Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

whatif · whatif

My husband and I were just sitting over coffee waking up. He started to tell me about a grandmother's ring that his favorite bar owners wife just received from her kids. He desribed it and said how nice it was. I got up and went to my jewelry box and placed in front of him a grandmother ring with both my grand...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Cdb has requested I post for her about her daughter. They had to rush her daughter to ER tonight. She had an ultrasound and catscan. She went into emergency surgery. Her white count was 20,000. Doctors not sure what was going on but were going to take her appendix out....

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"I enjoy feeling protected by my higher power and by the people who love me" " .........it still may be difficult to let myself be and feel protected. I have created a network of supportive friends and healing people around me. I have turned myself and my will over to the ca...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, Last night my youngest son came over for supper, and during the conversation, he mentioned a name, that we did not want to hear. Three years ago, he was with a person who caused him and the family a lot of pain. I think that he is addicted to this person, ev...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Well I guess I always knew the counseling wouldn't work, but I had to try. When we went last week, the counselor was more focused than ever on my husbands drinking. He kept asking him to go back to the Dr and get a liver test, as his eyes did not look right. My husband kept telling him that his Mother d...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Cloud, hubby and kids have been having alot of tragic situations in their lives recently. Please say prayers or send out positive thoughts and energy their way. (((((((((((((cloud&family))))))))))) xoxoxo cdb

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am hanging in. I don't know if my body it but I am doing the best I can. My parents are leaving Arizona and plan to be at my house Thursday night. Any prayers for a safe trip all greatly appreciated! My dad intends to let my alzheimers mom drive :( but will be awake. Step one for me on that one...

notaboutme · notaboutme

I have not been able to access the chat room. I am not computer savvy so I'm sure there's something I'm not doing right. Do I understand that the chat room is open every weekday at 9AM and 9PM? Maybe someone can explain to me what I'm doing wrong. I go to the home page and click on Chat room...it...

sanddie · sanddie

Firstly, I'd like to say that Religion and Jesus are two completely DIFFERENT things. Secondly, I'd like to say that in ANY situation, people are going to have different opinions. As I have a different opinion of how some Alanon groups do not allow a person to disclose during their OWN pr...

bob6502 · bob6502

I realized as I was starting to write this post that I am in a HALT mode. I am not Hungry, but I am Angry, Lonely, and Tired. I am in confusion about relationships, and the direction HP is taking me. I follow the path that HP sets before me, and then I run into a brickwall. I know I have options to go left o...

richard · richard

Standing alone: we are all in this together by ourselves. I verily much stand alone in my beliefs of God, Life, etc. If I were to fret to how or what others believe, then I could not say the previous. I have not met a 12-step program that was not an organization or a religion. I have nothing against organiza...

dot · dot

Hi All - Monthly business meeting Wed - May 4 - at 7pm edt. Ya'll come!! Love in Recovery - Dot

lost · lost

I am going to my second al anon meeting tonight. I am determined and WILL GO. I have told my husband i am planning to go and again he was furious. Any great suggestions of how to handle this, how to explain it---- I already used "sorry you feel that way". I think i tried, "t...

gardengal · gardengal

Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgement or condemnation of the person or situation which we are detaching. It simply is a means that allows us to separate ourselves from the adverse effects that another person's alcoholism can have upon us and our lives. I am making a cons...

lost · lost

Okay---please bear with me here. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost 7 years, together 11. We have two young children. His drinking has been an on going issue, one that has recently blown up. After several light bulb moments, in which the hone...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Nothing is ever lost by courtesy. It is the cheapest of pleasures. It is the cheapest of pleasures, costs nothing, and conveys much. -- Erastmus Wiman ) {Courtesy with an alcoholic can work! And helps much! ...

NANUKE · NANUKE

I have been unable to access MIP for several days. Hoping to make it to the Business Meeting this Wednesday evening. John, please contact me and Shimo, please know I am trying to get in. Hope everyone is well and prayers for all in recovery. Nan&nbs...

jj · jj

Well something I have realized is that in the past 2 weeks is that I haven't picked up a book or read any literature when in fact I SHOULD have been. My new found tools have helpped me as have all of you but doing some reading would have also helpped. Any way after my meeting the other night SIL and I went to ano...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi to All My Friends, To live and let live is really the key for me. I am not saying that it is easy, and that I can always respond that way to everything that happens. Yet, I try to put it into practice each day. My son wanted to come over tomorrow, and bring his new girlfriend. He ask...

cdb · cdb

Does anyone know how to change the font size from small to large. A new person needs to know or they cannot chat here. ty cdb :)

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Hello all. I am new to this site..been lurking in the shadows for awhile though. My husband is the A in my life. He has had times of sobriety. Although he has been drinking rather heavily the past few months. He seems to have reached a point recently that he wants to do better. He has been in AA before but is n...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I have been in alanon for 4 years now. And no matter what I do, or how I work my program, I can't stop this heartbreak I have every time my "A" relapses. I know I don't have to explain the pain, you all have felt it. My struggle is talking to him after he comes back. I am angry, resentful, hurt, and I h...

Lani · Lani

A friend shared this with me: "A rising tide may "raise all ships" --- but it won't raise the rocks." In our desire to empower one another we are often meet with disappointment, for we can influence the empowerment of only those who are in harmony with self-empowerment. We can't get poor enough to enr...

cdb · cdb

3:30 central time,,,

AugustKel · AugustKel

Hi guys, My name is Kelly. My A is my husband. We have been married for almost 15 years. He started drinking more (than socially/occasionally) about 4 years ago. It is now worse than ever. I'm having a difficult time dealing with this. I have searched all over the net for support and information (...

norest4thewkd · norest4thewkd

Hello all. Glad to have found the board. My name is Jenna and I am an adult child of an alcoholic. After roughly 10 years of being away from al-anon I found myself back in the rooms as a result of dealing with facing the challenges of becomming the daughter & sister -in-law of alcoholics. It w...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, This morning was difficult for me, because I called my son and he sounded very sleepy, and druged. He takes a lot of sleeping pills to help him to sleep. This morning I could not believe what happened. As I spoke to him, he seemed half awake, and finally there was no respons...

dori · dori

Hi gang, The other night the phone rang, I looked at caller id didnt know the number so didnt answer it.Later I called it , I dropped the phone the message came on it was my ex a.I didnt leave a message I thought he married the girl he met at aa why is he calling me now.I am on aol and he came in a chat room I was in...

Annie · Annie

I just have to share this with ALL my friends here; I think it is beautiful as each of you are. Your responses to my posts ALWAYS mean so much to me. Dear God, I'm writing to say I'm sorry For being angry yesterday When you seemed to ignore my prayer And things didn't go my way First, my car broke down...

Parker · Parker

I was referred for adoption because my biological father was an alcoholic who was in and out of prison, homeless, etc. I made the decision a long time ago that I never wanted to meet my biological parents (this was before I knew ANYTHING about them); But when my biological father wrote a letter to me th...

nmike · nmike

I just have to keep posting to keep myself going. After reading relationships and recovery I reflected over this past year with my recovering A. We went away for the weekend a year ago to discuss our major issues. He started out the weekend saying that "I didn't come here to divorce you". We really had a g...

Lani · Lani

For me, Al-Anon is about change...facing where I am and imagining where I want to be and working towards that dream - changing "ME" to work and "fit" better within this life I've chosen. "Change" meaning transforming myself from confused, rambling, sad, etc. to feeling&...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! I see that book recommendations pop up here regularly, so just want to share a good and longtime companion, Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go. I read that one every day, and have for the past decade or so--since it was published! She's so right on with feelin...

nomorebeer · nomorebeer

I was an alcoholic & addict for almost 15 years with over 8 years sobriety under my belt... I am now a Liscensed Chemical / Alcohol Dependance Counselor. I have been on both sides of the street both personally & professionally. I, too have someone in my life (ex-husband, f...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Crying only a little bit is no use. You must cry until your pillow is soaked. Then you can get up and laugh..."-----Galway Kinnell Many of us were raised to deny our feelings; that is, we might have been allowed to decribe them politely, but we were not allowed to express feeling...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, I am learning to take life one day at a time, a minute at a time. What we tell ourself each day often creates our own reality. I am a clock watcher, and I am conscious of this trait which negates the quality of my life. Yesterday, I went out with a friend an...

teddybear · teddybear

The moment we try to please another and abandon our own truth for theirs, we essentially hand our power to them, violate our own integrity, cut ourselves off from our inner wisdom, and - at least for a while - disconnect from our ability to love and nurture ourselves. (I know this so well, because I've do...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

Looking for some suggestions. My husband and I have not spoken for about 10 days. Our last conversation ended with us both agreeing we should not speak as we were not getting along. As per his counselor he is being discharged today. We live on the east coast and his tre...

GypsyRose71 · GypsyRose71

Hello everyone ! my name is Linda, i really dont know where to start so i guess i'll muddle along til i have myself together. I just joined a few days ago and have been reading the posts. they have given me much insight, and have really help me understand better my A . &nbs...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

Hi I am new here but really not new to alanon or AA. I am currently married to an alcoholic. We have been married 20 years this year. We have 4 kids 18, 16, 14 and 2. Yep the 2 year old was a happy little surprise. My dh has been through treatment 4 times. He just got done again at the end of March. I am going to alan...

marina33 · marina33

I was in denial that my husband was an A, I am losing my mind. My husband left home about midnight Friday night drunk I tried to stop him but could not. I prayed that he would not hurt himself or anyone else. He called me every half hour until 4:30 am he told me he loved me. He said he was at t...

fiona123 · fiona123

Hi ODAT is One Day at a Time and there is a book called One Day at a Time in Alanon .. alot of us call that The ODAT it is a lovely lil book with short readings in it ...one many topics it has a great index for things that are bothering you , when i am upset about something , I often look in the in...

jj · jj

Hi (((everyone))) Well I am almost feeling like the old me, still a little tired but much better. My doctor was here yesterday and said that he thought that I was doing well and not to worry that he is taking good care of me... I was holding off on posting because I wanted to here what my test result...

Maria123 · Maria123

Shhhhhhhhhhshh, it's a secret (tee hee) Tomorrow, April 27th is Sean's birthday!! Let's all wish him well and many more Maria

De Anna · De Anna

I have left you a reply to "today I'm angry" -- Edited by De Anna at 14:00, 2005-04-25

De Anna · De Anna

Today I am angry. I can't say that there's any change, but then again maybe that's it. Same old story. Same routine, silently drink away the night. No problems, no swearing, no fighting, no family activity, no us, no anything. There are times I want to run &...

jj · jj

Hey bonnie, I tried to send you someting to make you laugh today but your email is full. I didn't delete it so I can send it later. Have a good day. Your friend Jen

wallsal55 · wallsal55

After over 2 years in program, I recently checked out Self Matters and the Companion Workbook to go with it. (by Phil McGraw) I think it is a great follow-up read after/during alanon. Kinda helped me tie up loose ends here and there. I would reccomend getting it through your...

Lani · Lani

Hello Al-Anon Friends! Food for thought quotes: Honesty "Every violation of truth is not only a sort of suicide in the liar, but is a stab at the health of human society." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson What level of honesty are you living now? How honest are you with strangers, institutions and b...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi to all my friends, My life has a lot of waves, just as the ocean is not always smooth. I have two sons, and both are still going through a difficult time. I have learned to find happiness eventhough my sons are still going through a difficult journey. If I look at my own life, I ca...

whatif · whatif

This is my first time here.I can not find an alanon meeting anywhere in my area. Very rural. I called local AA and got some phone # talked to 1 very nice woman. She said some groups have tried to start, but nothing lasted. I am talking a 3 county area. I was looking for a live chat and found this.I have been cry...

megan · megan

Just a vent. I have been considering leaving for a night or 2 and going to a nearby hotel. I have stewed on this for a few months For awhile when I did not leave I told myself it was because I had no transportaion and it would be awkward for me to get a cab to the hotel....just fear. Well, now I ha...

vargasl · vargasl

Friends for 7 years and in a relationship 3 years (not exactly started on the right terms...), my boyfriend has been in AA for 9 months. I was caught off-guard this weekend after he told me he was not sure I was the one and not sure if he loved me, although he cared about me more than I knew. He sa...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Last night was the full moon. Usually, in the past, I'd be out driving in my 'trepid w/sunroof open, thinking....whatever... ! A little full moon sprite! But last night, just too freaking cold to do that! So put on...

melanieL · melanieL

i GUESS YOUR ALL ABOUT SICK OF ME , BECAUSE I AM SICK OF ME. THE WEEKEND WENT WELL, MY EX HAD THE CHILDREN, HE HAD BEEN ABSOLUTELY HORRID TO ME ALL WEEK AND FRIDAY WAS JUST AWFUL. HE COLLECTED KIDS DID NOT SPEAK OR LOOK AT ME, FELT AWFUL. THEN SATURDAY AND SUNDAY HE WAS NICE AGAIN. THE...

boshu06 · boshu06

Well this is what is going on...... Last year I met my now Fiance, John. I instantly fell in love with him.

He was respectful, polite, and responsible. I new at that time that he was in prision before for drinking and driving, a...

she123 · she123

I went to a f2f meeting tonight, not my home group, but one which I go to occasionally and always feel welcomed and find serenity. It was a small meeting with about a dozen of us. The Guest Speaker didn't chair on a particular topic, he simply spoke about his experience strength and h...

fiona123 · fiona123

HI guys I have recently come back to the board after a long abscence .... I am so grateful to all of you who have the courage and generosity to share share your stories , your hearts , your prayers , your feelings , your experience, strength and hope ! I have been doing a lot of re-examining as i...

sanddie · sanddie

Trumpetchic18 wrote in another post: "Even if the Alcoholic in your life is gone, you never forget them. They changed you, they changed your life. You have been effected by alcoholism" This is certainly the case and although difficult to no longer be with my a, there will ALWAYS be a part of my hear...

Gods_DancingGirl · Gods_DancingGirl

I dont want to lie so I am going to say it how I feel inside. Last time i posted about some hurt with my alcholic father. I felt sort of bashed and not cared about. I was ask to come in and post so I have but I am not sure its safe on this site. I will do my best but it takes me a lot to trust. Please give me some more time...

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	am I losing it? (Preview) My husband and I were just sitting over coffee waking up. He started to tell me about a grandmother's ring that his favorite bar owners wife just received from her kids. He desribed it and said how nice it was. I got up and went to my jewelry box and placed in front of him a grandmother ring with both my grand...	whatif	7	654	May 4, 2005 by GypsyRose71
	Request from cdb - Prayers (Preview) Cdb has requested I post for her about her daughter. They had to rush her daughter to ER tonight. She had an ultrasound and catscan. She went into emergency surgery. Her white count was 20,000. Doctors not sure what was going on but were going to take her appendix out....	kismetstrand	16	1067	May 4, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Protection (Preview) "I enjoy feeling protected by my higher power and by the people who love me" " .........it still may be difficult to let myself be and feel protected. I have created a network of supportive friends and healing people around me. I have turned myself and my will over to the ca...	wallsal55	2	1080	May 3, 2005 by jrtjosey
	When the teacher is needed!! (Preview) Hi Everyone, Last night my youngest son came over for supper, and during the conversation, he mentioned a name, that we did not want to hear. Three years ago, he was with a person who caused him and the family a lot of pain. I think that he is addicted to this person, ev...	teddybear	4	921	May 3, 2005 by teddybear
	Update on Counseling (Preview) Hi, Well I guess I always knew the counseling wouldn't work, but I had to try. When we went last week, the counselor was more focused than ever on my husbands drinking. He kept asking him to go back to the Dr and get a liver test, as his eyes did not look right. My husband kept telling him that his Mother d...	Jeannie	10	838	May 3, 2005 by megan
	Prayers for cloud and her family (Preview) Hello friends, Cloud, hubby and kids have been having alot of tragic situations in their lives recently. Please say prayers or send out positive thoughts and energy their way. (((((((((((((cloud&family))))))))))) xoxoxo cdb	cdb	6	645	May 3, 2005 by megan
	Life stinks,,,,lots of stress :) (Preview) Hello friends, I am hanging in. I don't know if my body it but I am doing the best I can. My parents are leaving Arizona and plan to be at my house Thursday night. Any prayers for a safe trip all greatly appreciated! My dad intends to let my alzheimers mom drive :( but will be awake. Step one for me on that one...	cdb	10	855	May 3, 2005 by bubbles1990
	chat room access (Preview) I have not been able to access the chat room. I am not computer savvy so I'm sure there's something I'm not doing right. Do I understand that the chat room is open every weekday at 9AM and 9PM? Maybe someone can explain to me what I'm doing wrong. I go to the home page and click on Chat room...it...	notaboutme	3	604	May 3, 2005 by vargasl
	Conflicting Recovery Groups-- Ridiculous....... (Preview) Firstly, I'd like to say that Religion and Jesus are two completely DIFFERENT things. Secondly, I'd like to say that in ANY situation, people are going to have different opinions. As I have a different opinion of how some Alanon groups do not allow a person to disclose during their OWN pr...	sanddie	23	1831	May 3, 2005 by sooner
	Looking for Hugs (Preview) I realized as I was starting to write this post that I am in a HALT mode. I am not Hungry, but I am Angry, Lonely, and Tired. I am in confusion about relationships, and the direction HP is taking me. I follow the path that HP sets before me, and then I run into a brickwall. I know I have options to go left o...	bob6502	17	815	May 3, 2005 by Jeannie
	Standing alone... (long) (Preview) Standing alone: we are all in this together by ourselves. I verily much stand alone in my beliefs of God, Life, etc. If I were to fret to how or what others believe, then I could not say the previous. I have not met a 12-step program that was not an organization or a religion. I have nothing against organiza...	richard	4	1324	May 3, 2005 by Jeannie
	BUSINESS MEETING (Preview) Hi All - Monthly business meeting Wed - May 4 - at 7pm edt. Ya'll come!! Love in Recovery - Dot	dot	3	700	May 3, 2005 by DanaAngel
	When husband is mad i go to meetings (Preview) I am going to my second al anon meeting tonight. I am determined and WILL GO. I have told my husband i am planning to go and again he was furious. Any great suggestions of how to handle this, how to explain it---- I already used "sorry you feel that way". I think i tried, "t...	lost	5	749	May 2, 2005 by TLC2
	DETACHMENT (Preview) Detachment is neither kind nor unkind. It does not imply judgement or condemnation of the person or situation which we are detaching. It simply is a means that allows us to separate ourselves from the adverse effects that another person's alcoholism can have upon us and our lives. I am making a cons...	gardengal	7	723	May 2, 2005 by notaboutme
	Any thoughts appreciated (Preview) Okay---please bear with me here. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost 7 years, together 11. We have two young children. His drinking has been an on going issue, one that has recently blown up. After several light bulb moments, in which the hone...	lost	11	788	May 2, 2005 by richard
	Quote for Today (Preview) Nothing is ever lost by courtesy. It is the cheapest of pleasures. It is the cheapest of pleasures, costs nothing, and conveys much. -- Erastmus Wiman ) {Courtesy with an alcoholic can work! And helps much! ...	wallsal55	0	565	May 2, 2005 by wallsal55
	Unable to Access (Preview) I have been unable to access MIP for several days. Hoping to make it to the Business Meeting this Wednesday evening. John, please contact me and Shimo, please know I am trying to get in. Hope everyone is well and prayers for all in recovery. Nan&nbs...	NANUKE	1	721	May 2, 2005 by shimo
	back to me/update (Preview) Well something I have realized is that in the past 2 weeks is that I haven't picked up a book or read any literature when in fact I SHOULD have been. My new found tools have helpped me as have all of you but doing some reading would have also helpped. Any way after my meeting the other night SIL and I went to ano...	jj	5	645	May 2, 2005 by De Anna
	Live & Let Live (Preview) Hi to All My Friends, To live and let live is really the key for me. I am not saying that it is easy, and that I can always respond that way to everything that happens. Yet, I try to put it into practice each day. My son wanted to come over tomorrow, and bring his new girlfriend. He ask...	teddybear	9	893	May 2, 2005 by teddybear
	Font size in chat room? (Preview) Does anyone know how to change the font size from small to large. A new person needs to know or they cannot chat here. ty cdb :)	cdb	0	657	May 2, 2005 by cdb
	new to site (Preview) Hello all. I am new to this site..been lurking in the shadows for awhile though. My husband is the A in my life. He has had times of sobriety. Although he has been drinking rather heavily the past few months. He seems to have reached a point recently that he wants to do better. He has been in AA before but is n...	lil_feathered_one	7	773	May 1, 2005 by whitie
	Just Venting (Preview) Hi all, I have been in alanon for 4 years now. And no matter what I do, or how I work my program, I can't stop this heartbreak I have every time my "A" relapses. I know I don't have to explain the pain, you all have felt it. My struggle is talking to him after he comes back. I am angry, resentful, hurt, and I h...	Dolphin123	3	656	May 1, 2005 by luv123
	SELF-EMPOWERMENT (Preview) A friend shared this with me: "A rising tide may "raise all ships" --- but it won't raise the rocks." In our desire to empower one another we are often meet with disappointment, for we can influence the empowerment of only those who are in harmony with self-empowerment. We can't get poor enough to enr...	Lani	3	673	May 1, 2005 by luv123
	Need OP in room to boot spammer (Preview) 3:30 central time,,,	cdb	0	624	May 1, 2005 by cdb
	New and lost, I just don't know what to do... (Preview) Hi guys, My name is Kelly. My A is my husband. We have been married for almost 15 years. He started drinking more (than socially/occasionally) about 4 years ago. It is now worse than ever. I'm having a difficult time dealing with this. I have searched all over the net for support and information (...	AugustKel	6	871	May 1, 2005 by debilyn
	Needing Guidance (Preview) Hello all. Glad to have found the board. My name is Jenna and I am an adult child of an alcoholic. After roughly 10 years of being away from al-anon I found myself back in the rooms as a result of dealing with facing the challenges of becomming the daughter & sister -in-law of alcoholics. It w...	norest4thewkd	11	746	Apr 30, 2005 by danz123
	Never over, is it? (Preview) Hi Everyone, This morning was difficult for me, because I called my son and he sounded very sleepy, and druged. He takes a lot of sleeping pills to help him to sleep. This morning I could not believe what happened. As I spoke to him, he seemed half awake, and finally there was no respons...	teddybear	8	729	Apr 30, 2005 by teddybear
	whats up (Preview) Hi gang, The other night the phone rang, I looked at caller id didnt know the number so didnt answer it.Later I called it , I dropped the phone the message came on it was my ex a.I didnt leave a message I thought he married the girl he met at aa why is he calling me now.I am on aol and he came in a chat room I was in...	dori	2	694	Apr 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Dear God (Preview) I just have to share this with ALL my friends here; I think it is beautiful as each of you are. Your responses to my posts ALWAYS mean so much to me. Dear God, I'm writing to say I'm sorry For being angry yesterday When you seemed to ignore my prayer And things didn't go my way First, my car broke down...	Annie	2	609	Apr 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Would like your input... (Preview) I was referred for adoption because my biological father was an alcoholic who was in and out of prison, homeless, etc. I made the decision a long time ago that I never wanted to meet my biological parents (this was before I knew ANYTHING about them); But when my biological father wrote a letter to me th...	Parker	6	1018	Apr 29, 2005 by Parker
	I almost laughed... (Preview) I just have to keep posting to keep myself going. After reading relationships and recovery I reflected over this past year with my recovering A. We went away for the weekend a year ago to discuss our major issues. He started out the weekend saying that "I didn't come here to divorce you". We really had a g...	nmike	3	949	Apr 29, 2005 by jkiss03
	TRANSFORMATION (Preview) For me, Al-Anon is about change...facing where I am and imagining where I want to be and working towards that dream - changing "ME" to work and "fit" better within this life I've chosen. "Change" meaning *transforming* myself from confused, rambling, sad, etc. to feeling&...	Lani	4	879	Apr 29, 2005 by jkiss03
	The Language of Letting Go (Preview) Hi Everyone! I see that book recommendations pop up here regularly, so just want to share a good and longtime companion, Melody Beattie's The Language of Letting Go. I read that one every day, and have for the past decade or so--since it was published! She's so right on with feelin...	seachange	4	1277	Apr 29, 2005 by seachange
	ex-alcoholic-addict current Al-Anon member (Preview) I was an alcoholic & addict for almost 15 years with over 8 years sobriety under my belt... I am now a Liscensed Chemical / Alcohol Dependance Counselor. I have been on both sides of the street both personally & professionally. I, too have someone in my life (ex-husband, f...	nomorebeer	6	992	Apr 29, 2005 by teddybear
	Feeling/Feelings (Preview) "Crying only a little bit is no use. You must cry until your pillow is soaked. Then you can get up and laugh..."-----Galway Kinnell Many of us were raised to deny our feelings; that is, we might have been allowed to decribe them politely, but we were not allowed to express feeling...	wallsal55	5	625	Apr 29, 2005 by teddybear
	Keep it simple and stay in the moment (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am learning to take life one day at a time, a minute at a time. What we tell ourself each day often creates our own reality. I am a clock watcher, and I am conscious of this trait which negates the quality of my life. Yesterday, I went out with a friend an...	teddybear	4	815	Apr 28, 2005 by teddybear
	People pleasing as a disease ...author B.Ford (Preview) The moment we try to please another and abandon our own truth for theirs, we essentially hand our power to them, violate our own integrity, cut ourselves off from our inner wisdom, and - at least for a while - disconnect from our ability to love and nurture ourselves. (I know this so well, because I've do...	teddybear	4	723	Apr 28, 2005 by teddybear
	husband getting out of rehab (Preview) Looking for some suggestions. My husband and I have not spoken for about 10 days. Our last conversation ended with us both agreeing we should not speak as we were not getting along. As per his counselor he is being discharged today. We live on the east coast and his tre...	mom to 2	6	985	Apr 28, 2005 by lin0606
	full of hope and fear (Preview) Hello everyone ! my name is Linda, i really dont know where to start so i guess i'll muddle along til i have myself together. I just joined a few days ago and have been reading the posts. they have given me much insight, and have really help me understand better my A . &nbs...	GypsyRose71	7	1467	Apr 28, 2005 by GypsyRose71
	new here (Preview) Hi I am new here but really not new to alanon or AA. I am currently married to an alcoholic. We have been married 20 years this year. We have 4 kids 18, 16, 14 and 2. Yep the 2 year old was a happy little surprise. My dh has been through treatment 4 times. He just got done again at the end of March. I am going to alan...	jkiss03	7	945	Apr 28, 2005 by dot
	need help please (Preview) I was in denial that my husband was an A, I am losing my mind. My husband left home about midnight Friday night drunk I tried to stop him but could not. I prayed that he would not hurt himself or anyone else. He called me every half hour until 4:30 am he told me he loved me. He said he was at t...	marina33	13	1328	Apr 27, 2005 by marina33
	WHATIF ...ODAT (Preview) Hi ODAT is One Day at a Time and there is a book called One Day at a Time in Alanon .. alot of us call that The ODAT it is a lovely lil book with short readings in it ...one many topics it has a great index for things that are bothering you , when i am upset about something , I often look in the in...	fiona123	0	695	Apr 27, 2005 by fiona123
	another update (Preview) Hi (((everyone))) Well I am almost feeling like the old me, still a little tired but much better. My doctor was here yesterday and said that he thought that I was doing well and not to worry that he is taking good care of me... I was holding off on posting because I wanted to here what my test result...	jj	9	693	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	Sean-O (Preview) Shhhhhhhhhhshh, it's a secret (tee hee) Tomorrow, April 27th is Sean's birthday!! Let's all wish him well and many more Maria	Maria123	6	706	Apr 27, 2005 by Faith73
	Megan, teddybear, fional, wanda, bcanuck, anyone (Preview) I have left you a reply to "today I'm angry" -- Edited by De Anna at 14:00, 2005-04-25	De Anna	5	656	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	today I am angry... (Preview) Today I am angry. I can't say that there's any change, but then again maybe that's it. Same old story. Same routine, silently drink away the night. No problems, no swearing, no fighting, no family activity, no us, no anything. There are times I want to run &...	De Anna	10	1307	Apr 27, 2005 by De Anna
	bcanuck (Preview) Hey bonnie, I tried to send you someting to make you laugh today but your email is full. I didn't delete it so I can send it later. Have a good day. Your friend Jen	jj	2	588	Apr 27, 2005 by jj
	"Self Matters" and workbook (Preview) After over 2 years in program, I recently checked out Self Matters and the Companion Workbook to go with it. (by Phil McGraw) I think it is a great follow-up read after/during alanon. Kinda helped me tie up loose ends here and there. I would reccomend getting it through your...	wallsal55	1	935	Apr 27, 2005 by Lanchas
	HONESTY + Alcohol's Promise (Preview) Hello Al-Anon Friends! Food for thought quotes: Honesty "Every violation of truth is not only a sort of suicide in the liar, but is a stab at the health of human society." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson *What level of honesty are you living now?* *How honest are you with strangers, institutions and b...*	Lani	2	706	Apr 27, 2005 by jo4
	The ocean of my life has a lot of waves (Preview) Hi to all my friends, My life has a lot of waves, just as the ocean is not always smooth. I have two sons, and both are still going through a difficult time. I have learned to find happiness eventhough my sons are still going through a difficult journey. If I look at my own life, I ca...	teddybear	5	1198	Apr 27, 2005 by teddybear
	First time here (Preview) This is my first time here.I can not find an alanon meeting anywhere in my area. Very rural. I called local AA and got some phone # talked to 1 very nice woman. She said some groups have tried to start, but nothing lasted. I am talking a 3 county area. I was looking for a live chat and found this.I have been cry...	whatif	10	1409	Apr 27, 2005 by abbyal
	Why can't I leave? Even for a night.... (Preview) Just a vent. I have been considering leaving for a night or 2 and going to a nearby hotel. I have stewed on this for a few months For awhile when I did not leave I told myself it was because I had no transportaion and it would be awkward for me to get a cab to the hotel....just fear. Well, now I ha...	megan	12	936	Apr 27, 2005 by teddybear
	Recovery and Relationships (Preview) Friends for 7 years and in a relationship 3 years (not exactly started on the right terms...), my boyfriend has been in AA for 9 months. I was caught off-guard this weekend after he told me he was not sure I was the one and not sure if he loved me, although he cared about me more than I knew. He sa...	vargasl	10	798	Apr 27, 2005 by AlaMom
	Full Moon Pow Wow w/HP (Preview) Last night was the full moon. Usually, in the past, I'd be out driving in my 'trepid w/sunroof open, thinking....whatever... ! A little full moon sprite! But last night, just too freaking cold to do that! So put on...	wallsal55	2	670	Apr 27, 2005 by TLC2
	WILL I EVER LEARN (Preview) i GUESS YOUR ALL ABOUT SICK OF ME , BECAUSE I AM SICK OF ME. THE WEEKEND WENT WELL, MY EX HAD THE CHILDREN, HE HAD BEEN ABSOLUTELY HORRID TO ME ALL WEEK AND FRIDAY WAS JUST AWFUL. HE COLLECTED KIDS DID NOT SPEAK OR LOOK AT ME, FELT AWFUL. THEN SATURDAY AND SUNDAY HE WAS NICE AGAIN. THE...	melanieL	10	1292	Apr 27, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I am having a real problem (Preview) Well this is what is going on...... Last year I met my now Fiance, John. I instantly fell in love with him. He was respectful, polite, and responsible. I new at that time that he was in prision before for drinking and driving, a...	boshu06	8	776	Apr 26, 2005 by sooner
	Listen and Learn (Preview) I went to a f2f meeting tonight, not my home group, but one which I go to occasionally and always feel welcomed and find serenity. It was a small meeting with about a dozen of us. The Guest Speaker didn't chair on a particular topic, he simply spoke about his experience strength and h...	she123	4	749	Apr 26, 2005 by Maria123
	just wanna share a lil gratitude for y'all (Preview) HI guys I have recently come back to the board after a long abscence .... I am so grateful to all of you who have the courage and generosity to share share your stories , your hearts , your prayers , your feelings , your experience, strength and hope ! I have been doing a lot of re-examining as i...	fiona123	2	647	Apr 26, 2005 by sooner
	Changed Forever.... (Trumpetchic18 reflects) (Preview) Trumpetchic18 wrote in another post: "Even if the Alcoholic in your life is gone, you never forget them. They changed you, they changed your life. You have been effected by alcoholism" This is certainly the case and although difficult to no longer be with my a, there will ALWAYS be a part of my hear...	sanddie	5	776	Apr 26, 2005 by sanddie
	Im not sure about posting here (Preview) I dont want to lie so I am going to say it how I feel inside. Last time i posted about some hurt with my alcholic father. I felt sort of bashed and not cared about. I was ask to come in and post so I have but I am not sure its safe on this site. I will do my best but it takes me a lot to trust. Please give me some more time...	Gods_DancingGirl	14	1164	Apr 26, 2005 by GypsyRose71
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