Finally,      I just prayed the serenity prayer....... instead of applying the words or trying to make them fit into the situation the way I wanted them to     I just prayed!              Oh what HP revealed to me.

I was wrong.  To think that starting a war with the bio mother was right for the sake of the child. That would only damage the child more. I believe my heart was in the right place but my thinking was not. The mother and I must be allies not enemies. Being allies is in the best interest of the child. 

I called the mother and had a real heart to heart with her. I actually shared my ESH's with her. Told her of experiences I had with my own child. Encouraging her that she was a great mom. Most of all the hopes I had for a stronger bond between mother and daughter. And in turn she shared with me.   What a blessing this is. I had always felt we had "gotten along" before but after we shared I feel like I have a new friend.

 What ever you want to call it ....  Let go and Let God, .... turning my will over to God    or just.... listening to what HP is trying to tell me.         

I'm just thankful for HP!  And for everyone here at MIP.