Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page recalls Step 1 truth that the alcoholics sobriety is not our responsibility, but notes that it is possible that spouses can have a positive or negative influence on it. Step 1 is not a license to nag and berate as by doing so, we may take on some responsibility for postponing sobriety or contr...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer takes a look at "God as we understood Him." We have all come to alanon set in some of our ways. Those who have "God" as their HP, might feel superior to those who are still looking for their HP, or who may have a different HP than "God." HP may be different for many and we need the acceptance onc...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at resentments and the role they can play in our lives. The page opens with a quotation from Courage to Change: Resentments mark the places where I see myself as a victim. The writer describes how resentments drained so much energy and created bitternes...

DM2021 · DM2021

I sent a message to Iamhere to see about this issue of the avatars not appearing anymore.

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading is about how Al-Anon helps to show how accepting that there is a "natural order of life" courtesy of our "Higher Power" enablesone to realize that trying to control/interfere in any or all crises with individuals around us is better left to unfold naturally by "Letting Go andLetting...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...this phrase might be heard in ALanon in response to a principle, slogan, or spiritual solution. Behind it is often a belief that our particular situation is different, not so simple. It couldn't possibly be eased, or certainly not solved by something so simple as a slogan or concept. Reminder - I...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that it is easy to become enmeshed with alcoholics and their self-destructive behavior. We can lose sight of the idea that we can be happy if they are depressed, and we can be serene when they are drinking. The writer hit a turning point when someone said we have to learn to make it wheth...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this days reading began to understand how the "guilt" they carried was such a "burden" and that when they made their amendshow it helped them to clear their "conscience" and put the past behind them.They ran into a temporary problem with making amends to those who no longer were living bu...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the issue of trust. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family and as a result, not understanding the process of trust. He/she would confide intimate details almost immediately to people, then feel hurt or betrayed. Over time the wr...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about staying focused on recovery in al-anon. The writer describes having come to alanon through alateen, as a result of having an alcoholic father. The writer made friends there but when the transition to alanon took place, the writer felt empty after me...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer addresses the two words that are the basis of much worry, resentment and unnecessary interference when dealing with alcoholics: What if... Imagining negative results and outcomes can become an unhealthy habit that, more often than not, needlessly darkens our every horizon and re...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says that exposure to alcoholism can make us lose perspective on who we are and what we can do. We have accepted ideas about ourselves that have no basis in reality. We may have carried a distorted self-image and not questioned our beliefs. In alanon we may discover some untruths. Sup...

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading made me truly smile because the author discusses how, with every conflict, they felt they had to some how,in an anxious and defensive state, prove their innocence. They were always trying to cover themselves from any blame when itcame to confrontation with the alcoholic in thei...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page highlights how Tradition #3 contributes to the unity of the program by requiring only that members have a relative or friend suffering from alcoholism, and there be no other affiliations within the group. In a world increasingly divided by a lengthening list of issues, Alanon is an in...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer talks about using stumbling blocks to step on--another words, not let them block our path. Alcoholism brings troubles that can be terrifying. Obstacles do not have to keep us from finding the good in our lives unless we allow it. Alanon invites us to change the view we have of ourselves...

DM2021 · DM2021

We got in the mail yesterday for the start of the new insurance year our HRA Debit Cards that needed to be validated with a phone call. The telephone prompts would not allow the cards to be activated after entering the numbers but on the reverse side of the letter insert it recommended to call an insuran...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel grief as most do when they have a loss but I am not lost. I feel some sense of relief most days. I just keep plugging away & somehow I thrive not just survive. I need the peace that this program gives as I move towards happiness. I can find happiness if I just let it happen. These days I even find myse...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the benefits of alanon approved literature, especially for those who have difficulty with in person meetings. The writer describes feeling reluctant to reach out to people at meetings; a friend saw that and shared the benefits of reading the literat...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone- i have everyone intention of writing as usual on Sunday morning. I will be in Italy for the next 10 days so not sure when I will have access to wifi and with time differences- posting may happen at an odd time. just wanted to put that out there in case there are other creatures of habit like...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading imparts the knowledge that when we pray from the heart God knows what we are going throughwith out spelling it all out. As long as we are praying from the "heart and not just with words" we will know weare on a personal spiritual path open to our HPs help and guidance. Todays reminder: ...

Lyne · Lyne

This is one of my favorite slogans. It reminds me that I don't have to be perfect, it's human to make mistakes, and yet I can look back upon my progress and feel good about that. Love this program!

DM2021 · DM2021

This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the programcan be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Highe...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father. Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger beco...

Lyne · Lyne

Many of us have come to alanon with bitterness and blame. There are better ways to handle things. Accepting that we too, need help, can relieve us from tolerating unacceptable behavior. Getting to these rooms help us change in miraculous ways. Forgiveness can simply be a change of a attitude. O...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how through the help of the alanon program those who are affected by alcoholism can learn to open up and not feel the need to stay guarded with emotions and feelings. The writer describes growing up and feeling unsure and afraid much of the time. The wri...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning MIP. It has come to our attention that we need persons to do the daily reading on Thursdays, Saturdays, and possibly Wednesdays. These service positions are open now, and next week would be a great time to get started! Just let us know and I thank you in advance. Lyne

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author writes of the challenge to be "entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." Commenting of the importance of their role, they note that while God willingly removes the defects, they needed to cooperate to remove the negative thinking and habits that contributed...

Lyne · Lyne

When we are troubled by another person's behavior, a complicated situation, or a difficult turn of events, alanon says that we do not have to take it personally. We don't have to be victims, we can accept what we cannot change, and change the things we can. We can also change our attitude which will al...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Wishing a very Happy Fathers Day to those here and all who are remembered.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on steps 6 (were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character) and 7 (humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). The writer describes being stuck in a sense: he/she worked the steps but there was always a struggle to keep the focus...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this day's reading talks about the need to detach with love which not only benefits theindividual living with an alcoholic but allows the alcoholic to learn the successes and consequences oftheir actions without any interference. It is important to detach with love in order to have a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

One member recalls the gulf that opened between she and her daughter when she tried to prevent daughter from taking a particular action. Focus on Step 1 and her powerlessness pulled her back from acting, she let go and let God. The hatred her daughter developed dissipated, they were able to regain a r...

DM2021 · DM2021

The topic of today's reading is about what the author learned by doing Step Seven. Step Seven reads: Humbly ask (our Higher Power) to remove our shortcomings. The author's first hurdle, while doing Step Seven, was that they, in the past thought that that to be humble meant they were to put othersn...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer describes how to get a grip on our thinking to lighten the load. If we have a heavy, somber view, can we try and remember that it may not be so bad after all? Can we try and look for fun, fantasy, absurdity, or silliness? Can we seek out the things that add gaiety to balance out the solemn and tro...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description about a successful way to approach working the steps. The writer describes two concepts: surrender and faith. In the first, the writer acknowledges that letting go and surrendering the things we are trying to control will free us and help us l...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewa...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that looking for sympathy from others is merely food for the self-pitying ego. It can weaken character and destroy dignity. Instead, we need to remember that no situation is hopeless. Can we do things to improve our situation? Can we let go of other's obligations which may hinder...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading reminded me that as time passes, in Al-Anon, that my life experiences have not changedbut that my faith and trust have grown stronger. I have learned that my HP has my back and that as thisreading states, I am never really given anything that I cannot handle because I know that my fears...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: The focus of todays reading is how we are able to gain wisdom using the tools of al-anon. The writer describes a time when he/she felt taking action and rushing into decisions was the only way to go, that waiting was a waste of time. Over time and with program work, the writer lear...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that heroes of legend often have to embark on spiritual journeys and face great challenges in order to gain a great reward at the end. We are each the heroes of our own stories, and those of us in Al-Anon have embarked on a spiritual journey of self-disco...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page notes that comments we read/hear, ones we may have even heard before, can strike us differently or lead us to a new perspective in a new context. Such was the process as one member realized that the term 'mind your own business' summed up well the concept of Alanon. Reminder - I will focus o...

Lyne · Lyne

It isn't always easy to detach: detach from the problem, but not from the suffering alcoholic. Sometimes we can't tell the difference. Some people become silent when they detach, yet harbor bitterness and anger. Others will stay so busy they neglect important things. And some of us have a sense...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might create space for serenity in our lives. We can exercise, get sound sleep, go to meetings, and connect with others in order to foster serenity. The writer also suggests making peace with our past and staying peaceful. How does it happen that...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading brings to light how we, in Al-Anon, learn to take each new experience with an open mind. "We dont see the world as it is." "We see the world as we are." It is with those of us who keep that openmind that we are able to cope better with the changes our lives present so that we remain "flexibl...

WendyP · WendyP

Today's sharing is on how this Al-Anon member found their relationship with their Higher Power, after finding Al-Anon because they were full of despair and their life feeling meaningless. On working the first 3 steps, they discovered a faith of their own. Also, listening to other members speak of t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their will vs. their Higher Power's will. When the author focuses on their own will, they find that they are never satisfied. Even when they reach a goal, they are unhappy, set a new goal, and push even harder. The times the author found lasting sat...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

The first 12 words of Step 1 hold incredible power for our entire life if we choose to use them. First, personal surrender: 'admitted we are powerless over alcohol', and then acknowledging we have not yet learned how to handle our life optimally:'...that our lives have become unmanageable.' A new...

NewRomantics · NewRomantics

I really just needed somewhere to at least vent out some of what I have been experiencing with my live in girlfriend since we have moved in together the beginning of this month. We had been casually dating up until about October of last year. Then she disappeared on me and I thought she was just ghosting m...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading discusses how difficult it can be to enjoy life and have fun. Isolating and not taking risks can feel easier, and often it comes down to fear. The passage states: If I do what I've always done, I'll get what I've always gotten. Alanon encourages us to apply new behavior, trust the resul...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a few of our slogans, with particular emphasis on the concept of minding our own business! The writer states that live and let live is a reminder that we have lives separate from others and we are all meant to govern our own. The writer describes having...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

At times we see the perspective of others, perhaps better then they, by how they describe their situation. Today's page tells of listening to a member explain their suffering and actions all in relation to the alcoholic. It was apparent that the suffering they felt was real, but also that it was mos...

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading is about how the author used to put on a façade in order to present themselves as "easy going and happy" in order to fit in. They compared themselves to other people who they thought were much better off then them in the confidence department. They felt left outwhenever anyone disa...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on a Chinese proverb: "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." For the author, this means that we cannot know what is coming in the future, so we can only live one day at a time. We can make plans, but we have no control over the results of our actions. W...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds that fellow members and sponsors are great resources between meetings when I need a word of encouragement or a fresh perspective. Others are not there, however, to make decisions for me. My decisions are for me to make along with my higher power. Reminder - If contemplating an i...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading looks at where we place our focus. Is it on the alcoholic? Is it on ourselves in a self-defeating way (do we feel hopelessly defective)? Are we blaming others or waiting for them to change? Alanon reinforces the need to put the focus on ourselves in a positive way. Having a sponsor and...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer compares gardening (preparing soil, adding nutrients, planting seeds, watering) to the growth we find in Al-Anon. Just as at some point in the gardening experience, we detach and wait to see what grows, we ca...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of today's reading in the C2C talks about how they had a hard time believing that there was a caring entity in this worldand their difficulty believing in a Higher Power was very doubtful. But then they felt that the fact that they were lead to Al-Anonspoke volumes to them about the program,...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a bit about how personal the Al-Anon program is. We are each invited to take what we like and leave the rest, which means that we are each able to apply Al-Anon principles to our unique situations, but we also have the benefit of community with people who...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer says the gifts of alanon have a price tag. Freedom requires acceptance. If we accept Step 1, we can stop trying to control the alcoholic. If we can surrender to God's guidance, we give up self-will. We have to decide if freedom from despair is worth all this. Most believe it is. If we c...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description of recovery work with focus on two parts: taking personal responsibility and finding emotional intimacy with others. The writer describes the first part as taking responsibility for his/her own happiness, growth, choices and consequence...

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	7/25/23 ODAT – Powerless, but Not Without Impact (Preview) This page recalls Step 1 truth that the alcoholics sobriety is not our responsibility, but notes that it is possible that spouses can have a positive or negative influence on it. Step 1 is not a license to nag and berate as by doing so, we may take on some responsibility for postponing sobriety or contr...	Enigmatic	2	887	Jul 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 7/24, sometimes less is more (Preview) This writer takes a look at "God as we understood Him." We have all come to alanon set in some of our ways. Those who have "God" as their HP, might feel superior to those who are still looking for their HP, or who may have a different HP than "God." HP may be different for many and we need the acceptance onc...	Lyne	2	1143	Jul 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at resentments and the role they can play in our lives. The page opens with a quotation from Courage to Change: Resentments mark the places where I see myself as a victim. The writer describes how resentments drained so much energy and created bitternes...	yanksfan51	1	1152	Jul 23, 2023 by DM2021
	Avatars not appearing (Preview) I sent a message to Iamhere to see about this issue of the avatars not appearing anymore.	DM2021	2	1191	Jul 22, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, July 21, 2023 – The Natural Order of Life (Preview) Today's reading is about how Al-Anon helps to show how accepting that there is a "natural order of life" courtesy of our "Higher Power" enablesone to realize that trying to control/interfere in any or all crises with individuals around us is better left to unfold naturally by "Letting Go andLetting...	DM2021	3	1114	Jul 22, 2023 by Lyne
	7/18/23 ODAT – ‘Yes, but… (Preview) ...this phrase might be heard in ALanon in response to a principle, slogan, or spiritual solution. Behind it is often a belief that our particular situation is different, not so simple. It couldn't possibly be eased, or certainly not solved by something so simple as a slogan or concept. Reminder - I...	Enigmatic	1	1096	Jul 18, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 7/17, Do I have my own life and my own destiny? (Preview) The writer says that it is easy to become enmeshed with alcoholics and their self-destructive behavior. We can lose sight of the idea that we can be happy if they are depressed, and we can be serene when they are drinking. The writer hit a turning point when someone said we have to learn to make it wheth...	Lyne	2	1131	Jul 18, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C for Friday, July 14, 2023 – Guilt and Amends (Preview) The author of this days reading began to understand how the "guilt" they carried was such a "burden" and that when they made their amendshow it helped them to clear their "conscience" and put the past behind them.They ran into a temporary problem with making amends to those who no longer were living bu...	DM2021	4	1170	Jul 16, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the issue of trust. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family and as a result, not understanding the process of trust. He/she would confide intimate details almost immediately to people, then feel hurt or betrayed. Over time the wr...	yanksfan51	0	1125	Jul 16, 2023 by yanksfan51
	Hope for Today July 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about staying focused on recovery in al-anon. The writer describes having come to alanon through alateen, as a result of having an alcoholic father. The writer made friends there but when the transition to alanon took place, the writer felt empty after me...	yanksfan51	2	1098	Jul 16, 2023 by yanksfan51
	7/11/23 C2C What If…? (Preview) Today's writer addresses the two words that are the basis of much worry, resentment and unnecessary interference when dealing with alcoholics: What if... Imagining negative results and outcomes can become an unhealthy habit that, more often than not, needlessly darkens our every horizon and re...	Enigmatic	3	1162	Jul 13, 2023 by JR71
	C2C, Monday, 7/10, obsolete ideas (Preview) This reading says that exposure to alcoholism can make us lose perspective on who we are and what we can do. We have accepted ideas about ourselves that have no basis in reality. We may have carried a distorted self-image and not questioned our beliefs. In alanon we may discover some untruths. Sup...	Lyne	1	1076	Jul 9, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, July 07, 2023 – Who is to blame any way?? (Preview) This day's reading made me truly smile because the author discusses how, with every conflict, they felt they had to some how,in an anxious and defensive state, prove their innocence. They were always trying to cover themselves from any blame when itcame to confrontation with the alcoholic in thei...	DM2021	3	521	Jul 7, 2023 by DM2021
	7/4/23 C2C No Other Affiliations, Just One Requirement (Preview) Today's page highlights how Tradition #3 contributes to the unity of the program by requiring only that members have a relative or friend suffering from alcoholism, and there be no other affiliations within the group. In a world increasingly divided by a lengthening list of issues, Alanon is an in...	Enigmatic	2	1128	Jul 4, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in Alanon, Monday, 7/3, stumbling blocks vs stepping stones (Preview) The writer talks about using stumbling blocks to step on--another words, not let them block our path. Alcoholism brings troubles that can be terrifying. Obstacles do not have to keep us from finding the good in our lives unless we allow it. Alanon invites us to change the view we have of ourselves...	Lyne	2	1130	Jul 4, 2023 by Enigmatic
	New Chaos Episode Yesterday - Just need to talk (Preview) We got in the mail yesterday for the start of the new insurance year our HRA Debit Cards that needed to be validated with a phone call. The telephone prompts would not allow the cards to be activated after entering the numbers but on the reverse side of the letter insert it recommended to call an insuran...	DM2021	2	1114	Jul 2, 2023 by DM2021
	grief but not lost (Preview) I feel grief as most do when they have a loss but I am not lost. I feel some sense of relief most days. I just keep plugging away & somehow I thrive not just survive. I need the peace that this program gives as I move towards happiness. I can find happiness if I just let it happen. These days I even find myse...	Hoot Nanny	4	904	Jul 2, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today July 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the benefits of alanon approved literature, especially for those who have difficulty with in person meetings. The writer describes feeling reluctant to reach out to people at meetings; a friend saw that and shared the benefits of reading the literat...	yanksfan51	1	549	Jul 2, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 2 and 9 (Preview) Hello everyone- i have everyone intention of writing as usual on Sunday morning. I will be in Italy for the next 10 days so not sure when I will have access to wifi and with time differences- posting may happen at an odd time. just wanted to put that out there in case there are other creatures of habit like...	yanksfan51	2	552	Jul 1, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 30, 2023 – The Meaning of Prayer (Preview) Today's reading imparts the knowledge that when we pray from the heart God knows what we are going throughwith out spelling it all out. As long as we are praying from the "heart and not just with words" we will know weare on a personal spiritual path open to our HPs help and guidance. Todays reminder: ...	DM2021	4	632	Jul 1, 2023 by DM2021
	Progress not perfection. (Preview) This is one of my favorite slogans. It reminds me that I don't have to be perfect, it's human to make mistakes, and yet I can look back upon my progress and feel good about that. Love this program!	Lyne	2	1012	Jul 1, 2023 by Enigmatic
	C2C for Friday, June 23, 2023 – The Courage of Honesty (Preview) This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the programcan be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Highe...	DM2021	6	606	Jun 28, 2023 by DM2021
	6/27/23 ODAT – Attitude, Respect Lead the Way (Preview) Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father. Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger beco...	Enigmatic	3	870	Jun 28, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, 6/26, bitterness vs. forgiveness (Preview) Many of us have come to alanon with bitterness and blame. There are better ways to handle things. Accepting that we too, need help, can relieve us from tolerating unacceptable behavior. Getting to these rooms help us change in miraculous ways. Forgiveness can simply be a change of a attitude. O...	Lyne	2	875	Jun 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how through the help of the alanon program those who are affected by alcoholism can learn to open up and not feel the need to stay guarded with emotions and feelings. The writer describes growing up and feeling unsure and afraid much of the time. The wri...	yanksfan51	1	870	Jun 25, 2023 by DM2021
	Volunteers needed :) (Preview) Good morning MIP. It has come to our attention that we need persons to do the daily reading on Thursdays, Saturdays, and possibly Wednesdays. These service positions are open now, and next week would be a great time to get started! Just let us know and I thank you in advance. Lyne	Lyne	0	834	Jun 24, 2023 by Lyne
	6/20/23 ODAT - Entirely Ready? (Preview) Today's author writes of the challenge to be "entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." Commenting of the importance of their role, they note that while God willingly removes the defects, they needed to cooperate to remove the negative thinking and habits that contributed...	Enigmatic	3	1148	Jun 20, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 6/19, Always carry a QTip (Preview) When we are troubled by another person's behavior, a complicated situation, or a difficult turn of events, alanon says that we do not have to take it personally. We don't have to be victims, we can accept what we cannot change, and change the things we can. We can also change our attitude which will al...	Lyne	2	1121	Jun 20, 2023 by Daffodils
	Happy Fathers Day (Preview) Wishing a very Happy Fathers Day to those here and all who are remembered.	tiredtonite	1	1119	Jun 19, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on steps 6 (were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character) and 7 (humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). The writer describes being stuck in a sense: he/she worked the steps but there was always a struggle to keep the focus...	yanksfan51	1	1190	Jun 18, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 16, 2023 – Detaching With Love (Preview) The author of this day's reading talks about the need to detach with love which not only benefits theindividual living with an alcoholic but allows the alcoholic to learn the successes and consequences oftheir actions without any interference. It is important to detach with love in order to have a...	DM2021	4	1766	Jun 17, 2023 by DM2021
	6/13/23 ODAT Powerlessness Over Others (Preview) One member recalls the gulf that opened between she and her daughter when she tried to prevent daughter from taking a particular action. Focus on Step 1 and her powerlessness pulled her back from acting, she let go and let God. The hatred her daughter developed dissipated, they were able to regain a r...	Enigmatic	2	1174	Jun 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 9, 2023 – What is Humility? (Preview) The topic of today's reading is about what the author learned by doing Step Seven. Step Seven reads: Humbly ask (our Higher Power) to remove our shortcomings. The author's first hurdle, while doing Step Seven, was that they, in the past thought that that to be humble meant they were to put othersn...	DM2021	6	1908	Jun 14, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 6/12, turn black into rosy pink (Preview) The writer describes how to get a grip on our thinking to lighten the load. If we have a heavy, somber view, can we try and remember that it may not be so bad after all? Can we try and look for fun, fantasy, absurdity, or silliness? Can we seek out the things that add gaiety to balance out the solemn and tro...	Lyne	1	1186	Jun 12, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description about a successful way to approach working the steps. The writer describes two concepts: surrender and faith. In the first, the writer acknowledges that letting go and surrendering the things we are trying to control will free us and help us l...	yanksfan51	2	1132	Jun 11, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	6/6/23 C2C – Searching and Fearless or Dismissing and Justifying (Preview) This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewa...	Enigmatic	2	1160	Jun 7, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 6/5, Finding courage and confidence (Preview) The writer says that looking for sympathy from others is merely food for the self-pitying ego. It can weaken character and destroy dignity. Instead, we need to remember that no situation is hopeless. Can we do things to improve our situation? Can we let go of other's obligations which may hinder...	Lyne	3	1155	Jun 7, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 2, 2023 – Trust & Faith (Preview) Today's reading reminded me that as time passes, in Al-Anon, that my life experiences have not changedbut that my faith and trust have grown stronger. I have learned that my HP has my back and that as thisreading states, I am never really given anything that I cannot handle because I know that my fears...	DM2021	2	1170	Jun 6, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today June 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: The focus of todays reading is how we are able to gain wisdom using the tools of al-anon. The writer describes a time when he/she felt taking action and rushing into decisions was the only way to go, that waiting was a waste of time. Over time and with program work, the writer lear...	yanksfan51	3	1186	Jun 4, 2023 by yanksfan51
	Courage to Change May 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that heroes of legend often have to embark on spiritual journeys and face great challenges in order to gain a great reward at the end. We are each the heroes of our own stories, and those of us in Al-Anon have embarked on a spiritual journey of self-disco...	Skorpi	4	891	Jun 1, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	5/30/23 ODAT - MYOB (Preview) Today's page notes that comments we read/hear, ones we may have even heard before, can strike us differently or lead us to a new perspective in a new context. Such was the process as one member realized that the term 'mind your own business' summed up well the concept of Alanon. Reminder - I will focus o...	Enigmatic	4	1273	May 31, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 5/29, detachment--easy or hard (Preview) It isn't always easy to detach: detach from the problem, but not from the suffering alcoholic. Sometimes we can't tell the difference. Some people become silent when they detach, yet harbor bitterness and anger. Others will stay so busy they neglect important things. And some of us have a sense...	Lyne	3	1174	May 30, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today May 28 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might create space for serenity in our lives. We can exercise, get sound sleep, go to meetings, and connect with others in order to foster serenity. The writer also suggests making peace with our past and staying peaceful. How does it happen that...	yanksfan51	2	1162	May 28, 2023 by Daffodils
	C2C for Friday, May 26, 2023 – Open Mindedness (Preview) Today's reading brings to light how we, in Al-Anon, learn to take each new experience with an open mind. "We dont see the world as it is." "We see the world as we are." It is with those of us who keep that openmind that we are able to cope better with the changes our lives present so that we remain "flexibl...	DM2021	3	1470	May 27, 2023 by Daffodils
	Hope For Today May 25th. (Preview) Today's sharing is on how this Al-Anon member found their relationship with their Higher Power, after finding Al-Anon because they were full of despair and their life feeling meaningless. On working the first 3 steps, they discovered a faith of their own. Also, listening to other members speak of t...	WendyP	3	1287	May 25, 2023 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change May 24 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their will vs. their Higher Power's will. When the author focuses on their own will, they find that they are never satisfied. Even when they reach a goal, they are unhappy, set a new goal, and push even harder. The times the author found lasting sat...	Skorpi	3	1172	May 25, 2023 by Daffodils
	5/23/23 ODAT – 12 Words that can Change Our Life (Preview) The first 12 words of Step 1 hold incredible power for our entire life if we choose to use them. First, personal surrender: 'admitted we are powerless over alcohol', and then acknowledging we have not yet learned how to handle our life optimally:'...that our lives have become unmanageable.' A new...	Enigmatic	3	1889	May 23, 2023 by Daffodils
	What to do when they just don't care (Preview) I really just needed somewhere to at least vent out some of what I have been experiencing with my live in girlfriend since we have moved in together the beginning of this month. We had been casually dating up until about October of last year. Then she disappeared on me and I thought she was just ghosting m...	NewRomantics	7	1553	May 23, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today, Monday, 5/22, Enjoying life? (Preview) This reading discusses how difficult it can be to enjoy life and have fun. Isolating and not taking risks can feel easier, and often it comes down to fear. The passage states: If I do what I've always done, I'll get what I've always gotten. Alanon encourages us to apply new behavior, trust the resul...	Lyne	1	1197	May 21, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today May 21 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on a few of our slogans, with particular emphasis on the concept of minding our own business! The writer states that live and let live is a reminder that we have lives separate from others and we are all meant to govern our own. The writer describes having...	yanksfan51	2	1195	May 21, 2023 by yanksfan51
	5/9/23 ODAT Can’t See Reality Over a Wall of Bitterness, Self-Pity, Self-Deception (Preview) At times we see the perspective of others, perhaps better then they, by how they describe their situation. Today's page tells of listening to a member explain their suffering and actions all in relation to the alcoholic. It was apparent that the suffering they felt was real, but also that it was mos...	Enigmatic	4	1243	May 19, 2023 by serenity47
	C2C for Friday, May 19, 2023 – Fitting In As We Are (Preview) This day's reading is about how the author used to put on a façade in order to present themselves as "easy going and happy" in order to fit in. They compared themselves to other people who they thought were much better off then them in the confidence department. They felt left outwhenever anyone disa...	DM2021	1	1230	May 19, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to change May 17 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on a Chinese proverb: "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." For the author, this means that we cannot know what is coming in the future, so we can only live one day at a time. We can make plans, but we have no control over the results of our actions. W...	Skorpi	3	1229	May 18, 2023 by Lyne
	5/16/23 ODAT Making Tough Decisions (Preview) Today's page reminds that fellow members and sponsors are great resources between meetings when I need a word of encouragement or a fresh perspective. Others are not there, however, to make decisions for me. My decisions are for me to make along with my higher power. Reminder - If contemplating an i...	Enigmatic	2	1205	May 17, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 5/15, Where is your focus? (Preview) This reading looks at where we place our focus. Is it on the alcoholic? Is it on ourselves in a self-defeating way (do we feel hopelessly defective)? Are we blaming others or waiting for them to change? Alanon reinforces the need to put the focus on ourselves in a positive way. Having a sponsor and...	Lyne	2	1279	May 15, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today May 14 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer compares gardening (preparing soil, adding nutrients, planting seeds, watering) to the growth we find in Al-Anon. Just as at some point in the gardening experience, we detach and wait to see what grows, we ca...	yanksfan51	2	1173	May 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for May 12, 2023 – Listening For the Wisdom (Preview) The author of today's reading in the C2C talks about how they had a hard time believing that there was a caring entity in this worldand their difficulty believing in a Higher Power was very doubtful. But then they felt that the fact that they were lead to Al-Anonspoke volumes to them about the program,...	DM2021	1	1220	May 12, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change May 10 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a bit about how personal the Al-Anon program is. We are each invited to take what we like and leave the rest, which means that we are each able to apply Al-Anon principles to our unique situations, but we also have the benefit of community with people who...	Skorpi	2	1233	May 11, 2023 by Lyne
	ODAt in alanon, Monday, 5/8, Freedom (Preview) This writer says the gifts of alanon have a price tag. Freedom requires acceptance. If we accept Step 1, we can stop trying to control the alcoholic. If we can surrender to God's guidance, we give up self-will. We have to decide if freedom from despair is worth all this. Most believe it is. If we c...	Lyne	3	1191	May 9, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today May 7 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description of recovery work with focus on two parts: taking personal responsibility and finding emotional intimacy with others. The writer describes the first part as taking responsibility for his/her own happiness, growth, choices and consequence...	yanksfan51	1	741	May 7, 2023 by DM2021
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