Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

arty · arty

It is very strange that the days my A is depressed i am strong, but the days he is ok... i am the one depressed. I am the one who cancelled the wedding. I am the one who is taking over the home loan. I am the one making all the decisions to move on... Yet i am so sad. i spend so many days just happy that this part of my...

Diva · Diva

She had been ill with Canine Cushing's Disease for about a year. She also had bladder cancer and arthritis. But she was not suffering, and she was happy. Just about 30 minutes ago, she lost the use of all four of her little legs, and the vet believes she had a stroke. God I am so sad. She has been my...

eyeteach1 · eyeteach1

I keep reading posts about having a sponsor and the 12 steps--is this true for members of Al-Anon as well as AA? I'm confused...do I need a sponsor if I'm not an alcoholic?

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I feel like everytime I get used to something or think it's OK then I am reminded that really it sucks. THe A picked me up 30 minutes late from work, whick was silly because we only live 7 driving minutes from home. typical. Then we go to the park garden and it is nice out and he starts trying to cut the flo...

eyeteach1 · eyeteach1

My name is Teresa and I'm fairly certain the answer is yes, but in reading a few of the posts here, I'm wondering if this is the place I need to come or not. It seems that many people here are family and friends of people who are not trying to work on their disease, and they are trying to deal with tha...

eva · eva

Daer MIP family! I am new here and I am not native speaker, so I hope you will understand what Iwant to say. I am an adult child of alcoholic. It is a long time since I do not live in my parents house, I have my own family and attend Al-Anon for 3 years. This program is wonderfull but in our country it is wor...

shannon · shannon

I went to my first Al-anon meeting, and it felt really good, but also very frightening. My father was an alcoholic for the thirteen years I lived with him, and I'm sure he still is till this day, but I wouldn't know because I haven't talked to him in so long. I was nervous about attending Al-Anon because I a...

kopkreations · kopkreations

Hi all, I am new here, I believe I have come along way in dealing with my husbands alcholism and not only that but in realizing I have to move on myself. I didn't realize until just before unitl I read a article on detachment that I have gone through that phase or going through it more like it. I hav...

desperate for help · desperate for help

Well, i have decided that enough is enough and I am planning on divorcing husband. He is now drinking a fifth of vodka every night. I showed him an empty bottle today (the one he bought last night and drank the WHOLE thing). His response? "Yeah, I guess I need to cut back a little!" I said ho...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hi guys! you know I have been urged by my regular doctor to see a psychiatrist, because she doesnt feel comfortable treating someone (don't mind the pun) who is as nuts as I am! I ended up calling the number I got for the hospital I used to get shrink help from. It turns out my doc is retiring. I explaine...

cloud123 · cloud123

Here is my Tyler if this worked love cloudy and tyler

marmare · marmare

I am finding more and more that I am taking more baby steps. This is such an amazing journey. First off my A tried to bait me last weekend, I wouldn't allow it, when he threatened to leave (this hasn't happened in over 8 months) I calmly walked him to the door and told him good bye.....(that make...

Rita G · Rita G

Just read in your post that it was your birthday yesterday, Alyce. Wanted to say "Happy Birthday" Enjoy some calorie free cake Hope today is a better day for You. ((Alyce)) Rita

babysteps · babysteps

I have started to post several times over the past few weeks about my AH's strong tendency to adopt whatever mood I am in. I confided in him some fears a few weeks ago and he talked me out of them, but proceeded to relapse and refer to our conversation as the spark. Then I made a big sale for work and got re...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Well, I had two nice ladies from a small church nearby come and clean my house up some. One did the bathroom, the other the kitchen, and they swept and mopped my house. All I could say was I don't know how to thank you. One lady blurted out--we will be rewarded in heaven. It was nice to hug and cry on these...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

OK ok, I know about the boundaries/mixed messages etc. with this guy. I guess what I really wanted was just to be wanted and he made me feel that way. I have been living here for a year and a half and still have NOT ONE SOUL that I could call to go do someething with me EVER!!! I am desperate for companionsh...

Maria123 · Maria123

I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. A true friend is some...

cloud123 · cloud123

Hey all cloud here aka Clud---lol Tyler and I are doing good I have had a few problems here and there and I started to rip open after the steri strips came open on this past Sat after a fri nite snow storm and the walks stairs and the parking lot and even the friggen road was not plowed my mom parked at the bot...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family)))))))))), Spring has finally come! While there is still snow on the ground, I can see little signs of life that the changing of the seasons is here. Pipers Kitty is bouncing off the walls, ready for the warm weather so she can chase mice, moles and leaves. We are getting ready for...

Alyce · Alyce

I am having such a hard time with my kids and feel totally lost. We moved from NY to Florida and they are not adjusting well at all. One is 16 and the other is 20. They sit in the house all day and refuse to do anything to make it better....they won't join anything, work, etc... What scares me is now th...

rtexas · rtexas

..... it's been a few weeks since my last confession. LOL - I have worried more than once a day that my life isn't all it should be. - I have pushed my will on others at least twice - I put my plans on hold in lieu of what my A wanted me to do instead only to be disappointed. - I voiced anger over anoth...

Katy · Katy

Yep this is something I need to do,think it's called self awareness? a few weeks ago I had my first a wakening, and that was like wow, I woke up and smelt the coffee, then I had lot's of little a wakenings, like they came in the shape of,well,I could chose them really,but I only got to enjoy the b...

amyh · amyh

hi, im new here. my name is amy. my husband is a addict/ with bipolar disorder. we are in bancrupcy so we dont lose our home. i have been feeling very resentfull, hateful and depressed. i just want to start healing. i am reading the melodie beattie books codependent no more and journey to the heart. my h...

jmk · jmk

Hi everyone. Im new to alanon... i went to my 4th meeting tonight and i was pretty disappointed. i felt as though i really needed a meeting today and i went to the one i could make and the majority of the meeting was taking care of business aspects of the group. i know that this only happens once in a while but...

kicky · kicky

After 7 years with a raging A...I've been dating someone new...Ironically, he's an A ...BUT sober 2 years...and in the program. He's got his stuff that he's dealing with and seems to really be concentrating on himself. But he's very attentive and caring towards me and you'...

HELPLESSMOM · HELPLESSMOM

my son that thinks partying on the weekends and having his 3rd dwi, now might not have been so fun after all. this is his 3rd night in jail he spent Saturady night and the next 14 nights in jail he gets to go to work during the week, but on weekends he's there all day. Today i talked to him before he went ba...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

In my last post you could see I broke it off with a guy I really liked because he was no good for me. Well last night I broke down and sent him a text message and called him. I missed having someone to talk to. I told him that we would only be friends never more because I can't take the chance with another...

kissers · kissers

I met someone a year ago and we talked a lot. We finally met one night and one thing led to another. I asked him before it happened what was going to happen afterwards. He told me that we would discuss it afterward to see how we both felt. He told me afterward that he is not looking for a relationship and that h...

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, those of you who know me know I have been struggling as of late with being in love with an active A, my husband. And it has been tearing me up inside. Last night, I lay awake thinking. I do that from time to time...

I started thinking about Christopher Reeves, the guy we all knew as "S...

MaggiG · MaggiG

Maggi is again dealing with death..... It seems of late for the last 2 years every so often Maggi is dealing with death issues. Last week it was the death of my mothers brother and although it had no direct impact on me , hearing my mom process it was hard to see my mom fragile and unable to process all thos...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((YO ROOMIES))))))))))))))))) This weekends Mip athon was awesome....I admit I was so tired...lol I stayed up all of the first night. Went to bed at 8.30am. I was just so amazed by what I was seing..The people in the room were totally honest....And It was people from every recovery gr...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I got a phone call back from a lady who is the contact person for my area, and she just said they don't make "home visits" and they are a separate entity from AA. I may just have to get someone to help me with Java on my puter and go to f2f AA meetings and do my best. this was just such a blow becaus...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I am going thru so much trying to figure out what went wrong with my Java since my dad had to do recovery on my puter that all I have is MSN messenger--hippietrippiechick is the name you will find me on. Some one please let me know. Stacie I am so lonely I need to talk to someone.

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

ONE DAY AT AT TIME We only have one day at a time. To think of more would be a crime. To hurt ourselves with useless worry. Just makes us stressed, tense, and hurried, If we could only see that living in today is all we are promised, Oh Lord we pray. Then we might not have to cry or go astray. Just trust in the Lor...

Phil · Phil

Alcoholism is a primary, chronic disease with genetic, psychological, and environmental factors influencing its development and manifestations. This disease is often progressive and fatal. It is characterized by continuous or periodic: impaired control over drinking, preoccupation with...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) WOOHOO::::::: Ally is back, with a vengence...lol I done my first chair at face to face last night...There were fourteen people there...I have never read from a book, in fourteen months at a meeting....I had a phobia, a fear of reading in front of any o...

Barbs45 · Barbs45

Hi all, Hope all you mums out there are all having a lovely Mothers Day! Best Wishes, Barbs.

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Monday, March 19, 2007It is 9:07 p.m. and I have had another tired day. It seems that lately either because of exhaustion and trying to get over this surgery (maybe a combination of both) have made me so tired. I know that I am going thru a depression because of the major sudden change in My A & I's...

Maria123 · Maria123

Lots of talk here lately about the couldas, shouldas, wouldas and I seemed to remember that there was a poem (of course) related to the same and so I found it and have shared with others and wanted to share it with all of you. Words speak volumes to me and oftentimes seem to say in black and white what I feel i...

jewely · jewely

i placed a call to my husband a few minutes ago, ''uuuh, there is no easy way to tell you this , your mother just died.'' ''when? last night?'' he asked. ''no, just a few minutes ago,'' i replied. his mother was over eighty years old. it was her time...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I hope you don't mind me posting this. It gave me alot of strength and I've saved it for years. I hope you enjoy this: When I say... "I am a Christian" -By Maya Angelou When I say... "I am a Christian"I'm not shouting "I'm clean livin'."I&#...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

How many times have we all heard this statement? It's simple and to the point. Why is it then that it has taken me so long to really hear it? I think it was just because I wasn't ready to hear it. I experienced it time after time with my A husband. In the 5yrs that we have been together I couldn&#...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi everybody. It's been quite a while since I have posted and I hope everybody is doing well. I have been through quite a bit since...I am finally divorcing my husband of ten years. He came home from prison last August and we were fighting a lot and he started using again and i kicked him out for the las...

barisax · barisax

I don't cry too often.... in fact, in my drinking years I probably never cried at all. When I was a kid, I was the "easy mark" on the playground. Didn't take to much messing with me to bring the tears, and the inevitable humiliation. I learned to respond with anger instead of tear...

chris52 · chris52

Hello again ((((((precious Alanuts)))) A and I separated 13 months ago. I continue to live here in Turkey and am bumping along pretty well. Last time I saw him was back in July when I handed over our little pup for him and his family to care for while I was in Uk helping with the arrival of my first Grandchil...

jewely · jewely

it's all about me. i hear that in alanon many times. and, yes, it sure is. but not in the way i think. for sure i need to take care of myself, for sure i need to pay bills, be responsible, and, enjoy the good things in life. but, it's pretty darn hard to live in "just for today", when i conti...

hudsond · hudsond

Anyone watch this last night? I thought it was really interesting. It lasted about 1 and 1/2 hours. I thought it was very informational, don't know if I agree with all of it---I wish they had focused some more on the need to use support groups (especially AA), but I thought all in all it was good. ...

Gotta_Vent · Gotta_Vent

I need to know if this is "normal" for an alcoholic. My sister has done some pretty crazy stuff before, and now she's into cutting. Being depressed myself, I can understand that part, but what I don't understand is what she did after that. She used the blood from her cuts to writ...

davidssibling · davidssibling

Hiya all I am having trouble finding a higher power, a god. I have been to two churches, to a pow wow, and went to the Berkshire mountains looking for a god, HP, something to grasp on to. This may sound silly, but I am truthful and am searching. I hear everyone talking of thier HP, but I am still looking for mi...

serendipity · serendipity

I've been in this program for the past 4 years. I have worked the steps, I have had a sponser, I make calls, I go to meetings, I have a home group and I come here. I see the replies already "get another sponcer, work the steps again!" I hear you and I will. But right this minute I have lost my min...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Once I have learned to set my boundaries, others may try to ignore them or accuse me of being selfish. I know my boundaries have been crossed when I begin to feel uncomfortable inside, and I need to pay attention to this feeling. If others are used to relating to me in a certain way, and I'm changing, i...

wp · wp

I thoroughly enjoyed the mip-athon events that I was able to attend. It was inspiring to hear many heartfelt shares, people's real stories, things they have overcome and moved beyond with happiness. What a program :) wp aka ms you know who

Maria123 · Maria123

If memory serves me correctly (95% of the time), I do recall today is Becky1 Birthday

Happy Birthday Becky,

I hope you have an awesome day. your friend in recovery, Maria

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello all, It is amost 4:30 am, eastern time. I was sound asleep and who comes rapping at my bedroom window--my A! See, I had been seriously planning to come see him at his little hole in the wall. This afternoon he told me not to call and if I came I came and if not o well. I never really called much of anyone. S...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A and I are separating shortly. In a week or so I will be living in a different place. In theory we will still see quite a bit of each other while he works out how to transition. The irony for me is that now he is asking me to marry him! Of course I have said no citing his debt. At the same time its no coincide...

Fifi · Fifi

I try so hard each day.....to be aware,to take care of me,to be carefull not to control others with my reactions, to know that I am ok just the way I am and that I am working towards healing. But each day is so hard....and just with the people I love/am closest to. Sometimes I really think I would be better of...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family)))))))))), This Russian-Filipino gal wants to wish her MIP family a HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY for tomorrow. I know it can be tough on us with active As. But allow me to take this point to count my blessings for all of you. I will be wearing green tomorrow (I have to, it's part...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I cancelled my date with the felon/alcoholic. I was really excited about our date tomorrow but know that it's not going to go anywhere so I cancelled and said I couldn't talk to him anymore. What a bummer! It sucks doing the right thing sometimes!

theprofessor · theprofessor

I dropped the letter to my friend in the mail today, the one that I have been having such a horrible time with. Today has been very bizarre since then. I went to lunch, and I didn't think we would run into eachother, but my friend was there with someone else. About halfway through my lunch, my serve...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been emailing back and forth with my husband and he sounds pretty certain that he doesn't want me anymore which is making me sad and I'm not sure why. I have been seeing this guy who I know is completely BAD for me! I'm supposed to see him tomorrow night and I know he really likes me a lo...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	having a bad day (Preview) It is very strange that the days my A is depressed i am strong, but the days he is ok... i am the one depressed. I am the one who cancelled the wedding. I am the one who is taking over the home loan. I am the one making all the decisions to move on... Yet i am so sad. i spend so many days just happy that this part of my...	arty	5	346	Mar 22, 2007 by nmike
	My 14 year old Boston Terrier passed away today. (Preview) She had been ill with Canine Cushing's Disease for about a year. She also had bladder cancer and arthritis. But she was not suffering, and she was happy. Just about 30 minutes ago, she lost the use of all four of her little legs, and the vet believes she had a stroke. God I am so sad. She has been my...	Diva	25	1689	Mar 22, 2007 by Diane43
	Stupd Question (Preview) I keep reading posts about having a sponsor and the 12 steps--is this true for members of Al-Anon as well as AA? I'm confused...do I need a sponsor if I'm not an alcoholic?	eyeteach1	4	402	Mar 22, 2007 by Friendofyours
	stuck (Preview) I feel like everytime I get used to something or think it's OK then I am reminded that really it sucks. THe A picked me up 30 minutes late from work, whick was silly because we only live 7 driving minutes from home. typical. Then we go to the park garden and it is nice out and he starts trying to cut the flo...	RainyJamie	6	363	Mar 22, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Do I Belong Here? (Preview) My name is Teresa and I'm fairly certain the answer is yes, but in reading a few of the posts here, I'm wondering if this is the place I need to come or not. It seems that many people here are family and friends of people who are not trying to work on their disease, and they are trying to deal with tha...	eyeteach1	2	393	Mar 22, 2007 by lin0606
	Am I normal? (Preview) Daer MIP family! I am new here and I am not native speaker, so I hope you will understand what Iwant to say. I am an adult child of alcoholic. It is a long time since I do not live in my parents house, I have my own family and attend Al-Anon for 3 years. This program is wonderfull but in our country it is wor...	eva	4	617	Mar 22, 2007 by ally
	This is all new to me (Preview) I went to my first Al-anon meeting, and it felt really good, but also very frightening. My father was an alcoholic for the thirteen years I lived with him, and I'm sure he still is till this day, but I wouldn't know because I haven't talked to him in so long. I was nervous about attending Al-Anon because I a...	shannon	7	522	Mar 22, 2007 by abbyal
	How do I separate alcoholism detachement from love detachment (Preview) Hi all, I am new here, I believe I have come along way in dealing with my husbands alcholism and not only that but in realizing I have to move on myself. I didn't realize until just before unitl I read a article on detachment that I have gone through that phase or going through it more like it. I hav...	kopkreations	6	791	Mar 22, 2007 by kopkreations
	I can't take it anymore! (Preview) Well, i have decided that enough is enough and I am planning on divorcing husband. He is now drinking a fifth of vodka every night. I showed him an empty bottle today (the one he bought last night and drank the WHOLE thing). His response? "Yeah, I guess I need to cut back a little!" I said ho...	desperate for help	5	592	Mar 22, 2007 by HowToSaveALife
	It is always darkest before the dawn :) (Preview) Hi guys! you know I have been urged by my regular doctor to see a psychiatrist, because she doesnt feel comfortable treating someone (don't mind the pun) who is as nuts as I am! I ended up calling the number I got for the hospital I used to get shrink help from. It turns out my doc is retiring. I explaine...	hippietrippiechick	2	431	Mar 22, 2007 by maire rua
	Here is the baby if this works (Preview) Here is my Tyler if this worked love cloudy and tyler	cloud123	13	477	Mar 22, 2007 by maire rua
	Taking Baby Steps (Preview) I am finding more and more that I am taking more baby steps. This is such an amazing journey. First off my A tried to bait me last weekend, I wouldn't allow it, when he threatened to leave (this hasn't happened in over 8 months) I calmly walked him to the door and told him good bye.....(that make...	marmare	5	408	Mar 21, 2007 by Kim65
	Happy Belated Birthday, Alyce (Preview) Just read in your post that it was your birthday yesterday, Alyce. Wanted to say "Happy Birthday" Enjoy some calorie free cake Hope today is a better day for You. ((Alyce)) Rita	Rita G	5	495	Mar 21, 2007 by Karilynn
	AH figured something out for himself. (Preview) I have started to post several times over the past few weeks about my AH's strong tendency to adopt whatever mood I am in. I confided in him some fears a few weeks ago and he talked me out of them, but proceeded to relapse and refer to our conversation as the spark. Then I made a big sale for work and got re...	babysteps	3	525	Mar 21, 2007 by lin0606
	some positive news (Preview) Well, I had two nice ladies from a small church nearby come and clean my house up some. One did the bathroom, the other the kitchen, and they swept and mopped my house. All I could say was I don't know how to thank you. One lady blurted out--we will be rewarded in heaven. It was nice to hug and cry on these...	hippietrippiechick	7	533	Mar 21, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	Wow didn't expect so much response... (Preview) OK ok, I know about the boundaries/mixed messages etc. with this guy. I guess what I really wanted was just to be wanted and he made me feel that way. I have been living here for a year and a half and still have NOT ONE SOUL that I could call to go do someething with me EVER!!! I am desperate for companionsh...	carolinagirl	6	623	Mar 21, 2007 by RainyJamie
	LOVE (Preview) I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. A true friend is some...	Maria123	8	589	Mar 21, 2007 by bob6502
	If you want LOVE join our family @MIP (Preview) Hey all cloud here aka Clud---lol Tyler and I are doing good I have had a few problems here and there and I started to rip open after the steri strips came open on this past Sat after a fri nite snow storm and the walks stairs and the parking lot and even the friggen road was not plowed my mom parked at the bot...	cloud123	5	482	Mar 21, 2007 by bob6502
	HAPPY SPRING! (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))))), Spring has finally come! While there is still snow on the ground, I can see little signs of life that the changing of the seasons is here. Pipers Kitty is bouncing off the walls, ready for the warm weather so she can chase mice, moles and leaves. We are getting ready for...	Karilynn	3	292	Mar 21, 2007 by Becky1
	Totally disraught. (Preview) I am having such a hard time with my kids and feel totally lost. We moved from NY to Florida and they are not adjusting well at all. One is 16 and the other is 20. They sit in the house all day and refuse to do anything to make it better....they won't join anything, work, etc... What scares me is now th...	Alyce	5	775	Mar 21, 2007 by Alyce
	Forgive me (HP) for I have sinned... (Preview) ..... it's been a few weeks since my last confession. LOL - I have worried more than once a day that my life isn't all it should be. - I have pushed my will on others at least twice - I put my plans on hold in lieu of what my A wanted me to do instead only to be disappointed. - I voiced anger over anoth...	rtexas	10	431	Mar 21, 2007 by twinmom2
	Understanding our feelings? (Preview) Yep this is something I need to do,think it's called self awareness? a few weeks ago I had my first a wakening, and that was like wow, I woke up and smelt the coffee, then I had lot's of little a wakenings, like they came in the shape of,well,I could chose them really,but I only got to enjoy the b...	Katy	5	523	Mar 21, 2007 by Tiger2006
	healing (Preview) hi, im new here. my name is amy. my husband is a addict/ with bipolar disorder. we are in bancrupcy so we dont lose our home. i have been feeling very resentfull, hateful and depressed. i just want to start healing. i am reading the melodie beattie books codependent no more and journey to the heart. my h...	amyh	5	337	Mar 21, 2007 by carosie
	New to the program (4 meetings) Feeling Anxious (Preview) Hi everyone. Im new to alanon... i went to my 4th meeting tonight and i was pretty disappointed. i felt as though i really needed a meeting today and i went to the one i could make and the majority of the meeting was taking care of business aspects of the group. i know that this only happens once in a while but...	jmk	8	595	Mar 21, 2007 by Karilynn
	What I need shouldn't have to come from someone else (Preview) After 7 years with a raging A...I've been dating someone new...Ironically, he's an A ...BUT sober 2 years...and in the program. He's got his stuff that he's dealing with and seems to really be concentrating on himself. But he's very attentive and caring towards me and you'...	kicky	5	671	Mar 21, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Son's 3rd night in jail (Preview) my son that thinks partying on the weekends and having his 3rd dwi, now might not have been so fun after all. this is his 3rd night in jail he spent Saturady night and the next 14 nights in jail he gets to go to work during the week, but on weekends he's there all day. Today i talked to him before he went ba...	HELPLESSMOM	8	586	Mar 21, 2007 by roygbiv
	I broke down and called him back. (Preview) In my last post you could see I broke it off with a guy I really liked because he was no good for me. Well last night I broke down and sent him a text message and called him. I missed having someone to talk to. I told him that we would only be friends never more because I can't take the chance with another...	carolinagirl	11	474	Mar 21, 2007 by roygbiv
	Going Crazy!! Desperate for a reality check!! (Preview) I met someone a year ago and we talked a lot. We finally met one night and one thing led to another. I asked him before it happened what was going to happen afterwards. He told me that we would discuss it afterward to see how we both felt. He told me afterward that he is not looking for a relationship and that h...	kissers	8	508	Mar 21, 2007 by Moon
	My Husband is Superman (Preview) Well, those of you who know me know I have been struggling as of late with being in love with an active A, my husband. And it has been tearing me up inside. Last night, I lay awake thinking. I do that from time to time... I started thinking about Christopher Reeves, the guy we all knew as "S...	Becky1	6	373	Mar 21, 2007 by roygbiv
	death surrounds me (Preview) Maggi is again dealing with death..... It seems of late for the last 2 years every so often Maggi is dealing with death issues. Last week it was the death of my mothers brother and although it had no direct impact on me , hearing my mom process it was hard to see my mom fragile and unable to process all thos...	MaggiG	7	678	Mar 20, 2007 by MaggiG
	MIP ATHON WAS AWESOME (Preview) (((((((((((((YO ROOMIES))))))))))))))))) This weekends Mip athon was awesome....I admit I was so tired...lol I stayed up all of the first night. Went to bed at 8.30am. I was just so amazed by what I was seing..The people in the room were totally honest....And It was people from every recovery gr...	ally	1	387	Mar 20, 2007 by serenity62
	REACHING OUT: didn't get anywhere with local al-anons ugh! help (Preview) I got a phone call back from a lady who is the contact person for my area, and she just said they don't make "home visits" and they are a separate entity from AA. I may just have to get someone to help me with Java on my puter and go to f2f AA meetings and do my best. this was just such a blow becaus...	hippietrippiechick	5	704	Mar 20, 2007 by abbyal
	does anyone use MSN messenger? I need to chat with someone (Preview) I am going thru so much trying to figure out what went wrong with my Java since my dad had to do recovery on my puter that all I have is MSN messenger--hippietrippiechick is the name you will find me on. Some one please let me know. Stacie I am so lonely I need to talk to someone.	hippietrippiechick	2	405	Mar 20, 2007 by Barbs45
	First real poem I did--"ONE DAY AT A TIME" (Preview) ONE DAY AT AT TIME We only have one day at a time. To think of more would be a crime. To hurt ourselves with useless worry. Just makes us stressed, tense, and hurried, If we could only see that living in today is all we are promised, Oh Lord we pray. Then we might not have to cry or go astray. Just trust in the Lor...	hippietrippiechick	3	4835	Mar 20, 2007 by albertarose
	Wishing you all a good day...and sharing an article from the AA board (Preview) Alcoholism is a primary, chronic disease with genetic, psychological, and environmental factors influencing its development and manifestations. This disease is often progressive and fatal. It is characterized by continuous or periodic: impaired control over drinking, preoccupation with...	Phil	4	654	Mar 20, 2007 by Becky1
	ON TOP OF THE WORLD (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) WOOHOO::::::: Ally is back, with a vengence...lol I done my first chair at face to face last night...There were fourteen people there...I have never read from a book, in fourteen months at a meeting....I had a phobia, a fear of reading in front of any o...	ally	3	386	Mar 20, 2007 by Becky1
	Happy Mothers Day! (Preview) Hi all, Hope all you mums out there are all having a lovely Mothers Day! Best Wishes, Barbs.	Barbs45	6	365	Mar 20, 2007 by Rita G
	someone please read. I am so lonely (Preview) Monday, March 19, 2007It is 9:07 p.m. and I have had another tired day. It seems that lately either because of exhaustion and trying to get over this surgery (maybe a combination of both) have made me so tired. I know that I am going thru a depression because of the major sudden change in My A & I's...	hippietrippiechick	5	811	Mar 20, 2007 by Fifi
	Could Have, Would Have, Should Have (Preview) Lots of talk here lately about the couldas, shouldas, wouldas and I seemed to remember that there was a poem (of course) related to the same and so I found it and have shared with others and wanted to share it with all of you. Words speak volumes to me and oftentimes seem to say in black and white what I feel i...	Maria123	3	3174	Mar 20, 2007 by JulieLynn
	she just died (Preview) i placed a call to my husband a few minutes ago, ''uuuh, there is no easy way to tell you this , your mother just died.'' ''when? last night?'' he asked. ''no, just a few minutes ago,'' i replied. his mother was over eighty years old. it was her time...	jewely	8	653	Mar 20, 2007 by Rita G
	When I say I am a Christian..... (Preview) I hope you don't mind me posting this. It gave me alot of strength and I've saved it for years. I hope you enjoy this: When I say... "I am a Christian" -By Maya Angelou When I say... "I am a Christian"I'm not shouting "I'm clean livin'."I&#...	Friendofyours	2	510	Mar 20, 2007 by mel123
	Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes (Preview) How many times have we all heard this statement? It's simple and to the point. Why is it then that it has taken me so long to really hear it? I think it was just because I wasn't ready to hear it. I experienced it time after time with my A husband. In the 5yrs that we have been together I couldn&#...	JulieLynn	7	886	Mar 19, 2007 by albertarose
	I HAVE ISSUES (Preview) Hi everybody. It's been quite a while since I have posted and I hope everybody is doing well. I have been through quite a bit since...I am finally divorcing my husband of ten years. He came home from prison last August and we were fighting a lot and he started using again and i kicked him out for the las...	browneyes	5	590	Mar 19, 2007 by albertarose
	Love and Tears (Preview) I don't cry too often.... in fact, in my drinking years I probably never cried at all. When I was a kid, I was the "easy mark" on the playground. Didn't take to much messing with me to bring the tears, and the inevitable humiliation. I learned to respond with anger instead of tear...	barisax	3	600	Mar 19, 2007 by java
	What a strange few months! (Preview) Hello again ((((((precious Alanuts)))) A and I separated 13 months ago. I continue to live here in Turkey and am bumping along pretty well. Last time I saw him was back in July when I handed over our little pup for him and his family to care for while I was in Uk helping with the arrival of my first Grandchil...	chris52	5	657	Mar 19, 2007 by drucilla06
	it's all about me..... (Preview) it's all about me. i hear that in alanon many times. and, yes, it sure is. but not in the way i think. for sure i need to take care of myself, for sure i need to pay bills, be responsible, and, enjoy the good things in life. but, it's pretty darn hard to live in "just for today", when i conti...	jewely	3	534	Mar 19, 2007 by drucilla06
	HBO documentary- Addiction (Preview) Anyone watch this last night? I thought it was really interesting. It lasted about 1 and 1/2 hours. I thought it was very informational, don't know if I agree with all of it---I wish they had focused some more on the need to use support groups (especially AA), but I thought all in all it was good. ...	hudsond	6	2995	Mar 19, 2007 by hudsond
	Psychotic Episode or Alcohol? (Preview) I need to know if this is "normal" for an alcoholic. My sister has done some pretty crazy stuff before, and now she's into cutting. Being depressed myself, I can understand that part, but what I don't understand is what she did after that. She used the blood from her cuts to writ...	Gotta_Vent	7	1448	Mar 19, 2007 by Gotta_Vent
	HP, god as we understand it (Preview) Hiya all I am having trouble finding a higher power, a god. I have been to two churches, to a pow wow, and went to the Berkshire mountains looking for a god, HP, something to grasp on to. This may sound silly, but I am truthful and am searching. I hear everyone talking of thier HP, but I am still looking for mi...	davidssibling	13	904	Mar 19, 2007 by davidssibling
	i'm not sure what happened to me (Preview) I've been in this program for the past 4 years. I have worked the steps, I have had a sponser, I make calls, I go to meetings, I have a home group and I come here. I see the replies already "get another sponcer, work the steps again!" I hear you and I will. But right this minute I have lost my min...	serendipity	6	591	Mar 19, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Boundries meditation (Preview) Once I have learned to set my boundaries, others may try to ignore them or accuse me of being selfish. I know my boundaries have been crossed when I begin to feel uncomfortable inside, and I need to pay attention to this feeling. If others are used to relating to me in a certain way, and I'm changing, i...	Tiger2006	3	523	Mar 19, 2007 by Jerry F
	mip-athon 2007 (Preview) I thoroughly enjoyed the mip-athon events that I was able to attend. It was inspiring to hear many heartfelt shares, people's real stories, things they have overcome and moved beyond with happiness. What a program :) wp aka ms you know who	wp	0	430	Mar 18, 2007 by wp
	Becky1 - Don't ya all just love birthdays!!!!! (Preview) If memory serves me correctly (95% of the time), I do recall today is Becky1 Birthday Happy Birthday Becky, I hope you have an awesome day. your friend in recovery, Maria	Maria123	10	620	Mar 18, 2007 by tea2
	I hate the stupid things the A can do (Preview) Hello all, It is amost 4:30 am, eastern time. I was sound asleep and who comes rapping at my bedroom window--my A! See, I had been seriously planning to come see him at his little hole in the wall. This afternoon he told me not to call and if I came I came and if not o well. I never really called much of anyone. S...	hippietrippiechick	3	607	Mar 18, 2007 by Feather
	now he asks me. (Preview) The A and I are separating shortly. In a week or so I will be living in a different place. In theory we will still see quite a bit of each other while he works out how to transition. The irony for me is that now he is asking me to marry him! Of course I have said no citing his debt. At the same time its no coincide...	maresie2	8	654	Mar 18, 2007 by maresie2
	recovering (Preview) I try so hard each day.....to be aware,to take care of me,to be carefull not to control others with my reactions, to know that I am ok just the way I am and that I am working towards healing. But each day is so hard....and just with the people I love/am closest to. Sometimes I really think I would be better of...	Fifi	3	443	Mar 18, 2007 by debilyn
	Irish Blessings (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))))), This Russian-Filipino gal wants to wish her MIP family a HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY for tomorrow. I know it can be tough on us with active As. But allow me to take this point to count my blessings for all of you. I will be wearing green tomorrow (I have to, it's part...	Karilynn	3	412	Mar 17, 2007 by aunitedway
	I did the right thing and it sucks! (Preview) I cancelled my date with the felon/alcoholic. I was really excited about our date tomorrow but know that it's not going to go anywhere so I cancelled and said I couldn't talk to him anymore. What a bummer! It sucks doing the right thing sometimes!	carolinagirl	11	642	Mar 17, 2007 by tuneboon
	Why would he do this? More on the friend saga... (Preview) I dropped the letter to my friend in the mail today, the one that I have been having such a horrible time with. Today has been very bizarre since then. I went to lunch, and I didn't think we would run into eachother, but my friend was there with someone else. About halfway through my lunch, my serve...	theprofessor	4	462	Mar 17, 2007 by Christy
	Feeling SAD today! (Preview) I have been emailing back and forth with my husband and he sounds pretty certain that he doesn't want me anymore which is making me sad and I'm not sure why. I have been seeing this guy who I know is completely BAD for me! I'm supposed to see him tomorrow night and I know he really likes me a lo...	carolinagirl	9	585	Mar 17, 2007 by TLC2
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