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I tend to write things down..........
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I tend to write my thoughts down. I have written a letter to my mother when she passed away; a letter to my friend's family when she passed away from Cancer and how I have felt about my husband and his drinking. I ran across this a few days ago and thought I would share it. I am unsure if I have already. If s...
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Grant Me The Serenity
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change: AHs: *Sitting in front of the TV all day with little to no motivation for much else *Frequent and lengthy naps *Decreased ability to connect the dots or simple problem solving *Refusing to wear his hearing aids which means shouting to conv...
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Minding my own business ..
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Ohhh that's a hard one for me. I tend to think I know what's best and get to meddling. I did something today that at first gave me a little anxiety and then I realized my motives were pretty clean and I handled it in an appropriate way .. I tried to keep it about me and what my observations are, what my hopes w...
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Back home from Texas...
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Hi y'all... flew in yesterday, after a pretty gruelling journey. Last week the police pulled me over- for driving too slow- in a public car park. When I pulled over I got out of the car to eye-ball the officer. Imediately a back-up car pulled over in front of me. My ideas was to park in the car park-...
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Courage to Change 11/29/18
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Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about how the reader viewed 'adulting' before recovery vs. during/embracing recovery. Before Al-Anon, he/she believed that being an adult was to be in CONTROL - rigid, cool. This might also include looking good on the outside and feeling very different on t...
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I Swam with Gratitude :)
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Hey Family... Just wanted to Update from my Previous Post, I SURVIVED :) I Fed 25 Peeps, and All seemed Happy to be there, so that was Enough, there was a Few that Couldn't make it, but I Didn't Expect ANY so My Day was Not Ruined by the 10 that Couldn't... It was a Tough one, and Not Just because of My Dad's Bi...
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It all turned out well.
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What a year! It's been hard and started off with depression. Now it's nearly ended and I'm thrilled. "Keep taking the next right step" is what I read here many times over the years, and not to let the everyday business of living drag me down.
I took both of those suggestions especially to heart and am so h...
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Sink or Swim...
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Welp, This Month Marks 10 years since Loosing my Afather to this Dreadful Disease... I Still look back on it and Wonder, (Knowing I Shouldn't) What Could have been... knowing in my Heart, the Results would always be the Same... His Illness didn't allow him much freedom, it was an Everyday all day kind...
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Courage to Change November 28 2018
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Hello MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the 4th step. The author shares that when they started the 4th step, they found that many things they had previously thought of as virtues were actually character defects: taking care of others, worrying about others, sacrificing their own happiness and pro...
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Request for group conscience on site technical improvements
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Please visit the MIP Al-Anon business forum to participate in a group conscience about technical improvements to the MIP Al-Anon site. -- Hidden/Freetime -- Your WebHelper Team -- Edited by WebHelper on Wednesday 28th of November 2018 05:46:53 PM
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Here I am again
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Hello all, Here I am again! I haven't been on for awhile and I haven't been going to meetings because I have fallen back into old ways and patterns thinking "I got this" Well I don't . Everything is a mess! The AH is in detox that he signed into on my birthday (3 days ago) and he is wanting out of there wit...
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Happy Belated Thanksgiving :)
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It's been a whirlwind of a month is putting it mildly. Nice to be busy however there is such a thing as to busy. I was able to take time off and will go back to work tomorrow. I am so looking forward to enjoying some down time during Christmas as well it won't be as long however it will be a nice break. I thin...
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27 NOV_One day at a time in Alanon
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Beloved Betty is on vaca. so i am filling in for her on the Tuesday daily until she gets back..Hope you are having a great time, Betty On Tuesday's offering, Author talks about the man whose wife is an alcoholic and how he is afraid to seek help in Al-anon because it looks like failure on his part It may be he...
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Newlywed and the honeymoon is already over
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Hello, I'm posting because I really don't know what to do. I got married just over a month ago, and today was my DH's ninth month of sobriety. I stress "was", because today he started drinking again. He text me that he was going to a friend's to watch football with the guys. I had a sliver of concern, but was...
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C2C, 11/26
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The author of today's reading said they never felt like they belonged, a life long problem, but even in Alanon at first. But they learned about alcoholism being a family disease, even affecting the people who cared about the alcoholic. And this disease could be passed from generation to generatio...
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Lyne
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Yes HP does...at least for me.
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My HP was at it again so I have to acknowledge the efforts again and again. At the start of and thru the end of the weekend my spirit made note that I should do another personal "change me" inventory and that made me glad and excited to decide what I needed to change and how I would do it. This one was easy as...
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it's been awhile(short)
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It has been awhile & I don't have much time to write. One thing is for certain my mom is where she needs to be & is very happy where she is. I think for the first time in a long time I am happy for her. Our relationship has been very volatile. Me, I am well. Been thinking about getting on here for awhile....
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the Guy Up Stairs
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I'm back again. I actually never really left. I might have mentioned I went back to work (in January). That seemed to be going well, but in the end I lost the job. The why is irrelevant. Losing the money sucks but that's the ways the cookies crumble. A few days afterward, I had a conversation with the Guy Up...
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New territory
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Hi MIP - looking for ESH for those who have parented with a separated spouse without any recovery path. My XAH as some of you might remember sent me a photo with drugs in the background and it has changed our access plan. I now have control about my daughter seeing AH - how and when. She is about to turn 4 and h...
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VickiR
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Co-dependancy and Jealousy with the recovering addict
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My wife just returned home from rehab. YEAH!! Or so I thought. I am entering a strange emotional state all of a sudden. We have been having some nice chats but it always seems to end with my jealousy regarding some male friends she met there. One in particular. She says it was a total brother sister relati...
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Hope for Today Nov 25
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting what we can control, its about not projecting an issue, its about staying in our own business. The writer describes the period of time when his/her parents were divorced; the difficulty in staying out of the animosity, especially because t...
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When your day absolutely sucks!!!!
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my Musings about when your day absolutely sucks!!!! I wrote this on facebook,a while back and got lots of "thank you's" because nobody wants to feel like they are alone and/or being picked on by some entity that "has it in for us" When you're really having a bad day, i.e., Like soon as you get out of bed, yo...
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C2C November 24
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Greeting MIP family. Today's courage to change discusses the recovery work of Step 10: continuing to take a moral inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong. In C2C, this is explored using the premise of self-focus as opposed to fault finding or criticising others. The author admits to fore...
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Never seen this version...
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Saw this on another website, and thought I would share, as I have never seen the "long version.' God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And the wisdom to know the difference.Grant me patience with the changes that take time,Appreciatio...
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C2C Reading 11-20-2018
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The C2C reading for November 20 speaks about the joy we feel, as children in simply being alive. it points out how very important it is to not tamper with that joy . However when alcoholism enters the home this usually cannot be avoided. and our "spirits become broken as a result. Alanon offers us...
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ODAT, November 23
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Hello everyone! Today's page in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon talks about banishing fear by accepting the protection and guidance of a Higher Power. "What happened yesterday need not trouble me today." I have the power to make today a good one just by the way I think about it. From Today's Reminder: "If I...
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Alanon Annoucement for the chat / meeting room .. 24 Hours of support service sign up
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As the holidays approach, there are often some who could use some additional support. We have made a group decision to provide service for 24 hours beginning this evening Weds Nov 21 and running through Thanksgiving Thursday Nov 22. If anyone is willing to offer their time sharing experience,...
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Happy Thanksgiving...
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to all of you and here is wishing you all the peace of mind and serenity and the presence of your Higher Power as wished. Going to the Thanksgiving annual celebration where my home group has the lead share. Thank you God for this recovery and this MIP Family. ((((hugs))))
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Courage to Change 11/22/18
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Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate. I am grateful for our founder, John, who created this haven for us to come together and share our recovery. I am grateful for all of you too! Today's reading is about our spiritual program of recovery. The word recovery suggests we are re...
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I mean I have no idea.
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I try not to interfere with things because honestly its none of my business and I feel like its my husbands place to say things because its his parents. Last night we went to go have dinner with his parents and they were babysitting for us so we could go see a movie. My father in law is an alcoholic(the can't...
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Today's hope Nov. 21
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Hello MIP! I'm a bit late this morning, and home sick, so I don't have my C2C handy. SO, today's share is from http://www.todays-hope.com/todays-sharing.html The share today is about grief and loss. The author reflects that many of us have lost so much or experienced so much grief, we try to cling...
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22 NOV_-Keep it simple
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Keep It Simple We are healed of a suffering only be experiencing it in full. ---Marcel Proust Hi everyone!!! Happy Thanksgiving coming up: Author in this daily talks about never should we forget our past...WE need to be mindful of the power our disease has over us and still has...so we can remember h...
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From start to now- in Alanon...
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Hi y'all... A journey begins- with the first step... ...may seem like a cliche... but it is true for me. First meeting- this member stabs the air with her finger... when you are point the finger- there are three pointing right back at you... ... also from the same person- she had a battered ODA...
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The experiences I need to listen to are my own.
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Aloha Family and good morning. Thank you for allowing me to come and sit and listen and participate in our recovery from the affects of alcoholism and drug addiction in our lives. Yesterday morning after our morning meeting which is AA founded by several "doubles...Al-Anon's also in AA recover...
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Getting through another day...
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Oh boy, It was a real long week. Had to fly over here to east Texas when my brother passed... lots of things to do- grieve being one of them. Lots happening... but will take time to process... nice to give feed-back- but not a whole book! Seemed impossible at times......
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This is a day at a time life we have.
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I have been feeling kind of disconnected lately from my higher power- kind of wondering where it was, did he desert me? Along those lines. Three years ago I had a bout with cancer. I was frightened. I really relied on HP to get me through. Amazingly enough (or maybe not so) I got what I needed and got throug...
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C2C, 11/19
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The writer today searched for a label to describe their Alanon goals. There were too many and most missed the mark. The writer realized the goal to strive for was an overall sense of wellness. The writer wanted more than just surviving; they wanted a rich and fulfilling life. The writer believed...
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18 NOV_Keep it simple
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Keep It SimpleLife is short: live it up. Nikita In this daily, author talks about staying emotionally sober because it is FUN..We must make recovery more FUN then being in the disease...He/she encourages us to try to things..make new friends...try new food...Live it up within reason, of course......
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16 NOV_One day at a time in Alanon
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Greetings everyone!!! Author on this writing talks about "detachment" and "how do you DO it??" when there seems to be troubles day after day, one decision after another, it seems that the mind just gets "overloaded" and confused , hence decision making is made more difficult These slogans, medit...
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Hope for Today Nov 18
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have had difficulty hearing and speaking direct truthsto ourselves and to others. The writer describes having been told that the person sharing a hospital room with his/her dad was the one who was sick never...
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Here come the holidays
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So my AD "hasn't been well" lately.....as she puts it. I have been keeping busy on my own side of the street, but send her "hello" texts from time to time. Thanksgiving being next week, she has begun her usual detailing of her intent to join us---first a plan to come a day or so ahead, then it becomes the da...
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Courage to Change, November 16
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It can be difficult to Let Go and Let God. In today's reading, the author finds it helps to visualize their loved one, that they are worried about, wrapped in a warm blanket and handed gently to their Higher Power. Today's reminder: When I am anxious about other people, I need my Higher Power's help. Fig...
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Sad news for our whanau...
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It's the call you dread... it was actually an email from Texas... our youngest brother passed away last night... the programme kicks in here... and the faith and love that comes with it... oh my gosh...
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DavidG
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How do I tell my sponsee I cannot be her sponsor any longer
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I am a sponsor and my sponsee has not been coming to many meetings. She phones me when she is upset. I do not think I am helping her. Also, she sometimes attends a different meeting. How do I tell her I cannot be her sponsor any longer?
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Courage to Change November 14
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Today's Courage to Change reading is about the 6th step, being entirely ready for HP to remove my defects of character. The author shares that, for them, this readiness didn't happen in a sudden flash, but gradually over time, as they struggled to make progress in a positive direction. The author al...
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Courage to Change 11/15/18
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My apologies MIP family - just realized it is Thursday!!! Today's reading talks about being over-sensitive before program. An angry look, a harsh tone or the silent treatment were enough to 'hurt'...Yet, with recovery and practice, the author realizes that the look, tone or mood of another has...
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14 NOV_Keep it simple
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Keep It SimpleMake it a point to do something every day that you dont want to do---Mark Twain Self-discipline In this daily, author talks about self discipline as key to being emotionally sober..Regular meetings, when its not convenient...working the steps when we would rather watch videos...D...
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ODAT Reading 11-12-18
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The ODAT reading for November 13 speaks about what a new comer to Alanon might see and feel. The reading suggests that This newcomer is eager to recover so she picks up the tools, the slogans the Steps and attempts to use them at every opportunity. Everyone at the meeting is amazed at her prog...
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Growth can just kinda sneak up on me
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Today: the big challenge to my stop...breathe...wait...respond over reacting I had a LOT of stuff, people, animals, "Stuff" come at me with challenges to "react right now" I didn't...I stopped....I waited until both upper and lower parts of my brain were in sync...I did step 10---LOTS and I re...
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Hope for Today Nov 11
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our HP is with us through our lives: the ups and downs, the contentedness and loneliness, the feelings of safety and feelings of anxiety. The writer describes a period after profound loss when she could see her life clearly with the help of her HP...
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Is it wrong?
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So I have a horrible time with communication although I have been working on it a great deal. One of the passive aggressive things I used to do was expect other people to guess what I wanted or needed .. while I know I need to meet my own needs I can ask if there is something I need as an example .. I can ask for a...
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Stumbling around...
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the place and sorry if you hear me bumping into things and swearing on it and making noise as I knock stuff off of where they once were and sorry for the loud mumbling and self talking. I am not alone as HP is walking with me stepping over and around the trash I am creating. For my condition I am in the right...
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update
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I wanted to check in after last week. My lawyer drafted a letter confronting XAH about his drug use and the evidence I have - and the fact that he hasn't taken advantage of the access that he could have had for the past few months. I shot him a text to tell him what the new plan would be going forward (short vi...
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Soon to be in Las Vegas
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I'm excited,I'll be flying out my 1st time on a plane,woo hoo. to be with my lovely precious daughter n family,gonna wrap them up in my arms g.sons to. be leaving out December for whole week of Christmas ,been 6 yrs since I've been with them. also bit nervous,daughter is so much like I use to be before reco...
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C2C, 11/12
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Preparing for life: The reading today compares oiling a saw to practice in program. They said they observed what others in program were doing, and seeing how serene people could be with similar awful circumstances. So they started applying the Steps, Alanon literature , slogans, meetings, and...
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Alone and afraid
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My alcoholic's drinking has kept me from having many friends. My siblings all live in different parts of the country, as do my kids and grand children, except for one son who, for the time being, lives nearby with his family. We are especially close to his 6 year old son who has spent a lot of time with us s...
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Lee51
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Chat in meeting room anyone?
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Looks like there is no one in the meeting room for the Sunday night 7 pm EST meeting. Anyone want to meet there now just to chat? Click on "meeting room entrance" and join me there if you want.
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lgnutah
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Prayers in Paradise....
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That is the town of Paradise in Northern California...The town burnt to the ground businesses and residences with but a few escaping death. I have the thoughts for them and I have the prayers also to donate. HP always...everywhere....((((hugs))))
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JerryF
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Struggling to maintain my serenity this evening
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The active alcoholic in my life has been on one today. Shouting at me, slamming doors in my face etc. He's shut himself in the spare room now - which is actually probably a good thing. I've been trying to stay calm and pleasant, well behaved through all this. It's really hard not to let it upset me deep d...
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Courage to Change, November 9
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Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...
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