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I did the right thing and it sucks!
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I cancelled my date with the felon/alcoholic. I was really excited about our date tomorrow but know that it's not going to go anywhere so I cancelled and said I couldn't talk to him anymore. What a bummer! It sucks doing the right thing sometimes!
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carolinagirl
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Why would he do this? More on the friend saga...
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I dropped the letter to my friend in the mail today, the one that I have been having such a horrible time with. Today has been very bizarre since then. I went to lunch, and I didn't think we would run into eachother, but my friend was there with someone else. About halfway through my lunch, my serve...
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theprofessor
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Feeling SAD today!
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I have been emailing back and forth with my husband and he sounds pretty certain that he doesn't want me anymore which is making me sad and I'm not sure why. I have been seeing this guy who I know is completely BAD for me! I'm supposed to see him tomorrow night and I know he really likes me a lo...
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Happy Birthday Tea
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Thanks to our new friend Leetle, I was reminded that today is ((((((((((((Tea's birthday)))))))))))))))) A special thank you for all you do for us here at MIP Tea. HAPPY BIRTHDAY Teatime love ya, Maria
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I made a big step
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Hello everybodee! If anyone remembers Grover from sesame street long long ago, I just loved that being his opening line. anyway, I wanted to tell you I called an Al-anon hotline and then got to talk to some one who lives in my town. Although she does not drive much either, they are going to try to find a way...
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hippietrippiechick
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i lost it today........or maybe i gained it ???
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i don't know what to say. my brothers brief visit has triggered something in me. i called my daughter today. i wanted to maintain some semblence of control, but......., i lost it. " i feel this way'', i said, ''i feel that way'', i said, ''i feel concern fo...
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jewely
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Blaming
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Hello friends! I am feeling very sad, confused, and very emotional right now and I am not sure who to turn to at the moment, so I thought I would put my feelings here. My A and I are in marriage counseling and things do not seem to be getting better. My A stopped drinking since Sept and was doing very well. He w...
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Making amends to a 3 yo
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I just hate the feeling of being one straw away from a melt down. That is where I sadly still am. This morning, my daughter would not cooperate while I was getting ready to leave for daycare and then work. I spanked her...she peed all over herself and her St. Patrick's day outfit and...I lost it. ...
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Im really hurting.
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Everytime Ive gone to write this I end up not posting it so Im sorry if I ramble on and just dont make to much sense.. On tuesday I said goodbye to my father at his funeral for the last time after many years of him being an A, I didnt really get to know him, there was alot of violence, mental and physical, until h...
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trying to set boundaries-what do think about this one?
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Okay, the other night I came into our room and it absolutely reeked of beer, like it does most nights. But that night it was worse for some reason. I said "Wow what stinks in here?" and he said "i don't know, what's it smell like?" I said it reeks like beer. and he said, w...
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minnie
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Loosing trust
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((((((((((Roomies))))))))))) As some of you know I’m going through a really rough time in my life right now. I know I have been withdrawn and not offering much support and for this I am sorry. I am the one in need of support right now and I feel very let down by certain people in my life. I have thought I h...
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my brother was here
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my brother was here, now he is gone, i come from a very abusive, dysfunctional family. years ago i moved far away from my family, to try to live a healthier life. last week my brother showed up at my home. he is not comfortable in my house so he stayed at my daughters home. she is only 21, all the easier to func...
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jewely
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when things are good
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I just wanted to check in when things were fine for a change, I tend to post when times are troubled. The weather is great here, that probably helps. The class I'm taking is almost over. I'm doing good at my new job, at least that's what people are saying. Got my ey...
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RainyJamie
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So nervous about starting a new relationship
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Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...
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Feather
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2 Wolves
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Hi Family, This seemed most appropriate for our program. Not CAL, but good for me. Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jeal...
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irish54
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I Think I am finally getting it!
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My 25 yr old son was recently jailed for failure to pay his first DUI ticket. I had been paying his rent, having been assured that he was concentrating on paying off the ticket. The pain and shock that he has been lying is so unwelcome, yet so necessary for my recovery. I have lost three of my nine siblin...
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Susan6655
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so nice to know i am not alone
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My ex ah was here last night. He watches the kids while i work. So when i got here he was receiveing and sending all these text messages. But being very sneaky about it and then he always stays to watch Lost with me but he made some lame excuse about having to call his sponser and being tired and he left. Why...
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serendipity
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A question
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My husband and I have always have an extremely active sex life. During the last 4 weeks when he hasn't been drunking it has all come to a screaching halt. Any ideas?
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Chetch
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Please all of you keep me in your prayers
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Hello all, I haven't posted in a while, since my surgery I have just been so exhausted and after a while it gets painful to sit up at the computer. I am planning to try to quit smoking soon again. I have an 800 number I am going to call for Al-anon and maybe someone will come visit and maybe help me out. Doe...
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hippietrippiechick
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AH just got arrested - he's in jail!!!
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I am FREAKIN' out here. My AH called me 2 days ago after 3 weeks of no word from him. He wanted to get into our storage unit for his gun safe so he could sell it. His credit cards are all max'd out now. I told him that I'd meet him there. He called later than afternoon and said he wouldn't...
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QOD
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My AH and I have split up again
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I couldn't tell you how many times my active AH husband and I have seperated in the five years we have been together. I lost count a long time ago. I do know that with each time it get's easier. It seems to me that it doesn't matter how much alanon I have under my belt, I just can't seem to...
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JulieLynn
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MIP Members Wedding Invitation!
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Our Wedding Reception Will be held at Pearsall Memorial Church 3902 Market Street, Wilmington, NC Saturday, July 7th, 2007 Dinner at 7 PM Dancing Starts at 8 PM Map To Wedding - Hugh MacRae ParkMap To Reception - Pearsall Memorial Church
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John
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DISCOVERED A MIRACLE WITHIN ME
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...
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ally
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12th Step Call
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Last night, one of my AH sponsees (R) relapsed. His family had taken him to the ER with a blood alcohol level of .365 (I don't know much about levels but I think I'm saying that right - he was just under the alcohol poisoning level). As God works, my AH's co-sponsor was working at the hosp...
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Rita G
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Went to a meeting - now kinda confused
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Hi everyone - I went to my first meeting last nite - there were about 7 other than me and a couple of them spoke about their A husbands and how they are still with them and some of the husbands are even sober now - I just left my A husband because i'm so fustrated and physcially and emoitionaly hurt and exh...
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DISCOVERING A MIRACLE WITHIN ME
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...
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ally
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Search Question - finding specific posts
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A couple of members had asked me to look at some recent (inappropriate) posts from a new person, and it looks like they have now been taken care of... A question re: searching.... When I want to find posts by a specific person, I go to Search, Advanced Search, and then enter the person's name?? Is th...
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canadianguy
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Good morning!
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Just a word to tell you all you are in my thoughts and heart as always, and I wish you a good day. Here's a morning smile... http://dailypuppy.com/index.php?itemid=953 Diva
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Diva
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Help! I am so angry and sad!
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Hi all. I haven't written in awhile but I am finding myself so angry and sad at AH. I don't know what to do. I just want to scream! He was doing so well. Just before xmas he went on a drinking bindge for a week because he failed his breathilizer in his car. He thought he was going to jail again (he was ar...
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Rose
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AH and Jail Update.
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My AH is sitting in jail and still can't tell me the truth. He told me he was arrested for parafinalia.......well, as it turns out, he was arrested for possession of narcotics. DUH!! I knew it. I just knew it. His step dad told me it was not my place to worry about how to handle him any more. It is...
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QOD
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New to this board and desperately need help
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I am a 57 your old woman who has never drank alcohol, sinmply because it makes me nauseaus. Long story short, I remet my high school sweetheart in 2000 and moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I am a paralegal. He was always been a dr...
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MEETING FOR NEWCOMERS
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(((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))))) We have a new meeting that has started on a Saturday night at 7pm est...... It is especially designed for new members to Al-Anon.....It will help you to find out what Al-Anon is all about.....Also you will find out if it is for you or not...... I would r...
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ally
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Concentrating on my happy life
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There are many of us who are living with active As and who struggle each day just to get through it. There are those of us whose As are sober...for which we are thankful...but who complain still, wondering whether "sober" is better. We have one life kiddies. It is important that we spend that...
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Diva
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Banned
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Dear Members ~ For those of you that were unfortunate enough to read the sickness of a member who had joined today, I assure you that they have been banned. Such deliberate bitterness and purposeful angst towards our Al-Anon members will not be welcomed here. Should there be any indication that thi...
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tea2
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Marriage on the Rocks
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By Janet Woititz.... I picked this book up last night again. I discovered that I had not read it all in its entirety. Best book I could have picked up for myself last night. I just identified with so much in it. Melodie Beatie makes reference to this author several times in Codependent No More. One...
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twinmom2
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Chatted with my husband - SABBOTAGE!!!!
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Ok so yesterday I finally broke down and allowed a conversation to take place with my husband (despite restraining order) over yahoo chat. I told him exactly how I REALLY felt and have felt all along since we split up. He has been going to meetings every day and just got a new totally FAT job as usual (w...
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carolinagirl
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Putting some emotional distance between the A and his addiction
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(((MIP Family))) Just wanted to say thanks to those who responded to my post yesterday. I was feeling a little emotionally needy and your posts gave me some good ESH. The active addiction is back and I guess it has taken me a couple of weeks to accept that. Yesterday I was driving back to office from my...
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twinmom2
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Want to go back soooo bad -
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I'm having a bad couple of hours and just want to finsish work and go find my AH and beg him to have me back and just hold him forever and never let go..... But instead I'm sitting here writing this - man this sucks - I know he's toxic and all that other stuff but I just can't stop wishing we we...
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tuneboon
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why do I feel abandoned again?
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My AH has to go to see his family for his Grandmothers funeral. They are all A’s, and he has to stay with them. I’m not really so much worried about him using again. It’s the constant lieing. They lie to each other and treat each other terribly. He is finally learning to treat us like a h and father should tre...
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Jen
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More Unknown Territory
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I posted about this on Feb 22... it has now been 25 days since our first date, and I think we've now had 7 dates. Or 7 get-togethers, date might not be the right word. There are not many -ism issues coming up. Other than my self-deprecating humor, which to me is as much a part of recovery as it is the dis...
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barisax
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So nervous about starting a new relationship
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Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...
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Feather
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Recovering from co-dependant situations in other aspects of life
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My old need to please and control others is starting to diminish. I have a business, and got a new quote for our weekly cleaning that was a savings of 1200 per month. Unfortunately, my collegue and friend is the one who currently cleans...for 525 per week or 2100 per month. The new quote is only 900 per...
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kicky
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my anti stressor
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For me my anti stressor is my animal sanctuary. I can feel very sad and lay in new hay and have a five hundred pound and twelve hundred pound farm pig on either side of me. Like who would want to? haha Fannie and Estersue can feel my hurting and will nuzzle me. I lay my head on their massive bodies and cry and t...
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debilyn
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Wrote a letter today
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I wrote to my friend today, the one who won't talk to me. I haven't sent it yet, as I would like to wait at least 24 hours to make sure I've said everything I need to. I told my friend that I am an alcoholic and I apologized for my behavior while drinking. I said that wasn't really me, and I...
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theprofessor
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beautiful day
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It is a beautiful spring day. My 3 yr old and I spent the afternoon in the yard...I said "Let's look for signs of spring".....before I knew it she was sayong" Mommy, let's look for things that are alive!" A wonderful thing to do. Look for things that are alive....in my yard, in my heart, in my spirit. I then...
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Fifi
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tonight i go angry
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tonight i got angry. i bounced off the bed in the family room where i was watching tv, told him i recognized his part as the family martyer, and, as quick as a wink i had my coat on and the dog leashed , and , out the door i went for a brisk walk. but not before i heard him mumble......, ''well no, i did...
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jewely
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Al-anon Friends
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I thought I'd share with you a story about how great an al-anon friend can be. Last week I had to go to the doctor b/c of back pain--my sober ah wanted me to go on Tues., but I didn't want to overreact, but by Thurs. I could stand it no more--he told me all week, just stay home don't go to work, I...
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This is me not reacting
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Not alot of dramma tonight, at least not by my standards anyway. I am tired as all heck and A is doing the rummage through stuff and swear thing. I tell him he is making me nervous and he snaps SO WHAT!! So I start acting snappy and short too. And in my head I am ranting about him and doing dumb stuff like tossi...
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RainyJamie
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Survived 3 days! Yipee!!!
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Hi Everyone - thanks to you I have gotten through another day - I worked yesterday and am here again today (I will not let my A make me lose my job). I actually slept for 7 hours last nite and can actually drink my coffee this morning. I will be attending my first meeting tonite at 7:30 - 11.5 hrs and counting...
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tuneboon
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Hello, all: old but new :)
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Been reading on the forum, such caring words and support I immediately signed up. I've been involved with the 12 step programs since my teen years, after my father went into recovery. In some ways, the program is "part" of me, and in others, you'd think I wouldn't know an Al An...
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Kim65
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GROWING WITHIN AL-ANON
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((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) You all know I have had a tough few months... And I have shared all this with you......I have not yet done my step four.... But this week I can feel something chainging within myself......I don't know what I would call it.......Maybe a Spiritual Awaken...
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ally
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which one is the real him?
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hi all. I am new here. Have posted a couple of times but mostly lurking. My h is an alcoholic and has been struggling with sobriety for about 8 months. (He was sober 7 years prior to this recent relapse but without a program) We have been seperated since August. He has done a 10 day stint in rehab followed by...
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Angel1
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Will I regret this?
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It is 3:00am and my A(DA)H just arrived home, ringing the bell because he was locked out (I changed the locks two weeks ago). As he handed me the keys to my car which he took without permission, he said "I relapsed." I couldn't let him in the door, I took the keys and said "goodbye&quo...
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New to this board & need help
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I am a 57 year old woman who has never drunk alcohol, simply because it makes me nauseaus. In 2000 I remet my high school boyfriend and to make a long story short I moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I work full time as a paralegal. H...
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Chetch
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AH's weekend bender
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Every time I might feel a little sad about leaving my AH, he does something that reminds me of why I left him and I don't feel quite so bad anymore. I haven't started the divorce process yet, but I have been gone now for almost five months now. We have been in touch and he does want me to come back, but...
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Lindy
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Thank you!
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((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to say thank you for all the love and prayers. Hubby is doing better. We did not end up going to the ER (woohoo) because we have seen small improvements and his pain is lessening. His appetite is so so, and he's really weak. But he has not worsened and that certai...
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Karilynn
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Funny for the week (Some adult words!)
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After being married 28 years my wife has me trained. I'm no longer allowed to pee like a man - standing up. I am required to sit down and pee. She has convinced me that this is a small price to pay. Otherwise if she had gone to the toilet one more time at night and either sat on a pee soaked toilet seat,...
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Cucamonga
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Heard from my AH after 3 weeks.
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Monday marked the 3 week since my AH left. I hadn't heard from him in all that time. Then yesterday morning he called and said he wanted his gun safe out of storage and asked if he could have the key. I told him I'd meet him there and he said he'd call me when he got to this side of town. I didn&...
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QOD
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Thank you all
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Thank you all for your wonderful support. I'm so glad I found this board. I don't feel do alone now. Cheryl
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Chetch
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Help and Suuport Please.......!!!!!
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Hi - I'm first time on here -but I have lived with an alcoholic man for 5 years and have not tried to get help for myself and he and I have recently had a huge falling out and I've gotten an apartment but he still wanted to be a couple and we were and then this weekend I was at his place and things were fin...
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tuneboon
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