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Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor points to the classic Don Quixote tale of errantly directed effort. Self proclaiming as a hero, he mistakes windmills for threatening giants and exhausts himself in the futile attempt to slay them.We, too, can pick fights with imaginary, or undefeatable targets.Reminder - D...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Dear fellow MIP friends, I am struggling emotionally. My AH and I separated two months ago and I am now living on my own with my four wonderful children. The challenge is that I know 'logically' we are in the right place and I have made the right decision, but I am not feeling it. I still feel profoundly s...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer brings up the idea that sometimes it feels as though they have forgotten what they learned in program. For example if they havent practiced detachment for quite a while, it can feel as though they forgot what they knew. Its not that they have forgotten. The situation may be the same, but w...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading points out that newcomers to Al-Anon are often distraught, overwhelmed, and doing all the things we in the program have learned not to do -- manipulating, complaining, trying to outwit the alcoholic, etc. But we need to remember not to judge the newcomers or try to force decisions on...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading tells a story of a couple of ducks who are separated from others by a patch of ice on a frozen lake and their struggle to join others. The larger group of ducks had busily swam and reached a large open area of water. One of the two isolated ducks tried to scramble over the patch of ice that sep...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to separate the alcoholism from the person in our lives. In my case, I should say for so much of the time- the inability to separate the alcoholism from the person. The writer describes a perception she had of her alcoholic father that reduce...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Sorry - I posted this by accident in the forum - so am reposting here.Today's reading talks about the importance of self care. The author talks about facing a stressful situation or tackling a tough problem and once they have done everything they can for the moment, they instead do something that wil...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading reminds us that we came to Al-Anon to get something for ourselves, but had no idea how that was intimately involved with giving. Our willingness to help others, our sharing and giving of ourselves benefits US in the long run. TODAY'S REMINDER: The more I give of myself and the more gene...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Hi Everyone, My schedule has suddenly got crazy busy. Is anyone willing to take over Thursdays One Day At a Time posts?

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meeting opened their eyes to something they had not considered before: shouting and slamming doors might not be the best way to handle an already difficult situation. Loud and angry actions demonstrated the author's frustration and p...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Hope for Today falls under the topic "Facing the Past," in our reader. The reading speaks about fear of confrontation. It talks about the before recovery experiences of an Alanon member who was raised in a home with alcoholism. It then tells of the positive changes the member made as a result f...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor discussed the negative impact of 'needing' a partner to change in order to find contentment. This and other concepts became part of the unlearning that is a valuable part of Alanon recovery.Willingness and ability to adapt to what is while sourcing our contentment from an inne...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday speaks to the times when we wish to manage others: directing, admonishing, dont wear that, time for church, dont take the car, and on and on. This kind of attitude deprives others from their freedom of choice and dignity. Under the guise of doing good, we can act like a mother t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about step one; its about recognizing and accepting powerlessness and about recognizing when life has become unmanageable. The writer describes step one by acknowledging that sometimes it is helpful to try and see the unmanageable part before acceptin...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about originally viewing God as their adversary and engaging in a battle of wills, which rapidly led them to an emotional rock bottom. They came to Al-Anon but were reluctant to admit they were powerless. Eventually, with Al-Anon's help they learned how to surrender and final...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been a whole year since my mom died. I am feeling the after effects of visiting my mom's grave twice in one week. I am not particularly sad at the moment. I am just tired. I guess that is par for the course after dealing so much w/ grief. I am so glad that I can honor her once a year. Our service for my siste...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer shares that they are aware of miracles happening in their life -- and it is gratitude that makes it possible to see those miracles. Being guided to Al-Anon when they felt hopeless was a miracle, and they found healing among people who had been in the same situation. Anything from havin...

WendyP · WendyP

Thank You Paul for your sharing, I always look at God's Timing, and it is once again "spot on" for me. As I was only thinking to myself the other day, after I was talking to my God, with my Prayer List,[ which is becoming longer and longer], especially the my Family members, and the other people who I care ab...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Before Al-Anon, life was like stumbling around in a dark room. Al-Anon gave me the power to turn the light on and to see clearly the difficulties and the good. ------------ Today's reading was short, though not as short as I have suggested above. I am currently in the grips of a family crisis and I cannot...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Hope for Today reading tells the story of an Alanon member's growing up years with an alcoholic parent. The parent spoke directly to them through their alcoholism making what the alcoholic believed to be negative statements about the child and the child's future. The Alanon member wanted...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Words can become familiar and routine to us rather than significant and meaningful, even the Serenity Prayer, one of the most powerful Alanon tools.This writer suggests giving attention and thought to the words as we say them to increase our understanding and ability recognize the difference and...

Lyne · Lyne

(Sorry for such an early posting for tomorrow.) The writer of this passage says we should try to concentrate on our similarities, not our differences. If we realize why we are all here, we need never feel alone. Many came to the rooms feeling we were set apart by our circumstances, leading to fear, sh...

JerryF · JerryF

I am reminded this morning of the many tools I have from our program as my wife hands me the current FORUM monthly magazine. I am amazed and grateful for this tool when I sit down avoiding what might be distracting me and getting to the shares in this little monthly. I am not finished with this issue bec...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about accepting that we cannot force solutions or make changes to anyone other than ourselves. The writer describes what it looks like when a young child is trying to do a puzzle; if the piece doesnt fit they try to force it anyway, pushing with all their might...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Happy Birthday Debb! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with things that give you happiness. Grateful you're a part of our MIP recovery family. (((hugs)) T T

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Well... I guess I have a job. I have had to go through a lot of hoops to secure this contract. I still don't have "official" word that I have the position. But this afternoon FedEx brought two boxes of computer equipment to my door so I'm going to take that as official word. The job is through an outside recr...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's reader talks about the importance of service and how it brings them into contact with newcomers. The author shares that they can get caught up in the trivial problems of everyday life and lose perspective, but talking with newcomers brings them back to reality. When they set out literature,...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today we are given a story; one we have heard many times. A man marries a woman who is an alcoholic and his life descends into misery because he cannot change her. When he discovers Al-Anon, he realizes that the only way forward is to change himself. For whatever reason, perhaps because the wife no longe...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer shares that when they have racing thoughts and feel they are in chaos, sometimes serenity is just a phone call away. Having someone else acknowledge what is happening, immediately diminishes its effect. The mind becomes more orderly, and the writer is able to decide to set their tro...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Greetings MIP family. I am looking for a co-helper to assist with the Webhelper position. Self nominations and a vote will take place on the business board. Hopefully we will get some volunteers. If you are interested, the link is available below. Please check the business board here: https://mi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading speaks about physical violence. Some alcoholics become abusive, especially when they drink. The author shares that Al-Anon gives no advice regarding relationships. It is up to each Al-Anon member to decide for themselves when to continue a relationship and when to en...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Just enough, says today's author; we learn that alcoholism: * Is devastating to health, spirituality, and happiness· * Has no cure, but can be arrested when the alcoholic is ready· * Is associated with, but is not the cause of, our own irrational behavior and decline. * And fina...

Lyne · Lyne

For Monday, 9/27, the writer reflects upon if only they could know whats to come, have infinite wisdom, and the knowledge of how to spend each moment.But in meetings they are reminded we can only work with what we have today. And perhaps it is better off not knowing, because our focus would be trying to o...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading is about an Alanon member who is obsessing about a visit from their parents. They are concerned about their parents judgement of their live, their way of living. They recall an obsessive battle to perfect their life, home and yard and that this struggle caused them to feel distanced f...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is especially helpful to those of us who are adult children of alcoholics. The writer describes her attempts to create a perfect family when she got married at age 20. Her parents had divorced, and she was determined to have a marriage that thrived. As problems c...

texas yankee · texas yankee

My up and down and sometimes sideways situation with my adult son (alcohol, drugs, and mental health issues) about which I've received a lot of very helpful ESH from you wonderful folks, is going OK - for today - tomorrow will be here soon enough, but for today, things seem to be going OK - LOL, I was relax...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about taking Step Three over and over again. They reflect that they often wait until a problem becomes overwhelming before finally giving in and turning it over to their Higher Power. However they also reflect that the awareness they have gained in Al-Anon lets them know that...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is by someone who viewed their experiences with alcoholism as a technicolor extravaganza on a big screen, with their name in lights. It seemed like a big, splashy story. They told it again and again, until they realized it had become smaller, like a home movie. Now, instead of being...

Bbrave · Bbrave

We suffer from delusions that we "run the show." Despite lots of evidence that this is not so, we keep trying to run things. We must detach and look inward. TODAY'S REMINDER: I will try not to outmaneuver anyone else, but will proceed quietly to live my life so I will have less reason for self-reproach. I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is about the 5th step: admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (I like to re-write this one: admitted to our Higher Power...") This sharing is very intimate, and many have found the experience of sharing to be freeing. For th...

JerryF · JerryF

Practice, practice, practice. Just got back from viewing a mobile home that was gifted to us by my brother-in-law. Open mindedness?? When you turn and leave outcomes up to Higher Power and also remain ready to be generous and caring with and to others special things come to pass and for me it is not...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page looks at an early tendency to think we are exceptions, that perhaps the steps don't apply to us. I'm not truly powerless, my life is not unmanageable, no need for me to return to sanity...right?As we begin to understand the meaning of the steps and are able to be more honest, however, we se...

JerryF · JerryF

Yep I know "needing a Higher Power". I thought that I had some powerful stuff going for me based upon my past, my history. Early program was an incredible adventure for me and my life as I experience miracles and had a tight relationship with our program and Higher Power. I have had progressive mira...

Iamhere · Iamhere

MIP family - thank you for your support and prayers as I am trying to be of maximum service to my parents. It's been a significant challenge and I am feeling very overwhelmed. I'll spend time when I have time sharing more but, for today, my mother has been placed in assisted living and my father is reluc...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 9/20, the member suggests if we have an attitude of contempt for our alcoholic, we need to seriously examine ourselves. The member reminds us that As have an illness which includes being confused and guilt-ridden human beings with a badly battered ego. They do not need to...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentments and bitterness, and learning to forgive. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and experiencing many forms of mistreatment. The result included feeling like an extremely angry and resentful victim...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading speaks about a newcomer to Al-anon who noted that many Al-anon readings referenced a higher power. The newcomer wasn't certain they wanted to have a relationship with a higher power or what they would even do with one if they had it. They were relieved to learn that members of the fello...

Freetime · Freetime

Chapter Four of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Negotiating Boundaries," makes the point that knowing what is good for us and what is not good for us is a foundation for setting healthy limits (boundaries) for ourselves, in relationships and other parts of life. Boundaries are for our ow...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's reader talks about the progress the author has made and that when they are troubled about what lies ahead, they can look back at where they have been. Time offers evidence that the Al-Anon program works - they see growth in their lives and the longer they live by these principles, the more evide...

JerryF · JerryF

My former sponsor, DON,T!! taught me a lot which I came to accept as very very valid because of how it changed my life. One of the most important, if not the most important is that Humility is "Being teachable" which has always worked when I work it. Patience is always good for my heart and spirit and the...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today we are asked to consider the validity of the points we get stuck on. If others are not responding the way we expect, perhaps we need to adjust our own thinking, or perhaps our sense of timing. We are asked to consider others' right to a different point of view. TODAY'S REMINDER: An open mind is a hand...

Youknowme · Youknowme

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Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their challenges sleeping. They tried everything from hot milk to seeing the doctor, and yet still could not sleep. The author was too exhausted to pay much attention to anything outside of their own needs. One day at an Al-Anon meeting, anoth...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading focuses on the topic of expectations. It uses an example of an Alanon member who has badly injured their foot. They are in severe pain and unable to get to their in person Alanon meetings. The member admits that though they see themselves as an independent person with good creative pro...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Both AA and Alanon emphasize that their programs are of a spiritual, not religious nature. This focus allows each member to use Alanon steps and principles in line with their personal religious (or non) perspective, without the unpleasant awkwardness of another member insisting on branding the p...

Lyne · Lyne

For Monday, 9/13, the member talks about time as a special kind of checking account: there are 24 hours to spend, and they are precious. You can make a positive change and enrich your life by using the 12 Steps, HP, alanon meetings, people, calls, and literature. You can spend your time to grow, enjo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about acknowledging and feeling our feelings rather than stamping them down. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic home where the lesson was dont feel. The writer grew up distrusting feelings and in effect distrusting him/her-self. The wr...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading describes recovery as a triangle with higher power at the top and the Alanon program, tools and life at the other areas of the triangle. The reading goes on to say, "As long as I keep everything in that order, with my higher power as my sole focus, everything in my life works serenely, eve...

Freetime · Freetime

Chapter 3 of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Communicating Clearly," explains that in alcoholic relationships, some of us learned to hide and bottle up our feelings, and some of us became "compulsive truth-tellers," unburdening ourselves on the nearest person, whether they wanted t...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

In today's reader the author talks about having a nagging suspicion that they weren't doing their Step 4 inventory right. With their HPs help, they finally realised that it wasn't that they had done their Fourth Step wrong, but rather that they had the same sense of inadequacy about their whole life...

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	10/19 ODAT Don’t Fight the Windmills (Preview) Today's contributor points to the classic Don Quixote tale of errantly directed effort. Self proclaiming as a hero, he mistakes windmills for threatening giants and exhausts himself in the futile attempt to slay them.We, too, can pick fights with imaginary, or undefeatable targets.Reminder - D...	Enigmatic	1	643	Oct 19, 2021 by DM2021
	Grieving for what is lost (Preview) Dear fellow MIP friends, I am struggling emotionally. My AH and I separated two months ago and I am now living on my own with my four wonderful children. The challenge is that I know 'logically' we are in the right place and I have made the right decision, but I am not feeling it. I still feel profoundly s...	Bettertomorrow	6	1031	Oct 18, 2021 by bud
	C2C, Monday, 10/18, have I forgotten what I learned? (Preview) The writer brings up the idea that sometimes it feels as though they have forgotten what they learned in program. For example if they havent practiced detachment for quite a while, it can feel as though they forgot what they knew. Its not that they have forgotten. The situation may be the same, but w...	Lyne	3	3240	Oct 18, 2021 by bud
	October 15 - ODAT - Judgment and Control (Preview) Today's reading points out that newcomers to Al-Anon are often distraught, overwhelmed, and doing all the things we in the program have learned not to do -- manipulating, complaining, trying to outwit the alcoholic, etc. But we need to remember not to judge the newcomers or try to force decisions on...	Freetime	2	3398	Oct 18, 2021 by DM2021
	October 16 Hope for Today (Preview) Today's reading tells a story of a couple of ducks who are separated from others by a patch of ice on a frozen lake and their struggle to join others. The larger group of ducks had busily swam and reached a large open area of water. One of the two isolated ducks tried to scramble over the patch of ice that sep...	tiredtonite	3	591	Oct 18, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to separate the alcoholism from the person in our lives. In my case, I should say for so much of the time- the inability to separate the alcoholism from the person. The writer describes a perception she had of her alcoholic father that reduce...	yanksfan51	3	2797	Oct 17, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C - self care 16th October (posted by mistake in the forum) (Preview) Sorry - I posted this by accident in the forum - so am reposting here.Today's reading talks about the importance of self care. The author talks about facing a stressful situation or tackling a tough problem and once they have done everything they can for the moment, they instead do something that wil...	Bettertomorrow	2	2678	Oct 17, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Oct. 14, ODAT - Getting what we want (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that we came to Al-Anon to get something for ourselves, but had no idea how that was intimately involved with giving. Our willingness to help others, our sharing and giving of ourselves benefits US in the long run. TODAY'S REMINDER: The more I give of myself and the more gene...	Bbrave	2	3412	Oct 14, 2021 by DM2021
	Thursdays - ODAT (Preview) Hi Everyone, My schedule has suddenly got crazy busy. Is anyone willing to take over Thursdays One Day At a Time posts?	Bbrave	0	2232	Oct 13, 2021 by Bbrave
	Courage to Change October 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meeting opened their eyes to something they had not considered before: shouting and slamming doors might not be the best way to handle an already difficult situation. Loud and angry actions demonstrated the author's frustration and p...	Skorpi	2	2168	Oct 13, 2021 by Daffodils
	October 9 Hope for Today - Facing the Past (Preview) Today's Hope for Today falls under the topic "Facing the Past," in our reader. The reading speaks about fear of confrontation. It talks about the before recovery experiences of an Alanon member who was raised in a home with alcoholism. It then tells of the positive changes the member made as a result f...	tiredtonite	2	3294	Oct 13, 2021 by Lyne
	10/12/21 C2C Wear Sunscreen so I Don’t Get Sunburned (Preview) Today's contributor discussed the negative impact of 'needing' a partner to change in order to find contentment. This and other concepts became part of the unlearning that is a valuable part of Alanon recovery.Willingness and ability to adapt to what is while sourcing our contentment from an inne...	Enigmatic	4	2894	Oct 13, 2021 by Enigmatic
	ODAT in alanon, 10/11, managing others (Preview) The reading for Monday speaks to the times when we wish to manage others: directing, admonishing, dont wear that, time for church, dont take the car, and on and on. This kind of attitude deprives others from their freedom of choice and dignity. Under the guise of doing good, we can act like a mother t...	Lyne	2	2193	Oct 11, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Oct 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about step one; its about recognizing and accepting powerlessness and about recognizing when life has become unmanageable. The writer describes step one by acknowledging that sometimes it is helpful to try and see the unmanageable part before acceptin...	yanksfan51	4	2702	Oct 11, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Oct 9th C2C - Powerlessness and letting go (Preview) Today's author talks about originally viewing God as their adversary and engaging in a battle of wills, which rapidly led them to an emotional rock bottom. They came to Al-Anon but were reluctant to admit they were powerless. Eventually, with Al-Anon's help they learned how to surrender and final...	Bettertomorrow	3	2862	Oct 10, 2021 by JerryF
	It has been a year(september 30th) (Preview) It has been a whole year since my mom died. I am feeling the after effects of visiting my mom's grave twice in one week. I am not particularly sad at the moment. I am just tired. I guess that is par for the course after dealing so much w/ grief. I am so glad that I can honor her once a year. Our service for my siste...	Hoot Nanny	3	2424	Oct 9, 2021 by DM2021
	October 8 - C2C - Miracles (Preview) Today's writer shares that they are aware of miracles happening in their life -- and it is gratitude that makes it possible to see those miracles. Being guided to Al-Anon when they felt hopeless was a miracle, and they found healing among people who had been in the same situation. Anything from havin...	Freetime	2	2232	Oct 9, 2021 by DM2021
	Visiting the Power Of the Serenity Prayer again. (Preview) Thank You Paul for your sharing, I always look at God's Timing, and it is once again "spot on" for me. As I was only thinking to myself the other day, after I was talking to my God, with my Prayer List,[ which is becoming longer and longer], especially the my Family members, and the other people who I care ab...	WendyP	1	2996	Oct 8, 2021 by WendyP
	Oct. 7, ODAT - Let there be light (Preview) Before Al-Anon, life was like stumbling around in a dark room. Al-Anon gave me the power to turn the light on and to see clearly the difficulties and the good. ------------ Today's reading was short, though not as short as I have suggested above. I am currently in the grips of a family crisis and I cannot...	Bbrave	3	3304	Oct 7, 2021 by JerryF
	October 2nd Hope for Today From Fear of Failure to Courage (Preview) Today's Hope for Today reading tells the story of an Alanon member's growing up years with an alcoholic parent. The parent spoke directly to them through their alcoholism making what the alcoholic believed to be negative statements about the child and the child's future. The Alanon member wanted...	tiredtonite	3	2464	Oct 6, 2021 by Lyne
	10/5/21 ODAT – Power of the Serenity Prayer (Preview) Words can become familiar and routine to us rather than significant and meaningful, even the Serenity Prayer, one of the most powerful Alanon tools.This writer suggests giving attention and thought to the words as we say them to increase our understanding and ability recognize the difference and...	Enigmatic	4	4319	Oct 5, 2021 by JerryF
	C2C, Monday, 10/4, I am not alone (Preview) (Sorry for such an early posting for tomorrow.) The writer of this passage says we should try to concentrate on our similarities, not our differences. If we realize why we are all here, we need never feel alone. Many came to the rooms feeling we were set apart by our circumstances, leading to fear, sh...	Lyne	4	2243	Oct 5, 2021 by Freetime
	And then there is literature... (Preview) I am reminded this morning of the many tools I have from our program as my wife hands me the current FORUM monthly magazine. I am amazed and grateful for this tool when I sit down avoiding what might be distracting me and getting to the shares in this little monthly. I am not finished with this issue bec...	JerryF	2	2803	Oct 4, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about accepting that we cannot force solutions or make changes to anyone other than ourselves. The writer describes what it looks like when a young child is trying to do a puzzle; if the piece doesnt fit they try to force it anyway, pushing with all their might...	yanksfan51	3	2061	Oct 3, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Happy Birthday DM (Preview) Happy Birthday Debb! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with things that give you happiness. Grateful you're a part of our MIP recovery family. (((hugs)) T T	tiredtonite	8	2231	Oct 3, 2021 by DM2021
	Sharing Good News (Preview) Well... I guess I have a job. I have had to go through a lot of hoops to secure this contract. I still don't have "official" word that I have the position. But this afternoon FedEx brought two boxes of computer equipment to my door so I'm going to take that as official word. The job is through an outside recr...	tiredtonite	5	812	Oct 2, 2021 by Iamhere
	2nd Oct 2021, C2C - the importance of service (Preview) Today's reader talks about the importance of service and how it brings them into contact with newcomers. The author shares that they can get caught up in the trivial problems of everyday life and lose perspective, but talking with newcomers brings them back to reality. When they set out literature,...	Bettertomorrow	3	2020	Oct 2, 2021 by DM2021
	Sept. 30, ODAT - Story Time (Preview) Today we are given a story; one we have heard many times. A man marries a woman who is an alcoholic and his life descends into misery because he cannot change her. When he discovers Al-Anon, he realizes that the only way forward is to change himself. For whatever reason, perhaps because the wife no longe...	Bbrave	3	891	Oct 1, 2021 by JerryF
	October 1 - C2C - Reaching Out (Preview) Today's writer shares that when they have racing thoughts and feel they are in chaos, sometimes serenity is just a phone call away. Having someone else acknowledge what is happening, immediately diminishes its effect. The mind becomes more orderly, and the writer is able to decide to set their tro...	Freetime	3	2074	Oct 1, 2021 by JerryF
	Call for service: Co-share the Webhelper role. (Preview) Greetings MIP family. I am looking for a co-helper to assist with the Webhelper position. Self nominations and a vote will take place on the business board. Hopefully we will get some volunteers. If you are interested, the link is available below. Please check the business board here: https://mi...	WebHelper	4	671	Sep 30, 2021 by DM2021
	Courage to Change Sept. 29 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading speaks about physical violence. Some alcoholics become abusive, especially when they drink. The author shares that Al-Anon gives no advice regarding relationships. It is up to each Al-Anon member to decide for themselves when to continue a relationship and when to en...	Skorpi	4	557	Sep 29, 2021 by JerryF
	9/28/21 ODAT – What Do We Learn About Alcoholism in AlAnon? (Preview) Just enough, says today's author; we learn that alcoholism: * Is devastating to health, spirituality, and happiness· * Has no cure, but can be arrested when the alcoholic is ready· * Is associated with, but is not the cause of, our own irrational behavior and decline. * And fina...	Enigmatic	5	1528	Sep 28, 2021 by JerryF
	C2C, 9/27, if only (Preview) For Monday, 9/27, the writer reflects upon if only they could know whats to come, have infinite wisdom, and the knowledge of how to spend each moment.But in meetings they are reminded we can only work with what we have today. And perhaps it is better off not knowing, because our focus would be trying to o...	Lyne	2	894	Sep 27, 2021 by DM2021
	September 25th Hope for Today - Control (Preview) Today's reading is about an Alanon member who is obsessing about a visit from their parents. They are concerned about their parents judgement of their live, their way of living. They recall an obsessive battle to perfect their life, home and yard and that this struggle caused them to feel distanced f...	tiredtonite	1	2540	Sep 27, 2021 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Sept 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is especially helpful to those of us who are adult children of alcoholics. The writer describes her attempts to create a perfect family when she got married at age 20. Her parents had divorced, and she was determined to have a marriage that thrived. As problems c...	yanksfan51	4	635	Sep 26, 2021 by Iamhere
	"asking for a friend" - really . . . (separating finances) (Preview) My up and down and sometimes sideways situation with my adult son (alcohol, drugs, and mental health issues) about which I've received a lot of very helpful ESH from you wonderful folks, is going OK - for today - tomorrow will be here soon enough, but for today, things seem to be going OK - LOL, I was relax...	texas yankee	4	2147	Sep 25, 2021 by texas yankee
	Sept 25th C2C Step 3 (Preview) Today's author talks about taking Step Three over and over again. They reflect that they often wait until a problem becomes overwhelming before finally giving in and turning it over to their Higher Power. However they also reflect that the awareness they have gained in Al-Anon lets them know that...	Bettertomorrow	1	1210	Sep 25, 2021 by DM2021
	September 24 - C2C - True Perspective (Preview) Today's reading is by someone who viewed their experiences with alcoholism as a technicolor extravaganza on a big screen, with their name in lights. It seemed like a big, splashy story. They told it again and again, until they realized it had become smaller, like a home movie. Now, instead of being...	Freetime	3	2217	Sep 24, 2021 by Daffodils
	Sept. 23, ODAT - Delusions (Preview) We suffer from delusions that we "run the show." Despite lots of evidence that this is not so, we keep trying to run things. We must detach and look inward. TODAY'S REMINDER: I will try not to outmaneuver anyone else, but will proceed quietly to live my life so I will have less reason for self-reproach. I...	Bbrave	4	1327	Sep 23, 2021 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change September 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is about the 5th step: admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (I like to re-write this one: admitted to our Higher Power...") This sharing is very intimate, and many have found the experience of sharing to be freeing. For th...	Skorpi	1	2240	Sep 22, 2021 by Freetime
	If you keep an open mind.... (Preview) Practice, practice, practice. Just got back from viewing a mobile home that was gifted to us by my brother-in-law. Open mindedness?? When you turn and leave outcomes up to Higher Power and also remain ready to be generous and caring with and to others special things come to pass and for me it is not...	JerryF	4	1252	Sep 22, 2021 by DM2021
	9/21/21 ODAT - It Can't Be Me...Can It? (Preview) Today's page looks at an early tendency to think we are exceptions, that perhaps the steps don't apply to us. I'm not truly powerless, my life is not unmanageable, no need for me to return to sanity...right?As we begin to understand the meaning of the steps and are able to be more honest, however, we se...	Enigmatic	2	1126	Sep 21, 2021 by DM2021
	Being Human and needing a Higher Power (Preview) Yep I know "needing a Higher Power". I thought that I had some powerful stuff going for me based upon my past, my history. Early program was an incredible adventure for me and my life as I experience miracles and had a tight relationship with our program and Higher Power. I have had progressive mira...	JerryF	8	680	Sep 20, 2021 by JerryF
	Honored to share 9/19 with Jerry (Preview) MIP family - thank you for your support and prayers as I am trying to be of maximum service to my parents. It's been a significant challenge and I am feeling very overwhelmed. I'll spend time when I have time sharing more but, for today, my mother has been placed in assisted living and my father is reluc...	Iamhere	6	2379	Sep 20, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT in alanon, 9/20, accepting reality and my A (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 9/20, the member suggests if we have an attitude of contempt for our alcoholic, we need to seriously examine ourselves. The member reminds us that As have an illness which includes being confused and guilt-ridden human beings with a badly battered ego. They do not need to...	Lyne	1	848	Sep 20, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Sept 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentments and bitterness, and learning to forgive. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family, and experiencing many forms of mistreatment. The result included feeling like an extremely angry and resentful victim...	yanksfan51	3	566	Sep 19, 2021 by JerryF
	September 18 Hope for Today - Personal Recovery (Preview) Today's reading speaks about a newcomer to Al-anon who noted that many Al-anon readings referenced a higher power. The newcomer wasn't certain they wanted to have a relationship with a higher power or what they would even do with one if they had it. They were relieved to learn that members of the fello...	tiredtonite	3	2257	Sep 18, 2021 by JerryF
	September 17 - Intimacy Book - Boundaries (Preview) Chapter Four of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Negotiating Boundaries," makes the point that knowing what is good for us and what is not good for us is a foundation for setting healthy limits (boundaries) for ourselves, in relationships and other parts of life. Boundaries are for our ow...	Freetime	6	3489	Sep 18, 2021 by Freetime
	18th Sept C2C progress (Preview) Today's reader talks about the progress the author has made and that when they are troubled about what lies ahead, they can look back at where they have been. Time offers evidence that the Al-Anon program works - they see growth in their lives and the longer they live by these principles, the more evide...	Bettertomorrow	3	3045	Sep 18, 2021 by Daffodils
	Patience and Humility (Preview) My former sponsor, DON,T!! taught me a lot which I came to accept as very very valid because of how it changed my life. One of the most important, if not the most important is that Humility is "Being teachable" which has always worked when I work it. Patience is always good for my heart and spirit and the...	JerryF	3	2086	Sep 16, 2021 by JerryF
	Sept. 16, ODAT - Look Again (Preview) Today we are asked to consider the validity of the points we get stuck on. If others are not responding the way we expect, perhaps we need to adjust our own thinking, or perhaps our sense of timing. We are asked to consider others' right to a different point of view. TODAY'S REMINDER: An open mind is a hand...	Bbrave	4	2566	Sep 16, 2021 by DM2021
	I'm writing a memoir about domestic violence (Preview) -- Edited by Youknowme on Thursday 16th of September 2021 11:31:36 AM	Youknowme	2	1788	Sep 16, 2021 by Youknowme
	Courage to Change September 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about their challenges sleeping. They tried everything from hot milk to seeing the doctor, and yet still could not sleep. The author was too exhausted to pay much attention to anything outside of their own needs. One day at an Al-Anon meeting, anoth...	Skorpi	2	847	Sep 16, 2021 by Lyne
	Sept 4 Hope for Today - Expectations (Preview) Today's reading focuses on the topic of expectations. It uses an example of an Alanon member who has badly injured their foot. They are in severe pain and unable to get to their in person Alanon meetings. The member admits that though they see themselves as an independent person with good creative pro...	tiredtonite	4	730	Sep 16, 2021 by Im
	9/14/21 Unaffiliated, Spiritual Program; Not Religious (Preview) Both AA and Alanon emphasize that their programs are of a spiritual, not religious nature. This focus allows each member to use Alanon steps and principles in line with their personal religious (or non) perspective, without the unpleasant awkwardness of another member insisting on branding the p...	Enigmatic	4	930	Sep 15, 2021 by Lyne
	C2C, 9/13, improving one’s life (Preview) For Monday, 9/13, the member talks about time as a special kind of checking account: there are 24 hours to spend, and they are precious. You can make a positive change and enrich your life by using the 12 Steps, HP, alanon meetings, people, calls, and literature. You can spend your time to grow, enjo...	Lyne	5	787	Sep 14, 2021 by serenity47
	Hope for Today Sept 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about acknowledging and feeling our feelings rather than stamping them down. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic home where the lesson was dont feel. The writer grew up distrusting feelings and in effect distrusting him/her-self. The wr...	yanksfan51	2	920	Sep 12, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	September 11 Hope for Today - Higher Power (Preview) Today's reading describes recovery as a triangle with higher power at the top and the Alanon program, tools and life at the other areas of the triangle. The reading goes on to say, "As long as I keep everything in that order, with my higher power as my sole focus, everything in my life works serenely, eve...	tiredtonite	1	1207	Sep 12, 2021 by Lyne
	September 10 - Intimacy Book - Communicating (Preview) Chapter 3 of Intimacy in Alcoholic Relationships, "Communicating Clearly," explains that in alcoholic relationships, some of us learned to hide and bottle up our feelings, and some of us became "compulsive truth-tellers," unburdening ourselves on the nearest person, whether they wanted t...	Freetime	3	2221	Sep 11, 2021 by Im
	Sept 11th, C2C, Step 4 (Preview) In today's reader the author talks about having a nagging suspicion that they weren't doing their Step 4 inventory right. With their HPs help, they finally realised that it wasn't that they had done their Fourth Step wrong, but rather that they had the same sense of inadequacy about their whole life...	Bettertomorrow	3	467	Sep 11, 2021 by Freetime
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