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Dilemma
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I feel hopeless right now and was wondering what to do. I'm recently separated from my A. It's been a long road and through a year of al-anon I've managed to try and treat him with respect and kindness and I've let go of most of the anger. I'm obviously not perfect in this area, but there has been a huge chang...
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jennifer9
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talking out loud about an alanoner coming alive
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I am struggling to keep my home. I am at the point where i am thinking about what I plan to do. decided since my last learning experience I am in a new chapter of my life. I have to find who i am again and what I really want.
Been experiencing things I am tired of. When I depend on me I am much happier. When I don'...
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debilyn
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abusive son
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Now my son has gone bonkers. He is bi polar. The last two days he has called and been awful. Sounding so like the A when he emotionally abused me.
When he called last night I was shocked how awful he was. Does not cuss much but any is too much for me. I won't go into it.
I immediately told my self it is his dis...
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debilyn
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Inlaws who needs 'em
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I am brand new into Alanon I haven't even went to my first meeting yet I actually went to an AA meeting with my husband and was approached by two different women about Alanon so I decided I would try it out. My problem is that I am having a very hard time right now with my husband being in jail and my family diso...
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mgeneralpatton
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hp knows when i'm ready
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i haven't spoken to my ex inlaws in years now. i saw my sil and mil on christmas eve but i didn't speak to them nor they to me and i was fine with that. i actually let it go and really didn't give them any thought at all which is huge progress for me. but my ex sil called the other day and left a message for me to call...
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serendipity
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Found a meeting
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I found a meeting, tomorrow night at 7:00, I can walk to it (about a mile, but I love to walk). I don't want my H to know about it. Is that normal? To tell the truth, I've been terrified that we would find these posts, I even had a nightmare about it. I just feel like I have been so broken down that I need to rebuil...
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RainyJamie
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Year 2 of the Year of Me
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Today begins the second Year of Jill, 2 of 7. I wrote about this a year ago. I realized all our attention had been on my active A husband for the 7 years we’d known each other, and I claimed the next 7 for myself. It’s not easy! I have his complete agreement. He has written me two songs for the Year of Jill, and w...
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Jill
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A good share
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I want to share with you all the miracles that are happening in my life. The following was sent to me by a member of the group I chair at our church. She came into the group saying that she did not believe in God. I told her that she didn't have to and for the time being she could use mine as h...
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Mobirdie
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Am I doing the wrong thing?
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I am new to the program. My boyfriend is my A. I'm trying to learn how to stop enabling him, so I'm reading a ton of stuff. So many things I'm reading say not to let the A drive when under the influence. This morning about 3 am, my boyfriend came to bed, obviously drunk. When our alarm went off at...
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abryann
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Another DUI - Happy New Year!
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Happy New Year (almost).
I just got off the phone with the police. My AH was taken to the hospital by ambulance a short time ago. When he sobers up, he'll be charged with DUI again. After hitting a telephone pole and bouncing off a parked car, he made it home, only to pass out in the dr...
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lmw
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Words (how we see them)
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Language can be a fascinating thing. One single word can have so many different meanings depending on how it is said, who is reading it, what context it is used in, and so on. One word can be positive to one person, yet negative to another. Why do you suppose that is? I rather suspect it has to do with our own...
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kismetstrand
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my mantra
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happy new year everyone
for me i think this year is truly going to be new...me focusing on new ways of handling my emotions,my relationships,new ways of reaching out for the help i need, new ways of trusting myself and being wrecked by the momentary difficulties, new ways of saying no and knowing t...
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Fifi
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All the other addictions
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After our last blowout my husband made an effort not to drink (it lasted about 36 hours). What stood out for me were the other behaviors that hte alcohol covered up. We have been married for ten years and there has always been something semi-destrucive he was engulfed in. We've had issues with pornogra...
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RainyJamie
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Welcoming a new Day and a New year
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A friend in recovery just gave this to me. Thought it would be
a great way to start the New Year and Day for All
Please enjoy and have a Wonderful New Year!!
This is from a daily affirmation book:
Today I have a fresh start. I choose to begin a new letting go of un...
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mmerlino
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Prayers please?
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(((Family)))
I'm asking for extra prayers for my nephew Joey, he is my husband's oldest sister's boy. He is in critical condition at this time.
After begging for his life and telling the robber he had 3 kids and a wife, when he turned around to get the money the *&*^%#^&** shot him in the back. Then...
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Christy
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a funeral and a house fire
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I went to a funeral on Saturday. So much has been stuck in my head since.
Was this person an A? I don't know. I do know that he died alone, and that he was dead for almost 3 days before anyone found him. I do know that he drank what I consider too much but I think my opinion may be ske...
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lilms
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Update
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I was off work for a good long time for the holiday and haven't been on lately. I just wanted to give an update. I haven't been to f2f meetings lately I'm just really not excited by the group here and there are no others nearby. The A came over for xmas and stayed two nights. When I...
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carolinagirl
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new beginnings
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Hi everyone, happy new year...new beginnings!
I left my Abf a few weeks ago. I had no choice, his drinking was getting worse and worse. I had to get away and have now severed all ties. He's stopped calling anyway, and stopped pretending we could be friends. I suppose we tried to remain friends so as t...
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annmarie
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New Years Eve
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I was wondering if all people were a bit worried because it is New Years Eve-and all the drinking etc. I hope and pray no one is killed by drunken drivers and everyone is safe. Does anyone else have abit of apprehension about tonite?
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meagain
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I started the new year bringing up old stuff. Wrong?
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Did I do the wrong thing? I decided I wanted to make this year different than this by opening up a disussion with my A about what's been going on with us these past 3 mos. I did not intend to have a big disussion really - I just wanted to open the door so we can deal with it little by little si...
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jaja
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LOL...... History
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december the 30th 2006 will be marked in the annals of history as the day i LOL.
today will be marked as the day COL [cried out loud]
neither is done very often. maybe never.
we had an incident here today and i did cry out loud.
he asked me sarcastically "what is the point"?
i replied, "the point i...
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jewely
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One year and a few months ago.....
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I came here Sept/Oct of 2005 a wreck and felt alone and confused. Once I stumbled upon this wonderful population of people like me, I didn't feel alone anymore. I came here with hard earned knowledge of what alcohol can do and came equipped with emotional scars and still gaping wou...
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ragingchild
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Taking a stand
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I started formulating a plan for myself. It has been 2 years since my AHsober said he was outta here and wanted a divorce. No papers filled as of yet. He threatens and I think that that is part of his game. He lies, withholds info, forgets, won't introduce me to his new friends, and has made some really poor...
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nmike
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Want to talk to someone in similiar situation
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Hi,
This is my first time posting on here. I've been with my husband for 9 yrs. We have 2 children together and he has 2 from a previous relationship. When I met him, he was 28 and an active alcoholic. We would go out together in the beginning and I would drink with him. I...
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Divinity
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Lesson on Living, Loving and Growing
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I was thought I would share something positive with you, some of my experience, strength and *hope that I am now reflecting on. I feel this it is part of my healing by being able to do so after my last vent update here. My son turned 17 December 4th. I will gloat a bit too with this – I admit I have a knack for giv...
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tea2
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To clarify about my A and I--need some help on how to fix it.
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I reposted to my post a bit back about my A supposed to be having his sister come get him. She never came. My therapist is telling me not to call his sisters back to get him unless I like the drama. I want him out. I need to find a way. When he goes back to work, he said if the door was locked he would beat it down. Ma...
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hippietrippiechick
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MY NEW YEAR
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For New years eve me and my husband spent are time inside watching the ball drop. He has been sober since the summer which life has been great. But it hasn't always been that way, there have been some new years eve that he was so drunk I end up leaving him and going to my friends house and stayed over night bec...
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nycbt
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Taking a break from here
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Since today is Jan 1st, I have decided to take an Internet break from both this board and the chatroom, which at times I find to be addictive and think it best from my mental and emotional as well as physical health to not spend so much time with my head in front of the computer and not being productive in oth...
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DanaAngel
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HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! BLESSINGS TO YOU ALL...
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Just wanted to wish you all a very Happy New Year, and wonderful blessings as well. It's hard to type because I punctured my pointer finger Friday with a piece of sharp wood on the tip...sigh...lol. It's looks like it is festering, so I will keep an eye on it. Anyway, I'...
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lmt123
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amends, or however you spell it..
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one day last spring i got out of the room..and decided for my mental health..i couldnt come back for awhile. i was tormented..i was loosing sleep, and finding myself pissed ..half the times i came ..and not caring for myself well... looking at a bad mole on my neck wondering if i had cancer...
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ednaxray
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HAPPY NEW YEAR
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Hi everyone
I would like to wish everyone a happy new year. Just want you guys to rember that we no longer are alone that we are a family and that we have each other. I know some of you don't think you have someone right now, but you do you have the people here on line. don't forget about us. When you feel lone...
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nycbt
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Funny analogy I just thought up about us and the A
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You know this is so weird, but I attached a pic on my very last post of Aisian cops trying to chase an ostrich down with their motorcycles.
Here is the pic again, but now as I think of it, it seems like that relates to an al-anon trying to MAKE the A get sober. Sheesh. God has a sense of humor, huh?
Stuff lik...
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hippietrippiechick
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I think my A is finally going to go to bed
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God! what a night! Having an A in a relationship is a rollercoaster ride to Hell and back. An endless rush of good and bad emotions that leaves us feeling like we have been run over by a dumptruck, catterpillar, then steamroller, with a fresh coating of hot tar.
I know that probably didn't make sense bu...
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hippietrippiechick
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Prayer for New Beginnings--from one of my inspirational prayer books
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The following prayer was not made up by me. It is from one of my inspirational books I choose to remain anonymous. It has many different kinds of prayers for different subjects and situations, and it helps me. I am only posting this in hopes that it might touch someone out there who is struggling too. And...
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hippietrippiechick
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What a difference a year makes.....
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First off I'd like to wish everyone a Happy New Year! I've been coming to this site for over a year now, and it has truly been a blessing, along with my faith in God. My son, who is now 20, struggled with drugs and alcohol. He signed himself into a traditional inpatient rehab. program f...
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mel123
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ES&H
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Just a silly question what is ES&H ??????
Have been reading it loads here and still not worked it out!
Thank you xx
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bear
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I HAVE A QUESTION on other conference approved literature--
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Has anyone ever found it helpful to them in Al-anon to read the AA big Book?
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hippietrippiechick
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A new ME is needed for a NEW Year
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Family
i came online last night at 2a.m (irish time) when i was at my lowest. After a really crap and emotionally draining day thanks to my ex-boyf the "A".
after a short and brief few days of chatting and trying to reconcile our differances, he had done 2 mths intense rehab and counselling, he has sw...
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Rebecca
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12 Step Weekend - Oberlin Ohio
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So sorry that I haven't been on lately. I just moved last month and between unpacking and having my thyroid do another dive on me, my mind has been scattered. Here are the details for the 12 Step Senerity Weekend.... my hope is to be there but am not sure if I'm will c...
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Cilla
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My best friend died in August.
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Not only is my husband an alcohlic but my best friend was as well. She was 36 and a very beautiful person inside and out. I mean stunning gorgeous. Not too many girls gave her the time of day because they were intimidated so I was her only girl friend. I was there in the beginning of her drinking and then we pa...
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Friendofyours
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Great Day :)
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Today was an awesome day. My Sober A, son and I went to a store in the city called The Guitar Center. The place was HUGE. Son has been there before but we hadn't. On the way over son is telling us that when he and his band members go they stay for hours playing different guitars. We all kind of went our differen...
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Christy
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One Year of Growth
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Tomorrow, Jan. 1, is my 1 year anniversary here. Not sure if I will be able to be on here much, because hubby is home. But...last year at this time, I was alone, sick. He had left. Now he is here, and for today, we are happy. Alanon gave me a new life, and a new way to live.&nb...
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Becky1
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We Are Not Accidents
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As I share this, I consider my HP to be God; however, don't let that stop you. As in Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, feel free to make your own substitutions.
You are who you are for a reason.
You're part of an intricate plan.
You're a p...
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Maria123
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think I finally got it
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I've been having a lot of trouble lately. My parents are both sick and my mother is dying. Every time something else happened to them and I got upset, my husband started drinking even more.
We almost missed making a nice Christmas for them. Missed our plane to go there to take husb...
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carol
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Thought for Today--Jan. 1
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Were there no God, we would be
in this glorious world with grateful
hearts and no one to thank.
Christina Rossetti
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hippietrippiechick
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HAPPY NEW YEAR!
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((((((((((Family))))))))))),
It's 8:45pm EST here. I am off to bed because I am way toooooo old to stay up to midnight!
Just wanted to wish you all:
A VERY, VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR!
MAY IT BE FILLED WITH LOVE,
PEACE, SERENITY, HAPPINESS
AND LOTS OF GIGGLES!
Hope it's...
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Karilynn
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Join me for New Years???
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If anyone is around tonight I will be on. I don't know how to work the chat room but I'll be here. Maybe we can IM or something. I don't care to be around a bunch of drunks for play russian roulette out in the traffic. So if you're around..........Let's ring in the New Year together!
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Friendofyours
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LOL [laugh out loud] and sharing it with you
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well,
we got through last night.
he went over to our daughter's house for the evening. about midnight i heard his vehicle coming up the drive. i really didn't expect him home, i did expect that sickening sweet smell of "one is one too many and a thousand is not enough". &n...
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jewely
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a few random things...
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as i came across a few e-mails this morning... i decided to share them with you...
some made me laugh, others made me think....
i hope u like them.. the picture ones..are sooooo TRUE!
happy new year guys... love and hugs to all of you xxx rebecca
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Rebecca
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hello...hoping for some of your thoughts
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Hi. I'm new, and I have been reading some of your posts and I feel like everyone here is very kind and supportive. My husband is an alcoholic, who functioned passably up until recently. We have struggled with various issues in our life: his father died 5 years ago of cancer, and I had serious health probl...
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bonezmama
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Happy New Year!!!!!
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I want to wish all my roomies at MIP a Very Happy & Safe New Year. I have a really good feeling about this year. So many changes have taken place in the past month or so for me,positive changes.
My prayers are for all of you to he happy, peaceful, serene & hopeful.
I have made great friends in thi...
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horselover58
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Need some info
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hi. i need some place to talk. my husband relapsed with coke or crack (whatever it is), is this site only for alcoholic issues? would someone direct me? thank you.
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shrinkingviolet
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Still working step 1
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All,
I have been in program for 5 years. First with Overeaters Anonymous and a year
later with alanon. I realize I have never actually gotten step 1 when it comes
to an active a episode with my AH. I still get angry, then repeat to him how
angry I am, coupled...
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renah
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Feel empowered, feel happy
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Hi ala-pals,
Tonight, we had our "First Annual Christmas Survivor Party" or "Thank God You Can Choose Your Friends Party!"
Being with my family, particularly my father and his wife, and my step brother and his family has been especially hard this past year, especially at this Christmas season....
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itsgot2bgd
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My Husband
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I need help with the situation I am having with my husband. We planned to move into a new house, but for various reasons, we werent able to move. So, my husband became very angry, dissappointed, and verbally abusive. He blamed me for everything. My mother is arriving in two days and I haven...
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EarthAngel
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Sponsership for an old timer
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My name is Robert and I am an Alateen/Alanon old timer. My sponsor recently passed away and Im looking for someone with 30 or so years to help me and share in my spiritual jurney. I was taught to practice the 10th, 11th and 12th steps on a daily basis and continue to do that on a daily basis. My...
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david1965
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NEW YEARS EVE THOUGHT
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Ring out the old, ring in the new.
Ring, happy bells, across the snow.
The year is going, let him go.
Ring out the false, ring in the true
Alfred, Lord Tennyson
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hippietrippiechick
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wanting the holidays to be over
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I have started a new job, albeit a contract job, and am feeling the isolation I live in tremendously. I guess that is the issue of coming out of survival it hurts. Christmas with the A was horrendous. He didn't crash anything or smash anything but it was close. He let th...
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maresie2
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First timer: need help w/daughter!
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My first time on this site. Tomorrow we go to rehab to visit our daughter. She's 35, an RN, alcoholic and sex we're told.... i didn't realize! She's ending, i think, third marriage and involved with another guy, of course, wanting us to think he's awesome.... i don't know what to do or say! She has two kid...
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beecharmer
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Witnessing and Gratitude
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I can make choices in my own life - in my actions, words, and even thoughts if I work at it. But when it comes to others, I am just a witness.
This not only applies to alcoholics, but to their families and friends - in and out of the Alanon rooms, who are suffering the consequences of the disease. I can't m...
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barisax
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