Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

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Only requirement is that you become willing to join us. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization,or institution; does not engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self supportin...

Lyne · Lyne

I believe my spouse is drinking. She denies it. I know the signs. I also know she is a skilled liar. It ruined our Xmas night. Today we are leaving for a winter getaway we take every year. We are not in a good place. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change t...

andromeda · andromeda

I have grown more accustomed to change. The older I get, the less set in my ways I become in how I view change, anyway, lol. Today, I find myself so very grateful. I LOVE the condo I'm renting. I couldn't have found a better place with better neighbors. It's quiet, it's decorated the way I want, I love h...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Big, big lessons over the past few weeks, things I am still processing. My oldest is not going back to college and I'm not sure how to handle that one thing I will say is at least they came to me before Christmas the want was to wait until after Christmas and my very wise younger son said umm nooo .. tell mom N...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's Courage to change reading, the author reflects on one of the most useful lessons they've learned in Al-Anon: If I don't want to be a doormat, I have to get up off the floor. The author shares that they have spent plenty of time accepting unacceptable behavior that was directed at...

Aline · Aline

Hi, all! I haven't been around for a while, but Christmas seems like a good time to share some of my progress with you. Its been nearly 5 months since I smoked my last cigarette (!!!) and that's also thanks to Al-Anon and, more specifically, steps 1-3 and a HP, and lost of support from fellow quitters. I'v...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, December 25 Speaks about achieving maturity. The reading points out that a great tool in this process is to learn how to examine our motives, honestly. When we do this, we will discover that we are not always right and will then will open our minds to helpful influence ....

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for 12/24 talks about how family and friends of alcoholics stop noticing what is going on with themselves. The author says we deserve to pay attention to our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Focusing on ourselves means looking at our own options, instead of the options of others....

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleDon't give your advice before you are called upon. Desiderius Erasmus Hi everyone!!! in this daily, the author stresses the point to NOT give advice..If someone wants the advice?? They will ask for it..Thats is why in 12 steps, we don't go around trying to solicit other folks to join us....

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the gentleness of Alanon. The program suggests practicing the steps, slogans and traditions but is not meant to be a severe list of you must... or even you should... in spite of how some of us may have felt about it when first coming into the program. The w...

KT2015 · KT2015

I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...

DavidG · DavidG

hotrod · hotrod

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PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...

wp · wp

Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleIt is possible to be different and still be right.--Anne Wilson Schaef Hello everyone!!! this writer points out that each of us is special...in some ways we are all different..and that is a GOOD thing...Think of the world if we were exactly the same--All of us, carbon copies of each ot...

gloves808 · gloves808

Hi everyone. So, this will be my first time doing anything regarding al-anon. I joined my bf on two regular AA meetings about 4 years ago to get an idea of what he was going through. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years. I saw him struggle, fall, and get sober again during all this time. I'v...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading in Courage to Change was surprised to hear that when we make a list of the people we have harmed, we can put ourselves at the top of the list. They had previously thought that it was wrong to think of themselves, and that it was their duty to care for everyone else. By not tak...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Strange topic, huh? I guess I shouldn't have brought it up I guess. But seriously, I have so many addictions & have mentioned before that I am having some caffeine withdrawals but no real headaches. It has been 4 days since I really over-indulged. This brings to a point: In early sobriety & bey...

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

Hi folks It is interesting that most of my previous posts have been in relation to my brother-in-law. He survives my sister who died from bowel cancer over two years ago. I have previously written about my difficulties dealing with him in relation to minding their children and I had some fantastic ins...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading compares working recovery in Al-Anon to flying down a hill on a bicycle - a feeling of being tremendously alive in perfect balance. One of many tools that helps us get and stay 'there' is Live and let live. The writer suggests working to embrace whatever life brings with all the joys an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's courage to change speaks to the impact of living with the disease of alcoholism. The author shares that alcoholism is a physical, emotional, and spiritual disease and that we who live with the impact of the disease can benefit by checking on our own well being by checking in on our p...

JerryF · JerryF

My wife and I are sitting down in the garage watching the neighbors, new and old driving pass the house and our garage sale signs. We are having a "best offer" sale as we rid ourselves of many different personals which have supported our life in Hilo for the past 25 years. We are "best offering" these...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, December 18 speaks about sharing at an Al-Anon meeting. The reading suggests that before we go to the meeting that we make a determination that when we speak we will share something helpful and constructive so that everybody that is. attending can benefit. It su...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am writing to you about somewhat of a miracle. That is how I see it in a way! I was praying for my enemies recently & she popped up! I wrote a very nice prayer to her as if I was praying for myself. The thing is we don't speak much or really have any contact. So, as I was praying, giving it my all, time went by...

JerryF · JerryF

What a awesome busy recovering Saturday!! I went to my home AA group and took some tree plants from my yard to share with the fellowship and when there expressed how the trees supported my culture of birth and my culture of recovery choice. The trees are known to support healing for the body; childre...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I was wondering if any of you are familiar of a speaker & counselor named Theodore Gorski? He deals w/ a lot of recovery issues & is very frank. I just recently found an actual cassette tape of his & it is really heavy. Not w/o humor of course. I don't even know where I got it! Anyhow, I think I am...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have reached a different sense of awareness during the holidays. I have lived most of my life in chaos and now that things have leveled out that's not to say things are perfect and I don't expect them to be however the level of chaos is outweighed by the level of calm and it's usually intense chaos whic...

Lyne · Lyne

Seek out the good. Don't dwell on the pain. Enjoy the day. Lyne

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for 12/17 discusses the suggestion to pray for those they resent. Initially they could not follow this suggestion, but as time went on the author says it has become one of the most effective tools of their recovery. The author developed a new way of thinking about the situation, and deci...

atheos · atheos

My sister has severe mental health issues, and it is very easy for something to tip her into a downward spiral. After I had a phonecall with her that seemed completely harmless to me, she has gone into a really terrible mood, and mom is being very distant with me. (They live together, I don't live with the...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism in our lives have not learned healthy coping skills. The writer describes having grown up with the job of keeping silent about everything that was happening in the home. Over time anger built up and in order...

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

My spouse is on a bender again. I am trying not manage him and it's hard. I know I need to get out of his way. I know I should not take it personal and get mad. I try not to make this about me. I just need strength.

Freetime · Freetime

Sponsorship is the topic for today. We may have doubts about being a sponsor -- that we don't know enough, don't have enough time, don't want to take on someone else's troubles. But being a sponsor is an adventure in personal and spiritual growth. Once we start, we might be amazed to realize how much w...

madowl86 · madowl86

Things were so good for a while. It was almost like a tease. Now were back having issues with both drinking AND drugs. I am finding myself having fewer and fewer peaceful evenings. I work full time and come home to deal with this from 5:00 until whenever he decides hes done. I have no control. I know I can b...

joker · joker

I just wanted to share, I have been reading on line still and working on my recovery. I am happy to report, its now been one year since the alcoholic and I ended our relationship. It was horrible due to active alcoholism in the home. I am grateful for ending the sick, unstable, relationship. I still live a...

Lyne · Lyne

My A has finally gotten a sponsor and is working the steps, but not in AA, in OA . She has yet to decide that she is an alcoholic , and now a dry drunk. Several professionals have suggested she go to AA but of course she knows best. And I was thinking if she got a sponsor and worked the steps, that we would be s...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's Courage to Change, and Alateen member shares that they were doubtful when they met with AlAnon members. The author had stopped trusting adults and had assumed that all adults would have the same sick attitudes as their alcoholic parents. The author reflects that, because of this attitud...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey all - I will be around less for a little while - ended up in the hospital for the weekend, resulting in emergency appendectomy. I got home late last night - so grateful to have my bed, my pillows, my blanket, my puppy and my guys around. If moderation is needed here, please send me or Kenny a PM - Betty's...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for this AM speaks about our fantasy that if we had enough money we would be happy and have a successful life. Money does not buy serenity or happiness and in fact causes more problems We are asked to bring our problems to HP and leave them there with the confidence that they will be handl...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the tools we are given in Alanon to better understand the disease. As we are able to separate the disease from the person who is sick, we also can remove some of the personal feelings of hurt associated with loving an A, and a different perspective about ou...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for 12/10 speaks about how confused we are when we arrive at Alanon. We have trouble with boundaries and seeing which of our behaviors are appropriate and which are not. The writer's 4th step inventory helped them discover who they were, what their values are, which behaviors they want...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 12 th Step has been posted to the Step Board. The link is below . Please join in and share your thoughts on this po...

lgnutah · lgnutah

A few months ago, my AD had a "hit bottom" type event. Since that time, I can see she has been working very hard to make some changes, to live a life that she finds more meaningful and rewarding. I listen, try not to tell her what she "should" be doing, thinking or feeling. I am trying to be there for her in...

mamalioness · mamalioness

When I am Really working the 12th step, I am giving my love...I am giving myself with no price tag..No motive but to help and to give love and hope..to share my story and whether folks comment or not, I hope that I shed some light for at least some souls who read me... In order for me to GET to this step and real...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about self-care. The writer used to think that being good to herself meant indulging in food, shopping, and "fun" activities. But these habits led to an unsatisfying life. She found more challenging but more satisfying ways to be good to herself, which put serenity first. Now s...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for today asks the question: what is meditation? Some of the answers are: spiritual awareness (every action can serve a spiritual purpose), concentrating on breathing while counting, repeating the Serenity Prayer, watching thoughts in the present day, focusing on one thing like...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I am doing ok! I am doing my readings (Bible and al anon materials) and I am truly focusing on my recovery and taking this life with my AH one day at a time. Many times before after a crisis I was overly consumed about keeping my AH from drinking again, but for some reason (so far) I am not fretting about it a...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

Hello out there, i would like to ask for some ESH on alienation of affection and stonewalling with the A. My AH is usually the total opposite when drinking but when not drinking there's of course the moody, temperamental, non-communicative and cold side. Your insight and sharing would be greatly app...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I keep realizing that I don't have to agree w/ everyone to get along. People have opinions like me who have their intentions w/o arguing. It seems that my Ah has been talking about arguing since we got married. 19 years! I am so tired of him saying that we are arguing even though I am only stating my opinion...

JerryF · JerryF

it helps me to handle the present. I went to a morning AA group to share a spiritual awaking I had when I woke to a reading in one of my daily readers in the Daily Reflection...it was powerful and spiritually stunning and before I left shared it with my Al-Anon member wife. The relationship between my H...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Make lemonade of course! I am a prime example today because I am facing some serious challenges since the weekend & it hasn't ended today unfortunately. I knew this would be basically the only place where I can really share my frustrations. I am still a work in progress. Being up north here we have p...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hi MIP family! Iamhere has asked if I would post the daily in her stead. I am honored to do so. Letting Go of Fear "Picture yourself swimming - floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscience of your situation. Frighte...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on recognizing the love that exists in their life. The author shares that they used to believe that there was one person out there who would understand their every mood,always have time for them, and bring a smile to their face. Until this person appeared, the...

mamalioness · mamalioness

You are reading from the book Today's Gift. My true god is always with me. I am learning to trust myself. . . . --Joan Parsons Author talks about what/where we do/go for comfort..What gives us that warm fuzzy feeling when we are feeling down...author mentions a girl who absolutely loved the story abou...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Beautiful Betty should be back next week, but I am filling in for this week....Will be gone all day tomorrow so I'm doing the Tuesday , today In this offering Author mentions that many of us come to Al-anon to find out why the alcoholic drinks..We fear its because he/she does't love me any more..OR beca...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I was in the animal shelter, today, my "doggie visit" day with pockets full of biscuits and lots of smiles and comforting things to say to the homeless ones... I am going down the rows, "chatting up" with Pitbulls, German Shepherds, Labs, all kinds of lovely and deserving pets..One young fellow was so...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

So, I have been part of Alanon about a quarter of a century. In the beginning, I used to attend face-to-face meetings quite regularly. I'm in another fellowship also so I go there frequently. As time passed, life changes came into play. We moved to a new neighbourhood, new jobs, stuff like that. We drif...

JerryF · JerryF

Yep service is a true gallant part of enabling others to enable themselves to recover. Bring the program to them and help them to understand and work it. I did my morning meeting and there was a newbie there fresh to the room and old timers. He did what I finally learned to do at first...shut up and li...

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	What does Al-anon expect of me? (Preview) Only requirement is that you become willing to join us. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization,or institution; does not engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self supportin...	wp	5	3475	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	Not so good here (Preview) I believe my spouse is drinking. She denies it. I know the signs. I also know she is a skilled liar. It ruined our Xmas night. Today we are leaving for a winter getaway we take every year. We are not in a good place. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change t...	Lyne	9	3610	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	CHANGE (Preview) I have grown more accustomed to change. The older I get, the less set in my ways I become in how I view change, anyway, lol. Today, I find myself so very grateful. I LOVE the condo I'm renting. I couldn't have found a better place with better neighbors. It's quiet, it's decorated the way I want, I love h...	andromeda	13	3075	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	Helping me helps my loved ones .. (Preview) Big, big lessons over the past few weeks, things I am still processing. My oldest is not going back to college and I'm not sure how to handle that one thing I will say is at least they came to me before Christmas the want was to wait until after Christmas and my very wise younger son said umm nooo .. tell mom N...	SerenityRUS	1	392	Dec 26, 2018 by andromeda
	Courage to Change December 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's Courage to change reading, the author reflects on one of the most useful lessons they've learned in Al-Anon: If I don't want to be a doormat, I have to get up off the floor. The author shares that they have spent plenty of time accepting unacceptable behavior that was directed at...	Skorpi	3	496	Dec 26, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Sharing progress - grateful this Christmas (Preview) Hi, all! I haven't been around for a while, but Christmas seems like a good time to share some of my progress with you. Its been nearly 5 months since I smoked my last cigarette (!!!) and that's also thanks to Al-Anon and, more specifically, steps 1-3 and a HP, and lost of support from fellow quitters. I'v...	Aline	5	2080	Dec 26, 2018 by Aline
	ODAT Reading 12-25 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, December 25 Speaks about achieving maturity. The reading points out that a great tool in this process is to learn how to examine our motives, honestly. When we do this, we will discover that we are not always right and will then will open our minds to helpful influence ....	hotrod	4	1881	Dec 25, 2018 by Aline
	C2C, 12/24 (Preview) The reading for 12/24 talks about how family and friends of alcoholics stop noticing what is going on with themselves. The author says we deserve to pay attention to our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Focusing on ourselves means looking at our own options, instead of the options of others....	Lyne	3	2308	Dec 25, 2018 by mamalioness
	KEEP IT SIMPLE_20 Dec (Preview) Keep It SimpleDon't give your advice before you are called upon. Desiderius Erasmus Hi everyone!!! in this daily, the author stresses the point to NOT give advice..If someone wants the advice?? They will ask for it..Thats is why in 12 steps, we don't go around trying to solicit other folks to join us....	mamalioness	4	517	Dec 24, 2018 by Maresie
	Hope for Today Dec 22 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the gentleness of Alanon. The program suggests practicing the steps, slogans and traditions but is not meant to be a severe list of you must... or even you should... in spite of how some of us may have felt about it when first coming into the program. The w...	yanksfan51	6	1058	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Reacting (Preview) I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...	KT2015	12	3852	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	A happy festive season in Alanon... Kaitapu Hari, Mele Kalikimaka, Nadolig Llawen, Merry Christmas. (Preview)	DavidG	8	438	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	WARM WISHES FOR THIS HOLIDAY SEASON (Preview) Dear MIP Members -- E	hotrod	4	3681	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Thank you all so much! ( hope this works) Holidays gratitude (Preview)	newnoz	9	2833	Dec 23, 2018 by ginnyc
	The Daily 12/20/18 (Preview) Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...	PosiesandPuppies	7	559	Dec 23, 2018 by andromeda
	Christmas open house (Preview) Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp	wp	2	1650	Dec 23, 2018 by hotrod
	Keep it simple_22 Dec (Preview) Keep It SimpleIt is possible to be different and still be right.--Anne Wilson Schaef Hello everyone!!! this writer points out that each of us is special...in some ways we are all different..and that is a GOOD thing...Think of the world if we were exactly the same--All of us, carbon copies of each ot...	mamalioness	2	292	Dec 22, 2018 by Lyne
	I invaded his privacy- his inventory ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hi everyone. So, this will be my first time doing anything regarding al-anon. I joined my bf on two regular AA meetings about 4 years ago to get an idea of what he was going through. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years. I saw him struggle, fall, and get sober again during all this time. I'v...	gloves808	42	4334	Dec 22, 2018 by gloves808
	C2C, December 21 (Preview) The author of today's reading in Courage to Change was surprised to hear that when we make a list of the people we have harmed, we can put ourselves at the top of the list. They had previously thought that it was wrong to think of themselves, and that it was their duty to care for everyone else. By not tak...	Freetime	6	698	Dec 21, 2018 by mamalioness
	can you get addicted to MIP? (Preview) Strange topic, huh? I guess I shouldn't have brought it up I guess. But seriously, I have so many addictions & have mentioned before that I am having some caffeine withdrawals but no real headaches. It has been 4 days since I really over-indulged. This brings to a point: In early sobriety & bey...	Hoot Nanny	10	712	Dec 21, 2018 by Bo
	Trying to keep distance from BILs stuff (Preview) Hi folks It is interesting that most of my previous posts have been in relation to my brother-in-law. He survives my sister who died from bowel cancer over two years ago. I have previously written about my difficulties dealing with him in relation to minding their children and I had some fantastic ins...	Faintly Falling	10	1832	Dec 21, 2018 by Bo
	Courage to Change - 12/13/18 (Preview) Today's reading compares working recovery in Al-Anon to flying down a hill on a bicycle - a feeling of being tremendously alive in perfect balance. One of many tools that helps us get and stay 'there' is Live and let live. The writer suggests working to embrace whatever life brings with all the joys an...	Iamhere	8	449	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change December 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's courage to change speaks to the impact of living with the disease of alcoholism. The author shares that alcoholism is a physical, emotional, and spiritual disease and that we who live with the impact of the disease can benefit by checking on our own well being by checking in on our p...	Skorpi	6	644	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	Giving back kinda ...sorta. (Preview) My wife and I are sitting down in the garage watching the neighbors, new and old driving pass the house and our garage sale signs. We are having a "best offer" sale as we rid ourselves of many different personals which have supported our life in Hilo for the past 25 years. We are "best offering" these...	JerryF	8	504	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 12-18-2018 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, December 18 speaks about sharing at an Al-Anon meeting. The reading suggests that before we go to the meeting that we make a determination that when we speak we will share something helpful and constructive so that everybody that is. attending can benefit. It su...	hotrod	3	541	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	my not so favorite aunt! (Preview) I am writing to you about somewhat of a miracle. That is how I see it in a way! I was praying for my enemies recently & she popped up! I wrote a very nice prayer to her as if I was praying for myself. The thing is we don't speak much or really have any contact. So, as I was praying, giving it my all, time went by...	Hoot Nanny	0	387	Dec 18, 2018 by Hoot Nanny
	Gratefully triggered.... (Preview) What a awesome busy recovering Saturday!! I went to my home AA group and took some tree plants from my yard to share with the fellowship and when there expressed how the trees supported my culture of birth and my culture of recovery choice. The trees are known to support healing for the body; childre...	JerryF	13	1496	Dec 17, 2018 by JerryF
	does anyone know Terry Gorski & his work? (Preview) I was wondering if any of you are familiar of a speaker & counselor named Theodore Gorski? He deals w/ a lot of recovery issues & is very frank. I just recently found an actual cassette tape of his & it is really heavy. Not w/o humor of course. I don't even know where I got it! Anyhow, I think I am...	Hoot Nanny	3	3664	Dec 17, 2018 by Maresie
	When things are going right .. (Preview) I have reached a different sense of awareness during the holidays. I have lived most of my life in chaos and now that things have leveled out that's not to say things are perfect and I don't expect them to be however the level of chaos is outweighed by the level of calm and it's usually intense chaos whic...	SerenityRUS	17	1642	Dec 17, 2018 by Maresie
	Note to self (Preview) Seek out the good. Don't dwell on the pain. Enjoy the day. Lyne	Lyne	8	2091	Dec 17, 2018 by canadianguy
	C2C, 12/17 (Preview) The reading for 12/17 discusses the suggestion to pray for those they resent. Initially they could not follow this suggestion, but as time went on the author says it has become one of the most effective tools of their recovery. The author developed a new way of thinking about the situation, and deci...	Lyne	6	347	Dec 17, 2018 by mamalioness
	Need ESH on worrying about my influence on others' moods (Preview) My sister has severe mental health issues, and it is very easy for something to tip her into a downward spiral. After I had a phonecall with her that seemed completely harmless to me, she has gone into a really terrible mood, and mom is being very distant with me. (They live together, I don't live with the...	atheos	10	2229	Dec 17, 2018 by KT2015
	Hope for Today Dec 16 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism in our lives have not learned healthy coping skills. The writer describes having grown up with the job of keeping silent about everything that was happening in the home. Over time anger built up and in order...	yanksfan51	6	614	Dec 16, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hubby is on a bender (Preview) My spouse is on a bender again. I am trying not manage him and it's hard. I know I need to get out of his way. I know I should not take it personal and get mad. I try not to make this about me. I just need strength.	Ann_Y	5	1754	Dec 15, 2018 by Ann_Y
	ODAT - December 14 (Preview) Sponsorship is the topic for today. We may have doubts about being a sponsor -- that we don't know enough, don't have enough time, don't want to take on someone else's troubles. But being a sponsor is an adventure in personal and spiritual growth. Once we start, we might be amazed to realize how much w...	Freetime	6	531	Dec 14, 2018 by Lyne
	How do you not just hate them? (Preview) Things were so good for a while. It was almost like a tease. Now were back having issues with both drinking AND drugs. I am finding myself having fewer and fewer peaceful evenings. I work full time and come home to deal with this from 5:00 until whenever he decides hes done. I have no control. I know I can b...	madowl86	15	2487	Dec 13, 2018 by joker
	A year later (Preview) I just wanted to share, I have been reading on line still and working on my recovery. I am happy to report, its now been one year since the alcoholic and I ended our relationship. It was horrible due to active alcoholism in the home. I am grateful for ending the sick, unstable, relationship. I still live a...	joker	7	419	Dec 13, 2018 by Maresie
	Fantasy land (Preview) My A has finally gotten a sponsor and is working the steps, but not in AA, in OA . She has yet to decide that she is an alcoholic , and now a dry drunk. Several professionals have suggested she go to AA but of course she knows best. And I was thinking if she got a sponsor and worked the steps, that we would be s...	Lyne	10	2247	Dec 13, 2018 by Maresie
	Courage to Change December 12 (Preview) In today's Courage to Change, and Alateen member shares that they were doubtful when they met with AlAnon members. The author had stopped trusting adults and had assumed that all adults would have the same sick attitudes as their alcoholic parents. The author reflects that, because of this attitud...	Skorpi	4	517	Dec 12, 2018 by mamalioness
	Sidelined for a Bit... (Preview) Hey all - I will be around less for a little while - ended up in the hospital for the weekend, resulting in emergency appendectomy. I got home late last night - so grateful to have my bed, my pillows, my blanket, my puppy and my guys around. If moderation is needed here, please send me or Kenny a PM - Betty's...	Iamhere	13	608	Dec 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	C2C Reading 12-11-2018 (Preview) The C2C reading for this AM speaks about our fantasy that if we had enough money we would be happy and have a successful life. Money does not buy serenity or happiness and in fact causes more problems We are asked to bring our problems to HP and leave them there with the confidence that they will be handl...	hotrod	4	1651	Dec 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Dec 9 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the tools we are given in Alanon to better understand the disease. As we are able to separate the disease from the person who is sick, we also can remove some of the personal feelings of hurt associated with loving an A, and a different perspective about ou...	yanksfan51	10	1037	Dec 11, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 12/10 (Preview) The reading for 12/10 speaks about how confused we are when we arrive at Alanon. We have trouble with boundaries and seeing which of our behaviors are appropriate and which are not. The writer's 4th step inventory helped them discover who they were, what their values are, which behaviors they want...	Lyne	4	447	Dec 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	Step 12 posted to the Step Board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 12 th Step has been posted to the Step Board. The link is below . Please join in and share your thoughts on this po...	hotrod	0	1998	Dec 10, 2018 by hotrod
	Not working a program, but she's trying (Preview) A few months ago, my AD had a "hit bottom" type event. Since that time, I can see she has been working very hard to make some changes, to live a life that she finds more meaningful and rewarding. I listen, try not to tell her what she "should" be doing, thinking or feeling. I am trying to be there for her in...	lgnutah	7	2315	Dec 9, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	step 12_the one where love has no price tag (Preview) When I am Really working the 12th step, I am giving my love...I am giving myself with no price tag..No motive but to help and to give love and hope..to share my story and whether folks comment or not, I hope that I shed some light for at least some souls who read me... In order for me to GET to this step and real...	mamalioness	2	450	Dec 9, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, December 7 (Preview) Today's reading is about self-care. The writer used to think that being good to herself meant indulging in food, shopping, and "fun" activities. But these habits led to an unsatisfying life. She found more challenging but more satisfying ways to be good to herself, which put serenity first. Now s...	Freetime	7	2104	Dec 8, 2018 by mamalioness
	C2C, 12/3 (Preview) The reading for today asks the question: what is meditation? Some of the answers are: spiritual awareness (every action can serve a spiritual purpose), concentrating on breathing while counting, repeating the Serenity Prayer, watching thoughts in the present day, focusing on one thing like...	Lyne	5	474	Dec 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	First days home from detox (Preview) I am doing ok! I am doing my readings (Bible and al anon materials) and I am truly focusing on my recovery and taking this life with my AH one day at a time. Many times before after a crisis I was overly consumed about keeping my AH from drinking again, but for some reason (so far) I am not fretting about it a...	mamakat71	12	678	Dec 8, 2018 by Bo
	ESH needed (Preview) Hello out there, i would like to ask for some ESH on alienation of affection and stonewalling with the A. My AH is usually the total opposite when drinking but when not drinking there's of course the moody, temperamental, non-communicative and cold side. Your insight and sharing would be greatly app...	Paloma Negra	7	543	Dec 8, 2018 by Bo
	don't have to agree w/everyone! (Preview) I keep realizing that I don't have to agree w/ everyone to get along. People have opinions like me who have their intentions w/o arguing. It seems that my Ah has been talking about arguing since we got married. 19 years! I am so tired of him saying that we are arguing even though I am only stating my opinion...	Hoot Nanny	7	578	Dec 7, 2018 by wp
	I can handle the past of this disease and (Preview) it helps me to handle the present. I went to a morning AA group to share a spiritual awaking I had when I woke to a reading in one of my daily readers in the Daily Reflection...it was powerful and spiritually stunning and before I left shared it with my Al-Anon member wife. The relationship between my H...	JerryF	5	808	Dec 7, 2018 by Iamhere
	when you get lemons... (Preview) Make lemonade of course! I am a prime example today because I am facing some serious challenges since the weekend & it hasn't ended today unfortunately. I knew this would be basically the only place where I can really share my frustrations. I am still a work in progress. Being up north here we have p...	Hoot Nanny	6	2129	Dec 7, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Dec 06; The Language of Letting Go (Preview) Hi MIP family! Iamhere has asked if I would post the daily in her stead. I am honored to do so. Letting Go of Fear "Picture yourself swimming - floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscience of your situation. Frighte...	PosiesandPuppies	6	1997	Dec 7, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change December 5 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on recognizing the love that exists in their life. The author shares that they used to believe that there was one person out there who would understand their every mood,always have time for them, and bring a smile to their face. Until this person appeared, the...	Skorpi	3	2647	Dec 5, 2018 by mamalioness
	04 DEC_Today's gift: AND Mr. Bunny (Preview) You are reading from the book Today's Gift. My true god is always with me. I am learning to trust myself. . . . --Joan Parsons Author talks about what/where we do/go for comfort..What gives us that warm fuzzy feeling when we are feeling down...author mentions a girl who absolutely loved the story abou...	mamalioness	1	405	Dec 5, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	04 DEC_One Day at a time in Alanon (Preview) Beautiful Betty should be back next week, but I am filling in for this week....Will be gone all day tomorrow so I'm doing the Tuesday , today In this offering Author mentions that many of us come to Al-anon to find out why the alcoholic drinks..We fear its because he/she does't love me any more..OR beca...	mamalioness	5	496	Dec 4, 2018 by mamalioness
	Love flows only to the open heart ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I was in the animal shelter, today, my "doggie visit" day with pockets full of biscuits and lots of smiles and comforting things to say to the homeless ones... I am going down the rows, "chatting up" with Pitbulls, German Shepherds, Labs, all kinds of lovely and deserving pets..One young fellow was so...	mamalioness	75	2040	Dec 3, 2018 by mamalioness
	Serendipity (Preview) So, I have been part of Alanon about a quarter of a century. In the beginning, I used to attend face-to-face meetings quite regularly. I'm in another fellowship also so I go there frequently. As time passed, life changes came into play. We moved to a new neighbourhood, new jobs, stuff like that. We drif...	Wolfie55	4	900	Dec 3, 2018 by Bo
	Service is a strong part of recovery. (Preview) Yep service is a true gallant part of enabling others to enable themselves to recover. Bring the program to them and help them to understand and work it. I did my morning meeting and there was a newbie there fresh to the room and old timers. He did what I finally learned to do at first...shut up and li...	JerryF	5	484	Dec 2, 2018 by Bo
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