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PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

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Aloha · Aloha

I'm having a big "pat-my-back" moment this morning. Before Al-Anon, I used to always take the temperature of those around me. If you were happy, I was happy. If you were sad, I was sad. If you were grumpy, I'd freak out and think it's my fault, and sometimes I'd even get grumpy and defensive. At the same ti...

Jozie · Jozie

One thing I Seem to Always Go Back to When I'm Ready for a "Poor Me" Moment, I Tend to Run Head First in Shame & Guilt... When things are Good, I tend to Do OK in this Department...I Stay Strong in my Program, and in Balancing things in Life... The Moment that I Get Overwhelmed, the Moment My Feelings ge...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, I have just been in a deep and intense family situation with my cousins and extended family. I realise that Alanon has taught me good boundaries- "...let there be no gossip or criticism of each other... " ... ... Chinese whispers can kill a family- lies and half truths. Even truths, if...

Freetime · Freetime

In this January 31 reading, the author shares an interpretation of Tradition One to mean that "unity" includes coming to meetings even when life is going well. Unity meant that when the author shared irrational thinking, the people in the room offered a hug instead of telling them to shape up. Ins...

DavidG · DavidG

a space for me... not read by many... like an early meeting, early on the journey... where people sit on the edge of the seat- waiting for their turn to share... and the other stuff seeps in around the edges... ...stimulating the taste-buds for learning... I had to taylor my talks about not bein...

DavidG · DavidG

I have heard it thousands of times, and said it hundreds of time... the regular opening. It is not cast in steel or bronze. Over time it might change- and a lot of things change. Alanon has district assemblies, and right up to WSO. Ideas come forward all the time and they should. Remits can go before co...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how our perceptions influence our feelings. Specifically the writer describes feelings of hurt and anger because of perceptions of the A in his/her life. The writer decided to pray about the anger and asked for a reminder about the spiritual reason f...

DavidG · DavidG

Howdy, y'all... I find journalling to be very healing. I do all of mine on the laptop, really. I am old enough to recall using those dip pens with inkwells- at school. For the first few years ball-point pens were banned. My dream was to complete the 12 steps- and try and do tradition...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's topic includes - One Day at a Time, Easy Does It and Think. The reading suggests that living with alcoholism, we learn that plans could change at any moment as well as the rules. Most of us develop a deep mistrust of everything and everyone as we felt we could count on nothing. Al-Anon shows u...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 1- 28 speaks to our motives for attending alanon meetings. The reading suggests that many arrive looking for a " quick fix 'only to find a healrhy way of living, true friends and a supportive. spirituAl network so that is why we keep coming back. Make it a great day

Aloha · Aloha

It is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than it is to think yourself into a new way of acting I heard this quote today and really appreciated it. Sometimes, when faced with the enormity of alcoholism, I found it helpful to "act as if". Act as if I trusted God, act as if I'll be okay, act as if oth...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the value of self-expression. The author suggests that, while many of learn the importance of self-expression in Al-Anon, there is a difference between self-expression and using words to control others. The author helps themselve...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

This is just an update from my last thread about whether I should contact AH's doctor about his prescription abuse... He had a follow up appointment with her. He didn't mention that I had contacted her but it was fairly obvious she had told him. I'm not sure what "really" got said but hubby's version wa...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

When I found AlAnon I was full of anger, resentment, poor speech and actions. I thought I was justified because the A in my life was not able to control their drinking. AlAnon challenged me to consider the thought in today's (1/24) ODAT reading: 'If I have heard and accepted that I and the A are both power...

Aloha · Aloha

I celebrated 12 years in the program this weekend. It's amazing how far I've come, and the love and support Al-Anon gives me is why I keep coming back. During the weekend I was doing some re-organizing on my bookshelf. I keep my old journals on my bookshelf as I often refer back to them while I do step work....

lynn0628tammy · lynn0628tammy

I was married to an abusive (in every way possible) alcoholic for 15 years. It took a very old friend of mine to help me realize that I was worth more than what I had been told for so long. One of my children ended up being an addict, not only because of his bio-dad's genetics but because of my ex-husband be...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/27, speaks about alternatives to over-reacting, being a martyr, focusing on being disrespected, and trying to solve everything all at once. The writer talks about learning to take things at face value, and deal with one situation at a time. Reminder: Why do I allow myse...

Debb · Debb

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DavidG · DavidG

I look at my old world- and the pointlessness, and the pain... and some of this i still carry with me. The people who understand me best- are people like me. I needed this guidance, and this company- companionship. I look over the message board here this morning- with pride- and relief. Hope and h...

Debb · Debb

The ODAT for the day speaks about filling the void left when we remove bad or compulsive habitswith the opposite or good habits. The secret is to replace the I Will Not" with "I Will". The reminder, per the ODAT, is that if we are unhappy and critical, that we should seek out what is good and pleasing in o...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for January 24 is about honesty with ourselves. The author has been tempted in the past to smile, make excuses, cancel plans, not make waves -- all in an attempt to please another person. Now, they dare to be their authentic self They will not pretend about their real feelings or about wh...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Just blocked my "qualifier"'s # for calls and texts. I can't control my qualifier's behavior (sending me repetitice abusive, accusative, blaming texts or calling me when drunk/high) but I can take charge of my sanity by stopping texts from showing up on my phone, and I can keep my qualifiers call...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone! How are you all? I am doing well except for some heart problems I have been having, mainly high blood pressure. I started having this issue about 8-12 weeks ago and then I had an episode of SVT (supra ventricular tacchycardia....SP?) where my pulse rate was at 180 for about 6 hours. M...

Debb · Debb

Been thinking about this behavior and how I had to come to terms with it, in relation to the A's addiction. It was by far one of the more difficult issues, for me, that I had to overcome, because of the demeaning impact it had on my life. I read that ... "It is common for substance abusers to share certai...

Debb · Debb

It was suggested that a group inventory maybe beneficial for MIP by 2HP and so here it is!! I am editing for clarity, that I asked Betty first and she gave her blessings to try this for our membership.The Traditions summarize the Al-Anon principles that have proven to help Al-Anon groups function eff...

Aloha · Aloha

I'll define "martyr" before I move on with my post. The dictionary defines martyr in a couple of ways, but the way I'm interested in is "a person who displays or exaggerates their discomfort or distress in order to obtain sympathy or admiration." I was thinking about martyring the other day after a con...

DavidG · DavidG

Ugh! i know there is a solution here. It feels like our money is just slipping through our hands. We had no retirement savings- so 16 years ago we set up a small business. This has gone well- gives us plenty of activity. It is old stuff for me- to ever having enough as a kid. This struck me most with our co...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! Today's reading is about Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. The writer shares that before Al-Anon, others were allowed to decide how one should live, where one should go and do! The reading continues...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their experience learning "detachment with love" - the alcoholic in their life was a restless sleeper who frequently fell out of bed. The author was in the practice of getting up, and helping the alcoholic back into bed. After several AlAnon mee...

Katie55 · Katie55

I am not really sure where to begin. I guess the biggest question is, where do I fit into his whole recovery and treatment. I am not sure if I fit in at all, or what will happen. I am not even sure what I even am to him. I can't even really say what he is to be because his alcoholism made it so our relationshi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I want to let everyone to know who read & commented on my last post, My bonus mom is no longer living. My biological mom is still alive. I am not sure if you all knew what I meant. It is just that I wanted to honor my step-mom. I guess it doesn't really matter who she was, I love her. Right now I am actually co...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I had a bit if a down day yesterday. Was triggered by events from the late 80's. I believed that I was railroaded by a couple of doctors- at the treatment centre I was at- as a family member. Sometimes I think- okay- they must have been right. And other times I belie...

hotrod · hotrod

he Courage to Change reading for today, 1-21 addresses the necessity of taking care of ourselves even if we are busy caring for others, it points out that we cannot abandon our needs and must focus on our feelings and life The reading suggests that we take time to listen to our body,mind and soul a...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Hi. Trying to make some friends here My boyfriend abuse is escalating. I don't have the strength to call the police Yet. He has a warrent. Easy right. No. Anyway I'm in shock after more Of his yelling,and leaveing me ofcoarse. My worst trigger. He is totally heartless When he is like this. Reall...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I was a brainy kid- with great hopes and dreams. I read and worked and read some more. In the classroom I seemed to daydream a lot. Out side of Alanon i do a lot of research and study- and a lot of it online. I read this morning that having big dreams and plans ahead- is just as healthy as r...

Debb · Debb

© Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, IncGroup Conscience: What Is It? Tradition Two tells us that "for our group purpose there is but one authority--a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants--they do not govern." But what is a group consc...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Wondering what happened to the meetings? No one is there. Don't know if it's my phone or what? Thank you,Silgirl

Debb · Debb

Greetings to everyone! Hope everyone is doing well and thriving!! It has been quite a while since I last posted. Not much has changed on the home front other than I am fully retired now and boy does it feel great to look out the window at the falling snow and not have to deal with the car and roads!! Bee...

Debb · Debb

Let It Begin with Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, let the hand of Al-Anon always be there, and Let It Begin with Me. Saw this and wanted to share! It made me smile! Blessing to all!!

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/20, discusses the reasons for having anonymity the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions. The author suggests we can put aside what we are and begin to know who we are. The author says we even need to extend anonymity to the alcoholic. The results of anonymity allow f...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading describes alanon in terms of the power in hearing shares from others, in being heard when ready to share, and knowing that what we say will be received without judgement and with compassion. As I was reading this page, I thought about alanon being layered in a sen...

DavidG · DavidG

An attitude of gratitude does change the mind-set over time. And maybe even the body chemistry, which is a bonus. I used to say- "went from the paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude." I used to formulate solutions in the thinking department- but had extreme difficulty putt...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... it is sweltering hot here- summer has come at last! After doing the steps 6 or 8 times, I think becomes second nature, in the end... a sort of please~sorry~thanks~ routine. This weekend my SO and I went to a rowing regatta. Well rowing is a sort of elite sport... and yes, we ha...

Debb · Debb

Today's ODAT reading reminds us about the importance of Anonymity, which is in two of the Traditons" of Al Anon: 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with s...

Freetime · Freetime

In today's reading, the author writes about "murderous weapons" they have used when handling the alcoholic situation: indignation, accusations, hysteria, nagging, self-righteousness, and more. These weapons kill the desire to find a better life, increase the alcoholic's guilt, and destr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This would have been bonus mom's 76th birthday. Usually i only mention my dad.but today I honor her. She was sometimes very difficult to deal w & very much an adult child of alcoholic parents. It took many years to tell her I love her. She was in my life from the age of 9 until her death in 2011. She was ve...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm struggling a bit right now with an update that my f2f meeting member who has been diagnosed with cancer is back in the hospital in a weakening state. Not much can be done for her at the moment. Less than a month ago she was admitted and now back and not doing well. I'm still working through the shock of th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses the slogan and topic of 'Think'. The author suggests there was a time when a thought entering the mind automatically came out of the mouth! The writer suggests that they've learned to 'think' before speaking. Great list to consider: When I'm tempted t...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

My AH is abusing his pain medication.It is getting worse as each month goes by,the prescription refills are running out sooner each time. He is in bed right now,I'm assuming feeling sick from not having the meds. I'm really tempted to alert his doctor.As a matter of fact I have the email written alrea...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could...

DavidG · DavidG

The only grand-dad i really knew was my father's stepfather. Outwardly he was a friendly cheerful guy. When he came round to our place he stayed out of sight and read a book. He was a doctor, and I went on his doctor's rounds with him one day- sitting in the car. I needed to pee and he stopped the car,...

hotrod · hotrod

the Courage to Change reading for today January 14 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism, It indicates that gradually we will learn that nothing we do or do not do changes the situation. We must learn to focus on ourselves. in Al-Anon we begin to develop the tools th...

el-cee · el-cee

This has been the topic my sponsor and I have been talking about. She is getting older and less mobile and theres a battle going on inside her because shes young at heart and wants to do do do. She has the awareness of her limitations but hasn't fully accepted yet. She knows shes in the middle of a growth spu...

Bo · Bo

Mysterious title? LOL. Well, what I really wanted to throw out there is not just how the steps work, but more, what do they represent, what can they mean. I don't take any position on whether or not a person should do or work the steps. I did. I do. Every day. But that's me. My choice. I do think as far as an exp...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of Mondays reading talks about finding great spiritual freedom. They were allowed to find their own personal understanding of God, and then give others the same freedom. This writer says that their concept of God evolves, and that enables themself to grow and change. With gaining HP a...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Today my AS was sentenced to prison.He will be there close to 5 years. I'm heartbroken and could use some words of wisdom please.I have been down this road so many times before and it just never seems to get easier. As his mother I will never get used to it or be ok with it.

DavidG · DavidG

This year I wanted to focus on Tradition 5, in a healthy way. In the drinking situation we are often forced to make sacrifices. Only by talking things through, do we become aware of the extent of this. And this natural approach to an unnatural situation helps form our personality. I do need to s...

Jack1 · Jack1

My wife and I have had drinks on a fairly regular basis over the many years of our marriage. On occasion one or both of us would drink too much, but that was pretty rare. Earlier this year she completed a weight loss/dieting plan which resulted in getting to nearly the weight she was when we were married, a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays page begins with a metaphor: Alcoholism is a thief. The writer goes on to list many circumstances when this is true: alcoholism may have stolen people we love, jobs, close relationships, safety. For many of us who have lived with active alcoholism our sense of secur...

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	Today's Message 2/1/2020 (Preview) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~	PosiesandPuppies	3	357	Feb 2, 2020 by Lyne
	You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to. (Preview) I'm having a big "pat-my-back" moment this morning. Before Al-Anon, I used to always take the temperature of those around me. If you were happy, I was happy. If you were sad, I was sad. If you were grumpy, I'd freak out and think it's my fault, and sometimes I'd even get grumpy and defensive. At the same ti...	Aloha	12	639	Feb 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	Struggling in Old Habit that Just Wont Go Away! (Preview) One thing I Seem to Always Go Back to When I'm Ready for a "Poor Me" Moment, I Tend to Run Head First in Shame & Guilt... When things are Good, I tend to Do OK in this Department...I Stay Strong in my Program, and in Balancing things in Life... The Moment that I Get Overwhelmed, the Moment My Feelings ge...	Jozie	15	519	Feb 1, 2020 by SerenityRUS
	Step 12... gossip and criticism... (Preview) Hi y'all, I have just been in a deep and intense family situation with my cousins and extended family. I realise that Alanon has taught me good boundaries- "...let there be no gossip or criticism of each other... " ... ... Chinese whispers can kill a family- lies and half truths. Even truths, if...	DavidG	3	505	Feb 1, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today - January 31 (Preview) In this January 31 reading, the author shares an interpretation of Tradition One to mean that "unity" includes coming to meetings even when life is going well. Unity meant that when the author shared irrational thinking, the people in the room offered a hug instead of telling them to shape up. Ins...	Freetime	4	500	Jan 31, 2020 by Maresie888
	My week... (Preview) a space for me... not read by many... like an early meeting, early on the journey... where people sit on the edge of the seat- waiting for their turn to share... and the other stuff seeps in around the edges... ...stimulating the taste-buds for learning... I had to taylor my talks about not bein...	DavidG	2	412	Jan 31, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	The Alanon opening... (Preview) I have heard it thousands of times, and said it hundreds of time... the regular opening. It is not cast in steel or bronze. Over time it might change- and a lot of things change. Alanon has district assemblies, and right up to WSO. Ideas come forward all the time and they should. Remits can go before co...	DavidG	5	1510	Jan 30, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Jan 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how our perceptions influence our feelings. Specifically the writer describes feelings of hurt and anger because of perceptions of the A in his/her life. The writer decided to pray about the anger and asked for a reminder about the spiritual reason f...	yanksfan51	4	292	Jan 30, 2020 by DavidG
	Progress, or perfection...? (Preview) Howdy, y'all... I find journalling to be very healing. I do all of mine on the laptop, really. I am old enough to recall using those dip pens with inkwells- at school. For the first few years ball-point pens were banned. My dream was to complete the 12 steps- and try and do tradition...	DavidG	5	435	Jan 30, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 1/30 (Preview) Today's topic includes - One Day at a Time, Easy Does It and Think. The reading suggests that living with alcoholism, we learn that plans could change at any moment as well as the rules. Most of us develop a deep mistrust of everything and everyone as we felt we could count on nothing. Al-Anon shows u...	Iamhere	2	268	Jan 30, 2020 by Lyne
	c2C READING 1-28 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 1- 28 speaks to our motives for attending alanon meetings. The reading suggests that many arrive looking for a " quick fix 'only to find a healrhy way of living, true friends and a supportive. spirituAl network so that is why we keep coming back. Make it a great day	hotrod	3	331	Jan 30, 2020 by DavidG
	It is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than it is to think yourself into a new way of acting (Preview) It is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than it is to think yourself into a new way of acting I heard this quote today and really appreciated it. Sometimes, when faced with the enormity of alcoholism, I found it helpful to "act as if". Act as if I trusted God, act as if I'll be okay, act as if oth...	Aloha	2	458	Jan 29, 2020 by JerryF
	Courage to Change January 29 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the value of self-expression. The author suggests that, while many of learn the importance of self-expression in Al-Anon, there is a difference between self-expression and using words to control others. The author helps themselve...	Skorpi	4	362	Jan 29, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	What I Learned From Contacting His Doctor (Preview) This is just an update from my last thread about whether I should contact AH's doctor about his prescription abuse... He had a follow up appointment with her. He didn't mention that I had contacted her but it was fairly obvious she had told him. I'm not sure what "really" got said but hubby's version wa...	SunnyFrogs	22	863	Jan 29, 2020 by Iamhere
	'Why Do I Act as Though He Were Willfully Bad?' (Preview) When I found AlAnon I was full of anger, resentment, poor speech and actions. I thought I was justified because the A in my life was not able to control their drinking. AlAnon challenged me to consider the thought in today's (1/24) ODAT reading: 'If I have heard and accepted that I and the A are both power...	Enigmatic	8	706	Jan 29, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Celebrating 12 years (Preview) I celebrated 12 years in the program this weekend. It's amazing how far I've come, and the love and support Al-Anon gives me is why I keep coming back. During the weekend I was doing some re-organizing on my bookshelf. I keep my old journals on my bookshelf as I often refer back to them while I do step work....	Aloha	10	652	Jan 28, 2020 by Aloha
	Needing support (Preview) I was married to an abusive (in every way possible) alcoholic for 15 years. It took a very old friend of mine to help me realize that I was worth more than what I had been told for so long. One of my children ended up being an addict, not only because of his bio-dad's genetics but because of my ex-husband be...	lynn0628tammy	11	1441	Jan 28, 2020 by Jozie
	C2C, 1/27 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/27, speaks about alternatives to over-reacting, being a martyr, focusing on being disrespected, and trying to solve everything all at once. The writer talks about learning to take things at face value, and deal with one situation at a time. Reminder: Why do I allow myse...	Lyne	4	357	Jan 27, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Al Anon Service Tool #6 - Cross-Talk & Loving Interchange (Preview) http://www.alanon.org.za/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/Service-Tool-6-Cros...	Debb	16	2505	Jan 25, 2020 by hotrod
	From help into hope... (Preview) I look at my old world- and the pointlessness, and the pain... and some of this i still carry with me. The people who understand me best- are people like me. I needed this guidance, and this company- companionship. I look over the message board here this morning- with pride- and relief. Hope and h...	DavidG	4	492	Jan 25, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT for 1/25/2020 - (Preview) The ODAT for the day speaks about filling the void left when we remove bad or compulsive habitswith the opposite or good habits. The secret is to replace the I Will Not" with "I Will". The reminder, per the ODAT, is that if we are unhappy and critical, that we should seek out what is good and pleasing in o...	Debb	4	372	Jan 25, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, January 24 (Preview) The reading for January 24 is about honesty with ourselves. The author has been tempted in the past to smile, make excuses, cancel plans, not make waves -- all in an attempt to please another person. Now, they dare to be their authentic self They will not pretend about their real feelings or about wh...	Freetime	4	455	Jan 24, 2020 by DavidG
	Just did it and what a relief! (Preview) Just blocked my "qualifier"'s # for calls and texts. I can't control my qualifier's behavior (sending me repetitice abusive, accusative, blaming texts or calling me when drunk/high) but I can take charge of my sanity by stopping texts from showing up on my phone, and I can keep my qualifiers call...	lgnutah	9	2751	Jan 24, 2020 by Debb
	So frustrated: having heart and BP issues (Preview) Hello everyone! How are you all? I am doing well except for some heart problems I have been having, mainly high blood pressure. I started having this issue about 8-12 weeks ago and then I had an episode of SVT (supra ventricular tacchycardia....SP?) where my pulse rate was at 180 for about 6 hours. M...	andromeda	7	597	Jan 24, 2020 by Debb
	Grandiosity & Addiction (Preview) Been thinking about this behavior and how I had to come to terms with it, in relation to the A's addiction. It was by far one of the more difficult issues, for me, that I had to overcome, because of the demeaning impact it had on my life. I read that ... "It is common for substance abusers to share certai...	Debb	4	514	Jan 23, 2020 by Debb
	"Group Inventory" and "Traditions" for Group Participation ( 1 2 ) (closed) (Preview) It was suggested that a group inventory maybe beneficial for MIP by 2HP and so here it is!! I am editing for clarity, that I asked Betty first and she gave her blessings to try this for our membership.The Traditions summarize the Al-Anon principles that have proven to help Al-Anon groups function eff...	Debb	41	5680	Jan 23, 2020 by DavidG
	Martyrdom (Preview) I'll define "martyr" before I move on with my post. The dictionary defines martyr in a couple of ways, but the way I'm interested in is "a person who displays or exaggerates their discomfort or distress in order to obtain sympathy or admiration." I was thinking about martyring the other day after a con...	Aloha	8	1606	Jan 23, 2020 by Bo
	Worried about finances... (Preview) Ugh! i know there is a solution here. It feels like our money is just slipping through our hands. We had no retirement savings- so 16 years ago we set up a small business. This has gone well- gives us plenty of activity. It is old stuff for me- to ever having enough as a kid. This struck me most with our co...	DavidG	5	485	Jan 23, 2020 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 1/23 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday! Today's reading is about Step 3 - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. The writer shares that before Al-Anon, others were allowed to decide how one should live, where one should go and do! The reading continues...	Iamhere	3	582	Jan 23, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change January 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on their experience learning "detachment with love" - the alcoholic in their life was a restless sleeper who frequently fell out of bed. The author was in the practice of getting up, and helping the alcoholic back into bed. After several AlAnon mee...	Skorpi	5	385	Jan 22, 2020 by Freetime
	The unknown (Preview) I am not really sure where to begin. I guess the biggest question is, where do I fit into his whole recovery and treatment. I am not sure if I fit in at all, or what will happen. I am not even sure what I even am to him. I can't even really say what he is to be because his alcoholism made it so our relationshi...	Katie55	14	798	Jan 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Just to clarify.. (Preview) I want to let everyone to know who read & commented on my last post, My bonus mom is no longer living. My biological mom is still alive. I am not sure if you all knew what I meant. It is just that I wanted to honor my step-mom. I guess it doesn't really matter who she was, I love her. Right now I am actually co...	Hoot Nanny	0	351	Jan 21, 2020 by Hoot Nanny
	My share for today... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I had a bit if a down day yesterday. Was triggered by events from the late 80's. I believed that I was railroaded by a couple of doctors- at the treatment centre I was at- as a family member. Sometimes I think- okay- they must have been right. And other times I belie...	DavidG	0	309	Jan 21, 2020 by DavidG
	C2c reading 1-21 (Preview) he Courage to Change reading for today, 1-21 addresses the necessity of taking care of ourselves even if we are busy caring for others, it points out that we cannot abandon our needs and must focus on our feelings and life The reading suggests that we take time to listen to our body,mind and soul a...	hotrod	5	360	Jan 21, 2020 by DavidG
	My live in boyfriend is abuseive (Preview) Hi. Trying to make some friends here My boyfriend abuse is escalating. I don't have the strength to call the police Yet. He has a warrent. Easy right. No. Anyway I'm in shock after more Of his yelling,and leaveing me ofcoarse. My worst trigger. He is totally heartless When he is like this. Reall...	Beckon2	17	4241	Jan 21, 2020 by milkwood
	Our dreams, and goals... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I was a brainy kid- with great hopes and dreams. I read and worked and read some more. In the classroom I seemed to daydream a lot. Out side of Alanon i do a lot of research and study- and a lot of it online. I read this morning that having big dreams and plans ahead- is just as healthy as r...	DavidG	2	404	Jan 20, 2020 by DavidG
	Our Group Conscience (Preview) © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, IncGroup Conscience: What Is It? Tradition Two tells us that "for our group purpose there is but one authority--a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants--they do not govern." But what is a group consc...	Debb	3	424	Jan 20, 2020 by DavidG
	Meetings (Preview) Wondering what happened to the meetings? No one is there. Don't know if it's my phone or what? Thank you,Silgirl	Beckon2	3	370	Jan 20, 2020 by Bo
	It has been a while!! (Preview) Greetings to everyone! Hope everyone is doing well and thriving!! It has been quite a while since I last posted. Not much has changed on the home front other than I am fully retired now and boy does it feel great to look out the window at the falling snow and not have to deal with the car and roads!! Bee...	Debb	20	1876	Jan 20, 2020 by Bo
	Let It Begin With Me! (Preview) *Let It Begin with Me* When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, let the hand of Al-Anon always be there, and *Let It Begin with Me.* Saw this and wanted to share! It made me smile! Blessing to all!!	Debb	8	988	Jan 20, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C, 1/20 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/20, discusses the reasons for having anonymity the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions. The author suggests we can put aside what we are and begin to know who we are. The author says we even need to extend anonymity to the alcoholic. The results of anonymity allow f...	Lyne	3	349	Jan 20, 2020 by Debb
	Hope for Today Jan 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading describes alanon in terms of the power in hearing shares from others, in being heard when ready to share, and knowing that what we say will be received without judgement and with compassion. As I was reading this page, I thought about alanon being layered in a sen...	yanksfan51	5	383	Jan 19, 2020 by DavidG
	An attitude of gratitude... (Preview) An attitude of gratitude does change the mind-set over time. And maybe even the body chemistry, which is a bonus. I used to say- "went from the paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude." I used to formulate solutions in the thinking department- but had extreme difficulty putt...	DavidG	6	881	Jan 19, 2020 by Bo
	Step 10 and gratitude... (Preview) Hi y'all... it is sweltering hot here- summer has come at last! After doing the steps 6 or 8 times, I think becomes second nature, in the end... a sort of please~sorry~thanks~ routine. This weekend my SO and I went to a rowing regatta. Well rowing is a sort of elite sport... and yes, we ha...	DavidG	4	463	Jan 19, 2020 by Bo
	ODAT for 1/18/2020 (Preview) Today's ODAT reading reminds us about the importance of Anonymity, which is in two of the Traditons" of Al Anon: 11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, and TV. We need guard with s...	Debb	4	339	Jan 18, 2020 by JerryF
	ODAT - January 17 (Preview) In today's reading, the author writes about "murderous weapons" they have used when handling the alcoholic situation: indignation, accusations, hysteria, nagging, self-righteousness, and more. These weapons kill the desire to find a better life, increase the alcoholic's guilt, and destr...	Freetime	8	334	Jan 17, 2020 by JerryF
	Just another birthday to remember... (Preview) This would have been bonus mom's 76th birthday. Usually i only mention my dad.but today I honor her. She was sometimes very difficult to deal w & very much an adult child of alcoholic parents. It took many years to tell her I love her. She was in my life from the age of 9 until her death in 2011. She was ve...	Hoot Nanny	3	408	Jan 17, 2020 by hotrod
	Processing Feelings (Preview) I'm struggling a bit right now with an update that my f2f meeting member who has been diagnosed with cancer is back in the hospital in a weakening state. Not much can be done for her at the moment. Less than a month ago she was admitted and now back and not doing well. I'm still working through the shock of th...	tiredtonite	24	1610	Jan 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading discusses the slogan and topic of 'Think'. The author suggests there was a time when a thought entering the mind automatically came out of the mouth! The writer suggests that they've learned to 'think' before speaking. Great list to consider: When I'm tempted t...	Iamhere	5	380	Jan 16, 2020 by JerryF
	Maybe I should Contact His Doctor(?) ( 1 2 ) (closed) (Preview) My AH is abusing his pain medication.It is getting worse as each month goes by,the prescription refills are running out sooner each time. He is in bed right now,I'm assuming feeling sick from not having the meds. I'm really tempted to alert his doctor.As a matter of fact I have the email written alrea...	SunnyFrogs	43	2412	Jan 16, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	Courage to Change January 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could...	Skorpi	5	517	Jan 15, 2020 by Iamhere
	Me and professionals... (Preview) The only grand-dad i really knew was my father's stepfather. Outwardly he was a friendly cheerful guy. When he came round to our place he stayed out of sight and read a book. He was a doctor, and I went on his doctor's rounds with him one day- sitting in the car. I needed to pee and he stopped the car,...	DavidG	7	428	Jan 15, 2020 by Debb
	C2 C reading 1-14 (Preview) the Courage to Change reading for today January 14 speaks about being powerless over the disease of alcoholism, It indicates that gradually we will learn that nothing we do or do not do changes the situation. We must learn to focus on ourselves. in Al-Anon we begin to develop the tools th...	hotrod	6	563	Jan 14, 2020 by JerryF
	Awareness acceptance and action (Preview) This has been the topic my sponsor and I have been talking about. She is getting older and less mobile and theres a battle going on inside her because shes young at heart and wants to do do do. She has the awareness of her limitations but hasn't fully accepted yet. She knows shes in the middle of a growth spu...	el-cee	5	704	Jan 14, 2020 by DavidG
	Do you need to "do" or "work" the steps? Why? How? (Preview) Mysterious title? LOL. Well, what I really wanted to throw out there is not just how the steps work, but more, what do they represent, what can they mean. I don't take any position on whether or not a person should do or work the steps. I did. I do. Every day. But that's me. My choice. I do think as far as an exp...	Bo	25	6627	Jan 13, 2020 by Debb
	C2C, 1/13 (Preview) The author of Mondays reading talks about finding great spiritual freedom. They were allowed to find their own personal understanding of God, and then give others the same freedom. This writer says that their concept of God evolves, and that enables themself to grow and change. With gaining HP a...	Lyne	5	364	Jan 13, 2020 by El
	Rough Day (Preview) Today my AS was sentenced to prison.He will be there close to 5 years. I'm heartbroken and could use some words of wisdom please.I have been down this road so many times before and it just never seems to get easier. As his mother I will never get used to it or be ok with it.	SunnyFrogs	27	1788	Jan 13, 2020 by Debb
	Servant, service, and "to serve". (Preview) This year I wanted to focus on Tradition 5, in a healthy way. In the drinking situation we are often forced to make sacrifices. Only by talking things through, do we become aware of the extent of this. And this natural approach to an unnatural situation helps form our personality. I do need to s...	DavidG	6	662	Jan 13, 2020 by Aloha
	Feeling lost.. (Preview) My wife and I have had drinks on a fairly regular basis over the many years of our marriage. On occasion one or both of us would drink too much, but that was pretty rare. Earlier this year she completed a weight loss/dieting plan which resulted in getting to nearly the weight she was when we were married, a...	Jack1	28	919	Jan 13, 2020 by Hopeful11
	Hope for Today Jan 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays page begins with a metaphor: Alcoholism is a thief. The writer goes on to list many circumstances when this is true: alcoholism may have stolen people we love, jobs, close relationships, safety. For many of us who have lived with active alcoholism our sense of secur...	yanksfan51	5	382	Jan 12, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
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