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Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years.
Wondering if others have struggled with this? Or if other spouses include them in anniversaries/meetings?
Welcome Klynn13. I waited so long for my spouse to go to AA that I am just grateful the drinking has stopped, and I see little bits and pieces of growth. But it is a very long journey. Each individual will handle their recovery in their own way. If your husband needs/wants to keep his private, then that's what he needs to do. I would not have survived my spouse's drinking had I not joined alanon. I wonder if that might be beneficial for you? I never felt I needed the help, but alcoholism is a serious illness and the entire family gets affected, even if the person is sober. You might try a meeting in person or online--it has helped my self-esteem and coping skills in ways I never expected. Please feel free to post on the board--I try to check in daily and post once a week. Best, Lyne
