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Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

Our A is 25 and been battling it for 2 1/2 years, since she finished college. Two stints in rehab in FL, four lost jobs, 14 days in jail, one DWI, and over six different half-way houses and apartments. Five relapses, they average about every six months or so but tend to only last a couple of days because sh...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

No matter what I do I cannot enter the chat room and I thought it would be a good idea to go in to sit and listen and become a little more involved since it is NOT possible for me to go to f2f meetings. I have downloaded the software as directed but if I click on the link in John's chatroom information sticky I si...

souljoy · souljoy

my AH decided to "discuss" with me some things. For the life of me I can't even remember what it was. It does not matter because it always ends up in an attempt to verbally abuse me. I get up and walk away and tell him I am not going there. I lay down to go to sleep and he follows me. It's always my faul...

chick29 · chick29

I have been with my partner for around four years in this time he has cheated several times, lied been manipulative and every time I have allowed him to talk me round because of my own unhealthy behaviour patterns. I have attended al anon on and off which has been very helpful, he has also self harmed and a...

Belladay · Belladay

My last post explained how my dad called after a year and it was pretty freaky to say the least. I really didn't expect to hear from him again. He is my AD I guess, as apposed to AH I see you guys use. He is very ill emotionally. He can be very inappropriate even being long distance, which he has been for the las...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanon Friends, This is sort been a reflective day for me. I turned 58. I always have a nice day on my birthday. Friends have called. Some of my family has called. I made a cake and my girlfriends came by and we laughed. Two out of three sons called. It is like some of the pieces of the recovery puzzle have c...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Still no tower at home. My boss didn't get a chance to work on it this weekend, but hey he is helping me out and for free, so that is a huge blessing. :) I will be back soon. I do have a tower I borrowed from a friend before this other tower came up so I may see if it works tonight, but since it is borrowed I h...

maresie2 · maresie2

The holidays are almost on us and they are the time I had the worst time with the A. Last year on Thanskgiiving in my normal over reactive mode I struggled to make a huge feast for him. He went out got stoned, drugged whatever and couldn't even stand up. Yet somehow it was important to him that I spend weeks s...

CJC · CJC

I'm not sure how to start this one, I've got a ton of thoughts running through my head, so if I start jumping around and not making sense...I'm sorry. :) My AH hasn't been home in nearly 2 weeks, his drinking has spiraled out of control. It is now to the point that he will walk to the bar, walk back to his place...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello All, Well, let's see, I have lost my husband, children lost a father, my son lost his best friend a few weeks ago, he was like one of my own...he lived here most of the time. Financially devistated, Social Security owes me close to 10,000.00 said around 30 more days. My daughter who is only 17 just...

ddub · ddub

I hoped that I would recover more quickly than I have heard possible but I keep seeing again and again, how or why it takes time. When I was in denial, protecting my AH of consequences & not expressing any anger ad nauseum; the resulting therapies for children, marital, family etc I figgured had me a...

chef · chef

Hello, I am new to this and just looking for some answers from people that have gone through the same thing. Me and my girlfriend have been together for over two years. In that time i have been by her side through two rehabs and a dozen hospital visits. She knows that if she keeps drinking she will die but f...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Do any of you ever find yourself surprised about behavior from you or your a that you know exists but keep hoping disappears? I wonder if is that is denial... Last night the kids and I were with some friends at their home. We were having pizza (and wine) and then all the kids were going to a haunted house....

CJ098 · CJ098

Hi all, It's been a while since I last posted. We move into our new apartment on this next Wed. - Halloween. It is cheaper and closer to work so I won't have to take the bus to work anymore. My Ah has 3 DUI's and lost his license 4 yrs ago and can't get it back until next year. I haven't gotten my licsence ren...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi Family, Well I did it I asked my hubby to leave. He left Thursday morning. He went back to the house that afternoon while I was at work. He destroyed my tower to my pc and a few other things. I will be gone for a bit until I am able to get back online. My work donated a tower to me, but at the moment it is not worki...

Jocar · Jocar

Over the last ten days my husband has repeatedly said he wants to move out. He basically only sleeps here now, the rest of the time he's out drinking. I think he is seeing someone, carrying his cell phone with him everywhere (that's how I knew once in the past). I've attempted to be pleasant to him toda...

caro · caro

Hi all, I am new to your forum and am so grateful to have found you. My A is in the midst of a major relapse, and I had planned to visit my family halfway across the country next week. My main concern in leaving is that I'm afraid he will neglect our pets. I could try to arrange care for them, but I feel like that...

dm0141 · dm0141

I found this website when looking for my husband and thought I would join also. I would like to share my story....... My father was an alcoholic all of my life. He died last year and continued to drink until he died. My mother overcome prescription drug use when I was in my teens, but has been drinking f...

kissers · kissers

(((Hi Roomies))) I was bored the other night, so I started googling people from my past. You know curious minds can be. I googled my ex, who had been arrested 6 times for DUI's and I found marijuana in his truck. Anyhoo, he was a volunteer for a recovery house. The recovery house had quoted him saying, &qu...

Diva · Diva

So often I read, "God doesn't give us more to bear than we can handle." Kiddies, if God has anyhing to do with it, this is just not true. Otherwise no one would take a fatal overdose, jump off a high building, or blow his/her brains out with a 9mm pistol. I choose to believe that an HP, whatever y...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...to bite size pieces... Everything was getting on top of me. The house, the garden, the chores, the shopping, the correspondence, my responsibilities, even my friends, my programme. then a funny old saying came to mind... " Don't try to eat the whole elephant, instead start by nibbling it...

omajoy · omajoy

My rant on Thursday about my DIL and keeping the grandbaby was good for my soul; I had to do it! The responses I received were pretty wise and y'all tried to see all sides to this thing. Sooo it is now Sunday afternoon. My son came Friday after work and has stayed all weekend being a good father to his child. N...

Unsure · Unsure

I never thought that I could miss someone so much, to the point that I find no pleasure in any one else right now. I don't want to be around people, I don't want to go to work, but I do these things and resent these people. I resent having to deal with them, they aren't my family, they aren't people I care abo...

justmeagain · justmeagain

Hello all, it has been about two years plus since I was last here. Just when all is well..it's not. Fiance and I seperated on October 15., his son is getting out of jail the day after Thanksgiving. His son had lived with us for three years at one point. He stole from us, robbed from us, caused major probl...

norwood · norwood

I shared soething this morning that I wanted to share with others as those who heard it thought it made good sense for us to keep in mind at times Topics action v reaction, responsibility, serenity these are great topics for me today as most of you know one reason I am here is because I was detached f...

Belladay · Belladay

Hi everyone. This is my first time here. I have read some of your posts and really appreciate all the honesty. I wanted to see if I could tell you something. I don't really know what to do about it. Life really can be so confusing. You see, my dad is an alcoholic. He left us years ago. Since then I have gotten s...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I just can't seem to find me, I got lost again in this horrible disease. I feel like it is all out of control. I can't seem to get a grip, everytime I seem to take one step forward, it seems like 10 back. I miss Chuck, am pissed at him for the damage he left this family in. I am still cleaning up...

rtexas · rtexas

Learn the art of patience. Apply discipline to your thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to success. - Brian Adams We...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...this is really hard for me to face, and yet I do face this every day. Today I felt very lonely but knew I was not alone and yet rejection tears me apart. Even so, I still felt very lonely because I am on my own here, in this house however I feel rejected because the telephone never rings, there are no emails...

dm0141 · dm0141

I said yesterday that I always waited for the other shoe to drop. I came home late tonite from work and hubby and kids were at the fair. I always put my son's Adderall (Amphetamine) up when hubby comes home (works offshore 14 days/home 7 days) as courtesy to him because he is a drug abuser. I got meds out...

chick29 · chick29

Hi posted 30 min ago no views or replies bit worried any answers?

Jean4444 · Jean4444

wow, I am so grateful that I found this place and that all these great people are here. Really, this is yet another wonderful tool. Its my turn to do some meetings next week and I am going to do it on this site! I think its particularly helpful for me because I am so introverted and use isolation so much and a w...

omajoy · omajoy

My ex-daughter-in-law has once again flabbergasted me! She divorced my son secretly (meaning we found out about it being final two weeks after the fact) due to his drinking beer every night and falling asleep.....no partying, no infedility, no job problems... so we didn't really understand it. Th...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi All, Life as we know it will be changing soon, and I am trying to stay faithful and out of the fear of what might be. My ah, a medical professional, entered himself into the Diversion Program. Essentially what this means is that a private company is going to manage his life to make darn sure he stays sobe...

hersh · hersh

Hi All and glad we are all together!!! What are you thankful for today? Too many times we forget to be grateful, and it is a lifesaver to remember to be grateful for what we have. Mine are: My family - There have been a few times where I could have lost loving family members and I am so grateful they are all s...

maresie2 · maresie2

As you all know where I am living is not the greatest. I live in a really super small space with too many animals. Most of my stuff is in storage. I have put out a lot of energy on looking for another space. I just put it out and really most of the time people say they don't want pets. An opportunity has come up fo...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) I just want to thank you all for your love and support!! I came through my surgery real well and have been recoving at home since sunday... Thanks to Hp NO CANCER was found, But I had a BAD case of endometriois and they had to remove my appendix because of it being inflam...

Allie · Allie

Hi this week has deen pretty good. My brother came to stay with me, his wife had to work and she lives with her mother and father. They went to Las Vagas and I said I would watch my nephw. So they stayed with my husdband and I.When they got here my bother looked a little high, but it was my grandma's birthday a...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Today, actually for the past few days I have been feeling bored and restless. I don't know why, it's not as if I have a shortage of things to do, quite the opposite in reality but I'm still feeling like I'm missing something. I'm working and looking for a second job, selling stuff on ebay, hanging out wit...

maresie2 · maresie2

It seems to me that I raged a tthe A for like 7 years, about his friends (who moved into the house lock stop and barrel) his family (who always came first), his money (he never had any), his hours (he was always at work he claimed then he claimed he never got paid), his decisions (usually nothing to do with me...

Christy · Christy

James Ray was one of the teachers in the movie "The Secret". Even if you have no clue what The Secret is about or who James Ray is, I think everyone can benifit from what he says in the following letter. October 22, 2007 4:45 PM Friends, At the time of writing, my home and office have been eva...

bennett · bennett

My name is bennett and I'm not in it!! At least that is what I keep telling myself. I haven't been to a meeting in years, but I sure need one right now. My daughter and her two kids have moved in with my mother. They are all 200 miles away, but I get emails nearly every day from my mom. She tells me all about wha...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))), Just asking for prayers for our MIP families that are affected by the California fires. You're all in my thoughts and prayers. Here's hoping that you and your families are safe. Please include our brave firefighters, EMTS and safety officers who are working so hard to...

Chetch · Chetch

My husband got out of detox on Sunday. It is like living with a stranger. He barely talks to me, mopes around like he's lost his best friend - I guess he has - Vodka. It is very frustatrating and I am trying to be patient, which is why I am writing this - I can't talk to him. He tells me nothing. I don't know i...

verenda · verenda

If you read my laast post, you knw I am about ready to tell AH to move back home. Heres my problem. For the last couple of days when we have been together I have found myself being very needy, clingy sort of, wanting all his attention. Some background....Ah was emotionally abusive in the past, before I lef...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((Everyone))))) I haven't been here in a couple of weeks and so much has happened since then. LOT and LOTS of drama -- I won't bore you with it, lol. Anyhow, I do want to share with you that I was able to keep moving forward. I kept doing that next right thing. I put myself and the needs of the kids firs...

beaulahg · beaulahg

years ago when i first came to alanon this prayer was in the beginers packet i was given. Lord, make me an instrument of your peace, where there is hatred, let me sow love: where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith where there is depspair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where th...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

Dear Friends: I don't know where to begin. My AH called me at work yesterday he wanted to ask me if we could have his 34 year old nephew also an alcoholic move in with us. He said the nephew was "reaching out" to him because he had lost his job and his sister was throwing him out of her house. I s...

verenda · verenda

Hi everyone Have not been here in a while. Ah and I are doing real well, he picked up his 6 month chip on the 18th, He is still at the halfway house for recovering men, has been for 2 months now since he graduated Faith home in August. Also. he is faithfully attending meetings, 5 a week, his counseling ever...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been thinking seriously about the responses I got about the A's emails and feeding the fire by replying to them. After thinking about that I started paying attention more. I had been sending nice replies to SOME of his emails that were matter of fact just providing information about what he wo...

mecarolina · mecarolina

I am new here and don't know what to expect. My AH had an affair which I found out when "she" called me to give me all the gory details. Needless to say, it was awful. After I told him I would forgive him, he said he was leaving then he was staying then he was leaving, etc. He finally decided to sta...

maresie2 · maresie2

When I was with the A nothing was too much for me. All summer long I held him up. I paid for everything, food, shelter, clothes the works. Now I am having ot work more to pay for the credit I burned thorugh taking care of him. I find it pretty hard going to give this to myself. I want to sink into self ptiy or burn...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

MY BIRDIE ANGEL IS SO SICK AGAIN I don't know how much longer I can go on with this. I repaired her hernia burst with the quik stop and she was doing so well and then this morning she is lethargic, doesn't want to eat or drink. ( I had to hand feed and give her water in her mouth ).I am scared. I had to reapply th...

Christy · Christy

Hi (((family))) My Dad is having a stint/heart procedure today. It is a fairly simple procedure unless there is something more serious discovered. I just wanted to ask for a few extra prayers for him today. He is 81 yrs old, diabetic and has been committed to caring for my mother who had a stroke 19...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Its been a long time since I've logged onto this forum. I hope everyone is doing well. Just to update you on my situation with my ex A B/F... As you may remember, him and I decided to rekindle our friendship about 6 months ago... Things were going GREAT!! We spent a lot of time together as friends doing r...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

As most of you know my A just got out of prison about 2 weeks ago and he has been emailing me. Usually they are boo hoo poor me, when can I see my kids, etc. I decided to set clear guidelines that let him know when I would let him see the kids which required him to have a home, job, sobriety and a way to get to and f...

Kai678 · Kai678

I need advice on how to deal with my active alcoholic Mother. She is 85 years old, educated, sophistocated and lives independently. She was a great mother, and did not begin drinking until I left for college. I have told her respectfully and clearly on several occassions over the years that she is ab...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Some of you a while ago gave me some excellent insight reguarding my Aunt Sandra, my Dad's sister. She was inundating me with mail, career advice, and so forth, all from the South FL area. I expressed that, for the sheer fact that she sent it, I felt obliged to act on it, and I felt guilty about the whole si...

IndianaWriter · IndianaWriter

My 31 y.o. sister just finished rehab for Rx pain killers for the second time. I supported her all through rehab, wrote letters, sent money,etc. Now she's been home for a few weeks. I've tried to support her since she's been back , but she's already back to the nasty cycle of lying and using again...

marmare · marmare

His (my A) moodiness got to me tonight, don't know if it was me being tired from being with the grandkids all day and trying to get my normal chores done...or if he was just moody...I sent him to bed 1/2 way through a movie as I didn't want to listen to him snore anymore...then came into the bedroom to find h...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Time (Preview) Our A is 25 and been battling it for 2 1/2 years, since she finished college. Two stints in rehab in FL, four lost jobs, 14 days in jail, one DWI, and over six different half-way houses and apartments. Five relapses, they average about every six months or so but tend to only last a couple of days because sh...	Jeff Reynolds	4	536	Oct 30, 2007 by Jeff Reynolds
	HELP - I cannot enter the chat room... (Preview) No matter what I do I cannot enter the chat room and I thought it would be a good idea to go in to sit and listen and become a little more involved since it is NOT possible for me to go to f2f meetings. I have downloaded the software as directed but if I click on the link in John's chatroom information sticky I si...	Heartbroken	2	455	Oct 30, 2007 by aunitedway
	The Other Night (Preview) my AH decided to "discuss" with me some things. For the life of me I can't even remember what it was. It does not matter because it always ends up in an attempt to verbally abuse me. I get up and walk away and tell him I am not going there. I lay down to go to sleep and he follows me. It's always my faul...	souljoy	3	554	Oct 30, 2007 by souljoy
	Infidelity (Preview) I have been with my partner for around four years in this time he has cheated several times, lied been manipulative and every time I have allowed him to talk me round because of my own unhealthy behaviour patterns. I have attended al anon on and off which has been very helpful, he has also self harmed and a...	chick29	5	677	Oct 30, 2007 by Friendofyours
	He Never Called (Preview) My last post explained how my dad called after a year and it was pretty freaky to say the least. I really didn't expect to hear from him again. He is my AD I guess, as apposed to AH I see you guys use. He is very ill emotionally. He can be very inappropriate even being long distance, which he has been for the las...	Belladay	3	461	Oct 30, 2007 by Belladay
	Lessons I am learning (Preview) Hi Alanon Friends, This is sort been a reflective day for me. I turned 58. I always have a nice day on my birthday. Friends have called. Some of my family has called. I made a cake and my girlfriends came by and we laughed. Two out of three sons called. It is like some of the pieces of the recovery puzzle have c...	nmike	4	473	Oct 30, 2007 by Karilynn
	Update on pc tower and me :) (Preview) Hi all, Still no tower at home. My boss didn't get a chance to work on it this weekend, but hey he is helping me out and for free, so that is a huge blessing. :) I will be back soon. I do have a tower I borrowed from a friend before this other tower came up so I may see if it works tonight, but since it is borrowed I h...	Mandy123	2	585	Oct 30, 2007 by Karilynn
	setting aplan b or in other words not setting myself up (Preview) The holidays are almost on us and they are the time I had the worst time with the A. Last year on Thanskgiiving in my normal over reactive mode I struggled to make a huge feast for him. He went out got stoned, drugged whatever and couldn't even stand up. Yet somehow it was important to him that I spend weeks s...	maresie2	3	659	Oct 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	So Confused... (Preview) I'm not sure how to start this one, I've got a ton of thoughts running through my head, so if I start jumping around and not making sense...I'm sorry. :) My AH hasn't been home in nearly 2 weeks, his drinking has spiraled out of control. It is now to the point that he will walk to the bar, walk back to his place...	CJC	9	618	Oct 29, 2007 by CJC
	Oh God, Enough Already (Preview) Hello All, Well, let's see, I have lost my husband, children lost a father, my son lost his best friend a few weeks ago, he was like one of my own...he lived here most of the time. Financially devistated, Social Security owes me close to 10,000.00 said around 30 more days. My daughter who is only 17 just...	Andrea12	18	725	Oct 29, 2007 by maresie2
	It sure does take time.... (Preview) I hoped that I would recover more quickly than I have heard possible but I keep seeing again and again, how or why it takes time. When I was in denial, protecting my AH of consequences & not expressing any anger ad nauseum; the resulting therapies for children, marital, family etc I figgured had me a...	ddub	1	548	Oct 29, 2007 by nmike
	Why is my life taken over by her problem (Preview) Hello, I am new to this and just looking for some answers from people that have gone through the same thing. Me and my girlfriend have been together for over two years. In that time i have been by her side through two rehabs and a dozen hospital visits. She knows that if she keeps drinking she will die but f...	chef	6	776	Oct 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Round and Round (Preview) Do any of you ever find yourself surprised about behavior from you or your a that you know exists but keep hoping disappears? I wonder if is that is denial... Last night the kids and I were with some friends at their home. We were having pizza (and wine) and then all the kids were going to a haunted house....	Loupiness	12	495	Oct 29, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	My AH has been Fired (Preview) Hi all, It's been a while since I last posted. We move into our new apartment on this next Wed. - Halloween. It is cheaper and closer to work so I won't have to take the bus to work anymore. My Ah has 3 DUI's and lost his license 4 yrs ago and can't get it back until next year. I haven't gotten my licsence ren...	CJ098	7	784	Oct 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Hubby did a dance on my pc tower. Will be back when I can. (Preview) Hi Family, Well I did it I asked my hubby to leave. He left Thursday morning. He went back to the house that afternoon while I was at work. He destroyed my tower to my pc and a few other things. I will be gone for a bit until I am able to get back online. My work donated a tower to me, but at the moment it is not worki...	Mandy123	6	613	Oct 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	husband keeps saying he wants to move out and my heart is breaking (Preview) Over the last ten days my husband has repeatedly said he wants to move out. He basically only sleeps here now, the rest of the time he's out drinking. I think he is seeing someone, carrying his cell phone with him everywhere (that's how I knew once in the past). I've attempted to be pleasant to him toda...	Jocar	5	638	Oct 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	travel concern (Preview) Hi all, I am new to your forum and am so grateful to have found you. My A is in the midst of a major relapse, and I had planned to visit my family halfway across the country next week. My main concern in leaving is that I'm afraid he will neglect our pets. I could try to arrange care for them, but I feel like that...	caro	4	554	Oct 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	New here: (Preview) I found this website when looking for my husband and thought I would join also. I would like to share my story....... My father was an alcoholic all of my life. He died last year and continued to drink until he died. My mother overcome prescription drug use when I was in my teens, but has been drinking f...	dm0141	6	418	Oct 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Are They For Real???? (Preview) (((Hi Roomies))) I was bored the other night, so I started googling people from my past. You know curious minds can be. I googled my ex, who had been arrested 6 times for DUI's and I found marijuana in his truck. Anyhoo, he was a volunteer for a recovery house. The recovery house had quoted him saying, &qu...	kissers	6	580	Oct 29, 2007 by carolinagirl
	The strength to see it through... (Preview) So often I read, "God doesn't give us more to bear than we can handle." Kiddies, if God has anyhing to do with it, this is just not true. Otherwise no one would take a fatal overdose, jump off a high building, or blow his/her brains out with a 9mm pistol. I choose to believe that an HP, whatever y...	Diva	8	753	Oct 29, 2007 by Andrea12
	Overwhelmed...then break it down... (Preview) ...to bite size pieces... Everything was getting on top of me. The house, the garden, the chores, the shopping, the correspondence, my responsibilities, even my friends, my programme. then a funny old saying came to mind... " Don't try to eat the whole elephant, instead start by nibbling it...	Heartbroken	3	449	Oct 28, 2007 by cookie1971
	totally angry "update" (Preview) My rant on Thursday about my DIL and keeping the grandbaby was good for my soul; I had to do it! The responses I received were pretty wise and y'all tried to see all sides to this thing. Sooo it is now Sunday afternoon. My son came Friday after work and has stayed all weekend being a good father to his child. N...	omajoy	3	1268	Oct 28, 2007 by cookie1971
	Missing my mom (Preview) I never thought that I could miss someone so much, to the point that I find no pleasure in any one else right now. I don't want to be around people, I don't want to go to work, but I do these things and resent these people. I resent having to deal with them, they aren't my family, they aren't people I care abo...	Unsure	8	589	Oct 28, 2007 by Unsure
	Back to square one (Preview) Hello all, it has been about two years plus since I was last here. Just when all is well..it's not. Fiance and I seperated on October 15., his son is getting out of jail the day after Thanksgiving. His son had lived with us for three years at one point. He stole from us, robbed from us, caused major probl...	justmeagain	1	602	Oct 28, 2007 by Jean4444
	alanonese (Preview) I shared soething this morning that I wanted to share with others as those who heard it thought it made good sense for us to keep in mind at times Topics action v reaction, responsibility, serenity these are great topics for me today as most of you know one reason I am here is because I was detached f...	norwood	5	777	Oct 28, 2007 by Belladay
	My Dad Called (Preview) Hi everyone. This is my first time here. I have read some of your posts and really appreciate all the honesty. I wanted to see if I could tell you something. I don't really know what to do about it. Life really can be so confusing. You see, my dad is an alcoholic. He left us years ago. Since then I have gotten s...	Belladay	2	586	Oct 28, 2007 by lin0606
	Just can't get Control (Preview) Hello Friends, I just can't seem to find me, I got lost again in this horrible disease. I feel like it is all out of control. I can't seem to get a grip, everytime I seem to take one step forward, it seems like 10 back. I miss Chuck, am pissed at him for the damage he left this family in. I am still cleaning up...	Andrea12	11	702	Oct 28, 2007 by Belladay
	Just for today... I will be patient (Preview) Learn the art of patience. Apply discipline to your thoughts when they become anxious over the outcome of a goal. Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to success. - Brian Adams We...	rtexas	4	777	Oct 28, 2007 by Heartbroken
	Lonely but not alone and yet feeling the rejection... (Preview) ...this is really hard for me to face, and yet I do face this every day. Today I felt very lonely but knew I was not alone and yet rejection tears me apart. Even so, I still felt very lonely because I am on my own here, in this house however I feel rejected because the telephone never rings, there are no emails...	Heartbroken	7	600	Oct 28, 2007 by Heartbroken
	drug addicts compulsion....need answers!!! (Preview) I said yesterday that I always waited for the other shoe to drop. I came home late tonite from work and hubby and kids were at the fair. I always put my son's Adderall (Amphetamine) up when hubby comes home (works offshore 14 days/home 7 days) as courtesy to him because he is a drug abuser. I got meds out...	dm0141	5	550	Oct 28, 2007 by cookie1971
	no views or replies? (Preview) Hi posted 30 min ago no views or replies bit worried any answers?	chick29	3	483	Oct 27, 2007 by Jill
	Thank you for being here (Preview) wow, I am so grateful that I found this place and that all these great people are here. Really, this is yet another wonderful tool. Its my turn to do some meetings next week and I am going to do it on this site! I think its particularly helpful for me because I am so introverted and use isolation so much and a w...	Jean4444	2	579	Oct 27, 2007 by Karilynn
	totally angry!! (Preview) My ex-daughter-in-law has once again flabbergasted me! She divorced my son secretly (meaning we found out about it being final two weeks after the fact) due to his drinking beer every night and falling asleep.....no partying, no infedility, no job problems... so we didn't really understand it. Th...	omajoy	9	482	Oct 26, 2007 by lin0606
	If this doesn't get him sober, nothing will! (Preview) Hi All, Life as we know it will be changing soon, and I am trying to stay faithful and out of the fear of what might be. My ah, a medical professional, entered himself into the Diversion Program. Essentially what this means is that a private company is going to manage his life to make darn sure he stays sobe...	Loupiness	4	669	Oct 26, 2007 by lin0606
	Thankful today..... (Preview) Hi All and glad we are all together!!! What are you thankful for today? Too many times we forget to be grateful, and it is a lifesaver to remember to be grateful for what we have. Mine are: My family - There have been a few times where I could have lost loving family members and I am so grateful they are all s...	hersh	2	368	Oct 26, 2007 by Leetle
	Trust in myself (Preview) As you all know where I am living is not the greatest. I live in a really super small space with too many animals. Most of my stuff is in storage. I have put out a lot of energy on looking for another space. I just put it out and really most of the time people say they don't want pets. An opportunity has come up fo...	maresie2	2	485	Oct 26, 2007 by maresie2
	updated on Bubbles123 (Preview) ((((((((((Family)))))))))))))) I just want to thank you all for your love and support!! I came through my surgery real well and have been recoving at home since sunday... Thanks to Hp NO CANCER was found, But I had a BAD case of endometriois and they had to remove my appendix because of it being inflam...	bubbles1990	6	426	Oct 26, 2007 by bob6502
	Welcome back! (Preview) Hi this week has deen pretty good. My brother came to stay with me, his wife had to work and she lives with her mother and father. They went to Las Vagas and I said I would watch my nephw. So they stayed with my husdband and I.When they got here my bother looked a little high, but it was my grandma's birthday a...	Allie	0	408	Oct 26, 2007 by Allie
	Feeling bored and restless (Preview) Today, actually for the past few days I have been feeling bored and restless. I don't know why, it's not as if I have a shortage of things to do, quite the opposite in reality but I'm still feeling like I'm missing something. I'm working and looking for a second job, selling stuff on ebay, hanging out wit...	carolinagirl	7	708	Oct 26, 2007 by QOD
	After the raging (Preview) It seems to me that I raged a tthe A for like 7 years, about his friends (who moved into the house lock stop and barrel) his family (who always came first), his money (he never had any), his hours (he was always at work he claimed then he claimed he never got paid), his decisions (usually nothing to do with me...	maresie2	5	590	Oct 26, 2007 by david62
	response-ability (Preview) James Ray was one of the teachers in the movie "The Secret". Even if you have no clue what The Secret is about or who James Ray is, I think everyone can benifit from what he says in the following letter. October 22, 2007 4:45 PM Friends, At the time of writing, my home and office have been eva...	Christy	9	735	Oct 26, 2007 by caro
	Hello (Preview) My name is bennett and I'm not in it!! At least that is what I keep telling myself. I haven't been to a meeting in years, but I sure need one right now. My daughter and her two kids have moved in with my mother. They are all 200 miles away, but I get emails nearly every day from my mom. She tells me all about wha...	bennett	4	612	Oct 25, 2007 by nmike
	Prayers for California (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))), Just asking for prayers for our MIP families that are affected by the California fires. You're all in my thoughts and prayers. Here's hoping that you and your families are safe. Please include our brave firefighters, EMTS and safety officers who are working so hard to...	Karilynn	5	1125	Oct 25, 2007 by Kim65
	I don't think my husband will stay sober.... (Preview) My husband got out of detox on Sunday. It is like living with a stranger. He barely talks to me, mopes around like he's lost his best friend - I guess he has - Vodka. It is very frustatrating and I am trying to be patient, which is why I am writing this - I can't talk to him. He tells me nothing. I don't know i...	Chetch	10	4780	Oct 25, 2007 by Jen
	What is wrong with me? Please help (Preview) If you read my laast post, you knw I am about ready to tell AH to move back home. Heres my problem. For the last couple of days when we have been together I have found myself being very needy, clingy sort of, wanting all his attention. Some background....Ah was emotionally abusive in the past, before I lef...	verenda	13	790	Oct 25, 2007 by verenda
	Update :-) (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) I haven't been here in a couple of weeks and so much has happened since then. LOT and LOTS of drama -- I won't bore you with it, lol. Anyhow, I do want to share with you that I was able to keep moving forward. I kept doing that next right thing. I put myself and the needs of the kids firs...	Lunamoth	7	469	Oct 24, 2007 by maresie2
	PRAYER (Preview) years ago when i first came to alanon this prayer was in the beginers packet i was given. Lord, make me an instrument of your peace, where there is hatred, let me sow love: where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith where there is depspair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where th...	beaulahg	2	417	Oct 24, 2007 by beaulahg
	WHAT TO DO ABOUT AN ALCOHOLIC NEPHEW (Preview) Dear Friends: I don't know where to begin. My AH called me at work yesterday he wanted to ask me if we could have his 34 year old nephew also an alcoholic move in with us. He said the nephew was "reaching out" to him because he had lost his job and his sister was throwing him out of her house. I s...	cookie1971	4	1119	Oct 24, 2007 by cookie1971
	Think I am ready for sober AH to move back home (Preview) Hi everyone Have not been here in a while. Ah and I are doing real well, he picked up his 6 month chip on the 18th, He is still at the halfway house for recovering men, has been for 2 months now since he graduated Faith home in August. Also. he is faithfully attending meetings, 5 a week, his counseling ever...	verenda	7	675	Oct 24, 2007 by maresie2
	Feeding the fire... (Preview) I have been thinking seriously about the responses I got about the A's emails and feeding the fire by replying to them. After thinking about that I started paying attention more. I had been sending nice replies to SOME of his emails that were matter of fact just providing information about what he wo...	carolinagirl	4	575	Oct 24, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	New here (long) (Preview) I am new here and don't know what to expect. My AH had an affair which I found out when "she" called me to give me all the gory details. Needless to say, it was awful. After I told him I would forgive him, he said he was leaving then he was staying then he was leaving, etc. He finally decided to sta...	mecarolina	6	440	Oct 24, 2007 by carolinagirl
	taking actions (Preview) When I was with the A nothing was too much for me. All summer long I held him up. I paid for everything, food, shelter, clothes the works. Now I am having ot work more to pay for the credit I burned thorugh taking care of him. I find it pretty hard going to give this to myself. I want to sink into self ptiy or burn...	maresie2	6	425	Oct 24, 2007 by carolinagirl
	MY BIRDIE IS SICK BAD AGAIN--pray please ESH PLEASE (Preview) MY BIRDIE ANGEL IS SO SICK AGAIN I don't know how much longer I can go on with this. I repaired her hernia burst with the quik stop and she was doing so well and then this morning she is lethargic, doesn't want to eat or drink. ( I had to hand feed and give her water in her mouth ).I am scared. I had to reapply th...	hippietrippiechick	7	549	Oct 24, 2007 by nmike
	A lil extra prayer for my Dad? (Preview) Hi (((family))) My Dad is having a stint/heart procedure today. It is a fairly simple procedure unless there is something more serious discovered. I just wanted to ask for a few extra prayers for him today. He is 81 yrs old, diabetic and has been committed to caring for my mother who had a stroke 19...	Christy	16	640	Oct 24, 2007 by Karilynn
	Its been a long time (Preview) Its been a long time since I've logged onto this forum. I hope everyone is doing well. Just to update you on my situation with my ex A B/F... As you may remember, him and I decided to rekindle our friendship about 6 months ago... Things were going GREAT!! We spent a lot of time together as friends doing r...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	3	615	Oct 24, 2007 by Jen
	Emails from the A (Preview) As most of you know my A just got out of prison about 2 weeks ago and he has been emailing me. Usually they are boo hoo poor me, when can I see my kids, etc. I decided to set clear guidelines that let him know when I would let him see the kids which required him to have a home, job, sobriety and a way to get to and f...	carolinagirl	8	477	Oct 23, 2007 by Jen
	I need suggestions (Preview) I need advice on how to deal with my active alcoholic Mother. She is 85 years old, educated, sophistocated and lives independently. She was a great mother, and did not begin drinking until I left for college. I have told her respectfully and clearly on several occassions over the years that she is ab...	Kai678	14	731	Oct 23, 2007 by caro
	The Aunt Strikes again! (Preview) Some of you a while ago gave me some excellent insight reguarding my Aunt Sandra, my Dad's sister. She was inundating me with mail, career advice, and so forth, all from the South FL area. I expressed that, for the sheer fact that she sent it, I felt obliged to act on it, and I felt guilty about the whole si...	Tiger2006	3	602	Oct 23, 2007 by maresie2
	Am I mean?? (Preview) My 31 y.o. sister just finished rehab for Rx pain killers for the second time. I supported her all through rehab, wrote letters, sent money,etc. Now she's been home for a few weeks. I've tried to support her since she's been back , but she's already back to the nasty cycle of lying and using again...	IndianaWriter	6	601	Oct 23, 2007 by Jen
	I slipped (Preview) His (my A) moodiness got to me tonight, don't know if it was me being tired from being with the grandkids all day and trying to get my normal chores done...or if he was just moody...I sent him to bed 1/2 way through a movie as I didn't want to listen to him snore anymore...then came into the bedroom to find h...	marmare	8	780	Oct 23, 2007 by babysteps
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