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mamalioness · mamalioness

EASY DOES ITEASY DOES IT, BUT DO ITFIRST THINGS FIRSTHOW IMPORTANT IS IT?JUST FOR TODAYKEEP AN OPEN MINDYOU ARE NOT ALONEKEEP IT SIMPLEKISS = Keep It Simple StupidKISS = Keep It Serenely SimpleHOPE = Happy Our Program ExistsLET GO AND LET GOD LET IT BEGIN WITH ME LISTEN AND LEARNLIVE AND LET LIVEON...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I love to do research, extra stuff, in the course of my recovery..I am surfing different recovery sites, etc., and I came upon this GREAT list on how to Respond rather than react to someone who is spoiling for a fight and drama That's interesting.Let me think about that.Thank you for the information....

mamalioness · mamalioness

ONE DAY AT A TIME ITs only Wednesday and I caught me thinking of all the stuff I got to do on Fri, when I go back to work I caught me and said "FRI isn't here yet--lets enjoy today" and I MADE me breathe...stay in the present, under my warmer throw on couch, watching videos and staying warm...TODAY is all I got...

wp · wp

For anyone visiting this site as a beginner: Our program is based on The Serenity Prayer: God grant us the serenity To accept the things we cannot change, Courage to change the things we can, And wisdom to know the difference. Suggested preamble to the Twelve Steps: Al-Anon has but on...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Tonight is AHs birthday. We all went out for breakfast this morning and had cake and ice cream this evening, but beyond that we had no plans - just a quiet night at home. Hes in his man cave drinking of course (its escalated in the past few months and its now become an almost nightly thing), our kids are busy...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Welcome to the New Year, MIP! In today's share, the Author says that turning to an alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store to buy bread. Our alcoholic loved ones may not be able to meet our expectations, but, the author suggests, it is our expectations and not our lov...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65192709/alanon-step-one-1-1-2019-12-31/PleaseParticipate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this...

serenity47 · serenity47

As I sat this morning reflecting on 2018, with all of its incredible blessings and struggles I am grateful. To those whom are new, a very warm welcome and a message of hope that you are never alone even when it seems like it cannot get any worse this board has been and is a beacon of light to all of us. It i...

Twinkies · Twinkies

In a few short years, my kids will be off to college. My goal is to be in a position by then to leave my marriage. Of course, it would be incredible if something were to happen before then that would make that unnecessary, but I cant keep holding on to that dream. I need to be prepared. But Im scared and overwh...

mamalioness · mamalioness

EASY DOES IT As I Practice slowing down, breathing, pausing when I'm not sure, I notice life is not so much of a struggle Its OK to go slow when doing a task that requires precision...Its FINE to take it leisurely when I am taking a shower, it is a absolute pleasure ... I am beginning to get shed of the frant...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Next month, February 15th will be my 15th year in recovery When I first got here, (knew I was a lifer but that was as ok as it could be) I expected that NOW I'm in recovery...LIFE is just gonna MAGICALLY get better for me...The dark will become light and no more problems/hardships/pain, etc. because ROSE...

mamalioness · mamalioness

as part of keeping things simple, I applied it to my step ONEthe first thing I had to see re: step one is where I had to ADMIT I was powerless over my codependency and anything else, for that matter, that is outside of me In step one, after a struggle, I accepted my powerlessness over anything outside of me...

JerryF · JerryF

I am grateful to have MIP and the program in my life as outcomes to the affect of the disease can be much worse than they use to be. Mental and Emotional relapsing for me involves living the long past history of alcoholism and my part in it all over again now with the awareness that I was powerless then an...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday asks us to take a few minutes to reflect upon the progress we've made during this past year, and to thank those that helped, including HP. The questions the author asked themself included: What did I do to contribute to my success, have I reached out to others in the fellowship...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Has it been a Year of Growth? Growth This author talks about As any year draws to a close, we should reflect on how we have grown in sobriety. We should also identify changes during the year that enabled us to overcome bad habits and to move closer to better patterns of living. The outcomes do not come wi...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I got a great nights sleep, dogs did not have to use restroom at 3am Went to gym after my strength exercise here and swam laps and really got a good cardo ran into some ladies I swim with and they, all 3 gave me happy new year HUGSSSSS....Loved it I can actually see PROGRESS in me!!! Yaaaaaay program!!!!!!...

Twinkies · Twinkies

I joined this group a year ago, give or take. I dove head first into it after having neared what I thought was the end of my rope. I quickly discovered, thanks to this place and some needed perspective, that I still had a lot of rope to go though. I was stronger than I thought. Things had improved at home some...

serenity47 · serenity47

Hello everyone. It has been a while since I have posted although still come to read daily and respond when I feel I have something to offer. Christmas was pretty terrific this year. We celebrated early to accomadate others schedules which was fine by me . My AD has been struggling with sobriety, on ag...

Carla61 · Carla61

My husband sends me mean texts and I respond! Why can't I just ignore him?

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about how recovery is about choices. The writer starts with the beginning of step 3: Made a decision.. The writer goes on to describe making choices with the decisions in our lives, and choosing to turn over our lives to the will of the God of our understanding....

lookingup · lookingup

my 1st ever plane ride was great,flying back home was even better ,i wasn't least bit nervous.yay me i always had my tools with me ,and used them often,especially walking down town Las Vegas on the strip,to many ppl shoulder to shoulder. loved the time I had with my Daughter n Grandsons,which are now te...

A nother · A nother

Hi all. It's been a while since I felt the need to post (though I still read!). I have kept quiet these last months when ah drinks. I don't challenge, try to keep the focus on me and the children, and if I have prior warning of a binge, i sleep at family or friends with the children. The thing is, I have no...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My grateful list for today: our weather has been fairly mild I am successfully, so far into week 2 doing my cleansing diet and I am beginning to feel more clear That I can come to my MIP boards and post and be loved and accepted I believe that gratitude is powerful..It brings me good energy...So every da...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My loving A brother is trying to find our drug addicted brother...He just told me this!!!! From his place in MA , hes been searching for our Bro who is in CA!!! he has called, texted, written everyone he knew out there, commonly with younger Bro (A Bro. went to visit 3 years ago and wisely got numbers of bro...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Step 3: made the decision to turn my life and issues over to my higher power AS I UNDERSTAND IT I've always had issues with trusting anything outside of me: my RX??? FIRST...stop fighting with the HP of another's understanding...Find and connect with my OWN HP..... Mine is within me...and und...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I am healthy and so are my dogs Today promises to be mild weather and I am planning some tennis and swimming my needs are met I learn and grow each day

mamalioness · mamalioness

Addiction claimed another one last night. My oldest sister had a beautiful grandson, my great nephew, he has now lost due to drug addiction He was a heroin addict, I knew this was coming, I knew he was getting worse because my sis and I would talk on the phone about it and his dad my nephew, even had a heart i...

Im · Im

Im shocked.... we were together for almost 3 yrs. He dumped me via text about 1yr ago. We reunited 1 1/2 weeks later. Stayed together for 6 more months and he dumped me via text again. This time no contact for 5 months. He says he was scared about what a future means for us - him moving and changing jobs. He st...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

The daily is taken from Al-Anon's Forum magazine: When we change our lives, we give up old patterns. Some of these old patterns, as harmful as they may have been, were like our best friends. We could turn to them for comfort and escape. After giving them up, and after the first elated feelings of liberat...

mamalioness · mamalioness

DEALING WITH RESENTMENTS I've been reading this Ebook by a Dr. Susan Hass about self care and I took away the following points on her dealing with resentments... Resentments add to stress levels..They cause frustration..The sap your energy Maybe you got sucked into doing that thing again tha...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading begins by pointing out that many of us affected by someone's alcoholism have come to believe it is not safe to trust anyone, get close to anyone, to reveal ourselves, or to care about another person. Yet we miss having close relationships. In Al-Anon, sponsorship can be a way of rega...

Lyne · Lyne

As rough times arise I try to figure out how I've ended up here. Although I am an ACOA, I'm an adult child of anger . Rage actually . But I'm exactly the same as the adult children of alcoholics. My growing up was parallel-no security, no protection, no consistency, and it was a very scary environment...

Bo · Bo

We hear so many things about the holiday's -- Thanksgiving to Christmas (and Hannukah) to New Year's. I've heard it referred to as the Bermuda Triangle, LOL. That said, I understand we can be triggered by people, places, and things. That aside, I want to forget about the "other" more external so calle...

wp · wp

Only requirement is that you become willing to join us. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization,or institution; does not engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self supportin...

Lyne · Lyne

I believe my spouse is drinking. She denies it. I know the signs. I also know she is a skilled liar. It ruined our Xmas night. Today we are leaving for a winter getaway we take every year. We are not in a good place. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change t...

andromeda · andromeda

I have grown more accustomed to change. The older I get, the less set in my ways I become in how I view change, anyway, lol. Today, I find myself so very grateful. I LOVE the condo I'm renting. I couldn't have found a better place with better neighbors. It's quiet, it's decorated the way I want, I love h...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Big, big lessons over the past few weeks, things I am still processing. My oldest is not going back to college and I'm not sure how to handle that one thing I will say is at least they came to me before Christmas the want was to wait until after Christmas and my very wise younger son said umm nooo .. tell mom N...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's Courage to change reading, the author reflects on one of the most useful lessons they've learned in Al-Anon: If I don't want to be a doormat, I have to get up off the floor. The author shares that they have spent plenty of time accepting unacceptable behavior that was directed at...

Aline · Aline

Hi, all! I haven't been around for a while, but Christmas seems like a good time to share some of my progress with you. Its been nearly 5 months since I smoked my last cigarette (!!!) and that's also thanks to Al-Anon and, more specifically, steps 1-3 and a HP, and lost of support from fellow quitters. I'v...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, December 25 Speaks about achieving maturity. The reading points out that a great tool in this process is to learn how to examine our motives, honestly. When we do this, we will discover that we are not always right and will then will open our minds to helpful influence ....

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for 12/24 talks about how family and friends of alcoholics stop noticing what is going on with themselves. The author says we deserve to pay attention to our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Focusing on ourselves means looking at our own options, instead of the options of others....

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleDon't give your advice before you are called upon. Desiderius Erasmus Hi everyone!!! in this daily, the author stresses the point to NOT give advice..If someone wants the advice?? They will ask for it..Thats is why in 12 steps, we don't go around trying to solicit other folks to join us....

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the gentleness of Alanon. The program suggests practicing the steps, slogans and traditions but is not meant to be a severe list of you must... or even you should... in spite of how some of us may have felt about it when first coming into the program. The w...

KT2015 · KT2015

I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...

DavidG · DavidG

hotrod · hotrod

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newnoz · newnoz

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...

wp · wp

Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleIt is possible to be different and still be right.--Anne Wilson Schaef Hello everyone!!! this writer points out that each of us is special...in some ways we are all different..and that is a GOOD thing...Think of the world if we were exactly the same--All of us, carbon copies of each ot...

gloves808 · gloves808

Hi everyone. So, this will be my first time doing anything regarding al-anon. I joined my bf on two regular AA meetings about 4 years ago to get an idea of what he was going through. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years. I saw him struggle, fall, and get sober again during all this time. I'v...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading in Courage to Change was surprised to hear that when we make a list of the people we have harmed, we can put ourselves at the top of the list. They had previously thought that it was wrong to think of themselves, and that it was their duty to care for everyone else. By not tak...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Strange topic, huh? I guess I shouldn't have brought it up I guess. But seriously, I have so many addictions & have mentioned before that I am having some caffeine withdrawals but no real headaches. It has been 4 days since I really over-indulged. This brings to a point: In early sobriety & bey...

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

Hi folks It is interesting that most of my previous posts have been in relation to my brother-in-law. He survives my sister who died from bowel cancer over two years ago. I have previously written about my difficulties dealing with him in relation to minding their children and I had some fantastic ins...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading compares working recovery in Al-Anon to flying down a hill on a bicycle - a feeling of being tremendously alive in perfect balance. One of many tools that helps us get and stay 'there' is Live and let live. The writer suggests working to embrace whatever life brings with all the joys an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's courage to change speaks to the impact of living with the disease of alcoholism. The author shares that alcoholism is a physical, emotional, and spiritual disease and that we who live with the impact of the disease can benefit by checking on our own well being by checking in on our p...

JerryF · JerryF

My wife and I are sitting down in the garage watching the neighbors, new and old driving pass the house and our garage sale signs. We are having a "best offer" sale as we rid ourselves of many different personals which have supported our life in Hilo for the past 25 years. We are "best offering" these...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT Reading for today, December 18 speaks about sharing at an Al-Anon meeting. The reading suggests that before we go to the meeting that we make a determination that when we speak we will share something helpful and constructive so that everybody that is. attending can benefit. It su...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am writing to you about somewhat of a miracle. That is how I see it in a way! I was praying for my enemies recently & she popped up! I wrote a very nice prayer to her as if I was praying for myself. The thing is we don't speak much or really have any contact. So, as I was praying, giving it my all, time went by...

JerryF · JerryF

What a awesome busy recovering Saturday!! I went to my home AA group and took some tree plants from my yard to share with the fellowship and when there expressed how the trees supported my culture of birth and my culture of recovery choice. The trees are known to support healing for the body; childre...

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	the Golden SLOGANS (Preview) EASY DOES ITEASY DOES IT, BUT DO ITFIRST THINGS FIRSTHOW IMPORTANT IS IT?JUST FOR TODAYKEEP AN OPEN MINDYOU ARE NOT ALONEKEEP IT SIMPLEKISS = Keep It Simple StupidKISS = Keep It Serenely SimpleHOPE = Happy Our Program ExistsLET GO AND LET GOD LET IT BEGIN WITH ME LISTEN AND LEARNLIVE AND LET LIVEON...	mamalioness	1	4112	Jan 2, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	How to absolutely difuse the drama kings and queens (Preview) I love to do research, extra stuff, in the course of my recovery..I am surfing different recovery sites, etc., and I came upon this GREAT list on how to Respond rather than react to someone who is spoiling for a fight and drama That's interesting.Let me think about that.Thank you for the information....	mamalioness	9	2633	Jan 2, 2019 by tiredtonite
	what slogan applies to me today??? (Preview) ONE DAY AT A TIME ITs only Wednesday and I caught me thinking of all the stuff I got to do on Fri, when I go back to work I caught me and said "FRI isn't here yet--lets enjoy today" and I MADE me breathe...stay in the present, under my warmer throw on couch, watching videos and staying warm...TODAY is all I got...	mamalioness	2	3339	Jan 2, 2019 by mamalioness
	What is Al-anon? (Preview) For anyone visiting this site as a beginner: Our program is based on The Serenity Prayer: God grant us the serenity To accept the things we cannot change, Courage to change the things we can, And wisdom to know the difference. Suggested preamble to the Twelve Steps: Al-Anon has but on...	wp	2	3977	Jan 2, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Unsure how to handle this (Preview) Tonight is AHs birthday. We all went out for breakfast this morning and had cake and ice cream this evening, but beyond that we had no plans - just a quiet night at home. Hes in his man cave drinking of course (its escalated in the past few months and its now become an almost nightly thing), our kids are busy...	Twinkies	8	3090	Jan 2, 2019 by Temple
	Courage to Change January 2 (Preview) Welcome to the New Year, MIP! In today's share, the Author says that turning to an alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store to buy bread. Our alcoholic loved ones may not be able to meet our expectations, but, the author suggests, it is our expectations and not our lov...	Skorpi	5	3711	Jan 2, 2019 by Iamhere
	Step One (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65192709/alanon-step-one-1-1-2019-12-31/PleaseParticipate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this...	hotrod	3	3020	Jan 1, 2019 by Iamhere
	Reflections/thankfulness/gratitude (Preview) As I sat this morning reflecting on 2018, with all of its incredible blessings and struggles I am grateful. To those whom are new, a very warm welcome and a message of hope that you are never alone even when it seems like it cannot get any worse this board has been and is a beacon of light to all of us. It i...	serenity47	6	1419	Jan 1, 2019 by Bo
	The next step (Preview) In a few short years, my kids will be off to college. My goal is to be in a position by then to leave my marriage. Of course, it would be incredible if something were to happen before then that would make that unnecessary, but I cant keep holding on to that dream. I need to be prepared. But Im scared and overwh...	Twinkies	7	3281	Jan 1, 2019 by Bettertomorrow
	what slogan am i working on today (Preview) EASY DOES IT As I Practice slowing down, breathing, pausing when I'm not sure, I notice life is not so much of a struggle Its OK to go slow when doing a task that requires precision...Its FINE to take it leisurely when I am taking a shower, it is a absolute pleasure ... I am beginning to get shed of the frant...	mamalioness	2	3871	Jan 1, 2019 by Maresie
	I beg your pardon!! I didn't promise you a rose garden (Preview) Next month, February 15th will be my 15th year in recovery When I first got here, (knew I was a lifer but that was as ok as it could be) I expected that NOW I'm in recovery...LIFE is just gonna MAGICALLY get better for me...The dark will become light and no more problems/hardships/pain, etc. because ROSE...	mamalioness	1	5342	Jan 1, 2019 by JerryF
	a look at step one (Preview) as part of keeping things simple, I applied it to my step ONEthe first thing I had to see re: step one is where I had to ADMIT I was powerless over my codependency and anything else, for that matter, that is outside of me In step one, after a struggle, I accepted my powerlessness over anything outside of me...	mamalioness	3	5101	Dec 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	Mental Emotional relapsing (Preview) I am grateful to have MIP and the program in my life as outcomes to the affect of the disease can be much worse than they use to be. Mental and Emotional relapsing for me involves living the long past history of alcoholism and my part in it all over again now with the awareness that I was powerless then an...	JerryF	8	4859	Dec 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	C2C, 12/31 (Preview) The reading for Monday asks us to take a few minutes to reflect upon the progress we've made during this past year, and to thank those that helped, including HP. The questions the author asked themself included: What did I do to contribute to my success, have I reached out to others in the fellowship...	Lyne	5	1002	Dec 31, 2018 by Iamhere
	How did I grow in 2018??? (Preview) Has it been a Year of Growth? Growth This author talks about As any year draws to a close, we should reflect on how we have grown in sobriety. We should also identify changes during the year that enabled us to overcome bad habits and to move closer to better patterns of living. The outcomes do not come wi...	mamalioness	2	2489	Dec 31, 2018 by hotrod
	What am I grateful for today??? (Preview) I got a great nights sleep, dogs did not have to use restroom at 3am Went to gym after my strength exercise here and swam laps and really got a good cardo ran into some ladies I swim with and they, all 3 gave me happy new year HUGSSSSS....Loved it I can actually see PROGRESS in me!!! Yaaaaaay program!!!!!!...	mamalioness	2	3250	Dec 31, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Been awhile (Preview) I joined this group a year ago, give or take. I dove head first into it after having neared what I thought was the end of my rope. I quickly discovered, thanks to this place and some needed perspective, that I still had a lot of rope to go though. I was stronger than I thought. Things had improved at home some...	Twinkies	5	3494	Dec 31, 2018 by Maresie
	Christmas/Expectations/ and al that other stuff (Preview) Hello everyone. It has been a while since I have posted although still come to read daily and respond when I feel I have something to offer. Christmas was pretty terrific this year. We celebrated early to accomadate others schedules which was fine by me . My AD has been struggling with sobriety, on ag...	serenity47	6	5773	Dec 30, 2018 by Maresie
	Why do I engage? (Preview) My husband sends me mean texts and I respond! Why can't I just ignore him?	Carla61	8	3950	Dec 30, 2018 by Carla61
	Hope for Today Dec 30 (Preview) Good morning Everyone: Todays reading is about how recovery is about choices. The writer starts with the beginning of step 3: Made a decision.. The writer goes on to describe making choices with the decisions in our lives, and choosing to turn over our lives to the will of the God of our understanding....	yanksfan51	4	2285	Dec 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	Back home safe n sound Pics of me far left daughter gson gson sil daughters bil bil daughter sil sister gson my son my dil.....and Bella fur baby.had a blast. (Preview) my 1st ever plane ride was great,flying back home was even better ,i wasn't least bit nervous.yay me i always had my tools with me ,and used them often,especially walking down town Las Vegas on the strip,to many ppl shoulder to shoulder. loved the time I had with my Daughter n Grandsons,which are now te...	lookingup	5	5958	Dec 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	Would you tell your alcoholic about the effects of their drinking on others? (Preview) Hi all. It's been a while since I felt the need to post (though I still read!). I have kept quiet these last months when ah drinks. I don't challenge, try to keep the focus on me and the children, and if I have prior warning of a binge, i sleep at family or friends with the children. The thing is, I have no...	A nother	12	2495	Dec 30, 2018 by KT2015
	What am I grateful for_29 DEC (Preview) My grateful list for today: our weather has been fairly mild I am successfully, so far into week 2 doing my cleansing diet and I am beginning to feel more clear That I can come to my MIP boards and post and be loved and accepted I believe that gratitude is powerful..It brings me good energy...So every da...	mamalioness	1	3472	Dec 30, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Wonder if he is still alive or will 2019 be another loss to the darkness of addiction for me?? (Preview) My loving A brother is trying to find our drug addicted brother...He just told me this!!!! From his place in MA , hes been searching for our Bro who is in CA!!! he has called, texted, written everyone he knew out there, commonly with younger Bro (A Bro. went to visit 3 years ago and wisely got numbers of bro...	mamalioness	5	4380	Dec 30, 2018 by Maresie
	What step am I working on today??? (Preview) Step 3: made the decision to turn my life and issues over to my higher power AS I UNDERSTAND IT I've always had issues with trusting anything outside of me: my RX??? FIRST...stop fighting with the HP of another's understanding...Find and connect with my OWN HP..... Mine is within me...and und...	mamalioness	1	4309	Dec 30, 2018 by hotrod
	What am I grateful for _Dec 30 (Preview) I am healthy and so are my dogs Today promises to be mild weather and I am planning some tennis and swimming my needs are met I learn and grow each day	mamalioness	2	3810	Dec 30, 2018 by mamalioness
	Addiction claimed another one last night (Preview) Addiction claimed another one last night. My oldest sister had a beautiful grandson, my great nephew, he has now lost due to drug addiction He was a heroin addict, I knew this was coming, I knew he was getting worse because my sis and I would talk on the phone about it and his dad my nephew, even had a heart i...	mamalioness	19	4045	Dec 29, 2018 by mamalioness
	Sober ex came back asking for a chance (Preview) Im shocked.... we were together for almost 3 yrs. He dumped me via text about 1yr ago. We reunited 1 1/2 weeks later. Stayed together for 6 more months and he dumped me via text again. This time no contact for 5 months. He says he was scared about what a future means for us - him moving and changing jobs. He st...	Im	12	4637	Dec 29, 2018 by Bo
	12/27/18 From The Forum Magazine (Preview) The daily is taken from Al-Anon's Forum magazine: When we change our lives, we give up old patterns. Some of these old patterns, as harmful as they may have been, were like our best friends. We could turn to them for comfort and escape. After giving them up, and after the first elated feelings of liberat...	PosiesandPuppies	9	2679	Dec 29, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Dealing with resentments (Preview) DEALING WITH RESENTMENTS I've been reading this Ebook by a Dr. Susan Hass about self care and I took away the following points on her dealing with resentments... Resentments add to stress levels..They cause frustration..The sap your energy Maybe you got sucked into doing that thing again tha...	mamalioness	4	2635	Dec 28, 2018 by Maresie
	Courage to Change, December 28 (Preview) Today's reading begins by pointing out that many of us affected by someone's alcoholism have come to believe it is not safe to trust anyone, get close to anyone, to reveal ourselves, or to care about another person. Yet we miss having close relationships. In Al-Anon, sponsorship can be a way of rega...	Freetime	4	796	Dec 28, 2018 by Lyne
	Why I married twice to alcoholics/addicts (Preview) As rough times arise I try to figure out how I've ended up here. Although I am an ACOA, I'm an adult child of anger . Rage actually . But I'm exactly the same as the adult children of alcoholics. My growing up was parallel-no security, no protection, no consistency, and it was a very scary environment...	Lyne	5	1000	Dec 27, 2018 by mamalioness
	Bad head-space? (Preview) We hear so many things about the holiday's -- Thanksgiving to Christmas (and Hannukah) to New Year's. I've heard it referred to as the Bermuda Triangle, LOL. That said, I understand we can be triggered by people, places, and things. That aside, I want to forget about the "other" more external so calle...	Bo	21	995	Dec 27, 2018 by mamalioness
	What does Al-anon expect of me? (Preview) Only requirement is that you become willing to join us. Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, political entity, organization,or institution; does not engage in any controversy, neither endorses nor opposes any cause. There are no dues for membership. Al-Anon is self supportin...	wp	5	4124	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	Not so good here (Preview) I believe my spouse is drinking. She denies it. I know the signs. I also know she is a skilled liar. It ruined our Xmas night. Today we are leaving for a winter getaway we take every year. We are not in a good place. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change t...	Lyne	9	4279	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	CHANGE (Preview) I have grown more accustomed to change. The older I get, the less set in my ways I become in how I view change, anyway, lol. Today, I find myself so very grateful. I LOVE the condo I'm renting. I couldn't have found a better place with better neighbors. It's quiet, it's decorated the way I want, I love h...	andromeda	13	3679	Dec 27, 2018 by Maresie
	Helping me helps my loved ones .. (Preview) Big, big lessons over the past few weeks, things I am still processing. My oldest is not going back to college and I'm not sure how to handle that one thing I will say is at least they came to me before Christmas the want was to wait until after Christmas and my very wise younger son said umm nooo .. tell mom N...	SerenityRUS	1	514	Dec 26, 2018 by andromeda
	Courage to Change December 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's Courage to change reading, the author reflects on one of the most useful lessons they've learned in Al-Anon: If I don't want to be a doormat, I have to get up off the floor. The author shares that they have spent plenty of time accepting unacceptable behavior that was directed at...	Skorpi	3	622	Dec 26, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Sharing progress - grateful this Christmas (Preview) Hi, all! I haven't been around for a while, but Christmas seems like a good time to share some of my progress with you. Its been nearly 5 months since I smoked my last cigarette (!!!) and that's also thanks to Al-Anon and, more specifically, steps 1-3 and a HP, and lost of support from fellow quitters. I'v...	Aline	5	2573	Dec 26, 2018 by Aline
	ODAT Reading 12-25 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, December 25 Speaks about achieving maturity. The reading points out that a great tool in this process is to learn how to examine our motives, honestly. When we do this, we will discover that we are not always right and will then will open our minds to helpful influence ....	hotrod	4	2192	Dec 25, 2018 by Aline
	C2C, 12/24 (Preview) The reading for 12/24 talks about how family and friends of alcoholics stop noticing what is going on with themselves. The author says we deserve to pay attention to our own behavior, thoughts, and feelings. Focusing on ourselves means looking at our own options, instead of the options of others....	Lyne	3	2658	Dec 25, 2018 by mamalioness
	KEEP IT SIMPLE_20 Dec (Preview) Keep It SimpleDon't give your advice before you are called upon. Desiderius Erasmus Hi everyone!!! in this daily, the author stresses the point to NOT give advice..If someone wants the advice?? They will ask for it..Thats is why in 12 steps, we don't go around trying to solicit other folks to join us....	mamalioness	4	641	Dec 24, 2018 by Maresie
	Hope for Today Dec 22 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the gentleness of Alanon. The program suggests practicing the steps, slogans and traditions but is not meant to be a severe list of you must... or even you should... in spite of how some of us may have felt about it when first coming into the program. The w...	yanksfan51	6	1241	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Reacting (Preview) I find myself reacting to my AH lately. Maybe its the holidays and the stress and maybe its that his drinking has Increased but wowza am I the crazy one these days. Reacting to every button he tries to push. At first I was disheartened by the feeling that I had a backslide but Ive decided not to hold on to...	KT2015	12	4521	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	A happy festive season in Alanon... Kaitapu Hari, Mele Kalikimaka, Nadolig Llawen, Merry Christmas. (Preview)	DavidG	8	561	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	WARM WISHES FOR THIS HOLIDAY SEASON (Preview) Dear MIP Members -- E	hotrod	4	4356	Dec 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Thank you all so much! ( hope this works) Holidays gratitude (Preview)	newnoz	9	3440	Dec 23, 2018 by ginnyc
	The Daily 12/20/18 (Preview) Iamhere asked if I could help out today, and I am happy to offer service! The following is taken from The Language of Letting Go GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS For some, the sights and smells of the holidays bring joy and a warm feeling. But, while others are joyously diving into the season, some of us are d...	PosiesandPuppies	7	680	Dec 23, 2018 by andromeda
	Christmas open house (Preview) Just wondering if there is any plan for an alanonathon for Christmas? If not, may I suggest we each think about dropping in chat room Christmas Eve through Christmas night just in case any needy member, new or old, wants to chat? Call it an "open house" ...... Thank you, wp	wp	2	2074	Dec 23, 2018 by hotrod
	Keep it simple_22 Dec (Preview) Keep It SimpleIt is possible to be different and still be right.--Anne Wilson Schaef Hello everyone!!! this writer points out that each of us is special...in some ways we are all different..and that is a GOOD thing...Think of the world if we were exactly the same--All of us, carbon copies of each ot...	mamalioness	2	407	Dec 22, 2018 by Lyne
	I invaded his privacy- his inventory ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hi everyone. So, this will be my first time doing anything regarding al-anon. I joined my bf on two regular AA meetings about 4 years ago to get an idea of what he was going through. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 7 years. I saw him struggle, fall, and get sober again during all this time. I'v...	gloves808	42	5268	Dec 22, 2018 by gloves808
	C2C, December 21 (Preview) The author of today's reading in Courage to Change was surprised to hear that when we make a list of the people we have harmed, we can put ourselves at the top of the list. They had previously thought that it was wrong to think of themselves, and that it was their duty to care for everyone else. By not tak...	Freetime	6	827	Dec 21, 2018 by mamalioness
	can you get addicted to MIP? (Preview) Strange topic, huh? I guess I shouldn't have brought it up I guess. But seriously, I have so many addictions & have mentioned before that I am having some caffeine withdrawals but no real headaches. It has been 4 days since I really over-indulged. This brings to a point: In early sobriety & bey...	Hoot Nanny	10	856	Dec 21, 2018 by Bo
	Trying to keep distance from BILs stuff (Preview) Hi folks It is interesting that most of my previous posts have been in relation to my brother-in-law. He survives my sister who died from bowel cancer over two years ago. I have previously written about my difficulties dealing with him in relation to minding their children and I had some fantastic ins...	Faintly Falling	10	2278	Dec 21, 2018 by Bo
	Courage to Change - 12/13/18 (Preview) Today's reading compares working recovery in Al-Anon to flying down a hill on a bicycle - a feeling of being tremendously alive in perfect balance. One of many tools that helps us get and stay 'there' is Live and let live. The writer suggests working to embrace whatever life brings with all the joys an...	Iamhere	8	560	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change December 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's courage to change speaks to the impact of living with the disease of alcoholism. The author shares that alcoholism is a physical, emotional, and spiritual disease and that we who live with the impact of the disease can benefit by checking on our own well being by checking in on our p...	Skorpi	6	769	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	Giving back kinda ...sorta. (Preview) My wife and I are sitting down in the garage watching the neighbors, new and old driving pass the house and our garage sale signs. We are having a "best offer" sale as we rid ourselves of many different personals which have supported our life in Hilo for the past 25 years. We are "best offering" these...	JerryF	8	630	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 12-18-2018 (Preview) The ODAT Reading for today, December 18 speaks about sharing at an Al-Anon meeting. The reading suggests that before we go to the meeting that we make a determination that when we speak we will share something helpful and constructive so that everybody that is. attending can benefit. It su...	hotrod	3	661	Dec 19, 2018 by mamalioness
	my not so favorite aunt! (Preview) I am writing to you about somewhat of a miracle. That is how I see it in a way! I was praying for my enemies recently & she popped up! I wrote a very nice prayer to her as if I was praying for myself. The thing is we don't speak much or really have any contact. So, as I was praying, giving it my all, time went by...	Hoot Nanny	0	527	Dec 18, 2018 by Hoot Nanny
	Gratefully triggered.... (Preview) What a awesome busy recovering Saturday!! I went to my home AA group and took some tree plants from my yard to share with the fellowship and when there expressed how the trees supported my culture of birth and my culture of recovery choice. The trees are known to support healing for the body; childre...	JerryF	13	1931	Dec 17, 2018 by JerryF
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