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atheos · atheos

My sister has severe mental health issues, and it is very easy for something to tip her into a downward spiral. After I had a phonecall with her that seemed completely harmless to me, she has gone into a really terrible mood, and mom is being very distant with me. (They live together, I don't live with the...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism in our lives have not learned healthy coping skills. The writer describes having grown up with the job of keeping silent about everything that was happening in the home. Over time anger built up and in order...

Ann_Y · Ann_Y

My spouse is on a bender again. I am trying not manage him and it's hard. I know I need to get out of his way. I know I should not take it personal and get mad. I try not to make this about me. I just need strength.

Freetime · Freetime

Sponsorship is the topic for today. We may have doubts about being a sponsor -- that we don't know enough, don't have enough time, don't want to take on someone else's troubles. But being a sponsor is an adventure in personal and spiritual growth. Once we start, we might be amazed to realize how much w...

madowl86 · madowl86

Things were so good for a while. It was almost like a tease. Now were back having issues with both drinking AND drugs. I am finding myself having fewer and fewer peaceful evenings. I work full time and come home to deal with this from 5:00 until whenever he decides hes done. I have no control. I know I can b...

joker · joker

I just wanted to share, I have been reading on line still and working on my recovery. I am happy to report, its now been one year since the alcoholic and I ended our relationship. It was horrible due to active alcoholism in the home. I am grateful for ending the sick, unstable, relationship. I still live a...

Lyne · Lyne

My A has finally gotten a sponsor and is working the steps, but not in AA, in OA . She has yet to decide that she is an alcoholic , and now a dry drunk. Several professionals have suggested she go to AA but of course she knows best. And I was thinking if she got a sponsor and worked the steps, that we would be s...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's Courage to Change, and Alateen member shares that they were doubtful when they met with AlAnon members. The author had stopped trusting adults and had assumed that all adults would have the same sick attitudes as their alcoholic parents. The author reflects that, because of this attitud...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey all - I will be around less for a little while - ended up in the hospital for the weekend, resulting in emergency appendectomy. I got home late last night - so grateful to have my bed, my pillows, my blanket, my puppy and my guys around. If moderation is needed here, please send me or Kenny a PM - Betty's...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for this AM speaks about our fantasy that if we had enough money we would be happy and have a successful life. Money does not buy serenity or happiness and in fact causes more problems We are asked to bring our problems to HP and leave them there with the confidence that they will be handl...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the tools we are given in Alanon to better understand the disease. As we are able to separate the disease from the person who is sick, we also can remove some of the personal feelings of hurt associated with loving an A, and a different perspective about ou...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for 12/10 speaks about how confused we are when we arrive at Alanon. We have trouble with boundaries and seeing which of our behaviors are appropriate and which are not. The writer's 4th step inventory helped them discover who they were, what their values are, which behaviors they want...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 12 th Step has been posted to the Step Board. The link is below . Please join in and share your thoughts on this po...

lgnutah · lgnutah

A few months ago, my AD had a "hit bottom" type event. Since that time, I can see she has been working very hard to make some changes, to live a life that she finds more meaningful and rewarding. I listen, try not to tell her what she "should" be doing, thinking or feeling. I am trying to be there for her in...

mamalioness · mamalioness

When I am Really working the 12th step, I am giving my love...I am giving myself with no price tag..No motive but to help and to give love and hope..to share my story and whether folks comment or not, I hope that I shed some light for at least some souls who read me... In order for me to GET to this step and real...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about self-care. The writer used to think that being good to herself meant indulging in food, shopping, and "fun" activities. But these habits led to an unsatisfying life. She found more challenging but more satisfying ways to be good to herself, which put serenity first. Now s...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for today asks the question: what is meditation? Some of the answers are: spiritual awareness (every action can serve a spiritual purpose), concentrating on breathing while counting, repeating the Serenity Prayer, watching thoughts in the present day, focusing on one thing like...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I am doing ok! I am doing my readings (Bible and al anon materials) and I am truly focusing on my recovery and taking this life with my AH one day at a time. Many times before after a crisis I was overly consumed about keeping my AH from drinking again, but for some reason (so far) I am not fretting about it a...

Paloma Negra · Paloma Negra

Hello out there, i would like to ask for some ESH on alienation of affection and stonewalling with the A. My AH is usually the total opposite when drinking but when not drinking there's of course the moody, temperamental, non-communicative and cold side. Your insight and sharing would be greatly app...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I keep realizing that I don't have to agree w/ everyone to get along. People have opinions like me who have their intentions w/o arguing. It seems that my Ah has been talking about arguing since we got married. 19 years! I am so tired of him saying that we are arguing even though I am only stating my opinion...

JerryF · JerryF

it helps me to handle the present. I went to a morning AA group to share a spiritual awaking I had when I woke to a reading in one of my daily readers in the Daily Reflection...it was powerful and spiritually stunning and before I left shared it with my Al-Anon member wife. The relationship between my H...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Make lemonade of course! I am a prime example today because I am facing some serious challenges since the weekend & it hasn't ended today unfortunately. I knew this would be basically the only place where I can really share my frustrations. I am still a work in progress. Being up north here we have p...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Hi MIP family! Iamhere has asked if I would post the daily in her stead. I am honored to do so. Letting Go of Fear "Picture yourself swimming - floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscience of your situation. Frighte...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on recognizing the love that exists in their life. The author shares that they used to believe that there was one person out there who would understand their every mood,always have time for them, and bring a smile to their face. Until this person appeared, the...

mamalioness · mamalioness

You are reading from the book Today's Gift. My true god is always with me. I am learning to trust myself. . . . --Joan Parsons Author talks about what/where we do/go for comfort..What gives us that warm fuzzy feeling when we are feeling down...author mentions a girl who absolutely loved the story abou...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Beautiful Betty should be back next week, but I am filling in for this week....Will be gone all day tomorrow so I'm doing the Tuesday , today In this offering Author mentions that many of us come to Al-anon to find out why the alcoholic drinks..We fear its because he/she does't love me any more..OR beca...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I was in the animal shelter, today, my "doggie visit" day with pockets full of biscuits and lots of smiles and comforting things to say to the homeless ones... I am going down the rows, "chatting up" with Pitbulls, German Shepherds, Labs, all kinds of lovely and deserving pets..One young fellow was so...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

So, I have been part of Alanon about a quarter of a century. In the beginning, I used to attend face-to-face meetings quite regularly. I'm in another fellowship also so I go there frequently. As time passed, life changes came into play. We moved to a new neighbourhood, new jobs, stuff like that. We drif...

JerryF · JerryF

Yep service is a true gallant part of enabling others to enable themselves to recover. Bring the program to them and help them to understand and work it. I did my morning meeting and there was a newbie there fresh to the room and old timers. He did what I finally learned to do at first...shut up and li...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty in making decisions. The writer came to understand that he/she was having trouble making decisions because they were often based on what others expected or wanted. Through program work it was suggested that decisions may be easier i...

texas yankee · texas yankee

this stuff sneaks up on me like a drunk driver running a stop sign - yeah, I should have been watching out - my bad.

Freetime · Freetime

Twelfth Step work is the subject of today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon. It helps our serenity when we are ready to carry the message of recovery to another person who needs it, who may not be aware of how Al-Anon can help. The writer suggests that we should always be aware of a possible need, perha...

Mcgreuder · Mcgreuder

I've described my binge-drinking husband in the past. Last night, he went out with friends, got drunk, and came home late. My 5 year old daughter was in bed with me, and we were sleeping. He was looking for his shirt that he puts over his eyes when he sleeps and couldn't find it (bc he was drunk), and lou...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I got the call from my AH's therapist today that he will be released from detox tomorrow sometime. A condition for release is for him (me) to remove all guns from the home so we can all be safe. My AH hasn't had a domestic issue (yet) but with the amount of drinking he was doing and some of the behaviors he e...

Jen61 · Jen61

I tend to write my thoughts down. I have written a letter to my mother when she passed away; a letter to my friend's family when she passed away from Cancer and how I have felt about my husband and his drinking. I ran across this a few days ago and thought I would share it. I am unsure if I have already. If s...

El · El

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change: AHs: *Sitting in front of the TV all day with little to no motivation for much else *Frequent and lengthy naps *Decreased ability to connect the dots or simple problem solving *Refusing to wear his hearing aids which means shouting to conv...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Ohhh that's a hard one for me. I tend to think I know what's best and get to meddling. I did something today that at first gave me a little anxiety and then I realized my motives were pretty clean and I handled it in an appropriate way .. I tried to keep it about me and what my observations are, what my hopes w...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... flew in yesterday, after a pretty gruelling journey. Last week the police pulled me over- for driving too slow- in a public car park. When I pulled over I got out of the car to eye-ball the officer. Imediately a back-up car pulled over in front of me. My ideas was to park in the car park-...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about how the reader viewed 'adulting' before recovery vs. during/embracing recovery. Before Al-Anon, he/she believed that being an adult was to be in CONTROL - rigid, cool. This might also include looking good on the outside and feeling very different on t...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Family... Just wanted to Update from my Previous Post, I SURVIVED :) I Fed 25 Peeps, and All seemed Happy to be there, so that was Enough, there was a Few that Couldn't make it, but I Didn't Expect ANY so My Day was Not Ruined by the 10 that Couldn't... It was a Tough one, and Not Just because of My Dad's Bi...

a4l · a4l

What a year! It's been hard and started off with depression. Now it's nearly ended and I'm thrilled. "Keep taking the next right step" is what I read here many times over the years, and not to let the everyday business of living drag me down. I took both of those suggestions especially to heart and am so h...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp, This Month Marks 10 years since Loosing my Afather to this Dreadful Disease... I Still look back on it and Wonder, (Knowing I Shouldn't) What Could have been... knowing in my Heart, the Results would always be the Same... His Illness didn't allow him much freedom, it was an Everyday all day kind...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the 4th step. The author shares that when they started the 4th step, they found that many things they had previously thought of as virtues were actually character defects: taking care of others, worrying about others, sacrificing their own happiness and pro...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Please visit the MIP Al-Anon business forum to participate in a group conscience about technical improvements to the MIP Al-Anon site. -- Hidden/Freetime -- Your WebHelper Team -- Edited by WebHelper on Wednesday 28th of November 2018 05:46:53 PM

mamakat71 · mamakat71

Hello all, Here I am again! I haven't been on for awhile and I haven't been going to meetings because I have fallen back into old ways and patterns thinking "I got this" Well I don't . Everything is a mess! The AH is in detox that he signed into on my birthday (3 days ago) and he is wanting out of there wit...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It's been a whirlwind of a month is putting it mildly. Nice to be busy however there is such a thing as to busy. I was able to take time off and will go back to work tomorrow. I am so looking forward to enjoying some down time during Christmas as well it won't be as long however it will be a nice break. I thin...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Beloved Betty is on vaca. so i am filling in for her on the Tuesday daily until she gets back..Hope you are having a great time, Betty On Tuesday's offering, Author talks about the man whose wife is an alcoholic and how he is afraid to seek help in Al-anon because it looks like failure on his part It may be he...

WideAwakeLemon · WideAwakeLemon

Hello, I'm posting because I really don't know what to do. I got married just over a month ago, and today was my DH's ninth month of sobriety. I stress "was", because today he started drinking again. He text me that he was going to a friend's to watch football with the guys. I had a sliver of concern, but was...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of today's reading said they never felt like they belonged, a life long problem, but even in Alanon at first. But they learned about alcoholism being a family disease, even affecting the people who cared about the alcoholic. And this disease could be passed from generation to generatio...

JerryF · JerryF

My HP was at it again so I have to acknowledge the efforts again and again. At the start of and thru the end of the weekend my spirit made note that I should do another personal "change me" inventory and that made me glad and excited to decide what I needed to change and how I would do it. This one was easy as...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been awhile & I don't have much time to write. One thing is for certain my mom is where she needs to be & is very happy where she is. I think for the first time in a long time I am happy for her. Our relationship has been very volatile. Me, I am well. Been thinking about getting on here for awhile....

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I'm back again. I actually never really left. I might have mentioned I went back to work (in January). That seemed to be going well, but in the end I lost the job. The why is irrelevant. Losing the money sucks but that's the ways the cookies crumble. A few days afterward, I had a conversation with the Guy Up...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP - looking for ESH for those who have parented with a separated spouse without any recovery path. My XAH as some of you might remember sent me a photo with drugs in the background and it has changed our access plan. I now have control about my daughter seeing AH - how and when. She is about to turn 4 and h...

livestrong09 · livestrong09

My wife just returned home from rehab. YEAH!! Or so I thought. I am entering a strange emotional state all of a sudden. We have been having some nice chats but it always seems to end with my jealousy regarding some male friends she met there. One in particular. She says it was a total brother sister relati...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting what we can control, its about not projecting an issue, its about staying in our own business. The writer describes the period of time when his/her parents were divorced; the difficulty in staying out of the animosity, especially because t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

my Musings about when your day absolutely sucks!!!! I wrote this on facebook,a while back and got lots of "thank you's" because nobody wants to feel like they are alone and/or being picked on by some entity that "has it in for us" When you're really having a bad day, i.e., Like soon as you get out of bed, yo...

a4l · a4l

Greeting MIP family. Today's courage to change discusses the recovery work of Step 10: continuing to take a moral inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong. In C2C, this is explored using the premise of self-focus as opposed to fault finding or criticising others. The author admits to fore...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Saw this on another website, and thought I would share, as I have never seen the "long version.' God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And the wisdom to know the difference.Grant me patience with the changes that take time,Appreciatio...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 20 speaks about the joy we feel, as children in simply being alive. it points out how very important it is to not tamper with that joy . However when alcoholism enters the home this usually cannot be avoided. and our "spirits become broken as a result. Alanon offers us...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello everyone! Today's page in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon talks about banishing fear by accepting the protection and guidance of a Higher Power. "What happened yesterday need not trouble me today." I have the power to make today a good one just by the way I think about it. From Today's Reminder: "If I...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Need ESH on worrying about my influence on others' moods (Preview) My sister has severe mental health issues, and it is very easy for something to tip her into a downward spiral. After I had a phonecall with her that seemed completely harmless to me, she has gone into a really terrible mood, and mom is being very distant with me. (They live together, I don't live with the...	atheos	10	1904	Dec 17, 2018 by KT2015
	Hope for Today Dec 16 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism in our lives have not learned healthy coping skills. The writer describes having grown up with the job of keeping silent about everything that was happening in the home. Over time anger built up and in order...	yanksfan51	6	555	Dec 16, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hubby is on a bender (Preview) My spouse is on a bender again. I am trying not manage him and it's hard. I know I need to get out of his way. I know I should not take it personal and get mad. I try not to make this about me. I just need strength.	Ann_Y	5	1473	Dec 15, 2018 by Ann_Y
	ODAT - December 14 (Preview) Sponsorship is the topic for today. We may have doubts about being a sponsor -- that we don't know enough, don't have enough time, don't want to take on someone else's troubles. But being a sponsor is an adventure in personal and spiritual growth. Once we start, we might be amazed to realize how much w...	Freetime	6	467	Dec 14, 2018 by Lyne
	How do you not just hate them? (Preview) Things were so good for a while. It was almost like a tease. Now were back having issues with both drinking AND drugs. I am finding myself having fewer and fewer peaceful evenings. I work full time and come home to deal with this from 5:00 until whenever he decides hes done. I have no control. I know I can b...	madowl86	15	2248	Dec 13, 2018 by joker
	A year later (Preview) I just wanted to share, I have been reading on line still and working on my recovery. I am happy to report, its now been one year since the alcoholic and I ended our relationship. It was horrible due to active alcoholism in the home. I am grateful for ending the sick, unstable, relationship. I still live a...	joker	7	370	Dec 13, 2018 by Maresie
	Fantasy land (Preview) My A has finally gotten a sponsor and is working the steps, but not in AA, in OA . She has yet to decide that she is an alcoholic , and now a dry drunk. Several professionals have suggested she go to AA but of course she knows best. And I was thinking if she got a sponsor and worked the steps, that we would be s...	Lyne	10	1922	Dec 13, 2018 by Maresie
	Courage to Change December 12 (Preview) In today's Courage to Change, and Alateen member shares that they were doubtful when they met with AlAnon members. The author had stopped trusting adults and had assumed that all adults would have the same sick attitudes as their alcoholic parents. The author reflects that, because of this attitud...	Skorpi	4	463	Dec 12, 2018 by mamalioness
	Sidelined for a Bit... (Preview) Hey all - I will be around less for a little while - ended up in the hospital for the weekend, resulting in emergency appendectomy. I got home late last night - so grateful to have my bed, my pillows, my blanket, my puppy and my guys around. If moderation is needed here, please send me or Kenny a PM - Betty's...	Iamhere	13	549	Dec 12, 2018 by Iamhere
	C2C Reading 12-11-2018 (Preview) The C2C reading for this AM speaks about our fantasy that if we had enough money we would be happy and have a successful life. Money does not buy serenity or happiness and in fact causes more problems We are asked to bring our problems to HP and leave them there with the confidence that they will be handl...	hotrod	4	1411	Dec 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Dec 9 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the tools we are given in Alanon to better understand the disease. As we are able to separate the disease from the person who is sick, we also can remove some of the personal feelings of hurt associated with loving an A, and a different perspective about ou...	yanksfan51	10	969	Dec 11, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, 12/10 (Preview) The reading for 12/10 speaks about how confused we are when we arrive at Alanon. We have trouble with boundaries and seeing which of our behaviors are appropriate and which are not. The writer's 4th step inventory helped them discover who they were, what their values are, which behaviors they want...	Lyne	4	380	Dec 10, 2018 by Iamhere
	Step 12 posted to the Step Board (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 12 th Step has been posted to the Step Board. The link is below . Please join in and share your thoughts on this po...	hotrod	0	1702	Dec 10, 2018 by hotrod
	Not working a program, but she's trying (Preview) A few months ago, my AD had a "hit bottom" type event. Since that time, I can see she has been working very hard to make some changes, to live a life that she finds more meaningful and rewarding. I listen, try not to tell her what she "should" be doing, thinking or feeling. I am trying to be there for her in...	lgnutah	7	1935	Dec 9, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	step 12_the one where love has no price tag (Preview) When I am Really working the 12th step, I am giving my love...I am giving myself with no price tag..No motive but to help and to give love and hope..to share my story and whether folks comment or not, I hope that I shed some light for at least some souls who read me... In order for me to GET to this step and real...	mamalioness	2	358	Dec 9, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, December 7 (Preview) Today's reading is about self-care. The writer used to think that being good to herself meant indulging in food, shopping, and "fun" activities. But these habits led to an unsatisfying life. She found more challenging but more satisfying ways to be good to herself, which put serenity first. Now s...	Freetime	7	1812	Dec 8, 2018 by mamalioness
	C2C, 12/3 (Preview) The reading for today asks the question: what is meditation? Some of the answers are: spiritual awareness (every action can serve a spiritual purpose), concentrating on breathing while counting, repeating the Serenity Prayer, watching thoughts in the present day, focusing on one thing like...	Lyne	5	408	Dec 8, 2018 by Iamhere
	First days home from detox (Preview) I am doing ok! I am doing my readings (Bible and al anon materials) and I am truly focusing on my recovery and taking this life with my AH one day at a time. Many times before after a crisis I was overly consumed about keeping my AH from drinking again, but for some reason (so far) I am not fretting about it a...	mamakat71	12	596	Dec 8, 2018 by Bo
	ESH needed (Preview) Hello out there, i would like to ask for some ESH on alienation of affection and stonewalling with the A. My AH is usually the total opposite when drinking but when not drinking there's of course the moody, temperamental, non-communicative and cold side. Your insight and sharing would be greatly app...	Paloma Negra	7	480	Dec 8, 2018 by Bo
	don't have to agree w/everyone! (Preview) I keep realizing that I don't have to agree w/ everyone to get along. People have opinions like me who have their intentions w/o arguing. It seems that my Ah has been talking about arguing since we got married. 19 years! I am so tired of him saying that we are arguing even though I am only stating my opinion...	Hoot Nanny	7	504	Dec 7, 2018 by wp
	I can handle the past of this disease and (Preview) it helps me to handle the present. I went to a morning AA group to share a spiritual awaking I had when I woke to a reading in one of my daily readers in the Daily Reflection...it was powerful and spiritually stunning and before I left shared it with my Al-Anon member wife. The relationship between my H...	JerryF	5	737	Dec 7, 2018 by Iamhere
	when you get lemons... (Preview) Make lemonade of course! I am a prime example today because I am facing some serious challenges since the weekend & it hasn't ended today unfortunately. I knew this would be basically the only place where I can really share my frustrations. I am still a work in progress. Being up north here we have p...	Hoot Nanny	6	1832	Dec 7, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Dec 06; The Language of Letting Go (Preview) Hi MIP family! Iamhere has asked if I would post the daily in her stead. I am honored to do so. Letting Go of Fear "Picture yourself swimming - floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscience of your situation. Frighte...	PosiesandPuppies	6	1693	Dec 7, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change December 5 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on recognizing the love that exists in their life. The author shares that they used to believe that there was one person out there who would understand their every mood,always have time for them, and bring a smile to their face. Until this person appeared, the...	Skorpi	3	2253	Dec 5, 2018 by mamalioness
	04 DEC_Today's gift: AND Mr. Bunny (Preview) You are reading from the book Today's Gift. My true god is always with me. I am learning to trust myself. . . . --Joan Parsons Author talks about what/where we do/go for comfort..What gives us that warm fuzzy feeling when we are feeling down...author mentions a girl who absolutely loved the story abou...	mamalioness	1	336	Dec 5, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	04 DEC_One Day at a time in Alanon (Preview) Beautiful Betty should be back next week, but I am filling in for this week....Will be gone all day tomorrow so I'm doing the Tuesday , today In this offering Author mentions that many of us come to Al-anon to find out why the alcoholic drinks..We fear its because he/she does't love me any more..OR beca...	mamalioness	5	436	Dec 4, 2018 by mamalioness
	Love flows only to the open heart ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I was in the animal shelter, today, my "doggie visit" day with pockets full of biscuits and lots of smiles and comforting things to say to the homeless ones... I am going down the rows, "chatting up" with Pitbulls, German Shepherds, Labs, all kinds of lovely and deserving pets..One young fellow was so...	mamalioness	75	1911	Dec 3, 2018 by mamalioness
	Serendipity (Preview) So, I have been part of Alanon about a quarter of a century. In the beginning, I used to attend face-to-face meetings quite regularly. I'm in another fellowship also so I go there frequently. As time passed, life changes came into play. We moved to a new neighbourhood, new jobs, stuff like that. We drif...	Wolfie55	4	833	Dec 3, 2018 by Bo
	Service is a strong part of recovery. (Preview) Yep service is a true gallant part of enabling others to enable themselves to recover. Bring the program to them and help them to understand and work it. I did my morning meeting and there was a newbie there fresh to the room and old timers. He did what I finally learned to do at first...shut up and li...	JerryF	5	433	Dec 2, 2018 by Bo
	Hope for Today Dec 2 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty in making decisions. The writer came to understand that he/she was having trouble making decisions because they were often based on what others expected or wanted. Through program work it was suggested that decisions may be easier i...	yanksfan51	3	386	Dec 2, 2018 by mamalioness
	Just when I thought it was safe to have hope again (Preview) this stuff sneaks up on me like a drunk driver running a stop sign - yeah, I should have been watching out - my bad.	texas yankee	11	614	Dec 1, 2018 by 2HP
	ODAT, November 30 (Preview) Twelfth Step work is the subject of today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon. It helps our serenity when we are ready to carry the message of recovery to another person who needs it, who may not be aware of how Al-Anon can help. The writer suggests that we should always be aware of a possible need, perha...	Freetime	4	423	Dec 1, 2018 by Lyne
	What to do? (Preview) I've described my binge-drinking husband in the past. Last night, he went out with friends, got drunk, and came home late. My 5 year old daughter was in bed with me, and we were sleeping. He was looking for his shirt that he puts over his eyes when he sleeps and couldn't find it (bc he was drunk), and lou...	Mcgreuder	7	472	Dec 1, 2018 by Bettertomorrow
	anxious about AH release from detox (Preview) I got the call from my AH's therapist today that he will be released from detox tomorrow sometime. A condition for release is for him (me) to remove all guns from the home so we can all be safe. My AH hasn't had a domestic issue (yet) but with the amount of drinking he was doing and some of the behaviors he e...	mamakat71	10	1558	Nov 30, 2018 by canadianguy
	I tend to write things down.......... (Preview) I tend to write my thoughts down. I have written a letter to my mother when she passed away; a letter to my friend's family when she passed away from Cancer and how I have felt about my husband and his drinking. I ran across this a few days ago and thought I would share it. I am unsure if I have already. If s...	Jen61	3	420	Nov 30, 2018 by canadianguy
	Grant Me The Serenity (Preview) God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change: AHs: Sitting in front of the TV all day with little to no motivation for much else Frequent and lengthy naps Decreased ability to connect the dots or simple problem solving Refusing to wear his hearing aids which means shouting to conv...	El	3	432	Nov 29, 2018 by Freetime
	Minding my own business .. (Preview) Ohhh that's a hard one for me. I tend to think I know what's best and get to meddling. I did something today that at first gave me a little anxiety and then I realized my motives were pretty clean and I handled it in an appropriate way .. I tried to keep it about me and what my observations are, what my hopes w...	SerenityRUS	2	1021	Nov 29, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Back home from Texas... (Preview) Hi y'all... flew in yesterday, after a pretty gruelling journey. Last week the police pulled me over- for driving too slow- in a public car park. When I pulled over I got out of the car to eye-ball the officer. Imediately a back-up car pulled over in front of me. My ideas was to park in the car park-...	DavidG	11	2893	Nov 29, 2018 by JerryF
	Courage to Change 11/29/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about how the reader viewed 'adulting' before recovery vs. during/embracing recovery. Before Al-Anon, he/she believed that being an adult was to be in CONTROL - rigid, cool. This might also include looking good on the outside and feeling very different on t...	Iamhere	2	341	Nov 29, 2018 by mamalioness
	I Swam with Gratitude :) (Preview) Hey Family... Just wanted to Update from my Previous Post, I SURVIVED :) I Fed 25 Peeps, and All seemed Happy to be there, so that was Enough, there was a Few that Couldn't make it, but I Didn't Expect ANY so My Day was Not Ruined by the 10 that Couldn't... It was a Tough one, and Not Just because of My Dad's Bi...	Jozie	3	2508	Nov 29, 2018 by Iamhere
	It all turned out well. (Preview) What a year! It's been hard and started off with depression. Now it's nearly ended and I'm thrilled. "Keep taking the next right step" is what I read here many times over the years, and not to let the everyday business of living drag me down. I took both of those suggestions especially to heart and am so h...	a4l	2	366	Nov 29, 2018 by Jozie
	Sink or Swim... (Preview) Welp, This Month Marks 10 years since Loosing my Afather to this Dreadful Disease... I Still look back on it and Wonder, (Knowing I Shouldn't) What Could have been... knowing in my Heart, the Results would always be the Same... His Illness didn't allow him much freedom, it was an Everyday all day kind...	Jozie	14	2647	Nov 29, 2018 by Jozie
	Courage to Change November 28 2018 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the 4th step. The author shares that when they started the 4th step, they found that many things they had previously thought of as virtues were actually character defects: taking care of others, worrying about others, sacrificing their own happiness and pro...	Skorpi	5	407	Nov 28, 2018 by JerryF
	Request for group conscience on site technical improvements (Preview) Please visit the MIP Al-Anon business forum to participate in a group conscience about technical improvements to the MIP Al-Anon site. -- Hidden/Freetime -- Your WebHelper Team -- Edited by WebHelper on Wednesday 28th of November 2018 05:46:53 PM	WebHelper	0	445	Nov 28, 2018 by WebHelper
	Here I am again (Preview) Hello all, Here I am again! I haven't been on for awhile and I haven't been going to meetings because I have fallen back into old ways and patterns thinking "I got this" Well I don't . Everything is a mess! The AH is in detox that he signed into on my birthday (3 days ago) and he is wanting out of there wit...	mamakat71	11	2556	Nov 28, 2018 by Bo
	Happy Belated Thanksgiving :) (Preview) It's been a whirlwind of a month is putting it mildly. Nice to be busy however there is such a thing as to busy. I was able to take time off and will go back to work tomorrow. I am so looking forward to enjoying some down time during Christmas as well it won't be as long however it will be a nice break. I thin...	SerenityRUS	8	2421	Nov 27, 2018 by bud
	27 NOV_One day at a time in Alanon (Preview) Beloved Betty is on vaca. so i am filling in for her on the Tuesday daily until she gets back..Hope you are having a great time, Betty On Tuesday's offering, Author talks about the man whose wife is an alcoholic and how he is afraid to seek help in Al-anon because it looks like failure on his part It may be he...	mamalioness	9	2117	Nov 27, 2018 by bud
	Newlywed and the honeymoon is already over (Preview) Hello, I'm posting because I really don't know what to do. I got married just over a month ago, and today was my DH's ninth month of sobriety. I stress "was", because today he started drinking again. He text me that he was going to a friend's to watch football with the guys. I had a sliver of concern, but was...	WideAwakeLemon	10	2230	Nov 27, 2018 by canadianguy
	C2C, 11/26 (Preview) The author of today's reading said they never felt like they belonged, a life long problem, but even in Alanon at first. But they learned about alcoholism being a family disease, even affecting the people who cared about the alcoholic. And this disease could be passed from generation to generatio...	Lyne	3	2287	Nov 26, 2018 by Pol
	Yes HP does...at least for me. (Preview) My HP was at it again so I have to acknowledge the efforts again and again. At the start of and thru the end of the weekend my spirit made note that I should do another personal "change me" inventory and that made me glad and excited to decide what I needed to change and how I would do it. This one was easy as...	JerryF	3	2587	Nov 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	it's been awhile(short) (Preview) It has been awhile & I don't have much time to write. One thing is for certain my mom is where she needs to be & is very happy where she is. I think for the first time in a long time I am happy for her. Our relationship has been very volatile. Me, I am well. Been thinking about getting on here for awhile....	Hoot Nanny	2	1932	Nov 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	the Guy Up Stairs (Preview) I'm back again. I actually never really left. I might have mentioned I went back to work (in January). That seemed to be going well, but in the end I lost the job. The why is irrelevant. Losing the money sucks but that's the ways the cookies crumble. A few days afterward, I had a conversation with the Guy Up...	Wolfie55	11	743	Nov 26, 2018 by Jozie
	New territory (Preview) Hi MIP - looking for ESH for those who have parented with a separated spouse without any recovery path. My XAH as some of you might remember sent me a photo with drugs in the background and it has changed our access plan. I now have control about my daughter seeing AH - how and when. She is about to turn 4 and h...	VickiR	5	1270	Nov 26, 2018 by VickiR
	Co-dependancy and Jealousy with the recovering addict (Preview) My wife just returned home from rehab. YEAH!! Or so I thought. I am entering a strange emotional state all of a sudden. We have been having some nice chats but it always seems to end with my jealousy regarding some male friends she met there. One in particular. She says it was a total brother sister relati...	livestrong09	13	3521	Nov 25, 2018 by sunmustshine
	Hope for Today Nov 25 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting what we can control, its about not projecting an issue, its about staying in our own business. The writer describes the period of time when his/her parents were divorced; the difficulty in staying out of the animosity, especially because t...	yanksfan51	4	1936	Nov 25, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	When your day absolutely sucks!!!! (Preview) my Musings about when your day absolutely sucks!!!! I wrote this on facebook,a while back and got lots of "thank you's" because nobody wants to feel like they are alone and/or being picked on by some entity that "has it in for us" When you're really having a bad day, i.e., Like soon as you get out of bed, yo...	mamalioness	8	607	Nov 24, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C November 24 (Preview) Greeting MIP family. Today's courage to change discusses the recovery work of Step 10: continuing to take a moral inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong. In C2C, this is explored using the premise of self-focus as opposed to fault finding or criticising others. The author admits to fore...	a4l	5	1563	Nov 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	Never seen this version... (Preview) Saw this on another website, and thought I would share, as I have never seen the "long version.' God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And the wisdom to know the difference.Grant me patience with the changes that take time,Appreciatio...	PosiesandPuppies	8	4441	Nov 24, 2018 by Jozie
	C2C Reading 11-20-2018 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 20 speaks about the joy we feel, as children in simply being alive. it points out how very important it is to not tamper with that joy . However when alcoholism enters the home this usually cannot be avoided. and our "spirits become broken as a result. Alanon offers us...	hotrod	7	867	Nov 24, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT, November 23 (Preview) Hello everyone! Today's page in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon talks about banishing fear by accepting the protection and guidance of a Higher Power. "What happened yesterday need not trouble me today." I have the power to make today a good one just by the way I think about it. From Today's Reminder: "If I...	Freetime	5	2549	Nov 24, 2018 by mamalioness
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