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Aloha · Aloha

I'll define "martyr" before I move on with my post. The dictionary defines martyr in a couple of ways, but the way I'm interested in is "a person who displays or exaggerates their discomfort or distress in order to obtain sympathy or admiration." I was thinking about martyring the other day after a con...

DavidG · DavidG

Ugh! i know there is a solution here. It feels like our money is just slipping through our hands. We had no retirement savings- so 16 years ago we set up a small business. This has gone well- gives us plenty of activity. It is old stuff for me- to ever having enough as a kid. This struck me most with our co...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! Today's reading is about Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. The writer shares that before Al-Anon, others were allowed to decide how one should live, where one should go and do! The reading continues...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their experience learning "detachment with love" - the alcoholic in their life was a restless sleeper who frequently fell out of bed. The author was in the practice of getting up, and helping the alcoholic back into bed. After several AlAnon mee...

Katie55 · Katie55

I am not really sure where to begin. I guess the biggest question is, where do I fit into his whole recovery and treatment. I am not sure if I fit in at all, or what will happen. I am not even sure what I even am to him. I can't even really say what he is to be because his alcoholism made it so our relationshi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I want to let everyone to know who read & commented on my last post, My bonus mom is no longer living. My biological mom is still alive. I am not sure if you all knew what I meant. It is just that I wanted to honor my step-mom. I guess it doesn't really matter who she was, I love her. Right now I am actually co...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I had a bit if a down day yesterday. Was triggered by events from the late 80's. I believed that I was railroaded by a couple of doctors- at the treatment centre I was at- as a family member. Sometimes I think- okay- they must have been right. And other times I belie...

hotrod · hotrod

he Courage to Change reading for today, 1-21 addresses the necessity of taking care of ourselves even if we are busy caring for others, it points out that we cannot abandon our needs and must focus on our feelings and life The reading suggests that we take time to listen to our body,mind and soul a...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Hi. Trying to make some friends here My boyfriend abuse is escalating. I don't have the strength to call the police Yet. He has a warrent. Easy right. No. Anyway I'm in shock after more Of his yelling,and leaveing me ofcoarse. My worst trigger. He is totally heartless When he is like this. Reall...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I was a brainy kid- with great hopes and dreams. I read and worked and read some more. In the classroom I seemed to daydream a lot. Out side of Alanon i do a lot of research and study- and a lot of it online. I read this morning that having big dreams and plans ahead- is just as healthy as r...

Debb · Debb

© Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, IncGroup Conscience: What Is It? Tradition Two tells us that "for our group purpose there is but one authority--a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants--they do not govern." But what is a group consc...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Wondering what happened to the meetings? No one is there. Don't know if it's my phone or what? Thank you,Silgirl

Debb · Debb

Greetings to everyone! Hope everyone is doing well and thriving!! It has been quite a while since I last posted. Not much has changed on the home front other than I am fully retired now and boy does it feel great to look out the window at the falling snow and not have to deal with the car and roads!! Bee...

Debb · Debb

Let It Begin with Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, let the hand of Al-Anon always be there, and Let It Begin with Me. Saw this and wanted to share! It made me smile! Blessing to all!!

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/20, discusses the reasons for having anonymity the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions. The author suggests we can put aside what we are and begin to know who we are. The author says we even need to extend anonymity to the alcoholic. The results of anonymity allow f...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading describes alanon in terms of the power in hearing shares from others, in being heard when ready to share, and knowing that what we say will be received without judgement and with compassion. As I was reading this page, I thought about alanon being layered in a sen...

DavidG · DavidG

An attitude of gratitude does change the mind-set over time. And maybe even the body chemistry, which is a bonus. I used to say- "went from the paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude." I used to formulate solutions in the thinking department- but had extreme difficulty putt...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... it is sweltering hot here- summer has come at last! After doing the steps 6 or 8 times, I think becomes second nature, in the end... a sort of please~sorry~thanks~ routine. This weekend my SO and I went to a rowing regatta. Well rowing is a sort of elite sport... and yes, we ha...

Debb · Debb

Today's ODAT reading reminds us about the importance of Anonymity, which is in two of the Traditons" of Al Anon: 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with s...

Freetime · Freetime

In today's reading, the author writes about "murderous weapons" they have used when handling the alcoholic situation: indignation, accusations, hysteria, nagging, self-righteousness, and more. These weapons kill the desire to find a better life, increase the alcoholic's guilt, and destr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This would have been bonus mom's 76th birthday. Usually i only mention my dad.but today I honor her. She was sometimes very difficult to deal w & very much an adult child of alcoholic parents. It took many years to tell her I love her. She was in my life from the age of 9 until her death in 2011. She was ve...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm struggling a bit right now with an update that my f2f meeting member who has been diagnosed with cancer is back in the hospital in a weakening state. Not much can be done for her at the moment. Less than a month ago she was admitted and now back and not doing well. I'm still working through the shock of th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses the slogan and topic of 'Think'. The author suggests there was a time when a thought entering the mind automatically came out of the mouth! The writer suggests that they've learned to 'think' before speaking. Great list to consider: When I'm tempted t...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

My AH is abusing his pain medication.It is getting worse as each month goes by,the prescription refills are running out sooner each time. He is in bed right now,I'm assuming feeling sick from not having the meds. I'm really tempted to alert his doctor.As a matter of fact I have the email written alrea...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could...

DavidG · DavidG

The only grand-dad i really knew was my father's stepfather. Outwardly he was a friendly cheerful guy. When he came round to our place he stayed out of sight and read a book. He was a doctor, and I went on his doctor's rounds with him one day- sitting in the car. I needed to pee and he stopped the car,...

hotrod · hotrod

the Courage to Change reading for today January 14 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism, It indicates that gradually we will learn that nothing we do or do not do changes the situation. We must learn to focus on ourselves. in Al-Anon we begin to develop the tools th...

el-cee · el-cee

This has been the topic my sponsor and I have been talking about. She is getting older and less mobile and theres a battle going on inside her because shes young at heart and wants to do do do. She has the awareness of her limitations but hasn't fully accepted yet. She knows shes in the middle of a growth spu...

Bo · Bo

Mysterious title? LOL. Well, what I really wanted to throw out there is not just how the steps work, but more, what do they represent, what can they mean. I don't take any position on whether or not a person should do or work the steps. I did. I do. Every day. But that's me. My choice. I do think as far as an exp...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of Mondays reading talks about finding great spiritual freedom. They were allowed to find their own personal understanding of God, and then give others the same freedom. This writer says that their concept of God evolves, and that enables themself to grow and change. With gaining HP a...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Today my AS was sentenced to prison.He will be there close to 5 years. I'm heartbroken and could use some words of wisdom please.I have been down this road so many times before and it just never seems to get easier. As his mother I will never get used to it or be ok with it.

DavidG · DavidG

This year I wanted to focus on Tradition 5, in a healthy way. In the drinking situation we are often forced to make sacrifices. Only by talking things through, do we become aware of the extent of this. And this natural approach to an unnatural situation helps form our personality. I do need to s...

Jack1 · Jack1

My wife and I have had drinks on a fairly regular basis over the many years of our marriage. On occasion one or both of us would drink too much, but that was pretty rare. Earlier this year she completed a weight loss/dieting plan which resulted in getting to nearly the weight she was when we were married, a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays page begins with a metaphor: Alcoholism is a thief. The writer goes on to list many circumstances when this is true: alcoholism may have stolen people we love, jobs, close relationships, safety. For many of us who have lived with active alcoholism our sense of secur...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

As a reminder ====== The material presentedhere is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.*********************************************************************************...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is the anniversary of my first meeting. I am so grateful that I stuck around for the miracle to happen! I know that is not about the alcoholic but about me & my own recovery. I owe all my fellow members to remind me of this. Thank you for being a part of my recovery!

DavidG · DavidG

Our summer here has been slow in coming- rainy and cool. In stark contrast to our neighbours across the ditch. More than once the smoke from there fires has hung around our hills. I decided over Christmas and New year to devote the rest of my working life to working on our properties. That way i c...

DavidG · DavidG

Getting back to basics- hopes and dreams... were shattered, over and over again. Boundaries lost. Despair set in. My dream for these last three months was to do steps 10, 11 and 12. And then next year to take a good look at tradition 5. This was about reaching out to others, f...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about worry -- how much time is wasted doing it, how it takes us away from reality, and how it can become a cycle of fear and self-criticism. The author breaks this cycle by focusing on the present moment -- the sights, sounds and sensations taking place here and now. Worrying is noi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In Today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their experiences with a newly-sober alcoholic. The author shares that they once very emphatically told their family that the constant bickering was impacting their newly sober loved one and it might cause her to start drinking again...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Greetings all, IAmHere is seeing to an ill friend. I loved C2C and ODAT, so went with both as they work so well together.ODAT:The challenge of life with an alcoholic can lead us in complete desperation when we tackle it without a Higher Power or program. Though we may not know how, or why, in AlAnon we fin...

DavidG · DavidG

A lot of people are wary of facebook- but, in the right hands it can maintain connections. Late last year i reported a young family member to the welfare, here in NZ. There were other family members lobbying them too. Two boys age 4 and 6 were living in a home where meth was being used. The authoriti...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today stresses the importance of iving life ODAT, using alanon tools such as the slogans,the :"one day at a time bookmark ". The reading stresses the importance of having a quiet time in which to pray, meditate and connect with HP We must remember that it is important to solve...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

That's a silly title,I know,but there's a story that goes with it. On Christmas eve I did a good job of just detaching from AH and actually had a calm,peaceful time at a family gathering. Afterwards AH was picking and poking at me but I let it slide off my back and didn't play into it. On Christmas mornin...

Lyne · Lyne

The theme of tomorrows reading, 1/6, is about staying in touch with other alanon members. The writer says that patient listening from others gets burdens off their chest. The person listening by phone or text can help the caller reason things out. The listener can provide support, and the caller...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello everyone. First, happy new year and holiday wishes to you all. Even though I don't know you in person, there are quite a few of you who have provided me with so much hope, encouragement, and understanding, I feel like I need to start with how grateful I am that I found this place. I am being severely...

Bo · Bo

Life is wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. I have so much to be grateful for, and I am, every day, and I live a happy and healthy life, with an attitude of gratitude. I enjoy life, give back, go to some NJ Devils games, a couple of Giants games, I take cooking classes, travel, love my work, and so much more. I...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading talks about making positive changes one day, one small goal, one small risk at a time. We cannot change the past, but we can break out of unhealthy patterns. Taking some tiny action each day can be much more effective than months of inactivity followed by a frenzied attempt to make r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just getting around to posting this year. Lol. It is only January 2nd. I am so grateful that I can still type. It seems trivial in some ways but I am sitting here w/ painful hands. My joints start to act up & I can't keep up. I hope that I can do better or feel better in the future. Anyhow, I am grateful tha...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone and happy 2020! Todays reading begins with a reflection on the suggested welcome that includes ...in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless. The reader describes feeling a bit taken aback by this; in his/her experience there definitely were situations th...

DavidG · DavidG

In my journey through the steps- 6 or 8 times... I have moved away from the black and white thinking of my family. "my way or the doorway!" I am sure there are regular visitors here- in this forum. Newcomers come here and are received and supported. I regard myself as a group member. I have always wante...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66185449/alanon-step-1-1-1-20/

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses how we learn in Al-Anon to seek what we need through new/different/healthier places. It suggests that turning to an Alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store for bread. When we expect a "good" parent to nurture and support our feelings,...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Hello everyone - after being on and or still regularly reading these boards for the last two years, I am back and looking for some support please until I can get to my next f2f meeting. Long story short, but I have separated from my AH. Things at home had been calmer and AH has reported he had stopped drin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Happy New Year, MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the "instant-ness" of our society and how the habit of getting other things (instant coffee, money from an ATM, instant breakfast, etc.) in an instant can impact our desire to get instant answers when coming to Al-Anon. Recovery from...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning MIP. Need to vent for a moment. Im away on my usual after XMas getaway which Ive done for the last 20 or so years. I suffer with a horrible back and its being HORRIBLE! Also, my A seems to be stuck in misery mode, as she cannot tolerate my living apart from her half the week, which I started ab...

hotrod · hotrod

the C2C reading for today, 12-31 speaks about the end of the year and the importance of taking the time to review the year and contemplate our progress We can then thank hp for our success and review what we did to contribute to our success. We will discover that we do play an important ROLL IN OUR...

norasq · norasq

Hi, all, and happy holidays to you. As ever, I am so grateful for this group. I dont post often, but get much support from just reading. i dont have a lot of contact with my ex AH these days but we have a young adult daughter on the autism spectrum who lives with me. He lives in the same town, 5 minutes away. Whe...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/30, is about the choice we have of letting what other people do or say destroy our peace of mind or ruin our day. Do we have to respond to the words of a sick person as though they were the ultimate truth or authority? Do we enjoy the martyr role? Do we need attention and pity? Th...

joker · joker

I was reading on line and I just had a thought cross my mind and wanted some feedback. When it comes to dating, I noticed I pick men who are loners, no friends, no close friendships. They are often alone and disconnected from family. It could be because they destroyed those relationships but I seem to be...

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	Martyrdom (Preview) I'll define "martyr" before I move on with my post. The dictionary defines martyr in a couple of ways, but the way I'm interested in is "a person who displays or exaggerates their discomfort or distress in order to obtain sympathy or admiration." I was thinking about martyring the other day after a con...	Aloha	8	1350	Jan 23, 2020 by Bo
	Worried about finances... (Preview) Ugh! i know there is a solution here. It feels like our money is just slipping through our hands. We had no retirement savings- so 16 years ago we set up a small business. This has gone well- gives us plenty of activity. It is old stuff for me- to ever having enough as a kid. This struck me most with our co...	DavidG	5	405	Jan 23, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 1/23 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! Today's reading is about Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. The writer shares that before Al-Anon, others were allowed to decide how one should live, where one should go and do! The reading continues...	Iamhere	3	539	Jan 23, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change January 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their experience learning "detachment with love" - the alcoholic in their life was a restless sleeper who frequently fell out of bed. The author was in the practice of getting up, and helping the alcoholic back into bed. After several AlAnon mee...	Skorpi	5	337	Jan 22, 2020 by Freetime
	The unknown (Preview) I am not really sure where to begin. I guess the biggest question is, where do I fit into his whole recovery and treatment. I am not sure if I fit in at all, or what will happen. I am not even sure what I even am to him. I can't even really say what he is to be because his alcoholism made it so our relationshi...	Katie55	14	756	Jan 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Just to clarify.. (Preview) I want to let everyone to know who read & commented on my last post, My bonus mom is no longer living. My biological mom is still alive. I am not sure if you all knew what I meant. It is just that I wanted to honor my step-mom. I guess it doesn't really matter who she was, I love her. Right now I am actually co...	Hoot Nanny	0	298	Jan 21, 2020 by Hoot Nanny
	My share for today... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I had a bit if a down day yesterday. Was triggered by events from the late 80's. I believed that I was railroaded by a couple of doctors- at the treatment centre I was at- as a family member. Sometimes I think- okay- they must have been right. And other times I belie...	DavidG	0	269	Jan 21, 2020 by DavidG
	C2c reading 1-21 (Preview) he Courage to Change reading for today, 1-21 addresses the necessity of taking care of ourselves even if we are busy caring for others, it points out that we cannot abandon our needs and must focus on our feelings and life The reading suggests that we take time to listen to our body,mind and soul a...	hotrod	5	318	Jan 21, 2020 by DavidG
	My live in boyfriend is abuseive (Preview) Hi. Trying to make some friends here My boyfriend abuse is escalating. I don't have the strength to call the police Yet. He has a warrent. Easy right. No. Anyway I'm in shock after more Of his yelling,and leaveing me ofcoarse. My worst trigger. He is totally heartless When he is like this. Reall...	Beckon2	17	3770	Jan 21, 2020 by milkwood
	Our dreams, and goals... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I was a brainy kid- with great hopes and dreams. I read and worked and read some more. In the classroom I seemed to daydream a lot. Out side of Alanon i do a lot of research and study- and a lot of it online. I read this morning that having big dreams and plans ahead- is just as healthy as r...	DavidG	2	358	Jan 20, 2020 by DavidG
	Our Group Conscience (Preview) © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, IncGroup Conscience: What Is It? Tradition Two tells us that "for our group purpose there is but one authority--a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants--they do not govern." But what is a group consc...	Debb	3	378	Jan 20, 2020 by DavidG
	Meetings (Preview) Wondering what happened to the meetings? No one is there. Don't know if it's my phone or what? Thank you,Silgirl	Beckon2	3	331	Jan 20, 2020 by Bo
	It has been a while!! (Preview) Greetings to everyone! Hope everyone is doing well and thriving!! It has been quite a while since I last posted. Not much has changed on the home front other than I am fully retired now and boy does it feel great to look out the window at the falling snow and not have to deal with the car and roads!! Bee...	Debb	20	1658	Jan 20, 2020 by Bo
	Let It Begin With Me! (Preview) *Let It Begin with Me* When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, let the hand of Al-Anon always be there, and *Let It Begin with Me.* Saw this and wanted to share! It made me smile! Blessing to all!!	Debb	8	904	Jan 20, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C, 1/20 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/20, discusses the reasons for having anonymity the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions. The author suggests we can put aside what we are and begin to know who we are. The author says we even need to extend anonymity to the alcoholic. The results of anonymity allow f...	Lyne	3	312	Jan 20, 2020 by Debb
	Hope for Today Jan 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading describes alanon in terms of the power in hearing shares from others, in being heard when ready to share, and knowing that what we say will be received without judgement and with compassion. As I was reading this page, I thought about alanon being layered in a sen...	yanksfan51	5	348	Jan 19, 2020 by DavidG
	An attitude of gratitude... (Preview) An attitude of gratitude does change the mind-set over time. And maybe even the body chemistry, which is a bonus. I used to say- "went from the paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude." I used to formulate solutions in the thinking department- but had extreme difficulty putt...	DavidG	6	767	Jan 19, 2020 by Bo
	Step 10 and gratitude... (Preview) Hi y'all... it is sweltering hot here- summer has come at last! After doing the steps 6 or 8 times, I think becomes second nature, in the end... a sort of please~sorry~thanks~ routine. This weekend my SO and I went to a rowing regatta. Well rowing is a sort of elite sport... and yes, we ha...	DavidG	4	415	Jan 19, 2020 by Bo
	ODAT for 1/18/2020 (Preview) Today's ODAT reading reminds us about the importance of Anonymity, which is in two of the Traditons" of Al Anon: 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with s...	Debb	4	293	Jan 18, 2020 by JerryF
	ODAT - January 17 (Preview) In today's reading, the author writes about "murderous weapons" they have used when handling the alcoholic situation: indignation, accusations, hysteria, nagging, self-righteousness, and more. These weapons kill the desire to find a better life, increase the alcoholic's guilt, and destr...	Freetime	8	291	Jan 17, 2020 by JerryF
	Just another birthday to remember... (Preview) This would have been bonus mom's 76th birthday. Usually i only mention my dad.but today I honor her. She was sometimes very difficult to deal w & very much an adult child of alcoholic parents. It took many years to tell her I love her. She was in my life from the age of 9 until her death in 2011. She was ve...	Hoot Nanny	3	365	Jan 17, 2020 by hotrod
	Processing Feelings (Preview) I'm struggling a bit right now with an update that my f2f meeting member who has been diagnosed with cancer is back in the hospital in a weakening state. Not much can be done for her at the moment. Less than a month ago she was admitted and now back and not doing well. I'm still working through the shock of th...	tiredtonite	24	1482	Jan 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses the slogan and topic of 'Think'. The author suggests there was a time when a thought entering the mind automatically came out of the mouth! The writer suggests that they've learned to 'think' before speaking. Great list to consider: When I'm tempted t...	Iamhere	5	329	Jan 16, 2020 by JerryF
	Maybe I should Contact His Doctor(?) ( 1 2 ) (closed) (Preview) My AH is abusing his pain medication.It is getting worse as each month goes by,the prescription refills are running out sooner each time. He is in bed right now,I'm assuming feeling sick from not having the meds. I'm really tempted to alert his doctor.As a matter of fact I have the email written alrea...	SunnyFrogs	43	2151	Jan 16, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	Courage to Change January 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could...	Skorpi	5	389	Jan 15, 2020 by Iamhere
	Me and professionals... (Preview) The only grand-dad i really knew was my father's stepfather. Outwardly he was a friendly cheerful guy. When he came round to our place he stayed out of sight and read a book. He was a doctor, and I went on his doctor's rounds with him one day- sitting in the car. I needed to pee and he stopped the car,...	DavidG	7	390	Jan 15, 2020 by Debb
	C2 C reading 1-14 (Preview) the Courage to Change reading for today January 14 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism, It indicates that gradually we will learn that nothing we do or do not do changes the situation. We must learn to focus on ourselves. in Al-Anon we begin to develop the tools th...	hotrod	6	500	Jan 14, 2020 by JerryF
	Awareness acceptance and action (Preview) This has been the topic my sponsor and I have been talking about. She is getting older and less mobile and theres a battle going on inside her because shes young at heart and wants to do do do. She has the awareness of her limitations but hasn't fully accepted yet. She knows shes in the middle of a growth spu...	el-cee	5	560	Jan 14, 2020 by DavidG
	Do you need to "do" or "work" the steps? Why? How? (Preview) Mysterious title? LOL. Well, what I really wanted to throw out there is not just how the steps work, but more, what do they represent, what can they mean. I don't take any position on whether or not a person should do or work the steps. I did. I do. Every day. But that's me. My choice. I do think as far as an exp...	Bo	25	5729	Jan 13, 2020 by Debb
	C2C, 1/13 (Preview) The author of Mondays reading talks about finding great spiritual freedom. They were allowed to find their own personal understanding of God, and then give others the same freedom. This writer says that their concept of God evolves, and that enables themself to grow and change. With gaining HP a...	Lyne	5	323	Jan 13, 2020 by El
	Rough Day (Preview) Today my AS was sentenced to prison.He will be there close to 5 years. I'm heartbroken and could use some words of wisdom please.I have been down this road so many times before and it just never seems to get easier. As his mother I will never get used to it or be ok with it.	SunnyFrogs	27	1656	Jan 13, 2020 by Debb
	Servant, service, and "to serve". (Preview) This year I wanted to focus on Tradition 5, in a healthy way. In the drinking situation we are often forced to make sacrifices. Only by talking things through, do we become aware of the extent of this. And this natural approach to an unnatural situation helps form our personality. I do need to s...	DavidG	6	571	Jan 13, 2020 by Aloha
	Feeling lost.. (Preview) My wife and I have had drinks on a fairly regular basis over the many years of our marriage. On occasion one or both of us would drink too much, but that was pretty rare. Earlier this year she completed a weight loss/dieting plan which resulted in getting to nearly the weight she was when we were married, a...	Jack1	28	859	Jan 13, 2020 by Hopeful11
	Hope for Today Jan 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays page begins with a metaphor: Alcoholism is a thief. The writer goes on to list many circumstances when this is true: alcoholism may have stolen people we love, jobs, close relationships, safety. For many of us who have lived with active alcoholism our sense of secur...	yanksfan51	5	333	Jan 12, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	This has bothered me a great deal for a while now .. (Preview) As a reminder ====== The material presentedhere is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.*********************************************************************************...	SerenityRUS	21	3138	Jan 12, 2020 by Debb
	34 years today (Preview) Today is the anniversary of my first meeting. I am so grateful that I stuck around for the miracle to happen! I know that is not about the alcoholic but about me & my own recovery. I owe all my fellow members to remind me of this. Thank you for being a part of my recovery!	Hoot Nanny	12	2911	Jan 12, 2020 by Debb
	My day... summer coming... (Preview) Our summer here has been slow in coming- rainy and cool. In stark contrast to our neighbours across the ditch. More than once the smoke from there fires has hung around our hills. I decided over Christmas and New year to devote the rest of my working life to working on our properties. That way i c...	DavidG	7	1108	Jan 12, 2020 by Debb
	Getting back to basics and hoping to move forward... (Preview) Getting back to basics- hopes and dreams... were shattered, over and over again. Boundaries lost. Despair set in. My dream for these last three months was to do steps 10, 11 and 12. And then next year to take a good look at tradition 5. This was about reaching out to others, f...	DavidG	11	3981	Jan 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change, 1/10 (Preview) Today's reading is about worry -- how much time is wasted doing it, how it takes us away from reality, and how it can become a cycle of fear and self-criticism. The author breaks this cycle by focusing on the present moment -- the sights, sounds and sensations taking place here and now. Worrying is noi...	Freetime	6	349	Jan 11, 2020 by Debb
	Courage to Change January 8 (Preview) Hello MIP! In Today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their experiences with a newly-sober alcoholic. The author shares that they once very emphatically told their family that the constant bickering was impacting their newly sober loved one and it might cause her to start drinking again...	Skorpi	6	1462	Jan 11, 2020 by Debb
	1/9/20 2-4-Thursday - C2C & ODAT (Preview) Greetings all, IAmHere is seeing to an ill friend. I loved C2C and ODAT, so went with both as they work so well together.ODAT:The challenge of life with an alcoholic can lead us in complete desperation when we tackle it without a Higher Power or program. Though we may not know how, or why, in AlAnon we fin...	Enigmatic	4	934	Jan 11, 2020 by Debb
	Update on share from last year... (Preview) A lot of people are wary of facebook- but, in the right hands it can maintain connections. Late last year i reported a young family member to the welfare, here in NZ. There were other family members lobbying them too. Two boys age 4 and 6 were living in a home where meth was being used. The authoriti...	DavidG	3	427	Jan 11, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C Reading Tues 1-7 (Preview) The C2C reading for today stresses the importance of iving life ODAT, using alanon tools such as the slogans,the :"one day at a time bookmark ". The reading stresses the importance of having a quiet time in which to pray, meditate and connect with HP We must remember that it is important to solve...	hotrod	5	1605	Jan 7, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	I'm Back For Cookies (Preview) That's a silly title,I know,but there's a story that goes with it. On Christmas eve I did a good job of just detaching from AH and actually had a calm,peaceful time at a family gathering. Afterwards AH was picking and poking at me but I let it slide off my back and didn't play into it. On Christmas mornin...	SunnyFrogs	9	463	Jan 7, 2020 by el-cee
	C2C, 1/6 (Preview) The theme of tomorrows reading, 1/6, is about staying in touch with other alanon members. The writer says that patient listening from others gets burdens off their chest. The person listening by phone or text can help the caller reason things out. The listener can provide support, and the caller...	Lyne	3	2127	Jan 6, 2020 by El
	Holiday with Family and AH - crawling back to this group for sustenance (Preview) Hello everyone. First, happy new year and holiday wishes to you all. Even though I don't know you in person, there are quite a few of you who have provided me with so much hope, encouragement, and understanding, I feel like I need to start with how grateful I am that I found this place. I am being severely...	Fedora	6	465	Jan 6, 2020 by Aloha
	A slip. Relapse. (Preview) Life is wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. I have so much to be grateful for, and I am, every day, and I live a happy and healthy life, with an attitude of gratitude. I enjoy life, give back, go to some NJ Devils games, a couple of Giants games, I take cooking classes, travel, love my work, and so much more. I...	Bo	12	1497	Jan 5, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change, 1/3 - Baby Steps (Preview) Today's reading talks about making positive changes one day, one small goal, one small risk at a time. We cannot change the past, but we can break out of unhealthy patterns. Taking some tiny action each day can be much more effective than months of inactivity followed by a frenzied attempt to make r...	Freetime	5	350	Jan 5, 2020 by DavidG
	my 1st post of the new year! (Preview) I just getting around to posting this year. Lol. It is only January 2nd. I am so grateful that I can still type. It seems trivial in some ways but I am sitting here w/ painful hands. My joints start to act up & I can't keep up. I hope that I can do better or feel better in the future. Anyhow, I am grateful tha...	Hoot Nanny	6	2967	Jan 5, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Jan 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone and happy 2020! Todays reading begins with a reflection on the suggested welcome that includes ...in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless. The reader describes feeling a bit taken aback by this; in his/her experience there definitely were situations th...	yanksfan51	5	292	Jan 5, 2020 by Bo
	This group, this forum... (Preview) In my journey through the steps- 6 or 8 times... I have moved away from the black and white thinking of my family. "my way or the doorway!" I am sure there are regular visitors here- in this forum. Newcomers come here and are received and supported. I regard myself as a group member. I have always wante...	DavidG	3	1842	Jan 4, 2020 by Bo
	sTEP 1 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66185449/alanon-step-1-1-1-20/	hotrod	4	1827	Jan 4, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change - 1/2 (Preview) Today's reading discusses how we learn in Al-Anon to seek what we need through new/different/healthier places. It suggests that turning to an Alcoholic for affection and support can be like going to the hardware store for bread. When we expect a "good" parent to nurture and support our feelings,...	Iamhere	6	356	Jan 2, 2020 by Temple
	Looking for some support please (Preview) Hello everyone - after being on and or still regularly reading these boards for the last two years, I am back and looking for some support please until I can get to my next f2f meeting. Long story short, but I have separated from my AH. Things at home had been calmer and AH has reported he had stopped drin...	Bettertomorrow	17	2336	Jan 1, 2020 by JerryF
	Courage to Change January 1 (Preview) Happy New Year, MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on the "instant-ness" of our society and how the habit of getting other things (instant coffee, money from an ATM, instant breakfast, etc.) in an instant can impact our desire to get instant answers when coming to Al-Anon. Recovery from...	Skorpi	4	2121	Jan 1, 2020 by Lyne
	New attitude (Preview) Good morning MIP. Need to vent for a moment. Im away on my usual after XMas getaway which Ive done for the last 20 or so years. I suffer with a horrible back and its being HORRIBLE! Also, my A seems to be stuck in misery mode, as she cannot tolerate my living apart from her half the week, which I started ab...	Lyne	13	742	Jan 1, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C Reading 12-31 (Preview) the C2C reading for today, 12-31 speaks about the end of the year and the importance of taking the time to review the year and contemplate our progress We can then thank hp for our success and review what we did to contribute to our success. We will discover that we do play an important ROLL IN OUR...	hotrod	6	2076	Dec 31, 2019 by Iamhere
	Letting him sink, letting go and letting god (Preview) Hi, all, and happy holidays to you. As ever, I am so grateful for this group. I dont post often, but get much support from just reading. i dont have a lot of contact with my ex AH these days but we have a young adult daughter on the autism spectrum who lives with me. He lives in the same town, 5 minutes away. Whe...	norasq	12	4362	Dec 30, 2019 by JerryF
	C2C, 12/30 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/30, is about the choice we have of letting what other people do or say destroy our peace of mind or ruin our day. Do we have to respond to the words of a sick person as though they were the ultimate truth or authority? Do we enjoy the martyr role? Do we need attention and pity? Th...	Lyne	3	1313	Dec 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Patterns (Preview) I was reading on line and I just had a thought cross my mind and wanted some feedback. When it comes to dating, I noticed I pick men who are loners, no friends, no close friendships. They are often alone and disconnected from family. It could be because they destroyed those relationships but I seem to be...	joker	8	1224	Dec 30, 2019 by Aloha
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