Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Miranda · Miranda

My mom and I recently had to move into my grandparents house due to problems with our condo rental. My grandfather had a stroke not too long ago, so he has difficulties with moving around, speaking, and communicating efficiently. I have tried to understand that he is having a hard time. But this week he...

nycbt · nycbt

I have had a major slip this pass couple of weeks. I have been very unhappy in my home that I live in. I live with two men one is my husband and the other is his grown 24 yr old son. His son was supposed to stay with us for six months three yrs later he is still here. His son has emontiol problems and has never been t...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Erin sent me a note... Her car got hit, her computer crashed, but sends here well wishes and she misses you all. Josey

daymama · daymama

As I posted a response to Trust, I still sit here thinking that somehow, I need to have control of my life. I guess I am thinking that I am not taking control yet. The alcohal is still controlling my life, the person I think I love is controlling my life and I do not like where it is going. ...

nachoqtpie · nachoqtpie

Well, today, I finally managed to 'let go.' The A has been telling me for a while now that it's over, and I've finally come to terms with that. I realized that by trying to do things so he would see that I'm still the person that he fell in love with was only taking the focus off of my recovery. I realized that i...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( Hello Group))) In today's Courage To Change the topic is learning the slogan "How Important Is It"? In the Today's Reminder it says If I encounter an upsetting situation, I will ask myself How Important Is It? before I respond. I am such a reactionary person. If I felt pa...

Vicky R · Vicky R

hi guys , great to see you here ! and love to read and reply on this board when I can. Anyway going on from what I said last time I started a thread , the guy that I was seeing actually admitted to half-cheating . You'll have to use your imagination about what that means I think. And he also said that he would fin...

Diva · Diva

Attempting to do what we are not trained to do is using bad judgment; we must resist the temptation to assign descriptive words that should only be spoken by a professional who is fully educated in making such pronouncements. (I'm not even too sure about some of them.) A blanket statement, lumping all...

Gemuk91 · Gemuk91

Hello every one I found this site just by looking around. I have been in Al anon for 3 years now safe me from a lot of pain. good to be here. look forward to getting to know you all

marmare · marmare

Just talked to my attorney...LOL (funny 'cause he was my A's friend before my attorney, and last October when I asked A to move out, he went and talked to the attorney about a divorce and attorney told him he couldn't discuss the matter with him because he is MY a...

sandie123 · sandie123

Love ... such a simple word yet a complex term. love n. 1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness....

hersh · hersh

Howdy everyone: Hope everyone is doing well. I am back from Wyoming and it was such a peaceful, wonderful trip I just can't believe it! What a wonderful place. I live in Colorado and have driven through WY once, it was not too exciting. But, this time my Mom and her husband and I d...

moto · moto

Hello my name is Gary and I am looking for a Male sponsor to assist me in working the steps. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend who attends AA. I want to work the program for me. I do attend at least 3 ftf meetings a week and have for a few years. But have never had a sponsor or really worked the step...

Gramma Pat · Gramma Pat

I have been looking for any way to stay home with my A husband and have not been able to find one. I am so darn mad that he has taken my ability to stay home away from me that I could just scream. We live in the house he had before we were married and he is not about to leave so I guess I will. &...

Souljacker · Souljacker

I'm new here & still trying to understand things, that it isn't always my fault. So this is all strange & comforting, if that makes sense. My first post was just a few days ago & is now on page 2. I feel bad that it took awhile for me to thank everyone who had made a response to my thread & this is a thank u to them &...

Freatlast · Freatlast

I keep hearing about the 12 steps. May I ask how to learn more about this part of the program? If anyone can guide me to what literature I should get, that would be appreciated too! I've also heard something about a Daily Blessing book? Thank You!

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

Sometimes I wonder how many times I have to go thru something to finally get it. I have been seperated from my A husband since November. In that time we would have "short lived" periods where we would be talking and trying to work things out. Then there would be other times when I may s...

Souljacker · Souljacker

Don't know where to turn. 1st time here. Read thru some threads & my story seems minimal compared to everyone's heartache here. Not sure where to turn anymore. Met my "A" boyfriend 2 yrs ago. Had our salad days & fell in love quick. Then I noticed the heavy drinkin. Drinking before I met him, during dinne...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

No, I didn't make my meeting because my a/bf called and asked if I could bring his son home, he would tell me why when we got there. Figured he wanted to talk to me so I agreeded. When I got there he told me he had been talking to a friend who had lost his nephew in a drunk driving accident Saturday night. he had b...

nmike · nmike

Well, I posted about not knowing what my HP wanted for me. My HP sure keeps me connected to my AHsober through transmissions on the blink. We drove 6 hours to pick up our car and visit our son in college. So my H drove one car back the same day. He had to finish some work. He avoids deadlines and procras...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

Hi ala-pals, Gosh, I love this program!!! When you show up, and you open up your heart and mind, something comes to you. Tonite in the online meeting, I had an "ah - ha!" as folks were sharing about resentment and getting over it. In the past, I have struggled to work step three b/c I didn't understand...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

That saying or slogan to me has changed meanings in so many ways over the years. First things First was always something that came before me. I gave my attention and time to so many other things and people before I even considered myself. There were pockets of time that I "really too...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

Yes, I found out he cheated on me and I am so crushed and don't know what to do. It is a long story, but I will try to be brief. Found out, conforted him, he denies that he slept with her. Of course. I feel so used and hurt. How could he be with me after he had been with me as if nothing happened? Sometimes...

bluebjade · bluebjade

I just wanted to give an update on the way things are going since I have set the BOUNDRY. Things are going much better in my home. He has come strait home from work everyday, and he did not drink for almost a week. He, of course, made up for lost times this weekend. The diffence...

daisy2 · daisy2

TRUST a big word. I had/have issue with trust. I ask myself, is it only my A that made me feel i cant ever trust anybody, or was the issue deep down in me before i knew him? Anything in childhood, first boyfried, second boyfriend, all the boyfriends? There is a question for all of you, how do you deal w...

TLC2 · TLC2

Well, he walked in here this morning, sober as a judge, took a shower, and went to bed. Guess he's slepping now in my compfy bed, just like nothing happened. Ya know, when this 'other being' invades his body, it always finds ways to hurt me. I know I am having real problems with detatching 'cause it stil...

sarah · sarah

Hi everyone, im new here. I am seeking advice and support as I am a daughter (23) of an alcoholic, she finally admitted to me she still has a problem, she has always said it was in the past. she is currently in hospital undergoing detox (which she has had before) I wondered if anyone can give me adv...

TLC2 · TLC2

Hi again my friends, Well, I did a lot of thinking lately. And ya know, it all came back to one thing. Every time my A has hit the bottle this Summer, was when MY family was here. My kids are well brought up, mannerly, kind and loving.They are not monsters that would 'drive a man to drink'!! Therefore, I...

annmarie · annmarie

I was reading at the weekend. This was the lesson I learned, and thought I'd share it with you.... There are some people who are very critical of others. They spend a lot of time telling us what is wrong with us. These people are not deserving of uor loyalty... Be careful when you hear someone doi...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi guys, I mentioned a week or so ago I was really anxious about mtg my ex bf A for some coffee. I thought it might be a good idea for me to put some closure on our seperation. We never formally broke up just stopped talking when he went to rehab and it was suggested by his sponsor...

daymama · daymama

Well, I'm having another one of those days. I just can't seem to get inside myself to help myself. Rehash, we're married 28 years, my A was sober (no treatment, just AA) for quite a few years and started drinking again. The past 5 years have been crappy. Lots of lies and deceit. ...

nachoqtpie · nachoqtpie

Well, those of you that live in the Cincinati, Ohio area, have probably heard the news of little Marcus Feisel has been missing for more than 24 hours. (For those of you not in the Cincinnati area, news link here) Thi...

rtexas · rtexas

(((Everyone))) Ok... you can laugh if you want but I was a boy scout. I find it odd as I have spent time over the last few months taking stock of who I am that I keep coming back to some very ingrained principals that I have adopted and stuck to throughout my life. Guess I keep trying to figure out w...

TLC2 · TLC2

I remember at one time, years ago now, when I could actually detatch, and honestly didn't care if my A drank or not. I decided to go on with my life, and enjoy myself, do things just for me. Somewhere on this rollercoaster ride, I lost that, and a very important person-me. I started obsces...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Roomies, Over the last year or so, I have experienced a significant shift in several of my close friendships. Due to life circumstances, several of my friends have been so busy with their own lives that they have not been nearly as available as they used to be, and I really have be...

debilyn · debilyn

Well I have probably said this before a million times. But again it hit me. Ok now I get it. again. The mean A or monster does not love me, in fact hates me and everything to do with me. Tells everyone lies about me, they believe it becuz they do not realize it is not the man who I married. My A husband, love...

cher · cher

Hi FRIENDS Just needed to let u know that good things do come to those who wait My hubby is at his first AA meeting tonight, an all of a sudden, out of the blue thing. After supper, he told me that in two hours he was going, deceided that it was time He managed the first step on his own, feel groovy. &...

mimi · mimi

I've started a post once before - about a week ago or so. I am so sad and frustrated right now. Any words of wisdom will be greatly appreciated. I've just started to accept the fact that my husband has troubles with alcohol. Today was rough. He's been estranged from h...

daisygrl4 · daisygrl4

I'm so sorry this is gonna be long but I need to vent....My A's family had a bbq on Saturday which had been planned for many weeks. At these events it's always a drinking feast and when my A was attending AA he tried to distance himself from these get togethers. But for this one he was all game....

gardengal · gardengal

When I first entered alanon I could not find one good point about myself. This disease had beaten my inner soul to a pulp, and there nothing left but a shell of a woman. I can clearly see now that I did care about myself and by attending alanon and giving up on a war that I could not possibley win, I started to g...

frog58 · frog58

Hello dear friends on the journey to health and sanity I've been working step 4 with a new temporary sponsor. I'm not totally comfortable with the way we are working it and am looking for others ESH so I can think about it honestly and see if I'm the problem or if its we don't fit. Thank yo...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I have not disappeared off the face of the earth. I have been busy finally digging in deep into those dreaded boxes left from March, the garbage man must think I am nuts. There were as many boxes on the street this week as the first week I moved in. I have given up "live tv" and the internet in order to take bac...

mimi · mimi

I did it! I went to my first f2f tonight. I was a bit nervous, but oh my gosh - the love and acceptance was awesome! It made me feel like I wasn't nearly as crazy as I thought I was. And it's given me the hope that I can make it through the next weekend. I might feel differently...

Freatlast · Freatlast

In perusing this board I have found that there is a gentleness of spirit here of which I am in awe. All of you are caregivers, lovers........healers. All of you are what we, as human beings, strive to be.........the essence of humanity. Thank you for this place. Laurie

nachoqtpie · nachoqtpie

I found this poem a few weeks back, and I read it often. It really helps me when I'm down, there are a few that are like that, and I know that I may seem a bit cooky to some, but I'm just one of those people that feel words and emotions that are written in a particular way. I hope that you all like this poem as much a...

Mike5056 · Mike5056

Hi all! Still on the relationship rollercoaster but then who here isn't, or hasn't been? I'm really just looking for some advice here. She is still very unstable when it comes to her emotions, almost manic depression. As you may remember from previous posts her alcoholism came to a head when the p...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have been distancing myself from my A. I have been trying to not try to control and push. I know that he will have to do it on his own. I need space to figure out where I am going and what I am doing. But yesterday was my sons 13th birthday. My son didn't receive a phone call from him. He was really upset about it...

jeeves · jeeves

Hello Everyone, I have a question for you to consider. If I don’t want to spend any time with an A spouse who is under the influence daily and not working any program, is that considered “conditional love”? In other words if I don’t want to go out to dinner or take vacation wi...

Freatlast · Freatlast

getting directly to this board. I have to go on a search then click on the link there. For some reason when I save it in my favorites it takes me to Sparks something. Can anyone please put the direct link in a response or tell me what to do? Thank you so much!

Texasjoni21 · Texasjoni21

Hey Ya'll, Here's the "NEW ME!" LOL! From now on I'll be entering chat as "Texasjoni21" and here on the board too! Same email addy, same me, just new nickname! For any newbies, this is a great forum to vent, cry, scream, laugh and make some wonderful new friends who'll support you thru thick 'n thin!...

Freatlast · Freatlast

Hello. I found this site while looking for Alanon meetings in my area. I'm in the process of divorcing my husband who is a life long alcoholic (started drinking when he was 8. He's from East London). He walked out on our first anniversary, a month ago today. He receive...

kitty · kitty

Sorry I posted that. -- Edited by kitty at 04:13, 2006-08-15

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, i have a problem, not huge, but it bothers me. My A is in recovery and we have aftercare meetings every monday in his treatment centre, where he spend 6 weeks. All is going great, sometimes we fight, just normal stuff. He is doing his meeting regulary, but i'm not. Everybody is telling me in af...

debilyn · debilyn

I wanted to thank you for your post to me. Yes it is true we can love them even though they are not here. Well the A would have to know what the monster in him is doing, or he/she would not feel so guilty. When I hurt, and he is him, he always says to me, "It tears me up to see you so hurt." So can you ima...

purpleraven · purpleraven

my A does some service volunteer work, mostly speaking, and he knows a zillion AA jokes. he's told me one about Al-Anon, that i didn't really understand until recently! i'll share ... how many Al-Anons does it take to screw in a lightbulb? none. they all detach and the lightbulb screws it...

Becky1 · Becky1

Today I opened a fortune cookie which read--Honor yourself, and others will Honor you too. When did Alanon start making Fortune Cookies?

Love in Recovery, Becky1

artygirl · artygirl

I just came home from my first al-anon meeting. My A husband was home when I got here and asked me where I'd been. I should have lied, but I told him that I went to an al-anon meeting. He got angry and told me that I shouldn't ever go again because someone might recognize me. I told him that it's anonymous... t...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I got these today in an email - I thought they were great. A little humor on our program way of life trials & tribulations....I hope you all enjoy them as much as I did. Every morning is the dawn of a new error. Aspire to inspire before you expire. My wife and I h...

Rita G · Rita G

Today is my Wedding Anniversary - My AH & I have been married for 14 yrs. Wow - I can't believe it - talk about beating the odds - his 3rd marriage, my 2nd; with his active disease and me without Al-Anon - how did we make it? - Only by the Grace of our HP. So many things go through my mind on ou...

Diva · Diva

Once in a while...just once in a while, I will become annoyed or have my feelings hurt. It could be something my partner has said; a misunderstanding; something someone else has said or done that causes me to feel angry or hurt. It happens to us all. Will I never learn? When I attempt to talk to him, I alway...

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	Tough Stuff Please Help (Preview) My mom and I recently had to move into my grandparents house due to problems with our condo rental. My grandfather had a stroke not too long ago, so he has difficulties with moving around, speaking, and communicating efficiently. I have tried to understand that he is having a hard time. But this week he...	Miranda	9	580	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	a slip (Preview) I have had a major slip this pass couple of weeks. I have been very unhappy in my home that I live in. I live with two men one is my husband and the other is his grown 24 yr old son. His son was supposed to stay with us for six months three yrs later he is still here. His son has emontiol problems and has never been t...	nycbt	7	384	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	heard from ERbin!!! (Preview) Erin sent me a note... Her car got hit, her computer crashed, but sends here well wishes and she misses you all. Josey	jrtjosey	5	451	Aug 17, 2006 by Maria123
	I have to have control of my life..... (Preview) As I posted a response to Trust, I still sit here thinking that somehow, I need to have control of my life. I guess I am thinking that I am not taking control yet. The alcohal is still controlling my life, the person I think I love is controlling my life and I do not like where it is going. ...	daymama	5	400	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	Time to let go (Preview) Well, today, I finally managed to 'let go.' The A has been telling me for a while now that it's over, and I've finally come to terms with that. I realized that by trying to do things so he would see that I'm still the person that he fell in love with was only taking the focus off of my recovery. I realized that i...	nachoqtpie	4	437	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	How Important Is It? (Preview) ((( Hello Group))) In today's Courage To Change the topic is learning the slogan "How Important Is It"? In the Today's Reminder it says If I encounter an upsetting situation, I will ask myself How Important Is It? before I respond. I am such a reactionary person. If I felt pa...	twinmom2	4	356	Aug 17, 2006 by maresie2
	just an update (Preview) hi guys , great to see you here ! and love to read and reply on this board when I can. Anyway going on from what I said last time I started a thread , the guy that I was seeing actually admitted to half-cheating . You'll have to use your imagination about what that means I think. And he also said that he would fin...	Vicky R	3	340	Aug 17, 2006 by Vicky R
	Let us be careful... (Preview) Attempting to do what we are not trained to do is using bad judgment; we must resist the temptation to assign descriptive words that should only be spoken by a professional who is fully educated in making such pronouncements. (I'm not even too sure about some of them.) A blanket statement, lumping all...	Diva	12	600	Aug 17, 2006 by diamond
	New to the Board (Preview) Hello every one I found this site just by looking around. I have been in Al anon for 3 years now safe me from a lot of pain. good to be here. look forward to getting to know you all	Gemuk91	3	291	Aug 17, 2006 by lmt123
	It was nice to hear (Preview) Just talked to my attorney...LOL (funny 'cause he was my A's friend before my attorney, and last October when I asked A to move out, he went and talked to the attorney about a divorce and attorney told him he couldn't discuss the matter with him because he is MY a...	marmare	2	302	Aug 17, 2006 by Karilynn
	Love... what is it anyway??? (Preview) Love ... such a simple word yet a complex term. love n. 1. A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness....	sandie123	8	569	Aug 17, 2006 by canadianguy
	Wide Open Spaces... (Preview) Howdy everyone: Hope everyone is doing well. I am back from Wyoming and it was such a peaceful, wonderful trip I just can't believe it! What a wonderful place. I live in Colorado and have driven through WY once, it was not too exciting. But, this time my Mom and her husband and I d...	hersh	2	506	Aug 17, 2006 by Becky1
	Looking for Temp Male Sponsor Online (Preview) Hello my name is Gary and I am looking for a Male sponsor to assist me in working the steps. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend who attends AA. I want to work the program for me. I do attend at least 3 ftf meetings a week and have for a few years. But have never had a sponsor or really worked the step...	moto	1	333	Aug 17, 2006 by Dolphin123
	thinking of leaving (Preview) I have been looking for any way to stay home with my A husband and have not been able to find one. I am so darn mad that he has taken my ability to stay home away from me that I could just scream. We live in the house he had before we were married and he is not about to leave so I guess I will. &...	Gramma Pat	5	514	Aug 17, 2006 by Belongtome
	A Sincere Heatfelt Thank You (Preview) I'm new here & still trying to understand things, that it isn't always my fault. So this is all strange & comforting, if that makes sense. My first post was just a few days ago & is now on page 2. I feel bad that it took awhile for me to thank everyone who had made a response to my thread & this is a thank u to them &...	Souljacker	3	388	Aug 17, 2006 by hersh
	The 12 Steps (Preview) I keep hearing about the 12 steps. May I ask how to learn more about this part of the program? If anyone can guide me to what literature I should get, that would be appreciated too! I've also heard something about a Daily Blessing book? Thank You!	Freatlast	3	389	Aug 17, 2006 by Freatlast
	Feeling Stupid (Preview) Sometimes I wonder how many times I have to go thru something to finally get it. I have been seperated from my A husband since November. In that time we would have "short lived" periods where we would be talking and trying to work things out. Then there would be other times when I may s...	JulieLynn	4	353	Aug 17, 2006 by omajoy
	Right site or should I be in some relationship site? (Preview) Don't know where to turn. 1st time here. Read thru some threads & my story seems minimal compared to everyone's heartache here. Not sure where to turn anymore. Met my "A" boyfriend 2 yrs ago. Had our salad days & fell in love quick. Then I noticed the heavy drinkin. Drinking before I met him, during dinne...	Souljacker	13	411	Aug 17, 2006 by Souljacker
	Didn't make my meeting (Preview) No, I didn't make my meeting because my a/bf called and asked if I could bring his son home, he would tell me why when we got there. Figured he wanted to talk to me so I agreeded. When I got there he told me he had been talking to a friend who had lost his nephew in a drunk driving accident Saturday night. he had b...	sisdragonfly1957	2	415	Aug 17, 2006 by kitty
	Speaking out of the side of his mouth (Preview) Well, I posted about not knowing what my HP wanted for me. My HP sure keeps me connected to my AHsober through transmissions on the blink. We drove 6 hours to pick up our car and visit our son in college. So my H drove one car back the same day. He had to finish some work. He avoids deadlines and procras...	nmike	3	436	Aug 17, 2006 by BlueCloud
	Turning my will over (Preview) Hi ala-pals, Gosh, I love this program!!! When you show up, and you open up your heart and mind, something comes to you. Tonite in the online meeting, I had an "ah - ha!" as folks were sharing about resentment and getting over it. In the past, I have struggled to work step three b/c I didn't understand...	itsgot2bgd	1	322	Aug 16, 2006 by BlueCloud
	First things First (Preview) That saying or slogan to me has changed meanings in so many ways over the years. First things First was always something that came before me. I gave my attention and time to so many other things and people before I even considered myself. There were pockets of time that I "really too...	twinmom2	4	3980	Aug 16, 2006 by BlueCloud
	Just found out he cheated!! (Preview) Yes, I found out he cheated on me and I am so crushed and don't know what to do. It is a long story, but I will try to be brief. Found out, conforted him, he denies that he slept with her. Of course. I feel so used and hurt. How could he be with me after he had been with me as if nothing happened? Sometimes...	sisdragonfly1957	10	687	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	UPDATE (Preview) I just wanted to give an update on the way things are going since I have set the BOUNDRY. Things are going much better in my home. He has come strait home from work everyday, and he did not drink for almost a week. He, of course, made up for lost times this weekend. The diffence...	bluebjade	3	317	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Trust (Preview) TRUST a big word. I had/have issue with trust. I ask myself, is it only my A that made me feel i cant ever trust anybody, or was the issue deep down in me before i knew him? Anything in childhood, first boyfried, second boyfriend, all the boyfriends? There is a question for all of you, how do you deal w...	daisy2	7	466	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Still hurts (Preview) Well, he walked in here this morning, sober as a judge, took a shower, and went to bed. Guess he's slepping now in my compfy bed, just like nothing happened. Ya know, when this 'other being' invades his body, it always finds ways to hurt me. I know I am having real problems with detatching 'cause it stil...	TLC2	5	416	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Help Please (Preview) Hi everyone, im new here. I am seeking advice and support as I am a daughter (23) of an alcoholic, she finally admitted to me she still has a problem, she has always said it was in the past. she is currently in hospital undergoing detox (which she has had before) I wondered if anyone can give me adv...	sarah	8	470	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Reflections and Discovery (Preview) Hi again my friends, Well, I did a lot of thinking lately. And ya know, it all came back to one thing. Every time my A has hit the bottle this Summer, was when MY family was here. My kids are well brought up, mannerly, kind and loving.They are not monsters that would 'drive a man to drink'!! Therefore, I...	TLC2	4	431	Aug 16, 2006 by TLC2
	those who are critical of us (Preview) I was reading at the weekend. This was the lesson I learned, and thought I'd share it with you.... There are some people who are very critical of others. They spend a lot of time telling us what is wrong with us. These people are not deserving of uor loyalty... Be careful when you hear someone doi...	annmarie	9	581	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Update re: ex bf and coffee (Preview) Hi guys, I mentioned a week or so ago I was really anxious about mtg my ex bf A for some coffee. I thought it might be a good idea for me to put some closure on our seperation. We never formally broke up just stopped talking when he went to rehab and it was suggested by his sponsor...	beachbaby	5	537	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	I feel like I'm living outside the bubble.... (Preview) Well, I'm having another one of those days. I just can't seem to get inside myself to help myself. Rehash, we're married 28 years, my A was sober (no treatment, just AA) for quite a few years and started drinking again. The past 5 years have been crappy. Lots of lies and deceit. ...	daymama	3	525	Aug 16, 2006 by abbyal
	Service to the HP (Preview) Well, those of you that live in the Cincinati, Ohio area, have probably heard the news of little Marcus Feisel has been missing for more than 24 hours. (For those of you not in the Cincinnati area, news link here) Thi...	nachoqtpie	3	276	Aug 16, 2006 by twinmom2
	The last boy scout... (Preview) (((Everyone))) Ok... you can laugh if you want but I was a boy scout. I find it odd as I have spent time over the last few months taking stock of who I am that I keep coming back to some very ingrained principals that I have adopted and stuck to throughout my life. Guess I keep trying to figure out w...	rtexas	6	528	Aug 16, 2006 by drucilla06
	lost my ability to detatch! (Preview) I remember at one time, years ago now, when I could actually detatch, and honestly didn't care if my A drank or not. I decided to go on with my life, and enjoy myself, do things just for me. Somewhere on this rollercoaster ride, I lost that, and a very important person-me. I started obsces...	TLC2	7	496	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Getting the Focus Back Where It Belongs (Preview) Roomies, Over the last year or so, I have experienced a significant shift in several of my close friendships. Due to life circumstances, several of my friends have been so busy with their own lives that they have not been nearly as available as they used to be, and I really have be...	BlueCloud	4	340	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	duh (Preview) Well I have probably said this before a million times. But again it hit me. Ok now I get it. again. The mean A or monster does not love me, in fact hates me and everything to do with me. Tells everyone lies about me, they believe it becuz they do not realize it is not the man who I married. My A husband, love...	debilyn	2	299	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	SO VERY VERY HAPPY (Preview) Hi FRIENDS Just needed to let u know that good things do come to those who wait My hubby is at his first AA meeting tonight, an all of a sudden, out of the blue thing. After supper, he told me that in two hours he was going, deceided that it was time He managed the first step on his own, feel groovy. &...	cher	7	294	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	frustrated and sad (Preview) I've started a post once before - about a week ago or so. I am so sad and frustrated right now. Any words of wisdom will be greatly appreciated. I've just started to accept the fact that my husband has troubles with alcohol. Today was rough. He's been estranged from h...	mimi	8	504	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	bad weekend...again (Preview) I'm so sorry this is gonna be long but I need to vent....My A's family had a bbq on Saturday which had been planned for many weeks. At these events it's always a drinking feast and when my A was attending AA he tried to distance himself from these get togethers. But for this one he was all game....	daisygrl4	4	444	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	Do you still care enough to make changes in your life? (Preview) When I first entered alanon I could not find one good point about myself. This disease had beaten my inner soul to a pulp, and there nothing left but a shell of a woman. I can clearly see now that I did care about myself and by attending alanon and giving up on a war that I could not possibley win, I started to g...	gardengal	7	449	Aug 16, 2006 by maresie2
	the process of working step 4 (Preview) Hello dear friends on the journey to health and sanity I've been working step 4 with a new temporary sponsor. I'm not totally comfortable with the way we are working it and am looking for others ESH so I can think about it honestly and see if I'm the problem or if its we don't fit. Thank yo...	frog58	3	735	Aug 16, 2006 by david62
	to catch you all up (Preview) I have not disappeared off the face of the earth. I have been busy finally digging in deep into those dreaded boxes left from March, the garbage man must think I am nuts. There were as many boxes on the street this week as the first week I moved in. I have given up "live tv" and the internet in order to take bac...	jrtjosey	3	313	Aug 16, 2006 by chris52
	First F2F (Preview) I did it! I went to my first f2f tonight. I was a bit nervous, but oh my gosh - the love and acceptance was awesome! It made me feel like I wasn't nearly as crazy as I thought I was. And it's given me the hope that I can make it through the next weekend. I might feel differently...	mimi	6	442	Aug 16, 2006 by mimi
	Something I've noticed (Preview) In perusing this board I have found that there is a gentleness of spirit here of which I am in awe. All of you are caregivers, lovers........healers. All of you are what we, as human beings, strive to be.........the essence of humanity. Thank you for this place. Laurie	Freatlast	2	349	Aug 16, 2006 by TLC2
	After A While (Preview) I found this poem a few weeks back, and I read it often. It really helps me when I'm down, there are a few that are like that, and I know that I may seem a bit cooky to some, but I'm just one of those people that feel words and emotions that are written in a particular way. I hope that you all like this poem as much a...	nachoqtpie	4	315	Aug 16, 2006 by Freatlast
	How to Deal with Emotional Blackmail? (Preview) Hi all! Still on the relationship rollercoaster but then who here isn't, or hasn't been? I'm really just looking for some advice here. She is still very unstable when it comes to her emotions, almost manic depression. As you may remember from previous posts her alcoholism came to a head when the p...	Mike5056	4	1475	Aug 16, 2006 by Freatlast
	Confused/Angry (Preview) I have been distancing myself from my A. I have been trying to not try to control and push. I know that he will have to do it on his own. I need space to figure out where I am going and what I am doing. But yesterday was my sons 13th birthday. My son didn't receive a phone call from him. He was really upset about it...	DoN4me	7	432	Aug 16, 2006 by evey
	Just a quick question... (Preview) Hello Everyone, I have a question for you to consider. If I don’t want to spend any time with an A spouse who is under the influence daily and not working any program, is that considered “conditional love”? In other words if I don’t want to go out to dinner or take vacation wi...	jeeves	12	683	Aug 16, 2006 by isabela40
	I'm having trouble.... (Preview) getting directly to this board. I have to go on a search then click on the link there. For some reason when I save it in my favorites it takes me to Sparks something. Can anyone please put the direct link in a response or tell me what to do? Thank you so much!	Freatlast	2	319	Aug 15, 2006 by Freatlast
	Hey Ya'll! It's the "NEW ME!!!" (Preview) Hey Ya'll, Here's the "NEW ME!" LOL! From now on I'll be entering chat as "Texasjoni21" and here on the board too! Same email addy, same me, just new nickname! For any newbies, this is a great forum to vent, cry, scream, laugh and make some wonderful new friends who'll support you thru thick 'n thin!...	Texasjoni21	4	327	Aug 15, 2006 by Texasjoni21
	Hello, I'm new here (Preview) Hello. I found this site while looking for Alanon meetings in my area. I'm in the process of divorcing my husband who is a life long alcoholic (started drinking when he was 8. He's from East London). He walked out on our first anniversary, a month ago today. He receive...	Freatlast	8	525	Aug 15, 2006 by Freatlast
	My Friends (Preview) Sorry I posted that. -- Edited by kitty at 04:13, 2006-08-15	kitty	2	349	Aug 15, 2006 by Becky1
	not going to f2f meetings (Preview) Hi all, i have a problem, not huge, but it bothers me. My A is in recovery and we have aftercare meetings every monday in his treatment centre, where he spend 6 weeks. All is going great, sometimes we fight, just normal stuff. He is doing his meeting regulary, but i'm not. Everybody is telling me in af...	daisy2	15	505	Aug 15, 2006 by Becky1
	Becky (Preview) I wanted to thank you for your post to me. Yes it is true we can love them even though they are not here. Well the A would have to know what the monster in him is doing, or he/she would not feel so guilty. When I hurt, and he is him, he always says to me, "It tears me up to see you so hurt." So can you ima...	debilyn	1	321	Aug 15, 2006 by Becky1
	poignant (IMO) joke (Preview) my A does some service volunteer work, mostly speaking, and he knows a zillion AA jokes. he's told me one about Al-Anon, that i didn't really understand until recently! i'll share ... how many Al-Anons does it take to screw in a lightbulb? none. they all detach and the lightbulb screws it...	purpleraven	9	872	Aug 15, 2006 by Rita G
	Fortune Cookie Wisdom (Preview) Today I opened a fortune cookie which read--Honor yourself, and others will Honor you too. When did Alanon start making Fortune Cookies? Love in Recovery, Becky1	Becky1	5	433	Aug 15, 2006 by Rita G
	anyone experience this? (Preview) I just came home from my first al-anon meeting. My A husband was home when I got here and asked me where I'd been. I should have lied, but I told him that I went to an al-anon meeting. He got angry and told me that I shouldn't ever go again because someone might recognize me. I told him that it's anonymous... t...	artygirl	11	607	Aug 15, 2006 by Rita G
	Little Blurbs to Live By.... (Preview) I got these today in an email - I thought they were great. A little humor on our program way of life trials & tribulations....I hope you all enjoy them as much as I did. Every morning is the dawn of a new error. Aspire to inspire before you expire. My wife and I h...	AlaMom	3	283	Aug 15, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Wedding Anniversary (Preview) Today is my Wedding Anniversary - My AH & I have been married for 14 yrs. Wow - I can't believe it - talk about beating the odds - his 3rd marriage, my 2nd; with his active disease and me without Al-Anon - how did we make it? - Only by the Grace of our HP. So many things go through my mind on ou...	Rita G	7	473	Aug 15, 2006 by annmarie
	Typical A behavior? (Preview) Once in a while...just once in a while, I will become annoyed or have my feelings hurt. It could be something my partner has said; a misunderstanding; something someone else has said or done that causes me to feel angry or hurt. It happens to us all. Will I never learn? When I attempt to talk to him, I alway...	Diva	14	696	Aug 15, 2006 by Mike5056
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