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kismetstrand · kismetstrand

The Daffodil Principle Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. "I will come next Tuesday," I promised a little reluctantly on her third call. ...

lilms · lilms

I have read many times or have seen where someone has edited or deleted one of their posts. How does one go about doing this??? I am not the most technologically advanced person but didn't think up until now that I was a complete moron. I have searched and searched this site and cannot fig...

LadyLibra · LadyLibra

The other day A and I were in conflict again. He said to me that he is a grown man and will do whatever he wants. That kind of statement for me indicates he has no respect for the relationship or me and it is time to move on. Any one experience this kind of behavior. I a...

bob6502 · bob6502

Well my lovelies, as you all know I visited the land of cowboys and cactus this last weekend. I did my best to be bring my Al-Anon with me and I wanted to share what I learned about myself. I like doing a continuous tenth step around my recovery. I haven't made a post on this board in a long time. So here goes: 1...

findingmyway · findingmyway

Sorry. Deleted my post. This was probably one of those questions I needed to figure out on my own. -- Edited by findingmyway at 19:40, 2006-09-13

marks girl · marks girl

My A is doing great!!!!! Today is aweek he has been wihtour a drink. I know that isn't long BUT it is a start!!!!! I have learned a lot in a little amount of time. I am doing something for me!!!!! I am going to go back to college and get my masters degree. My A is very proud of me and thinks it is a good ide...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys well...where do i start..... the last few weeks i have been taking a step back from my ex boyf. the "A". he text me to tell me he had moved on, i said good. he asked was i around for the weekend.. i said NO i was going away with the girls for a break. he said FINE. i headed off with the girls up the c...

frog58 · frog58

"The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present" Barbara De Angelis "The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself." Anna Quindlen thank you for sharing...

sandie123 · sandie123

I could use some ESH on self-worth and self-esteem... 2 areas I am definatel lacking. I understand how important they are to my growth. I am reminded regularly from program members how I am a worthwhile person and am loved. I guess it's a good thing I hear that from ohters cause I don't beleive them enoug...

faraway06 · faraway06

Dear friends: Just joined this group a few nights ago and am so grateful for the community. Thank you all for your wisdom, hope and strength. The situation with the A in my life now is challenging, but I'm feeling centered and grounded these days so I thought I'd take a moment to continue to seek othe...

sandie123 · sandie123

It is just my son and me in the house. My A has been gone almost 11 months and my daugther just left for college. We live on just under 10 acres... on a "farm" which is gradually falling down before my eyes. My son and I are trying to get caught up on some of the things around the house which have been neglected f...

MIP family members here in San Antonio. · Diva

Several of us got together here in San Antonio. Most everyone spent the week enjoying one another's company, but I had lunch with the group on Sunday. The restaurant where we chose to meet was closed, so we piled in our vehicles and went elsewhere. Had a great Tex-Mex lunch at "Mi Tierra," which is renow...

shadow1 · shadow1

Hi ((((((((((((Family)))))))))) Today I’m asking for your prayers. I have to go in for a biopsy and I am letting the fear of the unknown get to me. I am scared to death. I have to see the surgeon on Friday and I’m praying that they surgery will be scheduled very soon so I know just what I might be up a...

moto · moto

Hello my fellow Alanoners. I am struggling a little tonight. I am in a relationship with someone in there first 30 days (she at one time had three years not that long ago) Any way she is living with me and she has a 9 year old daughter. I have been doing everything thing. As far as keeping the home and taking c...

ally02 · ally02

HI ALL FELLOW MEMBERS I JUST WANTED TO SAY A BIG, BIG, THANK YOU TO YOU ALL. I HAVE BEEN IN AL-ANON LESS THAN A YEAR, BEEN IN HERE ABOUT FOUR MONTHS. I AM JUST BEGINING TO LET GO OF WHO I THOUGHT I WAS. NOW I KNOW THAT PERSON WAS NOT ME. THAT PERSON WAS A THE CHILD WITHIN ME, I AM GROWING UNDER THE INFLUENC...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hey all! Just got back from our anniversary trip last night about 6pm. We had a fantastic time, went to Put-In-Bay, rode the ferry over to South Bass Island. We had neither one been there, and didn't even know anything about what we would find. It was great, the weather was ov...

irish54 · irish54

Today I've found myself falling deep deep into a self pity chasm and I can't seem to crawl out of it. Withing the past few years I've lost my mother, my bro in law, my sister to suicide, my son to prison, other son to mental illness, and now my daughter wants nothing to do with me since her hsuband died.&nb...

Barbara · Barbara

A year ago I was a mess. Ended up at the docs office where they tried putting me on Zoloft, started back at AlAnon (it had been several years), joined a new gym and a new Church. Husband had just had his left kidney removed due to cancer (he's doing fine now - its been a year). I kept telling myself it was due to...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I got home a couple hours ago from the most awesome 12 step recovery, women only retreat. This was my first year to go and I am so pumped up I don't think I'll come down any day soon. I learned so much about myself, my inner feelings, how to work my steps even further than I have worked them to dat...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

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sld488 · sld488

A few days ago I posted about my bf's daughter, her decision to move back with her biological mother, and now wants to come back. Last night I got a call from the bio mom. She informed me she had called the local authorities to come pick up the daughter to remove her from the home. She had told me how the dau...

frog58 · frog58

In alanon it is suggested that we all do something for someone and not tell them. Michael's Craft Stores (in USA) are running their afghans for charity program again. All they ask participants to do is knit or crochet a rectangles 7" by 9" and drop them off at a Michael's craft store and the...

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, everything was great, and now we are on an impromptu trip (left Sat. morning) in upper Ohio, headed for LAKE ERIE!!! We had dinner at the winery, went home, went to bed Fri, got up Sat and took off on the motorcycle and went thru and Indian Cave yesterday, stayed all night at a hotel in Bellevu...

gardengal · gardengal

For years I believed that things should be a certain way, period! There was a right way and a wrong way! I assumed my way of thinking was the right way. Dealing with active alcoholism distorts our way of thinking rationally, and in my case I began trying to control the drinker, his wa...

Barbara · Barbara

A year has gone by since my husband had his left kidney out due to cancer. He's busy at work, attending union meetings, told his drinking buddy he needs a few months by himself since he's busy w/work. Our son turned 14 and doesnt want his mother to fill up all his free time (Hey I was lucky to have his compani...

Karilynn · Karilynn

A day shall come when shall not hold these hands, nor "see" these dear familiar faces, Therefore, let us cheerish our Loved ones NOW, ...while there is time, and hold them close and treat them with all great tenderness. For soon, ... so soon we must part, ...and we shall not "find" them a...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have a long history with my son's father an A. 18 years, we have had alot of problems lately in reguards to our son. I haven't really talked to him since I joined recovery. But my son had made a decission I had to respect his thoughts and opinions as he is growing in being a teenager. He wanted to go stay with...

WolfSong · WolfSong

Learning to keep the focus on me has been the hardest thing for me to accomplish. Being a mother of five, the sister of 6, the daughter of Daniel and Barbara and the wife of George.... I was totally lost at who I was, who I was suppose to be and what it was that I truly wanted for myself.... My father w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I just want to thank everyone for their support, especially Jerry F for reminding me that I choose my consequences. I put a collect call block on the phone and haven't heard from him again. I wonder here and there about what's going on. He helped me move in so he could theoretically s...

twinkie · twinkie

I really need some help. I am feeling a lot of guilt and anxiety and so unclear which direction to go. I am engaged but wondering should I marry my A? He doesn't drink but just had a relapse. We were stuck in a terrible obessive cycle just before the relapse. We've broken that cy...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Hi (((Everyone))), Just wanted to say hi and let you know what's up with me. This summer has been a whirlwind as I have been making 3 or 4 ftf meetings a week even in the TX heat with no a/c in my car! I have been proud of myself that I (gasp - are you sititng down for this one) - I ASKED FOR HELP.&n...

AllyNon · AllyNon

Hi, I'm SO grateful for the Al-Anon program, it has helped me SO much in the 8 months I've been coming to meetings! I've started working the steps and have a sponsor, and I love love LOVE this program! My question is about making major life decisions -- in particular, whether to marry my boyfr...

kissers · kissers

This is the Hero of the dysfunctional family/alcoholic family. I read another post hmrnrnmm had and wanted to share why those who experience this in the adult years. People who develop panic attacks were often denied their childhoods. Yes, they were children. But often, they were require...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

HI all, Feeling kinda weird... nervous. Anxious. Sometimes, I feel like I do/say things and then I look back at them and think, "Oh gosh, I didn't handle that very well." "I should've worded that better" (to avoid offending someone or hurting his feelings) "Why was I afraid to be clear?" (ins...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Family))) Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I myself have been coming to some tough resolutions. I had counseling with the A on Thursday and told him and the counselor that I'm tired of being a victim and have realized how unhealthy I've become. Whether the A is wi...

nmike · nmike

(((((Good morning friends))))) I am truly humble on a day like today. So many died and so many families have suffered a loss. I hope that somewhere in this is the reason my son is in combat overseas. I spent a day with my AHsober. It never goes very well. But even in that I can find things to put on my gratit...

BeBlessed · BeBlessed

In one of my meetings, someone mentioned their racing thoughts. A lot of people seemed to relate, me included. In my effort to deal with my racing thoughts, I wonder why we even have them. Are these thoughts generally about what needs to get done? Are we always trying to solve our problems,...

pearlygirrl · pearlygirrl

Thank you all, so much, for responding to my last post. Reading your responses has helped me to feel more secure about my action to not stop for him. Today, he stayed in bed all day. Its been 30 hours that he's been in bed. I have gone about my day... offering to talk if he wanted t...

Rita G · Rita G

((MIP Family)) - I have missed all of you - it has been over a week since I have been able to get on line - and what a week it has been - just a brief summary of the chaos - medical issues for me, death of a dear Aunt, a 26 yr old niece in ICU because of her addiction - with only a 10 % chance of survival, our daughter re...

WolfSong · WolfSong

Hello all I am new here... I joined tonight after laying in my bed attempting to feel sorry for myself.. I have been in the program for about 3 years now and feel for the first time in about a year that I am loosing my grip on my serenity.... It has been hard for me to attend f2f meetings as my work hours are sp...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, Well, started my new job this week, have been in training all week.....omg.....it is a biatch...lol. I am sure once I actually start the job...instead of looking at everything on paper form I am going to like it.....wow...I have forgotten how wonderful it is to have a piece of...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Another update on my situation. I had my A/cocaine-addicted husband served with divorce papers on Tuesday. He's still living here in our house with me. He claims to have no place to go. As you can imagine, things are rather uncomfortable around here. He's been doing everything he can t...

WifeinDespair · WifeinDespair

Hello my fellow friends. It has been a week since I wrote my first post and so many of you have shared great words of wisdom that I was able to apply into my life. I wanted to share where I am today, a week later. Last night I went to an open meeting with my A. It was in...

irish54 · irish54

Hello Friends, Well, I did go over to my grandaughter's cross country meet ... she did very well btw.

After it was over we went on into town. On the way in we called my daughters house and got no answer, so we went on by anyway. As I suspected, there was no answer. So we went o...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have many significant obstacles in front of me in my task to get out from under the A. Finances alway seem to have been part of the issue in my dealing with the A. Another is my depression. I overate to compensate for that. In the last few weeks I have joined o.a. and lost 13 lbs I am on my way to m...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, I had a hard weekend visit with my mom this last week. My parents are splitting up after 30 yrs and I find myself stuck somewhere in the middle. I think what it boils down to is that mom wants me to pick sides, and since i dont want to, she assumes i'm on dad's side. I feel like i'm a k...

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, since i quit my job (still have 3 weeks left) i'm in a great form, so here is another joke have a nice day Love Daisy His and Her Road Trip HERS: Pulls off at wrong exit. opens window asks directions of a knowledgeable police officer Arrives at destination presently. HIS: Pulls off at wron...

kingston · kingston

My A continues to Drink and drive, even after his last dui distroyed us and has still not been settled, I just can't believe he keeps doing it. I came home from work and he went to work out drunk again and took my car. What kind of mental defective works out drunk. We had a boundry of n...

marks girl · marks girl

He will be in home sometime today. THe doctor says he is doing good enough to come home. Seems he was in detox not rehab. I can't wait to see him this afternoon. course Ima little nervous to. I just keep telling myself to take one day at a time. barb

marmare · marmare

I know I'm not supposed to try and figure out what is going on in the A's head, but it's so hard at times. I think my A has given up drinking, but has not said a word to me. His last attempt was last November and it lasted until the first weekend of February. After the conversation this pas...

maresie2 · maresie2

In a week and a half his mother goes to live in another state and will be gone out of my life for probably ever that is physically although I have not physically seen her for years, her presence around the A is ever present.... And like my anger at the A a lot of anger is swirling at her. She was incredib...

Gailey · Gailey

Next month it will be one year since my son and dil separated. Everyone seems to be going forward in their lives except me. I am trying but some days when I think about each of them dating someone else and maybe starting new lives, saddness just overwhelms me. I have 2 granddaughters that we all love dearl...

marmare · marmare

If you look at my last posting about trying to figure stuff out you will see that a prayer will help so much. My HP is giving me just what I need when I am ready for it. I have to smile at this one....I picked up my "Learning to Let Go" for my reading this morning, Sept. 9th, and today's reading i...

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi All, time to time i browse in AA site and found this, i had to share A Spanish teacher was explaining to her class that in Spanish, unlike English, nouns are designated as either masculine or feminine. ''House'' for instance, is feminine: ''la casa.'' ''Pencil,'' however, is masculi...

pearlygirrl · pearlygirrl

I'm so confused. There's no meeting available to me tonight, and I'm not good about using the phone list... so I come here. Thank you for being here. Background: My husband is an alcoholic. Has been in rehab, 3 weeks in June, and 2 weeks in August that was mandated by the law.&...

tigerlilli44 · tigerlilli44

I met my friend Byron in 1994 when we went to music school together in Princeton, NJ. He was one of the most charismatic, charming people I had ever met. He charmed you into anything with his smile. He had been pretty sheltered till college and the first week of school he had his first alcoholic drink and t...

sld488 · sld488

Has anyone heard from Jonibaloni? I happened to remember that today was her birthday and was shocked to find her status was deleted. If you are still out there Jonibaloni, Happy Birthday. Not to be confused with Texasjoni21 formally known as Jonibaloni21. (Come to think of it, haven't se...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am on the verge of shutting down again. I will continue to do my readings but I do not want to go into the public. I started going to meetings around Feb/ March of 2006. I suppose I pick the lunch bunch hour because it was bound to be small. Thursday was my first time in awhile I have been able to get to a f2f m...

Lindy · Lindy

I finally succeeded in detaching myself completely from my AH. I probably didn't do this in the exact right way, but it is working. I met someone else who lives about 40 miles from me and I've been spending some time with him. I am not crying on his shoulder or using him as a crutch, but it is nice to spend tim...

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, tomorrow (September 9) is my AH and my 6th wedding anniversary. After the crazy stuff he did the other night, he has calmed down. And I have remained calm throughout. This must surely be God (or HP'S) Blessing on me. Serenity! AHHHH...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Start Today (An old story revisited) (Preview) The Daffodil Principle Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over." I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead. "I will come next Tuesday," I promised a little reluctantly on her third call. ...	kismetstrand	7	524	Sep 13, 2006 by nigel3
	How on earth do you edit a post? (Preview) I have read many times or have seen where someone has edited or deleted one of their posts. How does one go about doing this??? I am not the most technologically advanced person but didn't think up until now that I was a complete moron. I have searched and searched this site and cannot fig...	lilms	1	242	Sep 13, 2006 by sld488
	Grown Man (Preview) The other day A and I were in conflict again. He said to me that he is a grown man and will do whatever he wants. That kind of statement for me indicates he has no respect for the relationship or me and it is time to move on. Any one experience this kind of behavior. I a...	LadyLibra	5	305	Sep 13, 2006 by LadyLibra
	Texas Adventure (Preview) Well my lovelies, as you all know I visited the land of cowboys and cactus this last weekend. I did my best to be bring my Al-Anon with me and I wanted to share what I learned about myself. I like doing a continuous tenth step around my recovery. I haven't made a post on this board in a long time. So here goes: 1...	bob6502	4	365	Sep 13, 2006 by Faith73
	Repeating the pattern? (Preview) Sorry. Deleted my post. This was probably one of those questions I needed to figure out on my own. -- Edited by findingmyway at 19:40, 2006-09-13	findingmyway	0	282	Sep 13, 2006 by findingmyway
	update (Preview) My A is doing great!!!!! Today is aweek he has been wihtour a drink. I know that isn't long BUT it is a start!!!!! I have learned a lot in a little amount of time. I am doing something for me!!!!! I am going to go back to college and get my masters degree. My A is very proud of me and thinks it is a good ide...	marks girl	1	274	Sep 13, 2006 by Karilynn
	horrible end to great weekend (Preview) hi guys well...where do i start..... the last few weeks i have been taking a step back from my ex boyf. the "A". he text me to tell me he had moved on, i said good. he asked was i around for the weekend.. i said NO i was going away with the girls for a break. he said FINE. i headed off with the girls up the c...	Rebecca	10	496	Sep 13, 2006 by Becky1
	Quotes that touch me........... (Preview) "The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present" Barbara De Angelis "The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself." Anna Quindlen thank you for sharing...	frog58	1	352	Sep 13, 2006 by DoN4me
	self worth and self esteem (Preview) I could use some ESH on self-worth and self-esteem... 2 areas I am definatel lacking. I understand how important they are to my growth. I am reminded regularly from program members how I am a worthwhile person and am loved. I guess it's a good thing I hear that from ohters cause I don't beleive them enoug...	sandie123	6	348	Sep 13, 2006 by faraway06
	Making amends vs. having no boundaries...? (Preview) Dear friends: Just joined this group a few nights ago and am so grateful for the community. Thank you all for your wisdom, hope and strength. The situation with the A in my life now is challenging, but I'm feeling centered and grounded these days so I thought I'd take a moment to continue to seek othe...	faraway06	4	431	Sep 13, 2006 by faraway06
	Stuggling with my son (Preview) It is just my son and me in the house. My A has been gone almost 11 months and my daugther just left for college. We live on just under 10 acres... on a "farm" which is gradually falling down before my eyes. My son and I are trying to get caught up on some of the things around the house which have been neglected f...	sandie123	5	390	Sep 13, 2006 by MsgBo
	MIP family members here in San Antonio. (Preview) Several of us got together here in San Antonio. Most everyone spent the week enjoying one another's company, but I had lunch with the group on Sunday. The restaurant where we chose to meet was closed, so we piled in our vehicles and went elsewhere. Had a great Tex-Mex lunch at "Mi Tierra," which is renow...	Diva	3	397	Sep 13, 2006 by Rita G
	Much needed prayers please (Preview) Hi ((((((((((((Family)))))))))) Today I’m asking for your prayers. I have to go in for a biopsy and I am letting the fear of the unknown get to me. I am scared to death. I have to see the surgeon on Friday and I’m praying that they surgery will be scheduled very soon so I know just what I might be up a...	shadow1	13	531	Sep 13, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Back and forth between Self Righteous and Guilt (Preview) Hello my fellow Alanoners. I am struggling a little tonight. I am in a relationship with someone in there first 30 days (she at one time had three years not that long ago) Any way she is living with me and she has a 9 year old daughter. I have been doing everything thing. As far as keeping the home and taking c...	moto	4	559	Sep 13, 2006 by moto
	FINDING MYSELF AT LAST (Preview) HI ALL FELLOW MEMBERS I JUST WANTED TO SAY A BIG, BIG, THANK YOU TO YOU ALL. I HAVE BEEN IN AL-ANON LESS THAN A YEAR, BEEN IN HERE ABOUT FOUR MONTHS. I AM JUST BEGINING TO LET GO OF WHO I THOUGHT I WAS. NOW I KNOW THAT PERSON WAS NOT ME. THAT PERSON WAS A THE CHILD WITHIN ME, I AM GROWING UNDER THE INFLUENC...	ally02	1	303	Sep 13, 2006 by shadow1
	This Stuff Really Works (Preview) Hey all! Just got back from our anniversary trip last night about 6pm. We had a fantastic time, went to Put-In-Bay, rode the ferry over to South Bass Island. We had neither one been there, and didn't even know anything about what we would find. It was great, the weather was ov...	Becky1	5	510	Sep 13, 2006 by Lexie
	i'm soooo tired (Preview) Today I've found myself falling deep deep into a self pity chasm and I can't seem to crawl out of it. Withing the past few years I've lost my mother, my bro in law, my sister to suicide, my son to prison, other son to mental illness, and now my daughter wants nothing to do with me since her hsuband died.&nb...	irish54	4	359	Sep 13, 2006 by Karilynn
	is feeling like I can go out and do things myself part of the recovery? (Preview) A year ago I was a mess. Ended up at the docs office where they tried putting me on Zoloft, started back at AlAnon (it had been several years), joined a new gym and a new Church. Husband had just had his left kidney removed due to cancer (he's doing fine now - its been a year). I kept telling myself it was due to...	Barbara	6	402	Sep 13, 2006 by nmike
	Heart to Heart Retreat (Preview) I got home a couple hours ago from the most awesome 12 step recovery, women only retreat. This was my first year to go and I am so pumped up I don't think I'll come down any day soon. I learned so much about myself, my inner feelings, how to work my steps even further than I have worked them to dat...	Mobirdie	7	4512	Sep 13, 2006 by Karilynn
	" I love you enough to............. " Poem Thanks to Cilla (Preview) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~	hmrnrnmm	1	4700	Sep 13, 2006 by smpoli
	Battle lines almost drawn (Preview) A few days ago I posted about my bf's daughter, her decision to move back with her biological mother, and now wants to come back. Last night I got a call from the bio mom. She informed me she had called the local authorities to come pick up the daughter to remove her from the home. She had told me how the dau...	sld488	3	397	Sep 12, 2006 by lin0606
	doing something for someone less fortunate (Preview) In alanon it is suggested that we all do something for someone and not tell them. Michael's Craft Stores (in USA) are running their afghans for charity program again. All they ask participants to do is knit or crochet a rectangles 7" by 9" and drop them off at a Michael's craft store and the...	frog58	3	377	Sep 12, 2006 by peewee
	Our Anniversary (Preview) Well, everything was great, and now we are on an impromptu trip (left Sat. morning) in upper Ohio, headed for LAKE ERIE!!! We had dinner at the winery, went home, went to bed Fri, got up Sat and took off on the motorcycle and went thru and Indian Cave yesterday, stayed all night at a hotel in Bellevu...	Becky1	9	420	Sep 12, 2006 by Becky1
	QUESTION? DO YOU REALIZE THAT LIFE IS NOT BALCK AND WHITE OR GOOD AND BAD, BUT RATHER SOMEWHERE INBETWEEN? (Preview) For years I believed that things should be a certain way, period! There was a right way and a wrong way! I assumed my way of thinking was the right way. Dealing with active alcoholism distorts our way of thinking rationally, and in my case I began trying to control the drinker, his wa...	gardengal	2	331	Sep 12, 2006 by Christy
	life is running smoothly - do i need alanon (Preview) A year has gone by since my husband had his left kidney out due to cancer. He's busy at work, attending union meetings, told his drinking buddy he needs a few months by himself since he's busy w/work. Our son turned 14 and doesnt want his mother to fill up all his free time (Hey I was lucky to have his compani...	Barbara	10	600	Sep 12, 2006 by Becky1
	In remembrance (Preview) A day shall come when shall not hold these hands, nor "see" these dear familiar faces, Therefore, let us cheerish our Loved ones NOW, ...while there is time, and hold them close and treat them with all great tenderness. For soon, ... so soon we must part, ...and we shall not "find" them a...	Karilynn	6	409	Sep 12, 2006 by Becky1
	Things that finally needed to be said (Preview) I have a long history with my son's father an A. 18 years, we have had alot of problems lately in reguards to our son. I haven't really talked to him since I joined recovery. But my son had made a decission I had to respect his thoughts and opinions as he is growing in being a teenager. He wanted to go stay with...	DoN4me	1	322	Sep 12, 2006 by rtexas
	Keeping the Focus on Me! (Preview) Learning to keep the focus on me has been the hardest thing for me to accomplish. Being a mother of five, the sister of 6, the daughter of Daniel and Barbara and the wife of George.... I was totally lost at who I was, who I was suppose to be and what it was that I truly wanted for myself.... My father w...	WolfSong	2	478	Sep 12, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Thanks for all your support (Preview) I just want to thank everyone for their support, especially Jerry F for reminding me that I choose my consequences. I put a collect call block on the phone and haven't heard from him again. I wonder here and there about what's going on. He helped me move in so he could theoretically s...	carolinagirl	1	270	Sep 12, 2006 by Tiger2006
	guilt, anxiety....help? (Preview) I really need some help. I am feeling a lot of guilt and anxiety and so unclear which direction to go. I am engaged but wondering should I marry my A? He doesn't drink but just had a relapse. We were stuck in a terrible obessive cycle just before the relapse. We've broken that cy...	twinkie	6	447	Sep 12, 2006 by babysteps
	Update (Preview) Hi (((Everyone))), Just wanted to say hi and let you know what's up with me. This summer has been a whirlwind as I have been making 3 or 4 ftf meetings a week even in the TX heat with no a/c in my car! I have been proud of myself that I (gasp - are you sititng down for this one) - I ASKED FOR HELP.&n...	cedarpines	6	280	Sep 11, 2006 by cedarpines
	should I marry this guy? (Preview) Hi, I'm SO grateful for the Al-Anon program, it has helped me SO much in the 8 months I've been coming to meetings! I've started working the steps and have a sponsor, and I love love LOVE this program! My question is about making major life decisions -- in particular, whether to marry my boyfr...	AllyNon	16	579	Sep 11, 2006 by AllyNon
	to hmrnrnmm & Agoraphobia (Preview) This is the Hero of the dysfunctional family/alcoholic family. I read another post hmrnrnmm had and wanted to share why those who experience this in the adult years. People who develop panic attacks were often denied their childhoods. Yes, they were children. But often, they were require...	kissers	0	392	Sep 11, 2006 by kissers
	44 going on 13 (Preview) HI all, Feeling kinda weird... nervous. Anxious. Sometimes, I feel like I do/say things and then I look back at them and think, "Oh gosh, I didn't handle that very well." "I should've worded that better" (to avoid offending someone or hurting his feelings) "Why was I afraid to be clear?" (ins...	itsgot2bgd	6	531	Sep 11, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	Coming to some tough realizations. (Preview) (((Hello Family))) Hope everyone is having a good weekend. I myself have been coming to some tough resolutions. I had counseling with the A on Thursday and told him and the counselor that I'm tired of being a victim and have realized how unhealthy I've become. Whether the A is wi...	twinmom2	4	421	Sep 11, 2006 by Rita G
	Humble .... (Preview) (((((Good morning friends))))) I am truly humble on a day like today. So many died and so many families have suffered a loss. I hope that somewhere in this is the reason my son is in combat overseas. I spent a day with my AHsober. It never goes very well. But even in that I can find things to put on my gratit...	nmike	2	389	Sep 11, 2006 by Rita G
	Thinking about racing thoughts (Preview) In one of my meetings, someone mentioned their racing thoughts. A lot of people seemed to relate, me included. In my effort to deal with my racing thoughts, I wonder why we even have them. Are these thoughts generally about what needs to get done? Are we always trying to solve our problems,...	BeBlessed	4	451	Sep 11, 2006 by hersh
	was this control? part 2 is this my illness? (Preview) Thank you all, so much, for responding to my last post. Reading your responses has helped me to feel more secure about my action to not stop for him. Today, he stayed in bed all day. Its been 30 hours that he's been in bed. I have gone about my day... offering to talk if he wanted t...	pearlygirrl	2	474	Sep 11, 2006 by Diva
	Trying to Breathe "Sane" Air (Preview) ((MIP Family)) - I have missed all of you - it has been over a week since I have been able to get on line - and what a week it has been - just a brief summary of the chaos - medical issues for me, death of a dear Aunt, a 26 yr old niece in ICU because of her addiction - with only a 10 % chance of survival, our daughter re...	Rita G	6	953	Sep 11, 2006 by cedarpines
	New Here (Preview) Hello all I am new here... I joined tonight after laying in my bed attempting to feel sorry for myself.. I have been in the program for about 3 years now and feel for the first time in about a year that I am loosing my grip on my serenity.... It has been hard for me to attend f2f meetings as my work hours are sp...	WolfSong	6	355	Sep 10, 2006 by nmike
	Stepping out of the Darkness (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, Well, started my new job this week, have been in training all week.....omg.....it is a biatch...lol. I am sure once I actually start the job...instead of looking at everything on paper form I am going to like it.....wow...I have forgotten how wonderful it is to have a piece of...	Andrea12	5	398	Sep 10, 2006 by mel123
	Guilt Trip (Preview) Hello Another update on my situation. I had my A/cocaine-addicted husband served with divorce papers on Tuesday. He's still living here in our house with me. He claims to have no place to go. As you can imagine, things are rather uncomfortable around here. He's been doing everything he can t...	artygirl	5	317	Sep 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Wanted to Share (Preview) Hello my fellow friends. It has been a week since I wrote my first post and so many of you have shared great words of wisdom that I was able to apply into my life. I wanted to share where I am today, a week later. Last night I went to an open meeting with my A. It was in...	WifeinDespair	3	390	Sep 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Update;What do I do? (Preview) Hello Friends, Well, I did go over to my grandaughter's cross country meet ... she did very well btw. After it was over we went on into town. On the way in we called my daughters house and got no answer, so we went on by anyway. As I suspected, there was no answer. So we went o...	irish54	4	561	Sep 10, 2006 by Tiger2006
	making obstacles smaller (Preview) I have many significant obstacles in front of me in my task to get out from under the A. Finances alway seem to have been part of the issue in my dealing with the A. Another is my depression. I overate to compensate for that. In the last few weeks I have joined o.a. and lost 13 lbs I am on my way to m...	maresie2	2	527	Sep 10, 2006 by Jerry F
	doubting myself (Preview) Hi all, I had a hard weekend visit with my mom this last week. My parents are splitting up after 30 yrs and I find myself stuck somewhere in the middle. I think what it boils down to is that mom wants me to pick sides, and since i dont want to, she assumes i'm on dad's side. I feel like i'm a k...	mastiff	8	467	Sep 10, 2006 by mastiff
	Good days (Preview) Hi all, since i quit my job (still have 3 weeks left) i'm in a great form, so here is another joke have a nice day Love Daisy His and Her Road Trip HERS: Pulls off at wrong exit. opens window asks directions of a knowledgeable police officer Arrives at destination presently. HIS: Pulls off at wron...	daisy2	0	256	Sep 10, 2006 by daisy2
	DRINKING AND DRIVING AGAIN!! (Preview) My A continues to Drink and drive, even after his last dui distroyed us and has still not been settled, I just can't believe he keeps doing it. I came home from work and he went to work out drunk again and took my car. What kind of mental defective works out drunk. We had a boundry of n...	kingston	19	655	Sep 9, 2006 by Jeannie
	mark is coming home (Preview) He will be in home sometime today. THe doctor says he is doing good enough to come home. Seems he was in detox not rehab. I can't wait to see him this afternoon. course Ima little nervous to. I just keep telling myself to take one day at a time. barb	marks girl	6	330	Sep 9, 2006 by Jeannie
	I'm not supposed to figure him out.... (Preview) I know I'm not supposed to try and figure out what is going on in the A's head, but it's so hard at times. I think my A has given up drinking, but has not said a word to me. His last attempt was last November and it lasted until the first weekend of February. After the conversation this pas...	marmare	3	472	Sep 9, 2006 by maresie2
	in a week an a half his mother goes (Preview) In a week and a half his mother goes to live in another state and will be gone out of my life for probably ever that is physically although I have not physically seen her for years, her presence around the A is ever present.... And like my anger at the A a lot of anger is swirling at her. She was incredib...	maresie2	3	348	Sep 9, 2006 by Andrea12
	JUST FEELING SAD TODAY (Preview) Next month it will be one year since my son and dil separated. Everyone seems to be going forward in their lives except me. I am trying but some days when I think about each of them dating someone else and maybe starting new lives, saddness just overwhelms me. I have 2 granddaughters that we all love dearl...	Gailey	6	325	Sep 9, 2006 by omajoy
	Coincidence, I think not (Preview) If you look at my last posting about trying to figure stuff out you will see that a prayer will help so much. My HP is giving me just what I need when I am ready for it. I have to smile at this one....I picked up my "Learning to Let Go" for my reading this morning, Sept. 9th, and today's reading i...	marmare	3	492	Sep 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	Funny (Preview) Hi All, time to time i browse in AA site and found this, i had to share A Spanish teacher was explaining to her class that in Spanish, unlike English, nouns are designated as either masculine or feminine. ''House'' for instance, is feminine: ''la casa.'' ''Pencil,'' however, is masculi...	daisy2	2	400	Sep 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	was this control? (Preview) I'm so confused. There's no meeting available to me tonight, and I'm not good about using the phone list... so I come here. Thank you for being here. Background: My husband is an alcoholic. Has been in rehab, 3 weeks in June, and 2 weeks in August that was mandated by the law.&...	pearlygirrl	5	469	Sep 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Death of a friend (long) (Preview) I met my friend Byron in 1994 when we went to music school together in Princeton, NJ. He was one of the most charismatic, charming people I had ever met. He charmed you into anything with his smile. He had been pretty sheltered till college and the first week of school he had his first alcoholic drink and t...	tigerlilli44	6	505	Sep 9, 2006 by maresie2
	Jonibaloni where are you? (Preview) Has anyone heard from Jonibaloni? I happened to remember that today was her birthday and was shocked to find her status was deleted. If you are still out there Jonibaloni, Happy Birthday. Not to be confused with Texasjoni21 formally known as Jonibaloni21. (Come to think of it, haven't se...	sld488	0	241	Sep 9, 2006 by sld488
	I do not need people in my life anymore. (Preview) I am on the verge of shutting down again. I will continue to do my readings but I do not want to go into the public. I started going to meetings around Feb/ March of 2006. I suppose I pick the lunch bunch hour because it was bound to be small. Thursday was my first time in awhile I have been able to get to a f2f m...	hmrnrnmm	6	429	Sep 9, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Decision to divorce has been made (Preview) I finally succeeded in detaching myself completely from my AH. I probably didn't do this in the exact right way, but it is working. I met someone else who lives about 40 miles from me and I've been spending some time with him. I am not crying on his shoulder or using him as a crutch, but it is nice to spend tim...	Lindy	5	580	Sep 9, 2006 by Tammy
	Blessed Be the Tie That Binds (Preview) Well, tomorrow (September 9) is my AH and my 6th wedding anniversary. After the crazy stuff he did the other night, he has calmed down. And I have remained calm throughout. This must surely be God (or HP'S) Blessing on me. Serenity! AHHHH...	Becky1	7	435	Sep 9, 2006 by Karilynn
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