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HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Its been a long time since I've logged onto this forum. I hope everyone is doing well. Just to update you on my situation with my ex A B/F... As you may remember, him and I decided to rekindle our friendship about 6 months ago... Things were going GREAT!! We spent a lot of time together as friends doing r...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

As most of you know my A just got out of prison about 2 weeks ago and he has been emailing me. Usually they are boo hoo poor me, when can I see my kids, etc. I decided to set clear guidelines that let him know when I would let him see the kids which required him to have a home, job, sobriety and a way to get to and f...

Kai678 · Kai678

I need advice on how to deal with my active alcoholic Mother. She is 85 years old, educated, sophistocated and lives independently. She was a great mother, and did not begin drinking until I left for college. I have told her respectfully and clearly on several occassions over the years that she is ab...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Some of you a while ago gave me some excellent insight reguarding my Aunt Sandra, my Dad's sister. She was inundating me with mail, career advice, and so forth, all from the South FL area. I expressed that, for the sheer fact that she sent it, I felt obliged to act on it, and I felt guilty about the whole si...

IndianaWriter · IndianaWriter

My 31 y.o. sister just finished rehab for Rx pain killers for the second time. I supported her all through rehab, wrote letters, sent money,etc. Now she's been home for a few weeks. I've tried to support her since she's been back , but she's already back to the nasty cycle of lying and using again...

marmare · marmare

His (my A) moodiness got to me tonight, don't know if it was me being tired from being with the grandkids all day and trying to get my normal chores done...or if he was just moody...I sent him to bed 1/2 way through a movie as I didn't want to listen to him snore anymore...then came into the bedroom to find h...

afglin · afglin

My computer started crashing last week and I had it worked on. I just tried to get into the chatroom and it said my j"ava runtime failed to load". Then it closed. Please tell me exactly what I need to download to get back into the chatroom I miss my buddies! I have not been since last Wednesday!...

Chetch · Chetch

Well they let myAH come home from derox yesterday after 6 days. they gave him this drug that supposedly detoxes rapidly. They released him with a new drug that stops the craving for alchohol, has anyone heard of this? They also sent him home woth an antidepressant. He seems very quite and withdraw...

lainyb · lainyb

hi to every1 Ive just spent the last few days reading up a lot on al anon and stumbled across various websites related to al anon. Ive got my very first meeting today, and to say im a little bit nervous and anxious of the unknown is an understatement. But by some great coincidence when i was on one of t...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Sunday: Convo with mom. Synopsis: Mom, I'm not gonna tolerate our relationship being based in blaming, manipulation, lying, or spinning. There's enough hurt, anger, blame, and malfecence on both sides here for each of us to take responsibility, stand up, and have an adult, direct relationship, w...

PURRCEY · PURRCEY

Why is it that my life is now comming apart at the seams and his is not? Don't get me wrong I wish him well as I do still love him and I have prayed for years that he would stop drinking. It apears as if my prayers were anwsered as he is trying and has gone 2days without - a new record I know that my issues are petty c...

Cheryl28659 · Cheryl28659

Dear Kris, You have been my dearest friend for many years now. I have held you close to my heart, to close at times. And thats why the things I have to say are so difficult to say. And it has taken so long for me to find the words to explain my position. I have no desire to say hurtful things to you. But I know, w...

Jocar · Jocar

The other day I posted that I was looking for an online sponsor, but I don't think I made myself very clear. I have been in and out of alanon for around 5 years, but until a couple months ago never really bought that it really applied to me. My husband of 34 years went from 28 years of not even drinking a dro...

Workingit · Workingit

Hi everyone -- been reading these posts for awhile and thought I would post my own. Although my partner has not had a drink in over 15 years or so, right now it doesn't really matter... she's struggling with another illness (unrelated to alcohol) and the behaviors are just as difficult and painful as if...

lmt123 · lmt123

I haven't posted on the board in quite a while, but I have been reading many of the posts. I guess I've just kept to myself mostly, which I know is a bad thing to do when feeling blah...altho, I'm not depressed, just blah lately. I told my AsoberH two weeks ago tomorrow that I want a divorce. I don't think...

getoverit · getoverit

Hullo to all, I trust all is well 4 u and hopefully it is here 2! Today I experience a miracle or a shift in my thinking.. it is important to acknowledge my benefactor/s as being consumers here and to keep their anon at the same time. I was in the room of course, and there was a conversation that started re th...

Chetch · Chetch

Well they let myAH come home from derox yesterday after 6 days. they gave him this drug that supposedly detoxes rapidly. They released him with a new drug that stops the craving for alchohol, has anyone heard of this? They also sent him home woth an antidepressant. He seems very quite and withdraw...

kissers · kissers

I was reflecting back on a job. I remember a man coming in to the office where I worked and feeling hatred. I always considered myself a nice person; however, I could not find the nice person inside me when he came into the office. I wouldn't even speak to him. My manager told me I was being rude. I told her th...

david62 · david62

Today is a special day for............ The lovely and talented, Miss Senorabob!!!! (aka bob6502) Happy Birthday, to youuuuuuuuuuu Happy Birthday, to youuuuuuuuuuuu Happy Birthday, dear Bobbity!!!!!!! Happy Birthday , tooooo Youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!! Have a wonderful day my friend!!!! Da...

Jocar · Jocar

I was wondering if anyone out there would be interested in being an online sponsor. I've been in alanon for a while but am now very interested in working hard for my recovery and need some assistance. If anyone is interested, I would so much appreciate it.

John · John

[youtube=http://youtube.com/watch?v=ihqhaatglws] Hope you enjoy, looks like a mobster, ganster gathering to me LOL

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Hiya. I went to bed ontime because I have to get up early. AH was up doing laundry and stuff. About an hour later I called to him to come to bed. He said he was on his way. I woke up an hour after that and it was seriously storming. I was kinda scared. Then, the rain just stopped. I could hear the AH in the house, bu...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I'm writing out a will by hand because I started thinking. What would happen if I died? Would my alcholic husband get custody? That scares the snot out of me. I want my sister and her husband to get them but I'm not sure if that will happen because he would be drunk and fight. I don't plan on dying anytime so...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...is a new experience, and for the first time in my life I am finding that I am doing the talking and telling and asking for guidance. This is quite liberating, whilst scarey too. However, having always been there for others it is strange to put myself first and reach out. I am comfortable, I am in cont...

Kim65 · Kim65

(fist in the air!!) I got a job! I spoke with a lady who mentors beginning medical transcriptionists. She was very positive and sounded excited to bring me on board. All I have to do is get the software and hardware equipment and some books. She thinks she'll fast track me b/c I'm an RN. It will take at l...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((Yo Roomies)))))))))))))) Been away for a wee while, but been keeping an eye on you lot..lol The last few weeks I have been "Uncontrollable", running about like a "teenager", having "FUN", ..lol Internet dating, chatting to different people, I s...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Well, you all know my birdie had been taken to the doc for a hernia.It busted thru today and she was bleeding alot.I put some stuff called "quikstop" on the two places it was bleeding from.There was blood all over the bottom of her cage.I have no idea if she will make it thru the night or how muc...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...for, I have been thinking, ...alcoholism has brought a bus load of other complications with it. I witness amazing strength and courage in you all as shown in your sharings; some of which I have been reading. What an intricate and wonderful tapestry you all weave. No plain sailing and silver sp...

beaulahg · beaulahg

i went to the city yesterday. i was almost in a serious accident, when someone in front of me stopped suddenly because someone in front of her stopped suddenly, the situation caused me to ponder. what am i doing here? i live in a small town in northern alberta canada, i learned how to drive on a little is...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Everyone,, Thank you for all the responses to my boo hoo posted titled, "what have I done?" Yes, I do take too much on. It frustrates me how talking to him puts me into an entirely different mindframe, and his aism and addiction becomes minimal. I do have a lot of guilt and it drives me crazy...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have been trying to lift myself out of what can be simple panic, overwhelm and being fed up as well as loneliness. I'm recognizing that the A makes choices. Right now he has chosen to contnue on with his crazy behavior. He has spent thousands and thousands of dollars destroying cars in the last few ye...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Got an email from the A when I got home today, I had sent him one saying that he needed to have a home, job, be clean and sober and have a way to get to and from a place to meet to see the kids. He comes back two days later with "well I guess it will be a really long time until I see my babys since you know I can't...

TrazeyB · TrazeyB

Moving Forward.... How ironic that 5 years ago my A reached rock bottom and sought help. I thank my HP Everyday bc he is still sober today and we are happy. Something I never thought would happen..but it did! Well I resigned from my job this week after making the realization that my boss is either a dry dru...

babysteps · babysteps

I am starting a new thread after reading CarolinaGirl's response to Loupiness. My daughter is 7 years old, last night I heard her express concrete evidence that she is affected by her Dad. She and I were getting ready to play with our dog in the backyard when AH started mumbling cr*p under his breath in t...

kissers · kissers

I went to a meeting last night and the speaker talked about pain. She kept talking about all the pain she had deep down inside. Before the meeting, I was full of anger. As she kept discussing the deep pain, I totally lost it. I was sobbing uncontrollably. Her talk about pain flipped a switch. I never knew t...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Didn't sleep all night. My life, but more importantly, the life of my kids is to change forever. I see us teetering on the edge of a cliff, and I just put us there beyond the safety bar with my impatient controlling behavior. My ah put himself in the diversion program to "prove" he is clean. Oka...

danz123 · danz123

MIP Business MeetingOctober 7, 2007 The chair opened the meeting with the serenity prayer, posted the OP schedule and OP duties.The minutes from the September 8, business meeting were approved as written.No treasurers report. Old Business Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) The questions have be...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

Hello all: Well today the bubble burst. I was dreading it before I started coming here but I really am OK with it. The A proceded to drink himself into oblivion as usual but I could feel myself at peace. I usually would stress out trying to "make it all better" as if I had something to do with hi...

CJ098 · CJ098

If you blow a .233 on an alcohol test, how bad is that? Does anyone know? My AH went to work last night(works night shift, me days) I kissed him goodbye and I could smell the alcohol immediatly. Before I would have begged him not to go in like that and manipulate him into staying for fear he would get fir...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Where r u girl?

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

Just got back from the hospital and there is nothing more they can do. No more steroids, which is bad news as well as a blessing. 95% total paralysis if surgery is attempted. (Those stakes are a tad too high when you live alone.) STUNNED. So, I suppose this is another area of my life that would benefit f...

curious · curious

Isabella I have been gone for a while but think of you often. Are you still here? Talk to me. Has anyone talked to Isabella lately?

maresie2 · maresie2

Last night I managed to get angry that I have to live as I do. I am so sick of living around people who are thoughless and disrespectful. I am grateful to have a roof over me and the pets heads but I live around some people who are totally self absorbed (needless to say they are addicts of some sort). I got an...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello family, well, I have been doing all right. Haven't really been "calling" my A on the phone much lately. Found out that they (he and his new PREGNANT w/ twins) got a kitten, and I knew darn well that the motel would not let them keep it. Got a call the other day, pity call, asking and almost c...

debilyn · debilyn

Hello, changed my animal sanctuary to, "Eden's Heart" for obvious reasons. Will not have that name a whole lot longer. Have to have it a year and 4 months two weeks and 17 days or so more to draw on his social security... Anyway as you know he boinked someone else so I am free to remarry. so I am go...

Allie · Allie

My brother is an Heroin addict. He has been to rehab and Iam still finding my self feeling unsure. Any help. -- Edited by Allie at 18:15, 2007-10-15

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi(((((((((((everyone)))))))))) Tomorrow is my BIG DAY and I must admit I am scared!!! I am really having to turn this over to my higher power and it ain't easy!!! I know that I will feel better when I have the surgery and as I was told today tons of ladies go through and have hysterectomys and come out j...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Family)))))))))), For my MIP men, please indulge me for just a moment (although this can apply to you too!). I do this for the love of my family here. Just a gentle reminder that October is National Breat Cancer Awareness Month. Please dear ladies don't forget to get one done if you are...

maresie2 · maresie2

I've stood on my head for 7 years with the A worrying, obsessing, trying to work out what he is doing. I saw him recently to get my bike (I"m glad I got it even though it needs some work on it). As usual it was the same intrigue number. He has some of his stuff somewhere that is obvious. I don't know where t...

Inspiredbyhope · Inspiredbyhope

I have been struggling with getting myself out of the isolation rutt. I would rather put myself under locked doors and windows and don't have much interests in getting out at all. I am stuck in such a rutt with this one. I don't really care much if I even try to make an effort of waking up each morning with a n...

maresie2 · maresie2

After a 7 year relationship which I invested my all into I'm left with some garden furniture that was left to me some clothes, two dogs, two cats and pretty much nothing else. The A had to have everything else. All the furniture went to his storage which I paid on for months. All the cars(there were two of t...

babysteps · babysteps

My AH said to me kindly, rubbing my shoulders, "I am tired of this no sex thing..." I didn't even let him finish. I held both of his hands and said as kindly as I could, "I am too, what I need from you is to get sober and shower every day." I could tell that he was crushed. His idea was to pl...

ddub · ddub

I have done a lot of good things as a mom but being human I have been a poor role model of things I am weak about myself. I haven't really shared all that I have learned through al anon but I want to try now. I have taken pieces from several types of new understanding I have learned. It may not fit or be corre...

ddub · ddub

oh oh, not more thinking..... (David, I missed this weeks meeting of thinkers anonymous-oops) Enjoyed your post a lot on that too!! similar routine or cycle every few weeks for me but this time I got to the point where I have chosen depression or anger in the past and I was aware of my unconscious aut...

Chetch · Chetch

My husband called me at work today and asked me to take him and check him into rehab. This is the first positive sign I've seen from him, but I don't want to get my hopes up too much. Thanks for the wonderful support from all you wonderful people.

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I must admit that I was a bit worried when the A got out of jail, all those feelings of impending doom, him lurking around the corner, at my doorstep (even though I've moved), calling on the phone, etc. The Friday before I left on vacation I was working late and walking down a hallway and I swear I saw him th...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...that is what I have been telling myself. It has taken me all of three hours to find my way back here after two days of emotional to-ing and fro-ing. Panic sticken, I thought I had lost the life-line that you all threw out to me last week. Coupled with that, I am gutted that, having accepted the step one -...

trace06 · trace06

I have never posted before and am brand new - please be patient :) My AH and I have been married for 1yr & 5 mos. He has not held any job during this time. I have been the sole provider for our family and I do not make very much money. We barely get by month to month. I am completely stressed out, angry, res...

Chetch · Chetch

Dear All, I haven't been on much lately, but things have really come to a head. My AH has been drinking non stop for 2 weeks, not working - he's an attorney and has tremendous earning capacity- but is too busy drinking to work. When we had to pay bills in the 15th he told me he didn't have $750 for his share...

inspired2 · inspired2

Not only me, but my house, my kids, my life, it seems. I keep handing things over to HP then taking them back BIG TIME I want to be with my mil on the other side of country, still no place to live it has been a week since we were supposed to go. i cannot keep my life here on hold... it feels wrong and scattered and c...

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	Its been a long time (Preview) Its been a long time since I've logged onto this forum. I hope everyone is doing well. Just to update you on my situation with my ex A B/F... As you may remember, him and I decided to rekindle our friendship about 6 months ago... Things were going GREAT!! We spent a lot of time together as friends doing r...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	3	499	Oct 24, 2007 by Jen
	Emails from the A (Preview) As most of you know my A just got out of prison about 2 weeks ago and he has been emailing me. Usually they are boo hoo poor me, when can I see my kids, etc. I decided to set clear guidelines that let him know when I would let him see the kids which required him to have a home, job, sobriety and a way to get to and f...	carolinagirl	8	377	Oct 23, 2007 by Jen
	I need suggestions (Preview) I need advice on how to deal with my active alcoholic Mother. She is 85 years old, educated, sophistocated and lives independently. She was a great mother, and did not begin drinking until I left for college. I have told her respectfully and clearly on several occassions over the years that she is ab...	Kai678	14	627	Oct 23, 2007 by caro
	The Aunt Strikes again! (Preview) Some of you a while ago gave me some excellent insight reguarding my Aunt Sandra, my Dad's sister. She was inundating me with mail, career advice, and so forth, all from the South FL area. I expressed that, for the sheer fact that she sent it, I felt obliged to act on it, and I felt guilty about the whole si...	Tiger2006	3	475	Oct 23, 2007 by maresie2
	Am I mean?? (Preview) My 31 y.o. sister just finished rehab for Rx pain killers for the second time. I supported her all through rehab, wrote letters, sent money,etc. Now she's been home for a few weeks. I've tried to support her since she's been back , but she's already back to the nasty cycle of lying and using again...	IndianaWriter	6	497	Oct 23, 2007 by Jen
	I slipped (Preview) His (my A) moodiness got to me tonight, don't know if it was me being tired from being with the grandkids all day and trying to get my normal chores done...or if he was just moody...I sent him to bed 1/2 way through a movie as I didn't want to listen to him snore anymore...then came into the bedroom to find h...	marmare	8	671	Oct 23, 2007 by babysteps
	need chatroom java (Preview) My computer started crashing last week and I had it worked on. I just tried to get into the chatroom and it said my j"ava runtime failed to load". Then it closed. Please tell me exactly what I need to download to get back into the chatroom I miss my buddies! I have not been since last Wednesday!...	afglin	1	314	Oct 23, 2007 by david62
	My husband is home from detox (Preview) Well they let myAH come home from derox yesterday after 6 days. they gave him this drug that supposedly detoxes rapidly. They released him with a new drug that stops the craving for alchohol, has anyone heard of this? They also sent him home woth an antidepressant. He seems very quite and withdraw...	Chetch	3	478	Oct 23, 2007 by Karilynn
	newbie (Preview) hi to every1 Ive just spent the last few days reading up a lot on al anon and stumbled across various websites related to al anon. Ive got my very first meeting today, and to say im a little bit nervous and anxious of the unknown is an understatement. But by some great coincidence when i was on one of t...	lainyb	4	405	Oct 23, 2007 by nmike
	Been a heckuva week...just want y'all to know...Definately need y'alls support... (Preview) Sunday: Convo with mom. Synopsis: Mom, I'm not gonna tolerate our relationship being based in blaming, manipulation, lying, or spinning. There's enough hurt, anger, blame, and malfecence on both sides here for each of us to take responsibility, stand up, and have an adult, direct relationship, w...	Tiger2006	8	715	Oct 22, 2007 by lilms
	PITY PARTY? (Preview) Why is it that my life is now comming apart at the seams and his is not? Don't get me wrong I wish him well as I do still love him and I have prayed for years that he would stop drinking. It apears as if my prayers were anwsered as he is trying and has gone 2days without - a new record I know that my issues are petty c...	PURRCEY	4	609	Oct 22, 2007 by maresie2
	Saying no More! He who overcomes others has force He who over comes himself is strong (Preview) Dear Kris, You have been my dearest friend for many years now. I have held you close to my heart, to close at times. And thats why the things I have to say are so difficult to say. And it has taken so long for me to find the words to explain my position. I have no desire to say hurtful things to you. But I know, w...	Cheryl28659	2	516	Oct 22, 2007 by Cheryl28659
	I need help (Preview) The other day I posted that I was looking for an online sponsor, but I don't think I made myself very clear. I have been in and out of alanon for around 5 years, but until a couple months ago never really bought that it really applied to me. My husband of 34 years went from 28 years of not even drinking a dro...	Jocar	5	478	Oct 22, 2007 by Jen
	New, overwhelmed, needing support (Preview) Hi everyone -- been reading these posts for awhile and thought I would post my own. Although my partner has not had a drink in over 15 years or so, right now it doesn't really matter... she's struggling with another illness (unrelated to alcohol) and the behaviors are just as difficult and painful as if...	Workingit	8	703	Oct 22, 2007 by maresie2
	the D word (Preview) I haven't posted on the board in quite a while, but I have been reading many of the posts. I guess I've just kept to myself mostly, which I know is a bad thing to do when feeling blah...altho, I'm not depressed, just blah lately. I told my AsoberH two weeks ago tomorrow that I want a divorce. I don't think...	lmt123	8	700	Oct 22, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	the miracle ~ los milagros (Preview) Hullo to all, I trust all is well 4 u and hopefully it is here 2! Today I experience a miracle or a shift in my thinking.. it is important to acknowledge my benefactor/s as being consumers here and to keep their anon at the same time. I was in the room of course, and there was a conversation that started re th...	getoverit	1	446	Oct 22, 2007 by Christy
	My husband is home from detox (Preview) Well they let myAH come home from derox yesterday after 6 days. they gave him this drug that supposedly detoxes rapidly. They released him with a new drug that stops the craving for alchohol, has anyone heard of this? They also sent him home woth an antidepressant. He seems very quite and withdraw...	Chetch	0	213	Oct 22, 2007 by Chetch
	Interesting Memory (Preview) I was reflecting back on a job. I remember a man coming in to the office where I worked and feeling hatred. I always considered myself a nice person; however, I could not find the nice person inside me when he came into the office. I wouldn't even speak to him. My manager told me I was being rude. I told her th...	kissers	4	338	Oct 22, 2007 by Friendofyours
	We Got us a Birthday Girl!!!!! (Preview) Today is a special day for............ The lovely and talented, Miss Senorabob!!!! (aka bob6502) Happy Birthday, to youuuuuuuuuuu Happy Birthday, to youuuuuuuuuuuu Happy Birthday, dear Bobbity!!!!!!! Happy Birthday , tooooo Youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!! Have a wonderful day my friend!!!! Da...	david62	9	554	Oct 22, 2007 by bob6502
	I need a sponsor! (Preview) I was wondering if anyone out there would be interested in being an online sponsor. I've been in alanon for a while but am now very interested in working hard for my recovery and need some assistance. If anyone is interested, I would so much appreciate it.	Jocar	3	521	Oct 21, 2007 by Jerry F
	Wedding Picture Slide Show (Preview) [youtube=http://youtube.com/watch?v=ihqhaatglws] Hope you enjoy, looks like a mobster, ganster gathering to me LOL	John	8	642	Oct 21, 2007 by AndiLynn
	staying up late with the blues (Preview) Hiya. I went to bed ontime because I have to get up early. AH was up doing laundry and stuff. About an hour later I called to him to come to bed. He said he was on his way. I woke up an hour after that and it was seriously storming. I was kinda scared. Then, the rain just stopped. I could hear the AH in the house, bu...	RainyJamie	3	522	Oct 21, 2007 by lin0606
	Woman with young kids. Question. (Preview) I'm writing out a will by hand because I started thinking. What would happen if I died? Would my alcholic husband get custody? That scares the snot out of me. I want my sister and her husband to get them but I'm not sure if that will happen because he would be drunk and fight. I don't plan on dying anytime so...	Friendofyours	7	601	Oct 21, 2007 by Alanoner
	Trading isolation with care... (Preview) ...is a new experience, and for the first time in my life I am finding that I am doing the talking and telling and asking for guidance. This is quite liberating, whilst scarey too. However, having always been there for others it is strange to put myself first and reach out. I am comfortable, I am in cont...	Heartbroken	1	318	Oct 20, 2007 by lmt123
	YES!!! YESSSS!! (Preview) (fist in the air!!) I got a job! I spoke with a lady who mentors beginning medical transcriptionists. She was very positive and sounded excited to bring me on board. All I have to do is get the software and hardware equipment and some books. She thinks she'll fast track me b/c I'm an RN. It will take at l...	Kim65	13	643	Oct 20, 2007 by Jen
	OMG SHE'S BACK..LOL (Preview) (((((((((((((((Yo Roomies)))))))))))))) Been away for a wee while, but been keeping an eye on you lot..lol The last few weeks I have been "Uncontrollable", running about like a "teenager", having "FUN", ..lol Internet dating, chatting to different people, I s...	ally	3	647	Oct 20, 2007 by Karilynn
	Prayers requested for my Birdie Angel (Preview) Well, you all know my birdie had been taken to the doc for a hernia.It busted thru today and she was bleeding alot.I put some stuff called "quikstop" on the two places it was bleeding from.There was blood all over the bottom of her cage.I have no idea if she will make it thru the night or how muc...	hippietrippiechick	4	484	Oct 20, 2007 by Heartbroken
	What an amazing family you all are... (Preview) ...for, I have been thinking, ...alcoholism has brought a bus load of other complications with it. I witness amazing strength and courage in you all as shown in your sharings; some of which I have been reading. What an intricate and wonderful tapestry you all weave. No plain sailing and silver sp...	Heartbroken	2	617	Oct 20, 2007 by Heartbroken
	pray for the wisdom (Preview) i went to the city yesterday. i was almost in a serious accident, when someone in front of me stopped suddenly because someone in front of her stopped suddenly, the situation caused me to ponder. what am i doing here? i live in a small town in northern alberta canada, i learned how to drive on a little is...	beaulahg	4	446	Oct 19, 2007 by beaulahg
	re: what have I done? (Preview) Hi Everyone,, Thank you for all the responses to my boo hoo posted titled, "what have I done?" Yes, I do take too much on. It frustrates me how talking to him puts me into an entirely different mindframe, and his aism and addiction becomes minimal. I do have a lot of guilt and it drives me crazy...	Loupiness	7	1128	Oct 19, 2007 by serendipity
	Choices (Preview) I have been trying to lift myself out of what can be simple panic, overwhelm and being fed up as well as loneliness. I'm recognizing that the A makes choices. Right now he has chosen to contnue on with his crazy behavior. He has spent thousands and thousands of dollars destroying cars in the last few ye...	maresie2	4	464	Oct 19, 2007 by maresie2
	I have no more sympathy for the A (Preview) Got an email from the A when I got home today, I had sent him one saying that he needed to have a home, job, be clean and sober and have a way to get to and from a place to meet to see the kids. He comes back two days later with "well I guess it will be a really long time until I see my babys since you know I can't...	carolinagirl	8	640	Oct 19, 2007 by maresie2
	Walking one step at a time (Preview) Moving Forward.... How ironic that 5 years ago my A reached rock bottom and sought help. I thank my HP Everyday bc he is still sober today and we are happy. Something I never thought would happen..but it did! Well I resigned from my job this week after making the realization that my boss is either a dry dru...	TrazeyB	4	460	Oct 19, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Talking to our children (Preview) I am starting a new thread after reading CarolinaGirl's response to Loupiness. My daughter is 7 years old, last night I heard her express concrete evidence that she is affected by her Dad. She and I were getting ready to play with our dog in the backyard when AH started mumbling cr*p under his breath in t...	babysteps	7	623	Oct 19, 2007 by Loupiness
	Pain (Preview) I went to a meeting last night and the speaker talked about pain. She kept talking about all the pain she had deep down inside. Before the meeting, I was full of anger. As she kept discussing the deep pain, I totally lost it. I was sobbing uncontrollably. Her talk about pain flipped a switch. I never knew t...	kissers	4	284	Oct 19, 2007 by Kim65
	What have I done?? (Preview) Didn't sleep all night. My life, but more importantly, the life of my kids is to change forever. I see us teetering on the edge of a cliff, and I just put us there beyond the safety bar with my impatient controlling behavior. My ah put himself in the diversion program to "prove" he is clean. Oka...	Loupiness	10	672	Oct 19, 2007 by Karilynn
	October Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) MIP Business MeetingOctober 7, 2007 The chair opened the meeting with the serenity prayer, posted the OP schedule and OP duties.The minutes from the September 8, business meeting were approved as written.No treasurers report. Old Business Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) The questions have be...	danz123	3	549	Oct 18, 2007 by Maria123
	WELL ITS BACK TO THE OLD GRIND (Preview) Hello all: Well today the bubble burst. I was dreading it before I started coming here but I really am OK with it. The A proceded to drink himself into oblivion as usual but I could feel myself at peace. I usually would stress out trying to "make it all better" as if I had something to do with hi...	cookie1971	4	565	Oct 18, 2007 by cookie1971
	MY AH May be fired.... (Preview) If you blow a .233 on an alcohol test, how bad is that? Does anyone know? My AH went to work last night(works night shift, me days) I kissed him goodbye and I could smell the alcohol immediatly. Before I would have begged him not to go in like that and manipulate him into staying for fear he would get fir...	CJ098	8	663	Oct 18, 2007 by jkiss03
	QOD? (Preview) Where r u girl?	carolinagirl	2	415	Oct 18, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Just back from the hospital... (Preview) Just got back from the hospital and there is nothing more they can do. No more steroids, which is bad news as well as a blessing. 95% total paralysis if surgery is attempted. (Those stakes are a tad too high when you live alone.) STUNNED. So, I suppose this is another area of my life that would benefit f...	Heartbroken	6	446	Oct 18, 2007 by wp
	Isabella are you still here? (Preview) Isabella I have been gone for a while but think of you often. Are you still here? Talk to me. Has anyone talked to Isabella lately?	curious	3	454	Oct 18, 2007 by wp
	when I get angry I feel better (Preview) Last night I managed to get angry that I have to live as I do. I am so sick of living around people who are thoughless and disrespectful. I am grateful to have a roof over me and the pets heads but I live around some people who are totally self absorbed (needless to say they are addicts of some sort). I got an...	maresie2	8	753	Oct 18, 2007 by maresie2
	Had to say NO! What part of NO do the A's not understand? (Preview) Hello family, well, I have been doing all right. Haven't really been "calling" my A on the phone much lately. Found out that they (he and his new PREGNANT w/ twins) got a kitten, and I knew darn well that the motel would not let them keep it. Got a call the other day, pity call, asking and almost c...	hippietrippiechick	9	515	Oct 18, 2007 by curious
	Trying to get real (Preview) Hello, changed my animal sanctuary to, "Eden's Heart" for obvious reasons. Will not have that name a whole lot longer. Have to have it a year and 4 months two weeks and 17 days or so more to draw on his social security... Anyway as you know he boinked someone else so I am free to remarry. so I am go...	debilyn	4	537	Oct 18, 2007 by Friendofyours
	sad life (Preview) My brother is an Heroin addict. He has been to rehab and Iam still finding my self feeling unsure. Any help. -- Edited by Allie at 18:15, 2007-10-15	Allie	4	443	Oct 18, 2007 by Andrea12
	I must admit...... (Preview) Hi(((((((((((everyone)))))))))) Tomorrow is my BIG DAY and I must admit I am scared!!! I am really having to turn this over to my higher power and it ain't easy!!! I know that I will feel better when I have the surgery and as I was told today tons of ladies go through and have hysterectomys and come out j...	bubbles1990	9	544	Oct 17, 2007 by cookie1971
	Get those mamograms! (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))), For my MIP men, please indulge me for just a moment (although this can apply to you too!). I do this for the love of my family here. Just a gentle reminder that October is National Breat Cancer Awareness Month. Please dear ladies don't forget to get one done if you are...	Karilynn	8	433	Oct 17, 2007 by tea2
	not wanting to stand on my head anymore (Preview) I've stood on my head for 7 years with the A worrying, obsessing, trying to work out what he is doing. I saw him recently to get my bike (I"m glad I got it even though it needs some work on it). As usual it was the same intrigue number. He has some of his stuff somewhere that is obvious. I don't know where t...	maresie2	7	488	Oct 17, 2007 by maresie2
	How to stop the isolation process? (Preview) I have been struggling with getting myself out of the isolation rutt. I would rather put myself under locked doors and windows and don't have much interests in getting out at all. I am stuck in such a rutt with this one. I don't really care much if I even try to make an effort of waking up each morning with a n...	Inspiredbyhope	5	621	Oct 17, 2007 by getoverit
	starting over (Preview) After a 7 year relationship which I invested my all into I'm left with some garden furniture that was left to me some clothes, two dogs, two cats and pretty much nothing else. The A had to have everything else. All the furniture went to his storage which I paid on for months. All the cars(there were two of t...	maresie2	3	496	Oct 17, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Conversations about sex (Preview) My AH said to me kindly, rubbing my shoulders, "I am tired of this no sex thing..." I didn't even let him finish. I held both of his hands and said as kindly as I could, "I am too, what I need from you is to get sober and shower every day." I could tell that he was crushed. His idea was to pl...	babysteps	6	534	Oct 17, 2007 by getoverit
	a letter to my struggling young adult child (Preview) I have done a lot of good things as a mom but being human I have been a poor role model of things I am weak about myself. I haven't really shared all that I have learned through al anon but I want to try now. I have taken pieces from several types of new understanding I have learned. It may not fit or be corre...	ddub	4	481	Oct 17, 2007 by ddub
	been thinking again........ (Preview) oh oh, not more thinking..... (David, I missed this weeks meeting of thinkers anonymous-oops) Enjoyed your post a lot on that too!! similar routine or cycle every few weeks for me but this time I got to the point where I have chosen depression or anger in the past and I was aware of my unconscious aut...	ddub	4	536	Oct 17, 2007 by ddub
	My husband is in rehab! (Preview) My husband called me at work today and asked me to take him and check him into rehab. This is the first positive sign I've seen from him, but I don't want to get my hopes up too much. Thanks for the wonderful support from all you wonderful people.	Chetch	8	587	Oct 17, 2007 by SLS
	I feel strong! (Preview) I must admit that I was a bit worried when the A got out of jail, all those feelings of impending doom, him lurking around the corner, at my doorstep (even though I've moved), calling on the phone, etc. The Friday before I left on vacation I was working late and walking down a hallway and I swear I saw him th...	carolinagirl	4	454	Oct 16, 2007 by ddub
	Just remember to breathe... (Preview) ...that is what I have been telling myself. It has taken me all of three hours to find my way back here after two days of emotional to-ing and fro-ing. Panic sticken, I thought I had lost the life-line that you all threw out to me last week. Coupled with that, I am gutted that, having accepted the step one -...	Heartbroken	7	602	Oct 16, 2007 by getoverit
	am I a horrible person (Preview) I have never posted before and am brand new - please be patient :) My AH and I have been married for 1yr & 5 mos. He has not held any job during this time. I have been the sole provider for our family and I do not make very much money. We barely get by month to month. I am completely stressed out, angry, res...	trace06	13	741	Oct 16, 2007 by artygirl
	Filing for Divorce (Preview) Dear All, I haven't been on much lately, but things have really come to a head. My AH has been drinking non stop for 2 weeks, not working - he's an attorney and has tremendous earning capacity- but is too busy drinking to work. When we had to pay bills in the 15th he told me he didn't have $750 for his share...	Chetch	5	497	Oct 16, 2007 by carolinagirl
	I am a mess (Preview) Not only me, but my house, my kids, my life, it seems. I keep handing things over to HP then taking them back BIG TIME I want to be with my mil on the other side of country, still no place to live it has been a week since we were supposed to go. i cannot keep my life here on hold... it feels wrong and scattered and c...	inspired2	8	523	Oct 16, 2007 by inspired2
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