This reading says we may be powerless over circumstances, but we are not helpless.  In the midst of problems or stress, we are reminded to nurture our mind, body, or spirit.  Alanon is a program of action, and we always have choices.  If we treat ourselves with love and tenderness, we can better cope with challenges.  We can feel good, even when surrounded by crisis.

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I recall hearing statements like the above, with such positivity, and not having a clue how to change my state of mind.  I guess it's because there is not a simple answer.  It's  by attending meetings, having a sponsor, being of service, reading the literature, etc., that after a significant amount of time, recovery begins.  It's a process with no quick fix.  But good things can happen if we have patience and practice.  ODAT.