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KT2015 · KT2015

I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...

DavidG · DavidG

hotrod · hotrod

Dear MIP Members -- E

newnoz · newnoz

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...

wp · wp

Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleIt is possible to be different and still be right.--Anne Wilson Schaef Hello everyone!!! this writer points out that each of us is special...in some ways we are all different..and that is a GOOD thing...Think of the world if we were exactly the same--All of us, carbon copies of each ot...

gloves808 · gloves808

Hi everyone. So, this will be my first time doing anything regarding al-anon. I joined my bf on two regular AA meetings about 4 years ago to get an idea of what he was going through. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years. I saw him struggle, fall, and get sober again during all this time. I'v...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading in Courage to Change was surprised to hear that when we make a list of the people we have harmed, we can put ourselves at the top of the list. They had previously thought that it was wrong to think of themselves, and that it was their duty to care for everyone else. By not tak...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Strange topic, huh? I guess I shouldn't have brought it up I guess. But seriously, I have so many addictions & have mentioned before that I am having some caffeine withdrawals but no real headaches. It has been 4 days since I really over-indulged. This brings to a point: In early sobriety & bey...

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

Hi folks It is interesting that most of my previous posts have been in relation to my brother-in-law. He survives my sister who died from bowel cancer over two years ago. I have previously written about my difficulties dealing with him in relation to minding their children and I had some fantastic ins...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading compares working recovery in Al-Anon to flying down a hill on a bicycle - a feeling of being tremendously alive in perfect balance. One of many tools that helps us get and stay 'there' is Live and let live. The writer suggests working to embrace whatever life brings with all the joys an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's courage to change speaks to the impact of living with the disease of alcoholism. The author shares that alcoholism is a physical, emotional, and spiritual disease and that we who live with the impact of the disease can benefit by checking on our own well being by checking in on our p...

JerryF · JerryF

My wife and I are sitting down in the garage watching the neighbors, new and old driving pass the house and our garage sale signs. We are having a "best offer" sale as we rid ourselves of many different personals which have supported our life in Hilo for the past 25 years. We are "best offering" these...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, December 18 speaks about sharing at an Al-Anon meeting. The reading suggests that before we go to the meeting that we make a determination that when we speak we will share something helpful and constructive so that everybody that is. attending can benefit. It su...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am writing to you about somewhat of a miracle. That is how I see it in a way! I was praying for my enemies recently & she popped up! I wrote a very nice prayer to her as if I was praying for myself. The thing is we don't speak much or really have any contact. So, as I was praying, giving it my all, time went by...

JerryF · JerryF

What a awesome busy recovering Saturday!! I went to my home AA group and took some tree plants from my yard to share with the fellowship and when there expressed how the trees supported my culture of birth and my culture of recovery choice. The trees are known to support healing for the body; childre...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I was wondering if any of you are familiar of a speaker & counselor named Theodore Gorski? He deals w/ a lot of recovery issues & is very frank. I just recently found an actual cassette tape of his & it is really heavy. Not w/o humor of course. I don't even know where I got it! Anyhow, I think I am...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have reached a different sense of awareness during the holidays. I have lived most of my life in chaos and now that things have leveled out that's not to say things are perfect and I don't expect them to be however the level of chaos is outweighed by the level of calm and it's usually intense chaos whic...

Lyne · Lyne

Seek out the good. Don't dwell on the pain. Enjoy the day. Lyne

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for 12/17 discusses the suggestion to pray for those they resent. Initially they could not follow this suggestion, but as time went on the author says it has become one of the most effective tools of their recovery. The author developed a new way of thinking about the situation, and deci...

atheos · atheos

My sister has severe mental health issues, and it is very easy for something to tip her into a downward spiral. After I had a phonecall with her that seemed completely harmless to me, she has gone into a really terrible mood, and mom is being very distant with me. (They live together, I don't live with the...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism in our lives have not learned healthy coping skills. The writer describes having grown up with the job of keeping silent about everything that was happening in the home. Over time anger built up and in order...

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

My spouse is on a bender again. I am trying not manage him and it's hard. I know I need to get out of his way. I know I should not take it personal and get mad. I try not to make this about me. I just need strength.

Freetime · Freetime

Sponsorship is the topic for today. We may have doubts about being a sponsor -- that we don't know enough, don't have enough time, don't want to take on someone else's troubles. But being a sponsor is an adventure in personal and spiritual growth. Once we start, we might be amazed to realize how much w...

madowl86 · madowl86

Things were so good for a while. It was almost like a tease. Now were back having issues with both drinking AND drugs. I am finding myself having fewer and fewer peaceful evenings. I work full time and come home to deal with this from 5:00 until whenever he decides hes done. I have no control. I know I can b...

joker · joker

I just wanted to share, I have been reading on line still and working on my recovery. I am happy to report, its now been one year since the alcoholic and I ended our relationship. It was horrible due to active alcoholism in the home. I am grateful for ending the sick, unstable, relationship. I still live a...

Lyne · Lyne

My A has finally gotten a sponsor and is working the steps, but not in AA, in OA . She has yet to decide that she is an alcoholic , and now a dry drunk. Several professionals have suggested she go to AA but of course she knows best. And I was thinking if she got a sponsor and worked the steps, that we would be s...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's Courage to Change, and Alateen member shares that they were doubtful when they met with AlAnon members. The author had stopped trusting adults and had assumed that all adults would have the same sick attitudes as their alcoholic parents. The author reflects that, because of this attitud...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey all - I will be around less for a little while - ended up in the hospital for the weekend, resulting in emergency appendectomy. I got home late last night - so grateful to have my bed, my pillows, my blanket, my puppy and my guys around. If moderation is needed here, please send me or Kenny a PM - Betty's...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for this AM speaks about our fantasy that if we had enough money we would be happy and have a successful life. Money does not buy serenity or happiness and in fact causes more problems We are asked to bring our problems to HP and leave them there with the confidence that they will be handl...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the tools we are given in Alanon to better understand the disease. As we are able to separate the disease from the person who is sick, we also can remove some of the personal feelings of hurt associated with loving an A, and a different perspective about ou...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for 12/10 speaks about how confused we are when we arrive at Alanon. We have trouble with boundaries and seeing which of our behaviors are appropriate and which are not. The writer's 4th step inventory helped them discover who they were, what their values are, which behaviors they want...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 12 th Step has been posted to the Step Board. The link is below . Please join in and share your thoughts on this po...

lgnutah · lgnutah

A few months ago, my AD had a "hit bottom" type event. Since that time, I can see she has been working very hard to make some changes, to live a life that she finds more meaningful and rewarding. I listen, try not to tell her what she "should" be doing, thinking or feeling. I am trying to be there for her in...

mamalioness · mamalioness

When I am Really working the 12th step, I am giving my love...I am giving myself with no price tag..No motive but to help and to give love and hope..to share my story and whether folks comment or not, I hope that I shed some light for at least some souls who read me... In order for me to GET to this step and real...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about self-care. The writer used to think that being good to herself meant indulging in food, shopping, and "fun" activities. But these habits led to an unsatisfying life. She found more challenging but more satisfying ways to be good to herself, which put serenity first. Now s...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for today asks the question: what is meditation? Some of the answers are: spiritual awareness (every action can serve a spiritual purpose), concentrating on breathing while counting, repeating the Serenity Prayer, watching thoughts in the present day, focusing on one thing like...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I am doing ok! I am doing my readings (Bible and al anon materials) and I am truly focusing on my recovery and taking this life with my AH one day at a time. Many times before after a crisis I was overly consumed about keeping my AH from drinking again, but for some reason (so far) I am not fretting about it a...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

Hello out there, i would like to ask for some ESH on alienation of affection and stonewalling with the A. My AH is usually the total opposite when drinking but when not drinking there's of course the moody, temperamental, non-communicative and cold side. Your insight and sharing would be greatly app...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I keep realizing that I don't have to agree w/ everyone to get along. People have opinions like me who have their intentions w/o arguing. It seems that my Ah has been talking about arguing since we got married. 19 years! I am so tired of him saying that we are arguing even though I am only stating my opinion...

JerryF · JerryF

it helps me to handle the present. I went to a morning AA group to share a spiritual awaking I had when I woke to a reading in one of my daily readers in the Daily Reflection...it was powerful and spiritually stunning and before I left shared it with my Al-Anon member wife. The relationship between my H...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Make lemonade of course! I am a prime example today because I am facing some serious challenges since the weekend & it hasn't ended today unfortunately. I knew this would be basically the only place where I can really share my frustrations. I am still a work in progress. Being up north here we have p...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hi MIP family! Iamhere has asked if I would post the daily in her stead. I am honored to do so. Letting Go of Fear "Picture yourself swimming - floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscience of your situation. Frighte...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on recognizing the love that exists in their life. The author shares that they used to believe that there was one person out there who would understand their every mood,always have time for them, and bring a smile to their face. Until this person appeared, the...

mamalioness · mamalioness

You are reading from the book Today's Gift. My true god is always with me. I am learning to trust myself. . . . --Joan Parsons Author talks about what/where we do/go for comfort..What gives us that warm fuzzy feeling when we are feeling down...author mentions a girl who absolutely loved the story abou...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Beautiful Betty should be back next week, but I am filling in for this week....Will be gone all day tomorrow so I'm doing the Tuesday , today In this offering Author mentions that many of us come to Al-anon to find out why the alcoholic drinks..We fear its because he/she does't love me any more..OR beca...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I was in the animal shelter, today, my "doggie visit" day with pockets full of biscuits and lots of smiles and comforting things to say to the homeless ones... I am going down the rows, "chatting up" with Pitbulls, German Shepherds, Labs, all kinds of lovely and deserving pets..One young fellow was so...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

So, I have been part of Alanon about a quarter of a century. In the beginning, I used to attend face-to-face meetings quite regularly. I'm in another fellowship also so I go there frequently. As time passed, life changes came into play. We moved to a new neighbourhood, new jobs, stuff like that. We drif...

JerryF · JerryF

Yep service is a true gallant part of enabling others to enable themselves to recover. Bring the program to them and help them to understand and work it. I did my morning meeting and there was a newbie there fresh to the room and old timers. He did what I finally learned to do at first...shut up and li...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty in making decisions. The writer came to understand that he/she was having trouble making decisions because they were often based on what others expected or wanted. Through program work it was suggested that decisions may be easier i...

texas yankee · texas yankee

this stuff sneaks up on me like a drunk driver running a stop sign - yeah, I should have been watching out - my bad.

Freetime · Freetime

Twelfth Step work is the subject of today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon. It helps our serenity when we are ready to carry the message of recovery to another person who needs it, who may not be aware of how Al-Anon can help. The writer suggests that we should always be aware of a possible need, perha...

Mcgreuder · Mcgreuder

I've described my binge-drinking husband in the past. Last night, he went out with friends, got drunk, and came home late. My 5 year old daughter was in bed with me, and we were sleeping. He was looking for his shirt that he puts over his eyes when he sleeps and couldn't find it (bc he was drunk), and lou...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I got the call from my AH's therapist today that he will be released from detox tomorrow sometime. A condition for release is for him (me) to remove all guns from the home so we can all be safe. My AH hasn't had a domestic issue (yet) but with the amount of drinking he was doing and some of the behaviors he e...

Jen61 · Jen61

I tend to write my thoughts down. I have written a letter to my mother when she passed away; a letter to my friend's family when she passed away from Cancer and how I have felt about my husband and his drinking. I ran across this a few days ago and thought I would share it. I am unsure if I have already. If s...

El · El

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change: AHs: *Sitting in front of the TV all day with little to no motivation for much else *Frequent and lengthy naps *Decreased ability to connect the dots or simple problem solving *Refusing to wear his hearing aids which means shouting to conv...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Ohhh that's a hard one for me. I tend to think I know what's best and get to meddling. I did something today that at first gave me a little anxiety and then I realized my motives were pretty clean and I handled it in an appropriate way .. I tried to keep it about me and what my observations are, what my hopes w...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... flew in yesterday, after a pretty gruelling journey. Last week the police pulled me over- for driving too slow- in a public car park. When I pulled over I got out of the car to eye-ball the officer. Imediately a back-up car pulled over in front of me. My ideas was to park in the car park-...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about how the reader viewed 'adulting' before recovery vs. during/embracing recovery. Before Al-Anon, he/she believed that being an adult was to be in CONTROL - rigid, cool. This might also include looking good on the outside and feeling very different on t...

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	Reacting (Preview) I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...	KT2015	12	4850	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	A happy festive season in Alanon... Kaitapu Hari, Mele Kalikimaka, Nadolig Llawen, Merry Christmas. (Preview)	DavidG	8	661	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	WARM WISHES FOR THIS HOLIDAY SEASON (Preview) Dear MIP Members -- E	hotrod	4	4712	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Thank you all so much! ( hope this works) Holidays gratitude (Preview)	newnoz	9	3782	Dec 23, 2018 by ginnyc
	The Daily 12/20/18 (Preview) Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...	PosiesandPuppies	7	760	Dec 23, 2018 by andromeda
	Christmas open house (Preview) Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp	wp	2	2272	Dec 23, 2018 by hotrod
	Keep it simple_22 Dec (Preview) Keep It SimpleIt is possible to be different and still be right.--Anne Wilson Schaef Hello everyone!!! this writer points out that each of us is special...in some ways we are all different..and that is a GOOD thing...Think of the world if we were exactly the same--All of us, carbon copies of each ot...	mamalioness	2	484	Dec 22, 2018 by Lyne
	I invaded his privacy- his inventory ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hi everyone. So, this will be my first time doing anything regarding al-anon. I joined my bf on two regular AA meetings about 4 years ago to get an idea of what he was going through. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years. I saw him struggle, fall, and get sober again during all this time. I'v...	gloves808	42	5762	Dec 22, 2018 by gloves808
	C2C, December 21 (Preview) The author of today's reading in Courage to Change was surprised to hear that when we make a list of the people we have harmed, we can put ourselves at the top of the list. They had previously thought that it was wrong to think of themselves, and that it was their duty to care for everyone else. By not tak...	Freetime	6	894	Dec 21, 2018 by mamalioness
	can you get addicted to MIP? (Preview) Strange topic, huh? I guess I shouldn't have brought it up I guess. But seriously, I have so many addictions & have mentioned before that I am having some caffeine withdrawals but no real headaches. It has been 4 days since I really over-indulged. This brings to a point: In early sobriety & bey...	Hoot Nanny	10	946	Dec 21, 2018 by Bo
	Trying to keep distance from BILs stuff (Preview) Hi folks It is interesting that most of my previous posts have been in relation to my brother-in-law. He survives my sister who died from bowel cancer over two years ago. I have previously written about my difficulties dealing with him in relation to minding their children and I had some fantastic ins...	Faintly Falling	10	2514	Dec 21, 2018 by Bo
	Courage to Change - 12/13/18 (Preview) Today's reading compares working recovery in Al-Anon to flying down a hill on a bicycle - a feeling of being tremendously alive in perfect balance. One of many tools that helps us get and stay 'there' is Live and let live. The writer suggests working to embrace whatever life brings with all the joys an...	Iamhere	8	634	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change December 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's courage to change speaks to the impact of living with the disease of alcoholism. The author shares that alcoholism is a physical, emotional, and spiritual disease and that we who live with the impact of the disease can benefit by checking on our own well being by checking in on our p...	Skorpi	6	842	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	Giving back kinda ...sorta. (Preview) My wife and I are sitting down in the garage watching the neighbors, new and old driving pass the house and our garage sale signs. We are having a "best offer" sale as we rid ourselves of many different personals which have supported our life in Hilo for the past 25 years. We are "best offering" these...	JerryF	8	699	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 12-18-2018 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, December 18 speaks about sharing at an Al-Anon meeting. The reading suggests that before we go to the meeting that we make a determination that when we speak we will share something helpful and constructive so that everybody that is. attending can benefit. It su...	hotrod	3	730	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	my not so favorite aunt! (Preview) I am writing to you about somewhat of a miracle. That is how I see it in a way! I was praying for my enemies recently & she popped up! I wrote a very nice prayer to her as if I was praying for myself. The thing is we don't speak much or really have any contact. So, as I was praying, giving it my all, time went by...	Hoot Nanny	0	601	Dec 18, 2018 by Hoot Nanny
	Gratefully triggered.... (Preview) What a awesome busy recovering Saturday!! I went to my home AA group and took some tree plants from my yard to share with the fellowship and when there expressed how the trees supported my culture of birth and my culture of recovery choice. The trees are known to support healing for the body; childre...	JerryF	13	2130	Dec 17, 2018 by JerryF
	does anyone know Terry Gorski & his work? (Preview) I was wondering if any of you are familiar of a speaker & counselor named Theodore Gorski? He deals w/ a lot of recovery issues & is very frank. I just recently found an actual cassette tape of his & it is really heavy. Not w/o humor of course. I don't even know where I got it! Anyhow, I think I am...	Hoot Nanny	3	4661	Dec 17, 2018 by Maresie
	When things are going right .. (Preview) I have reached a different sense of awareness during the holidays. I have lived most of my life in chaos and now that things have leveled out that's not to say things are perfect and I don't expect them to be however the level of chaos is outweighed by the level of calm and it's usually intense chaos whic...	SerenityRUS	17	2085	Dec 17, 2018 by Maresie
	Note to self (Preview) Seek out the good. Don't dwell on the pain. Enjoy the day. Lyne	Lyne	8	2844	Dec 17, 2018 by canadianguy
	C2C, 12/17 (Preview) The reading for 12/17 discusses the suggestion to pray for those they resent. Initially they could not follow this suggestion, but as time went on the author says it has become one of the most effective tools of their recovery. The author developed a new way of thinking about the situation, and deci...	Lyne	6	538	Dec 17, 2018 by mamalioness
	Need ESH on worrying about my influence on others' moods (Preview) My sister has severe mental health issues, and it is very easy for something to tip her into a downward spiral. After I had a phonecall with her that seemed completely harmless to me, she has gone into a really terrible mood, and mom is being very distant with me. (They live together, I don't live with the...	atheos	10	2963	Dec 17, 2018 by KT2015
	Hope for Today Dec 16 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism in our lives have not learned healthy coping skills. The writer describes having grown up with the job of keeping silent about everything that was happening in the home. Over time anger built up and in order...	yanksfan51	6	789	Dec 16, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hubby is on a bender (Preview) My spouse is on a bender again. I am trying not manage him and it's hard. I know I need to get out of his way. I know I should not take it personal and get mad. I try not to make this about me. I just need strength.	Ann_Y	5	2443	Dec 15, 2018 by Ann_Y
	ODAT - December 14 (Preview) Sponsorship is the topic for today. We may have doubts about being a sponsor -- that we don't know enough, don't have enough time, don't want to take on someone else's troubles. But being a sponsor is an adventure in personal and spiritual growth. Once we start, we might be amazed to realize how much w...	Freetime	6	701	Dec 14, 2018 by Lyne
	How do you not just hate them? (Preview) Things were so good for a while. It was almost like a tease. Now were back having issues with both drinking AND drugs. I am finding myself having fewer and fewer peaceful evenings. I work full time and come home to deal with this from 5:00 until whenever he decides hes done. I have no control. I know I can b...	madowl86	15	3096	Dec 13, 2018 by joker
	A year later (Preview) I just wanted to share, I have been reading on line still and working on my recovery. I am happy to report, its now been one year since the alcoholic and I ended our relationship. It was horrible due to active alcoholism in the home. I am grateful for ending the sick, unstable, relationship. I still live a...	joker	7	602	Dec 13, 2018 by Maresie
	Fantasy land (Preview) My A has finally gotten a sponsor and is working the steps, but not in AA, in OA . She has yet to decide that she is an alcoholic , and now a dry drunk. Several professionals have suggested she go to AA but of course she knows best. And I was thinking if she got a sponsor and worked the steps, that we would be s...	Lyne	10	2995	Dec 13, 2018 by Maresie
	Courage to Change December 12 (Preview) In today's Courage to Change, and Alateen member shares that they were doubtful when they met with AlAnon members. The author had stopped trusting adults and had assumed that all adults would have the same sick attitudes as their alcoholic parents. The author reflects that, because of this attitud...	Skorpi	4	702	Dec 12, 2018 by mamalioness
	Sidelined for a Bit... (Preview) Hey all - I will be around less for a little while - ended up in the hospital for the weekend, resulting in emergency appendectomy. I got home late last night - so grateful to have my bed, my pillows, my blanket, my puppy and my guys around. If moderation is needed here, please send me or Kenny a PM - Betty's...	Iamhere	13	821	Dec 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	C2C Reading 12-11-2018 (Preview) The C2C reading for this AM speaks about our fantasy that if we had enough money we would be happy and have a successful life. Money does not buy serenity or happiness and in fact causes more problems We are asked to bring our problems to HP and leave them there with the confidence that they will be handl...	hotrod	4	2257	Dec 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Dec 9 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the tools we are given in Alanon to better understand the disease. As we are able to separate the disease from the person who is sick, we also can remove some of the personal feelings of hurt associated with loving an A, and a different perspective about ou...	yanksfan51	10	1205	Dec 11, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 12/10 (Preview) The reading for 12/10 speaks about how confused we are when we arrive at Alanon. We have trouble with boundaries and seeing which of our behaviors are appropriate and which are not. The writer's 4th step inventory helped them discover who they were, what their values are, which behaviors they want...	Lyne	4	631	Dec 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	Step 12 posted to the Step Board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 12 th Step has been posted to the Step Board. The link is below . Please join in and share your thoughts on this po...	hotrod	0	2700	Dec 10, 2018 by hotrod
	Not working a program, but she's trying (Preview) A few months ago, my AD had a "hit bottom" type event. Since that time, I can see she has been working very hard to make some changes, to live a life that she finds more meaningful and rewarding. I listen, try not to tell her what she "should" be doing, thinking or feeling. I am trying to be there for her in...	lgnutah	7	3097	Dec 9, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	step 12_the one where love has no price tag (Preview) When I am Really working the 12th step, I am giving my love...I am giving myself with no price tag..No motive but to help and to give love and hope..to share my story and whether folks comment or not, I hope that I shed some light for at least some souls who read me... In order for me to GET to this step and real...	mamalioness	2	618	Dec 9, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, December 7 (Preview) Today's reading is about self-care. The writer used to think that being good to herself meant indulging in food, shopping, and "fun" activities. But these habits led to an unsatisfying life. She found more challenging but more satisfying ways to be good to herself, which put serenity first. Now s...	Freetime	7	2865	Dec 8, 2018 by mamalioness
	C2C, 12/3 (Preview) The reading for today asks the question: what is meditation? Some of the answers are: spiritual awareness (every action can serve a spiritual purpose), concentrating on breathing while counting, repeating the Serenity Prayer, watching thoughts in the present day, focusing on one thing like...	Lyne	5	676	Dec 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	First days home from detox (Preview) I am doing ok! I am doing my readings (Bible and al anon materials) and I am truly focusing on my recovery and taking this life with my AH one day at a time. Many times before after a crisis I was overly consumed about keeping my AH from drinking again, but for some reason (so far) I am not fretting about it a...	mamakat71	12	877	Dec 8, 2018 by Bo
	ESH needed (Preview) Hello out there, i would like to ask for some ESH on alienation of affection and stonewalling with the A. My AH is usually the total opposite when drinking but when not drinking there's of course the moody, temperamental, non-communicative and cold side. Your insight and sharing would be greatly app...	Paloma Negra	7	739	Dec 8, 2018 by Bo
	don't have to agree w/everyone! (Preview) I keep realizing that I don't have to agree w/ everyone to get along. People have opinions like me who have their intentions w/o arguing. It seems that my Ah has been talking about arguing since we got married. 19 years! I am so tired of him saying that we are arguing even though I am only stating my opinion...	Hoot Nanny	7	779	Dec 7, 2018 by wp
	I can handle the past of this disease and (Preview) it helps me to handle the present. I went to a morning AA group to share a spiritual awaking I had when I woke to a reading in one of my daily readers in the Daily Reflection...it was powerful and spiritually stunning and before I left shared it with my Al-Anon member wife. The relationship between my H...	JerryF	5	1034	Dec 7, 2018 by Iamhere
	when you get lemons... (Preview) Make lemonade of course! I am a prime example today because I am facing some serious challenges since the weekend & it hasn't ended today unfortunately. I knew this would be basically the only place where I can really share my frustrations. I am still a work in progress. Being up north here we have p...	Hoot Nanny	6	2890	Dec 7, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Dec 06; The Language of Letting Go (Preview) Hi MIP family! Iamhere has asked if I would post the daily in her stead. I am honored to do so. Letting Go of Fear "Picture yourself swimming - floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscience of your situation. Frighte...	PosiesandPuppies	6	2686	Dec 7, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change December 5 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on recognizing the love that exists in their life. The author shares that they used to believe that there was one person out there who would understand their every mood,always have time for them, and bring a smile to their face. Until this person appeared, the...	Skorpi	3	3566	Dec 5, 2018 by mamalioness
	04 DEC_Today's gift: AND Mr. Bunny (Preview) You are reading from the book Today's Gift. My true god is always with me. I am learning to trust myself. . . . --Joan Parsons Author talks about what/where we do/go for comfort..What gives us that warm fuzzy feeling when we are feeling down...author mentions a girl who absolutely loved the story abou...	mamalioness	1	586	Dec 5, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	04 DEC_One Day at a time in Alanon (Preview) Beautiful Betty should be back next week, but I am filling in for this week....Will be gone all day tomorrow so I'm doing the Tuesday , today In this offering Author mentions that many of us come to Al-anon to find out why the alcoholic drinks..We fear its because he/she does't love me any more..OR beca...	mamalioness	5	680	Dec 4, 2018 by mamalioness
	Love flows only to the open heart ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I was in the animal shelter, today, my "doggie visit" day with pockets full of biscuits and lots of smiles and comforting things to say to the homeless ones... I am going down the rows, "chatting up" with Pitbulls, German Shepherds, Labs, all kinds of lovely and deserving pets..One young fellow was so...	mamalioness	75	2405	Dec 3, 2018 by mamalioness
	Serendipity (Preview) So, I have been part of Alanon about a quarter of a century. In the beginning, I used to attend face-to-face meetings quite regularly. I'm in another fellowship also so I go there frequently. As time passed, life changes came into play. We moved to a new neighbourhood, new jobs, stuff like that. We drif...	Wolfie55	4	1070	Dec 3, 2018 by Bo
	Service is a strong part of recovery. (Preview) Yep service is a true gallant part of enabling others to enable themselves to recover. Bring the program to them and help them to understand and work it. I did my morning meeting and there was a newbie there fresh to the room and old timers. He did what I finally learned to do at first...shut up and li...	JerryF	5	703	Dec 2, 2018 by Bo
	Hope for Today Dec 2 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty in making decisions. The writer came to understand that he/she was having trouble making decisions because they were often based on what others expected or wanted. Through program work it was suggested that decisions may be easier i...	yanksfan51	3	658	Dec 2, 2018 by mamalioness
	Just when I thought it was safe to have hope again (Preview) this stuff sneaks up on me like a drunk driver running a stop sign - yeah, I should have been watching out - my bad.	texas yankee	11	900	Dec 1, 2018 by 2HP
	ODAT, November 30 (Preview) Twelfth Step work is the subject of today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon. It helps our serenity when we are ready to carry the message of recovery to another person who needs it, who may not be aware of how Al-Anon can help. The writer suggests that we should always be aware of a possible need, perha...	Freetime	4	662	Dec 1, 2018 by Lyne
	What to do? (Preview) I've described my binge-drinking husband in the past. Last night, he went out with friends, got drunk, and came home late. My 5 year old daughter was in bed with me, and we were sleeping. He was looking for his shirt that he puts over his eyes when he sleeps and couldn't find it (bc he was drunk), and lou...	Mcgreuder	7	784	Dec 1, 2018 by Bettertomorrow
	anxious about AH release from detox (Preview) I got the call from my AH's therapist today that he will be released from detox tomorrow sometime. A condition for release is for him (me) to remove all guns from the home so we can all be safe. My AH hasn't had a domestic issue (yet) but with the amount of drinking he was doing and some of the behaviors he e...	mamakat71	10	2183	Nov 30, 2018 by canadianguy
	I tend to write things down.......... (Preview) I tend to write my thoughts down. I have written a letter to my mother when she passed away; a letter to my friend's family when she passed away from Cancer and how I have felt about my husband and his drinking. I ran across this a few days ago and thought I would share it. I am unsure if I have already. If s...	Jen61	3	738	Nov 30, 2018 by canadianguy
	Grant Me The Serenity (Preview) God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change: AHs: Sitting in front of the TV all day with little to no motivation for much else Frequent and lengthy naps Decreased ability to connect the dots or simple problem solving Refusing to wear his hearing aids which means shouting to conv...	El	3	689	Nov 29, 2018 by Freetime
	Minding my own business .. (Preview) Ohhh that's a hard one for me. I tend to think I know what's best and get to meddling. I did something today that at first gave me a little anxiety and then I realized my motives were pretty clean and I handled it in an appropriate way .. I tried to keep it about me and what my observations are, what my hopes w...	SerenityRUS	2	1625	Nov 29, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Back home from Texas... (Preview) Hi y'all... flew in yesterday, after a pretty gruelling journey. Last week the police pulled me over- for driving too slow- in a public car park. When I pulled over I got out of the car to eye-ball the officer. Imediately a back-up car pulled over in front of me. My ideas was to park in the car park-...	DavidG	11	4257	Nov 29, 2018 by JerryF
	Courage to Change 11/29/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about how the reader viewed 'adulting' before recovery vs. during/embracing recovery. Before Al-Anon, he/she believed that being an adult was to be in CONTROL - rigid, cool. This might also include looking good on the outside and feeling very different on t...	Iamhere	2	591	Nov 29, 2018 by mamalioness
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