning! It is going to be another beautiful day! I have a feeling that it is just beginning. The fact is I am starting to change my sleep patterns. I feel more rested than I have been awhile.I iI really owe it to God & this program for getting this far. For that I am grateful.
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Hoot Nanny
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C2C, 4/2
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Be gently with yourself: The writer learned that it is important to be kind to herself, especially when she was doing poorly. She said it is much easier to be gentle with herself when doing well. She said she feared that she would turn into a slug if she wasn't constantly pushing herself. But she lea...
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Lyne
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Timing
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Pre Alanon for me everything was urgent and it better be addressed right then .. it didn't matter how big or how small. There would be stuff that was just straight up stupid .. in terms of how important is it, or things that were important however waiting is a more appropriate response or just not respon...
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SerenityRUS
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HP working it with me...
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Good morning all and a Good Friday also. Higher Power was setting up my day for me today which I never mind cause my HP is much more imaginative and alert than I ever have been. I needed to take the van down to the dealer to get a tire problem fixed and got the alert that it would not be free so I went into my r...
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Jerry F
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Can Anyone Relate?
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What I am referring to is a spouse who is in the process of a divorce who "wants to be friends," whose working a recovery plan, but just can't seem to realize the amount of pain they have caused in their SO. I am about to enter the final phase of the divorce process - we've just finished the 30 day reply to summ...
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PosiesandPuppies
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Happy peace of mind and serenity Easter from Hilo HI.
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Could not forget the MIP family on this day...getting ready to attend the AA at the Bay Easter Feaster (really!!)...after the meeting we will feast on the menu and each others ESH. This is a long lasting tradition for a meeting founded by both AA and Al-Anon over 25 years ago. Just heard from a trave...
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Jerry F
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Setting timelines
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My AH set himself a timeline. X is the last day he is drinking. I dont even know what to think.
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Ann_Y
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what happened to the dailies meditation?
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I was hoping that someone would write something about the C2C hope for today or the ODAT? I wanted to comment on the C2C for today March 31st but I won't because I did read it but I don't remember the whole thing!
Have a great Easter weekend & the joy of Spring!
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Hoot Nanny
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it gets better if you don't give up!i
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I haven't given up on myself & my own recovery. Today is a better day! I will try to focus on this day only. I am grateful for an alanon friend & her daughter coming over to color easter eggs at my place. Not too many come inside my house unless I am up for it. It also depends who it is.
I am feeling more...
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Hoot Nanny
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A guy is walking down the street...
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and enjoying the day. Everything is wonderful. Life is wonderful. All of a sudden, out of nowhere, he falls into a hole that he did not see. The hole is so deep and the walls are so steep he can't get out. A doctor passes by, and the guy shouts up, "Doctor, Doctor, I'm stuck down here in this hole and I can't ge...
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Bo
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Courage to Change 3/30/18
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Good evening MIP! Decided to post tomorrow's daily a little early, so here goes! The reading discusses how strange the concept of focusing on self appears when we first here it in Al-Anon. We wonder if others will see us as inconsiderate, thoughtless and/or uncaring. Many of us saw these same char...
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Iamhere
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Fiance in Recovery, Question for Partners of Recovering Addicts
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*Hello everyone, I just wanted to update on my ex-fiance who was in treatment for addiction to Oxycontin. I had previously posted under the user name YoungLady but I lost the password and was unable to reset it.* _ My ex-fiance, now "boyfriend" is seven months sober from opiates. The past year was real...
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Courage to Change 3/29/18
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Today's reading discusses kindness and respect towards self! So often, the voices in our heads tell us that we're not good enough or we don't speak the truth. These thoughts reflect the damaged self-esteem that results from living with alcoholism. When we recognize this, we can tell them to be qu...
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Need to slow down
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How do I start this. I am finding having my own space so wonderful, peaceful, liberating. No-one to monitor me, tell me what to do, to please. I have been trying to process my feelings lately and its been so confusing. The new man I am dating said some things that really disturbed me. One is you talk to much...
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New to this
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hi there , I am new to all this and really strufling to deal with it all , we have been together two year and she has been in recovery for 6 months , I feel I come fairly far down the list and we dont get time together, she hardly talks about it all and dont know how long it will be until we get back how she was when I...
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Phil4008
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Spouse so sexually and emotionally abusive /sober now /Will forgive and forget
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Has this happened to someone else. Your spouse actually sexually abusing you and the emotional part was horrible. He has stepped away from t his type of behavior now .. I keep waiting for a I am sorry. Not heard it yet.. I get something like well i shouldnt have done it but you had made me so mad... I knew tha...
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MerryLee
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Question about "Sick Man's Prayer"
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I am very confused about something, and am looking for input/thoughts. The "Sick Man's Prayer" of the Big Book identifies the other person as sick and seeks God's help for him/her. But I am learning that I need to take responsibility and that in interactions the 'problem' is me - with my t...
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doing what i am told
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Today I am doing what I am told to do. I am per procedure for my future colonoscopy. I think I am ready to attempt the procedure. It won't be done right away. I am over 50 & my dad died of colon cancer in 2011.
Pray for me that I make the right decision for me.
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Hoot Nanny
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Courage to Change March 28
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In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author shares their perspective on the slogan "Let go and let God". The author reflects on the pain and exhaustion they cause them selves by holding only something too tightly. On the other hand, by letting go and trusting in their HP, they are free to engag...
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ODAT Reading 3-27-2018
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The ODAT reading for March 27 speaks about.occasionally going to meetings in a negative frame of mind and. when this happens, everybody seems to irritate us,.It is then important to realize that it is our attitude that is at fault. The reading suggests that we must go; back to -Anon fundamentals a...
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First post (Long)
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I feel completely isolated and alone. This is going to be long, and honestly, I dont really expect anyone to read it, but I think just writing it all down will make me feel better. My husband and I have been together for around 9 years, married almost 3. He has always had issues with depression, but was ba...
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Linknomi
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C2C, 3/26
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Perfectionism, procrastination, and paralysis: The writer says these 3 elements are the worst effects of alcoholism upon his life. He avoids taking risks, avoids doing anything badly, and therefore misses out on things he enjoys and making progress. Today's Reminder: Alanon encourages me...
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Lyne
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Grateful
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its been a long time since ive posted here. I thought since being divorced and x hubby not in sight I could sort of ignore Alanon. Yet its message of taking care of ones self is always with me. My present boyfriend who i have been living with for 1yr has way more problems[not alcohol/drugs] than i knew. We d...
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