Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

One member recalls the gulf that opened between she and her daughter when she tried to prevent daughter from taking a particular action. Focus on Step 1 and her powerlessness pulled her back from acting, she let go and let God. The hatred her daughter developed dissipated, they were able to regain a r...

DM2021 · DM2021

The topic of today's reading is about what the author learned by doing Step Seven. Step Seven reads: Humbly ask (our Higher Power) to remove our shortcomings. The author's first hurdle, while doing Step Seven, was that they, in the past thought that that to be humble meant they were to put othersn...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer describes how to get a grip on our thinking to lighten the load. If we have a heavy, somber view, can we try and remember that it may not be so bad after all? Can we try and look for fun, fantasy, absurdity, or silliness? Can we seek out the things that add gaiety to balance out the solemn and tro...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description about a successful way to approach working the steps. The writer describes two concepts: surrender and faith. In the first, the writer acknowledges that letting go and surrendering the things we are trying to control will free us and help us l...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewa...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that looking for sympathy from others is merely food for the self-pitying ego. It can weaken character and destroy dignity. Instead, we need to remember that no situation is hopeless. Can we do things to improve our situation? Can we let go of other's obligations which may hinder...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading reminded me that as time passes, in Al-Anon, that my life experiences have not changedbut that my faith and trust have grown stronger. I have learned that my HP has my back and that as thisreading states, I am never really given anything that I cannot handle because I know that my fears...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: The focus of todays reading is how we are able to gain wisdom using the tools of al-anon. The writer describes a time when he/she felt taking action and rushing into decisions was the only way to go, that waiting was a waste of time. Over time and with program work, the writer lear...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that heroes of legend often have to embark on spiritual journeys and face great challenges in order to gain a great reward at the end. We are each the heroes of our own stories, and those of us in Al-Anon have embarked on a spiritual journey of self-disco...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page notes that comments we read/hear, ones we may have even heard before, can strike us differently or lead us to a new perspective in a new context. Such was the process as one member realized that the term 'mind your own business' summed up well the concept of Alanon. Reminder - I will focus o...

Lyne · Lyne

It isn't always easy to detach: detach from the problem, but not from the suffering alcoholic. Sometimes we can't tell the difference. Some people become silent when they detach, yet harbor bitterness and anger. Others will stay so busy they neglect important things. And some of us have a sense...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might create space for serenity in our lives. We can exercise, get sound sleep, go to meetings, and connect with others in order to foster serenity. The writer also suggests making peace with our past and staying peaceful. How does it happen that...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading brings to light how we, in Al-Anon, learn to take each new experience with an open mind. "We dont see the world as it is." "We see the world as we are." It is with those of us who keep that openmind that we are able to cope better with the changes our lives present so that we remain "flexibl...

WendyP · WendyP

Today's sharing is on how this Al-Anon member found their relationship with their Higher Power, after finding Al-Anon because they were full of despair and their life feeling meaningless. On working the first 3 steps, they discovered a faith of their own. Also, listening to other members speak of t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their will vs. their Higher Power's will. When the author focuses on their own will, they find that they are never satisfied. Even when they reach a goal, they are unhappy, set a new goal, and push even harder. The times the author found lasting sat...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

The first 12 words of Step 1 hold incredible power for our entire life if we choose to use them. First, personal surrender: 'admitted we are powerless over alcohol', and then acknowledging we have not yet learned how to handle our life optimally:'...that our lives have become unmanageable.' A new...

NewRomantics · NewRomantics

I really just needed somewhere to at least vent out some of what I have been experiencing with my live in girlfriend since we have moved in together the beginning of this month. We had been casually dating up until about October of last year. Then she disappeared on me and I thought she was just ghosting m...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading discusses how difficult it can be to enjoy life and have fun. Isolating and not taking risks can feel easier, and often it comes down to fear. The passage states: If I do what I've always done, I'll get what I've always gotten. Alanon encourages us to apply new behavior, trust the resul...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a few of our slogans, with particular emphasis on the concept of minding our own business! The writer states that live and let live is a reminder that we have lives separate from others and we are all meant to govern our own. The writer describes having...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

At times we see the perspective of others, perhaps better then they, by how they describe their situation. Today's page tells of listening to a member explain their suffering and actions all in relation to the alcoholic. It was apparent that the suffering they felt was real, but also that it was mos...

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading is about how the author used to put on a façade in order to present themselves as "easy going and happy" in order to fit in. They compared themselves to other people who they thought were much better off then them in the confidence department. They felt left outwhenever anyone disa...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on a Chinese proverb: "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." For the author, this means that we cannot know what is coming in the future, so we can only live one day at a time. We can make plans, but we have no control over the results of our actions. W...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds that fellow members and sponsors are great resources between meetings when I need a word of encouragement or a fresh perspective. Others are not there, however, to make decisions for me. My decisions are for me to make along with my higher power. Reminder - If contemplating an i...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading looks at where we place our focus. Is it on the alcoholic? Is it on ourselves in a self-defeating way (do we feel hopelessly defective)? Are we blaming others or waiting for them to change? Alanon reinforces the need to put the focus on ourselves in a positive way. Having a sponsor and...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer compares gardening (preparing soil, adding nutrients, planting seeds, watering) to the growth we find in Al-Anon. Just as at some point in the gardening experience, we detach and wait to see what grows, we ca...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of today's reading in the C2C talks about how they had a hard time believing that there was a caring entity in this worldand their difficulty believing in a Higher Power was very doubtful. But then they felt that the fact that they were lead to Al-Anonspoke volumes to them about the program,...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a bit about how personal the Al-Anon program is. We are each invited to take what we like and leave the rest, which means that we are each able to apply Al-Anon principles to our unique situations, but we also have the benefit of community with people who...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says the gifts of alanon have a price tag. Freedom requires acceptance. If we accept Step 1, we can stop trying to control the alcoholic. If we can surrender to God's guidance, we give up self-will. We have to decide if freedom from despair is worth all this. Most believe it is. If we c...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description of recovery work with focus on two parts: taking personal responsibility and finding emotional intimacy with others. The writer describes the first part as taking responsibility for his/her own happiness, growth, choices and consequence...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author discusses detachment. At first, the author thought of detachment as cold and rejecting, but now sees it as a wonderful gift because the author is allowing their loved ones the privilege and opportunity to be themselves. The author also reflects on many of...

DM2021 · DM2021

We learn in Al-Anon that humility has nothing to do with being a door mat or placing other's needs/wants before our own. Humility has more to do with Step One, which states, "We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives hadbecome unmanageable." In Step One we come to realize that we nee...

texas yankee · texas yankee

One of our group's members was thinning out old, outdated CAL publications and we thought that these three books might be of use to someone - if anyone wants them, post an "I'll take them" and PM me your address and I'll send them your way.

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page suggests the true value of prayer lay not with the form it takes or to whom it is directed, but in its very function of reaching out to something greater than (and simply other than) ourselves for help or to acknowledge gratitude. Reminder: Prayer is simply contact with a higher power by thoug...

Lyne · Lyne

If only my alcoholic would get sober or handled sobriety differently I would be happy. But many if only's keep us feeling deprived-- if my boss, family, job, government, finances, would change in the way I want, then I could be happy. With Step 1 we learn that we are powerless over many things. The if...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is both a look at how the serenity prayer can help us maintain inner peace and also a reminder that what we project outward can also be brought back toward us in our lives. The writer describes how the serenity prayer is a reminder that there are certain things bey...

DM2021 · DM2021

In today's C2C the author remembers how afraid they were to speak up in meetings. As time went on they learned that there were many other individuals who were relatingthe same feelings that they possessed. Slowly, after talking one on one with some ofthose individuals the author discovered that t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares the most important words many hear when they first come to Al-Anon: "Take what you like, and leave the rest." Everything about our program is suggested, not required. We are free to try things, do things in our own time, change our mind, find things th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page captures essential Alanon: * the only person who can move the alcoholic to want to get sober, and become sober, is the alcoholic * my attempts to lever the alcoholic toward what I think is best IS a mistake, and WILL make things worse * this concept also applies to all things we cannot contro...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and los...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding a path to forgiveness in a seemingly impossible situation. The writer describes being a victim of abuse by her alcoholic father. Her life to a certain point was simply living with the trauma, not dealing with the thoughts and feelings relate...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading reminds us that Tradition Four in Al-Anon helps us to understand that there is unity in diversity. That each group is free to run their meetings how they see fit for the group, as long as it abides by the basicprinciples and traditions of Al-Anon. Meaning the structure and manner can...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how learning about the disease of alcoholism has helped them find serenity. Thanks to their new understanding about alcoholism, the author now understands that alcoholics have a disease, they are ill, not bad. This realization helped the author u...

msjuliet · msjuliet

Passage from How Alanon Works page 411: "Over the years, I have spent much of my time trying to bend life and other people to my will, only to fail miserably. I have also tried to change myself, eliminate my character defects, and force myself to feel differently. Again I have always failed. So why di...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer felt there were things they were not getting from their qualifier. Encouraged by a sponsor, they wrote a list of what they felt they weren't receiving. In the spirit of Alanon, the sponsor suggested to then demonstrate those very things in their own lives: give what they wanted to rec...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer came face to face with a decision to put principles above personalities, and let it begin with me. Are we able to focus on what we can give instead of what we can get? If we can practice these elements, we can change our attitudes. We can focus our actions on a loving principle which help our c...

Lyne · Lyne

Do we not have a member for Saturday's daily? :)

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I have been traveling and thought I would be home in time for todays reading and writing. Unfortunately that didnt work out so I am away with no book. I hope everyone has a great week and I will be back next Sunday. Mary

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- I have been traveling and thought I would be home in time for todays reading and writing. Unfortunately that didnt work out so I am away with no book. I hope everyone has a great week and I will be back next Sunday. Mary

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's C2C reading brings to light what we all go through in Al-Anon and as time goes on, our negative thinking does some-times become a focal point in our day. It is called "Stinking Thinking" but when we have those moments, when we slide backinto negative thoughts and attitudes, we are encouraged...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that it only natural to want an immediate solution to a difficult problem. Often, when we are facing especially challenging problems or long-lasting situations, we might think that something is wrong with us if we cannot easily and quickly solve th...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading asks the question: having lived with alcoholism, are we the innocent victims of others' abuse? But with further thought, we realize that we too have harmed others. Some feel an exaggerated sense of responsibility, thinking they owe amends to just about everyone. Listing those we...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer observes some newcomers' desire to understand the why of alcoholic drinking, rather or more than why and how they allowed their own lives to become derailed. The answer for the former comes easy to no one. Alanon guides us to a high level, but sufficient concept that they suffer from an il...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding compassion and understanding for others. The writer describes an alcoholic father who was also violent. The writer always considered him as bad, evil and weak. While the writer understood that alcoholism is a disease, he/she continued t...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading sums up, for the author, how they learned that their pretensions and expectations for giving a speech to a, new to the author,Al-Anon group were a bit to grand. All their plans were dashed when pretty much everything went wrong. What they quickly learned was thattheir HP knew better...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about new challenges we face when a loved one finds sobriety. Many of us have spent years waiting for our loved ones to find sobriety, and may have created happily-ever-after endings that would happen when our loved one found sobriety. Not only does...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Maddening: trying to communicate ideas with an alcohol induced person who defies reason, logic, tears, or pleadings. Even less comprehended for both sides are exchanges that involve anger. Today's reading further encourages us to consider an exchange with someone we don't share a common langu...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says that newcomers present with self-pity, resentment, and fears. What they learn in alanon changes their outlook: they gain confidence, poise, come out of their shells, and can concern themselves with others. These results are nothing short of miracles. Reminder: The first gi...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading focuses on our perception of conscious contact with a Higher Power. The writer describes spiritual life being condensed to: quiet the mind; open the heart. The writer experiences this in this way: anything quieting the mind=meditation, anything that ope...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this day's reading writes about the difficulties loved ones of an alcoholic have believing that the alcoholiccannot just decide to stop drinking as someone who quits say smoking. We are reminded in this reading that alcoholismis unlike any other vice, that it is compared to having an...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reminder: "A well-developed sense of humor helps me detach from my personal struggles and triumphs." "I will avoid taking myself too seriously today." Todays Quote: "One inch of joy surmounts of grief a span, because to laugh is proper to the man." ~ Francois Rabelais One-Day-At-A-Ti...

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	6/13/23 ODAT Powerlessness Over Others (Preview) One member recalls the gulf that opened between she and her daughter when she tried to prevent daughter from taking a particular action. Focus on Step 1 and her powerlessness pulled her back from acting, she let go and let God. The hatred her daughter developed dissipated, they were able to regain a r...	Enigmatic	2	767	Jun 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 9, 2023 – What is Humility? (Preview) The topic of today's reading is about what the author learned by doing Step Seven. Step Seven reads: Humbly ask (our Higher Power) to remove our shortcomings. The author's first hurdle, while doing Step Seven, was that they, in the past thought that that to be humble meant they were to put othersn...	DM2021	6	1162	Jun 14, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 6/12, turn black into rosy pink (Preview) The writer describes how to get a grip on our thinking to lighten the load. If we have a heavy, somber view, can we try and remember that it may not be so bad after all? Can we try and look for fun, fantasy, absurdity, or silliness? Can we seek out the things that add gaiety to balance out the solemn and tro...	Lyne	1	758	Jun 12, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description about a successful way to approach working the steps. The writer describes two concepts: surrender and faith. In the first, the writer acknowledges that letting go and surrendering the things we are trying to control will free us and help us l...	yanksfan51	2	775	Jun 11, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	6/6/23 C2C – Searching and Fearless or Dismissing and Justifying (Preview) This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewa...	Enigmatic	2	759	Jun 7, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 6/5, Finding courage and confidence (Preview) The writer says that looking for sympathy from others is merely food for the self-pitying ego. It can weaken character and destroy dignity. Instead, we need to remember that no situation is hopeless. Can we do things to improve our situation? Can we let go of other's obligations which may hinder...	Lyne	3	769	Jun 7, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 2, 2023 – Trust & Faith (Preview) Today's reading reminded me that as time passes, in Al-Anon, that my life experiences have not changedbut that my faith and trust have grown stronger. I have learned that my HP has my back and that as thisreading states, I am never really given anything that I cannot handle because I know that my fears...	DM2021	2	782	Jun 6, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today June 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: The focus of todays reading is how we are able to gain wisdom using the tools of al-anon. The writer describes a time when he/she felt taking action and rushing into decisions was the only way to go, that waiting was a waste of time. Over time and with program work, the writer lear...	yanksfan51	3	785	Jun 4, 2023 by yanksfan51
	Courage to Change May 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that heroes of legend often have to embark on spiritual journeys and face great challenges in order to gain a great reward at the end. We are each the heroes of our own stories, and those of us in Al-Anon have embarked on a spiritual journey of self-disco...	Skorpi	4	602	Jun 1, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	5/30/23 ODAT - MYOB (Preview) Today's page notes that comments we read/hear, ones we may have even heard before, can strike us differently or lead us to a new perspective in a new context. Such was the process as one member realized that the term 'mind your own business' summed up well the concept of Alanon. Reminder - I will focus o...	Enigmatic	4	851	May 31, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 5/29, detachment--easy or hard (Preview) It isn't always easy to detach: detach from the problem, but not from the suffering alcoholic. Sometimes we can't tell the difference. Some people become silent when they detach, yet harbor bitterness and anger. Others will stay so busy they neglect important things. And some of us have a sense...	Lyne	3	783	May 30, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today May 28 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might create space for serenity in our lives. We can exercise, get sound sleep, go to meetings, and connect with others in order to foster serenity. The writer also suggests making peace with our past and staying peaceful. How does it happen that...	yanksfan51	2	767	May 28, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for Friday, May 26, 2023 – Open Mindedness (Preview) Today's reading brings to light how we, in Al-Anon, learn to take each new experience with an open mind. "We dont see the world as it is." "We see the world as we are." It is with those of us who keep that openmind that we are able to cope better with the changes our lives present so that we remain "flexibl...	DM2021	3	963	May 27, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope For Today May 25th. (Preview) Today's sharing is on how this Al-Anon member found their relationship with their Higher Power, after finding Al-Anon because they were full of despair and their life feeling meaningless. On working the first 3 steps, they discovered a faith of their own. Also, listening to other members speak of t...	WendyP	3	828	May 25, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change May 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their will vs. their Higher Power's will. When the author focuses on their own will, they find that they are never satisfied. Even when they reach a goal, they are unhappy, set a new goal, and push even harder. The times the author found lasting sat...	Skorpi	3	779	May 25, 2023 by Daffodils
	5/23/23 ODAT – 12 Words that can Change Our Life (Preview) The first 12 words of Step 1 hold incredible power for our entire life if we choose to use them. First, personal surrender: 'admitted we are powerless over alcohol', and then acknowledging we have not yet learned how to handle our life optimally:'...that our lives have become unmanageable.' A new...	Enigmatic	3	1237	May 23, 2023 by Daffodils
	What to do when they just don't care (Preview) I really just needed somewhere to at least vent out some of what I have been experiencing with my live in girlfriend since we have moved in together the beginning of this month. We had been casually dating up until about October of last year. Then she disappeared on me and I thought she was just ghosting m...	NewRomantics	7	1005	May 23, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 5/22, Enjoying life? (Preview) This reading discusses how difficult it can be to enjoy life and have fun. Isolating and not taking risks can feel easier, and often it comes down to fear. The passage states: If I do what I've always done, I'll get what I've always gotten. Alanon encourages us to apply new behavior, trust the resul...	Lyne	1	813	May 21, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today May 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a few of our slogans, with particular emphasis on the concept of minding our own business! The writer states that live and let live is a reminder that we have lives separate from others and we are all meant to govern our own. The writer describes having...	yanksfan51	2	787	May 21, 2023 by yanksfan51
	5/9/23 ODAT Can’t See Reality Over a Wall of Bitterness, Self-Pity, Self-Deception (Preview) At times we see the perspective of others, perhaps better then they, by how they describe their situation. Today's page tells of listening to a member explain their suffering and actions all in relation to the alcoholic. It was apparent that the suffering they felt was real, but also that it was mos...	Enigmatic	4	849	May 19, 2023 by serenity47
	C2C for Friday, May 19, 2023 – Fitting In As We Are (Preview) This day's reading is about how the author used to put on a façade in order to present themselves as "easy going and happy" in order to fit in. They compared themselves to other people who they thought were much better off then them in the confidence department. They felt left outwhenever anyone disa...	DM2021	1	840	May 19, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to change May 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on a Chinese proverb: "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." For the author, this means that we cannot know what is coming in the future, so we can only live one day at a time. We can make plans, but we have no control over the results of our actions. W...	Skorpi	3	855	May 18, 2023 by Lyne
	5/16/23 ODAT Making Tough Decisions (Preview) Today's page reminds that fellow members and sponsors are great resources between meetings when I need a word of encouragement or a fresh perspective. Others are not there, however, to make decisions for me. My decisions are for me to make along with my higher power. Reminder - If contemplating an i...	Enigmatic	2	815	May 17, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 5/15, Where is your focus? (Preview) This reading looks at where we place our focus. Is it on the alcoholic? Is it on ourselves in a self-defeating way (do we feel hopelessly defective)? Are we blaming others or waiting for them to change? Alanon reinforces the need to put the focus on ourselves in a positive way. Having a sponsor and...	Lyne	2	872	May 15, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today May 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer compares gardening (preparing soil, adding nutrients, planting seeds, watering) to the growth we find in Al-Anon. Just as at some point in the gardening experience, we detach and wait to see what grows, we ca...	yanksfan51	2	784	May 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for May 12, 2023 – Listening For the Wisdom (Preview) The author of today's reading in the C2C talks about how they had a hard time believing that there was a caring entity in this worldand their difficulty believing in a Higher Power was very doubtful. But then they felt that the fact that they were lead to Al-Anonspoke volumes to them about the program,...	DM2021	1	822	May 12, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change May 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a bit about how personal the Al-Anon program is. We are each invited to take what we like and leave the rest, which means that we are each able to apply Al-Anon principles to our unique situations, but we also have the benefit of community with people who...	Skorpi	2	862	May 11, 2023 by Lyne
	ODAt in alanon, Monday, 5/8, Freedom (Preview) This writer says the gifts of alanon have a price tag. Freedom requires acceptance. If we accept Step 1, we can stop trying to control the alcoholic. If we can surrender to God's guidance, we give up self-will. We have to decide if freedom from despair is worth all this. Most believe it is. If we c...	Lyne	3	814	May 9, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today May 7 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description of recovery work with focus on two parts: taking personal responsibility and finding emotional intimacy with others. The writer describes the first part as taking responsibility for his/her own happiness, growth, choices and consequence...	yanksfan51	1	501	May 7, 2023 by DM2021
	Courage to Change May 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author discusses detachment. At first, the author thought of detachment as cold and rejecting, but now sees it as a wonderful gift because the author is allowing their loved ones the privilege and opportunity to be themselves. The author also reflects on many of...	Skorpi	3	467	May 7, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for May 05, 2023 – The Concept of Humility (Preview) We learn in Al-Anon that humility has nothing to do with being a door mat or placing other's needs/wants before our own. Humility has more to do with Step One, which states, "We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives hadbecome unmanageable." In Step One we come to realize that we nee...	DM2021	2	626	May 5, 2023 by Daffodils
	Old Al Anon Alateen Service Manuals (2010-2013 (1), 2014-2017 (2)) (Preview) One of our group's members was thinning out old, outdated CAL publications and we thought that these three books might be of use to someone - if anyone wants them, post an "I'll take them" and PM me your address and I'll send them your way.	texas yankee	0	437	May 5, 2023 by texas yankee
	5/2/23 ODAT What is Prayer, How Might it Help? (Preview) This page suggests the true value of prayer lay not with the form it takes or to whom it is directed, but in its very function of reaching out to something greater than (and simply other than) ourselves for help or to acknowledge gratitude. Reminder: Prayer is simply contact with a higher power by thoug...	Enigmatic	2	505	May 2, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Monday, May 1, C2C, if only.... (Preview) If only my alcoholic would get sober or handled sobriety differently I would be happy. But many if only's keep us feeling deprived-- if my boss, family, job, government, finances, would change in the way I want, then I could be happy. With Step 1 we learn that we are powerless over many things. The if...	Lyne	3	521	May 2, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Apr 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is both a look at how the serenity prayer can help us maintain inner peace and also a reminder that what we project outward can also be brought back toward us in our lives. The writer describes how the serenity prayer is a reminder that there are certain things bey...	yanksfan51	2	447	Apr 30, 2023 by Enigmatic
	C2C for April 28, 2023 Learning From Our Fears (Preview) In today's C2C the author remembers how afraid they were to speak up in meetings. As time went on they learned that there were many other individuals who were relatingthe same feelings that they possessed. Slowly, after talking one on one with some ofthose individuals the author discovered that t...	DM2021	1	710	Apr 28, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change April 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares the most important words many hear when they first come to Al-Anon: "Take what you like, and leave the rest." Everything about our program is suggested, not required. We are free to try things, do things in our own time, change our mind, find things th...	Skorpi	2	691	Apr 27, 2023 by Lyne
	4/25/23 ODAT - Remembering Our Powerlessness (Preview) Today's page captures essential Alanon: * the only person who can move the alcoholic to want to get sober, and become sober, is the alcoholic * my attempts to lever the alcoholic toward what I think is best IS a mistake, and WILL make things worse * this concept also applies to all things we cannot contro...	Enigmatic	4	460	Apr 25, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, Monday, 4/24, lacking consistency (Preview) This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and los...	Lyne	2	822	Apr 24, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Apr 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding a path to forgiveness in a seemingly impossible situation. The writer describes being a victim of abuse by her alcoholic father. Her life to a certain point was simply living with the trauma, not dealing with the thoughts and feelings relate...	yanksfan51	4	838	Apr 23, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for April 21, 2023 Tradition Four the Benefits of Diversity (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that Tradition Four in Al-Anon helps us to understand that there is unity in diversity. That each group is free to run their meetings how they see fit for the group, as long as it abides by the basicprinciples and traditions of Al-Anon. Meaning the structure and manner can...	DM2021	3	860	Apr 21, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change April 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares how learning about the disease of alcoholism has helped them find serenity. Thanks to their new understanding about alcoholism, the author now understands that alcoholics have a disease, they are ill, not bad. This realization helped the author u...	Skorpi	4	842	Apr 20, 2023 by Gailsy
	My Stinking Thinking (Preview) Passage from How Alanon Works page 411: "Over the years, I have spent much of my time trying to bend life and other people to my will, only to fail miserably. I have also tried to change myself, eliminate my character defects, and force myself to feel differently. Again I have always failed. So why di...	msjuliet	7	1727	Apr 20, 2023 by Enigmatic
	4/18/23 C2C – Me First (Preview) Today's writer felt there were things they were not getting from their qualifier. Encouraged by a sponsor, they wrote a list of what they felt they weren't receiving. In the spirit of Alanon, the sponsor suggested to then demonstrate those very things in their own lives: give what they wanted to rec...	Enigmatic	4	1188	Apr 18, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 4/17, this work is darn hard! (Preview) The writer came face to face with a decision to put principles above personalities, and let it begin with me. Are we able to focus on what we can give instead of what we can get? If we can practice these elements, we can change our attitudes. We can focus our actions on a loving principle which help our c...	Lyne	2	872	Apr 17, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Saturday daily (Preview) Do we not have a member for Saturday's daily? :)	Lyne	3	791	Apr 17, 2023 by DM2021
	Apr 16 apologies (Preview) Good morning everyone- I have been traveling and thought I would be home in time for todays reading and writing. Unfortunately that didnt work out so I am away with no book. I hope everyone has a great week and I will be back next Sunday. Mary	yanksfan51	1	782	Apr 16, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Apr 16- apologies (Preview) Good morning everyone- I have been traveling and thought I would be home in time for todays reading and writing. Unfortunately that didnt work out so I am away with no book. I hope everyone has a great week and I will be back next Sunday. Mary	yanksfan51	0	807	Apr 16, 2023 by yanksfan51
	C2C for April 14, 2023 That Old Stinking Thinking (Preview) Today's C2C reading brings to light what we all go through in Al-Anon and as time goes on, our negative thinking does some-times become a focal point in our day. It is called "Stinking Thinking" but when we have those moments, when we slide backinto negative thoughts and attitudes, we are encouraged...	DM2021	4	931	Apr 14, 2023 by DM2021
	Courage to Change April 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that it only natural to want an immediate solution to a difficult problem. Often, when we are facing especially challenging problems or long-lasting situations, we might think that something is wrong with us if we cannot easily and quickly solve th...	Skorpi	4	720	Apr 13, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 4/10, are we innocent victims? (Preview) This reading asks the question: having lived with alcoholism, are we the innocent victims of others' abuse? But with further thought, we realize that we too have harmed others. Some feel an exaggerated sense of responsibility, thinking they owe amends to just about everyone. Listing those we...	Lyne	3	831	Apr 12, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	4/11/23 ODAT Not ‘Why them?’, Why Me… (Preview) This writer observes some newcomers' desire to understand the why of alcoholic drinking, rather or more than why and how they allowed their own lives to become derailed. The answer for the former comes easy to no one. Alanon guides us to a high level, but sufficient concept that they suffer from an il...	Enigmatic	4	702	Apr 11, 2023 by serenity47
	Hope for Today Apr 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about finding compassion and understanding for others. The writer describes an alcoholic father who was also violent. The writer always considered him as bad, evil and weak. While the writer understood that alcoholism is a disease, he/she continued t...	yanksfan51	1	648	Apr 9, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for April 07, 2023 Pretensions (Preview) Todays reading sums up, for the author, how they learned that their pretensions and expectations for giving a speech to a, new to the author,Al-Anon group were a bit to grand. All their plans were dashed when pretty much everything went wrong. What they quickly learned was thattheir HP knew better...	DM2021	2	660	Apr 7, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change April 5 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about new challenges we face when a loved one finds sobriety. Many of us have spent years waiting for our loved ones to find sobriety, and may have created happily-ever-after endings that would happen when our loved one found sobriety. Not only does...	Skorpi	3	621	Apr 7, 2023 by DM2021
	4/4/23 ODAT - Ill Communication (Preview) Maddening: trying to communicate ideas with an alcohol induced person who defies reason, logic, tears, or pleadings. Even less comprehended for both sides are exchanges that involve anger. Today's reading further encourages us to consider an exchange with someone we don't share a common langu...	Enigmatic	5	361	Apr 4, 2023 by Daffodils
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 4/3, miracles in alanon?? (Preview) This writer says that newcomers present with self-pity, resentment, and fears. What they learn in alanon changes their outlook: they gain confidence, poise, come out of their shells, and can concern themselves with others. These results are nothing short of miracles. Reminder: The first gi...	Lyne	3	622	Apr 4, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Apr 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading focuses on our perception of conscious contact with a Higher Power. The writer describes spiritual life being condensed to: quiet the mind; open the heart. The writer experiences this in this way: anything quieting the mind=meditation, anything that ope...	yanksfan51	4	604	Apr 2, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for March 24, 2023 Disease of Alcoholism (Preview) The author of this day's reading writes about the difficulties loved ones of an alcoholic have believing that the alcoholiccannot just decide to stop drinking as someone who quits say smoking. We are reminded in this reading that alcoholismis unlike any other vice, that it is compared to having an...	DM2021	6	434	Apr 2, 2023 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C for March 31, 2023 A Sense of Humor (Preview) Todays reminder: "A well-developed sense of humor helps me detach from my personal struggles and triumphs." "I will avoid taking myself too seriously today." Todays Quote: "One inch of joy surmounts of grief a span, because to laugh is proper to the man." ~ Francois Rabelais One-Day-At-A-Ti...	DM2021	4	842	Apr 1, 2023 by PosiesandPuppies
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