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My A asked to speak to me. Just grabbed me and hugged me. Said that now that she has her license it would be all better. She can do the things to make herself a better person, started talking about things she was going to do.
She asked me if I would reconsider. We were both distraught. All I could do was to shake my head no...I tried to say "I can't talk right now" but it didn't really come out. She took it as...no I will not reconsider.
I'll have these moments for awhile now where I'll have to deal. I had a really good meeting today. Did a gratitude list (3rd or 4th day in a row, lol) and things are pretty good.
Bob
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You are a perfect child of God and God and I love you just the way you are! (added by me...in that special alanon way)
((BUMP)) I'm so proud of you for being honest with yourself and your loved one. I really am. Some times, the honest thing is the hardest thing. Please keep us posted. Dont go through this alone.
Hanging right in there with you my friend. I know what you mean about being punching today. Somedays are just so much harder than others. I'm having one of those days too. You're not alone in this journey.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
What a long hard road you've both had. I know you have been through the wars. I also know how hard it is to say ENOUGH. The A called me today and I made an excuse and did not talk to him. I have nothing more to say. I can do no more and he expects me to give till I am 6 feet under and I am no longer iwlling to go there.
In the face of it all, it appears that some of the most sincere expressions of love are still based in total selfishness... That sounds heartless, I know and I am not that way. But when I lovingly as possible express that for me, I need something else... I need change.
The answer of "no... I just can't live without you" begins to sound a lot like... "I don't care if you are miserable, or if this all drives you insane... you must sit and watch me, because I want you to."
Hang in there brother... keep in the forfront what you and your HP have worked out to be what is best for Bob...
You are in my prayers....
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
