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Moon · Moon

Hey guys I hope all is well. I've been reading a little, but not posting much, and I have to mention something that I have seen on this forum that I have not seen in ANY al anon meetings that I go to. (Fortunately for me I live in an area that has many, many meetings) Anyway none of us ever use the term &...

irish54 · irish54

Hi Family, Well, as normal, any holiday or celebration seems to dredge back all those old memories and dreams. Mother's Day was no exception for me either. My 18 yr old daughter (grandaughter I raised) is ready to graduate the 25th; which is exactly 40 yrs from the day I graduated and my birthday. Eve...

ally · ally

(((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))) I have finally admitted I am "Obsessed" with the A in my life. For a long time the word obsession was scarey to me....I have Obsessional Compulsive Disorder (OCD). But I thought It was related to objects, not people...lol So I have been watching my beha...

Diva · Diva

If he ignores it, then it will go away. Is this a typical A trait? I lost my beloved Boston Terrier a couple of months back. She was 14, lived a wonderfully happy life, and now she is gone. I have come to the point where I would love to have another Boston. We have a Jack Russell who is still grieving, and so am I...

serendipity · serendipity

I am feeling ok today. I have been feeling better. I'm having bad moments rather than bad days. I still have this feeling in my heart of pain, grief is the best way to describe it. I am still scared. But I am doing things to take care of myself. Like not filling the hole with sick people, men. Not doing thing...

kissers · kissers

The A never contacted me to wish me a Happy Birthday nor Happy Mother's Day. I checked my e-mail and someone I never thought would wish me a happy birthday did. He said he hoped all my dreams come true. I started crying because he had no idea how much this meant. I had plans to visit my Mom today. My stepfathe...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) I am in a bad place tonight. I know I will push through it, but it just has been a rough day. It's mothers day... and we have a decent day with my AW. Small gift that my Son picked out, roses from me and a card. She liked it. Out to eat and then... she says well, time to go. And she goe...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

I have hundreds of reasons NOT to go to a f2f meeting, thousands of excuses. I know I need to go, but I am afraid, I know there are people who need it more than me, those with active A's at home, blah blah blah. I just afraid to go. Talking to people here, many have said the same, they too were afraid to go at firs...

sash · sash

Every thursday, my husband's rehab has a family group night. They always have a different topic, and last night's was codependence. Some of the traits of codependence are: The need to always take care of an A; to take the world on your shoulders the protect them; low self esteem; feeling that someh...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I decided to take the interview just to see if I am even offered the position. I will tell them that I have one week to hear from them or I will be registering for school and then it will be too late. If they do offer then I will write down all my questions about the move and make sure they are all answered befo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Friends))) As I earlier posted I have been working hard setting those boundaries with my AH. It has done well for me and I feel good about myself and good about where I'm at in life right now. My AH does not feel good, everytime I get on the phone with him he sings the blues about where he's at in life. I...

leo · leo

A Mum is God's love in action. She looks with her heart and feels with her eyes. A Mum is the bank where children deposit all their worries and hurt. A Mum is the cement that holds her family together and her love lasts a lifetime. Send this on to a good Mum I just did. ((()) to all of you and the Dads out there wh...

lmt123 · lmt123

I just wanted to wish all the Moms out there the best Mother's Day ever! I know how good it feels to be remembered for all we have done and try to do every day for our kids. It's not an easy job, that's for sure. Hats off to all of you wonderful Moms! Kathi

debilyn · debilyn

Wrote this before the sad came. Reading it again almost made me realize things will be ok...so out I go to unload another two yards of shavings....come on over, I have lotsa good food!! nice place to camp...bring your kids and dogs and whoever.....(c: Well a friend got me a pair of Frizzles! And also 6 Co...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((ROOMIES)))))))))))))))))) First day back at work today after 4 months off on the sick....Wow...same ole, same ole....Like riding a bike eh!.... But hey, I'm back caring for the sick..My forte.........Feeling tired already and I've only done first half of shift...lol Going ba...

Lena · Lena

Hey (((all))) Bit of a weird day for me. Dad was my A and 8yrs ago today I guess he went on a drunken drug binge and overdosed (fatally). I have only joined alanon recently but have already felt the difference...whenever I come in here I feel all of your warmth and understanding. For that reason, this year...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))), To all the MIP mothers: HAPPY, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! May your day be filled with love, laughter, sunshine and your favorite foods. Thanks for all your love and support. Raising a family isn't easy under the best of circumstances. You all do it with grace and courage. What an i...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Sea lion joins walk-a-thon in Calif. CORTE MADERA, Calif. - He has flippers instead of feet and certainly no sneakers or hiking boots. But that didn't stop a sea lion from joining schoolchildren on a walk-a-thon. ADVERTISEMENT if(window.yzq_d==null)window.yzq_d=new Object(); window.yzq_d[...

poppingin · poppingin

I think I became a person who either lived in the past or well into the future. The five year relationship with my addict moved through a progression of my launching into "fixit" mode, then the response of persecutor, followed by victim. Looking back at it I think that the five year affair wi...

Tammy · Tammy

Today has been a very hard day for me. I have missed my husband so much. I know that I did the right thing by asking him to leave but MAN, my heart is BROKEN in pieces.. He has taken everything this time and it is so final... A divorce is on the horizon and even though I know that it is the right thing it is one of...

QOD · QOD

This is so weird and WRONG and maybe just goes to show how badly having an A in my life has had a negative effect on me. Every where I go, I see people I have never met and think to myself "Drunk" or "Druggie". I am judging complete strangers simply by the way they look. And it makes me...

marmare · marmare

I thought I would be okay, I mean Mother's Day is just another day, right? Not this year, this year I don't look forward to it like before, as there will be no kiss on mom's cheek for me, no early morning call to her house, no little gift to give her. This week has been the hardest since she got her wings.......

donewithitallandhappy · donewithitallandhappy

.. -- Edited by donewithitallandhappy at 01:14, 2007-05-14

Tammy · Tammy

Life without my husband has been difficult. I miss him so much but know that I am doing the right thing not allowing his disease to rule my life. I havent seen him for over a week although I have spoken to him. I hear his voice and chills go up my spine. Will the love ever go away? Or at least the chills sub...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

I've been doing so good these past few weeks!! Keeping busy going out with friends, attending family functions, going to my childrens sporting events and doing things for me. Today tho, well, its a dreary day and I've been thinking a lot about my ex A b/f. Remembering all our good times, reliving the...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have the order that the A has to return the truck to me. I doubt he will. I think he will just take off with it. Nevertheless i did send him a clear clear message you can't just take it. I feel exhausted and alone and sad. I would so appreciate your prayers. I am still waiting on this job. I am so fed up wit...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) My Mother came into town today and said she wanted to stop by my office and bring me something from my Father (AFather 25 years sober if you haven't heard the stories). Well the gift was a lucky penny. If you stop reading now thinking "yeah so what" you will miss out. He f...

bob6502 · bob6502

Guess What???? We have another birthday girl!!!! Happy Birthday to Kismetstrand!!! Congratulations on catching up with me girl!!! Happy Birthday, Love, SenoraBob

CJ · CJ

Hi family, I haven't written much, lately, yet I still come and read about every night. I love you all very much, and am so proud of all the great progress and AUTHENTIC/GENUINE care, love, and support. I have noticed, also, that there is quite a bit of crosstalking happening. For the program newbies...

gardengal · gardengal

I can remember when "fear" ruled my life, every thing was that gut wrenching oh no now what? And even when things were quiet and calm, I would think of scenarios in my head along with my( committee which was always present), that surely something dreadful is going to happen. Was he going to ki...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The Word WAIT- "Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live the...

serendipity · serendipity

I know it was y'all. I had over an hour of true peace at work tonight. I was right there focused on what I was doing. I felt good, like myself, "he" was so far from my mind. I actually forgot about him for that time. I know it was because of your prayers and love and understanding. Thank you all. I n...

lilms · lilms

what the heck is fos????? lilms

jaja · jaja

First,thank you to you guys who responded to my "D" word post earlier today. It truly has helped. I also wanted to share about something I read today that really shed some light, really brought my situation into focus. It spoke of the elusiveness of an A and how they can disappear, and ...

david62 · david62

Hello (((((Family)))))) Got into a great discussion with a friend today and wanted to share some of it. In a nutshell, I was talking about how for most of my life I lived with this protective....well lets call it a nutshell!....wrapped around me. This shell protected me from the effects of the outsid...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, My story is that I seperated from my Abf six months ago. The relationship was turning me into a hateful person. I felt to seperate was the only way I could cope. It was the best thing to do, for both of us. Despite this decision we love each other very much. Since then I have been feeling somewha...

Leetle · Leetle

It took me years to realize I was banging my head against a brick wall. I tried to stop on my own and it took me even more time to acknowledge that I can't do it myself. I had a big breakthrough when I got so desperate, that I finally allowed myself to reach out for help from people in recovery! This week I h...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi....Haven't popped in....in ages. But, I guess our recovery path takes us many, many, many places! It has been a wild carpet ride for me.....just like they said it would be. Oh......I've been in spots, I didn't want to go....and still do! But, I cannot tell you from going from complete isol...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((Everyone)))) The other week I was about to leave my drive to go out to dinner when my car died. That was okay, for whatever reason I wasn't suppose to go. So the next day I had it towed, only we had a wicked Northeastern sweep the south and when the tow truck arrived I saw him pull around something......

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Yesterday I commented on someone elses post about how I would love a raise sign and then last night I got a call about a job in a new town that would end up paying less per hr. but more overall. I have been debating whether to interview or not since it's a day's drive there and back. I have decided to go. Als...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Funny, since I have been here I have heard so many stories, most have many many similarities but there are a few of you that I read and think did I write that under my other personality? LOL There are 4 of you in particular that I can think of who I read and I think this is my life and I can't tell you how helpfu...

QOD · QOD

I have been wanting to post this all week but didn't know exactly what to say. My thoughts on it are a bit tangled. Maybe y'all can give me some ESH that will help me. My AH has been home for the last month. He hasn't used drugs since he got out of jail 2 months ago. While he was off on his several binges earli...

ally · ally

This is todays reading in the c2c.....I thought I would post this, for anyone who does not have that book... "Just For Today" Ally Girl -- Edited by tea2 at 09:49, 2007-05-11

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi (((everyone))) I hope this finds you all well. I have been off the board for a while, dealing with work, home children and a new life. After all these years I completely split with and am divorcing my AH. I cannot even begin to tell you how free I feel. Like a huge anvil has been lifted off my head. Several...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

For those who know the rest of the story... I was online last night messing around and looking online at court stuff checking out my husband's next date, charges, etc. I decided I'd look for other ppl with the same charges and guess who I found on the list? The girl he had gone to jail for assaulting a fe...

serendipity · serendipity

In my life I have always been told by my family of origin and my a to "not dwell on it, let it go, get over it, don't think about it." So, I woke up this morning at 5 am. I came here and didn't do anything stupid. But I have been thinking about "it" all day. I still have this physical feeli...

lilms · lilms

((((((((Friends)))))))))) Afternoon all, I am a little late with this (was at a funeral in another city so have been away) but I am wishing myself a happy one year on this board. I wanted to include you all because your wisdom has helped to change my life. And a year later life is happy. Certianly not per...

ajt62 · ajt62

Long share (and I haven't even started typing it yet...) I'm Allison, and my 23yo daughter is the addict in my life. She's had issues, was clean for a long time, but has been back on oxycontin recently. She lives 200 mi away from me - I sent her to live in the town where my mom and sis live to get her away fro...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

This is something that has been bothering me, I guess maybe I have been in DENIAL about it, can't really say why, but here goes: I am very embarrassed of my AH. I don't want my coworkers or new freinds to meet him. I don't like being seen with him. There are several reasons. He doesn't shower (maybe once eve...

jaja · jaja

Divorce. Unsure as I've been recently, I came right out and told my A I wanted out. I have learned how to communicate better, no attitude,accusing or being defensive and I have been much better at saying what I mean. The atmosphere had been good. Yet he didn't seem to get it. He would listen to me, be...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

I really need to hear from other members, have you ever been able to be just friends with your former A? We lived together for 2 years known each other for two years after. Went through all kinds of things together. Now live six streets apart. I have gotten help with my codependency and attending Al -non...

java · java

CJ had a post that made me think about crosstalk and then one response by Barisax mentioned that continuing with a tread of thought that might continue into another, should be a new topic....so here goes>>>a new topic: Losing a loved one, in this case my dad, has been a long and arduous proce...

janey225 · janey225

What a day today has been. I did alot of reading yeterday and I went to bed last night determined to wake up with a positive attitude. I did and I had a great day. There was a break through with my AH today. He tod me something that he has been carrying around for years and he says that it is one of the reasons he...

maresie2 · maresie2

One of the things about the A's actions that bothered me the most was that at the same time as he was demanding I take care of him and put him first he was always putting me last. The latest example of taking in the homeless couple is one of them. He told me last Wednesday he felt overwhelmed by their needs a...

tea2 · tea2

OK, I am curious Clearly I am not the most computer savvy can anyone fill me in on where these neat avatars (that are not from the library images here) can be found?

hopefully · hopefully

My A & I have been together 15 yrs but gradually, every year things get worse. Sometimes I think it just creeps up on us & we don't realize it has gotten so bad. Today my A's ex-daughter-in-law stopped by the house to tell me that when the A goes to his 14 yr old grandaughter's soccer games he's been...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello my MIP Family))) Just wanted to share a little bit about boundaries. It's not my favorite topic but seems to be the most demanding aspect of my recovery right now. I do believe HP is challenging me to step it up in the boundaries department not just with my AH, with my kids, my job, and myself. ...

Katy · Katy

My ah came home from work yesterday very angry, our 16 year old son had spent a few hours working with him, they had got into an arguement and my husband was angry to the point of wanting to throw our son through the door, as my husband was telling me his voice was becoming louder and he was shaking with rage...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) My second F2F meeting I bought the ODAT daily reader. My morning routine was to drive into work and before entering into the chaos which is my job... read the daily passage and meditate a bit on what it means to me and my situations. Well, during a .... invigorating disscussion (LOL)...

maresie2 · maresie2

Right now I am giving it all to HP. After obtaining a judgment against me because the A did not move out (I signed a joint tenancy so I am liable) the landlord has let the A stay in exchange for some building work. In the meantime I am trying to get a Judge to sign an order saying he has to give the truck to me (wo...

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	My Alcoholic or my qualifier (Preview) Hey guys I hope all is well. I've been reading a little, but not posting much, and I have to mention something that I have seen on this forum that I have not seen in ANY al anon meetings that I go to. (Fortunately for me I live in an area that has many, many meetings) Anyway none of us ever use the term &...	Moon	7	3379	May 14, 2007 by Moon
	Shoulda,Coulda, Woulda's (Preview) Hi Family, Well, as normal, any holiday or celebration seems to dredge back all those old memories and dreams. Mother's Day was no exception for me either. My 18 yr old daughter (grandaughter I raised) is ready to graduate the 25th; which is exactly 40 yrs from the day I graduated and my birthday. Eve...	irish54	3	437	May 14, 2007 by irish54
	I AM OBSESSED (Preview) (((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))) I have finally admitted I am "Obsessed" with the A in my life. For a long time the word obsession was scarey to me....I have Obsessional Compulsive Disorder (OCD). But I thought It was related to objects, not people...lol So I have been watching my beha...	ally	7	458	May 14, 2007 by newday
	Ignore it...it'll go away! (Preview) If he ignores it, then it will go away. Is this a typical A trait? I lost my beloved Boston Terrier a couple of months back. She was 14, lived a wonderfully happy life, and now she is gone. I have come to the point where I would love to have another Boston. We have a Jack Russell who is still grieving, and so am I...	Diva	16	515	May 14, 2007 by Diva
	Is this what it's like? (Preview) I am feeling ok today. I have been feeling better. I'm having bad moments rather than bad days. I still have this feeling in my heart of pain, grief is the best way to describe it. I am still scared. But I am doing things to take care of myself. Like not filling the hole with sick people, men. Not doing thing...	serendipity	6	552	May 14, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Touched by angels (Preview) The A never contacted me to wish me a Happy Birthday nor Happy Mother's Day. I checked my e-mail and someone I never thought would wish me a happy birthday did. He said he hoped all my dreams come true. I started crying because he had no idea how much this meant. I had plans to visit my Mom today. My stepfathe...	kissers	3	345	May 14, 2007 by Leetle
	Sometimes love is not enough (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) I am in a bad place tonight. I know I will push through it, but it just has been a rough day. It's mothers day... and we have a decent day with my AW. Small gift that my Son picked out, roses from me and a card. She liked it. Out to eat and then... she says well, time to go. And she goe...	rtexas	12	707	May 14, 2007 by Leetle
	Afraid to go to meetings.... answer (Preview) I have hundreds of reasons NOT to go to a f2f meeting, thousands of excuses. I know I need to go, but I am afraid, I know there are people who need it more than me, those with active A's at home, blah blah blah. I just afraid to go. Talking to people here, many have said the same, they too were afraid to go at firs...	Eve Eve Eve	10	790	May 14, 2007 by Rita G
	Codependence (Preview) Every thursday, my husband's rehab has a family group night. They always have a different topic, and last night's was codependence. Some of the traits of codependence are: The need to always take care of an A; to take the world on your shoulders the protect them; low self esteem; feeling that someh...	sash	9	569	May 14, 2007 by canadianguy
	Interviewing on Monday (Preview) I decided to take the interview just to see if I am even offered the position. I will tell them that I have one week to hear from them or I will be registering for school and then it will be too late. If they do offer then I will write down all my questions about the move and make sure they are all answered befo...	carolinagirl	5	479	May 14, 2007 by Rita G
	Guilt... need some ESH (Preview) (((Friends))) As I earlier posted I have been working hard setting those boundaries with my AH. It has done well for me and I feel good about myself and good about where I'm at in life right now. My AH does not feel good, everytime I get on the phone with him he sings the blues about where he's at in life. I...	twinmom2	7	580	May 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	For all the Mums (Preview) A Mum is God's love in action. She looks with her heart and feels with her eyes. A Mum is the bank where children deposit all their worries and hurt. A Mum is the cement that holds her family together and her love lasts a lifetime. Send this on to a good Mum I just did. ((()) to all of you and the Dads out there wh...	leo	2	402	May 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! (Preview) I just wanted to wish all the Moms out there the best Mother's Day ever! I know how good it feels to be remembered for all we have done and try to do every day for our kids. It's not an easy job, that's for sure. Hats off to all of you wonderful Moms! Kathi	lmt123	7	346	May 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	Busy Eden story (Preview) Wrote this before the sad came. Reading it again almost made me realize things will be ok...so out I go to unload another two yards of shavings....come on over, I have lotsa good food!! nice place to camp...bring your kids and dogs and whoever.....(c: Well a friend got me a pair of Frizzles! And also 6 Co...	debilyn	2	531	May 13, 2007 by Kim65
	BACK TO BEING ALLY (Preview) ((((((((((((((((ROOMIES)))))))))))))))))) First day back at work today after 4 months off on the sick....Wow...same ole, same ole....Like riding a bike eh!.... But hey, I'm back caring for the sick..My forte.........Feeling tired already and I've only done first half of shift...lol Going ba...	ally	3	424	May 13, 2007 by wp
	thank u all (Preview) Hey (((all))) Bit of a weird day for me. Dad was my A and 8yrs ago today I guess he went on a drunken drug binge and overdosed (fatally). I have only joined alanon recently but have already felt the difference...whenever I come in here I feel all of your warmth and understanding. For that reason, this year...	Lena	3	274	May 13, 2007 by rtexas
	HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! (Preview) (((((((Family))))), To all the MIP mothers: HAPPY, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! May your day be filled with love, laughter, sunshine and your favorite foods. Thanks for all your love and support. Raising a family isn't easy under the best of circumstances. You all do it with grace and courage. What an i...	Karilynn	5	397	May 13, 2007 by lmt123
	Another great animal minute... (Preview) Sea lion joins walk-a-thon in Calif. CORTE MADERA, Calif. - He has flippers instead of feet and certainly no sneakers or hiking boots. But that didn't stop a sea lion from joining schoolchildren on a walk-a-thon. ADVERTISEMENT if(window.yzq_d==null)window.yzq_d=new Object(); window.yzq_d[...	Tiger2006	0	1995	May 13, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Letting go of the past (Preview) I think I became a person who either lived in the past or well into the future. The five year relationship with my addict moved through a progression of my launching into "fixit" mode, then the response of persecutor, followed by victim. Looking back at it I think that the five year affair wi...	poppingin	3	545	May 13, 2007 by Tammy
	Today is such a difficult day.............. (Preview) Today has been a very hard day for me. I have missed my husband so much. I know that I did the right thing by asking him to leave but MAN, my heart is BROKEN in pieces.. He has taken everything this time and it is so final... A divorce is on the horizon and even though I know that it is the right thing it is one of...	Tammy	5	549	May 13, 2007 by ally
	Seeing Alcoholic or Druggie in so many strangers (Preview) This is so weird and WRONG and maybe just goes to show how badly having an A in my life has had a negative effect on me. Every where I go, I see people I have never met and think to myself "Drunk" or "Druggie". I am judging complete strangers simply by the way they look. And it makes me...	QOD	10	524	May 13, 2007 by Karilynn
	First Mother's Day without Mom (Preview) I thought I would be okay, I mean Mother's Day is just another day, right? Not this year, this year I don't look forward to it like before, as there will be no kiss on mom's cheek for me, no early morning call to her house, no little gift to give her. This week has been the hardest since she got her wings.......	marmare	10	574	May 13, 2007 by Karilynn
	Broken hearted but no longer devasted (Preview) .. -- Edited by donewithitallandhappy at 01:14, 2007-05-14	donewithitallandhappy	0	375	May 13, 2007 by donewithitallandhappy
	Living without my A.... (Preview) Life without my husband has been difficult. I miss him so much but know that I am doing the right thing not allowing his disease to rule my life. I havent seen him for over a week although I have spoken to him. I hear his voice and chills go up my spine. Will the love ever go away? Or at least the chills sub...	Tammy	3	403	May 12, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Doing so well without my A, then the clouds roll in (Preview) I've been doing so good these past few weeks!! Keeping busy going out with friends, attending family functions, going to my childrens sporting events and doing things for me. Today tho, well, its a dreary day and I've been thinking a lot about my ex A b/f. Remembering all our good times, reliving the...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	3	390	May 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	I got the order (Preview) I have the order that the A has to return the truck to me. I doubt he will. I think he will just take off with it. Nevertheless i did send him a clear clear message you can't just take it. I feel exhausted and alone and sad. I would so appreciate your prayers. I am still waiting on this job. I am so fed up wit...	maresie2	6	435	May 12, 2007 by debilyn
	1000 posts and my lucky penny (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) My Mother came into town today and said she wanted to stop by my office and bring me something from my Father (AFather 25 years sober if you haven't heard the stories). Well the gift was a lucky penny. If you stop reading now thinking "yeah so what" you will miss out. He f...	rtexas	12	734	May 12, 2007 by gardengal
	Birthday Girl!!! (Preview) Guess What???? We have another birthday girl!!!! Happy Birthday to Kismetstrand!!! Congratulations on catching up with me girl!!! Happy Birthday, Love, SenoraBob	bob6502	15	570	May 12, 2007 by gardengal
	Cross-Talk (Preview) Hi family, I haven't written much, lately, yet I still come and read about every night. I love you all very much, and am so proud of all the great progress and AUTHENTIC/GENUINE care, love, and support. I have noticed, also, that there is quite a bit of crosstalking happening. For the program newbies...	CJ	24	6992	May 12, 2007 by gardengal
	Does "fear" rule your life? (Preview) I can remember when "fear" ruled my life, every thing was that gut wrenching oh no now what? And even when things were quiet and calm, I would think of scenarios in my head along with my( committee which was always present), that surely something dreadful is going to happen. Was he going to ki...	gardengal	6	1142	May 12, 2007 by Diva
	The Word WAIT (poem) (Preview) The Word WAIT- "Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live the...	wallsal55	3	316	May 12, 2007 by java
	felt your prayers tonight (Preview) I know it was y'all. I had over an hour of true peace at work tonight. I was right there focused on what I was doing. I felt good, like myself, "he" was so far from my mind. I actually forgot about him for that time. I know it was because of your prayers and love and understanding. Thank you all. I n...	serendipity	4	368	May 11, 2007 by hopefully
	Barisax??? (Preview) what the heck is fos????? lilms	lilms	10	524	May 11, 2007 by tea2
	Maybe I'm getting "unbound" (Preview) First,thank you to you guys who responded to my "D" word post earlier today. It truly has helped. I also wanted to share about something I read today that really shed some light, really brought my situation into focus. It spoke of the elusiveness of an A and how they can disappear, and ...	jaja	2	565	May 11, 2007 by lin0606
	Getting out of the Matrix (Preview) Hello (((((Family)))))) Got into a great discussion with a friend today and wanted to share some of it. In a nutshell, I was talking about how for most of my life I lived with this protective....well lets call it a nutshell!....wrapped around me. This shell protected me from the effects of the outsid...	david62	3	532	May 11, 2007 by bob6502
	this too will pass (Preview) Hi everyone, My story is that I seperated from my Abf six months ago. The relationship was turning me into a hateful person. I felt to seperate was the only way I could cope. It was the best thing to do, for both of us. Despite this decision we love each other very much. Since then I have been feeling somewha...	annmarie	6	408	May 11, 2007 by hersh
	Brick Wall (Preview) It took me years to realize I was banging my head against a brick wall. I tried to stop on my own and it took me even more time to acknowledge that I can't do it myself. I had a big breakthrough when I got so desperate, that I finally allowed myself to reach out for help from people in recovery! This week I h...	Leetle	4	441	May 11, 2007 by Maria123
	Hi.....Alanon....opportunities....Health.... (Preview) Hi....Haven't popped in....in ages. But, I guess our recovery path takes us many, many, many places! It has been a wild carpet ride for me.....just like they said it would be. Oh......I've been in spots, I didn't want to go....and still do! But, I cannot tell you from going from complete isol...	wallsal55	0	253	May 11, 2007 by wallsal55
	Just a share.... (Preview) (((((Everyone)))) The other week I was about to leave my drive to go out to dinner when my car died. That was okay, for whatever reason I wasn't suppose to go. So the next day I had it towed, only we had a wicked Northeastern sweep the south and when the tow truck arrived I saw him pull around something......	Lunamoth	7	522	May 11, 2007 by CJ
	Job and move... (Preview) Yesterday I commented on someone elses post about how I would love a raise sign and then last night I got a call about a job in a new town that would end up paying less per hr. but more overall. I have been debating whether to interview or not since it's a day's drive there and back. I have decided to go. Als...	carolinagirl	4	458	May 11, 2007 by Rita G
	Hearing your own story... (Preview) Funny, since I have been here I have heard so many stories, most have many many similarities but there are a few of you that I read and think did I write that under my other personality? LOL There are 4 of you in particular that I can think of who I read and I think this is my life and I can't tell you how helpfu...	carolinagirl	1	412	May 11, 2007 by QOD
	Credit Card Fraud or Guilty AH??? (Preview) I have been wanting to post this all week but didn't know exactly what to say. My thoughts on it are a bit tangled. Maybe y'all can give me some ESH that will help me. My AH has been home for the last month. He hasn't used drugs since he got out of jail 2 months ago. While he was off on his several binges earli...	QOD	8	630	May 11, 2007 by QOD
	Courage 2 Change 11th May (Preview) This is todays reading in the c2c.....I thought I would post this, for anyone who does not have that book... "Just For Today" Ally Girl -- Edited by tea2 at 09:49, 2007-05-11	ally	2	384	May 11, 2007 by tea2
	Update (Preview) Hi (((everyone))) I hope this finds you all well. I have been off the board for a while, dealing with work, home children and a new life. After all these years I completely split with and am divorcing my AH. I cannot even begin to tell you how free I feel. Like a huge anvil has been lifted off my head. Several...	Jeannie	7	550	May 11, 2007 by Karilynn
	Update and two topics related to the continuing saga... (Preview) For those who know the rest of the story... I was online last night messing around and looking online at court stuff checking out my husband's next date, charges, etc. I decided I'd look for other ppl with the same charges and guess who I found on the list? The girl he had gone to jail for assaulting a fe...	carolinagirl	6	538	May 11, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Thinking too much? (Preview) In my life I have always been told by my family of origin and my a to "not dwell on it, let it go, get over it, don't think about it." So, I woke up this morning at 5 am. I came here and didn't do anything stupid. But I have been thinking about "it" all day. I still have this physical feeli...	serendipity	8	716	May 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Happy One Year (Preview) ((((((((Friends)))))))))) Afternoon all, I am a little late with this (was at a funeral in another city so have been away) but I am wishing myself a happy one year on this board. I wanted to include you all because your wisdom has helped to change my life. And a year later life is happy. Certianly not per...	lilms	9	377	May 10, 2007 by Maria123
	Rambling, letting go, letting God... (Preview) Long share (and I haven't even started typing it yet...) I'm Allison, and my 23yo daughter is the addict in my life. She's had issues, was clean for a long time, but has been back on oxycontin recently. She lives 200 mi away from me - I sent her to live in the town where my mom and sis live to get her away fro...	ajt62	4	501	May 10, 2007 by Tiger2006
	ashamed to feel ashamed (Preview) This is something that has been bothering me, I guess maybe I have been in DENIAL about it, can't really say why, but here goes: I am very embarrassed of my AH. I don't want my coworkers or new freinds to meet him. I don't like being seen with him. There are several reasons. He doesn't shower (maybe once eve...	RainyJamie	12	750	May 10, 2007 by RainyJamie
	I said the "D" word (Preview) Divorce. Unsure as I've been recently, I came right out and told my A I wanted out. I have learned how to communicate better, no attitude,accusing or being defensive and I have been much better at saying what I mean. The atmosphere had been good. Yet he didn't seem to get it. He would listen to me, be...	jaja	5	524	May 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Can you ever really be friends with your former A?? (Preview) I really need to hear from other members, have you ever been able to be just friends with your former A? We lived together for 2 years known each other for two years after. Went through all kinds of things together. Now live six streets apart. I have gotten help with my codependency and attending Al -non...	sisdragonfly1957	8	568	May 10, 2007 by lilms
	Losing a loved one is a process (Preview) CJ had a post that made me think about crosstalk and then one response by Barisax mentioned that continuing with a tread of thought that might continue into another, should be a new topic....so here goes>>>a new topic: Losing a loved one, in this case my dad, has been a long and arduous proce...	java	5	531	May 10, 2007 by lilms
	Wow What a Break through (Preview) What a day today has been. I did alot of reading yeterday and I went to bed last night determined to wake up with a positive attitude. I did and I had a great day. There was a break through with my AH today. He tod me something that he has been carrying around for years and he says that it is one of the reasons he...	janey225	3	439	May 10, 2007 by ally
	what has bothered me most (Preview) One of the things about the A's actions that bothered me the most was that at the same time as he was demanding I take care of him and put him first he was always putting me last. The latest example of taking in the homeless couple is one of them. He told me last Wednesday he felt overwhelmed by their needs a...	maresie2	3	465	May 10, 2007 by QOD
	off topic question (Preview) OK, I am curious Clearly I am not the most computer savvy can anyone fill me in on where these neat avatars (that are not from the library images here) can be found?	tea2	5	363	May 10, 2007 by QOD
	A new delima (Preview) My A & I have been together 15 yrs but gradually, every year things get worse. Sometimes I think it just creeps up on us & we don't realize it has gotten so bad. Today my A's ex-daughter-in-law stopped by the house to tell me that when the A goes to his 14 yr old grandaughter's soccer games he's been...	hopefully	3	435	May 10, 2007 by Rita G
	Getting comfortable with boundaries.... Don't have much of a choice (Preview) (((Hello my MIP Family))) Just wanted to share a little bit about boundaries. It's not my favorite topic but seems to be the most demanding aspect of my recovery right now. I do believe HP is challenging me to step it up in the boundaries department not just with my AH, with my kids, my job, and myself. ...	twinmom2	8	550	May 10, 2007 by hudsond
	Alanon in action. (Preview) My ah came home from work yesterday very angry, our 16 year old son had spent a few hours working with him, they had got into an arguement and my husband was angry to the point of wanting to throw our son through the door, as my husband was telling me his voice was becoming louder and he was shaking with rage...	Katy	4	502	May 10, 2007 by Katy
	AW swipes my ODAT.... what a gift! (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) My second F2F meeting I bought the ODAT daily reader. My morning routine was to drive into work and before entering into the chaos which is my job... read the daily passage and meditate a bit on what it means to me and my situations. Well, during a .... invigorating disscussion (LOL)...	rtexas	8	580	May 10, 2007 by kismetstrand
	giving it all to HP (Preview) Right now I am giving it all to HP. After obtaining a judgment against me because the A did not move out (I signed a joint tenancy so I am liable) the landlord has let the A stay in exchange for some building work. In the meantime I am trying to get a Judge to sign an order saying he has to give the truck to me (wo...	maresie2	3	255	May 9, 2007 by kissers
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