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"controlling behavior" during meetings
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I'm having an incredible challenge I just cant seem to detach from. I recently relocated to a different part of my state and there is only one alanon meeting. There is someone in the group who seems to believe that she is "in charge" and is responsible for always leading the meeting and its he...
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popped back in .. what's up ?
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Hi everyone .. it's been a long time since I've been in here .. So i have been reading there are problems on this board .. are the problems only with the ads that I see in between shares ? Is there more ? just trying to understand what's been happening .. i've been gone for several years but popped back in .. i w...
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So Here We Are
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For the day? Hour? Minute? The sun came up as usual and my recovery journey continues - work in progress, not cured. An oldtimer once told me that the nice thing about a higher power is that hp is portable - can be taken wherever I go. I hold that thought close as I do all we've shared here. Thanks for being he...
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What's happened here
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To Breakingfree: Hello and welcome back. At the end of 2023 we were told that whoever took care of MIP was not keeping it going. We expected MIP to close for good. But MIP did not disappear, yet most of the membership did. The moderators are gone, people who know how to get rid of the spammers are gone...
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things can only get better
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Things can only get better! Sometimes long distance relationships can be tricky but I can truly say absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am living proof of that. My current significant other is miles away but our trust level is high enough that it is working. Today I see the hope in all of it. Sometimes...
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I am moderator next door, I welcome all of you homeless al-anon's that need a loving place to share
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Hi I am Mama lioness also known as Rosie I'm moderate the site next door the adult children board and I keep it spam free I am checking in several times a day to make sure of that Obviously the moderators here have jumped ship and sadly and I say this very very sincerely I was a member of this board when Be...
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Reviving MIP
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I really miss this message board as it was part of my daily routine. It didn't disappear--I don't understand why or why not, but it's still here. Is there any interest in reviving it from some of our former members?? I've looked online several times and recently emailed WSO to find a new message boar...
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HI...name mamalion was shut down, had to re-register as Rosie922
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I just wanted to say on the original invite (I am locked out, nothing would work so re-registered) but anyway, I just wanted to say that I am saddened to see my old board messed up with spam I moderate the ACOA board next door here on MIP, you can see it on top and you can , if you want, register with us, WE ARE...
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Does anyone know how to stop the non-alanon folks, and/or delete their posts??
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Minding my own business
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When my spouse started in AA, she did 90 in 90 and even went daily a few weeks more. Then she settled into 3xweek plus 1xweek with a sponsor. I thought that would work for her, and I did see progress, just a lot more work needed. After all, I have 13 years in alanon, and I'm still working my program. Well f...
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I didn't know
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I didn't know what an alcoholic /addict was. I have married two of them. One I ended with a divorce, the current one I have tolerated and survived with for 32 years. I think today's kids are exposed to the addiction aspects in life, and hopefully will make better choices for themselves and partners....
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Gratitude
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I was thinking about the power of gratitude. I can be really bogged down with crummy feelings and very much out of touch with what is really driving me to react to things and feel this way. Im talking about the kind of day when grace is not even within reach. I find fault, act catty and wind up feeling small....
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Change is inevitable
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Greetings alanon family~My newly recovering spouse is now dealing with a progressive lung disorder. Like we don't have enough to cope with! This was unexpected news and I'm at least used to coping with the uncontrollable events of my future. My A is not used to having our circumstances unpredict...
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Daughter gives Ultimatum Need Advice!!
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My alcoholic fiancee and I seperated in July, he relapsed, but has returned to AA and has 60 days sober. We started talking again about 3 weeks ago by phone, but have not seen each other because I moved to MS to volunteer with the Katrina relief work. We are still very much in love, and want very much for our...
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Newly sober spouse
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My spouse will celebrate her 1 year anniversary in August. Of course it is not an easy path. But I've noticed of late, that she is shopping and eating in excess, I assume in the place of alcohol. I know I cannot control, change, fix, or anything else. I just have to watch what is taking place and focus o...
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Living with an alcoholic
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Support for life with an alcoholic
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Living with an alcoholic
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Support for life with an alcoholic
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Oh wow! Y'all are still here! (Or are you?)
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A moment in time. Where all gathered to support each other as we were going through our stuff. It was meant, for that moment :) How's Hotrod? DavidG? Are the regulars moved on? I hope to green & sunny pastures. Living this life to the best of What is available. Much love.
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Could use some ESH
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I see that some of you are still on the board and maybe can relate to my situation. My spouse is finally in AA and working with a sponsor. It only took 31 years. So some days I see a person who is more reasonable and grounded, definitely making progress. And some days I have that nasty, moody person aroun...
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I thought he was sober
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I have two sons ages 18 and 20. Both of them smoke marijuna. My older son is in jail and going to prison most likely for a few years. My younger son just graduated but definitely is addicted to marijuana. My husband had been sober from alcohol and marijuana for 20 years with about 4 relapses between those y...
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If you're a Father, a Dad, and your kid isn't doing well . . . .
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. . . . don't lose hope. Sure, I know that Mom's worry, too, but since today is Father's Day, I wanted to offer some hope to any hurting Dad's - yeah, we Dads do have feelings and we hurt, too, when our kids are in a bad place. My son was in a bad place for a long, long time - and his bad decisions took their toll...
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where do I begin?
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I am back on here after a long time! I am so grateful these days! So much has happened since the last time I was on here. I just went over 1 1/2 years since my AH passed away. I am grieving a lot less & am finally on the other side I think. I believe that the reason why I am doing so well besides the fact that I ju...
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I forgot who I am again
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Ive been in Alanon for about 10 years and Ive learned a lot. Well, my husband just had a relapse and my son is in jail going to prison soon. My younger son is graduating. I feel completely like Im in a daze.
I didnt expect my husband to relapse and he also is so moody.
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Advice or Encouragement
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Alcohol has affected me in many ways. I have had some issues with it personally but generally dont drink anymore. My dad had a dependence on drinking at the end of his life. He had gained a lot of weight and had become pre diabetic. Just as he was turning his life around, he got Covid at the beginning of the p...
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Daily readers online
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Does any know how to get the daily readers online?
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Cross talk and other rules
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I'm stumped by something that has come up in my new Al-Anon group. I have recently moved to a new city after spending many years in a place with no meetings and I had to rely only my alanon mojo and literature for survival. I tried for years to get a meeting up and running to no avail. Its one of the reasons I'v...
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Hoping for the Best
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My wife just went into Alcohol treatment in another state, for 30-90 days. It is Day 6 today. I have just started to really share the details with my friends and family. Before that I mainly kept most to myself out of embarrassment or shame. I met my wife on the frozen surface of Lake Superior, during the...
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So my son is sober now, at least as far as I know . . .
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. . . and I know that it's not my business to really know about whether he's really sober or not, so that's progress for me, right ? At any rate, I remember thinking in meetings early on when I heard someone talking about how their loved one was sober after many years of drinking and\or using, "How on earth...
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C2C, Monday, 3/18, ESH
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This reading mentions the 8th Tradition, stating that alanon should always be nonprofessional. It goes on to say that we help one another recover by sharing our experience, strength, and hope. Who better knows the devastating impact of alcoholism? And we can help those who really want help, ins...
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Courage to Change March 16 Progress Not Perfection
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Today's C2C reading asks Al-anon members to take an honest assessment of their recovery. The person in the reading refers back to their 4th step inventory. Although they feel they still have things they would like to work on, they realize their progress as well. They come to understand that to hold th...
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C2C, Monday, 3/11, forgiving imperfections
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This reading speaks about prior to program people may hide in shame from their flaws or beat themselves up. We are reminded to let go of our impatience, self-criticism, and self-hatred. We can ask our Higher Power for help, and accept that making mistakes is a part of life. Therefore we will always b...
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Courage to Change March 8
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Today's reading is about the value of Al-anon tools for finding solutions. In this reading, an Al-anon member attends an Al-anon meeting where members are asked to draw an Al-anon slogan from a basket that is passed and apply that slogan to their day. The next day the member is faced with a problem that...
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C2C, Monday, 3/4, Stop, Look, and Listen
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The writer of this reading felt confused about the slogan "Think" until they heard a child recite stop, look, and, listen, as a safety rule. Think is similar to stop, look, and listen, as it gives us time to look at what's going on, and possibly see our role in it. We have time for spiritual guidance, an...
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C2C, Monday, 2/26, create a better future
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This reading points out that we all make mistakes, but we can grow in self-awareness and learn from our mistakes. When mistakes happen we can make amends for any harm we've done, and we can try not to repeat them again. These experiences can help us create a better future. The reading goes on to say th...
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C2C, Monday, 2/19, the nature of my nature
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This reading made good sense to me. My behavior paralleled the alcoholic, without the alcohol--insane but sober. I blamed others, I took everything personally, and my reactions were based on fears. As time went on, I could see my reactions were less extreme. Some things that used to bother me d...
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February 17 C2C Faith
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Today's Courage to Change topic is Faith. The reading begins with a reminder that my vision be limited by only the outcomes that I can imagine. It suggests that when one places faith in their Higher Power the possibilities are limitless. This takes practice when fear looms large but the reading sugge...
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C2C, Monday,, 2/12, detachment--easy or hard?
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This reading says that detachment is often easier with casual friends, than with people we are emotionally involved with. It can be difficult not to take on the negative frame of mind of family and loved ones. It is suggested we have a choice not to take on other people's moods and attitudes. Detachm...
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Bigwals | Custom Mobile App Development Florida
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Custom Mobile App Development Florida specializes in crafting tailored digital solutions for businesses across the Sunshine State. With a dedicated team of experienced developers and designers, we collaborate closely with our clients to bring their unique app ideas to life. From concept to de...
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February 1 Courage to Change Topic - Change
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Today's reading uses the example of trying to control the drinking of an alcoholic. The person in this reading made many attempts but all were unsuccessful. They continued to try and expected a different result. Unable to admit their powerlessness over the progression of another's alcoholism, th...
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ODAT in alanon, Monday, 2/5, facing shortcomings
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This reading reminds us to not only face our shortcomings, but to see our good qualities as well. They are reality just as much as the faults. We should appreciate our constructive qualities to help us accept ourself as a friend, and to eliminate the roadblocks to serenity. THE REMINDER says that i...
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Get Your Class Help | Hire Someone To Take My Online Class
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Hire Someone To Take My Online Class is a convenient solution for individuals seeking assistance with their online coursework. Whether balancing work, family, or other commitments, this service connects students with qualified professionals who can manage their assignments, quizzes, discu...
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Bigwals | Logo Design Service Florida
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Discover the perfect visual identity for your brand with our Logo Design Service Florida. Whether you're a startup or an established business, our team of skilled designers is dedicated to crafting unique, memorable logos that capture the essence of your brand. From concept to execution, we prio...
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C2C, Monday, 1/29, Are you trying to control another?
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The writer shares how to tell if we are trying to control someone, or if we are sincerely expressing ourselves. They say if we are repeatedly saying the same things, and cannot let it go if we don't get the response we want, then we are probably trying to control and have lost our focus. It's important t...
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January 26 Courage to Change
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Today's reading shares about the value of the Al-anon program as a path for a better way of living. The person in this reading came to Al-anon as many do to find possible ways to stop another from drinking. Continued attendance resulted in a spiritual awakening. If they kept coming back and worked the A...
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C2C, Monday, 1/22, detachment is not a wall
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The writer shares an experience about learning detachment with love. Her husband fell out of bed often. When she first heard the idea of detachment, she stopped helping him back in bed. But as she learned about detachment with love, from that point on she still left him on the floor, but covered him...
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Courage to Change January 18 Keep the Focus on Yourself
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Today's reading reminds us to keep to our own side of the street. It mentions a newcomer who felt helping their alcoholic was the right thing to do. Al-anon suggests we focus on our own needs and allow others to the freedom to make their own choices. The newcomer felt the Al-anon suggestion to allow the a...
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C2C, 1/15, why leap into the future?
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This page reminds us about the importance of staying in the here and now. Worry about the future can give us depression, distraction, and fear. Does worrying in advance help, or will it be easier to face? Does it protect us? The answer to all of these questions is NO! It merely robs us of today: ODA...
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Courage to Change August 31 - Live and Let Live
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Today's reading shows an example of Al-Anon's slogan Live and Let Live in action. As I often do when posting a daily, I searched the index for the associated Al-Anon topic. I was surprised by how many topics I felt fit well for this page. The reading mentions a desire for others to fulfill our needs rathe...
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C2C, Monday, 1/8, Let go and let HP
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This reading discusses acceptance of the acknowledgement that we cannot have control over others--that we are truly powerless. The writer realized that the alcoholic must have their own HP, and it is up to them to work out their future. Letting go and letting God allows us to feel like a new person....
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January 7 Hope for Today Powerlessness
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Today's reading is about Al-anon's 3 Cs in relation to alcoholism. I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I can't cure it. The person in this reading reflects on their past actions during their growing up in a home with alcoholism and wonders if their less than perfect behavior - fights with their sibl...
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Thought for the day
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I love the slogan, Progress not Perfection. My FOO was so damaging that I just felt like a complete failure and idiot in every way. Moving into adulthood I just thought I could never be adequate, even though I was successful in my career. This program has taught me to see what I can do right, and to look...
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We are still here
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Since we are still here, I'm going to share. I'm having a full dose of being powerless. One of my brother's has terminal cancer, and besides for being a supportive sister, there is nothing I can do to change his cancer status. I pray, I've given him two healing stones, we send organic fruit, etc. But...
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back to MIP, back to work
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hello MIP family, I just checked, I have been on here last time in 2014....wow, what a journey it has been. Gratitude all the way for MIP and Al Anon, as it saved my life many times, and made me walk in the good direction. Life has been good...mostly, as I carry the lessons on a daily basis and keep sharing, j...
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Checking in
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Bernie here. It's been a busy day and its not over yet. I'm picking up a 26 year sobriety medallion from my home group tonight and whenever I get one of those I remember the love and support that al-anon has shown me over the years. Thank you.
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Holiday Greetings
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For anyone still checking in, I'm wishing you peace, happiness, and health in the new year, one day at a time. Lyne
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What to do now?
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Long story short got into a relationship with a woman this year who had not only major addiction issues but many other mental health issues. It has been truly toxic and after a year of enabling her behavior in many ways (buying alcohol, being her personal taxi when she called, paying for moving costs, e...
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Critically ill loved one
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My mother and father are my qualifiers. My mother is gravely ill. She's not drinking now because she's in a semi coma and bed bound. Her drinking had gotten pretty bad. She would drink from 5pm until 2 or 3am. At the beginning of September she went to the ER because she had the flu and wasn't getting bett...
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I haven’t told my story
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I dated an alcoholic on and off for three years. Three months in he told me he was an alcoholic, I went into denial. My father was an alcoholic, I had aca recovery yet still I struggled to break free. He broke up with me suddenly, I was confused , a week later he wanted to try again. So we did. And so the dance be...
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new and cautious
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Hello, I did not grow up with an alcoholic. My husband of one year is an alcoholic and its taken me some time to fully understand and accept this. I have known for some time that my words, my emotions, my stress and pain due to his drinking - although real and valid - are not helping him and are making me feel...
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Holiday wishes
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In case anyone is checking in, wishing everyone a happy Thanksgiving tomorrow. Lyne :)
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