Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Em1234 · Em1234

Hi my husband has been going to aa and sober now for 4 months. He has taken to it like a duck to water and I am quite confident that he will stay sober. That is all great for him and should mean that it is great for us as a family (4children), but AA has totally taken over his life. It is like a secret club that I am n...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page proposes contemplation of Courtesy as a greater offering than politeness, that involves pleasantries but does not require love. The former is outlined here as an expression of love, warm concern for someone's 'comfort, peace of mind, and well-being'. We may have the opportunity t...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer takes a look at justifying our own behavior, as though being provoked gives us no choice. We might pretend our wrongs don't count, but step 4 breaks through our denial. With our fearless and moral inventory, we list what is wrong and right about our own conduct. This takes courage and se...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to turn over control and will to God/our HP. The writer describes a certain progression of letting go of trying to control all the situations in her life. At first, the writer did not feel any problems of hers would merit Gods time. After some yea...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of how when we let go and let God/HP enough times we end up with a catalogue of reminders of times when it worked. Even the hardest of times can become memories of lessons learned as well as a reminder that if we don't try to control outcomes the results are often far better than we could h...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is one of my favorites. The author shares a saying they have heard in Alanon a lot: "An expectation is a premeditated resentment" The author suggests that when we notice a resentment, we can investigate our expectations for a probable source. The author's example involv...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Stories and legends often tell of a hero's journey of great challenges that result in lessons learned, character built, strengths discovered and treasure found at the end. Today's page compares this to our spiritual journey guided by the principles and truths of alanon and our higher power. The sp...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer comments that sometimes in an alanon meeting, a casual comment or phrase can get stuck in your consciousness and takes hold. It comes to mind over and over again as it gives you a new way of looking at things. It can be a commonplace phrase or even a worn-out cliche, that springs into life a...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Todays c2c speaks of trying to avoid repeating mistakes by making inflexible rules for ourselves and then trying to stick to them forever. In doing so, we're essentially depriving ourselves for opportunities for growth and only allowing ourselves to experience life through the lens of our past ex...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might accept (or choose to ignore) Gods will in our lives. The writer describes someone at a meeting who shared the belief that although God offers to reveal His will and what is best, she does not have to accept that. She can choose to keep going on h...

Starfish22 · Starfish22

Dear all, I'm here cause I feel confused and seek advice. I'm the sister of a bipolar addict (currently going through a manic episode) and daughter of a recovering alcoholic. I'm depressed myself and I have just had enough....we live together but are selling our family home to move away after 40yrs....

DM2021 · DM2021

I am pleased to be able to post Friday's C2C reading and will most probably post Thursday evenings so that it will be here for everyone on Friday morning. Been moving rather slowly for the past 6 months and do not want to post late in the morning. So here is 5/27/2022!Todays author tries to impress on th...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meetings are the place they are likely to get an honest answer to the question "how are you?" For years, the only possible answer to this question was "fine, how are you? " For the author, this denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholis...

DM2021 · DM2021

Just a thought about the readings for Friday. Have found it a bit difficult dealing with sciatica issues, because my life has slowed down so much and did not want to volunteer for something that I might not be able to keep up with. I do feel it is important that we have daily readings for continuity so I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My AH will be 80 in less than a month. He is aging very well. Unfortunately, he is going in for another CT scan to look at a spot on his kidney soon. I am waiting w/ him for another time to deal w/. He is doing OK but it seems that he is going to have to deal w/ the fact that he may have a very serious condition. I real...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page points to the simple power of Steps 1 and 2: Powerlessness over alcohol - unaccepted leads to early confusion, accepted opens the way for Step 2 and belief in something greater that can restore our sanity. This can take us from a place where we feel we have no answers or hope, to a place where w...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of this page suggests that Step 1, (admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable), prepares us for a new life. If we can let go of what we cannot control one day at a time, we put our world in order through a change in our own thinking. Reminder: I will appl...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

Over the years in Alanon Ive been able to develop healthy behaviors and important boundaries where my A husband is concerned. I feel happy in my life and his drinking/mistakes dont take the toll they once did on me. Keeping the focus on myself and gratitude are just a couple of ways I have realized there...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone; Todays reading is about learning to enjoy life, recognizing the instinct to isolate ourselves as rooted in fear, and being willing to see that we can choose a restart on our day at any time. The writer describes a childhood that included being shamed for acting like a child and n...

Lyne · Lyne

Happy Saturday to MIP :). Are we missing people to do our daily reading and share?

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on their reactions to life not always being smooth or peaceful. In the past, the author would bottle up their feelings when something was bothering them. It seemed better to be upset themselves than risk upsetting others. The result was that they would become...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer starts with the quote of talk of tomorrow, 'the gods laugh' because the future is not predictable...we have no choice but to live one day at a time. I can plan, but cannot control or determine outcomes, nor the circumstances that will change along the way. This concept can be reduced t...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer is showing a difference between calling on fellow members in between meetings, and trying to be responsible for our own decisions, using meditation, prayer, HP, and keeping an open mind for the answers. It is important not to be motivated by resentment, hatred, and/or anger. Once taki...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the distinction between focus on ourselves in recovery, understanding that we may have behaviors learned as coping mechanisms, and that we are responsible for our own shortcomings, regardless of where (or who) they came from. The writer describes...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer is grateful that the Alanon fellowship that shares much in common, understands many of the problems and challenges faced, yet no one speaks for everyone in the group about "our" collective experience. We can tell our own story, but no one else's. Each brings something unique to the pr...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I've been having some really bad times lately in my continuing battle with anxiety - I'm not sure whether it's my ADHD fueling the fires of anxiety, or my frustrations with just not being able to do what Al Anon has shown me that I need to be doing - I believe that the things that Al Anon has shown me I need to d...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Is it ok that I just want attention sometimes? I haven't been on here in forever so it seems! I am struggling w my sanity. I talked to my cousin today. She is such an uplifter & she helped me laugh off some stuff that bothers both of us. I haven't been on here because I just couldn't get real. I have been f...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C discusses finding ways to trust in the program if/when it is difficult to believe in any kind of higher power. The reading suggests recalling all of the times when we have been guided to just what we needed, and that when we are filled with doubt, to listen deeply, and observe all that is arou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that since we spend the most time with ourselves and our own company, taking the time to develop a relationship with ourselves is valuable. They share a bit about inner emptiness, and how another person cannot keep us from feeling lonely, but that our...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer was taken aback when they received a compliment. They felt discomfort, and couldn't imagine there might be something nice about themself. The writer realized how feelings of self-worth had sunken while living with an alcoholic, and the sponsor began to work on this. The writer was ab...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on being aware of the present moment, and the use of the slogans to help us do that. The writer describes a meeting in which he/she shared how the life plan changed over time in recovery. Early on, it was truly a life plan with a focus on the future. It was a...

Fedora · Fedora

Hi there. It has been awhile since I've been here but I wanted to be sure to stop in and say HELLO and share my life update. I've got a new house - the sellers just accepted my offer and in a month I'll be moving out of this little apartment to my own digs. I'm coming up on the 1st anniversary of my divorce fina...

Steven · Steven

I just was reading the new May bulletin and it states here, and maybe it's me being confused? It says "DID YOU KNOW: Only small excerpts of CAL may be used at meetings, with permission of the WSO? Can get get a explanation of this as i have been in Alanon since 1992 and never knew i needed "permission" and on...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

Just reviewing old posts and re-witnessing so much ESH, kindness and love. I cannot believe how lucky I was to find all of you. I have learned so much over the years, felt such support in moments of need and amassed such strength and the ability to live healthy because of the program and you. I am having a p...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's c2c is about humility, and the first step towards humility being the acceptance of powerlessness. In learning to accept powerlessness we discover what is, and isn't our responsibility and the reading further invites us to show kindness towards ourselves that we would normally do for anot...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that, through working the Al-Anon program and the 12 steps, they discovered who they are. Due to living with the disease of alcoholism, the author realized that they had stopped paying attention to who they were, their likes, their dislikes, their o...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers detachment, a powerful Alanon concept that may be mistaken as harsh at first glance. Properly executed, it is a loving practice that keeps us out of others' business to allow them the opportunity to be themselves and learn the lessons they are ready to. Mark Twain suggested t...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that prayer has importance, and that we may think a prayer many times a day i.e. help me not brood over this injury. Prayer is simply reaching out to make contact with a power that is greater than ourselves. It reminds us that we are powerless over many things, especially in efforts to f...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning that recovery in alanon is not about the qualifiers in our lives. Instead, the focus is on us. The writer describes enabling her husband, trying to control him, restrict his drinking, ultimately feeling only resentment and disgust toward hi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading the author shares that their self-esteem grows when they love and accept themselves as they are. When self-worth is based on accomplishments or the opinions of others, the author thinks they block their own well-being. It is impossible to make everyone happy, and it...

Leena1212 · Leena1212

Hello, I am completely new to al anon. Im not sure where to start. My husband is an alcoholic and thats why Im interested in al anon. I am planning on joining a meeting the next time one is available. Any information would be helpful. Thanks!

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks about the wonderful discovery that many of our perceived defects turn out to be our greatest strengths, or, our best opportunities for growth. It suggests that rather than simply wishing away our defects, we can instead examine them for growth opportunities or hidden strengths...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

While still new, perhaps our first visit or exposure to Alanon, we hear 'take what you like, leave the rest'. Alanon offers suggestions, does not enforce requirements. This allows many who would not otherwise accept certain aspects of the program to continue on, choosing a unique basket of recove...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses that introspection and meditation are healing tools, but combined with courageous action, we are led to improved recovery. It is important to observe our actions, character, motives, and reactions. Our awareness allows us to see patterns that hold us back from becoming t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step 11: sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out The writer describes experiencing a lack of consistency throu...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on an important Al-Anon lesson - it is safe to be myself. In the past, the author would have hidden certain secrets at all costs, but today, they know that they can share those secrets with trusted Al-Anon friends. By sharing honestly with people the author can...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page may seem dated to some, as it shares the concern that may arise when the other Alanon members of the group are different, perhaps of different gender. How can those different from me know what I'm going through, be of help? It turns out that working the Steps and principles of Alanon and the exp...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer shares they spent a lot of time yearning for things they weren't getting from the alcoholic. They made a list: courtesy, respect, attention, affection, communication--they had been let down many times. Their sponsor's suggestion was to give what they wanted to receive, and become w...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on the MIP Board, I want to wish all of you a very safe Serene, and Happy Easter. Love, from WendyP, from the Land Down Under.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at tradition twelve and placing principles above personalities. The writer describes having a strained relationship with his/her parents. The writer had expectations that were consistently unfulfilled: trying to be noticed, listened to, appre...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading is all about catching ourselves when we are in negative thought patterns and "replacing them with positive thoughts". By adjusting the tape we have playing in our heads, we can transform our attitude and difficulties can become far more manageable or even, sometimes, enjoyable. I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Al-Anon has been working really well for me for years, but recently, I've had the opportunity to make use of the tools in a new way. I've been fostering kids for almost a year now, and I'm on my third placement. This time, a sibling group of 2. I've had nearly constant opportunity to use the Al-Anon tool...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Wanting a quick resolution makes sense, who wants extended unpleasantness? Impatience, however, does not bring better results, actually makes things worse as we take more aggressive steps to bring about the outcome we think is best. When these don't work out, and even when they do, we find a way t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our own participation is what contributes to the motion of recovery. The feeling of miracles happening in the program comes from our willingness to work at recovery, not from a magical source. The writer describes beginning service work in ala...

Lyne · Lyne

Monday's reading looks at why newcomers in program seem more eager to know why the alcoholic drinks, than why they allow another's compulsive drinking to affect them so destructively. We need to accept that the alcoholic has an illness, and it's possible the family can help. But primarily we must...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how alcoholism has certain symptoms, such as mood changes and blackouts. As a person living with the disease of alcoholism, the author finds it useful to acknowledge that they, too, have symptoms similar to the disease of alcoholism, includin...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading speaks of the writer's fears when first attending al-anon, expecting a formal affair but instead arrived to a chaotic meeting where they realised a sense of humour and a carry-on attitude was far more valuable than doing things perfectly. The takeaway is that rather than feeling da...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page addresses an important reality: that what we tell others and ourselves about the reasons for what we do and why ('I want to help others'), even what we may believe it to be, is quite possibly not accurate. Working the 12 Steps allows us to cut through the excuses and desperation to uncover...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer shares about waking up each morning feeling frantic, having a long list of crises that needed attention, always feeling behind, and sometimes not wanting to get up at all. Such was life living with an alcoholic, prior to program. But with alanon, life can change. They heard that when you o...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how there are times we may use busyness (obsessive activity) as a way to self medicate and isolate, in the same way that alcoholics use the buzz of alcohol. The writer describes not necessarily being a workaholic, but at times a learn-aholic and achieve...

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	Losing my husband to AA ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hi my husband has been going to aa and sober now for 4 months. He has taken to it like a duck to water and I am quite confident that he will stay sober. That is all great for him and should mean that it is great for us as a family (4children), but AA has totally taken over his life. It is like a secret club that I am n...	Em1234	43	19675	Jun 8, 2022 by DM2021
	6/7/22 ODAT in Alanon – Courtesy > Politeness? (Preview) Today's page proposes contemplation of Courtesy as a greater offering than politeness, that involves pleasantries but does not require love. The former is outlined here as an expression of love, warm concern for someone's 'comfort, peace of mind, and well-being'. We may have the opportunity t...	Enigmatic	3	3266	Jun 7, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 6/6, our own behavior (Preview) This writer takes a look at justifying our own behavior, as though being provoked gives us no choice. We might pretend our wrongs don't count, but step 4 breaks through our denial. With our fearless and moral inventory, we list what is wrong and right about our own conduct. This takes courage and se...	Lyne	2	2061	Jun 6, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today June 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to turn over control and will to God/our HP. The writer describes a certain progression of letting go of trying to control all the situations in her life. At first, the writer did not feel any problems of hers would merit Gods time. After some yea...	yanksfan51	2	1795	Jun 5, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C June 2nd (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of how when we let go and let God/HP enough times we end up with a catalogue of reminders of times when it worked. Even the hardest of times can become memories of lessons learned as well as a reminder that if we don't try to control outcomes the results are often far better than we could h...	Youknowme	3	2026	Jun 4, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change June 1 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is one of my favorites. The author shares a saying they have heard in Alanon a lot: "An expectation is a premeditated resentment" The author suggests that when we notice a resentment, we can investigate our expectations for a probable source. The author's example involv...	Skorpi	3	1971	Jun 2, 2022 by Daffodils
	5/31/22 C2C - The Hero's Journey (Preview) Stories and legends often tell of a hero's journey of great challenges that result in lessons learned, character built, strengths discovered and treasure found at the end. Today's page compares this to our spiritual journey guided by the principles and truths of alanon and our higher power. The sp...	Enigmatic	4	1857	Jun 1, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 5/30, words that stick in my brain (Preview) This writer comments that sometimes in an alanon meeting, a casual comment or phrase can get stuck in your consciousness and takes hold. It comes to mind over and over again as it gives you a new way of looking at things. It can be a commonplace phrase or even a worn-out cliche, that springs into life a...	Lyne	3	2968	Jun 1, 2022 by Enigmatic
	c2c May 26th (Preview) Todays c2c speaks of trying to avoid repeating mistakes by making inflexible rules for ourselves and then trying to stick to them forever. In doing so, we're essentially depriving ourselves for opportunities for growth and only allowing ourselves to experience life through the lens of our past ex...	Youknowme	2	3145	May 29, 2022 by Lyne
	Hope for Today May 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might accept (or choose to ignore) Gods will in our lives. The writer describes someone at a meeting who shared the belief that although God offers to reveal His will and what is best, she does not have to accept that. She can choose to keep going on h...	yanksfan51	1	2156	May 29, 2022 by DM2021
	Bipolar and alcoholic 🙄 Bipolar alcoholic home trauma anxiety (Preview) Dear all, I'm here cause I feel confused and seek advice. I'm the sister of a bipolar addict (currently going through a manic episode) and daughter of a recovering alcoholic. I'm depressed myself and I have just had enough....we live together but are selling our family home to move away after 40yrs....	Starfish22	3	4293	May 29, 2022 by Starfish22
	Making Room For Good Times – May 27, 2022 (Preview) I am pleased to be able to post Friday's C2C reading and will most probably post Thursday evenings so that it will be here for everyone on Friday morning. Been moving rather slowly for the past 6 months and do not want to post late in the morning. So here is 5/27/2022!Todays author tries to impress on th...	DM2021	2	2794	May 28, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Courage to Change May 25 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meetings are the place they are likely to get an honest answer to the question "how are you?" For years, the only possible answer to this question was "fine, how are you? " For the author, this denial is a symptom of the effects of alcoholis...	Skorpi	1	3322	May 26, 2022 by Lyne
	Friday's C2C Reading (Preview) Just a thought about the readings for Friday. Have found it a bit difficult dealing with sciatica issues, because my life has slowed down so much and did not want to volunteer for something that I might not be able to keep up with. I do feel it is important that we have daily readings for continuity so I...	DM2021	2	3225	May 25, 2022 by Lyne
	80 in a less than a month... (Preview) My AH will be 80 in less than a month. He is aging very well. Unfortunately, he is going in for another CT scan to look at a spot on his kidney soon. I am waiting w/ him for another time to deal w/. He is doing OK but it seems that he is going to have to deal w/ the fact that he may have a very serious condition. I real...	Hoot Nanny	2	2995	May 24, 2022 by DM2021
	5/24/22 ODAT Simplicity, Power of Steps 1, 2 (Preview) This page points to the simple power of Steps 1 and 2: Powerlessness over alcohol - unaccepted leads to early confusion, accepted opens the way for Step 2 and belief in something greater that can restore our sanity. This can take us from a place where we feel we have no answers or hope, to a place where w...	Enigmatic	1	2687	May 24, 2022 by DM2021
	ODAT in alanon, 5/23, philosophy of life (Preview) The author of this page suggests that Step 1, (admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable), prepares us for a new life. If we can let go of what we cannot control one day at a time, we put our world in order through a change in our own thinking. Reminder: I will appl...	Lyne	3	1723	May 23, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Oops Different Same Old Thing (Preview) Over the years in Alanon Ive been able to develop healthy behaviors and important boundaries where my A husband is concerned. I feel happy in my life and his drinking/mistakes dont take the toll they once did on me. Keeping the focus on myself and gratitude are just a couple of ways I have realized there...	sunmustshine	2	2954	May 23, 2022 by Lyne
	Hope for Today May 22 (Preview) Good morning everyone; Todays reading is about learning to enjoy life, recognizing the instinct to isolate ourselves as rooted in fear, and being willing to see that we can choose a restart on our day at any time. The writer describes a childhood that included being shamed for acting like a child and n...	yanksfan51	2	1220	May 22, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	daily reading and share (Preview) Happy Saturday to MIP :). Are we missing people to do our daily reading and share?	Lyne	1	1136	May 22, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change May 18 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on their reactions to life not always being smooth or peaceful. In the past, the author would bottle up their feelings when something was bothering them. It seemed better to be upset themselves than risk upsetting others. The result was that they would become...	Skorpi	3	2838	May 19, 2022 by Daffodils
	5/17/22 C2C – ‘Do not be anxious about tomorrow…it will look after itself’ (Preview) Today's writer starts with the quote of talk of tomorrow, 'the gods laugh' because the future is not predictable...we have no choice but to live one day at a time. I can plan, but cannot control or determine outcomes, nor the circumstances that will change along the way. This concept can be reduced t...	Enigmatic	3	3745	May 18, 2022 by Daffodils
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 5/16, seeking help (Preview) The writer is showing a difference between calling on fellow members in between meetings, and trying to be responsible for our own decisions, using meditation, prayer, HP, and keeping an open mind for the answers. It is important not to be motivated by resentment, hatred, and/or anger. Once taki...	Lyne	3	2164	May 16, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today May 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the distinction between focus on ourselves in recovery, understanding that we may have behaviors learned as coping mechanisms, and that we are responsible for our own shortcomings, regardless of where (or who) they came from. The writer describes...	yanksfan51	4	1987	May 15, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	5/10/22 C2C Telling My Story, not Ours (Preview) Today's writer is grateful that the Alanon fellowship that shares much in common, understands many of the problems and challenges faced, yet no one speaks for everyone in the group about "our" collective experience. We can tell our own story, but no one else's. Each brings something unique to the pr...	Enigmatic	2	2514	May 14, 2022 by Lyne
	Anxiety is just chewing me up and spitting me out ! (Preview) I've been having some really bad times lately in my continuing battle with anxiety - I'm not sure whether it's my ADHD fueling the fires of anxiety, or my frustrations with just not being able to do what Al Anon has shown me that I need to be doing - I believe that the things that Al Anon has shown me I need to d...	texas yankee	3	2487	May 13, 2022 by serenity47
	Just want attention (Preview) Is it ok that I just want attention sometimes? I haven't been on here in forever so it seems! I am struggling w my sanity. I talked to my cousin today. She is such an uplifter & she helped me laugh off some stuff that bothers both of us. I haven't been on here because I just couldn't get real. I have been f...	Hoot Nanny	4	2673	May 13, 2022 by serenity47
	C2C May 12th (Preview) Today's C2C discusses finding ways to trust in the program if/when it is difficult to believe in any kind of higher power. The reading suggests recalling all of the times when we have been guided to just what we needed, and that when we are filled with doubt, to listen deeply, and observe all that is arou...	Youknowme	3	1558	May 13, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Courage to Change May 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that since we spend the most time with ourselves and our own company, taking the time to develop a relationship with ourselves is valuable. They share a bit about inner emptiness, and how another person cannot keep us from feeling lonely, but that our...	Skorpi	3	2599	May 13, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C , Monday, 5/9, can you love yourself? (Preview) The writer was taken aback when they received a compliment. They felt discomfort, and couldn't imagine there might be something nice about themself. The writer realized how feelings of self-worth had sunken while living with an alcoholic, and the sponsor began to work on this. The writer was ab...	Lyne	2	3062	May 9, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today May 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on being aware of the present moment, and the use of the slogans to help us do that. The writer describes a meeting in which he/she shared how the life plan changed over time in recovery. Early on, it was truly a life plan with a focus on the future. It was a...	yanksfan51	2	3018	May 8, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Stopping back in to say hi and share my good news - I've got a house! (Preview) Hi there. It has been awhile since I've been here but I wanted to be sure to stop in and say HELLO and share my life update. I've got a new house - the sellers just accepted my offer and in a month I'll be moving out of this little apartment to my own digs. I'm coming up on the 1st anniversary of my divorce fina...	Fedora	7	818	May 7, 2022 by Jen61
	Can I use a page in the Forum for a meeting? (Preview) I just was reading the new May bulletin and it states here, and maybe it's me being confused? It says "DID YOU KNOW: Only small excerpts of CAL may be used at meetings, with permission of the WSO? Can get get a explanation of this as i have been in Alanon since 1992 and never knew i needed "permission" and on...	Steven	2	4324	May 7, 2022 by Lyne
	Grateful (Preview) Just reviewing old posts and re-witnessing so much ESH, kindness and love. I cannot believe how lucky I was to find all of you. I have learned so much over the years, felt such support in moments of need and amassed such strength and the ability to live healthy because of the program and you. I am having a p...	sunmustshine	3	2121	May 7, 2022 by DM2021
	c2c5/5 Humility (Preview) Today's c2c is about humility, and the first step towards humility being the acceptance of powerlessness. In learning to accept powerlessness we discover what is, and isn't our responsibility and the reading further invites us to show kindness towards ourselves that we would normally do for anot...	Youknowme	3	3143	May 6, 2022 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change 5/4 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that, through working the Al-Anon program and the 12 steps, they discovered who they are. Due to living with the disease of alcoholism, the author realized that they had stopped paying attention to who they were, their likes, their dislikes, their o...	Skorpi	4	3190	May 6, 2022 by Daffodils
	5/3/22 C2C - Letting Others Carry a Cat by the Tail (Preview) Today's page considers detachment, a powerful Alanon concept that may be mistaken as harsh at first glance. Properly executed, it is a loving practice that keeps us out of others' business to allow them the opportunity to be themselves and learn the lessons they are ready to. Mark Twain suggested t...	Enigmatic	5	2409	May 5, 2022 by Youknowme
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 5/2, what is prayer? (Preview) The writer says that prayer has importance, and that we may think a prayer many times a day i.e. help me not brood over this injury. Prayer is simply reaching out to make contact with a power that is greater than ourselves. It reminds us that we are powerless over many things, especially in efforts to f...	Lyne	3	2608	May 3, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today May 1 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning that recovery in alanon is not about the qualifiers in our lives. Instead, the focus is on us. The writer describes enabling her husband, trying to control him, restrict his drinking, ultimately feeling only resentment and disgust toward hi...	yanksfan51	4	1877	May 2, 2022 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change April 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading the author shares that their self-esteem grows when they love and accept themselves as they are. When self-worth is based on accomplishments or the opinions of others, the author thinks they block their own well-being. It is impossible to make everyone happy, and it...	Skorpi	2	3037	Apr 30, 2022 by Lyne
	New to al anon (Preview) Hello, I am completely new to al anon. Im not sure where to start. My husband is an alcoholic and thats why Im interested in al anon. I am planning on joining a meeting the next time one is available. Any information would be helpful. Thanks!	Leena1212	4	2799	Apr 29, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C April 28th- Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. (Preview) Today's C2C speaks about the wonderful discovery that many of our perceived defects turn out to be our greatest strengths, or, our best opportunities for growth. It suggests that rather than simply wishing away our defects, we can instead examine them for growth opportunities or hidden strengths...	Youknowme	4	3245	Apr 29, 2022 by bud
	4/26/22 C2C - Custom Recovery, Use What you Like (Preview) While still new, perhaps our first visit or exposure to Alanon, we hear 'take what you like, leave the rest'. Alanon offers suggestions, does not enforce requirements. This allows many who would not otherwise accept certain aspects of the program to continue on, choosing a unique basket of recove...	Enigmatic	4	3290	Apr 26, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today, Monday, 4/25, moving forward (Preview) The writer discusses that introspection and meditation are healing tools, but combined with courageous action, we are led to improved recovery. It is important to observe our actions, character, motives, and reactions. Our awareness allows us to see patterns that hold us back from becoming t...	Lyne	2	3562	Apr 25, 2022 by bud
	Hope for Today Apr 24 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step 11: sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out The writer describes experiencing a lack of consistency throu...	yanksfan51	2	3009	Apr 24, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change April 20 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on an important Al-Anon lesson - it is safe to be myself. In the past, the author would have hidden certain secrets at all costs, but today, they know that they can share those secrets with trusted Al-Anon friends. By sharing honestly with people the author can...	Skorpi	2	3635	Apr 21, 2022 by DM2021
	4/19/22 ODAT - We Can Learn Alanon Principles from Anyone (Preview) This page may seem dated to some, as it shares the concern that may arise when the other Alanon members of the group are different, perhaps of different gender. How can those different from me know what I'm going through, be of help? It turns out that working the Steps and principles of Alanon and the exp...	Enigmatic	2	3561	Apr 19, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 4/18, we get back what we give (Preview) The writer shares they spent a lot of time yearning for things they weren't getting from the alcoholic. They made a list: courtesy, respect, attention, affection, communication--they had been let down many times. Their sponsor's suggestion was to give what they wanted to receive, and become w...	Lyne	1	3798	Apr 18, 2022 by DM2021
	Easter Greetings (Preview) Hi to all on the MIP Board, I want to wish all of you a very safe Serene, and Happy Easter. Love, from WendyP, from the Land Down Under.	WendyP	4	4082	Apr 17, 2022 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Apr 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at tradition twelve and placing principles above personalities. The writer describes having a strained relationship with his/her parents. The writer had expectations that were consistently unfulfilled: trying to be noticed, listened to, appre...	yanksfan51	1	2928	Apr 17, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C April 14th- Reframing our thinking (Preview) Today's reading is all about catching ourselves when we are in negative thought patterns and "replacing them with positive thoughts". By adjusting the tape we have playing in our heads, we can transform our attitude and difficulties can become far more manageable or even, sometimes, enjoyable. I...	Youknowme	3	2793	Apr 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Magic of the Program (Preview) Al-Anon has been working really well for me for years, but recently, I've had the opportunity to make use of the tools in a new way. I've been fostering kids for almost a year now, and I'm on my third placement. This time, a sibling group of 2. I've had nearly constant opportunity to use the Al-Anon tool...	Skorpi	2	3207	Apr 16, 2022 by Lyne
	4/12/22 C2C Grant me patience, Lord…and hurry! (Preview) Wanting a quick resolution makes sense, who wants extended unpleasantness? Impatience, however, does not bring better results, actually makes things worse as we take more aggressive steps to bring about the outcome we think is best. When these don't work out, and even when they do, we find a way t...	Enigmatic	3	2420	Apr 13, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Apr 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our own participation is what contributes to the motion of recovery. The feeling of miracles happening in the program comes from our willingness to work at recovery, not from a magical source. The writer describes beginning service work in ala...	yanksfan51	2	3236	Apr 11, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 4/11, self-defeating attitudes (Preview) Monday's reading looks at why newcomers in program seem more eager to know why the alcoholic drinks, than why they allow another's compulsive drinking to affect them so destructively. We need to accept that the alcoholic has an illness, and it's possible the family can help. But primarily we must...	Lyne	1	2187	Apr 11, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change 4/6 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on how alcoholism has certain symptoms, such as mood changes and blackouts. As a person living with the disease of alcoholism, the author finds it useful to acknowledge that they, too, have symptoms similar to the disease of alcoholism, includin...	Skorpi	4	3387	Apr 9, 2022 by Seahorse7
	c2c April 7th- Humour under pressure. (Preview) Today's reading speaks of the writer's fears when first attending al-anon, expecting a formal affair but instead arrived to a chaotic meeting where they realised a sense of humour and a carry-on attitude was far more valuable than doing things perfectly. The takeaway is that rather than feeling da...	Youknowme	3	3247	Apr 8, 2022 by Lyne
	4/5/22 ODAT - Do I Truly Want Recovery? Am I Willing to do what it Takes? (Preview) Today's page addresses an important reality: that what we tell others and ourselves about the reasons for what we do and why ('I want to help others'), even what we may believe it to be, is quite possibly not accurate. Working the 12 Steps allows us to cut through the excuses and desperation to uncover...	Enigmatic	3	3447	Apr 5, 2022 by Youknowme
	C2C, Monday, 4/4, changing up the routine (Preview) The writer shares about waking up each morning feeling frantic, having a long list of crises that needed attention, always feeling behind, and sometimes not wanting to get up at all. Such was life living with an alcoholic, prior to program. But with alanon, life can change. They heard that when you o...	Lyne	4	3796	Apr 4, 2022 by I Love Ancestry
	Hope for Today Apr 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how there are times we may use busyness (obsessive activity) as a way to self medicate and isolate, in the same way that alcoholics use the buzz of alcohol. The writer describes not necessarily being a workaholic, but at times a learn-aholic and achieve...	yanksfan51	2	3367	Apr 3, 2022 by Youknowme
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