Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Friends))) Just wanted to share or vent a bit. This weekend was a nice weekend and then Sunday morning rolls around and I don't have the same feeling I had to go to church. We found this church that my AH's sponser introduced us to. The pastor's and the people seemed to be warm and welcoming. It...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Hey guys. First of all I want to say THANK YOU for all your responses. My friends her at Alanon are just great!!! I went to see the attorney on Wednesday. I couldn't beleive I actually I went. There had been 3 other times in the past 2 years that I had scheduled appointments that last minute I cancelled. My...

diego doe · diego doe

I am really new - maybe 10 minutes old. I don't even know if I belong here. I have reason to believe that I am in a relationship with someone who drinks too much. I don't want to make mistakes - I know I will but if I can avoid some bumps in the road it sure would be nice. How do you know if your significant oth...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I got another letter from the A from jail (they are getting more and more frequent now that he's getting out in 3 weeks). He wants to see the kids, he has no place to go, he doesn't know what he's going to do, a few guilt trips about sleeping on the church steps, that girl didn't mean anything to him, etc. an...

entropyart · entropyart

i just got married in august, in june he was diagnosed with cirrhosis but no biopsi was done so we don't know how bad it is. he seemed to not drink for 3 months (now his friends say he was sneaking). Since the wedding (8/4) he has been drinking one beer a day. he is not violent or volatile but ONE BEER WILL KIL...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Hello again to everyone. OK so we planned the little get together for Sunday (yesterday). Not an intervention but to for the family to talk to My AH. The plan was to see what his reaction would be after everyone spoke. Well the day before (Saturday) He called me from work and said he would like to talk a...

bob6502 · bob6502

I had a wonderful experience today. I am the proud sponsor of several people and one of them called me today. She is struggling in her marriage and called me for support and inspiration. The nice thing about the sponsor relationship is that it's a two-way street. Today it was her turn to provide me with i...

Heather72 · Heather72

My A will reach 60 days sober next week. He has been receiving bi-weekly counseling, working his drug court program and talking ALOT. I haven't been online in a while, life has been a roller coaster lately. I have been in counseling myself. My A has been slowly revealing his history. A...

maresie2 · maresie2

There may be an opportunity in a building near by to move to a larger space. I will not know for a few weeks. I am finidng it hard going to live in a tiny space and have to move most of my stuff to storage. I can get really stuck in that I'm here for ever so its important for me not to latch onto this opportunity as t...

bobump · bobump

While typing an email I said the following: The road ahead is rough, but for once in my life I have to go through something instead of around it. And around it.and around it..hahahaha Which lead me to my metaphore (for those not familiar w/ traffic circles, NJ had tons, http://en.wikipedia.org/wik...

paul123 · paul123

So last week she tells me that "I Love you, I am just not in Love with you" Then she gets mad at me for not giving her a kiss goodbye in the morning when I left for work...... These are the things that make us crazy isn't it. The uncertain emotions from my AW. She is sober and goes to meetings and I...

bobump · bobump

What you can't do yourself. My A asked to speak to me. Just grabbed me and hugged me. Said that now that she has her license it would be all better. She can do the things to make herself a better person, started talking about things she was going to do. She asked me if I would reconsider. We were both dis...

friendofyours4 · friendofyours4

I'm not sure how I did it but I deleted my sign in for MIP and I can not for the life of me remember my password so I had to start over again~ So now it shows I am a newbie...lol Hopefully one of the mods will help me retrieve it and have it sent to me. It said it sent it to me but I never got it. I want my old one back. :( S...

ddub · ddub

Live and learn - seems I learn every thing by doing rather than hearing - the school of hard knocks! So I slept throught a weekly meeting but I went to an evening one a few days later. Then last wkend I really felt good, did well and had a good talk with A...... so I just forgot about the meeting the next morn...

serendipity · serendipity

I had a horrible day. But I did get my butt up and took 2 friends to see a show that my best friend is in. I was supposed to go last weekend but was too depressed to move. I looked great, felt awsome, and the show was hysterical. It was The Musical of Musicals, The Musical. It was a parody of musicals. I swear I ha...

entropyart · entropyart

i keep seeing this...i already suffer from being overly clingy (child of 2 alcoholics)...how can i do this...any tricks any suggestions?

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, I am here because I need to vent before my hubby gets home. He went out last night and didn't come back. Nothing new, old behaviours coming back. Next Wednesday he will have been back from a 7 month stint in our county jail. about 3 weeks before he came home I asked him if he could not stay clean and...

moms3 · moms3

Hello to My MIP Family, (((((( HUGS ))))) I know I haven't posted much, I have replied, I have taken breaks, and I have sat quietly and read. It is time for me to post......... A couple weeks ago, where I live, I heard late at night, on the scanner, that someone had found a man electricuted by a tra...

frazzled · frazzled

well visting mom was just fine, i think we will be fine too. the past is the past and im in recovery and there is no reason to hate her she did what she thought was right and or worked with what she had/knew.... things could have turned out much worse and they didnt so thats good enough me. i can move on. ive sto...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

The church was full of Eric's friends so it was a great turnout. His parents, who he hasn't talked to in years were there. Too bad that's what had to bring them together. You could tell his father was full of grief for not talking to his son earlier. They had a few people sing and one friend of Eric's even pla...

ddub · ddub

sitting here thinking which can be dangerous that while there are daily crisis, insanity, depression, etc wouldn't it be helpful to have daily routines to be pro active using al anon tools for a good mind set rather than dig out the tools to use as needed the biggest goal to me is keeping the mind in reco...

bobump · bobump

<deep breath in> <exxxxxhale>I told my AW yesterday afternoon that I want a divorce. It was hard for me to say those specific words. I used phrases like we are done. The marriage is done. Amazing how hard it is to say. I was wondering what would be best, one on one, or with a counselor p...

serendipity · serendipity

The RO stands for me. It was modified so that he can see the kids. I did not want that as he only ever uses the kids to get to me. My lawyer is an idiot and said " It would Ok for Mr. Doofus's sister to contact her to arrange supervised visitation." I think I looked at him like he had 3 heads. Doofus ag...

tropicalrozes · tropicalrozes

I have been playing with Al-Anon for some time now- going to meetings for short spurts, then convincing myself that I can do it on my own. That everything will turn out alright. I have been trying to do it all on my own my whole life and it hardly seems to be working. My boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me fo...

binohio · binohio

I think I have done this all my life. Sometimes Im not sure what it looks like. Other people say to me that they are upset by how I am treated, but Im not upset. So it makes me wonder if I am suppose to be upset. After my ex and I split for the last time. Well let me back up a bit, to be honest we have been divorced f...

lilms · lilms

(((((((((MIP Family))))))))) I am finding for me that I need to take a break from this for a bit. I will see you all the end of October. Live large, Laugh long and Love deeply. love you all, lilms

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Ok so I had the talk with my hubby about divorce. I spoke to him Sunday and told him I thought that this would be the best thing. He didn't get angry, just very upset. (SAD) WE talked about the house, and everything else that goes with having a divorce. It was sooo wierd. never thought that it would come to t...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, today was a good day. I usually feel that way when I cheat on my diet and eat sugar...LOL . I have the next 4 days off and am pondering what to do with myself. I think I'm going to clean, go to a movie and if the predicted rain doesn't come go to the beach. It would be a nice change to go alone without ha...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))))), Good morning! I was just skimming over hubby's new meditation book when I came across this passage. Then when I opened up my email, lo and behold here was the same reading. I'd like to share it with you. HP trying to tell me something? "Practicing tolerance Everyone has a d...

carosie · carosie

Feeling quite sad today..had to take my beloved dog Sandy of 11 yrs to the vet. She was a16yr old Shephard/Akita mix. Today was her day to pass on. She was a wonderful friend. She saw me thru many a rough day with my AH(sober now). I got her when she was 5yrs old from my sister who was moving and didn't wa...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi group.... I just closed a few threads that were not about anything remotely close to why we are all here. Not taking sides or giving personal opinions on ANY of this latest controversy - let's just all get back to why we are here - to learn from each other, to grow in knowledge, to focus on our respectiv...

Fifi · Fifi

Hi I was just reviewing David's review of alanon and some abbreviations commonly used. I came across one I had not seen....JADE...justify,argue,defend,explain. My first response was" I remember my Abf accusing me of these things in every discussion"....he would be so angry that...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear ((((Roomies))), I wanted to share a small, but meaningful victory. In my family, we are often so focused on my father, the A, that we neglected many daily self-care routines like brushing our teeth regularly, flossing, and because we were poor, there were many, many years when I didn't go to...

danz123 · danz123

Miracles in ProgressBusiness MeetingSeptember 9, 2007 The chair opened the meeting w/the Serenity Prayer. The room chair schedule and op responsibilities were posted. The August minutes were approved as written.No treasurers report. Old Business Frequently Asked Questions A rough draft of...

Rita G · Rita G

Good Morning all just now getting to work - had a little difficulty cause we had this small thing called Hurricane Humberto - holy cr#p. Those things are so unpredictable - yesterday afternoon it was heading toward SoutheastTexas and it was just a Tropical Storm - last night it goes a little more North...

Maria123 · Maria123

A very special Happy Birthday to one of our dear veterans ~~~~ txmom aka Regina Happy Birthday ((((((((((((Regina)))))))))))))))))))))))), Eat lots and lots of for me and have a banner day . You are just entering the prime of your life Girlfriend. Much love, Maria

twinkie · twinkie

Tomorrow is Dday on my job decision....I have such a headache at the moment. My current company came back with an ok offer but while I was listening to it and their ideas i thought....I don't know about this. I do know I want to leave my current employer at some point. It is not a terrible place and I will...

Diva · Diva

I wish to thank all of you who have, on the board, and personally, supported me. I might just stay around after all. I am a big girl. "Stay your ass here!" "Don't back down." "We love you." "Please don't go." THose comments mean something. Something won...

serendipity · serendipity

I have to go face him tomarrow in court. He gets to tell his side of the story. He has everyone fooled. Just like always. All I want is for him to leave me alone. I will need to leave this village. I have no peace anymore. I have fleeting moments of hope. But they are few and far between. I have called the domes...

frazzled · frazzled

this is a reply to one of my post from last week or somethng, but i didnt know whether anyone actually would see it since its from last week. anyway thanks you guys.. i appreciate the support and feedback ;) i have slacked off or took it easy for a couple days on looking back into my childhood and enjoyed a fe...

lilms · lilms

((((((((MIP Family))))))) It is not often I say anything or pot stir but today I am going to do so. Very recently I have had the displeasure of reading posts that in my opinion contain downright bigotry. How disgusting!!! For the majority I can say that my stay on this board has been a safe experience. ...

Diva · Diva

Personal attacks are not a part of my lifestyle. I will not lower myself to sling mud at anyone. To all of you who I have loved, I wish you joy and peace. Thank you for two years of making my life more pleasant. Take good care, Diva

lilms · lilms

Hi Folks, I am off for seven fun conference filled days in October. I am going to Milwaukee. Not wanting to spend all of my very little free time in a booze laden conference atmosphere I am looking for suggestions for the two evenings I will have that are not conference related. The only thing I know abo...

Diva · Diva

For those of you who are interested, the blowing of the shofar (ram's horn) begins the Jewish New Year at sundown this evening. It is called Rosh Hashanah. The year is 5768. THis is a month-long celebration of joy and prayer. So, Happy Rosh Hashanah to all. Diva

nmike · nmike

My AHsober called after a week. I am 2 1/2 weeks into recovery from my 2 shoulder surgeries. I have been getting rides from family and friends to my PT and doctors appointments 2 hours away. My AHsober showed up for 2 days and then left. When I told him that I was going to have surgery, he said he wished that...

Positivelydee · Positivelydee

Just wondering ~ Lately I feel like all of the "bad" i've done in my life (mostly towards my "x") is coming back to me in subtle ways. I'm beginning to wonder about the idea of karma - what goes around comes around. Is this possible? Do you believe in this? I never used to but now I wond...

ddub · ddub

I've been feeling the shock waves lately of awareness and it is exhausting still. Just taking it all in from a new vantage point, sifting through it as kindly as I can to myself yet I often ask how can a smart, kind and patient soul like me become so stupid. Not really kicking myself down, just more in awe of...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

"Oh Christ Dad, leave me alone!" That was my exact thought when I saw the number on my cell during class. Why am I leaving class to answer another drunken rant? I thought, Why? It wasn't Dad. It was the District Manager for Finish Line Foot Wear Store. The local mall is looking for a new mana...

frazzled · frazzled

went to a f2f meeting tonite. askedsomeone to be my temporary sponsor yeah....i have to call her tomorrow.... i am excited and scared at the same time, i have some pretty bad things i want to admit to and i dont know if it will be tomorrow that i will tell her but at least its a step. on the way home i told my hus...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A did not get taken into custody yesterday. He's elected for a jury trial, signed up a public defender. I guess they are trying him as a felony. Who knows. I have given up asking and worrying about it. He showed up at my house last night after I had told him not to. I ignored his more than 15 messages. I gav...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I'm getting caught up with reading posts as I have been away from the boards for a few days. The posts on positive thoughts really caught my attention as they confirmed a thought that was nagging at me during the night. Just what I needed to read! My AH and I went to a marriage program over the weekend and i...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Friends))) I have not had much time to post lately. Things at work have picked up since the kids went back to school. The financial stuff is still there but slowly getting worked out. I am also being sued on top of everything else from a car accident that occurred over a year and half ago. It's a...

twinkie · twinkie

I'm getting down to making the right decision for me...trying to base it on what is in my best interest and best for me and my recovery. I've been presented with two job offers. The one out of state I let go. Although the company sounded ideal and I have friends close by, I am just not up for a major move. ...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

My friend Eric passed away a week ago from congestive heart failure,(they just found him) which started in his liver due to drinking heavily earlier in his life. He died at 50. We have been best buds for 16 years. He went home to rest from not feeling well and he didnt call anyone, he didn't pick up his pay...

debilyn · debilyn

Well as ok as you can be with eight puppies chewing on your toes... She sounds great, computer is being a poop. Our girl felt good that we cared. love,debilyn

florrie · florrie

i don't say this to offend anyone and i accept that this allegiance is close to your hearts but if we are following alanon principles and traditions here, then maybe this is not the appropriate forum for posts of this nature. please have a look at traditions 6 and 10, they may clarify why i bring this up. ...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have had some concerns about my kids since I moved out but it seems that our communication has gotten much better over the past year. I have noticed a lack of respect for eachother and me, ungreatful and just generally bad attitude, lack of compassion for others, etc. I saw this book yesterday that I...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Be grateful for where you are now. "It doesn't take as much faith to believe that everything happens for a reason as it does to embrace the belief that I am who and where I am now, today, for a reason - even if I don't know what that reason is and even if I don't particularly like who or where I am today, &q...

Positivelydee · Positivelydee

I haven't posted here for a while and I've been away for a couple of weeks so I haven't been to my weekly alanon meetings (two/week)... and I'm feeling it. I haven't had my alanon support ~ and I am feeling quite alone. Sure, I could call (or SHOULD call) my sponsor or someone on my list but I don't. It a...

maresie2 · maresie2

This afternoon the A goes to court. He is likely to go to jail. He has failed to appear a number of times and has a lot of charges in front of him. As he has no income he can't offer to pay any fine. Yesterday I spoke to him and he gave me the same old sing song about how I had let him down by this and that. I found so...

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	Aism can still spoil so much (Preview) (((MIP Friends))) Just wanted to share or vent a bit. This weekend was a nice weekend and then Sunday morning rolls around and I don't have the same feeling I had to go to church. We found this church that my AH's sponser introduced us to. The pastor's and the people seemed to be warm and welcoming. It...	twinmom2	6	500	Sep 17, 2007 by maresie2
	I went to see an attorney LONG (Preview) Hey guys. First of all I want to say THANK YOU for all your responses. My friends her at Alanon are just great!!! I went to see the attorney on Wednesday. I couldn't beleive I actually I went. There had been 3 other times in the past 2 years that I had scheduled appointments that last minute I cancelled. My...	sgraingermk	7	562	Sep 17, 2007 by maresie2
	New and Lost (Preview) I am really new - maybe 10 minutes old. I don't even know if I belong here. I have reason to believe that I am in a relationship with someone who drinks too much. I don't want to make mistakes - I know I will but if I can avoid some bumps in the road it sure would be nice. How do you know if your significant oth...	diego doe	7	458	Sep 17, 2007 by diego doe
	Having a good weekend (Preview) I got another letter from the A from jail (they are getting more and more frequent now that he's getting out in 3 weeks). He wants to see the kids, he has no place to go, he doesn't know what he's going to do, a few guilt trips about sleeping on the church steps, that girl didn't mean anything to him, etc. an...	carolinagirl	3	325	Sep 17, 2007 by QOD
	new wife of alcoholic (Preview) i just got married in august, in june he was diagnosed with cirrhosis but no biopsi was done so we don't know how bad it is. he seemed to not drink for 3 months (now his friends say he was sneaking). Since the wedding (8/4) he has been drinking one beer a day. he is not violent or volatile but ONE BEER WILL KIL...	entropyart	12	794	Sep 17, 2007 by debilyn
	There is HOPE. (Preview) Hello again to everyone. OK so we planned the little get together for Sunday (yesterday). Not an intervention but to for the family to talk to My AH. The plan was to see what his reaction would be after everyone spoke. Well the day before (Saturday) He called me from work and said he would like to talk a...	sgraingermk	3	494	Sep 17, 2007 by friendofyours4
	Listening to HP (Preview) I had a wonderful experience today. I am the proud sponsor of several people and one of them called me today. She is struggling in her marriage and called me for support and inspiration. The nice thing about the sponsor relationship is that it's a two-way street. Today it was her turn to provide me with i...	bob6502	3	514	Sep 17, 2007 by Mandy123
	My A is peeking out from behind the curtain (Preview) My A will reach 60 days sober next week. He has been receiving bi-weekly counseling, working his drug court program and talking ALOT. I haven't been online in a while, life has been a roller coaster lately. I have been in counseling myself. My A has been slowly revealing his history. A...	Heather72	4	721	Sep 16, 2007 by serendipity
	an opportunity (Preview) There may be an opportunity in a building near by to move to a larger space. I will not know for a few weeks. I am finidng it hard going to live in a tiny space and have to move most of my stuff to storage. I can get really stuck in that I'm here for ever so its important for me not to latch onto this opportunity as t...	maresie2	4	299	Sep 16, 2007 by debilyn
	A metaphore that just popped into my mind ... (Preview) While typing an email I said the following: The road ahead is rough, but for once in my life I have to go through something instead of around it. And around it.and around it..hahahaha Which lead me to my metaphore (for those not familiar w/ traffic circles, NJ had tons, http://en.wikipedia.org/wik...	bobump	9	746	Sep 16, 2007 by Mandy123
	The Rollercoaster ride..... (Preview) So last week she tells me that "I Love you, I am just not in Love with you" Then she gets mad at me for not giving her a kiss goodbye in the morning when I left for work...... These are the things that make us crazy isn't it. The uncertain emotions from my AW. She is sober and goes to meetings and I...	paul123	3	614	Sep 16, 2007 by abbyal
	sometimes your HP will do for you (Preview) What you can't do yourself. My A asked to speak to me. Just grabbed me and hugged me. Said that now that she has her license it would be all better. She can do the things to make herself a better person, started talking about things she was going to do. She asked me if I would reconsider. We were both dis...	bobump	7	513	Sep 16, 2007 by Mandy123
	I messed up my computer.....sorry (Preview) I'm not sure how I did it but I deleted my sign in for MIP and I can not for the life of me remember my password so I had to start over again~ So now it shows I am a newbie...lol Hopefully one of the mods will help me retrieve it and have it sent to me. It said it sent it to me but I never got it. I want my old one back. :( S...	friendofyours4	1	309	Sep 16, 2007 by shadow1
	being authentic (Preview) Live and learn - seems I learn every thing by doing rather than hearing - the school of hard knocks! So I slept throught a weekly meeting but I went to an evening one a few days later. Then last wkend I really felt good, did well and had a good talk with A...... so I just forgot about the meeting the next morn...	ddub	3	469	Sep 16, 2007 by Mandy123
	Had a lovely evening (Preview) I had a horrible day. But I did get my butt up and took 2 friends to see a show that my best friend is in. I was supposed to go last weekend but was too depressed to move. I looked great, felt awsome, and the show was hysterical. It was The Musical of Musicals, The Musical. It was a parody of musicals. I swear I ha...	serendipity	3	398	Sep 16, 2007 by Mandy123
	how do you DETACH WITH LOVE (Preview) i keep seeing this...i already suffer from being overly clingy (child of 2 alcoholics)...how can i do this...any tricks any suggestions?	entropyart	9	654	Sep 16, 2007 by Diva
	I need to mean what I say and not say it mean when he comes home :) (Preview) Hi family, I am here because I need to vent before my hubby gets home. He went out last night and didn't come back. Nothing new, old behaviours coming back. Next Wednesday he will have been back from a 7 month stint in our county jail. about 3 weeks before he came home I asked him if he could not stay clean and...	Mandy123	3	558	Sep 16, 2007 by Karilynn
	BIG changes, and I am doing okay !!!!!!!! (Preview) Hello to My MIP Family, (((((( HUGS ))))) I know I haven't posted much, I have replied, I have taken breaks, and I have sat quietly and read. It is time for me to post......... A couple weeks ago, where I live, I heard late at night, on the scanner, that someone had found a man electricuted by a tra...	moms3	5	516	Sep 15, 2007 by ddub
	well.... (Preview) well visting mom was just fine, i think we will be fine too. the past is the past and im in recovery and there is no reason to hate her she did what she thought was right and or worked with what she had/knew.... things could have turned out much worse and they didnt so thats good enough me. i can move on. ive sto...	frazzled	2	295	Sep 15, 2007 by friendofyours4
	Back from the funeral (Preview) The church was full of Eric's friends so it was a great turnout. His parents, who he hasn't talked to in years were there. Too bad that's what had to bring them together. You could tell his father was full of grief for not talking to his son earlier. They had a few people sing and one friend of Eric's even pla...	Friendofyours	10	459	Sep 15, 2007 by friendofyours4
	healthier routines for recovery (Preview) sitting here thinking which can be dangerous that while there are daily crisis, insanity, depression, etc wouldn't it be helpful to have daily routines to be pro active using al anon tools for a good mind set rather than dig out the tools to use as needed the biggest goal to me is keeping the mind in reco...	ddub	3	650	Sep 15, 2007 by Fifi
	I need to breath.... (Preview) <deep breath in> <exxxxxhale>I told my AW yesterday afternoon that I want a divorce. It was hard for me to say those specific words. I used phrases like we are done. The marriage is done. Amazing how hard it is to say. I was wondering what would be best, one on one, or with a counselor p...	bobump	10	753	Sep 15, 2007 by Jen
	Ok I got thru court (Preview) The RO stands for me. It was modified so that he can see the kids. I did not want that as he only ever uses the kids to get to me. My lawyer is an idiot and said " It would Ok for Mr. Doofus's sister to contact her to arrange supervised visitation." I think I looked at him like he had 3 heads. Doofus ag...	serendipity	7	446	Sep 15, 2007 by moms3
	Bottomed Out (Preview) I have been playing with Al-Anon for some time now- going to meetings for short spurts, then convincing myself that I can do it on my own. That everything will turn out alright. I have been trying to do it all on my own my whole life and it hardly seems to be working. My boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me fo...	tropicalrozes	4	501	Sep 14, 2007 by Friendofyours
	accepting inappropriate behavior (Preview) I think I have done this all my life. Sometimes Im not sure what it looks like. Other people say to me that they are upset by how I am treated, but Im not upset. So it makes me wonder if I am suppose to be upset. After my ex and I split for the last time. Well let me back up a bit, to be honest we have been divorced f...	binohio	4	481	Sep 14, 2007 by lin0606
	Taking a break (Preview) (((((((((MIP Family))))))))) I am finding for me that I need to take a break from this for a bit. I will see you all the end of October. Live large, Laugh long and Love deeply. love you all, lilms	lilms	5	437	Sep 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	update (Preview) Ok so I had the talk with my hubby about divorce. I spoke to him Sunday and told him I thought that this would be the best thing. He didn't get angry, just very upset. (SAD) WE talked about the house, and everything else that goes with having a divorce. It was sooo wierd. never thought that it would come to t...	sgraingermk	9	373	Sep 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Four day weekend coming up! (Preview) Well, today was a good day. I usually feel that way when I cheat on my diet and eat sugar...LOL . I have the next 4 days off and am pondering what to do with myself. I think I'm going to clean, go to a movie and if the predicted rain doesn't come go to the beach. It would be a nice change to go alone without ha...	carolinagirl	5	351	Sep 14, 2007 by QOD
	Hmmm.... something to ponder upon (Preview) ((((Family))))), Good morning! I was just skimming over hubby's new meditation book when I came across this passage. Then when I opened up my email, lo and behold here was the same reading. I'd like to share it with you. HP trying to tell me something? "Practicing tolerance Everyone has a d...	Karilynn	2	425	Sep 14, 2007 by bobump
	sad day :( (Preview) Feeling quite sad today..had to take my beloved dog Sandy of 11 yrs to the vet. She was a16yr old Shephard/Akita mix. Today was her day to pass on. She was a wonderful friend. She saw me thru many a rough day with my AH(sober now). I got her when she was 5yrs old from my sister who was moving and didn't wa...	carosie	14	665	Sep 14, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Closed threads (closed) (Preview) Hi group.... I just closed a few threads that were not about anything remotely close to why we are all here. Not taking sides or giving personal opinions on ANY of this latest controversy - let's just all get back to why we are here - to learn from each other, to grow in knowledge, to focus on our respectiv...	canadianguy	3	594	Sep 14, 2007 by Christy
	JADE (Preview) Hi I was just reviewing David's review of alanon and some abbreviations commonly used. I came across one I had not seen....JADE...justify,argue,defend,explain. My first response was" I remember my Abf accusing me of these things in every discussion"....he would be so angry that...	Fifi	7	4887	Sep 14, 2007 by bobump
	Small, Tiny Strides...Joyous Satisfaction (Preview) Dear ((((Roomies))), I wanted to share a small, but meaningful victory. In my family, we are often so focused on my father, the A, that we neglected many daily self-care routines like brushing our teeth regularly, flossing, and because we were poor, there were many, many years when I didn't go to...	BlueCloud	2	527	Sep 14, 2007 by bobump
	September 9 Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) Miracles in ProgressBusiness MeetingSeptember 9, 2007 The chair opened the meeting w/the Serenity Prayer. The room chair schedule and op responsibilities were posted. The August minutes were approved as written.No treasurers report. Old Business Frequently Asked Questions A rough draft of...	danz123	1	2334	Sep 14, 2007 by david62
	Hurricane Humberto (Preview) Good Morning all just now getting to work - had a little difficulty cause we had this small thing called Hurricane Humberto - holy cr#p. Those things are so unpredictable - yesterday afternoon it was heading toward SoutheastTexas and it was just a Tropical Storm - last night it goes a little more North...	Rita G	9	476	Sep 13, 2007 by nmike
	Lordy, Lordy, you'll never guess who's 40 !!!!!! (Preview) A very special Happy Birthday to one of our dear veterans ~~~~ txmom aka Regina Happy Birthday ((((((((((((Regina)))))))))))))))))))))))), Eat lots and lots of for me and have a banner day . You are just entering the prime of your life Girlfriend. Much love, Maria	Maria123	9	646	Sep 13, 2007 by txmom
	getting closer.... (Preview) Tomorrow is Dday on my job decision....I have such a headache at the moment. My current company came back with an ok offer but while I was listening to it and their ideas i thought....I don't know about this. I do know I want to leave my current employer at some point. It is not a terrible place and I will...	twinkie	4	535	Sep 13, 2007 by Christy
	Consider this.... (closed) (Preview) I wish to thank all of you who have, on the board, and personally, supported me. I might just stay around after all. I am a big girl. "Stay your ass here!" "Don't back down." "We love you." "Please don't go." THose comments mean something. Something won...	Diva	4	436	Sep 13, 2007 by lilms
	court tomarrow (Preview) I have to go face him tomarrow in court. He gets to tell his side of the story. He has everyone fooled. Just like always. All I want is for him to leave me alone. I will need to leave this village. I have no peace anymore. I have fleeting moments of hope. But they are few and far between. I have called the domes...	serendipity	6	600	Sep 13, 2007 by maresie2
	feeling a little wierd (going to visit my mom) (Preview) this is a reply to one of my post from last week or somethng, but i didnt know whether anyone actually would see it since its from last week. anyway thanks you guys.. i appreciate the support and feedback ;) i have slacked off or took it easy for a couple days on looking back into my childhood and enjoyed a fe...	frazzled	3	429	Sep 13, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Insanity at MIP (closed) (Preview) ((((((((MIP Family))))))) It is not often I say anything or pot stir but today I am going to do so. Very recently I have had the displeasure of reading posts that in my opinion contain downright bigotry. How disgusting!!! For the majority I can say that my stay on this board has been a safe experience. ...	lilms	7	1069	Sep 13, 2007 by Friendofyours
	I will not return to MIP. (closed) (Preview) Personal attacks are not a part of my lifestyle. I will not lower myself to sling mud at anyone. To all of you who I have loved, I wish you joy and peace. Thank you for two years of making my life more pleasant. Take good care, Diva	Diva	10	850	Sep 13, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Milwaukee??????? (Preview) Hi Folks, I am off for seven fun conference filled days in October. I am going to Milwaukee. Not wanting to spend all of my very little free time in a booze laden conference atmosphere I am looking for suggestions for the two evenings I will have that are not conference related. The only thing I know abo...	lilms	1	322	Sep 13, 2007 by Christy
	Rosh Hashanah (closed) (Preview) For those of you who are interested, the blowing of the shofar (ram's horn) begins the Jewish New Year at sundown this evening. It is called Rosh Hashanah. The year is 5768. THis is a month-long celebration of joy and prayer. So, Happy Rosh Hashanah to all. Diva	Diva	23	884	Sep 13, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	And my response was... (Preview) My AHsober called after a week. I am 2 1/2 weeks into recovery from my 2 shoulder surgeries. I have been getting rides from family and friends to my PT and doctors appointments 2 hours away. My AHsober showed up for 2 days and then left. When I told him that I was going to have surgery, he said he wished that...	nmike	5	497	Sep 13, 2007 by Leetle
	Do you believe in Karma? (Preview) Just wondering ~ Lately I feel like all of the "bad" i've done in my life (mostly towards my "x") is coming back to me in subtle ways. I'm beginning to wonder about the idea of karma - what goes around comes around. Is this possible? Do you believe in this? I never used to but now I wond...	Positivelydee	8	654	Sep 13, 2007 by bobump
	awareness can be shocking (Preview) I've been feeling the shock waves lately of awareness and it is exhausting still. Just taking it all in from a new vantage point, sifting through it as kindly as I can to myself yet I often ask how can a smart, kind and patient soul like me become so stupid. Not really kicking myself down, just more in awe of...	ddub	3	555	Sep 13, 2007 by Friendofyours
	I can't explain mericles (Preview) "Oh Christ Dad, *leave me alone!" That was my exact thought when I saw the number on my cell during class. Why am I leaving class to answer another drunken rant?* I thought, Why? It wasn't Dad. It was the District Manager for Finish Line Foot Wear Store. The local mall is looking for a new mana...	Tiger2006	7	518	Sep 13, 2007 by Loupiness
	a few things (Preview) went to a f2f meeting tonite. askedsomeone to be my temporary sponsor yeah....i have to call her tomorrow.... i am excited and scared at the same time, i have some pretty bad things i want to admit to and i dont know if it will be tomorrow that i will tell her but at least its a step. on the way home i told my hus...	frazzled	5	488	Sep 13, 2007 by frazzled
	not giving into the dramarama (Preview) The A did not get taken into custody yesterday. He's elected for a jury trial, signed up a public defender. I guess they are trying him as a felony. Who knows. I have given up asking and worrying about it. He showed up at my house last night after I had told him not to. I ignored his more than 15 messages. I gav...	maresie2	4	641	Sep 13, 2007 by maire rua
	Being positive and the power of ME (Preview) I'm getting caught up with reading posts as I have been away from the boards for a few days. The posts on positive thoughts really caught my attention as they confirmed a thought that was nagging at me during the night. Just what I needed to read! My AH and I went to a marriage program over the weekend and i...	Loupiness	4	592	Sep 12, 2007 by twinkie
	Still here... a quick update (Preview) (((MIP Friends))) I have not had much time to post lately. Things at work have picked up since the kids went back to school. The financial stuff is still there but slowly getting worked out. I am also being sued on top of everything else from a car accident that occurred over a year and half ago. It's a...	twinmom2	4	537	Sep 12, 2007 by nmike
	Doing the right thing? (Preview) I'm getting down to making the right decision for me...trying to base it on what is in my best interest and best for me and my recovery. I've been presented with two job offers. The one out of state I let go. Although the company sounded ideal and I have friends close by, I am just not up for a major move. ...	twinkie	3	409	Sep 12, 2007 by nmike
	I lost another best friend :( (Preview) My friend Eric passed away a week ago from congestive heart failure,(they just found him) which started in his liver due to drinking heavily earlier in his life. He died at 50. We have been best buds for 16 years. He went home to rest from not feeling well and he didnt call anyone, he didn't pick up his pay...	Friendofyours	16	661	Sep 12, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Kim65 is ok (Preview) Well as ok as you can be with eight puppies chewing on your toes... She sounds great, computer is being a poop. Our girl felt good that we cared. love,debilyn	debilyn	5	794	Sep 12, 2007 by maresie2
	politics in al-anon (Preview) i don't say this to offend anyone and i accept that this allegiance is close to your hearts but if we are following alanon principles and traditions here, then maybe this is not the appropriate forum for posts of this nature. please have a look at traditions 6 and 10, they may clarify why i bring this up. ...	florrie	11	977	Sep 12, 2007 by florrie
	Parenting (Preview) I have had some concerns about my kids since I moved out but it seems that our communication has gotten much better over the past year. I have noticed a lack of respect for eachother and me, ungreatful and just generally bad attitude, lack of compassion for others, etc. I saw this book yesterday that I...	carolinagirl	6	467	Sep 12, 2007 by Jen
	"I am right where I need to be.." (Preview) Be grateful for where you are now. "It doesn't take as much faith to believe that everything happens for a reason as it does to embrace the belief that I am who and where I am now, today, for a reason - even if I don't know what that reason is and even if I don't particularly like who or where I am today, &q...	Tiger2006	2	856	Sep 12, 2007 by bobump
	Trying not to "isolate" (Preview) I haven't posted here for a while and I've been away for a couple of weeks so I haven't been to my weekly alanon meetings (two/week)... and I'm feeling it. I haven't had my alanon support ~ and I am feeling quite alone. Sure, I could call (or SHOULD call) my sponsor or someone on my list but I don't. It a...	Positivelydee	4	658	Sep 12, 2007 by twinkie
	Feeling immensely sad (Preview) This afternoon the A goes to court. He is likely to go to jail. He has failed to appear a number of times and has a lot of charges in front of him. As he has no income he can't offer to pay any fine. Yesterday I spoke to him and he gave me the same old sing song about how I had let him down by this and that. I found so...	maresie2	6	497	Sep 12, 2007 by carolinagirl
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