Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

smpoli · smpoli

You may be wondering, what in the world is ingrown eyeballs. I have to tell ya, I just heard about this one yesterday! Think about an ingrown nail. Your nail is supposed to grow out and straight. When it grows inward, wrapped and backwards, it starts to hurt. It is tender, and doesn't feel very good a...

debilyn · debilyn

Lady please respond I am very concerned. I know you have no one in the USA to help you. Please please..... love,debilyn

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies, I could really use some ES&H on family cut-offs and silent treatments. My parents had a messy divorce and when my Afather began threatening her, my mother cut all contact with him. As a result, my siblings and I didn't have contact with him either. Then, seven years ago my brother sea...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

"I didn't see it coming, but I sure felt it roll over my head. It feels really strange to have a truck run over your head." Ryan Lipscomb, a graduate student at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, on being hit by a delivery truck after he fell from his bike. Lipscomb, who wore a helmet, suffe...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hello fellow (((((Alanons))))) Yesterday I was channel surfing and I stopped on a program where a motivational speaker was speaking.It was near the end of the program and he said something that has stayed with me. He said " let go or be dragged" I started thinking about this.I got a visual i...

Tammy · Tammy

I was doing so good then CRASH-BAM-BOOM !! Now, I am so sad !! I wanted so desperately for things to work out but it just isnt going to .. He is living about 10 minutes from our home and I just cant stop thinking about who he is with and what he is doing.. None of which I can control and I know that. Unfortunate...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

I finally went to my first f2f meeting. There were torential rain downpooring, I am not a good driver, don't know my way around exept to work, my daughters school, and her job. The route to meeting same as route to work, great eh? WRONG,,,,,,,,,, traffic was blocked, there was an accident, so had to find...

andrea · andrea

Hi everyone, it's been a little while since I wrote, things are looking up, but there is only one thing, my son will be moving out with his grand mother, I need to know was are the symtoms of witdrawl from cocaine? I need an answer as soon as possible, so I can do damage control before it starts, thanks, an...

sash · sash

If a person is not particularly spiritual, has trouble with faith or is not comfortable with spirituality, what would they use as a HP?

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, I guess parts of me will always be in denial. My husband has been sober six years. Thank God. And I do thank God for his sobriety. He has no program. I don't know how many meetings he went to. He said the only time he thinks about beer is when he went to meetings because that is what...

gardengal · gardengal

Sometimes the anger within me is too much for me to bare alone. I get angry at the fact my husband became an A, left and is drinking his life away with another A. I get angry when I think of what "could have been", the promises and the dreams we talked about, and he just continued to drink. When I ge...

maire rua · maire rua

At present A is living with me after being ill in January, no he has not moved back home yet. My eldest son is coming home in two weeks from college and he will probably, hopefully move back home to his own place then which is in an awful state, no I have not gone there and cleaned it up. I have a lot of work at pre...

Maria123 · Maria123

I want to make a difference and so I share this: http://www.stservicemovie.com/ Copy and paste into a new window. love in recovery, Maria

Karaokejacky · Karaokejacky

For a while now I have been struggling woth how to deal with the behaviors and attitudes of my addict husband. Let me begin at the beginning.... We have been married for 18 years, have two sons and he has been an addict all this time. Although I didn't know he did " crack cocaine" until we had bee...

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, Well, life is a challenge. Everything was kinda of ok but 2 weeks ago things changed. My mother's intuition told me to go visit my son in the military. His dad agreed to go with me and we agreed to focus on our son and not let our current relationship get in the way. We found him in a much differe...

lilms · lilms

((((((Friends)))))) I have noticed a few posts on anger in the past while. This is my anger management technique. I really use it and for me it really works. I had to laugh when I was that it came with "steps". Can't seem to get away from the dang things Enjoy all, lilms Subject: Stress Man...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

I am stuggling on how to handle something and could use a little input from anyone who feels they could help. Here is my dilemma: My step daughter has asked to take my 14 year old to a rock concert. The reason I have reservation about this is because I am angry with my step daughter right now. My AH (her f...

debilyn · debilyn

deb need help hen i cant write anything on the board it keeps telling me a runtime error and shuts down both message bboard and chat any ideas? I got this pm from Belle1. I don't know how to help. I researched it and told her where to look on the internet. does anyone know for sure? She is in Scotland and need...

babysteps · babysteps

This could get confusing but I am sick with anger and have to get it off my chest. My AH and I own a small business publishing a regional interest magazine. The deal was that I would do all of the editorial work (writing, graphic design, etc), and office/accounting work, take care of the house, and be a sta...

heartless39470 · heartless39470

Well, my A has been dry for 5 weeks now. About 4 weeks ago he quit talking to me. I got scared and thought he was cheating, but I know better. He is not like that. He is 41 years old and has been drinking since he was 18. And for once he wants to quit, but has no program. He has been sleeping on the couch for four nig...

gardengal · gardengal

I lit a candle for my mom, beside her picture, as she has been passed away now for over 8 years. I think of her almost everyday,, something triggers a memory in my daily life and I smile. Happy to have had the time on this earth to be with her, and like a flower in our master's garden she bloomed for many year...

debilyn · debilyn

ya just don't feel? Or what you do feel is like you sorta have the flu, but don't. Ya have tears just ready to spill out and you are just holding them back? Ya don't feel like smiling or laughing? And it hits you how alone you feel, yet you appreciate big time what you have, however your zest or joy is not there...

Rita G · Rita G

Please pray for my Sister-in-law Barbara - She drives a School bus & was hit this morning before 7 am by a drunk driver!!!! By God's Grace there were no children on the bus - (She drives a special needs bus) My brother-in-law is on his way to the hospital to find out if she is ok - they wouldn't give him an...

java · java

In 2005 Fitone, a newbie, said this about boundaries: "Letting go: the thing is you can't make a person be what they don't want to be you can't make them do what they don't want to do, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. " I was looking up acceptence. About acceptance they...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))) Things have really changed for me in the last few days. I would never have imagined in my wildest dreams, life could be this good. Why???Who knows... A few days ago, I had a whole lot of anger within me because of a situation in my life. I "Let" peop...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have a friend at work who has been sep. the same amt. of time as me and yesterday she told me she is moving back in with her husband. I was shocked and just froze for a minute but then got to thinking about my own situation. Her husband was a wife beater and seriously abusive, mine only abused himself real...

Rita G · Rita G

Thanks so much for the support & prayers - our family really appreciates it. Barbara is still in the hospital recovering. She did finally start talking to her husband yesterday afternoon around 5:00 - tried to smile & make a few jokes. Still in a lot of pain. She is still under obser...

kissers · kissers

My boss recently told me that the account I was assigned to reported that they were very happy with me. I was very happy to hear this news. My boss said, It has nothing to do with you. It's only because different people like different people". I wasn't sure how to take this comment. I could understan...

serendipity · serendipity

My ex texts me today "I need to see you" I do not respond. I call my lawyer and he says there is no reason for me to have to speak to him. Ok, good. I go on with my day....moving into the new house. He texts me again before I go to work"Please I need to see you" Again I do not respond, even th...

arty · arty

My A has been out of my house since january. It has been so quiet here...nice... He has been back in a.a for afew weeks now and seems to be going well. I have booked a holiday to the U.S (I'm in Australia) to visit my best friend whom i havent seen in 12 years and i'm going for a month! very excited, but worrie...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Friends))) I am realizing now just how precious my peace and serenity is and somedays I have to fight to keep it intact. Last night I met with a real estate agent to discuss putting my condo on the market. This is plan B finally coming into action. Everything was going well until AH walks in the d...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

CriedOut2 · CriedOut2

My husband went to rehab 3 weeks ago - he said he was sick and tired of drinking. Why do I not fully believe him?? He has been drinking throughout our marriage of 22 years but last year he started drinking heavily. During the 1st weekend while he was at rehab my 2 older children and I went to their family pr...

serendipity · serendipity

As soon as I wake up, he is on my mind. My ex and who he is with. The adrenline rushes and I am AWAKE! How can I stop this being the very first thing that pops into my mind? It fades over the day as I get a grip and am able to work this program, use the suggestions and slogans. I feel like I have no control over my min...

renah · renah

All, I went back to the "how alanon works for families and friends of A" page 36, "sharing" and was reminded how I need to share both my pain my ESH. For a long time, I felt like I had no ESH, especially with alcohol. I would like to share about my many months of pondering, analyzing...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, After so many years of putting up with AH and his abuse and neglect. I am finally divorcing him. After so many years of being miserable I had finally been happy and relieved. I had reconnected with a wonderful man from my past, who treats me so well and makes me happy. Of course as usual the other shoe ha...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Lately I have been feeling confused about what I need to do to make a better life for my kids and I, confused by the choices that need to be made and all of them are difficult. If I don't go back to school we don't make it, if I do go back to school I have to continue working while I take prerequisites and my olde...

serendipity · serendipity

Thank you all for all of the great suggestions on my post yesterday. They were all so helpful and just to see in black and white that I am not the only person to ever go thru this or feel this way. That there are things I can do to help myself. I am going to print that post and replies out so I can continue to use t...

steppgirl · steppgirl

Well my A b/f got out of jail @ 1 today. I didn't bail him out or even answer his 50 calls from jail. I was very proud of myself! He called and said that he was coming over to get his stuff out.. he showed up drunk. I was nice to him until his attitude kicked in. I got the kids out and left him alone! He called his x w...

java · java

Looking for Blue Eyes by Crystal Gayle: "I'm looking for blue eyes, I can't seem to find him, he 's been away now, for so long..." (probably my interpretation....does anybody know the real lines to this song...can't get it out of my head...") My first A husband and I married at a very y...

smpoli · smpoli

For my MIP family, I just wanted to give you all an update! Bryon had is final port removal surgery and is recoverying very well! We are almost done w/monthly visits and then will be moving on to quarterly visits. I am SO excited! I was able to get some pic's of his pre and post surgery, so if you would li...

RoseChix · RoseChix

My husband used to be a serious alcoholic, before we met, and alcoholism runs heavily in his family AND culture. He has slowed down a LOT...he drinks on a regular basis, but only a beer or two...but occassionally he gets drunk. Between his familys' history of alcoholism and his own compromised liver (...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Just as I'm making huge strides in a positive direction, having fewer tough days-- BAM!! My A tries to come crawling back to me... begging me for my forgiveness and admitting that he made a mistake!! Telling me how much he misses and loves me... Asking me go to dinner... Telling me that I was th...

steppgirl · steppgirl

My A boyfriend, that lives with me, came home from AA drunk. He said that he didn't like what was said. He got angry with me cause I wouldn't talk to him cause he had been drinking. I told him to leave and he started packing a bag. Then he kept talking in front of my 15 yr old and his 5 yr old. I told him that I was ca...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) As you know the last few months have been horrendous for me.. And I have had to do some growing up....Now I have come to the conclusion, I need to put Ally first for a change..I have spent my whole life, being a caretaker, people pleaser, doormat, etc....I can no lo...

debilyn · debilyn

The responses helped so much. I learned lots. After I read those and reposted the Eden happenings I felt lighter. Now feel even more so. Slowly the darkness is going away. I do see now that there are things I never may heal from. That what aism can do is damage us. All the more reason to use our alanon skills...

hopefully · hopefully

Am having a bad day & trying so hard to live the mantra "this too will pass". I have lived with my A for almost 14 years but don't know what to call him as we're not married & now he ignores me so I can't think of him as even a boyfriend the closest word I think is a roomate. He was so wonderful...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I made it to the interview alive today it was a 3 hour drive!! Everything went well although I'm still not sure if I will even take the job if offered. I am starting to feel sick again and thinking I feel sick more than well lately. I sent a letter to the A and it wasn't very nice but it wasn't really mean eit...

Moon · Moon

Hey guys I hope all is well. I've been reading a little, but not posting much, and I have to mention something that I have seen on this forum that I have not seen in ANY al anon meetings that I go to. (Fortunately for me I live in an area that has many, many meetings) Anyway none of us ever use the term &...

irish54 · irish54

Hi Family, Well, as normal, any holiday or celebration seems to dredge back all those old memories and dreams. Mother's Day was no exception for me either. My 18 yr old daughter (grandaughter I raised) is ready to graduate the 25th; which is exactly 40 yrs from the day I graduated and my birthday. Eve...

ally · ally

(((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))) I have finally admitted I am "Obsessed" with the A in my life. For a long time the word obsession was scarey to me....I have Obsessional Compulsive Disorder (OCD). But I thought It was related to objects, not people...lol So I have been watching my beha...

Diva · Diva

If he ignores it, then it will go away. Is this a typical A trait? I lost my beloved Boston Terrier a couple of months back. She was 14, lived a wonderfully happy life, and now she is gone. I have come to the point where I would love to have another Boston. We have a Jack Russell who is still grieving, and so am I...

serendipity · serendipity

I am feeling ok today. I have been feeling better. I'm having bad moments rather than bad days. I still have this feeling in my heart of pain, grief is the best way to describe it. I am still scared. But I am doing things to take care of myself. Like not filling the hole with sick people, men. Not doing thing...

kissers · kissers

The A never contacted me to wish me a Happy Birthday nor Happy Mother's Day. I checked my e-mail and someone I never thought would wish me a happy birthday did. He said he hoped all my dreams come true. I started crying because he had no idea how much this meant. I had plans to visit my Mom today. My stepfathe...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) I am in a bad place tonight. I know I will push through it, but it just has been a rough day. It's mothers day... and we have a decent day with my AW. Small gift that my Son picked out, roses from me and a card. She liked it. Out to eat and then... she says well, time to go. And she goe...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

I have hundreds of reasons NOT to go to a f2f meeting, thousands of excuses. I know I need to go, but I am afraid, I know there are people who need it more than me, those with active A's at home, blah blah blah. I just afraid to go. Talking to people here, many have said the same, they too were afraid to go at firs...

sash · sash

Every thursday, my husband's rehab has a family group night. They always have a different topic, and last night's was codependence. Some of the traits of codependence are: The need to always take care of an A; to take the world on your shoulders the protect them; low self esteem; feeling that someh...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I decided to take the interview just to see if I am even offered the position. I will tell them that I have one week to hear from them or I will be registering for school and then it will be too late. If they do offer then I will write down all my questions about the move and make sure they are all answered befo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Friends))) As I earlier posted I have been working hard setting those boundaries with my AH. It has done well for me and I feel good about myself and good about where I'm at in life right now. My AH does not feel good, everytime I get on the phone with him he sings the blues about where he's at in life. I...

leo · leo

A Mum is God's love in action. She looks with her heart and feels with her eyes. A Mum is the bank where children deposit all their worries and hurt. A Mum is the cement that holds her family together and her love lasts a lifetime. Send this on to a good Mum I just did. ((()) to all of you and the Dads out there wh...

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	Ingrown eyeballs (Preview) You may be wondering, what in the world is ingrown eyeballs. I have to tell ya, I just heard about this one yesterday! Think about an ingrown nail. Your nail is supposed to grow out and straight. When it grows inward, wrapped and backwards, it starts to hurt. It is tender, and doesn't feel very good a...	smpoli	7	699	May 20, 2007 by jrtjosey
	Gads MARISIE, Mary where are you?? (Preview) Lady please respond I am very concerned. I know you have no one in the USA to help you. Please please..... love,debilyn	debilyn	2	358	May 20, 2007 by maresie2
	Dealing with FamilyCut-Offs/Silent Treatment (Preview) Dear Roomies, I could really use some ES&H on family cut-offs and silent treatments. My parents had a messy divorce and when my Afather began threatening her, my mother cut all contact with him. As a result, my siblings and I didn't have contact with him either. Then, seven years ago my brother sea...	BlueCloud	7	671	May 20, 2007 by jrtjosey
	The next time your kids tell you NO! (Preview) "I didn't see it coming, but I sure felt it roll over my head. It feels really strange to have a truck run over your head." Ryan Lipscomb, a graduate student at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, on being hit by a delivery truck after he fell from his bike. Lipscomb, who wore a helmet, suffe...	Tiger2006	3	455	May 20, 2007 by debilyn
	a great analogy for letting go... (Preview) Hello fellow (((((Alanons))))) Yesterday I was channel surfing and I stopped on a program where a motivational speaker was speaking.It was near the end of the program and he said something that has stayed with me. He said " let go or be dragged" I started thinking about this.I got a visual i...	drucilla06	5	4207	May 20, 2007 by debilyn
	Difficult Days :( (Preview) I was doing so good then CRASH-BAM-BOOM !! Now, I am so sad !! I wanted so desperately for things to work out but it just isnt going to .. He is living about 10 minutes from our home and I just cant stop thinking about who he is with and what he is doing.. None of which I can control and I know that. Unfortunate...	Tammy	5	516	May 20, 2007 by aunitedway
	First f2f (Preview) I finally went to my first f2f meeting. There were torential rain downpooring, I am not a good driver, don't know my way around exept to work, my daughters school, and her job. The route to meeting same as route to work, great eh? WRONG,,,,,,,,,, traffic was blocked, there was an accident, so had to find...	Eve Eve Eve	8	552	May 20, 2007 by aunitedway
	witdrawl symtoms of cocaine? (Preview) Hi everyone, it's been a little while since I wrote, things are looking up, but there is only one thing, my son will be moving out with his grand mother, I need to know was are the symtoms of witdrawl from cocaine? I need an answer as soon as possible, so I can do damage control before it starts, thanks, an...	andrea	6	2204	May 20, 2007 by moms3
	Alternatives to HP (Preview) If a person is not particularly spiritual, has trouble with faith or is not comfortable with spirituality, what would they use as a HP?	sash	11	641	May 20, 2007 by Sunny2007
	More on Dry Drunks (Preview) Hello, I guess parts of me will always be in denial. My husband has been sober six years. Thank God. And I do thank God for his sobriety. He has no program. I don't know how many meetings he went to. He said the only time he thinks about beer is when he went to meetings because that is what...	Idealsummerluv	9	605	May 20, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	How do you let go of your anger? (Preview) Sometimes the anger within me is too much for me to bare alone. I get angry at the fact my husband became an A, left and is drinking his life away with another A. I get angry when I think of what "could have been", the promises and the dreams we talked about, and he just continued to drink. When I ge...	gardengal	7	1135	May 19, 2007 by gardengal
	dealing with A's black moods (Preview) At present A is living with me after being ill in January, no he has not moved back home yet. My eldest son is coming home in two weeks from college and he will probably, hopefully move back home to his own place then which is in an awful state, no I have not gone there and cleaned it up. I have a lot of work at pre...	maire rua	3	489	May 18, 2007 by Friendofyours
	The Simple Truths of Service (Preview) I want to make a difference and so I share this: http://www.stservicemovie.com/ Copy and paste into a new window. love in recovery, Maria	Maria123	1	392	May 18, 2007 by confused
	Handling the behaviors and attitudes (Preview) For a while now I have been struggling woth how to deal with the behaviors and attitudes of my addict husband. Let me begin at the beginning.... We have been married for 18 years, have two sons and he has been an addict all this time. Although I didn't know he did " crack cocaine" until we had bee...	Karaokejacky	6	597	May 18, 2007 by Maria123
	2 weeks and life changes (Preview) Hi friends, Well, life is a challenge. Everything was kinda of ok but 2 weeks ago things changed. My mother's intuition told me to go visit my son in the military. His dad agreed to go with me and we agreed to focus on our son and not let our current relationship get in the way. We found him in a much differe...	nmike	3	404	May 18, 2007 by Maria123
	Dealing with anger or stress management (Preview) ((((((Friends)))))) I have noticed a few posts on anger in the past while. This is my anger management technique. I really use it and for me it really works. I had to laugh when I was that it came with "steps". Can't seem to get away from the dang things Enjoy all, lilms Subject: Stress Man...	lilms	4	686	May 18, 2007 by lilms
	Do I let her go? (Preview) I am stuggling on how to handle something and could use a little input from anyone who feels they could help. Here is my dilemma: My step daughter has asked to take my 14 year old to a rock concert. The reason I have reservation about this is because I am angry with my step daughter right now. My AH (her f...	Denoraphy	10	671	May 18, 2007 by Denoraphy
	Help with "runtime" error message.... (Preview) deb need help hen i cant write anything on the board it keeps telling me a runtime error and shuts down both message bboard and chat any ideas? I got this pm from Belle1. I don't know how to help. I researched it and told her where to look on the internet. does anyone know for sure? She is in Scotland and need...	debilyn	1	325	May 18, 2007 by belle1
	ESH about finances, again? (Preview) This could get confusing but I am sick with anger and have to get it off my chest. My AH and I own a small business publishing a regional interest magazine. The deal was that I would do all of the editorial work (writing, graphic design, etc), and office/accounting work, take care of the house, and be a sta...	babysteps	5	678	May 18, 2007 by babysteps
	Help me with a silent dry drunk (Preview) Well, my A has been dry for 5 weeks now. About 4 weeks ago he quit talking to me. I got scared and thought he was cheating, but I know better. He is not like that. He is 41 years old and has been drinking since he was 18. And for once he wants to quit, but has no program. He has been sleeping on the couch for four nig...	heartless39470	8	1438	May 18, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	I lit a candle for my mom who is not here today....... (Preview) I lit a candle for my mom, beside her picture, as she has been passed away now for over 8 years. I think of her almost everyday,, something triggers a memory in my daily life and I smile. Happy to have had the time on this earth to be with her, and like a flower in our master's garden she bloomed for many year...	gardengal	4	470	May 18, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Do you ever feel like...... (Preview) ya just don't feel? Or what you do feel is like you sorta have the flu, but don't. Ya have tears just ready to spill out and you are just holding them back? Ya don't feel like smiling or laughing? And it hits you how alone you feel, yet you appreciate big time what you have, however your zest or joy is not there...	debilyn	6	765	May 18, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Sister-in-law hit by Drunk Driver (Preview) Please pray for my Sister-in-law Barbara - She drives a School bus & was hit this morning before 7 am by a drunk driver!!!! By God's Grace there were no children on the bus - (She drives a special needs bus) My brother-in-law is on his way to the hospital to find out if she is ok - they wouldn't give him an...	Rita G	21	744	May 18, 2007 by Idealsummerluv
	Boundaries & Acceptance (Preview) In 2005 Fitone, a newbie, said this about boundaries: "Letting go: the thing is you can't make a person be what they don't want to be you can't make them do what they don't want to do, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink. " I was looking up acceptence. About acceptance they...	java	7	1117	May 18, 2007 by maire rua
	HAPPY, JOYOUS AND FREE (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))) Things have really changed for me in the last few days. I would never have imagined in my wildest dreams, life could be this good. Why???Who knows... A few days ago, I had a whole lot of anger within me because of a situation in my life. I "Let" peop...	ally	4	1050	May 18, 2007 by Becky1
	A as plan B (Preview) I have a friend at work who has been sep. the same amt. of time as me and yesterday she told me she is moving back in with her husband. I was shocked and just froze for a minute but then got to thinking about my own situation. Her husband was a wife beater and seriously abusive, mine only abused himself real...	carolinagirl	6	623	May 17, 2007 by nmike
	Update on Sister in Law (Preview) Thanks so much for the support & prayers - our family really appreciates it. Barbara is still in the hospital recovering. She did finally start talking to her husband yesterday afternoon around 5:00 - tried to smile & make a few jokes. Still in a lot of pain. She is still under obser...	Rita G	6	541	May 17, 2007 by wp
	Need Help Discerning Conversation (Preview) My boss recently told me that the account I was assigned to reported that they were very happy with me. I was very happy to hear this news. My boss said, It has nothing to do with you. It's only because different people like different people". I wasn't sure how to take this comment. I could understan...	kissers	7	640	May 17, 2007 by wp
	vunerable manipulation (Preview) My ex texts me today "I need to see you" I do not respond. I call my lawyer and he says there is no reason for me to have to speak to him. Ok, good. I go on with my day....moving into the new house. He texts me again before I go to work"Please I need to see you" Again I do not respond, even th...	serendipity	8	692	May 17, 2007 by wp
	how do i enjoy myself??? (Preview) My A has been out of my house since january. It has been so quiet here...nice... He has been back in a.a for afew weeks now and seems to be going well. I have booked a holiday to the U.S (I'm in Australia) to visit my best friend whom i havent seen in 12 years and i'm going for a month! very excited, but worrie...	arty	9	528	May 17, 2007 by arty
	Fighting for Peace and Serenity (Preview) (((MIP Friends))) I am realizing now just how precious my peace and serenity is and somedays I have to fight to keep it intact. Last night I met with a real estate agent to discuss putting my condo on the market. This is plan B finally coming into action. Everything was going well until AH walks in the d...	twinmom2	7	634	May 17, 2007 by TLC2
	Something for laughs... (Preview)	Tiger2006	2	526	May 17, 2007 by rtexas
	Am I stupid??? (Preview) My husband went to rehab 3 weeks ago - he said he was sick and tired of drinking. Why do I not fully believe him?? He has been drinking throughout our marriage of 22 years but last year he started drinking heavily. During the 1st weekend while he was at rehab my 2 older children and I went to their family pr...	CriedOut2	13	758	May 16, 2007 by CriedOut2
	how do you protect yourself from yourself? (Preview) As soon as I wake up, he is on my mind. My ex and who he is with. The adrenline rushes and I am AWAKE! How can I stop this being the very first thing that pops into my mind? It fades over the day as I get a grip and am able to work this program, use the suggestions and slogans. I feel like I have no control over my min...	serendipity	17	670	May 16, 2007 by ally
	Peaceful Evening (Preview) All, I went back to the "how alanon works for families and friends of A" page 36, "sharing" and was reminded how I need to share both my pain my ESH. For a long time, I felt like I had no ESH, especially with alcohol. I would like to share about my many months of pondering, analyzing...	renah	1	431	May 16, 2007 by ally
	Why can't he leave me alone? (Preview) Hi, After so many years of putting up with AH and his abuse and neglect. I am finally divorcing him. After so many years of being miserable I had finally been happy and relieved. I had reconnected with a wonderful man from my past, who treats me so well and makes me happy. Of course as usual the other shoe ha...	Jeannie	8	679	May 16, 2007 by TLC2
	Feeling BLAH.... (Preview) Lately I have been feeling confused about what I need to do to make a better life for my kids and I, confused by the choices that need to be made and all of them are difficult. If I don't go back to school we don't make it, if I do go back to school I have to continue working while I take prerequisites and my olde...	carolinagirl	3	376	May 16, 2007 by hopefully
	It Worked!! (Preview) Thank you all for all of the great suggestions on my post yesterday. They were all so helpful and just to see in black and white that I am not the only person to ever go thru this or feel this way. That there are things I can do to help myself. I am going to print that post and replies out so I can continue to use t...	serendipity	2	378	May 16, 2007 by carolinagirl
	cops again (Preview) Well my A b/f got out of jail @ 1 today. I didn't bail him out or even answer his 50 calls from jail. I was very proud of myself! He called and said that he was coming over to get his stuff out.. he showed up drunk. I was nice to him until his attitude kicked in. I got the kids out and left him alone! He called his x w...	steppgirl	5	494	May 16, 2007 by CJ
	Looking for Blue Eyes: to MalCN (Preview) Looking for Blue Eyes by Crystal Gayle: "I'm looking for blue eyes, I can't seem to find him, he 's been away now, for so long..." (probably my interpretation....does anybody know the real lines to this song...can't get it out of my head...") My first A husband and I married at a very y...	java	1	542	May 16, 2007 by java
	Update on my son, Bryon (Preview) For my MIP family, I just wanted to give you all an update! Bryon had is final port removal surgery and is recoverying very well! We are almost done w/monthly visits and then will be moving on to quarterly visits. I am SO excited! I was able to get some pic's of his pre and post surgery, so if you would li...	smpoli	5	441	May 16, 2007 by mel123
	Do I Belong Here? (Preview) My husband used to be a serious alcoholic, before we met, and alcoholism runs heavily in his family AND culture. He has slowed down a LOT...he drinks on a regular basis, but only a beer or two...but occassionally he gets drunk. Between his familys' history of alcoholism and his own compromised liver (...	RoseChix	7	668	May 16, 2007 by Jerry F
	Huge strides then BAM!!!!!!! So confused!!! (Preview) Just as I'm making huge strides in a positive direction, having fewer tough days-- BAM!! My A tries to come crawling back to me... begging me for my forgiveness and admitting that he made a mistake!! Telling me how much he misses and loves me... Asking me go to dinner... Telling me that I was th...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	7	558	May 15, 2007 by Kim65
	help please (Preview) My A boyfriend, that lives with me, came home from AA drunk. He said that he didn't like what was said. He got angry with me cause I wouldn't talk to him cause he had been drinking. I told him to leave and he started packing a bag. Then he kept talking in front of my 15 yr old and his 5 yr old. I told him that I was ca...	steppgirl	3	589	May 15, 2007 by Friendofyours
	THANK YOU FOR ALWAYS BEING HERE...I WISH YOU WELL (Preview) (((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) As you know the last few months have been horrendous for me.. And I have had to do some growing up....Now I have come to the conclusion, I need to put Ally first for a change..I have spent my whole life, being a caretaker, people pleaser, doormat, etc....I can no lo...	ally	5	511	May 15, 2007 by carosie
	just a thank you (Preview) The responses helped so much. I learned lots. After I read those and reposted the Eden happenings I felt lighter. Now feel even more so. Slowly the darkness is going away. I do see now that there are things I never may heal from. That what aism can do is damage us. All the more reason to use our alanon skills...	debilyn	2	356	May 15, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Am I Here? (Preview) Am having a bad day & trying so hard to live the mantra "this too will pass". I have lived with my A for almost 14 years but don't know what to call him as we're not married & now he ignores me so I can't think of him as even a boyfriend the closest word I think is a roomate. He was so wonderful...	hopefully	4	466	May 15, 2007 by Diva
	Interview went well... (Preview) I made it to the interview alive today it was a 3 hour drive!! Everything went well although I'm still not sure if I will even take the job if offered. I am starting to feel sick again and thinking I feel sick more than well lately. I sent a letter to the A and it wasn't very nice but it wasn't really mean eit...	carolinagirl	1	414	May 15, 2007 by lin0606
	My Alcoholic or my qualifier (Preview) Hey guys I hope all is well. I've been reading a little, but not posting much, and I have to mention something that I have seen on this forum that I have not seen in ANY al anon meetings that I go to. (Fortunately for me I live in an area that has many, many meetings) Anyway none of us ever use the term &...	Moon	7	3562	May 14, 2007 by Moon
	Shoulda,Coulda, Woulda's (Preview) Hi Family, Well, as normal, any holiday or celebration seems to dredge back all those old memories and dreams. Mother's Day was no exception for me either. My 18 yr old daughter (grandaughter I raised) is ready to graduate the 25th; which is exactly 40 yrs from the day I graduated and my birthday. Eve...	irish54	3	462	May 14, 2007 by irish54
	I AM OBSESSED (Preview) (((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))) I have finally admitted I am "Obsessed" with the A in my life. For a long time the word obsession was scarey to me....I have Obsessional Compulsive Disorder (OCD). But I thought It was related to objects, not people...lol So I have been watching my beha...	ally	7	485	May 14, 2007 by newday
	Ignore it...it'll go away! (Preview) If he ignores it, then it will go away. Is this a typical A trait? I lost my beloved Boston Terrier a couple of months back. She was 14, lived a wonderfully happy life, and now she is gone. I have come to the point where I would love to have another Boston. We have a Jack Russell who is still grieving, and so am I...	Diva	16	542	May 14, 2007 by Diva
	Is this what it's like? (Preview) I am feeling ok today. I have been feeling better. I'm having bad moments rather than bad days. I still have this feeling in my heart of pain, grief is the best way to describe it. I am still scared. But I am doing things to take care of myself. Like not filling the hole with sick people, men. Not doing thing...	serendipity	6	582	May 14, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Touched by angels (Preview) The A never contacted me to wish me a Happy Birthday nor Happy Mother's Day. I checked my e-mail and someone I never thought would wish me a happy birthday did. He said he hoped all my dreams come true. I started crying because he had no idea how much this meant. I had plans to visit my Mom today. My stepfathe...	kissers	3	371	May 14, 2007 by Leetle
	Sometimes love is not enough (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) I am in a bad place tonight. I know I will push through it, but it just has been a rough day. It's mothers day... and we have a decent day with my AW. Small gift that my Son picked out, roses from me and a card. She liked it. Out to eat and then... she says well, time to go. And she goe...	rtexas	12	729	May 14, 2007 by Leetle
	Afraid to go to meetings.... answer (Preview) I have hundreds of reasons NOT to go to a f2f meeting, thousands of excuses. I know I need to go, but I am afraid, I know there are people who need it more than me, those with active A's at home, blah blah blah. I just afraid to go. Talking to people here, many have said the same, they too were afraid to go at firs...	Eve Eve Eve	10	820	May 14, 2007 by Rita G
	Codependence (Preview) Every thursday, my husband's rehab has a family group night. They always have a different topic, and last night's was codependence. Some of the traits of codependence are: The need to always take care of an A; to take the world on your shoulders the protect them; low self esteem; feeling that someh...	sash	9	595	May 14, 2007 by canadianguy
	Interviewing on Monday (Preview) I decided to take the interview just to see if I am even offered the position. I will tell them that I have one week to hear from them or I will be registering for school and then it will be too late. If they do offer then I will write down all my questions about the move and make sure they are all answered befo...	carolinagirl	5	505	May 14, 2007 by Rita G
	Guilt... need some ESH (Preview) (((Friends))) As I earlier posted I have been working hard setting those boundaries with my AH. It has done well for me and I feel good about myself and good about where I'm at in life right now. My AH does not feel good, everytime I get on the phone with him he sings the blues about where he's at in life. I...	twinmom2	7	608	May 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	For all the Mums (Preview) A Mum is God's love in action. She looks with her heart and feels with her eyes. A Mum is the bank where children deposit all their worries and hurt. A Mum is the cement that holds her family together and her love lasts a lifetime. Send this on to a good Mum I just did. ((()) to all of you and the Dads out there wh...	leo	2	426	May 14, 2007 by Karilynn
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