@el-cee, You didn't hurt my feelings, I found it offensive and insensitive. There's a difference in advising someone finds a way to accept that death is a possible consequence or outcome of this disease and calling it a solution to the problem.

Surely if someone came here talking about any other life threatening disease the responses would be completely different and more compassionate.  I couldn't imagine anyone saying death is a solution, an end to the disease if I was saying he had cancer. Hopefully nobody would tell me problem solved if he passed away.


You have the right to say and think however you want.  I feel differently. Although my life is very chaotic and full of turmoil I would never even entertain the idea that at least if he dies my problems are over with.

Just because this is a disease that people look down upon and see as self inflicted doesn't mean the A's don't deserve the same amount of compassion and love as any other person with a disease.

My husband does have other health issues that will eventually kill him.  I have accepted that fact. So yes,I was offended to read you suggest death as a solution.

The struggle I am mostly having is as I have said already a couple of times ,I think I was traumatized by his last OD.  I am going to seek the help of a professional  to work through it. And although this thread began being helpful,it no longer is and I will no longer respond to it.

Thanks  everyone for the replies here that I did find helpful.