Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Tradition 12 - Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all of our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. Today's reading focuses on a newcomer's concerns about attending Al-Anon. Wishing to stay anonymous, they worry that others in the meeting may tell those in t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Coming from the fog of constant perceived crisis, today's page helps us apply proportion to events that depart from our expectation. Inconvenience, or major crisis?Alanon suggests the question 'how important is it' is helpful to decide if I am exaggerating or anticipating future fears, rather t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: First I want to express gratitude for this space. When I came to this site a little over 10 years ago, I was lost. I mean LOST. What I found here was patience, grace, understanding, compassion and help. Its been a privilege to be part of the service through writings over these seve...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading reflects upon when the alcoholic finally reaches a bottom, and begins the long climb upward with AA. This begins growth for the alcoholic both in personal and spiritual maturity. The writer comments that naturally both partners in an alcoholic marriage, need a growth program. As n...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading uses the idea of housekeeping to inventory Al-Anon recovery. The reading mentions that one member through an Al-Anon personal inventory was able to tie their penchant for keeping a very tidy home to the illusion of being in control of an otherwise unmanageable life. Another Al-An...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Great guidance in today's page reminding Alanoners of the type of advice we should give: spiritual advice pointing back to program concepts and slogans. Great care should be shown not to suggest others take 'drastic' action in areas of relationships or other serious life matters, even saying "we d...

Lyne · Lyne

This author speaks about how damaging growing up with alcoholism was, and how alanon has turned things around. They learned many important things about the rights they are entitled to: -the right to speak at a meeting without interruption or advice -that anonymity would be respected -that "no" is...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at why we sometimes resist certain situations, avoiding for a specific reason. The writer describes being asked to sponsor for an alateen meeting. The writer resisted, feeling like he/she did not even particularly like teenagers! Once the meetin...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Topic: Changing what I can The writer finds that their preoccupation with what others do, where and why create turmoil inside them. Such thoughts lead them to consider "a new, honest self-appraisal." The reading goes on to state that the writer's first obligation is to "work out changes in my own t...

DM2021 · DM2021

I am sorry to say that I will not be doing Friday readings anymore. If anyone would like to step up and take that day it would be lovely. I find that I am stretched thin and really put much effort into that post and can no longer do it anymore.

DM2021 · DM2021

https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AlanonFamilyGroups/ Please check them out if you are so inclined. I do not see any reason to actually start a new group, but PM each other our e-mails to keep in touch if you would like. What are your thoughts?

DM2021 · DM2021

Not sure how we're still running.Permalink Reply Quote One year later, the GoDaddy fee for this website again came out of my credit card. I am determined this will not happen again in 2024, but it will take some maneuvering, as it won't let me take my credit card out without putting a different one i...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer arrived at Alanon as did many: hoping to find out how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking, thinking that was the problem. They learned, as many others have also: they didn't cause alcoholism, can't control it or cure it.They kept coming back, however, because they discovered there w...

DM2021 · DM2021

Messages Iamhere and asked what her thoughts were on the issue of the possibility that we may find MIP is no longer accessible and if a Plan B would be prudent and she didn't think it was a bad idea. If you all think that maybe having a Facebook page to keep in contact with each other, to have for daily readi...

Lyne · Lyne

The author is saying that correct use of the mind leads to wisdom, and incorrect use of the mind leads to insanity. This program encourages right use of the mind and heart. We have a spiritual direction, and learn that our recovery is up to us. Our mind can either hurt us or help us--we have a choice. L...

NewRomantics · NewRomantics

I came to this board to initially post about my relationship with my girlfriend who has a drinking problem. We now live separately but we are still together. It hasn't been easy and it has been a very rocky road but I love her too much to just give up on her. And she has shown me she is trying to fight the addic...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at what it means to give up the illusion of control. The writer describes that the process started with understanding that there were many people who had been put on pedestals, taking the place of a higher power in his/her life. The writer began to see tha...

DM2021 · DM2021

Always look forward to when they bloom.

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading is talking about faith and hard work, i.e.: Sticking with the program and how after time (each person has a different time table)we begin to get the sense that the serenity and understanding we have been seeking is at hand. We each have a different method, ability andenvironment w...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading speaks about our relationships with the alcoholics in our life. It focuses on possible expectations that sobriety will eradicate all of our problems. The reading uses the marriage relationship and further explains that this is a fallacy. The reading states that despite alcoho...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page recalls Step 1 truth that the alcoholics sobriety is not our responsibility, but notes that it is possible that spouses can have a positive or negative influence on it. Step 1 is not a license to nag and berate as by doing so, we may take on some responsibility for postponing sobriety or contr...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer takes a look at "God as we understood Him." We have all come to alanon set in some of our ways. Those who have "God" as their HP, might feel superior to those who are still looking for their HP, or who may have a different HP than "God." HP may be different for many and we need the acceptance onc...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at resentments and the role they can play in our lives. The page opens with a quotation from Courage to Change: Resentments mark the places where I see myself as a victim. The writer describes how resentments drained so much energy and created bitternes...

DM2021 · DM2021

I sent a message to Iamhere to see about this issue of the avatars not appearing anymore.

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading is about how Al-Anon helps to show how accepting that there is a "natural order of life" courtesy of our "Higher Power" enablesone to realize that trying to control/interfere in any or all crises with individuals around us is better left to unfold naturally by "Letting Go andLetting...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...this phrase might be heard in ALanon in response to a principle, slogan, or spiritual solution. Behind it is often a belief that our particular situation is different, not so simple. It couldn't possibly be eased, or certainly not solved by something so simple as a slogan or concept. Reminder - I...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that it is easy to become enmeshed with alcoholics and their self-destructive behavior. We can lose sight of the idea that we can be happy if they are depressed, and we can be serene when they are drinking. The writer hit a turning point when someone said we have to learn to make it wheth...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this days reading began to understand how the "guilt" they carried was such a "burden" and that when they made their amendshow it helped them to clear their "conscience" and put the past behind them.They ran into a temporary problem with making amends to those who no longer were living bu...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the issue of trust. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family and as a result, not understanding the process of trust. He/she would confide intimate details almost immediately to people, then feel hurt or betrayed. Over time the wr...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about staying focused on recovery in al-anon. The writer describes having come to alanon through alateen, as a result of having an alcoholic father. The writer made friends there but when the transition to alanon took place, the writer felt empty after me...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer addresses the two words that are the basis of much worry, resentment and unnecessary interference when dealing with alcoholics: What if... Imagining negative results and outcomes can become an unhealthy habit that, more often than not, needlessly darkens our every horizon and re...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says that exposure to alcoholism can make us lose perspective on who we are and what we can do. We have accepted ideas about ourselves that have no basis in reality. We may have carried a distorted self-image and not questioned our beliefs. In alanon we may discover some untruths. Sup...

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading made me truly smile because the author discusses how, with every conflict, they felt they had to some how,in an anxious and defensive state, prove their innocence. They were always trying to cover themselves from any blame when itcame to confrontation with the alcoholic in thei...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page highlights how Tradition #3 contributes to the unity of the program by requiring only that members have a relative or friend suffering from alcoholism, and there be no other affiliations within the group. In a world increasingly divided by a lengthening list of issues, Alanon is an in...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer talks about using stumbling blocks to step on--another words, not let them block our path. Alcoholism brings troubles that can be terrifying. Obstacles do not have to keep us from finding the good in our lives unless we allow it. Alanon invites us to change the view we have of ourselves...

DM2021 · DM2021

We got in the mail yesterday for the start of the new insurance year our HRA Debit Cards that needed to be validated with a phone call. The telephone prompts would not allow the cards to be activated after entering the numbers but on the reverse side of the letter insert it recommended to call an insuran...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel grief as most do when they have a loss but I am not lost. I feel some sense of relief most days. I just keep plugging away & somehow I thrive not just survive. I need the peace that this program gives as I move towards happiness. I can find happiness if I just let it happen. These days I even find myse...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the benefits of alanon approved literature, especially for those who have difficulty with in person meetings. The writer describes feeling reluctant to reach out to people at meetings; a friend saw that and shared the benefits of reading the literat...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone- i have everyone intention of writing as usual on Sunday morning. I will be in Italy for the next 10 days so not sure when I will have access to wifi and with time differences- posting may happen at an odd time. just wanted to put that out there in case there are other creatures of habit like...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading imparts the knowledge that when we pray from the heart God knows what we are going throughwith out spelling it all out. As long as we are praying from the "heart and not just with words" we will know weare on a personal spiritual path open to our HPs help and guidance. Todays reminder: ...

Lyne · Lyne

This is one of my favorite slogans. It reminds me that I don't have to be perfect, it's human to make mistakes, and yet I can look back upon my progress and feel good about that. Love this program!

DM2021 · DM2021

This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the programcan be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Highe...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father. Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger beco...

Lyne · Lyne

Many of us have come to alanon with bitterness and blame. There are better ways to handle things. Accepting that we too, need help, can relieve us from tolerating unacceptable behavior. Getting to these rooms help us change in miraculous ways. Forgiveness can simply be a change of a attitude. O...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how through the help of the alanon program those who are affected by alcoholism can learn to open up and not feel the need to stay guarded with emotions and feelings. The writer describes growing up and feeling unsure and afraid much of the time. The wri...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning MIP. It has come to our attention that we need persons to do the daily reading on Thursdays, Saturdays, and possibly Wednesdays. These service positions are open now, and next week would be a great time to get started! Just let us know and I thank you in advance. Lyne

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author writes of the challenge to be "entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." Commenting of the importance of their role, they note that while God willingly removes the defects, they needed to cooperate to remove the negative thinking and habits that contributed...

Lyne · Lyne

When we are troubled by another person's behavior, a complicated situation, or a difficult turn of events, alanon says that we do not have to take it personally. We don't have to be victims, we can accept what we cannot change, and change the things we can. We can also change our attitude which will al...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Wishing a very Happy Fathers Day to those here and all who are remembered.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on steps 6 (were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character) and 7 (humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). The writer describes being stuck in a sense: he/she worked the steps but there was always a struggle to keep the focus...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this day's reading talks about the need to detach with love which not only benefits theindividual living with an alcoholic but allows the alcoholic to learn the successes and consequences oftheir actions without any interference. It is important to detach with love in order to have a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

One member recalls the gulf that opened between she and her daughter when she tried to prevent daughter from taking a particular action. Focus on Step 1 and her powerlessness pulled her back from acting, she let go and let God. The hatred her daughter developed dissipated, they were able to regain a r...

DM2021 · DM2021

The topic of today's reading is about what the author learned by doing Step Seven. Step Seven reads: Humbly ask (our Higher Power) to remove our shortcomings. The author's first hurdle, while doing Step Seven, was that they, in the past thought that that to be humble meant they were to put othersn...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer describes how to get a grip on our thinking to lighten the load. If we have a heavy, somber view, can we try and remember that it may not be so bad after all? Can we try and look for fun, fantasy, absurdity, or silliness? Can we seek out the things that add gaiety to balance out the solemn and tro...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description about a successful way to approach working the steps. The writer describes two concepts: surrender and faith. In the first, the writer acknowledges that letting go and surrendering the things we are trying to control will free us and help us l...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewa...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that looking for sympathy from others is merely food for the self-pitying ego. It can weaken character and destroy dignity. Instead, we need to remember that no situation is hopeless. Can we do things to improve our situation? Can we let go of other's obligations which may hinder...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading reminded me that as time passes, in Al-Anon, that my life experiences have not changedbut that my faith and trust have grown stronger. I have learned that my HP has my back and that as thisreading states, I am never really given anything that I cannot handle because I know that my fears...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: The focus of todays reading is how we are able to gain wisdom using the tools of al-anon. The writer describes a time when he/she felt taking action and rushing into decisions was the only way to go, that waiting was a waste of time. Over time and with program work, the writer lear...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that heroes of legend often have to embark on spiritual journeys and face great challenges in order to gain a great reward at the end. We are each the heroes of our own stories, and those of us in Al-Anon have embarked on a spiritual journey of self-disco...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	One Day at a Time August 17 - Tradition 12 (Preview) Tradition 12 - Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all of our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. Today's reading focuses on a newcomer's concerns about attending Al-Anon. Wishing to stay anonymous, they worry that others in the meeting may tell those in t...	tiredtonite	1	1648	Aug 17, 2023 by Lyne
	8/15/23 C2C How Important is It? Rerouting… (Preview) Coming from the fog of constant perceived crisis, today's page helps us apply proportion to events that depart from our expectation. Inconvenience, or major crisis?Alanon suggests the question 'how important is it' is helpful to decide if I am exaggerating or anticipating future fears, rather t...	Enigmatic	1	1664	Aug 16, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Aug 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone: First I want to express gratitude for this space. When I came to this site a little over 10 years ago, I was lost. I mean LOST. What I found here was patience, grace, understanding, compassion and help. Its been a privilege to be part of the service through writings over these seve...	yanksfan51	3	1718	Aug 15, 2023 by yanksfan51
	ODAT in Alanon, Monday, 8/14, who needs help? (Preview) This reading reflects upon when the alcoholic finally reaches a bottom, and begins the long climb upward with AA. This begins growth for the alcoholic both in personal and spiritual maturity. The writer comments that naturally both partners in an alcoholic marriage, need a growth program. As n...	Lyne	1	1643	Aug 15, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change August 10 Topic: Isolation (Preview) Today's reading uses the idea of housekeeping to inventory Al-Anon recovery. The reading mentions that one member through an Al-Anon personal inventory was able to tie their penchant for keeping a very tidy home to the illusion of being in control of an otherwise unmanageable life. Another Al-An...	tiredtonite	1	1732	Aug 10, 2023 by Lyne
	8/8/23 ODAT - Advice we ‘Must Not’ Give (Preview) Great guidance in today's page reminding Alanoners of the type of advice we should give: spiritual advice pointing back to program concepts and slogans. Great care should be shown not to suggest others take 'drastic' action in areas of relationships or other serious life matters, even saying "we d...	Enigmatic	1	1704	Aug 8, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 8/7, Hope for Today, my rights as a person (Preview) This author speaks about how damaging growing up with alcoholism was, and how alanon has turned things around. They learned many important things about the rights they are entitled to: -the right to speak at a meeting without interruption or advice -that anonymity would be respected -that "no" is...	Lyne	0	1636	Aug 6, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Aug 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at why we sometimes resist certain situations, avoiding for a specific reason. The writer describes being asked to sponsor for an alateen meeting. The writer resisted, feeling like he/she did not even particularly like teenagers! Once the meetin...	yanksfan51	1	1661	Aug 6, 2023 by Lyne
	One Day at a Time Thursday, August 3, 2023 (Preview) Topic: Changing what I can The writer finds that their preoccupation with what others do, where and why create turmoil inside them. Such thoughts lead them to consider "a new, honest self-appraisal." The reading goes on to state that the writer's first obligation is to "work out changes in my own t...	tiredtonite	1	1710	Aug 4, 2023 by Lyne
	Friday's Readings (Preview) I am sorry to say that I will not be doing Friday readings anymore. If anyone would like to step up and take that day it would be lovely. I find that I am stretched thin and really put much effort into that post and can no longer do it anymore.	DM2021	2	1648	Aug 2, 2023 by Lyne
	There are some lovely Al-Anon Groups on Reddit Already (Preview) https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AlanonFamilyGroups/ Please check them out if you are so inclined. I do not see any reason to actually start a new group, but PM each other our e-mails to keep in touch if you would like. What are your thoughts?	DM2021	1	1698	Aug 2, 2023 by Lyne
	Last know post from Administrator of MIP on ACOA Board (Preview) Not sure how we're still running.Permalink Reply Quote One year later, the GoDaddy fee for this website again came out of my credit card. I am determined this will not happen again in 2024, but it will take some maneuvering, as it won't let me take my credit card out without putting a different one i...	DM2021	0	1816	Aug 1, 2023 by DM2021
	8/1/23 C2C They Are Not the Problem… (Preview) Today's writer arrived at Alanon as did many: hoping to find out how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking, thinking that was the problem. They learned, as many others have also: they didn't cause alcoholism, can't control it or cure it.They kept coming back, however, because they discovered there w...	Enigmatic	2	1716	Aug 1, 2023 by DM2021
	Wanted to know if everyone would like a Plan B for MIP (Preview) Messages Iamhere and asked what her thoughts were on the issue of the possibility that we may find MIP is no longer accessible and if a Plan B would be prudent and she didn't think it was a bad idea. If you all think that maybe having a Facebook page to keep in contact with each other, to have for daily readi...	DM2021	10	921	Aug 1, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 7/31, wisdom vs insanity (Preview) The author is saying that correct use of the mind leads to wisdom, and incorrect use of the mind leads to insanity. This program encourages right use of the mind and heart. We have a spiritual direction, and learn that our recovery is up to us. Our mind can either hurt us or help us--we have a choice. L...	Lyne	1	886	Jul 31, 2023 by DM2021
	I enabled her and feel terrible about it (Preview) I came to this board to initially post about my relationship with my girlfriend who has a drinking problem. We now live separately but we are still together. It hasn't been easy and it has been a very rocky road but I love her too much to just give up on her. And she has shown me she is trying to fight the addic...	NewRomantics	7	1426	Jul 30, 2023 by DM2021
	July 30 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at what it means to give up the illusion of control. The writer describes that the process started with understanding that there were many people who had been put on pedestals, taking the place of a higher power in his/her life. The writer began to see tha...	yanksfan51	1	727	Jul 30, 2023 by DM2021
	Stargazers are blooming!! (Preview) Always look forward to when they bloom.	DM2021	2	1201	Jul 29, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C for Friday, July 28, 2023 – Faith and Perseverance (Preview) This day's reading is talking about faith and hard work, i.e.: Sticking with the program and how after time (each person has a different time table)we begin to get the sense that the serenity and understanding we have been seeking is at hand. We each have a different method, ability andenvironment w...	DM2021	2	1296	Jul 28, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAAT 7/27 Al-Anon: As a Way of Life (Preview) Today's reading speaks about our relationships with the alcoholics in our life. It focuses on possible expectations that sobriety will eradicate all of our problems. The reading uses the marriage relationship and further explains that this is a fallacy. The reading states that despite alcoho...	tiredtonite	2	1337	Jul 27, 2023 by DM2021
	7/25/23 ODAT – Powerless, but Not Without Impact (Preview) This page recalls Step 1 truth that the alcoholics sobriety is not our responsibility, but notes that it is possible that spouses can have a positive or negative influence on it. Step 1 is not a license to nag and berate as by doing so, we may take on some responsibility for postponing sobriety or contr...	Enigmatic	2	1222	Jul 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 7/24, sometimes less is more (Preview) This writer takes a look at "God as we understood Him." We have all come to alanon set in some of our ways. Those who have "God" as their HP, might feel superior to those who are still looking for their HP, or who may have a different HP than "God." HP may be different for many and we need the acceptance onc...	Lyne	2	1623	Jul 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at resentments and the role they can play in our lives. The page opens with a quotation from Courage to Change: Resentments mark the places where I see myself as a victim. The writer describes how resentments drained so much energy and created bitternes...	yanksfan51	1	1634	Jul 23, 2023 by DM2021
	Avatars not appearing (Preview) I sent a message to Iamhere to see about this issue of the avatars not appearing anymore.	DM2021	2	1664	Jul 22, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, July 21, 2023 – The Natural Order of Life (Preview) Today's reading is about how Al-Anon helps to show how accepting that there is a "natural order of life" courtesy of our "Higher Power" enablesone to realize that trying to control/interfere in any or all crises with individuals around us is better left to unfold naturally by "Letting Go andLetting...	DM2021	3	1586	Jul 22, 2023 by Lyne
	7/18/23 ODAT – ‘Yes, but… (Preview) ...this phrase might be heard in ALanon in response to a principle, slogan, or spiritual solution. Behind it is often a belief that our particular situation is different, not so simple. It couldn't possibly be eased, or certainly not solved by something so simple as a slogan or concept. Reminder - I...	Enigmatic	1	1534	Jul 18, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 7/17, Do I have my own life and my own destiny? (Preview) The writer says that it is easy to become enmeshed with alcoholics and their self-destructive behavior. We can lose sight of the idea that we can be happy if they are depressed, and we can be serene when they are drinking. The writer hit a turning point when someone said we have to learn to make it wheth...	Lyne	2	1588	Jul 18, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C for Friday, July 14, 2023 – Guilt and Amends (Preview) The author of this days reading began to understand how the "guilt" they carried was such a "burden" and that when they made their amendshow it helped them to clear their "conscience" and put the past behind them.They ran into a temporary problem with making amends to those who no longer were living bu...	DM2021	4	1624	Jul 16, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the issue of trust. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family and as a result, not understanding the process of trust. He/she would confide intimate details almost immediately to people, then feel hurt or betrayed. Over time the wr...	yanksfan51	0	1561	Jul 16, 2023 by yanksfan51
	Hope for Today July 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about staying focused on recovery in al-anon. The writer describes having come to alanon through alateen, as a result of having an alcoholic father. The writer made friends there but when the transition to alanon took place, the writer felt empty after me...	yanksfan51	2	1544	Jul 16, 2023 by yanksfan51
	7/11/23 C2C What If…? (Preview) Today's writer addresses the two words that are the basis of much worry, resentment and unnecessary interference when dealing with alcoholics: What if... Imagining negative results and outcomes can become an unhealthy habit that, more often than not, needlessly darkens our every horizon and re...	Enigmatic	3	1617	Jul 13, 2023 by JR71
	C2C, Monday, 7/10, obsolete ideas (Preview) This reading says that exposure to alcoholism can make us lose perspective on who we are and what we can do. We have accepted ideas about ourselves that have no basis in reality. We may have carried a distorted self-image and not questioned our beliefs. In alanon we may discover some untruths. Sup...	Lyne	1	1469	Jul 9, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, July 07, 2023 – Who is to blame any way?? (Preview) This day's reading made me truly smile because the author discusses how, with every conflict, they felt they had to some how,in an anxious and defensive state, prove their innocence. They were always trying to cover themselves from any blame when itcame to confrontation with the alcoholic in thei...	DM2021	3	723	Jul 7, 2023 by DM2021
	7/4/23 C2C No Other Affiliations, Just One Requirement (Preview) Today's page highlights how Tradition #3 contributes to the unity of the program by requiring only that members have a relative or friend suffering from alcoholism, and there be no other affiliations within the group. In a world increasingly divided by a lengthening list of issues, Alanon is an in...	Enigmatic	2	1546	Jul 4, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in Alanon, Monday, 7/3, stumbling blocks vs stepping stones (Preview) The writer talks about using stumbling blocks to step on--another words, not let them block our path. Alcoholism brings troubles that can be terrifying. Obstacles do not have to keep us from finding the good in our lives unless we allow it. Alanon invites us to change the view we have of ourselves...	Lyne	2	1543	Jul 4, 2023 by Enigmatic
	New Chaos Episode Yesterday - Just need to talk (Preview) We got in the mail yesterday for the start of the new insurance year our HRA Debit Cards that needed to be validated with a phone call. The telephone prompts would not allow the cards to be activated after entering the numbers but on the reverse side of the letter insert it recommended to call an insuran...	DM2021	2	1563	Jul 2, 2023 by DM2021
	grief but not lost (Preview) I feel grief as most do when they have a loss but I am not lost. I feel some sense of relief most days. I just keep plugging away & somehow I thrive not just survive. I need the peace that this program gives as I move towards happiness. I can find happiness if I just let it happen. These days I even find myse...	Hoot Nanny	4	1234	Jul 2, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today July 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the benefits of alanon approved literature, especially for those who have difficulty with in person meetings. The writer describes feeling reluctant to reach out to people at meetings; a friend saw that and shared the benefits of reading the literat...	yanksfan51	1	774	Jul 2, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 2 and 9 (Preview) Hello everyone- i have everyone intention of writing as usual on Sunday morning. I will be in Italy for the next 10 days so not sure when I will have access to wifi and with time differences- posting may happen at an odd time. just wanted to put that out there in case there are other creatures of habit like...	yanksfan51	2	759	Jul 1, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 30, 2023 – The Meaning of Prayer (Preview) Today's reading imparts the knowledge that when we pray from the heart God knows what we are going throughwith out spelling it all out. As long as we are praying from the "heart and not just with words" we will know weare on a personal spiritual path open to our HPs help and guidance. Todays reminder: ...	DM2021	4	873	Jul 1, 2023 by DM2021
	Progress not perfection. (Preview) This is one of my favorite slogans. It reminds me that I don't have to be perfect, it's human to make mistakes, and yet I can look back upon my progress and feel good about that. Love this program!	Lyne	2	1338	Jul 1, 2023 by Enigmatic
	C2C for Friday, June 23, 2023 – The Courage of Honesty (Preview) This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the programcan be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Highe...	DM2021	6	786	Jun 28, 2023 by DM2021
	6/27/23 ODAT – Attitude, Respect Lead the Way (Preview) Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father. Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger beco...	Enigmatic	3	1193	Jun 28, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, 6/26, bitterness vs. forgiveness (Preview) Many of us have come to alanon with bitterness and blame. There are better ways to handle things. Accepting that we too, need help, can relieve us from tolerating unacceptable behavior. Getting to these rooms help us change in miraculous ways. Forgiveness can simply be a change of a attitude. O...	Lyne	2	1210	Jun 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 25 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how through the help of the alanon program those who are affected by alcoholism can learn to open up and not feel the need to stay guarded with emotions and feelings. The writer describes growing up and feeling unsure and afraid much of the time. The wri...	yanksfan51	1	1214	Jun 25, 2023 by DM2021
	Volunteers needed :) (Preview) Good morning MIP. It has come to our attention that we need persons to do the daily reading on Thursdays, Saturdays, and possibly Wednesdays. These service positions are open now, and next week would be a great time to get started! Just let us know and I thank you in advance. Lyne	Lyne	0	1121	Jun 24, 2023 by Lyne
	6/20/23 ODAT - Entirely Ready? (Preview) Today's author writes of the challenge to be "entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character." Commenting of the importance of their role, they note that while God willingly removes the defects, they needed to cooperate to remove the negative thinking and habits that contributed...	Enigmatic	3	1563	Jun 20, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 6/19, Always carry a QTip (Preview) When we are troubled by another person's behavior, a complicated situation, or a difficult turn of events, alanon says that we do not have to take it personally. We don't have to be victims, we can accept what we cannot change, and change the things we can. We can also change our attitude which will al...	Lyne	2	1548	Jun 20, 2023 by Daffodils
	Happy Fathers Day (Preview) Wishing a very Happy Fathers Day to those here and all who are remembered.	tiredtonite	1	1528	Jun 19, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 18 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on steps 6 (were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character) and 7 (humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings). The writer describes being stuck in a sense: he/she worked the steps but there was always a struggle to keep the focus...	yanksfan51	1	1605	Jun 18, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 16, 2023 – Detaching With Love (Preview) The author of this day's reading talks about the need to detach with love which not only benefits theindividual living with an alcoholic but allows the alcoholic to learn the successes and consequences oftheir actions without any interference. It is important to detach with love in order to have a...	DM2021	4	2427	Jun 17, 2023 by DM2021
	6/13/23 ODAT Powerlessness Over Others (Preview) One member recalls the gulf that opened between she and her daughter when she tried to prevent daughter from taking a particular action. Focus on Step 1 and her powerlessness pulled her back from acting, she let go and let God. The hatred her daughter developed dissipated, they were able to regain a r...	Enigmatic	2	1620	Jun 14, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 9, 2023 – What is Humility? (Preview) The topic of today's reading is about what the author learned by doing Step Seven. Step Seven reads: Humbly ask (our Higher Power) to remove our shortcomings. The author's first hurdle, while doing Step Seven, was that they, in the past thought that that to be humble meant they were to put othersn...	DM2021	6	2682	Jun 14, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 6/12, turn black into rosy pink (Preview) The writer describes how to get a grip on our thinking to lighten the load. If we have a heavy, somber view, can we try and remember that it may not be so bad after all? Can we try and look for fun, fantasy, absurdity, or silliness? Can we seek out the things that add gaiety to balance out the solemn and tro...	Lyne	1	1595	Jun 12, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 11 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a description about a successful way to approach working the steps. The writer describes two concepts: surrender and faith. In the first, the writer acknowledges that letting go and surrendering the things we are trying to control will free us and help us l...	yanksfan51	2	1578	Jun 11, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	6/6/23 C2C – Searching and Fearless or Dismissing and Justifying (Preview) This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4. Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewa...	Enigmatic	2	1578	Jun 7, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 6/5, Finding courage and confidence (Preview) The writer says that looking for sympathy from others is merely food for the self-pitying ego. It can weaken character and destroy dignity. Instead, we need to remember that no situation is hopeless. Can we do things to improve our situation? Can we let go of other's obligations which may hinder...	Lyne	3	1573	Jun 7, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 2, 2023 – Trust & Faith (Preview) Today's reading reminded me that as time passes, in Al-Anon, that my life experiences have not changedbut that my faith and trust have grown stronger. I have learned that my HP has my back and that as thisreading states, I am never really given anything that I cannot handle because I know that my fears...	DM2021	2	1577	Jun 6, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today June 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: The focus of todays reading is how we are able to gain wisdom using the tools of al-anon. The writer describes a time when he/she felt taking action and rushing into decisions was the only way to go, that waiting was a waste of time. Over time and with program work, the writer lear...	yanksfan51	3	1612	Jun 4, 2023 by yanksfan51
	Courage to Change May 31 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that heroes of legend often have to embark on spiritual journeys and face great challenges in order to gain a great reward at the end. We are each the heroes of our own stories, and those of us in Al-Anon have embarked on a spiritual journey of self-disco...	Skorpi	4	1197	Jun 1, 2023 by SunnyFrog
«First < 1 2 3 4 5 6 … 823 > Last» \| Page of 823 sorted by

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.